If we constantly mold ourselves just to have weathly man , you will lose yourself. I love my locs and I love having tattoos and I want more. Idgaf if the society doesn’t like it, babe I’m BLACK I’m already supposedly at the bottom but I don’t see myself like that. I can’t. The right man and the right people will rock with me regardless and do already.
This society can be delusional! Ugh, our sisters are losing their essence daily, to "look presentable" to get rich men and to maintain an image for their careers. The willingness to be inauthentic today is sad. Some will spend every dime on body work, eyelashes, weaves/wigs, etc. to get by. The individuals who have altered their lifestyle to do those contradictory things that were spoken are the ones genuinely lacking. Like relaxing or straightening hair, wearing weaves and wigs to appear, cleaner or better is outrageous really. I Unapologetically love my locs! Black women and girls 🗣Tell them to take it or leave it! I can guarantee that wealthy man rolling with you!! I bet you can run that business!! AS YOU ARE!!! 🤎
Thank you for this! I’m only 2 weeks in with my starter locs & I was worried about how it would affect dating & my career. However at some point we need to stop caring about societies standards
Men LOVE my locs 😍 theres nothing wrong with weave but alot of men find natural hair to be a refreshing change of pace from weaves and relaxers. But ultimately i think most men simply dont care either way. But i love my locs and im never going back lol 😂
I live in the uk and have semi Freeform locs. As an educated professional, I definitely see that it’s been a hindrance in my progression. The unconscious bias has been really strong, particularly in my present job. I’ve had a conversation with my boyfriend about how he’d feel about me cutting them and though he’s supportive of me, he said he absolutely loves my hair as it is. Side note, I have a lot of tattoos, though in places where they are not visible in my uniform.
Ouuuu this had me heated when I saw this live! Cause all of this is a lie! Gotta ask men what they like and for real who cares what they like. She can’t even come in live without wigs and makeup. Women with locs embrace all of themselves regardless
People are mindless ghetto is a location now it has become a person, place or thing. Technically nothing black women does is considered pristine or classy which is why respectability politics arose to try to show our humanity. But we were never respected. Being authentic is the best way to go and good on you for doing this video. BTW how classy was Lauryn Hill with locs especially in ex factor video :) Locs also can be neat looking, unsure of my texture but my hair generally does . I am aware of the texturism I have felt and our society pushes and have fallen into haveing unrealistic expectation around my locs. But i am getting better at accepting I wont have tracy chapman or lauryn hill locs lol
Who is for is for you. Be you! If you can’t love yourself with your hair at any level, then there’s no space for anyone else to. Locs are not ghetto. One could say fire engine red weave is, however it’s all apart of our culture. It’s unfortunate that this conversation takes up so much mental space for women.
As a 30 something woman who lives in what I call the land of rich white men, FL (it’s a beach city not Miami), I’ve been approached by more white men than black men. I was born here and with weave I attracted more black men after I went natural that changed, they (black men) look at me but rarely approach me. I will acknowledge the fact that I have waist length sisterlocks and most times they (white men) assume they’re braids even after I tell them they’re locs, they are not deterred. I have to wonder how much of this conversation is about the covert fetishization of black women especially when we attempt to assimilate whiteness. I’ve never dated any of the men who have approached me because I always have that in mind. How much of their attraction is rooted in our appearance vs genuine interest? I have pretty large tattoos as well, both hair and tattoos seem to draw them and become conversation starters.
A man that was interested in me told me he actually prefers women with wigs and he actually likes it deep down, but would still accept me. I told him to go find someone else. Not interested. I don't want to be managed...It's best he goes for what he really likes. Not to talk about me then trying to be someone else to keep a certain type of man. Like honey, men that have a problem with the natural are not the type I'm looking for in the first place. I'm actually trying to avoid them, lol. Not that they are bad people, but they're just not for me.
I feel I’m hyper-sexualized with wigs, where as with my locs I am more outwardly & openly respected. Men literally run to hold doors open for me and give praise. It really needs to be studied lol
I saw this live and as much as it may be hurtful it’s true to a degree. Wealthy men like slim women and no tattoos… and locs are not a part of the aesthetic. Same goes for braids. We may feel a positive way about locs but the majority of society does think it’s low class unfortunately. I don’t care, I have locs anyways lol
@@jasminscarbrough2596what is it about black women as a collective that wealthy men wouldn’t pursue? Please give me the most LOGICAL explanation please.
