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Thank you for sharing your story Mike. You are a such beautiful soul. As a single mother of a 10 yo boy, hearing your story makes me even more protective of my son. Sending love and blessings to you✨🖤✨
hi lynn ngugi....i'm nicole and i'm mike's sister. i'm the one who was raped and he walked in as i was raped. i was five i think. i'm so glad how far God has brought us and i'm so proud of how we have turned. i'm so proud of mike and i'd say i'm lucky to have him as my brother.
Mothers let's learn something here, I'm quoting "I was never close to my mother, she was too strict and instructipmal....." let's all learn, the mom thought she was disciplining the kid but she was pushing him away at the same time. LET'S LEARN, 😭 let's open those friendship and communication doors with our kids without being too easy! Mike God will fight the battle in your heart, may he give you peace that trespasses all understanding ♥️
When you are a strict it instils fear. You can maintain discipline and still learn to be the first person your child comes to when they are in trouble.
Sometimes you just have to let it go. My dad and my mum are from the same village but they separated after I was born. From then I never saw my dad in my life again because he used to work in the city and he would rarely come home. I tried connect with him when I joined highschool in vain. I even called him alot but he never answered. I struggled in highschool with fees and life was really tough. After highschool, I tried to look for him to help me with college but he never responded. I got lucky to move abroad for my studies and so far I am doing well. This is what I learned, don't ever forced yourself to somebody. Love those who love you and leave those who dislike you. They will just come by themselves. Bitter truth is that your dad doesn't like you. Just concentrate on your life, at least that experience has coached you to be a good future dad to your kids.
My goodness .God bless this man and forgive him for not helping his sister but also for not helping himself.I went through the same with my mothers male cousin from age 7-9 years.My mom who is a nurse never even realized that I was being abused after getting so sick for so long.Relatives gossiped about my sickness they all knew what I had.My parents were so strict I couldn’t tell them what was going on under their own roof.Talking to my parents was so difficult because of fear.Later in my 30,s a few years ago when I told her ,her response was “why did you not tell me ,maybe you liked it “🥺.I was a child. The abuse affected me for so long,I always wanted to leave home and never come back,home was not a safe place for me.I lashed out a lot and made some choices that affected me until today,I wanted to meet someone and desperately get married and never come back home,I met an abusive man again and got pregnant while in University and he refused to care for his children (I had triplets at age23) God used everything to bless me.I am so grateful to God for his love and forgiveness, for today I hold tight to God and believe in his word and 10 commandments which I follow deligently .As a single mom I warned my daughters at a very young age to never allow any man to touch them or see them naked.They don’t even allow me to see them with a towel or dressing up as teenagers and have grown to be such disciplined girls who don’t care about going out to meet men or things of the world.I have allowed them to come to me with every problem and I don’t judge them . God bless those who have suffered in silence because of decisions made by those who should be caring for them. The man who molested me died later in my 20,s. Parents give your children room to Approach you while they are hurting .Be their first go to person.Be open with your children and protect them from such monsters.
@@deegathoni6647 thank you dear.I did not pull through God did it .My younger years were full of pain and searching for love and protection,I met so many abusers even within family I was rejected.God choose to bless me I cried and asked why these things happened to me.It was God ,I would never have pulled through.God gave me the strength and I became a very strong woman who fights for children and women.
This is so awful and my heart goes out to you for all the trauma you went through. The greatest lesson from you experience for me is that you never let the pain shield you from the face of God. My prayers are with you and your adorable family, your daughters are blessed and so are you.
I resonate with you. Your story is just like mine. Am in my early 30's and unluckily I still have not have healed. If I could get one to talk to and walk through the healing journey.
@@NileGoddess God commands us to humble ourselves. He doesn't humble anyone. Whenever He does, it is rare and memorable. It is humiliation Nebuchadnezzar style.
Oh my goodness, that's so emotionally draining for him.... it's sad how children suffer in the hands of those that are supposed to protect them. Thanks Lynn.....waiting for part 2
Evil, evil. Man having sec with mother and daughter. Man sleeping with man. All kinds of nastiness. Evil, evil. Only God can help with the forgiveness. These people go into marriage and messes up everything. Evil evil evil.
Mike is was my good friend from campus.I loved his height.I still do.My friend s couldn't understand my fondness for him being a class behind me.i was simply drawn to his height and that he was very polite.Mike you are strong.You are a conquerer, rejection has never defined you.Baba'a has missed out on a great man.You are a great person.It is already well.
You froze because that is a natural response to trauma. When faced with danger, we either run, freeze or fight. Am so sorry to listen to this. As a child protection professional, I see how much adverse childhood experiences such as sexual abuse greatly affect children even more in their adult lives.
Nobody quite understands another person's pain till they've sat down and begged God to heal their heart,it is well.The first step of healing begins with talking.
Parents ,parents however busy you are, always make sure you have time for your kids, how this guy was raised from auntie, uncle, real mum... I thank my auntie who took full responsibility of me after my father passed in 1999,.. I was always her 1st born (she had 4). In her introduction she'd introduce Me as firstlady
He just told my story. Now I know I have never been alone and never will be. It is just a proof of our brokenness as a people and as families. I also just finished a learning on women's health and human rights where I was able to understand the historical and current biases and suffering that women have to contend with. My finding was beyond that. Men like myself and wakili suffer as much due to the same reasons. Let us make it right, but how? Lets talk it out.
