Y'all, I am so excited about this journal! It has made keeping track of Clover's training so much easier, I hope that it can help you out too. You don't have to be training a Service dog to benefit from using it! shop.busywithdogs.com/collections/training-journals Use promo code: launch - save 10% of your journal. Last day to save is August 31, 2024
Sending prayers and hugs from Kentucky… I started my journey with my first SD last March. I too am owner training and its hard work. We’ve grown and come so far and I am super proud of my boy. I know Clover will do amazing things for you! Before I started my journey I battled back and forth if I was disabled enough to need a SD and I am so glad we decided to take the plunge. Keep working at it and you two will make an amazing team!
Thank you sharing and your sweet comment. I am having a bad health day and this made my day. ❤️ It is a journey! May I ask what helped you make the decision to get a Service Dog? Best of luck to you and your dog!
Many hugs to you girl! I'm starting to be in the same boat being house bound and still very few answers. I'm sorry to hear about the stress but I get it. Things are just bleh all over. I really hope they can figure things out with the seizures. Love and prayers your way lady and holy moly Clover is huge!! And I love the way she basically smooshed Hannahs head while readjusting her nap spot lol
Thanks! We think the seizures may be related to not getting enough nutrients because of having change my diet from the allergies. I am sorry that you are still not getting answers, it’s so frustrating. She has gotten big! When we weighed her a few weeks back she was 54 lbs, and she has filled out since then. Her mom is 62 lbs, and her dad is 65 lbs, so I expect her to weigh in somewhere in that range. Lol, the two of them together is funny. They are constantly doing quirky stuff to each other. I do have to watch them to keep them from taking it too far.
Definitely worth pursuing! I know that Service Dogs can be trained to interrupt skin picking and can be trained to do a task to support the handler for anxiety.
That’s great! Even though Clover is still in training, she has made my life better, I hope your prospect will as well. ❤️ It’s tough that we need a service dog, but is wonderful having one. Do you mind if you work be raising from a puppy? And what breed are you going with?
@@busywithdogs I getting mine for mobility assistance. It’s mainly going to help alert to my medical issues and also help me walk and retrieve things, once it turns 2 I’ll have it start pulling me up stairs and bracing when I stand up. And I plan on it being a German shepherd.
@@izomax6753 Love German Shepherds, Clover is a German Heeler, a hybrid from German Shepherds. Those are great tasks, and great that you already know what you need. ❤️
I have a few reasons, as to why I need a service dog, but I feel like there not serious enough, and that im just being stupid, I would really like some advice. Like I said I have a few reasons, so this will be quiet long. mental reasons, I wouldn't say its PTSD but for certain sounds I quietly freak out and my heart beats really fast and hard and my head starts to get fuzzy/hurts, its not like loud crowds, but more like (obnoxiously) loud cars/motorcycles going by, weather im in my house, or out and about, or a loud boom, like random fireworks or gun shots (I live by teen idiots) or just other random loud sounds, I'll just freeze up, also shaking, not me but surroundings, like earthquakes I start to panic and freeze up and my heart beat gets fast and hard, and my head starts to get fuzzy and I get scared confused, even if its not an earthquake and I just feel a shaking, even if its extremely brief. I dont know why it happenes it just does, one time I even completely broke down sitting on the floor shaking and crying for like 30mins because I thought there was an earthquake (even though then I lived in apartments) I always felt like an idiot after. Physical reasons, Ive just found out why ive had knee pains my whole life (in only 17 so not to long lol) , and imbalancement, as well as weakness in my knees, and ive wondered if a, mobility dog/service dog??? would be able to help me get up when I get something low, or help me grab things from the floor, or even help me knees stop giving out, by standing in front of me supporting my knees. I've also have always wondered if dogs could smell things like cancer, could they smell pain, I get random strong headaches (sometimes that makes me just want to pass out or something) and chest pains out of nowhere, and it really sucks, maybe if I get a service dog it could smell the pain before I feel it, and help me prepare/brace for it or something? I dont know, I feel like Im being attention seeking. And that I don't need one, but also do, i feel like if i was to need one id be told of the option, but Ive also haven't really told anyone about most of that, just the knee issues, anyone have any suggestions, based on what I've said above? I really don't want to take resources away from someone who could actually need it, I dont know, I feel like Im just over reacting about my issues. Please tell me the truth, and the full truth, as to why I do/dont, should/shouldn't, or what I could do, I really don't know about any of this? I need outside opinions. please help me. 😢
I also get really bad stress and anxiety, to where I bite my nails and skin, and scratch my scalp, but I feel as if those are a lost cause, because I've been to 4 therapist and they weren't able to help, its gotten so bad this past year though to wear all my fingers a badly scarred, and I'm very prone to infections, and my finger tips are always bleeding, but again those I believe are a lost cause to fix/help, but if that gives more info about me, and help with what you might think about if I should/shouldn't get a service dog, then, there you go. :( I don't know.
