Great video. I do not latch on to my dates at all. Then I finally met one man I truly connected. Then I managed to screw things up with my anxious relationship style. So weird how that kicks in when you finally meet someone you’re digging.
Well that's the definition of anxiety. You're afraid of losing the one person or thing that can take care of you or make you happy in a meaningful way. Of course you're gonna freak out and try to control things to try to keep them in your life.
I know you are a busy guy, but you need to write a book for people BEFORE they go into relationship with your information. I wish I had known a lot of your teachings BEFORE some of my dating and relationships.
I've only discovered your work here this week Coach Craig, and have been watching your back catalogue of videos. I want to comment here that these real life case study tutorials are both engrossing and valuable. Thank you very much, From Australia.
I agree. But I’m now in the phase of having recently broken up with my ex and men I have met for now can’t outshine my ex ...I’m starting to feel I can never meet anyone, not to mention someone that is more outstanding.:(
Hang in there, and be strong. Time is your friend, investn in yourself and understand how much this pain, moment and phase will help you evolve even more. It hurs, stings, depressing, etc.. Trust me I know. But your happiness is the key and understand YOU are the one and only one who can help you in the long term.
LaoSoftware - would you easily let go and move on if you felt love for them and were attached to them? I’ve let go easily, but only when my feelings weren’t involved.
Do either of you have office hours in Orlando? Also do you accept Florida Health Care Plans? I tried reviewing your website but seems you only do the online/Skype coaching???
I've dated guys where I wanted to take things slowly to get to know them. And by the 3rd date they start insulting me or making me jealous talking about other girls. They later tell me that they did that because I didn't show enough interest and that I don't care. This happening within 2-3 dates. What could've been a great relationship starts off with insecurities and hurtful behavior. I should've stopped at that point instead of giving them the benefit of the doubt and continuing. Would've saved me heartache.
wow amazing did you really get jealous? I think you shouldn't have and you should of told him maybe you should go be with them girls you talking about then. Men are terrible t body language so your body language might of showed high interest but because you were not verbally telling them how you feel they felt insecure. Congrats you weeded out the insecure men.
AVOIDANT and Anxious/ Disaster. Heart broken disaster, and AVOIDANT bury their feelings so you know who was left with all the pain. And I was never told anything about this disorder he has so I was truly thrownaback by his WITHDRAWING behavior and stopped sex, kissing, touching, holding hands etc. text, calls from on 100 to 0.5%. I kept asking was there something bothering him. He say nah. We good. Ok. So He just stopped answering phone for days. Small things I asked him to do. He never did. I ask again, not done... oh so he can't do anything for you either because he believes at this stage in the relationship, every body should be SELF sufficient and needing others is a sign of weakness, I verbally went in on his behavior and Omg. I was not nice. He turned into a monster, ok. Like he never knew me and said he has NO FEELINGS. BLOCKED ME AND WENT ON LIKECI NEVER EXISTED
Hey Coach Craig. I just wanted to say that besides being amazing, you've got great taste in women. 🤣 Adriana Lima and Natalie Portman... I completely agree. Thanks for all you do and I am forever grateful. I will be sending a success story shortly.
Can’t stay in the moment when it’s long distance! It doesn’t work! Heartache just continues over time! You will always stay disconnected because there is no connection! I texted my ex all night long for lots of nights because he was ignoring me! This man is 57 has never been married. Doesn’t have a home, lives with his mother and he thinks he is the ego, narcissistic person that knows everything! He says all his exes always still text him! I don’t believe him! He is the most insecure man I have known! He’s the most manipulative person and doesn’t want to burn any bridges! I feel he has used me for the past 8 years! You can’t feel safe when they are 5 hours away!
He seems to be in love, that's why he's already attached to her after two dates. It is rare for a man but it may happen. this man seems to be a tender one with warm feelings and this is something hard to find.
if we cant think of a person that we are dating as someone who can gratify our needs, then who is supposed to gratify our needs if not them?? i know you'll say its us but what if the person we are dating, has alot of the qualities that we are looking for in a partner? are we not allowed to fantasize on potentially having them as a romantic partner?
vanessa v. I think it’s normal and healthy to expect your partner to meet your needs while you meet their needs. The problem lies in expecting your partner to meet all your needs, placing them on a pedestal and expecting the partner to be responsible for own happiness- which of course is unrealistic and unfair to our partner. Also, that kind of pressure placed on a partner can cause them to run away.
