Thank you i was crying seeing the whole video, i realized that i was wrong and always satguru wanted me to be out of that but i was always wanted a lustful desire but satguru always want me to path in the way of sikhi.
Hats off to the person who has gathered these 7 points so systematically , even i would like to know the panktis through which we cam understand these things. Too good
I am learning so much from this channel! Thank you for another terrific, enlightening video! Now I realize why dating is such a gut wrenching crucible! The stages of Kaam are basically Western dating! The more I learn about Sikhi, the more I see where my life is off track. Many thanks again.
Well actually naam Simran helps. Your remembering your true father❤️ Simran helps you to focus and to be calm and quiet. Forgive me if I said anything wrong🙏🏽
Thanks for the video. There is only one Kaam, it is unfulfilled sexual desire(s). In the video you are explaining how kaam is triggered. That what takes place between a husband and wife is not considered as kaam as it is Dharmic (Righteous) according to Gurmat. As quoted in the video Gurbani states He Kaamang, nark bisraamang bahu joni bhramaavneh O sexual desire, you lead mortals to hell; you make them wander in re-incarnation coming back in the form of countless species Chit harnang, trai lok gamanang, jap tap seel bidharneh You cheat the consciousness, pervading the three worlds, you destroy meditation, penance and virtue Alap sukh avit chanchal ooch neech smaavaneh But you give only shallow pleasure, while you make the mortals weak and unsteady, you pervade the high and the low Tav bhay bemunchit saadh sangam, aut naanak naarayaneh Your fear is dispelled in the Sadh Sangat (Holy congregation) through the protection and support of the Lord So Guru Ji tells us the results of becoming consumed by Kaam but also gives us the antidote on how to escape the influence of Kaam, and that is about going to the sangat (holy congregation). People don't understand the purpose of going to the Gurdwara and being amongst the sangat, this is only one example of how it helps to attend places where the Sangat is, whether it is a Gurdwara or other meeting place.
This 8 steps is also the natural evolution of two people comming together. This speaker goes on here too much about about how you maybe convincing yourself that you are not acting in lustful ways, but only you know that. There is a leaning towards a desensitising here. These 8 steps are noting wrong if you are following the path of lovers or involving yourself into a commitment. The other thng is who created these 8 steps. Is this his own interpretation or is taken directly out a passage of Sri Guru Granth Sahib.
Peace, love and joy come from reciting the bani and following the Guru. Energies will affect you to scare you and take you away from the basics of sikhi!
Kaam is one of the major battles of our time, we live in such a hypersexualized society that promotes a lot of immoral Acts. thank you for making this video that breaks down and gives a more nuanced perspective to “Kaam”, and shows that it's not just about the literal act.
The Turbanator yea even I do believe before veiwing this video that Kam is form of sexual desires....even some times I surrounded by such thoughts and it's very difficult to control i.e sexual contents.
A desire or desires on their own is not a sin, but rather what you desire. If you desire psyical encounters simply based on desire then it can be questionable in the eyes of God, but than there is desires of doing selfless service etc...Its what you want that is the issue not desire itself. For too long we have associated "Kaam" as a sin as it means sex. Sex as a practice is deeply misunderstood by many. The 8 steps discussed in this video in my option are not sinful at all. Rather what is questionable is how they are used because these 8 steps are common practice between people who seek a partner & most often you see examples of these steps as advice given by relationship counciling or by relationship experts. You Tube is loaded with videos on these subjects. In essence I think having awareness of these steps is mind control so what is in the mind does not manifeste itself into a reality.
@@NoName-jq7tj Lust is responsible for love marriage .People who make bf or gf they are bombarded with lustful thoughts No justification can be made for love marriages on religious grounds thatz nonsense
Nonsense absolute nonsense. By reading your comment you’ve never been in love before. It’s just the same dogma dialogue you hear all the time. Just dry preaching. If you think that the whole point people have partners before marriage is because of lust and lust alone you are not living in reality and you have been spending too much time in a Punjabi conservative society that regards everything as sin. How people build their lives varies from place to place & in certain cultures people do cohabit prior to getting married. How do you know that people in love marriage are bombarded with lustful thoughts only. Do you honestly think that people who have lovers that all they think of each other is lustful thoughts. Your sentence contradicts your argument. Take it from me as I’ve been in love before & the last thing you do is lust just and lust alone.