Hi, sweets, nothing about what you are going through is dumb, that is very heavy stuff, and even if it were "just in your head" that is still what you are going through and no one should have to live like that. I am sorry that you are going through this and that therapists have not been able to help you, I hope and pray that you can find someone who can help you. I do think that a Service Dog could improve the quality of your life, but, before you go do the journey of getting a service dog make sure you and your family and support team are all open to the idea. I would also highly recommend you and your family watch Laura @doggyu www.youtube.com/@DoggyU she is a Service Dog trainer, she uses a Service Dog herself, and will be getting her a new Prospect this Fall. She has a lot of information on Service Dogs and what to look for in a dog, how to handle going out in public, and more. A book that I found very helpful is "The Ultimate Service Dog Training Manual" amzn.to/3MrPLSK (Amazon affiliate link) but I found it at my local library. This book explains the legal rights of Service Dogs, what qualifies a dog to be a Service Dog and more. All of the things that you mentioned above are tasks that Service Dogs can be trained to help with. For the "panic" episodes that you experience, a dog can be trained to help you find a safe space to be in, to interrupt your behavior and bring you out of it, or to go get help. There are so many nuances to what you described I think that you do not need to go the owner training route, you need an already trained dog that a professional trainer can help you tailor the dog's tasks to your needs. For the picking at yourself, a dog can be trained to interrupt that as well or go get help, however, you do need a professional trainer who can evaluate you and the dog to decide what is going to be the best and safest choice for both you and the dog. For the mobility stuff, that is definitely something a dog can help with and I am going to be training my Service Dog Prospect to do it. Clover is 9 months old and can already close cabinets and the fridge for me. I will be branching out to train her to open them soon. I also will be training her to pick things up for me. Dogs can be trained to do brace, but again, a professional Service Dog Trainer would be able to help you to know what is going to be the best method for you and your dog. Depending on the source of your pain, some dogs can be trained to smell it. There are migraine detection dogs that use scent to detect a migraine a few hours before the handler experiences any symptoms. This is very difficult to train, but it can be done. Clover is very in tune with me and is starting to show me that she knows when I am in pain or if a food will trigger pain. This is something that she is presenting on her own, not all dogs will take to this naturally. I will say, I do think you need to be VERY specific about what breed you get. I do not think that a herding breed like Clover is the best option for you. Herding breeds are extremely in tune with their handler's emotion and they are prone to be reactive in nature. So if you have an emotional episode a herding dog will want to react and get the "bad guy", take control of the situation, and protect you from what is upsetting you. They can become anxious because of this. This could leave you trying to control an anxious animal which will not help you. A breed like a Golden Retriever from the correct breeding line with good family temperament will not get sucked into your emotional state because of their happy-go-lucky demeanor, this will allow them to do their job and do the task needed to help you in that state. Whereas a breed like a German Shepherd or Australian Cattle Dog are both prone to anxiety in these situations. Yes, there are exceptions to this, however, when you are talking about getting a Service Dog the success rate is already low, 30%, so choosing a breed that is going to have a better match to begin with is going to increase your odds of success. Also, you mentioned wanting a dog to retrieve things for you, having a retrieving breed will LIVE to bring you your things. Goldens have what's called a "soft mouth" meaning that they do not tend to bite hard on the item that they are carrying. But, this also means that they don't like to pick up hard objects and have to be trained for it. But again, working with a trainer will help. I hope that you find this helpful, the truth is, only you and your support team (family, friends, doctors, or whoever you have to help you) can decide if a Service Dog is right for you, but again, I can definitely see that one could greatly improve the quality of your life and that you do have REAL needs that a Service Dog can be trained to assist with. If you and your team decide that this is the right route for you keep in mind that is a long, hard road, and it can get expensive. Sometimes insurance and different programs can help, other times they won't. There are often long wait lists. It's a long and hard road. Even with Owner Training, it took me almost a full year to find a breeder, and that is shorter than most people's time frames. You also need to make sure that you and your support team are emotionally, mentally, physically, and financially able to take care of a dog. Service Dogs' needs are more than the average dog's because of the jobs that we ask them to do, but they do incredible jobs. And, this may seem obvious, but you do need to be a dog person or are willing to become a dog person. Your lifestyle will become about you and your dog. You will be a team, so you need to like dogs. I hope that this answer helps, I know that it was long, but a short answer would just not do. I am rooting for you. Let me know if you have any more questions, and I will try to answer or help you find resources to people who can answer your questions. Blessings.
