I had to do this with a guy ‘friend’ that I was growing close to and felt like there was something more between us. But I was also confused about it. He was super supportive with me loosing a loved one but then suddenly he was going cold and distant. And so I asked the hard questions and he confirmed he had a girlfriend that he ‘wasn’t sure about or how long term it would be’. I was a bit surprised as we are close but I didn’t know he was dating again. I wished him well with it but am letting him go. It’s all good cause I wasn’t sure about him either, but I also don’t want to have my time wasted and will keep my boundaries for my well being as he isn’t always upfront about these things or what he wants. He still wants to say connected and chat, but I’m not sure as I don’t want to be dangled as an option or played with. So focusing on what’s best for me. 😊
Best decision to stay away from him 🙌 well done! If a guy grows close to you without mentioning his girlfriend from the beginning, it means his intentions are not honest... 😑
I'm a 40 year old women with experience in dating, marriage, divorce also the sex industry here. I really believe as woman we need to try our best to not open up or open our legs and give our body to the guys we are so attracted to ...or any guy. Men are just content with sex that's it and companionship is a bonus for them and if they can get away with it without full commitment then they will. . They think they have too much to risk and too much to lose in marriage. They just want the easy way and most men now have been coddled by their mothers. We have an epidemic of fatherless, poorly parented men and women and we need to set things straight again. Basics.. stay strong. Close the legs. Find your purpose in life so that you dont settle for a 'small' man. Make him wait until marriage/or serious commitment. They will play you like a Fuckin fiddle IF YOU LET THEM I am telling you..I'm not a hypocrite I have learned from experience and now helping other women be empowered. Love this channel Lisa!!
Extremely valuable comment ... This is unfortunately accurate ... One man literally told me "I'm not a very nice person" He was right ... !! I saved myself a lot of heartache ...
Actions are communication. Consistenly spending time and being affectionate with someone communicates romantic interest. These non-liars are not "avoiders," they are deceivers. Yes advicing to ask more questions is great advice, but to blame women for not asking enough questions is victim-blaming.
I got goosebumps when Matthew said “wow, that’s an amazing question”. Matthew is amazing when he’s giving advice, but it’s so beautiful to see how he can listen so intently, validate, and really be receptive. It’s rare to find people who have that beautiful balance of giving advice but also, so ready to receive someone else’s wisdom. Love this conversation from both ends… such a gorgeous dynamic and I learnt a lot. Thank you❤
It's funny, now being older and still just finding guys that pretty much just want sex...I am just a bit jaded... great honesty... but it's depressing... it's just kinda ughh...I know many women in my position as they get older. I am just so glad women now are more financially independent and can choose to be single and even have a family alone. Where has love gone? Relationships were built on partnership to survive in history... with that gone... porn industry, internet... everything is different forever in the dating and love. Women need to realize, even if your a catch, life together, pretty etc... men are motivated by sex... period. Love does exist, but it's been tainted by media and how can be it be separated?
I agree. I believe women need to take responsibility more now and say no to sex early on, wait until you are so sure. The right man WILL wait it out. The wrong guy will ditch and run to the next shag
Men are completely spoiled rotten by a free sex nowadays. Why buy a cow if you can have free milk anyway? Women need to raise their standards for relationships to have that change.
Such a powerful video! I'm very interested in checking out the rest of the 20 questions, they'll definitely provide more insight and ideas that will adapt to my situation. I can't find them in the description box...
My comment was exactly this:) Now, older, wiser...and a bit more jaded. As a stylist I have talked to women about their relationships for 25 years... things have changed a bit since we are more financially stable and able to have children alone...
Yes... But a man (or some women) can ask questions and seem to be genuine and not be sincere or genuine. These are called "players" - it's very difficult to differentiate. I married once. And I will never get married, or date for that matter, ever again. I don't believe that men and/or women just believe differently - they're lying - flat out. Not only are they lying to each other, they're lying to themselves. Nothing is possible without God. Period.
He is giving very bad advice when he says that you should tell a guy that you like him: he gets turned off. Men need to feel a bit rejected to like you. If you like them back, they lose the attraction
Me too sis, I know exactly what you mean. He gives me a certain “vibe” I can’t pin point . When his content comes up, I watch it with a grain of salt you know.
WARNING: I will never ask for your contact info in the comments section, that is someone impersonating me!
I had to do this with a guy ‘friend’ that I was growing close to and felt like there was something more between us. But I was also confused about it. He was super supportive with me loosing a loved one but then suddenly he was going cold and distant. And so I asked the hard questions and he confirmed he had a girlfriend that he ‘wasn’t sure about or how long term it would be’. I was a bit surprised as we are close but I didn’t know he was dating again. I wished him well with it but am letting him go. It’s all good cause I wasn’t sure about him either, but I also don’t want to have my time wasted and will keep my boundaries for my well being as he isn’t always upfront about these things or what he wants. He still wants to say connected and chat, but I’m not sure as I don’t want to be dangled as an option or played with. So focusing on what’s best for me. 😊
Best decision to stay away from him 🙌 well done! If a guy grows close to you without mentioning his girlfriend from the beginning, it means his intentions are not honest... 😑
Go girl
I'm a 40 year old women with experience in dating, marriage, divorce also the sex industry here.
