Thanks for sharing your story, Aaren. It is a very thoughtful, reflective, and touching narrative. I enjoyed it and cried a little :’) I experienced the same situation twice! I’m a female who fell in love with my straight female roommates two different times (I have something for roommates lol). I never came out to my first roommate nor confessed my feelings. I came out to my second roommate and confessed my feelings early in our friendship before we lived together. I became very close with both of them but will only focus on the second roommate because I think it may be helpful for you. We’ll call her Natalia. I got very close to Natalia thanks to quarantine and really just enjoyed the simple nature of our friendship. Cooking together, watching shows, talking, playing. Like you and Nathan, I was already so happy being with her without “dating”. When Natalia started dating a guy seriously, I felt the same way you did. A bit jealous and a bit sad. I am very giving and generous to a small circle of people including Natalia. When she started to take me for granted or rely on me to do things for her, I put a tight hold on my generosity. My resentment built in me. Surprisingly, it was both good and a bad thing. Bad because it influenced my reactions too much and led us to fighting/arguing incessantly about nonsensical things when, under the surface, it was my inability to process my attachment and hurt. Good because it made me realize that I never set boundaries with Natalia. Before things got heated, I was so generous with her that I gave more than I would usually feel comfortable doing. This is what also led to resentment. So I learned to set boundaries. The difference between you and me is that I confessed to Natalia in a matter of months in our friendship and she knows today that I still have feelings for her. You may still hesitate to do the same with Nathan, especially with the Christin overtones. But consider this...the way I talk to Natalia is way different than the way I talk to the first roommate. This is because I can speak openly and honestly with nothing to cover up. It allows me and Natalia to get find the root of our issues (usually related to hurt and pain). Rather than use stupid side issues that we “try” to make the main issue to distract from the real issue (in the end resolving nothing). It takes enormous courage and vulnerability to be truthful and honest to your friend that you love. It will hurt and sting just as much whether or not you confess your feelings to him. However, you will have more authentic and deep conversations with him and it will feel good. If he is a true friend (sounds like he is), he will come to appreciate your honesty and courage. He will feel even more grateful for you and your friendship even if reciprocation is something he can’t give. When I can speak to my pain with Natalia, I feel a relief. There’s something healing about it. Maybe, it makes me accept it more that she knows how much I care so I can give myself the permission to let go. I don’t know. Hope you find my tale helpful. Good luck on your journey, Aaren.
I'm so happy i found this video, I am currently stuggleing with falling for my best friend, he is such a wondeful person, the best friend i could've ever asked for but to me he is not just my friend. Unfortunatel, a started catching feeling for him and i know he's straight, but i don't want to lose him, we are so close to each other, but i feel like i can't do this anymore my jealousy keeps me awake at night and the tought that we can't be together. I feel like the only way to solve this is to distance myself from him, to talk once or twice a year and never get close again and be grateful that i got to know such a wonderful person. (It helps when i realise i'm not the only one struggleing with falling in love for a straight friend)
Yes, you’re not alone. I was once like that. You can read my story in the comments above. I hope that things will become so much better for you. Best wishes for you!
I'm not Christian. But i was when i was 17 and 18 (for two years i went to the protestant church). And when i was Christian, i always fell for some of my friends (who self-identify as str8) and i was trying to convert them into Christians, i was telling them smth like God is waiting for you etc... As a matter of fact, the Christian com-ty was a great one. But the funny thing about myself is that i was telling my friends they needed God while in fact i just wanted to hookup with them (without realizing that or at least doing my best to tell myself im in love with them).
Feeling taken for granted by someone you love. Been there. Still experiencing it. It’s heartbreaking and i know he feels similarly towards me as the way i do for him. But hes super scared of it. I don’t have to guess, he has told me he misses me and loves me. I was his best man at his wedding and felt guilty that i wished it was me he was marrying and not her. They had a horrible marriage and divorced. And my friend came down with cancer too. So many similarities.
dang i felt that- I'm Christian and gay as well and i fell in love with my friend good thing is he started to like me back and now our relationship is going well and i hope you will be strong and know the fact that all of lgbtqia+ will keep being strong. i love your animations and i love how you came out to us!
