mental struggles, our relationship, & moving regrets?? Q + A
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Oh Sarah baby, please don't stress over the house. In 20 years you won't have babies to cuddle but you'll still have a house to clean. Enjoy them and f the house, advice from a Granny x x❤
Print this out and frame it! From another Granny to you.
Totally agree from another granny. There will always be something to clean. Take your time and enjoy those babies. You won't get those first 5 years back. You got this !!!
Yes yes. Those little kids need your attention and and that housework will always be there. From PA granny
I think she pretty much does forget about the house😅
All Grannys are right...those babes grow so fast and once you go through menopause, you realize how much you miss your babies.. its different once their grown. No cuddles and bed bouncing.. you're still close and love them immensely, and so proud of the adults they have turned into. You'll find out...don't blink!!
There is nothing wrong with not showing public/viewers more persona or romantic side of relationship.
Guys, it is so good to hear from you again! I realize just how tough it has the last six weeks for you BOTH. Please keep in mind that six weeks from now, things will get progressively easier. Wow, moving into your own home, while one of you is convalescing from major surgery and trying to keep up with two little one’s! You guys inspire me. Hang tough and hopefully we can hear from you two again soon.
Don’t be too hard on yourself Derek, ‘this too shall pass’. You guys are a great team, and you’re in it for the distance. Right now Sara has more of the load, but when you’re healed you can give her a good break, and over the course of your life together, you will be blessed to support each other many times. 😊❤
thank you so much for your kind words!! ❤️❤️
Even happy couples could use marriage counseling. Fighting fair. Learning clear communications. Compromise.
Every marriage can use tune ups. Take the time to make your marriage a priority.
AMEN🙏
Thanks for keeping it real. 😊
Honestly couples therapy is so good. The biggest mistake people make is coming in too late, when things have been building up for a while.
Save yourselves some heart ache and put the time into your relationship. ❤
Marriage is not 50/50 it is 100/100. In our marriage we decided never go to bed angry and without a kiss, and --eweee- only fight naked and holding hands. It was great when we were young. Been married 45 years- it is hard not to laugh. We pick our battles. Talk, talk, talk to each other. You guys are amazing.
You don't seem very👌.
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Absolutely true! Married 30 yrs here and talk, talk, talk it out. Holding hands, date each other always, don’t go to bed angry. Someone actually said at our wedding to fight naked! 😂 Three kids… do the math on the fights😉 My husband just said it at our son’s and daughter in law’s reception in his speech. Derek take it easy…my daughter had this surgery and is just back to work. Be careful with your body, after 30- it doesn’t bounce the same anymore!
U good?
Boy that is the truth after 30 you do not bounce back and as you get older it just keeps getting worse so take care of your body now!
You guys are doing great. No rush on Jack for school - you just moved, had a new baby - so much to explore that's new. Do the little holiday programs at the community centers where he meets kids and you meet moms, and then have mom groups where you all meet up with your kids once a week. It's also a great way to connect
Each day will get easier and easier from here now derik!! Sara I understand girl, if I’m not organized then I don’t feel like my mental health is striving! When I moved I would take 2-4 boxes a day and at least get those organized but of course you set a goal that works for you!! Y’all will get through the other side of this and it will all be worth it ❤
Love your content through and through ❤️ Respect the fact that you don’t sugarcoat your life and the struggles you go through. Thanks for being awesome 🤩
Lack of sleep when your children are young is brutal. I think if Sarah could have 24 hours away from the house where she can have uninterrupted sleep, it would make all the difference in the world for her and them as a family.
That is absolutely correct.
She needs to get someone to take the kids, and she and Derrick need to sleep as long as they can.
yeah but she will be missing the kids and worried. Maybee two days...
They take more vacations in a year than I have had in 2 decades!!
@poorthing true. But she should take a day and sleep.
They have lots of help with the children ..they are very lucky
You guys your house is beautiful!!! WOW!!!
I have horrible anxiety attacks and panic attacks! You make so happy when you speak about your struggles! Sarah I want to say I am so sorry that you lost your big sister I lost 2 sons in a 9 year period and I just love how you express your feelings and love your babies extra special!! You guys and Tanner and Lauren's family are so inspiring and fun and upbeat! I also love Matt and Abby! Keep doing what you're doing and CONGRATULATIONS on the new house! I gotta finish by saying I am so in love with Sunny's hair and Jack's!
I love how Sarah is putting things away during this it’s super relaxing!
