Just got back from Paris from Portugal with my autistic son. The EU is very inclusive and with proof of disability, museums are free with a companion. Although Nov. is not peak season, the Louvre is still busy. I am short and I think the guard could see it was difficult for me with my son and this woman in front of me was being so selfish with her time taking selfies of the Mona Lisa. . The guard pushed over to me and ushered my family to the side and then opened up the red velvet barrier so my rock star son could stand in directly in front of Mona and really see the art .. I with never forget that kindness and most awesome moment. My thanks Paris for a wonderful trip. I did go to the Cafe Commerce and again it was a great tip from Les Frenchies.
Well, i don't remember this about Paris, but in Toulouse you MUST watch out for bikes, scooters etc of any type totally ignoring things like red lights. Especially at night when they sometimes have no lights.
I'm Parisian and I had a similar experience in Le Louvre. My son was in wheelchair because he was sick and without asking anything, the guard took us past the crowd and we were able to take a family photo alone with Mona Lisa! This is why I love my city! I live in Berlin now and I miss Paris.
@elliemason9736 Formidable! That is so typical of both the French and the Italians. I am disabled and use a cane on the days l can walk. Every time in Rome, Naple, Florence, and Venice, a guard at the entrance to museums would either wave me up to the door or come, take my arm and walk me to the door and help me enter!! This past trip to Paris was the first time l was there being disabled and every single museum treated me as though l were royalty! Even the cafés were very nice, and the three that we adored, we went to one or two of them daily. Often we stopped at 5:00p.m. just for a coffee creme after a long day, and at all three, l was treated as their long-lost grandmere! The greeting, the double la bis (cheek kiss), and taken directly to a table right past waiting patrons. Almost every time l was seated at my favorite/easy access table, a few times even after patrons were already seated there and got moved!!! I am so happy that you and your son had such a wonderful experience. People say the French are rude, but you, your son, and l know better! They just believe in basic politeness. But always go to lovely lengths for elderly or disabled people. Americans often behave just the opposite. Rude, demanding, and usually without a greeting. Then, treating those of us who need and/or appreciate a little kindness as if we are invisible! I hope you have more trips with many caring people everywhere! 💗 Bon voyage!
@@bigreddallas2742 it's really cool, but the sad truth is that we learned to be extra-helpful with people having a disability because in france cities and buildings invest very little in disability-friendly infrastructure... For example if someone in a wheelchair wants to take the subway, he will have to get carried in the many stairs... which is almost impracticable... PS: Sorry, didn't mean to be negative, just to point the fact that Paris and other big french cities are really underequipped for people in a wheelchair...
Wait a minute! I accidentally put it on mute and thought they were talking about NYC, Chicago or gosh anywhere else! Great advice for good manners all over the world. Bravo!
In America we have so many different cultures and are expected to bow to their cultures and we’re even taught that we have to be polite and culturally correct for them. I went to Paris and was treated very rudely even though my husband was American French. We did speak some French to them. Go figure!
Very good tips. I'd like to add which I'd label as 7a: Do not wear your backpack in the Métro or train when standing in a crowded area. You not only increase your risk of pickpocket but it is damn annoying when you swing around and knock everyone in their front because your backpack is sticking out. ALWAYS take your backpack off and carry it at your feet before you enter the train.
I was in Paris last fall, friendly people everywhere. My trip was fabulous. Saying Bonjour upon entering an establishment breaks the ice. Lovely city. I will return.
Thanks for touching on influencers hogging the space at a site! We went the Musee de l’Orangerie, and this girl and her photographer took hundreds of pictures in front of each of the water lily panels. It hard for those of us who just wanted a couple of photos and then tried to sit and enjoy the panels. It was hard to enjoy the room and the artwork.
We were just there this spring and I was surprised at how many people think that a painting, that we all want to see, is just a background for their posts. They seem to have no awareness of how their posing & preening directly in front of a painting or sculpture is no way to share in an art space. I got tired of waiting for them to move and ended up getting in their pictures with them. Having a 70+ yo lady in their shot seemed to get them to move on.
So glad you mentioned the locks! So annoying to see them popping up everywhere, damaging such gorgeous bridges fences etc… even people who’ve obviously taken locks with the engraved with their names, shame on you!
After getting off the train in Aix-les-Bains and walking into town, it was about 14:00 when I sat down at the cafe next to the laundromat. I asked in French if it was too late for lunch and they replied that of course, it was. There was a hint of annoyance in their tone because we both knew that lunch is served from noon to two. I ordered a beer and waited for my laundry. After about 15 minutes, the server said they could make me a bavette. I thanked them and said that I appreciated it. They went above and beyond because I was polite and accepted that I was too late for their schedule. Lunch was delicious. The French respond to courtesy and respect with kindness and a desire to help. During my 20-day vacation, I met only one rude person (not counting tourists). I can't wait to go back.
Great story! Courtesy does go a long way. I wonder (out of curiosity only) if the entire interaction was spoken in French, and if you believe that had anything to do with it? (I'm currently not able to speak - and respond in kind with that much French.)
@@jillschaefer1360 Yes, the entire conversation was in French. Outside the tourist areas, fewer people speak English. At least fewer people offer to speak it. Even if you do not speak French, learn a few key phases and download the dictionary for your translation app.
I can't believe the amount of tourists I saw in this vídeo! I lived in Paris in the 60s & 70s and don't remember even noticing tourists around, even in the Louvre or on the Champs Elysées or in the Quartier Latin.
I loved my experience in Paris. Friendly people, helpful; and they love when you make the effort to speak the language no matter how bad you butcher it😁 I could tell by the smiles I received.
Excellent advice!!! The tip about "merci" and "bonjour" is a game-changer. I agree, most Americans complaining about rude Parisians is because they don't use those two simple words.
I'm a native Chicagoan. I was walking in downtown Chicago once. Some American tourists shouted at me, from almost a block away, in a sort of sketchy area where I didn't feel especially safe: "HEY! HOW DO YOU GET TO THE ART INSTITUTE?" I immediately understood Parisians. Was I supposed to stop walking in the other direction and go to explain it to them? Shout back at them?
Bonjour Colleen & Antoine! I was just in Paris & Normandy a month ago & while my French is dismal, I DID learn to say “Je suis désolé, je ne parle pas bien français” as well as Bonjour, Merci, & s’il vous plaît. It certainly helped in a few situations & one lovely lady told me “…but you said that so well!” This was another very helpful video! Merci beaucoup!
I had a French airline employee compliment my very competent 'bonjour!' and ask what other French I knew when I was checking in to go home. Funniest compliment I got during the whole trip. LOL
These are things that should annoy people anywhere. My wife and I have been to Paris several times. We have found the people there to be tremendously accommodating and helpful. My French is not that good, but any effort is appreciated by the locals. Sometimes we cringe at loud and insensitive people from our own country. Thank you for all the great videos.
"Move to the side" is a forgotten courtesy esp in Vancouver with groups of people standing in the middle of sidewalks blocking the way of seniors and others. Mom and Grandma taught me this at a young age. It's common sense.
I recently went to Paris for my first time. I was able to go for eight days in October. It was the best time of my life. My rockstar husband stayed home with my children and we had childcare and I was able to go with my sister and my mom and a group of women. My sister has been multiple times before and part of it is business for her, so I got the full rundown of what to expect And honestly, knowing all of those things made my trip so much better and I was able to ease in to the everyday life there almost effortlessly. It was so much fun. And everything the two of you say about the city and what to expect is absolutely spot on. All I can think about now is how to go back with my family. In a perfect world, we would figure out a way to stay in France for three months. I love your channel.
Finally, the truth : Parisians (and French in general) are considered arrogant and rude, when a simple analysis reveals that they are just far more polite than those who criticise them.
It's true. Americans are on a hair trigger to label any behavior as "rude" meaning they dislike it, they don't understand it, it frustrates their wants or it makes them feel bad about themselves. It's got little to do with actual breaches of good manners.🙄
I learned on my recent trip to Paris that not only do you say bonjour going into shops and restaurants, but also getting on the bus to the bus driver! After I sat down, I saw locals getting on and greeting the bus driver each time. Yikes! I was sure to say bonjour every time after that.
I always say 'bonjour', but it makes so much sense to take it further. Thank you for this simple tip. As a side note, I found when I lived in Canada that this custom is also imperative to follow when visiting Quebec.
Do not think that parisians are "complicated". We are not. Simply, do not behave as if you were alone and the center of the universe in public places, subway : Don't block the way, don't block stairs, don't block subway exits etc. Paris is one of the most visited capital city in Europe. We are used to see tourists everywhere in the city and we like them. We don't care how tourists are dressed. In restaurants take your time, lunch and dinner are not a timed olympic competition in France. The bill will never come until you request it. Lunch time 12 PM to 2 PM. Dinner time 8 PM to 10 PM (you can stay longer if you wish). Don't expect to be served a lunch if you show up at 4 PM : there is probably nobody anymore in the kitchen !
I agree manners and respect are everything . It even makes upset in America . I work at a dental center and shake my head when I see disrespectful people . Be nice and kind everyone .