@@NoName-jq7tj My only point sexual relationship before marriage is a sin though living in today's world where it is nowadays common or it is considered that a person who don't have gf or bf is stupid or not that smart is harming the society And now don't say that people who make gf or bf is only for friendship purpose you can have general survey lie detector brain mapping or whatever test you want to conclude that lust is not the force behind love marriages or relationships before marriage
People watching this video must be very, very careful they don’t take it the wrong way. The things spoken of are in relation to EXTREMES. The very worst thing you can do is shame someone for their sexuality, because you then repress their desires which can manifest as some very dangerous traits. In psychology, this is known as the shadow of the subconscious mind and when it is repressed and forced down as some “bad” thing, it is then able to take root and display itself in behaviours like aggression, rage, deceit, lies, addiction, manipulation, cheating. In some cases it can create personality disorders, self sabotage, self loathing, health problems, the list goes on. Sexuality, inherently, is NOT a bad thing. The energetic connection between masculine and feminine energy through the act of sex is literally the source of creation. It is a connection to the divine, it is sacred and to be respected. Adults looking at children and feeling sexual desires towards them is EXTREME. Impulsive actions towards the opposite or same sex in the form of violence, rape, murder or abuse, is EXTREME. Cheating on your partner because you were overcome by physical desires and a “need” is EXTREME. Things can build up to an extreme and explode like a bomb when they are pushed down into the darkest parts of ourselves, ignored and not acknowledged. This is the danger of repressing and shaming the basic right of freedom to express oneself. These extremes do not exist in love between two people. Like mentioned in the video, it is okay to have these desires for the person you are committed to as long as they don’t go to EXTREMES but when you love someone, the thought of doing anything to hurt them is as impossible as it would be to hurt the Guru. There should always be control to not let innocent desires run wild in ways which create negativity or become toxic to your life and block your connection to God. But you should also enjoy all aspects of being with the person you love, because that is also a connection to God. Love is the energy of God. Intimacy and desires for your spouse when in a shared, loving, safe and balanced relationship/marriage are very beautiful experiences that should be held as sacred gifts from God, blessed on you for living in the open hearted energy of high vibrational love, where the lower vibrational extremes of lust can not reach you 🙏🏻🤍
Wahegurujikakhalsawahegurujikifateh!! Bhagat ji was telling me that if you do jasper of the first Shabad of ramkali pathshahi 10 then your ‘mann saaf hunda ‘
I just want you to know that demons are now affecting my mind as you stated we do simran n worship others. This 'gyaan' is hurting me and truth is actually placed into the eyes/senses not mind.
Same thing happened with me sister.. I m married but not able to reach spiritual progress I also felt as demons effected me... I m trying my level best to do Simran reciting day n night... Real respect to you.. You also though the way i thought.. Sister.
Okay but answer me this: Why did GOD make men more lustful than women? I never understood this and have not ever had a good answer. Why did GOD make males extremely lustful and not women. If GOD wants us to only have sex within marriage why would he make MEN extremely lustful but not women? Please answer my question.
This is a cultural thing. Men and women scientifically speaking (on average) have the same amount of lust. Women sre just afraid to express it because of judgement from society. Men get away with it easily🙃
@@Nehagrows okay that makes more sense. well you have to understand from a male perspective it is hard to know how women think because no one tells us how women think
@@Nehagrows Please provide the evidence for this scientific theory. It is not a cultural thing. Biologically males have twice as much testosterone than women. Women have more of the Oxytocin hormone. Genders have been wired differently by nature.
