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There has been such an increasing emphasis on side hustles in recent years. Monetizing all free time. Any hobby or joy, what can you do to turn it into a side hustle? Exhausting.
I used to be a very busy person work wise but i liked my job alot ( theatre and musical events) but i was always gone and had no real hobbies and personal life .. Then Covid hit and i was stuck home and first it was very daunting for me to sit still and not do anything and suddenly my body and mind collapsed from all the years of stress and 90+ workhours per week and never taking a break. 😅 After that i met my boyfriend, moved to rural France and living a quiet content life with lots of new hobbies, a normal pace of living and a social life and less stress and i wouldnt want it any different anymore😂
@@thenopedetective me and my boyfriend now run a vegeterian/vegan cateringservice now, we cater for castles/chateaus and B&B's in the area. And I just bought a small house which intent to rent out as a holiday home . Covid didn't kill my entrepreneural spirit haha
Someone once said to me that "doing nothing" is highly productive. Because we consider things as "nothing" which actually have a lot of value. For example: cooking a meal is productive, because you're nurishing your body. Resting is productive because you need rest to function. the same counts for exercising, going for walks etc. I think this is a good shift of perspective that might help not getting caught up in hustle culture.
As far as I remember, Henry David Thoreau expressed the same thought in his book "Walden or Life in the Woods" (1854). If you are unfamiliar to it, I highly recommend it!
I used to work at a historic hotel. People used to take vacations for a whole month. The favorite activities were reading the newspaper and playing croquet. People used to really enjoy downtime.
Depends on how far back. In the 60s and 70s, lower and middle middle class families in the US would often rent beach houses for a month, mom and the kids who were on school vacation would be there the whole time, dad would come by on the weekends and maybe take a one week vacation during the month. My family did not do this but my husband’s family, who were not wealthy (and mom worked, but at a school) would rent a house for the summer and then divvy it up between all the siblings families. Money wise probably no more expensive than sending the kids to a week of summer camp. But yeah, who can take the time off now?
Here in Denmark we have 6 weeks paid vacation per year. If you want to take 4 weeks off during summer your work place can't really say no. Most people take 3 weeks off and save the rest for christmas and easter. When my son was little i would take 4 weeks off during summer and i'm not rich at all🙂
I don't know if most people mean to be condescending when they refer to your job as a hobby. I think they just mean "it must be nice to have a job that you enjoy". a misuse of words yes. I think they are just trying to make conversation. maybe they have a slight misinterpretation of what the work entails and how hard it is but I definitely don't think most are trying to be offensive. no need to jump down there throats. atleast this has been my experience. I am an artist so I get this question too.
Not to mention the ableism of it all. I NEED to do things in a calm manner or else I literally cannot do it. Also, like a lot of neurodivergent people, I work in a very non-linear fashion, with periods of hyperfocus balanced by periods of low productivity. Being consistently "on" is just not a thing for me.
I am stressed when my child is finally going to daycare and I feel like I have to work the whole time then, but I really need to relax and focus on myself, so I can focus on my marriage aswell. It seems selfish to work less and not be stressed out, so weird!
I'm definitely feeling the stress of "I need to finish my studies and get a job asap after that". I've studied for 3 years, have 2 years left, and I'm already fearing the next 2 years and the fact that if I take longer than that to complete my studies, I won't get student allowance anymore which also leads me to having to find a job asap. I'm very lucky that I have this month free of anything else so I can relax a bit. anyway, so happy we're beginning to really talk about productivity like this now!
I worked all the hours I could for the last 8 years and now I'm burnt out and off sick with a bad back and I now feel so alone because I now realise how I put work first and have nobody around me
loved this kind of friend confession feel of the video, thank you for being authentic and vulnerable, it takes courage to be exposed to so many strangers and speaking your mind honestly on a topic that may cause a bunch of opposite opinions or hate even. thank you for saying this, I think it's important to remember that there is so much to life than money and "always busy" image. people stopped reflecting on what they actually want and need, and reflection needs space, which we "never have"
One thing that helps me keep balance is keeping my days off "sacred" and insisting that they are Saturday and Sunday. I've had jobs where my days off were like sunday and Tuesday or Saturday and Wednesday, stuff like that and I just don't do that anymore. Now I'm a part time music teacher at a school and teach private lessons on the side. On Saturday the only work I will do is lesson plan for my private lessons and on Sunday I don't touch anything related to work. IT CAN WAIT until Monday. Always. It's a noticeable difference in my mental health when I stick to this!
