I’m not trying to be negative, but everything changes once you have the baby. It’s great that you’ll have a ton of help. Please accept all you can get. You’ll be amazing parents. Children make everything worth it. My husband was against spoiling our twins until they got old enough to ask for stuff. Now he can’t say no. 😂
Please get counseling before the child comes! I’m praying for your marriage! In Jesus name! Jesus loves you Meg (and Steve) no matter what life throws at you.
As a parent of 3 kids in their 20s, there is one important factor: Compromise! 99% of the time, the mom will be right. Trust her decisions. The most important thing, is that the kids know they can depend on you guys , and you both will be there for them. No matter what. Great video! Love the open conversation with you guys! Also, Congratulations!! You guys will be great parents! Its the hardest, but most rewarding job either of you will do.
As a Mom of four, 7 years old and under, we do not spank and have very well behaved kids. However you have to set expectations for your desired behavior very young and have consequences. Also agree with no kissing..my BIGGEST pet peeve is when people touch my newborns hands because that baby inevitably puts their hands in their mouth. Advice: baby mitts/pj’s with hand covers, and baby-wear to family gatherings, that way no one will ask to hold the baby or pass them around 😆 Sounds crazy but you do what you have to do to protect your little one.
Let's go ❤❤ I'm so stinking excited to see baby boy come into the world I know meg and Steve y'all will be freaking AWESOME parents 😊😊. I'm so happy for y'all and this new journey. 😊❤
I 💯 agree with you Megan.. no kisses!! virus’s are the least of your worries.. herpes cold soars all contagious. My friend baby caught “cold soars” from his grandma at 1 month old 😢 have that hand sanitizer ready by your side too.
Great video! I one that once you’ll have the baby and with the experiences that you’ll make a lot of things will change, but that’s life, a new surprise everyday. It’ll be cool to react to this video, once the kid will be old enough to understand, and see if you kept the word ahahah.
I think the best thing we did with our son while he was a toddler was let him make his own decisions. We'd present him with two options and he'd get to choose which he'd rather do. We highly curated them for sure but it gave him confidence, helped with communication, critical thinking, and decision making. He's 8 now and is too smart for his own good. He can problem solve and rationalize things well, and is quite mature for his age. We've never had to spank him ever. We've always used those opportunities to teach him why what he did was wrong and that understanding of making his own decisions helped him understand where he went wrong. Even now, if he does something I don't like, I can look upset or even tell him I don't like when he does that, and he'll know right away and apologize. It's just important to let him know we love him no matter what he does, it's the action that we don't like. As he gets older it'll be more about making the good decisions, but it just scares me to think of the issues we'll have to deal with, and I just hope we set a good foundation. So far, so good. I felt bad yelling at him once because I lost my cool, but I always apologize to him if I know I was wrong. There's no way I could spank him with that same amount of anger. I have to remind myself that everything he does is new to him. We can't expect them to know how or what to do, it's our job to teach them.
Once Junior is running around…you will find your body/mind will not let you hit him for any reason. It’s a strange phenomenon but it’s there, and because alternatives are there.
6:00 I personally would explain to my kids why certain things are bad. You don’t learn about the bad things of drugs unless like someone gets an arrythmia from cocaine or in the case of my ex’s friend now needs a pacemaker.
HI MEG AND STEVE,, when i was married and we had kids me and my wife at the time we took it in turns at night and that's even if i had to work the next day,, and my wife never worked,, she was a stay at home mom,, i know i picked the wrong wife 🤣,, i should of listened to my mom,, anyway great vid keep them coming,, take care both of you ♥
Definitely TAKE IT SERIOUS WHEN HE IS BORN NO KISSING OR BEING IN HIS FACE... SICKNESS IN BABIES THAT YOUNG ARE SO SCARY ❤😊 SO I TOTALLY AGREE WITH MEG 😍😍
I have 3 children under 5 and i always took the night shift with my babies since my husband did work but also again breastfeeding is definitely the womans job. Once he can rake a bottle the dad can help which is always nice. How long do you have off work?