Never blame yourself for not doing anything on that day. You were a child that was dealing with trauma yourself plus the shock and fear of what you were seeing. We must never forget that children are not projects we can abandon and shift around to diffrent people when things don't work out. It's at least a 18 year long commitment. God help and protect children from family pedophiles
What a powerful and accurate statement. Let's us mothers have this conversation. When a marriage fails , the child is not to be neglected, pushed around into peoples homes etc. children are a LIFETIME COMMITMENT
@@joanmiksabel3598 Shock and the cultural contradiction of compulsory respect for an older person, even when they blatantly do not merit any respect. Sometimes, our careful upbringing is our undoing, in Africa.
Wah,,boy child sometimes go alot ad out of fear they ought to keep the challenges they're going through to themselves, bigup to Mike for coming out, Thanx Lynn for reaching to such men, not easy buh it's your call gal.
Watching this while hustling away from my kids breaks my heart into a million pieces... may God protect all our kids and continue to give us grace as we hustle to get them basic needs.
Mike has been through a lot. You can tell by his voice that he’s still hurting. I hope he finally accepts himself because God saved him from dying. God definitely has a purpose for you as his child. I pray you find peace in your heart so that you can completely heal. Waiting for part 2
Feel like giving this guy a big Hug,So soft spoken one wouldn’t tell he has gone through sooo much.... My learned friend your past doesn’t define ur future... Keep winning....
Thanks Lynn for this stories,I learn alot as a young mother of three.i have to protect my kids from predictors who most of the time are relatives and friends.
I'm.very proud of you my brother for your courage and openness, you are breaking the viscious cycle of abuse not only in your immediate family but you are liberating many men in our nation who have gone through the same horrible situation. That shows strength. Why should you go through turmoil and keep silent on the sins which are not yours.
Naomba wale watoto wanalelewa na single parent waelewe kitu moja. Sometimes it's good to appreciate what that single parents is offering. I was raised by my both parents but it messed me up seing my mum and us go through hell in his hands....heri mamangu angejitoa kitambo ile maisha tumepitia only God knows. Kusema tu ukweli kama si kujua Mungu naeza sema simpendi babangu. HAKUNA MZAZI HUTAMANI AZAE ALEE PEKE YAKE. NI MAISHA HUBADILIKA
Lynn, what a moving story, yet told with the highest quality of composure! Is there anything in the law that can be invoked retrospectively to address some of the injustices like child molestation (sodomy/rape)??? Who can protect our children? Have we always failed so miserably as a society? The pain is too much now!
This story reminds me of days when i wished someone would adopt me just to love me …nothing more..just love…because I’ve never felt the love of a parent
Oh, what a painful story. Why are fathers so heartless to their children? This can cause lifetime emotional damage. I'm glad you lived to tell the story 🙏🏾
I reconnected with my father after 32yrs but even then he has never contacted me. I feel his pain and know how it feel to be abandoned and never had the chance to have a father figure. I miss that a lot, he has other children and I guess he can’t find it in his heart to keep any contact. So sad . Thanks @Lynn Ngugi for bringing people who can open up because this is like a support group for people how have the same traumas and can’t talk about it.
Abuse is prevalent in African culture right across the board, child abuse, sexual, physical, verbal, domestic, psychological, gender, financial . and a lot of adults are damaged due to these toxic experiences. Thank God that these programs have provided a platform for a lot of people to share their experiences, and brought a lot of exposure. And our culture, society and parents protect the abusers. Its insane This generation has to work hard to stop this toxicity recurring. And individuals responsible should be held accountable
I am so touched by Mike’s story. Knowing him from law school, I feel sorry about what he endured through life. He is one intelligent guy. I used to admire him so much.
guys, i grew up almost in similar setting where my parents separated when i was only 7months old, used to go to my grandmother who would let me know of when my father would be back home, he was there in Nairobi and we r Ugandans but am telling you the pride of having a dad abroad nearly finished me😂😂😂 and i had not even seen him. until i met him in 2007 from 1993 but luckily enough we bonded well and he took up his responsibilities. i feel your pain dear and am eagerly waiting for part 2
For me I never met my dad ,if he rejected me at birth what else do I want from him ? nothing.its so painful to be rejected as a child,but luckily I found a good dad who gave me his name,and treated me as his child.Opondos mum was a good woman,she let him know his dad.
I’m searching for my dad , I’m now 37 years old. I understand that he also rejected me and disappeared as soon as he heard that my mum was pregnant with me. But again, my mum was still in high school.. my mum doesn’t talk about this at all, my aunts, uncle and my grandparents also never talk about it or they claim that they don’t know anything about him. I some how blame my mom for not telling me exactly what happened then. The relationship with mum is also not the best, I keep trying to be a nice daughter, but there’s lots of tension. Given that I grew up with my maternal grandparents in the village, mum was always away in the city “working” and after some years she came to Europe with her mzungu who later married her and also joined them years later when I was 16 years old. All this has made it hard to search for my dad, coz I’m not in Kenya , I’ve tried all ways.. my hope is LYNN too, lakini I know it’s tough coz I only have his 2 names and the place he used to work, where he was lastly seen. I don’t even know what next, but I must find him!!!!! This is all I need now and maybe I will be at peace in my heart!
People always go through a lot in life and watching these stories gives us hope to press on, thank you Lynn for bringing stories to I really learn a lot
Wow! As parents, we must always have conversations with our children, you never know what might be said. Be gentle and kind to them yet maintain a reasonable balance of firmness with endurance. Harshness doesn't work for every child in the home.
I can feel Mike's pain as someone who also didn't grow up with my father yet I felt strong love for my dad more than mum. God bless you Mike for representing us.