I’ve seen tourists making rude comments about France/French people in English in front of the French assuming they don’t speak English. Talk about embarrassing.
I am a Brit living in Normandie. I assure you this also happens the other way around. I speak French but when out with my husband we naturally speak English to each other. People who overhear us then assume we don't understand the rude and unkind comments they are making.
@@lechatel Same thing happened when I was in Normandy. I find that Parisians are a bit more friendly because they are used to tourists but when I was in Normandy they were not as kind. I remember one time I was ordering a galette at a Creperie in Normandy I spoke to them in French (I have been a French immersion student for eight years) and the owner rolled her eyes at my French like it wasn’t good enough and said “You know I speak English, right?” Which I thought was really rude.
I’m just back from spending a week in Paris. Loved it. I found all the French people I spoke to very friendly. I done my part by learning some key phrases, and of course the bonjour and merci. Even if I ended up butchering what I was trying to say, they really appreciated me trying and they would jump in to save the day haha. I would try and better my basics when I would hand in my hotel key at the receptions. Always met with a “very good” haha. Don’t be scared to try, people will appreciate the effort.
I am French and well-traveled ; your advices are very good, not only for France. What a lot of people do not realize is that behaving respectfully does transform the visit and allows enjoying it much more!
My husband listened to this video from the other room as I was watching it and made several comments of “right?!” and “exactly” and an emphatic “yes!” to the influencer one 😊
Funny you should mention. I ate at a nice pasty shop, I had a coffee and croissant. There were no customers in the shop. But the pastries and cakes looked so lovely. I wanted to take a photo.The shop was called Maison Gregoire. Nice guy and a girl work there been there twice now actually. But I asked if it were ok if i taken a photo of thr pastries.. They were very nice about it. The young girl said yes but she moved out of the shot and seemed really shy. But both of them were genuinely nice people. It got me though how shy she was, so i am very glad i asked first. But you got to appreciate other people's personal space and privacy no matter where you are.
Your tips helped me when I arrived in Paris and other French cities. During my stay in Paris I had a great deal of difficulty that was happening in the US. My Parisian friend, the Paris Police and other people really stood by me and helped through a difficult situation. They were far more concerned than people in the US. I was so amazed at how supportive they are to others. I can’t tell you how much Paris and France means to me. Respect is something that you do everywhere not just in Paris. I am so thankful that after leaving Paris that respect that became part of my daily life has worked everywhere. ❤ Paris and France. Mercí.
@LesFrenchies. You forgot ONE very important annoyance. People playing music on their phones or portable speakers!!!!!!! Wear headsets and earbuds instead!!!!!!!!!!!
Everytime, I think, I'll just watch for a few seconds, but end up watching the whole videos! Well done! Basic courtesy that was never learnt or passed on to younger generations.
From Japan. I agree totally. There was an incident , an English speaking tourist came to a convini in Japan and relly got mad at a Japanese worker for not being able to speak English . Also, suggest everyone to put you backpack in front of you rather than on your back so you can avoid hitting people around you when you are on busy metro.
I’m about to leave Paris tomorrow and I wouldn’t have made this trip if I didn’t watched any of your videos. They informed me very well and although we missed a day (because of the snow) we had a lot of fun on the other two. My wife, my daughter and I will try to come back in about 2 years when the weather is nicer for sure. Thank you for your content. FYI: I live in Miami so I know that change from South Florida to here must be a big one!
As always, a great video. Thank you. These are great tips for NYC and DC, too, where we get lots of tourists. In DC, we have the same problem with visitors blocking the escalators in the Metro, stopping suddenly to take selfies everywhere, being reckless on bicycles and scooters, and being loud and demanding in restaurants, etc.
Was just there a month ago. We're very polite and always learn as much of the local language ss possible. "Please" and "thank you" in the local language plus a smile do wonders. I found Parisians, and the French people in general, were awesome!
We were in Paris in October (first time) and luckily we did none of these things LOL. We found Parisians to be absolutely lovely and one woman helped my husband who didn’t get off the Metro fast enough navigate his way back to where I had gotten off. What a wonderful city.
We went to Musée de l'Orangerie in September and tried to quietly appreciate the art. Much to our chagrin, far too many narcissistic tourists (we were also tourists) just HAD to pose on front of Monet's works for their social media accounts. Some were taking selfies and quite a number of them employed local photographers. It pissed me off and I asked one of the employees why they weren't enforcing the "No Selfie" and "Please be quiet and respectful" rules. Sadly, they've been told not to enforce the rules. I sound like a grumpy old man with each passing day.
My daughters and I visited Paris this past September. I’ll admit I’ve never really wanted to visit Paris however I have to say I am so glad I did. We stayed close to Eiffel Tower and the Arc D Triumphe and had a wonderful visit. The City was clean, safe and welcoming.
Bonus item: asking to over personalise your menu item at a restaurant. you can ask to hold the sauce or the Chantilly, ask for olive oil to add to taste, but don't reinvent thee chef's salad. It's made that way for a reason!
I was with a guided tour on bicycle today. I am Dutch and might disagree what the tour guide considered a bicycle lane and agree with the Parisians. We arrived on Friday at gare du Nord. During the hotel transfer by bus to the hotel in the 15th arrondissement we noticed some really unsafe cycling situations where cars almost drove over cyclists when turning right. Cycling I. Paris is getting safer and better but it is nowhere near the Netherlands or Kopenhagen. Watch out. For the rest, I live in a city loved by tourists myself . Thanks again for your wonderful videos . I will be at the Marché Grenelle this Sunday, today, because of your videos.
Thank you so much for all your awesome videos! We just came back from Paris and had the best time ever. We binged almost all your videos and owe 95% of our trip to your fantastic suggestions. Thanks again. Your loyal subscribers ❤
My husband and I were in Paris for three weeks, really enjoying being "Parisienne" I have knee problems and had difficulty getting out of cabs..the floor of the cab is really low. One time the cabbies got out of the cab to help me out! We just laughed. Completely unexpected. Also going up and down public stairways, people would ask if I needed help! Time for the knee replacements!
Bonjour Antoine and Colleen. Thanks for teaching me to say “Bonjour “ wherever I go. I now try to do that everywhere. Paris, or the equivalent in other countries. Even at home. Merci for the life lesson😊
Great video. I am in my 70s and walk with a cane. On the metro in Paris I have never had anyone give up their seat to me. In fact I have had many French speaking young people push by me to take a seat I was walking to.
My experience is exactly the opposite. When I was in my seventies, I often had people offer me their seat on the Paris Metro and RER. And I do not look that old. I've now reached my '80s, and even young women were offering me their seat this last Fall. You know you're getting old when...
@@TheoAndropolis Hmm, in my 80's, but I'd give my seat to a 20-year old who needed a cane. I'm also reminded how you really have to brace yourself with your legs as those cars can lurch about.
I was in London recently and twice had young people offer me their seat on the 'tube'. Also later on the tram in Manchester. I must look old and tired!! 🤣
MERCI mille fois 🙏 En tant que Parisienne tout est vrai dans votre vidéo et ces comportements sont relous par momebt Merci encore et prenez soin de vous ❤
sans parler des " frotteurs " dans le métro, ces types qui se frottent la braguette contre vous (parfois le zizi sorti ...) , un cauchemar pour la jeune fille Parisienne que je fus ... ces " frotteurs " sont bien connus de la Police mais se font rarement prendre , zizi vite rentré dans la braguette : no prove ! wonder, je me demande si c'est pareil dans métros New-Yorkais ? !! and ... do you know WHAT ? : one day in a Restaurant on the Champs Elysées , an american young couple sat next to us, very near, tables touching- and they were speaking VERY loud, my hustand and I couldn"t even talk together, so ... I decided to SHOUT to him, normal topic conversation " what are you going to have on the menu my love, etc..." and reading the menu SHOUTING , the US young couple immediately STOPPED talking staring at us ! as soon as they tried to shout again, I shouted at my husband - believe me ... they didn"t add a word for the rest of the dinner ! and left rather quick ...
Thanks for this. I think this guide would apply anywhere! I love it when people say Hello and Thank You even in the other tourist capitals ( San Francisco, New York, London) Thank you for putting this out.
I am so grateful for your content! I will be traveling to Paris for the first time in March - solo! And I am eating up everything you put out. Thank you!!!! I just (purchased your guides plus the solo female travel guide)! Merci!
I appreciate the social graces expected in Paris. That’s one of the pluses when I am here (in fact I’m here now :). When I return home to the USA, I notice the lack of courtesy and then I start to miss Paris even more! Merci for your insight!
Merci pour ces conseils qui vont peut-être permettre aux parisiens de mieux supporter les millions de touristes qui visitent la ville. Et ces conseils valent pour toutes les villes !
Not saying “Emily in Paris” is great Art, but it’s funny that he says “Emily in Paris is complete fantasy” but then he says a lot of things that are also part of the show-use basic polite manners, respect working hours, don’t talk too loud, learn a few basic French words, honor the French way when in France. Good video. I miss France.
