Story 3: I’m sorry, but op’s mom assaulted, attempted to kidnap op’s child, and steal her money but op’s family disowns HER? Nah throw the whole family away
>Birthday kid doesn't like vanilla >Mom gets a vanilla cake with chocolate flakes/candy on top as a "compromise" Yeah no that's not a compromise. The birthday girl wouldn't even be able to eat her cake and would have to scrape off the bits on top just to have anything. I 100% guarantee you the mom wouldn't get a chocolate cake with vanilla cookies on top or something for her daughter's birthday.
Ugh my mom would do something like that too, every year until I was 14 and insisted on making my own cake it was swirl cake. I absolutely hate swirl cake and vanilla, every year I told her so weeks in advance and would only eat the chocolate bits with Nutella to get rid of the weak chocolate taste. Now I make a different flavored cheesecake every year that represents what the year has been for me, and I go all out for my kids birthday cakes.
Story 2: The wife was correct about being controlling, selfish and entitled, but she is evidently talking about herself. More red flags flying than a Mayday parade in Moscow.
I say op should divorce that ars of a human being so she can deal with her ars of a daughter Op keep Olivia Happy she is your daughter. How people don’t see the red flags of people who are entitled before getting married I’ll never know No doubt she treated Olivia terribly when they were dating.
@@soralinklokidottirprincess10 Guarantee, Britney has very little interest in Olivia's birthday cake, she is 16, and looking for any excuse not to have to hang around a birthday party for 12-13 year old kids.
Story 2: Wow that wife was projecting her favoritism onto OP. If it was a holiday or something, sure, find something everyone is ok with. Birthday cake? Definitely should be the choice of whose birthday it is. If you don't like it, don't have any.
If I didn’t know better (not sure about that) I would be expecting that this woman was a “Wokie” - inclusivity even at someone else’s birthday. That would have made me more,than angry and I would have pushed that substitute right in that guy’s wife face - if I had been him (I’m a female!!!!!). Personally I hope he dumps this woman as soon as possible because this isn’t going to be the first time there is one if these “challenges”! What is wrong with some people?
If Britney doesn't like chocolate, they could have gotten her a vanilla cupcake. I have a cousin who loves strawberry shortcake, but I'm allergic to strawberries, so growing up there was always a cupcake for me because the cake was strawberry shortcake. That's how you compromise
The title story - there was a 4th update!! OP and her husband divorced because she found out he was cheating on her with a co-worker but they have stayed amicable and are in therapy. The sibling that contacted her in the story, contacted OP again saying their mother was in therapy, has changed her ways and truly wanted to mend their relationship. OP asked the sibling to watch the son and the apartment (after the separation and divorce, OP moved back to the same apartment complex that she moved into when she escaped her entitled mother) so she can take a few days vacation and asked the sibling not to tell EM her address nor take the child near the EM. Well right after she gets to the spa she was going to stay at, the ex calls telling her to come home because the apartment is trashed, dog feces smeared all over, the child is gone and cops are looking for her. Once OP was home, she was immediately ARRESTED for drug possession, child abuse and the works!!!! You guessed it!!!! EM is at it again!!!! She was never in therapy........at all!!!! EM and one of the siblings had the other sibling take the boy to EM's house and after that trashed OP's apartment and planted the drugs, told the cops the child was covered in bruises but wouldn't take him to the hospital for an exam. OP's ex told the cops everything about EM and the siblings and convinced the cops to get the boy away from EM so he could take him to the hospital and just as you would expect - no bruises!!!! Just a few scratches from playing Little League. The charges against OP were dropped because the siblings told the cops the EM told them to help her do all of it to get the boy from OP. They were all charged with vandalism, kidnapping and a few other charges. The siblings got 5yrs each in prison while the mother got 15 yrs. OP got a restraining order and even if they try to go through family members to contact OP, they will be in violation. OP and the ex are considering moving to another state but the ex doesn't want the EM to think she scared OP and her ex away so for now, no move.
Damn that's terrible. Really happy that EM plan didn't work out, that sounds terrifying. My hart goes out to OP and hopefully she and her son will be more at peace now Thanks for the update of OP's story.
Story 2: All the wife is doing is basically teaching the daughter to hijack her sister's birthday (and possibly other people's). A birthday is all about the kid who has it, nobody else.
Yeah, I don’t like red velvet, I like vanilla. My sister is ok with vanilla but likes red velvet. Despite both of us always butting heads, neither of us complain about cake of eithers birthday.
@@coolnationusa786 The Mother and entitled Daughter NEED to quit treating the other Daughter like a red-headed step-child. It should NOT be about the entitled Daughter. Can you imagine what the entitled Daughter will be like when she grows up if they do not correct her at this point?
Story 3: The interaction when OP moved out proves how dangerous and unhinged the mom has become. She needs to be committed or else someone might find themselves in the hospital
Absolutely, I'd be getting as far away from her and having Absolutely zero contact with her or anyone associated with her until she got treatment that's not normal. Assuming it is true to begin with, I sometimes doubt the authenticity of some of these stories
Story 2: actually, a birthday is the ONLY day out of the year that you are morally allowed to show favoritism towards one of your children. The mom is painfully wrong
Birthdays are not an "excuse to show favoritism," they are an occasion to celebrate an individual. Because everybody has a birthday, so long as you're celebrating each child equally thoroughly and joyously on their individual birthday, it's not favoritism. It's just alternate timing. One child getting the attention on March 15 and the other on July 7th isn't favoritism because they're each getting it.
Re: Birthday Cake - She wants him to treat both girls equally? By that logic, her daughter will have to eat a chocolate cake with a few vanilla sprinkles on it when it's HER birthday.
Story 2: Since Olivia HATES VANILLA, how the hell can a vanilla cake with pieces of chocolate in the frosting "please both daughters"? Olivia will hate the flavor of the CAKE ITSELF and won't actually get to the little chocolate pieces on the topping. My advice for the OP is what the Doctor told the Atraxi. "Basically...RUN."
I work at a Tesco supermarket that has "half-and-half" cakes. One half is vanilla, the other is chocolate. Think I should send one of those over to that family?
Story 1: That's bloody ridiculous. My wife's first name is "Amanda". Her parents call her "Mandy", I've heard some go Manda and there is a cover artist who goes by the short form of "AmaLee" a combination of the first three letters with her middle name. However my wife prefers to go by her middle name - Lacy. You can't choose the name you want to call a legal adult like that. "Topher" is completely reasonable. In fact if my own son, Aidan, told me one day he wanted to be called "Dan" then that would be just as well. That manager needs to get a clue.
It's also perfectly legal, at least in some countries, to change your first name to whatever you like, providing the intent is not to defraud others. For legal documents though, one must sign as per identification records. Unless one gets their name changed by deed poll. In which case it's all legal.
@@Kayenne54 Yup. My great uncle went by Buzzy for his whole life even though his name was Michael (or something like that). Apparently he made buzzing noises as a baby lol.
Her kid 🤦♀️it’s your grand kid. There’s a big difference lady. After what she did with the police think she’s kidnapping my baby press charges please. She needs to learn her lesson and she only has herself to blame for all of this no one else.
Story 2: It's amazing to me that OP missed the obvious arguement... "If you insist on this, on Britney's birthday we'll be having dark chocolate cake with vanilla beans on top. That's totally fine, right? I mean, if Olivia has to learn to compromise, so does Britney, right?"
The cake story. Its simple. When wife's kids birthday is there. Go to the bakery and switch if for a chocolate cake. Then when wifey is saying that its not right and that her kid should get the cake she wants. Simply say that she is showing her kid that it is okay to be selfish. Throw her argument right back at her. Edit: sorry meant the cake story. Damn stupid smart phone putting different words.
Be sure to have the bakery put little vanilla squares on the chocolate cake, too. That way both daughters can have what they want. That _was_ wifey's argument, right?
Story 2: NTA. As the top comment said, the wife is the one being controlling selfish and entitled. If she can't compromise on ONE DAY OF THE YEAR, then she needs to be cut loose. Pro Revenge, on her daughter's birthday, do what she did to you. Call the bakery and have the vanilla cake replace with chocolate, with vanilla sprinkles on the top. Tell her that her daughter needs to compromise so "everyone will be happy". Touché
"She got defensive saying that birthdays are no 'excuse' to show favoritism" HELL YES THEY ARE! If there's one day where a person should be given special treatment, it's their birthday. The new cake is vanilla, clearly meant for the stepsister. Just adding chocolate bits to it and saying it pleases both girls... the audacity of this woman! SHE is the one showing favoritism towards her own daughter and projecting it onto OP. OP, the red flag is there for you to see. This woman has no respect for your daughter, and it's only going to get worse if you stay with her.
