Therapy in countries like the US, Canada and the Uk is at best useless, and at worst harmful. FFS, the "therapist" would refer you to a butcher for being unconfortable with your body.
OP is the roommate though, not the one who knocked her up. It very genuinely is not their problem, they have no involvement in why K is the way she is. 🤷🏻♀️ They could extend more consideration to their roommate, but that doesn’t mean that your roommate having to do all the cleaning, clean up their puke, etc.
even as a roommate like theres no need to insult someone for pregnancy symptoms, if she needs stuff and if you're ABLE you should help her if she needs help.
@@ollie3746I kinda don’t agree with this… I’m very not into children and I have very strong views about pregnancy. If I had a pregnant roommate (a real roommate) I wouldn’t do much like cleaning up their vomit. Of course, if I go to the store, I’ll pick up things for them if asked. But as a roommate (a real one, again) it’s not my responsibility. The guy in the story, however, has responsibility over this pregnancy. So what he says just goes to trash and honestly that woman should leave the guy…
@@liolikesgrass no shit. that's literally what I was saying. if someone cant bend over I would help clean their vomit, they cannot help it. I'm not "into children" or pregnancy at all for that matter and it freaks me out but I have empathy lol.
@cryolio3778 I was thinking the same thing. It seemed reasonable for a roommate (real one) to be pissed about having to do that, though I probably might do it anyways because I am a people pleaser. But if it is her husband, he should take the responsibility.
If I were in that mother's position, I would've gone and changed my daughter's last name to match mine and not his. If he won't respect his older daughter's name, then why should they respect his surname?
not even to do it for spite or anything though, it should still be done. this could cause so many issues with legal paperwork, offices thinking they have the other sister, et cetera
@@2cat4life a ten year old is not old enough to understand legal implications of having the exact same name with someone. It would be her choice to change it or not when she is 18, but until then I agree that last name should be legally changed to avoid loopholes the father+gf could abuse
@@xyzzyx4839 I studied at a school that had another another student with the same first and middle names I do. They often mixed up our info, and it wasn't even same last name + parent
@@nalciel6577 what legal implications? There are only ethical and logical implications. There aren't legal loopholes for people having the same first and last name. That's absurd. Anything legal requires full name and birthdate at bare minimum and then social security # for anything of importance or judicially. There are millions of people who have the same names.
Imagine knocking someone up and then getting pissed at them for having the audacity to be pregnant. And it's so bad you degrade them by calling them a roommate instead of your spouse. I'd say you make your bed, you lay on it but the wife and child would be better off without him. But I suspect he's calling her his roommate because he doesn't want to look bad.
I sense that the replies in this comment may become a hellscape so I'll just switch off notifications for it and suggest that no one reply to certain people on here since they may have come here with the intention of triggering someone. Leave them be. Don't engage.
@@SanneFromBibleStudy1987-gq6vg It's the woman's fault for getting pregnant. If she can open her legs for play time she can open her legs to deliver. Abortion is murder!!!
Dude was putting SAWDUST in his girlfriends food??? And thought that wasn’t a problem??? How in the hell does someone think feeding another person SAWDUST IS OKAY??
"Yeah my gf is struggling with mental health problems and potentially an eating disorder and im losing attraction to her so ig ill just poison her" YOU SHOULD GO STRAIGHT TO JAIL BRO
My mom's current boyfriend put something she was allergic to in her food. Then when me and my mother got upset, bc allergic reactions aren't something to fuck around with,and he tried to say that it wasn't that big of a deal. We are sensitive to many things and are also allergic to many things,this very easily could've ended up having her in the hospital. He also got so pissed off that he threw salmon across the room,risking us getting sick from salmonella.
@@thatcreepyfangirlstalkerch3572 i had to pause and then rewatch her reading the whole story because everything i'd heard immediately got erased from my brain by the shock of it
I was like “WHAT” and rewound the vid to the start to find out how tf I missed the important info about the OP. I hadn’t missed anything; it was just omitted, on purpose most likely
I cannot fathom having two children with the same name. There''s not a lack of names! It has to be a malicious move, because I doubt anyone is THAT moronic.
Years ago (like in the 70s or something) there was a Spanish boxer who wanted to call both his sons Pedro, but his wife wouldn't let him. It was so unhinged that my dad still brings it up as hilarious fact from time to time
The face that the guy wouldn't look at her in the eye when they said the kids name? I'd bet any money that the girlfriend told him exactly why they;re naming that kid the same name. Scratch that - I know they talked about it, because that is the most batshit passive aggressive move that shouldve turned his head as well, had he not known the plan
that’s what i’m saying. why would you want to have TWO kids with the same name? imagine how hard and awkward it’ll be to describe your family to people. it’s just so odd.
I've heard several people read the "that's pretty fucking gay" story, but you are the first queer person I have heard cover it. It was so refreshing to hear someone laughing like I did instead of saying "ooooo! That's a horrible joke to make! How insensitive!" Like yeah it wasn't the time for it but that joke is fucking funny!
The thing is not that the joke cannot be funny in the right context, it absolutely can be. The problem is that the child was clearly trying to have a serious conversation. There is a context that makes it terrible.
