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@@Dogedoge337 Like they say: "Heaven to visit, Hell to live in." Then again, you need to live in Japan if you badly need to go to his comedy show everytime.
Its like in a video of his mentions how we foreigners dont know how to read the room & stay even after japanese festival which was meant to make the foreigners leave
This is assuming the country even has a japanese community. I don't think there would be enough of them in the Netherlands for example, haha. There was a Indonesian guy in a comment section somewhere and he complained that dutch women were cold and didn't date him when he was living here...I expect he came here thinking he was quite a fan. Reality is, it's probably far harder than dating in your own country. Not knowing the signals and when you are flirting and when you are coming across as creepy.
@@dreadinside654 They don't dislike asian men at all but dutch women do not get hit on in the way many other countries do so if you are just on vacation you will probably not have much luck. Men tend to ask out girls they already know. Meaning before they get that far they know their name and what they are like and if they get along, then they may ask them out. It would be hard to get that far with a tourist.
I think it's hard in general to date people from other community, unless you live in U.S. where it's normalized to some extent. Maybe it's because of U.S. Media that have a multicultural emphasis, people think it's somewhat doable.
@@sumansaha295 Well I think in the U.S people have lots of cultural issues with communities who have lived in the same country for hundreds of years. It's silly to then imagine it would be easy with someone from another country , especially given how little they often know about it. It's easier if the cultures are similar. I think it takes many people a good while to adjust to dutch culture. Especially if you want to date. Some may have an advantage while others a disadvantage. But all of them would have to be okay with dutch outspoken, matter of fact, take it or leave it dutch women if they want to date those. She doesn't need you and she knows it. No games. And if you lie to her, flattery even , will get you nowhere.
True story, I was in Ginza and saw this funny little bald white man get out of a new Range Rover with an unusually tall and beautiful Japanese women with their cute biracial daughter. It became apparent that the secret to finding a beautiful Japanese wife is the same in many parts of the world, become successful and wealthy. I love Tokyo, but I do have to say Tokyo like Singapore is one of the most shallow cities I've spent time in, so I believe being wealthy will take you even farther than most cities. Best of luck out there. 頑張ってね! 🎶🎶Money buys you looooooove, when you're in Tokyo, money buys you loooooooove, no, no, no nooooooo?🎶🎶🎶 Yes it does.
I know this video is a comedy and a single example to how date a Japanese girl but As an Asian guy living in Japan, I don’t have problems to date Japanese girls. I would give these points: -Having a good looking +2 -Being fashionable +2 -Speaking Japanese +2 -Being rich +2 -Being very rich +5😂 Everything you don’t have or are, it’s negative 😂 I could date Japanese girls from 20 to 40 yo. I’m 40+ yo.😊 Good luck!
Thanks for the info, then I have 4 points: being good looking, somewhat good style and appear rich (Im not). If being around 23, 180cm+, fit, half from one of the wealtiest european countries, european accent, elite education matter, then Im +5.
It’s ok. If you are good looking, actually it’s the most important. I just recommend you to study study study study and study Japanese until the point you can talk about everything. Some of them will pay attention to your hair, clothes, etc, so be fashionable. If you look like an anime character (not cosplay, I mean like a host) you will be fine😁
@@Firegarden999 thanks! I was mostly curious than serious. Here in Europe there are few japanese. Considering I have easy time with Chinese, Korean, European and other women, I guess japanese wouldnt be that different. (Know mandarin, so learning japanese characters would be easy).
So I think you won’t have problems to find a Japanese gf. You can start registering in some dating apps like omiai, pairs, wish, marrish, etc. Write a good profile description about yourself. You have to have something ‘different’ showing you have many good ‘points’, otherwise they won’t get interested in you.
I was mistaken for local in Yokohama TWICE within an hour: had a SEA guy asking direction in Japanese, and a Latino guy asking direction in English. I ended up apologizing in Japanese to the first guy before switching to English, but was able to show the second guy how to use Google map to get to Shinjuku. Not gonna lie, first guy caught me a bit off guard.
wait this sounds familiar, a malay friend of mine met a Japanese girl in Malaysia, they're married now. She actually took the same religion as him! I was surprised she was willing to change so much to fit in. It is quite difficult even from fellow malaysian with different religion to have to change that much for the guy... Meanwhile another Malaysian guy I knew who had moved to Japan could not find a single Japanese girl who would look his way, suffered through tons of dates... he ends up marrying a Malaysian living in Japan.
I've heard that Asian guys from Western countries have it pretty good. They're not as shy and passive as some of the local guys and don't have to worry about the stigma and push back from parents that comes from dating interracially. So go for it guys.
My cousin won a Japanese Government Scholarship to study in Japan and he went on to become a medical doctor. He had no trouble getting a Japanese wife. Also, if you go to a Japanese university focusing on foreign languages like Tokyo University of Foreign Studies, students there tend to be curious about foreigners and foreign cultures in general and not just Westerners and western cultures. So you'll have a better chance there.
