Menopause started for me at 45, the month of my oldest daughter's wedding, lol. I also got my first pair of bifocals on my 40th birthday. But don't fret! It gets much much better, I'm 69 now. Finished memo by 50! I love my age now, no more worries, eat healthy, exercise, have fun & quite worrying about what I can't change. Life gets better & more fun as you age.
Only to validate your feelings, there was a study released today that said instead of what we thought was gradual aging, we actually have two bursts of aging one around the age of 44 and the other around the age of 60. I am now 66 and looking back think this totally was my experience. I think you’re always beautiful and really enjoy watching your content.❤
I think, as a retired beauty therapist the best look on your age going forty plus is.. you - your natural self. Look at Helen Mirren. Trying to look younger just doesen't work.
I would add, look after yourself, hair, skin, teeth etc and enhance your look with makeup which incidentally protects your skin and your just, beautiful
I remember vividly feeling the same Gemma. Unfortunately for me it got worst. The psychological symptoms were horrendous and I don’t think I would be here now without HRT. I’m never giving it up and have made peace with the weight gain, which started to happen anyway before HRT. I now love my body for what it does rather than what it looks like and am so much happier. I hope you find your way through, sending healing hugs ❤
I’ve been going through this too - apathy, weight gain, emotional roller coaster, and also extreme fatigue even with 9 hours of quality sleep. I met with a new-to-me doctor and am on a path to feel better. Can totally relate to everything you said ❤
Hi I went through peri. ..meno for 2 years and then when my periods stopped about 6 months ago and I'm just starting to gather myself together...now feeling good but it did rock my world I felt like a carpet had been pulled from my feet and I was thrown just when I felt I had it all down lols xxx
Thanks for your authenticity! You’re someone I really trust with reviews and that’s bloody rare these days. You look phenomenal even if you don’t feel it ❤
I started peri at 32 yo didn't know that's what it was. Had hysterectomy at 45 gained a huge amount of Weight. Went on estrodot patch at 51. It's horrific to be honest all I can say is had my doc not given me hrt I'd be in a wooden box now. My hrt has been tweaked a few times progesterone in d form of utrogestan was added a year ago best thing ever for mood and sleep. Also weight loss and the mitigation of estrogen weight gain which is caused by estrogen dominance. Once my hormones was balanced I started to lose a bit of weight. After 6 months at 280 pounds I had a gastric bypass and lost 150 pounds within 10 months I've kept it off since. HRT when balanced is weight reducing. I hope all works out for uou and that you feel better soon ❤ sending you a virtual hug
I feel for you. I went through it in my 40’s and I’m going through it again in my 60’s. I feel like I’ve aged 10 years in the last 2 years. My skin is doing all kinds of crazy things and I still have acne 🤦🏼♀️ Somedays, I don’t even recognize myself. You’re not alone. Hang in there. It will get better. You always make me smile. I like your hair and you always look great.
Bad day be gone!!🎉 Your hair may not look great to you but looks good on camera! Love your authenticity and honesty.; know that we are here supporting you !❤❤
I'm sorry it took me so much to answer, I've been catching up with your videos... When I was 47 (I am now 52), the exact same thing occured to me: at once I looked ten years older, I felt ten years older and I had to wear glasses to look at my phone. I keep telling it to my family and friends, but only a few seem to have experienced this "flash aging". The bad news is it's never going away, the years added really came to stay (through our eyes); but the good news is that nobody seems to notice those years but us - or at least they appear to notice them gradually rather than all at once, so they don't get any impressed. You make us happier with your videos, so I hope you get better soon, and be sure you are (and you look like) the same beautiful Gemma!❤
I swear I have been in perimenopause for about 10 years and I am 55 now. So right with you on 45 being right around when all that started!!! 😂. I am on HRT and it did help immensely
I am 64 years and have been experiencing menopause symptoms since my mid-40’s😳 I wish I knew what I know now and had started HRT, but at the time everyone said that it causes breastcancer. Now we know that is not true - but it is too late for me, being 13 years post menopause.🙁
Gemma! Perimenopause is ROUGH! I am 54, and for me, HRT is the way! I gained 35 pounds, and they won’t come off, but I am seeing an endocrinologist about it. Otherwise, HRT is the thing keeping me sane. I know it’s hard to see because we are our own worst critics, but you are beautiful inside and out. As the others have said, be kind to yourself. We’re all with you. 💜
You described your aging experience perfectly. I felt on top of the world when I turned 40. By 45 I was beginning to unravel and now I'm 47, using HRT patches and not really knowing if they are helping or not because I am so up and down. Know that you aren't alone and you don't have to apologise for not feeling 100%. Your videos bring happiness to a lot of people who understand you're human, and for me that keeps me coming back xx
I really feel for you , being a sufferer in my forties too. Keep trying the HRT as there are many different types , I struggled for years trying them and I still take it at 71. Eyesight does change in our forties so pop along to an optician and get some sexy specs. I found it helpful not to make any decisions when I felt low - nothing will feel right , but you will get back to your usual chirpy self don't fret. I know it doesn't feel like it now but you will. Take care xxxxJoy❤
Gemma I hear you! Been going through this since my late 40’s and I’m now 53. I stopped HRT because of the weight gain, put on nearly 2 stone but unfortunately I haven’t lost any weight at all. Hot flushes are the bane of my life and I’ve recently started taking sage tablets so hoping they help. Lots of us going through this with you, and your down to earth approach and authenticity is why we love you. You always look beautiful in my opinion ❤xx
I’m now 53 and a fitness pro. Have been going through a rough menopause. Extreme fatigue, nausea, body aches, weight gain, hot flashes. I wanted to jump off a cliff! Started hormone replacement therapy and it’s made a big difference. My best advice is to do bloodwork and check your hormone levels. Also, the only thing that beats the weight gain and change of body composition is weight training and proper nutrition. Feel better!!