Don't go into with heavy thoughts. You are 100% beginner parents. It will take thousands of situational events before you figure it out. Most importantly don't be afraid of making a mistake because you will. Thousands
You have to discipline your child from the start. Do not wait till they get "older". By then its too late. The reason is better overall. Why? If you do it from the start they will learn their are consequences to actio s at an early age. So as they get older you will no longer need to "spank" them because the fear or respect for consequences is already instilled in them. Ex. We whooped my daughter from birth never having to go off like when I was a child. The result was the last time we ever had to whoop her was maybe 4 years of age. She is now turning 14 and when we give her a look or tell her no... it is just that we dont have to whoop her anymore. So I really encorage you to discipline your child from birth so they learn consequences hurt. Then hopefully they learn to listen because they have learned. Oh also the number one thing that breeds disobedience is not backing each other up after one of you has advised of or enforced a punishment. If the child sees that mom or dad will overturn a decision/punishment that the other has enforced that child will learn to "cheat" the system because they can get away with it still. If one of you ever questions a decision you take that to each other alone amd if you overturn it you both sit the child down and explain why but the resaoning shouod NEVER be because one parent did not agree wiht the other. I have stories I have observed that still blow my mind and the results are clearly seen in the behavior of their children. Smh. You too seem like you will be great parents just take it one day at a time and show yourselves grace. Remember you may not agree withh how your parents raised you but the end result you are the outc9me of their parenting so something had to be right somewhere along the line.
Such baseless nonsense. Look into the science behind spanking. Its immoral and doesn't do anything but harm. So many shitty parents basing everything on them thinking they turned out alright so "something must of been right" No facts or evidence to support it.
Meg! Meg! You seem to be a good person, and you will make a good mom. But please! Talk to people who have more than 1 child (I have 3), it's so much less scary than you think....
Spanking (non violent and only on the bum) until the child is old enough so that you can reason with it verbally, is not only OK it's crucial. What's more important (at any age) is to make it clear upfront what the consequences are and sticking to them 100%. Warning/threatening you're going to do something when they do something bad and then not doing it, is the WORST thing you can do. This whole approach always seems extreme to people, but when done properly it only lasts a short while because your child quickly learns that actions have consequences and then they won't be exposed to any of those consequences anymore because they don't do the things that lead to them anymore. As opposed to the parents who shout at their kids for 18 years or even worse, the parents who do nothing and just have their kids run wild.
Spanking is ONLY violent. You either ignore the science and studies or are completely ignorant of it. Because they are non verbal and cant reason with you is more of a reason NOT to hit your kid. Yes it is HITTING just changing the word to spanking doesn't make the action different. You have no clue what you're saying. It is most certainly not "crucial" to use violence on your children. I'm so sick of this crap that spanking is necessary for children or they will just run around undiscipline, blah blah blah. Its based on nothing but their experience when they were children.
Ya may not have to spank your children, but there must be some kind of discipline to teach children right frog wrong, and so they know there's consequences if they do do wrong. If parents don't teach their kids discipline they'll end up disrespecting their parents, and may end up being really careless, rude, people thinking the world revolves around them. My brother never put a whole lot of effort into disciplining his kids, and as the got older they began disrespecting their parents more and more and got to the point to where my nephew kicked his own dad out of the house, and the mother didn't do anything about it for fear of her own child. my brother has 3 boys two who've served jail time and prison time the third, the youngest, seems to be worse then the older two. Love and discipline is something that every parent must do for their children.
And BTW.... Spanking "without rage" is one of the best things a child can get from his parents. A kid that gets spanked (again, "without rage"!), is a much healthier kid than those who are left to their own devices (don't think for a second that a mom can verbally control a boy..😂😂😂).
We never spanked either of our boys and we have much closer relationships in our family because of this. Spanking is not OK and is illegal in our country NZ….
Meg trust me, verbally telling off a child will neverrrrrrrrrrrr get them afraid ! if its no physical, they will get away with everything and become spoilt. Here in Wales, they banned bottom slaps. The naughtiness of children has shot through the room.
That is also due to a cultural change, its happening all throughoout the western world kids are becoming more individualistic and selfish wich is reinforced and taught online, might be taught in the home but you get what i mean
Grandparents are there to spoil.
I’m not trying to be negative, but everything changes once you have the baby. It’s great that you’ll have a ton of help. Please accept all you can get. You’ll be amazing parents. Children make everything worth it. My husband was against spoiling our twins until they got old enough to ask for stuff. Now he can’t say no. 😂
Please get counseling before the child comes! I’m praying for your marriage! In Jesus name! Jesus loves you Meg (and Steve) no matter what life throws at you.
As a parent of 3 kids in their 20s, there is one important factor: Compromise! 99% of the time, the mom will be right. Trust her decisions. The most important thing, is that the kids know they can depend on you guys , and you both will be there for them. No matter what. Great video! Love the open conversation with you guys!
Also, Congratulations!! You guys will be great parents! Its the hardest, but most rewarding job either of you will do.
Nah you better pull that belt out!! World is a terrible place now becuz people weren't physically disciplined as kids
As a Mom of four, 7 years old and under, we do not spank and have very well behaved kids. However you have to set expectations for your desired behavior very young and have consequences.
