Abby has to get surgery *postpartum*
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- Опубликовано: 29 сен 2024
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Really enjoyed seeing what y’all’s day looked like when the video started, like how Abby was rushing out the door and you guys were just having casual conversation about what you needed to do, it made me feel more connected to you guys ❤️
Abby, don’t get discouraged. Our babies’ needs vary and change from week to week and they are only worried about their needs at this point. He knows where to go when he’s hungry and Matt might provide something to your son as his dad that is essential right now. As Griffin gets older, his needs will change and you will find out that he needs both of you and that is how it should be. Both of you parenting together. As a mom, I know you want to be everything to your children, but it’s ok if you aren’t. You would suffer burnout if you were everything. Your son loves both of you I’m sure. I’ve seen it so many times where the son bonds with dad early on but as he gets older, becomes a momma’s boy. 😊 You are the first woman he will ever love. Can’t beat that. 🥰
🥹couldn’t have said it better🤍
Beautifully said!💕
Yes that’s how God designed it. There’s a benefit in both a mother and father, naturally. Not two moms or two dads or even multiple like the world is teaching. God did not design family like that, and it will show in the future. Thats why God allows us to do what we choose, so we will see for ourselves that it’s doesn’t bare any good fruit. No matter how we try to deceive ourselves that it does.
@@racheloshaksmusic please be respectful. It’s not one way or the highway. You have every right to your own opinion, but don’t push it on other people. Let’s keep this a happy, positive place 😊
Hit it on the nose! Perfectly said.
Praying for y’all. Love your channel. Y’all are such great parents. Also Griffin is so cute. Sending love. 🥰🥰
I would recommend Strong Like a Mother!! She has tons of great resources and dealt with Diastasis recti after twins!
Oh Abby, mama I am feeling so much for you right now. And you are not alone in feeling dejected after giving birth. I had had so many complications from labor that I ended up having to get an emergency c-section. I mention this because it amplified that feeling you described. I think it's normal to not feel sure of your place as a new mom, and to almost feel envious of anyone else who appears to bond with your new baby, even if it's Dad 😅
I'm sure everyone has said something to this affect but try not to be too hard on yourself, especially for feeling insecure and emotionally uprooted. You are already enough just as you are ❤
Abby is SUCH a trooper
I have been there! I had to have surgery and go under anesthesia after only a couple months of being postpartum and breast-feeding. I was on heavy pain meds after and totally thought I would just pump and dump but I got a message on Instagram from my friend saying that I should not waste all that milk but save it in bags in the freezer and put a note with sharpie marker saying “topical only” because if for some reason you need to use it topically for some ear infections or eye infections or skin problems in the future milk baths are wonderful and breastmilk is magic💕
Its good ur doing it now before it gets to big. My husband has a huge abdominal hernia that makes him look about 6-9 months pregnant
Don’t worry it’s not that crazy! I’m 21 but I got a hernia surgery when I was 13…. I got the actual surgery which was a very painful recovery but I think your surgery should be a little better and easier! I hope you guys are healthy! We love you all!!! We’re praying for you! 😀
My baby is the same way. Comes to mama for food but when he wants to go to sleep and be soothed, he wants dada. But remember you’re an awesome mama and baby loves you both so much!
Matt's voice over was perfect for the video. I love your videos and wish Abby the best luck
I’m so sorry you have to get surgery, Abby! There are some heavier pain meds that don’t transfer to breast milk. I think talking to lactation specialist after is still a nice idea but make sure you let your entire care team (surgeon, anesthesiologist, nurse, etc.) that you are still breastfeeding before they give you anything. They can make sure to only give you meds that are safe to take while breastfeeding. They do this for moms who have a C-section, so they should be able to do the same for a hernia repair. I hope you have a safe and speedy recovery ❤️🩹
Btw, Griffin just gets cuter and cuter! You and Matt make a great team!
i started house of dragons and it's soooo good! the time went by so fast! (hope you feel better abby)
I really enjoyed you narrating this video Matt.
Don’t get discouraged! I am a nanny and the baby sleeps better with me than with both his parents and it makes them upset but it’s nothing personal 🤍 baby loves you both 🤍
Hey Abby, first of all, you guys are doing so great at balancing parenthood and life. Second of all, you should totally link your Pinterest down below, you seem to find the best recipes and it would be so nice to be able to follow you on there for all of the good recipes!!!
