Let's Talk Toilet Anxiety! // ANXIETYMAMMA
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When I get anxious, I feel light headed, will palpitate, cold chills, night sweats, upset stomach, the feeling of wanting to poop, my hands and feet feels numb, my arms and legs feels weak.
yep. that sounds familiar! It's all adrenaline
do you still have this?
You've basically just word for word described what happens too me Wow thanks.
S A M E ! ! 😭
Vinsmoke Sanji CBD has helped me a lot
It’s so embarrassing having to go to the bathroom every 30 min and not wanting to drink anything because of peeing 😭😭😭😭
I know I hate it 😭😭😭
Omg I thought I was the only one 😭
@@fatsardine you’re not alone and it’s gotten a lot better but still insufferable 🥲 I’ll never have my normal peeing life back 😔
@@miledytrujillo2298 😔 can you go out comfortably? Bc I can't 😢
I'm about to cry because I'm going through this and I'm glad someone understands. I need to figure it out too, since I'm going on a 5 hour road trip soon
Can you ask to use a toilet at some point?
Do u still have it cz i do and i need help
@@Noor-ps8qg same and im in middle school and its really hard bc i take bus
@@Noor-ps8qg how long have you had it
Did it get better for you
Omg Finally someone understands me 😭
Thank you so much thank you so much thank you so much for making this video.
me too
I was going through the same thing with the fear of pooping myself and I was forcing myself to poop every time before I was leaving the house. Then I started to look on the bright side, that it's actually something good to release the toxins from my body.
I was in a vacation where it took me like 16-18 hours of travelling before arriving to the destination and for a week I had to walk like 6-8 hours a day in places I did not know (the thought is pretty scary if you have this kind of anxiety). I had absolutely no problems by doing these things:
- Go to bathroom every morning after breakfast (which I guess is natural). Before sitting on the toilet I was watching myself in the mirror and said to myself "You have 2 minutes. That's all. Don't complain later!"
- Have some wet and dry tissues with me for any case
- Always keep my mind busy. I had to wait one hour in a place with no toilets and no option of leaving. Later traveled for 2 hours with a train where the toilets were locked: First 5 minutes were hard, then I started talking to my gf, taking pictures, watching youtube, dancing, anything to not think that I have no toilet near me.. and the time was flying. After those 2 hours, I resisted 3 more before going to the toilet.
After living with this for 2 years, I think the good part is that now I'm really understanding my body and its needs for food and drinks and everything. Even if I'm ok with it now, I'll never eat spicy KFC and drink coffee and 5 beers before having a busy day.
I still prefer to travel empty stomach if the time is more than 4-5 hours. In this way, what can happen? Poop some dust? That's not scary.
From my point of view, the best medicine in this case is to always keep your mind busy. When I had full busy days at work, I was forgetting even to pee for 4-5 hours and I was telling to myself: "See, idiot, you're fine. You're normal. Stop being a pussy and do things that actually matter"
I'm happy to hear that you were able to do this, I'm still trying to get the distraction thing down, the few times I managed to pull it off I was very impressed with myself, but I swear my subconscious is stronger than my consciousness.
@@Uchia598 Same, it’s very hard to heal from this.
Wow 2 years. I have been 6 months just sering a docter 3 weeks ago. Hopefully can pass all this Lol. I alis tell my self my health great but my head idiot Lol
One more thing this anxiety personally is worst when travelling somewhere early morning. Better not having any food for breakfast until I get to the destination where is near toilet
missS omg meeeeeeee
Omg this is so mee 🥺
meee 😭😭😭. suggest me a relief
I literally can’t eat until I get to the destination. It would make me go crazy. That‘s why I lost some 3 kg during my vacation this summer. But I don’t want to lose more 😣
Me toooo!!
Omg I literally thought I was the only person going through this. I have been suffering for nearly 5 years with needing to go for a wee all the time (I am getting better) but I know it annoys the crap out of my parents e.t.c but they do not understand; they try their best to and say just don't think about it. It is hard to explain that I can't just turn it off. If I could; everyone would and there would be no issues.
LupusLass007 yep my parents don't understand how it takes over our lives. Yep I can't stop thinking about it and I don't like using the school toliets. That's why I hate school but it will be much better if I didn't have this anxiety. Good luck
squidgaming742 sacs We will beat it though. You got this ;) ❤👊
LupusLass007 thx👍☺
My parents are the same way, they don’t get it. So frustrating.
I wear bladder leakage liners, they help
I have the fear of pooping and having to poop. Mine revolves around the pain of gas cramps, all because of one time and that's what fuels my agoraphobia
Casey Mielke yep, I get that. And i totally get the ‘all because of one time’ - it’s crazy how we take one example out of five thousand and make that rule our lives.
Aren't we weird like that lol
@@blueivysun omg I am going through the exact same thing I had one near experience on the train, 4 weeks ago when I thought I was going to not make the toilet.. Trust me it was very very close! Now it's crippling me it might happen again, I had to get on a train last week and had a panick attack through the thought of what if this happens again... I honestly don't know how to get past this feeling xx
Yeah, my anxiety began due to a time I was heading to school on the school bus. I had eaten my cereal with milk and that upset my stomach. The anxiety of not being able to get to a restroom on time was horrifying. I managed to overcome it and live several happy years of my life, but it returned. It’s honestly torture. I have become a recluse because of this and I’m losing the prime years of my life.
@@zandran1453 Me too! I became agoraphobic, is pure torture.
I am 38 years old and have suffered from this since i was around 20 ish. Its such a difficult thing and am still not over it. Controlling my life on a daily basis
For me it’s like I don’t trust my body. I don’t trust my bodily functions. When I need to go I don’t know whether it’s just 100ml of pee or it’s a real emergency so I make myself go every single time. Most of the time there’s hardly any pee at all but at least I’m safe right? I have the shitting problem too. Omg I’m laughing. Driving to work used to be so bad for me. It was a 40 min drive and there was only one macaz to shit at. I’d always pass it and be like no! I don’t need to.. and as soon as I passed it I’d feel like absolutely shitting my pants. I’m always terrified to go in peoples cars because I might not make it. I always imagine myself shitting on their seat. I even went through a phase where I didn’t wear g strings because the shit would slide out.. omg ok I’ll stop
Can I just send you the biggest “THANK YOU” for making me laugh to the point of crying!! I was stuck in a panic cycle and started watching this video when I saw this comment (especially the part about the g-string) and it snapped me out of it almost instantly. I can relate so much, not only to your comment, but so many others but this one just got me. You do really have to see a funny side to the anxiety and this was it for me. Bless ya!! Haha ;,D
3:10 im literally crying i thought
something was wrong with me. FINALLY SOMEONE WHO UNDERSTANDS HOW I FEEL
Bless you!!!! You are not alone
It's so "nice" to read in the comments that so many of us have this.
I always have this doing grocery's and have to wait in the line, but there is probably someone in the line next to me going trough the same.
so true!!! Honestly it's one of my most watched videos so I'm still shocked at how many people must be going through the exact same thing!