I think you always look amazing. I'm turning 70 later this year. I love your tips and tricks. You are in peri-menopause. It WILL pass. I was a mess as well--a total misery. I cried at every TV ad that was the least bit sentimental. It WILL pass and life will be better than ever!
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I can relate. I don’t understand why women in my life who have been through perimenopause/menopause never mentioned how awful the changes we go through are. Perimenopause/menopause hit me like a brick and I was not prepared for it 😔
Different for some, my mum was awful she really suffered she changed her personality too she refused HRT but needed it, she fell out with me and was really angry she left my dad one day I found her sat in the car with her head in her hands I didn't know what to do, she even drove herself to A&E in the middle of the night. Fortunately I haven't had problems, my lifestyle is totally different not sure if that's the reason but I eat whole food, I walk at least 6 miles a day overall no alcohol, no cigarettes, no spare tyre no weight issues I sleep really well and no sweats? Go figure?
That was my sentiment…like, why are we not warned. On the other hand, I’ve now noticed that when one mentions the “M” word around the under 40 crowd, there’s a lot of ear covering and eye rolling, like it won’t happen to them. 😂
Just looking at your Mum, I know you're going to be alright. Youre going to age because thats a fact of life but you and Jan are like 2 peas in a pod. You ARE gorgeous and you WILL BE gorgeous. It starts within Gem. Say a self healing mantra every morning...'Today I am a goddess and will kick butt'...or something along those lines;😂 You'll be fine Gem... Its just a phase in all our lives . Sending love xxx PS. Your 'spot' might be a solar keratosis. I had quite a few appear in my late 40's and early 50's. Xxx
Hi Gemma, oh those days you are experiencing are horrible. I was listening to something this week that said we age noticeably at 44 and 60, not what you wanted to hear, but may make sense.😮 my eyes went then too…deep joy. Still, you look fabulous and those days will pass….great video as always…😊
Firstly many thanks for your useful videos 👍 I am 47, my sight went worse in last few years,I wear glasses now and one more pair for reading in the pocket 😂 thinking of varifocals. Thank God I have just few grey hair 😊 so I don't need dye my hair, but mood swings and hot night flushes gone, HRT helps a lot.
Love this look .. and honestly your hair colour looks lovely to me!! I'm 55 and I 100% get how you are feeling, some days I wake up and feel like my (late) lovely grandmother is looking back at me in the mirror!!! And the emotional roller-coaster of the menopause can be horrific. I found with HRT that I bloat when I am on my progesterone days, so for 2 weeks in 4 I feel pregnant!!! Not sure how to cope with the weight gain but maybe ask your menopause nurse/doctor for advice, I am sure there are ways to counter it - for me the HRT gains of feeling emotionally stable and 'normal' (whatever that is !!) far outweighs the feelings of dread, anxiousness and continual sadness (never mind being a total sweaty mess at night - that's a whole other ball-game!!) 🤣💦😰Hope you had a great night x
I’m 46 and a year into perimenopause. It is brutal! Hang in there, Gemma! You are beautiful and a bright star. You’re in good company with all of the women whose bodies stop obeying us!
Hello, I've really enjoyed discovering your channel and have learned so much from your videos. I was wondering if it's possible for you to do a video on makeup advice for cool / neutral makeup tips? My skin tone is cool, and I really struggle with knowing where to start when looking for products / which makeup looks good on cool or neutral skin tones - mainly things like blush and bronzer 😅 ❤
I'm 45 too. I have had a lot of body changes in the past few years too. I take herbs and I've found Wild Yam and Chaste Tree and Maca to help a fair bit. I'd recommend you'd read up on them. You don't need the most expensive brand, just one that puts less fillers in. Not everything is perfect from taking, but it can help. Oh and Botox 😋
Oh yeah! The eyesight and my dental situation went to crap when I hit 40. I’m 47 and watching my skin morph into crepey parchment. The HRT sounds like a great option but to get it the US is next to impossible.