Have you talked to a doctor about this? You really should, and you'll want it on record that you have something disabling, even if you don't have an official diagnosis.
@@Izamota-q5v not really, I'm pretty closed off, and feel like when I talk about my issues to people Im being dramatic, with one problem after another and so on and so forth, but I would like to as long is its not a rushed thing, like I go to a Dr and they ask me about everything, but are also rushing me to get to the next person, although I know that's how it is, I know I could get a therapists opinion and they could recommend me a service dog or something, but I don't have the money or time right now, plus my mom always working (Im 17) and I feel like Im a bother if I was to ask her to take me to see a Dr for my issues I've just lived with for as long as I could remember, almost like in my head it plays her getting mad, and stuff that I'm complaining a lot more now, and how all this stuff is just coming up, but really it's something I just didn't talk about much then, I also asked her opinion about a service dog for me and actually let her read what I had wrote above telling all the reasons, but she said no, the reason was valid I guess though, I have 2 dogs and 4 cats one which I'm just taking care of for a year, the others are mine, but before I started taking care of the 4th cat I had a puppy, who passes from a disease common in puppy, I was actually going to try and train her part mobility help, and stuff that I could, but never got to it before she passed, I would have had 3 dogs 3 cats, now I have 2 dogs 4 cats, but my mom wants me to get rid of all 4 of the cats, saying another dog is to much, which I do get, but getting rid of all my cats for one dog, which I would have had along with my 3 cats, I don't fully think that's fair, but she's my mom, so unless I get a stable(good) income and could get a house, Im unable to get a service dog to help me. I'm just ranting I guess, it's a bit upsetting for me, for her to think I'd give all my cats away for 1 dog, but, I'm just not going to try again, I break down in the face of conflict so in just giving up, but it was nice to think I could have gotten help, and another buddy, and that people do think what's a daily to me is actually serious, and that I do need help. :( thanks for helping me realize I would actually benefit from a service dog though.
That is a lot of animals, so I understand Mom's position. I hope you and your mom can find a doctor who will listen to you and help you. If you are in the U.S. (you don't have to tell me) your doctor works for you, so if they are not listening, you can fire them and find a new one. I know it is not that it is not as simple as it sounds, but there are ways. If you can, find someone who can help you and your mom advocate for you. You deserve to be listened to, and if you know something is wrong, then your doctor should listen to you. It is not attention-seeking to get help. It is not being over dramatic. And even if it were, that would in itself be a sign of a need to be helped. But, getting help can take time, it can take a lot of searching. So, have heart and don't give up. It may be worth looking into Holistic Doctors, they look at the whole person and also take more time with their patients/clients. Many will spend an hour with them. Also, chiropractors (not all) often have holistic practices and tend to listen more in-depth to their patients. As far as the Service Dog, if you know this is the path you want to take in the future, take time to work on being the best dog handler you can be with your current dogs. In the meantime, do all the research you can and get all the help you can get. It's a long process, so take time to learn and prepare as you can. You may decide that this is not the route you want to take. Even if Mom was on board to get one right now, it would still likely be a few years before you could get one. You have a future to prepare for, with or without a Service Dog, so do all you can to have a good life.
