Dealing with Loneliness After 60? Avoid These Maladaptive Behaviors
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- Опубликовано: 25 июн 2024
- Many older women are dealing with loneliness. Some feel like they have had isolation thrust upon them by a divorce, career change, bereavement or relocation. Others have made conscious choices that have led to a solitary life.
Of course, being alone is not the same as being lonely. Some of us are perfectly happy living by ourselves. But, if you really are feeling socially isolated, it's time to take action. You deserve all of the friendship and happiness that this world can offer!
Does anyone that you know struggle with loneliness? What do you think are the differences between being alone and feeling lonely? Let's have a conversation!
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I’m 66 years old I lost my husband of 48 years. I’m not lonely, I have family, friends places I can go, I have hobbies. I miss my husband, I miss my life as I knew it I miss our Conversations, his touch his smell, his smile, I miss going to bed and waking up with him. I miss our arguments. I’m not lonely I miss my husband. I know he’ll never come back to me, some day I’ll go to him.
I am so sorry for your loss. Your message is so touching, so real. Hopefully you will find comfort in the memories you and your husband created together.
Well said. Sounds like you had a life of your own AND a life with him. Very smart and good for you! I am sorry you miss him, though. I think missing someone is the worst feeling ever.
My husband passed away also. I miss him all the time. I nursed him for years and I know that he’s at peace now. I m not lonely as I like my own company but I do meet up with friends regularly. I hope you have peace of mind knowing that some day you and your husband will be together again......🌸
Hi Sherry, I commend your comments! I'm 64 and lost my husband when I was 47, no children...I understand how you feel. Im now looking forward to returning to my home country for retirement and to be near family...I've spent the last 5 yrs sharing my home with a very dear man...but only as a companion, now I want to live alone again but near my loved ones. A new chapter in my life and like you, I look forward to seeing my husband again. God bless you X
@@patricemarie2960 Of course missing him is normal, expecially if he was a loving caring person. It would be sad if you didn't miss him. 48 years is long time together. But as you said, you will see him some day.
George Washington said, “Better to be alone then in bad company”.
Yet, as miserable as some people are, they're in bad company also when they are alone. Lol
@@someonesdaughter3180 : Woe be unto those who don’t like their own company. LOL
Yes.
💛
I so agree.
I think I am going to cross stitch that quote, frame it, and put it on my wall. 🙂
It's easier to be lonely alone, than it is to be lonely with someone. With someone you feel trapped. Alone, you have many options to explore.
I agree. I never realized a person could be lonely and married until it happened to me. To get my needs met would have required me to meet those needs outside of the marriage and I don't believe that is right. The only option was to leave. Being married is supposed to enrich our lives not be a burden.
I hear you loud and clear. My husband is retired and spends most of his time with the guys, fishing, golf,tennis, and duck hunting. He gardens and works on projects that are male oriented. So it's like I am ignored. If we split up, and I were single I could be more social but I appreciate the extended family with grandchildren and his cousins.
Good to know. Ty!
I remember feeling so lonely when I was married. I am alone but dont feel lonely now. Just every now and then, but I guess it happens to us all.
Yes
Don't rely on people or family to be happy. Disappointment makes being alone way harder. I used to be a socialite. Now I love my own space and time. God bless everyone
Absolutely Right. Agree.
Totally agree with you.
Do rely on people or family to be happier
God bless everyone
That's right!
I'm 59 years old and had one real friend in my life and she moved away. I'm vivacious and young looking for my age and I go out and walk around the parks and do things. I meet people and do hookups with people and everybody just has a life and doesn't want to get together even though they give me their phone number. I'm so tired of the loneliness. I do everything by myself all the time.
You sound like a nice person. I know what you mean, I like to go on and flea markets, swim, festivals , all kids of outings. None of my friends have the same interest
People are flakey and fake. The women are probably jealous of you too! I moved to a small town of around 5000 people thinking it would be tight knit with lots of friends to be had. It is the complete opposite. Because I didnt grow up here; I am treated as a stranger and invader! People are sweet as sugar to your face but it is shallow and fake. I do things by myself too and it is very lonely. Because it is lonely; I dont do much anymore but stay home.
I'm new to the channel and find the comments more interesting than the programs. I too am alone but love it! Freedom to do what you want, when you want is the best thing about it. No drama, what more could a person ask for...yeah, if you become ill, well that's one of the downside factors, but we can't have everything! God is a big part of my life...every morning I have coffee and a bible study with God and a good teacher. It sets my mind in a positive direction for the day. Couldn't live without it. We will all be fine, one day at a time! Blessings to all of you who have cared enough to read this whole comment. 🙏🛐✝️🥰🇺🇲
@@gigiis526 Sorry to hear your move was not as good as it should have been for you. I understand about doing things alone, that describes me too. Try this it may help....each morning have your coffee or tea and some time with God. Personally, I get my coffee and sit down and talk to God as I would a friend that may have come to visit me. God wants a personal relationship with us, not religion. I also study the word, with a good bible teacher each morning. That sets my mind in a positive direction for the day. Then get dressed and go about my day...hope this has helped you somewhat. Comment anytime... I'm here to listen! God bless 🙏🥰🇺🇲
@@gigiis526 well I understand and have experienced lots of same. Let me encourage you, to keep 😊 keep thankful for each new day. His(God's mercies are new every morning. Wish you lived near me, we could have some fun and laughter.. best medicine. 💐
I love being alone, I'm never lonely by myself. Being with people feels really lonely to me, I can't wait till they leave or I can escape
Veg Patch I agree most times can’t wait for them to leave!
@@nancylucky9094 So, it's not just me. 😂😂😂😂😂
Exactly!
Me too I don’t get lonely, and appreciate my personal space 🌹
I feel the same way!
My marriage is based on loneliness. Better to be alone than lonely while married.
Agree👍
100% correct
I knew it was deeply off when I realized I felt lonely WITH him. He’s shallow. I didn’t notice it at first for various reasons, he’s not 100% shallow just compared to myself yes he is. We’ve been divorced for years now. 👍
Better to be alone and keep my heart open to love than to stay in a marriage and be scapegoated by husband and family.
Sometimes one can be lonely even with one's family, if the latter spend most of their time watching TV and/or arguing.
Have you been spying on me??? lol...
A pity party should only last a few days. Martyrdom does no one any good.
At 65 hardest part is losing old friends to death or watching them move away. Some stay in touch, others don't . I have five siblings, only one stays in touch anymore. I never married or had kids, hard to believe life has gone so fast.
@Michaelsix I am in a similar situation, never married, no kids of my own. Changed provinces (in Canada) after I retired, left old friends behind although we’re still in touch, made some new friends. My only sibling died recently and fortunately I have a close relationship with my nephew and his family, not so much with my nieces (his younger sisters). I’m still looking after an aging parent. But that’s my life. Even though I belong to a social club, those activities have been curtailed by COVID19. So I often feel lonelier now than I did before. And you are so right - life has gone by so very quickly.