Are long distance relationships even relationships or just some weird fantasty play? I get it If it's like love on first sight and life tragically forces you apart but people are building entire relationships with people they don't even know. It's kinda crazy If you ask me.
This guy would totally drive me away. He was weak and needy from the first date! And telling her he’s heart broken and sad is not attractive. As a woman, I want a strong, confident man!
Stacey Swope I'm a guy and I agree with you . Hollywood has confused men into thinking that women want weak snag . Reality us that women want strong alphas .
if you are still friends and still text but youve made the mistake of doing this texting thing too much and not actual in person interaction, can it be turned around if we'd begin hanging out in person? do you think the attraction would rebuild? Please reply.
Mid 40's, too nice guy syndrome, too soft, doesn't know when to escalate things. As an older man, he should already know about seduction. Hes more emotional than the woman. He needs to work on cultivating his masculinity and seduction skills. Also, does he realize that in 20 years he'll be in his mid 60's and her in her mid 40's? This is recipe for disaster as a long term relationship. A short fling yes. long term no.
Hard to display confidence when you’re rejected left and right… People (guys) suck! In the next life we’ll be free from the judgements of others and free from the pain of this physical world.
A woman sleeping in your bed showing a high level of attraction and desire to hook up, you get to the foreplay and suddenly hit the brakes. I think there’s gotta be more going on here, something just seems off. Normally a guy is going to hook up and make her his lover. It’s one of the greatest things in life. There’s definitely not going to be any anxiety the next morning after a night like that.
I've crashed many guys beds before without feeling high level of attraction or intended to hook up, I just felt comfortable enough to sleep there, not threatened. Don't think with a woman's brain.
a guy hopping in bed w a woman so soon is a huge turnoff. that’s what happened. “a tall glass of you” is so cringe but I think she was cringing inside and didn’t want to say her real answer (which was probably “nothing, don’t bother”) also women don’t say cheesy things like that or try hard to flirt, so that’s unnatural, she was trying but then couldn’t bring herself to continue
Exactly. If a guy is so anxious to take the woman to bed and setting dates at his house she will think that's only what he wants. There are plenty of fukbois around
18:35 I'm a little confused. She reminds him that "they're just talking and not married" and that he's "coming onto her too strong". He subsequently backs off and gives her some space. She then says "you're pushing me away". How is the guy at fault in that situation when he's seemingly giving her what she was asking for, which was for him to just ease up a bit?
because he was supposed to pull all the way back and go no contact. That also means don't be a butt hurt little boy at work and don't be around her trynna let her see you sad. That is trynna put a guilt trip on her in to being with him. When a women is telling you those things just pull back and let her come to you. That would of never happened had he fucked her and only hit her up one to 2 times a week.
11:20 take advantage you fool...she's a consenting adult not a servile romantic partner that you make decisions for. 🙄 You want connection and intimacy? Stop getting in your own way. Minimize chitchats in text, set dates, and save all that energy for it! Anticipation and attraction helps establish the intimacy necessary for a relationship.
Great video. I do not latch on to my dates at all. Then I finally met one man I truly connected. Then I managed to screw things up with my anxious relationship style. So weird how that kicks in when you finally meet someone you’re digging.
Same here :(
Well that's the definition of anxiety. You're afraid of losing the one person or thing that can take care of you or make you happy in a meaningful way.
Of course you're gonna freak out and try to control things to try to keep them in your life.
Yes, the trait I loved most in my ex was his ability to make me feel safe. No feelings of safety, no respect. No respect, no love.
Emotional self control...such profound words... in any situation! Thank you again Coach Craig!
Sometimes I just watch these videos just to think "well, at least I didn't fuck up that bad"
I know you are a busy guy, but you need to write a book for people BEFORE they go into relationship with your information. I wish I had known a lot of your teachings BEFORE some of my dating and relationships.
I know. I’m so busy I can’t keep up. But it’s a priority
Hear here!
I am strong. We are all strong! Do no stop! We will all prevail!!!
Hi Craig! Can you do a video on the difference between "neediness" and vulnerability? And why vulnerability can seemingly kill attraction?
I've only discovered your work here this week Coach Craig, and have been watching your back catalogue of videos.
I want to comment here that these real life case study tutorials are both engrossing and valuable.
Thank you very much,
From Australia.
Omg 😂 I did a lot of what this man did ... thanks for all the info ! No contact for almost 4 weeks !
I refuse to beg someone to be with me. If they want to leave me, good riddance. There are other fishes in the sea.
LaoSoftware Agreed!
