Vulnerability is key. Without vulnerability there is no proper expression of emotions to the woman and therefore the woman will feel insecure….. if a man is not feeling secure he will not get vulnerable - so it is like an insecure man will repel a woman as she starts to feel insecure because he has not shared his feelings which means being vulnerable. Vulnerability is therefore a strength rather than a weakness. Great video thanks!
Relationship coach, Greta Beresaite asserts that men fall in love with uncertainty. That's one of the reasons they enjoy sports. She says men like a certain amount of stress and risk. I did a video with her a while back on RUclips about my recent book, A Season Called Lonely: Managing it; finding its gifts.
You have no idea how much you are helping me to overcome hard time by letting us know how our psychology works sensitively during falling in love with someone. Makes me feel like I’m not the only one and its just human nature, hormones and psychology. Makes me help to heal.
This reminds me of the video I saw with Manifest with Persis talking about detachment and how if we have a healthy self concept then things like someone leaving or not texting doesn’t effect you whatsoever because you still know your worth etc.
The death information and the reality of losing a person, is a reality I fully came into when I lost my first husband who was the love of my life. Now I love harder and deeper and recognize LOVE -just as you describe it -Possibility of LOSS - right away. It is completely different outlook on life. The intensity I feel & show is NOT for the average man. ❤
@@MissBluebirddays I know it's mostly Robert Greene's content, but I'm pretty sure part of it isn't 🤔 Correct me if I'm wrong. The part that struck me was about death
Maybe for men they need a pain whatever but for me if a man shows me any pain it pushes and I’ll never talk to u again 🤣😩🤷🏻♀️ If your text to short, cut off If your being a serial liker on Insta, cut off
That's attachment Father Alex. Not love. Love is stable. It's knowing. You might have been very misguided by your own feelings because you were emotionally vulnerable at the time and you were inlove with the feeling she gave you
@@MindfulAttractionDear father Alex, I agree with her because I read the book ‚attached‘ written by two psychologists and they mention that when we are for example in this dynamic of the anxious+avoidant couple, what we often perceive as intense love and passion is in fact an activated attachment system, meaning your instincts feel your relationship is threatened, which is a danger (and was even more in history), and therefore it comes up with so called protest behaviors like jealousy, or distancing yourself, or feeling passion to be more willing to get extremely close, all depending on the situation and the attachment styles of the people involved. They also said people who don’t have secure attachment or who often were in insecurely (anxious or avoidant) attached relationships often believe that the feeling of an activated attachment system is love, and so when they meet a secure person, they often feel like ‚there is no spark, no chemistry‘, not because they are not attractive but because they don’t activate your attachment system. In a secure relationship, we feel we can rely on them to be there for us, so we don’t feel these intense emergency feelings (or very rarely if we screwed up a bit). It’s nothing wrong with the feeling that a love can last forever (or until death…), that feeling can help people to be more secure and to build the relationship further because if you always feel scared to lose the other one, it’s hard to buy a house together for example. Activated attachment systems take up quite some energy and mental capacity so if that is ‚love‘, it’s not healthy in the long term. Secure attachment helps us focus on other things like sports and hobbies and self development because we don’t have to spend time thinking if they are distant or not. Can recommend this book, by the way love your growth especially in psychology and relationship dynamics as well as kindness ❤❤❤
Ps These days I believe love is more about caring about the other persons feelings and wellbeing mixed with some sexual and romantic feelings. More about building and investing than this intense feeling of passion
Rosann you are a woman. He is a man speaking from the male perspective. This is our issue as women. We.think men are women, but they arent!!! Id listen to father Alex
it might mean he is attached to you but is immature and selfish, or impulsive, or all of it, and therefore puts his needs for external validation before your feelings and relationship. Might not be a horrible person but maybe not ready to be a non cheating partner yet.
Youre describining love as a low complexity trauma bond. ...thats not love, at least not for women. Eitherway. Thank you for your strength in being able to share that vulnerable time in your life so we can learn
Then don't start ti give lessons ti others if are in that state , sorry for you ! God is the only truth love and he is in every persson ! Love is only at the soul level not at the underware level or joky mind level and is for building a real life !
Sorry but you are imature .... Untill you will not know what real love it is and Untill you will not love a woman in God for all your life then you will remain just a little Boy !
Dude if you could read off that chatgpt as a real human I would greatly appreciate it. It's very hard to not turn it off when a robot is telling me how humans work🫣
Many people here will hate on me but according to my experience , treat them like dirt and they stick like mud .
