I'm a Teen Therapist and I'm answering: "Should I cover my self harm scars?"
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- Опубликовано: 1 июн 2024
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This is a common question amongst teens who struggle with self-harm challenges. Mallory Grimste, LCSW is a therapist who specializes in helping teens overcome their struggles with self-harm urges, as well as other mental health difficulties.
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We know the rates of teens struggling with suicide and self harm are rising and I want to reverse that trend! That’s why on this channel you’ll find I share a lot of self-care tips and coping strategies for major teen issues like anxiety, depression, alternatives to self harm and how to talk to parents and other grown-ups about these challenges.
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I recently flushed my blades down the toilet after an incident where I went deeper than intended. I’m now beginning my sh free journey. I show my arms in public but not my legs as those are worse looking with scars. It’s my personal choice to keep those to myself. I wish everyone the ability to heal and break the habit ❤️
Congrats on beginning your journey- and thanks for sharing how you navigate this decision 🫶
I still to self harm and I always had to wear a hoodie so I could cover them from people asking questions and so my school council would not come take me to her office and ask me questions I did not know how to answer them.
Thank you for sharing your experience. It can be so difficult to know how to talk about this with others. I have a great video about how to talk to your parents about self-harm and get help (you can watch it here: ruclips.net/video/W-2KPreQL5E/видео.html ) - I'm thinking maybe I need to do one about how to talk to your school counselor about it, too.
I didn't know self harm was sometimes glorified in social media. Why do you think that is? What is the appropriate response schools should do if a student self harms? Talking to their parents and suggesting they see a professional?
Ohhhhh yesss... I won't repeat some of the examples my teen clients have shown me but it can be a bit horrifying. There is a lot of "showing" under the "guise" of "increasing awareness" (I use quotes because it's actually more like trauma-dumping). When sharing your experience, it's so important to be considerate of other people's experiences and capacity for that sort of information. For example, some people can watch the show SVU with no problem. For me, it's too real and close to the work I do so I prefer to watch something else for entertainment when I'm not working to support kiddos who've gone through similar experiences.
As for the school responses, every school has their own safety protocol. Collaboration with the parents and/or other professional supports is important. They may need certain modifications such as being allowed to meet with an in-school counselor as needed for crisis coaching or support in the moment, etc. And yes, if they aren't already linked with professional help and there seems to be a need to work with the family in referring to and accessing appropriate help.
@@mallorygrimste is the problem with trauma dumping on social media their their friends feel obligated to follow and respond? I personally would just stop following them and if they ask say it's too much to follow.
You nailed it! Plus most people don’t include a content warning to give people a choice if they’d like to engage or not. These days it may not be enough to follow or unfollow since unknown creators can show up on your explore pages
I am a coach for a surf life-saving club so we are on the beach in club bathers. last season I just had visible scars on my things and I wore speedo shorts to cover them but this season is about to start and now I have more on my arms and wrists and long sleeve swimmers give me sensory issues but I'm around kids. I don't know what to do.
Thanks for sharing your experience Jade! It can so tough to know what to do. Since coaching is typically a working/volunteer position, definitely check with your supervisor or HR if there are policies about this already. That may be your answer right then. If they leave it up to you, I’d take your time to reflect on the considerations mentioned in this video- particularly around how you prepared you are for others’ responses and reactions. Hope this helps you decide!! You got this!! 💛
kids are dumb just tell the you fought the monster under your bed thats my backup plan
I have been sexualy abused bullied and emotional and physically abuse I suffer with a lot of mental health issues from it I was using my hands to cause friction burns as I lost my blade but now I come across it again I'm using that I trying to find way to cover it incase I have to show someone my arms I tried using makeup mom don't know I have but coz there raised Im having no luck anyone have any knowledge of covering them ❤
I’m 30. I have huge and extremely deep scars. It’s obvious that they’re self harm. It kind of makes me even more depressed to see them.
Sending you lots of care 💕 hoping you can connect with a local therapist who can help you navigate these feelings - it can be a common (but not the only) response
Is there a concern that talking about self harm leads to students getting the first idea/inkling to do self harm? When I was in middle school I would have never thought about it because I didn't know it existed, but maybe I would have if I knew about it then.
Great question Glen! Some people are concern it's like the Voldemort effect- (if you say his name, it gives him more power). In the mental health world we've found that just isn't true. In fact, when you can name and talk about self-harm directly it can actually help decrease the shame that exists in around getting or asking for help. Hope that helps clarify that for ya!
I cut for 2 and a half years .i started doing it very superficially but this year i emded up in hospital for stitches.i also was inpatient for self harm 2 times.i am actually proud of my scars but i feel like they are not deep enough.i never cover them.i want to do more and deeper ones in order to feel valid and satisfied.btw i also struggle with anorexia and i ve been inpatient for that 1 time for 1 month .
Thank you so much for sharing this experience. I’m so glad you’re getting help to address the safety concerns and the emotional thinking around these experiences. It can be tough to accept the care offered - proud of you for inspiring others who may be struggling with this to accept help too!! 🫶
Can I say something a little off topic so I was on the bed beside my mom she was on her phone and my little sister was saposed to leave with my uncle or brother she was about to get forgotten so I told her she should be leaving right now she said to me ain’t you a patient and she pointed at my wrist were my cuts/scars are and I knew she was saying that I’m a mental patient and I’m like you did not need to bring that up I’m crying cause she so rude I understand she’s 12 in a half she understands mental health she knows it’s wrong but she’s untitled I lost her trust over time by the way she talks I can say anything personal she’s definitely not a person to have at a friends house not bf/gf house no way anyway it’s effecting me even more I’m already struggling and I’m doing really good without cutting myself 3-4 weeks clean after I keep curing myself she say she understands but she fucking don’t she just makes it worse 😭☹️
So sorry to you’re struggling with this. I hope you have an amazing therapist you’re working with to talk over how to navigate these tricky situations too 💛
My parents can be the same or she will like bring it up like saying oh look to her friends or family then they say something and I'm like really I get mad or upset
Hope things get better for u ❤️
I have been doing it since i was around 9, i did it for years and i was clean for 3 months and i js relapsed and i feel so guilty and they are not gonna heal soon and i have school but i don’t want anyone to know but it’s so hot in my school i can’t weak a hoodie, idk what to do
I hope this video helped you make the decision that’s right for you and your needs :) I also just responded to your comment on tonight’s LIVE call.
You can catch the replay here:
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