I tried youtube for 6 months and it was exhaustive! People don´t know how time consuming it is and you do other stuff as well, seriously you are amazing!!!!
Thank you for this theme! I try to understand myself and find the balance between productivity and relaxing and being happy with it almost 15 years now.. Nowadays I have decided to spend 1 day/1 afternoon off my work, without anybody, doing my hobby (gardening) or nothing. Because it is conscious decision I do not feel guilty, I even feel productive in teaching myself live healthier :).
It is much better to make a conscious decision to do nothing, we often end up doing nothing if we need it, but if we feel guilty while we do it, we don’t actually relax while doing nothing 😅
As a person who has several severe chronic illnesses that are degenerative/progressive and likely fatal, I only have a TINY amount of time to be productive. However, productive to me is not exactly the same as it would be for someone who isn't battling even one (expert for diabetes) chronic illness- getting to doctor appointments in a day, showering, doing a grocery shop, making easy to prepare food or picking up my house a little I actually consider that day to be productive. However there are a few caveats to this- I can at most only do two things with the making easy to prepare food being one of the two things that I can do in any one day. But these things have downsides- my energy is quite quickly depleted and it takes at least 6 hours to recover energy to continue with being able to care for myself. Tldr- chronic illnesses have changed the way that I view what is productivity.....
I decided a year ago to slow things down, to be more present and inviting more pauses into my life. I feel much better, my body responded with not flaring up into ibs symptoms and overall I feel more content and happy. At the same time, I still experience this little voice inside my head that tells me I’m not good enough or worthy since I’m less productive. I find it fascinating that this has become the normal for many and how much time and awareness it takes to release this thought pattern and allowing ourselves to just enjoy being humans in whatever shapes and forms we want to embody🌿✨
Anyone who says "It must be nice to have your hobby as your job" doesn't truly understand what it's like. Saying that is the toxic outcome of hearing "do what you love and you'll never work a day in your life". I think there are some very lucky people whose work is like that for them ... I don't know that you can fully have that mindset unless you're super financially secure without needing your job or have an extremely transferrable and in demand skill set (I don't know that desperately needing to keep your job and loving your job can live together perfectly... needing my job makes me anxious). For most of us, even doing what we mostly love can become too much and have difficult times. I have a job I mostly don't mind, and a secondary job that is a hobby... and for that secondary job, I have to be super careful to manage it so as not to destroy my hobby. If it ever feels too much like work and I start to resent it I need to back off... and I can, because the bills are paid by the main job (but my unit deposit came from my hobby business... the primary job pays the bills but didn't allow for home deposit saving).
This video speaks to me so much. Although I cannot work because of my chronic fatigue syndrome, i still find myself struggling with the need to be always productive and I am always thinking about this never ending list of things I “need” to do and it is exhausting. I struggle with slowing down and being in the moment, which is the one of the key things I have to do for my recovery. So, thinking about how society has romanticised being productive and never stopping to rest is helpful. I also loved how you talked about taking the time to do things that you enjoy even if they are not considered a “useful” way to spend your time or they are not productive in the traditional sense. Thank you for another awesome video 😊
Great video! Also I am self imployed and there are moments when I have the tendency to thik that all my activities can be a source of income.. Lukily I have hobbies that are just hobbies, I love it, it keeps me with feets on the ground
I admire you because from my persceptive you carefully curate your life to have space for focus on exactly what you know you love, which is so cool, and i see your work ethic. I dont think people always realize that its hard work to keep yourself focused on doing work that youre not being graded for. Youre an entrepreneur and a succesful one at that. I understand your frustration with the misunderstanding and limited views you may get because you work for yourself doing something cool. Its a lot of work that goes behind the scenes of making it all look so effortless and youre so thorough and focused!
Really rate this. It is only my partner that made me aware of the fact that I basically don't know how to relax. I've got a constant to do list which never ends. Always have the disappointment of could have done more today. Wasted time etc. I find the best days where I don't feel this need to "hustle" are when I set myself a tiny to do list for the day. Such as 1-3 tasks max. Having a manageable list makes me feel like i've smashed the day despite probably actually getting less done on the days where my to do list is infinitely long.