We permanently change after 45 and it’s a long hard journey….but, learn to roll with it, rather than fight it, give yourself a break and don’t over think it. If the people around you, care for you and love you, they too will rock n roll with it. It does get better but your just the start of a long road and acceptance of your situation will make it easier to deal with😊
Gemma can I ask what you think of the Bibi moisture tint I am using colour Fleur and just don’t think it does anything for me. Maybe I’m applying it wrong 🤔 would appreciate your opinion if you have ever used this product. Sorry you are feeling the way you do I am late 50’s and really struggling through the menopause so feel your pain. It’s not fun ! xx
Can totally relate- 45 years old and some days I can age about 10 years within a day 🤯. Also I totally feel you on the eyesight thing too ❤ I think your new colour really suits you 😊
Remember hrt helps our skin also , protects r bones, and helps fight again parkinsons , arthritis, dementia xxxxxx I put on about half a stone, I just have to cut carbs alot and upped my strength and resistance training and walking. My wish list for Xmas is a weighted vest and indoor treadmill to do incline walking, hoping all thus helps to keep my weight down xxxxx
I'm 47 started HRT last year, best thing i ever did, my mood swings and hot flushes were unbearable. I lost the weight i gained taking HRT about 8kg not sure what that is in pounds maybe around 17, i lost it in the first 3 to 4 months of taking. I take estradiol only tablets, because i had a hysterectomy when i was 41. Maybe if you were feeling a lot better on the HRT it was just the weight gained that made you stop taking it talk to your doctor about trying a different one sometimes it takes a few tries of different ones to get the right one. Hopefully you can sought it out because i would hate for you to continue to feel not like yourself, it's horrible. The finished makeup look is beautiful as always
Welcome to perimenopause! Symptoms being anything that makes you not who you were before. Get yourself some good HRT and supplements asap, and don’t be shy in going back to the surgery to change the HRT if it doesn’t suit - as many times as you need to.
52 and feeling 82! Also having the same , "God, I'm looking older" probably most days!😂 My hair is doing the complete opposite to what I want it to and just feel a mess! Now I'm on the HRT patches I have a lot less symptoms, but like you say, you start to feel like you are losing yourself. Having said that, I thinking I lost myself as soon as I have birth! My personality went off with the placenta!😘
I really understand how you’re feeling and it’s in fact comforting to know that even you can feel that way 😊. I’m 47 and have never had greater body or skin as right now. I look really better and feel more like a woman as in my twenties or thirties. But my age sometimes hounds me and hangs as a shadow over my head. I keep telling myself that it is just a number but that doesn’t help all the time. And indeed it is just a number cause everything depends on how you look and take care of yourself. But still… 😢
I was getting horrible hot flashes at the airport. Everyone was looking at me, and I was afraid the security was gonna check me if I didn't carry drugs in my stomach 😂
I get. I’m 38 and going through perimenopause and last night I cried myself to sleep because I’m not ready. I need HRT but was laughed at by my doctor when I mentioned it. I need to be a bit more forceful I think!
@@JulieHendry-fw2rg my hair is so naturally white now it’s a struggle when I have brown hair. The regrowth is just too noticeable and I don’t have the time to go to the hairdressers every couple of weeks x
OMG! You are so correct! I just turned 65 had nothing wrong and soon as I hit 65 arthritis, thyroid testing and I ache everywhere! I certainly hope Father Time takes some time off of me for a little while!
I feel your pain! Everything changed when i hit 40. I'm 47 now and the worst things for me has been the insomnia, brain fog, memory issues, severe anxiety. I have been so close to quitting my job on many occasions as everyday is a nightmare. My doc won't put me on hrt due to family history. 😢
Change a doctor. If it is because of breast cancer, then it is bonkers. There was one, badly done study that made doctors afraid to prescribe it. Thankfully it is changing. HRT has so many long term pros that no one should be denied it. They now give it women who had a cancer! I am afraid that your doctor is stuck in the dark ages.
❤ Hello from Belgium. Yes, I'd always been considered very young-looking for my age but there was a moment that I definitely did age very quickly in my mid to late 40s but nothing really that noticeable. At 45 I gave birth to my 2nd daughter (had my 1st at 26). Evangéline was a huge surprise baby - total blessing. I think she's the reason why I only really started into perimenopause last year at 54. I'm 55 now and had my last period after my birthday in February.... For a year now, I've been having frequent hot flashes but, unlike my older sister, no sweating.
I think your hair looks nicer being that bit warmer.. also re makeup… do you use a filter when filming ?? I never know with makeup videos. How the make up looks
There's a new article in The Guardian that says ageing happens in spurts. I've had symptoms of "old" all my life, so it hasn't been that much of a shock. I've always had poor eyesight, so graduating to varifocals was fine. I've had arthritis since my early 20s, so that's just continuing. I have put on weight, though, and I can't get rid of it. The menopause nearly killed me, since I developed chronic insomnia. But, hey, I'm still here too. It's been fun getting used to my skin, which has never been this good before. I was put on vit A as a teenager, because I had acne, and I really think a lifetime of versions of vit A is really beneficial. I don't use the strongest versions of it unless I really need it, because you have to be gentle with actives.
Because of my kind if breast cancer, I was not a candidate for HRT. My doctor suggested Vitex, or chase tree berry extract, and it was a game changer. Been on it for years, and at 60, still no hormonal swings or physical unpleasantness. Lol
You NEEEEED to try the tarte creaseless undereye powder. It is without doubt the best and most flattering undereye powder. Absolutely worth getting in from the USA website. Shipping is very reasonable. I think it is free over £30 purchase. I have the pink and lavender shades. I like the lavender best
Evening Gemma love the look so pretty I’ve got to be honest I can feel you pain about the hair I’ve gone & done the same thing & not very happy about it but now having to wait till next week month to make it better see you soon ❤
Am sorry to say am in the same position 😢just came off hrt for the second time cause for me gaining weight happened both time and as soon as i come off the weight and my tummy goes down. Am someone that has been into fitness etc all my life so i know my body and it doesnt like the extra hormones but my poor mind does. We cant win! Hope you get sorted soon but please know your not alone not that that helps 😢i have went and had lip filler and hair extension to make myself feel better 😂 sending you lots of love ❤
I woke up the other day with a double chin, it seemed to appear overnight 😂 I’m not impressed. Getting old sucks but you are doing a great job of looking your very best. You are not alone ❤
There was a recent study that says aging is not done slowly and over time, but in bursts which have been recorded at age 44 and again at 60!! Sounds like you might be experiencing that. I definitely remember waking up one day in my mid-40s and thinking "what happened?!?!"