I literally don't know my father and this pains me because whenever I get into a relationship I expect too much man love which I didn't get from my dad.many people don't understand the pain we go through but in God and through people who are facing the same situation opening up it really makes me feel better and appreciate everything in my life 😌😌😌
I am so so proud of you Michael!! This is the first step to healing. I pray that you get to now walk with your head high and become who you have always want to do. You have a great future and God has great plans for you. Roi Ministries has forums for children of single parents and you are welcome to reach out to us. You are blessed!
Most families have these monsters in the name of relatives..my uncle used to molest my sister the same way my mom's cousin used to do the same thing to me😭😭 we could not tell anyone because our mom left us there tukiwa wachanga sana,life was never easy we had no one to talk 💔 😢 but all in all tunamshukuru mungu we are alive and kicking I wish my mom could see this..Mike I hug you
Sad story and great lessons to parents. Don't beat yourself for not doing anything and freezing when you entered that room. Fight, Flee or Freeze are our human responses to traumatic situations. That was traumatic... Thank your for being brave for speaking out.
That's why i feel bad for the boy who was taken by a man who is not even his biological dad. The man uses his position as he works in judiciary to frustrate the mother who lives in Australia to get her son back or even to see him. May be even the boy is being molested by that guy makokha. Lynn should cover that story, it was in Tuko.
Grown ups can treat kids as they wish,but let it be understood to them that kids never forget,as much as they may wish kids forgot whatever was done to them..I'm now convinced that,this is happening in almost every family,not just to girls,boys are being molested too.are we talking to kids enough? Are we being friendly enough for them to open up?. I watched THE GAME'S documentary( the rapper) who also walked on his own father molesting his kid sister.,that's when they were taken to foster care.and the father in prison..tells you how serious western countries take this accusations serious.you can't just let the same person ruining kids close to them anymore..I saw a gangster rapper shed tears telling that story.
When you think you have heard it all from Lynn’s chair, then you hear more and more painful stories. I am glad that this young man has healed. I hope we of this generation can be better parents, especially where co-parenting is concerned. Blended families need to be a norm and even if parents have separated, kids should be raised by both. Make an arrangement that works for the children. There is absolutely no reason this man should have missed out on having a dad. God please heal our land.
things you go through childhood they don't affect at that time untill adulthood stage you start facing traumas 🥺,i always tell myself am gonna be number one best friend to my kids coz I know the feeling of growing up in relatives homes and the gap between your parent😢
The story of Mike Opondo has got tears 😭 rolling down,..... Especially his consistence calls to his assuming dad,.....I feel your pain bro,......You so humble,God is just good for you,Your courage is above all,.....I respect you Mike,.....🎓
Omg,this is soo touching...let's wait for part 2 before judging,,but in real sense this man went through alot on his childhood,but I thank God he's here...waiting for part 2 much love Lynn
so brave of Mike revealing this...families are surely being enlightened to pay more attention to their children allow them to express themselves... Mike can consider taking a journey to trauma healing and counseling to overcome the unfortunate/hurtful childhood & that he'll be emotionally ready to rear his own family. Kudos Mike, i sense you're a very brilliant guy too...keep up the good work, I'm super proud of you young man💪
My heart goes to this young man and the suffering he has been to.No child should go through this evil of the uncle. Nobody should trust a relative because they can be child molesters .I didn’t know that there were such men in our Kenyan community. Lynn Ngugi thanks for sharing this program and showing us all is not well in families. Children should be told not to trust relatives,friends or any other person who gets to be to friendly.
I reconnected with my father after 32yrs but even then he has never contacted me. I feel his pain and know how it feel to be abandoned and never had the chance to have a father figure. I miss that a lot, he has other children and I guess he can’t find it in his heart to keep any contact. So sad . Thanks @Lynn Ngugi for bringing people who can open up because this is like a support group for people how have the same traumas and can’t talk about it.
Why did the mum Not stay with him??I kinda blame her too,I would never abandoned my kid for a man,if he can't take me and my baby acha sote tukae..This is the reason I will never get married or get another baby,acha nilee pekeyangu Hadi siku nitatoka kwa hii dunia.
The pain one goes through for being rejected is just too much,especially with the one you are told they are your parents but then they give you deaf ear and cold sholder,no child should go through this ,except the parents are dead ,I was brought up by my grandmother and my uncle and I know what it feels like, and it doesn't go away no matter how you forgive can't forget
Mike pole sana, though I feel he still needs a lot of phyciatric help, if you listen 👂 carefully sometimes he tells the story as if in the present, some present continuous and some in the past, I think Bado hajaachilia kabisa, unfortunately I think he was very traumatized, hope his heart fully heals
Being a counselor I really empathize with Mike ! We have to encourage our children to claim their space in our hearts and in the house so that they are able to share their experiences! Thank you mike for taking the therapy and coming out to share! Inconsistency is a reality and it can easily make us lose our focus! So mike remember there are many out here that have benefited in your sharing be blessed 🙏🏼
This is a picture of a dog or a pig that eats its young ones immediately after birth to ensure it survives. A chicken that protects chicks not from her eggs yet with all powers. To every child that has ever been brought up by a single mom or dad or any parent figure be safe because someone feels your absence is their survival. Am one of those eggs that landed in hands of good chicken but am sorry to say the dog/pig parent is forgiven and enjoying my success after the chicken fought all the burdens.