I think you both balance each other out so much. It’s such a beautiful blend which creates a great family dynamic. I love watching you guys and your adventures. And I love your new home ❤
Derrik, you've been walking way more than you should have! I've been worried about your knees so much. Very glad you've actually been given the ok. Please take it very easy so you wont have to have another surgery. Always sending good thoughts for your family.
Tbh, I was shocked by your honesty and vulnerability. You guys usually are, but these questions were very personal. Thank you for sharing daily, life struggles that many of us go through. It makes your family that much more relatable. Praying that you guys transition into a season of rest and reset to funner and better things. & Way to go, Sarah! Superwoman!
Love u guys❤ mentally I can related to Derik so much & as a sleep deprived mom who has to take care of the house by herself I can relate to Sarah, I’ve been watching u guys for 2 yrs & u have both seriously helped me so much😊 ur the best!
Y’all are so precious for keeping things so real and letting everyone know that we all struggle!! Much love to y’all! ❤
sometimes I wish it wasn't SO real 😂😂😂 but thank you!! we're glad it helps people stay realistic with life and parenthood ❤️❤️
@@DerikAndSarah
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I've missed you! So good to see you all! My hubby and I have been together since 1973, we married in 1979. One thing I can say throughout our marriage is this- "This too, shall pass!" We go through seasons, and when we are through that season, we think on it and talk through what worked and what didn't. We learned from each other. Take the social media break you need, family first! After so many years together, we get to look back and sometimes when we have a little bump in the road, (like when our youngest didn't sleep through the night for three years!) we look at one another and say "is it as bad as Kate not sleeping through the night for three years? And then we laugh because that was the worst, And we lived through it! Sarah, I'm praying Sonny begins to sleep through the night.🙏💕
thank you so much for all of your amazing advice!!! we appreciate you so much ❤️❤️❤️ and we truly cannot wait until Sunny is sleeping through the night hahah
I think that you are both amazing people great parents you both have great personalities
Praying everything gets easier and better for you two very special
people.
Be easy on yourselves! You have a lot going on! Say your prayers and ask for strength and grace.❤
Thanks for keeping it real. Everyone this is how life is. We struggle sometimes and we do it because we love eachother. We struggle and we move forward ❤
I'm sure this has been mentioned, but you two have similar moral values and life goals. People think compalabilty comes from having similar hobbies, personal interests, and other arbitrary wants.
But, just because you like hiking, but your partner loves swimming, it doesn't make you incompatable.
You are your own person, even in a relationship. You don't give up your identity just because it doesn't readily mash with someone else.
As long as you have similar goals for life, i.e. marriage, kids, house. And, agree morally on how to achieve those goals, and a similar time line, then the fact you have the same favorite movie, food, or sports team is just a bonus.
Sunny is developing so quickly.. She's a little firecracker 🧨. So cute. Jack and Sunny will be such good buddies when she's walking. You're actually putting your house together pretty quickly. I've seen others move in and it's taking forever for them to get it all done. It's always a work in progress when you own a home. At least you have one advantage, you don't have to remodel anything, unless you want to.
absolutely!! and NOO remodeling any time soon ahhah
Please know that as you both struggle through a period that there are subscribers that cheer you on. Fight for each other and fight to show each other in small ways that you are there for each other. When the struggle lifts and you have time to look back and see just what you did for each other, the love- when you are being heart to heart and looking into each others eyes--- you will feel the bond you truly want for each other and that love.
I love you guys so much! Derick looks like he’s making progress! Always praying for him and your family!
I had 4 children n I worked nites so my husband was home,I was tired beyond belief but I did it,Saturday was clean up day,music on loud n got it all done,couple of wines n early nite so you are no way the only ones doing it bit hard but so are 1000s of mums out there,some single parents too,get over yourselves
Isnt it strange how both beeston families moved from Hawaii at what seemed like breakneck speed without it really making sense as they all loved it .. 🤔
Though we miss you guys, many would agree it’s well deserved time away to regroup is more than welcomed. Just know it’s temporary 😊enjoy it love you all.
thank you so much for sticking with us!! ❤️❤️ means the world
Absolutely love you guys and how real you keep it with us viewers! Enjoy your new home!!🩷
Love your channel. You're too adorable. Real marriage Real family. Real LIFE. Stay strong you two. You've got this!
Hi I just wanted to tell Derick, I totally understand, I had major lower back surgery 1 year ago. They had to lift 3 levels of my back…I never saw this coming. I was devastated….it took me a long time to recover and I couldn’t walk for many months…I would cry, I was so emotional. Then 6 months after they told me I had to have 2 of my cervical spine lifted….. I did’t even want to hear surgery but I did it…I am getting better now….but I totally understand the feeling of not being useful….because I keep my house very clean and it made me so sad that I couldn’t do it… you both are doing a great job…don’t ever give up….even when the going gets tough….proud of you both!!