Gemma … I know exactly how you feel… & I do sympathise.. but saying that you look spectacular even if you don’t like the warmth of your hair, that can be “taken care of”, so don’t despair, you look as gorgeous as ever …😊 & you do have a spectacular personality to match !! ❤️
I turned 36 this month and last year I had the same issue with looking in the mirror and like.. oh I’m not a young adult anymore. Affected not only the way I see myself physically, but it was a mess in all the sides. I think we all go through this in different ages
Yes it happens, you go to bed fine and wake up and almost scream to the mirror, some days things just do not work, you are young, a lot younger than me so I can tell you, things do get better, your hair looks nice as usual, make up is flawless and so fresh looking, hang in there, pet your pup, kiss your kids ( even if they don't wan't to, lol ) and hope your evening was a great one, here in Toronto is 5pm so your evening must be almost finish by now but tomorrow is another day, feel better, great that you found a natural way and not HRT, it works but it's not very good for us, natural products are so much better.
I’m 50 I was on HRT and ustrogen tablet. I felt horrible couldn’t shift the weight. I looked into herbal remedies and found napiers wild yam cream. It’s been amazing for me. It’s all natural and from a company in Scotland that specialises in herbal remedies. Hope your better soon and you’ve not aged over night your still as beautiful and look just the same. ❤
I think everyone should be on HRT. It keep you young and keeps your bones strong. I look awful with gray hair. Your hair color was so flattering before. I think there is an overnight change that happens about 45. I loved how I looked at 42.
I'll be 45 at the end of the end of the year. I'm shortsighted but also becoming more and more longsighted too. Swear by HRT, been on it almost 5 years. I have put on weight but other than that I feel so much better.
I read an article in the Guardian last weeks, saying people went through two major ageing spurts - where everything suddenly seems to hit at once, first at 44, with wrinkles, weight gain, metabolism changes, aches and pains etc, and another at 60 when risk of alzheimers and heart disease shoot up. They initially thought that the one at 44 yrs was down to menopause, but it happened to men too
Menopause started for me at 45, the month of my oldest daughter's wedding, lol. I also got my first pair of bifocals on my 40th birthday. But don't fret! It gets much much better, I'm 69 now. Finished memo by 50! I love my age now, no more worries, eat healthy, exercise, have fun & quite worrying about what I can't change. Life gets better & more fun as you age.
Great advice Jackie! & so true that it gets better.
Really good to hear. Sometimes as these changes happen, you think "life is over" lol. But I've seen so many older happy people, that it's encouraging.
As hard and horrid as it is ageing in a blessing the alternative is far worse!
Only to validate your feelings, there was a study released today that said instead of what we thought was gradual aging, we actually have two bursts of aging one around the age of 44 and the other around the age of 60. I am now 66 and looking back think this totally was my experience. I think you’re always beautiful and really enjoy watching your content.❤
@@sandranash3545 I saw that too, and was gonna mention it! 💜 An article was published in The Guardian.
It may be menopause!
read that too...will be 44 soon and scared to death..so far I look at least 5 yrs younger, but I already started my preliminary tests for HRT
I think, as a retired beauty therapist the best look on your age going forty plus is.. you - your natural self. Look at Helen Mirren. Trying to look younger just doesen't work.
I would add, look after yourself, hair, skin, teeth etc and enhance your look with makeup which incidentally protects your skin and your just, beautiful
I remember vividly feeling the same Gemma. Unfortunately for me it got worst. The psychological symptoms were horrendous and I don’t think I would be here now without HRT. I’m never giving it up and have made peace with the weight gain, which started to happen anyway before HRT. I now love my body for what it does rather than what it looks like and am so much happier. I hope you find your way through, sending healing hugs ❤
I’ve been going through this too - apathy, weight gain, emotional roller coaster, and also extreme fatigue even with 9 hours of quality sleep. I met with a new-to-me doctor and am on a path to feel better. Can totally relate to everything you said ❤
Hi I went through peri. ..meno for 2 years and then when my periods stopped about 6 months ago and I'm just starting to gather myself together...now feeling good but it did rock my world I felt like a carpet had been pulled from my feet and I was thrown just when I felt I had it all down lols xxx
Thanks for your authenticity! You’re someone I really trust with reviews and that’s bloody rare these days. You look phenomenal even if you don’t feel it ❤
Thanks so much 😊 xxx
I started peri at 32 yo didn't know that's what it was. Had hysterectomy at 45 gained a huge amount of Weight. Went on estrodot patch at 51. It's horrific to be honest all I can say is had my doc not given me hrt I'd be in a wooden box now. My hrt has been tweaked a few times progesterone in d form of utrogestan was added a year ago best thing ever for mood and sleep. Also weight loss and the mitigation of estrogen weight gain which is caused by estrogen dominance. Once my hormones was balanced I started to lose a bit of weight. After 6 months at 280 pounds I had a gastric bypass and lost 150 pounds within 10 months I've kept it off since. HRT when balanced is weight reducing. I hope all works out for uou and that you feel better soon ❤ sending you a virtual hug
Thankyou for including your own experiences with us! Dont feel so alone now with similar feelings and symptoms.❤
I love the way you did your eyeshadow! Very elegant 😊
I feel for you. I went through it in my 40’s and I’m going through it again in my 60’s. I feel like I’ve aged 10 years in the last 2 years. My skin is doing all kinds of crazy things and I still have acne 🤦🏼♀️ Somedays, I don’t even recognize myself. You’re not alone. Hang in there. It will get better. You always make me smile. I like your hair and you always look great.