Yes! I have that shitting fear. It rules my life. I can't go out on the mornings because I might need the toilet. I can't go far in case I need to go and I can only poo in my own toilet. Argh! 😔
Lu Lovely it’s a struggle isn’t it!!!
AnxietyMamma Yes. It's my biggest struggle and holds me back every day 😠
ME TOO!!! I literally thought it was only me that dealt with this, because no one mentions it! It is so debilitating
Lu Lovely it affects my whole life. And it gets worse with age. This is so helpful. I thought I had to go back to childhood traumas. But I see it is just another one of my anxiety problems.
Saaaame😪
Mine in really bad I'm constantly thinking do I need the toilet, I'm on anxiety meds but I can't leave the house it's overwhelming, I get panic attacks when I'm out and it leads to me needing to go so let's just hope I get past it
You absolutely will get past it! It just takes time and practice. Start out with small trips and go up from there. The more you challenge the thoughts, the easier it will get.
Thank you 😊 it's nice to see people talking about this topic because it's hard to find someone who understands what it's truely like
Thank you 😊 it's nice to see people talking about this topic because it's hard to find someone who understands what it's truely like
Thank you 😊 it's nice to see people talking about this topic because it's hard to find someone who understands what it's truely like
Finally I find people who have the same anxiety as me. Hope you get past it. Good luck
Tips and ideas (not everything will be for everyone!):
- Do pelvic floor exercises (kegels). You can download kegel apps on your iphone that set you reminders to do them throughout the day. It will encourage you to know that your muscles down there are really strong. Remember to do them standing up or walking, it's more effective than if you're sitting down.
- When you spend days at home, track how much water you drink & how long you can comfortably hold it. Get used to building this up more and more (don't overdo it like crazy though, it shouldn't be painful!)
- Start a schedule at home, e.g. within 3 hours, aim to drink 2 short glasses of water and go to the toilet once. The purpose of this would be to create a natural rhythm for your body and you'll be able to predict the times you need to go. Select a rhythm that makes you feel hydrated and comfortable.
- Carry a pouch inside your bag everywhere you go, including some emergency Imodium instants, spare pants, sanitary towels / a tena pad, etc. This is such a small kit that you can take it anywhere, even in a small bag at the club. If you are driving in a car, or have a big bag with you, you can even pack a spare pair of leggings or skirt.
- Give up coffee. It's seriously not even worth it. Drink decaf which tastes exactly the same (still potentially a diuretic, I'm unsure, but has less anxiety-inducing effects).
- Create a list of feared situations, and gradually expose yourself to these. You can create a schedule.
- Listen to music or podcasts in public, they really help you to focus on other things.
- Don't stop drinking, it's tempting but this can confuse your natural signals. You can not drink before a car journey that lasts a couple hours for example, but if you starve yourself of water for long periods of time constantly it can cause a problem.
dackjanielsmeup this is wonderful!! 😍
❤
My muscles in my bladder don't work the correct way due to spastic cerebral palsy, my doctor said my bladder doesn't empty completely, when i get anxious i pee myself, I peed myself while awake on Wednesday
Good tips thanks
Because of this anxiety it destroyed my life coz now i rather stay at home near the toilet than going outside coz im afraid of going outside thinking i might shit myself when i cant go to the toilet. I actually starve myself almost everyday going to school at 7 am until 4 pm not eating anything just so that i wont need to go while im. At school. It really is hard when no one understands how you feel of the feeling that you need to go and the fear of pooping is hard. I hope everyone who understands what im saying we can overcome this together.
You can overcome this
I feel the exact same way. I also starve myself for the day and usually skip or eat a light lunch and with COVID it’s gotten so much worse and every morning I’m just so scared to go to school. I’m glad that people actually understand because no one gets it
Damn I can relate😔
I’m going trough this since 7 yo and I’m now 15 still suffering the worst thing for me is before sleep I’ll sit in the toilet for hours just to make sure I won’t need to or later at night this had messed up my sleeping program I start getting ready at 12 and get to bed to 2am spending 2 hole hours in the toilet it honestly makes me cry sometimes
It's really weird, I get it when going out with friends at long distances. Then when I ever think of going back home or I am going home I suddenly loose that anxiety and I become normal. It's just thinking about what will happen if I go back that triggers everything. In rare cases, just thinking about the word "bathroom" out loud to my mind makes me calm somehow. Same thing goes by imagining that there is a bathroom at a nearby corner, even tho there isnt one.
Been dealing with this for 4 years. Now..
I get anxious sitting in middle seats on the flight or inside a room with restrictions of leaving or like a theatre .
So I'd sit on aisle seats everywhere and I'd avoid travel by bus.
Surya Seshan I do the same.
thank you so much for posting this. mine started in my early 20's when i worked as a cashier. it was so busy all the time and they tried to encourage us to only use the bathroom on our breaks. well this was very anxiety inducing for me. one day i drank a bunch of coffee and had a super long line at my register, i felt the need to poop and i just had a panic attack, and ran off to the bathroom as the customers just waited there confused. it was really embarrassing, but i just ran back to my register after and didn't say anything, and it was fine. after that i never drank coffee while working there.
i also realized that i need to be in control of my life, and some boss trying to tell me to only use the bathroom on my breaks was not okay. so i got a new job shortly after that which helped the anxiety a lot.
I am also vegan, and i eat a ton of fruit. so there's a ton of fiber and water in fruit, so i'm peeing and pooping all day lol, but i feel amazing. but it definitely makes going places complicated.
my solutions have been to be mindful about what foods i'm eating, if i'm going somewhere far/ new where i'm not sure where the toilet is, i won't drink liquids or eat any high-fiber foods until i'm close to a bathroom. also to try and be in control of situations, i like to drive, i work from home now, and i eat a very clean diet so there's never any surprises
your tips helped so much. i love the idea of visualizing what the worst scenario would be. it really isn't a big deal. so many long distance runners have shit themselves while running and they laughed.
thank you!
Sounds like we are very similar Hayley.
I'm still teaching myself that it's not a big deal. We're just so conscious of ourselves and certain that everyone is judging us, and it's hard to get out of the habit of that!! You sound like you're on the right track with nourishing your body and realising that you are in control of you - AMEN to letting go of a job where your boss tells you when it's 'okay' to go to the bathroom!!!!! So ridiculous that some workplaces think we can schedule our bodily functions!
This sounds so similar to me! My boss didn’t want us using the bathroom unless it’s on breaks. I drove a shuttle bus and that meant long periods of time without a bathroom and with customers in my bus 😵 As you did, I too got a new job but it’s not the kind of job I can have access to the bathroom at any time. I work in the medical field and when I’m with a patient doing a procedure I can’t just randomly sprint to the bathroom... so I don’t think this job will work. I’ve been looking for a job I can do from home but nothing seems to pay enough. If you don’t mind my asking, what kind of stay-at-home job did you find?
My anxiety is more about needing to pee all of the time and I’m in secondary school. My classes are 45 minutes each and I’m so worried that people are noticing me getting up every class. I do have a toilet pass but I don’t want to have to use it all of the time. I’ve got to the point where I genuinely hate school.