I really believe as woman we need to try our best to not open up or open our legs and give our body to the guys we are so attracted to ...or any guy.
Men are just content with sex that's it and companionship is a bonus for them and if they can get away with it without full commitment then they will.
. They think they have too much to risk and too much to lose in marriage. They just want the easy way and most men now have been coddled by their mothers.
We have an epidemic of fatherless, poorly parented men and women and we need to set things straight again.
Basics.. stay strong. Close the legs. Find your purpose in life so that you dont settle for a 'small' man.
Make him wait until marriage/or serious commitment. They will play you like a Fuckin fiddle IF YOU LET THEM I am telling you..I'm not a hypocrite I have learned from experience and now helping other women be empowered.
Love this channel Lisa!!
You're amazing 👏🏻👏🏻 Thank you for sharing your story
This is such a good comment, thank you so much! Very true and accurate, especially the part about poorly patented* men!
*parented! 😂
Yes my experience exactly
Extremely valuable comment ... This is unfortunately accurate ... One man literally told me "I'm not a very nice person" He was right ... !! I saved myself a lot of heartache ...
Amen. This is totally accurate 💯
"Ask the questions you are afraid of the answers to." Great advice
Actions are communication. Consistenly spending time and being affectionate with someone communicates romantic interest. These non-liars are not "avoiders," they are deceivers. Yes advicing to ask more questions is great advice, but to blame women for not asking enough questions is victim-blaming.
I got goosebumps when Matthew said “wow, that’s an amazing question”. Matthew is amazing when he’s giving advice, but it’s so beautiful to see how he can listen so intently, validate, and really be receptive.
It’s rare to find people who have that beautiful balance of giving advice but also, so ready to receive someone else’s wisdom.
Love this conversation from both ends… such a gorgeous dynamic and I learnt a lot.
Thank you❤
This is so true. It's actually warning you so you are making an informed discission and make you feel like you can't complain afterwards.
It's funny, now being older and still just finding guys that pretty much just want sex...I am just a bit jaded... great honesty... but it's depressing... it's just kinda ughh...I know many women in my position as they get older. I am just so glad women now are more financially independent and can choose to be single and even have a family alone. Where has love gone? Relationships were built on partnership to survive in history... with that gone... porn industry, internet... everything is different forever in the dating and love. Women need to realize, even if your a catch, life together, pretty etc... men are motivated by sex... period. Love does exist, but it's been tainted by media and how can be it be separated?
I agree. I believe women need to take responsibility more now and say no to sex early on, wait until you are so sure. The right man WILL wait it out. The wrong guy will ditch and run to the next shag
Men are completely spoiled rotten by a free sex nowadays. Why buy a cow if you can have free milk anyway? Women need to raise their standards for relationships to have that change.
Kind and compassionate in your tone but ruthless in your actions. 🔥❤
Wooooo this was so hard to hear! 😂absolutely necessary to hear though
Such a powerful video! I'm very interested in checking out the rest of the 20 questions, they'll definitely provide more insight and ideas that will adapt to my situation. I can't find them in the description box...
Woa this is very interesting from both sides
On to the next. Men are like an Uber when one leaves another one comes
Older women Catch on to this more , In my case it turned to hate
My comment was exactly this:)
Now, older, wiser...and a bit more jaded. As a stylist I have talked to women about their relationships for 25 years... things have changed a bit since we are more financially stable and able to have children alone...
Where is the interview with pastor RC Blakes Jr
This guy is good. He makes sense. I wish he had programs for men attracting women.
The answer to this question is yea but they don’t mean to just don’t allow it
Yes... But a man (or some women) can ask questions and seem to be genuine and not be sincere or genuine. These are called "players" - it's very difficult to differentiate. I married once. And I will never get married, or date for that matter, ever again.
I don't believe that men and/or women just believe differently - they're lying - flat out. Not only are they lying to each other, they're lying to themselves.
Nothing is possible without God. Period.
god doesnt exist. Period.
Now that Im married, I realize one night stands really does everyone a favor 😆.
YOU STILL ARE THINKING YOU HAVE THE LEAD DO YOU ? Yeah 2:11
He is giving very bad advice when he says that you should tell a guy that you like him: he gets turned off. Men need to feel a bit rejected to like you. If you like them back, they lose the attraction
Do I trust the random RUclips comment or the Expert life coach 🤔
This dude always rubs me the wrong way, idk somethings off
Me too sis, I know exactly what you mean.
He gives me a certain “vibe” I can’t pin point . When his content comes up, I watch it with a grain of salt you know.
@@whistlepiglet yes exactly!! It’s like as a feminist he makes me feel like I should belittle myself and I’m not down with that