That story sounds like it's bringing you a lot of stress and pain. Is there anything you would like from me/the community to help? (Everybody else - let's show this guy some love. Feel free to reply to his comment with support, motivation, advice - whatever you'd like to offer him. Let's help him feel a little less alone.)
I looked at your profile and saw what you looked like in a few of your short videos. You are not an ugly dude in my opinion. Also you look rather tall. I'm guessing you are over 6 ft? That's a big advantage too. Point being is that Andy talked about a gentleman that has no arms and no legs that is a motivational speaker on RUclips. That gentleman with no arms or legs has an incredibly beautiful wife and a kids. I found that when I authentically developed my body and my mind to the point where I was in a good place....women became subconsciously attracted to that stability and strength I had developed. I'm currently in a long term relationship with a beautiful woman and we are experiencing levels of bonding and intimacy I never thought possible. And if she wanted to end it all tomorrow then that's ok too. Its counterintuitive but it's that indifference I have developed that she finds incredibly attractive and keeps me feeling at ease because no matter what happens everything will be ok. Dont give up! I honestly believe you have a legitimate shot at developing some skill with women like many men have who are willing to learn. I did it. Andy has done it, and many men who frequent this channel have done it. Now it's your turn
@@alexleggett6270 I've no doubt that your comment comes from a genuine and honest place. No, I'm certainly not anywhere 6 foot! I'm a couple of years away from being 50 years old and my experience in a half-century of life is that not every guy gets a relationship that lasts. Generally money and looks gets you a partner waay easier than having neither of those, this is just simple fact. But when you're my age and have completely failed in every facet of life there's not much we can offer a woman. Sure, I agree that there are 2 or 3 examples out a thousand men that do find someone to accept them for who they are, those good women do exist. But you can't be so foolish to think that EVERY man will get a woman and be happy- that is the exception to the rule, they're anomalies. I think what you're doing is great for teenagers who don't have confidence and who still have decades ahead of them to develop. It just doesn't apply to the older generation. I'm not here for help or to be converted into your way of thinking, I've accepted that life is a lonely path without friends or an intimate partner. This is just normal every day life for some of us. Not everyone gets to be happy, just the lucky few. And well done to them, they are well liked and much loved by everyone. It isn't a one size fits all kind of life though, we're all different. And if everyone did find love and meaning, then it won't be such a valuable thing. Some of us have to go without so that other can have it all 🤷♂️
@@Andy_Wells Unless you can wave a magic wand and give me a home and secure finances, no, there's nothing much you can help with. I appreciate the offer though. Imagine actually having my own place to live! A kitchen, a bedroom, appliances, furniture.. maybe even a car! These things are so far away from my reality but for most of you, you have them as just a normal part of your life. Makes it much easier for you to just approach a woman and chat to her. For me, I have nothing to offer a woman in life. I struggle to barely get by every month, drifting from place to place just to have a bed to sleep in. I don't feel sorry for myself I just get on with it, have done for years now. Survival is the only thing that matters. Food and a bed. Love and intimacy is a luxury I don't have, many men don't have, because we simply can NOT compete with the likes of you guys. And fair play to you, you won. We lost. Fair game. That's just life 🤷♂️
Hmm... I feel your pain. I went through a period of intense sadness and loss not too long ago. I was really struggling. I lost my home, my girl, and my friends all in once swoop and I had to start from scratch. I know what you're going through. I acknowledge that I'm a bit younger than you (28), but I understand your pain to a certain degree. Life is tough. But if you're here watching Andy's channel, it means you haven't fully given up yet. A book Andy always recommended for me is I Need Your Love is that True? by Byron Katie. While you're on your journey, it may not be a bad idea to have some things that could help you gain a different perspective.