I understand. I think, on the one hand, people will be noticing less than you think. Generally we're all so worried that people are judging us but usually the case is that everyone is too busy worrying about themselves!
But if I were you, I would just be casual about it. Have a big bottle of water with you, sip on it throughout the day, and if anyone ever mentions that you go to the toilet a lot - tell them that you're trying to stay hydrated! Everyone knows drinking a ton of water makes you pee all the time, and everyone also knows that drinking a ton of water is really fantastic for your health. Just make a big point about being health conscious!! :) Good luck x
I’m so glad someone gets it.
I have been like this at work but I can imagine how awful at school
This is happening to me rn and I don’t have a toilet pass so I usually just say I’m sick so they’ll let me go and I hate school now, I only feel like this when it’s silent and I’m not distracted by anything , so I often talk to people in class and that can sometimes get me in trouble
Bless you for making this video. Seriously. I try to explain this to people and they just have NO idea what I’m talking about. Thank you for being adorable and making this funny. Cheers to all you guys out there facing this problem; I’ll be cheering you on from the bathroom! 😂
Ahh, it's so comforting to see videos like this... whenever I get stressed,I have to poop, it's just the way it is. I also have super high anxiety about being in quiet places with people around,because in afraid my stomach will make noise. Therefore I couldn't stay in uni,because everyday I would feel miserable,my stomach hurted from stress,I couldn't focus at all in classes. But I'm alright now,I still avoid quiet places as much as possible,movie theaters etc, but at least now I kind of have accepted this about myself. I don't think I will ever be able to change, but at least I'm more accepting of myself and this issue. Best of luck to anyone who's in similar situation. Some things you might not be able to do,but life doesn't stop, you just need to find what works for you. 💟
how are you doing now if i may ask?
My poop anxiety is needing the bathroom and there's not one nearby like being inside a car, subway, bus, etc. I had such a hard time dating because of this. Even if I already went in the morning, I avoid having lunch if I know that I have a presentation or that I will be working with other people for that day. I developed this anxiety when I was running one day and needed to do number 2, but I ignored it, and had an accident. My biggest fear is that this happening in front of people. One thing that kinda helped me is wearing pads if I'll have to have lunch with coworkers or when I walked my dog and I just ate.It feels like a security blanket, but I've never overcame this anxiety. I talked to a psychiatrist and a therapist, but they didn't seem to understand the anxiety. I don't have IBS, but because of that one traumatic incident, it has overtaken my life
this is literally me in everything u said hopefully this can go away soon
WOW i didn't know this was real, i thought i was being a freak ! Listening and reading these different stories and watching the videos makes me feel better that am not alone....I went to the doctors got diagnosed with toilet anxiety and looked it up and am so glad am not alone...I have been dealing with this for over 5 years and its getting worse, i panic about needing a poo and not being a toilet around every second of the day, i drive but get the train to places so i have a toilet at hand, i cant fly because the last time i went away i pooed myself on the plane as soon as i knew i couldn't use the toilet, i go out the door and if i don't see a toilet i need it , i would be walking fine and be somewhere totally relaxed and then all of a sudden i would have an overwhelming thought that i was going to need a poo and someone would see me and start laughing or filming me and this would instantly make me need the toilet but i couldn't control it, it needed to happen that second and i would soil myself, i was struggling getting to work which is a 5 minute drive without having an accident, i cant take my kids far as i immediately think of a toilet situation, lack of one, social events invitations i have to refuse unless i can get the train straight to the destination. If i tell myself i don't need it and that its in my head i end up having a poo its so embarrassing , its not in my head it physically makes me need it there and then again and again , i can go and 3 minutes later again and again . My panick attacks start as a panic when i know theres no toilet or a distance from the toilet , i get hot and sweaty have palpitations feel dizzy my mouth goes dry my eyes go fuzzy and i feel like i am going to pass out and then i have no control i just poo myself, its horrible to live with each day. I try and do what i can with my kids and work but theres only so much you can take, i drive to the local park but when i need the toilet i know it sounds horrible but i have to go in my car, this is becoming each day each travel every place i go to, its even more horrible now because theres no chance i can wait in a queue for shops so i have to rely on my partner to go for us.I got to the point where i couldn't go the cinema concerts restaurants and just felt useless. I am going to try Hypnotherapy so wish me luck, any tips would be greatly appreciated, i would like to thank you and all the comments because now i know am not alone, i just pray this goes away. I hope every one elses situation gets better too. Stay safe and take care xxx
Hi. I’m going through the same. Has hypnotherapy worked?
My therapist said 1 out of 10 people have it...thats soo much.
Thank you for talking about it ❤
I definitely have this with diarrhea specifically. I'm super sensitive to my stomach in general because one of my biggest phobias is throwing up. I'm just not good with bodily functions at all. It's been really embarrassing in the past but now I have a really supportive and understanding boyfriend who helps me. I also went to a treatment center and they talked about the biological reasons for why you have to go to the bathroom when you get anxious. When animals go into fight or flight they shed any extra weight to help them be faster and more agile, so we do the same thing. It helped me feel less embarrassed to understand it.
YES! That helped me a lot too. You realise it’s a normal thing and not your body being weird. I’m so glad you’ve got support, it makes all the difference.
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yes, i always have to poop when i'm nervous
Yup geting sick is one of my BIGGEST fears
@@adrienne9271 Yep, same here! I have a phobia of vomiting too. It’s horrendous it terrifies me :(
I really, really needed this video. Thank you for sharing this.
I literally can’t thank you enough for this video. I’m struggling with toilet anxiety for more than 4 years and it controls my life completely. I’m about getting a bit better and your video definitely helped me realize that even if “it” happens - life goes on... that’s such a relaxing thought ...
I'm so glad, Diane!!! It does absolutely go on, and it's never as bad as we imagine it to be.
I wanna share my experience with this so it will maybe help me and others. So this whole thing started back in mid-2018. I was 20 years old and on my morning commute to work, at the time I took the bus and would normally arrive at my job in 45-60 min. Though, on this particular day, I was really hyper-aware of my bathroom schedule and left home wondering "what if I still need to go." Unfortunately for me, there was a major traffic accident and all traffic was being rerouted through one point, and then bam the sensation hit and I had to beg the driver to let me off on the highway as I knew a gas station was coming up. I do believe I was actually sick this day as I did have to use the toilet but it started an intense fear of potentially soiling myself on transit. The next few weeks consisted of me getting off the bus early to use a public toilet, or not getting back on the bus and calling in sick and staying in a location for an hour until I was comfortable to go back on to get home. This sensation was so intense that it truly feels like you have to go even though there is literally nothing left in the tract. Fed up with this I went to my doctor and he did all the physical tests and told me "its all in your head and there isn't anything physically wrong with you." I know he was trying to help me come to terms with it faster but he also mentioned to me another patient he had, ironically a bus driver, who went through the same thing as me, and told me he couldn't help it and was let go for obvious reasons. This created an intense fear of my life being disrupted for good and at 21 at this point in time made me severely anxious for the future and if I could actually achieve my dreams. It also affected my relationships with friends and my girlfriend, I made us get off a trolly tour because I felt I had to go, we went to a theme park and went to the bathroom after every lineup, we also did conventions and my costumes were always elaborate armor sets that need help to be taken off. And I would often flake on my friends because id rather not go out. fast forward now, I'm 22 and still dealing with it, though I can go hours at a time, I'm still not happy with this as I only used to go once a day, and now I'm going to the toilet 3-4 times a day. I also employed a similar system of going before I leave places. The most annoying thing though is being so aware that it's all in my head and nowhere else, but I swear I can hear this little voice in the back of my head saying "but what if it's not". My goal was to return to my natural schedule but I'm wondering if it's even possible at this rate, I'm even considering hypnotherapy to see if they can maybe help me forget the bus incident.