Waheguru g I have a question guru sahib g said that eka nari jati hove so if u have that kind of feeling for that one person only like if u r dng his or her kirtan or Simran then what’s wrong in that?
Gurpreet Singh VJKK VJKF If you start focusing towards bani and love for god you will slowly start loosing these bad thoughts and instead you will start crying for god rather than another person.
Read gurugranth sahib ji with meaning it will clean your mind I read on my phone app it's big change in my life I feel I always positive with blessing of whehguru
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No matter what we believe , what we say but in deep we all know that this video is absolutely right
Very true💯
@sikh life It seemed like our mind was being read
I don't.
❤❤
Thank you i was crying seeing the whole video, i realized that i was wrong and always satguru wanted me to be out of that but i was always wanted a lustful desire but satguru always want me to path in the way of sikhi.
Now whether you are out of kaam or not? I am suffering from same problem as you plz help me my name is Amandeep singh
ruclips.net/video/yDREkDy5Dkw/видео.html
Hats off to the person who has gathered these 7 points so systematically , even i would like to know the panktis through which we cam understand these things. Too good
I am learning so much from this channel! Thank you for another terrific, enlightening video! Now I realize why dating is such a gut wrenching crucible! The stages of Kaam are basically Western dating! The more I learn about Sikhi, the more I see where my life is off track. Many thanks again.
YI am Sikh in my opinion yoga is the best way to control everything believe me
Mr Singh what a joke. Yoga will do nothing.
Well actually naam Simran helps. Your remembering your true father❤️ Simran helps you to focus and to be calm and quiet. Forgive me if I said anything wrong🙏🏽
Yoga helps only physically but trust me Gurbani helps mentally ,,, once I was in depression but I overcome depression just because of Gurbani 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
@@guruskaur4774 yes indeed ,, Ur right no doubt
Seems like bhai ji knows me and my secrets very well and making me understand what is right. Thank you Basics of Sikhi. God bless you.
Word
Thanks for the video.
There is only one Kaam, it is unfulfilled sexual desire(s). In the video you are explaining how kaam is triggered. That what takes place between a husband and wife is not considered as kaam as it is Dharmic (Righteous) according to Gurmat.
As quoted in the video Gurbani states
He Kaamang, nark bisraamang bahu joni bhramaavneh
O sexual desire, you lead mortals to hell; you make them wander in re-incarnation coming back in the form of countless species
Chit harnang, trai lok gamanang, jap tap seel bidharneh
You cheat the consciousness, pervading the three worlds, you destroy meditation, penance and virtue
Alap sukh avit chanchal ooch neech smaavaneh
But you give only shallow pleasure, while you make the mortals weak and unsteady, you pervade the high and the low
Tav bhay bemunchit saadh sangam, aut naanak naarayaneh
Your fear is dispelled in the Sadh Sangat (Holy congregation) through the protection and support of the Lord
So Guru Ji tells us the results of becoming consumed by Kaam but also gives us the antidote on how to escape the influence of Kaam, and that is about going to the sangat (holy congregation).
People don't understand the purpose of going to the Gurdwara and being amongst the sangat, this is only one example of how it helps to attend places where the Sangat is, whether it is a Gurdwara or other meeting place.
This 8 steps is also the natural evolution of two people comming together. This speaker goes on here too much about about how you maybe convincing yourself that you are not acting in lustful ways, but only you know that. There is a leaning towards a desensitising here. These 8 steps are noting wrong if you are following the path of lovers or involving yourself into a commitment. The other thng is who created these 8 steps. Is this his own interpretation or is taken directly out a passage of Sri Guru Granth Sahib.
It semmed that our mind was being read by guru through this video .🙏🏻
Thanks vaheguru Ji for creating this RUclips channel thanks to every single person who is taking stand with Basics of Sikhi 🙏🏼
We can only conquer ourselves with the help of Gurbani 🙏 🙏 🙏🙏
Peace, love and joy come from reciting the bani and following the Guru. Energies will affect you to scare you and take you away from the basics of sikhi!