@@RockinRocketScience Traditionally Japanese women get married and stay home and be housewives taking care of their husbands and kids. Not sure how it is nowadays.
but in Japan there are also many students who are smart and also apply for scholarships that cause Japan to not be able to give because of lack of funds, they spend a lot of money for extreme progress and the slowdown of the Japanese economy makes them no longer feel the same pleasure. first
@@afizi1213 Japan has been offering Japanese Government Scholarships or MEXT scholarships (used to be called Monbusho) through their embassies across the world for decades. You can also apply through Japanese universities.
The type of Japanese woman you'd want to date probably wants to date a Japanese man. The type who want to date foreigners don't mean you and they get into relationships with language barriers. That's pretty dumb
Yep. They mean handsome foreigners, like me. The girls openly call me handsome and I had several girlfriends before getting engaged to the most beautiful one. I don't even speak Japanese.
Thanks a lot for your practical advice!! As Asian man living in Asian country, I have tried to hook up with Japanese lady living in my country. Most of them are married women though😂😂
im 34 yo south east asian living in Tokyo for 4 years and i dated beautiful Japanese girls (3 of them are models), had casual flings ,etc and now im engaged to my current gf / fiance and we are soon getting married. it is only tough if you have no confidence and if you speak 0 Japanese or if you dont go outside your apartment to meet people. If anything I feel its so easy in here because a lot of guys in Japan are so bad with women
That is a good one 😂😂😂😂 Japanese women using a judge points they will have a harder chance of marrying one. Some asian can't leave a steady pay job with invested retirement pension or small business. They have tried to explain a good reason. But some white or color people won't tell if it has a police arrest record and cheating with a different women.
Living in Okinawa, I was surprised at how strong the locals could speak English to us there compared to Tokyo. I tell my friends all the time when I moved back to America. As an Asian, I have more competition against the other local Japanese and foreigner males there versus the western foreigners I was associated with. This is very important advice. Thank you.
This is what I meant when I say Gaijin Card is also discriminatory. If that is how it goes when finding a Japanese partner, imagine how it is on the daily life in Japan as a Gaijin Card holder. The problem with finding Japanese communities is that they are very likely non-existent nearby. This is I think true in the Philippines where I will instead likely find Chinese or Korean communities.
Tiger Tanaka: "Rule number two: in Japan, men come first, women come second. James Bond : "I just might retire to here." _You Only Live Twice_ (1967) 🏯
I think dating in another country is difficult in the same way. From my perspective, Asian dating culture is different from Western, gonna use my example, I'm Brazilian, if you meet someone in the bar, find someone interesting, you go, talk, see if the things go well and you can go the hotel in the same night, if not, at least some kisses you get, but Japan? No no no. But as Hyatt said, if Japanese women are in western, they are more open to other people, so they can get along more easily, but it doesn't mean that you can date them the same way as in the West. But he got a point, he's not wrong about searching outside Japan.
This dating advice is exclusively for Asian man. For Brazilian man, I guess that you have more open chance than the Asian one to approach Japanese women😅
I know is for Asian man, I meant to say about difficulties. In Brazil, every foreign man has more chance with a woman than the Brazilians, is almost the same.@@bakabon114
Did meet & chatted with a Japanese in a Japanese store but at that time i learned from Meshida-san that Japanese culture has tatemae plus i didn't know whats her mentality like 🤷♂️ Following Japanese ytubers seems like theres still those hidden gems in Japan. Even in the west you'll get Japanese with their homeland mentality but for me i might have to find one in hispanic countries. Good idea on finding a place they hang out because i was thinking how to find them besides stores/restaurants
I once uploaded my face into one of those AI gender-swap image programs and the result was very cute, so I decided since I have the genetics, I want to make lots of kawaii daughters and the best person to do that with is a Japanese woman. I want to mass produce quality cute girls made in Japan and save the country from population collapse. Finances is not an issue -- all I got to do is whisper to my Boomer mom "Grandkids" and her ears perk up and she goes "Which one of these real estate investments do ya want, son?"