Thank you for addressing this topic! I recently had to rethink my whole work life, and it was really hard not to see it as a huge failure at first. I've spent the last 10 years or so trying to finish an education, trying out a lot of different career options, but to no success. It's the same every time, I study so hard I burn out, and have to restart a semester or simply just drop out. The thing that changed it was that I finally got diagnosed with ADHD, and was approved for a Fleksjob (don't know the English term for that 😂) It's still a bit hard to accept that I'll never get an education, but at the same time it's such a relief to step off the productivity train and to know that there was a good reason for my burnouts.
Just found your channel and love it. Wonderful inspiration. I’ve come through some very tough and stressful times and found a few things that help - meditation, I use Headspace, having a 20 min nap at lunchtime, being ok with your own pace and energy, we’re all different and no-one is really having it all, truly knowing that you will have better ideas and creativity using the slow right side of your brain - trust it, it will always find the answers, build in ‘white space’ in your diary where nothing is scheduled, lastly, get out in nature and find exercise you enjoy. I’ve also read ‘The Idler’ which is utterly brilliant take on the madness of modern life and fits in so well with sustainability. Have a fab week and thanks so much for all the amazing videos xx
I think it is extra hard as a self employed person to have a healthy work-life balance, for one because you are responsible for everything, and second because it is easier to fall into a rabbit hole of work when you do something that you care about (in comparison to working an office 9 to 5 just for the money). On the note of being comfortable with doing nothing in order to be able to be productive later, I have read a nice book this year, "Niksen" by Olga Mecking, where she talks about this exactly, and it has helped me so much in being able to slow down and enjoy the moment 😊 maybe it will help someone else too 😊
As a selv-employed cartoonist, I feel this. We're doing 30 hour work week, and not touching work in the off-time. And honestly, sometimes it still feels like too much.
I'm not surprised that you feel stressed and burned out. You broke up with Jens and moved twice in the past year. You deserve to take a break and pamper yourself.
but a really thoughtful video, I'm glad you are making space to process this. I got chronic fatigue syndrone and I believe always being in a state of tension my whole life contributed to it. I now have to be extremely careful to avoid this state. something I've found is that once the engine gets revved up, it is so hard to calm it down again. but once I calm it down then I can stay in this blissful, calm way for a long period. I seem to fluctuated constantly between the too. I think doing everything to slow down the engine, BEFORE the engine gets fully charged is key. because it'd so damn hard once it's going. it takes being constantly mindful of where your at, everyday, every moment. I eat with no phone, just to gage where I'm at intentionally a few times a day. sometimes I hold up my hand in front of my face, to see if it's trembling at all. checking in woth the body, how is my heart rate, any tension anywhere. what about my thoughts, is my internal monologue racing ? is it is, I tell it to shhhhh. these pointless conversations in my mind, don't serve much purpose. If there's things in there that need to get put, I journal them out, so they stop that rotation. otherwise they can just shhhhhhh the fuck up 😅 when I try to mediate, I work with a mantra, on the inhale "everything I need" exhale "everything I don't". it helps to filter out the constant influx of thoughts, desire, energy that circulates and inundates our mind and nervous systems and keeps us running around like a wound up tin man.
Thanks for another amazing video and topic you speak about :-). I know quite some people that define themselves or their value solely through their work, how many meetings they have, how many business trips they have to go on each month, etc. and on top they hugely romanticize stress. Regarding the sentence you hate so much "it must be so nice to have your hobby as your job" - I completely understand your point and why the sentence triggers you as a professional. Only you know how much work this really is and I hugely appreciate your effort, because I love your content. However, I understand the sentence in a complete different way, more as "how nice that you could find something you started maybe as a hobby and that you love (with no initial business intention) and now you turned it into a career and a proper business". Unless you started RUclips to grow a business and always had the intention of making money with it, which is 100% absolutely fine as well! In my ears the sentence as such is fine, but obviously needs to have the right context.
I am an accountant who works primarily with small business owners such as yourself and working with them is honestly the reason why I never want to own my own business or be the one in charge of everything. Way too much work and stress! Plus, for me personally I want to have kids, so I’d rather just work a relatively simple, straightforward job that isn’t too stressful and have enough to live comfortably and not have to worry like you said, and thus still have the time and energy to spend meaningful time with my future tiny humans. I don’t care about being rich or “maximizing output”, like at all. So I’m totally on board with what you are saying.