Anoopa Kaur yes ❤️🙌🏼🙏🏽
Kaam is one of the major battles of our time, we live in such a hypersexualized society that promotes a lot of immoral Acts.
thank you for making this video that breaks down and gives a more nuanced perspective to “Kaam”, and shows that it's not just about the literal act.
The Turbanator yea even I do believe before veiwing this video that Kam is form of sexual desires....even some times I surrounded by such thoughts and it's very difficult to control i.e sexual contents.
A desire or desires on their own is not a sin, but rather what you desire. If you desire psyical encounters simply based on desire then it can be questionable in the eyes of God, but than there is desires of doing selfless service etc...Its what you want that is the issue not desire itself. For too long we have associated "Kaam" as a sin as it means sex. Sex as a practice is deeply misunderstood by many. The 8 steps discussed in this video in my option are not sinful at all. Rather what is questionable is how they are used because these 8 steps are common practice between people who seek a partner & most often you see examples of these steps as advice given by relationship counciling or by relationship experts. You Tube is loaded with videos on these subjects. In essence I think having awareness of these steps is mind control so what is in the mind does not manifeste itself into a reality.
@@NoName-jq7tj
Lust is responsible for love marriage .People who make bf or gf they are bombarded with lustful thoughts
No justification can be made for love marriages on religious grounds thatz nonsense
Nonsense absolute nonsense. By reading your comment you’ve never been in love before. It’s just the same dogma dialogue you hear all the time. Just dry preaching. If you think that the whole point people have partners before marriage is because of lust and lust alone you are not living in reality and you have been spending too much time in a Punjabi conservative society that regards everything as sin. How people build their lives varies from place to place & in certain cultures people do cohabit prior to getting married. How do you know that people in love marriage are bombarded with lustful thoughts only. Do you honestly think that people who have lovers that all they think of each other is lustful thoughts. Your sentence contradicts your argument. Take it from me as I’ve been in love before & the last thing you do is lust just and lust alone.
@@NoName-jq7tj
My only point sexual relationship before marriage is a sin though living in today's world where it is nowadays common or it is considered that a person who don't have gf or bf is stupid or not that smart is harming the society
And now don't say that people who make gf or bf is only for friendship purpose you can have general survey lie detector brain mapping or whatever test you want to conclude that lust is not the force behind love marriages or relationships before marriage
Vaheguru jee ka Khalsa!
Vaheguru jee kee Fateh!
Very well explained Veerji!
Guru Sahib kirpa banayi rakhan!
You got a superb noor !!! I am sure its kirpa of Bani ...waheguru bless u and give u strength to enlighten people by this priceless sewa ..waheguru!!!
Wow. My notebook is being filled with notes with your Kirpa Guru Mahraj through Sadh Sangat ❤❤🙏🙏🙏
Amazing sir.... Respect to sikh people.... 😊
I have been waiting for this video and you post glad you do katha on that topic and your vichar gives lots of improvement in every one life's
The way u explained this was beautiful keep up the great work knowing ur changing people fractionally everytime they see one of your videos:)
Thanks veerji for explaining the Chain of kaam.
Explained very perfectly..
My absolute fav video by bhai jee
Waheguru ji ka khalsa
Waheguru ji ki fateh ji
Thanks for the video may guru sahib bless you more bal for keep doing sewa
More Bal ?
Subhash Sahu 'power' 'ਬਲ'
Well explain positive words and every people should follow it . Waheguru ji
IT'S GONN CHANGE MY LIFE FOR GOOD BHAI SAHIB JI DHANWAD JI WAHEGURU JI KA KHALSA WAHEGURU JI KI FATEH
ਵਾਹਿਗੁਰੂ ਜੀ ਕਾ ਖਾਲਸਾ।। ਵਾਹਿਗੁਰੂ ਜੀ ਕੀ ਫਤਿਹ ਜੀ।।
Thank you very much for this wonderful video. I watch it whenever I need a quick reminder about the dangers of kaam.