@@AnnekeOosterink oh absolutely. But the other people I saw cover it were like, saying that the joke itself was horrible and he should never make it regardless of context when I literally make jokes like that all the time. I was just saying it's nice to see a queer person laugh at it instead of seeing a cishet kinda cringe and posture. That's all.
@@kierstenburtz8442 totally agree. He also thought his kid knew that he knew for much longer, so I can see why he would just blurt that out on accident. Not to mention I would have personally loved it if that was how my parents reacted to my coming out. I get I'm not this guy's son, but that's my opinion as a queer person.
It's definitely the kind of joke me and my friends would make with each other. All being queer. Totally not the time and the place and 100% hurts but it was pretty funny and later the kids going to laugh so much about it. But understandable he is upset and hirt
The woman naming her daughter after her step-daughter is a whole new type of conflict I did not think was possible. Also holy shit, the reveal that the roommate is actually the husband is the most insane "lying to get people on my side" bullshit I have ever heard.
Yea, I mean a friend(A) of mine even considered the name of his child when a good friend(B) of ours also got a child a week earlier and haveing given their(B) child the name A thought of. In the end, both have different names with A's child having a second name. I can't fathom the idea of giving my child the name of my privious child, I even understand teh conflict A was in. This reals sounds malicious by the stepmother.
The son cheating story: I was totally like "no I'd house my child no matter what they did" but cheating on your vulnerable, pregnant, suffering partner because their pregnancy is actively harming them is a super big low. Nope, get a hotel.
When you have a child, you agree to love them and how them acceptable morals. Sometimes, the love and lessons are harsh. Sometimes "you need to get your shit together" is another way to say "I love you"
The fact he was actively lying to them about it and acting like his wife was the one being unreasonable also makes his dad's actions even more justified. He never admitted he fucked up, didn't act remorseful, just covered it up and talked shit about his currently suffering, betrayed, still pregnant wife while his mommy coddles him.
The pregnancy one where he referred to her as his roommate really hit home for me. My marriage was completely over when I got pregnant and I was treated very similarly. I was having all sorts of health problems and my ex straight up said "I know pregnant women who don't complain and lie around like you do." It's such an ignorant, cruel sort of thing to say. It was the worst time of my life, to the point the thought of having more children makes me feel sick, only because of the terrible time I had during pregnancy. I was crying literally every day.
can’t imagine the emotional stress and anxiety of having to live in an environment like that, especially when pregnant. hope ur better now and i’m glad that rat bastard is ur ex.
Pregnancy is SO individual. You could be like my boss who never threw up, feels great, is glowing, or you could be like my cousin who threw up so much she was in the hospital for dehydration. What an ass.
@@AlxMar5 I left him while I was pregnant. This was 12 years ago, I can't believe what I let him get away with, I didn't even recognise how abused I was just because it wasn't physical. One of many things was he forced me to say on threat of him abandoning me for yet another night was 'I'm sorry I'm behaving so insanely' but I couldn't get it out because I couldn't stop crying. After being hospitalised twice because I actually had preeclampsia, I ended up moving back with my parents. It wasn't funny to me at the time, but my mum actually kicked him square in the nuts after she heard how he was talking to me when he came over at one point. I was horrified, but now I think what a fucking bad bitch and I can laugh about thank god somebody put him in his place.
The age gap in the last one seems to be an issue, even if it’s only 8 years, as he’s treating her like a child incapable of making decisions for herself. The fact he thinks what he’s doing is ‘helping’ her and doesn’t see how it’s wrong is possibly the scariest part. It very much gives abusive ‘I’m only hitting you for your own good’ vibes.
And eating sawdust can kill you. The species of wood can be toxic, or contain toxins because of contamination that wouldn't be considered a problem since no-one is supposed to eat it, it can cause allergic reactions and it can gum up your intestines since humans can't digest wood. He could be looking at attempted murder charges, but is but-hurt that someone suggested it's abusive since he's "doing it for her own good"!
I hope to god that's fake because as soon as it said sawdust I was like... no real human being would do that right? If it is real then my god what is wrong with people
@@elainelouve it can be both lol. he's scared shes gonna be fat and is treating her like she doesn't understand that her problem is being fat, and that he knows what's best for her and her body
My parents had 4 years age gap in marriage. But they were introduced with each other when my mother was 30 and my father was 34. So I don't see any problem with big age gap when both partners are adults with stabile livelihood. But 21 and 29?? It's the young adult and adult. Huge. No.
The "roommate"/wife one is so, so messed up. What kind of man doesn't want to go to the appointments and see the baby's ultrasounds in person and all that? The baby isn't even born yet and he's already a deadbeat dad. Wtf
@overlordfemto7523 it's different when you plan to take a pregnancy to term. And if she's pregnant enough to need all that help, it's already past the "clump of cells" phase
@overlordfemto7523 if you're arguing that we're all just clumps of cells, then what's your point? And why shouldn't you support a pregnant partner? You're coming off as a half assed troll
I 100% would have never talked to my dad again if he had named my half sister the same name as me, and he raised me as a single father so ... I was on the " room mates " side until you said that they aren't room mates, they're married. Someone find this poor woman and save her from this AH jesus.