I've visited Paris a dozen times and have never encountered the stereotype of rude Parisians. Politeness and respect is definitely key. I just returned from a trip last week. I am learning French and always tried to order and respond in French. Wait staff always seemed delighted (and amused) at my attempts at French. Great tips!
I’ve visited Paris several times and always had a wonderful time. What we’re taking about is having good manners, self-awareness and common sense. These things translate everywhere!
Just found your channel and loving it. I absolutely agree with everything here. I’m English and my daughter is studying in Paris so i visit a lot. She is fluent in French and im absolutely not! She insists i start the initial greetings in French as it’s the correct thing to do and I haven’t come across a rude French person yet. I love the culture, i love how you greet the shop keeper immediately with a Bonjour and the polite way to leave with a Merci, bonne journee and au revoir. They must think the English are so rude as we dont do this in England. They are very cultured and polite. Loving your videos so far, watching whilst currently in Paris. ❤ Oh and i was so embarrassed yesterday, i went to see Notre Damn and the number of people taking selfies and videos with no real interest in the building itself….
*Synopsis: Have manners, resect and common sense!!!* This applies to everywhere in the world, stop being fools and bozos in public. NOT being critical of this channel, not by any means. I think this channel is great and will hopefully result in better behavior everywhere! 🙂
I was in Paris 10/19/24-11/4, my 6th visit, friends joined me for their 2nd visit and my sis had her 1st visit. I sent them your videos to watch to make sure they about not being rude Americans. I found more restaurants asking us to add a tip or adding one automatically. I questioned a waiter and he said the included service was for the restaurant and our tip was for him. The next one, and I’m naming them, Cafe Marley at the Louvre, told us we forgot to tip him. In 2022 the waiter at Marley did the same thing. I told my friends that if the wait staff are extra then tip, and we would leave in Euros or, if just standard service we’d round up. We went for dinner cruise on Le Calife-fantastic! We did night ride in Citroen with Authentic. Wonderful. We dined at Chez Rene, Cafe St Germaine. Both delightful and wait staff lovely. Unexpectedly saw The French Bastards across from St Germaine and bought their last caramel eclairs for breakfast the next day. I wanted to slap someone they were perfection. You had to split one in thirds they were so rich and decadent. We rented a huge apartment in the 1st where we stayed 2 years ago, looking down at Angelina’s back door. We walked past the lines of tourists at Cedric Grolet and Angelina’s shaking our heads in amazement. Thank you for your guide and helpful videos. We had one planned event every other day and went back to some of my favorite restaurants, shops, gardens, sidewalk cafes, places on my list I’d missed before, more classes at Le Cordon Bleu, people watching, picnics, trying new cheeses and wines, early morning Uber rides to different bakeries in the mornings and as we have to do every trip, a Batoboat ride. Thankfully, we made dinner reservations because we watch people being turned away. We couldn’t get reservations at a lot of restaurants. I’ve always visited Paris in October and have never seen it so crowded and unable to get reservations at restaurants. I hope it’s a good thing for Paris. Merci!
It's illegal to ask for tips even in tourist traps. But they do it anyway because that's mostly foreign tourists they have and they don't talk back, expose them or report them so they take advantage of the situation.
Apparently tourism is back like before Covid or even surpassed that and with climate change we have the nice weather all the way to end of November now. So it must be something the tourists know. Even the French more and more of them go on holidays in September October vs July and August.
I think it was the "Olympic effect", as a lot of people avoided summer because of that, now we are having some unusual crowds (and it was like that also in May/June).
@frenchxican_a There were more tourists in Paris in Summer than ever and every summer the Parisians leave on holidays, making August feeling quite empty. But the only factor the Olympics had was an increase of tourists, 700 000 more tourists than in 2023.
I rennet when I went to France a few months ago and I have been in French immersion classes for eight years at the time so they were very surprised of how well I spoke French. It felt awesome to be able to use this skill in a real world scenario for the first time!
Just back from another wonderful stay in Paris. Went to see Monet's Nymphéas at the Musée de L'Orangerie. As you know, the artist donated these wonderful paintings to a traumatised post-WWI French nation as a place for quiet meditation with seating provided to do just that. Silence is in fact courteously asked for on well-placed signs on the wall. It was simply awful: 90% of people present were not looking at the art on the walls at all, too busy searching for the best background for taking selfies while making the peace sign. I even witnessed a family of tourists with the son taking a pic of the mother while the father was behind them taking a photo of the son taking a photo of the mother!! 🤣 I am not a cranky old woman, just an old woman but I ended up kindly asking two women who were having an animated chat bang in front of one of the panels, blocking the view for others to move on. I sincerely believe that taking pictures should be prohibited. Buy postcards in the boutique afterwards and take a selfie in front of the museum if the need to prove that you were there to those back home is overwhelming. A little quiet respect now and again. There! 😎 And btw the expo "Zombis" in the Musée du Quai Brandy was well worth a visit.
When people start understanding that "politeness" isn't universal and actually cultural, things will improve quite a bit between locals and tourists. American politenes is about being open and nice, it's akin to friendliness. French politeness is about being appropriate and respectful, it's more akin to etiquette.
@@kathybrem880 which is actually hilarious because "fake sentiments of friendliness" is exactly the kind of description French people give when dealing with Americans . If you were a tad more open-minded you'd learn than Frenchmen are very real people with very real smiles too but whatever floats your boat mate
First of your videos I have watched. Everything you have said just seems like good manners and etiquette. I am following you guys now as this was such a nice and informative video.
One annoying thing, not necessarily distinct to Paris but probably happens in Paris frequently due to it's world class museums is people taking photos of themselves in front of paintings and expecting people to wait for their photoshoot to be done. And it's not just one photo they want to take but a series of photos. It seems to be younger people who are posting on instagram. I have a professional camera and I take photos all the time but I never impede people's viewing. The museums are crowded and the purpose is to see the great works of art on display. If you want to take a photo, take it but don't impede other's experience. In this case I got in front of these people to look at the this particular painting. I didn't care I was in their shot. They were annoyed I could tell but too bad. Don't wait for people to take their photos in museums. This was in Musée d'Orsay by the way just this last February
All spot on. Saying “bonjour” and “merci” or “bonne journée” when entering and leaving greatly improves your experience. Speaking even a tiny bit of French will help; even the French people who say they don’t speak English may eventually admit they do speak a little bit, but they don’t think they’re very good. (It’s usually better than my French!) I laughed when you mentioned cutting in line, because I think it’s the French who have trouble queueing; my Parisian cousins told me that’s well known!😂
The French totally have trouble queueing! I remember I was on an airplane flying from the USA, so the plane was 50/50 French and American, and this French couple said to each other, “Isn’t it cute how they actually just stand and wait?” (I am bilingual so I understood). I still think about that and chuckle.
And what really annoys tourists are the scammers, “is this your ring? I found on ground next to you” or handing you a flower then expecting you to give them money. ALL TOTALLY UNACCEPTABLE 😮
Our family of 4 is going to France next month! Paris, Tours, Bordeaux, Dordogne région, and Toulouse! I’ve been watching your videos all year to prepare myself for I took French in high school and college so I feel prepared enough to not be another typical American. I really appreciate your tips and insight!! Allez on y vas!
Your video was a review of the manners I was raised with 70 years ago. I wish we would all return to those manners and life in general would be so much more pleasant for everyone.
OMG. I'm American and I have been to Paris many times BUT did a ton of research prior to my first trip there many years ago. The best trip I ever made to Paris was in the brutal rainy, dark, and cold days of February one year. ZERO tourists wherever I went (including to the Louvre, which I ordinarily would avoid in warmer weather) and even with my sad American accent I made sure everywhere I went I greeted shopkeepers, etc., with a simple Bonjour Madame, or, Bonjour Monsieur and upon leaving any establishment, Au revoir, or, Merci beaucoup. I found nearly everyone speaks English BUT they are as self-conscious as we Americans are about our crummy accents or lack of good vocabulary or proper grammar. I will not divulge my favorite hotel's name BUT it has a dynamite restaurant AND night club in it and despite always leaving the U.S. with long restaurant lists, on most trips I chilled out by returning after a day of running around, changing clothes and going downstairs to the wonderful restaurant and every single meal I had was fabulous. Some of my best meals were in museum restaurants (one especially gone one was downstairs at The Louvre and another is the one at Musée d'Orsay). But there is a reason Americans were labeled many years ago as "The Ugly Americans." Tastelessness and boorish behavior are both inexcusable. The French are very very conscious of manners and other old fashioned traits. It is so inexcusable there OR here in the states. Please do your homework. Start with one of Rick Steves's books or Lonely Planet. Dress appropriately too. I also found the same guidelines are helpful in Germany too. We are NOT the greatest country on Earth. That is rule #1 so if you approach international travel with a snooty attitude, you will be sorely disappointed. Our values and habits are nothing to be proud of in other countries. I love the French and always stay in my fave hotel in an out of the way location, and even shop in the local hardware store for the best prices on all manner of stuff. One trip I needed extra luggage for all my purchases and bought a small rolling piece for only 19€ (at the time that was about $21)....this piece is indestructible and lightweight and 10-12 years later it doesn't even have a dent in it AND the zipper is indestructible. Anywhere else in Paris I would have had to pay at least 100€.