@@Professoryu my dads a millionaire. From what he says it’s the way the dress, the way we conduct ourselves, not being a homemaker. He did marry a black woman but she’s not American. She’s Caribbean. He says black women as a collective need to carry themselves more like African and Caribbean women. If I’m being honest most of the dark skinned women I see that are with wealthy men are also from those places. When she’s American and black they usually choose the lighter skinned ones.
As a girlie with semi Freeform hair, I had to explain to my mom that my hair doesn’t shine like other girlies. Locs don’t shine. . My hair is healthy , and clean. People don’t like the matting. They say it looks dirty. They don’t get it.
my locs and its journey is part of what made my bf fall in love with me. he grew out his hair and sports an afro now too. he does anything for me. as for attracting guys, with locs i feel like i attract guys left snd right. i can’t get a break sometimes lol. for the topic on attracting rich men, i think it’s bs. there’s all different types of rich men and there’s definitely one out there who would appreciate you for who you are. “just shy of bleaching your skin” is tea asf lol
I’ve always wondered why locs are the most hated style in this society. I love my locs it showcases who I am within. Mirrors my blackness & my strength. Plus My hair is the longest & healthiest its ever been. Almost to my butt actually. They may see them as ghetto but holy spirit says its a righteous 👑😎 The longer they get the sharper my senses & intuition get the stronger my relationship to The Most High gets etc ❤
Sometimes I feel like my loc are hindering me from getting another corporate job. I started pulling my hair back through virtual interviews so it’s makes it difficult for the interviewer to see my locs. But as soon as I do the in person nope we don’t want you and I have all the skills
@ScorpioKLR, I’m a guy as well and my locs are down to the middle of my back. I’ve never had any issues with my hair in Corporate America (I’m an Accountant with an MBA) and my locs have an ombre dye effect (black to dark brown to honey blonde). To be fair, I do get a retwist every 3-4 months, wash my hair regularly (every few weeks), keep it smelling fresh and moisturized and I make sure that the frizz is kept to a minimum. I’m also well spoken and I dress neatly. I’m sure that all of those factors play a part in how I’m perceived and the people at work do give me positive feedback regarding my presentation. May I ask, how do you maintain your locs ?
AND some woman are a slave to their wigs and weaves because they do not have heathy hair or edges and I’m not talking about people with medical conditions I’m talking about bad hair practices I told my sister for YEARS stop braiding your hair so tight it’s causing thinning SO She stopped and went to a full tight weave they used to see it so tight she has no hair now she feel like she has no choice IF my God give. Hair is not Classy Enough I do NOT want him
I would love to hear you talk about cultural appropriation and your views on this as well. I am seeing a loctition soon myself, but I am getting a little bit of pushback from some of my friends in regards to this. What are your feelings? Thank you so much!
LMAO YT Men flock when I wear my natural hair the brothers who like “REAL” never approach I’m always dressed to the nines and my face is a natural Beat So it’s date YT or single
Straight hair on bw is ridiculous. You’re taking the ether out of your hair & it also means you hate yourself. All judgement over here especially from your ancestors
If we constantly mold ourselves just to have weathly man , you will lose yourself. I love my locs and I love having tattoos and I want more. Idgaf if the society doesn’t like it, babe I’m BLACK I’m already supposedly at the bottom but I don’t see myself like that. I can’t. The right man and the right people will rock with me regardless and do already.
This society can be delusional! Ugh, our sisters are losing their essence daily, to "look presentable" to get rich men and to maintain an image for their careers. The willingness to be inauthentic today is sad. Some will spend every dime on body work, eyelashes, weaves/wigs, etc. to get by. The individuals who have altered their lifestyle to do those contradictory things that were spoken are the ones genuinely lacking. Like relaxing or straightening hair, wearing weaves and wigs to appear, cleaner or better is outrageous really.