Bad day be gone!!🎉 Your hair may not look great to you but looks good on camera! Love your authenticity and honesty.; know that we are here supporting you !❤❤
@@marybonome9279 thank you Mary xxx
We've all been there ❤
I'm sorry it took me so much to answer, I've been catching up with your videos...
When I was 47 (I am now 52), the exact same thing occured to me: at once I looked ten years older, I felt ten years older and I had to wear glasses to look at my phone.
I keep telling it to my family and friends, but only a few seem to have experienced this "flash aging".
The bad news is it's never going away, the years added really came to stay (through our eyes); but the good news is that nobody seems to notice those years but us - or at least they appear to notice them gradually rather than all at once, so they don't get any impressed.
You make us happier with your videos, so I hope you get better soon, and be sure you are (and you look like) the same beautiful Gemma!❤
I really like your hair color!! It’s perfect for fall.
I swear I have been in perimenopause for about 10 years and I am 55 now. So right with you on 45 being right around when all that started!!! 😂. I am on HRT and it did help immensely
I am 64 years and have been experiencing menopause symptoms since my mid-40’s😳 I wish I knew what I know now and had started HRT, but at the time everyone said that it causes breastcancer. Now we know that is not true - but it is too late for me, being 13 years post menopause.🙁
@@leneskov5184 Make sure you speak to someone certified in menopause care…I hear it may or may not be too late.
Gemma! Perimenopause is ROUGH! I am 54, and for me, HRT is the way! I gained 35 pounds, and they won’t come off, but I am seeing an endocrinologist about it. Otherwise, HRT is the thing keeping me sane. I know it’s hard to see because we are our own worst critics, but you are beautiful inside and out. As the others have said, be kind to yourself. We’re all with you. 💜
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You described your aging experience perfectly. I felt on top of the world when I turned 40. By 45 I was beginning to unravel and now I'm 47, using HRT patches and not really knowing if they are helping or not because I am so up and down. Know that you aren't alone and you don't have to apologise for not feeling 100%. Your videos bring happiness to a lot of people who understand you're human, and for me that keeps me coming back xx
Hi Gemma, hope that you’re feeling better now. You look beautiful and I hope your evening was enjoyable 💐
I love your hair!
I really feel for you , being a sufferer in my forties too. Keep trying the HRT as there are many different types , I struggled for years trying them and I still take it at 71. Eyesight does change in our forties so pop along to an optician and get some sexy specs. I found it helpful not to make any decisions when I felt low - nothing will feel right , but you will get back to your usual chirpy self don't fret. I know it doesn't feel like it now but you will. Take care xxxxJoy❤
Perimenopause...❤❤❤
Love the darker blonde!
thank you xxx
Gemma I hear you! Been going through this since my late 40’s and I’m now 53. I stopped HRT because of the weight gain, put on nearly 2 stone but unfortunately I haven’t lost any weight at all. Hot flushes are the bane of my life and I’ve recently started taking sage tablets so hoping they help. Lots of us going through this with you, and your down to earth approach and authenticity is why we love you. You always look beautiful in my opinion ❤xx
I’m now 53 and a fitness pro. Have been going through a rough menopause. Extreme fatigue, nausea, body aches, weight gain, hot flashes. I wanted to jump off a cliff! Started hormone replacement therapy and it’s made a big difference. My best advice is to do bloodwork and check your hormone levels. Also, the only thing that beats the weight gain and change of body composition is weight training and proper nutrition. Feel better!!
Totally! I’m 53 and yes it seems overnight! It is quite abrupt!
Hormones honey! And HRT once stopped is brutal!
Hang in there!
Hi Gemma, thank you for sharing. Might be worth getting the spot that isn't going checked out. Thought you looked beautiful as always. xx
I think you always look amazing. I'm turning 70 later this year. I love your tips and tricks. You are in peri-menopause. It WILL pass. I was a mess as well--a total misery. I cried at every TV ad that was the least bit sentimental. It WILL pass and life will be better than ever!
I can relate. I don’t understand why women in my life who have been through perimenopause/menopause never mentioned how awful the changes we go through are. Perimenopause/menopause hit me like a brick and I was not prepared for it 😔
Different for some, my mum was awful she really suffered she changed her personality too she refused HRT but needed it, she fell out with me and was really angry she left my dad one day I found her sat in the car with her head in her hands I didn't know what to do, she even drove herself to A&E in the middle of the night. Fortunately I haven't had problems, my lifestyle is totally different not sure if that's the reason but I eat whole food, I walk at least 6 miles a day overall no alcohol, no cigarettes, no spare tyre no weight issues I sleep really well and no sweats? Go figure?