Also agree with no kissing..my BIGGEST pet peeve is when people touch my newborns hands because that baby inevitably puts their hands in their mouth. Advice: baby mitts/pj’s with hand covers, and baby-wear to family gatherings, that way no one will ask to hold the baby or pass them around 😆 Sounds crazy but you do what you have to do to protect your little one.
Let's go ❤❤ I'm so stinking excited to see baby boy come into the world I know meg and Steve y'all will be freaking AWESOME parents 😊😊. I'm so happy for y'all and this new journey.
😊❤
Agree with Meg on all...she is gonna be a great Momma.
I 💯 agree with you Megan.. no kisses!! virus’s are the least of your worries.. herpes cold soars all contagious. My friend baby caught “cold soars” from his grandma at 1 month old 😢 have that hand sanitizer ready by your side too.
Great video! I one that once you’ll have the baby and with the experiences that you’ll make a lot of things will change, but that’s life, a new surprise everyday.
It’ll be cool to react to this video, once the kid will be old enough to understand, and see if you kept the word ahahah.
Wow, it is so obvious that this is your first child. After the second one is born you will have a new set of concerns!
Yall are going to be the cool parents of the friend group
I think the best thing we did with our son while he was a toddler was let him make his own decisions. We'd present him with two options and he'd get to choose which he'd rather do. We highly curated them for sure but it gave him confidence, helped with communication, critical thinking, and decision making. He's 8 now and is too smart for his own good. He can problem solve and rationalize things well, and is quite mature for his age. We've never had to spank him ever. We've always used those opportunities to teach him why what he did was wrong and that understanding of making his own decisions helped him understand where he went wrong. Even now, if he does something I don't like, I can look upset or even tell him I don't like when he does that, and he'll know right away and apologize. It's just important to let him know we love him no matter what he does, it's the action that we don't like. As he gets older it'll be more about making the good decisions, but it just scares me to think of the issues we'll have to deal with, and I just hope we set a good foundation. So far, so good. I felt bad yelling at him once because I lost my cool, but I always apologize to him if I know I was wrong. There's no way I could spank him with that same amount of anger. I have to remind myself that everything he does is new to him. We can't expect them to know how or what to do, it's our job to teach them.
@@nerigarcia7116 that’s the best response I’ve read. I know exactly what you mean. There is a deeper awareness that prevents violence of all forms.
The impression at 4:11 was fantastic 😂
Once Junior is running around…you will find your body/mind will not let you hit him for any reason. It’s a strange phenomenon but it’s there, and because alternatives are there.
New borns have a very strong natural imune system to adapt to the environment
Another fun video idea💡❤❤
I think prolly the best thing you can do for your children is show them love and discipline.
Being the first grandchild
BE READY BECAUSE THEY WILL SPOIL THE CRAP OUT OF HIM THAT'S A REALITY LMAO 😂😂❤
Love this kind of content 😂🙏
spanking is NOT personal preference, it's abuse. please be bigger than that! PS loved your videos!!
dont spank him bro
Our baby got RSV because his grand dad kissed him. 4 month old ended up in hospital. Absolutely no kissing!😂
6:00 I personally would explain to my kids why certain things are bad. You don’t learn about the bad things of drugs unless like someone gets an arrythmia from cocaine or in the case of my ex’s friend now needs a pacemaker.
can't wait for baby boyyy
HI MEG AND STEVE,, when i was married and we had kids me and my wife at the time we took it in turns at night and that's even if i had to work the next day,, and my wife never worked,, she was a stay at home mom,, i know i picked the wrong wife 🤣,, i should of listened to my mom,, anyway great vid keep them coming,, take care both of you ♥
Definitely TAKE IT SERIOUS
WHEN HE IS BORN NO KISSING OR BEING IN HIS FACE... SICKNESS IN BABIES THAT YOUNG ARE SO SCARY ❤😊 SO I TOTALLY AGREE WITH MEG 😍😍
I have 3 children under 5 and i always took the night shift with my babies since my husband did work but also again breastfeeding is definitely the womans job. Once he can rake a bottle the dad can help which is always nice. How long do you have off work?
No spanks!!
Don't go into with heavy thoughts. You are 100% beginner parents. It will take thousands of situational events before you figure it out. Most importantly don't be afraid of making a mistake because you will. Thousands
OMG THESE ARE YOUR CHILDREN BE PREPARED.