I agree. But I’m now in the phase of having recently broken up with my ex and men I have met for now can’t outshine my ex ...I’m starting to feel I can never meet anyone, not to mention someone that is more outstanding.:(
Hang in there, and be strong. Time is your friend, investn in yourself and understand how much this pain, moment and phase will help you evolve even more. It hurs, stings, depressing, etc.. Trust me I know. But your happiness is the key and understand YOU are the one and only one who can help you in the long term.
LaoSoftware - would you easily let go and move on if you felt love for them and were attached to them? I’ve let go easily, but only when my feelings weren’t involved.
Fish is already plural
Amazing video! Soo true about moving too fast and not displaying your worth. Thank you for sharing your mind and knowledge! We all need to hear this❤
Margaret is finally doing Skype coaching! :)
Do either of you have office hours in Orlando? Also do you accept Florida Health Care Plans? I tried reviewing your website but seems you only do the online/Skype coaching???
Coach Craig Kenneth who's Adrienne Lima? May have to look her up.
Of all the videos I have watched of yours, and I have watched ALOT of them and this is the one that the light bulb went on.
Coach you're the best, thank you for the knowledge and the laughs! I sure need them
I've dated guys where I wanted to take things slowly to get to know them. And by the 3rd date they start insulting me or making me jealous talking about other girls. They later tell me that they did that because I didn't show enough interest and that I don't care. This happening within 2-3 dates. What could've been a great relationship starts off with insecurities and hurtful behavior. I should've stopped at that point instead of giving them the benefit of the doubt and continuing. Would've saved me heartache.
wow amazing did you really get jealous? I think you shouldn't have and you should of told him maybe you should go be with them girls you talking about then. Men are terrible t body language so your body language might of showed high interest but because you were not verbally telling them how you feel they felt insecure. Congrats you weeded out the insecure men.
they sound like creeps!
damn!!! i made all kind of mistakes. HELLPP!!!
Hallelluja! ❤❤❤❤ Near match to my situation!!!! Age gap, child, avoidant and anxious!!!!
AVOIDANT and Anxious/ Disaster. Heart broken disaster, and AVOIDANT bury their feelings so you know who was left with all the pain. And I was never told anything about this disorder he has so I was truly thrownaback by his WITHDRAWING behavior and stopped sex, kissing, touching, holding hands etc. text, calls from on 100 to 0.5%. I kept asking was there something bothering him. He say nah. We good. Ok. So He just stopped answering phone for days. Small things I asked him to do. He never did. I ask again, not done... oh so he can't do anything for you either because he believes at this stage in the relationship, every body should be SELF sufficient and needing others is a sign of weakness, I verbally went in on his behavior and Omg. I was not nice. He turned into a monster, ok. Like he never knew me and said he has NO FEELINGS. BLOCKED ME AND WENT ON LIKECI NEVER EXISTED
Great video bro
Hey Coach Craig. I just wanted to say that besides being amazing, you've got great taste in women. 🤣 Adriana Lima and Natalie Portman... I completely agree. Thanks for all you do and I am forever grateful. I will be sending a success story shortly.
Can’t stay in the moment when it’s long distance! It doesn’t work! Heartache just continues over time! You will always stay disconnected because there is no connection! I texted my ex all night long for lots of nights because he was ignoring me! This man is 57 has never been married. Doesn’t have a home, lives with his mother and he thinks he is the ego, narcissistic person that knows everything! He says all his exes always still text him! I don’t believe him! He is the most insecure man I have known! He’s the most manipulative person and doesn’t want to burn any bridges! I feel he has used me for the past 8 years! You can’t feel safe when they are 5 hours away!
My same exact situation 😞 except I pulled away during intimacy, and then he ended it 2 days later
Hi coach, LOVED your video as always! Can you do a video on unconditional love? Thanks!!
Only person I am aware of that gives UNCONDITIONAL LOVE IS THE MOST HIGH. GOD....
@@teesahurt2074 ahahahhahahahahahahahaahah
@@jmo9641 What made you laugh? Truth ?
He seems to be in love, that's why he's already attached to her after two dates. It is rare for a man but it may happen. this man seems to be a tender one with warm feelings and this is something hard to find.
Georgia Papadopoulos and surprisingly women are hard wired not to be attracted to that . Do you agree ?
den zaharo i agree but 2 people can fall in love at first sight.