Thank you so much for the heartfelt message - means a lot to me. So happy for you that your friend liked you back! Very encouraging to hear. :) Appreciate your feedback. I hope to share more about my journey here!
So relatable The problem was that my best friend was so Caring that he saw that he was hurting me So he left me But he still remain to this day The only one I loved
Man that was such a heartbreaking story cos it's too relatable. Having to deal with unrequited love is already bad enough but seeing him getting married in front of you? That's another level of pain lol. Reading on one of your comment, I'm glad that you could come out to him eventually and I'm happy that you share your story with us all :)
I'm glad it was relatable for you, thank you for letting me know. I think I tried to forget I was in love with him by never talking about (this is the first I've talked about it anywhere with anyone). But the confused feelings I had made it obvious that I still had some feelings, and I took this opportunity to think things through and process everything. I'm grateful for this opportunity to share this story as well! And I'm also fortunate that he has remained good friends with me even after coming out to him.
Currently facing this. Similar. I’m a female in love with my closes female friend, she’s also a church leader. The pain is unbearable and I feel alone in this
Really appreciate the feedback! Feels like the gay asian american experience is so underrepresented, much less the the gay Christian asian american experience. So I'm grateful to be able to share mine!
Idk if this could be compared, but i fell in love with my best friend. She's straight so i tried to play down the romantic feelings i got towards her, because i thought it would ruin our friendship. Now she came out as bi to me and is with another girl, which honestly leaves me shredded.
So sad, I remember a guy from the church I was going to after hearing me talk about U2 after their concert I had one of those books like a really expensive tour books and the way I was going from one page to another talking about the great pictures he told my sister when I got up to go to the restroom that he thought I was Gay. And he was right. but my sister never told me.
I really need help with this. I had a super close straight friend to. I confessed my feelings, and he took it very well. However soon after , he would ask me to hook him up with my female friends and stuff.. also talk in detail of his sexual fantasies with women and stuff like that . But at the same time, he would send me shirtless pics and pics in his boxers showing bulge and everything to "show gym progress". He did that knowing I liked him so it was very confusing .. I remember he once told me that he had questioned if he was gay or not when he was younger, but only because "he felt no woman would ever like him".. well eventually we grew apart because he was stepping all over my feelings, but what do you guys think it was ? Did he just like the attention that much or was it his way of releasing repressed gay urges or something like that ? It torments me to this day to not know
Yes, I think he liked the attention and was trying to build on that while knowing he wasn’t expected to return any attention. Unfortunately, I feel like this happens a lot even in gay dating and straight dating when there’s a “power imbalance” so to speak. Best to try to let it go and seek your own happiness elsewhere.
@@AarenHuang Thanks for the input. Knowing he's most likely straight and yet STILL took advantage of the fact that I liked him to.boost his ego infuriates me to no end. It's been half a year now and.it still makes my blood boil. I can only hope to let it go some day. What a shitty friend. And believe me when I say we were inseperable friends
it could be anything. interestingly, if asked, he wouldn't even be able to answer that question himself. "straight "guys like this enjoy being irrational
Oh yes! I was so in love with my best mate from college. The trouble with christianity is that it's all about resisting temptation! I took that to heroic levels as a teen. Now as a middle age man and non Christian I realise it was sometimes a mistake.
Thank you! :) I've also stopped dating at the moment, but for other reasons (ie. pandemic, other priorities, etc). I hope to share more videos - appreciate it!