Honestly it didn’t sound like he specifically named the child, but he definitely didn’t care enough to try and get his girlfriend to change it. So I wouldn’t really feel like he was the one necessarily, trying to replace me, but I would definitely feel like the girlfriend was! But I genuinely hope the daughter limits contact with her father and his family when she gets older and realizes how awful and vindictive it is to give both of your children the same damn name. ESPECIALLY when one is so much older than the other.
@@gothcsm he couldn't make eye contact with his der daughter's mother, he knew he shouldn't allow that to happen (naming your child needs two yes' and one no), but he did it anyway He is spineless and needs to learn how to say no to his girlfriend.
The woman in that second to last AITA post seriously needs to either pack her bags or kick her husband out as soon as the child's there and she's strong enough to do so. How in the world could he even type the sentence "I didn't know that she would turn into a lazy, entitled, annoying emotional child" out???? Oh God forbid that the woman that he AGREED to marry displays common symptoms of pregnancy while she's PREGNANT. Like wtf, he also said 'yes', so he obviously planned to stay in it for the long run, so how can he lack such a huge amount of self-awareness???? 💀💀💀💀
What scares me is I’m willing to bet what “not acting like a wife” probably mostly means is not having sex… I’ve seen way to many men like this use that term to refer to her not fulfilling her “wifely duties” because obviously she should have to anytime he wants regardless of her physical or mental health…
I am the step parent to a child who's other parent (that we coparent very well with) went through a divorce. We spoke openly with the now ex-step-father and encouraged him to reach out to us and spend time with our daughter as he was seen as another father. He never reached out never asked about her and ghosted us when we would reach out. We found out recently that him and his new partner almost named their new daughter, our daughters name and openly talked about how it was to "replace his lost -insert my child's name-" me, my partner, and our daughters other parent were so uncomfortable and confused by this. Thankfully they didn't name her that but it was a very weird situation.
Sounds like my bio logical dad, tried ghosting me before I was born for an ex but my mom wouldn't allow him to ghost from my life. Would've been better if she just let him ghost me, he did it anyway
@overlordfemto7523Uses Clown emoji as sn insult, I bet you can't even juggle or ride around in a comically undersized car, and your pieing technique must be laughable
22:59 finding out OP is the husband makes this so much worse. "only one responsible for her pregnancy"? so she just miraculously got herself pregnant? Wife needs to get out of there now. If this is how he acts before the kid is here, there's no way he's contributing to childcare
When she started with the "my roommate is pregnant" story I was kinda on the guy's side bc I also would be annoyed by living with someone who's pregnant and having to do everything, but when she said it's the husband my jaw dropped to the floor, like wtf, her pregnancy is your problem too dude, you've made her pregnant
The sawdust thing reminds me of a court case with a company selling 'granola bars' that were made to help you lose weight, and they were actually mostly saw dust. The court ruled that while it's not actually dangerous for people to eat saw dust, they do need to be informed that they are being fed saw dust so if the company wanted to continue operating in this way they'd have to put that on the list of ingredients.
That does not mean its okay bc it has been proven to cause health complications. They let us eat a certain amount of plastic bc they refuse to do anything to help the planet you think they care if corporations are feeding people wood
Addendum, while it doesn't have to be dangerous when ingested in very small amountsfor a very small time, sawdust is definitely not harmless either. For one, you must be absolutely sure that the tree is not poisonous, and that there is nothing else in there besides sawdust, because you may very well poison someone if the wood has been treated with or exposed to chemicals etc. Secondly, sawdust can absolutely wreak havoc on the intestines, and can potentially cause permanent damage. It can even be lethal in the long term. Wood dust is also classed as a carcinogen.
My concern isn’t there’s no way this guy has access to food safe sawdust, he was either buying it or making it himself which means it was almost definitely chemically treated wood (as almost all store bought wood is) or wood from some random log with who knows what mixed with it.
@@emilyjohn2034I for a second read "wood from a random log lady" and thought about log lady from twin peaks and how she would never sell sawdust to an abusive man to feed his wife.
I hadn't heard the roomate story before at all. So i had no idea he was her husband until you said it. And when i tell you i actually SCREAMED...god i hope she leaves him. He is NOT gonna help when that kid is born...that poor woman needs to get out honestly
My mom had hyperemisis gravidarum with both of her pregnancies; so bad that she lost weight in the first trimester, and even though my dad was working 75 MILES away one way, he still took care of her (and me with the 2nd pregnancy) as soon as he got home and went to all the drs visits. Literally what the hell
as someone with five half siblings (three on mom’s side, two from dad) if any of my sisters were given my name i would have been absolutely distraught. my brothers on my mom’s side are identical twins and their father gave them Both his first name, we’ve always called them by their middle names. even when i’d be accepted by my mom’s partners, there’s a certain type of isolation that comes from seeing her start a new family. it’s like she gets to start from scratch and pretend nothing happened before so to imagine those feelings with the new sibling literally being given my exact name??? nah i don’t wanna be around whoever made that choice, and i don’t know that i’d ever care to heal from that in any way that involves contact. that’s absolutely feral behavior.