That was my sentiment…like, why are we not warned. On the other hand, I’ve now noticed that when one mentions the “M” word around the under 40 crowd, there’s a lot of ear covering and eye rolling, like it won’t happen to them. 😂
You have a great skill with eye make up in particular. Your eyes look amazing. Your videos are great. I look forward to more.
Oh babe. So feel for you and we are all in it together. I’m seeing my Dr on Monday for HRT. Put on too much weight and just feeling off ❤🎉❤
Love this! Could you do a house tour soon ? Xx
Just looking at your Mum, I know you're going to be alright. Youre going to age because thats a fact of life but you and Jan are like 2 peas in a pod. You ARE gorgeous and you WILL BE gorgeous. It starts within Gem. Say a self healing mantra every morning...'Today I am a goddess and will kick butt'...or something along those lines;😂
You'll be fine Gem... Its just a phase in all our lives . Sending love xxx
PS. Your 'spot' might be a solar keratosis. I had quite a few appear in my late 40's and early 50's. Xxx
Thanks so much Debs! I now have that mantra etched in my brain I will recite it every day xxx
You're welcome!! Kick butt Girl!!! Xxx
I can totally relate! My body is making unauthorized changes and no amount of threatening it with lawsuits can get it to stop. I’m not impressed! 🤨😉
@@lisalovesphotography I’m with you Lisa. My body is rebelling. Xxx
Unauthorised changes!!! I love this! 😂
Same. Went back on HRT and felt miles better. That was ten(!) years ago and I swear that they'll have to pry HRT from my cold, dead hands.
Same.😊
Yup, me too! Had to change the concoction post menopause, but no way was I coming off it.
Just started HRT a few weeks ago… what a difference
yes wish I would never have been talked out of taking it = but too late now for me to go back on=
OMG! This is what I tell people, word for word 😂
Hi Gemma, oh those days you are experiencing are horrible. I was listening to something this week that said we age noticeably at 44 and 60, not what you wanted to hear, but may make sense.😮 my eyes went then too…deep joy. Still, you look fabulous and those days will pass….great video as always…😊
Nothing wrecks my mood faster than the wrong undertone.
Do you think the Elf eye primer will help with hooded eyes?
You are singing my song girl. I'm just trying to focus on remembering I'm blessed to have made it this far. Best of luck!
Love this hair colour on you
Firstly many thanks for your useful videos 👍
I am 47, my sight went worse in last few years,I wear glasses now and one more pair for reading in the pocket 😂 thinking of varifocals. Thank God I have just few grey hair 😊 so I don't need dye my hair, but mood swings and hot night flushes gone, HRT helps a lot.
Love this look .. and honestly your hair colour looks lovely to me!! I'm 55 and I 100% get how you are feeling, some days I wake up and feel like my (late) lovely grandmother is looking back at me in the mirror!!! And the emotional roller-coaster of the menopause can be horrific. I found with HRT that I bloat when I am on my progesterone days, so for 2 weeks in 4 I feel pregnant!!! Not sure how to cope with the weight gain but maybe ask your menopause nurse/doctor for advice, I am sure there are ways to counter it - for me the HRT gains of feeling emotionally stable and 'normal' (whatever that is !!) far outweighs the feelings of dread, anxiousness and continual sadness (never mind being a total sweaty mess at night - that's a whole other ball-game!!) 🤣💦😰Hope you had a great night x
I’m 46 and a year into perimenopause. It is brutal! Hang in there, Gemma! You are beautiful and a bright star. You’re in good company with all of the women whose bodies stop obeying us!
I love your hair color. Makes you look younger.
Hello, I've really enjoyed discovering your channel and have learned so much from your videos. I was wondering if it's possible for you to do a video on makeup advice for cool / neutral makeup tips? My skin tone is cool, and I really struggle with knowing where to start when looking for products / which makeup looks good on cool or neutral skin tones - mainly things like blush and bronzer 😅 ❤
Ahhhh menopause, remember it well. This too shall pass.
I'm 45 too. I have had a lot of body changes in the past few years too. I take herbs and I've found Wild Yam and Chaste Tree and Maca to help a fair bit. I'd recommend you'd read up on them. You don't need the most expensive brand, just one that puts less fillers in. Not everything is perfect from taking, but it can help. Oh and Botox 😋
Oh yeah! The eyesight and my dental situation went to crap when I hit 40. I’m 47 and watching my skin morph into crepey parchment. The HRT sounds like a great option but to get it the US is next to impossible.
I actually like the color and tone of your hair! Hang in there. We’re all in the same sinking boat 😂
We permanently change after 45 and it’s a long hard journey….but, learn to roll with it, rather than fight it, give yourself a break and don’t over think it. If the people around you, care for you and love you, they too will rock n roll with it. It does get better but your just the start of a long road and acceptance of your situation will make it easier to deal with😊
Gemma can I ask what you think of the Bibi moisture tint I am using colour Fleur and just don’t think it does anything for me. Maybe I’m applying it wrong 🤔 would appreciate your opinion if you have ever used this product. Sorry you are feeling the way you do I am late 50’s and really struggling through the menopause so feel your pain. It’s not fun ! xx
Your hair color looks great ❤
Can totally relate- 45 years old and some days I can age about 10 years within a day 🤯. Also I totally feel you on the eyesight thing too ❤ I think your new colour really suits you 😊
The same day I lost my ability to see small print, I found out that my night sight had deteriorated massively too. I feel like I'm 90 xxx
Have you ever tried any skincare from Allies of Skin?
