I feel I'm coming to the end of a 54 yr breakdown. I'm finally ready to stop trying to destroy myself. I feel free to leave it all behind and start my life over for the 1st time ever. I actually made this conscious decision just hours before hearing this.
This forced 40 hr work week to survive and employees that can't get time off work is essentially killing us more than I thought. Emotional days need to exist everywhere
I thankful found a wonderful employer that understands this. We even earn paid time off each pay period which is such a blessing. Maybe look into other positions where they appreciate you more.
I had many breakdowns throughout high school and occasionally do now. Really, the best thing you can do is surrender. Let go of trying to feel better and allow all the visuals, emotions and sensations to overtake you. It's really uncomfortable but it does get you out of the situation a lot quicker. Also, assure yourself throughout this process that you are okay and beyond this suffering. Hope this helps.
AaronP11 hi! I’m currently going through a nervous breakdown and it’s been 6 months of symptoms.. did yours last this long? How quickly did yours pass? I struggle accepting these symptoms daily 💔
I don't know since when because I stopped watching them for the exact same reason :D well not only that but it's not necessary for me anymore to watch her every video. She helped me a lot already so I am doing well.
A nervous breakdown is a sign in your life that something is very wrong. You must pay attention to this symptom. It is telling of a problem you must deal with in order to be healthy
Depends on the situation and what kind of person you are. If your a fairly strong person who has an ability to be honest with yourself. Then I would suggest looking at the cause of the breakdown. Our emotions are God given....they are meant to be warning signs for when things are good and bad for us. Often times we put the uncomfortable feelings aside.... Just ignore things. These thing build up until we can not ignore them anymore. This results in the break down. In order to be a healthy human we must have balance between spiritual, emotional and physical needs. A lot these days ignore the spiritual aspect of self....ironic since its really the most important part. Bottom line is all feelings must be dealt with or you never really move past it. So deal with it now or latter but at some point you will have to. A person can not live a lie indefinitely your spiritual side needs to live in truth and love. Whether its a death, an affair, someone is using you or if you're the one doing the harming. It must be dealt with honestly.
I'm crying as i watch this! I've suffered from depersonalization/derealization for over a year now. I've been trying to keep up and have so much guilt and pressure from being unemployed and all i do is suffer, but this helps me feel like i can give into my breakdown and its okay thank you teal!
I had my breakdown just before lockdown ..I feel great pressure to get back into work ..I have tried to get help but all I get from people is, your problems are history stop feeling sorry for yourself. I have stopped trying to think as if I do I might not ever stop crying. My skin is now full of a itch red rash. I guess I have just given up.
There is a thought I have had for a while now and that is the more sensitive you become the more you almost cant live in this world because of how most of the society works. So either you choose to isolate yourself to avoid all the "hard" points or try to change the system into a more softer place to be in. That is what I want to do, because hiding or running away wont change anything.
I lost it when she said "it's okay to not be okay." 😭 The hardest part is letting go of the need to DO rather than just BE. But I believe this experience is truly a blessing and leads to a beautiful awakening! ❤✨
But it’s NOT just what we fear will happen - it’s what DOES happen. So we fear success because we DO get attacked, while others just get praise & support. It’s not as simple as knowing what we fear. Changing oneself from someone who gets bullied & attacked, to a person who does not - is years of work!!
I had a breakdown about four years ago and I haven't been the same since. I went into a catatonic state but was mentally aware of everything. I am terrified it will happen again. I was terrified of my own children and animals. It was pure he'll and painful. It felt like someone was shaking my brain, which also made me nauseated. I threw up for 3 days straight. Thank God, I had someone to help me through it although they were clueless to what was happening. Without that person I probably would have died. Stress ,PTSD brought it on. Doctor said it was called conversion disorder, they have little info about it. So please if you are over stressed try meditation, relaxing anything you can do to feel safe. And please pray for me as I am scared to leave my own home.
I pray for you and everyone going through this. I have major anxiety and had a nervous breakdown three weeks ago. I took two months off work maybe more. I quit smoking and eating a better diet
hi I'm blake and I'm 15 You are the first video I found. and to be honest I was in the middle of trying to not have a nervous breakdown.I was trying to stop it from happening in the first place.. thank you for these insperational and informative words about what is happening to me and others that are having breakdowns... I'm feeling much better knowing that I will become stronger if I just let this happen... I was having suicidal thoughts and already suffer from depression. so thank you. for these tips and tricks to let me live a better life.
Please get help tell someone who you feel you can trust 🙏 life's better for you way too young to be thinking that way remember every day a new day to live your hell will pass🌞🌈💜💙💚💛
Mine started January 2020. Wasn’t sure what was happening to me. I had to get on med to help me find some balance along with therapy. It’s been a long hard journey. I had to make many changes in my lifestyle. Definitely see life different. Hang in there, it does get better.
I had a debilitating panic attack yesterday... worse than any I’ve ever had before. My boyfriend told me before bed “it’s ok to not be ok”. Hearing you say that at the very end felt like the universe was reassuring me it’s ok, it’s not all in your head, I hear you listen to your body and love yourself as if you were nursing yourself back to health 🥲🥺💙😭
Oh my goodness I was watching this because I wanted to do a college essay about nervous breakdowns. It was only after I watched it and read a load of comments I realised that what I experienced 2 years ago was in fact a nervous breakdown. I had a spiritual awakening in April 2020 - I had considered it as “spontaneous” but I now realise what preceded it in the previous weeks was actually an emotional and mental breakdown. I was like a zombie that kept crying throughout the day. At the point where I just had to surrender- I said to my husband that I desperately needed some space to process as I was struggling with keeping it together for the two kids. I went to bed for a couple of days and started journaling and meditating for the first time. I set an intention to work through my childhood trauma. And like a lightening bolt, a day or two later I had a spiritual awakening where my heart chakra cracked open and that night I thought I was going to die. It has been an amazing, terrifying, challenging and beautiful journey since. I am so grateful for the breakdown for helping become aware of and heal my childhood wounds, for helping me align to a beautiful life. It was the best thing that ever happened to me. For anyone going through this I wish you so much love and light 🙏
Hey, thank you so much for your words. I had my first nervous breakdown last year, I didn't know what to do.. so I did a short research on youtube and found this one. I did what you told. I didn't resist or tried to fight it and cried the half of that day, I cried myself to sleep, but the next morning I was like a newborn baby in my mind, which felt pure and so lightly because everything "bad" and fearful were like gone. Thank you so much, you saved me ❤
Thanks Teal I have just come out of being wrapped up in my blankets for a few days I am dealing with the loss of my beautiful and beloved Mama and I was her caregiver as she and I battled the lung cancer Its been 3 months since her passing and her Birthday March 14 that she was not here for the first time sent me back to being sad and depressed again thanks for your video for the understanding it brought me I am moving out of the room where she passed to my own place and I want all my energy back I am sincerely grateful and thankful for all you do Teal to help humanity love you sincerely yours Teresa Dulaney
How can i ever repay you for making such an important video? I am currently going through a breakdown and I cannot thank you enough. I love you. I will have faith and continue to try my best to surrender and take these steps. Thank you so so so much for making this feel normal and OK.
I had my first nervous breakdown at 14 years old. I still have them. Iv'e been in the hospital 8 times in the past 3 months. I have PTSD from my past experiences..I was 18 years old when I met my sweet husband who was a sailor in the Iranian Navy. We married 2 months later. Little did I know he was the devil himself. He talked so highly of Persia...this was back in 1973, I went. I was a sheltered child...his family treated me so good. But when I got so sick from the food then I got pregnant, I had to come back to the States. Well he was so angered he had to stay behind because he was still in the Navy. When he joined me one month before our baby was born...it was good at first. After my daughter was born then it all started... He would beat me so bad strangle me, always told me he was going to take my baby back ti Iran ... Then he would tell me he was going to kill me and my daughter she was 1 year old. He would pick me up and throw me against the wall, while I was laying there he would jump on me and bite me. After 4 years of torture and him keeping me locked in the house, having to look at the ground when a man walks by... And GOD don't make him see BLACK as he would say.. I ran away with my daughter one day while he was at work. I went to my moms work place. She saved my life. Can't write any more. To upsetting. I raised my beautiful, daughter to be strong and fearless.🌹
*NOTES:* 1) Completely surrender to the breakdown itself. Let go to it and let it take you. Let your body instinctively draw you towards its own way of healing (like physical illnesses e.g. the flu). Vid: "How to heal the emotional body" During an emotional/mental breakdown the body is forcing you to do that unwillingly. 2) The breakdown is telling you that there needs to be a serious change to your life. Look at your life at the areas that caused the breakdown and make tangible changes to those areas. Seek help from friends/professionals etc. A nervous breakdown uncovers your deepest fears. Face those fears. 3) Stop living for future plans. What would feel like a little more relief? Take small steps. Then ask the question again. 4) If you have chronic breakdowns chances are you have chronic stressors in your life (= childhood trauma). You don't feel safe. Then we tend to use people to feel safe. Ask yourself: Why do you need to be weak or unhappy or in need of rescue? What bad think will happen if you're powerful, happy, healthy and with no need of rescue? 5) Life has caused us to get us into a negative spiral. What has this negative situation caused me to want? Then make tangible steps from point A to B. 6) Do things that make you feel safe. E.g. compile a list of things that make you feel safe, small and big things and do them. 7) Do trauma release processes. Move the trauma through and out. David Berceli does TRE - look him up and do those exercises. 8) Give your body something to live off of e.g. walks in nature. Do NOT indulge in junk food. Get out in the sun for 20 mins a day. A Vitamin B complex helps as well. If we do not allow ourselves to have a nervous breakdown - if it occurs - our body will find a way to stop us and usually does this through debilitating chronic illnesses. So ask yourself: *Do you wanna willingly do it today and make hard changes that guarantee you a life that feels good or do you wanna wait for you body to literally force you to do it unwillingly?* !! Letting yourself intentionally melt into the breakdown is the fastest way through the breakdown !! You will not be the same person on the other side of this breakdown and there will only ever be improvement on the other side of this breakdown. It's okay to not be okay :)
Thank you for being here. I just hit the bottom of my nervous breakdown on Saturday. I tried to avoid it for months and months while knowing there was a circumstance in my life that I had to change but didn't. It got darker and darker until I was all alone in the abyss. Your video is a huge help. I already made an appointment with a Reiki master and will be seeing my hypnotherapist this week. You are so right that my demons came out and now is the time to finally be rid of them; I hope.