Y'all, I am so excited about this journal! It has made keeping track of Clover's training so much easier, I hope that it can help you out too. You don't have to be training a Service dog to benefit from using it!
shop.busywithdogs.com/collections/training-journals
Use promo code: launch - save 10% of your journal. Last day to save is August 31, 2024
I completely understand. Not many can look at someone and know for sure. ❤ Praying 🤲🏻
I know you do! Thank you for your prayers. I love you and your family. ❤️
Sending prayers and hugs from Kentucky… I started my journey with my first SD last March. I too am owner training and its hard work. We’ve grown and come so far and I am super proud of my boy. I know Clover will do amazing things for you! Before I started my journey I battled back and forth if I was disabled enough to need a SD and I am so glad we decided to take the plunge. Keep working at it and you two will make an amazing team!
Thank you sharing and your sweet comment. I am having a bad health day and this made my day. ❤️ It is a journey! May I ask what helped you make the decision to get a Service Dog? Best of luck to you and your dog!
Many hugs to you girl! I'm starting to be in the same boat being house bound and still very few answers. I'm sorry to hear about the stress but I get it. Things are just bleh all over. I really hope they can figure things out with the seizures. Love and prayers your way lady and holy moly Clover is huge!! And I love the way she basically smooshed Hannahs head while readjusting her nap spot lol
Thanks! We think the seizures may be related to not getting enough nutrients because of having change my diet from the allergies.
I am sorry that you are still not getting answers, it’s so frustrating.
She has gotten big! When we weighed her a few weeks back she was 54 lbs, and she has filled out since then. Her mom is 62 lbs, and her dad is 65 lbs, so I expect her to weigh in somewhere in that range. Lol, the two of them together is funny. They are constantly doing quirky stuff to each other. I do have to watch them to keep them from taking it too far.
I wonder if I could get one because I have anxiety adhd and dermatilamaina/ a skin picking disorder
Definitely worth pursuing! I know that Service Dogs can be trained to interrupt skin picking and can be trained to do a task to support the handler for anxiety.
Your dog looks like my sdit, raven. She is the same age.
Oh cool, what breed? Clover is a German Heeler (hybrid of German Shepherd and Australian Cattle Dog)
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I get me service to prospect in a year so def will be buying one soon
That’s great! Even though Clover is still in training, she has made my life better, I hope your prospect will as well. ❤️ It’s tough that we need a service dog, but is wonderful having one. Do you mind if you work be raising from a puppy? And what breed are you going with?
@@busywithdogs I getting mine for mobility assistance. It’s mainly going to help alert to my medical issues and also help me walk and retrieve things, once it turns 2 I’ll have it start pulling me up stairs and bracing when I stand up. And I plan on it being a German shepherd.
@@busywithdogsjust bought the online journal. Love it !
@@izomax6753 Love German Shepherds, Clover is a German Heeler, a hybrid from German Shepherds. Those are great tasks, and great that you already know what you need. ❤️
@@izomax6753 Thank you so much! ❤ I am so glad that you love it! ❤ I am beyond grateful!
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I have a few reasons, as to why I need a service dog, but I feel like there not serious enough, and that im just being stupid, I would really like some advice.
Like I said I have a few reasons, so this will be quiet long. mental reasons, I wouldn't say its PTSD but for certain sounds I quietly freak out and my heart beats really fast and hard and my head starts to get fuzzy/hurts, its not like loud crowds, but more like (obnoxiously) loud cars/motorcycles going by, weather im in my house, or out and about, or a loud boom, like random fireworks or gun shots (I live by teen idiots) or just other random loud sounds, I'll just freeze up, also shaking, not me but surroundings, like earthquakes I start to panic and freeze up and my heart beat gets fast and hard, and my head starts to get fuzzy and I get scared confused, even if its not an earthquake and I just feel a shaking, even if its extremely brief. I dont know why it happenes it just does, one time I even completely broke down sitting on the floor shaking and crying for like 30mins because I thought there was an earthquake (even though then I lived in apartments) I always felt like an idiot after. Physical reasons, Ive just found out why ive had knee pains my whole life (in only 17 so not to long lol) , and imbalancement, as well as weakness in my knees, and ive wondered if a, mobility dog/service dog??? would be able to help me get up when I get something low, or help me grab things from the floor, or even help me knees stop giving out, by standing in front of me supporting my knees. I've also have always wondered if dogs could smell things like cancer, could they smell pain, I get random strong headaches (sometimes that makes me just want to pass out or something) and chest pains out of nowhere, and it really sucks, maybe if I get a service dog it could smell the pain before I feel it, and help me prepare/brace for it or something?