Dhan dhan waheguru ji.
Thank you so much for this amazing video.
People watching this video must be very, very careful they don’t take it the wrong way. The things spoken of are in relation to EXTREMES. The very worst thing you can do is shame someone for their sexuality, because you then repress their desires which can manifest as some very dangerous traits. In psychology, this is known as the shadow of the subconscious mind and when it is repressed and forced down as some “bad” thing, it is then able to take root and display itself in behaviours like aggression, rage, deceit, lies, addiction, manipulation, cheating. In some cases it can create personality disorders, self sabotage, self loathing, health problems, the list goes on. Sexuality, inherently, is NOT a bad thing. The energetic connection between masculine and feminine energy through the act of sex is literally the source of creation. It is a connection to the divine, it is sacred and to be respected.
Adults looking at children and feeling sexual desires towards them is EXTREME. Impulsive actions towards the opposite or same sex in the form of violence, rape, murder or abuse, is EXTREME. Cheating on your partner because you were overcome by physical desires and a “need” is EXTREME. Things can build up to an extreme and explode like a bomb when they are pushed down into the darkest parts of ourselves, ignored and not acknowledged. This is the danger of repressing and shaming the basic right of freedom to express oneself.
These extremes do not exist in love between two people. Like mentioned in the video, it is okay to have these desires for the person you are committed to as long as they don’t go to EXTREMES but when you love someone, the thought of doing anything to hurt them is as impossible as it would be to hurt the Guru. There should always be control to not let innocent desires run wild in ways which create negativity or become toxic to your life and block your connection to God. But you should also enjoy all aspects of being with the person you love, because that is also a connection to God. Love is the energy of God.
Intimacy and desires for your spouse when in a shared, loving, safe and balanced relationship/marriage are very beautiful experiences that should be held as sacred gifts from God, blessed on you for living in the open hearted energy of high vibrational love, where the lower vibrational extremes of lust can not reach you 🙏🏻🤍
thx for awareness
Wahegurujikakhalsawahegurujikifateh!!
Bhagat ji was telling me that if you do jasper of the first Shabad of ramkali pathshahi 10 then your ‘mann saaf hunda ‘
It's a very good massage for avoid kaam👌🙏🙏
Thanks Bhai sahib I'll definitely work on it.
Thanks veer ji.... waheguru ji.... waheguru ji ka khalsa whaeguru ji ki Fateh ji
Wahe guru ji ka khalsa wahe guru ji ki fateh!
SIKHI COVERS ALL PARTS OF LIFE. i'm going through the 5th type of kaam right now. i will try to get away from that kaam
This channel just saved my life
I'm sending this to humble the poet and any other Sikhs I know with Kaam
Send it to ourselves first
awesome 👌 explaination thanku so much u make very easy for understand
Very well explained in details thanks veer ji.🙏👳
Such a clarity 🙏
Waheguru satnaam
Wow Brother👌🏻👌🏻👌🏻👌🏻👌🏻🙏🙏Thank you
Waheguru ji, Baut baut tanywaad🙏🙏
make some more videos about this topic, thank you so much, this is really a big problem.
Degh tegh fateh...
wondering what the background track is called from jagdeep kaur? Also great video! Learned a lot from this
Brother Real respect for you... You are really right
Waheguru ji ka khalsa waheguru ji ki fateh 🙏
Very Well explained 🙏😇😇 ..
I just want you to know that demons are now affecting my mind as you stated we do simran n worship others. This 'gyaan' is hurting me and truth is actually placed into the eyes/senses not mind.
Same thing happened with me sister.. I m married but not able to reach spiritual progress I also felt as demons effected me... I m trying my level best to do Simran reciting day n night... Real respect to you.. You also though the way i thought.. Sister.
