This is amazing. As a trans man this hits so hard for me. The story telling is perfect and shows exactly how it feels knowing your mother will always miss that little girl that you aren’t anymore
Man, the story telling in this. This so perfectly captures the strange nostalgia of being that kid who doesn't fit in, knowing that something isn't right with the way you feel about yourself, but not knowing why or how. I didn't know what dysphoria was, or why I was feeling it, or that I would be able to put a name to the feeling. I just thought I was really awful at being a girl. Thank you for writing this song. There's a side of being trans that people don't talk about enough, and this hits home so hard.
you are so special as an artist! i can’t wait for you to blow up because you can verbalize this huge mutual hurt we all collectively have from our mothers and just this full experience especially for the queers!!!
Nothing is more powerful than giving a voice to those who can’t. The way you’ve been able to articulate and express these kinds of feelings on these specific subject matters that are so hard to find-. It means the absolute world to me, you have no idea how incredible it feels to have music like this. Thank you so much, I’m so excited to see what else you create over the years.
I have two daughters that I never want to feel like Im the obstacle standing between who they really are, but the spring board to their truth. This is heartbreaking as fuck.
Every time I dye my hair a crazy color I feel like myself. My piercings my tattoos, my life... It always hurts when my dad says there's my daughter when I dye my hair brown again. It's like he's lost me when I find myself. I'm not trans, and I know the song is so strong for the community. That's just how it hit me in my personal story. I was raised christian and the way I live my life I know I'll never be who they thought I'd be. I was the good kid who did as they said. When I fell in line with what they wished they were so happy. Now all I hear is about how my mom complains about me to my sister, but says she likes me to my face.
WOW! Im already obsessed with your song "girls will be boys" but i heared this song and this hits even harder for me. I tried living up to everyones expectations when i was a little 'girl', and last year I've realised: i am not a girl. And this song is exactly how I've been feeling since then. So i really want to thank you for making this, this makes me feel really understood
funny i found this song today, the day i get back on T after having to stop during the pandemic. but this is a beautiful song, and it's something that needs to be discussed more
really feeling things from this since its been more than a month since ive spoken to my mom . our last conversation was about how "i need everyones validation and approval" just by existing as a trans guy . i texted asking her if shed ever actually accepted that the world around me sees me as male too and my family is the only part of my life that hasnt referred to me properly or verbally said they understand that this is the way its going to be . i came out 7 years ago . she never responded
As a nb it's hard to find a music I fully relate to. My mother is sweet as pie and even if she had a hard time after my coming out she's a supporting mother but I have a big family and am known as the "princess" so it's been really hard going to family reunion we're all supposed to be hypocrites but apparently i didn't get the good liar gene
Amazing 😻 So many beautiful elements and the story comes through and we all identify with it to some degree! Love your song, please keep creating. Also for some reason your beautiful voice and singing melodies remind me of Sherri DuPree Bemis of Eisley!
growing up my mother set such high expectations for me. i could never live up to them, and it seems like my whole life I’ve been trying to be the person she wanted me to be rather than who I really am. just thank you for your talents, sharing your version of what is unfortunately a common experience, I feel like for once my feelings have been validated 🥹😭💕 just gained a lifelong fan 💛💛
My birthday is tomorrow, I couldn’t think of a better accidental present, I couldn’t cut my hair, I would cut off half inches in secret and try to hide it and I used to steal my brothers clothes between cycles and hide them in my backpack and return them to the laundry after school, that’s when I started washing my clothes at night when everyone was asleep
When I saw this song being advertised on Ticktock I actually prayed that it this would have some kind of transgender theme to it and am SO NOT DISAPPOINTED I LOVE THIS!!!! Thank you so much for making this. 💙
My foster mom officially told me she didn’t want to be in my life a couple days ago which makes me 0/2 moms and my heart is broken a little more today. This song really speaks to me as the “perfect” child turned bisexual polyam woman. I thought if maybe I could just pretend to be her, that I could suppress that side of me, but that doesn’t really work.