Looking back, I was so blessed that my child slept through the night at Sunnys age. For me, a set routine and calm down worked for me. Every child is different though ❤
You Both are Amazing Parents to Jack and Sunny ❤ Sarah, my daughter did not sleep through the night until almost 2 years old , i was a single parent so I understand the exhaustion, plus i was working 10 + hours a day.... You and Derek are amazing parents and Derek will get better day by day on his healing and walking and be able to help out like you are used to... This too shall pass... ALWAYS REMEMBER TO KEEP YOUR COMMUNICATION OPEN AND LET THE OTHER ONE SPEAK WITHOUT INTERRUPTING THEM. THAT IS SO VERY IMPORTANT!!! AND VALIDATE YOUR HUSBAND/WIVES FEELINGS AND CONCERNS.... IN A MONTH FROM NOW THINGS WILL BE SO MUCH BETTER, TRUST ME ❤ LOVE AND BLESSINGS TO YOU ALL🙏♥️🙏♥️🙏
Derick “you don’t understand” Sarah likes to be organized 😉Derick have fun at PT. So happy to hear from you guy-miss ya ❤❤❤❤😊
Happy for this video, have been wondering how things have been going. I'm glad you're all surviving, things will get easier hang in there. Wow Sunny's hair is getting so long, very beautiful. Love hearing Jack talk he says the cutest things.
Hey guys,
My 12yo son and I are currently living in our car. It is not an ideal situation, one I NEVER could have imagined. Although I know it won't be forever, when you're in a hard moment, time seems to slow down.
So please know, that everything that we go through is not just for a season, but for a reason.
I know my son will one day look back at this time and remember all the good things that were born from this challenging time.
Just like Sara, Derik and the kids will look back on this time with fondness, laughter and gratitude.
May God continue to bless you and your family.
Much respect from Melbourne Australia 🙏 🌏 💙
Nice to hear from you again and it's coming along well it's just you need to take it ONE DAY AT A TIME ! The kids are growing so fast. Thanks for sharing. Take care and enjoy your new home 🏡 😊 ☺️
Pleased to hear from you both.☺
Lots of love to you all and look after yourselves xxx
So happy to hear from y’all. Much love from Texas. Sunny and Jack Is growing like wild flowers 🌸
I’m positive that doing everything for everyone is exhausting on your body and mind, you’re body heals it’s self while you sleep. Maybe Sarah could use some downtime and some good sleep and just know we are here for you both and truly love the videos!!!
oh I could ALWAYSSS use some sleep 😂😂 thank you!!
You two are just so dear! Here’s to easier days, soon!
Hang in there Sara. You ooze frustration. ❤
Spot on. This was a heavy watch.
100%
One whole week break is your BEST ever idea.
I have 5 kids all boys had them all at a young age.and the first 3 were all close in ages.u will adapted and find the right way that works for u and your family.u 2 are such great people.u will make it work
Great to see you! Thankfully things are going to be getting back to normal
idk why but i love random vlog styles like this
Sarah and Derik, I am sending you lots of love, healing, positivity and peace. Not my place to judge, criticize or make comments.
Loved seeing a video from you guys! 🤗🤍✨🌸
❤❤❤ I’m so glad you are taking a break.
So much pressure please take time out when you can. Much love and prayers going your way!
Mama ALL that stuff will STILL BE THERE when you're ready to do it 🥰🥰 it's part of being a mom❤
What I find works best for me and my partner is to just tell each other what percentage we are able to give when we get home. We are both postal workers so some days neither of us have much left but we do our very best. Some days you’re the windshield and some days your the bug, your partner has your back when you need it.
I love you all and pray for blessings and protection over you all ❤
I’m so happy to see a new video I do enjoy seeing you guys . Everything takes time and with two toddlers it’s very difficult but it will all get done. God bless your family 😊😊😊
Yay I've been worried about you guys its nice getting an update
You're COMPLETELY normal!!! Many going through what you are going through. I live with my Ex Husband and help him after his mini stroke in 2021. I have to remind myself to take care of myself and poor health too. We're going to family therapy to better help one another and to help build better independence. We have spats but always make up. BFF'S since 1988. 😊 You're going to get through this.