I dont know, I feel like Im being attention seeking. And that I don't need one, but also do, i feel like if i was to need one id be told of the option, but Ive also haven't really told anyone about most of that, just the knee issues, anyone have any suggestions, based on what I've said above? I really don't want to take resources away from someone who could actually need it, I dont know, I feel like Im just over reacting about my issues. Please tell me the truth, and the full truth, as to why I do/dont, should/shouldn't, or what I could do, I really don't know about any of this? I need outside opinions. please help me. 😢
I also get really bad stress and anxiety, to where I bite my nails and skin, and scratch my scalp, but I feel as if those are a lost cause, because I've been to 4 therapist and they weren't able to help, its gotten so bad this past year though to wear all my fingers a badly scarred, and I'm very prone to infections, and my finger tips are always bleeding, but again those I believe are a lost cause to fix/help, but if that gives more info about me, and help with what you might think about if I should/shouldn't get a service dog, then, there you go. :( I don't know.
Hi, sweets, nothing about what you are going through is dumb, that is very heavy stuff, and even if it were "just in your head" that is still what you are going through and no one should have to live like that.
I am sorry that you are going through this and that therapists have not been able to help you, I hope and pray that you can find someone who can help you.
I do think that a Service Dog could improve the quality of your life, but, before you go do the journey of getting a service dog make sure you and your family and support team are all open to the idea. I would also highly recommend you and your family watch Laura @doggyu www.youtube.com/@DoggyU she is a Service Dog trainer, she uses a Service Dog herself, and will be getting her a new Prospect this Fall. She has a lot of information on Service Dogs and what to look for in a dog, how to handle going out in public, and more.
A book that I found very helpful is "The Ultimate Service Dog Training Manual" amzn.to/3MrPLSK (Amazon affiliate link) but I found it at my local library. This book explains the legal rights of Service Dogs, what qualifies a dog to be a Service Dog and more.
All of the things that you mentioned above are tasks that Service Dogs can be trained to help with. For the "panic" episodes that you experience, a dog can be trained to help you find a safe space to be in, to interrupt your behavior and bring you out of it, or to go get help. There are so many nuances to what you described I think that you do not need to go the owner training route, you need an already trained dog that a professional trainer can help you tailor the dog's tasks to your needs. For the picking at yourself, a dog can be trained to interrupt that as well or go get help, however, you do need a professional trainer who can evaluate you and the dog to decide what is going to be the best and safest choice for both you and the dog.
For the mobility stuff, that is definitely something a dog can help with and I am going to be training my Service Dog Prospect to do it. Clover is 9 months old and can already close cabinets and the fridge for me. I will be branching out to train her to open them soon. I also will be training her to pick things up for me. Dogs can be trained to do brace, but again, a professional Service Dog Trainer would be able to help you to know what is going to be the best method for you and your dog.
Depending on the source of your pain, some dogs can be trained to smell it. There are migraine detection dogs that use scent to detect a migraine a few hours before the handler experiences any symptoms. This is very difficult to train, but it can be done. Clover is very in tune with me and is starting to show me that she knows when I am in pain or if a food will trigger pain. This is something that she is presenting on her own, not all dogs will take to this naturally.
I will say, I do think you need to be VERY specific about what breed you get. I do not think that a herding breed like Clover is the best option for you. Herding breeds are extremely in tune with their handler's emotion and they are prone to be reactive in nature. So if you have an emotional episode a herding dog will want to react and get the "bad guy", take control of the situation, and protect you from what is upsetting you. They can become anxious because of this. This could leave you trying to control an anxious animal which will not help you. A breed like a Golden Retriever from the correct breeding line with good family temperament will not get sucked into your emotional state because of their happy-go-lucky demeanor, this will allow them to do their job and do the task needed to help you in that state. Whereas a breed like a German Shepherd or Australian Cattle Dog are both prone to anxiety in these situations. Yes, there are exceptions to this, however, when you are talking about getting a Service Dog the success rate is already low, 30%, so choosing a breed that is going to have a better match to begin with is going to increase your odds of success. Also, you mentioned wanting a dog to retrieve things for you, having a retrieving breed will LIVE to bring you your things. Goldens have what's called a "soft mouth" meaning that they do not tend to bite hard on the item that they are carrying. But, this also means that they don't like to pick up hard objects and have to be trained for it. But again, working with a trainer will help.
