Sex Education and Tarbiyah of Children | A talk by Salman Asif Siddiqui
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- Опубликовано: 15 сен 2024
- Parents, no matter what society they live in, are usually concerned about social interactions of their children and the society they have to deal with at large. As kids grow, the concerns of parents over Sex Education grows too. It has remained an important point of discussion among the social circles, education systems and policy makers for some time now but the solutions suggested & implemented have not been very satisfactory. Could there be a better solution as to what usually is in the air? Are we just hovering over and creating more problems instead of solutions? What exactly could be the concrete solution for the parents concerned on tarbiyah?
Find out in this talk with Mr. Salman Asif Siddiqui who is addressing Scholars, Policy makers & Students and proposing a 9-point agenda that can provide the basis of a concrete solution around the topic. Talk was held at Jamiatur Rasheed.
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This man is a gem in Pakistan....Pakistanis are so lucky to have him.....his words simply heal......May Allah bless u sir n keep u and ur family happy n peaceful!!!!
Magar afsos ye ki jitni jinsi buraiyan Pakistanis me hen wo shayad hi kisi mulk walon me hon
میں بڑے وثوق سے کہ سکتا ہوں کہ ایسی دیدہ وری و دانش مندی کے ساتھ موضوع کا اپنی تمام جزئیات کے ساتھ احاطہ کرنا ۔اور تربیت کے متعلق اتنے احسن و جامع انداز سے درد دل کو لفظوں کا جامہ پہنانا ۔صرف چند اہل دل کا خاصہ رہا ہے اور قابل صد تکریم موصوف سلمان آصف صدیقی صاحب انہی اہل دل حضرات کے نمائیندہ ہیں۔
بارک اللہ فی علمک و عملک
Head off sir.
Brilliant .
No words
Every youngster's must listen and understand
LEARNING POINTS: SEX EDUCATION AND TARBIYAH OF CHILDREN
A very thought provoking, enlightened and an eye opening discussion by Sir Salman on the brutal murder of innocent Zainab.
This discussion is comprised of three parts
i- Observations, common concepts, fundamental views on Sex education
ii- 9 specific suggestions for parents in the light of Zainab case.
iii- Queries
After this horrific incident, every parent must question himself ...
Are they really making their kids morally and emotionally strong so that they can defend themselves......
Can we solve all moral problems of this society by just forcing our kids to follow the curriculum offered in their schools?.....
How can we built a MODEST AND PIOUS SOCIETY?
Who is actually responsible for tarbiyah of our kids?
Tarbiyah of kids is solely responsibility of their parents but unfortunately , in today's modern westernized muslim society, they have just outsourced this responsibility to schools.
We can not solve our problems with the same status of thinking that has generated them...(Einstein)
We can not solve our problems by living in the same paradigm in which these problems has produced...And unfortunately for the problems produced in a Muslim society, we, unconsciously doubt our own muslim paradigm.
Solutions of these kind of problems can only be possible through profound analysis by focusing on our own world view.
In today's era, the whole world and especially the Muslim world is being operated on the pillars of western psychological concepts.Muslim society is largely dealing their social, economical,educational and cultural aspects on the framework proposed by Western concepts.
In our society, particularly on Zainub incident, we are in a negative reaction phase where we all are trying to cure the symptoms of that terrified incident but we are not heading to the root cause of that problem
There are two ways to deal a chronic problem.
i- Symptomatic Treatment: in which , we hit the symptoms only and try to eliminate these symptoms...but this kind of treatment is not an ever lasting cure for any problem.
ii- Fundamental Solution: in which we focus on the root cause of any problem and make efforts to eradicate the problem from its root.
We should avoid to solve this deeply rooted problem superficially.
Life can be spend on four levels.
i- Pleasure
ii- Emotions
iii- Passion
iv- Verstand
SANA HUSSAIN
GRADUATED
PTCC- BATCH 30
جزاک اللہ خیرا
I think this is the most important topic that every one must discuss with their children .. I realize that we all are the part of these type of incidents.. because we don’t educate our children at the right age in right manner.... A child must know how to control his or her Nafs .. And i think this practice should be started from childhood.. The most important points that i have noticed in this video are as follows:
We should build strong relationship with our children to boost the confidence of your child.
Focus on the importance of shyness in your child.
Your child should know how to defend himself by physical activities like karate etc.
Discuss the importance of “Nafs” by being a role model.
Make them feel that his/her home is the most secure place and they are too important for their parents.
Diet is the most neglected factor parents should seriously consider it and aware the child also about essential nutrients for his body.