Read gurugranth with meaning on phone app it will clean your mind and you will feel positive and happy all the time
@@avneetsingh5727 read gurugranth ji with meaning on your phone app it will change your mind gives you positive energy
it was just❤❤❤❤
Waheguru ji Waheguru ji
Awesome!!! Exactly True!!! Waheguru
Plse help me to tell about the shabad to speak when we feel lust
good thoughts..waheguru
i want to talk to u
i m so depressed after seeing this because of my feelings of lust
i m 18
how can i control it 😩😩😩
Pray , do path ,do sewa . Watch videos of sandeep maheswari. Focus on some work
Read Gurbani with meaning on your phone app it will clean your bad thoughts and positive energy comes in your mind
Stop watching porn ...
Vaheguroo ☝🙏❤🙇
8 form of lust Kya aap ye video Hindi me vapas la sakte he
ਵਾਹਿਗੁਰੂ ਜੀ
thanx veer
Thank u veer g
Perfect!!
Thank you for sharing 🙏🙏🙏
Bro no audio at 5th step
Thank you. Hopefully the subtitles allowed you to follow along during the cut out!
No words for this Vedio 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
I love Sikhism even though Iam not a sikh.
Vaheguru ji 🙏
Our mind potrays even right to swim with such things brilliantly someone with us GURU in between
Is it ok to have these kaam thoughts towards your husband?
Husband wife is allowed ....it is within the dharma ...but both should have a purpose to reach spiritual goal...and get towards guru more
Wow. Thank you
Sir your videos could a person life 🙏🙏
Waheguru
Thank you 😊
very well explained
Any book which can give us awarenes related five thieves plz send me name of book either any audio and video
amrit and poison by sant singh maskeen ji
Read gurugranth ji with meaning on phone app it will change your mind
Thanx veer ji for video
WAHEGURU.
I think u should do this video in a silent place.flowing water disturb
Well explained
Thank you 🙏
Thank you
Okay but answer me this: Why did GOD make men more lustful than women? I never understood this and have not ever had a good answer. Why did GOD make males extremely lustful and not women. If GOD wants us to only have sex within marriage why would he make MEN extremely lustful but not women? Please answer my question.
This is a cultural thing. Men and women scientifically speaking (on average) have the same amount of lust. Women sre just afraid to express it because of judgement from society. Men get away with it easily🙃
@@Nehagrows okay that makes more sense. well you have to understand from a male perspective it is hard to know how women think because no one tells us how women think
@@Nehagrows Please provide the evidence for this scientific theory. It is not a cultural thing. Biologically males have twice as much testosterone than women. Women have more of the Oxytocin hormone. Genders have been wired differently by nature.
Waheguru g I have a question guru sahib g said that eka nari jati hove so if u have that kind of feeling for that one person only like if u r dng his or her kirtan or Simran then what’s wrong in that?
WAHEGURU JI KA KHALSA
WAHEGURU JI KI FATEH
please make a video on
"ਬ੍ਰਹਮਾਚਾਰੀਆ' in Punjabi.
Thanks 🙏 a lot
8 breaks of brahmacharya is this only...hinduism and sikhism share so much similarities.
Please tell me what if the mind is already full of these bad thoughts deep in one's mind...how to start to fight back ?
Gurpreet Singh
VJKK VJKF
If you start focusing towards bani and love for god you will slowly start loosing these bad thoughts and instead you will start crying for god rather than another person.
Read gurugranth sahib ji with meaning it will clean your mind I read on my phone app it's big change in my life I feel I always positive with blessing of whehguru
Dhan Bhai jagraj Singh sant sipahi
so nice but my brother please make video in punjabi
🙏🏽
Plz veer ji make a video in punjabi language and tell these things again
Watch video on sant maskeen ji
@@aman4219 ok veerji
Ryt... 🙂
The Satan blocked the sound.
Wahbji
Waheguruuuuu ..... outstanding Concptssssss ... tqqqqqqqqqqqq alott
How to finish these thought
The volume dropped out at point 5. The water is blocking his message, where does this evil come from?
punjabi ch v banao video
🙏🏻
🙏
🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