Welcome and thank you!! I hope you're navigating these waters...they can be treacherous and smooth all in the same day. Just remember, be patient with yourself. ❤️
This is going to help so many move through the myriad of emotions and adjustments and the Hoyas a while after divorce. I never considered that there is a grieving of the life I thought I was going to have…this was really good!
@@curatedbykellimichelle I honestly think there’s many important and valuable connections we need to grieve. It could be friendships, romantic relationships, amazing jobs/careers, etc. Moving on from is good, but we may not always be doing it healthily. ♥️
Hello Beautiful, I love your channel ❤ I am 56 years old. I have been divorced for 11 years after a 20 year marriage. I have two daughters 25 and 20. I just hit the grieving stage as my daughters are transitioning into adulthood, I am preparing to retire, and I am now a caregiver for my mother. The grief took me by surprise considering how long I’ve been divorced. I was so down during the holidays for the first time. A family member recognized what was happening and brought it to my attention. Yes, it saddens me what I dreamed for my life and family did not come to fruition. The grief comes in waves. I feel it when it appears and I get back to living my life when it descends. I totally agree with your list!My favorite is the opportunity to recreate yourself. This is an ongoing project that I am excited and committed to do throughout the rest of my life. I have come to accept and appreciate the woman I have become. There is definitely joy, peace, and freedom on the other side. My commitment to God provided for me and led me through victoriously 🙏🏽 Hold on and keep taking care of yourself! Surround yourself or look at women who are survivors of divorce so you can have a visual image of what’s possible. There are good and bad examples everywhere. Pick up the good stuff and learn from the others. Take your time to make your life YOURS 💕 Be blessed ✨
First, I hope your divorce fulfilled your heart's desires as tough as it was by bringing peace and respect back to you. Very proud of you - that's difficult. It seems as though you've been so busy with children and with your mom that you didn't think to focus on you - I'm glad you're doing that now. Because we all know, that it was still going to be there waiting on you no matter how busy you got. Also, 'recreating your life' is my favorite too. Actually starting this channel (on being on social media) was one of the things I decided to jump into because I felt that my story could help others, but mostly help me by living in my truth. Thank you so much for sharing your story and for supporting this channel. Much love sent...💕🙏🏽
Hello. I going through a divorce after 20 years of marriage. It has been published & court date set for August. I’m excited to have peace and my new journey. First time in life where I have not rebound! I know it because of Gods love for me. I chose to do things God way for a change, no sex no dating, just straight healing and focused on me! Just wondering why sometimes still wonder about him & still love him just praying and wanting those feelings to go away throws me off. Like you mentioned what’s going to happen when I have to see him at my sons graduation, or first time I actually see him with his girlfriend, etc drives me crazy
Here's the thing sis, even though you will find peace when it's over because you know that your journeys are splitting for the good, you will still experience moments of sadness. Be OK with that and allow yourself to feel it and process through. Feeling odd when those moments happen won't feel like you think...there will be nothing to be envious of...You've got this. 💪🏽❤️
@@traceejeanine481. Hi Tracee same here. Going through a divorce after 22 years. It’s almost over, but, I just want the feelings to stop. I’m focused on myself and it feels great! I’m not even interested in dating. When a guy comes my way or tries to approach I 🏃🏾♀️➡️. 😂
You have a new subscriber. I am 40 and I got married 3 years ago. After year 1 I wanted to get a divorce. Logically it’s the best thing to do but I also feel I would be failing God because I would not give God the opportunity to turn our marriage around. I discovered my husband deceived me about so many things but I did not know until after we married. Husband lied about finances, past relationships, and buying a home which resulted in us being homeless for a few days. Went to marriage counseling with our pastor and was advised not to get a divorce and pray for my husband. God will turn it around but I believe a divorce would be a blessing for me. It’s almost year 3 and I am so miserable. He’s hit me twice now, he was in jail recently for assault and I am looking forward to a divorce. It’s been hard to find the courage to divorce because i don’t know what to expect. It’s also facing the shame of a failed marriage. You held on for so long. Do you have any regrets not getting divorce sooner?
@@victoriaarmstrong6498 I am so sorry to hear all that you’ve gone through. No one deserves that. I did hold on longer than I should’ve. I knew the marriage was doomed seven years in and stayed for eight more. Here’s what I want you to know…leaning on God is a beautiful thing, but if your husband doesn’t want to change and get serious help, there is nothing you can do. Being mentally, and emotionally abused is not what God would want for you. You need to seriously consider choosing yourself and your safety. There is someone who will love you wholly. ♥️🙏🏾
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Hi there! Found your channel today. I’m 47, was married for 23 years. Learning to navigate my new life. Your channel will be so helpful!
Welcome and thank you!! I hope you're navigating these waters...they can be treacherous and smooth all in the same day. Just remember, be patient with yourself. ❤️
This is going to help so many move through the myriad of emotions and adjustments and the Hoyas a while after divorce. I never considered that there is a grieving of the life I thought I was going to have…this was really good!