Encourage his hobbies and activities it will protect his creativity and love for his work. Interference will suppress his talent...
PTCC batch 30
You are right, this really is one of the most important topics. Do share it with others. thanks for watching it :)
ہمارے معاشرے کی ایک بہت افسوس ناک حقیقت یہ ہے کہ ہم مجموعی طور پر کسی بھی واقعہ کو بالکل سرسری طور پر جان کر فورا اس پر رائے قائم کردیتے ہیں اور پھر اور ظلم یہ کرتے ہیں کہ اپنی اس رائے کو ہی کامل اور صحیح سمجھ لیتے ہیں ، جسکی وجہ سے ہم ایک تو اپنے آپ کو اندھیروں میں ہی رکھتے ہیں اور دوسری طرف معاشرے کے بہت سارے اہل علم حضرات کی تحقیر بھی کرتے ہیں ۔
واقعہ قصور اسکی ایک واضح مثال ہے، الحمد للہ اس لیکچر میں ہمارے استاد محترم سلمان آصف صدیقی صاحب نے اسی واقعہ کے بہت سارے پہلوؤں پر سیر حاصل گفتگو فرمائی ہے
سید عزت اللہ
PTCC Batch 31
Amazing lecture, I made really good notes out of it, may Allah swt give you the best of rewards, ameen
Sir i am really honoured and grateful to be part of your journey of this intellectual approach i have been looking for years....neeyat khalis hogi tu amal khud ba khud khalis hojai ga....In sha Allah....
Tarbiyah tazkiya se mumkin hai magar hamara sara focus grades per rahta hai tarbiyah tu bht dor chali gai hai
Humain bachon k sath bethna paray ga un se dosty karny paray gi....
Tabhi mamlaat hal hongay...family bonding strong karna paray gi
Allah talah hamaray halon per raham fermain aameen
Topic:
Qasur Incident and Educational Curriculum:
Sub Topic:
Questions Answers
1. Can a curriculum help to finish the moral problems in society? (No)
2. How will a modest society possibly build? (To do Tarbiyah)
3. Who is the responsible of Tarbiyah? (Parents)
If we reminisce our past then we see our forfather used to get education from parents or grandparents. They teach at home in childhood and on the other hand they do Tarbiyah. Child do not mingle with others and chances of spoliation are less. Definitely.
But today We, as parents, outsourced the education totally in other hands.
What a beautiful words from Salman Sahab that “in Western culture a successful man is a person who is passionate. And What is passion, Passion is some thing what intelligence and Passion become friends and intelligence make passion its leader.”
We do see that people wish for so many things e.g. Wealth and other things and go after it with passion and get education and acquired that all.
But we never think what the meaning of life we do good or bad to achieve our objectives.
This is the main reason which is told to be understood.
Tarbyah Objectives:
i. Man become pious in his passion.
a. Surah-e-Baqara learning b. Problems in Salah c. check and balance in Niyyah
ii. Action of Self accountability reaches at the peak point.
a. Clean his heart b. separate the concept of Western from Eastern Culture
iii. Keep in mind the Presence of God
a. Man is not alone and stranded b. God Consciousness
These three aspects if a Muslim keep in his mind he will not impress from Western cultures. And he will never astray from the right path and never attract towards western culture. (Insha Allah)
i. Develop a deep and special understanding with child.
ii. Trust on the child
iii. Give nurture to natural standard of modesty in the child
iv. Make strong to defend himself / herself
v. Don’t lead a separate life from the child
vi. Make Nafs (self, psyche ego or soul) as an important topic
vii. Give in time information of his/her body
I don’t understand why don’t we hid such thing from him / her which are very important to him. So In my point of view we should make child own and give him ownership and teach him what he needs in his life. We should connect every thing with each other and do need to be afraid of things which a child has to face in his future life.
Abdul Majeed (PTCC Batch-29)
Subhan Allah
Allah ka shukar hai, ke Allah ne mujhe aap salman sab se joda hai..
Allah Salman sahsb ko Isse zada ilam ata kare or Nazar e bad se mahfooz rakhe .. Ameen
This was an enlightening talk.
Continue.....