Im terrified of approaching because I was ugly when I was a kid. I remember when I was 7 I told a friend I had a crush on a class mate and he told everyone and everybody started making fun of me making me cry. Or when I had a crush on one of my neighbors and I told my mother and she started attacking me saying that girl wasn’t good and started to make fun of me. So the fear of being judged is always with me. Ironically, the last woman I dated (for a very short time) was a beautiful Dutch girl that I randomly met in an hostel and I didn’t intend to approach, we eventually ended up exchanging numbers because I would’ve been in Amsterdam and thought it would cool to hang out. Problem is, if I think about having to approach my mind goes all the way into my insecurities, especially looking like I do (buzz cut full of visible tattoos and a beard) I fear I might make her uncomfortable. Anyway thanks for your insight, I’ll start taking baby steps.
Definitely have the video of you overcoming your debt. That's an aspect of self-improvement that a lot of people can relate with, as well as newcomers to starting a business and are intimidated, just like you were in the beginning, especially with your coaching calls. "I can happily say I can die in peace". Idk what enlightenment is, but that's probably the closest thing if I had to guess.
I remember used to feel the most anxiety on the “cool” girls… with tattoos, cigarettes, weed smokers and bratty/pride personality. They felt like superior in a way lmao, like a dom if that’s relatable
"Hot Girls are Just Experts at Looking Good" is a concept that helped me. Hot women (or in your case, "cool women") aren't "better" than you - in the same way a rich person isn't "better" than you. They're just really good at looking good/being cool. Cool is just a concept. It's arbitrary. It's also fickle - one minute smoking weed is cool, the next minute it's not. Tattoos are cool now; they might not be 20 years from now. What might help is to go talk to a few of them - get to know some of them. Show yourself they're just human, like you.
Hey Andy. Love your approach and ethos. I honestly probably need some coaching… I feel like I’m not even living sometimes. Anyways, I’m wondering how many fellas you have in the group?
About 15 at the moment (and another 80 in the members-only accountability group Discord). But is this question, really just you procrastinating? Jump in with both feet mate - I'm happy to jump on a call with you to discuss: kyil-extra.com/coaching
It's easy for good looking guys with a nice body and a decent bank account to approach women. For us ugly bucks with no money, it just doesn't work.
That story sounds like it's bringing you a lot of stress and pain. Is there anything you would like from me/the community to help?
(Everybody else - let's show this guy some love. Feel free to reply to his comment with support, motivation, advice - whatever you'd like to offer him. Let's help him feel a little less alone.)
I looked at your profile and saw what you looked like in a few of your short videos. You are not an ugly dude in my opinion. Also you look rather tall. I'm guessing you are over 6 ft? That's a big advantage too. Point being is that Andy talked about a gentleman that has no arms and no legs that is a motivational speaker on RUclips. That gentleman with no arms or legs has an incredibly beautiful wife and a kids. I found that when I authentically developed my body and my mind to the point where I was in a good place....women became subconsciously attracted to that stability and strength I had developed. I'm currently in a long term relationship with a beautiful woman and we are experiencing levels of bonding and intimacy I never thought possible. And if she wanted to end it all tomorrow then that's ok too. Its counterintuitive but it's that indifference I have developed that she finds incredibly attractive and keeps me feeling at ease because no matter what happens everything will be ok. Dont give up! I honestly believe you have a legitimate shot at developing some skill with women like many men have who are willing to learn. I did it. Andy has done it, and many men who frequent this channel have done it. Now it's your turn
@@alexleggett6270 I've no doubt that your comment comes from a genuine and honest place. No, I'm certainly not anywhere 6 foot! I'm a couple of years away from being 50 years old and my experience in a half-century of life is that not every guy gets a relationship that lasts. Generally money and looks gets you a partner waay easier than having neither of those, this is just simple fact. But when you're my age and have completely failed in every facet of life there's not much we can offer a woman.
Sure, I agree that there are 2 or 3 examples out a thousand men that do find someone to accept them for who they are, those good women do exist. But you can't be so foolish to think that EVERY man will get a woman and be happy- that is the exception to the rule, they're anomalies.
I think what you're doing is great for teenagers who don't have confidence and who still have decades ahead of them to develop. It just doesn't apply to the older generation.