I love that I found the more gentle approach to these kid of things through Teal and some other spiritual teachers. Contrary to what people around me say I disn't need to 'just do it'. I needed to not do it for a while. I needed to cry, I needed listen to myself, I needed someone to listen to me and how bad I was feeling (that moment still hasn't come unfortunately), maybe I even needed to isolate myself for a while. I will be convinced of the power of the gentle approach for the rest of my life! Thank you Teal for being one of the people who helped me to understand this. I have a lot more trust in life now
What if you can't surrender to it because 1) people expect you to be a certain way 2) last time it happened the people around me made it worse when they knew 3) you are so trained and invalidated you actually invalidate your feelings even when having a nervous breakdown 4) you brought it upon yourself through self destruction 5) YOU FEAR ENGULFMENT AND IF YOU BREAKDOWN YOU WILL BE ENGULFED
Rewatching all of your videos and writing along in my journal. 😩 It took me a whole month to get over my last mental breakdown and all I want is to be in a loving relationship 💔
my neighbor, a war refugee from Syria had a severe episode yesterday and I went with him to the psych emergency. I hope he feels better now. must be horrifyingly scary to be isolated at the psych ward in a country where he doesn't share a single language in common with the rest of us, and on top of that such a different culture...
@@rockforester7908 can you even imagine being stuck in a foreign country, not knowing the language and having a psychotic episode? However, now it's been 7 years and i keep contact with his son but the father still doesn't speak a word of swedish or english so i he just wasn't into it :/
OMG this works! I got a panic disorder because I had an "pre-ventricular contraction" induced by drugs and caffeine, it felt like I was literally dying and that made me worry about my heart health, even after I recovered physically. My anxiety gave me chest pains and a light headed feeling. I decided to finally sit through my anxiety attack and let it flow, eventually I felt a burst of "energy" or "prana" on my heart region. The chest pains I feel are really mild now and I expect them to get better as I continue sitting through these breakdowns.
that was awesome! I tell my daughter that I am feeling my feelings, that I am sorry if it spills a little on her. That what mommy is going thought has nothing to do with her. The great thing about that is she expresses her feelings to me.
This lady is amazing. I am constantly trying to "get better" and "get on with life". Yeah definitely don't feel like in today's society we're "allowed" to have this breakdown, I didn't realise it was OK, to be ok. I have always had to carry on, and Teal Swan (beautiful name) is so right, because now I have chronic back pain, sciatica, IBS symptoms and gastric, stomach problems especially every morning, which have literally FORCED me to stop accepting teaching jobs. How very insightful of you! I'm amazed at the truth in your words, they are comforting. Thank you for sharing x x x
I had a breakdown in 2016. It was the most wonderful thing that could have happened. It was terrible, it was a stress crisis and I felt like no one would listen to me and I was seriously out of reality. Once, I let go it was so much easier to get through. I'm feel so much heal from my breakdown.
1:11 for me...PTSD, occupational (school/work), but mainly injuries and chronic pain So spot on the feeling of crazy. I love you. You do an amazing job of helping me feel seen. 3:30 also 6:18 also 6:54 also 10:08 feeling safe list This whole video This video is bringing me to tears
Lesson learned. I had a parent that felt like she had to keep it together and that just made us kids feel like we had to keep her together or else..... I would much rather break down in emotional tears and let people in then have my baby feel like he constantly has to keep Mommy together. I think today is a perfect day to be aware of my self imposed on pressure and tell myself or have others that love me tell me "you don't have to do anything today". If the pressure is too strong I can try asking for help. Deep breaths....
Been there, done that. Quit my job. Defooed because I recognised that my parents were the source of the model which triggered all my breakdowns. Learning how to move on is the hardest part but there is one guarantee, IT WILL NOT BE THE SAME AS BEFORE! I will simply not put up with it any more. I value myself too much to go back.
ive been having chronic breakdowns over the past 2years since my grandma died and i was sexually assultated, ive been to councillors and therapists and anti depressants but nothing has worked. This video is amazing and really gives me a new perspective in the breakdowns and life itself, normally when i am really happy and bubbly i know that in the afternoon i will fall and stay there and i always have no idea what is happening. i loose my breath, feel faint and cant stop crying and wanting to kill myself and get out of the mess, i feel embarressed that people see me like that and i dont know how to get out of it. But listening to this puts me in a whole nother light and i know what to think about and ask myself in future when my bipolar kicks in, thank you for actually giving me advice that helps what im going through, youre amazing!
This woman I personally find to be extraordinarily intelligent and very intuitive, while already educated with the human mind and spirit. Please continue with what you are doing.
I watched three other videos on the symptoms of a nervous breakdown. The men either didn’t get to the point or they were too clinical. Thank you for getting to the point from the beginning and actual ways to work through this difficult time. I will be watching this video every day for at least a week. Again, thank you.
I let the breakdowns go through me and it does help, but it doesn't stop the breakdowns. They carry on happening. Even after inner child work. I was a baby that was cried out, left to cry until shock made me shut down. I know that trauma is coming back but it is so deep, there is nobody there to make me feel like something won't happen. The adult me, doesn't cut it because my mind just says the older me is the damaged baby. I can't seperate myself into the parent I never had, it's like we need that parent or we get fucked up for life
Dear Teal, thank You for being one fantastic sign on my road. With the help of your guidance, how to heal emotional body, I healed great many things in my childhood. But I do not find cause my revenge episodes/thoughts. Less and less, but still they are present, I find thoughts hypothetical situations about injustice and revenge. Can you shine light to this topic, is it manifestation of something common or just something hidden from my personal picture box. With all the worlds love in my heart, thank you Teal
Wow. Wish i had someone to tell me "its ok not to be ok" when i was suffering. I believe this happened to me about 3 years ago and it made me tear up just hearing those 7 words now. Thanks
THANK YOU TEAL just came back to this after having trouble breathing idk what's going right now but I'm in bed all day having the worst anxiety of my life I deal with OCD every second and I've just had enough I don't want to deal with anything or anyone. Lost my job and lost trust in humanity. This whole time I've been trying to keep myself active MUSIC has been my therapy but I've been in resistance to the truth. All my emotions are starting to feel like they're resurfacing like I've been ignoring them for months even years. It's been about 5 years since I've watched this and it's the only thing that pooped in my head when I had this overwhelming feeling of being unsafe. I'm so glad I watched this because it gave me a sense of knowing that it's a nervous breakdown and not something else. The moment this video hit me like a warm blanket is when you mentioned it's okay not be okay... I felt that in my nervous system, thank you Teal 🦢
When you are grieving the loss of your soul mate, the love of your life and having a nervous breakdown, knowing that every source of help, every source of authority failed them, what do you do? I lost 30 lbs. in 2 months.
Thank you so much going through a second breakdown due to childhood trauma and traumas caused by my parents.Unresolved.It affects every part of me and yes that sense of feeling unsafe all the time.You explained it well and your voice is so calming that helps too
I was having a breakdown while taking care of my mother who had dementia. I kept it together long enough until she went into a care facility. Then I went on a healing journey of release and self care.
I just had dreams of sliced yellow melon before I read this. (I believe they are called honeydew melons, which are different to the melon you described)
not that it matters, but they were sliced in an unusual way too. I will try and explain what I mean. Imagine cutting a (honeydew) melon up into quarters, in the usual way, and placing the pieces down in the usual way so that the flesh of the melon doesn't come into contact with the surface it is placed on, so that there are four equally sized crescents, with the seeds removed, but then each of those crescents is further cut horizontally, but curved, to match the bottom piece. So, with each of the 4 pieces of melon, there is another crescent of melon with no skin sitting on top of it. (That took so long to word in a way that made any sense at all to me)
Its funny how I saw this video in my recommendation when I just had a mental breakdown suffocating me to the verge of going insane. I guess god/ angels are watching over me, for that I am really grateful and feel loved, and by realizing this just relieved me so so much.