I'm currently enjoying my time in Paris, and I just wanted to express how incredibly helpful your videos have been during my visit. They've really guided me in exploring this beautiful city! ❤️ If you're available, I would absolutely love the opportunity to meet up for a cup of coffee. It would be great to connect and chat in person while I share my experiences in Paris! ☺️
Your videos have seriously calmed my anxiety for my first trip to Paris from food, economy, accommodations and travel mistakes ❤️. I definitely don’t want to be the annoying tourist
Thanks for making these videos. I just got back from a trip to Paris yesterday and used many of your videos to prepare for my trip. Everything went smoothly because I felt ready for the trip. Only issue I had was with the taxi driver on the way to the airport to depart. We used the G7 app to book our taxi and had a pending charge. He tried to charge us again which I opposed. Once he learned his mistake he quickly became pleasant again, well until he ran into a person at the airport.
Spot on with your tips. We visited in 2022 and I only knew Bonjour and Merci/sil vous plait and never got any reaction but pleasantness from the French from Strasbourg to Paris, Angers,Bloise, Nante, Normandy,MontSnt Michel and Lille. Start with Bonjour and end with Merci. My spouse spoke a little more but A1-A2 at most and the response was even friendlier.
My experience as an American has only been in Quebec, but I have to say do not underestimate the power of bonjour and merci. If you don't know any other words, these two will go a long way.
I've found that if I say/ask that I don't speak French will you speak English I get the best service and even received "extras" when shopping. When I don't act entitled and am polite I get so much further. I really feel all of these tips are how people should act everywhere. I also agree with the photo stuff. Every place I went (museums and the like) they were always a pair dressed up with too much makeup etc. Photographing themselves as if they are all you tube influencers. I've found that being polite, not overly made up, and not being loud I've had the best experiences.
Hi Les Frenchies, I love your content and enjoy learning more about Paris from your videos and from traveling to this beautiful city, where we have two Parisian friends who have always greeted us and hosted us kindly and generously over the past eighteen years or so. We are an American couple in our 60's who always try to lead with decorum and kindness wherever we go. However, the first time we visited Paris (2006), our friends took us to Laduree on the Champs Elysees. We were seated, our server came to the table, we said, "Bonjour!", then I said "Je voudrais..." and the server immediately rolled her eyes and spoke angrily in English, "Just tell me what you want." This was literally my first experience of Parisian "hospitality." I understand that the server was likely frustrated with clueless American customers, but...I literally followed the prompts you give here and was treated poorly (I almost said, "..like shit."). It was truly harsh and still makes me wary about speaking French in Paris. In fact, our Parisian friends have commented on the rudeness of their own people in restaurants and elsewhere (those who visit the Comedie Francaise gift store, beware!). Recently (2023) we've experienced better, more amiable service--I was able to have an entire convivial conversation in French with a cab driver who spoke only French---but, there is some truth to the fact that Parisian people are similar to New Yorkers (I'm originally from NY) in that they perhaps don't have time to take time for people who aren't on the same page as they are. My two cents/Francs/euros. Merci beaucoup!
Visiting from South Australia, we found people not having the courtesy to walk one side, but instead block the entire footpath and not move over. I hated the "model" posing.
Hello, guys. Great content, as always. Tbh, these rules should apply to anywhere you visit, be it Paris or your local supermarket. I've never found Parisians to be rude, only warm & welcoming. I think half of that reputation comes from tourists being unintentionally rude to the Parisians e.g not saying 'Bonjour', or just sitting down wherever they like in a bistro/brasserie without waiting to be seated - the latter will guarantee you abrupt service! ❤👍
I second the many comments here..and yes..these 'rules' are simply common courtesy. In Las Vegas..a noisy city..we walk away from those who go beyond an acceptable noise level when talking. There are standards everywhere. And...no matter the country..just learn the basic words/phrases/questions in their language. The attempt shows respect. Thinking about your list makes me aware...the French aren't annoying...the uncourteous visitor is. Merci!
The video should have started with no. 15 (saying bonjour). That's the most important thing in France, and responsible for almost all altercations between tourists and locals. Everything else in the video is totally correct, but beginning all interactions in France with a 'bonjour' is primordial.
No. 2 is not an issue for me, I'm a Francophone from Québec, only thing that might happen is if they don't understand my Québécois accent, lol! That and getting called "Cousin du Québec". As for taking pictures, I've been doing this for over 40 years, and I've developed the knack over the years of taking pictures with my camera while I walk. If it's not possible, I'll move over to the side or get myself out of the way to get my shot. I found that Parisians are really very friendly overall, never had a bad experience in two trips. We really want to go back, my wife and I, but we have other travel plans for next year. Maybe 2027 for our 20th wedding anniversary, spend a couple of days to finish our trip after visiting Normandy and a couple of other regions up north (no real plan made just yet, only definite thing is to visit Juno Beach). Salut!
Bonjour Antoine and Colleen! I love ALL of your videos but this one is right on. I’m not Parisian but I’ve always disliked when people are loud on the phone no one wants to hear their business. Thank you so much for telling how it is. ❤ Merci!
Excellent video. I think the tips you have given us are normal common sense, and and tells us how to be respectful towards other people, and should be followed not just in Paris but anywhere else in the world. Thank you!! Tourists should be aware that when your are in another country that is not you own, you are a guest, therefore you should respect that country´s culture and manners.
Museums forbid selfie sticks and tripods. At Sainte Chapelle, a photographer set up a tripod in the middle of the nave and walked away. Oh, the guards were upset. One of the the guards wanted to toss the tripod in the garbage. They chewed out the owner when they found him.
Always carry some cash. Cafés & boulangeries & definitely market stalls often do not accept bank cards or only over a minimum eg 10€. Despite living here for 4 years I let myself be caught out by this only today. On a more positive note - since Covid all cafés sell coffee to go (à emporter). This makes it much more convenient to use a café's toilet if you need one, as you don't need to spend time sitting to be served. But ALWAYS buy a minimum espresso in return for using the facilities.
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Just got back from Paris from Portugal with my autistic son. The EU is very inclusive and with proof of disability, museums are free with a companion. Although Nov. is not peak season, the Louvre is still busy. I am short and I think the guard could see it was difficult for me with my son and this woman in front of me was being so selfish with her time taking selfies of the Mona Lisa. . The guard pushed over to me and ushered my family to the side and then opened up the red velvet barrier so my rock star son could stand in directly in front of Mona and really see the art .. I with never forget that kindness and most awesome moment. My thanks Paris for a wonderful trip. I did go to the Cafe Commerce and again it was a great tip from Les Frenchies.
Well, i don't remember this about Paris, but in Toulouse you MUST watch out for bikes, scooters etc of any type totally ignoring things like red lights. Especially at night when they sometimes have no lights.
Thank you SO much for sharing! My son is Autistic and I yave been so nervous about traveling with him. ❤
I'm Parisian and I had a similar experience in Le Louvre. My son was in wheelchair because he was sick and without asking anything, the guard took us past the crowd and we were able to take a family photo alone with Mona Lisa! This is why I love my city! I live in Berlin now and I miss Paris.
@elliemason9736 Formidable! That is so typical of both the French and the Italians. I am disabled and use a cane on the days l can walk. Every time in Rome, Naple, Florence, and Venice, a guard at the entrance to museums would either wave me up to the door or come, take my arm and walk me to the door and help me enter!! This past trip to Paris was the first time l was there being disabled and every single museum treated me as though l were royalty! Even the cafés were very nice, and the three that we adored, we went to one or two of them daily. Often we stopped at 5:00p.m. just for a coffee creme after a long day, and at all three, l was treated as their long-lost grandmere! The greeting, the double la bis (cheek kiss), and taken directly to a table right past waiting patrons. Almost every time l was seated at my favorite/easy access table, a few times even after patrons were already seated there and got moved!!! I am so happy that you and your son had such a wonderful experience. People say the French are rude, but you, your son, and l know better! They just believe in basic politeness. But always go to lovely lengths for elderly or disabled people. Americans often behave just the opposite. Rude, demanding, and usually without a greeting. Then, treating those of us who need and/or appreciate a little kindness as if we are invisible! I hope you have more trips with many caring people everywhere! 💗 Bon voyage!
@@bigreddallas2742 it's really cool, but the sad truth is that we learned to be extra-helpful with people having a disability because in france cities and buildings invest very little in disability-friendly infrastructure... For example if someone in a wheelchair wants to take the subway, he will have to get carried in the many stairs... which is almost impracticable...
PS: Sorry, didn't mean to be negative, just to point the fact that Paris and other big french cities are really underequipped for people in a wheelchair...
Wait a minute! I accidentally put it on mute and thought they were talking about NYC, Chicago or gosh anywhere else! Great advice for good manners all over the world. Bravo!
You are perfectly right, I think this behiavour is despised everywhere...
In America we have so many different cultures and are expected to bow to their cultures and we’re even taught that we have to be polite and culturally correct for them. I went to Paris and was treated very rudely even though my husband was American French. We did speak some French to them. Go figure!