Taleem o tarbiyat k zariye esa insan Tayar krna jo apny nafs py galib rahy
Two main objectives of our education
Hum apny bachun ko us qabil bnayn k wo apna difah krsakn
Second hamarai educational system esa insan produce kary jo apny nafs par galib ho magloob na ho
Tarbiyat k greater goal Kia hngy
1. Tarbiyat ka sb sy pehla miayar insan niyaton me pak ho
2. Khud etasabi ka Amal kamal tk punch jaye
3.khuda ki mujidgi ka ehsan hojaye
4. Insan ka dil laraz saky
Agr in masail ka Hal nhn nikala Gaya to hamara family system collapse kr jaye ga
Hum wehmi or saki nasal peda krngy
Hum zana bijabar ki jaga zana biraza k Imkan zyada hngy
Excellent very good by Afzal bajwa and love for all from Pakistan and good wishes for you reader and listeners
LEARNING POINTS: CONTINUED
Living in the Muslim Society, we should make our kids understand value of one's own SELF(NAFS)...But unfortunately , Nafs is not our topic for discussion now...We as adult don't even know and understand the Value of Nafs but at the same time we are unable to make understand our kids that what is Nafs? How it works and what are the domains of our Nafs and how can we control it.....
DOMAINS OF NAFS: There are two domains of our Nafs.....
a) Attittude /temperament: b) Consciousness
In the light of Zainub's incident ,today's education and tarbiyah's major goal is to produce a man who is dominant on his Nafs and can not let Nafs to control his emotions, passions and his consciousness.
This is also the main objective to make our kids able to defend themselves.
GREATER GOALS OF TARBIYAH: There are three greater goals of tarbiyah
a) A man should be pure in his intent and become decent in his wants or wishes
b) He should be in continuous process of self accountability
c) He should be aware of Allah's presence all the time...
Unfortunately , our education system is not pursuing anyone of these goals. If we want to solve these kind of chronic problems on permanent basis, so our efforts should be in three dimensions.
i) The channels runs in our society for tarbiyah and education of our kids,they all should work to generate and develop God Consciousness in our kids.We can not substitute absence of God consciousnesses with any of the curriculum.
ii) Relationship should be strong at every level.
iii) Immoral material should be eliminated from all sources.
What are the nine suggestions for parents in the light of Zainub incident:
i- Build your strong bond or relationship with your child.
ii- Develop trust and confidence in your child.
iii- Nurture natural shyness in your child.
iv- Make your child learn self defense
v- Do not live your life separately from your child.
vi- Make " NAFS' ....a worthwhile topic to discuss with your kids.
vii- Make your child fully informed about his body at the proper age and at appropriate time(puberty)
viii- Parents should be conscious about the diet of their kids...
ix- Give your kids plenty of time for physical activities.
SANA HUSSAIN
GRADUATED
PTCC-BATCH 30
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This topic has been raised very wisely added with great vision and Intellect.Such intellectuals are gift for any nation and their talks and should be shared more and more within society.
REFLECTION:
Very informative and really an eye opening discussion by Sir Salman.
The way he put light on the dark sides of today's Muslim society and the real causes of this brutal and inhuman incident, is really remarkable. Now, this is the break point for every parent to introspect, to held self accountable that are they a part to flourish this kind of brutality in the society? Because whatever has happened , is somehow related to everyone of us. As the citizen of this society,we, all are responsible for these kind of incidents by not giving our kids proper tarbiyah in the light of Quran and Sunnah and eventually leading him/her to become a burden by spreading negativity in the society.
The rapist who murdered Zainab , was also an emotionally starved man,the one who put his pleasure first, the one who was controlled by his NAFS ......So we all have to look from a critical eye to solve the root cause of every problem,not just by treating symptoms .