Hello love the video and wow I like how you are so honest with ur feelings. I can relate to this story to an extent. I fell in love with my best freind during high school and since I got attached so emotionally I got jealous too easy and often. We would have small pity arguments (started by yours truly manily) but nothing extreme and I would get mad for things that wasn't even a big deal. I was like a possessive boyfriend (even tho we weren't dating). But we patch things up and now are out of high school and in collage rn. To make it short I was still in love with him and in a way still am. I came out to him that I'm gay but he said he wasn't which is fair. We stayed best freinds and even tho I still have feelings for him I wish him the best and hope he finds a lovely girl. I need to move on and its not easy. Thanks for sharing your experience 😁🏳️🌈
Wow your experience sounds so similar to mine. I'm glad to hear that you have stayed best friends! Sometimes when feelings get involved, it can ruin a good bond, so seeing that you guys have communicated and worked through things is very encouraging. It means a lot to me that you like this video and can relate, and I hope to share more on this channel. Thank you for your words! :)
Oh wow, I'm *so* glad that I can't relate to crushing on straight guys. 💁🏿♂️ Sounds like such a weird situation to be in. Sorry bro. Much love to ya. 🤗
Have you ever fallen in love with someone you were already very close to?
Yes, it happens to me all the time. I fall for boys from my bible study and school that are straight.
@@jacksonevans5679 I definitely crush on them too. How do you deal with it? Just hide it?
@@AarenHuang Hide it, flirt a little bit, and take the boiling rage and angst out on a practice dummy with my bare hands.
@@jacksonevans5679 Haha I think a practice dummy would've been helpful for me in college as well.
Thanks for sharing your story, Aaren. It is a very thoughtful, reflective, and touching narrative. I enjoyed it and cried a little :’)
I experienced the same situation twice! I’m a female who fell in love with my straight female roommates two different times (I have something for roommates lol). I never came out to my first roommate nor confessed my feelings. I came out to my second roommate and confessed my feelings early in our friendship before we lived together. I became very close with both of them but will only focus on the second roommate because I think it may be helpful for you. We’ll call her Natalia.
I got very close to Natalia thanks to quarantine and really just enjoyed the simple nature of our friendship. Cooking together, watching shows, talking, playing. Like you and Nathan, I was already so happy being with her without “dating”. When Natalia started dating a guy seriously, I felt the same way you did. A bit jealous and a bit sad. I am very giving and generous to a small circle of people including Natalia. When she started to take me for granted or rely on me to do things for her, I put a tight hold on my generosity. My resentment built in me. Surprisingly, it was both good and a bad thing. Bad because it influenced my reactions too much and led us to fighting/arguing incessantly about nonsensical things when, under the surface, it was my inability to process my attachment and hurt. Good because it made me realize that I never set boundaries with Natalia. Before things got heated, I was so generous with her that I gave more than I would usually feel comfortable doing. This is what also led to resentment. So I learned to set boundaries.
The difference between you and me is that I confessed to Natalia in a matter of months in our friendship and she knows today that I still have feelings for her. You may still hesitate to do the same with Nathan, especially with the Christin overtones. But consider this...the way I talk to Natalia is way different than the way I talk to the first roommate. This is because I can speak openly and honestly with nothing to cover up. It allows me and Natalia to get find the root of our issues (usually related to hurt and pain). Rather than use stupid side issues that we “try” to make the main issue to distract from the real issue (in the end resolving nothing).
It takes enormous courage and vulnerability to be truthful and honest to your friend that you love. It will hurt and sting just as much whether or not you confess your feelings to him. However, you will have more authentic and deep conversations with him and it will feel good. If he is a true friend (sounds like he is), he will come to appreciate your honesty and courage. He will feel even more grateful for you and your friendship even if reciprocation is something he can’t give. When I can speak to my pain with Natalia, I feel a relief. There’s something healing about it. Maybe, it makes me accept it more that she knows how much I care so I can give myself the permission to let go. I don’t know. Hope you find my tale helpful. Good luck on your journey, Aaren.
this was me in 2014, and then he literally told the whole church i was gay… man has that changed me as a person and my trust issues are do deep💀
I'm so happy i found this video, I am currently stuggleing with falling for my best friend, he is such a wondeful person, the best friend i could've ever asked for but to me he is not just my friend. Unfortunatel, a started catching feeling for him and i know he's straight, but i don't want to lose him, we are so close to each other, but i feel like i can't do this anymore my jealousy keeps me awake at night and the tought that we can't be together. I feel like the only way to solve this is to distance myself from him, to talk once or twice a year and never get close again and be grateful that i got to know such a wonderful person. (It helps when i realise i'm not the only one struggleing with falling in love for a straight friend)
Yes, you’re not alone. I was once like that. You can read my story in the comments above. I hope that things will become so much better for you. Best wishes for you!
