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I've grown up with learning disabilities and I believed that because of this, I am less smart than others and that's just the way it is. All through my years of high school I didn't have very good grades because I never tried because I assumed that even if I did try I wouldn't ever be able to get the grades the other kids were. Once I got to college and I needed grades to get into other programs and to hold my spot in my program, so I actually tried. I got the best grades I have ever gotten in my life BECAUSE I TRIED!!! It just took me longer to understand the material than my peers but that was fine, I just had to try a little harder.
Love this! Once I began taking anthropology classes, I realized how culturally embedded some narratives were that I really used to define my life. I think it’s very important for people to realize that the life and reality they’ve been presented with should be examined and critiqued.
I grew up believing that I was stupid because I got poor grades. My little sister was a really good, all A's and B's student. My older sister was in a gifted program. I was in special education but not diagnosed with any learning disorders. Looking back something was definitely up with me growing up but luckily I out grew it. What I didn't out grow was the idea that I was stupid. No one told me I was. Everyone said I was smart in "my own way" but I knew what they meant. As I got older I moved away from my home state. I met new people and was told over an over again that I have interesting ideas, or thoughts or just that I was really smart. It took so many people who I viewed as intelligent saying that before I even started to question my own internal narrative. A couple of weeks ago my sister gave me the same "you're not stupid, you're just smart in your own way" thing and I asked her to explain that. She said I'm smart, just not book smart. But she went on to talk about being good at researching, retaining information from books and studies, and so on. I asked, so how am I not book smart? We both realized that we had retained this view that the adults had given us when we were kids about me, even if it counter the evidence or other opinions of our own. I'm 24 now and I am smart. I still fight against that voice in that back of my head that tells me I'm not, but god damnit I'm smart. Thanks for this video, Sam. I don't imagine you'll actually read my super long comment, but it felt good to type it out so I'm still going to post it.
Hi! I’m fairly new to your channel and absolutely love it. (I was a convert and now post-Mormon living in Utah County). I have an idea for a video if you are interested and looking: the WofW and cattle-ranching. As a vegan doing research unrelated to the church, I stumbled across information that the LDS Church has been the largest cattle-ranchers of the United States, and in 1997, they had the largest beef ranch of the entire world. As a convert, I didn’t hear too much about the “don’t eat meat” part of the Word of Wisdom and didn’t think about it (wasn’t vegan at the time). However, not-eating-animals and treating them humanely used to be commonly taught by early leaders. You can find quotes on a video titled “Return to Sparingly: Quotes from LDS Prophets and Apostles.” Interestingly, I observed that the quotes tapered off mid-1900s…about the time the church bought the original acres for ranching. They can’t preach to not eat animals if they are now in the business to eat animals. If they went into the coffee bean business, then coffee wouldn’t be part of the WofW. My initial findings name these church ranches (some may be different names for the same ranch): Deseret Ranches, which include Deseret Ranches of Florida, Deseret Cattle and Citrus, Taylor Creek Management, East Central Florida Services, Agreserves, and Farmland Reserve. It is for profit and not a normal part of the humanitarian efforts of the LDS Church. Besides the horrific animal abuse and exploitation, mass factory-farming of animals has been so destructive to our soil, air, water, wild-life, other crops (ecoli contamination)… and the LDS Church's cattle-ranching contributes to that destruction. Too bad there weren’t any prophets, seers, nor revelators to prevent this from happening. /s The Return to Sparingly video link: ruclips.net/video/qXGXodVrYsA/видео.html "Eating pork is a more serious breach of the word of wisdom than drinking tea or coffee." -George Teasdale, Quorum of the Twelve Apostles
Thanks for your enlightening video and the book recommendation. I appreciate your channel. Also, I love your moon background. Where did you get yours from?
Something I've found effective at dissolving narratives is talking to people I wouldn't normally talk to. I'll say something that I've accepted as fact, and they'll either be visibly confused or ask for an explanation.
I also believed I wasn't good at things. I believe still that if I am doing it then it is inferior to the way others do it. Or like if i get an ear piercing I tell myself "it just doesn't look as good on you bc it's on you" or "you should have known not to get this, bc things don't look right on you" when i buy anything like clothes. even happens with makeup! and my tattoos. I am trying to reverse the way i talk to myself. o also i went vegan 28 days ago and I just feel good hard to explain. I love your videos!