👀👀😂
Don’t let men read this 😂
I agree 🤣
Hahahhahah😂
Vulnerability is key. Without vulnerability there is no proper expression of emotions to the woman and therefore the woman will feel insecure….. if a man is not feeling secure he will not get vulnerable - so it is like an insecure man will repel a woman as she starts to feel insecure because he has not shared his feelings which means being vulnerable. Vulnerability is therefore a strength rather than a weakness. Great video thanks!
That’s where I’m at. So confusing and frustrating.
Guys love to be trauma bonded like they mama did to them when they was little helloooo.
😂😂😂😂😅😅 Oh God😭
Damn! This is the sad truth
*Love is a two-way street constantly under construction.*
Relationship coach, Greta Beresaite asserts that men fall in love with uncertainty. That's one of the reasons they enjoy sports. She says men like a certain amount of stress and risk. I did a video with her a while back on RUclips about my recent book, A Season Called Lonely: Managing it; finding its gifts.
Once you heald , and you love your self, it's a life changing turnover,you don't need ...it comes to you❤
I bet it's pain and fear of losing you
Hahahah🤣
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hahaha yes over and over again
😂😂 damn… we’ve all graduated huh lmao.
You have no idea how much you are helping me to overcome hard time by letting us know how our psychology works sensitively during falling in love with someone. Makes me feel like I’m not the only one and its just human nature, hormones and psychology. Makes me help to heal.
That's when he committed to me and I saw his vulnerability
If they don't like u that much it won't work. And i mean even after sleeping together so many times. You can tell if a guy likes you fr
This reminds me of the video I saw with Manifest with Persis talking about detachment and how if we have a healthy self concept then things like someone leaving or not texting doesn’t effect you whatsoever because you still know your worth etc.
Narcissistic people have the same fears
Exactly
The death information and the reality of losing a person, is a reality I fully came into when I lost my first husband who was the love of my life. Now I love harder and deeper and recognize LOVE -just as you describe it -Possibility of LOSS - right away. It is completely different outlook on life. The intensity I feel & show is NOT for the average man. ❤
Am addicted to your videos, agreable speech, authenticity and humor
Its amazing Alex
Thanks
From Paris
God allows ppl to collide for a reason, for however long it takes to create that memory. And its true , love is a limbo of pain and pleasure combined.
Oh my! Your writing is profound! It really hit me deep inside, because it rings so very true. This is by far your best video that I have seen 😮
Thats Robert Greene, he didn't write it 😂
@@MissBluebirddays I know it's mostly Robert Greene's content, but I'm pretty sure part of it isn't 🤔
Correct me if I'm wrong. The part that struck me was about death
I've been single 7 yrs now ❤❤❤ always pull away 😂
Shattering reality by pain, very good point
You are my therapy, I loveeeee you
The Bank girl was using your tactics against the Guru himself 😂❤
I loved that vulnerability poem.
the poem,by whom?
Maybe for men they need a pain whatever but for me if a man shows me any pain it pushes and I’ll never talk to u again 🤣😩🤷🏻♀️
If your text to short, cut off
If your being a serial liker on Insta, cut off
Lol, if your text too short 😂😂😂
…But it seems like that’s all they know how to do is send a short text.
when you finish a chapter, it allows a new chapter to open up big hugs n Merry Christmas, Feliz Navidad,prospero anio nuevo !
Pain is a psychological threat of attachment. True love doesn’t feel pain
Uno i know its ur video even when i just see a pic without scrolling to see who uploads loving these
Men I love you on Jesus. You have confirmed so many things that I had prayed for... Gob Bless! I am gonna to invest on your course till December!
That's attachment Father Alex. Not love. Love is stable. It's knowing. You might have been very misguided by your own feelings because you were emotionally vulnerable at the time and you were inlove with the feeling she gave you
perhaps. Pls elaborate more if you could
@@MindfulAttractionDear father Alex, I agree with her because I read the book ‚attached‘ written by two psychologists and they mention that when we are for example in this dynamic of the anxious+avoidant couple, what we often perceive as intense love and passion is in fact an activated attachment system, meaning your instincts feel your relationship is threatened, which is a danger (and was even more in history), and therefore it comes up with so called protest behaviors like jealousy, or distancing yourself, or feeling passion to be more willing to get extremely close, all depending on the situation and the attachment styles of the people involved. They also said people who don’t have secure attachment or who often were in insecurely (anxious or avoidant) attached relationships often believe that the feeling of an activated attachment system is love, and so when they meet a secure person, they often feel like ‚there is no spark, no chemistry‘, not because they are not attractive but because they don’t activate your attachment system. In a secure relationship, we feel we can rely on them to be there for us, so we don’t feel these intense emergency feelings (or very rarely if we screwed up a bit). It’s nothing wrong with the feeling that a love can last forever (or until death…), that feeling can help people to be more secure and to build the relationship further because if you always feel scared to lose the other one, it’s hard to buy a house together for example. Activated attachment systems take up quite some energy and mental capacity so if that is ‚love‘, it’s not healthy in the long term. Secure attachment helps us focus on other things like sports and hobbies and self development because we don’t have to spend time thinking if they are distant or not. Can recommend this book, by the way love your growth especially in psychology and relationship dynamics as well as kindness ❤❤❤
Ps These days I believe love is more about caring about the other persons feelings and wellbeing mixed with some sexual and romantic feelings. More about building and investing than this intense feeling of passion
Love is unconditional.