So Sorry Young Man for what you went through during your childhood. You are still mourning Mama Eddy-loss & grief. This opening part is beginning of his healing. He needs therapy. It shall be well. Rev.joyce-coun/psychologist too
So sad for when he went through and seeing same thing happen to the sister. It's a good thing men are opening up to what's eating them inside. Parents let's be very close to our kids such that they can open up on every tiny little thing they're going through in their lives.
Woi I pray for soul healing of all the people who have been molested and raped either as children or adults.. It's overwhelming and so tragic.. Am so sorry opondo it was not your fault thank you for sharing.. I send you love and feel comforted... It is well
My opinion: It would be nice if the host would ask some questions along the way. I know it's a sensitive topic but as the guest was speaking I was asking myself questions which I thought the host would ask to bring out more information.
Why are hospitals not sending reports to police. There has to be a network to protect children. We should not care about whether parents will press charges or not.
😭😭😭 rape is the most painful wound. Take heart bro don't blame yourself. I have learned to let go of things that I can do nothing about. It's painful and never easy but protect your heart. 😭😭🤔
Ohhho my Ghosh Our brother needs a lot of healing images what he went through so sad. The only medicine is blood of Jesus it will change everything and make you a brand new 🙏🏾🙏🏾
Sadly,when a parent is unavailable because of Selfishness and/or Generational Cycles,it leaves very deep scars in ALL aspects. I am so so proud of you Mike. You are indeed bold...very bold. That you can speak about this,it's testament that you have and are beautifully healing. Sending you hugs and much love 💕💕💕
This story is being narrated without external tears laments complaints . They are however at the background of the actual feelings that are being displayed. What ??? Narrating such a painful journey in such a cold manner ? Tchayiii ! This guy is an amazing epitome of strength courage beauty of the soul. I see God s love fully displayed in your life . You are a champion man much much much love sweetheart. We love you 😍 more is coming your way in Jesus name 🙏
So sad😭😭😭!!! This brings in me the picture of my son, the torture he went through in his evil dad's hands.... May you never find peace stiv. This guy resembles Anyang nyong the governor, who else noticed 🤔🤔
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Thank you for sharing your story Mike. You are a such beautiful soul. As a single mother of a 10 yo boy, hearing your story makes me even more protective of my son. Sending love and blessings to you✨🖤✨
What kind of grandmother that will not tell her son to go take care of his child?
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hi lynn ngugi....i'm nicole and i'm mike's sister. i'm the one who was raped and he walked in as i was raped. i was five i think. i'm so glad how far God has brought us and i'm so proud of how we have turned. i'm so proud of mike and i'd say i'm lucky to have him as my brother.
@lynnngugi here is the sister!
Big up Nicole ,you're such a strong soul.
Am so sorry girl for what you went through. Hugs dear
sorry
❤️❤️❤️💪💪 stay strong
Mothers let's learn something here, I'm quoting "I was never close to my mother, she was too strict and instructipmal....." let's all learn, the mom thought she was disciplining the kid but she was pushing him away at the same time. LET'S LEARN, 😭 let's open those friendship and communication doors with our kids without being too easy! Mike God will fight the battle in your heart, may he give you peace that trespasses all understanding ♥️
When you are a strict it instils fear. You can maintain discipline and still learn to be the first person your child comes to when they are in trouble.
We attended same High school.
I was in form 4 when he joined.
He was ever quite and shy.
I admire his strength and proud of him.
Sometimes you just have to let it go. My dad and my mum are from the same village but they separated after I was born. From then I never saw my dad in my life again because he used to work in the city and he would rarely come home. I tried connect with him when I joined highschool in vain. I even called him alot but he never answered. I struggled in highschool with fees and life was really tough. After highschool, I tried to look for him to help me with college but he never responded. I got lucky to move abroad for my studies and so far I am doing well. This is what I learned, don't ever forced yourself to somebody. Love those who love you and leave those who dislike you. They will just come by themselves. Bitter truth is that your dad doesn't like you. Just concentrate on your life, at least that experience has coached you to be a good future dad to your kids.
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My goodness .God bless this man and forgive him for not helping his sister but also for not helping himself.I went through the same with my mothers male cousin from age 7-9 years.My mom who is a nurse never even realized that I was being abused after getting so sick for so long.Relatives gossiped about my sickness they all knew what I had.My parents were so strict I couldn’t tell them what was going on under their own roof.Talking to my parents was so difficult because of fear.Later in my 30,s a few years ago when I told her ,her response was “why did you not tell me ,maybe you liked it “🥺.I was a child.
The abuse affected me for so long,I always wanted to leave home and never come back,home was not a safe place for me.I lashed out a lot and made some choices that affected me until today,I wanted to meet someone and desperately get married and never come back home,I met an abusive man again and got pregnant while in University and he refused to care for his children (I had triplets at age23)
God used everything to bless me.I am so grateful to
God for his love and forgiveness, for today I hold tight to God and believe in his word and 10 commandments which I follow deligently .As a single mom I warned my daughters at a very young age to never allow any man to touch them or see them naked.They don’t even allow me to see them with a towel or dressing up as teenagers and have grown to be such disciplined girls who don’t care about going out to meet men or things of the world.I have allowed them to come to me with every problem and I don’t judge them .
God bless those who have suffered in silence because of decisions made by those who should be caring for them.
The man who molested me died later in my 20,s.
Parents give your children room to Approach you while they are hurting .Be their first go to person.Be open with your children and protect them from such monsters.