I only recently figured out that I’m trans, but I’d had to cut off my parents beforehand when I came out as bi. I was the “daughter” that got straight A’s and was never in trouble, and made them proud, and now I’m the outcast of the family. This song and video mean so much to me. I’m so glad to have found it now. Beautiful work ❤
Happy pride month jules!! I just wanna say thank you for making this song and music video. I felt a lot of sadness and comfort while watching it. Cuz it really resonated with me and my experience:']. Even tho some time has passed. There's always gonna be a part of me that just wants to be genuinely accepted and instead of just tolerated. Like, i don't wanna be "hidden", i want them to celebrate me. I want them.. to be truly proud.. that i am who i am. Thank you again Jules🫂
I'm nonbinary & this hits so hard cause my mom will never know or accept the real me... my mother's daughter is an undead thing I resurrect to put on a performance for her...
Found your account of tiktok a few weeks ago, like, two weeks to a month before the release? And I knew I would cry when it eventually released, and I was right. Thank you for giving me a proper queer-mommy issues song to cry to. Look forward to seeing the rest of your stuff :)
god this made me cry ugly tears I'm still in that initial disappointment phase of not being the daughter my mom wanted and I haven't even came out about being nonbinary yet and I don't think I can handle her reaction so I'm just going to continue living a lie until I move out
This song hits home so hard. I just came out to my parents (trans-nonbinary) and my mother is displeased. We're managing and making things work, but seriously, this song is exactly how I feel every day. Thank you for helping AFAB trans people like me feel seen 💙💙💙🫂🫂🫂
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This is amazing. As a trans man this hits so hard for me. The story telling is perfect and shows exactly how it feels knowing your mother will always miss that little girl that you aren’t anymore
Thank you :’) sending love
U need some mens soap?!
Man, the story telling in this. This so perfectly captures the strange nostalgia of being that kid who doesn't fit in, knowing that something isn't right with the way you feel about yourself, but not knowing why or how. I didn't know what dysphoria was, or why I was feeling it, or that I would be able to put a name to the feeling. I just thought I was really awful at being a girl.
Thank you for writing this song. There's a side of being trans that people don't talk about enough, and this hits home so hard.
Wow this means so much to me. Thank you so much
🏳️⚧️❤️🔥 honestly you said it better than what I was trying to type out 😌
loved sharing our story together
Love you so much🥺
this made me actually lose my shit. I’ve never been able to articulate this part of being trans. The daughter that my mother wanted
IT MAKES ME SO HAPPY THAT YOU ARE HAPPY TO HONOR HER!!! ❤️
@@julespaymer MWAH!!!!
Thank you for this song it is so healing for childhood me who felt like I had to be the perfect "daughter" and couldn't express myself
I FELT THE SAME
So freaking good!! I love the storytelling.
“she’s like me but she’s dishonest” *chills!*
THANK YOU that’s my favorite line of the whole song!!
Hayley Williams shared your song! It’s so nice
Ahhhh I know it’s so crazy😭
I'm so glad Hayley brought me here. This is *astonishingly* good. I'm sobbing. Wow.
I’m glad she brought you too, thank u for watching 🥺
you are so special as an artist! i can’t wait for you to blow up because you can verbalize this huge mutual hurt we all collectively have from our mothers and just this full experience especially for the queers!!!
Wow thank you so much this means so much to me 🥺
Beyond honored to bring this to life with you both ❤
You brought this song to life I love you ❤️
Nothing is more powerful than giving a voice to those who can’t. The way you’ve been able to articulate and express these kinds of feelings on these specific subject matters that are so hard to find-. It means the absolute world to me, you have no idea how incredible it feels to have music like this. Thank you so much, I’m so excited to see what else you create over the years.
I have two daughters that I never want to feel like Im the obstacle standing between who they really are, but the spring board to their truth. This is heartbreaking as fuck.
This comment🥺🥺🥺
your voice and miki’s fit together so well! love this song🥺😭
Thank you!! I love their voice so much
Every time I dye my hair a crazy color I feel like myself. My piercings my tattoos, my life... It always hurts when my dad says there's my daughter when I dye my hair brown again. It's like he's lost me when I find myself. I'm not trans, and I know the song is so strong for the community. That's just how it hit me in my personal story. I was raised christian and the way I live my life I know I'll never be who they thought I'd be. I was the good kid who did as they said. When I fell in line with what they wished they were so happy. Now all I hear is about how my mom complains about me to my sister, but says she likes me to my face.
I loved all of this. But those last four shots were just achingly beautiful
Thank you ❤
not only is this song amazing, but the video is fucking perfect
Thank you I’m so proud of it🥺
Oh I’m never recovering from this am I. Shit well that’s a convo for my therapist and I. Beautiful song.
