The SHE Word - S4/EP4 - Women Childfree Part Two
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- Опубликовано: 30 сен 2024
- In Season Three of The SHE Word we recorded a show titled 'Women Childfree'. In this show Host Trudy Kerr sat down with three women of varying ages who had chosen, or were choosing, not to have children. The show EXPLODED. The most watched, listened to, liked and commented on show of all time - with women, and men, reaching out from all over the world to share their thoughts on the topic.
So, Trudy decided to sit down again to discuss this topic and look at some of the responses to the topic, and delve deeper into what is obviously a very emotive subject. Joining Trudy is original guests Helen Chorley and Maria Micallef as well as first time guest Stephanie Xerru Agius - who also has some thought provoking comments to add.
Watch, enjoy, and share your thoughts with us - we'd love to know what you think!
I'm 33 and I really resonated with the opinions brought about child-free women. I have had a motherly instinct since a young girl. I have been with my partner for nearly 10 years and only recently both agreed that we're not going to have children as we both are very busy in our career, travels etc. Both podcasts about childfree women have made feel less alone, thank you and keep these podcasts going.
Thank you so much for this conversation. I wanted to have a baby in my twenties so bad but only experienced bad relationships, now Im 34 and I love my peace and quiet. I just started a new career path which Im very excited about and I also met the best partner and human being I ever met on this earth. He has two daughters from a previous marriage and Im glad that he got them. He romanticized marriage and bringing children into this world which lead to a failed marriage. I think the only difference is, that I always pray and I ask God for his will. God didn't give me what I wanted but what I needed to become the best version of myself. Yall are right, just because you could doesn't mean you should, or that its God will for you.
Another cracking episode 🙌🏽
I’m so on the fence, I think if I was to go the motherhood route I’d be a one and done. It would be great to have an episode with women who have chosen to be one and done with wotherhood and how their lives have turned out
Dear Helen, from your relationship of 8 years before ending the relationship, did you and your significant other own a home together?
Thank you for the second part!🥰 I love the saying You mentioned: “Just because you can, doesn’t mean you should”. I think more people should think about this step in life more carefully. Just 2 out of my 5 friends think about the bigger picture of having a child and it scared me to say the least. They don’t think about if the child can have disease’s, also they think children are cheap! I just think thinking like this is selfish.. Btw I am 30y/o childfree girl!
The opposite is selfish. I find it rich when people argue about how chaotic and dangerous it is to have children at this time. Childhood mortality was about 40% 200 years ago and now it is almost 0%. This was not a reason to not have children for those mothers. The reality is that they had a will for life. They were courageous. We have become so frail, so distracted from what is truly import in life.
@@brucebogtrotter3430 And because it’s not 1800’s and we have a choice now whether or not to have children. I just want more woman to think that they can chose a different path and not allow society tell them what they have to do.
@@gitanastanciauskaite3893 there is no greater accomplishment in life than to produce a family.
@@brucebogtrotter3430 Well I’m sorry but that is your opinion. And also, sorry for saying this, but I see that you are a man, so you cannot fully understand everything that comes with having a child.
Also these wonderful 4 women are just as fulfilled with their lives without having children.
Dear Helen, from your relationship of 8 years before ending the relationship, did you and your significant other own a home together?
Dear Helen, from your relationship of 8 years before ending the relationship, did you and your significant other own a home together?
I love anything child free 🎉
I am 55 years old and have been married for 29 years. My husband and I never wanted children, didn't have them, and have never regretted it. I also never had the urge to have children. I grew up in a traditional catholic Mexican family and it was difficult for them to understand that both my husband and I felt that way but over time they accepted it. I could relate to so many things you all said. Great topic!
Dear Helen, from your relationship of 8 years before ending the relationship, did you and your significant other own a home together?
Men feel strongly about whether or not women are having children because we have an obligation to one another. You are our women in the same way that we are your men. We should be working together to push forward our civilization. I have an obligation to my family, my community, my nation. That obligation entails, among other things, to be a good father to my children.
8 billion and counting strong, I don't think we need to worry about 'pushing forward our civilization'.
Hi Ladies.
I just want to preface that I do respect any choice as long as it doesn't heart others, and obviously your choices don't so I totally respect you, your choices and your opinions.
However, I do think that having babies is the normal thing to do.
First, look at any cell in any organism in nature - it multiplies, SHARING its dna/life/knowledge. That's just how nature is. It's perfectly natural not to have a baby, but it's not normal. The norm in nature is to multiply in any level of conception, starting with a single cell, starting in the plant world.
Second, you Ladies live in the post pill era. For most of history there was no pill (and almost no abortions) so the choice of childfree meant sexfree. If you wanted to have sex, you would probably have a child at some point. That's normal and natural. Using the pill is not natural.
So although I respect your choices, I wouldn't say normalizing it is preferable.
Mind you, I live in a country where the average number of children in a family is greater than 2, a growing population, so I realize I'm biased (we have 3 children, and if it was up to me we'd have more).
If you start on a spiritual path, you will hear a lot that human beings have a more special ability to over-ride natural animal instincts and behaviours.
This then sets the foundation for humans not just repeating history and acting like any animal would. We are able to attain special states of consciousness that can elevate and heal which no other animal can do. There is a way to open yourself to a new way of living life that isn’t just repeating cycles. It’s something someone can look into if they’re curious x