but what i impress is even japanese girl know japanese boy is bad and sad they stilla ccept that ,its like a good moral that we can left it ,we need to learn from japan spirit they dont wanna give up
It's normal that foreigners stick together. The white people do it, the Africans or Arabs do it. That's why I avoided expats like the plague when I lived in Indonesia. I didn't want to be a guest, I wanted to be a respectful guest. I did try the same in Japan. But because I only know a few phrases and 50-100 words in Japanese, it's difficult. I really wanted to talk to the older people, they are usually the kindest. Maybe because of their age or because they didn't leave Japan much, they sincerely seem interested to talk to gaijin like me. As for women: I NEVER saw more confident women than in Japan. Unlike anywhere else in the world, they didn't seem to care at all about men. Now, keep in mind, I didn't come to Japan because I was expecting to meet girls. Even in Indonesia where I lived, being white barely turns heads anymore. And I wouldn't like that either. I assume Japanese wouldn't want to be liked, simply because they are exotic? Still, I was surprised that Japanese women didn't seem to care about Japanese men!! Men and women mainly seem to live separately. Sure, you do see couples, you do see flirting. But many, many people gave me this feeling that they are ok with just the friends of their own gender. Or work. Or hobbies. I definitely am no expert on Japanese customs and culture. But my impression was (and I have a high EQ) that Japanese are sort of..two-faced? I don't mean this in a bad way. Just that Japanese may smile at you or each other. But it's Japan! Nihon! People may smile on the outside, but the subtext may happen in body language, eye contact. People most likely would never openly say bad things to you. As one Japanese to another, I feel you don't have to. A Japanese will FEEL or understand that if for example their boss says with a smile "it's ok, Goto-san, everyone makes mistakes" that the actual meaning id "we recommend you quit and leave this company, you're a disgrace". To me, that's fascinating. Because I would assume that even for Japanese, this must be confusing or unclear at times. My biggest advice: NEVER judge a culture. You may disagree and that's fine. Nobody forces you to be ok with it or live it. But remember that Japanese might also feel YOUR culture is wrong. Or that what you do as normal is weird. We all see things from our own culture or perspective. And to really at least understand and respect a culture, you need a ton of empathy and sensitivity. And even then, I doubt any of us can ever completely understand a foreign culture and live it the way a local would. But that doesn't mean that you can't at least be tolerant and polite. People will forgive foreigners some cultural mistakes because we are seen like blank sheets that way. That's good for that, but of course bad if we would want to be like a local. Which I think we can never be 100%. As for girls: It's true that sheng nu (Chinese for lost women, women who are not married yet at 30+) are seen as problematic. And I actually understand it. If you think about it, women always have way more options than guys. And they don't have to do much to be asked out or maybe even proposed to. So if a woman didn't marry by 30, it doesn't mean she is evil. It does mean however that she doesn't want the things the parents generations would expect, like marrying young, having kids and not really focusing on work/a career. Personally, I actually think a family is more rewarding than some career. But I don't blame women to choose work. Great if that makes them happy. But I also don't blame those parents or guys if they don't want those women. Men want someone who likes if we can take care of them and protect them. Women who prefer to work or don't want a family as much as even many men do just don't fit that. So my advice to women: Think what you really want. Your company doesn't really care about you. They will replace you when u retire. A husband may not care either (depends who you choose). Even kids may not. But what do you want? The bottom line: If a woman didn't marry after 30, it simply means she has her focus on other things. That does mean though that even if she married later, her family will not be her focus, her husband will not be. Because she isn't used to that she had spent her life with a different focus. So make sure your focus is the same.
as a malaysia we see this is a big challenge but its up to they to accept or no we just do we job as they give and also use we culture even in japan as mainly cause we know japan is living in they planet
I thought about working in Japan so I could see my friend who I met in college more, but wages there are not good and work culture is horrid from a western perspective that I figured I should appreciate what I currently have. That said, I do hope I can hit things off with my friend if I stay patient and keep hanging out with her when I fly over to see concerts…
How are Japanese women about Half Asian / Half White? I look like 80's anime style, like Duke Togo and Kenshiro. Like really half blend with brown skin. Maybe they like the half White guys that really look more European? I might still look too Asian, hahaha!
@@PaulVonLoren I might be in Japan in a few weeks for business. I'm gonna find out, man. I've been looking at 'handsome Japanese lists' and we don't match. I think Hiroshi Abe is super handsome, but he doesn't rank anywhere. And I read it took him years to get picked up because he looks so diffierent. And he's not even mixed. I'll probably end up finding a mixed-Japanese girl to chill with, or maybe a Korean. Part of it is the Gen-Z aegyo thing. I might look too macho. Hard thing about our type of look is that its usually not manly enough for Western women, but it can be too manly for Asian women. Maybe I should find otaku girls who are into 80's manime, hahaha!
@@oodo2908 well Im confused since you said «not manly enough for Western women», since those anime characters you mention is, while its hard to visualise anime characters as real people. You look like Hiroshi Abe? I have been lucky here in Europe where Im from (Im around 6 foot in american height) and with chinese and koreans here, and mainland chinese girls (I speak mandarin), so if I got a japanese haircut and shaved every day I would fit in somewhat in East Asia since Im mixture between masculine and pretty. I hope you have a good trip! Not sure how you look, but remember there are 126 million japanese and around half is females! So I think you will find at least some women there!
@@PaulVonLoren I don't look like Hiroshi Abe, but he has what you might call Western features unusual to Asians. He might be part Ainu. I'm actually really close to Duke Togo (Golgo 13), just look friendlier, no wrinkles, and a big forehead. Western women just don't dig me. If they do, they usually have some kind of Celt or Spanish DNA. Asia is a different story though. Over here I'm handsome and 5'10" is ok. Since my blend is so 50/50 no one can tell what my blend is. Korea was a breeze for me. I get along better with them than FIlipinos (my Asian half). China, I got treated better than the other foreign guys, but they were still not good. I made friends easily with the Chino Muslims and Mongolians though. I"ve been to Japan once, but it was around 20 years ago. The only girl I clicked with was a gorgeous half-Brazilian. In my experience, Chinese and Japanese are iffy. Koreans are go. A lot of them assume I'm half Korean right away. Some think I had a nose job or eyelid surgery. I'm not worried about it. Its just a few weeks. Another half Brazilian would be awesome...