Hahahaha thank you ❤
This song gives me chills omg it's so beautiful and the song and the video portraits the feelings so well it feels so real😭.
Thank you ❤️
WTF this is beautiful film
Thank you❤
Yesss🎉😊
I found this on Hayley Williams’ story. This song is so beautiful. The lyrics are so strong. ❤️❤️❤️
Thank you so much ❤
Grateful that Hayley posted it. Such a touching song
I’m grateful that she did too🥺
I come back to this song over and over. So relatable
Hi I'm gender fluid /trans and i was also adopted after my moms miscarriage and can def tell she would of rather had her, relate to all of this.
Wowow I’m so glad this song and video found u. Sending hugs
Trooooon
Happy pride month
i balled my eyes out watching this, thank you for putting into words what i have never been able to say
Thank u for listening🥺 sending so much love
Thank you for articulating this. I feel seen
Thank you for listening🥺
This is a perfect song. Thank you. I physically felt the tension in the hair braiding.
❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Wow 👏🏼
SO GOOD.
Thank you so much🥺
i needed to watch this and cry 😭😭
🧡🧡🧡sending love
This is beautiful
Thank you❤️
Jules and Miki 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 wow thank you for being honest and brave (and also joyful and hot)
Thank you nell I love u🥺
Damn. That's all I can say. Damn.
🥺
Omg you two. Thank you.
Thank you for listening❤
I adore this so much. Thank you for creating this song ❤️
Thank you for listening to it🥺
Instantly came from TikTok❤️ talented beyond all measure!!
Welcome!! Thank you ❤
this is really great
This song is everything! ❤
Thank you❤️
INCREDIBLE. This is just such an amazing project, I’m so happy to see it finally all done!
AHHH thank u
Chillssssss❤
Thank you🥺
No words 🤍
I've been waiting for weeks for this and you did not disappoint!! Absolutely perfect💜
Thank you wow and thank you for being patient 🥺
wow, this is incredible. both the song and the music video tap into some deeeep feelings for me. thank you for bringing us this art
Thank you for listening to it and watching it. It means so much to me
this is so beautiful
Thank you ❤️
Wow.. wow..
Thank you for this amazing song and music video
Why am i in tears?
Brb crying 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
WOW! Im already obsessed with your song "girls will be boys" but i heared this song and this hits even harder for me. I tried living up to everyones expectations when i was a little 'girl', and last year I've realised: i am not a girl. And this song is exactly how I've been feeling since then. So i really want to thank you for making this, this makes me feel really understood
OWWWW
Absolutely fantastic as usual. This song will gladly become a daily listen.
Thank you so much u angel❤
Amazing! 🖤🖤🖤
Obrigada por apresentar, Hayley
She’s the best❤
Amazing thank you for this
My mother issues couldn’t handle this… I feel heard
Let’s go mommy issues
WOA…. THIS IS ART
Thank you🥺
Thank you so much for this song. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.
🥺thank you for listening
Loving this ❤
This is everything to me. Thank you this is a masterpiece
Thank you for listening ❤
funny i found this song today, the day i get back on T after having to stop during the pandemic. but this is a beautiful song, and it's something that needs to be discussed more
Wowoww congratulations❤❤
really feeling things from this since its been more than a month since ive spoken to my mom . our last conversation was about how "i need everyones validation and approval" just by existing as a trans guy . i texted asking her if shed ever actually accepted that the world around me sees me as male too and my family is the only part of my life that hasnt referred to me properly or verbally said they understand that this is the way its going to be . i came out 7 years ago . she never responded
Her loss. Sending you so much love❤
So beautiful
Thank you❤
i didn't expect to cry but here i am
i really love this will be listening to this on repeat now
Thank u🥺
i love this song so much ❤️😭 the video is so good and sad. it’s all so perfect
Thank u angel
crying 😭 thank you for this
🥺🥺thank u for listening
This is my new favorite song. Thank you, Jules, for putting so many of our personal experiences and emotions into one song.
How do i send this to my mom
Do ittt
This is so powerful and struck me to my core. Thank you so much for creating something so beautiful. ❤
Wow thank u for listening angel
holy shit. I think I’ve watched this 5 times in a row now. the story telling is absolutely amazing. absolutely love this 🤍🤍🤍
holy shit this made me sob. so fucking amazing, thank you so much
🥺🥺thank u ash
As a nb it's hard to find a music I fully relate to. My mother is sweet as pie and even if she had a hard time after my coming out she's a supporting mother but I have a big family and am known as the "princess" so it's been really hard going to family reunion we're all supposed to be hypocrites but apparently i didn't get the good liar gene
I'm crying so ✨ fucking much✨
Amazing 😻 So many beautiful elements and the story comes through and we all identify with it to some degree! Love your song, please keep creating.