Story 2: lets not forget that the "compromise" was a full vanilla cake with chunks of chocolate on top. Meaning Olivia has to eat a Vanilla cake if she wants cake, while the other girl just takes off the chocolate and has her favorite flavor.
that last one is just one story of a good handful of crazy stories from that OP, all of which culminate in the mother (and both her uncles') eventual yet very satisfying arrest
Story 3: It absolutely sickens me that there are people in this world who are so psychotically self-absorbed that they break all moral code because they can't stand the idea of not getting their way
A _compromise_ would be to order a chocolate cake and a vanilla cupcake for one girl's birthday, and then swap the flavors for the other girl's birthday.
1st story: Reminds me of my brother. His actual name is usually the shortened form of Robert, Bobby. He once had a teacher get so angry at him, she called our mom to complain. My mom had to take his birth certificate to the school to how her that his name was literally Bobby and not Robert. No apology was issued.
If that that manager tried that logic on my mother, she would have told him to where to put it in no uncertain terms. My mom's first name is Edna, her middle name is Elizabeth ...... but had always used Betty. (Check and legal documents she always signed Edna H Last Name .... H being the initial for her unmarried last name). Why Betty, well, as the story goes, when mom was born, grandma asked grand daddy what they should name the new baby ..... grand daddy said, "You can name her anything you want, but I am going to call her Betty." Thus, except inside the school house, mom was always called Betty as an adult, socially and on the job.
The same thing happened with my step-daughter, Teri, when she was about 7 or so. One of her teachers insisted that Teri was short for something else. Teri's mom had to go to the school (angrily, I might add) and straighten the teacher out.
@@davidkermes376 oh yeah it gets so much worse. The whole family is a piece of shit and it's astonishing how no one has killed any of them. They tried to frame OP with drugs and destruction of property saying she's an unfit mother, the siblings caved in when mountains of evidence stacked against them. They agreed to confess to save their own skins that they'd attempted to frame OP to steal her son. They all got serious prison time. Then it gets worse.
1) OP should go to HR and file a complaint about that AH supervisor. 2) Everything the wife accused her husband is is how she is behaving. I think OP needs to nope out this marriage to this crazy, toxic woman and he over indulged, selfish child (assuming that her kid feels the same as she does). 3) Has OP never heard of banks. Why did it take her so long. So glad OP finally woke up to the fact that she needed to get out on her own. Crazy mother, good grief. Glad GM got taken to jail so OP could move out without further drama. OMG, no no no, keep crazy should be kept NC. Glad OP got an attorney and mom displayed her insane self in court and lost. It's nice she now has a new family and nothing to do with her own toxic one.
Third story. I feel like she should have contacted a woman’s shelter pretty much from the beginning to ask for help. She was being abused by her mom. What a monster
Absolutely. It sucks that a lot of people in vulnerable positions don't know that they DO have options. Hopefully OP uses every bit of those recordings in court while getting a restraining order against her mom.
*Story 2:* even a kid with some basic education knows complaining about the food on someone else´s party is rude, now imagine seeing an adult mother complaining about someone else´s birthday cake because her teen daughter doesn´t like chocolate, and even worse trying to replace it behind OP´s back and calling HIM selfish *Story 3:* sadly there is people in this world that don´t deserve to be parents, OP´s mother clearly is a horible person and the worst possible influence for a kid to have on their lives, I´m glad OP got to live away from her and have a happy family of her own
One of my nephews had a little tantrum when we went somewhere for his brothers birthday that he didn't want to go to but the birthday kid did. I told him simply that today was his brother's birthday and we're going where he wants to go and that when it's his birthday, we'd go where he wanted to go. That's how it works.
No compromise on the birthday cake. As someone that is dairy intolerant as well as chicken/egg intolerant, can't handle cold foods, the amount of freaking trauma from birthday parties. My mom forced me to eat ice cream the few years she even decided to spend them with me along with gaslighting me for having the audacity to fart/leave constantly to run to the bathroom plus apparently I'm ungrateful because I CAN'T EAT ANYTHING she gives me.... Nope there is no compromise on the birthday. If she can't even do it for one day of the year it makes me wonder about the rest of the days.... For clarification my mom is my adopted my and she acts like OP's mom in the next story too lol well minus the baby..OP RUN AS FAST AS YOU CAN WHEN YOU CAN SAFELY FOR YOU AND YOUR BABY.
The boss who claimed that you "can not choose your own name" is extremely incorrect and short-sighted. While it is more common to be given a nickname by others it is also common for people to choose their own name... just ask "the artist formerly known as". I have worked in a lot of places where they ask "what would you like to be called?" (or something similar) as my name is difficult to pronounce (or spell) I have been known by a variety of nicknames over the years - most chosen by me. I have been known by the nickname Me2... it was given to me when I was very young (in the early 80s) I have also been published under a different name (I was young and highly impressionable). As my last name is VERY common I rarely get to choose that name. The boss should have been grateful for this unique nickname - rare enough to be instantly identifiable and still pronounceable. A perfect name.
The birthday cake story has just one question. On Olivia's birthday what flavor cake would mom get her? Actually two questions, what kind of cake has she gotten for Olivia in the past? If both answers are vanilla then mom is the entitled A-hole.
1st - oh boy... I think OP should start recording stuff in his workplace, because that right there is a mobbing situation. 2nd - NTA - Birthday is one day of the year about one particular person - no compromises needed. If there is a day to be selfish, this is the one. No excuses. Chocolate cake it should be. Wife is a A-grade asshole, however. 3rd - OP should start recording and call the police on the psycho far earlier. Also - EM attempting to contact was immediate, obvious plot. These kinds of people are like that. Chances of her actually trying to mend anything were close to ZERO. This was beyond obvious setup. Glad for OP it actually ended well. The lack of support from the rest of OP's family is terrifying, though.
I will bet that she will reap the rewards of her one-sided actions later on in life. The spoiled Daughter will not want anything to do with her "Mother" and the step-Daughter will hopefully disown her also. This woman will end up alone with nobody caring wether she lives or dies.
I suspect that the OP in story three should have told her sibling that she wasn't planning on seeing her mother again until her mother's funeral, and then only to make sure their mother was really dead.
In the 2nd story, I love how OPs wife stated, "using this opportunity to teach Olivia to compromise so everyone's happy". Excuse me! Everyone would not be happy. Olivia hates vanilla flavored cake. Maybe mommy dearest should use that moment to teach her own daughter to compromise to make everyone happy. IMHO OP should really rethink that marriage. Seems his wife wants everything to please her daughter and not OPs.
Story 2: your birthday is the one day where you are supposed to be selfish. Like you are allowed to do what needs to be done to enjoy your birthday to its fullest; within reason and without harming anyone. Mom is an AH and if she wanted a cake for the other daughter then get her one but don't touch birthday girl cake
Topher is a super common shortening of christopher in the northeast US. Literally the dude who played Eric in That 70s show isn't even named Christopher, he's named Topher. My uncle is named Toph.
Story 1: Most people working at any job that has name tags (whether it's in a hotel, convenience store or other retail store) don't use their real names. They are still identifiable by who wears what name tag but their personal identities are protected from the Karens and Chads.
In my experience where I am they are what the person goes by on a daily basis which most of the time is either there legal given name or some shortened form of it so yes they are real names here.
@SonsOfLorgar which is what I said isn't it what the person goes by on a daily basis. It happens that normally where I am most people go by their given name or a shortened form of it but not necessarily. Employers here generally ask what name people go by on hiring and before getting name tags either way.
@@SonsOfLorgar My first name is Philip. In short form Lip just wouldn't work. I remember as a child my mother would not let people call me Phil, I have always continued that (69 now) and told the attempted abbreviators that my name is Philip and everyone has always respected that. This holds true even now after I retired to live in Slovakia where they have an official list of names and I have been told new parents must not stray from it. The Slovak equivalent to my name is Filip but my real original name is respected by government as I'm an "alien". I don't think Slovaks use P an H together, they wouldn't know how to pronounce it as Slovak is a phonetic language (almost). They have 50 letters in their alphabet, the extra 24 are formed by adding diacritics which vary the pronunciation of underlying letter. It is surprisingly easy to pronounce Slovak words but to write them is impossible and their keyboard is a nightmare so I stick with UK one. Surprisingly, Slovak business and authorities always tolerate my failures to use diacritics, I suppose they are tolerating my "alien" idiosyncrasies again. I quite enjoy my official status of being an "alien".