Plus it's going to cause so many problems. Anytime you interact with a bank, school, tax bureau, government in general, police etc etc, you're going to get at the least confusion, and quite possibly even fraud charges over this. It's already an issue for people with the same initials, or sr and jr, and this is so much worse.
i almost had a fucking stroke when i heard 'sawdust', what the actual fuck like. i expected something like sneaking in more fiber into her food in secret and i STILL wouldn't be okay with it because secretly messing with somebody's food is something very worthy of losing all trust into the person, but this is on a whole new level and the way he keeps talking about how she is Definitely upset because of her weight gain and how he's 'protecting her feelings' is just so fucking suspicious. i am pretty sure he's just upset by her looking less attractive to him and is trying to find a good-sounding excuse to be upset and do such fucked up things about it
I absolutely agree. I feel like if he was really upset by what she's going through emotionally, he'd have talked to her about therapy, not just snuck sawdust into her food.
I'm telling you, the stories about pregnant people on reddit are the most horrifying nightmares I've ever heard. What the actual fuck is wrong with people omfg
Oh hell no… That one guy’s girlfriend was DEFINITELY trying to replace his daughter by giving her newborn the same exact name as his first daughter. How the actual hell did he just let that slide!? I cannot imagine being with someone who did something as awful as that! There is literally no other fathomable reason that she would do that, other than her being so vindictive and jealous over the fact that OP’s 10 year old daughter is not biologically hers, and she resorts to just trying to replace the daughter entirely. What a disgusting excuse for a woman, let alone a mother!
My mom and dad named a dog one of my adult brother's childhood nicknames, and he was a bit salty about it. I couldn't imagine naming a pet by a child's name, let alone another child in the same family.
My mom initially wanted to give me the same name as my uncles pet tortoise, my dad vetoed that but I'm still a bit upset. Can't imagine what those two girls are feeling
The first story: The guy is used to having a mom do everything for him. I’d like to know how mutual the agreement was that the wife would go back to work. Funny how financial stress can upheave the traditional gender roles.
That coming out reaction reminds me of the time a friend had been gathering the courage to come out to someone for weeks and when we were cooking dinner she blurted out "I'm lesbian" and with my head in the fridge I said, "Okay, but do you have mozarella?" And then I turned around and she was in tears and I was like "Omg, thank you for trusting me enough to tell me that you're so sweet" and we hugged and everything was great, except that she really didn't have mozarella.
At the beginning of the "pregnant roommate" story, I was on OP's side. I guess it depends a little on the situation but getting pregnant and then expecting your roommate to pick up the slack seems like...maybe not an asshole move, but certainly not the best possible idea. The pregnancy changes the entire dynamic and I don't think it's fair to assume that a roommate would just be okay with a baby in the picture, or for them to basically "be the dad". BUT HE ACTUALLY WAS THE DAD!?! That's wild. I did a complete 180 there. From "OP shouldn't be expected to suddenly play dad just because they're the pregnant lady's roommate" to "YOU'RE THE ACTUAL FUCKING DAD, MATE, SO DO YOUR JOB!" Holy crap, what an asshole. And that's not even mentioning referring to his actual wife as a "roommate".
"sometimes parents are way too forgiving of their kids because it's their kids" is so true. my older brother is a pos and my mom refuses to "turn her back" on him solely bc he's her son, and she's the kind of person who wouldn't allow that treatment from anybody else. he has multiple girlfriends while he's married w kids but she refuses to tell any of the girlfriends that he's cheating on all of them. he also has been to jail numerous times for stealing and scamming people but she acts like it's a surprise every time even though he's had so many chances and he always goes back to his old ways. she acts like it's just no big deal because "he's my son" and it frustrates me to no end. all the people he's hurt were somebody's kid too.
@@user-guigui01 i think she might already know, and also she's honestly just as bad as he is and also cheats, it's not like they're rlly a family bc he hardly ever sees her or his kids, and him and her don't even like each other anymore, but still it's such a shitty thing to do
@@SonotmickeY3626 Not at all. Walsh does it better. It's nice to see Kiwi looking up to great men like me and the great Matt Walsh. Only men like us know how to tame women like her.
For the "pregnant Roommate" Story: My jaw was on the ground when you said this was her husband. Throughout I was like, yeah, if it's a roommate then that's not really their responsibility. But damn, this man is vile. Please, wife of him, leave, run if you can, get out of there! Wait, wait, wait SAWDUST??? Holy shit, I don't think you are supposed to eat that. Stop it!
For the first - if it was something like terrible mental health, I’d definitely feel bad, but it is NEVER ok to neglect your children and their household. At first I went, “well yeah I mean that sounds hard to live up to her expectations” and then I realized like “oh! Kids aren’t being taken care of! Oh god.”
Im pregnant rn with my 2nd and my husband was listening to the "roommate" story and was so angry on every pregnant person's behalf 🤣 Im a stay at home parent, and i have severe pelvic girdle pain this pregnancy. He will literally come home from a long shift at work and make me sit down so he can do the dishes/laundry and pick up the house like i usually would. And he agrees that dealing with pregnant moods swings doesnt seem NEAR as bad as actually being the pregnant one
Okay but even beyond the emotional aspect of the daughters with the same name thing, that's so impractical too! Imagine how confusing that would be when your talking about them
A couple of these stories remind me of when my ex-fiance told me that I was depressed and he couldn't handle my behavior, so I needed to contact a psychiatrist and start taking antidepressants. My father had died unexpectedly of complications from heart surgery 1 month before. I was there when it happened. I can't possibly imagine why I was so depressed.