Story of my life, lol. I was 15 and riding the school bus when my stomach felt weird and I suddenly got the thought of, “what if an accident happened to me right now” and we were stuck in traffic on the highway, as well. And that was the time I experienced my first panic attack. I was able to overcome the anxiety after a couple of months, and I lived several years happily, but it returned. I haven’t been able to get over this since. My worst nightmares have come true, but I’m still optimistic and seeking help from doctors and I would like to get hypnotherapy, too.
I’ve thought of hypnotherapy as well!! I recently got engaged and I can’t help but panic of what my wedding day will be like living with this kind of anxiety!
Feel like I just had the biggest sigh of relief of my life watching this. Thank you ❤️
I’m so glad I’ve found this. I’ve been scared of going on the bus for a while because once I felt like I was gonna have an accident cos I had a panic attack. And just avoided going on long bus journeys ever since and I’ve always wondered what’s up with me, I’m glad I have an answer now and I’m not alone in this. :3 maybe I can find a way round this knowing I’m not alone, thank you for sharing.
Thank you for shedding some light on this topic! it has been a LONG 6 years, and I’m finally getting the help I need and people like you make it that much easier.
Thank you for being so open. My counsellor often tells me the things I don't want to say and I'm most frightened of saying to him he's heard so many times before from other clients and that they are really common fears. We need to share things more and help each other out!
I’m not sure if you’ll ever see this as this video is quite a few years old now and I’ve never felt compelled to leave a comment on a video before but I want you to know how wonderful this video is. For the past 2 years I have been unable to leave my house for anything other than a short trip to the shops because of my toilet anxiety. Like most people I felt completely alone in this fear. I thought I was crazy. I thought I’d never be normal again but seeing your video and seeing your progress in overcoming this specific fear gives me hope. Thank you
Thank you for such a lovely comment!!!!!! 😘 sending you so much love, it's definitely not an easy thing to go through but it helps when you know others are going through the same thing. There is definitely hope!!
i just want to say thank you so much for making this video i don’t have the #2 sensation it’s mostly just #1 but i’ve literally been at work crying my eyes out about it cause i felt stuck like i couldn’t do anything without having to go to the bathroom and this video has helped me a lot
Thankyou for helping me went through my toilet anxiety, i find my self getting better each day after doing exactly what you did.
That's so wonderful!!
Thank you very much i have suffered with this for years and as a 32 year old man who's usual responses are just get on with it. You have helped a-lot.
Omg its a nightmare for me.Fear of pooping and peeing myself.I visualise scenarios of people laughing and pointing at me and screaming that woman pooped and wet herself.
Same😭. When ever I am at school I feel like shitting myself and I can’t even use the toilet because there are weird people there who won’t let you use the toilet in peace
anyone else get "stuck" on the toilet (when peeing)? Tips? Tricks? Its so hard for me to get up and leave the bathroom, because it still feels like I have to go so bad. :( im in there for like half an hr sometimes. Im like, "just get up!", but its not that easy. Its really ridiculous.
Omg yes me! I take so long “what did you do fall in?”
Noooo I was having a panic attack!
I used to get this feeling, and what actually helped me was to pee, then stand up and jump 3 times and then sit down again. After that I would see if any pee came out and then leave the toilet.
Thanks, guys. I try everything. Lol. Mantras, breathing, scheduled breaks etc and I STILL end up sitting for 30 mins like “I know it’s in there!” 😂 it’s absurd
Whenever I go to poop I feel anxious that will my poop again stuck and thinking about that thing my poop again strucks I feel as if my stomach is not empty everytime please help me
i feel so relieved right now.
I always have the fear of peeing myself to the point that I check it every 5min-
I‘m always paranoid that something is wet and that it happened without me noticing it.
The fear of not getting out of this embarrassing situation is just so terrifying for me.
I also have this visions of it happening to me and never recovering from it blabla
I just can’t go out anymore-
I am panicking all the time
I’m so glad that someone understands me. Every morning before school I get anxious. Literally every morning. And it’s gotten so much worse with Covid. Since I haven’t been going to school for a good 6 months and then all of a sudden I started going to school 2 days a week I get even more anxious. I’m literally freaking out rn cuz I have to go to school tomorrow, and I have a test which makes it worse.
i feel the same it never happened before lockdown but since we have been in lockdown and had access to the toilet all the time i was fine but when i started going to school the worry about the teacher not letting me go to the toilet just stresses me out and i just start to panic in class
I have had years of this since being 5 . Thank you thank you for talking about it 🙏
*WHO HAS OVERCOME THIS?*
So many people in the comment section going through the same thing. It’s comforting knowing that we’re not alone, but what’s the solution?
Im still dealing with my anxiety, in fact I had a really bad panic attack this week, but i know that i can’t put myself down for it. I think what helps me is to think to myself,” you are in control of your body, and your going to be okay, its okay to be uncomfortable” So really my solution is to put myself in those situations that i dont want to be in much as i can even if i dont want to. And most of the time i still get panic attacks, but after like 20 mins the anxiety and adrenaline wears off. And to be honest toilet phobia doesnt really go away, you just learn to manage the fear
I had this for a year but I’ve figured out the difference between my anxiety and actually needing to go to the bathroom, so the solution is to deal with it, DO NOT GO TO THE BATHROOM UNLESS YOU REALLY NEED TOO. It’s hard, but possible. It did work for me
When I did LSD I had this problem really relieved for like 6 months, then it appeared again. They say LSD helps cure depression for like 6 months at least, so it may be that. Maybe curing depression helps it.
I had CBT which advises "exposure therapy" like Lauren suggested - doing small things your uncomfortable with but in a safe controlled way [on your own with change of clothes] and build this up to re-enforce a positive belief that you can leave the house and nothing bad will happen.
I think you have to reverse the negative thinking that caused this in the first place by proving you can hold it - still work in progress for me but Im working on it. Good luck to you all, remember you are not alone.
Because of this video,I went out today and had a lovely time even though i have the fears you mention. Its not always going to be like that but you certainly helped my confidence to be brave and have a go. Thank you. Its been ruining my whole life so I have to keep trying.
Not trusting my body is exactly how I describe it. Its like I don't trust my body to do its job properly.
Don't worry about you dog Amy from Vintage space has a cat that likes to "enjoy" the furniture during her videos
MrImperium yes! Exactly. But I’m realising now that it does its job wonderfully, I just need to stop misinterpreting the signals.