I moved from my own life to be in the same city so I could be involved with my daughter and her life as she started her own family. It was wonderful whilst my grandchildren were born and thru the first years of their growth. Now they are in school, my daughter went back to work and weekends are spent dedicated to the children's activities. They don't need Grandma and altho I spend a lot of my energy trying to meet people of my own age and situation and I volunteer, most ladies of my age and experience have their own well established groups that have no room for a new face. I can't afford to move back home and I regret that I ever made the decision to move. I feel like an old redundant shoe.
@@nancadamson6506 -
@@nancadamson6506 yes, I thought if my kids moved, I would move to be near them. But then I realized, even now, there is not much use for me.
@Michael six I am a widow have three children. 1 in incarcerated the other 2 are not close and one blames me for favoring her sibling more. Which is the farthest from the truth. I have 2 grandchildren and have tried to forge ties. I wish I could have foreseen the future I would never had children
I have been alone my entire life and never feel lonely...........even now at sixty-six. What I saw in relationships over the years convinced me that I didn't want anything to do with other people messing up the one life I get.
Amen. I have been messed up. I don't need the drama anymore.
Well said!
Understandable 😊
@@angeelee9277 💯 men mess up good women & now I feel good about me for me & I can focus on me & good friends & plenty of fun 🤩 with yoga dance classes coaching classes it’s a brilliant life for me & I spoil me 🤣😍
100% correct
I was 80 yesterday. I received 3 cards. Not because my friends are slack but because they are dead. I have a young friend who values my friendship. A friend from 35 years ago who contacts me occasionally. A friend of my own age who rings me once a week; and I ring her. My closest was a relative of my husband who sadly died in November and I miss more than I can say. One of the cards was from my ex husband who I cherish even though we found we could not make a good marriage. Lonely is missing all your closest friends in death. Lonely is missing a husband who loved you dearly and whom you loved. I find that though we had a close contact with the community rushing around 'making friends' is not what I need or want now.I have all had all the love anyone can wish for and that sustains me now in my aloneness.
Happy birthday Gabrielle from s
Sixty and Me! ❤️
well done! as with you, most of my loved ones died or moved to be closer to their kids. I have one friend whom I talk with weekly. I divorced when my kids were babies. Honestly, I am afraid to retire, though my company literally works you to death. I adore the people I work with. I would miss them, but once you leave, you are forgotten. normal.
Happiest Birthday Gabrielle 🎊
I recently turned 70, Happy birthday Gabrielle!
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I'm originally from Forth Worth Texas currently. and you where are you from if i may ask?
I’m 62 I live alone I’m divorced and my son lives over 2 hours away. I’m retired and I have a yorkie, ( 11 years old ). I do enjoy my time alone and the privacy it brings and that I get to decorate how I want and cook what I like, but I would be lying if I say I don’t find myself crying sometimes . I grew up in a large family only child here and except for one uncle who’s 86 and lives in Italy all I have is memories of my once large and happy family. I miss people to laugh with, to talk with.
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Martha....hugs, just because
memories memories memories !
Martha? I'm sorry:-( It must be lonely for you at times, I understand that. But you are not "alone" (not really). Try and get out every day if you can just so you can be around people. This is what I do to help me "interact" with others on a daily basis. It also helps to live in a "busy, active city" (as opposed to rurally). It helps a lot to realize there are a lot of people who live alone and keep on going and moving forward with life. Ideally? I do wish I had a "best friend" to live with and share life's responsibilities, so, yes, I can really understand how you feel but your circumstances may someday change, so it's good to stay HOPEFUL:-)
@@amandagarcia6320 Try and get out every day
Wisdom is enjoying the things we have while we have them
Yes a season for everything.
Great comment.
Wise words
Good point to remember, thanks!
Only child here.. Never married.
Never lonely.
How possible how u spend ur time .my wife died 9 months ago leaving my grieving son along.i feel lonely like hell nobody to share
YES QUEEN
Me too...interesting how there are more of us than we think!
only child also... life has taught me to not to depend on anybody.... I have cousins and aunts....never to be found especially when you may need a voice to listen.
Only child, also, but always lonely.
It is the loneliness itself. It’s not self image. It is not coping.
Concrete things a person can do:
1. Invite a group of acquaintances to your home for a simple ( Yahtzee, cards) game night.
2. Join a group at your local Church or Senior Center
3.start a hobby, learn a new skill that you’ve always wanted to start.
4 talk to strangers when you are out and about.
5. Smile at people
Why assume people don’t want to be friends? People respond to a warm friendly approach.
Why start with a negative attitude?
I’m so low and I’m in the basement digging holes to get lower?
Gardening, my cats and the internet!
Me too!
Same
Hello Beverly,
Wow!!! My fun is the same as you.
Plants, cat, and Netflix.
I am still working full-time.
May GOD bless you Ms. Beverly.
Exactly the same for me!!
Doing things for others helps me.
patty hill Exactly. Volunteer.There are always people worse off than u who need your help.
Volunteers are such a lovely group of ppl!
I have done that most of my life for thankless people. No more, I now give to myself, I deserve it more!!
I agree, thats harder lately with this covid
@@lark6spur Interesting. I serve dinners/ hand out food boxes. Before covid, almost everyone wanted a hug, too! Ppl are grateful to the point of tears in their eyes. I feel so blessed to have the opportunity to 'play hostess' or hand out the gifts of food, blankets, warm clothing...
Loneliness is also a state of mind.
There is a difference between alone and lonely. the worst is to be trapped with a partner or someone with whom you are not compatible! That is worse than lonely.
I agree my worst feeling of loneliness was when I was in a very bad marriage. Yes I feel alone now sometimes but you can follow your dreams and do what you want in life. I still dream in my fifties and I am setting targets to go after them even if I don’t achieve them. It’s about living.
Dreaming and settling targets to go after them even if I don’t achieve them.That is great.Though you know the reality still you dream.That’s the way you must live in this world.Good luck and all the best.
Yes wrong patner brings the lonliness in plus sadness
@@rubinaazam405 My dear you can’t expect a right partner. There are no perfect persons.with the plus or minus we have to adjust ourselves to live the rest of our life .Forget tit for tat. Always You have to be prepared to forgive and forget policy which is extremely a very difficult one. That’s the way we have to face the life.Good luck and all the best.Stay safe and healthy.
@@clarencefernando3968 You may be the wisest of all. thanks for this comment.