I really dislike this hustle culture. It’s far too pressurising which makes it unhealthy to sustain. I recently saw a meme which had the title JOMO, instead of FOMO. The JOY of missing out - the need to lay back and chill every now & again. I agree that there is definitely pressure on us to live this frantic lifestyle but if you can balance it with some time out it really help. Even schedule it in if you find it doesn’t come naturally. After all, after God created the world & all that’s in it, even He had a rest day! 😂
Have you ever read Momo by Michael Ende? It's the perspective of a child who doesn't have daycare when everyone else is part of hustle culture- led by the men in gray coats. It's a children's book, and absolutely lovely.
Hi, in case you are still in Brussels near the EP at the house of European history located in the park leopold behind it there is a temporary exhibition on 'throwaway'. You obviously already know probably more than the exhibit on this topic, but it might be interesting nonetheless to see it 😅
You could introduce a 12h time off after every finished video (for ex. the next afternoon + evening) so you get a reward for a work well done & regular free time :)
That's a really good idea, I don't always see it working out I think, but maybe I should give it a go, I think I'll do that on Friday after the next video is up, thank you for the tip!
Great video! I loathe hustle culture. I believe in doing good work and taking pride in your work but I think in the end work is work. We should work to live but not live to work. We should not have to work so hard to earn time off. We are human not robots and we need rest. I've become quite comfortable saying no to my supervisor not bc I just don't want to work but bc I'm working on other things already. I refuse to always be running on stress even if others don't understand it.
I hope you don't mind me challenging you slightly, I'm interested that you said "optimising your productivity by also including states of calmness", which to me sounds like you're still feeding into the hustle culture (and I completely understand that it's so pervasive, I've been there!). To me, that sounds like you're only resting in order to be able to hustle even more and produce even more, rather than resting just because, just because it's a nice thing to do, because you want to. Not because it's a means to an end. If anyone is interested I really recommend the book How to Do Nothing by Dr Devon Price, really made me think about things like this.
I'm on the other extreme. I don't have much that demands my attention. It's depressing here, too, but I have long recognized hustling is stressful af, and I don't want to go to that extreme. Still, I personally want to be more productive (mainly for my mental health) but I totally get that a lot of people are overproductive and it seems so immensely painful. So finding your own version of the middle ground is important. I haven't gotten there yet, but I'm working on it. Also, total agree on excessive wealth not being appealing.
Hi! Love your videos! Sorry if I make you use google translator, but is easier for me to develop this idea in spanish: Hay un libro muy bueno de Michel Onfray llamado Contrahistoria de la Filosofía, donde habla sobre cómo las ideas de Platón se transformaron luego en la base del pensamiento y vida occidental. Donde la mente niega y expulsa a lo físico. Luego esto se transforma en la base del cristianismo, donde prima la auto-represión (otra vez la mente sobre cuerpo). Y esto le viene perfecto al Capitalismo que explota los cuerpos y toma al sujeto explotado para seguir auto-explotándose. Imagina lo fuerte que es esta corriente de pensamiento y represión que puedo ver en ti, las mismas cosas que me pasaron a mí y a mi familia que somos del sur global. Mi forma de combatir el capitalismo es hacer que mi trabajo nutra mi tiempo libre y mi tiempo con mis seres queridos. Thank you! Great video.
Hvilken sang var det ? /what song was it? I so relate btw. The hustle culture is toxic for me (and i general i guess) but as a self employed graphic designer / graphic design and Canva teacher I have to pace myself sometimes - otherwise theres just no income that month 😅
I guess we are all in the same boat and it is so good to listen to others experience! So thank you for sharing yours🌷💖 I have thought about this lots of times and I feel like it is something that we have to pay attention and come back every now and then 🥲 so, I send you all my best wishes finding your balance
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There has been such an increasing emphasis on side hustles in recent years. Monetizing all free time. Any hobby or joy, what can you do to turn it into a side hustle? Exhausting.
I used to be a very busy person work wise but i liked my job alot ( theatre and musical events) but i was always gone and had no real hobbies and personal life ..
Then Covid hit and i was stuck home and first it was very daunting for me to sit still and not do anything and suddenly my body and mind collapsed from all the years of stress and 90+ workhours per week and never taking a break.
😅
After that i met my boyfriend, moved to rural France and living a quiet content life with lots of new hobbies, a normal pace of living and a social life and less stress and i wouldnt want it any different anymore😂
What did you end up finding for income? Sounds like a massive change!