I'm not Christian. But i was when i was 17 and 18 (for two years i went to the protestant church). And when i was Christian, i always fell for some of my friends (who self-identify as str8) and i was trying to convert them into Christians, i was telling them smth like God is waiting for you etc... As a matter of fact, the Christian com-ty was a great one. But the funny thing about myself is that i was telling my friends they needed God while in fact i just wanted to hookup with them (without realizing that or at least doing my best to tell myself im in love with them).
Feeling taken for granted by someone you love. Been there. Still experiencing it. It’s heartbreaking and i know he feels similarly towards me as the way i do for him. But hes super scared of it. I don’t have to guess, he has told me he misses me and loves me. I was his best man at his wedding and felt guilty that i wished it was me he was marrying and not her. They had a horrible marriage and divorced. And my friend came down with cancer too. So many similarities.
dang i felt that- I'm Christian and gay as well and i fell in love with my friend good thing is he started to like me back and now our relationship is going well and i hope you will be strong and know the fact that all of lgbtqia+ will keep being strong. i love your animations and i love how you came out to us!
Thank you so much for the heartfelt message - means a lot to me. So happy for you that your friend liked you back! Very encouraging to hear. :) Appreciate your feedback. I hope to share more about my journey here!
So relatable
The problem was that my best friend was so
Caring that he saw that he was hurting me
So he left me
But he still remain to this day
The only one I loved
Man that was such a heartbreaking story cos it's too relatable. Having to deal with unrequited love is already bad enough but seeing him getting married in front of you? That's another level of pain lol. Reading on one of your comment, I'm glad that you could come out to him eventually and I'm happy that you share your story with us all :)
I'm glad it was relatable for you, thank you for letting me know. I think I tried to forget I was in love with him by never talking about (this is the first I've talked about it anywhere with anyone). But the confused feelings I had made it obvious that I still had some feelings, and I took this opportunity to think things through and process everything. I'm grateful for this opportunity to share this story as well! And I'm also fortunate that he has remained good friends with me even after coming out to him.
Thanks for sharing your story 💗
For sure! I'm glad to have this opportunity to share it. Thank you watching and supporting. :)
This story is already in Portugal overseas 👉🏽👈🏽
I'm so happy
Glad you are able to see it in Portugal!
Going through it and he definitely knows I just haven’t confessed yet
Currently facing this. Similar. I’m a female in love with my closes female friend, she’s also a church leader. The pain is unbearable and I feel alone in this
It's called the real friendship. Love it ❤️❤️❤️🔥
indeed, we are still good friends today
@@AarenHuang I wish you 2 would be good friends forever
It's heartbreaking 👉🏽👈🏽
I love you
It's a bittersweet ending, but I'm glad to have this friend :). Love you too
My first love was also my straight best friend. He saved my soul .
that's tough man sorry that happened
Appreciate it. At the end of the day, we are still good friends, and I'm grateful for that. But if someone is straight, you can't help it.
This is really nice. The gay experience, finally. Thanks for posting things that can be related to as a gay asian Christian American experience
Really appreciate the feedback! Feels like the gay asian american experience is so underrepresented, much less the the gay Christian asian american experience. So I'm grateful to be able to share mine!
The gay experience? 🤨
Crushing on straight guys?
Life is too short to live with regrets
The only shots you miss in life are the ones you don’t risk taking.
True, gotta live your best life
Yes. But is my fault too. I'm attracted to straight man.