I Unapologetically love my locs! Black women and girls 🗣Tell them to take it or leave it! I can guarantee that wealthy man rolling with you!! I bet you can run that business!! AS YOU ARE!!!
🤎
Thank you for this! I’m only 2 weeks in with my starter locs & I was worried about how it would affect dating & my career. However at some point we need to stop caring about societies standards
I got the MOST attention when i had locs. One man actually stalked me
I agree locs are the final boss & the promise land of natural hair. Well said 👏🏽👏🏽❤
This is my favorite comment
Men LOVE my locs 😍 theres nothing wrong with weave but alot of men find natural hair to be a refreshing change of pace from weaves and relaxers. But ultimately i think most men simply dont care either way. But i love my locs and im never going back lol 😂
I agree…it actually keeps the hoodbuggers away quite honestly! I gain more respect with my locs versus when I had my natural curly hair ❤
Lol this is nonsensical because crazy idea: you can also not want any man, rich or poor, who hates your natural hair.
I live in the uk and have semi Freeform locs. As an educated professional, I definitely see that it’s been a hindrance in my progression. The unconscious bias has been really strong, particularly in my present job. I’ve had a conversation with my boyfriend about how he’d feel about me cutting them and though he’s supportive of me, he said he absolutely loves my hair as it is.
Side note, I have a lot of tattoos, though in places where they are not visible in my uniform.
Ouuuu this had me heated when I saw this live! Cause all of this is a lie! Gotta ask men what they like and for real who cares what they like. She can’t even come in live without wigs and makeup. Women with locs embrace all of themselves regardless
People are mindless ghetto is a location now it has become a person, place or thing. Technically nothing black women does is considered pristine or classy which is why respectability politics arose to try to show our humanity. But we were never respected. Being authentic is the best way to go and good on you for doing this video. BTW how classy was Lauryn Hill with locs especially in ex factor video :) Locs also can be neat looking, unsure of my texture but my hair generally does . I am aware of the texturism I have felt and our society pushes and have fallen into haveing unrealistic expectation around my locs. But i am getting better at accepting I wont have tracy chapman or lauryn hill locs lol
You were speaking nothing but the truth 💪🏿
Who is for is for you. Be you!
If you can’t love yourself with your hair at any level, then there’s no space for anyone else to. Locs are not ghetto. One could say fire engine red weave is, however it’s all apart of our culture. It’s unfortunate that this conversation takes up so much mental space for women.
As a 30 something woman who lives in what I call the land of rich white men, FL (it’s a beach city not Miami), I’ve been approached by more white men than black men. I was born here and with weave I attracted more black men after I went natural that changed, they (black men) look at me but rarely approach me. I will acknowledge the fact that I have waist length sisterlocks and most times they (white men) assume they’re braids even after I tell them they’re locs, they are not deterred. I have to wonder how much of this conversation is about the covert fetishization of black women especially when we attempt to assimilate whiteness. I’ve never dated any of the men who have approached me because I always have that in mind. How much of their attraction is rooted in our appearance vs genuine interest? I have pretty large tattoos as well, both hair and tattoos seem to draw them and become conversation starters.
A man that was interested in me told me he actually prefers women with wigs and he actually likes it deep down, but would still accept me.
I told him to go find someone else. Not interested. I don't want to be managed...It's best he goes for what he really likes. Not to talk about me then trying to be someone else to keep a certain type of man. Like honey, men that have a problem with the natural are not the type I'm looking for in the first place. I'm actually trying to avoid them, lol. Not that they are bad people, but they're just not for me.
I feel I’m hyper-sexualized with wigs, where as with my locs I am more outwardly & openly respected. Men literally run to hold doors open for me and give praise. It really needs to be studied lol
You fine asffffff
I saw this live and as much as it may be hurtful it’s true to a degree. Wealthy men like slim women and no tattoos… and locs are not a part of the aesthetic. Same goes for braids.
We may feel a positive way about locs but the majority of society does think it’s low class unfortunately. I don’t care, I have locs anyways lol
My dad is wealthy and his wife has locs
@ exception, not the rule love 💕
@@earphbound720 well it’s more than her. But let’s be real. Most wealthy men aren’t checking for black women anyway.