@@PaulVonLoren You now what? It's gonna be way different now. Japan is infected by Korean media. If I really fit the Korean ideal now, it won't be like 20 years ago at all. This will be interesting!
If you want to find a Japanese woman, find one that's already living in your country. Well Meshida-San, I guess am heading to Victoria Island then, because that's where the Japanese Consulate is.
Well this guy again who bugs the crap out of me. Also I have to say he's wrong with that one line. See the town I live built a Japanese restaurant and I've been in it with the people here and I've always been welcomed there. I've gravitated towards you guys and Japanese people here and even the ones I've got on Facebook come to me. So for me anyway what he said is wrong. What can I say? I've got the touch of God.
Japan is also Asia. So title should be "How to get an Asian girlfriend as an Asian Man". If you want to be more specific, ,maybe "How to get a Japanese girlfriend as a Singaporean"....ちゃうか？ (^^;;;;
@@klcitywatchyoutube4211 Wow and what about yourself? I'm just stating my honest feedback, is honesty dead? If you wanna show yourself up in public platforms then you take both praise and criticism that comes with it.
Why bother 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 not worth the Time, Effort & Money to get one of highly dubious background 😏 for you might not know that intended girlfriend has a body count of more than 100 men before your turn 🤪 Good luck anyways to y'all desperadoes for "Love" 🙃
@@dances_with_incelsI get it that this is a joke anyway but from religious point Buddha is not the one who chose your destiny tho. He achive the nervana already, that basically he erase himself from this universe. even if he is a god (which he isn't, he is spiritual leader) he didn't even exist anymore.
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Why are you trying to convince me not to come to Japan mashita are you afraid. We love you!
Don’t come as in she mean not inside her😂
@@KazumaIshinpabu BRUV
Meshida: Please come to Japan to see my standup comedy show.
Also Meshida: Don’t come to Japan.
they know japan is living in they stress but what can we do
the message is always "come and enjoy the beautiful country and watch my comedy show, but don't stay, it's hell in here"
go and spend money, then leave, go away lol
@@Dogedoge337 Like they say: "Heaven to visit, Hell to live in."
Then again, you need to live in Japan if you badly need to go to his comedy show everytime.
Its like in a video of his mentions how we foreigners dont know how to read the room & stay even after japanese festival which was meant to make the foreigners leave
Seriously, if you are Asian dude and wanna date in Japan, learn Japanese and don’t tell them that you’re not Japanese, unless you are Korean 😂
Yup, and it only takes 5-10 years to be fluent 🙃
You can't fake being Japanese. Their culture is impossible to imitate.
@@FlySea100worth 😂
This is assuming the country even has a japanese community. I don't think there would be enough of them in the Netherlands for example, haha. There was a Indonesian guy in a comment section somewhere and he complained that dutch women were cold and didn't date him when he was living here...I expect he came here thinking he was quite a fan. Reality is, it's probably far harder than dating in your own country. Not knowing the signals and when you are flirting and when you are coming across as creepy.
So are you saying Dutch women dislike asian men? I'm from Malaysia btw. If I go there as a tourist one day will I have a chance?
@@dreadinside654 They don't dislike asian men at all but dutch women do not get hit on in the way many other countries do so if you are just on vacation you will probably not have much luck. Men tend to ask out girls they already know.
Meaning before they get that far they know their name and what they are like and if they get along, then they may ask them out. It would be hard to get that far with a tourist.
I think it's hard in general to date people from other community, unless you live in U.S. where it's normalized to some extent. Maybe it's because of U.S. Media that have a multicultural emphasis, people think it's somewhat doable.
@@sumansaha295 Well I think in the U.S people have lots of cultural issues with communities who have lived in the same country for hundreds of years. It's silly to then imagine it would be easy with someone from another country , especially given how little they often know about it.
It's easier if the cultures are similar. I think it takes many people a good while to adjust to dutch culture. Especially if you want to date. Some may have an advantage while others a disadvantage. But all of them would have to be okay with dutch outspoken, matter of fact, take it or leave it dutch women if they want to date those.
She doesn't need you and she knows it. No games. And if you lie to her, flattery even , will get you nowhere.
Unless if you’re handsome lol
actually being a korean man is like +4 in japan right now
Tru. Hallyu wave is real
Quite true. Among Asian men, Korean man is the most popular Ikemen😂
i also see korean culture are increase in japan culture
So you want to date a JP woman who treats you like a current fashion trend? LOL
For some reason, boys who look & act like girls is popular now.
We will always support you no matter what. Keep working hard as always.