Also for some reason your beautiful voice and singing melodies remind me of Sherri DuPree Bemis of Eisley!
Oooo I have to listen!! Thank you❤
Do you have other social platform to follow?
@@olliemarin1823 yes!! @julespaymer on tiktok and Instagram! :)
@@julespaymer following ya!!!
growing up my mother set such high expectations for me. i could never live up to them, and it seems like my whole life I’ve been trying to be the person she wanted me to be rather than who I really am. just thank you for your talents, sharing your version of what is unfortunately a common experience, I feel like for once my feelings have been validated 🥹😭💕 just gained a lifelong fan 💛💛
Wow this means so much to me thank you so much❤
My birthday is tomorrow, I couldn’t think of a better accidental present, I couldn’t cut my hair, I would cut off half inches in secret and try to hide it and I used to steal my brothers clothes between cycles and hide them in my backpack and return them to the laundry after school, that’s when I started washing my clothes at night when everyone was asleep
Wowow thank u for sharing🥹 happy birthday!!!❤
@@julespaymer thank you, I appreciate the reply and you made my birthday all the better
When I saw this song being advertised on Ticktock I actually prayed that it this would have some kind of transgender theme to it and am SO NOT DISAPPOINTED I LOVE THIS!!!! Thank you so much for making this. 💙
My foster mom officially told me she didn’t want to be in my life a couple days ago which makes me 0/2 moms and my heart is broken a little more today. This song really speaks to me as the “perfect” child turned bisexual polyam woman. I thought if maybe I could just pretend to be her, that I could suppress that side of me, but that doesn’t really work.
Sending you so so so much love rn
I only recently figured out that I’m trans, but I’d had to cut off my parents beforehand when I came out as bi. I was the “daughter” that got straight A’s and was never in trouble, and made them proud, and now I’m the outcast of the family. This song and video mean so much to me. I’m so glad to have found it now. Beautiful work ❤
Wowow I’m so glad it found u🥺I relate to that so much lol
Happy pride month jules!!
I just wanna say thank you for making this song and music video. I felt a lot of sadness and comfort while watching it. Cuz it really resonated with me and my experience:']. Even tho some time has passed. There's always gonna be a part of me that just wants to be genuinely accepted and instead of just tolerated. Like, i don't wanna be "hidden", i want them to celebrate me. I want them.. to be truly proud.. that i am who i am.
Thank you again Jules🫂
I'm nonbinary & this hits so hard cause my mom will never know or accept the real me... my mother's daughter is an undead thing I resurrect to put on a performance for her...
How do I send this to my estranged mother without sending this to my estranged mother
Omg do it
Found your account of tiktok a few weeks ago, like, two weeks to a month before the release? And I knew I would cry when it eventually released, and I was right. Thank you for giving me a proper queer-mommy issues song to cry to. Look forward to seeing the rest of your stuff :)
god this made me cry ugly tears I'm still in that initial disappointment phase of not being the daughter my mom wanted and I haven't even came out about being nonbinary yet and I don't think I can handle her reaction so I'm just going to continue living a lie until I move out
Has a gender fluid person, this hit me hard. That was my child hood. Thank you for the song.
I cant quite express it but this is the best song ive heard about being trans...wow
🥺thank u so much
This song is absolutely amazing as a transmasc and ND child
Thank you so so much, as a non-binary/trans masc from Malaysia, I feel so seen by your music, life-saving and life-changing stuff, truly, thank you.
Wow this comment. I’m so glad this song found u, I’m sending u so much love. More music coming soon❤️
I don’t really have words, but I’m sobbing and this song is beautiful
Thank you maggie🥺
As a trans masc person, this made me weep it was so spot on. Thank you.
🥹🫶🏾
This song hits home so hard. I just came out to my parents (trans-nonbinary) and my mother is displeased. We're managing and making things work, but seriously, this song is exactly how I feel every day. Thank you for helping AFAB trans people like me feel seen 💙💙💙🫂🫂🫂
Okay I wept
Me too hahah😭