@@curatedbykellimichelle I honestly think there’s many important and valuable connections we need to grieve. It could be friendships, romantic relationships, amazing jobs/careers, etc. Moving on from is good, but we may not always be doing it healthily. ♥️
Hello Beautiful,
I love your channel ❤
I am 56 years old. I have been divorced for 11 years after a 20 year marriage. I have two daughters 25 and 20. I just hit the grieving stage as my daughters are transitioning into adulthood, I am preparing to retire, and I am now a caregiver for my mother. The grief took me by surprise considering how long I’ve been divorced. I was so down during the holidays for the first time. A family member recognized what was happening and brought it to my attention. Yes, it saddens me what I dreamed for my life and family did not come to fruition. The grief comes in waves. I feel it when it appears and I get back to living my life when it descends.
I totally agree with your list!My favorite is the opportunity to recreate yourself. This is an ongoing project that I am excited and committed to do throughout the rest of my life. I have come to accept and appreciate the woman I have become. There is definitely joy, peace, and freedom on the other side. My commitment to God provided for me and led me through victoriously 🙏🏽 Hold on and keep taking care of yourself! Surround yourself or look at women who are survivors of divorce so you can have a visual image of what’s possible. There are good and bad examples everywhere. Pick up the good stuff and learn from the others. Take your time to make your life YOURS 💕 Be blessed ✨
First, I hope your divorce fulfilled your heart's desires as tough as it was by bringing peace and respect back to you. Very proud of you - that's difficult. It seems as though you've been so busy with children and with your mom that you didn't think to focus on you - I'm glad you're doing that now. Because we all know, that it was still going to be there waiting on you no matter how busy you got. Also, 'recreating your life' is my favorite too. Actually starting this channel (on being on social media) was one of the things I decided to jump into because I felt that my story could help others, but mostly help me by living in my truth. Thank you so much for sharing your story and for supporting this channel. Much love sent...💕🙏🏽
Thanks for being brave enough to address these topics. It really helps.
You are so welcome!
This is such great information. Thank you for sharing.
@@pamlajones1483 Happy Sunday ♥️
I love this. You are such a mentor in such an uplifting person and I hope that every day your life gets better.
@@carltimmons3198 Thank you, Carl. Life DOES get better each day…♥️
Hello. I going through a divorce after 20 years of marriage. It has been published & court date set for August. I’m excited to have peace and my new journey. First time in life where I have not rebound! I know it because of Gods love for me. I chose to do things God way for a change, no sex no dating, just straight healing and focused on me! Just wondering why sometimes still wonder about him & still love him just praying and wanting those feelings to go away throws me off. Like you mentioned what’s going to happen when I have to see him at my sons graduation, or first time I actually see him with his girlfriend, etc drives me crazy
Here's the thing sis, even though you will find peace when it's over because you know that your journeys are splitting for the good, you will still experience moments of sadness. Be OK with that and allow yourself to feel it and process through. Feeling odd when those moments happen won't feel like you think...there will be nothing to be envious of...You've got this. 💪🏽❤️
@@melonierenee Thank you! I hope to be as beautiful and confident as you sis 🙏🏽❤️🙏🏽
@@traceejeanine481. Hi Tracee same here. Going through a divorce after 22 years. It’s almost over, but, I just want the feelings to stop. I’m focused on myself and it feels great! I’m not even interested in dating. When a guy comes my way or tries to approach I 🏃🏾♀️➡️. 😂
I'm currently separated and looking to get a divorce from a narc. Just came across your channel. ❤
@@MomentOfTruth4U I pray your resolution fulfills your life and heart. ♥️
You have a new subscriber. I am 40 and I got married 3 years ago. After year 1 I wanted to get a divorce. Logically it’s the best thing to do but I also feel I would be failing God because I would not give God the opportunity to turn our marriage around.
I discovered my husband deceived me about so many things but I did not know until after we married. Husband lied about finances, past relationships, and buying a home which resulted in us being homeless for a few days. Went to marriage counseling with our pastor and was advised not to get a divorce and pray for my husband. God will turn it around but I believe a divorce would be a blessing for me.
It’s almost year 3 and I am so miserable. He’s hit me twice now, he was in jail recently for assault and I am looking forward to a divorce. It’s been hard to find the courage to divorce because i don’t know what to expect. It’s also facing the shame of a failed marriage.
You held on for so long. Do you have any regrets not getting divorce sooner?
@@victoriaarmstrong6498 I am so sorry to hear all that you’ve gone through. No one deserves that. I did hold on longer than I should’ve. I knew the marriage was doomed seven years in and stayed for eight more. Here’s what I want you to know…leaning on God is a beautiful thing, but if your husband doesn’t want to change and get serious help, there is nothing you can do. Being mentally, and emotionally abused is not what God would want for you. You need to seriously consider choosing yourself and your safety. There is someone who will love you wholly. ♥️🙏🏾
I really can’t thank you enough for this. It is both timely and so helpful. You’re a person I need in my life. 💛
@@farah_j You have no idea how you just blessed my soul…🥹🙏🏾♥️