I'm a 64 year old retired nurse, I'm single and live alone. I've always bin a bit of a loner but now the lonliness is horrendous, I also have insomnia. Not nice
I know how you feel. Insomnia is a problem, and I think it stems from loneliness. However, I also need to exercise regularly, yeah, for deffo. serotonin and fresh blood pumping through your body will help kick the past into touch :-)
Hi Nora I wonder where in the world you live? I live in Dublin.
I live in Belfast, just up the road.
@@noracoyle4988 I’m across the pond and this COVID has been horrible. The problem is people don’t talk about the link loneliness has on motivation. When you feel isolation you just cannot get things done!
Thank you for sharing Nora!
It helps to be an only child. I grew up entertaining myself.
Exactly! Only child here too. Learned long ago not to be lonely.
I grew up as an only child and learned to be self-entertaining. As I get older I feel the desire to be around others that I never felt the need to do before. I don't completely understand unless it's the awareness of mortality that wasn't at the top of my mind in younger years. For the first time in life, I experience loneliness.
I think I feel vulnerable as I age and I interpret it as loneliness. When we were young we could just get up and go some where, take a vacation, or have an adventure.
Yep me too. I enjoy my own company.
I just thought that today❣️ Being an only child is a super power. We have the strategies👍
Many seniors think joining a church group is the thing to do. It does you no good If church is not your thing.
Well there are other groups to join.
Toyota1949 I hope church becomes their thing as they get a step closer daily to meeting God.....
Museum group? Music or photography meetup groups? What's cool are board game groups.
Church is not my thing, and you are correct, that means meeting others through different means. I have a small dog, and started walking her at our local parks. People find my dog unusual, and come up and talk to me, pretty simple really. One does have to make an effort to get out and about, because nobody will come knocking on one's door except perhaps the Jehova's Witnesses...lol
You reminded me of a friend who kept telling me to join the LDS Church, so that I could meet a good man who did not smoke or drink. Problem is, my soul is not for sale!...And, I am still single, better than pretending to be something or someone I am not!
I'm a 62 yr old widow, I was married for 32 yrs, 3 mo's. and 24 days. My husband passed suddenly unexpectedly. We didn't have children, not by choice. We both were from large families. I had 5;sisters and 5 brothers. Some get along and several don't. It's been 9 yrs since my husband passed and I have not been in a relationship since his death. I tried dating but I'm not very attractive for one thing. My confidence is at 0. I'm afraid when I do talk to people they'll pick up on my loneliness, sadness and depression. I do have suicidal thoughts. All of my siblings are over 50 and they all have children and grandchildren now to focus on. I'm very lonely. I had a stroke 6:yrs ago.I think something is chemically off balance in my brain. I can't sleep at night. I'm working to make ends meet. I used to be so full of life!!!! I haven't laughed forever! I'm just lonely and I still miss my husband, we did everything together fishing, camping, a little traveling. I'm the only sibling that has lost a spouse, so nobody gets it at all!! 😢😢🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
I hope you can find a good grief counselor. It is amazing how much good a counselor can do. Even if all they do is listen.
Are you doing any better now? I know how it feels to grieve your own life, I'm doing the same for different reasons.
@@mzshasta Not really, Thank you for asking. but I'm trying, today I'm trying to clean my apartment-not getting very far. Smh!!!!! It's the battle in my head.
I hope everything gets better cynthia.if you need a friend I'm here .
@@raider_preppercali4485 Thank you!! I could use a friend. I live in Indiana. Where do you reside?🥰💛
I am 63 retired and never feel lonely. I enjoy being alone.
Me too! Rather be alone than wish I was. Always have grandkids here...
Me too same
People, people, people adopt a friendly cat and treat self care like a part time job. You won't have time to be lonely.
Auburn and Gray : thank you thank you, I think I’m going to take your advice. I lost my 5 pound Maltese dog a year ago & have not gotten a pet since then because I felt she was irreplaceable. Even though I have friends and go out I’m so lonely when I come home it’s getting me depressed. I’ve decided a cat might be the best thing because I’m too old to get another puppy. I’m going to call today and see if I can get One of the cats that has been there the longest.
@@sunnydaze2359 Do cats show effection?
@@sunnydaze2359 Good for you!!! Cats are great company after they settle in. Indoor cats typically enjoy good health if fed properly and groomed to control hair balls. Feed vet grade hard food due to urinary track crystals for male cats. Femal cats can have same issue with dry food. Half canned and half dry diet is a good balance. Scale back quantity if cat starts to put weight on. I'm on my 10th cat in 60 years. Learned a few things along the way :)
@@sunnydaze2359What about fostering an elderly dog? The rescue usually pays vet and food costs. ❤❤
The key is learning how to be alone without being lonely.
how
Bj Day ??????
Damon Oswald you have to learn to not base your happiness on the opinions and company of another person .accepting and learning to love yourself is the first step. Get a dog,a cat,a bird for company( or volunteer at a shelter if you cant have a pet) , take a class at your community college, learn a new hobby, join a book club,get involved in your community,get a pen pal,etc. fill those minutes/hours that you find yourself feeling lonely with something productive.
@@lots3799 If you spent time investigating I believe you'd find many, many wealthy people are really quite lonely.
@@lots3799 Even those with great wealth who live alone, are not guaranteed to escape being lonely, just because they have money. I would agree that money allows a person more choices, and the ability to live in greater comfort. But, when a person is older, having money cannot solve all of life's problems. I have 'danced with the Grim Reaper', due to multiple DVTs and massive bi-lateral pulmonary emboli. So, from that perspective, every day of my life is a gift, and I feel the need to treat it as such. The beauty of nature cannot be denied, and is free for all of us to enjoy. I strive to learn something new every day, and to prepare for future challenges. I love art and beautiful music, reading a good book, or just taking care of my pets, especially those who were rescued. It is fulfilling to see them thrive by being loved and cared for, and they provide hours of contentment. Enough to inspire me to write a series of children's books. Seek joy in life's simple pleasures, eating a ripe peach, a sunrise or sunset, doing a good deed, read a book, dote on a grand-child, share a conversation.
Be grateful for what one has, and live in the moment, it may be all we have!
I'm not a senior, so maybe I don't know what I'm talking about when it comes to the loneliness that older people feel... but I think having a pet can help so much. I just lost my dog (had to put him to sleep) and I have felt terribly lonely even though I'm married. I went through this 10 yrs ago when I lost my first dog. Very, very lonely without her!
I'm real introverted so it takes a lot for me to feel loneliness but not having my pup is a very lonely feeling.
You're not a senior just yet.
Loved roads trip with my dog Duke, once he passed, I don,t drive much anymore No fun now
Losing a beloved pet is like losing a parent, sibling, or child in my opinion. Parents/siblings have separate lives once you become an adult, children grow up and have their own lives, but a pet is like a small child-an intricate part of your day-to-day life. I am sorry for your loss and hope you find another pet to love.