You have to discipline your child from the start. Do not wait till they get "older". By then its too late. The reason is better overall. Why? If you do it from the start they will learn their are consequences to actio s at an early age. So as they get older you will no longer need to "spank" them because the fear or respect for consequences is already instilled in them. Ex. We whooped my daughter from birth never having to go off like when I was a child. The result was the last time we ever had to whoop her was maybe 4 years of age. She is now turning 14 and when we give her a look or tell her no... it is just that we dont have to whoop her anymore. So I really encorage you to discipline your child from birth so they learn consequences hurt. Then hopefully they learn to listen because they have learned. Oh also the number one thing that breeds disobedience is not backing each other up after one of you has advised of or enforced a punishment. If the child sees that mom or dad will overturn a decision/punishment that the other has enforced that child will learn to "cheat" the system because they can get away with it still. If one of you ever questions a decision you take that to each other alone amd if you overturn it you both sit the child down and explain why but the resaoning shouod NEVER be because one parent did not agree wiht the other. I have stories I have observed that still blow my mind and the results are clearly seen in the behavior of their children. Smh. You too seem like you will be great parents just take it one day at a time and show yourselves grace. Remember you may not agree withh how your parents raised you but the end result you are the outc9me of their parenting so something had to be right somewhere along the line.
Such baseless nonsense. Look into the science behind spanking. Its immoral and doesn't do anything but harm. So many shitty parents basing everything on them thinking they turned out alright so "something must of been right" No facts or evidence to support it.
Meg! Meg! You seem to be a good person, and you will make a good mom. But please! Talk to people who have more than 1 child (I have 3), it's so much less scary than you think....
Spanking (non violent and only on the bum) until the child is old enough so that you can reason with it verbally, is not only OK it's crucial. What's more important (at any age) is to make it clear upfront what the consequences are and sticking to them 100%. Warning/threatening you're going to do something when they do something bad and then not doing it, is the WORST thing you can do. This whole approach always seems extreme to people, but when done properly it only lasts a short while because your child quickly learns that actions have consequences and then they won't be exposed to any of those consequences anymore because they don't do the things that lead to them anymore. As opposed to the parents who shout at their kids for 18 years or even worse, the parents who do nothing and just have their kids run wild.
Spanking is ONLY violent. You either ignore the science and studies or are completely ignorant of it. Because they are non verbal and cant reason with you is more of a reason NOT to hit your kid. Yes it is HITTING just changing the word to spanking doesn't make the action different. You have no clue what you're saying. It is most certainly not "crucial" to use violence on your children. I'm so sick of this crap that spanking is necessary for children or they will just run around undiscipline, blah blah blah. Its based on nothing but their experience when they were children.
Ya may not have to spank your children, but there must be some kind of discipline to teach children right frog wrong, and so they know there's consequences if they do do wrong. If parents don't teach their kids discipline they'll end up disrespecting their parents, and may end up being really careless, rude, people thinking the world revolves around them. My brother never put a whole lot of effort into disciplining his kids, and as the got older they began disrespecting their parents more and more and got to the point to where my nephew kicked his own dad out of the house, and the mother didn't do anything about it for fear of her own child. my brother has 3 boys two who've served jail time and prison time the third, the youngest, seems to be worse then the older two. Love and discipline is something that every parent must do for their children.
I thought that this was a good video. If anybody disagrees with me then we'll have to agree to disagree. 😛
Nice video guys 😅🎉🎉😂❤
And BTW.... Spanking "without rage" is one of the best things a child can get from his parents.
A kid that gets spanked (again, "without rage"!), is a much healthier kid than those who are left to their own devices (don't think for a second that a mom can verbally control a boy..😂😂😂).
We never spanked either of our boys and we have much closer relationships in our family because of this. Spanking is not OK and is illegal in our country NZ….
@@TCJB33 the problems caused by assaulting a child are worse. And it’s illegal here.
@@rosslevitates Thank you. Spanking is nothing but harmful and people need to research the extensive studies behind spanking.
@@TCJB33 Not true at all. You clearly haven't done the research into the science behind spanking.
@@TCJB33 and you clearly dont care about children.
he's gotta be cool xdd
Meg trust me, verbally telling off a child will neverrrrrrrrrrrr get them afraid ! if its no physical, they will get away with everything and become spoilt. Here in Wales, they banned bottom slaps. The naughtiness of children has shot through the room.
That is also due to a cultural change, its happening all throughoout the western world kids are becoming more individualistic and selfish wich is reinforced and taught online, might be taught in the home but you get what i mean
@@maxgronros6728 west is becoming soft
Wtf
Can we normalize having these serious conversations about kids before you get pregnant? Spanking is good. Look at these millennials!
No its not. another shitty parent who didn't research it before using it on their kids.
No spankings .. you end up with people who are triggered with everything.