@@jasminscarbrough2596what is it about black women as a collective that wealthy men wouldn’t pursue? Please give me the most LOGICAL explanation please.
@@Professoryu my dads a millionaire. From what he says it’s the way the dress, the way we conduct ourselves, not being a homemaker. He did marry a black woman but she’s not American. She’s Caribbean. He says black women as a collective need to carry themselves more like African and Caribbean women. If I’m being honest most of the dark skinned women I see that are with wealthy men are also from those places. When she’s American and black they usually choose the lighter skinned ones.
Locs are fucking beautiful!
If my mans dont like locs thats not my man
As a girlie with semi Freeform hair, I had to explain to my mom that my hair doesn’t shine like other girlies. Locs don’t shine. . My hair is healthy , and clean. People don’t like the matting. They say it looks dirty. They don’t get it.
same, my mom is always like “it looks dry” when if u literally feel it, its so soft. like this is my texture, lol. some people never get used to that.
All I have to say is, praise Yah.
my locs and its journey is part of what made my bf fall in love with me. he grew out his hair and sports an afro now too. he does anything for me. as for attracting guys, with locs i feel like i attract guys left snd right. i can’t get a break sometimes lol. for the topic on attracting rich men, i think it’s bs. there’s all different types of rich men and there’s definitely one out there who would appreciate you for who you are. “just shy of bleaching your skin” is tea asf lol
I’ve always wondered why locs are the most hated style in this society. I love my locs it showcases who I am within. Mirrors my blackness & my strength. Plus My hair is the longest & healthiest its ever been. Almost to my butt actually.
They may see them as ghetto but holy spirit says its a righteous 👑😎 The longer they get the sharper my senses & intuition get the stronger my relationship to The Most High gets etc ❤
Sometimes I feel like my loc are hindering me from getting another corporate job. I started pulling my hair back through virtual interviews so it’s makes it difficult for the interviewer to see my locs. But as soon as I do the in person nope we don’t want you and I have all the skills
I’m a guy
@@ScorpioKLR it’s a lot harder in corporate America for sure. They want you to assimilate to the corporate culture.
@ScorpioKLR, I’m a guy as well and my locs are down to the middle of my back. I’ve never had any issues with my hair in Corporate America (I’m an Accountant with an MBA) and my locs have an ombre dye effect (black to dark brown to honey blonde).
To be fair, I do get a retwist every 3-4 months, wash my hair regularly (every few weeks), keep it smelling fresh and moisturized and I make sure that the frizz is kept to a minimum. I’m also well spoken and I dress neatly. I’m sure that all of those factors play a part in how I’m perceived and the people at work do give me positive feedback regarding my presentation.
May I ask, how do you maintain your locs ?
Women with locs, please reach out to me directly. As long as I have a face, you'll always have..................
AND some woman are a slave to their wigs and weaves because they do not have heathy hair or edges and I’m not talking about people with medical conditions I’m talking about bad hair practices I told my sister for YEARS stop braiding your hair so tight it’s causing thinning SO She stopped and went to a full tight weave they used to see it so tight she has no hair now she feel like she has no choice IF my God give. Hair is not Classy Enough I do NOT want him
Jay-z has Locs…there you go some one wealthy
this is talking about the women...Jay has them but Bey does not
I would love to hear you talk about cultural appropriation and your views on this as well. I am seeing a loctition soon myself, but I am getting a little bit of pushback from some of my friends in regards to this. What are your feelings? Thank you so much!
Don’t be interested in someone that you have to adjust yourself to attract.
LMAO YT Men flock when I wear my natural hair the brothers who like “REAL” never approach I’m always dressed to the nines and my face is a natural Beat So it’s date YT or single
Wait till you find out that people are putting relaxers on their locs.
Wait what??
@khihanajohn294 yes, unfortunately.
Wow your gorgeous
Hood booger been a term. Mostly from gen x and millennials.
I’m just here to say :
NO.
I mean locs are not good looking to me.A lot of people don’t like them. Some do. Do what you want at the end of the day.
Straight hair on bw is ridiculous. You’re taking the ether out of your hair & it also means you hate yourself. All judgement over here especially from your ancestors
Think about what you say before you say it, I know for a fact under your scalp is green sludge