This is not exclusive to the French.
Though maybe don't say "bonjour" in Chicago...
Agree 💯
Very good tips. I'd like to add which I'd label as 7a: Do not wear your backpack in the Métro or train when standing in a crowded area. You not only increase your risk of pickpocket but it is damn annoying when you swing around and knock everyone in their front because your backpack is sticking out. ALWAYS take your backpack off and carry it at your feet before you enter the train.
So true!!
Same for the Underground in London. Always tourists doing this !
Yes! In Copenhagen I have often thought "Carry it in front of you, so you know what you are hitting!"
On our transit system here in BC, there are signs and announcements reminding people to remove their backpacks
I always wear a cross body bag so my hands are free.
I was in Paris last fall, friendly people everywhere. My trip was fabulous. Saying Bonjour upon entering an establishment breaks the ice. Lovely city. I will return.
Took me six hours to drive through the dump . Might be nice if your rich but all I seen was a lot of slum-level flats from the motorway 💩
@@jonbee3596 Ah that's because you were on le periphereque and I agree it is dire but aren't the outskirts of most cities?
@@doonewatts7155 true enough.
You were lucky. Was polite to the waiters/small shop owners, but I was still received with a grumpy look.
These rules should be applied everywhere 😊
Speak French first? 😏
Thanks for touching on influencers hogging the space at a site! We went the Musee de l’Orangerie, and this girl and her photographer took hundreds of pictures in front of each of the water lily panels. It hard for those of us who just wanted a couple of photos and then tried to sit and enjoy the panels. It was hard to enjoy the room and the artwork.
they can be so annoying 😑
We were just there this spring and I was surprised at how many people think that a painting, that we all want to see, is just a background for their posts. They seem to have no awareness of how their posing & preening directly in front of a painting or sculpture is no way to share in an art space. I got tired of waiting for them to move and ended up getting in their pictures with them. Having a 70+ yo lady in their shot seemed to get them to move on.
@@rachelkerbrat7094 Brilliant! 😊
@@rachelkerbrat7094good tactic! very parisian 😅
@@rachelkerbrat7094That's the way to do it. Ego wins over politeness.
Sad but true 😮
So glad you mentioned the locks! So annoying to see them popping up everywhere, damaging such gorgeous bridges fences etc… even people who’ve obviously taken locks with the engraved with their names, shame on you!
After getting off the train in Aix-les-Bains and walking into town, it was about 14:00 when I sat down at the cafe next to the laundromat. I asked in French if it was too late for lunch and they replied that of course, it was. There was a hint of annoyance in their tone because we both knew that lunch is served from noon to two. I ordered a beer and waited for my laundry. After about 15 minutes, the server said they could make me a bavette. I thanked them and said that I appreciated it. They went above and beyond because I was polite and accepted that I was too late for their schedule. Lunch was delicious.
The French respond to courtesy and respect with kindness and a desire to help. During my 20-day vacation, I met only one rude person (not counting tourists). I can't wait to go back.
that's a great story, thank you for sharing
Great story! Courtesy does go a long way. I wonder (out of curiosity only) if the entire interaction was spoken in French, and if you believe that had anything to do with it? (I'm currently not able to speak - and respond in kind with that much French.)
@@jillschaefer1360 Yes, the entire conversation was in French. Outside the tourist areas, fewer people speak English. At least fewer people offer to speak it. Even if you do not speak French, learn a few key phases and download the dictionary for your translation app.
That's very French!
I can't believe the amount of tourists I saw in this vídeo! I lived in Paris in the 60s & 70s and don't remember even noticing tourists around, even in the Louvre or on the Champs Elysées or in the Quartier Latin.
I loved my experience in Paris. Friendly people, helpful; and they love when you make the effort to speak the language no matter how bad you butcher it😁 I could tell by the smiles I received.
Totally agree!
Excellent advice!!! The tip about "merci" and "bonjour" is a game-changer. I agree, most Americans complaining about rude Parisians is because they don't use those two simple words.
You can still get rudeness even if you do use those words.
I'm a native Chicagoan. I was walking in downtown Chicago once. Some American tourists shouted at me, from almost a block away, in a sort of sketchy area where I didn't feel especially safe: "HEY! HOW DO YOU GET TO THE ART INSTITUTE?" I immediately understood Parisians. Was I supposed to stop walking in the other direction and go to explain it to them? Shout back at them?
Bonjour Colleen & Antoine! I was just in Paris & Normandy a month ago & while my French is dismal, I DID learn to say “Je suis désolé, je ne parle pas bien français” as well as Bonjour, Merci, & s’il vous plaît. It certainly helped in a few situations & one lovely lady told me “…but you said that so well!”
This was another very helpful video! Merci beaucoup!
Love that!
Moi aussi.
I had a French airline employee compliment my very competent 'bonjour!' and ask what other French I knew when I was checking in to go home. Funniest compliment I got during the whole trip. LOL
Contente pour vous.
They say it to all non French speakers. They are just being polite.
These are things that should annoy people anywhere. My wife and I have been to Paris several times. We have found the people there to be tremendously accommodating and helpful. My French is not that good, but any effort is appreciated by the locals. Sometimes we cringe at loud and insensitive people from our own country. Thank you for all the great videos.
It always warms my wizened French heard to hear about foreigners' positive experiences in France! Glad you enjoyed yourself.
"Move to the side" is a forgotten courtesy esp in Vancouver with groups of people standing in the middle of sidewalks blocking the way of seniors and others. Mom and Grandma taught me this at a young age. It's common sense.
Yes it’s now commonplace in the uk for people to hog the pavement. People seem to have little self awareness these days.
I recently went to Paris for my first time. I was able to go for eight days in October. It was the best time of my life. My rockstar husband stayed home with my children and we had childcare and I was able to go with my sister and my mom and a group of women. My sister has been multiple times before and part of it is business for her, so I got the full rundown of what to expect And honestly, knowing all of those things made my trip so much better and I was able to ease in to the everyday life there almost effortlessly. It was so much fun. And everything the two of you say about the city and what to expect is absolutely spot on. All I can think about now is how to go back with my family. In a perfect world, we would figure out a way to stay in France for three months. I love your channel.
Finally, the truth : Parisians (and French in general) are considered arrogant and rude, when a simple analysis reveals that they are just far more polite than those who criticise them.
im french and its true .
for us is very important to be polite with anybody.
Polite??!! Yeah …….sure
It's true. Americans are on a hair trigger to label any behavior as "rude" meaning they dislike it, they don't understand it, it frustrates their wants or it makes them feel bad about themselves. It's got little to do with actual breaches of good manners.🙄
I learned on my recent trip to Paris that not only do you say bonjour going into shops and restaurants, but also getting on the bus to the bus driver! After I sat down, I saw locals getting on and greeting the bus driver each time. Yikes! I was sure to say bonjour every time after that.
You don’t greet bus drivers in your city? I thought it was normal to greet bus drivers, taxi drivers etc.
@ Nope. I just get on, pay and sit down. Often, they’re enclosed in plexiglass barrier and can’t really be heard well.
@@kathyt221Most of the US has little or no busses, trains, meto.
in the UK, I learned to say thank you to the driver before exiting the bus, beside good morning/afternoon when getting on.
In Ireland you say thank you to the bus driver when exiting.
Remembering to say "bonjour madame" or "bonjour monsieur" is important. It's not difficult to do and always appreciated.
The words “monsieur” and “madame” are just as important as “bonjour”. Thanks for mentioning that!
I always say 'bonjour', but it makes so much sense to take it further. Thank you for this simple tip. As a side note, I found when I lived in Canada that this custom is also imperative to follow when visiting Quebec.
Do not think that parisians are "complicated". We are not. Simply, do not behave as if you were alone and the center of the universe in public places, subway : Don't block the way, don't block stairs, don't block subway exits etc. Paris is one of the most visited capital city in Europe. We are used to see tourists everywhere in the city and we like them. We don't care how tourists are dressed. In restaurants take your time, lunch and dinner are not a timed olympic competition in France. The bill will never come until you request it. Lunch time 12 PM to 2 PM. Dinner time 8 PM to 10 PM (you can stay longer if you wish). Don't expect to be served a lunch if you show up at 4 PM : there is probably nobody anymore in the kitchen !
I agree manners and respect are everything . It even makes upset in America . I work at a dental center and shake my head when I see disrespectful people . Be nice and kind everyone .
It's a bit of the basis of living in society, imagine for a moment a civilization without politeness. It would implode every day.
I’ve seen tourists making rude comments about France/French people in English in front of the French assuming they don’t speak English. Talk about embarrassing.
And then they wonder why they have to wait a very long time for their coffee😂
I am a Brit living in Normandie. I assure you this also happens the other way around. I speak French but when out with my husband we naturally speak English to each other. People who overhear us then assume we don't understand the rude and unkind comments they are making.
@ that’s sad to hear.