Rosann you are a woman. He is a man speaking from the male perspective. This is our issue as women. We.think men are women, but they arent!!! Id listen to father Alex
Wow! Excellent videos - I enjoy them all and love how you tie in the audio books !! Amazing
You’re so attractive
That jump 😂😂😂😂
Literally my ex has all of these signs but he’s still a cheater, so what does that mean?
It means that dating gurus don’t really know what they’re talking about! Lol
It means he’s insecure and looking for validation in how many women he can get and that he’s a waste of time.
It means he needs more validation from as many people as he needs
it might mean he is attached to you but is immature and selfish, or impulsive, or all of it, and therefore puts his needs for external validation before your feelings and relationship. Might not be a horrible person but maybe not ready to be a non cheating partner yet.
also might mean he doesn’t have enough respect for you or basically women or other people in general which again makes it hard to be his partner
Loving your savage advise! 👑❤️
NEEDED THIS THANK YOU 🙏🏽
I feel this so much for a certain guy. I know he doesn't love me but for 4 years I have been in love 😮💨
You must find another passion or hobby and be open to the idea of an available man who will adore you.
I learned it could also be Limerence
You're not in love you're in delusion. Love flows both ways. It's not love if it's not mutual
is there a possibility for shorts or summaries.... or anything under 30 or 20 min. and cutting all the obvi stuff maybe, please?
this channel isnt for you then....
i too think 30 min is way too long, could be 15-20max.
Your videos are very helpful💯
Ur right .. my ex changed when I pulled away and he thought I was talking to someone else
A whirlPOOL of anxiety :P
Laughing so hard.
Tyrone is in the building 🤣
Haven’t watched in more than 2 years and I see he’s still talking about Tyrone 6:13 🤣🤣 so funny
How are your eyes feeling Father Alex?🙌🏾✨🎉💙
Can you make videos en español? Por favor mi cariño
Closing the channel again 😂
Love your style and videos ❤
You crack me up!
Youre describining love as a low complexity trauma bond.
...thats not love, at least not for women.
Eitherway. Thank you for your strength in being able to share that vulnerable time in your life so we can learn
THIS IS TRUE....💯💯
How do we know this isn’t limerence tho..
What book is he reading of to?
Dude, one flower? That's textbook playa
Which audio book r u listening to ?
That’s what I wanna know
Is it a poetry I love it ❤
Lol Tyron 😂
what if we initate romantism/?? you def think it's the guy who always has to make the gesture?
Wheres Tyrone 🤨😩
Love you Alex. ❤
Pain and love dark and light up and down as within so without….you can’t have one without the other as is life
Yoooooo wtf 05:57 ?!?? wym
Say MY Name RIGHTTT Tyrone 😝
...Lol
That’s not love
So how do we get our ex back? What if he has begun a relationship?
Lol 😂😂😂 20:11
Alex u look good 👍
Then don't start ti give lessons ti others if are in that state , sorry for you ! God is the only truth love and he is in every persson !
Love is only at the soul level not at the underware level or joky mind level and is for building a real life !
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Alexxxxxx🤤🤤🤤🤤🤤🤤
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I think I caused too much pain now he doesn’t want me.
how so
@@nataliebtw4740 he said I’m abusive
@@nataliebtw4740 & he couldn’t make me happy.
this isn’t love. this is attachment. play stupid games, win stupid prizes.
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Sorry but you are imature ....
Untill you will not know what real love it is and Untill you will not love a woman in God for all your life then you will remain just a little Boy !
And you are mature, with this god-shit...
Dude if you could read off that chatgpt as a real human I would greatly appreciate it. It's very hard to not turn it off when a robot is telling me how humans work🫣