True story, I was in Ginza and saw this funny little bald white man get out of a new Range Rover with an unusually tall and beautiful Japanese women with their cute biracial daughter. It became apparent that the secret to finding a beautiful Japanese wife is the same in many parts of the world, become successful and wealthy. I love Tokyo, but I do have to say Tokyo like Singapore is one of the most shallow cities I've spent time in, so I believe being wealthy will take you even farther than most cities. Best of luck out there. 頑張ってね!
🎶🎶Money buys you looooooove, when you're in Tokyo, money buys you loooooooove, no, no, no nooooooo?🎶🎶🎶 Yes it does.
I know this video is a comedy and a single example to how date a Japanese girl but
As an Asian guy living in Japan, I don’t have problems to date Japanese girls.
I would give these points:
-Having a good looking +2
-Being fashionable +2
-Speaking Japanese +2
-Being rich +2
-Being very rich +5😂
Everything you don’t have or are, it’s negative 😂
I could date Japanese girls from 20 to 40 yo. I’m 40+ yo.😊
Good luck!
Thanks for the info, then I have 4 points: being good looking, somewhat good style and appear rich (Im not).
If being around 23, 180cm+, fit, half from one of the wealtiest european countries, european accent, elite education matter, then Im +5.
It’s ok. If you are good looking, actually it’s the most important.
I just recommend you to study study study study and study Japanese until the point you can talk about everything.
Some of them will pay attention to your hair, clothes, etc, so be fashionable.
If you look like an anime character (not cosplay, I mean like a host) you will be fine😁
@@Firegarden999 thanks! I was mostly curious than serious. Here in Europe there are few japanese.
Considering I have easy time with Chinese, Korean, European and other women, I guess japanese wouldnt be that different. (Know mandarin, so learning japanese characters would be easy).
So I think you won’t have problems to find a Japanese gf.
You can start registering in some dating apps like omiai, pairs, wish, marrish, etc. Write a good profile description about yourself. You have to have something ‘different’ showing you have many good ‘points’, otherwise they won’t get interested in you.
So if not speaking Japanese , do you still have a chance. I always thought that would be a deal breaker.
I was mistaken for local in Yokohama TWICE within an hour: had a SEA guy asking direction in Japanese, and a Latino guy asking direction in English. I ended up apologizing in Japanese to the first guy before switching to English, but was able to show the second guy how to use Google map to get to Shinjuku. Not gonna lie, first guy caught me a bit off guard.
wait this sounds familiar, a malay friend of mine met a Japanese girl in Malaysia, they're married now. She actually took the same religion as him! I was surprised she was willing to change so much to fit in. It is quite difficult even from fellow malaysian with different religion to have to change that much for the guy...
Meanwhile another Malaysian guy I knew who had moved to Japan could not find a single Japanese girl who would look his way, suffered through tons of dates... he ends up marrying a Malaysian living in Japan.
Wow the irony for 2nd guy. Did he not know the language as i heard this is main reason foreigners leave?
"Marry in haste, repent at leisure."
I've heard that Asian guys from Western countries have it pretty good. They're not as shy and passive as some of the local guys and don't have to worry about the stigma and push back from parents that comes from dating interracially. So go for it guys.
Going other place than Tokyo and Osaka is good advice. Of course if you go too far away youngest free lady is 80 years old.
Let's go to Onsen for your favorite Japanese women. I mean hot spring for hot women.
Very interesting. Thank you for your perspective, Hyatt-Sensei!
You know so many funny people, Meshida-san!! And of course these videos are always VERY informative!
My cousin won a Japanese Government Scholarship to study in Japan and he went on to become a medical doctor. He had no trouble getting a Japanese wife. Also, if you go to a Japanese university focusing on foreign languages like Tokyo University of Foreign Studies, students there tend to be curious about foreigners and foreign cultures in general and not just Westerners and western cultures. So you'll have a better chance there.
Knowing Meshidas videos. Getting the money and a high paying job is key to an adult Japanese woman's heart.
@@RockinRocketScience Traditionally Japanese women get married and stay home and be housewives taking care of their husbands and kids. Not sure how it is nowadays.
OF COURSE he had no problem. He was studying to be a MEDICAL DOCTOR $$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$.
but in Japan there are also many students who are smart and also apply for scholarships that cause Japan to not be able to give because of lack of funds, they spend a lot of money for extreme progress and the slowdown of the Japanese economy makes them no longer feel the same pleasure. first
@@afizi1213 Japan has been offering Japanese Government Scholarships or MEXT scholarships (used to be called Monbusho) through their embassies across the world for decades. You can also apply through Japanese universities.
Such a good and funny video. Love the small podcast posts
The type of Japanese woman you'd want to date probably wants to date a Japanese man. The type who want to date foreigners don't mean you and they get into relationships with language barriers. That's pretty dumb
Yep. They mean handsome foreigners, like me.
The girls openly call me handsome and I had several girlfriends before getting engaged to the most beautiful one.
I don't even speak Japanese.
Just like Meshida-San said in a previous video Housewife or House Yakuza.
I'm SEA, live and work in Tokyo, and all people speak to me in Japanese by default. Bruh, what? I'm lost too.