Yup, timing was perfect for me too; just last week my brother and his wife had an ugly ending to a 32 year marriage, and my sister in law is definitely having a breakdown, and dragging their 4 children into it in her pain. Some well intentioned but misguided family members, such as my mom, are trying to rush/push her through it, but fortunately my adult daughter and many others are being more gentle about it. So this helps some members of my extended family when I share with them. Thank and bless you.
I have had two nervous breakdowns in my life--major ones although I was not hospitalized nor sought medication. The term is not really definable. When some people get hospitalized for exhaustion, it's due to a bipolar episode or a drug/alcohol binge where they are up for days. For me, it was my past catching up to me. I started smoking pot every waking moment and not dealing with my feelings. That was the first one--at age 19. I was high and it was too intense. I still wonder if it was spiked with something. The second time happened at age 23. I think I was trying to break away from my family of origin and all that programming. Not getting medicated was a big thing with me. After that first freak-out with the pot, I was scared to alter my consciousness after years of wanting to. So I did what Teal suggested--allowed myself to feel such fear. I had panic attacks where I thought I'd die. But I didn't. I think it's like a dark night of the soul and when you get on the other side, you have totally shifted. It's actually a good thing if you remain present and aware and don't numb out.
lemurian chick Good comment. When I had a major breakdown, I accepted it, opened the window for the cats to get in and out, and just let it happen. I had acupuncture the next day, which helped...self care. I understood that the breakdown was like rebooting a computer. Indeed, it was.
this has been my experience as well. Eventually weed turned ugly for me. And culminated in a major freakout at about age 24. I was just about to graduate college and absolutely terrified of the real world. Just turrned 50 and had another one. I'll know what this one was all about once I get over it.
My emotions were so intense from years of trauma that I did get on psychiatric meds. Can I still release pain and trauma completely when I'm on medicine? Im currently pursuing trauma treatments. Thanks for all you do. You are a blessing.
Ì am Asperger. That means no pals to help and go it alone with society and non-aspies I do not understand. Life of unsafety. Plus diagnosed PTSD from my raising. You helped me realize this from a recurring memory of almost being trapped on the mean streets of HSC hospital on the coldest night of the winter... it stopped here when you mentioned unsafety as a chronic stressor. Aspies are great catastrophizers. When under PTS and burnout I have little coping and enduring left. My pity party was last night at seven you missed it. Therefore been freaking out every morning for years. No little crying child I tell you. Now thanks to you I back up into the experience, and am immediately stilled. I let it have me, as you say. Always I then enjoy the termination of the freakout. My bleeding stomach is repairing, and I need to give you a big virtual hug here, with tears of relief. *hearts*
Teal (or anyone who may understand where I'm coming from and is interested in reading this). I tried doing this 2 nights ago, when having a nervous breakdown, and my subconscious mind did viscous things to me and I felt like a 4 year old child that couldn't escape until it was done with me (I have some fairly serious childhood trauma and describing what I went through the other night would be too graphic to post publicly). I also had one of the worst nightmares of my entire life after it. It felt more like self abandonment than letting my emotions take me where they wanted to go. I consciously protected myself from these demons and tried to love my emotions unconditionally last night (as I have tried doing numerous times in the past) but it felt more like a struggle than letting go. Doing this does help somewhat however and I feel slightly better after doing it, but I'm still lost in myself, and it feels like I fall apart every day. It feels like I've been trying for quite some time and I'm still stuck where I've always been despite taking both drastic tangible action and being inwardly reflective (trying both to heal my emotional wounds and redirecting my focus to what feels better). Its particularly frustrating given that I had an experience 7 months ago where I met a woman who appeared out of nowhere and seemed to know everything about me, saying she was from the universe. She eluded to me having some special purpose and told me to "let go" (I might sound crazy but I've gone past the point of worrying about that, I just want to speak with someone that might understand me). I feel trapped alone and am beginning to lose hope. The walls feel like they're closing in and it seems like my demons are lurking behind me, ready to leap at me every time I feel like I'm making a breakthrough in realizing my dreams and aspirations. I have been trying and I don't want to give up yet but I've become more isolated and out of touch than I've ever been. I have no friends any more (I never had a girlfriend and I'm 22), I feel like the vast majority of people don't get me and despite some having a degree of respect for me for being brutally honest and willing to take risks. I feel like when I've been truely open with anyone (particularly psychologists, they labelled me and made me feel defective as a child) it doesn't end well end well. My perspective races around the place and changes every day. I can never settle down or find peace in myself for more than a few hours and I feel like I need a breakthrough sooner rather than later, because I won't put up with this cycle for much longer, I'm willing to take risks but I don't want to continue hurting myself. I hate the idea of pity but I'd love to hear If anyone's been on a similar journey to mine and any advice would be greatly appreciated.
You posted this 5yrs ago, so I hope things have improved for you but if you're still in 'this place' the following might help. First, there is nothing 'wrong' with you, the psychologists you've seen, like virtually ALL of them, do not understand how the human being, the conscious & subconscious mind really work. They do not understand how personality forms. Teal is 100% correct about fractured selves, we 'break' as we experience childhood trauma and no this is not just severe trauma, this is being unloved by a parent, rejected by friends, feeling you were unworthy because of xyz etc. Experiences that Drs judge as nothing and meaningless can and do impact and damage us as children. Teal has a different process you should try - the completion process. Using this I have reintegrated all of my fractured selves and recalled experiences I have no memory of. This part feel requires a lot of trust in, not so much believing these memories are real, but accepting that your mind says they happen and they are what your mind tells you are the cause of the negative emotions. As much as I would like to know if certain memories are real I'm not mentioning them to anyone because well they're just too far outside the box and just no. That said I came across your comment because of a breakdown I had not even 24hrs ago. One that triggered subconscious programming from my childhood that I'm stupid and where that lead me to was that my life is essentially over because the ripple effect will be I will end up homeless and with no money. You'd be roughly 27 now, I'm 37. I know an enormous amount about why ppl are the way they are. I've been through just about every terrible experience a person can endure or I have relived past lives where I have been through those I have not lived in this life (See I don't even have a box to be outside of any more, that's how different I am from anyone I know in real life) I also have no actual friends anymore. They say that all you need is 1 person that you can call anytime and they will be there for you. The only time I've had that was when I was still enmeshed with my family but that came at the price of my self-worth and happiness. -side note, Everyone in my family thinks I'm crazy to some degree, none of them can see their emotionally abusive behaviour except my father, but he has done an enormous amount of self-work but he is emotional disconnect due to childhood trauma, he just doesn't have the capacity to feel for others.Back to you, It sound like the process isn't the right one for you right now (ha right now) the traumatised part of you can't be asked to love the awful emotions, that's abusive. If I remember the process Teal's talking about correctly she wants you to just be with the emotions and accept whatever comes but (I might be mixing 2 process together here but it actually works!) You want to sink down into your inner self and visualise or see the part of you that is hurt, you want to connect with the damaged part of you that is the source of the emotions, the child from those memories where the emotions are coming from. It's to this child that you give your endless support and love and compassion. In my experience I have 'seen' the memory replay and then the child is left in front of me in the damaged form it was in at the end of the trauma, or sometimes I 'see' the damaged child first and mentally visualise sitting with her and making her feel safe enough for her to 'show me' what happened. In this space you are not trying to accept the emotions, you just validate, love, care and support your child self. They are right to feel exactly how they feel, you do whatever the child part of you needs in order to feel better not because they are 'right' and the other people are 'bad' but because that child self of you IS hurt and those are the feelings you validate. The part I do next is to mentally bring out a remote with 3 buttons on it. Play, rewind, and stop. I tell the child self that we can go back and do this over and change what happened and that I will be there with them the whole time. -> This part is about energy, not changing what happen in physical reality, just changing how the energy of the memory feels. I explain to the child self that we can rewind the memory to the start and when they press play they will be able to make things play out exactly how they want, everyone and everything will happen exactly how they want, there are no repercussions, they can do anything they want, even kill people if they want. (You're not trying to justify actions, teach right or wrong or get the child self to understand things like other people's point of view etc. Your aim is to validate the feelings and bring them to a feeling of peace). I did this combination of Teal's process before I learnt her completion process which ends slightly differently so I really recommend reading about it. But after I let my inner child self relive the memory and they feel 'complete' I asked what they wanted to do, some stayed in the new memory, others reintegrated into my adult self, some went back to Source (the universe). Teals completion process has you create a sanctuary, a mental paradise before you begin healing your fractured selves, and that's where you take them after reliving the memory. This work is very similar to Soul Retrieval. I also feel no one understands me, well no one I have ever know in real life and I certainly don't want pity. If anything I want someone like me who is willing to accept me even if they don't completely understand, just give me their company while I try and figure things out. I've begun focusing on myself in the past few months and moving on from destructive in a very intentional way but things feel very hard. Doesn't make sense when I consider how much I've put myself back together. Well, my inner-selves showed me that in my mind there is a dark fog that they don't go near and these are parts of me that were controlling and horrible and they stay away from this mentally dark place! Going into it, it's just dense black fog so I didn't understand. 3ish weeks ago I listened to a talk about the law of attraction and what no one teaches, the reason it fails. Our subconscious programming runs on autopilot and undermines everything we intentionally do. So there's my answer to why it doesn't get better, our mind gets stuck on auto and that program runs and runs and runs. Despite undoing all of my damaging beliefs there is still a version of them running in the background. I have only just begun learning about reprogramming the subconscious mind, I don't know how to do it yet but when I get triggered I tell my subconscious to stop that I'm not doing that, but this isn't foolproof. I would suggest looking into Abraham Hicks, it's about focusing on happiness and becoming aware that we are either choosing better or worse. Either is ok but it's always a choice. This is good stuff just don't BS yourself into the belief that positive focus is the answer, its not. That spiritual bypassing and it doesn't work. Abraham is a group of non-physical beings that connect with Esther Hicks and speak through her (not trance stuff). Wow, the person you said that just turned up, physical reality or spirit? That is 100% does happen stuff. I've been the person on the other end, giving others that info, perhaps not in the same way as knowing everything about them but similar. Reading comments like yours reassures me that I am not the only one. I just find it sad that we all seem to have no real-life connections with people who are like us because, as I said, I don't want pity, but having some who is willing to just be around me in all my weirdness would be nice. I hope this helps you, feel free to msg me (can we do that via youtube?) if you want.