@@thenopedetective me and my boyfriend now run a vegeterian/vegan cateringservice now, we cater for castles/chateaus and B&B's in the area.
And I just bought a small house which intent to rent out as a holiday home .
Covid didn't kill my entrepreneural spirit haha
Someone once said to me that "doing nothing" is highly productive. Because we consider things as "nothing" which actually have a lot of value. For example: cooking a meal is productive, because you're nurishing your body. Resting is productive because you need rest to function. the same counts for exercising, going for walks etc. I think this is a good shift of perspective that might help not getting caught up in hustle culture.
I really love that perspective ♥️
As far as I remember, Henry David Thoreau expressed the same thought in his book "Walden or Life in the Woods" (1854). If you are unfamiliar to it, I highly recommend it!
I used to work at a historic hotel. People used to take vacations for a whole month. The favorite activities were reading the newspaper and playing croquet. People used to really enjoy downtime.
@@m.m.6670I think the op was talking about in the past, not anymore
@@m.m.6670a month is the normal time of a vacation in my country not just for high income
Depends on how far back. In the 60s and 70s, lower and middle middle class families in the US would often rent beach houses for a month, mom and the kids who were on school vacation would be there the whole time, dad would come by on the weekends and maybe take a one week vacation during the month. My family did not do this but my husband’s family, who were not wealthy (and mom worked, but at a school) would rent a house for the summer and then divvy it up between all the siblings families. Money wise probably no more expensive than sending the kids to a week of summer camp. But yeah, who can take the time off now?
@@m.m.6670you re american ?
Here in Denmark we have 6 weeks paid vacation per year. If you want to take 4 weeks off during summer your work place can't really say no. Most people take 3 weeks off and save the rest for christmas and easter. When my son was little i would take 4 weeks off during summer and i'm not rich at all🙂
I don't know if most people mean to be condescending when they refer to your job as a hobby. I think they just mean "it must be nice to have a job that you enjoy". a misuse of words yes. I think they are just trying to make conversation. maybe they have a slight misinterpretation of what the work entails and how hard it is but I definitely don't think most are trying to be offensive. no need to jump down there throats. atleast this has been my experience. I am an artist so I get this question too.
Not to mention the ableism of it all. I NEED to do things in a calm manner or else I literally cannot do it. Also, like a lot of neurodivergent people, I work in a very non-linear fashion, with periods of hyperfocus balanced by periods of low productivity. Being consistently "on" is just not a thing for me.
I am stressed when my child is finally going to daycare and I feel like I have to work the whole time then, but I really need to relax and focus on myself, so I can focus on my marriage aswell. It seems selfish to work less and not be stressed out, so weird!
I'm definitely feeling the stress of "I need to finish my studies and get a job asap after that". I've studied for 3 years, have 2 years left, and I'm already fearing the next 2 years and the fact that if I take longer than that to complete my studies, I won't get student allowance anymore which also leads me to having to find a job asap. I'm very lucky that I have this month free of anything else so I can relax a bit. anyway, so happy we're beginning to really talk about productivity like this now!
I worked all the hours I could for the last 8 years and now I'm burnt out and off sick with a bad back and I now feel so alone because I now realise how I put work first and have nobody around me
loved this kind of friend confession feel of the video, thank you for being authentic and vulnerable, it takes courage to be exposed to so many strangers and speaking your mind honestly on a topic that may cause a bunch of opposite opinions or hate even. thank you for saying this, I think it's important to remember that there is so much to life than money and "always busy" image. people stopped reflecting on what they actually want and need, and reflection needs space, which we "never have"
One thing that helps me keep balance is keeping my days off "sacred" and insisting that they are Saturday and Sunday. I've had jobs where my days off were like sunday and Tuesday or Saturday and Wednesday, stuff like that and I just don't do that anymore. Now I'm a part time music teacher at a school and teach private lessons on the side. On Saturday the only work I will do is lesson plan for my private lessons and on Sunday I don't touch anything related to work. IT CAN WAIT until Monday. Always. It's a noticeable difference in my mental health when I stick to this!
I tried youtube for 6 months and it was exhaustive! People don´t know how time consuming it is and you do other stuff as well, seriously you are amazing!!!!