Make sure your the doctor uses the daVinci robot because recovery is faster and you can go back to working out and lifting. With a mesh and regular hernia surgery you will have issues down the road when lifting and working out and the recovery time is much longer.
Wish you best of luck on the surgery! Yours should be pretty simple and easy to repair thankfully with it being a small umbilical and whatever other little one it is from birth. Just be glad your not my mom who's got an over 2-3 inch wide hernia in roughly the same spot as your umbilical one. It's disturbing to see her belly.....*worried*
Go Abby! You are so strong!
My husband actually has cysts everywhere on him, one on his stomach, leg, thigh and chest developed in early 20s.
Just had a girl y’all videos help so much .
my little boy was stuck on his Daddy. His smell calmed him, he had meltdowns when he left, wanted to be on top of him all the time. he's three now and very much a mama's boy. You're doing just fine 🖤 He's gonna grow up and love you both equally. they tend to pick randomly who they wanna be around the most and it has no bearing on your parenting when they're this little :)
@Jack Wrath wtf..
I think part of it is Griffin can smell the milk on Abby. But you’re so right! He loves us equally
@@Alissa12379 ???
@@maddyfrl the other person that they were talking about deleted their comment
@@MattandAbby hiiiiiii griffin
My daughter is 14 month and she still loves to fall asleep with her dad, I'm the one she screams for when she fell or when she needs something, she needs me for a lot of things too. It is hard in the beginning to see how much you help your kid but it will become more obvious with time. You're doing an amazing job Abby, so is Matt, this little one is so lucky to have you as parents.
Just FYI Matt, it's discouraging for you to keep mentioning things you're better at than Abby. I know it seems trivial, but when you're a new mom you're already worried that you suck at it. So for your partner to be like "Abby can't burp him. Abby can't soothe him." It's hurtful.
He encourages Abby a lot
So hurtful and just horrible!!!!!!
He's a nut
I thought I was the only one thinking the same. Matt makes me want to puke, his ego is so big that he needs to make her feel like chopped liver so people can cherish him about how great husband and dad he is.
And not, he’s no doing anything special, he’s just being a dad, changing diapers and soothing the baby is the most normal thing to do if you’re actually the dad, nothing to clap about…
I love Abby and started watching the videos because of her and I know so many of us are here because of her and not because of his horrible personality and annoying voice.
Abby, you’re a great mom and don’t let anyone make you feel less, I hope one day you can run away from that narcissist that never grew up!
@@juanaescalante3119 Thank you! YOU NAILED UT
My partner always handed baby off to me to soothe. I feel like the boob was the fix all haha. However, babies are less needy, fussy with their fathers sometimes because they don’t smell your milk. I’m glad you feel so good Abby because you look amazing!! Good for you 👏🏻 You’re absolutely incredible parents, both of you! xox
Pelvic floor therapy is another great option to ensure core health. Your pelvic floor is so important and should be a requirement for all new Moms because of the pain/ bladder, back issues that a weak pelvic floor can cause. Best of luck with the surgery! And Griffin is adorable 🥰
What is this about I’ve never heard of it
It’s probably because Matt narrates these, but be careful with the “baby likes it better when I” brags. Feelings will get hurt.
Dude stop being so critical of your wife. It's not cute and she is suffering because of it.
I feel so bad for Abby that she gets to live with such a narcissist like Matt.
Does he ever give her any bonding time with HER baby? They way he wants to be in charge of everything and brag about how perfect dad he is annoys the shit outta me.
Calm down man, let Abby be a mommy and stop wanting to get all the attention.
I mean this in a caring way, but you shouldn't put a blanket on top of the cot, it's not SIDS safe. Take care guys.
I should also add, I was breastfeeding my son on the edge of the bed and fell asleep the way dad was. My son rolled off of me onto the floor and had a brain bleed. He's okay but I felt compelled to let you know that it happens and try not to fall asleep on the edge of the bed with him!