Wow, the Lord's grace is sufficient & He's our ever present help. Happy you pulled through. Glory to God
@@deegathoni6647 thank you dear.I did not pull through God did it .My younger years were full of pain and searching for love and protection,I met so many abusers even within family I was rejected.God choose to bless me I cried and asked why these things happened to me.It was God ,I would never have pulled through.God gave me the strength and I became a very strong woman who fights for children and women.
Amen & amen. It can only be God.
This is so awful and my heart goes out to you for all the trauma you went through. The greatest lesson from you experience for me is that you never let the pain shield you from the face of God. My prayers are with you and your adorable family, your daughters are blessed and so are you.
I resonate with you. Your story is just like mine. Am in my early 30's and unluckily I still have not have healed. If I could get one to talk to and walk through the healing journey.
He's so humble that from the looks someone can't tell he's a lawyer. Maybe it's the humility that made God uplift him
When you have gone through so much.God humbles you.
@@NileGoddess God commands us to humble ourselves. He doesn't humble anyone. Whenever He does, it is rare and memorable. It is humiliation Nebuchadnezzar style.
@@teopistorsind9874 absolutely.Humility comes from God most humans struggle with humility
That's why am raising my son not too strict and we talk about everything. Parents let's communicate with our kids openly.
Sure me too, I discuss alot with my son,
Absolutely be open with your child .It’s the best way to raise them
It's very important to do this. That way they will open up and disclose everything.
Yes thats a sure thing and self esteem is the best weapon.
He speaks and looks like Anyang Nyongo
He's so eloquent and soft spoken . You'd never guess he has all this inside 🥺. Quit sad and also motivating video. Aki woie . Virtual hugs 🤗🤗
The Pain in his Voice when he Talks of his Father is too much for me to bear. So sorry for what they went through with his Sister.
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Oh my goodness, that's so emotionally draining for him.... it's sad how children suffer in the hands of those that are supposed to protect them.
Thanks Lynn.....waiting for part 2
Vero Vero the lady with a unique gift... laughter. Much love. I just watched the tour of golgotha. Very emotional for me. Force a toi ma chérie
@@SUUN...449 😅🤝 thanks
Evil, evil. Man having sec with mother and daughter. Man sleeping with man. All kinds of nastiness. Evil, evil. Only God can help with the forgiveness. These people go into marriage and messes up everything. Evil evil evil.
Mike is was my good friend from campus.I loved his height.I still do.My friend s couldn't understand my fondness for him being a class behind me.i was simply drawn to his height and that he was very polite.Mike you are strong.You are a conquerer, rejection has never defined you.Baba'a has missed out on a great man.You are a great person.It is already well.
Yaani,mtoto akutafute hivyo vyote na hata haikugusi popote?kweli wewe baba mike ulikuwa na roho ngumu!
You will be supprised by what people go through trying to reach out to them daddies.
You froze because that is a natural response to trauma. When faced with danger, we either run, freeze or fight. Am so sorry to listen to this. As a child protection professional, I see how much adverse childhood experiences such as sexual abuse greatly affect children even more in their adult lives.
Nobody quite understands another person's pain till they've sat down and begged God to heal their heart,it is well.The first step of healing begins with talking.
Parents ,parents however busy you are, always make sure you have time for your kids, how this guy was raised from auntie, uncle, real mum...
I thank my auntie who took full responsibility of me after my father passed in 1999,.. I was always her 1st born (she had 4). In her introduction she'd introduce Me as firstlady
He just told my story.
Now I know I have never been alone and never will be.
It is just a proof of our brokenness as a people and as families.
I also just finished a learning on women's health and human rights where I was able to understand the historical and current biases and suffering that women have to contend with. My finding was beyond that. Men like myself and wakili suffer as much due to the same reasons.
Let us make it right, but how? Lets talk it out.
So sorry for that
sorry
Never blame yourself for not doing anything on that day. You were a child that was dealing with trauma yourself plus the shock and fear of what you were seeing. We must never forget that children are not projects we can abandon and shift around to diffrent people when things don't work out. It's at least a 18 year long commitment. God help and protect children from family pedophiles
Kabisa!
What a powerful and accurate statement. Let's us mothers have this conversation. When a marriage fails , the child is not to be neglected, pushed around into peoples homes etc. children are a LIFETIME COMMITMENT
Very well said
It wasn't fear but shock!
@@joanmiksabel3598 Shock and the cultural contradiction of compulsory respect for an older person, even when they blatantly do not merit any respect.
Sometimes, our careful upbringing is our undoing, in Africa.
Tuko wengi..the psychology damage of parental rejection is indescribable.. Take heart!
Omg, Mike was my high school class mate. You wouldn't imagine he went through all this, very calm and bright. You are strong man.
This so painful my God
I hope you have a therapist Lynn . This stories are heartbreaking but they open our eyes and prompt us to be more alert as parents. Thank you
Wah,,boy child sometimes go alot ad out of fear they ought to keep the challenges they're going through to themselves, bigup to Mike for coming out, Thanx Lynn for reaching to such men, not easy buh it's your call gal.
Watching this while hustling away from my kids breaks my heart into a million pieces... may God protect all our kids and continue to give us grace as we hustle to get them basic needs.
May God make a way for you so that you will be near them.
My thoughts too am away from my kids hustling also but this has touched me may God bless us
So painful but there is nothing we can do
Me too, very far away from my daughter but 1 thing for sure God is watching over her for me.