Hahahha I’ll have to check that out. Should start a channel for ‘inappropriate pets’ 😅
I think its great that you are talking about it so openly. I wish more people would. I realised it was nothing to be embarrassed about years ago as you say everybody poops Also allow me to introduce Amy's cat Pete ruclips.net/video/FoFgBMBituk/видео.html
this literally is me. All this anxiety started a while ago because one time i got really bad diarrhea on a road trip (tmi i know lol) but it was really bad and from then on i have this fear that its going to happen again. It gets so bad that i don't want to leave the house because i think that i'm literally going to shit myself in front of family/friends etc. and the anxiety usually causes me to have diarrhea and stomach pains so its just a terrible cycle :/ I used to sleep over at friends houses and go out all the time but i don't any more because I don't want anyone to know i have this embarrassing problem...
Bro it also happened to ,beacause I have depression and feared,shy to ask for using toilet in school.It causes shitting in pants in classroom.It causes depression and always urge to pee and pooping . After 3 years am also suffering this until now,it does not ending.My fear,shyness is the reason for my this worst condition.
It happened to me, first semester, freshman year, on a bus. Woke up late had only five minutes to get ready, six assignments due that day. We were a mile from the school and I could hold it no longer, sitting beside a stranger only made it worse. I ran to a bathroom stall and cried, got someone’s random clothes thrown to me under the stall door. The school wanted me to stay at school and continue with my day, but I called home. I sat in a counselor’s office waiting for my mom, one I had talked to before, and she had the nerve to ask me if I did it on purpose.... most embarrassing, humiliating, and degrading experience of my life.
I’ve had this prob since 1988 😒
I have this same issue ..I want to go out and enjoy life ..I've had it for 15 years!!
@Bronwyn Never be ashamed or embarrassed! Pooping/Peeing is like the most Natural thing ever!
Everyone does it and has to do it. Never be embarrassed! And I feel u rly bad I used to have all this stuff I just tried to clear my mind By breathing… I also have rly bad anxiety so I know how u feel it’s horrible! Absolutely horrible
I have toliet anxiety. I once needed the toliet before going to school but didn't go after thinking I wouldn't need it when I arrived at school. My school toliets are horrible. The day I needed it , I went home after the fear of going into the school toliets. It sounds stupid, but it affects my life. I always go to the toliet 2 times before going to school. Don't let it stay. There are things to put in food and stuff so it doesn't smell when you go for it you have anxiety about that. It can take over your life and you won't want to go outside. Plz don't let it take over your life. I hope this helped. Oh also I have a school trip in may cuz I'm in yr6 and I'm going for 3 DAYS! I will have to use the toliet by school friends and I don't know how clean the toliet will be. Wish me luck😂
This is the only video I've found that I can 100% relate to/ you are the only person I've found who seems to understand exactly what I'm going through! Whenever I have to walk anywhere I feel like I'm going to wee myself and I get into such a state I just want to run into a bathroom. My heart races and my breathing is really quick and my whole body tenses up. Recently I've been taking Beta Blockers to slow down my heart rate which helps occasionally, but the fear is still there and I know that Beta Blockers will never make it go away :( I've seen a doctor and a counsellor but neither seem to understand :( im currently on my year abroad as part of my uni degree which I think started this whole problem as I was so nervous. When I'm with other people sat down or in a building I'm okay. It's when I'm walking around in public, especially if I make eye contact with anyone I instantly feel like I'm going to wee myself. It's such a terrifying feeling :( I think I'm going to try and go on a walk everyday just around the block, even if it's only for 5 minutes, and then 10 minutes another day, and then 20, until I feel okay about walking to the beach (it's a 40 minute walk at the moment, even with friends this is terrifying!) I so hope this works🤞🏻
Eleanor Jane it will work!!! I promise. I think what happens is we get in the habit mentally of thinking we need to wee every couple minutes, but also we eventually train our bladders to hold for only a short amount of time. I can absolutely tell you that I used to be really shocking with my constant toilet trips and now I’d say im pretty much on the normal end of the scale. It’s not fun when it rules your life, but also I think it’s important to remember to give yourself a break - if you really feel like you need to go, go! 😊
You just described my problem. Plus, I have another one of passing gas ( really embarrassing).
Hi Eleanor, I completely understand how you feel. I hope it got better for you!
Did it get better ?
Ive had mine since i was 16 and im pretty sure the reason why is because i got really addicted to coffee in highschool. I would get anxiety, and also need to go poo from the coffee, and need to go to the bathroom but i realized that you cant be asking to go to the bathroom every class without others noticing and theres always the chance that the teacher could say no. So thats how it started for me, in the beginning i was able to deal with it by basically saying "its just the coffee making you anxious and your getting paranoid" and also the excitement or importance of doing the task at hand overlooked the need for the bathroom, but then it started getting worse. I think that because i continued coffee and was constantly putting myself through it i got used to having the anxiety and started expecting and fearing it more. I started thinking "wow i need to go alot im going to have an accident one day and embarrass myself" and because coffee is like a laxative it reinforced that mind set and made me correlate anxiety with going to the bathroom and needing the bathroom with being in the classroom, and then eventually the bus, and then the car, and then even in my own home! If the bathroom is occupied at my hoise by someone else i get instant anxiety and start getting scared, in the place i should feelnthe most safe, im constantly on edge and feeling pathetic. My life feels like its been completely derailed and plans completely squashed. Now im 21 and i cant be in places where the bathroom isnt available or situations that im not able to be allowed to leave to use it. Its the worse its ever been to honest, and im just now taking the plunge into reading about it and hearing other peoples stories because i always thought that i was being irrational and that i was the only one. The feeling of knowing that other suffer from this and deal with it daily makes me feel so relieved and understood, and like "well if they can get through it so can i" and now im trying harder than ever to fight this. Things ive been trying to do to better myself are fixing my diet, not drinking coffee, letting myself have a bit if time to freakout then calming myself, recognizing that its a bit irrational, and making myself put the fun and importance above it. Some things im trying to breakout of are thinking that its "how things are now", that "the car is bad", and "i need to go", and "everytime im in a constrictive situation im going to get anxiety" and "this food or drink is probably going to make me need to go" because these thoughts are what reinforce the anxiety and make it worse, but its hard because like i said before ive become used to these things. Im hoping i can get better so i can go forth nd do the things I want in life :) i hope everyone else can too. Thank you for the video ❤
Thank you for sharing your story ! I can relate so much!
Thank you so much for posting such an honest video! You definitely helped me feel less alone in this :) And to see you can now manage it gives me a bit of hope for myself. I can't thank you enough!
when i take a express bus (long time bus) or airplane. it's make me nervous and wanted go to toilet.
This is so helpful. Thank you. I thought this was I was the only one. It never occured to me that it was part of my anxiety disorder and connecting with my body
Thank you so much, I'm glad you found it helpful!!
I have this issue and I’m so happy to come across your video!! I’m at my wits end and letting my anxiety control me
You've got this. You are in control. Anxiety is just an extension of you, not the other way around!!