I wish there wasn’t such a stigma of admitting that that anyone have depression or anxiety, where people just take the easy way out. We have lost so many young adults who hide it. Love your episode ❤ we just lost a friend’s son at 22 😢💔let’s make it ok to speak up and I also suffer from depression and anxiety it can be isolating but I reach out to my family, friends and most of all my therapist.
we totally agree!! trying to help end the stigma ❤️❤️❤️ and we hope you are well!! sending love ❤️❤️
@@DerikAndSarah I've seen where nannies are able to work with a baby to get them sleeping all night. Live in nannies.
Are there sleep specialistsfor babies that could help? Good luck, I know that is very hard on you. I have trouble sleeping; sometimes all night. But I'm 73 and retired so I can nap or catch up when I need to. ❤
Hang in there guys ... it may not feel it but from where I am you're amazing
Social media is terrible. I stay off it as much as possible. When it comes to my relationship with my wife, we prioritize our relationship over the kids (yes, we still love them) but our relationship is what keeps the family together and we always make time for each other. So many couples forget this when kids are involved. You're a wife 1st, mother 2nd, this is how everyone in my family has done it and has always been successful.
I think broadcasting yourself, children and life online is a difficult and foolish thing to do.
I'm really happy to say this as well. My Mother told me this many, many years ago! I am 84 yrs old now but it stuck in my mind for all these years. It doesn't mean the children are neglected. It simply means your husband is most important in your relationships. You should hear the reactions I get if I say this! So many women say their kids come first, and many men feel very left out when this happens. They seem to feel the wife only "used" them to have babies then kind of forgot them. So sad.
@Nuna_Argo- I completely agree with your last sentence but showing their children on every social media platform’s have made them quite rich. Paid for that newly built home they’re moving into…
@@gianisoma - It wouldn’t be to my children or myself. Money is not worth exploiting your children to millions of perverted people ogling my children!
Agree! We are the same. If things are good between you and your spouse, it’ll trickle down. Same if things aren’t good. So if you put the effort into one another it makes everything else better.
Hope things get better for y'all
I agree re thinking about not taking risks. You have to think on 3 other lives that are leaning on you to live. When you actually get old those aches and pains will come back to haunt you, and believe me aches and pains can make you very grumpy. Getting old is not fun for injuries sustained in your youth.
You are an awesome couple.
Keeping it real as always.
I think you both are awesome and your children are the cutest. Glad your doing better Derrick. Great job holding down the "Fort" Sarah. Stay safe and God Bless
As someone who cooked dinner in a wheelchair. Cleaned up my house. Unpacked in a wheelchair... THIS GUY COULD TRY HARDER.
Agree!
I think it’s a bit of a stretch to assume you know everything he did or didn’t do based on a 18 minute video summing up 6 weeks. 👀
@@danielas7825 - oh come on! They post everything on line! Thankfully I don’t have to see all the family vloggers out there except through ‘Dad Channel podcast’. Sheesh, Derick is Sarah’s 3rd child!
Your family so Beautiful, you are such awesome parents ❤️❤️
You guys really inspire me, take care❤
I hope you are okay Sarah. You are a superhero!!
Hang in there! Sleep deprivation can not be underestimated when it comes to mood, decision-making, accidents, etc.
Try to rest when you can and love your babies-sometimes you just have to take a 20 minute nap.
Good luck with everything-you will get things the way you like them!
Sarah - you are a champ. If I had gone through everything you guys have gone through in the last 3 months, I would have ran away from home screaming like a banshee.
I've always felt PDA is a private thing. Some people are exhibitionists, wanting that attention and that just never felt comfortable to me. Ya'll are cool and love each other, that's plain to see. Glad you're in the new house and Derek's on the road to recovery. Take it easy Derek, you sure don't want to re-injure and have to start all over again. And the two kids, boy what a handful but sweet, beautiful babies, don't forget to stop and enjoy them and each other....the house will still be there. Take care you guys. 🎉❤
what the frack it's pda?
Public displays of affection
@@Salviamente_Celes
Public Displays of Affection....some of us like to keep that stuff private. 😉
@@Salviamente_Celes perhaps, if you sharpened up your vocabulary a bit you may know what PDA is
@@Peacelovegracefor sure...
Sarah u are such a really good mum and wife. 🎉❤
A long Rehab for you Derek, take care, a painful time for you. Please don't take risky chances!