He's doing everything all wrong 😂 comes off as a cowardly dude, 0 masculinity
Sounds like this guy has some type of ISSUES. Dealing with ANXIOUS SOMETHING...
if we cant think of a person that we are dating as someone who can gratify our needs, then who is supposed to gratify our needs if not them?? i know you'll say its us but what if the person we are dating, has alot of the qualities that we are looking for in a partner? are we not allowed to fantasize on potentially having them as a romantic partner?
vanessa v. I think it’s normal and healthy to expect your partner to meet your needs while you meet their needs. The problem lies in expecting your partner to meet all your needs, placing them on a pedestal and expecting the partner to be responsible for own happiness- which of course is unrealistic and unfair to our partner. Also, that kind of pressure placed on a partner can cause them to run away.
i agree but some dont know that to just expect all or nothing. Some is good whereas all isnt realistic like you said.
23:05 pity kills attraction
Are long distance relationships even relationships or just some weird fantasty play? I get it If it's like love on first sight and life tragically forces you apart but people are building entire relationships with people they don't even know. It's kinda crazy If you ask me.
DreamBeatsBakery if they have good communication & are attracted to each other, it can be a relationship imo.
Great job Craig
This guy would totally drive me away. He was weak and needy from the first date! And telling her he’s heart broken and sad is not attractive. As a woman, I want a strong, confident man!
Stacey Swope I'm a guy and I agree with you . Hollywood has confused men into thinking that women want weak snag . Reality us that women want strong alphas .
And you have it. He is an avoidant.
if you are still friends and still text but youve made the mistake of doing this texting thing too much and not actual in person interaction, can it be turned around if we'd begin hanging out in person? do you think the attraction would rebuild? Please reply.
What's your advice on personal development in this respect, though?
Mid 40's, too nice guy syndrome, too soft, doesn't know when to escalate things. As an older man, he should already know about seduction. Hes more emotional than the woman. He needs to work on cultivating his masculinity and seduction skills. Also, does he realize that in 20 years he'll be in his mid 60's and her in her mid 40's? This is recipe for disaster as a long term relationship. A short fling yes. long term no.
Hard to display confidence when you’re rejected left and right… People (guys) suck! In the next life we’ll be free from the judgements of others and free from the pain of this physical world.
A woman sleeping in your bed showing a high level of attraction and desire to hook up, you get to the foreplay and suddenly hit the brakes. I think there’s gotta be more going on here, something just seems off. Normally a guy is going to hook up and make her his lover. It’s one of the greatest things in life. There’s definitely not going to be any anxiety the next morning after a night like that.
I've crashed many guys beds before without feeling high level of attraction or intended to hook up, I just felt comfortable enough to sleep there, not threatened.
Don't think with a woman's brain.
Can’t stay perfect! I am the catch ! He knows it! He’s a mommy’s boy! Please do a video on Mommy’s boy!
“2 dates”!
a guy hopping in bed w a woman so soon is a huge turnoff. that’s what happened. “a tall glass of you” is so cringe but I think she was cringing inside and didn’t want to say her real answer (which was probably “nothing, don’t bother”) also women don’t say cheesy things like that or try hard to flirt, so that’s unnatural, she was trying but then couldn’t bring herself to continue
Exactly. If a guy is so anxious to take the woman to bed and setting dates at his house she will think that's only what he wants. There are plenty of fukbois around
Judgmental and idiotic assessment.
craig ur so funny omg
18:35 I'm a little confused. She reminds him that "they're just talking and not married" and that he's "coming onto her too strong". He subsequently backs off and gives her some space. She then says "you're pushing me away".
How is the guy at fault in that situation when he's seemingly giving her what she was asking for, which was for him to just ease up a bit?
because he was supposed to pull all the way back and go no contact. That also means don't be a butt hurt little boy at work and don't be around her trynna let her see you sad. That is trynna put a guilt trip on her in to being with him. When a women is telling you those things just pull back and let her come to you. That would of never happened had he fucked her and only hit her up one to 2 times a week.
@@jhonjohnjonjondoe5011
you're completely right lmao. that dude is nothing but a beta
20 years? DILF obviously haha
There was no F... Just texting.... So hes a DILT
Coach Craig Kenneth but she "liked to"... initially anyway, yeah? Haha ;-)
11:20 take advantage you fool...she's a consenting adult not a servile romantic partner that you make decisions for. 🙄 You want connection and intimacy? Stop getting in your own way. Minimize chitchats in text, set dates, and save all that energy for it! Anticipation and attraction helps establish the intimacy necessary for a relationship.
He's desperate.
Straight beta 😂