11th grade i started getting horribly sick several times a day. After a lot of tests i found that i have celiac disease and was lactose intolerant. I switched up my diet, and that was great. My fear though about gettng sick didn't go away and it shrank my bubble as to when and where I'd go. Being stuck in traffic is the worst! I have religious trauma that played into my crazy worst-case scenarios. The anxiety would flare up my legit stomach conditions, which creates a vicious cycle.
I appreciate your vids. I'm trying to do a similar thing. I want to create more peer support for people with mental health struggles. I want to help end the stigma around mental health struggles. I want to experience a world where it's as common to talk about panic attacks as it is to talk about the weather.
Thank you SO much for this video!
I took a trip to the Philippines earlier this year and got diarrhea from the food and feel like I lost the trust in my body. My biggest fear is to crap my pants. It's so nice to see that I am not alone with this fear!
And thanks to everyone in the comments for all the amazing tips!
PS: I just saw that you recently posted an update on this topic. Will definitely watch it later! :)
All i have to say is thank you so much for making an actual helpful video and not a ridiculous joke-y “relatable” video making fun of needing to poo in public.
So I'm 18 and feel anxious 24/7 because of this and I'm so glad that you made this video because although I know myself that it must be all in my head because even when I go nothing comes out, but you have actually managed to prove to yourself it isnt something to worry about every second of every minute of every day. I feel like this fear of not being near a toilet has completely taken over my life for the past 4 years, since I was only 14! and it has only gotten worse. At this point I feel so out of control and helpless I dont know what to do. My parent's still have almost complete control over where I go and what i do and over my biggest problem, what holidays I go on ie, long car journeys where I'm not in control of the car and when we stop and where we go. Tomorrow/today we are going on a 3 hour and 20 minute drive and my family hate stopping at services and obviously, because I have toilet anxiety, as you put it, I will feel the need to go at the most every hour of that journey wich my family will not do. It's too much of an embarrassment to explain this issue to my family as they will only make fun of me or complain like they have done before, thinking it to be part of the regular family banter that we all enjoy together, however each complaint or remark about me having to use the bathroom constantly only makes me more embarrassed and anxious and making me need the toilet even more. If you have any suggestions of what to do I would realy appreciate the help? In all honesty, I'm at a complete loss and dont know where to turn or how to get help. (Also I am English so I think a few of my words might be odd but by holiday I mean vacation, sorry if theirs anything else I missed or any spelling mistakes I made)
When I’m catching a panic attack or anxiety attack I feel like the toilet is the best place for me to calm down. I relieve myself and get myself together at the same time
Dating is almost impossible with this disease! How are we suppose to do normal activities (hiking, road trip, long walk...) without explaining that we fear using the toilets or that we need to use the toilets every 2 sec!
i have this for like 7 months and its taking over my life i have panic attacks all the time anxiety all the time overthinking everything, i cant get in a car,bus or a closed space for a long time, and also going somewhere like an open place( going around town, a park, going to a cafe, party) and i cant talk to anyone about it no one understands me and thinks im an idiot and they laugh at me, i've had suicidal thoughts from the pressure of everything about going to the fricking toilet
I love you for making this video. I thought that I am alone and completely crazy. I am going through exactly the same thing. Started with urophobia and now I literally think I need poop all the time ... a specially on motorway. Thank you for this .... you are amazing person.
I'm suffering from anxiety disorders ....I'm a footballer and I can't get my confidence back and i feel like I'm having a lot of medical issues and i keep worring all day .Right now i Need to go back to my normal life but it looks impossible.
thank you for this video AM. looking into low FODMAP diet now.
I'm so glad I found this video, cause no one understand what it feels and most of time I'm in no control of it...
You are in control of it! For myself panic attacks creates IBS and I have learned to control my panic attacks with respiration techniques. Although sometimes I still feel I can’t leave the house because of the fear of having to use the toilets.
just the thought of “there’s no toilets near” makes me extremely nervous because WHAT IF i need to poop and there’s nowhere to go?? and that causes anxiety and the anxiety causes my stomach to hurt! this actually paired with my eating disorder has made me so afraid of eating because poop comes from what we eat so I figured that if I don’t eat maybe the problem will be less severe and it did…it does help but I am starving myself
This is amazing I am 33 year old male who is living with this and it’s killing me. I’m missing my daughter growing up, my wife is over it.
It’s good to hear this
Omg I’m not the only one!!! This rules my life - constantly needing to pee, can’t be without a toilet - cars, meetings, kids assemblies, movies. It makes my life impossible :( will try some of your tips Thank you
This is so helpful. I quit my job and am traveling for about a year. At the beginning of traveling, about 2 months ago, things were okay. I had my mint tin with me which I use to carry pepto and other stomach things, and that was fine. Now though I am stuggling so much and it is becoming crippling. I am so scared that I won’t be able to enjoy my year of exploring, or I will have to go home early, because of my fear of needing to poo and not being able to. The take off and landing on an airplane literally cause me panic attacks because I am not able to go to the bathroom. I get that feeling more and more now even when I’m not flying (just extreme panic like I’m about to lose my shit literally and figuratively) and am feeling so scared and lost. This video was extremely helpful and I am so thankful for it.
I understand you. I had a bad experience first time ever when flying and it was because of the Spanish tortilla in bread I ate before going to gates. Gave me bad bacteria. My bf went to loo and asked me, you not going? I said I'm fine I don't need a toilet. Then when we passed the gates to go on transfer bus I got a bad stomach, had to calm myself and breath and trying to put my thinking far away till we got to the plane. It was embarrassing getting up 2,3 times. Then I just took the imodium. I could not use wc as we were preparing for landing horrible. I said I have a diarrea it's not easy to hold it! Now I'm watching what I eat before the flight
i really needed this. thank you so much
You're welcome! You are not alone ❤️
Hey thabk you for sharing this. I thought, i’m the only one having this phobia. I can pretty much relate to you. You’re very blessed to have supportive and loving people around you. My trigger was the fear of judgement. I realized that the more i gave fucks to what people think, the more triggered I am.
absolutely true!
omg finally someone to talk about it. I've been suffering from dirrheaphobia since 2017 and most of them don't understand it. I was only 17 years old when I got it and since then I have hardly lived any more, I rarely go out and I can forget about a road trip. It's so bad.
*diarrhea
Wow...this sums me up, thankyou so much for this video and releasing it! You are so relatable, I keep thinking that I need to go to the toilet when I go out I’m terrified of cars/trains.
It all started when I had a panic attack on a plane a few years ago there was so many people and felt claustrophobic ..since that I have never been on a plane
Then it progressed...I got fearful of cars because there’s no toilet, I can only manage just about 5 mins in a car
Trains I have only just recently had a panic attack on. I don’t know why...I think it’s the feeling of not being able to get out..
However.. here is the funny part...I have previously been on about 12 plane flights, 100s of car journeys and about 80 train journeys in my life time ( approx ) everything seems to be closing in on me.