#1 OP need to go over that manager head to the owner of the place, or, at least to the step just above that manager. #2 OP's wife is some horrible entitled Karen. When the wife say the OP is teaching his daughter to be «selfish», it's her projecting her own selfishness and entitlement. Also, she's teaching her own daughter to be selfish and entitled. #3 Mom need a LOOOOOOOOOOOOOONNNNNNNNG stay is a room with padded walls and daily high pressure ice cold showers.
Story 2: No...OP is not the asshole. His wife however is the asshole. Olivia's birthday = Olivia's choice. Britany's birthday = Britney's choice. It's that damn simple. Story 3: I would have made the 1st meeting without the child...then gauge EM's actions at that meeting to see if continued contact is warranted. Otherwise Restraining Order time.
@@srkh8966 No, it's not weird at all. They went to a bakery - I worked at one, that shit isn't cheap. One child has a birthday, so why would they pay for two cakes?
@@srkh8966 But in the story, they were. If I decided I wanted my child to have a beautiful birthday and got a cake for her from a bakery, I would expect others to suck it up and be favored on their birthday. Not run to the next local dollar store and buy two readymade cakes.
Except the OP in story 3 kept letting the mother back in. The JNM and her siblings even tried to set her up to get arrested for drug possession later on.
I am so glad I had a grandmother who was a really great baker and always made our favorite cakes for our birthdays. She did not care what anyone wanted, except the person having the birthday. Mine was always fruit basket cake. Spice cake with sliced fruit in between each layer and cream cheese filling. If my sister tried to get cheesecake (her cake) on my birthday, there would have been hell to pay.
The last story is actually a conclusion to what happens bc the first time I herd it the story only went as far as her and the baby moving out on there own.
My own parents were something like that mother in this story, except that my father was very good at meetings. My mother was also physically abusive. I was fortunate to work for my father from a very young age, and I was not paid any regular money. Just $2 here $5 there $10 there. The occasions in which I had a $10 bill in my hand we're so rare that I can almost remember every one of them. I had no opportunity to make money outside of my father's work, as he made sure to suck up every hour. My mother would sometimes take things I had and give them to other people to show how generous she was, and she would do this in front of me in such a way that I wouldn't have any chance to reclaim my property without looking like an absolute heel. One example of this was when I realized I could pick up aluminum cans at different work sites and save them. I had four bags. Saved, and there I am... Driving up to the house... And I see these neighbor kids dragging the bags away with my mother talkin very excitedly to them. I told her that was what I was trying to save so I could get a little bit of spending money. She said to me, "they have so much less. Now, are you going to make them give them back to you?" And then she smiled a very evil smile. I did not speak to my father for the last six years of his life, and I told my mother that, since she had definitely shown that she already had a son, my Pampered older brother, that she could just hang out with him, and forget that I ever even existed. That I was not a part of that family anymore, because I had done my time in her family.
That last story has an update to it and it somehow just gets even worse, but has a decent ending thank goodness. At least I think I remember it having a decent ending.
The op of the cake story should get a divorce. She obviously is entitled and cares more about her own daughter then ops daughter. People like that don't change and often get progressively worse.
I agree but at the same time it might be a good idea to not stir things up. As op could potentially be sued for slander, but definitely for the illegal recordings. Still making the family aware of what she's done and what it means could be a good wake up call to them as then the mother gets less support and it would only be seen as a civil/family matter so police won't get involved.
@@jaye4157 If I take out my phone and point it at you, it's not a "secret recording". Also, the truth is an affirmative defense to slander. "Yes, I did threaten to kill you but that recording was illegal and does not count and you're going to prison."
@@arentibbs799 from what I know, 2 party consent differs between states. The one I know is that only private conversations and recordings require consent. If you are recording someone, you have to give an audio cue, announcement of recording or directly informing someone of your recording. In a public space, unless someone is recording you directly, there is no assumption of privacy. Thus this protects security cameras and other recording devices from litigation. Unfortunately if it was in the mother’s home, just pointing the camera at her is not enough for the courts to consider it given “consent”. If every time she turned on the camera and yelled “I am recording you!” there may be some argument, but even then depending on where she lives, OP would open themselves up to a lawsuit from the mother. Depending on where they live, consent could be mother not saying anything to mother explicitly saying yes or fine. Even saying no once during the video means she refused consent and that video can get her in trouble. And nowadays phone companies can retrieve deleted videos, so no deleting things. In NY the crime for recording without permission is up to 5k in fines and 4 years in jail. Not saying this is fine, but the lawyer was right to tell her to be careful. At least mom and 2 of her uncles were eventually jailed so happy ending.
In the final story: EM stole OP's money and destroyed OP's property. Not sure why OP didn't press charges. Perhaps OP was afraid EM would kick her out, which I get. But then the lunch meeting: EM gives B toys, and only later says those toys must stay at EM's house. I'm sorry, but that is theft. Once the toy is given to B it is his property; EM no longer has any say as to how, when or where the toys are to be used. (OP, as B's parent and guardian, *does* have a say in all that.) And since this all took place in public, there were certainly witnesses. I would have called the police, had EM arrested, and then taken the toys home.
Story 1 reminds of when I worked for a grocery store that has a policy that everyone had to go by their legal name and short form wasn't acceptable. Everyone hated it.
Story1: sheesh, power trip much? One manager at my work place shortened my name to Suzy and its stuck, my name badge etc all say Suzy, only offical documents have my full name, its no big deal
Story: OP's NTA, plus, chocolate cake is waaaaaaay better than vanilla anyways. Hence why I'm baking a German chocolate cake for my birthday next year, I hope my coworkers like it.
Last story: The boyfriend -- now husband -- was/is indeed a keeper. He's the silent hero that supported OP all the way. And he even going the effort of adopting B as his own son, that's I think clearly indicative of how much he loves OP & B. I wish OP, her husband, and B, and future siblings of B, a long and happy life as a tight-knit, harmonious family.
He's not. He cheated on OP. They're divorced now. She's working at a gentlemen's club, and one of the bouncers is her new guy, bouncer boyfriend has had to bounce her ex-husband and family from the club because they keep harassing her.
Story2: uh, no the birthday is like the one day where showing preference or something IS acceptable. It's their birthday...THEIR birthday...had this been general celebration that's a different topic but it's a BIRTHDAY CAKE
Cake mom isn’t interesting in teaching birthday girl how to compromise and make everyone happy, she’s training her to swallow her own wishes and desires to make everyone ELSE happy…sorry cake mom you won’t get this girl as your whipping boy…kudos to the dad for standing up for his daughter!!! That’s a damn good father!!!
Cake Story: "Alright darling, i take it then that when it's Britney's birthday we'll to the exact inverse of this. A chocolate cake with some sprinkles of vanilla on it. That way we treat them both equally...right?"
There’s more to the last story. OPs mom ends up kidnapping her son and planted drugs in her apartment with the help of OPs sibling, psycho mom then gets sent to jail and later gets out due to COVID starts harassing op again. OP finds out that her mom is at her uncles house(whom is a SexOffender) and is found by the Police because she is violating the restraining order OP has on her mom. The best part about that is that they raid OPs uncles house and confiscate the uncles computer and find a shit load of Child porn in it. Every one get sent to jail. It was Glorious
@@jeremydale4548by everyone I mean, psycho mom and pedo uncles. OP got a year restraining order that gets renewed every year against them. Which OPs mom violated. That’s how psycho mom and uncles went to jail. Although the uncles throw Psycho mom under the bus for a lighter sentence.
Ok for the last story op needs file a restraining order against her mom for her and her son. What explicit no contact clauses for the son. Cuz he goes getting much older I've no doubt she'll be stalking social media like Facebook Twitter or everything trying to find a sign and contact him behind the butters back. If she does this and she catches the mother she can have her locked away cuz I have no doubt the entitled mom is going to try to keep getting at the child especially in their teenage years that the child don't understand what happened that being said the mama also needs to tell the son so this way when the title mom does try to come in the boy will know she's no good and in case they have any other kids she needs to tell the other child about it too cuz I'm tired of mom might try to go out to the younger kid that don't know anything if not told
Story 2 WOW just WOW! WTF is wrong with OP's wife? What an awful person OP needs to start looking for a divorce lawyer! That wife is a total "karen" & she will continue to try & push OP's daughter into the background while her daughter gets everything her way! Very happy that OP returned the cake & got the cake his daughter would want!!