wow so many points clicked with me, and i've really come to that conclusion about my body shutting down and forcing me to stop when i haven't allowed myself the breakdowns i needed. it really enlightenemed me about my current situation that i need to make changes, after my last breakdown i made major changesand i need to get back that feeling. love these videos so . much
Thank you. I sometimes wish I was American.....It's socially acceptable to have these traumas, in the UK it most definatley not. This has been a great relief for me.....keep up the good work and the conversation xxx
Hi Teal, what's keeping me stressed and unsafe is during the day my body fills up with energy so much that my belly bloats to such an extreme until the energy fills up and goes into my head and leaks cold air out my eyes. I am woken up in the night usually two hours after I go to bed and if I go back to sleep the energy seems to back up into my cells creating a fierce sensation of my cells on fire. I have awoke with my entire back and arms in pain like they have been sunburned. Also, my heart rate raises and my heart pounds like crazy. The bottom of my left foot gets really swollen like I'm walking on a rolled up sock right around my heart/lung pressure point and solar plexus/colon. This has been going on for so long now and I have stressed for so long I'm surprised I'm not dead yet. No Joke!! I don't know if you have any suggestions to this dilemma I'm just putting it out there with hopes of a solution. Thanks for all you do!! Blessings xoxoxox
Teal thank you so much for this. My husband is having a breakdown. I know what triggered it but there is so much that caused it - childhood, bereavement, guilt, being made redundant from a career he loved, new job with ridiculous expectations, he just needs to find this out. I found this video and suggested he watch it. After it had finished he said put it on again pointing his finger at the screen crying she knows. When he finished watching it he cried and hugged me saying it's okay not to be okay, I said exactly. He now knows that to help this not happen again perhaps it's time to talk to somebody because it's not going to go away on it's own.
I just had an emotional breakdown, and I found this video right after my breakdown. My breakdown is because I can't seem to earn my parents' trusts that I can take care of myself. I am the youngest among my siblings, and they always look at me as this kid who needs to be spoonfed in every ways. I don't know how to make them (especially my mom) see that I am a grown woman and I can take care of myself. They are literally stopping me from chasing my dreams because they are so convinced that I am doomed to fail. I tried convincing them that I can do this, but my parents have this mindset of "I'm always right regardless of what you say" which makes it harder for me to break free from this current state of my life. During my breakdown, I realize that my body just can't live like this anymore, I need my space, I need my freedom. I'm old enough to be taking care of myself, but for some reason they are so convinced that I'm the one that is wrong...what worst is that my siblings are supporting them, which left me feeling like I'm fighting this alone.
I am in an active phase of my cPTS currently. This time I've chosen to keep myself here because my body is physically protesting and getting more and more upset that I haven't "put my big girl panties on and making the change I require. Everything about how I'm handling this is different than all my other times. I've told my children I am keeping myself here so I can heal. I have allowed myself the time to do what's required to keep my home maintaining, working, and healing. I'm slow to taking this step but I definitely feel more prepared and ready to find my words and make the change
The Freeze stage, has been & off & on predicament for me, because I've never realized that I had PSTD, which I experienced since childhood & throughout my life. I've learned that in life, it's so useful to know what to call (what we're feeling) & then learn that we need to SURF through them, like going with the flow, which I did do when I lived completely alone.
Magnificent Teal, I've melted into plenty of them. As a matter of fact I'm coming out of one now. Another meltdown. The best part of this video in particular is "Its ok to not be ok"
I love you Teal! Thank you! I watch your video every single week, it's one thing I look forward to. I can't express in words how much you and your crew mean to me regarding what you give and share with us. You ARE helping in ways I'm not sure you can fully comprehend... Or maybe you can lol. I am 29 and a single mother of 3. You and Byron Katie have been my biggest teachers these past 2 years (thank you for putting me on to her too lol). You are a blessing to this planet. Through you I feel so much comfort with the powerful, practical and brilliant tools you so kindly teach us. My journey of self-love kicked started into higher awareness when I came across you through spirit science. You are apart of my cosmic family and I'm so grateful I know of you. Thank you so much for your guidance and love. I'm very happy for you, your loved ones and I FULLY support The Teal Crew. Hopefully one day you can come to Delaware, NJ or Philly. I'm usually very quiet on here and show love through liking your videos but I would love to throw out the desire, if you could start teaching us waaay more healthy parenting techniques with lots of modern day realistic hypothetical scenerioes and alternatives such as if siblings fight with each other often, argue, "talk back", disrespect others, don't listen kinda thing. I'm sure a lot of people would find that to be extremely helpful. Bottom line, I love you and thank you guys! -Tarra Bella Xoxo
OMG! I just had an aha moment the very last words of this video. You said it's okay to not be okay. I felt such a feeling of relief hearing those words. When I was in high school I read the book I'm okay you're okay. I have been putting so much pressure on myself just to be okay never feeling like I actually was.
I feel I'm coming to the end of a 54 yr breakdown. I'm finally ready to stop trying to destroy myself. I feel free to leave it all behind and start my life over for the 1st time ever. I actually made this conscious decision just hours before hearing this.
Im so happy for you my friend .
Love ya Grady! If I could give you a hug I would.
1Nature Lady I'm feelen' the luv :)
New improved grady1610 ~hugs~ :)
New improved grady1610 Iam happy for u :) Good luck :)
This forced 40 hr work week to survive and employees that can't get time off work is essentially killing us more than I thought. Emotional days need to exist everywhere
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I had a friend die and work tried to refuse me time off for the funeral. Thats when i quit corporate america
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I thankful found a wonderful employer that understands this. We even earn paid time off each pay period which is such a blessing. Maybe look into other positions where they appreciate you more.
In my company, it is 51 hours a week.. 😭
I had many breakdowns throughout high school and occasionally do now. Really, the best thing you can do is surrender. Let go of trying to feel better and allow all the visuals, emotions and sensations to overtake you. It's really uncomfortable but it does get you out of the situation a lot quicker. Also, assure yourself throughout this process that you are okay and beyond this suffering. Hope this helps.
AaronP11 hi! I’m currently going through a nervous breakdown and it’s been 6 months of symptoms.. did yours last this long? How quickly did yours pass? I struggle accepting these symptoms daily 💔
It's strange but this worked for my fear attacks too.
Thank you
thank you so so so much for this
Just as I thought no hope left. My chapter in life is over. I can not give into the pain it will destroy me.
I LOVE how Teal went back in being much less "professional" and more human and relatable in these videos. It's so much better.
I don't know since when because I stopped watching them for the exact same reason :D well not only that but it's not necessary for me anymore to watch her every video. She helped me a lot already so I am doing well.
dligac Yes much more down to earth but none the less still as confident and beautiful.
It's ok to not be ok.
Chita Banana Thank you
Chita Banana Thank you
Chita Banana yes.
Try telling that to my wife
200th like to be together.
A nervous breakdown is a sign in your life that something is very wrong. You must pay attention to this symptom. It is telling of a problem you must deal with in order to be healthy
Tell me more about it? What should I do?
Depends on the situation and what kind of person you are. If your a fairly strong person who has an ability to be honest with yourself. Then I would suggest looking at the cause of the breakdown. Our emotions are God given....they are meant to be warning signs for when things are good and bad for us. Often times we put the uncomfortable feelings aside.... Just ignore things. These thing build up until we can not ignore them anymore. This results in the break down.
In order to be a healthy human we must have balance between spiritual, emotional and physical needs. A lot these days ignore the spiritual aspect of self....ironic since its really the most important part.
Bottom line is all feelings must be dealt with or you never really move past it. So deal with it now or latter but at some point you will have to. A person can not live a lie indefinitely your spiritual side needs to live in truth and love. Whether its a death, an affair, someone is using you or if you're the one doing the harming. It must be dealt with honestly.
mgtowtruthbomber totally agree but sometimes it's due physical issues like hormonal disbalance
Exactly!
very true....
I once read: The final stage of healing is using what happened to you to help other people ....and this seems like what you do, so thank you.
Sounds true!