It takes A LOT of work 😭 thank you for acknowledging 🥹♥️
Thank you for this theme! I try to understand myself and find the balance between productivity and relaxing and being happy with it almost 15 years now.. Nowadays I have decided to spend 1 day/1 afternoon off my work, without anybody, doing my hobby (gardening) or nothing. Because it is conscious decision I do not feel guilty, I even feel productive in teaching myself live healthier :).
It is much better to make a conscious decision to do nothing, we often end up doing nothing if we need it, but if we feel guilty while we do it, we don’t actually relax while doing nothing 😅
As a person who has several severe chronic illnesses that are degenerative/progressive and likely fatal, I only have a TINY amount of time to be productive. However, productive to me is not exactly the same as it would be for someone who isn't battling even one (expert for diabetes) chronic illness- getting to doctor appointments in a day, showering, doing a grocery shop, making easy to prepare food or picking up my house a little I actually consider that day to be productive. However there are a few caveats to this- I can at most only do two things with the making easy to prepare food being one of the two things that I can do in any one day. But these things have downsides- my energy is quite quickly depleted and it takes at least 6 hours to recover energy to continue with being able to care for myself.
Tldr- chronic illnesses have changed the way that I view what is productivity.....
I decided a year ago to slow things down, to be more present and inviting more pauses into my life. I feel much better, my body responded with not flaring up into ibs symptoms and overall I feel more content and happy. At the same time, I still experience this little voice inside my head that tells me I’m not good enough or worthy since I’m less productive. I find it fascinating that this has become the normal for many and how much time and awareness it takes to release this thought pattern and allowing ourselves to just enjoy being humans in whatever shapes and forms we want to embody🌿✨
Anyone who says "It must be nice to have your hobby as your job" doesn't truly understand what it's like. Saying that is the toxic outcome of hearing "do what you love and you'll never work a day in your life". I think there are some very lucky people whose work is like that for them ... I don't know that you can fully have that mindset unless you're super financially secure without needing your job or have an extremely transferrable and in demand skill set (I don't know that desperately needing to keep your job and loving your job can live together perfectly... needing my job makes me anxious). For most of us, even doing what we mostly love can become too much and have difficult times. I have a job I mostly don't mind, and a secondary job that is a hobby... and for that secondary job, I have to be super careful to manage it so as not to destroy my hobby. If it ever feels too much like work and I start to resent it I need to back off... and I can, because the bills are paid by the main job (but my unit deposit came from my hobby business... the primary job pays the bills but didn't allow for home deposit saving).
This video speaks to me so much. Although I cannot work because of my chronic fatigue syndrome, i still find myself struggling with the need to be always productive and I am always thinking about this never ending list of things I “need” to do and it is exhausting. I struggle with slowing down and being in the moment, which is the one of the key things I have to do for my recovery. So, thinking about how society has romanticised being productive and never stopping to rest is helpful. I also loved how you talked about taking the time to do things that you enjoy even if they are not considered a “useful” way to spend your time or they are not productive in the traditional sense. Thank you for another awesome video 😊
Great video! Also I am self imployed and there are moments when I have the tendency to thik that all my activities can be a source of income.. Lukily I have hobbies that are just hobbies, I love it, it keeps me with feets on the ground
it is so important to have hobbies that aren't sidehustles, but something you just do because you like it 🌿🌿
This video is so relatable. Your content is so honest, vulnerable, important, and up lifting. Thank you for sharing and making such great content!
thank you so much for this
I would say about your job: "It's nice to have a job you are so passioned about"
I admire you because from my persceptive you carefully curate your life to have space for focus on exactly what you know you love, which is so cool, and i see your work ethic. I dont think people always realize that its hard work to keep yourself focused on doing work that youre not being graded for. Youre an entrepreneur and a succesful one at that. I understand your frustration with the misunderstanding and limited views you may get because you work for yourself doing something cool. Its a lot of work that goes behind the scenes of making it all look so effortless and youre so thorough and focused!
Really rate this. It is only my partner that made me aware of the fact that I basically don't know how to relax. I've got a constant to do list which never ends. Always have the disappointment of could have done more today. Wasted time etc. I find the best days where I don't feel this need to "hustle" are when I set myself a tiny to do list for the day. Such as 1-3 tasks max. Having a manageable list makes me feel like i've smashed the day despite probably actually getting less done on the days where my to do list is infinitely long.