OMG, having animals has enriched my life and I never feel lonely with my pups! Losing a pet is devastating. I am sorry.
@@mariannchampion3366 - oh, please get another dog - get one from a shelter or rescue. It is such a win-win arrangement and you will be back on the road with your new bff!
Greetings From Florida 🌴 Just got this post; it truly saddens me when I view the catfish shows and how many women fall prey and lose lots of money.... i’ve seen some that lose their life savings!!! Tragic and very sad 😞 I, just turned 70 and i’m blessed and fortified... Thank God !
Get up and give yourself some daily goals. Set tasks and crafts to enjoy. List things you are thankful for every night. Gratefulness combats depression and loneliness. Find ways to do little things for others. Read at hospitals and nursing homes. Make little cards with single words of encouragement to be handed out reception desks.
Good advise. Absolutely agree with your comments. You sound like a great person.
Love your ideas!
Thank you so much for your valuable suggestions.
Best way to remove loneliness from you life...do something for someone else.
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I'm originally from Forth Worth Texas currently. and you where are you from if i may ask?
Research shows that sleeping well has more impact on the ability to feel joyful about just being alive than our marriages or our income levels. Getting sufficient, high quality sleep will make you want to get your exercise, cook a nice meal, etc.
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I'm originally from Forth Worth Texas currently. and you where are you from if i may ask?
That "need for social connection" is a myth. That's some people, but not all. I love my solitary life. INFJ and highly sensitive--alone-ness is a treasure.
Amen... INFJ-t. UK.
It’s not natural/ to ALWAYS be alone!! We are created for human contact…………. GOD HIMSELF said/ it is NOT good for man to be alone……………. With the mindset soooo many seem to have , just shows how far humanity has fallen.
INTJ - Scotland here. I agree with you, looking forward to heading into the hills with hobbies and books, never to return. RUclips have pushed this video in my face for several days. I can't think why !! 😂
@@daughterofcoll6222 hi, i would like to visit Scotland. Maybe you would show me around? ,☺️
@@myroom1913 That’s very judgmental and not helpful to anyone.
It's hard for me. Especially weekends. I don't get to see my grandkids as much as I'd like. One thing that helps me is that I am still working.
@Bernard Jones you're exactly right.
Try and go see them❤🙇❤
Linda Tate. I'am a nurse in the largest hospital in Queensland Australia and for this time apparently can work as much as I care to...I'am 68.
I would hate to lose this opportunity as when I feel lonely I just accept an available shift in our nursing pool.
Usually try to visit my neighbir who is pretty much housebound. Hang out with my family that are close
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I'm originally from Forth Worth Texas currently. and you where are you from if i may ask?
I live in Texas, but worked in Louisiana when I was younger (I live 35 miles from the border between TX and LA). One of the men at work used to worry about me because I've lived by myself for 22 years. He told me, "The loneliest bayou in Louisiana is "bayou self".
Cute 😊 I live in a Bayou and I’m kinda lonely 😂
@@ringpop6177 - LOL! I hear you! Had I ever lived by myself prior to all my marriages, I would never have gotten married at all. After my last divorce, I knew I would never remarry or live with anyone again, so I bought a house and fixed it up just the way I wanted. I have friends that I go on trips with but I really love my single life. (I'll be 66 next month). I always had really good jobs so I didn't need money, which is why a lot of my female friends want to remarry or live with someone, and that's not a good reason.
Lol!
Sending love to those older or around 60 who feel lonely. Age doesn’t limit your capabilities, take that trip you’ve always wanted to take, reach out to the person you’ve lost connection with, find new hobbies. Life is so full of options, you have to look for it. Much love ❤️
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I'm originally from Forth Worth Texas currently. and you where are you from if i may ask?
@Vanessa Your optimism sounds real good. A lot of people I know over 60 had planned to travel when they retired but found health problems curtailed most of them and their travel plans. Best to do traveling and "enjoying life" when you are young. At a younger age, most people don't have health problems and also have plenty of stamina too...
Or face up to your inevitable demise.
That's easy to say ...."take that trip you've always wanted". That's very easy to say, not easy to do. Sorry, but advice like that is worthless. That just makes people feel worse.
With the pandemic, everyone has been come face to face with loneliness.🙏
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I'm originally from Forth Worth Texas currently. and you where are you from if i may ask?
What helps? Pets ( doesn’t matter what kind), walking ( you will be around others), striking up a conversation with a person who is waiting on you in a store or restaurant (people so often ignore them), take you pet for a walk, it will automatically start conversations. Understand that many others are lonely too and don’t be fooled by appearances, be kind to all. Remind the people you love how grateful you are to have them in your life and let them know you miss them. Last but not least, be a good friend.
I read a definition that loneliness is not feeling understood .
Seagull....interesting and although I never heard it defined that way before I think its at least part of the reason for loneliness. What I personally miss is a true heart to heart connection with someone. Shallow surface conversations etc. Are not rewarding. My closest friends have died and/or moved away and I have no family where I live. I am a survivor and have always said its sink or swim so I swim. I always think "I can do this." But as time goes on not having someone to share things with is the hardest. Sharing joys and sorrows makes life worth living. Anyway...a friend told me once we must all work with the hand we are dealt which is true. I am a Christian but still find things hard. We just do the best we can. Helping others is A good way to forget about ourselves. Keeping busy helps. I think one lady put it well...one of the hardest things is getting up every day alone and going to bed alone...coming home to an empty house always. Where I live no pets are allowed, unfortunately. I used to have cats I loved. However, I still intend to press on and do my best to keep a positive attitude. Some of my most challenging stuff right now is dealing with a couple major regrets. But like I said...I'm not going to sink , so with Gods help I plan to keep swimming.
@@ladyguenevere3501 God bless you I pray for you love and hugs in Jesus💒💒⛪🇬🇧🌻💕💒
Yes I get that entirely. I am not understood and Tbh I don't think I ever have been.
That's ridiculous. Why do you need to be 'understood'? Isn't that just feeding your every hungry ego? When we stop making our lives about ourselves, none of that matters.
No - loneliness is lack of social interaction and connection. Later in life, you lose your parents and relatives,
friends and/or spouse when they die and you can feel a lot of ongoing grief afterwards, which never goes.
When I had my dog around, I never felt lonly. It was incredible. Now my dog is gone and has left such an empy hole in my heart. I feel lonly all the time. I am too old to get another dog. It would not be fair to the little animal. But I can tell you, keeping a dog is the best way to beat loneliness.They are the best companions !!!
Yes I noticed this when my cat died. I never realized how much company he was. Anyway I plan on getting 2 Ragdolls kittens soon! And I will make arrangements with a local no kill shelter to take the cats if I die first.
Hi could you maybe foster an older dog?