I'm crying as i watch this! I've suffered from depersonalization/derealization for over a year now. I've been trying to keep up and have so much guilt and pressure from being unemployed and all i do is suffer, but this helps me feel like i can give into my breakdown and its okay
thank you teal!
Hey, how are you doing now? Going through the same, just curious if you managed to get through that
I had my breakdown just before lockdown ..I feel great pressure to get back into work ..I have tried to get help but all I get from people is, your problems are history stop feeling sorry for yourself. I have stopped trying to think as if I do I might not ever stop crying. My skin is now full of a itch red rash. I guess I have just given up.
Same. Im alone. I just want to die. I want to just leave this world and end the pain.
@@mindaugasivaskevicius1764 how are you doing? I'm going through the same thing now. Idk what to do
@@ohyeahyeah5562breathe and go thru it, tell someone u trust..ask for help
All I can say is home girl Teal swan is the shit! In the most positive way possible. No seriously best advice I've ever heard.
There is a thought I have had for a while now and that is the more sensitive you become the more you almost cant live in this world because of how most of the society works. So either you choose to isolate yourself to avoid all the "hard" points or try to change the system into a more softer place to be in. That is what I want to do, because hiding or running away wont change anything.
But how can u do that?
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Just yesterday I was searching about Nervous Breakdown and now Teal make a video about that. We are all connected.
Vickyi yes we are, indeed :)
I lost it when she said "it's okay to not be okay." 😭
The hardest part is letting go of the need to DO rather than just BE. But I believe this experience is truly a blessing and leads to a beautiful awakening! ❤✨
I need to be able to do that.
But it’s NOT just what we fear will happen
- it’s what DOES happen.
So we fear success because we DO get attacked, while others just get praise & support.
It’s not as simple as knowing what we fear.
Changing oneself from someone who gets bullied & attacked, to a person who does not - is years of work!!
ThxYou suffering TBI PTSD alone homeless struggling
Grateful access wifi to listen to your advice & pray I get through this horrid time in my life.
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I hope you are doing better now! 💓
Aw ❤❤❤ u will. We must see where change is needed and ask for help where needed..u matter, your life matters
I had a breakdown about four years ago and I haven't been the same since. I went into a catatonic state but was mentally aware of everything. I am terrified it will happen again. I was terrified of my own children and animals. It was pure he'll and painful. It felt like someone was shaking my brain, which also made me nauseated. I threw up for 3 days straight. Thank God, I had someone to help me through it although they were clueless to what was happening. Without that person I probably would have died. Stress ,PTSD brought it on. Doctor said it was called conversion disorder, they have little info about it. So please if you are over stressed try meditation, relaxing anything you can do to feel safe. And please pray for me as I am scared to leave my own home.
are you better?
I’m having this right now and so terrified I don’t know what to do if it will ever end
I pray for you and everyone going through this. I have major anxiety and had a nervous breakdown three weeks ago. I took two months off work maybe more. I quit smoking and eating a better diet
Go a few steps outside the front door and see how you feel ;)
I wish I could know if you’re ok now.
hi I'm blake and I'm 15 You are the first video I found. and to be honest I was in the middle of trying to not have a nervous breakdown.I was trying to stop it from happening in the first place.. thank you for these insperational and informative words about what is happening to me and others that are having breakdowns... I'm feeling much better knowing that I will become stronger if I just let this happen... I was having suicidal thoughts and already suffer from depression. so thank you. for these tips and tricks to let me live a better life.
Please get help tell someone who you feel you can trust 🙏 life's better for you way too young to be thinking that way remember every day a new day to live your hell will pass🌞🌈💜💙💚💛
U r very articulate for 15, Blake.
You're 21 now and I hope you have a wonderful happy life to enjoy. 💖🤗
I wish you love and strength and pray you have an amazing life! 💓
Mine started January 2020. Wasn’t sure what was happening to me. I had to get on med to help me find some balance along with therapy. It’s been a long hard journey. I had to make many changes in my lifestyle. Definitely see life different. Hang in there, it does get better.
I had a debilitating panic attack yesterday... worse than any I’ve ever had before. My boyfriend told me before bed “it’s ok to not be ok”. Hearing you say that at the very end felt like the universe was reassuring me it’s ok, it’s not all in your head, I hear you listen to your body and love yourself as if you were nursing yourself back to health 🥲🥺💙😭
I did have a breakdown over 30 yrs ago. I had to be put on medication and it really helped, but it took me years to recover.
Tiger Lily how did you recover please help me im dying please hashmat_panjshiri@yahoo.com
Oh my goodness I was watching this because I wanted to do a college essay about nervous breakdowns. It was only after I watched it and read a load of comments I realised that what I experienced 2 years ago was in fact a nervous breakdown.
I had a spiritual awakening in April 2020 - I had considered it as “spontaneous” but I now realise what preceded it in the previous weeks was actually an emotional and mental breakdown. I was like a zombie that kept crying throughout the day. At the point where I just had to surrender- I said to my husband that I desperately needed some space to process as I was struggling with keeping it together for the two kids. I went to bed for a couple of days and started journaling and meditating for the first time. I set an intention to work through my childhood trauma. And like a lightening bolt, a day or two later I had a spiritual awakening where my heart chakra cracked open and that night I thought I was going to die. It has been an amazing, terrifying, challenging and beautiful journey since. I am so grateful for the breakdown for helping become aware of and heal my childhood wounds, for helping me align to a beautiful life. It was the best thing that ever happened to me.
For anyone going through this I wish you so much love and light 🙏
Hey, thank you so much for your words. I had my first nervous breakdown last year, I didn't know what to do.. so I did a short research on youtube and found this one. I did what you told. I didn't resist or tried to fight it and cried the half of that day, I cried myself to sleep, but the next morning I was like a newborn baby in my mind, which felt pure and so lightly because everything "bad" and fearful were like gone.
Thank you so much, you saved me ❤
Thanks Teal I have just come out of being wrapped up in my blankets for a few days I am dealing with the loss of my beautiful and beloved Mama and I was her caregiver as she and I battled the lung cancer Its been 3 months since her passing and her Birthday March 14 that she was not here for the first time sent me back to being sad and depressed again thanks for your video for the understanding it brought me I am moving out of the room where she passed to my own place and I want all my energy back I am sincerely grateful and thankful for all you do Teal to help humanity love you sincerely yours Teresa Dulaney
How can i ever repay you for making such an important video? I am currently going through a breakdown and I cannot thank you enough. I love you. I will have faith and continue to try my best to surrender and take these steps. Thank you so so so much for making this feel normal and OK.
How are you doing now?
I had my first nervous breakdown at 14 years old. I still have them. Iv'e been in the hospital 8 times in the past 3 months. I have PTSD from my past experiences..I was 18 years old when I met my sweet husband who was a sailor in the Iranian Navy. We married 2 months later. Little did I know he was the devil himself. He talked so highly of Persia...this was back in 1973, I went. I was a sheltered child...his family treated me so good. But when I got so sick from the food then I got pregnant, I had to come back to the States. Well he was so angered he had to stay behind because he was still in the Navy. When he joined me one month before our baby was born...it was good at first. After my daughter was born then it all started... He would beat me so bad strangle me, always told me he was going to take my baby back ti Iran ... Then he would tell me he was going to kill me and my daughter she was 1 year old. He would pick me up and throw me against the wall, while I was laying there he would jump on me and bite me. After 4 years of torture and him keeping me locked in the house, having to look at the ground when a man walks by... And GOD don't make him see BLACK as he would say.. I ran away with my daughter one day while he was at work. I went to my moms work place. She saved my life. Can't write any more. To upsetting. I raised my beautiful, daughter to be strong and fearless.🌹
Sorry to hear that you went through this and thanks for sharing with us. Sending love& many good wishes to you and your daughter.
God bless 🙏 you ...good for you
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I felt numb and really wanted to end my life......wanted to destroy everything but thank you for helping me
*NOTES:*
1) Completely surrender to the breakdown itself. Let go to it and let it take you. Let your body instinctively draw you towards its own way of healing (like physical illnesses e.g. the flu). Vid: "How to heal the emotional body"
During an emotional/mental breakdown the body is forcing you to do that unwillingly.
2) The breakdown is telling you that there needs to be a serious change to your life.
Look at your life at the areas that caused the breakdown and make tangible changes to those areas. Seek help from friends/professionals etc.
A nervous breakdown uncovers your deepest fears. Face those fears.
3) Stop living for future plans. What would feel like a little more relief? Take small steps. Then ask the question again.
4) If you have chronic breakdowns chances are you have chronic stressors in your life (= childhood trauma). You don't feel safe.
Then we tend to use people to feel safe.
Ask yourself:
Why do you need to be weak or unhappy or in need of rescue?
What bad think will happen if you're powerful, happy, healthy and with no need of rescue?
5) Life has caused us to get us into a negative spiral.
What has this negative situation caused me to want?
Then make tangible steps from point A to B.
6) Do things that make you feel safe. E.g. compile a list of things that make you feel safe, small and big things and do them.
7) Do trauma release processes. Move the trauma through and out. David Berceli does TRE - look him up and do those exercises.
8) Give your body something to live off of e.g. walks in nature. Do NOT indulge in junk food.
Get out in the sun for 20 mins a day. A Vitamin B complex helps as well.