Thank you for addressing this topic! I recently had to rethink my whole work life, and it was really hard not to see it as a huge failure at first. I've spent the last 10 years or so trying to finish an education, trying out a lot of different career options, but to no success. It's the same every time, I study so hard I burn out, and have to restart a semester or simply just drop out.
The thing that changed it was that I finally got diagnosed with ADHD, and was approved for a Fleksjob (don't know the English term for that 😂) It's still a bit hard to accept that I'll never get an education, but at the same time it's such a relief to step off the productivity train and to know that there was a good reason for my burnouts.
Just found your channel and love it. Wonderful inspiration. I’ve come through some very tough and stressful times and found a few things that help - meditation, I use Headspace, having a 20 min nap at lunchtime, being ok with your own pace and energy, we’re all different and no-one is really having it all, truly knowing that you will have better ideas and creativity using the slow right side of your brain - trust it, it will always find the answers, build in ‘white space’ in your diary where nothing is scheduled, lastly, get out in nature and find exercise you enjoy. I’ve also read ‘The Idler’ which is utterly brilliant take on the madness of modern life and fits in so well with sustainability. Have a fab week and thanks so much for all the amazing videos xx
I think it is extra hard as a self employed person to have a healthy work-life balance, for one because you are responsible for everything, and second because it is easier to fall into a rabbit hole of work when you do something that you care about (in comparison to working an office 9 to 5 just for the money). On the note of being comfortable with doing nothing in order to be able to be productive later, I have read a nice book this year, "Niksen" by Olga Mecking, where she talks about this exactly, and it has helped me so much in being able to slow down and enjoy the moment 😊 maybe it will help someone else too 😊
As a selv-employed cartoonist, I feel this. We're doing 30 hour work week, and not touching work in the off-time. And honestly, sometimes it still feels like too much.
I'm not surprised that you feel stressed and burned out. You broke up with Jens and moved twice in the past year. You deserve to take a break and pamper yourself.
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but a really thoughtful video, I'm glad you are making space to process this.
I got chronic fatigue syndrone and I believe always being in a state of tension my whole life contributed to it. I now have to be extremely careful to avoid this state. something I've found is that once the engine gets revved up, it is so hard to calm it down again. but once I calm it down then I can stay in this blissful, calm way for a long period. I seem to fluctuated constantly between the too. I think doing everything to slow down the engine, BEFORE the engine gets fully charged is key. because it'd so damn hard once it's going. it takes being constantly mindful of where your at, everyday, every moment. I eat with no phone, just to gage where I'm at intentionally a few times a day. sometimes I hold up my hand in front of my face, to see if it's trembling at all. checking in woth the body, how is my heart rate, any tension anywhere. what about my thoughts, is my internal monologue racing ? is it is, I tell it to shhhhh. these pointless conversations in my mind, don't serve much purpose. If there's things in there that need to get put, I journal them out, so they stop that rotation. otherwise they can just shhhhhhh the fuck up 😅 when I try to mediate, I work with a mantra, on the inhale "everything I need" exhale "everything I don't". it helps to filter out the constant influx of thoughts, desire, energy that circulates and inundates our mind and nervous systems and keeps us running around like a wound up tin man.
You made so many good points, you are a very intelligent and interesting woman! Thank you for the food for thought🥰
Thanks for another amazing video and topic you speak about :-). I know quite some people that define themselves or their value solely through their work, how many meetings they have, how many business trips they have to go on each month, etc. and on top they hugely romanticize stress.
Regarding the sentence you hate so much "it must be so nice to have your hobby as your job" - I completely understand your point and why the sentence triggers you as a professional. Only you know how much work this really is and I hugely appreciate your effort, because I love your content.
However, I understand the sentence in a complete different way, more as "how nice that you could find something you started maybe as a hobby and that you love (with no initial business intention) and now you turned it into a career and a proper business". Unless you started RUclips to grow a business and always had the intention of making money with it, which is 100% absolutely fine as well! In my ears the sentence as such is fine, but obviously needs to have the right context.
I am an accountant who works primarily with small business owners such as yourself and working with them is honestly the reason why I never want to own my own business or be the one in charge of everything. Way too much work and stress! Plus, for me personally I want to have kids, so I’d rather just work a relatively simple, straightforward job that isn’t too stressful and have enough to live comfortably and not have to worry like you said, and thus still have the time and energy to spend meaningful time with my future tiny humans. I don’t care about being rich or “maximizing output”, like at all. So I’m totally on board with what you are saying.