I see this all the time in the science/science education field. So many people will tell kids in general that science is super hard and just for a select handful of geniuses and that's not their thing. And this hits girls especially STILL to this day. It sucks. And the biggest issue is science isn't just for scientists. It's for everyone and everyone should be science literate so they know they can explore and ask questions, but instead kids are told it's for a couple of nerds in school and they should just keep saying "lit" on instagram or something
My story I know it's weird but I love tricking Mormons into thinking I'm about to convert. After a while I just leave them, they almost always fall for me, but I've never gone as far as baptism.
SAM I had a dream that we were best friends and it was great. That’s all. Also I would be super interested to see a video about y’alls thoughts on all these abortion bans?? I just know you’ll have important things to say
DREAM OR FORESHADOWING hard to say. Making a video about abortion feels so daunting because you KNOW we'll have people calling us murderers in the comments, but I would like to do one! Here's an article I wrote about the topic if you're at all interested! medium.com/@thesamspo/a-scientific-philosophical-compassionate-case-for-being-pro-choice-665f88d581ed
By recognizing that we’re all just the products of our genetics and experiences and EVERY child deserves to be loved. (We’re all just adult children, haha.)
Also, by not taking my thoughts and feelings so seriously-recognizing that they’re the products of my conditioning and don’t necessarily represent reality. Meditation is incredible!
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I've grown up with learning disabilities and I believed that because of this, I am less smart than others and that's just the way it is. All through my years of high school I didn't have very good grades because I never tried because I assumed that even if I did try I wouldn't ever be able to get the grades the other kids were. Once I got to college and I needed grades to get into other programs and to hold my spot in my program, so I actually tried. I got the best grades I have ever gotten in my life BECAUSE I TRIED!!! It just took me longer to understand the material than my peers but that was fine, I just had to try a little harder.
Love this! Once I began taking anthropology classes, I realized how culturally embedded some narratives were that I really used to define my life. I think it’s very important for people to realize that the life and reality they’ve been presented with should be examined and critiqued.
I grew up believing that I was stupid because I got poor grades. My little sister was a really good, all A's and B's student. My older sister was in a gifted program. I was in special education but not diagnosed with any learning disorders. Looking back something was definitely up with me growing up but luckily I out grew it. What I didn't out grow was the idea that I was stupid. No one told me I was. Everyone said I was smart in "my own way" but I knew what they meant. As I got older I moved away from my home state. I met new people and was told over an over again that I have interesting ideas, or thoughts or just that I was really smart. It took so many people who I viewed as intelligent saying that before I even started to question my own internal narrative.
A couple of weeks ago my sister gave me the same "you're not stupid, you're just smart in your own way" thing and I asked her to explain that. She said I'm smart, just not book smart. But she went on to talk about being good at researching, retaining information from books and studies, and so on. I asked, so how am I not book smart? We both realized that we had retained this view that the adults had given us when we were kids about me, even if it counter the evidence or other opinions of our own.
I'm 24 now and I am smart. I still fight against that voice in that back of my head that tells me I'm not, but god damnit I'm smart.
Thanks for this video, Sam. I don't imagine you'll actually read my super long comment, but it felt good to type it out so I'm still going to post it.
I DID read this comment and thank you for writing it! So cool to hear how you and your sister realized you’d been holding onto a false narrative! 🎉
Oh. My. God. The feeling unworthy of love thing hit too hard. Way too much truth in just a minute.
Intro was freaking cute as hell, thank you for that.
Thanks for this info Sam! You're awesome!!
Hi! I’m fairly new to your channel and absolutely love it. (I was a convert and now post-Mormon living in Utah County). I have an idea for a video if you are interested and looking: the WofW and cattle-ranching. As a vegan doing research unrelated to the church, I stumbled across information that the LDS Church has been the largest cattle-ranchers of the United States, and in 1997, they had the largest beef ranch of the entire world.
As a convert, I didn’t hear too much about the “don’t eat meat” part of the Word of Wisdom and didn’t think about it (wasn’t vegan at the time). However, not-eating-animals and treating them humanely used to be commonly taught by early leaders. You can find quotes on a video titled “Return to Sparingly: Quotes from LDS Prophets and Apostles.” Interestingly, I observed that the quotes tapered off mid-1900s…about the time the church bought the original acres for ranching. They can’t preach to not eat animals if they are now in the business to eat animals. If they went into the coffee bean business, then coffee wouldn’t be part of the WofW.