It's very hard seriously may God protect them
Mike has been through a lot. You can tell by his voice that he’s still hurting. I hope he finally accepts himself because God saved him from dying. God definitely has a purpose for you as his child. I pray you find peace in your heart so that you can completely heal. Waiting for part 2
Indeed
Feel like giving this guy a big Hug,So soft spoken one wouldn’t tell he has gone through sooo much....
My learned friend your past doesn’t define ur future...
Keep winning....
Thanks Lynn for this stories,I learn alot as a young mother of three.i have to protect my kids from predictors who most of the time are relatives and friends.
in the now world , it’s very crazy to raise a child 😢! from teachers to relatives to friends … any can be a beast 😢
Yes ,but there is hope.future parents like Opondo will treat their children well opposite of how they were treated.
Haiya! Both names
@@maureenwambui2992 wow👌
I'm.very proud of you my brother for your courage and openness, you are breaking the viscious cycle of abuse not only in your immediate family but you are liberating many men in our nation who have gone through the same horrible situation. That shows strength. Why should you go through turmoil and keep silent on the sins which are not yours.
Naomba wale watoto wanalelewa na single parent waelewe kitu moja.
Sometimes it's good to appreciate what that single parents is offering.
I was raised by my both parents but it messed me up seing my mum and us go through hell in his hands....heri mamangu angejitoa kitambo ile maisha tumepitia only God knows. Kusema tu ukweli kama si kujua Mungu naeza sema simpendi babangu.
HAKUNA MZAZI HUTAMANI AZAE ALEE PEKE YAKE.
NI MAISHA HUBADILIKA
Wewe stori yako inafanana na yangu
Lynn, what a moving story, yet told with the highest quality of composure!
Is there anything in the law that can be invoked retrospectively to address some of the injustices like child molestation (sodomy/rape)??? Who can protect our children? Have we always failed so miserably as a society? The pain is too much now!
This story reminds me of days when i wished someone would adopt me just to love me …nothing more..just love…because I’ve never felt the love of a parent
Kuja nikupende mama
Hugs dear ❤
Oh, what a painful story. Why are fathers so heartless to their children? This can cause lifetime emotional damage. I'm glad you lived to tell the story 🙏🏾
I reconnected with my father after 32yrs but even then he has never contacted me. I feel his pain and know how it feel to be abandoned and never had the chance to have a father figure. I miss that a lot, he has other children and I guess he can’t find it in his heart to keep any contact. So sad . Thanks @Lynn Ngugi for bringing people who can open up because this is like a support group for people how have the same traumas and can’t talk about it.
@@Lillian-pt7tp Pole, may God shower you with his love & strength as he is our almighty father 🙏🏾💖
@@estahadassah9470 Thanks A lot Esta. God bless.
There are some people who are just heartless.
Life is so cruel, be kind to people/strangers when you met them. Society is sick but a little kindness can ease the pain.
For those fathers who want to be in their childrens' lives please don't keep them away.
Abuse is prevalent in African culture right across the board, child abuse, sexual, physical, verbal, domestic, psychological, gender, financial . and a lot of adults are damaged due to these toxic experiences. Thank God that these programs have provided a platform for a lot of people to share their experiences, and brought a lot of exposure. And our culture, society and parents protect the abusers. Its insane This generation has to work hard to stop this toxicity recurring. And individuals responsible should be held accountable
He sounds so broken 💔 may he find healing.
I am so touched by Mike’s story. Knowing him from law school, I feel sorry about what he endured through life.
He is one intelligent guy. I used to admire him so much.
Lynn thank you for giving him time to talk at his own pace.
So true.. And I hv patiently watched because this is a class for me
Underline the word "pace" . I have never been this patient watching something
The first thing realized...
guys, i grew up almost in similar setting where my parents separated when i was only 7months old, used to go to my grandmother who would let me know of when my father would be back home, he was there in Nairobi and we r Ugandans but am telling you the pride of having a dad abroad nearly finished me😂😂😂 and i had not even seen him. until i met him in 2007 from 1993 but luckily enough we bonded well and he took up his responsibilities. i feel your pain dear and am eagerly waiting for part 2
Even though u were heartbroken receive healing in the Mighty name of God AMEN 🙏 🙌
For me I never met my dad ,if he rejected me at birth what else do I want from him ? nothing.its so painful to be rejected as a child,but luckily I found a good dad who gave me his name,and treated me as his child.Opondos mum was a good woman,she let him know his dad.
Me too, why would I look for someone who rejected me hata kama hajaniona
I’m searching for my dad , I’m now 37 years old. I understand that he also rejected me and disappeared as soon as he heard that my mum was pregnant with me. But again, my mum was still in high school.. my mum doesn’t talk about this at all, my aunts, uncle and my grandparents also never talk about it or they claim that they don’t know anything about him. I some how blame my mom for not telling me exactly what happened then. The relationship with mum is also not the best, I keep trying to be a nice daughter, but there’s lots of tension. Given that I grew up with my maternal grandparents in the village, mum was always away in the city “working” and after some years she came to Europe with her mzungu who later married her and also joined them years later when I was 16 years old. All this has made it hard to search for my dad, coz I’m not in Kenya , I’ve tried all ways.. my hope is LYNN too, lakini I know it’s tough coz I only have his 2 names and the place he used to work, where he was lastly seen. I don’t even know what next, but I must find him!!!!! This is all I need now and maybe I will be at peace in my heart!
People always go through a lot in life and watching these stories gives us hope to press on, thank you Lynn for bringing stories to I really learn a lot
Wow! As parents, we must always have conversations with our children, you never know what might be said. Be gentle and kind to them yet maintain a reasonable balance of firmness with endurance. Harshness doesn't work for every child in the home.