Unless you have health issues, get a senior dog. Save a life from the shelter. A senior dog can still have many years to keep you company. If you are afraid you might die before him, set up a plan for him to go to a friend or relative. But a 7 year old dog has a lot of love to give and most of the behaviors of a puppy are gone.
Nooo....you can still give a home to an elderly dog...they make SUCH good companions!
I've been involved with animals in one way or another all my life but I've landed up in an apartment, no animals allowed. I would give anything to have a senior dog to look after. They are just the Best.
I am so alone I feel like I could die
Please take care ❤️
i came across your touching comment in the grieving of love ones post here on face book. Well am really sorry about that okay 😒☹and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life must move on because death is inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday..
Please don't kill your over nothing it will be ok very soon please take care
Am John from Maryland USA how about you ?
Everyone is different but we all are human. So, look around and you understand that you are not exceptional in what you are experiencing. There are seasons in our life. Some seasons are warm sunny and nice, others are cold and rainy. So, prepare yourself for every season and embrace when it comes with dignity. God is always near. We never are alone.
Excellent advice.
Best comment.
Nice. I just wish it was true. What good is it to have a god that does nothing nearby? Do you not have any idea what horrors go on in this world? I should think you'd have a better idea than most.
@@mowthpeece1 you are right, the world becomes more and more crazy but it's not God's fault. It's our human problem. Do we respect His laws and each other? To be honest, not. Many dont even consider His existence but when smth.bad happens begin to blame God. He does not owe us anything. We have obligations and debts, not God. I wish you to get what you need and His blessings.
Thank you so much for sharing , you are so right
I lost my husband a yr ago I live alone and I have a hard time functioning
Oo am so sorry for your lost I pray you should have the best time in life I which you the best life .
Am John from Maryland USA how about you ?
Thanks for replying
thats why I moved back with my family.
Pets HELP🙇...If you cannot walk a dog.... get a Cat🙇
Loneliness comes from the inside. You could surround yourself with many friends, but you may still feel lonely. Learn to be active and have somethings to do if you can! People in their 60's and 70's are not that old, but their years of drinking and smoking catches up with them. Your body does not need alcohol, etc.
I think the young people has the same issue nowdays because the technology, the relationships are complicated people dont listen prefer their smartphones
I think loneliness is happening in all ages. Young adults have a lot of stress right now. I think in many ways they have much more on their plate then my age group back in the 70s and 80s. They take all these advanced classes in high school so they can save money and skip 2 years of college but it leaves them with less time to enjoy life. Then they jump into college and it is immediately the fast track. There doesn't seem to be much wiggle room to experiment nor make mistakes. Failure isn't an option or at least that is what they are told by the older adults around them.
Then you add the work and time it takes to keep relationships going whether it is friendship or a love relationship it can seem daunting. And with most young people using dating apps which can be a harsh they start to believe that there really isn't enough good people out there to date or who have any interest in them.
Ppl don't realize they're burning their bridges. We could all use a favor sometimes. I have jumper cables in the trunk, but if my car doesn't start, I'll need u!
People have lost respect, dignity and honour. Lost empathy too.
Non hi guest but I
Pity, the guest was asked about women, instead he was talking about college students and gambling, which, I guess, is more about men. Hope in future we shall hear another psychologist who knows more about loneliness among women over 60.
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Most comments are a year or two old on this video. Now with ongoing lockdowns and mask wearing mandates have made it a million times more difficult. I am one who used all the good solutions. I took painting classes and was active in my church. I went to meetups, etc. now, with the lockdowns looking like they will last forever it is way harder. Only prayer is helping me to get through. I used to have fun at social gatherings with cousins. Now ALL OF THEM HAVE CANCELLED Thanksgiving. So I will be alone on that day. I’ll try not to get drunk on Prosecco.
Keeping busy is a great cure and having a pet. I liked your witty comment, regarding the glass of wine. Haha
The only problem that I have is my truck is broke down right now. I live in the country and hardly any friends to take me to the store. I do like being alone, but do need ppl once in awhile.
I gave up my transportation when I retired....that was becoming a huge money drain...then I found uber...scary at first but you learn quick and a lot less than a monthly breakdown with that ol truck...insurance all that money is now in my budget....and leaves a little for a travel chance in a few months....I am lucky to have a hobby tho...besides cooking...got a little greenhouse...starting plants from seed...really cool to change some garden plot every year if I so choose....
I have no friends either...found them too judgmental and not retired they continue to work part time so always appear to be busy with no truck they do not call much..but hey they can tie up your whole day just for a ride to the dollar store...lol...make lists everywhere tho...
@@willgaukler8979 I can't give up my truck. I live in a small town. No uber, no taxi any longer. I even had a friend tell me that they don't have to come get me. A slap in my face. I have always been independent and will continue to do so. There are senior centers to meet ppl or start volunteering. After seeing how that friend treated me, I'd be alone as I like it that way anyhow. Take care.
will gaukler I'm always Leary of making new friends. What kind of people are they really? That is a real hold back for me. Wish life wasn't like that
@@TheJanet2559 Going to a senior center that has lunch and activities would be a good place to meet ppl. You don't have to tell them your whole life, but just talking to ppl would be good. Don't tell them where you live. Volunteering for something enjoyed or interested in could be good too. Don't limit yourself. Take care.
I've had a vehicle broken down also but I had a hard time saving up to fix it finally I did save enough n got back my independece hopefully u will get ur truck fixed I hope u only the best in life don't let it get u down . I pray that you have better luck do not fell hopeless just take one day at a time okay . Take care I'm praying for u ...tfs
What I appreciate most about this article are all the wonderful comments. Mostly from Seniors who have great recommendations to combat loneliness from the over 60 perspective. Thank you Margaret for presenting the forum. 🌷
I absolutely agree.
Love the new hairstyle!
Loneliness is a problem for people who where social in life. Those who were lone most of their life it's not bothersome.
Life is what a person makes it ..."As a man thinketh, in his heart so is he."
I’m 79 yrs old.. I don’t get lonely because I have a curious mind. You need to like quiet and have interests. But you can find things to interest yourself each day. Reading, cooking have a pet. My grandchildren who live nearby visit me. Life is different but I am okay being alone at times.
A friend always said I rather be alone than want to be alone.
Stay Active Go To The Gym Find A Friend Adopt A Pet Go Out To Eat Call Someone Walk If You Can Life Is Short The Clock Is Ticking God Bless Dana Rowe
Adopt and Love A Pet! Agree!
Excellent advice
You lose friends who are married when you are a widow. Most of my friends are single. I have one handicapped son in care and one who lives miles away. All my family moved to Australia. So most of my friends have moved or died.