@@lechatel Same thing happened when I was in Normandy. I find that Parisians are a bit more friendly because they are used to tourists but when I was in Normandy they were not as kind. I remember one time I was ordering a galette at a Creperie in Normandy I spoke to them in French (I have been a French immersion student for eight years) and the owner rolled her eyes at my French like it wasn’t good enough and said “You know I speak English, right?” Which I thought was really rude.
I’m just back from spending a week in Paris. Loved it. I found all the French people I spoke to very friendly. I done my part by learning some key phrases, and of course the bonjour and merci. Even if I ended up butchering what I was trying to say, they really appreciated me trying and they would jump in to save the day haha. I would try and better my basics when I would hand in my hotel key at the receptions. Always met with a “very good” haha. Don’t be scared to try, people will appreciate the effort.
For sure!!
I went last month. It was very nice and everyone was friendly. But I really enjoyed other parts of France more.
In this day and age when we travel so much, a tourist manners guide it's a good idea
Glad you think so!
Oh... Really very nice video!! Congratulations to show a bit more of this beloved city: Paris!
Je t'aime encore, Paris
I am French and well-traveled ; your advices are very good, not only for France. What a lot of people do not realize is that behaving respectfully does transform the visit and allows enjoying it much more!
My husband listened to this video from the other room as I was watching it and made several comments of “right?!” and “exactly” and an emphatic “yes!” to the influencer one 😊
Funny you should mention. I ate at a nice pasty shop, I had a coffee and croissant. There were no customers in the shop. But the pastries and cakes looked so lovely. I wanted to take a photo.The shop was called Maison Gregoire. Nice guy and a girl work there been there twice now actually. But I asked if it were ok if i taken a photo of thr pastries.. They were very nice about it. The young girl said yes but she moved out of the shot and seemed really shy. But both of them were genuinely nice people. It got me though how shy she was, so i am very glad i asked first.
But you got to appreciate other people's personal space and privacy no matter where you are.
Exactly. That's the #1 complaint we hear from shop owners..."just ask first" - they don't want to be in your photo shot
Your tips helped me when I arrived in Paris and other French cities. During my stay in Paris I had a great deal of difficulty that was happening in the US. My Parisian friend, the Paris Police and other people really stood by me and helped through a difficult situation. They were far more concerned than people in the US. I was so amazed at how supportive they are to others. I can’t tell you how much Paris and France means to me. Respect is something that you do everywhere not just in Paris. I am so thankful that after leaving Paris that respect that became part of my daily life has worked everywhere. ❤ Paris and France. Mercí.
@LesFrenchies. You forgot ONE very important annoyance. People playing music on their phones or portable speakers!!!!!!! Wear headsets and earbuds instead!!!!!!!!!!!
Everytime, I think, I'll just watch for a few seconds, but end up watching the whole videos! Well done! Basic courtesy that was never learnt or passed on to younger generations.
From Japan. I agree totally. There was an incident , an English speaking tourist came to a convini in Japan and relly got mad at a Japanese worker for not being able to speak English .
Also, suggest everyone to put you backpack in front of you rather than on your back so you can avoid hitting people around you when you are on busy metro.
I’m about to leave Paris tomorrow and I wouldn’t have made this trip if I didn’t watched any of your videos. They informed me very well and although we missed a day (because of the snow) we had a lot of fun on the other two. My wife, my daughter and I will try to come back in about 2 years when the weather is nicer for sure. Thank you for your content. FYI: I live in Miami so I know that change from South Florida to here must be a big one!
The snow surprised us all, I don't think I've ever witnessed it this early before.
As always, a great video. Thank you.
These are great tips for NYC and DC, too, where we get lots of tourists. In DC, we have the same problem with visitors blocking the escalators in the Metro, stopping suddenly to take selfies everywhere, being reckless on bicycles and scooters, and being loud and demanding in restaurants, etc.
Was just there a month ago.
We're very polite and always learn as much of the local language ss possible. "Please" and "thank you" in the local language plus a smile do wonders.
I found Parisians, and the French people in general, were awesome!
Awesome 👌
We were in Paris in October (first time) and luckily we did none of these things LOL. We found Parisians to be absolutely lovely and one woman helped my husband who didn’t get off the Metro fast enough navigate his way back to where I had gotten off. What a wonderful city.
We went to Musée de l'Orangerie in September and tried to quietly appreciate the art. Much to our chagrin, far too many narcissistic tourists (we were also tourists) just HAD to pose on front of Monet's works for their social media accounts. Some were taking selfies and quite a number of them employed local photographers. It pissed me off and I asked one of the employees why they weren't enforcing the "No Selfie" and "Please be quiet and respectful" rules. Sadly, they've been told not to enforce the rules. I sound like a grumpy old man with each passing day.
MERCI!! For talking about the Locks!! ~ All of these are necessary things for being in Paris!! Thank you for highlighting all of these!
I speak french and i dont go near the tourist traps and i have an excellent time in France ( I am from the UK) i go to paris every few months
My daughters and I visited Paris this past September.
I’ll admit I’ve never really wanted to visit Paris however I have to say I am so glad I did.
We stayed close to Eiffel Tower and the Arc D Triumphe and had a wonderful visit.
The City was clean, safe and welcoming.
Bonus item: asking to over personalise your menu item at a restaurant. you can ask to hold the sauce or the Chantilly, ask for olive oil to add to taste, but don't reinvent thee chef's salad. It's made that way for a reason!
Exactly 💯
I fear for the reception we will get when my 17 yr old picky eater asks for a Croque Monsieur pas de jambon!
I was with a guided tour on bicycle today. I am Dutch and might disagree what the tour guide considered a bicycle lane and agree with the Parisians. We arrived on Friday at gare du Nord. During the hotel transfer by bus to the hotel in the 15th arrondissement we noticed some really unsafe cycling situations where cars almost drove over cyclists when turning right. Cycling I. Paris is getting safer and better but it is nowhere near the Netherlands or Kopenhagen. Watch out. For the rest, I live in a city loved by tourists myself .
Thanks again for your wonderful videos . I will be at the Marché Grenelle this Sunday, today, because of your videos.
Thank you so much for all your awesome videos! We just came back from Paris and had the best time ever. We binged almost all your videos and owe 95% of our trip to your fantastic suggestions. Thanks again. Your loyal subscribers ❤
My husband and I were in Paris for three weeks, really enjoying being "Parisienne" I have knee problems and had difficulty getting out of cabs..the floor of the cab is really low. One time the cabbies got out of the cab to help me out! We just laughed. Completely unexpected. Also going up and down public stairways, people would ask if I needed help! Time for the knee replacements!
Bonjour Antoine and Colleen. Thanks for teaching me to say “Bonjour “ wherever I go. I now try to do that everywhere. Paris, or the equivalent in other countries. Even at home. Merci for the life lesson😊
Our pleasure!
How sad is it that normal respectful behavior should be taught to grownups...
Great video. I am in my 70s and walk with a cane. On the metro in Paris I have never had anyone give up their seat to me. In fact I have had many French speaking young people push by me to take a seat I was walking to.
My experience is exactly the opposite. When I was in my seventies, I often had people offer me their seat on the Paris Metro and RER. And I do not look that old. I've now reached my '80s, and even young women were offering me their seat this last Fall. You know you're getting old when...
@@AbsalomMcVey-i1f Maybe I look too young. 😂
@@TheoAndropolis Hmm, in my 80's, but I'd give my seat to a 20-year old who needed a cane. I'm also reminded how you really have to brace yourself with your legs as those cars can lurch about.
Parents have failed. Their children are lacking in manners. I am in my 70s and experience the same where I live.
I was in London recently and twice had young people offer me their seat on the 'tube'. Also later on the tram in Manchester. I must look old and tired!! 🤣
I had a wonderful time in paris. I spoke french . It helps to also know customs and culture. The french are very wonderful people.
MERCI mille fois 🙏
En tant que Parisienne tout est vrai dans votre vidéo et ces comportements sont relous par momebt
Merci encore et prenez soin de vous ❤
sans parler des " frotteurs " dans le métro, ces types qui se frottent la braguette contre vous (parfois le zizi sorti ...) , un cauchemar pour la jeune fille Parisienne que je fus ... ces " frotteurs " sont bien connus de la Police mais se font rarement prendre , zizi vite rentré dans la braguette : no prove !
wonder, je me demande si c'est pareil dans métros New-Yorkais ? !! and ... do you know WHAT ? :
one day in a Restaurant on the Champs Elysées , an american young couple sat next to us, very near, tables touching- and they were speaking VERY loud, my hustand and I couldn"t even talk together, so ... I decided to SHOUT to him, normal topic conversation " what are you going to have on the menu my love, etc..." and reading the menu SHOUTING , the US young couple immediately STOPPED talking staring at us ! as soon as they tried to shout again, I shouted at my husband - believe me ... they didn"t add a word for the rest of the dinner ! and left rather quick ...
c'est vrai et nous nous énervons aussi envers les Parisiens ou les touristes français mal polis qui ne respectent pas ces règles de bienséances
Thanks for this. I think this guide would apply anywhere! I love it when people say Hello and Thank You even in the other tourist capitals ( San Francisco, New York, London) Thank you for putting this out.