SANA HUSSAIN
GRADUATED
PTCC- BATCH 30
Maa Shaa Allah...aap to Allah Paak ki taraf se rahmat hai hamare liye.... Allah Paak aapki har maamle me rehnumai or madad farmaye Amin or beinteha Jazakallah khair.. Ameen
Informative beyan
Jazak Allah for teaching us right path
Every single word of Salman asif siddiqi sb is golden word for me
کمال شخصیت جو صحیح معنوں میں کام کررہے۔۔ ماشاءاللہ۔۔
Mashallah Allah Kareem aap k massage ko mokammal kamyabi atta farmae. Ameen
Reflection
Mashallah mashallah very thought provoking speech by Sir salman on very serious topic
Sir salman ny jitni b batn suggestion discuss kiye agr Hum dil sy us par amal krna shoro krdn to Humary bachun ki traf koi ankh utha k b nhn dekh sakta Sir ny ye bt bilkul durust fatmai ha k tarbiya gr sy hi ki jati ha or ye zimedari sirf parents ki ha qk jis treeqy sy maa bap tarbiyat kr sakty hn koi or nhn krsakty likn afsos ki bt ye ha k hamara mashrah bohat modern hogaya ha or Hamary parents ky pas apny bachun k liye wqt hi nhn ha wo zyada paisy dy kisi School kisi day care center me to dal sakty hn likn 1 2 ganty apny bachun ko nhn dysakty ye taluq hi hota ha jo bachun ko esy hadsat sy bacha sakta ha Zainab hamary mashry ki pehli bachi nhn ha esi kahe bachiyan or bachy hn Jin k sath esa hadsa pesh aya agr maa bap bachun sy acha taluq qaim krln to bohat had tak mumkin ja k esy wqiyat na Hun tamam ma bap sy guzarish ha k apny bachun ki hifazat khud krn unsy taluq bnayn un ky liye wqt nikln ap k liye is wqt sb sy qemti chez apka mobile ya gari ya gr ki safai nhn bilky apki aulad ha or ye khudi ki traf sy amanatan hamn di gai ha jis ki parwarish ka akhrat me humsy sawal Kiya jaye ga Allah pak hum sb ko hidayat dy or hamary taman Sir or unky adary ko taraqi dn ameen
Graduated ptcc batc 30
This issue was really a hot topic and many people and so called intellectuals were presenting their respective ideas to overcome the problem but those ideas were actually more problematic. In this lecture Salman shb had diagnosed the real issue and then suggested the 9 points agenda which should be followed by all of us. Insha ALLah i am determined to follow these steps with my kids .
Abdul Basit
PTCC31
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Subhan ALLAH ❤
Jazak ALLAH khair.
Allah ho akbar....what an enlightened talk....jazakAllah Sir
Thanks :)
JazakAllah
Allah apk kam m barkat day
A very illumination talk that doesn't allow me to stop or pause it...
everyone must listen to this.. Thumbs up (y)
Do share it with everyone :). Thanks for watching and appreciating it :)
Very informative to me and thanks for guidance.
بہت اعلٰی
Best ever video
Very important lecture
Zbrdast zindagi
Amazing talk
Ma sha Allah!
Allah pak mazeed kaam lain aap say
Mashallah. Jazakala khair.
Brilliant lecture.May Allah bless you sir. Will wish to meet you if I ever visit Pakistan.
hamari sab se bari ghalti yahi hai k hum tarbiyah k liye taluq ko nazer andaz kar daitay hain taluq ki bunyaaadein hi kamzoor hoo to rishtoon ki buland o bala imarat kese khari reh sakti haii hum apne hath se apni bunyaaadoon ko kamzoor kar k ilzaaam halaaat ki andhii tofaaaan ko daitay hain
ALLAH nai humko ashraf ul makhlooqaat main shamil kia hai aqal samjh di hai tu hum kese apne NAFS ko bey lagaam choor saktay hain is pai to hamara ikhtiyaaar hai asal JIHAAD to yahi hai ....ALLAH humko or hamari olaaad ko shitaaan k sher se mahfooz rakhay... Ameen
سر آپ جو کر رہے ہیں یہ اس صدی کا جہاد ہے یہ ایسا جہادہے جس سے بدقسمتی سے دین دار طبقہ نا آشنا ہے اور ایک فرسودہ طریقے پہ چلے جا رہا ہے نتاٸج سے لاعلم ۔۔۔۔اللہ پاک ہمیں حق و باطل کی تیز کر کہ حق پہ چلنے والا بناۓ آمین
@1:24 یہ حدیث ہے کہ
ّ”الاثم ما حاق فی صدرک “
گناہ وہ ہے جو تیرے دل میں کھٹکے
Excellent speech
Very strong and thought provoking speech
Thanks. Do watch and share more such talks at ruclips.net/user/erdcpkvideos
Continue......
Iklas Kia ha
Insan apny feham ko hatma mukamal or qatah na samjy
Insan apny feham it apny Amal k fasly jo kam Krny k liye mutafikarrahy
Insan apny feham ki apni na hili or kuj amal k difah k istamal sy toba krly
Suggestion
1. Bachy k sath gehra taluq bnaye
2. Bachy ko confidence dn
3. Bachy ki mayar e fitri sharam ki parwarish krn
4. Bachy ko apny difah k qabil bnayn
5.bachy sy Alag thalag zindagi na guzaren
6.nafs ko taleem ka muzu bnayn
7.bachun ko apny jism k hisy k mutaliq malomat dn
8.bachy ki gizah k mutaliq fikar mand rahn
9.bachg ko physical activity k mawaqy dn.