I know it’s my mind...I feel as though it’s taken control of my life **sigh**
Appreciate the video xx
Hi Peter
That all sounds very familiar! I'm the same. I've traveled so much in my lifetime with no issues but once it [the issues] started, it just seemed to all become very impossible, very quickly! It's bizarre, because I can be at home with my toddler and be doing housework and things and not even think about going to the toilet for hours, but then as soon as I was in a car or somewhere without immediate access to one, it was like I needed to go every five seconds!
I'm about to go on a plane next week, for the first time in five years, so I will film as much as I can of that trip if you'd like.
I do think we can get control of this. I think it's an illusion when we convince ourselves that our toilet anxiety has taken control of us. I know I have improved dramatically in the last few years so I know there's hope! I think it's just matter of learning to trust your body and knowing that there's possibly a bigger underlying fear that we are ignoring, and once we sort that out, the toilet issue can seem less scary and strange.
AnxietyMamma aww hope your journey goes well please let us know how you get on I’m glad that there’s someone I can relate to out there :) I’m glad you’ve improved a lot I think you’re right there may be an underlying issue but perhaps baby steps is the way forward
Wow! I truly thought I was the only one who deals with this! I'm so so glad there's other people that have this issue! This past year has been very tough especially since I moved to another country, the apartment I live in has only one bathroom/toilet that I share with two other people. I found that just the loud fan in the bathroom or knowing I have to leave my apartment for errands really triggers it, where I get the very awful feeling of needing to poop that comes in waves. I have not yet reached out for help and no one except my partner knows what I've been dealing with, but after watching your video I feel as though I have the strength to do so and finally get help for my anxiety.
Thank you for sharing your story :)
I'm so glad you found me and are now reaching out for help! You are not alone, there are so many people going through the same thing. Sending you so much love, thank you for sharing!
this is so me, when i get out to public i just get panic attacks that i need to pee. i have a fear of mirrors and fear or falling asleep, i have many anxieties but by far this is the worst.
Sending you love, I know exactly what you mean!
I have this exact anxiety! It first started my sophomore year of highschool with a uti. The uti went away but the symptoms stayed, it only makes it worse when you have to ask permission to use the restroom. This finally went away in college because I didn’t have to ask the professor to excuse myself from the class. It has now come back to haunt me and I don’t know how to get rid of it. It has been 4 years from the last time I’ve experienced it. Still trying to work on it. Thank you for the tips !!!
You're welcome Jazmine, keep at it girl!!
OMG YES!!!!! Thank you for making this video!!! I've had this since I was 7 years old (I'm 32 now). I recently started therapy because the anxiety & constant fear of shitting my pants took over my entire life. Thank you so much for telling us that we are not alone.
Hi was wondering if therapy helped? Thinking of trying it too because this is taking over my life :(
@@jasonmiller7805 Hi Jason. It sure did! We first started digging to the bottom of it. Why was I so anxious? Where did it come from? What's the worst thing that could happen? And so on... Later on, we started working on exposing me to certain situations. It's really hard in the beginning but it gets better. Trust me! Now, everyday I drive to work and get stuck (sometimes on purpose, just to challenge myself) in a traffic jam for about +20min. A year ago, I would even stop in public restrooms before a traffic light because I was so afraid that I needed to go to the toilet when the traffic light would turn red. So hang on there! It gets better. Believe in yourself. You can get through this.
@Stephanie Thanks for your reply! Do you have 'safe' places where you do not feel the urge, or just the normal urge, for example at home?
For me I have a constant urge no matter where I am, even at home it is still uncomfortable, although it is much scarier when I am in public.
However, all my tests show that there is nothing wrong with my bladder function, so I am confused because I have read that for some people they feel normal at home. So I'm not sure if it's really anxiety causing it. How is it like for you?
@@jasonmiller7805 At my worst, I only felt safe on the toilet. But I didn't have problems with my bladder, only when it was at it's worst. I had more struggles with my intestines... Maybe it's because you're so deep down in this vicious circle that you can't seem to find peace? You can still try therapy. If it doesn't work, you didn't lose anything (except some money).
@Stephanie Hmm yeah that could be a possibility! I guess at the very least therapy can teach me how to cope with living with this. Will need to look for one who is more familiar with this because I went to a counsellor a few years back who mainly told me to do breathing techniques. While she was nice, it didn't really help me that much.
Can anyone relate?
For the past 9 months I've had an issue with my stomach/anxiety that has turned my life upside down. I believe it was caused from a hectic lifestyle of working/studying full time, not sleeping enough and drinking way too many energy drinks. I was burnt out. The deadlines at college, a horrible manager and a job I hated was also stressing me out. It all eventually effected my stomach. I had a pain in my upper stomach, I'd get bad cramps, diarrhoea, constipation, indigestion or heartburn, a feeling of needing to poop all the time and feel sick or nauseous. Due to these symptoms I began to feel really anxious in certain situations in public and the 'fight or flight' panic response would kick in. I'd instantly feel like I need to go to the toilet and want to exit and find the nearest toilet, fast! I've had a fair few bad experiences and now I have fears about doing certain things when I'm unsure of where I can quickly get to a toilet, such as travelling long distances or appointments and meetings with strangers etc.
I struggle to make it to the doctors due to my anxiety issue. The times that I have made it, I was a complete nervous wreck and I felt like I was going to crap myself at any moment and wanted to run away. 7 months ago I was told it was probably gastritis and was prescribed Omeprazole which I took for 3 months. It helped with certain symptoms but the problems still continued. I've had a blood test, which came back totally fine. Next I think I'll have a breathe test and stool test. So I don't know what the issue is with my stomach at the moment. I don't think it's IBS because nothing I eat effects me. I eat diary, gluten, vegetables, spicy foods, everything. No problem.
So 9 months on and although the issue isn't as bad as it once was. My main problems are feeling sick/nauseous, especially in the morning and when I'm hungry. Heartburn/indigestion. Occasionally I'll have lots of gas and feel bloated, tightness in my stomach, funny spasms and dull cramps. I don't get any major pains or diarrhoea anymore. My stomach just feels all over the place and that causes the anxiety.
I'd like to add that I've never had problems with anxiety before I started having stomach issues either. My stomach problems started first, that was soon followed by the anxiety. I just wanted to know if anyone else has felt the same or similar to my situation? I'm desperate to find out whats wrong as its really messing up my life. I've turned down a job, put off university, I've not been out or done anything except work, so its also effecting my relationship too now :(
I feel like I’m about to cry myself. This whole feeling has been going on for two weeks and it’s stopped me going out as I can’t last more than 5mins on journey in the car somewhere in case I pee myself but I really need to work on myself and get comfortable in my body and needing the toilet is just a normality.. this video was soo helpful thank you!! Xxxx
i hope you’re doing better now x
Never feel embarrassed or ashamed! For peeping yourself! Honestly it might sound really disgusting and werid but no.. I’ve grown up to learn nothing like that is gross at all.. Honestly accidents Happen all the time! No matter the age wether u do it a lot… it’s still something we can’t deal with sometimes! So it can be very hard. Never be embarrassed we’re all humans and we should never judge each other for anything :D
😔 so relatable, thank you for this video.
this is a big problem in my life, if am able to control this, i may conquer the world (just kidding).. it's affecting my love life, i didn't let any girl to come close to me, i think, I will just ruin their life. i feel disappointed to discard their proposal.. wish i could tell them
Mine is so badd. I get light headed and my breath gets shakey,I get a tummy ache and I have to walk around to make it stop. It's so bad that I never wanna leave the house. My parents laugh about it but I don't find it funny. I even get nervous about being rushed while using #2. I'm scared to poop in public 😭😭😭😭 it has completely taken over my life I never go out or to sleepovers or even do things with family outside of home anymore 😕😕😕😕😟
Yasmine Rodriguez I have the same thing it’s like u just narrated my story.