If we do not allow ourselves to have a nervous breakdown - if it occurs - our body will find a way to stop us and usually does this through debilitating chronic illnesses.
So ask yourself:
*Do you wanna willingly do it today and make hard changes that guarantee you a life that feels good or do you wanna wait for you body to literally force you to do it unwillingly?*
!! Letting yourself intentionally melt into the breakdown is the fastest way through the breakdown !!
You will not be the same person on the other side of this breakdown and there will only ever be improvement on the other side of this breakdown.
It's okay to not be okay :)
Thank you so much for sharing your notes, your help is much appreciated!!!
whenever I look up your name I find the perfect video for my mental state at the time.
I am so thankful for Teal Swan. Literally she is a lifesaver.
Thank you for being here. I just hit the bottom of my nervous breakdown on Saturday. I tried to avoid it for months and months while knowing there was a circumstance in my life that I had to change but didn't. It got darker and darker until I was all alone in the abyss. Your video is a huge help. I already made an appointment with a Reiki master and will be seeing my hypnotherapist this week. You are so right that my demons came out and now is the time to finally be rid of them; I hope.
you are indeed right Teal swan to every action there is a opposite reaction ,the body pushes us to self healing .
I love that I found the more gentle approach to these kid of things through Teal and some other spiritual teachers. Contrary to what people around me say I disn't need to 'just do it'. I needed to not do it for a while. I needed to cry, I needed listen to myself, I needed someone to listen to me and how bad I was feeling (that moment still hasn't come unfortunately), maybe I even needed to isolate myself for a while. I will be convinced of the power of the gentle approach for the rest of my life! Thank you Teal for being one of the people who helped me to understand this. I have a lot more trust in life now
SHE CHANGED MY LIFE♥
What if you can't surrender to it because 1) people expect you to be a certain way 2) last time it happened the people around me made it worse when they knew 3) you are so trained and invalidated you actually invalidate your feelings even when having a nervous breakdown 4) you brought it upon yourself through self destruction 5) YOU FEAR ENGULFMENT AND IF YOU BREAKDOWN YOU WILL BE ENGULFED
Rewatching all of your videos and writing along in my journal. 😩 It took me a whole month to get over my last mental breakdown and all I want is to be in a loving relationship 💔
I hope you are ok. ♥️🙏🏻🙋♀️
my neighbor, a war refugee from Syria had a severe episode yesterday and I went with him to the psych emergency. I hope he feels better now.
must be horrifyingly scary to be isolated at the psych ward in a country where he doesn't share a single language in common with the rest of us, and on top of that such a different culture...
That was very kind of you to help your friend. Tyvm
@@rockforester7908 can you even imagine being stuck in a foreign country, not knowing the language and having a psychotic episode? However, now it's been 7 years and i keep contact with his son but the father still doesn't speak a word of swedish or english so i he just wasn't into it :/
OMG this works! I got a panic disorder because I had an "pre-ventricular contraction" induced by drugs and caffeine, it felt like I was literally dying and that made me worry about my heart health, even after I recovered physically. My anxiety gave me chest pains and a light headed feeling. I decided to finally sit through my anxiety attack and let it flow, eventually I felt a burst of "energy" or "prana" on my heart region. The chest pains I feel are really mild now and I expect them to get better as I continue sitting through these breakdowns.
I was having a severe panic/anxiety attack moments before watching this video. There’s something peaceful about Teal’s voice that calmed me down.
I see so many correlations with Root Chakra tips here! I love it. Root Chakra is where it’s at for people who are in a freeze state.
You are INCREDIBLE. Also...you are timeless. These videos are going to help people forever in time. Thank you Teal.
Had so many over the last 22 years of my life..
that was awesome! I tell my daughter that I am feeling my feelings, that I am sorry if it spills a little on her. That what mommy is going thought has nothing to do with her. The great thing about that is she expresses her feelings to me.
thank you Teal. i clicked on this whilst having the biggest nervous breakdown in my life yet, but you helped me through it.
wow, thank you, tears are flowing.
It OK not to be OK...namaste. Thank you Teal🌹
This lady is amazing. I am constantly trying to "get better" and "get on with life". Yeah definitely don't feel like in today's society we're "allowed" to have this breakdown, I didn't realise it was OK, to be ok. I have always had to carry on, and Teal Swan (beautiful name) is so right, because now I have chronic back pain, sciatica, IBS symptoms and gastric, stomach problems especially every morning, which have literally FORCED me to stop accepting teaching jobs. How very insightful of you! I'm amazed at the truth in your words, they are comforting. Thank you for sharing x x x
I had a breakdown in 2016. It was the most wonderful thing that could have happened. It was terrible, it was a stress crisis and I felt like no one would listen to me and I was seriously out of reality. Once, I let go it was so much easier to get through. I'm feel so much heal from my breakdown.
Thank you
1:11 for me...PTSD, occupational (school/work), but mainly injuries and chronic pain
So spot on the feeling of crazy. I love you. You do an amazing job of helping me feel seen.
3:30 also
6:18 also
6:54 also
10:08 feeling safe list
This whole video
This video is bringing me to tears
Lesson learned. I had a parent that felt like she had to keep it together and that just made us kids feel like we had to keep her together or else..... I would much rather break down in emotional tears and let people in then have my baby feel like he constantly has to keep Mommy together. I think today is a perfect day to be aware of my self imposed on pressure and tell myself or have others that love me tell me "you don't have to do anything today". If the pressure is too strong I can try asking for help. Deep breaths....
Been there, done that. Quit my job. Defooed because I recognised that my parents were the source of the model which triggered all my breakdowns. Learning how to move on is the hardest part but there is one guarantee, IT WILL NOT BE THE SAME AS BEFORE! I will simply not put up with it any more. I value myself too much to go back.
ive been having chronic breakdowns over the past 2years since my grandma died and i was sexually assultated, ive been to councillors and therapists and anti depressants but nothing has worked. This video is amazing and really gives me a new perspective in the breakdowns and life itself, normally when i am really happy and bubbly i know that in the afternoon i will fall and stay there and i always have no idea what is happening. i loose my breath, feel faint and cant stop crying and wanting to kill myself and get out of the mess, i feel embarressed that people see me like that and i dont know how to get out of it. But listening to this puts me in a whole nother light and i know what to think about and ask myself in future when my bipolar kicks in, thank you for actually giving me advice that helps what im going through, youre amazing!
I feel like im drowning literally
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Dear teacher
Thank you
I love you.
This woman I personally find to be extraordinarily intelligent and very intuitive, while already educated with the human mind and spirit. Please continue with what you are doing.
I watched three other videos on the symptoms of a nervous breakdown. The men either didn’t get to the point or they were too clinical.
Thank you for getting to the point from the beginning and actual ways to work through this difficult time.
I will be watching this video every day for at least a week.
Again, thank you.
I let the breakdowns go through me and it does help, but it doesn't stop the breakdowns. They carry on happening. Even after inner child work. I was a baby that was cried out, left to cry until shock made me shut down. I know that trauma is coming back but it is so deep, there is nobody there to make me feel like something won't happen. The adult me, doesn't cut it because my mind just says the older me is the damaged baby. I can't seperate myself into the parent I never had, it's like we need that parent or we get fucked up for life
my parents cause me to have a mental breakdown I can't even look at her anymore I'm tired of being her pet this is my life not hers
Dear Teal, thank You for being one fantastic sign on my road. With the help of your guidance, how to heal emotional body, I healed great many things in my childhood. But I do not find cause my revenge episodes/thoughts. Less and less, but still they are present, I find thoughts hypothetical situations about injustice and revenge. Can you shine light to this topic, is it manifestation of something common or just something hidden from my personal picture box.
With all the worlds love in my heart, thank you Teal
Wow. Wish i had someone to tell me "its ok not to be ok" when i was suffering. I believe this happened to me about 3 years ago and it made me tear up just hearing those 7 words now. Thanks
This video can mean so much to so many people
THANK YOU TEAL just came back to this after having trouble breathing idk what's going right now but I'm in bed all day having the worst anxiety of my life I deal with OCD every second and I've just had enough I don't want to deal with anything or anyone. Lost my job and lost trust in humanity. This whole time I've been trying to keep myself active MUSIC has been my therapy but I've been in resistance to the truth. All my emotions are starting to feel like they're resurfacing like I've been ignoring them for months even years. It's been about 5 years since I've watched this and it's the only thing that pooped in my head when I had this overwhelming feeling of being unsafe. I'm so glad I watched this because it gave me a sense of knowing that it's a nervous breakdown and not something else. The moment this video hit me like a warm blanket is when you mentioned it's okay not be okay... I felt that in my nervous system, thank you Teal 🦢
When you are grieving the loss of your soul mate, the love of your life and having a nervous breakdown, knowing that every source of help, every source of authority failed them, what do you do? I lost 30 lbs. in 2 months.
I don't know... I wish you strength.
I lost 50 lbs from anxiety. I didn’t even recognize myself. Now I am losing weight again. I relate to you.. I wish I could check on you.
I`ve been a socialworker for 22 years.... know almost everthing..execp when it`s about me... thank you for this video and your insight...