Same thought crossed my mind. Never sleep with babies like that …
There is such shame around the postpartum body and I have no idea why! And there's always an assumption and a fear that just because a new mother's body will be different, it will be ugly, and that is so NOT TRUE. To all mamas: the changes you went through are a badge of honour: you gave that child life and you brought him or her into the world. You went through all of that because you love your child so much. As long as a new mother takes good care of herself, she will be beautiful, even if she looks different than before. It's no surprise that Abby is looking great.
I hope everything goes well! Keeping you in my prayers
When our son starting getting colic he only wanted my husband to soothe him. And then again at 6 months during teething he only wants his dad 😂 I felt the same way as you did Abby but at 6 months I was able to sleep through the night while hubby stayed up with him to put him to sleep 😂
Just an FYI, please don’t take this in a bad way bc I only care about Griffins safety, but babies are supposed to be rear facing until they are at least a year old. I’m a postpartum nurse, it can be really bad for his neck if you need to slam on the brakes .
I am so happy to hear you will be talking with a lactation consultant to make sure you’re not given any misinformation on whether or not you can still feed griffin post-op. Everything is going to go great! You’ll be back to 100% before you know it! You’re such amazing parents!
You can breastfeed after being put down but make sure to inform them for the medicines afterwards so they write a proper prescription
Totally! We talk to our doctor about literally everything. I think that's a new parent thing haha
I had surgery on my leg and was on Percocet after and my midwife and pediatrician said I could still breastfeed but my surgeon told me not to but I went of the pediatrician recommendation
This!! They can provide breastfeeding safe medications!
My hubby has 2 hernias, one has been repaired and we’re waiting on the second, various reasons. Keep a firm pillow available to hold against your stomach for little coughs, sneezes or just breathing. It helps
holy smokes, Matt hits that baby hard burping him. Poor little guy. No wonder he pukes
Please take the blankets off the crib.. blocks out light... blocks out AIR
Matt's appreciation for Abby is so backhanded as if women get ugly after birth.
Abby, I read that babies fall asleep better on dads chest because there’s less tissue and they can hear their heart beating and their breathing better than they can on moms chest. You’re doing great!
My little boy is also stuck on his dad,he’s 6 months now❤️❤️
You’re doing fine. Babies will go back and forth on who they want the most! Mat seems like he’s always moving him and maybe he likes that right now!
You had 45 stitches, tearing, separated abs and 2 hernias - you need to give yourself time to heal!!
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Is it just me or does the baby have hiccups 🥹
So cute
For god sake keep tht baby in a Normal position sometime? 🙄
Why do you hold the baby that way and burp him like that, just curious because I’ve never that.
Hope you feel better! Don’t worry! You are doing great! I just wanted to take the time to say - Thank you for talking about your experiences! People think giving pregnant and giving birth is a breeze. Your being real is awesome! I had tendinitis, muscle distasis, retina problems that needed laser to fix and lot more issues that I still suffer with years later.
Griffin is just so adorable 😍 you just wanna look at him for hours. I'm so scared about giving birth again. 😫 Have 1 son but I'm having twins this time. 😍
I had to get my gallbladder out 3 weeks postpartum, it was so hard! Because of the laparoscopic surgery, I feel like my insides didn’t quite heal right and I’m still way more flabby than I’d like to be. You got this though girl! Being a mama is the best thing ever, and having a baby boy is the biggest blessing! Praying for you! 💙
I got my gallbladder removed due to digestive issues. The recovery process was hell. I couldn’t imagine just giving birth and then going through that. Happy your doing better ♥️
Got my gallbladder removed 3months postpartum and man did I take it easy afterwards! Who knew such a small intestine could cause so much pain! Hope everything works out for you! ❤️
Maybe urve Been overdoing things physically which is what alot of people who care about u on here said to u but I'm glad ur listening to ur doc at least. Let urself heal a little and maybe slow ur pace a little 🤷♀️ . U two race to the gym so much like u have a fear to relax 😱
I just had surgery a couple weeks ago for an umbilical hernia after having a baby last year! I had never had surgery before either and wasn’t expecting a difficult recovery since it was just a couple small incisions, so Just a heads up that it takes a lot out of you! It’s hard as a mom to not be able to lift your baby as much as you want or really do much around the house! I recommend arranging ahead of time if you have friends close by who can bring you dinner for week or so or can come by once a day and help out with things! That’s how long it took me to feel almost back to normal. I know Matt’s there but you have a newborn and it’s not easy to handle everything! Don’t be too scared to ask for help! Good luck guys, you’re doing awesome!