I am widowed, retired and failed in "love" a couple of times. Now I travel more and almost every month to somewhere , anywhere.I find that single is beautiful 😃😍😋
I am lucky enough to enjoy being on my own...maybe that is different to being lonely .🥀
Speaking as a woman in my 20's, I never want to learn to "deal with loneliness," maladaptive behaviors or otherwise. If I'm deeply and chronically lonely in my 60's and I don't seem to be able to change things, it would be game over for me. I've read studies that making friends becomes significantly harder from the 30's on. I hope I stay in tough with my friends & I do have 4 older brothers. But having volunteered or worked in three different nursing homes and seen society's wholesale abandonment of older people firsthand, I will not be stewing in solitude to finish my life. No way.
So then what will you do?
@@carpediem7654 I'll check out. I don't care what the "law" says or what these so-called "experts" think, I own my body and my life. When my quality of life is low enough, I'll decide to leave.
@@aiahzohar5636 desire is the root of all suffering- Buddha
However, desiring to stop desiring is still desiring. You will only stop desiring when you don't intend to.
@@carpediem7654 I respect your right to pursue the ideologies that make you feel better, but I don't think ideologies can be a solution for people everywhere. From what I've learned about human cognition and physiology, things like desire (and other emotions and drives) are not (wholly) under volitional control.
I maintain what I said earlier: when my life is no longer good enough TO ME, then I'll leave. I think this should be a global, unassailable human right. Peace.
@@aiahzohar5636 you are too young to know how life changes affect how one lives as they age. I too worked in several nursing home and saw the lonliness and being thrown away. It hurt me to see that. I asked the Lord why did He leave them on this world this way? He answered. He said they have a purpose and that purpose is to develop compassion which is one of the qualities of Jesus. As long as we live, we are fulfilling a purpose. Most don't even know what it is. To some it is clear. Taking your life is robbing God of using you for His purposes. And the life you have even if you have the blessing of age is not yours to take. Think on that for a little bit.
Not a good idea to look outside ourselves to fill our voids, you cannot put that on another person. No one handles life 100% the best thing we can do and just show up. Theres 8 billion people in the world, go meet them.🤗
I was feeling lonely and told a friend in an email, and I thought about it today, so RUclips has algorithms that read your emails, or maybe even your mind.
Ha! I emailed someone and told them I was lonely during coved and they blew me off and said everyone feels that way. Then I emailed others and told them what I appreciated about them and some were thankful and one only said thank you and that was it. When I email people it is like pulling teeth. They don’t write much. Forget trying to get a phone call. Don’t think anyone talks anymore or even texts.
Yes, Google does.
As my late aunt would have said ‘I can go where I like because I’m wanted nowhere’. Shx
There are no borders!!
Thats sad.
OMG. That's so profound! I don't see it as sad at all. It opens so many doors...
I miss the company and affection I like the romantic side..
being alone does not mean your lonely, but other people seem to have a problem with people who are independent, self sufficient, especially if you are a woman.
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The feeling of loneliness and being alone is not the same thing. You can live with others and still feel lonely. You can live alone -as I do- and I don’t feel lonely because I know that I am not alone, God is with me. Having the knowledge of God gives you a total different point of view. God owes everything, there is a purpose for everything and God is in charge, this gives me hope and confidence. People need God, but the today trend is to avoid God and live by themselves. 🌷❤️👍thank you for the video, great sharing 🌷🌷🌷
Greg B beautiful!!
You are totally right!!!
I could never make it with out GOD
God does fill us with His presence, grace and love. Proverbs 3:5-6 is one I cherish. "Trust in the Lord with all your heart. Lean not on your own understanding, seek His will in all you do. He will guide your path" Appreciate your posting. Stay well during this challenging time in our Nation and the World. Blessings to you
AMEN!! With GOD every thing is possible
so happy you are exploring this subject ...
What helps is get a younger guy
This is so true, think of the freedom you have. No whining and complaining. Do what you want, cook what you like, and do whatever 😏 you feel like doing. Most of all enjoy.
I so agree with your comment. I might add...and no drama! 🥰
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Thankfully I found your channel today. I am 62 y/o and my husband us in hospice due to unexpected terminal cancer. I found out he has cancer on July 1st and he has days to a few weeks to live.
Two take aways from this episode for me 1) identify what current habits and behaviors can be problematic, 2) coping strategies. We have been married 35 years. No children. This was not supposed to be our post-covid story. I have friends that are supportive as I break this news to them. Family is suppirtive but out of state. I have volunteer work I do and love.
I know I'll be ok as I move through this process and grieve. My husband is 10 years older but I never imagined being a widow this young.
Hi Denise, I am sure this is a very difficult time for you. Sending you love and hope you are ok. x
Prayers
Denise...just found your comment, as I am new to this channel. Sorry to hear that about your husband. Just by reading your comment, I can tell you are a strong woman...and you can also tell you have what it takes to live on and make it! You will have your down days, we all do...but your attitude tells me you are a survivor and a winner. Take the time you need to do what you have to do and then live again! Feel free to comment back ANYTIME you want too... God's blessings to you. 🙏🥰
I am 66 y/o and my husband has been diagnosed with Pulmonary Fibrosis (a terminal disease) 3 years ago. We cannot do the things we used to love to do like kayaking, hiking swimming, etc. Even though he is still with me which I am grateful for and we can still do some things like going to concerts, dinner, see friends, I am still very lonely. Covid has isolated us even now 3 years later because of his disease. He is still working which is good but I am very limited in what I can do while he is at work because of semi-isolation. We do not have any children, but I do have Nieces and Nephews but they are all living around the world. I have 1 sibling left out of 3 but he lives 1000 miles away and I cannot go there (Florida) because of the high covid numbers they have all the time.
I have some friends but it is difficult to get together as often as I would like because they do have families and are free to do whatever they want. So I sound like I am whining but the depression is real and I have thought of suicide many times, as mentioned in the video. My future is uncertain because we have no idea what my husbands longevity is, but I worry about being totally alone at some point and that causes me so much anxiety. Anyway, thank you for listening.
Loneliness is going to be pandemic when the younger group of today, who are deciding to not create or establish themselves in a family, get older and the been there done that mentality sets in. I live around many retirees that suffer because of this today, the happiest ones are the ones who are financially responsible and have a significant group of family or friends.
Too true. As someone who's never married and an introvert I can see it will be even worse for them, but they seem to have lost hope in people and the world. They don't want to get married or have kids. I've tried warning some but just like it fell on my deaf ears it falls on theirs.
So you think that two back-to-back recessions rendering Millenials poorer than their parents for the first time in our country's history, so they don't have the money to "create or establish themselves with a family," is a choice? Wow.
But you are right, they will be lonely.
@@mowthpeece1 The choice is how and were you enter the stream of life. Watching MTV, playing video games and waiting for the next text to appear on your cell phone is not going to get you to were your parents are. I see too many young people doing these very things and then complaining about their income potential. I started my first business at 16 and have never applied for a job, so I have a different perspective than most who are looking for a ride on a merry-go-round.