For the 2nd one... I am highly allergic to chocolate. So if I go to a birthday party that has chocolate cake... I just dont eat any chocolate cake. Its not my birthday cake, so not my choice. Its simple as that to me.
Story 2: If Brittney really does hate chocolate so much, how difficult would it have been really to get another very small vanilla flavored cake that Brittney could eat for herself? It's not like most cakes are all that pricey. Now THAT would have been an easy compromise!
Or get a cupcake for Brittney. If there will be several others attending, get a cupcake of their choice for everyone. That way everyone will get something they like. They can always have a slice of Olivia's cake as well.
But that only would have made sense. And as we have been shown TIME AND TIME again, Karens never, EVER have ANY kind of sense. And the WORST part of it is Brittney is probably going to turn out just like her bitch of a mother.
I had a camp counselor (Jesus camp, don't recommend it) who went by Topher, it is 100% an established thing. And even if it was something new, like someone going by 'Briel' for Gabriel instead of, say, 'Xander' for Alexander, even the oldest trends had to start somewhere. Plus, I know so many people who have picked out their own name, or have names difficult for American speakers and have an American-style nickname, that it's utterly ridiculous to pretend it's rare or impossible. If anything, a unique nametag should be advantageous. It's not obscene or scatological, and it helps to pin down exactly to whom you have referred when talking about a given 'specialist'. A more common nickname is less specific. If the manager could stop stumbling over his own hangups, this would work in his favor.
I'm so confused by that last story. How do you watch your mom be a total psycho to your sister and still choose your mom? I could literally never. I don't care if that's my mom, because that's my sister too, and the mom is obviously in the wrong.
My husband has horrible wicked parents that tried getting grandparents rights for some reason even though they saw our kids regularly, I guess that wasn't the "control" they wanted. When that didn't work they began calling in false CPS reports attempting to get our kids taken away. Around the 13th call the kids were placed with the inlaws, who so GrAcIoUsLy stepped up to foster them, for about a month for a full in depth investigation. We were cleared, our kids returned, and fully cut contact and moved across the country. They've hired Private Investigators, tried to manipulate my mom into telling them where we are, insane sh*t!! We moved again in another direction just to be safe! I'm atleast glad they pulled that crap while our kids were super young so they don't even remember it now and don't even remember those horrid people! I'm so happy Op got a happy ending too 🤍🤍
Story 3: How in the world, did the rest of the family not believe OP when she had proof of everything while the EM didn't? I guess the Em's family doesn't fall from the tree, well except for OP shes a good apple.
Petty revenge for the birthday cake thing. Get the one other kid a chocolate cake for their birthday with vanilla wafers on top of it. See how the wife reacts to that.
The name tag issue is beyond stupid, you see name tags with nicknames all the time. Some places like Disney makes workers wear a fake name tag as punishment for forgetting theirs.🤣 someone of them are funny too, lots of dad jokes. I saw one that said, hi my name is oops I forgot.
Wow! The birthday cake story caught me good. Woman accusing the husband of being controlling when it's she herself who's controlling! If it's your birthday and you want something within reason you should be able to get it. And nobody else should dictate to you what you want!
Hahaha the first story reminds me of a sailor we had at one of my naval stations that her last name was la-ah but pronounced ladasha people always gave her a hard time about her name and told her she had a improper uniform. We would always laugh our asses off when some random chief or officer would make a big deal only to.find out that how her legal name was done. Hahaha they always looked so defeated and embarrassed.
That's what I thought about with the first reddit story, as THAT entitled manager should have just left OP the heck alone over a name tag. If OP does great work, praise him, if not, help him. THAT manager definitely needs to be fired or demoted to a lesser role for the way he acted.
@DevylBear Hawkturion yeah unfortunitley managers in today time often don't know how to properly manage or were never trained properly. That should have never been an issue if the guy dies his job and completes task on time who give a rats ass what he calls himself. Right
Story 3: I’m sorry, but op’s mom assaulted, attempted to kidnap op’s child, and steal her money but op’s family disowns HER? Nah throw the whole family away
Most likely the rest has been manipulated to believe her.
She can't have what she wants - she's going to convince everyone to hate who fought back.
Yeah. Throw the,m all out, BAN them from ever coming near her
Yup
It gets worse the rest of this story is completely insane
Yeah fuck the family that picks the abuser
>Birthday kid doesn't like vanilla
>Mom gets a vanilla cake with chocolate flakes/candy on top as a "compromise"
Yeah no that's not a compromise. The birthday girl wouldn't even be able to eat her cake and would have to scrape off the bits on top just to have anything. I 100% guarantee you the mom wouldn't get a chocolate cake with vanilla cookies on top or something for her daughter's birthday.
watch OP get married one day and wife and daughter show up in white because it's not fair op's daughter getting all the attention and she must share.
OP needs to run from that one. Quickly. And as far away as possible.
Ugh my mom would do something like that too, every year until I was 14 and insisted on making my own cake it was swirl cake. I absolutely hate swirl cake and vanilla, every year I told her so weeks in advance and would only eat the chocolate bits with Nutella to get rid of the weak chocolate taste. Now I make a different flavored cheesecake every year that represents what the year has been for me, and I go all out for my kids birthday cakes.
that wife NEEDS to practice what she preaches
Who the fuck dont like vanilla????
Story 2: The wife was correct about being controlling, selfish and entitled, but she is evidently talking about herself. More red flags flying than a Mayday parade in Moscow.
You had me in the first half ngl
Yes!! And sadly it seems she's using her daughter as an excuse for it.
I say op should divorce that ars of a human being so she can deal with her ars of a daughter
Op keep Olivia Happy she is your daughter.
How people don’t see the red flags of people who are entitled before getting married I’ll never know
No doubt she treated Olivia terribly when they were dating.
@@soralinklokidottirprincess10 Guarantee, Britney has very little interest in Olivia's birthday cake, she is 16, and looking for any excuse not to have to hang around a birthday party for 12-13 year old kids.
I wonder what mommy dearest's attitude would have been had the argument been over Brittney's birthday instead of Olivia's...
Story 2: Wow that wife was projecting her favoritism onto OP. If it was a holiday or something, sure, find something everyone is ok with. Birthday cake? Definitely should be the choice of whose birthday it is. If you don't like it, don't have any.
If I didn’t know better (not sure about that) I would be expecting that this woman was a “Wokie” - inclusivity even at someone else’s birthday. That would have made me more,than angry and I would have pushed that substitute right in that guy’s wife face - if I had been him (I’m a female!!!!!). Personally I hope he dumps this woman as soon as possible because this isn’t going to be the first time there is one if these “challenges”! What is wrong with some people?
Would the mother demand a friend of her daughter change her cake on her birthday?
as someone who knows a lot of blended families this is more common then it should be.
Maybe I am too agreeable, but I would have opted for a "split solution". A chocolate cake for Olivia and some additional vanilla pieces for Britney...
If Britney doesn't like chocolate, they could have gotten her a vanilla cupcake. I have a cousin who loves strawberry shortcake, but I'm allergic to strawberries, so growing up there was always a cupcake for me because the cake was strawberry shortcake. That's how you compromise
The title story - there was a 4th update!! OP and her husband divorced because she found out he was cheating on her with a co-worker but they have stayed amicable and are in therapy. The sibling that contacted her in the story, contacted OP again saying their mother was in therapy, has changed her ways and truly wanted to mend their relationship. OP asked the sibling to watch the son and the apartment (after the separation and divorce, OP moved back to the same apartment complex that she moved into when she escaped her entitled mother) so she can take a few days vacation and asked the sibling not to tell EM her address nor take the child near the EM. Well right after she gets to the spa she was going to stay at, the ex calls telling her to come home because the apartment is trashed, dog feces smeared all over, the child is gone and cops are looking for her. Once OP was home, she was immediately ARRESTED for drug possession, child abuse and the works!!!! You guessed it!!!! EM is at it again!!!! She was never in therapy........at all!!!! EM and one of the siblings had the other sibling take the boy to EM's house and after that trashed OP's apartment and planted the drugs, told the cops the child was covered in bruises but wouldn't take him to the hospital for an exam. OP's ex told the cops everything about EM and the siblings and convinced the cops to get the boy away from EM so he could take him to the hospital and just as you would expect - no bruises!!!! Just a few scratches from playing Little League. The charges against OP were dropped because the siblings told the cops the EM told them to help her do all of it to get the boy from OP. They were all charged with vandalism, kidnapping and a few other charges. The siblings got 5yrs each in prison while the mother got 15 yrs. OP got a restraining order and even if they try to go through family members to contact OP, they will be in violation. OP and the ex are considering moving to another state but the ex doesn't want the EM to think she scared OP and her ex away so for now, no move.