Rub in slow circles In the middle of back one way and then go the other way and it should help them to burp easier it does work once in a while you get one child it’s just a hard Burper
My wife was in labour for 26 hours my son arrived happy and healthy I was so stoked. Then I got the news my wife had to go back into surgery before leaving the hospital. 5 days later I’m at home with my new born my adopted 5 year old nephew and no wife. Zero sleep in almost 10 days by time she was released from hospital. They say things happen to make you stronger and I’d have to say that’s 100% true stay strong
Handle it. You are a parent.
@@conniepfannerstill817 stay humble. You don't have a life i think.
You are doing great. Best wishes.
I was born with hernia to. When I was five years old I had to get surgery on my belly button because that was where am I hernia was. BTW I help you recover fast and I hope Griffin is doing well!😁
So daddies are able to sooth their babies more easily for breastfeeding mamas for a simple reason. Daddy doesn’t smell like food! Don’t let it irk you too much. It’s totally normal! ♥️
Your baby soothes better with hubby cause he doesn’t smell like you. Baby smells you and wants food. Mom of 6 here and all my babies are better for my hubby.
I had a friend who rang me in absolute tears a month after having her first baby. She was a single mum at the time. I rushed over there and she told me her son never slept. She could never get him to settle. The only time he slept was when he was literally exhausted from crying and being awake for so long. But he'd wake up as soon as she was near. As soon as I picked him up he settled and went to sleep. I'm not going to lie She cried even harder. She felt like such a failure. But the reason he wouldn't settle was because every time she was near him he wanted to feed. He could literally smell her when she was in the room. So I would go over there and sit with him or take him out for a few hours so she could sleep. She eventually decided to stop breastfeeding which broke her heart but she didn't have a Matt. Just try to know you're doing a great job being able to feed your child from your body and that Matt can help him sleep. Xx
Hey Abby! Imagine if Griffin was cranky with Matt- you have this designated job that only you can do as his mom right- feeding him. I feel it’s tough for Dads to feel that special especially when it’s their first time being a parent. So it’s better this way😜 plus, you will appreciate this better in sometime when he will be running around and you will LONG for personal time! Believe me I have an 17 month old, I know!
Please be mindful of that mesh with the surgery. I've heard horror stories of it causing chronic pain and issues for people after surgery.
Eek I had surgery in June and they gave me a mesh.:(
@@nicolesadventureswithfullb3742 I hope you have made a full recovery. I guess it depends on the person but there has been lawsuits against Johnson and Johnson the makers of the mesh
Right now with everything you have going on Abby, Matt is probably calmer inside why he can soothe the baby easier. You probably have nervous energy you don't notice. Your a great mom! I'm sure your surgery will go well!
My 9 month old cries and crawls after my husband every time he leaves for work. When I leave he doesn't even notice 😭 He also laughs wayy more for him. Definitely feel the same as you Abby!
My 4 year old daughter cries when I leave and then daddy says but you get to hang out with me and she starts singing “Miya and Daddy time. Woohoo. We can party with mommy gone.”
@@bkessinger94 too cute!!
I hope everything goes well during and after surgery. You got this Abby!!
When you breast feed
Try to have his head higher than his tummy
This will help the burping issue ❤️
I definitely felt this way too! My first would scream if I was holding him & not nursing but dad would hold him & he’d be out. My second isn’t like that at all, he’s def more of a mamas boy (even more than the first) super clingy & im actually able to put him to sleep without nursing lol hang in there mama! There’s still hope 😂🤍🤍
Sometimes babies cries more with their mom because it feels safer to cry and express feeling with someone who love you inconditionnaly !
Looks like Matt is suffocating the baby by having his hand against baby's mouth with the pacifier sounds like baby has hiccups and can't breath shouldn't hold him like that with pacifier forced to stay in baby's mouth.
Abbie are u ok
You got this Abby!! I went to physical therapy four months postpartum for diastasis recti and my abbs came back together full strength! Also, I totally get the dad soothing thing. My girl was also so calm for her dad when she was a baby and now that she’s two, dad is the only that she’ll let brush her teeth and trim her nails 😒 she’ll freak out if I try to do it 😭
Diastasis my Dr said don't worry about until I'd stopped breastfeeding coz the hormones can stop it from healing together....so after a year of feeding, and then finishing feeding, it did heal on it's own.