Thanks a lot for your practical advice!! As Asian man living in Asian country, I have tried to hook up with Japanese lady living in my country. Most of them are married women though😂😂
Many Japanese in the US are third (?) generation; they are so far removed from Japan. At least to my knowledge as a non-Asian American.
im 34 yo south east asian living in Tokyo for 4 years and i dated beautiful Japanese girls (3 of them are models), had casual flings ,etc and now im engaged to my current gf / fiance and we are soon getting married. it is only tough if you have no confidence and if you speak 0 Japanese or if you dont go outside your apartment to meet people. If anything I feel its so easy in here because a lot of guys in Japan are so bad with women
Merry Christmas❤ love your joke "the best gifts come in small boxes".
That is a good one 😂😂😂😂
Japanese women using a judge points they will have a harder chance of marrying one.
Some asian can't leave a steady pay job with invested retirement pension or small business. They have tried to explain a good reason.
But some white or color people won't tell if it has a police arrest record and cheating with a different women.
In California we do have Asian communities! Japanese, Chinese, Philippino, Korean, Armenian - oops, not the last one.
Living in Okinawa, I was surprised at how strong the locals could speak English to us there compared to Tokyo. I tell my friends all the time when I moved back to America. As an Asian, I have more competition against the other local Japanese and foreigner males there versus the western foreigners I was associated with. This is very important advice. Thank you.
This is what I meant when I say Gaijin Card is also discriminatory. If that is how it goes when finding a Japanese partner, imagine how it is on the daily life in Japan as a Gaijin Card holder.
The problem with finding Japanese communities is that they are very likely non-existent nearby. This is I think true in the Philippines where I will instead likely find Chinese or Korean communities.
The last episodes turned into a math seminar which i like. As person of color ( -4 ) how much do i need to earn to arrive at 0 ;-)
You need to be rich (+2) and be the leader of your country and having everyone bow to you (+2)
In Japan men come first and women come second.
Or sometimes not at all!!
Austin Powers: International Man Of Mystery (1997) 🇬🇧
Tiger Tanaka: "Rule number two: in Japan, men come first, women come second.
James Bond : "I just might retire to here."
_You Only Live Twice_ (1967) 🏯
@@kirk1701 she’s very sexy full ⛩
It's so funny how you can joke with a straight face
I think dating in another country is difficult in the same way. From my perspective, Asian dating culture is different from Western, gonna use my example, I'm Brazilian, if you meet someone in the bar, find someone interesting, you go, talk, see if the things go well and you can go the hotel in the same night, if not, at least some kisses you get, but Japan? No no no. But as Hyatt said, if Japanese women are in western, they are more open to other people, so they can get along more easily, but it doesn't mean that you can date them the same way as in the West. But he got a point, he's not wrong about searching outside Japan.
This dating advice is exclusively for Asian man. For Brazilian man, I guess that you have more open chance than the Asian one to approach Japanese women😅
I know is for Asian man, I meant to say about difficulties. In Brazil, every foreign man has more chance with a woman than the Brazilians, is almost the same.@@bakabon114
Did meet & chatted with a Japanese in a Japanese store but at that time i learned from Meshida-san that Japanese culture has tatemae plus i didn't know whats her mentality like 🤷♂️
Following Japanese ytubers seems like theres still those hidden gems in Japan. Even in the west you'll get Japanese with their homeland mentality but for me i might have to find one in hispanic countries. Good idea on finding a place they hang out because i was thinking how to find them besides stores/restaurants
Learn how to Resident Visa from asian perspective. Very high quality content sensei XD
In my experience only Korean men are accepted as foreign Asian man for dating in Japan mostly.
Every man's most desired dessert: Japanese Cream Pie
Me as a Mexican, I don’t feel neither westerner nor Asian.
I once uploaded my face into one of those AI gender-swap image programs and the result was very cute, so I decided since I have the genetics, I want to make lots of kawaii daughters and the best person to do that with is a Japanese woman. I want to mass produce quality cute girls made in Japan and save the country from population collapse. Finances is not an issue -- all I got to do is whisper to my Boomer mom "Grandkids" and her ears perk up and she goes "Which one of these real estate investments do ya want, son?"
a youtube comment couldnt have benn more this deranged, wtf
Damn! 😂
I learned Japanese and showed off martial arts in a highschool talent show. I got a Japanese girlfriend at 18.
"VIVAT ACADEMIA!
VIVAT PROFESSORES!"
Holding karaoke microphones would be so cool with lights. I love your content, but wish Japanese lady on show more.❤
in other words, come Japan for fun not for relationship
but what i impress is even japanese girl know japanese boy is bad and sad they stilla ccept that ,its like a good moral that we can left it ,we need to learn from japan spirit they dont wanna give up
Love your T-shirt.
This is good. If you looks for a japanese wife/gf, make sure to find an one who are open minded to different culture.
Pretty much with any person you want to be with outside of your own race
It's normal that foreigners stick together. The white people do it, the Africans or Arabs do it.