Sometimes a person can't control who they are attracted to unfortunately
@@AarenHuang hope we can meet one day...my Christian friend
@@dennisbkkam1580 Perhaps one day! Nice to connect with you :)
Idk if this could be compared, but i fell in love with my best friend. She's straight so i tried to play down the romantic feelings i got towards her, because i thought it would ruin our friendship. Now she came out as bi to me and is with another girl, which honestly leaves me shredded.
So sad, I remember a guy from the church I was going to after hearing me talk about U2 after their concert I had one of those books like a really expensive tour books and the way I was going from one page to another talking about the great pictures he told my sister when I got up to go to the restroom that he thought I was Gay. And he was right. but my sister never told me.
I really need help with this. I had a super close straight friend to. I confessed my feelings, and he took it very well. However soon after , he would ask me to hook him up with my female friends and stuff.. also talk in detail of his sexual fantasies with women and stuff like that . But at the same time, he would send me shirtless pics and pics in his boxers showing bulge and everything to "show gym progress". He did that knowing I liked him so it was very confusing .. I remember he once told me that he had questioned if he was gay or not when he was younger, but only because "he felt no woman would ever like him".. well eventually we grew apart because he was stepping all over my feelings, but what do you guys think it was ? Did he just like the attention that much or was it his way of releasing repressed gay urges or something like that ? It torments me to this day to not know
Yes, I think he liked the attention and was trying to build on that while knowing he wasn’t expected to return any attention. Unfortunately, I feel like this happens a lot even in gay dating and straight dating when there’s a “power imbalance” so to speak. Best to try to let it go and seek your own happiness elsewhere.
@@AarenHuang
Thanks for the input. Knowing he's most likely straight and yet STILL took advantage of the fact that I liked him to.boost his ego infuriates me to no end. It's been half a year now and.it still makes my blood boil. I can only hope to let it go some day. What a shitty friend. And believe me when I say we were inseperable friends
it could be anything. interestingly, if asked, he wouldn't even be able to answer that question himself. "straight "guys like this enjoy being irrational
Owie my heart 🥺
😢
Thanks for sharing your beautiful heart breaking story aaren :)
It makes me wanted to make my own animated gay story too
Yes
Glad you can relate to this :)
Oh yes! I was so in love with my best mate from college. The trouble with christianity is that it's all about resisting temptation! I took that to heroic levels as a teen. Now as a middle age man and non Christian I realise it was sometimes a mistake.
Nice story, I don't like dating it always ends up bad for me so I stopped, anyway keep up the videos I enjoy them.
Thank you! :) I've also stopped dating at the moment, but for other reasons (ie. pandemic, other priorities, etc). I hope to share more videos - appreciate it!
This story reminds me of Alexa & Katie, that Netflix show
Same story... Argghhh im cryinggg😭.My bestfriend is a religion person too so of course i cnt get him. 😌
Hello love the video and wow I like how you are so honest with ur feelings. I can relate to this story to an extent. I fell in love with my best freind during high school and since I got attached so emotionally I got jealous too easy and often. We would have small pity arguments (started by yours truly manily) but nothing extreme and I would get mad for things that wasn't even a big deal. I was like a possessive boyfriend (even tho we weren't dating). But we patch things up and now are out of high school and in collage rn. To make it short I was still in love with him and in a way still am. I came out to him that I'm gay but he said he wasn't which is fair. We stayed best freinds and even tho I still have feelings for him I wish him the best and hope he finds a lovely girl. I need to move on and its not easy. Thanks for sharing your experience 😁🏳️🌈
Wow your experience sounds so similar to mine. I'm glad to hear that you have stayed best friends! Sometimes when feelings get involved, it can ruin a good bond, so seeing that you guys have communicated and worked through things is very encouraging. It means a lot to me that you like this video and can relate, and I hope to share more on this channel. Thank you for your words! :)
Oh wow, I'm *so* glad that I can't relate to crushing on straight guys. 💁🏿♂️
Sounds like such a weird situation to be in. Sorry bro. Much love to ya. 🤗
I keep falling for guys I can't date 😢
Same Situation🥺
Awe
Breaks my heart. this part of bing gay...suuuuucks
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