@@mowthpeece1 Do you think the problem is Free market capitalism or the Crony capitalism that we have today? Is socialism the answer? Over the last 50 years we have all but destroyed our free market system with Government regulations and control, that's Fascism. We pushed manufacturing to China in the name of climate control where they pollute more in their manufacturing process than we do and then haul all the goods back to our market with highly polluting ships. When can we be reasonable and truthful?
I was lonely when I had friends they were fake and selfish! No I’m by myself and I feel less alone
I am not quite 60, i am 57. But a 2xwidow and i admit i have let my self go. And just now after the second loss 6yrs. Later, i am ready to stop this behavior. And yes i am lonely but try to stay busy,distracted,pray alot. I am always alone,and not fitting in anywhere in a small town.
Hello kinmie
How are you doing
this is great I hear so much about empty nesters and now is the time of ur life. but as a divorced now disabled person this type of video helps.
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Hi, Kimberly I'm 60, divorced, empty nest, and also disabled. Nights and weekends are tough
61 female lonely sad jobless family dont love me, it hurts
I'm right there with you! I care!💗
It is a great idea to join a book club, a Bicycle Club, find other people over 60 and get together with them without joining an elderly group. There's a certain stigma attached to being elderly and I'd like to work to remove that. no matter how many tragedies I Endure in life, I still believe that 60 can be the new 40
One thing old people who are lonely can do is turn to God . Give your life to Him , join a bible believing church where the true Word of God is taught and you will never be lonely again . Please don’t go into seclusion there is plenty of Wonderful fun things to do in your old age
Gabrielle Stargel. I'm 77. My back is very bad. I can't walk far or stand for a long time. This has made getting older a bit of a problem. I'm happy Though. I go with the flow.
Kayla Nguyen
At eighty: well two miles each day, with dogs.
Complete a BE and do a Masters, currently nearly finished. Don't live at the doctor's surgery. Eat well and stay out on the fresh as much as possible
I Am a hypochondriac but the family ignore me!
Stop moaning, read a book, eat some chocolate, swear at people, you ate allowed at this age!
Silly old lady, but bloody minded to the end.
Kayla Nguyen I'm 46. Me too. Very lonely.
living alone through choice in a remote and isolated place at nearly 80 and not lonely. Loving the peace and beauty. we are all and each different, I do not need company, at peace with my cats etc,
Who cooks?
Sounds very nice.
Then why did you watch this video? 🤷🏼♀️
Excellent video discussion. It is so good to get these topics out in the open. Retirement is something working women look forward to, but sometimes the sudden disconnect from the social aspect of the working environment can leave a big emptiness in the lives of woman who were/are living alone. Sometimes we neglect to consider when making retirement plans that a great part of our social life and friendships were bound up with our working life.
Mines not! Working with shallow women. Won't miss them in retirement. Counting the years.
So your children have emigrated and all your close friends have left the country for political reasons, or have died. One becomes so socially dis- connected that one loses one's sense of self. Finally, a sense of despair sets in, a daily sense of pointlessness. Nobody with whom to discuss the horrific consequences of
World War 111 -- if Vladimir Putin invades Ukraine!!!!
Suddenly, at a certain age, you are alone and totally without any family. Suicidal ideation becomes a daily reality, borne out of despair... Human beings are not meant to live in Isolation.
@@pamelayounghusband6190 That might very well be true, but at what point does one take responsibility for one's life circumstances? How about inviting someone to go for coffee or whatever, instead of waiting to be invited? How about volunteering at an animal shelter and taking the dogs for a walk? I am just as guilty as anyone else of this type of negative thinking, but at some point if one really wants some social connection one must BE a friend firstly and then see what happens. Sitting around moaning and navel gazing just won't make things any better. At least that has been my experience.
@@user-pw2dq4lf2p naval gazing…😂😂😂
As my mother use to tell me. Loneliness is a state of mind.
Loneliness happens when you don't love yourself and don't enjoy your own company. Enjoy going out for coffee or lunch by yourself. Society likes to make people feel guilty for being alone. Don't allow society and social media stereotypes control your life.
@@sallybyrd3712 Very well stated and very true!
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@@danielwetmore6907 Canada - all is well.
@@sallybyrd3712OK good. If I may ask how is the weather conditions there?
Kids need to learn how to read and write go to the schools and volunteer! Find a part time job! Go walking if u can! We all need each other n all kinds of ways! Reach out and touch someone! Put yourself out there! Being past 60 is not a drop out number!
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My cousin is 61 and looks 31 , then a man asked her out , when he finds how old she is she never sees him again men age groups 40 to 55
Why did she not look very well for him maybe he just said he should try her
Am John from Maryland USA how about you ?
Interesting and we all have such different lives and attitudes, I find myself constantly seeking to be alone. I have a fairly busy life, I have some really wonderful people in my life, but also have a lot of people that frankly drain me. All they ever do is want me to do things for them ,and get things for the them , “ save them “ ( their words ) from whatever their latest problem is. I find myself wanting to run to a safe place just to be alone and deal with myself. I love being with people at times, but I’ve always really enjoyed being alone too I love to step out and do things going downtown, going to sporting events, going to the gym and swimming and lifting and running. I’ve always enjoyed doing things with myself, as well as people.
Look at Elvis Presley's life he knew a had alot of people around him his fans a all he still battle loneliness a depression a people using him.
Hello Sandra
I am 59 and alone I love my own company I still work fortunately.I am happy on my own but would look into volunteering as well.
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Sadly, suicide is very selfish and it affects the whole family/close friends. Glad to hear people are reaching out to each other on the phone. Social media is not the answer to everything. This is a great interview and I think loneliness is a public health crisis with this never-ending COVID, especially for kids as young as 10. Disturbing as hell.
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@@danielwetmore6907 Clearwater, Florida.
Yes, we probably know what happens when people are lonely. But I was hoping to get more ideas or coping ideas. Not very helpful in that way.
i came across your touching comment in the grieving of love ones post here on face book. Well am really sorry about that okay 😒☹and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life must move on because death is inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday..
How about company of good books ?!
My mother used to say that with a good book to read one could never be lonely! And, she was always right.
Definitely, Definitely, Definitely!
I feel most lonely when I’m around others. When I’m by myself, I generally feel better, less lonely, but I don’t really do much by myself. I’d like to get out and do more, but I have no one to do things with. That’s a lonely feeling, too. There’s a line from an old Beatles song that describes my situation…”I miss things and keep out of sight.” If I had even just one good friend, it could change my life. But at nearly 78, I don’t know how to find that friend.