I am so grateful for your content! I will be traveling to Paris for the first time in March - solo! And I am eating up everything you put out. Thank you!!!! I just (purchased your guides plus the solo female travel guide)! Merci!
My mother and I had no issues when we stayed in Paris but we made efforts to blend in. Also saying hello in French really does go along way
I appreciate the social graces expected in Paris. That’s one of the pluses when I am here (in fact I’m here now :).
When I return home to the USA, I notice the lack of courtesy and then I start to miss Paris even more! Merci for your insight!
An Australian, not long back from Paris. The silly photo shoots are not just annoying to locals! Arc de Triumph for example.. craziness!
Thanks for this video. I guess your video could me used to all tourists all over the world. It is just bon sens et bonnes manieres ..
Merci pour ces conseils qui vont peut-être permettre aux parisiens de mieux supporter les millions de touristes qui visitent la ville. Et ces conseils valent pour toutes les villes !
Not saying “Emily in Paris” is great Art, but it’s funny that he says “Emily in Paris is complete fantasy” but then he says a lot of things that are also part of the show-use basic polite manners, respect working hours, don’t talk too loud, learn a few basic French words, honor the French way when in France. Good video. I miss France.
I've visited Paris a dozen times and have never encountered the stereotype of rude Parisians. Politeness and respect is definitely key. I just returned from a trip last week. I am learning French and always tried to order and respond in French. Wait staff always seemed delighted (and amused) at my attempts at French. Great tips!
Australian here and these rules are just basic human politeness to me.
true story
Totally. Anywhere else in Europe is basically the same or more stringent, but some need to learn it. Such as Chi*cough*na tourists
I’ve visited Paris several times and always had a wonderful time. What we’re taking about is having good manners, self-awareness and common sense. These things translate everywhere!
Just found your channel and loving it. I absolutely agree with everything here. I’m English and my daughter is studying in Paris so i visit a lot. She is fluent in French and im absolutely not! She insists i start the initial greetings in French as it’s the correct thing to do and I haven’t come across a rude French person yet. I love the culture, i love how you greet the shop keeper immediately with a Bonjour and the polite way to leave with a Merci, bonne journee and au revoir. They must think the English are so rude as we dont do this in England. They are very cultured and polite. Loving your videos so far, watching whilst currently in Paris. ❤ Oh and i was so embarrassed yesterday, i went to see Notre Damn and the number of people taking selfies and videos with no real interest in the building itself….
*Synopsis: Have manners, resect and common sense!!!*
This applies to everywhere in the world, stop being fools and bozos in public.
NOT being critical of this channel, not by any means. I think this channel is great and will hopefully result in better behavior everywhere! 🙂
I was in Paris 10/19/24-11/4, my 6th visit, friends joined me for their 2nd visit and my sis had her 1st visit. I sent them your videos to watch to make sure they about not being rude Americans. I found more restaurants asking us to add a tip or adding one automatically. I questioned a waiter and he said the included service was for the restaurant and our tip was for him. The next one, and I’m naming them, Cafe Marley at the Louvre, told us we forgot to tip him. In 2022 the waiter at Marley did the same thing. I told my friends that if the wait staff are extra then tip, and we would leave in Euros or, if just standard service we’d round up. We went for dinner cruise on Le Calife-fantastic! We did night ride in Citroen with Authentic. Wonderful. We dined at Chez Rene, Cafe St Germaine. Both delightful and wait staff lovely. Unexpectedly saw The French Bastards across from St Germaine and bought their last caramel eclairs for breakfast the next day. I wanted to slap someone they were perfection. You had to split one in thirds they were so rich and decadent. We rented a huge apartment in the 1st where we stayed 2 years ago, looking down at Angelina’s back door. We walked past the lines of tourists at Cedric Grolet and Angelina’s shaking our heads in amazement. Thank you for your guide and helpful videos. We had one planned event every other day and went back to some of my favorite restaurants, shops, gardens, sidewalk cafes, places on my list I’d missed before, more classes at Le Cordon Bleu, people watching, picnics, trying new cheeses and wines, early morning Uber rides to different bakeries in the mornings and as we have to do every trip, a Batoboat ride. Thankfully, we made dinner reservations because we watch people being turned away. We couldn’t get reservations at a lot of restaurants. I’ve always visited Paris in October and have never seen it so crowded and unable to get reservations at restaurants. I hope it’s a good thing for Paris. Merci!
You are very welcome, cheers 🥂
It's illegal to ask for tips even in tourist traps. But they do it anyway because that's mostly foreign tourists they have and they don't talk back, expose them or report them so they take advantage of the situation.
Apparently tourism is back like before Covid or even surpassed that and with climate change we have the nice weather all the way to end of November now. So it must be something the tourists know. Even the French more and more of them go on holidays in September October vs July and August.
I think it was the "Olympic effect", as a lot of people avoided summer because of that, now we are having some unusual crowds (and it was like that also in May/June).
@frenchxican_a There were more tourists in Paris in Summer than ever and every summer the Parisians leave on holidays, making August feeling quite empty. But the only factor the Olympics had was an increase of tourists, 700 000 more tourists than in 2023.
I rennet when I went to France a few months ago and I have been in French immersion classes for eight years at the time so they were very surprised of how well I spoke French. It felt awesome to be able to use this skill in a real world scenario for the first time!
Just back from another wonderful stay in Paris. Went to see Monet's Nymphéas at the Musée de L'Orangerie. As you know, the artist donated these wonderful paintings to a traumatised post-WWI French nation as a place for quiet meditation with seating provided to do just that. Silence is in fact courteously asked for on well-placed signs on the wall. It was simply awful: 90% of people present were not looking at the art on the walls at all, too busy searching for the best background for taking selfies while making the peace sign. I even witnessed a family of tourists with the son taking a pic of the mother while the father was behind them taking a photo of the son taking a photo of the mother!! 🤣 I am not a cranky old woman, just an old woman but I ended up kindly asking two women who were having an animated chat bang in front of one of the panels, blocking the view for others to move on. I sincerely believe that taking pictures should be prohibited. Buy postcards in the boutique afterwards and take a selfie in front of the museum if the need to prove that you were there to those back home is overwhelming. A little quiet respect now and again. There! 😎
And btw the expo "Zombis" in the Musée du Quai Brandy was well worth a visit.
When people start understanding that "politeness" isn't universal and actually cultural, things will improve quite a bit between locals and tourists. American politenes is about being open and nice, it's akin to friendliness. French politeness is about being appropriate and respectful, it's more akin to etiquette.
I prefer REAL people with REAL smiles, not snobs
@@kathybrem880 which is actually hilarious because "fake sentiments of friendliness" is exactly the kind of description French people give when dealing with Americans . If you were a tad more open-minded you'd learn than Frenchmen are very real people with very real smiles too but whatever floats your boat mate
First of your videos I have watched.
Everything you have said just seems like good manners and etiquette.
I am following you guys now as this was such a nice and informative video.
One annoying thing, not necessarily distinct to Paris but probably happens in Paris frequently due to it's world class museums is people taking photos of themselves in front of paintings and expecting people to wait for their photoshoot to be done. And it's not just one photo they want to take but a series of photos. It seems to be younger people who are posting on instagram. I have a professional camera and I take photos all the time but I never impede people's viewing. The museums are crowded and the purpose is to see the great works of art on display. If you want to take a photo, take it but don't impede other's experience. In this case I got in front of these people to look at the this particular painting. I didn't care I was in their shot. They were annoyed I could tell but too bad. Don't wait for people to take their photos in museums. This was in Musée d'Orsay by the way just this last February
Bonjour ! j'ai apprécié TOUS les points que vous présentez ici. cheers from Landes !
Cheers!!
All spot on. Saying “bonjour” and “merci” or “bonne journée” when entering and leaving greatly improves your experience. Speaking even a tiny bit of French will help; even the French people who say they don’t speak English may eventually admit they do speak a little bit, but they don’t think they’re very good. (It’s usually better than my French!) I laughed when you mentioned cutting in line, because I think it’s the French who have trouble queueing; my Parisian cousins told me that’s well known!😂
The French are the worst at cutting in line!! 😅
@@LesFrenchiesTravelC’est vrai!
The French totally have trouble queueing! I remember I was on an airplane flying from the USA, so the plane was 50/50 French and American, and this French couple said to each other, “Isn’t it cute how they actually just stand and wait?” (I am bilingual so I understood). I still think about that and chuckle.
And what really annoys tourists are the scammers, “is this your ring? I found on ground next to you” or handing you a flower then expecting you to give them money. ALL TOTALLY UNACCEPTABLE 😮
Our family of 4 is going to France next month! Paris, Tours, Bordeaux, Dordogne région, and Toulouse! I’ve been watching your videos all year to prepare myself for I took French in high school and college so I feel prepared enough to not be another typical American. I really appreciate your tips and insight!! Allez on y vas!
Allez, on y va!
I hope you have at least a month or more for all that.
@@Bramfly nope two weeks only and we fit in Disney land Paris! It was a great trip!!