I was the first boy born on my mother's side of the family out of all my cousins and my name starts with a K. The second boy also has a name that starts with a K, but his name was a very common traditional name in my mother's culture so that was okay. Then when I was 12, the third boy was born and his name was a regular English name, but instead of starting with a C, they decided to start it with a K (not so unlike my name). I felt a bit weirded out but it's not the biggest deal. When I was 19, the last boy was born, and his name shares the first 4 letters with my name. In school people constantly confused my name with that name. My aunts and uncles accidentally call us the wrong name now all the time. I'm doing okay, I'm an adult now and this isn't going to cause any trauma. But my youngest cousin who practically shares a name with me will no doubt see the similarities and be affected by it. I have heard every single one of my younger cousins be compared to me, and I don't even want to know how bad that's going to negatively affect them.
im in college, my family just got a puppy, they texted me and joked about naming the puppy my name and i actually started crying in my dorm. its still not funny when i think bck. His name isnt my name but i still dont think that was funny
the pregnant roommate post hit me like a fucking bus. literally i was on ops side like "oh ok since its a roommate I understand. you didn't sign up for this shit" but OH MY GOD? HER HUSBAND? YOU ABSOLUTELY DID SIGN UP FOR THIS SHIT. THIS ENTIRE PROCESS OF MARRIAGE AND CHILDBIRTH IS SO VERY DELIBERATE
The "sawdust" one seriously made me angry and a bit terrified. I've dealt with depression for like 10 years now (better recently) and speaking just for me my eating habits and depression are related in the way that they both feed into each other. My depression gets worse it's harder for me to eat well and that makes the depression even worse and often when I'm able to start eating even a little bit better (which sometimes is due to depression getting a bit better and sometimes I just burn extra spoons for it) it makes my depression better. Sawdust is NOT THE FUCKING WAY to do it. I understand helping someone (with CONSENT) to eat better if that's not something that's easy for them, like maybe you can make sure there's a salad around so if they want to add that to their plate they can and things like that. But yeah, that sort of thing needs to be done with consent and clear boundaries, something like that is a violation on so many levels and she absolutely should leave him. Good his brother is going to make sure she finds out.
with the first one...dear god. i live at home (i'm currently 22) and i don't have a job either, but i'm in charge of taking my younger sibling to school every morning. i literally just wake up half an hour before we have to leave then i come back home and drink coffee. it literally isn't that hard?? wtf?????
Kind of a funny story that the "roommate" one made me think of. My boss at one of my jobs constantly talked about his "roommates." It was only after FOUR YEARS of working for him that i met his *wife and daughter*, aka the "roommates". He clearly adores them both but just didnt want to tell anyone he was married because he's a very private person. We all thought it was absolutely hysterical, including his wife and daughter.
I found out my aunt is the partner of a guy who’s cheating on his wife and I just couldn’t even talk to her anymore while my parents just kind of accepted it because “well yeah she knows about it but she’s not the married person so” When like. 😭
@OzCroc cheating ≠ non-monogamy. Cheating is betraying the trust of your partner and the relationship. If you can't be monogamous be single or date someone who is also non-monogamous
During that “roommate” story I kept thinking “where is the upcoming baby’s father in all this?” so when you said that OP WAS the husband my mouth hung open for a good 3 seconds.
The one about the dad naming his second daughter with the same name as his 10 year old reminds me of King of the Hill when Hank’s dad names his new baby “Good Hank”.
holy hell the roommate thing threw me for such a loop. I was like yeah, can't blame the woman for needing a lot of extra help during pregnancy but also I see how it'd get frustrating to have to do so much when you didn't sign up for it, maybe they can work it out by finding some extra help or - WHAT THE FUCK DO YOU MEAN HE'S THE FATHER actual whiplash. and then the whole sawdust story finished me off like a second anvil landing on an already flattened Wile E. Coyote
I do feel bad for the son in the coming out story because it probably took a lot of courage to come out to his dad but omg that story is objectively hilarious because yeah that is pretty gay😂😂😂
I was willing to give OP a chance when he was like 'oh i wanna help my girlfriend with her weight because I see its affecting her' until he was like 'IM PUTTING SAWDUST IN HER FOOD'
Me to! I thought it was going to be one of those “I started pretending I wanted to go to the gym and invited her with me” situations that are such a cute way to care about someone without shaming them, and then was suddenly shocked by something horrible
4:38 holy crap this first one is crazy. Single dad with sole custody here and my kid gets to school on time, always cook him dinner, but the cleaning gets away from me. Bro had help and a breadwinner and couldn't do it. People seldom get what they deserve I guess...
20:23 You reacted the same way i did when i heard the joke! I flat out laughed harder than i have in YEARS and it was PEAK dad joke timing 🤌 I WISH my dad told me that cause it would have made things WAAAAAYYYYYYY less awkward and lighten the mood for further conversation. God DAMN that dad is fucking great!
26:11 The fact that OP changed the wording so he would appear to be the obvious victim… I spent the whole time hearing the story going “how unreasonable, you can’t force your roommate to step into a parental role like that, of course it’s difficult to be a single mom but you can’t force responsibility on an acquaintance like that-“ but that twist, my gosh. 💀 OP’s wife needs to RUN, he is not in any way prepared to be a supportive partner or parent… or decent human being.