Graduated ptcc batch 30
Plz videos k aham hisson k shorts clips banaker dal dia karen youtube py.akser auqaat poori videos dekh ni paten housewives.
SAS sir z the real gem🔥
Zabardast
Well Sir,,,,,,,,,,,,,
Sir ap kyun nafs ko syllabus men include nhi krwaaty... We are not in any influence....but you are
Barak Allahu fe ilmika
Ma shaa Allah
What a complete framework is provided
All parts are completely integrated
Taqwa being the core of actions is surely
the prerequsite for even being benefited from Quran
Subhan Allah how beautifully this taqwa is mentioned .We .ost of the times put obscenity at the top whereas its the third!!!!
May this voice be the motivation to uplift this ummah Aamee
ju karahiyat jaga jaga sex education ka sun kar hony lagi thi us par aik behtareen talk
juz par nahi bulky kul par kaam kara jaey
ji ky lien mehnat aur mindfulness darkar hai
Bila shuba aap jaesy mentors ki ashad zaroorat hai
May we be able to take charge of our children's tarbiya
sadaf arif ptcc32
JazakAllah khair sir
جزاک اللہ
ہمارے معاشرے میں تربیت نہیں ہورہی
SubhanAllah
Jazakllah Sir 😇
Aik Aik lafz Moti
Name any good books about sex education for teen age
Boht mushkil ilfaz thy shuru mein aam insan k liye samjhney me mushkil thy
ASALAM U ALIKUM
Sir I m waqas khan
From kohat kpk
Mai ap s milna chahta hun plzzzzz sirf ik baar
بھت خوب.....
no good
Allah ap ko iska jazah de
Thanks a lot for the prayers. Do watch more talks on ruclips.net/user/ERDCpk
Plz add English subtitles to videos
I love you Respected sir with the bottom of my heart. Would I meet you? Is there any communication channel?
Bilkul sahe Kaha tarbiat Ghar say Hotee Hai
True :)
Sir plz tell us k teenage k SATH understanding KAISAY karain parents
Our series of three talks titled 'Teenage Matters' will be helpful for you, InShaAllah. Do watch and remember us in your prayers.
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Key points
Kiya nisab ky zarye akhlaqi masayl khatam hosakty hn
Ji nhn
Bahiya mashry ka kayam kesy mumkin ha
Tarbiyat k zarye
Tarbiyat Kis ki zimedari ha
WAldeen ki
Einstein ny kaha tha
Hum apni satah par rehty hoye apny masail ka Hal talash nhn krsakty jis Zehani satah par khary ho kr wo masail peda huye hn
Kisi problem ko solve Krny k 2 tareeqy hoty hn
Alamat
Fundamental solution
Zindagi 4 satah par guzari jaskti ha
Sb sy nichli satah Lazat mazah ki satah ha jo mashrah is pr operate krta ha wo hewani mashrah kehlata ha
Is sy oper jazbat ki satah pr zindagi guzarna yani zindagi ky faisly jazbat ki bna pr krna
Is sy oper ki satah khawahishat ki satah ha Yani khawaish ki bna par zindagi guzarna
Or sb sy oper ki satah feham ki satah ha yani feham ki bna par zindagi guzarna
Nafas ko muzu bnana usky Barry me bachun ko btana usy mutaliq bta krna zaroooori ha
Nafs ki 2 domain hn
Tabiat
Shahor
Tabiat mazy or lazat k asool par operate krti ha
Shahor sahi or galat lo btata ha
Deen k paradigm me tarbiyat k goal
Thanks for watching :)
Sir islam na homosexuality ka punishment select nahe kya ha...
Identify the topic. ...mind clear ho ja ya decision lana ma....
Please why you not discus about the homosexuality
Very Nice Speech, kya naam hai in Sahab ka ?
This talk was given by Mr. Salman Asif Siddiqui, who is the founder and director of ERDC.
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Essence khauf e Khuda
uncle sirf ya bata dain...aap samjana kya chahtay han...one hour aap ko suna nikla kuch b nahi...
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Plz don't, use word khuda se Allah instead as it is not appropriate ,
Great👍👍👍 sir mera bacha bi physical touch ki trf ja raha tha Jo school sa friends ki trf sa tha mena uss ko ap ki btay howa terbiya pr amel kiya Allah ap ko jiza da lakin kya muja iss bare ma bar bar ziker krna chahiya k nahi plz Replay me
Sorry bacha ki age 13 years ha
May I have your number Sir ? Great teacher indeed
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