Michael's voice, his demeaner, everything is just so sad.
Has he had counselling? May God heal him.
I can feel Mike's pain as someone who also didn't grow up with my father yet I felt strong love for my dad more than mum. God bless you Mike for representing us.
I literally don't know my father and this pains me because whenever I get into a relationship I expect too much man love which I didn't get from my dad.many people don't understand the pain we go through but in God and through people who are facing the same situation opening up it really makes me feel better and appreciate everything in my life 😌😌😌
Did your mother raise you? And why wasn’t your father present in your life?
@@darkcontinentschild2962 I was raised by relatives like Mike and I don't know the reason behind why my dad isn't in my life
I am so so proud of you Michael!! This is the first step to healing. I pray that you get to now walk with your head high and become who you have always want to do. You have a great future and God has great plans for you. Roi Ministries has forums for children of single parents and you are welcome to reach out to us. You are blessed!
I'm just happy I grew with this pride where if you reject me, I don't want you either
Most families have these monsters in the name of relatives..my uncle used to molest my sister the same way my mom's cousin used to do the same thing to me😭😭 we could not tell anyone because our mom left us there tukiwa wachanga sana,life was never easy we had no one to talk 💔 😢 but all in all tunamshukuru mungu we are alive and kicking I wish my mom could see this..Mike I hug you
Sad story and great lessons to parents. Don't beat yourself for not doing anything and freezing when you entered that room. Fight, Flee or Freeze are our human responses to traumatic situations. That was traumatic... Thank your for being brave for speaking out.
Yes indeed. He too had been sodomized for years !!!!as a little boy. That reaction is exactly what a sexually abused child would do
That's why i feel bad for the boy who was taken by a man who is not even his biological dad. The man uses his position as he works in judiciary to frustrate the mother who lives in Australia to get her son back or even to see him. May be even the boy is being molested by that guy makokha. Lynn should cover that story, it was in Tuko.
Grown ups can treat kids as they wish,but let it be understood to them that kids never forget,as much as they may wish kids forgot whatever was done to them..I'm now convinced that,this is happening in almost every family,not just to girls,boys are being molested too.are we talking to kids enough? Are we being friendly enough for them to open up?. I watched THE GAME'S documentary( the rapper) who also walked on his own father molesting his kid sister.,that's when they were taken to foster care.and the father in prison..tells you how serious western countries take this accusations serious.you can't just let the same person ruining kids close to them anymore..I saw a gangster rapper shed tears telling that story.
When you think you have heard it all from Lynn’s chair, then you hear more and more painful stories. I am glad that this young man has healed. I hope we of this generation can be better parents, especially where co-parenting is concerned. Blended families need to be a norm and even if parents have separated, kids should be raised by both. Make an arrangement that works for the children. There is absolutely no reason this man should have missed out on having a dad. God please heal our land.
things you go through childhood they don't affect at that time untill adulthood stage you start facing traumas 🥺,i always tell myself am gonna be number one best friend to my kids coz I know the feeling of growing up in relatives homes and the gap between your parent😢
This is way I want to raise my kids alone and be so close to them
Me too
Me too
Same here,sitaki ata maid
At this point I have no comment, I will wait for Part II. I just pray that he heals from all this.
The story of Mike Opondo has got tears 😭 rolling down,..... Especially his consistence calls to his assuming dad,.....I feel your pain bro,......You so humble,God is just good for you,Your courage is above all,.....I respect you Mike,.....🎓
Oooh mike am so proud of you...I remember us writing poems in campus and nobody could tell what you have been through.
What a tough childhood~moving from one place to another, one relative to the other..I hope you have a future bright man!
Omg,this is soo touching...let's wait for part 2 before judging,,but in real sense this man went through alot on his childhood,but I thank God he's here...waiting for part 2 much love Lynn
Sending Mike some grace. Your face screams pain but your humility and strength shines through. May you find peace ❣
so brave of Mike revealing this...families are surely being enlightened to pay more attention to their children allow them to express themselves...
Mike can consider taking a journey to trauma healing and counseling to overcome the unfortunate/hurtful childhood & that he'll be emotionally ready to rear his own family. Kudos Mike, i sense you're a very brilliant guy too...keep up the good work, I'm super proud of you young man💪
Peter, please talk it out. Let there be activism for the boy child. The Boy child has suffered so much in Kenya !
Mike please write a book please. This is heartbreaking.Please help with subtitles on Kiswahili parts
This is a story of triumph but I'm here fighting tears.
My heart goes to this young man and the suffering he has been to.No child should go through this evil of the uncle.
Nobody should trust a relative because they can be child molesters .I didn’t know that there were such men in our Kenyan community.
Lynn Ngugi thanks for sharing this program and showing us all is not well in families.
Children should be told not to trust relatives,friends or any other person who gets to be to friendly.
Yes. LADIES ! The child molesters are almost always people who live very close to you or in your own home!
Thanks for sharing Mike. Gaining a lot of insights from you on how to be an intentional mum to my sons.
I reconnected with my father after 32yrs but even then he has never contacted me. I feel his pain and know how it feel to be abandoned and never had the chance to have a father figure. I miss that a lot, he has other children and I guess he can’t find it in his heart to keep any contact. So sad . Thanks @Lynn Ngugi for bringing people who can open up because this is like a support group for people how have the same traumas and can’t talk about it.
Why did the mum Not stay with him??I kinda blame her too,I would never abandoned my kid for a man,if he can't take me and my baby acha sote tukae..This is the reason I will never get married or get another baby,acha nilee pekeyangu Hadi siku nitatoka kwa hii dunia.