I've had diastisis recti since I got pregnant and I didn't know that's what that was until I did some intensive research and checked for it. Unfortunately I've been living with it for 13 years and have to wait even longer to eventually get surgery. It worries me when I do workouts bc it could cause hernias and all kinds of other issues. I'm glad that your getting your hernias and diastisis taken care of. I'll be praying for your recovery!
As soon as I saw it I was like “yup def an umbilical hernia”. I hope all goes well! My dad just had surgery for 2 hernias recently which were caused by complications after having his colon cancer surgery to remove the affected area and surrounding lymph nodes. He’s doing great and I know you will too!
What is a umbilical hernia?
It’s basically part of the intestine coming through the abdominal muscles at your “belly button” area or umbilicus. You usually need a surgical repair if it is growing or becomes significantly bothersome. But she could get it from trauma during her delivery.
Matt, do you even own a shirt?? Why the constant need to post yall's videos without taking 10 seconds to put on a simple t-shirt? I'm from the south, where we're taught that men should have a shirt on around women unless we're at the pool, beach, etc. It's just good manners. When you post, you're coming into our homes. Please be respectful. Is Abby going to start walking around in her underwear? 😳
I've been subbed to you for ages, and thought that eventually you'd figure it out on your own, but....
Question for Abby:
How did you find motivation to workout postpartum/do you have any advice to get back into the gym after a baby? I am 6 months postpartum and I’ve tried to get the motivation, but I am just struggling so bad. My entire body hurts all day every day and I used to love working out so much, but I just can’t get the motivation. Idk if it’s lack of sleep or what but I just constantly feel exhausted and lazy.
Start small. Short walk in the neighbourhood, try an online free class (RUclips has heaps!) Of like stretching / yoga / Pilates type things. Body weight only. Join a gym and have a personal trainer help. Don't forget to give yourself grace, having a child is a big change.
I was the same I would say dont feel like everyone "bounces" back in 6wks its good that abby feels she wants to workout but dont let SM pressure into feeling insecure. The thing is with influencers like this family the dad is around to help out alot more most dads are back at work and the mums doing everything all day thats tiring give your body time to recover x
Agree with previous comment. My husband works 12-16 hour days outside of the home. It's so much harder for those of us who aren't youtubers. Nothing against them. It's just not the reality for majority of us.
@@RybugAndBros yh thats tough almost like being a single a parent
I just c ur video .. and on 16th aug i went in to OT for my gallbladder surgery (laparoscopic) and when i got conscious in icu.. surgeon told me that i had hernia too so they operate it too .. i was surprised about it but more thankful as they prevent me having one more round of Operation theatre as i already had 3 cs and then GBS +hernia..ohhh man .... we women can do any thing ... 🥰🥰🥰🥰
Awe poor Abby, getting emotional. Your emotions brought back memories of emotions i used to feel especially after having a baby. My kids are older now 15, 13 and 11 and what you are feeling is completely normal. I do remember going through that as well. You are doing a great job and your baby loves you ❤️ also you look amazing girl! Wow! Happy you are taking care of yourself 💞
Maybe look into blackout shades rather than a blanket over the bassinet just to be safe! 🥰🥰🥰 would hate to see any freak accident happen to sweet Griffin
With your abs being separated if you plan to have more kids from what my wife had been told they will separate again. So you may look into that before so you don't have to get surgery for that multiple times.
Why does he hold the baby by the neck?!? Never Seen him just hold his baby by his body; Babies need that skin to skin contact and he’s always holding the baby away from himself like he doesn’t want to touch him… It’s so weird!
When Matt and Abby were sitting together talking about Abby’s surgery I kept zoning out listening to baby Griffin’s little hiccups and watching him as his eyes kept looking to the camera
So cute!
I stead of pumping and dumping you could always save the milk to add to babies bath, really great for his skin
Your such great parents....I think it is so cool that Matt can soothe Griffin and the way he handles the baby is wonderful...Like Matt said Abby breast feeds and he feels happy that he can do something to soothe the baby..Just keep doing what you do your Wonderful Parents..