Im in my 40’s so I have a little time before I reach 60 (but then again, maybe not because after I turned 40, the years seem to move by like months now), but this video popped up in my feed. Perhaps my binging on RUclips videos ignited the algorithm to know that I’m lonely, thus it suggested this video. Though I do enjoy my alone time, too much of anything is not healthy for you. I spend about majority of my life alone. On the weekends and holidays, 99.99% of the time, I’m alone and that’s when it really affects me. However, I must be truthful and also confess I really don’t have the energy, motivation or inclination to make the effort to be around others. I complain no one calls me, but yet I don’t call anyone for either fear of rejection or I just don’t feel like holding a conversation. Most of the people in my life I don’t connect to (even family) and my so called friends only know me on a superficial level, but not deeply. Seems like I’m pretty much destined to live a lonely life so I just keep praying that I can cope to at least I complete my purpose here before I move on. Great video!
I could've written your post it resonated with me so much. Been hurt a little too much along the way and I'm too sensitive. 64 now. It's tough.
@@ksc743 I’m sorry you can resonate with my post, but I also feel bad because it feels good to know I’m not alone. Thax for sharing
@@smartanajones4u you made the effort to respond to my post and I appreciate that!
When you have not developed any kind of hobby in young age at later age you are bound to be alone. The hobby connects you with people with common hobby. I make scale live steam locomotives. It keeps thousands of people keen to connect with me.
I guess there are levels...human contact being the most desirable, right down being happy with a 3 minute temporary relationship with a toy just really doesn't cut it in the long term. It is better to just be ok with being ok with being alone. You are not alone because no one wants you in your condition, they might get social 'aids'. You are alone because your own true self wants to know you and give you the love you need. It is true, at least when you are alone, you can see your true beauty without it being overshadowed by others overside egos and demands.
Oh yes!
3 minutes 😂😂😂 at least you have a great sense of humor.
I've always looooooved to be alone. Since I was little girl.
Respect！When I used to live in UK and I realized that English people loved to talk to me. I was trained as a good listener. Loneliness is very common problem when people lack of family around. Thanks again. This is very helpful video, indeed.
What we need is a robot that we can programme to do things, we love, with us. Lonely people probably don't like people that much and that's ok.. How wonderful to have something to sing and dance with..
I like people I do not like always having very superficial encounters
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I'm originally from Forth Worth Texas currently. and you where are you from if i may ask?
first time I've heard sugar called fat before, thought they were two different things
I think this was a sensitive discussion. I've read some of the comments, and I think that it is important to distinguish between people in their 60's and 70's versus people in their 80's and 90's. Not that loneliness has an age, but truly aged people are going to be more dependent on others reaching out and coming to them to ameliorate their isolation and loneliness. Many folks in their 60's are still in the workplace. (In the US, you can't collect full Social Security until you are 67.) Whether working or not, people in their 60's are usually still quite youthful, and relatively healthy, and able to drive themselves to social situations. In most communities in America, there are "senior centers," political and social clubs, and all manner of volunteer organizations that meet regularly and are always seeking new members. I think connecting your interests to a group - whether it's bird watching, gardening, painting, reading, writing, politics, religion, etc - is a wonderful way not only to explore your interests but to expand your social circle. Take classes at a community college! Write actual letters to old friends and long-distance family members. The best way to combat loneliness for me (single and living alone, but not yet in my 60's) - is to have a daily routine; continue to work at something you enjoy - even part-time - for as long as you can; if you don't live in nature, find it and take a walk in it a few days a week; adopt a dog or a cat and by all means - keep investing in the relationships you do have. I really do believe that boredom is often mistaken for loneliness. Do your best to stay active and engaged in the world and don't be shy about reaching out for help if you are having a bad moment or day. I don't agree with some of the comments that older people are simply tolerated out of "pity." Elders can be extremely charming and good fun. But, socializing takes practice. The more you do it, the better you become at it...and the more comfortable you become with others. Do you know I read a study once that found that the demographic group most critical of elderly people were the elderly? Don't give into the stereotypes of what it means to be older! You're still you. Have fun. Try just one new thing - it could lead to others. And don't put pressure on yourself to become a social butterfly if you are a more introverted person. Just one or two good friends is all most of us need. But you do have to put some effort into finding and developing friendships. Self-pity is the enemy because it leaves you sitting on the couch all day, channel surfing and complaining about the awful young people of today! (Ha ha,)
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I'm originally from Forth Worth Texas currently. and you where are you from if i may ask?
Lonely do not have a age on lonely is lonely no matter what age we r
That is true but most younger people have work to occupy their minds. Some older folks are home 24-7 and not in good health. No spouse or kids around.
We deal with loneliness all our lives even when in company
In my 60's here I m having a ball, while most neighbours r stuck in their individual homes. 4me no time 4 loneliness. Too little time for me to complete my daily agenda 4 the day as people pop at my gate with foods & delivery. With RUclips I feel so connected to the outside world & we exchange comments every so often. we don't get into eachother's nerves or step on anyone's toes. All we enjoy is 2b connected 2 people of the same minds set & interest. Thanks to multimedia. They keep my sanity & the government in Malaysia is doing a wonderful job 4 the old & needy Bravo to Lim Kit Siang of DAP. We here in Gelang Patah , & the state of JOHOR, Malaysia wants the world to know that you are doing a wonderful job 4 the 3rd world country Malays & your undying sacrifices for the needy. Good job. 3 CHEERS 4 DAP.
I'll be retiring in 4 years and am considering transplanting. Part of my decision regarding location is to move to a place where I can transfer my church and sorority memberships to avoid isolation and loneliness. This video is so important for singles that want to remain independent but need continued connections.
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Unbelievable that only a few minutes are spent on practical application of what to do when you’re excruciatingly lonely. Not helpful!
While I miss people, interactions and conversations; but I am not very lonely.
Alone doesn't mean lonely.
Keep out of the kitchen except for meal prep and meal time. Don't bring junk foods in the home.
Don't nap more than 1-2 hrs in an afternoon. 1-3, 2-3 are best times.
Exercise 30-45 minutes a day.
Do eat a treat 1 x a week. Have that 1 3-4 oz. of wine in the evening. With a meal not before/at bedtime.
We are our own best motivator and cheerleader.
Reach out and talk to others.
Got to be a friend to have a friend.
Join a book/writers, painting class, tai-chi, or walking group.
Karoake, dance, swimming, yoga all fun hathy things to do.
Definitely don't get into drinking, drugs, or gambling. Save for a vacation.
I appreciate your specificity. I’ve been meaning to write a schedule/list. This is a great start 🤗!
I have taken some small steps this weekend to take better care of my self. Being totally walker dependent can be frustrating.
I made a healthy meal, with enough for a meal today. And this morning, I started exercises before I got out of bed.
Volunteering is a great outlet.