So much love to you all ❤️❤️❤️❤️
- New South Wales, Australia 🦘
Love 💕 the whole family get rest,stay strong and take a time out when u need it to stay on top❤❤❤
Sarah, you are a mom, wife with moving into a new house. Women always pull thru when honey cant assist because of whatever. Women always step up to take care of the fam. God bless you sarah or being an amazing women and showing all women that we can take care of business when needed ❤
You guys it's OK life gets stressed, you will get through this,lifes been fun ,will be again,stay strong, stay together in your decision making ,love is the way xx😊
Derick put a roll of paper towels near the sink. 1 paper towel, a little water and wipe the sink. 5 seconds and wow no more hair in the sink! And a smile on your wifes beautiful face❣❣ Little things mean so much💙🦋💙
Exactly! When they do these types of vids she has told the before. Sheesh…
I keep a small square cloth on my countertop, and I wipe off all the water spots 1-2 times a day. It keeps it looking super clean, and it gets up all the hair too. Once a week, I wipe it down with disinfectant (thyme oil spray) and switch out the cloth.
Glad your fam is ok! Thx 4 the update
Chicka Chicka Boom Boom ❤ Glad to see that's still a hit! I read that to my kids that are now 22&24!
I love your family, and I hope you always love you too! Remember if God leads you to it, he'll leads you through it. When angry, remember the moment you knew in your heart you were in love. Look through those eyes at eachother, hug and let go of anger. Anger and frustration are the devil pinching you. This advise from a woman married for 34 years, until death do us part. Mike passed on 7/28/2016. I loved him til his last breath. Sunny is the most strikingly beautiful baby I've seen since my baby girl was born and that age. God love you and hold onto eachother. No one said it'd be easy but you're DOING it! Yea YOU!
Welcome to being a parent !
Sarah girl you need to take 5. You sound so stressed. It cannot be easy to have to look after everyone. You deserve a spa day or some you time❤
Soak in every moment, relax, Im missing my kids being little. They grow up too fast & now mine r gone. Please know these r your best years, stress, insaneness & all. Trust me.
I’ve always gotten the vibe that Sarah isn’t happy with Derik. She absolutely beams when she is with Lo, her friends and her kids but she’s always blah with Derik 🤷♀️ It’s just the impression I’ve always gotten.
I have also thought this..
I wonder if now she wishes she hadn’t dumped her boyfriend while he was on mission.. sorry, I couldn’t deal with being around Derick every day. He comes across so childish…
Sarah! I can relate to you so much! There are so many similarities btwn you and Derick and my husband and myself! My husband is exactly like Derick and I am so much like you!! Seeing the way you handle everything, how loving and how strong you are for your family truly inspires me! I also love the way you display such peace and composure through it all! That is something I am really working on. I love my husband so much and get so concerned when it comes to the physical adventures he embarks on! My husband is awesome at almost everything but I want him to be safe!! That’s my number one concern!! His safety! Very similar to you I want my husband to have a higher level of caution! Thanks for sharing life and inspiring other women to grow in strength and love for their family!❤❤❤
It seems there is such a difference in your lives now than in Hawaii. Maybe time to rethink the move and go to where you seemed much happier. Life is too short. You've a beautiful family. Be happy🎉❤
Organisation AND a q&a! Loved it so chill
Glad you're getting better, Derik! And Sarah, you're the best, and honestly, I never really believed in true love that lasts forever starting so young, but you two make me think twice 💞! I love you all and omg, that was Stella! I feel like, the last time that I saw her she was a baby! When this started, I was like good thing y'all have The Lord firstly, and Tanner and Lo! Much love to you all! Prayers for your recovery!🙏🦵 and Sarah's sleep deprivation 🥱
Editing was fantastic!! ✨🫶
Your family is so cute! Love your videos!♥️
Sarah ...you are awesome and holding it together.
Mother of three here: I laughed so hard at the "Queue meltdown"
Love you guys
So happy to hear from you i thought something was wrong and i got very scared because you my fav youtuber
Keep up the great work. Love you guys!
Hey we all here for you I just found out after 3 years that I have deep depression and anxiety ,stress it put me in hospital for 3 days mental illness is very real and dangerous ... much love you guys from Australia
I am sorry! Lots of hope and prayers that it becomes manageable. I struggle with the same thing. ❤❤
Same here. 💙🦋💙
Thank you soo much ☝️very scary situation
@@KEEGZ90.. for sure! It truly is!
Good on you for getting appropriate treatment for this condition! It can be such suffering.
Jack and Sunny are so cute❤ Wish you all the best💞
The stress is palpable. Hang in there.
Missed you guys ❤
Missed you all so much!!! Where the heck you been?
We are celebrating our 45th anniversary on sept 23rd. You’re in the hard parts of your life. Make time for yourselves and each other.