Your video was a review of the manners I was raised with 70 years ago. I wish we would all return to those manners and life in general would be so much more pleasant for everyone.
Wow excellent reminders ! Headed there on Christmas. I sure hope it won’t be as busy as your video suggests.
OMG. I'm American and I have been to Paris many times BUT did a ton of research prior to my first trip there many years ago. The best trip I ever made to Paris was in the brutal rainy, dark, and cold days of February one year. ZERO tourists wherever I went (including to the Louvre, which I ordinarily would avoid in warmer weather) and even with my sad American accent I made sure everywhere I went I greeted shopkeepers, etc., with a simple Bonjour Madame, or, Bonjour Monsieur and upon leaving any establishment, Au revoir, or, Merci beaucoup. I found nearly everyone speaks English BUT they are as self-conscious as we Americans are about our crummy accents or lack of good vocabulary or proper grammar. I will not divulge my favorite hotel's name BUT it has a dynamite restaurant AND night club in it and despite always leaving the U.S. with long restaurant lists, on most trips I chilled out by returning after a day of running around, changing clothes and going downstairs to the wonderful restaurant and every single meal I had was fabulous. Some of my best meals were in museum restaurants (one especially gone one was downstairs at The Louvre and another is the one at Musée d'Orsay). But there is a reason Americans were labeled many years ago as "The Ugly Americans." Tastelessness and boorish behavior are both inexcusable. The French are very very conscious of manners and other old fashioned traits. It is so inexcusable there OR here in the states. Please do your homework. Start with one of Rick Steves's books or Lonely Planet. Dress appropriately too. I also found the same guidelines are helpful in Germany too. We are NOT the greatest country on Earth. That is rule #1 so if you approach international travel with a snooty attitude, you will be sorely disappointed. Our values and habits are nothing to be proud of in other countries. I love the French and always stay in my fave hotel in an out of the way location, and even shop in the local hardware store for the best prices on all manner of stuff. One trip I needed extra luggage for all my purchases and bought a small rolling piece for only 19€ (at the time that was about $21)....this piece is indestructible and lightweight and 10-12 years later it doesn't even have a dent in it AND the zipper is indestructible. Anywhere else in Paris I would have had to pay at least 100€.
I'm currently enjoying my time in Paris, and I just wanted to express how incredibly helpful your videos have been during my visit. They've really guided me in exploring this beautiful city! ❤️ If you're available, I would absolutely love the opportunity to meet up for a cup of coffee. It would be great to connect and chat in person while I share my experiences in Paris! ☺️
He said it! The tips are in the bill! Thats how it needs to be here!
Very informative. It is the basic good behavior and politeness. Thank you
Bonjour à vous 2, j'ai bien aimé cette vidéo car vous donnez de très bons conseils et informations! Merci!
Your videos have seriously calmed my anxiety for my first trip to Paris from food, economy, accommodations and travel mistakes ❤️. I definitely don’t want to be the annoying tourist
Thanks for making these videos. I just got back from a trip to Paris yesterday and used many of your videos to prepare for my trip. Everything went smoothly because I felt ready for the trip. Only issue I had was with the taxi driver on the way to the airport to depart. We used the G7 app to book our taxi and had a pending charge. He tried to charge us again which I opposed. Once he learned his mistake he quickly became pleasant again, well until he ran into a person at the airport.
Spot on with your tips. We visited in 2022 and I only knew Bonjour and Merci/sil vous plait and never got any reaction but pleasantness from the French from Strasbourg to Paris, Angers,Bloise, Nante, Normandy,MontSnt Michel and Lille. Start with Bonjour and end with Merci. My spouse spoke a little more but A1-A2 at most and the response was even friendlier.
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My experience as an American has only been in Quebec, but I have to say do not underestimate the power of bonjour and merci. If you don't know any other words, these two will go a long way.
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I've found that if I say/ask that I don't speak French will you speak English I get the best service and even received "extras" when shopping. When I don't act entitled and am polite I get so much further. I really feel all of these tips are how people should act everywhere. I also agree with the photo stuff. Every place I went (museums and the like) they were always a pair dressed up with too much makeup etc. Photographing themselves as if they are all you tube influencers. I've found that being polite, not overly made up, and not being loud I've had the best experiences.
that's very true
Seems to me this advice is good for all tourists no matter where they’re from or visiting!
Hi Les Frenchies, I love your content and enjoy learning more about Paris from your videos and from traveling to this beautiful city, where we have two Parisian friends who have always greeted us and hosted us kindly and generously over the past eighteen years or so. We are an American couple in our 60's who always try to lead with decorum and kindness wherever we go. However, the first time we visited Paris (2006), our friends took us to Laduree on the Champs Elysees. We were seated, our server came to the table, we said, "Bonjour!", then I said "Je voudrais..." and the server immediately rolled her eyes and spoke angrily in English, "Just tell me what you want." This was literally my first experience of Parisian "hospitality." I understand that the server was likely frustrated with clueless American customers, but...I literally followed the prompts you give here and was treated poorly (I almost said, "..like shit."). It was truly harsh and still makes me wary about speaking French in Paris. In fact, our Parisian friends have commented on the rudeness of their own people in restaurants and elsewhere (those who visit the Comedie Francaise gift store, beware!). Recently (2023) we've experienced better, more amiable service--I was able to have an entire convivial conversation in French with a cab driver who spoke only French---but, there is some truth to the fact that Parisian people are similar to New Yorkers (I'm originally from NY) in that they perhaps don't have time to take time for people who aren't on the same page as they are. My two cents/Francs/euros. Merci beaucoup!
Those rude people are rude to everyone, Parisians included.
I really appreciate your videos. I have my third trip to Paris planed and thanks to you, I expect to have another great experience
Visiting from South Australia, we found people not having the courtesy to walk one side, but instead block the entire footpath and not move over. I hated the "model" posing.
model style posing is unbearable some days 🤬
Merci pour l’information! Très utile!😊
I’ve been to Paris several times and always learn things from Les Frenchies. Merci mille fois!!
Merci beaucoup pour cette nouvelle information de la semaine
Hello, guys. Great content, as always. Tbh, these rules should apply to anywhere you visit, be it Paris or your local supermarket. I've never found Parisians to be rude, only warm & welcoming. I think half of that reputation comes from tourists being unintentionally rude to the Parisians e.g not saying 'Bonjour', or just sitting down wherever they like in a bistro/brasserie without waiting to be seated - the latter will guarantee you abrupt service!
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I second the many comments here..and yes..these 'rules' are simply common courtesy. In Las Vegas..a noisy city..we walk away from those who go beyond an acceptable noise level when talking. There are standards everywhere. And...no matter the country..just learn the basic words/phrases/questions in their language. The attempt shows respect. Thinking about your list makes me aware...the French aren't annoying...the uncourteous visitor is. Merci!
A little comment on the restaurant: If you want to eat outside the 12-2 p.m. time, look for a brasserie. Usually, they serve food all day long.
When kitchens are closed, it is often possible to get a sandwich at least. Baguette et fromage.
The video should have started with no. 15 (saying bonjour). That's the most important thing in France, and responsible for almost all altercations between tourists and locals. Everything else in the video is totally correct, but beginning all interactions in France with a 'bonjour' is primordial.
No. 2 is not an issue for me, I'm a Francophone from Québec, only thing that might happen is if they don't understand my Québécois accent, lol! That and getting called "Cousin du Québec".
As for taking pictures, I've been doing this for over 40 years, and I've developed the knack over the years of taking pictures with my camera while I walk. If it's not possible, I'll move over to the side or get myself out of the way to get my shot.
I found that Parisians are really very friendly overall, never had a bad experience in two trips.
We really want to go back, my wife and I, but we have other travel plans for next year. Maybe 2027 for our 20th wedding anniversary, spend a couple of days to finish our trip after visiting Normandy and a couple of other regions up north (no real plan made just yet, only definite thing is to visit Juno Beach).
Salut!
Good manners are appropriate everywhere. And those speakerphones are annoying
true story!!
Bonjour Antoine and Colleen! I love ALL of your videos but this one is right on. I’m not Parisian but I’ve always disliked when people are loud on the phone no one wants to hear their business. Thank you so much for telling how it is. ❤ Merci!
Excellent video. I think the tips you have given us are normal common sense, and and tells us how to be respectful towards other people, and should be followed not just in Paris but anywhere else in the world. Thank you!! Tourists should be aware that when your are in another country that is not you own, you are a guest, therefore you should respect that country´s culture and manners.
Museums forbid selfie sticks and tripods. At Sainte Chapelle, a photographer set up a tripod in the middle of the nave and walked away. Oh, the guards were upset. One of the the guards wanted to toss the tripod in the garbage. They chewed out the owner when they found him.
Always carry some cash. Cafés & boulangeries & definitely market stalls often do not accept bank cards or only over a minimum eg 10€. Despite living here for 4 years I let myself be caught out by this only today.
On a more positive note - since Covid all cafés sell coffee to go (à emporter). This makes it much more convenient to use a café's toilet if you need one, as you don't need to spend time sitting to be served. But ALWAYS buy a minimum espresso in return for using the facilities.