I'm not here for help or to be converted into your way of thinking, I've accepted that life is a lonely path without friends or an intimate partner. This is just normal every day life for some of us. Not everyone gets to be happy, just the lucky few. And well done to them, they are well liked and much loved by everyone. It isn't a one size fits all kind of life though, we're all different. And if everyone did find love and meaning, then it won't be such a valuable thing. Some of us have to go without so that other can have it all 🤷♂️
@@Andy_Wells Unless you can wave a magic wand and give me a home and secure finances, no, there's nothing much you can help with. I appreciate the offer though.
Imagine actually having my own place to live! A kitchen, a bedroom, appliances, furniture.. maybe even a car! These things are so far away from my reality but for most of you, you have them as just a normal part of your life. Makes it much easier for you to just approach a woman and chat to her.
For me, I have nothing to offer a woman in life. I struggle to barely get by every month, drifting from place to place just to have a bed to sleep in. I don't feel sorry for myself I just get on with it, have done for years now. Survival is the only thing that matters. Food and a bed. Love and intimacy is a luxury I don't have, many men don't have, because we simply can NOT compete with the likes of you guys.
And fair play to you, you won. We lost. Fair game. That's just life 🤷♂️
Hmm... I feel your pain. I went through a period of intense sadness and loss not too long ago. I was really struggling. I lost my home, my girl, and my friends all in once swoop and I had to start from scratch. I know what you're going through. I acknowledge that I'm a bit younger than you (28), but I understand your pain to a certain degree.
Life is tough. But if you're here watching Andy's channel, it means you haven't fully given up yet. A book Andy always recommended for me is I Need Your Love is that True? by Byron Katie.
While you're on your journey, it may not be a bad idea to have some things that could help you gain a different perspective.
Im terrified of approaching because I was ugly when I was a kid. I remember when I was 7 I told a friend I had a crush on a class mate and he told everyone and everybody started making fun of me making me cry. Or when I had a crush on one of my neighbors and I told my mother and she started attacking me saying that girl wasn’t good and started to make fun of me. So the fear of being judged is always with me. Ironically, the last woman I dated (for a very short time) was a beautiful Dutch girl that I randomly met in an hostel and I didn’t intend to approach, we eventually ended up exchanging numbers because I would’ve been in Amsterdam and thought it would cool to hang out. Problem is, if I think about having to approach my mind goes all the way into my insecurities, especially looking like I do (buzz cut full of visible tattoos and a beard) I fear I might make her uncomfortable. Anyway thanks for your insight, I’ll start taking baby steps.
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You were never ugly 💘
Trust me. ( I am expert.)
"The moment has gone" - classic
Indeed. 🤭. So funny 💘
Definitely have the video of you overcoming your debt. That's an aspect of self-improvement that a lot of people can relate with, as well as newcomers to starting a business and are intimidated, just like you were in the beginning, especially with your coaching calls.
"I can happily say I can die in peace". Idk what enlightenment is, but that's probably the closest thing if I had to guess.
I need such coaching, I need help, scaring fear and shy killing me, 😂
I remember used to feel the most anxiety on the “cool” girls… with tattoos, cigarettes, weed smokers and bratty/pride personality. They felt like superior in a way lmao, like a dom if that’s relatable
"Hot Girls are Just Experts at Looking Good" is a concept that helped me. Hot women (or in your case, "cool women") aren't "better" than you - in the same way a rich person isn't "better" than you. They're just really good at looking good/being cool.
Cool is just a concept. It's arbitrary. It's also fickle - one minute smoking weed is cool, the next minute it's not. Tattoos are cool now; they might not be 20 years from now.
What might help is to go talk to a few of them - get to know some of them. Show yourself they're just human, like you.
Hey Andy. Love your approach and ethos. I honestly probably need some coaching… I feel like I’m not even living sometimes. Anyways, I’m wondering how many fellas you have in the group?
About 15 at the moment (and another 80 in the members-only accountability group Discord). But is this question, really just you procrastinating?
Jump in with both feet mate - I'm happy to jump on a call with you to discuss:
kyil-extra.com/coaching
Hahaha I am a master procrastinator unfortunately. I’ll book a call with you by the end of the weekend. My schedule is busy asf right now (no bs)
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