That's why I avoided expats like the plague when I lived in Indonesia. I didn't want to be a guest, I wanted to be a respectful guest.
I did try the same in Japan. But because I only know a few phrases and 50-100 words in Japanese, it's difficult. I really wanted to talk to the older people, they are usually the kindest. Maybe because of their age or because they didn't leave Japan much, they sincerely seem interested to talk to gaijin like me.
As for women:
I NEVER saw more confident women than in Japan. Unlike anywhere else in the world, they didn't seem to care at all about men.
Now, keep in mind, I didn't come to Japan because I was expecting to meet girls. Even in Indonesia where I lived, being white barely turns heads anymore. And I wouldn't like that either. I assume Japanese wouldn't want to be liked, simply because they are exotic?
Still, I was surprised that Japanese women didn't seem to care about Japanese men!! Men and women mainly seem to live separately. Sure, you do see couples, you do see flirting. But many, many people gave me this feeling that they are ok with just the friends of their own gender. Or work. Or hobbies.
I definitely am no expert on Japanese customs and culture. But my impression was (and I have a high EQ) that Japanese are sort of..two-faced? I don't mean this in a bad way. Just that Japanese may smile at you or each other. But it's Japan! Nihon! People may smile on the outside, but the subtext may happen in body language, eye contact. People most likely would never openly say bad things to you. As one Japanese to another, I feel you don't have to. A Japanese will FEEL or understand that if for example their boss says with a smile "it's ok, Goto-san, everyone makes mistakes" that the actual meaning id "we recommend you quit and leave this company, you're a disgrace".
To me, that's fascinating. Because I would assume that even for Japanese, this must be confusing or unclear at times.
My biggest advice: NEVER judge a culture. You may disagree and that's fine. Nobody forces you to be ok with it or live it. But remember that Japanese might also feel YOUR culture is wrong. Or that what you do as normal is weird.
We all see things from our own culture or perspective. And to really at least understand and respect a culture, you need a ton of empathy and sensitivity.
And even then, I doubt any of us can ever completely understand a foreign culture and live it the way a local would.
But that doesn't mean that you can't at least be tolerant and polite. People will forgive foreigners some cultural mistakes because we are seen like blank sheets that way. That's good for that, but of course bad if we would want to be like a local. Which I think we can never be 100%.
As for girls: It's true that sheng nu (Chinese for lost women, women who are not married yet at 30+) are seen as problematic.
And I actually understand it.
If you think about it, women always have way more options than guys. And they don't have to do much to be asked out or maybe even proposed to.
So if a woman didn't marry by 30, it doesn't mean she is evil. It does mean however that she doesn't want the things the parents generations would expect, like marrying young, having kids and not really focusing on work/a career.
Personally, I actually think a family is more rewarding than some career. But I don't blame women to choose work. Great if that makes them happy. But I also don't blame those parents or guys if they don't want those women. Men want someone who likes if we can take care of them and protect them. Women who prefer to work or don't want a family as much as even many men do just don't fit that.
So my advice to women: Think what you really want. Your company doesn't really care about you. They will replace you when u retire.
A husband may not care either (depends who you choose). Even kids may not. But what do you want?
The bottom line: If a woman didn't marry after 30, it simply means she has her focus on other things. That does mean though that even if she married later, her family will not be her focus, her husband will not be. Because she isn't used to that she had spent her life with a different focus. So make sure your focus is the same.
Meshida, you should next make a video about how to find a Japanese guy as an Asian women. Ken_san could be great at giving advice😜
I was almost thinking the same thing (except as a non asian women) today as i havent seen a youtuber dwell into this
Good advice 😂
this episode was hilarious.
as a malaysia we see this is a big challenge but its up to they to accept or no we just do we job as they give and also use we culture even in japan as mainly cause we know japan is living in they planet
Didn't work. Japanese women in my country had White boyfriends.
You mentioned it was easy for you & you got one early in life ??
I thought we can rent a girlfriend in japan?😂
that's the best thing to do ! Why looking for a wife when you can rent right ?
Too funny. 😄
I think you need nice hair like Hyatt. 💇🏻♂️
He looks like an Indian member of the Beatles in 1965
I thought about working in Japan so I could see my friend who I met in college more, but wages there are not good and work culture is horrid from a western perspective that I figured I should appreciate what I currently have.
That said, I do hope I can hit things off with my friend if I stay patient and keep hanging out with her when I fly over to see concerts…
SEA -10 EA -2😆
Let's say you own a small dog or cat. Is that a plus one?
How are Japanese women about Half Asian / Half White? I look like 80's anime style, like Duke Togo and Kenshiro. Like really half blend with brown skin. Maybe they like the half White guys that really look more European? I might still look too Asian, hahaha!
Wonder that too. I look like kenshiro too (searched), but my skin is pale.