Damn that's terrible. Really happy that EM plan didn't work out, that sounds terrifying. My hart goes out to OP and hopefully she and her son will be more at peace now Thanks for the update of OP's story.
_holy hell._ thats insane. thank you for the update!
Holy guacamole thats crazy!
I would leave the state without batting an eye.
At that point I would’ve gotten a gun, unregistered, and threatened to use it if EM ever came near my child if I was OP
Story 2: All the wife is doing is basically teaching the daughter to hijack her sister's birthday (and possibly other people's). A birthday is all about the kid who has it, nobody else.
Yeah, I don’t like red velvet, I like vanilla. My sister is ok with vanilla but likes red velvet. Despite both of us always butting heads, neither of us complain about cake of eithers birthday.
@@jaye4157 That is the way it should be. The controlling Mother will eventually reap the rewards of favoritism, and she will NOT like it.
The fact that they couldnt even get half choc and vanilla
@@coolnationusa786 The Mother and entitled Daughter NEED to quit treating the other Daughter like a red-headed step-child. It should NOT be about the entitled Daughter.
Can you imagine what the entitled Daughter will be like when she grows up if they do not correct her at this point?
Story 3: The interaction when OP moved out proves how dangerous and unhinged the mom has become. She needs to be committed or else someone might find themselves in the hospital
Absolutely, I'd be getting as far away from her and having Absolutely zero contact with her or anyone associated with her until she got treatment that's not normal. Assuming it is true to begin with, I sometimes doubt the authenticity of some of these stories
Or just put her down in self defence
There's still more to that story
Sounds like the rest of the family is almost as bad, they're just a bunch of enablers.
Hopefully it’ll be op’s mom who ends up in the hospital
Story 2: actually, a birthday is the ONLY day out of the year that you are morally allowed to show favoritism towards one of your children. The mom is painfully wrong
Birthdays are not an "excuse to show favoritism," they are an occasion to celebrate an individual. Because everybody has a birthday, so long as you're celebrating each child equally thoroughly and joyously on their individual birthday, it's not favoritism. It's just alternate timing. One child getting the attention on March 15 and the other on July 7th isn't favoritism because they're each getting it.
Re: Birthday Cake - She wants him to treat both girls equally? By that logic, her daughter will have to eat a chocolate cake with a few vanilla sprinkles on it when it's HER birthday.
Story 2: Since Olivia HATES VANILLA, how the hell can a vanilla cake with pieces of chocolate in the frosting "please both daughters"? Olivia will hate the flavor of the CAKE ITSELF and won't actually get to the little chocolate pieces on the topping. My advice for the OP is what the Doctor told the Atraxi. "Basically...RUN."
I work at a Tesco supermarket that has "half-and-half" cakes. One half is vanilla, the other is chocolate. Think I should send one of those over to that family?
@@oliverconway6960
Since they went to a bakery, a teaco cake wasn't what they were looking for, I would guess.
Switching chocolate cake, for vanilla cake, is grounds for divorce. This is next level evil.
Do not come between me and my chocolate cake!!
Not to mention the mom was showing favortism to her own child who is 16. He said Olivia didnt like vanilla, so SM was showing HER entitled favoritism
I knew a guy named Topher, it’s not as unusual as that jackass of a boss thinks
Some people think they know everything, unlike this Jackass of a Boss......
Rare tho but still a good name
Depending how you say it... All I'm thinking of with Topher is a male version of Toph. From Avatar the Last Airbender.
@@AuroraPaintBrush4444 same for me but hey still a cool name
Do you live in Utah, too? Just saying, lots of boys here are called Topher.
Story 1: That's bloody ridiculous. My wife's first name is "Amanda". Her parents call her "Mandy", I've heard some go Manda and there is a cover artist who goes by the short form of "AmaLee" a combination of the first three letters with her middle name. However my wife prefers to go by her middle name - Lacy. You can't choose the name you want to call a legal adult like that. "Topher" is completely reasonable. In fact if my own son, Aidan, told me one day he wanted to be called "Dan" then that would be just as well.
That manager needs to get a clue.
I love AmaLee's work but never knew about how she ended up using that name. Thanks for that!
The manager sounds like they would be super transphobic too. "You can't call yourself David, your name is Ellen"
no, that manager needs to get a pink slip - or a lobotomy.
It's also perfectly legal, at least in some countries, to change your first name to whatever you like, providing the intent is not to defraud others. For legal documents though, one must sign as per identification records. Unless one gets their name changed by deed poll. In which case it's all legal.
@@Kayenne54 Yup. My great uncle went by Buzzy for his whole life even though his name was Michael (or something like that). Apparently he made buzzing noises as a baby lol.
Mom destroys OP's debit card.... pretty sure that is illegal. Theft at the very least. Charge her! 🤨
Her kid 🤦♀️it’s your grand kid. There’s a big difference lady. After what she did with the police think she’s kidnapping my baby press charges please. She needs to learn her lesson and she only has herself to blame for all of this no one else.
Story 2: It's amazing to me that OP missed the obvious arguement... "If you insist on this, on Britney's birthday we'll be having dark chocolate cake with vanilla beans on top. That's totally fine, right? I mean, if Olivia has to learn to compromise, so does Britney, right?"
Story 3 had me at panic attack levels of anxiety. I'm so glad OP made it out alive. Thousands of OPs don't and the evil mothers win. 🤬
The cake story. Its simple. When wife's kids birthday is there. Go to the bakery and switch if for a chocolate cake. Then when wifey is saying that its not right and that her kid should get the cake she wants. Simply say that she is showing her kid that it is okay to be selfish. Throw her argument right back at her.
Edit: sorry meant the cake story. Damn stupid smart phone putting different words.
Be sure to have the bakery put little vanilla squares on the chocolate cake, too. That way both daughters can have what they want. That _was_ wifey's argument, right?
@@johnopalko5223 (insert an evil smile here) boy howdy and make sure there is only like 1 or 2. Really rub it in.
Satisfying in theory but the daughters shouldn't have to suffer for the wife's bitchyness
If OP were to do that i suggest having a back up cake
@@mrroboshadow yeah that would be the right thing.
So it doesn’t doesn’t punish the daughter do it at the wife’s birthday. Make it that mustard cake
Story 2: NTA. As the top comment said, the wife is the one being controlling selfish and entitled. If she can't compromise on ONE DAY OF THE YEAR, then she needs to be cut loose. Pro Revenge, on her daughter's birthday, do what she did to you. Call the bakery and have the vanilla cake replace with chocolate, with vanilla sprinkles on the top. Tell her that her daughter needs to compromise so "everyone will be happy". Touché
"She got defensive saying that birthdays are no 'excuse' to show favoritism"
HELL YES THEY ARE! If there's one day where a person should be given special treatment, it's their birthday.
The new cake is vanilla, clearly meant for the stepsister. Just adding chocolate bits to it and saying it pleases both girls... the audacity of this woman! SHE is the one showing favoritism towards her own daughter and projecting it onto OP.
OP, the red flag is there for you to see. This woman has no respect for your daughter, and it's only going to get worse if you stay with her.
Story 2: lets not forget that the "compromise" was a full vanilla cake with chunks of chocolate on top. Meaning Olivia has to eat a Vanilla cake if she wants cake, while the other girl just takes off the chocolate and has her favorite flavor.
that last one is just one story of a good handful of crazy stories from that OP, all of which culminate in the mother (and both her uncles') eventual yet very satisfying arrest
Story 3: It absolutely sickens me that there are people in this world who are so psychotically self-absorbed that they break all moral code because they can't stand the idea of not getting their way
A _compromise_ would be to order a chocolate cake and a vanilla cupcake for one girl's birthday, and then swap the flavors for the other girl's birthday.
1st story: Reminds me of my brother. His actual name is usually the shortened form of Robert, Bobby. He once had a teacher get so angry at him, she called our mom to complain. My mom had to take his birth certificate to the school to how her that his name was literally Bobby and not Robert. No apology was issued.
Obviously not a Southern US location.