Thank you so much
going through a second breakdown due to childhood trauma and traumas caused by my parents.Unresolved.It affects every part of me and yes that sense of feeling unsafe all the time.You explained it well and your voice is so calming that helps too
I was having a breakdown while taking care of my mother who had dementia. I kept it together long enough until she went into a care facility. Then I went on a healing journey of release and self care.
i broke down. a lady came to my door and told me 'you need to eat some yellow watermelon" best advice i received during this 3 year ordeal
I just had dreams of sliced yellow melon before I read this. (I believe they are called honeydew melons, which are different to the melon you described)
not that it matters, but they were sliced in an unusual way too. I will try and explain what I mean. Imagine cutting a (honeydew) melon up into quarters, in the usual way, and placing the pieces down in the usual way so that the flesh of the melon doesn't come into contact with the surface it is placed on, so that there are four equally sized crescents, with the seeds removed, but then each of those crescents is further cut horizontally, but curved, to match the bottom piece. So, with each of the 4 pieces of melon, there is another crescent of melon with no skin sitting on top of it. (That took so long to word in a way that made any sense at all to me)
@@yamagishisan very cool...i have precognitive dreams Like this too .
Tomato helped me too.
Its funny how I saw this video in my recommendation when I just had a mental breakdown suffocating me to the verge of going insane. I guess god/ angels are watching over me, for that I am really grateful and feel loved, and by realizing this just relieved me so so much.
Yup, timing was perfect for me too; just last week my brother and his wife had an ugly ending to a 32 year marriage, and my sister in law is definitely having a breakdown, and dragging their 4 children into it in her pain. Some well intentioned but misguided family members, such as my mom, are trying to rush/push her through it, but fortunately my adult daughter and many others are being more gentle about it. So this helps some members of my extended family when I share with them.
Thank and bless you.
sounds much like a Catipillar, that breaks down, melts down, & comes out as a beautiful Flutter by ~Thank you for the powerful message.. Aloha~ Paul
The most comprehensive video on this subject matter I think I’ve ever seen. I can’t thank you enough 😭
I have had two nervous breakdowns in my life--major ones although I was not hospitalized nor sought medication.
The term is not really definable. When some people get hospitalized for exhaustion, it's due to a bipolar episode or a drug/alcohol binge where they are up for days. For me, it was my past catching up to me. I started smoking pot every waking moment and not dealing with my feelings. That was the first one--at age 19. I was high and it was too intense. I still wonder if it was spiked with something. The second time happened at age 23. I think I was trying to break away from my family of origin and all that programming.
Not getting medicated was a big thing with me. After that first freak-out with the pot, I was scared to alter my consciousness after years of wanting to. So I did what Teal suggested--allowed myself to feel such fear. I had panic attacks where I thought I'd die. But I didn't.
I think it's like a dark night of the soul and when you get on the other side, you have totally shifted. It's actually a good thing if you remain present and aware and don't numb out.
lemurian chick Good comment. When I had a major breakdown, I accepted it, opened the window for the cats to get in and out, and just let it happen. I had acupuncture the next day, which helped...self care. I understood that the breakdown was like rebooting a computer. Indeed, it was.
lemurian chick were you scared taking medication after that episode too?
this has been my experience as well. Eventually weed turned ugly for me. And culminated in a major freakout at about age 24. I was just about to graduate college and absolutely terrified of the real world. Just turrned 50 and had another one. I'll know what this one was all about once I get over it.
Well said I strongly agree
Teal, you have the most beautiful heart! I feel like you’re the mother I never had I love you so much thank you so much
My emotions were so intense from years of trauma that I did get on psychiatric meds. Can I still release pain and trauma completely when I'm on medicine? Im currently pursuing trauma treatments. Thanks for all you do. You are a blessing.
Ì am Asperger. That means no pals to help and go it alone with society and non-aspies I do not understand. Life of unsafety. Plus diagnosed PTSD from my raising. You helped me realize this from a recurring memory of almost being trapped on the mean streets of HSC hospital on the coldest night of the winter... it stopped here when you mentioned unsafety as a chronic stressor. Aspies are great catastrophizers. When under PTS and burnout I have little coping and enduring left. My pity party was last night at seven you missed it. Therefore been freaking out every morning for years. No little crying child I tell you. Now thanks to you I back up into the experience, and am immediately stilled. I let it have me, as you say. Always I then enjoy the termination of the freakout. My bleeding stomach is repairing, and I need to give you a big virtual hug here, with tears of relief. *hearts*
Teal (or anyone who may understand where I'm coming from and is interested in reading this). I tried doing this 2 nights ago, when having a nervous breakdown, and my subconscious mind did viscous things to me and I felt like a 4 year old child that couldn't escape until it was done with me (I have some fairly serious childhood trauma and describing what I went through the other night would be too graphic to post publicly). I also had one of the worst nightmares of my entire life after it. It felt more like self abandonment than letting my emotions take me where they wanted to go. I consciously protected myself from these demons and tried to love my emotions unconditionally last night (as I have tried doing numerous times in the past) but it felt more like a struggle than letting go. Doing this does help somewhat however and I feel slightly better after doing it, but I'm still lost in myself, and it feels like I fall apart every day. It feels like I've been trying for quite some time and I'm still stuck where I've always been despite taking both drastic tangible action and being inwardly reflective (trying both to heal my emotional wounds and redirecting my focus to what feels better).
Its particularly frustrating given that I had an experience 7 months ago where I met a woman who appeared out of nowhere and seemed to know everything about me, saying she was from the universe. She eluded to me having some special purpose and told me to "let go" (I might sound crazy but I've gone past the point of worrying about that, I just want to speak with someone that might understand me). I feel trapped alone and am beginning to lose hope. The walls feel like they're closing in and it seems like my demons are lurking behind me, ready to leap at me every time I feel like I'm making a breakthrough in realizing my dreams and aspirations. I have been trying and I don't want to give up yet but I've become more isolated and out of touch than I've ever been. I have no friends any more (I never had a girlfriend and I'm 22), I feel like the vast majority of people don't get me and despite some having a degree of respect for me for being brutally honest and willing to take risks. I feel like when I've been truely open with anyone (particularly psychologists, they labelled me and made me feel defective as a child) it doesn't end well end well. My perspective races around the place and changes every day. I can never settle down or find peace in myself for more than a few hours and I feel like I need a breakthrough sooner rather than later, because I won't put up with this cycle for much longer, I'm willing to take risks but I don't want to continue hurting myself. I hate the idea of pity but I'd love to hear If anyone's been on a similar journey to mine and any advice would be greatly appreciated.
You posted this 5yrs ago, so I hope things have improved for you but if you're still in 'this place' the following might help. First, there is nothing 'wrong' with you, the psychologists you've seen, like virtually ALL of them, do not understand how the human being, the conscious & subconscious mind really work. They do not understand how personality forms. Teal is 100% correct about fractured selves, we 'break' as we experience childhood trauma and no this is not just severe trauma, this is being unloved by a parent, rejected by friends, feeling you were unworthy because of xyz etc. Experiences that Drs judge as nothing and meaningless can and do impact and damage us as children. Teal has a different process you should try - the completion process. Using this I have reintegrated all of my fractured selves and recalled experiences I have no memory of. This part feel requires a lot of trust in, not so much believing these memories are real, but accepting that your mind says they happen and they are what your mind tells you are the cause of the negative emotions. As much as I would like to know if certain memories are real I'm not mentioning them to anyone because well they're just too far outside the box and just no. That said I came across your comment because of a breakdown I had not even 24hrs ago. One that triggered subconscious programming from my childhood that I'm stupid and where that lead me to was that my life is essentially over because the ripple effect will be I will end up homeless and with no money. You'd be roughly 27 now, I'm 37. I know an enormous amount about why ppl are the way they are. I've been through just about every terrible experience a person can endure or I have relived past lives where I have been through those I have not lived in this life (See I don't even have a box to be outside of any more, that's how different I am from anyone I know in real life)
I also have no actual friends anymore. They say that all you need is 1 person that you can call anytime and they will be there for you. The only time I've had that was when I was still enmeshed with my family but that came at the price of my self-worth and happiness. -side note, Everyone in my family thinks I'm crazy to some degree, none of them can see their emotionally abusive behaviour except my father, but he has done an enormous amount of self-work but he is emotional disconnect due to childhood trauma, he just doesn't have the capacity to feel for others.Back to you, It sound like the process isn't the right one for you right now (ha right now) the traumatised part of you can't be asked to love the awful emotions, that's abusive. If I remember the process Teal's talking about correctly she wants you to just be with the emotions and accept whatever comes but (I might be mixing 2 process together here but it actually works!) You want to sink down into your inner self and visualise or see the part of you that is hurt, you want to connect with the damaged part of you that is the source of the emotions, the child from those memories where the emotions are coming from. It's to this child that you give your endless support and love and compassion. In my experience I have 'seen' the memory replay and then the child is left in front of me in the damaged form it was in at the end of the trauma, or sometimes I 'see' the damaged child first and mentally visualise sitting with her and making her feel safe enough for her to 'show me' what happened. In this space you are not trying to accept the emotions, you just validate, love, care and support your child self. They are right to feel exactly how they feel, you do whatever the child part of you needs in order to feel better not because they are 'right' and the other people are 'bad' but because that child self of you IS hurt and those are the feelings you validate. The part I do next is to mentally bring out a remote with 3 buttons on it. Play, rewind, and stop. I tell the child self that we can go back and do this over and change what happened and that I will be there with them the whole time. -> This part is about energy, not changing what happen in physical reality, just changing how the energy of the memory feels. I explain to the child self that we can rewind the memory to the start and when they press play they will be able to make things play out exactly how they want, everyone and everything will happen exactly how they want, there are no repercussions, they can do anything they want, even kill people if they want. (You're not trying to justify actions, teach right or wrong or get the child self to understand things like other people's point of view etc. Your aim is to validate the feelings and bring them to a feeling of peace). I did this combination of Teal's process before I learnt her completion process which ends slightly differently so I really recommend reading about it. But after I let my inner child self relive the memory and they feel 'complete' I asked what they wanted to do, some stayed in the new memory, others reintegrated into my adult self, some went back to Source (the universe). Teals completion process has you create a sanctuary, a mental paradise before you begin healing your fractured selves, and that's where you take them after reliving the memory. This work is very similar to Soul Retrieval.