Matt I screamed when I saw your brother wearing a Molina jersey🚨🚨
#gocards
Yes my almost 4 month old usually soothes better with his daddy then me but it's because I usually have to work or house chores so he has him more often 😅. It's sad but just be glad it works and your able to have a bit of a break.
They will go through mommy and daddy phases! It’s totally normal!:) Praying for your surgery! Love you guys!
Just a PSA….try not to put anything over his head that could cause suffocation. I know Matt was in the room, but things can happen fast. (ER nurse) you guys are great parents! You can do light blocking curtains instead!
I saw that too. Such a danger!
AVOID mesh if at all possible.
That stuff has caused more problems than not.
I had an Inguinal Hernia- L lower abdomen.
You literally must heal from the inside. I took it seriously (I’m also a trained Advanced level (all) Pilates Instructor and Gyrotonic/Gyrokinesis )
Especially, if you’re going to get pregnant again.
For us I struggled getting my boys to sleep but my wife could get them to calm down. With our daughter I'm the only one that can calm her down. So it depends on the child if it makes you feel any better :)
SCOTTSDALE, ARIZONA??????? only the home of my favorite author EVER!!!! Diana Gabaldon. Sorry geeked out a bit there when you said that.
Just wanna say this is one of the first times I have seen a couple where the guy is so involved with the baby. This is how it should be. I love how Matt is taking up responsibility. And it's crazy that that isn't the norm.
They make a living showing family content. One or both aren't gone a big chuck of time each day. You can't compare family channels to most other people
Hes being cocky af about it too its disgusting
I had to fight my husband to try to change the babes diaper! Luckily we had twins so we each had our own baby. Haha
You need to hold Griffin close to your body!! Why does Matt hold him so strangely?? Poor Griffin. 😪
I feel you girl, 2 months after I had baby boy I had to get surgery to have my gallbladder removed. And that’s after having a C-Section 🥴
Same. I was worries if I would be able to get back to breastfeeding after that, but luckily it got back to normal within a couple of days. Good Luck, Abby!
Griffin loves you both!!!
Trust me soon Griffin is only going to want mom...
Take that from a mother of 4 boys!!!
My son was always calmed by his daddy in the early months because I was way stressed and had little sleep. Now at 18 months old, my son only wants me. Kids go through phases and you will have your time. Trust me. Lol. I noticed the blanket on his crib during the nap and I relate to the struggle of making the room dark enough! I have found blackout shades and blackout curtains helps babies sleep better and longer! 💕
I wonder why they would put mesh there if you are going to have more children? My friend’s doctor told her to wait until she was completely done having children. The mesh might not allow for proper stretching if pregnant. 🤷🏻♀️
Abby, you are strong! Don’t be stressed ! I pray your surgery will go well and it will! God bless you!
No it’s completely normal to have the dad and the baby bond sometimes even more than the mother and the baby to because usually the baby is going to be connected to the Dad🏋🏻♂️ for the diapers sometimes and for the milk feeding bottlefeeding and my dad was always the one that was a baby whisperer because he helped me fall asleep just by rocking me and telling me to be quiet calmly whenever I was a baby so I definitely loved him for that
My aunt just had two hernias put back…. It’s a big surgery. Not anything light like the doctors like to portray. She had draining tubes too which makes it that much more intense. Will be praying over you in the weeks to come for this surgery! 💛
I completely relate to my child soothes better with my husband!! I honestly cry some days because I put so much effort into him all day everyday and my husband takes him for five minutes and he stops crying 😂
I have the exact same hernia in the exact same spot and a very similar story (exact in fact) during my 1st pregnancy is when it grew etc etc. Long story short after meeting with a number of surgeons I was told not to have it repaired until I was finished having children because it would burst open during second or third pregnancies. If you plan on being pregnant again I would hold off until you are finished having children and then have it repaired. Mention this to your surgeon before going through with it. If you have it fixed now it will only get even worse next time you're pregnant. My hernia gets huge when pregnant but doesn't bother me as much not pregnant, I'm currently pregnant with my last baby and will be getting it fixed afterwards. Good luck!
Ps: you are tapping his back with a little force it may seam alright to you but to him it's pretty strong try patting his back small light taps ♥️♥️♥️
Ive never been more disgusted by a guy and how he acts towards his wife pp