My initial findings name these church ranches (some may be different names for the same ranch): Deseret Ranches, which include Deseret Ranches of Florida, Deseret Cattle and Citrus, Taylor Creek Management, East Central Florida Services, Agreserves, and Farmland Reserve. It is for profit and not a normal part of the humanitarian efforts of the LDS Church.
Besides the horrific animal abuse and exploitation, mass factory-farming of animals has been so destructive to our soil, air, water, wild-life, other crops (ecoli contamination)… and the LDS Church's cattle-ranching contributes to that destruction. Too bad there weren’t any prophets, seers, nor revelators to prevent this from happening. /s
The Return to Sparingly video link: ruclips.net/video/qXGXodVrYsA/видео.html "Eating pork is a more serious breach of the word of wisdom than drinking tea or coffee." -George Teasdale, Quorum of the Twelve Apostles
This is perfect!! Thanks for sharing. You’re so cool.
This is so helpful, thank you for sharing it!
Excellent! Cheers.
this is so great!!!
You should do a Ted Talk!
Such a positive and helpful vibe to this and I love it SO SO MUCH- thank you :)
The end „I’m starting to sound like Tony Robbins“ 😂 but really good stuff that I needed to hear. Thanks Samantha!
Yes all the yes to this. I love your channel A+ content 14/10 would recommend
A very uplifting and nice topic. I like the eye contact, Haha. I too feel that even these uplifting messages seem to be taboo, for some odd reason.
Thanks for your enlightening video and the book recommendation. I appreciate your channel. Also, I love your moon background. Where did you get yours from?
I think Urban Outfitters!
Or..the Stories other people tell us..that we Believe! That was my problem!
Great video! I also enjoyed the book Sapiens because it was a great book. Make your future awesome!
Something I've found effective at dissolving narratives is talking to people I wouldn't normally talk to. I'll say something that I've accepted as fact, and they'll either be visibly confused or ask for an explanation.
I LOVE THIS
You guys are awesome
Never too late to get good at art.
Would be like saying it was too late to leave the LDS church. 😎👍.
Yikes! So glad youdont sound like Tony Robbins! Love this and love you.
I also believed I wasn't good at things. I believe still that if I am doing it then it is inferior to the way others do it. Or like if i get an ear piercing I tell myself "it just doesn't look as good on you bc it's on you" or "you should have known not to get this, bc things don't look right on you" when i buy anything like clothes. even happens with makeup! and my tattoos. I am trying to reverse the way i talk to myself. o also i went vegan 28 days ago and I just feel good hard to explain. I love your videos!
I see this all the time in the science/science education field. So many people will tell kids in general that science is super hard and just for a select handful of geniuses and that's not their thing. And this hits girls especially STILL to this day. It sucks. And the biggest issue is science isn't just for scientists. It's for everyone and everyone should be science literate so they know they can explore and ask questions, but instead kids are told it's for a couple of nerds in school and they should just keep saying "lit" on instagram or something
"I didn't really like detective Pikachu"
Wait what? Aw, should I still go see it?
Ugh it’s complicated, probably go see it haha
This was really interesting!
My story I know it's weird but I love tricking Mormons into thinking I'm about to convert. After a while I just leave them, they almost always fall for me, but I've never gone as far as baptism.
Did yall really tell on kwaku to byu ?
Did you read the book The Storytelling Animal? It's worth a read if you haven't!
Thanks for the recommendation! :)
SAM I had a dream that we were best friends and it was great. That’s all.
Also I would be super interested to see a video about y’alls thoughts on all these abortion bans?? I just know you’ll have important things to say
DREAM OR FORESHADOWING hard to say.
Making a video about abortion feels so daunting because you KNOW we'll have people calling us murderers in the comments, but I would like to do one! Here's an article I wrote about the topic if you're at all interested! medium.com/@thesamspo/a-scientific-philosophical-compassionate-case-for-being-pro-choice-665f88d581ed
Sons of provo close up awkwardness
Sam, How did u get past the narrative that you were unloveable?
By recognizing that we’re all just the products of our genetics and experiences and EVERY child deserves to be loved. (We’re all just adult children, haha.)
Also, by not taking my thoughts and feelings so seriously-recognizing that they’re the products of my conditioning and don’t necessarily represent reality. Meditation is incredible!
yaaas Psychocybernetics bish