The first one reminded me of when I was a kid, neither of my parents worked, my school wasn't even a 5 min drive and my dad would still make me late all the time cus he'd always say we have time when we indeed did not have time.
The story with the dad naming his kid the same name as his daughter is awful. Like everything you said is 100% correct. That 10 year old daughter is going to be for sure heartbroken and feel replaced. Both those people are awful people.
For the first post, the man doesn't just not know how to be a father, he simply doesn't know how to be an adult. By the sounds of it, the house wasn't just messy, it was disgusting. My house gets messy sometimes, having 2 kids that just happens. However, it's only ever toys being around the house. It's never dirty. The dirtiest it ever gets is if we have a baking day and there's flour in the kitchen. Sometimes you run behind and are late for things, that happens with kids, but getting to the point that the school call is outrageous. I used to be late for school on the day that my mum didn't have work (we lived too far to walk and my mum trashed my bike as a punishment, side note I paid for that bike with my own money) it got to a point I'd walk in and say "mums not at work today" the lady in the office would sign me in and just move on because it happened literally every week. I usually have to sit in the car for a bit or go to the local park because we are so early. My children will never be late for anything important.
is such a deeply ableist and disgusting thing to say. Some of us are disabled, some of us have executive functioning disorders. We are STILL adults. People like you made me hate myself to the extent that I still suffer from extreme self-hate. Just try to fucking think about existing outside of your bigoted box.
Its so strange hearing about bad fathers like my dad runs like 4 companies and he manages to drive me and my brother to different schools, cook every meal, and keep the house clean. Some people need to figure it out
Omg the ‘roommate’ one sent me. I’m pregnant rn and I’ve been very sick like the OPs wife and I used to be very high functioning and loved to cook and clean. I haven’t been able to do any of it!!! And my partner has been amazing, supporting me through everything and doesn’t expect anything of me. When I thought the story was just about an actual roommate I was a bit like I get your not happy with this situation but be kind she’s going through a lot, but when I found out it was the husband my jaw literally dropped. How can someone be so inconsiderate and horrible, not even willing to do the minimum and be compassionate. Actual trash
To the roommate/wife situation Projection is an SOB! I like how he worded it in a way were ppl would be like “ yeah you’re not the asshole.” On surface level reading.
With that first one, I will say, vacuum, washing the floor, cleaning surfaces, that sort of thing, even cleaning the wc, you only need to do it once a week. That's enough, at least once a week. Shouldn't be that hard. And if you keep it clean, it's much quicker and easier to clean, than if you let it collect dust for a couple weeks or months. All the other days that you don't clean, it's just a matter of looking around for things to do. Things you should do every day is, get the kids to school on time, getting them home again, providing the kids and potentially the rest of the household with breakfast, dinner, and potentially lunch. Dishes should be cleaned at least once a day. I live alone, so I just collect dishes throughout the day and wash them after dinner. If you can keep up with this, that's good enough. It's much easier to keep it clean, than to clean.
The dad with his gay comment had me in tears laughing 😂 when I came out to my mom I called her. I didn't check if it was a good time or anything because I figured she'd be fine with it as she's never said anything to make me think otherwise. Well I must have caught her at a bad time because after I told her it was her getting off the phone in a way that felt rushed with ak "ok baby. I gotta go now." I sat in the bathroom & cried because I thought she was upset. I find out the next day she was just busy & didn't think about how I would take her getting off the phone so quickly 😂 She's one of my best friends as an adult & loves my wife so much! Its funny now, like you said, but in the moment it definitely hurt!
Knowing exactly where the 'roommate' one was going, hearing Kiwi talking about the expectations of a roommate when pregnant and stuff was so odd, knowing that she was going to Kill This Man With Her Bare Hands
I feel so bad for the gf in the last post. I hope she finds out and leaves him. Also, just assuming here, but I'm curious if Op would make her feel bad for gaining weight. The way he words this post, just gives me bad vibes from him. Why does her gaining weight bother him so damn much?? I understand if it's an unhealthy weight, but from this terrible post I'm assuming it's not. It sounds like he just cares about her weight because he's becoming less attracted to her. This dude is fucking awful. I hope at least the op or his brother tells her.
I didn’t even give two of my baby dolls the same name when I was a child. That man IS spineless and that GF has GOT to have some sort of sinister intentions. Like I feel like she’s just been keeping her jealousy for his 10 year old under wraps and was waiting for this opportunity to replace her. So weird.
... I had placenta previa and my partner didn't cheat that I know of but he was also scared af because I had pre eclamsia and the baby was struggling and I was struggling. Think he was just glad we lived
I always love your earrings! You've inspired me to make my own earrings (I'm a crocheter and like to microcrochet little charms sometimes, which work great as earrings). I bought a couple six inch skeletons from my local craft store and am going to make them into earrings as soon as I have something I can attach them to.
23:42 The whole time you were reading the post, I was thinking that all the things she was asking were more for a partner (or at least the person who got her pregnant) and it was overstepping boundaries to ask that of a "roommate". The utter *SHOCK* I felt after knowing it was her ***HUSBAND*** who wrote the post?!?!? My god, she needs to leave YESTERDAY.