I also feel no one understands me, well no one I have ever know in real life and I certainly don't want pity. If anything I want someone like me who is willing to accept me even if they don't completely understand, just give me their company while I try and figure things out. I've begun focusing on myself in the past few months and moving on from destructive in a very intentional way but things feel very hard. Doesn't make sense when I consider how much I've put myself back together. Well, my inner-selves showed me that in my mind there is a dark fog that they don't go near and these are parts of me that were controlling and horrible and they stay away from this mentally dark place! Going into it, it's just dense black fog so I didn't understand. 3ish weeks ago I listened to a talk about the law of attraction and what no one teaches, the reason it fails. Our subconscious programming runs on autopilot and undermines everything we intentionally do. So there's my answer to why it doesn't get better, our mind gets stuck on auto and that program runs and runs and runs. Despite undoing all of my damaging beliefs there is still a version of them running in the background. I have only just begun learning about reprogramming the subconscious mind, I don't know how to do it yet but when I get triggered I tell my subconscious to stop that I'm not doing that, but this isn't foolproof. I would suggest looking into Abraham Hicks, it's about focusing on happiness and becoming aware that we are either choosing better or worse. Either is ok but it's always a choice. This is good stuff just don't BS yourself into the belief that positive focus is the answer, its not. That spiritual bypassing and it doesn't work. Abraham is a group of non-physical beings that connect with Esther Hicks and speak through her (not trance stuff).
Wow, the person you said that just turned up, physical reality or spirit? That is 100% does happen stuff. I've been the person on the other end, giving others that info, perhaps not in the same way as knowing everything about them but similar. Reading comments like yours reassures me that I am not the only one. I just find it sad that we all seem to have no real-life connections with people who are like us because, as I said, I don't want pity, but having some who is willing to just be around me in all my weirdness would be nice. I hope this helps you, feel free to msg me (can we do that via youtube?) if you want.
I love you Teal. You are the most stable go-to person in my life. 😖🙏
Thanks, Teal. My mother shared this and it's really great timing. I really appreciate you.
wow so many points clicked with me, and i've really come to that conclusion about my body shutting down and forcing me to stop when i haven't allowed myself the breakdowns i needed. it really enlightenemed me about my current situation that i need to make changes, after my last breakdown i made major changesand i need to get back that feeling. love these videos so . much
This is completely true! Im having emotional breakdowns and everything is getting harder in my house hold
Thank you for that it was perfect it was what I needed to hear
32 years married to a narc took its toll
Omg you hit it on the head about not feeling safe in the world. That's the way I feel. Thank you so much. I'll never be able to repay you. I love you
Thank you. I sometimes wish I was American.....It's socially acceptable to have these traumas, in the UK it most definatley not. This has been a great relief for me.....keep up the good work and the conversation xxx
Authenticity, this is what I need. Thank you teal
Hi Teal, what's keeping me stressed and unsafe is during the day my body fills up with energy so much that my belly bloats to such an extreme until the energy fills up and goes into my head and leaks cold air out my eyes. I am woken up in the night usually two hours after I go to bed and if I go back to sleep the energy seems to back up into my cells creating a fierce sensation of my cells on fire. I have awoke with my entire back and arms in pain like they have been sunburned. Also, my heart rate raises and my heart pounds like crazy. The bottom of my left foot gets really swollen like I'm walking on a rolled up sock right around my heart/lung pressure point and solar plexus/colon. This has been going on for so long now and I have stressed for so long I'm surprised I'm not dead yet. No Joke!! I don't know if you have any suggestions to this dilemma I'm just putting it out there with hopes of a solution. Thanks for all you do!! Blessings xoxoxox
I had a nervous breakdown after being stressed while dealing with my anxiety and issues with my friends.
I'm elderly...disabled...handicapped...disfigured...and ugly yep life coaches and law of attraction really help
Thank you for sharing your vulnerablness. Its only those with beautiful soul dare to.I love you for sharing.Arohanui from New Zealand.
Teal thank you so much for this. My husband is having a breakdown. I know what triggered it but there is so much that caused it - childhood, bereavement, guilt, being made redundant from a career he loved, new job with ridiculous expectations, he just needs to find this out. I found this video and suggested he watch it. After it had finished he said put it on again pointing his finger at the screen crying she knows. When he finished watching it he cried and hugged me saying it's okay not to be okay, I said exactly. He now knows that to help this not happen again perhaps it's time to talk to somebody because it's not going to go away on it's own.
I just had an emotional breakdown, and I found this video right after my breakdown. My breakdown is because I can't seem to earn my parents' trusts that I can take care of myself. I am the youngest among my siblings, and they always look at me as this kid who needs to be spoonfed in every ways. I don't know how to make them (especially my mom) see that I am a grown woman and I can take care of myself. They are literally stopping me from chasing my dreams because they are so convinced that I am doomed to fail. I tried convincing them that I can do this, but my parents have this mindset of "I'm always right regardless of what you say" which makes it harder for me to break free from this current state of my life. During my breakdown, I realize that my body just can't live like this anymore, I need my space, I need my freedom. I'm old enough to be taking care of myself, but for some reason they are so convinced that I'm the one that is wrong...what worst is that my siblings are supporting them, which left me feeling like I'm fighting this alone.
+Wani Ismail Try EFT TAPPING
Its okay to not be okay
I am in an active phase of my cPTS currently. This time I've chosen to keep myself here because my body is physically protesting and getting more and more upset that I haven't "put my big girl panties on and making the change I require.
Everything about how I'm handling this is different than all my other times. I've told my children I am keeping myself here so I can heal. I have allowed myself the time to do what's required to keep my home maintaining, working, and healing. I'm slow to taking this step but I definitely feel more prepared and ready to find my words and make the change
The Freeze stage, has been & off & on predicament for me, because I've never realized that I had PSTD, which I experienced since childhood & throughout my life. I've learned that in life, it's so useful to know what to call (what we're feeling) & then learn that we need to SURF through them, like going with the flow, which I did do when I lived completely alone.
YOU ARE THE BEST!!!! Thank you for being so beautiful, helpful, kind, and miraculous... I love your work!
This video blessed my spirit so much at the most PERFECT time. Namaste!
Magnificent Teal, I've melted into plenty of them. As a matter of fact I'm coming out of one now. Another meltdown. The best part of this video in particular is "Its ok to not be ok"
I love you Teal! Thank you! I watch your video every single week, it's one thing I look forward to. I can't express in words how much you and your crew mean to me regarding what you give and share with us. You ARE helping in ways I'm not sure you can fully comprehend... Or maybe you can lol. I am 29 and a single mother of 3. You and Byron Katie have been my biggest teachers these past 2 years (thank you for putting me on to her too lol). You are a blessing to this planet. Through you I feel so much comfort with the powerful, practical and brilliant tools you so kindly teach us. My journey of self-love kicked started into higher awareness when I came across you through spirit science. You are apart of my cosmic family and I'm so grateful I know of you. Thank you so much for your guidance and love. I'm very happy for you, your loved ones and I FULLY support The Teal Crew. Hopefully one day you can come to Delaware, NJ or Philly. I'm usually very quiet on here and show love through liking your videos but I would love to throw out the desire, if you could start teaching us waaay more healthy parenting techniques with lots of modern day realistic hypothetical scenerioes and alternatives such as if siblings fight with each other often, argue, "talk back", disrespect others, don't listen kinda thing. I'm sure a lot of people would find that to be extremely helpful. Bottom line, I love you and thank you guys! -Tarra Bella Xoxo
My boyfriend had a breakdown last week and tried to push me away because of it. We are ok now but I am trying to figure out how to makes things better
This woman and her content has helped me through some of my hardest times
I Cant thank her enough ❤
Teal hits the mark...everything.
OMG! I just had an aha moment the very last words of this video. You said it's okay to not be okay. I felt such a feeling of relief hearing those words. When I was in high school I read the book I'm okay you're okay. I have been putting so much pressure on myself just to be okay never feeling like I actually was.
I'm watching this for my best friend she is having so many breakdowns I wanna make her happy
I wanted to say thank you very much for posting this video. This is a very helpful video for anybody having extreme anxiety and depression