Remember hrt helps our skin also , protects r bones, and helps fight again parkinsons , arthritis, dementia xxxxxx I put on about half a stone, I just have to cut carbs alot and upped my strength and resistance training and walking. My wish list for Xmas is a weighted vest and indoor treadmill to do incline walking, hoping all thus helps to keep my weight down xxxxx
I'm 47 started HRT last year, best thing i ever did, my mood swings and hot flushes were unbearable. I lost the weight i gained taking HRT about 8kg not sure what that is in pounds maybe around 17, i lost it in the first 3 to 4 months of taking. I take estradiol only tablets, because i had a hysterectomy when i was 41. Maybe if you were feeling a lot better on the HRT it was just the weight gained that made you stop taking it talk to your doctor about trying a different one sometimes it takes a few tries of different ones to get the right one. Hopefully you can sought it out because i would hate for you to continue to feel not like yourself, it's horrible. The finished makeup look is beautiful as always
I had 20/20 vision and since then I have to have yearly eye tests. I avoid wearing my glasses and like you I hold everything a foot away xxx
Please read The New Menopause by Mary Claire Haver. The function of HRT is not just to relieve symptoms.
You see, our eyesight gets bad so we cant see how we’re aging! Its actually a good thing 😂😂😂
@@biljanagarotic I’m coming round to that way of thinking 😂
Welcome to perimenopause! Symptoms being anything that makes you not who you were before. Get yourself some good HRT and supplements asap, and don’t be shy in going back to the surgery to change the HRT if it doesn’t suit - as many times as you need to.
52 and feeling 82! Also having the same , "God, I'm looking older" probably most days!😂 My hair is doing the complete opposite to what I want it to and just feel a mess! Now I'm on the HRT patches I have a lot less symptoms, but like you say, you start to feel like you are losing yourself. Having said that, I thinking I lost myself as soon as I have birth! My personality went off with the placenta!😘
I really understand how you’re feeling and it’s in fact comforting to know that even you can feel that way 😊. I’m 47 and have never had greater body or skin as right now. I look really better and feel more like a woman as in my twenties or thirties. But my age sometimes hounds me and hangs as a shadow over my head. I keep telling myself that it is just a number but that doesn’t help all the time. And indeed it is just a number cause everything depends on how you look and take care of yourself. But still… 😢
I was getting horrible hot flashes at the airport. Everyone was looking at me, and I was afraid the security was gonna check me if I didn't carry drugs in my stomach 😂
I get. I’m 38 and going through perimenopause and last night I cried myself to sleep because I’m not ready. I need HRT but was laughed at by my doctor when I mentioned it. I need to be a bit more forceful I think!
How disgusting of your doctor to laugh at you! 😮 I hope you get the right treatment 🙌
Gemma, have you ever considered going darker for example mid brown with tonal variation? I really think it would suit you.
@@JulieHendry-fw2rg my hair is so naturally white now it’s a struggle when I have brown hair. The regrowth is just too noticeable and I don’t have the time to go to the hairdressers every couple of weeks x
Your hair looks good, Gemma
you always look great whatever color hair
I have learned that we don’t age gradually, but in stages, which can be pretty brutal if you ask me 😅
OMG! You are so correct! I just turned 65 had nothing wrong and soon as I hit 65 arthritis, thyroid testing and I ache everywhere! I certainly hope Father Time takes some time off of me for a little while!
I feel your pain! Everything changed when i hit 40. I'm 47 now and the worst things for me has been the insomnia, brain fog, memory issues, severe anxiety. I have been so close to quitting my job on many occasions as everyday is a nightmare. My doc won't put me on hrt due to family history. 😢
Change a doctor. If it is because of breast cancer, then it is bonkers. There was one, badly done study that made doctors afraid to prescribe it. Thankfully it is changing. HRT has so many long term pros that no one should be denied it. They now give it women who had a cancer! I am afraid that your doctor is stuck in the dark ages.
@@aleksandrawalczak-zacierka9365Exactly👍🏻
I like your hair colour.
Thank you x
❤ Hello from Belgium. Yes, I'd always been considered very young-looking for my age but there was a moment that I definitely did age very quickly in my mid to late 40s but nothing really that noticeable.
At 45 I gave birth to my 2nd daughter (had my 1st at 26).
Evangéline was a huge surprise baby - total blessing.
I think she's the reason why I only really started into perimenopause last year at 54.
I'm 55 now and had my last period after my birthday in February....
For a year now, I've been having frequent hot flashes but, unlike my older sister, no sweating.
I think your hair looks nicer being that bit warmer..
also re makeup… do you use a filter when filming ?? I never know with makeup videos. How the make up looks
What was the herbal thing you were taking?