In terms of the one with the giving the same name to the newborn. The Op is absolutely not an the asshole. They could have chosen any kind of name or if they like that name so much change it up. That poor child is going to be heartbroken when she figures it out. Not to mention the absolute bs exuse that was given of just liking a name. Like no u know where that name came from, and u just don't want to admit it
18:09 It was the same for my sister. She was so disappointed when she came out because my parents were just like, “OK, what do you want for dinner?” It was actually pretty hurtful to her that they didn't match her energy because she felt like they were minimizing her feelings.
I have ADHD and can see myself having the same problems as the first guy with a routine, keeping a home organised and getting the kids to school on time. I wonder if he needs some support or just isn't suited to an organisational role like that. He could also be depressed after losing his job. We probably don't know enough about his attitude/reasons to say.
It's shocking just how wholeheartedly demeaning people got over someone just not managing household chores. Granted, I wouldn't think he's necessarily in the right, he could well just be playing incompetent to "make a point" and it's just wrong to neglect the kids. But also could be he's got genuine issues suddenly managing all the new responsibilities right after losing a job. The message feels very "have you tried just not having executive dysfunction" either way.
@@spookyspaghett1 He fucked up and neglected his children. Whatever his reasons may be, that is bad, that's true. I don't know his life, so I can't say if he did or did not have any kind of mental issues or neurodivergency or whatever else. The main issue we're pointing out here is fully assuming he didn't have any issues and it's solely his moral failing to not manage the situation correctly. That kind of attitude can be unproductive and harmful in the actual situation (maybe he specifically needed to be told off, I don't know), but more importantly broadcasting that kind of attitude sends a cruel and potentially harmful message towards the neurodivergent and mentally ill by invalidating any struggles one may face maintaining "normal" function.
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Imagine having two kids and giving them the same name. What the flaming fuck?
Ikr. It's normal when a parent (mostly the Dad) name their child after themselves, but giving two kids the same name. That's weird.
Therapy in countries like the US, Canada and the Uk is at best useless, and at worst harmful. FFS, the "therapist" would refer you to a butcher for being unconfortable with your body.
Like it’s giving Barnaby A and Barnaby B. (If you get this reference ily)
Yeah. The gf is trying to replace Op's daughter with this other kid. It's the only reason I can think of.
The Adventures of Pete and Pete. 😂
“She’s the pregnant one so it’s her problem” mf don’t act like she got herself pregnant
That dude belongs in r/am I the Devil
@@sammjaisais7135 fr
OP is the roommate though, not the one who knocked her up.
It very genuinely is not their problem, they have no involvement in why K is the way she is. 🤷🏻♀️
They could extend more consideration to their roommate, but that doesn’t mean that your roommate having to do all the cleaning, clean up their puke, etc.
@@ms.annthropic6341Sorry for popping your bubble buddy, but he's actually the father and her husband.
@@shayj1206 her body her choice :) can’t have it both ways
"I told her her pregnancy is her problem" MF IT'S YOUR WIFE AND CHILD!!??💀
I've heard the "My room mate is pregnant" story before. I never knew the OP was a man, let alone K's husband. Dude, the fuck!?
Ikr?! i was also shocked
even as a roommate like theres no need to insult someone for pregnancy symptoms, if she needs stuff and if you're ABLE you should help her if she needs help.
@@ollie3746I kinda don’t agree with this… I’m very not into children and I have very strong views about pregnancy. If I had a pregnant roommate (a real roommate) I wouldn’t do much like cleaning up their vomit. Of course, if I go to the store, I’ll pick up things for them if asked. But as a roommate (a real one, again) it’s not my responsibility.
The guy in the story, however, has responsibility over this pregnancy. So what he says just goes to trash and honestly that woman should leave the guy…
@@liolikesgrass no shit. that's literally what I was saying. if someone cant bend over I would help clean their vomit, they cannot help it. I'm not "into children" or pregnancy at all for that matter and it freaks me out but I have empathy lol.
@cryolio3778 I was thinking the same thing. It seemed reasonable for a roommate (real one) to be pissed about having to do that, though I probably might do it anyways because I am a people pleaser. But if it is her husband, he should take the responsibility.
That poor woman who’s husband called her his “room mate” needs to RUN.
He’s throwing up HUGE sociopath/abusive red flags
I was FLABBERGASTED
The husband behaving that way should be a crime that is resolved with capital punishment.
At first I was thinking "Okay, that's reasonable I guess" but then we're told he's THE FATHER??? Like, dude???
Women like to be called "roomies" and then slapped on the bottom on the way to the kitchen
"The girl I live with"
Like........... wtf
"Oh, mental health problems? Want a physical health problem too?" *feeds girlfriend saw dust* "love you~"
Honey what's this powder in the pantry?
Reminded me of the slug guy
have I yet to encounter the context for this later in the video 💀💀
edit: what the FUCK
tbh thougj out of the context this really feels like something I’d see on tumblr
@@sophiathefurbst half tempted to post this on tumblr now
If I were in that mother's position, I would've gone and changed my daughter's last name to match mine and not his. If he won't respect his older daughter's name, then why should they respect his surname?
not even to do it for spite or anything though, it should still be done. this could cause so many issues with legal paperwork, offices thinking they have the other sister, et cetera
i think that should be up to the kid, actually. its Their choice and Their name.