So sorry for THAT entitled person issue. But I'm glad your Mom called the teacher on it and got embarrassedly owned!!!
Even if it was a nickname, what tooth of hers is pulled by him going by it?
If that that manager tried that logic on my mother, she would have told him to where to put it in no uncertain terms. My mom's first name is Edna, her middle name is Elizabeth ...... but had always used Betty. (Check and legal documents she always signed Edna H Last Name .... H being the initial for her unmarried last name). Why Betty, well, as the story goes, when mom was born, grandma asked grand daddy what they should name the new baby ..... grand daddy said, "You can name her anything you want, but I am going to call her Betty." Thus, except inside the school house, mom was always called Betty as an adult, socially and on the job.
The same thing happened with my step-daughter, Teri, when she was about 7 or so. One of her teachers insisted that Teri was short for something else. Teri's mom had to go to the school (angrily, I might add) and straighten the teacher out.
Story 3 had an update where the mom full on kidnaps her kid with the aid of OPs siblings.
Bruh seriously?
Care to share a link to the story?
any jail time result?
@@davidkermes376 oh yeah it gets so much worse. The whole family is a piece of shit and it's astonishing how no one has killed any of them.
They tried to frame OP with drugs and destruction of property saying she's an unfit mother, the siblings caved in when mountains of evidence stacked against them. They agreed to confess to save their own skins that they'd attempted to frame OP to steal her son. They all got serious prison time.
Then it gets worse.
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1) OP should go to HR and file a complaint about that AH supervisor.
2) Everything the wife accused her husband is is how she is behaving. I think OP needs to nope out this marriage to this crazy, toxic woman and he over indulged, selfish child (assuming that her kid feels the same as she does).
3) Has OP never heard of banks. Why did it take her so long. So glad OP finally woke up to the fact that she needed to get out on her own. Crazy mother, good grief. Glad GM got taken to jail so OP could move out without further drama. OMG, no no no, keep crazy should be kept NC. Glad OP got an attorney and mom displayed her insane self in court and lost. It's nice she now has a new family and nothing to do with her own toxic one.
Wouldn't going by a less common name like Topher make it that much easier for customers to positively identify you, than going by Chris?
Yes.
When a customer wants a Chris, and the maneger has to answer, "Witch Chris, we have eight" 😉
always wondered where topher grace got his name....
@@hellefur7861 In *which* case, if I were Topher, I'd let the manager have his way, if there was more than one Chris there lol. Maliciously.
@Kayenne54 We're at upstairs or downstairs? If you're wondering, I'm downstairs Chris.
@@christophercuston Lol
Karens are the real miserable ones for thinking they can do whatever they want and that the world revolves around them.
Third story. I feel like she should have contacted a woman’s shelter pretty much from the beginning to ask for help. She was being abused by her mom. What a monster
Absolutely. It sucks that a lot of people in vulnerable positions don't know that they DO have options. Hopefully OP uses every bit of those recordings in court while getting a restraining order against her mom.
And everyone in that family was standing by watching. Disgusting.
*Story 2:* even a kid with some basic education knows complaining about the food on someone else´s party is rude, now imagine seeing an adult mother complaining about someone else´s birthday cake because her teen daughter doesn´t like chocolate, and even worse trying to replace it behind OP´s back and calling HIM selfish
*Story 3:* sadly there is people in this world that don´t deserve to be parents, OP´s mother clearly is a horible person and the worst possible influence for a kid to have on their lives, I´m glad OP got to live away from her and have a happy family of her own
One of my nephews had a little tantrum when we went somewhere for his brothers birthday that he didn't want to go to but the birthday kid did. I told him simply that today was his brother's birthday and we're going where he wants to go and that when it's his birthday, we'd go where he wanted to go. That's how it works.
Story 3: OP has found a CATCH! That partner sounds amazing and I'm so glad she was able to get away from her mom.
Story 1: "Ball's in your court." Spoken like a Mission Impossible villain (though I since realised it's a tennis expression).
#2: OP's wife is "controlling, selfish and entitled." #3: Mom called the police to arrest HER.
No compromise on the birthday cake. As someone that is dairy intolerant as well as chicken/egg intolerant, can't handle cold foods, the amount of freaking trauma from birthday parties. My mom forced me to eat ice cream the few years she even decided to spend them with me along with gaslighting me for having the audacity to fart/leave constantly to run to the bathroom plus apparently I'm ungrateful because I CAN'T EAT ANYTHING she gives me.... Nope there is no compromise on the birthday. If she can't even do it for one day of the year it makes me wonder about the rest of the days....
For clarification my mom is my adopted my and she acts like OP's mom in the next story too lol well minus the baby..OP RUN AS FAST AS YOU CAN WHEN YOU CAN SAFELY FOR YOU AND YOUR BABY.
Story 2. So was the wife going to order a chocolate cake for her daughters birthday to teach her how to compromise.
of course not, compromise only works as long as wife and her daughter have what they want
OP should dump her
The boss who claimed that you "can not choose your own name" is extremely incorrect and short-sighted.
While it is more common to be given a nickname by others it is also common for people to choose their own name... just ask "the artist formerly known as".
I have worked in a lot of places where they ask "what would you like to be called?" (or something similar) as my name is difficult to pronounce (or spell) I have been known by a variety of nicknames over the years - most chosen by me.
I have been known by the nickname Me2... it was given to me when I was very young (in the early 80s)
I have also been published under a different name (I was young and highly impressionable). As my last name is VERY common I rarely get to choose that name. The boss should have been grateful for this unique nickname - rare enough to be instantly identifiable and still pronounceable. A perfect name.
The birthday cake story has just one question. On Olivia's birthday what flavor cake would mom get her? Actually two questions, what kind of cake has she gotten for Olivia in the past? If both answers are vanilla then mom is the entitled A-hole.
1st - oh boy... I think OP should start recording stuff in his workplace, because that right there is a mobbing situation.
2nd - NTA - Birthday is one day of the year about one particular person - no compromises needed. If there is a day to be selfish, this is the one. No excuses. Chocolate cake it should be. Wife is a A-grade asshole, however.
3rd - OP should start recording and call the police on the psycho far earlier. Also - EM attempting to contact was immediate, obvious plot. These kinds of people are like that. Chances of her actually trying to mend anything were close to ZERO. This was beyond obvious setup.
Glad for OP it actually ended well. The lack of support from the rest of OP's family is terrifying, though.
The cake lady is very one sided. It’s not her daughter’s birthday
I will bet that she will reap the rewards of her one-sided actions later on in life. The spoiled Daughter will not want anything to do with her "Mother" and the step-Daughter will hopefully disown her also. This woman will end up alone with nobody caring wether she lives or dies.
I think she very (much a) narcissist... thus, to her, no side but her own.
I suspect that the OP in story three should have told her sibling that she wasn't planning on seeing her mother again until her mother's funeral, and then only to make sure their mother was really dead.
In the 2nd story, I love how OPs wife stated, "using this opportunity to teach Olivia to compromise so everyone's happy". Excuse me! Everyone would not be happy. Olivia hates vanilla flavored cake. Maybe mommy dearest should use that moment to teach her own daughter to compromise to make everyone happy. IMHO OP should really rethink that marriage. Seems his wife wants everything to please her daughter and not OPs.
Easy fix. Older daughters birthday change the cake to chocolate with white sprinkles on the frosting. Won't happen again...
Story 2: your birthday is the one day where you are supposed to be selfish. Like you are allowed to do what needs to be done to enjoy your birthday to its fullest; within reason and without harming anyone.
Mom is an AH and if she wanted a cake for the other daughter then get her one but don't touch birthday girl cake
I believe there is even a final part of story 3 where things go even more insane
Britany can get a vanilla cake when it’s her own birthday. Birthdays aren’t about compromising.
Topher is a super common shortening of christopher in the northeast US. Literally the dude who played Eric in That 70s show isn't even named Christopher, he's named Topher. My uncle is named Toph.
Story 1: Most people working at any job that has name tags (whether it's in a hotel, convenience store or other retail store) don't use their real names. They are still identifiable by who wears what name tag but their personal identities are protected from the Karens and Chads.
Or for Chads, I love to call them (IMHO) KevinWols.
In my experience where I am they are what the person goes by on a daily basis which most of the time is either there legal given name or some shortened form of it so yes they are real names here.
@@benmac940 same, however, I'd say chosen names goes before given names, simply out of basic fucking respect and decency.