I hope that you find this helpful, the truth is, only you and your support team (family, friends, doctors, or whoever you have to help you) can decide if a Service Dog is right for you, but again, I can definitely see that one could greatly improve the quality of your life and that you do have REAL needs that a Service Dog can be trained to assist with. If you and your team decide that this is the right route for you keep in mind that is a long, hard road, and it can get expensive. Sometimes insurance and different programs can help, other times they won't. There are often long wait lists. It's a long and hard road. Even with Owner Training, it took me almost a full year to find a breeder, and that is shorter than most people's time frames.
You also need to make sure that you and your support team are emotionally, mentally, physically, and financially able to take care of a dog. Service Dogs' needs are more than the average dog's because of the jobs that we ask them to do, but they do incredible jobs.
And, this may seem obvious, but you do need to be a dog person or are willing to become a dog person. Your lifestyle will become about you and your dog. You will be a team, so you need to like dogs.
I hope that this answer helps, I know that it was long, but a short answer would just not do. I am rooting for you. Let me know if you have any more questions, and I will try to answer or help you find resources to people who can answer your questions. Blessings.
Have you talked to a doctor about this?
You really should, and you'll want it on record that you have something disabling, even if you don't have an official diagnosis.
@@Izamota-q5v not really, I'm pretty closed off, and feel like when I talk about my issues to people Im being dramatic, with one problem after another and so on and so forth, but I would like to as long is its not a rushed thing, like I go to a Dr and they ask me about everything, but are also rushing me to get to the next person, although I know that's how it is, I know I could get a therapists opinion and they could recommend me a service dog or something, but I don't have the money or time right now, plus my mom always working (Im 17) and I feel like Im a bother if I was to ask her to take me to see a Dr for my issues I've just lived with for as long as I could remember, almost like in my head it plays her getting mad, and stuff that I'm complaining a lot more now, and how all this stuff is just coming up, but really it's something I just didn't talk about much then, I also asked her opinion about a service dog for me and actually let her read what I had wrote above telling all the reasons, but she said no, the reason was valid I guess though, I have 2 dogs and 4 cats one which I'm just taking care of for a year, the others are mine, but before I started taking care of the 4th cat I had a puppy, who passes from a disease common in puppy, I was actually going to try and train her part mobility help, and stuff that I could, but never got to it before she passed, I would have had 3 dogs 3 cats, now I have 2 dogs 4 cats, but my mom wants me to get rid of all 4 of the cats, saying another dog is to much, which I do get, but getting rid of all my cats for one dog, which I would have had along with my 3 cats, I don't fully think that's fair, but she's my mom, so unless I get a stable(good) income and could get a house, Im unable to get a service dog to help me. I'm just ranting I guess, it's a bit upsetting for me, for her to think I'd give all my cats away for 1 dog, but, I'm just not going to try again, I break down in the face of conflict so in just giving up, but it was nice to think I could have gotten help, and another buddy, and that people do think what's a daily to me is actually serious, and that I do need help. :(
thanks for helping me realize I would actually benefit from a service dog though.
That is a lot of animals, so I understand Mom's position. I hope you and your mom can find a doctor who will listen to you and help you. If you are in the U.S. (you don't have to tell me) your doctor works for you, so if they are not listening, you can fire them and find a new one. I know it is not that it is not as simple as it sounds, but there are ways. If you can, find someone who can help you and your mom advocate for you. You deserve to be listened to, and if you know something is wrong, then your doctor should listen to you. It is not attention-seeking to get help. It is not being over dramatic. And even if it were, that would in itself be a sign of a need to be helped. But, getting help can take time, it can take a lot of searching. So, have heart and don't give up. It may be worth looking into Holistic Doctors, they look at the whole person and also take more time with their patients/clients. Many will spend an hour with them. Also, chiropractors (not all) often have holistic practices and tend to listen more in-depth to their patients.
As far as the Service Dog, if you know this is the path you want to take in the future, take time to work on being the best dog handler you can be with your current dogs. In the meantime, do all the research you can and get all the help you can get. It's a long process, so take time to learn and prepare as you can. You may decide that this is not the route you want to take. Even if Mom was on board to get one right now, it would still likely be a few years before you could get one. You have a future to prepare for, with or without a Service Dog, so do all you can to have a good life.