The pain one goes through for being rejected is just too much,especially with the one you are told they are your parents but then they give you deaf ear and cold sholder,no child should go through this ,except the parents are dead ,I was brought up by my grandmother and my uncle and I know what it feels like, and it doesn't go away no matter how you forgive can't forget
I know
True
Mike pole sana, though I feel he still needs a lot of phyciatric help, if you listen 👂 carefully sometimes he tells the story as if in the present, some present continuous and some in the past, I think Bado hajaachilia kabisa, unfortunately I think he was very traumatized, hope his heart fully heals
I feel sad for this handsome young man.im waiting for part 2
Wow. Extremely brave young man. I pray for God’s healing; Emotional, psychological and physical trauma 🙏🙏
Extremely emotional. May God comfort you and find a Father in Him. Lyn this is heavy, you need a therapist for supervision.
Being a counselor I really empathize with Mike ! We have to encourage our children to claim their space in our hearts and in the house so that they are able to share their experiences! Thank you mike for taking the therapy and coming out to share! Inconsistency is a reality and it can easily make us lose our focus! So mike remember there are many out here that have benefited in your sharing be blessed 🙏🏼
This is a picture of a dog or a pig that eats its young ones immediately after birth to ensure it survives. A chicken that protects chicks not from her eggs yet with all powers. To every child that has ever been brought up by a single mom or dad or any parent figure be safe because someone feels your absence is their survival.
Am one of those eggs that landed in hands of good chicken but am sorry to say the dog/pig parent is forgiven and enjoying my success after the chicken fought all the burdens.
“Anyone can hide. Facing up to things, working through them, that’s what makes you strong.” - Sarah Dessen
You're so strong and great, may you find healing 🙏... can't wait for part 2
I applaud you Mike! You went thr’ a lot but I admire your vulnerability to share your story🙏🏻. Watching from 🇺🇸🇺🇸
This man is my hero. Excellent interview.
Asante sana 🙏
So Sorry Young Man for what you went through during your childhood. You are still mourning Mama Eddy-loss & grief. This opening part is beginning of his healing. He needs therapy. It shall be well. Rev.joyce-coun/psychologist too
So sad for when he went through and seeing same thing happen to the sister. It's a good thing men are opening up to what's eating them inside. Parents let's be very close to our kids such that they can open up on every tiny little thing they're going through in their lives.
Very noble.....to admit and state that her mother had her own things she was dealing with and she was growing too.....
A humble sincere heart
Woi I pray for soul healing of all the people who have been molested and raped either as children or adults.. It's overwhelming and so tragic.. Am so sorry opondo it was not your fault thank you for sharing.. I send you love and feel comforted... It is well
My opinion: It would be nice if the host would ask some questions along the way. I know it's a sensitive topic but as the guest was speaking I was asking myself questions which I thought the host would ask to bring out more information.
What information do u want to ask? Its his story
@@matieno89 I guess you've never watched other talk shows. Go educate yourself.
Really appreciate you. Owning up and not blaming that's so positive. Sorry for the rejection hope you overcome it 💪man
Why are hospitals not sending reports to police. There has to be a network to protect children. We should not care about whether parents will press charges or not.
I think you need to watch a similar story on tuko
Oh NO 🙆🏾♀️🙆🏾♀️, you didn’t react because you were a Child too you also needed protection and it was too much responsibility for a child like you
You are a brave handsome young man. God bless you my son. I wish when I come to Kenya I can meet you.
😭😭😭 rape is the most painful wound. Take heart bro don't blame yourself. I have learned to let go of things that I can do nothing about. It's painful and never easy but protect your heart. 😭😭🤔
May our dear God lift up this young man and one day become a leader in this country and fight for the voiceless, well done Lynn
Liked a lot about this man his humility really touches he's my inspiration today I freeze too at some points wish to watch part 2
I applaud Opondo for speaking out. Listen and protect boys. We are also calling predators by name. Raphael you are a monster😥😥😢😭
Ohhho my Ghosh Our brother needs a lot of healing images what he went through so sad. The only medicine is blood of Jesus it will change everything and make you a brand new 🙏🏾🙏🏾
He is explaining my own mother😢😢
Sadly,when a parent is unavailable because of Selfishness and/or Generational Cycles,it leaves very deep scars in ALL aspects.
I am so so proud of you Mike. You are indeed bold...very bold. That you can speak about this,it's testament that you have and are beautifully healing. Sending you hugs and much love 💕💕💕
I don't blame the parents, I blame the idiot uncle who molested him.
This story is being narrated without external tears laments complaints . They are however at the background of the actual feelings that are being displayed. What ??? Narrating such a painful journey in such a cold manner ? Tchayiii ! This guy is an amazing epitome of strength courage beauty of the soul. I see God s love fully displayed in your life . You are a champion man much much much love sweetheart. We love you 😍 more is coming your way in Jesus name 🙏
Man can reject you,but our creator got no step children,we are all his children.
Never force yourself unto people who do not like you.
Eeeish Lynn ukiwa umeshuka nywele nasi uko more more beautiful 👌👌.na hiyo dress ni smart 🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰
So sad😭😭😭!!! This brings in me the picture of my son, the torture he went through in his evil dad's hands.... May you never find peace stiv.
This guy resembles Anyang nyong the governor, who else noticed 🤔🤔
Listen to his vocal cords.
let's vote LNS Or Tales of Wanjiku🖐