@SonsOfLorgar which is what I said isn't it what the person goes by on a daily basis. It happens that normally where I am most people go by their given name or a shortened form of it but not necessarily. Employers here generally ask what name people go by on hiring and before getting name tags either way.
@@SonsOfLorgar My first name is Philip. In short form Lip just wouldn't work. I remember as a child my mother would not let people call me Phil, I have always continued that (69 now) and told the attempted abbreviators that my name is Philip and everyone has always respected that.
This holds true even now after I retired to live in Slovakia where they have an official list of names and I have been told new parents must not stray from it. The Slovak equivalent to my name is Filip but my real original name is respected by government as I'm an "alien".
I don't think Slovaks use P an H together, they wouldn't know how to pronounce it as Slovak is a phonetic language (almost).
They have 50 letters in their alphabet, the extra 24 are formed by adding diacritics which vary the pronunciation of underlying letter.
It is surprisingly easy to pronounce Slovak words but to write them is impossible and their keyboard is a nightmare so I stick with UK one.
Surprisingly, Slovak business and authorities always tolerate my failures to use diacritics, I suppose they are tolerating my "alien" idiosyncrasies again.
I quite enjoy my official status of being an "alien".
#1 OP need to go over that manager head to the owner of the place, or, at least to the step just above that manager.
#2 OP's wife is some horrible entitled Karen. When the wife say the OP is teaching his daughter to be «selfish», it's her projecting her own selfishness and entitlement. Also, she's teaching her own daughter to be selfish and entitled.
#3 Mom need a LOOOOOOOOOOOOOONNNNNNNNG stay is a room with padded walls and daily high pressure ice cold showers.
Story 2: No...OP is not the asshole. His wife however is the asshole. Olivia's birthday = Olivia's choice. Britany's birthday = Britney's choice. It's that damn simple.
Story 3: I would have made the 1st meeting without the child...then gauge EM's actions at that meeting to see if continued contact is warranted. Otherwise Restraining Order time.
This is too weird to be true. It’s cake-easy to just get two
@@srkh8966
No, it's not weird at all. They went to a bakery - I worked at one, that shit isn't cheap. One child has a birthday, so why would they pay for two cakes?
@@TikkyNoSurname Both of them don’t have to be from bakeries
@@srkh8966
But in the story, they were. If I decided I wanted my child to have a beautiful birthday and got a cake for her from a bakery, I would expect others to suck it up and be favored on their birthday. Not run to the next local dollar store and buy two readymade cakes.
Except the OP in story 3 kept letting the mother back in. The JNM and her siblings even tried to set her up to get arrested for drug possession later on.
I am so glad I had a grandmother who was a really great baker and always made our favorite cakes for our birthdays. She did not care what anyone wanted, except the person having the birthday. Mine was always fruit basket cake. Spice cake with sliced fruit in between each layer and cream cheese filling. If my sister tried to get cheesecake (her cake) on my birthday, there would have been hell to pay.
I must say that fruit basket cake sounds absolutely wonderful.
Story 1: Topher is his name. It is probably listed on legal documents as an alias, which makes it legally his name.
The last story is actually a conclusion to what happens bc the first time I herd it the story only went as far as her and the baby moving out on there own.
It continues with a setback and then a lower than low moment 💩 that backfires on the other family members👮♂️
My own parents were something like that mother in this story, except that my father was very good at meetings. My mother was also physically abusive. I was fortunate to work for my father from a very young age, and I was not paid any regular money. Just $2 here $5 there $10 there. The occasions in which I had a $10 bill in my hand we're so rare that I can almost remember every one of them. I had no opportunity to make money outside of my father's work, as he made sure to suck up every hour. My mother would sometimes take things I had and give them to other people to show how generous she was, and she would do this in front of me in such a way that I wouldn't have any chance to reclaim my property without looking like an absolute heel.
One example of this was when I realized I could pick up aluminum cans at different work sites and save them. I had four bags. Saved, and there I am... Driving up to the house... And I see these neighbor kids dragging the bags away with my mother talkin very excitedly to them. I told her that was what I was trying to save so I could get a little bit of spending money. She said to me, "they have so much less. Now, are you going to make them give them back to you?" And then she smiled a very evil smile.
I did not speak to my father for the last six years of his life, and I told my mother that, since she had definitely shown that she already had a son, my Pampered older brother, that she could just hang out with him, and forget that I ever even existed. That I was not a part of that family anymore, because I had done my time in her family.
That last story has an update to it and it somehow just gets even worse, but has a decent ending thank goodness. At least I think I remember it having a decent ending.
The op of the cake story should get a divorce. She obviously is entitled and cares more about her own daughter then ops daughter. People like that don't change and often get progressively worse.
Op needs to tell everyone how her mom treats her and show the recordings!
I agree but at the same time it might be a good idea to not stir things up. As op could potentially be sued for slander, but definitely for the illegal recordings. Still making the family aware of what she's done and what it means could be a good wake up call to them as then the mother gets less support and it would only be seen as a civil/family matter so police won't get involved.
She is MUCH better off with NONE of those psychos in her life. She needs to disown the whole works!!!
@@jaye4157 If I take out my phone and point it at you, it's not a "secret recording". Also, the truth is an affirmative defense to slander. "Yes, I did threaten to kill you but that recording was illegal and does not count and you're going to prison."
@@jaye4157 I heard she eventually got arrested, the mother
@@arentibbs799 from what I know, 2 party consent differs between states. The one I know is that only private conversations and recordings require consent. If you are recording someone, you have to give an audio cue, announcement of recording or directly informing someone of your recording. In a public space, unless someone is recording you directly, there is no assumption of privacy. Thus this protects security cameras and other recording devices from litigation. Unfortunately if it was in the mother’s home, just pointing the camera at her is not enough for the courts to consider it given “consent”. If every time she turned on the camera and yelled “I am recording you!” there may be some argument, but even then depending on where she lives, OP would open themselves up to a lawsuit from the mother. Depending on where they live, consent could be mother not saying anything to mother explicitly saying yes or fine. Even saying no once during the video means she refused consent and that video can get her in trouble. And nowadays phone companies can retrieve deleted videos, so no deleting things. In NY the crime for recording without permission is up to 5k in fines and 4 years in jail. Not saying this is fine, but the lawyer was right to tell her to be careful. At least mom and 2 of her uncles were eventually jailed so happy ending.
In the final story: EM stole OP's money and destroyed OP's property. Not sure why OP didn't press charges. Perhaps OP was afraid EM would kick her out, which I get. But then the lunch meeting: EM gives B toys, and only later says those toys must stay at EM's house. I'm sorry, but that is theft. Once the toy is given to B it is his property; EM no longer has any say as to how, when or where the toys are to be used. (OP, as B's parent and guardian, *does* have a say in all that.) And since this all took place in public, there were certainly witnesses. I would have called the police, had EM arrested, and then taken the toys home.
Apparently in later updates the madness only ended when EM died in prison (stroke or heart attack iirc)
Story 1 reminds of when I worked for a grocery store that has a policy that everyone had to go by their legal name and short form wasn't acceptable. Everyone hated it.
I don't think that's technically legal...
Story1: sheesh, power trip much? One manager at my work place shortened my name to Suzy and its stuck, my name badge etc all say Suzy, only offical documents have my full name, its no big deal
Story: OP's NTA, plus, chocolate cake is waaaaaaay better than vanilla anyways. Hence why I'm baking a German chocolate cake for my birthday next year, I hope my coworkers like it.
The true ‘meeting halfway’ for the cake would have been marble, or half and half.
Last story: The boyfriend -- now husband -- was/is indeed a keeper. He's the silent hero that supported OP all the way. And he even going the effort of adopting B as his own son, that's I think clearly indicative of how much he loves OP & B. I wish OP, her husband, and B, and future siblings of B, a long and happy life as a tight-knit, harmonious family.
He's not. He cheated on OP. They're divorced now. She's working at a gentlemen's club, and one of the bouncers is her new guy, bouncer boyfriend has had to bounce her ex-husband and family from the club because they keep harassing her.
@@robyncardoso7824 What? I thought the Ex was amicable with OP? Least that's what another comment said.
@@jeremydale4548 Fluff left out the rest of this redditors story.
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Are you sure this is the same story? I saw the other one too and they don't seem to be related to me.