I really dislike this hustle culture. It’s far too pressurising which makes it unhealthy to sustain. I recently saw a meme which had the title JOMO, instead of FOMO. The JOY of missing out - the need to lay back and chill every now & again. I agree that there is definitely pressure on us to live this frantic lifestyle but if you can balance it with some time out it really help. Even schedule it in if you find it doesn’t come naturally. After all, after God created the world & all that’s in it, even He had a rest day! 😂
Thank you for this video, I found what you said about living in the present so real for myself too, take care and I wish you all the best ❤
This video could not have come out at a better time! beyond relatable, could not have said it better myself
Have you ever read Momo by Michael Ende? It's the perspective of a child who doesn't have daycare when everyone else is part of hustle culture- led by the men in gray coats. It's a children's book, and absolutely lovely.
Hi, in case you are still in Brussels near the EP at the house of European history located in the park leopold behind it there is a temporary exhibition on 'throwaway'. You obviously already know probably more than the exhibit on this topic, but it might be interesting nonetheless to see it 😅
You could introduce a 12h time off after every finished video (for ex. the next afternoon + evening) so you get a reward for a work well done & regular free time :)
That's a really good idea, I don't always see it working out I think, but maybe I should give it a go, I think I'll do that on Friday after the next video is up, thank you for the tip!
Great video! I loathe hustle culture. I believe in doing good work and taking pride in your work but I think in the end work is work. We should work to live but not live to work. We should not have to work so hard to earn time off. We are human not robots and we need rest. I've become quite comfortable saying no to my supervisor not bc I just don't want to work but bc I'm working on other things already. I refuse to always be running on stress even if others don't understand it.
Your work is amazing!
I've learnt so much from you
I hope you don't mind me challenging you slightly, I'm interested that you said "optimising your productivity by also including states of calmness", which to me sounds like you're still feeding into the hustle culture (and I completely understand that it's so pervasive, I've been there!).
To me, that sounds like you're only resting in order to be able to hustle even more and produce even more, rather than resting just because, just because it's a nice thing to do, because you want to. Not because it's a means to an end.
If anyone is interested I really recommend the book How to Do Nothing by Dr Devon Price, really made me think about things like this.
I'm on the other extreme. I don't have much that demands my attention. It's depressing here, too, but I have long recognized hustling is stressful af, and I don't want to go to that extreme. Still, I personally want to be more productive (mainly for my mental health) but I totally get that a lot of people are overproductive and it seems so immensely painful. So finding your own version of the middle ground is important. I haven't gotten there yet, but I'm working on it. Also, total agree on excessive wealth not being appealing.
please, you need to tell us the band name and song title after this amazing description and deep experience 😊
The band was Blæst, and the song was Videre, it is in Danish 😊🥹
Hi! Love your videos! Sorry if I make you use google translator, but is easier for me to develop this idea in spanish:
Hay un libro muy bueno de Michel Onfray llamado Contrahistoria de la Filosofía, donde habla sobre cómo las ideas de Platón se transformaron luego en la base del pensamiento y vida occidental. Donde la mente niega y expulsa a lo físico. Luego esto se transforma en la base del cristianismo, donde prima la auto-represión (otra vez la mente sobre cuerpo). Y esto le viene perfecto al Capitalismo que explota los cuerpos y toma al sujeto explotado para seguir auto-explotándose. Imagina lo fuerte que es esta corriente de pensamiento y represión que puedo ver en ti, las mismas cosas que me pasaron a mí y a mi familia que somos del sur global.
Mi forma de combatir el capitalismo es hacer que mi trabajo nutra mi tiempo libre y mi tiempo con mis seres queridos.
Thank you! Great video.
Hvilken sang var det ? /what song was it?
I so relate btw. The hustle culture is toxic for me (and i general i guess) but as a self employed graphic designer / graphic design and Canva teacher I have to pace myself sometimes - otherwise theres just no income that month 😅
I am interested to know the song too :)
it was Blæst "videre", damn that got me 😬
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I guess we are all in the same boat and it is so good to listen to others experience! So thank you for sharing yours🌷💖 I have thought about this lots of times and I feel like it is something that we have to pay attention and come back every now and then 🥲 so, I send you all my best wishes finding your balance