There's a new article in The Guardian that says ageing happens in spurts. I've had symptoms of "old" all my life, so it hasn't been that much of a shock. I've always had poor eyesight, so graduating to varifocals was fine. I've had arthritis since my early 20s, so that's just continuing. I have put on weight, though, and I can't get rid of it. The menopause nearly killed me, since I developed chronic insomnia. But, hey, I'm still here too. It's been fun getting used to my skin, which has never been this good before. I was put on vit A as a teenager, because I had acne, and I really think a lifetime of versions of vit A is really beneficial. I don't use the strongest versions of it unless I really need it, because you have to be gentle with actives.
4:40 wow 45!? I'd love to know what cosmetic procedures you've had. I'm the same age & have booked my first aesthetician consultation.
Aaarrgh feeling your pain Gem! My crows feet are creeping down my face and the itchy skin!!! 😫😫 Hope you have a nice evening with your daughter ❤❤
What is the procedure you had to eyes What does it do please share love Maria from Cyprus 🎉❤
Keep an eye on the spot x
It's perimenopause!!
You look beautiful!
Because of my kind if breast cancer, I was not a candidate for HRT. My doctor suggested Vitex, or chase tree berry extract, and it was a game changer. Been on it for years, and at 60, still no hormonal swings or physical unpleasantness. Lol
You NEEEEED to try the tarte creaseless undereye powder. It is without doubt the best and most flattering undereye powder. Absolutely worth getting in from the USA website. Shipping is very reasonable. I think it is free over £30 purchase. I have the pink and lavender shades. I like the lavender best
Evening Gemma love the look so pretty
I’ve got to be honest I can feel you pain about the hair I’ve gone & done the same thing & not very happy about it but now having to wait till next week month to make it better see you soon ❤
Gemma, I know you are with Dermatica, have you tried the azelaic acid? I only use it as a spot treatment and it works really well.
I don't usually get spots but I have found Dr Sam's Flawless Brightly which is helping massively xxx
I bought the Sigma eye base primer, the best I have used so far.
I’ll be 85 on 9/13/. It’s your 🎂as well💜😇
Ohh Gemma, bless your heart. I'm in perimenopause at 41 and have had bifocals for 2 years. I know how you feel girl. Hugs and love. It's rough. 😅 ❤🤗
Am sorry to say am in the same position 😢just came off hrt for the second time cause for me gaining weight happened both time and as soon as i come off the weight and my tummy goes down. Am someone that has been into fitness etc all my life so i know my body and it doesnt like the extra hormones but my poor mind does. We cant win! Hope you get sorted soon but please know your not alone not that that helps 😢i have went and had lip filler and hair extension to make myself feel better 😂 sending you lots of love ❤
It happened at around 43 for me. Massive skin changes, hair thinning in front, glasses had to change to bifocals.
I woke up the other day with a double chin, it seemed to appear overnight 😂 I’m not impressed. Getting old sucks but you are doing a great job of looking your very best. You are not alone ❤
There was a recent study that says aging is not done slowly and over time, but in bursts which have been recorded at age 44 and again at 60!! Sounds like you might be experiencing that. I definitely remember waking up one day in my mid-40s and thinking "what happened?!?!"
Gemma … I know exactly how you feel… & I do sympathise.. but saying that you look spectacular even if you don’t like the warmth of your hair, that can be “taken care of”, so don’t despair, you look as gorgeous as ever …😊 & you do have a spectacular personality to match !! ❤️
I turned 36 this month and last year I had the same issue with looking in the mirror and like.. oh I’m not a young adult anymore. Affected not only the way I see myself physically, but it was a mess in all the sides. I think we all go through this in different ages
Yes it happens, you go to bed fine and wake up and almost scream to the mirror, some days things just do not work, you are young, a lot younger than me so I can tell you, things do get better, your hair looks nice as usual, make up is flawless and so fresh looking, hang in there, pet your pup, kiss your kids ( even if they don't wan't to, lol ) and hope your evening was a great one, here in Toronto is 5pm so your evening must be almost finish by now but tomorrow is another day, feel better, great that you found a natural way and not HRT, it works but it's not very good for us, natural products are so much better.
Thanks Maria xxx
OMG!! I'm 45 next month and it's like you're talking about me...
I’m almost 46 - not menopausal yet but I’m sure I’m peri menopausal lol 😂.
Thanks so much for sharing ❤xxx
❤️❤️..you are so beautiful..love from Milano
I’m 50 I was on HRT and ustrogen tablet. I felt horrible couldn’t shift the weight. I looked into herbal remedies and found napiers wild yam cream. It’s been amazing for me. It’s all natural and from a company in Scotland that specialises in herbal remedies. Hope your better soon and you’ve not aged over night your still as beautiful and look just the same. ❤
I think everyone should be on HRT. It keep you young and keeps your bones strong. I look awful with gray hair. Your hair color was so flattering before. I think there is an overnight change that happens about 45. I loved how I looked at 42.
I'll be 45 at the end of the end of the year. I'm shortsighted but also becoming more and more longsighted too. Swear by HRT, been on it almost 5 years. I have put on weight but other than that I feel so much better.
I read an article in the Guardian last weeks, saying people went through two major ageing spurts - where everything suddenly seems to hit at once, first at 44, with wrinkles, weight gain, metabolism changes, aches and pains etc, and another at 60 when risk of alzheimers and heart disease shoot up. They initially thought that the one at 44 yrs was down to menopause, but it happened to men too
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Your haired looks lovely jammy ❤❤