Story2: uh, no the birthday is like the one day where showing preference or something IS acceptable. It's their birthday...THEIR birthday...had this been general celebration that's a different topic but it's a BIRTHDAY CAKE
Cake mom isn’t interesting in teaching birthday girl how to compromise and make everyone happy, she’s training her to swallow her own wishes and desires to make everyone ELSE happy…sorry cake mom you won’t get this girl as your whipping boy…kudos to the dad for standing up for his daughter!!! That’s a damn good father!!!
Cake Story:
"Alright darling, i take it then that when it's Britney's birthday we'll to the exact inverse of this. A chocolate cake with some sprinkles of vanilla on it. That way we treat them both equally...right?"
I wanted to say that the young lady whose mother was abusive I am very proud of you. I wish you all the best with your new family.
There’s more to the last story. OPs mom ends up kidnapping her son and planted drugs in her apartment with the help of OPs sibling, psycho mom then gets sent to jail and later gets out due to COVID starts harassing op again. OP finds out that her mom is at her uncles house(whom is a SexOffender) and is found by the Police because she is violating the restraining order OP has on her mom. The best part about that is that they raid OPs uncles house and confiscate the uncles computer and find a shit load of Child porn in it. Every one get sent to jail. It was Glorious
Er, by everyone I HOPE that doesn't include OP and her family
@@jeremydale4548by everyone I mean, psycho mom and pedo uncles. OP got a year restraining order that gets renewed every year against them. Which OPs mom violated. That’s how psycho mom and uncles went to jail. Although the uncles throw Psycho mom under the bus for a lighter sentence.
at this point go by Toph just to piss him off even more lmao
I wonder if his boss would also tell a female that she can't be called Chris because most go by Tina
Ok for the last story op needs file a restraining order against her mom for her and her son. What explicit no contact clauses for the son. Cuz he goes getting much older I've no doubt she'll be stalking social media like Facebook Twitter or everything trying to find a sign and contact him behind the butters back. If she does this and she catches the mother she can have her locked away cuz I have no doubt the entitled mom is going to try to keep getting at the child especially in their teenage years that the child don't understand what happened that being said the mama also needs to tell the son so this way when the title mom does try to come in the boy will know she's no good and in case they have any other kids she needs to tell the other child about it too cuz I'm tired of mom might try to go out to the younger kid that don't know anything if not told
Story 2 WOW just WOW! WTF is wrong with OP's wife? What an awful person OP needs to start looking for a divorce lawyer! That wife is a total "karen" & she will continue to try & push OP's daughter into the background while her daughter gets everything her way! Very happy that OP returned the cake & got the cake his daughter would want!!
For the 2nd one... I am highly allergic to chocolate. So if I go to a birthday party that has chocolate cake... I just dont eat any chocolate cake. Its not my birthday cake, so not my choice. Its simple as that to me.
Story 2: If Brittney really does hate chocolate so much, how difficult would it have been really to get another very small vanilla flavored cake that Brittney could eat for herself? It's not like most cakes are all that pricey. Now THAT would have been an easy compromise!
Or get a cupcake for Brittney. If there will be several others attending, get a cupcake of their choice for everyone. That way everyone will get something they like. They can always have a slice of Olivia's cake as well.
But that only would have made sense. And as we have been shown TIME AND TIME again, Karens never, EVER have ANY kind of sense.
And the WORST part of it is Brittney is probably going to turn out just like her bitch of a mother.
Cake story: divorce that entitled broad as soon as possible. Red flags.
There are more updates to the last story and it does get worse before it gets better. Fluff, if you get a chance I’d check them out.
I had a camp counselor (Jesus camp, don't recommend it) who went by Topher, it is 100% an established thing. And even if it was something new, like someone going by 'Briel' for Gabriel instead of, say, 'Xander' for Alexander, even the oldest trends had to start somewhere.
Plus, I know so many people who have picked out their own name, or have names difficult for American speakers and have an American-style nickname, that it's utterly ridiculous to pretend it's rare or impossible.
If anything, a unique nametag should be advantageous. It's not obscene or scatological, and it helps to pin down exactly to whom you have referred when talking about a given 'specialist'. A more common nickname is less specific. If the manager could stop stumbling over his own hangups, this would work in his favor.
I have a nephew we call Xander! He loves it. Unique. But people can still spell it!
I'm so confused by that last story. How do you watch your mom be a total psycho to your sister and still choose your mom? I could literally never. I don't care if that's my mom, because that's my sister too, and the mom is obviously in the wrong.
Simple she not being a psycho to them.
They are on mom good side and are just as shitty as her
My husband has horrible wicked parents that tried getting grandparents rights for some reason even though they saw our kids regularly, I guess that wasn't the "control" they wanted. When that didn't work they began calling in false CPS reports attempting to get our kids taken away. Around the 13th call the kids were placed with the inlaws, who so GrAcIoUsLy stepped up to foster them, for about a month for a full in depth investigation. We were cleared, our kids returned, and fully cut contact and moved across the country. They've hired Private Investigators, tried to manipulate my mom into telling them where we are, insane sh*t!! We moved again in another direction just to be safe! I'm atleast glad they pulled that crap while our kids were super young so they don't even remember it now and don't even remember those horrid people!
I'm so happy Op got a happy ending too 🤍🤍
The story of the birthday cake depending on how big the party was I would have ordered two cakes one chocolate and one vanilla!
Story #2 he should’ve returned the cake and called his lawyer.
And then taken Olivia for a ride to find out if the step mom was abusing her in any other ways.
Story 3: Go read OP's profile. Her life took a turn for the worse, but things eventually got better
Story 3: How in the world, did the rest of the family not believe OP when she had proof of everything while the EM didn't? I guess the Em's family doesn't fall from the tree, well except for OP shes a good apple.
My guess is they didn't care because they didn't suffer from her.
I question how em didn’t accept being recorded if op took phone out and there was no protest it wasn’t covert
FUCK YEAH!!!!!MUSTARD FLAVORED CAKE!!! I'll be there with literal bells on.
What sort of mustard cos there is heaps.
@@jenniferschmitzer299 no idea. I like just about all the type of mustards I've tried.
@@TheDarkLink7 umm ok
Petty revenge for the birthday cake thing. Get the one other kid a chocolate cake for their birthday with vanilla wafers on top of it. See how the wife reacts to that.
Yeah definitely Christopher. I constantly see database entries with Christophe due to 10 character limits.
Sounds like a Greek deity
@@GreenEyedPsycho Christophe is actually the Patron Saint of Data Entry Errors
Story 1: I actually had a roommate named topher. I honestly don’t see what the big deal is
He should have gone by the first six letters just to see the reaction. Christ!
My thought, too.
"my birthday cake will be mustard and you will like it"...jokes on you, I can drink mustard right out of the bottle LOL.
The name tag issue is beyond stupid, you see name tags with nicknames all the time. Some places like Disney makes workers wear a fake name tag as punishment for forgetting theirs.🤣 someone of them are funny too, lots of dad jokes. I saw one that said, hi my name is oops I forgot.
Hello Dory...
(Spot the movie reference... :-))
Story 2: while on his way to pick up his daughters cake, he should’ve picked up divorce papers.
Hi fluff! Make sure that you, Steeve-O, and your pets stay bundled up!!!
Wow! The birthday cake story caught me good. Woman accusing the husband of being controlling when it's she herself who's controlling! If it's your birthday and you want something within reason you should be able to get it. And nobody else should dictate to you what you want!
Hahaha the first story reminds me of a sailor we had at one of my naval stations that her last name was la-ah but pronounced ladasha people always gave her a hard time about her name and told her she had a improper uniform. We would always laugh our asses off when some random chief or officer would make a big deal only to.find out that how her legal name was done. Hahaha they always looked so defeated and embarrassed.
The dash don't be silent.
That's what I thought about with the first reddit story, as THAT entitled manager should have just left OP the heck alone over a name tag. If OP does great work, praise him, if not, help him. THAT manager definitely needs to be fired or demoted to a lesser role for the way he acted.
@Thalinor OrcBreaker hahaha yeah everyone either though it was silent or was an abbreviation for something else
@DevylBear Hawkturion yeah unfortunitley managers in today time often don't know how to properly manage or were never trained properly. That should have never been an issue if the guy dies his job and completes task on time who give a rats ass what he calls himself. Right
Story 2 is a classic "So, what compromise are we going to do on HER birthday? Chocolate cake with vanilla flakes?".
OP is correct, this cake isn’t a hill to die on
It is, however, a hill to kill a mistake of a marriage on
The best solution for birthday cake problems, is a box of assorted cupcakes with extra sprinkles.