I feel the exact same way and totally get it. I think you should slowly try to bring yourself back into a routine. I’m still in that process and it’s been helping a bit so far. But I totally get where your coming from. I also have the fear of being rushed when going #2. I always have to go in the morning but literally like the minute I’m supposed to leave so it leads me to be late a lot. Then I get scared at school. I recently started meditating every morning and night and I haven’t been doing it for that long but it’s helped and if your symptoms are centered around anxiety (or not) then this could be a good step to take. Every time I feel off I try to listen to music or at least hum something. Idk but that helps me
@@miajewel7899 is there a youtube vid link or music u use that you can share please so i can also start meditating too, since i think is what im missing :)
Thank q very much u worked better for me than a therapist sister
I'm in my uni washroom rn and I'm trying to distract myself from the anxiety
I'm so glad I'm not alone..! I have been afraid of toilets since I was about five years old, my mom told me a bunch of nonsense about public toilets and now I feel like I'm a total freak for being afraid of public toilets. I'm even afraid of school toilets and its causing me total embarrassment... I have been wanting to see if there were other people like me.
Thank you so much for this video! It really helps to know that you're not alone in this situation :) New subscriber!
Thank you for sharing your experience and tips. Makes others feel less alone and confused. It's impt to figure out the cause of the thought. Mine was irritable bowel syndrome made me hyper sensitive and hyper aware. It is normal-- we need to take life less seriously, trust life and be kind to ourselves. Over thinking is the problem and meditation, exercise and a sense of humour can be the cure or healthy coping mechanism.
AS You’re absolutely right. My symptoms go away when I’m not worried.
Just subscribed as I am looking for help.
I have this problem for years. Can't remember when it started.. I remember.. normally in long bus travel to Uni early in the morning I had to use toilet to empty myself.. But then I never had much issue in other situations.
I was working in UK in USA but my stomach is sensitive and many times I get cramps from some food and then diarrea. In past years in every holiday I went at least ones happend in every destination but was lucky to be near the toilet..
Last time and first time ever in ten years flying got diarrea when we left gate to go to the transfer bus.. When before I was absolutely fine!! then in bus got suddenly noise in my tummy and gas and I knew soon I need to use a toilet, felt embarrassed as my bf was next to me .. The Spanish tortilla bun I ate half of it and then 20 min this happend. Gave me a bad bacteria. Luckily bus started and took us to the plane, so I had to breathe calmly and wait, wasn't a short journey..it was horrible to hold it. Then managed in the plane to use a WC. And 2 more times during the flight. Horrible! Kind of gives me anxiety now going to a gate or waiting room where you don't have a WC or can't go back.. So I try eat much less.
When traveling by car better but hate the bus. And I don't drive.
I learnt not to drink tea when traveling or before going on bus or car. Tea makes you go to pee even more..
Sometimes happens in winter that woman gets cold from above or urine infection that gives her sensation to go pee all the time. I had that last winter.
I want to fight it this anxiety going to the toilet before going on public transport or any.. Just must make myself sure I won't need a loo on next hour or two. 😩🤷🏼♀️🙏🏼🙏🏼
Thank you so much for this video, I have been dealing with this for so long and has made me agoraphobic, just miserable to tell you the truth, so thank you again for your honesty.
I have this and I hate it .one of the worst things for me is being at school and worrying that half way through a lesson my stomach is going to turn and I’m going to really need the toilet but because of school rules I won’t be able to go. I also get it a lot when with friends or family ,even if there’s easy access to a toilet ,because if I keep going to the toilet or stay in there for a long time they will get suspicious . Ik a lot of people say that long journeys are bad for them but for me being on transport and moving it soothes the anxiety.
I also know what caused it for me, I was out with my cousin and I was desperate for the toilet but every shop we went into said that they don’t have one/won’t let me use one and I could barely walk because I was in so much pain (I was 13 at the time) I ended up pooping myself in the middle of the road and having to call up my mum to come collect us in the car because I had shat myself and it was everywhere .
I've always had mild toilet anxiety (because I'm constantly nauseas) but in the past month it has gotten so bad. I need to pee all the time. I don't like going out for lunch/dinner anymore incase there's no toilet nearby. Long car rides freak me out. It sucks so much. Thanks for this video!
Another excellent video. I 100% relate to this. I'm still doing the exposure stuff. Every few months I get a bit better at managing the anxiety. These videos are really helpful
Louise Nicholls thank you so much! I’m glad you’re enjoying them. Exposure therapy seems to take a long time but I think it really is the best way! ❤️
For me it’s needing to use the toilet and one not being available
K Whitmill me too!
Same! It starts the moment i live the house
Ever since I saw a spider in the bathroom I’ve been physically SCARED to go to the toilet and now I have to wait until I can’t hold it anymore and when I do go, I look in ONE a place and I’m as stiff as a board and then I run on to the bed when I’m done and it’s ridiculous!
Thank you for this, I thought I was alone.:((
These emogeys are no jokes when I am at home. 💩👾👽👻💀👺😱😰😬😲😦😧😨😔😞😟😭😤😕😓😒🙁😫😪😯😥😮🤐🤔🙄😣😥😮🤐😯😪😫🙁😒😓😔😕😲😞😟😢😭😦😧😨😩😬😰😱😳. Seems like I'm never going enjoy my life again.
I have the same problem and did the diet. I also found out I'm elergic to garlic, fructose, honey, pear, haribos, gluten intolerant and lactos intolerant.
It happened to me, last semester, freshman year, on a bus. Woke up late had only five minutes to get ready, six assignments due that day. We were a mile from the school and I could hold it no longer, sitting beside a stranger only made it worse. I ran to a bathroom stall and cried, got someone’s random clothes thrown to me under the stall door. On that day of all days I was wearing white pants. The school wanted me to stay at school and continue with my day, but I called home. I sat in a counselor’s office waiting for my mom, one I had talked to before, and she had the nerve to ask me if I did it on purpose.... most embarrassing, humiliating, and degrading experience of my life. I’m a very ambitious person and sometimes my anxiety is disabling, the worst part about it is I have no way to get help. It’s very nice to know I’m not the only person because I got made fun of... I was a straight A student and leadership in a club I had to change schools for the first time in my life.
I'm sorry you had to go through all of that! You are not the only person, I hope you know that you aren't weird or abnormal. It happens to SO many people, and I can understand how you felt humiliated and degraded but please know you are worthy, and you are important, and that one experience should not have to cloud your entire life. Sending you so much love.
Thank you for this video.