@@PaulVonLoren I might be in Japan in a few weeks for business. I'm gonna find out, man. I've been looking at 'handsome Japanese lists' and we don't match. I think Hiroshi Abe is super handsome, but he doesn't rank anywhere. And I read it took him years to get picked up because he looks so diffierent. And he's not even mixed. I'll probably end up finding a mixed-Japanese girl to chill with, or maybe a Korean. Part of it is the Gen-Z aegyo thing. I might look too macho. Hard thing about our type of look is that its usually not manly enough for Western women, but it can be too manly for Asian women. Maybe I should find otaku girls who are into 80's manime, hahaha!
@@oodo2908 well Im confused since you said «not manly enough for Western women», since those anime characters you mention is, while its hard to visualise anime characters as real people. You look like Hiroshi Abe?
I have been lucky here in Europe where Im from (Im around 6 foot in american height) and with chinese and koreans here, and mainland chinese girls (I speak mandarin), so if I got a japanese haircut and shaved every day I would fit in somewhat in East Asia since Im mixture between masculine and pretty.
I hope you have a good trip! Not sure how you look, but remember there are 126 million japanese and around half is females! So I think you will find at least some women there!
@@PaulVonLoren I don't look like Hiroshi Abe, but he has what you might call Western features unusual to Asians. He might be part Ainu. I'm actually really close to Duke Togo (Golgo 13), just look friendlier, no wrinkles, and a big forehead. Western women just don't dig me. If they do, they usually have some kind of Celt or Spanish DNA.
Asia is a different story though. Over here I'm handsome and 5'10" is ok. Since my blend is so 50/50 no one can tell what my blend is. Korea was a breeze for me. I get along better with them than FIlipinos (my Asian half).
China, I got treated better than the other foreign guys, but they were still not good. I made friends easily with the Chino Muslims and Mongolians though.
I"ve been to Japan once, but it was around 20 years ago. The only girl I clicked with was a gorgeous half-Brazilian.
In my experience, Chinese and Japanese are iffy. Koreans are go. A lot of them assume I'm half Korean right away. Some think I had a nose job or eyelid surgery.
I'm not worried about it. Its just a few weeks. Another half Brazilian would be awesome...
@@PaulVonLoren You now what? It's gonna be way different now. Japan is infected by Korean media. If I really fit the Korean ideal now, it won't be like 20 years ago at all. This will be interesting!
So... he's Asian.... coming from California, that wouldn't be my first guess....
Indians are Asians too dude.
What if your a white woman who would be interested in dating a Japanese man. Do these ideas still apply. I wonder. Hmm.😅
If you want to find a Japanese woman, find one that's already living in your country.
Well Meshida-San, I guess am heading to Victoria Island then, because that's where the Japanese Consulate is.
Where can I find the Anime community in japan?
Akihabara. If you go there, you will run into ton of anime communities.
He has SEA accent
Don't Come to japan😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
It was easy for me.
I am not there for relationship or commitment. I am there for one night stand.
I know this is directed towards men, but oh my gosh 🤣
Bold of you to assume people want japanese girlfriends.
Well this guy again who bugs the crap out of me. Also I have to say he's wrong with that one line. See the town I live built a Japanese restaurant and I've been in it with the people here and I've always been welcomed there. I've gravitated towards you guys and Japanese people here and even the ones I've got on Facebook come to me. So for me anyway what he said is wrong. What can I say? I've got the touch of God.
Japan is also Asia. So title should be "How to get an Asian girlfriend as an Asian Man".
If you want to be more specific, ,maybe "How to get a Japanese girlfriend as a Singaporean"....ちゃうか？ (^^;;;;
Its kinda hard because asian is big.. and east asian like korean certainly dont struggle like southeast asian
@@VinVin21969 Actually, asian IS "small(er)"...hahahahaha # I say it Meshida way....
I'm Singaporean but this guy is like your worst guest. I can't watch beyond 1 min due to his off-putting mannerism.
whut ur problem dude. his just in the character for this youtube content. At least he go back F88K japanese waifuuu. and you what you got.?? hand.
@@klcitywatchyoutube4211 Wow and what about yourself? I'm just stating my honest feedback, is honesty dead? If you wanna show yourself up in public platforms then you take both praise and criticism that comes with it.
Kind of like your off putting comment. And what does singaporean have to do with it. Wake up son.
Meshida San! Would it be alright to hear from the ladies on darting Japanese men? As an African-American 😊please show some love for the sisters ❤
Why bother 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 not worth the Time, Effort & Money to get one of highly dubious background 😏 for you might not know that intended girlfriend has a body count of more than 100 men before your turn 🤪 Good luck anyways to y'all desperadoes for "Love" 🙃
How come an Indonesian guy can get paid less in Japan?
Was he from a prestigious career?
Lol asians are funny!
You don't. It's over. Choose better ethnicity next time.
May the Buda have mercy on you in the next life cycle
@@dances_with_incelsI get it that this is a joke anyway but from religious point Buddha is not the one who chose your destiny tho. He achive the nervana already, that basically he erase himself from this universe. even if he is a god (which he isn't, he is spiritual leader) he didn't even exist anymore.
Yes, found outside of Japan but did not know what I was getting into. Beware of this video.
@@scirocco8017 may Zeus not strike you with his thunderbolt.
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