@@2cat4life a ten year old is not old enough to understand legal implications of having the exact same name with someone. It would be her choice to change it or not when she is 18, but until then I agree that last name should be legally changed to avoid loopholes the father+gf could abuse
@@xyzzyx4839 I studied at a school that had another another student with the same first and middle names I do. They often mixed up our info, and it wasn't even same last name + parent
@@nalciel6577 what legal implications? There are only ethical and logical implications. There aren't legal loopholes for people having the same first and last name. That's absurd. Anything legal requires full name and birthdate at bare minimum and then social security # for anything of importance or judicially. There are millions of people who have the same names.
Imagine knocking someone up and then getting pissed at them for having the audacity to be pregnant. And it's so bad you degrade them by calling them a roommate instead of your spouse. I'd say you make your bed, you lay on it but the wife and child would be better off without him. But I suspect he's calling her his roommate because he doesn't want to look bad.
Exactly what I was thinking. He's just trying to gain sympathy by calling her a "roomate" instead of a wife. What an asshole.
Kiwi is a fool.
I sense that the replies in this comment may become a hellscape so I'll just switch off notifications for it and suggest that no one reply to certain people on here since they may have come here with the intention of triggering someone. Leave them be. Don't engage.
@@SanneFromBibleStudy1987-gq6vg It's the woman's fault for getting pregnant. If she can open her legs for play time she can open her legs to deliver. Abortion is murder!!!
And the fact it was PLANNED! It wasn’t even a whoopsie, this man signed up for this!
Dude was putting SAWDUST in his girlfriends food??? And thought that wasn’t a problem??? How in the hell does someone think feeding another person SAWDUST IS OKAY??
I'm baffled
"Yeah my gf is struggling with mental health problems and potentially an eating disorder and im losing attraction to her so ig ill just poison her" YOU SHOULD GO STRAIGHT TO JAIL BRO
That has to be a crime.
FOR FREAKING REAL WTF WAS THAT MAN
My mom's current boyfriend put something she was allergic to in her food. Then when me and my mother got upset, bc allergic reactions aren't something to fuck around with,and he tried to say that it wasn't that big of a deal.
We are sensitive to many things and are also allergic to many things,this very easily could've ended up having her in the hospital.
He also got so pissed off that he threw salmon across the room,risking us getting sick from salmonella.
The insane whiplash I got from the “roommate” story almost knocked my head off 😵💫
Legit I wanted to shout while sitting at my bus stop. LIKE ARE YOU KIDDING ME
@@thatcreepyfangirlstalkerch3572 i had to pause and then rewatch her reading the whole story because everything i'd heard immediately got erased from my brain by the shock of it
I was like “WHAT” and rewound the vid to the start to find out how tf I missed the important info about the OP. I hadn’t missed anything; it was just omitted, on purpose most likely
does it actually say in the post that the OP's 'roommate' is his wife?
@@jjaanneettjc not in the post but I think he says it in the comments
I cannot fathom having two children with the same name. There''s not a lack of names! It has to be a malicious move, because I doubt anyone is THAT moronic.
Years ago (like in the 70s or something) there was a Spanish boxer who wanted to call both his sons Pedro, but his wife wouldn't let him. It was so unhinged that my dad still brings it up as hilarious fact from time to time
@@lnOMcD That’s so strange, wtf? 😭 Did he even have a reason for wanting to name both of his sons Pedro?
The face that the guy wouldn't look at her in the eye when they said the kids name? I'd bet any money that the girlfriend told him exactly why they;re naming that kid the same name. Scratch that - I know they talked about it, because that is the most batshit passive aggressive move that shouldve turned his head as well, had he not known the plan
that’s what i’m saying. why would you want to have TWO kids with the same name? imagine how hard and awkward it’ll be to describe your family to people. it’s just so odd.
My mom and aunt have the same name but theyre like 15-20 years apart :/
I've heard several people read the "that's pretty fucking gay" story, but you are the first queer person I have heard cover it. It was so refreshing to hear someone laughing like I did instead of saying "ooooo! That's a horrible joke to make! How insensitive!" Like yeah it wasn't the time for it but that joke is fucking funny!
Yeah, give him time, apologize, hug, and they are going to laugh about it in like a month, because it's absolutely hilarious
The thing is not that the joke cannot be funny in the right context, it absolutely can be. The problem is that the child was clearly trying to have a serious conversation. There is a context that makes it terrible.
@@AnnekeOosterink oh absolutely. But the other people I saw cover it were like, saying that the joke itself was horrible and he should never make it regardless of context when I literally make jokes like that all the time. I was just saying it's nice to see a queer person laugh at it instead of seeing a cishet kinda cringe and posture. That's all.
@@kierstenburtz8442 totally agree. He also thought his kid knew that he knew for much longer, so I can see why he would just blurt that out on accident. Not to mention I would have personally loved it if that was how my parents reacted to my coming out. I get I'm not this guy's son, but that's my opinion as a queer person.
It's definitely the kind of joke me and my friends would make with each other. All being queer.
Totally not the time and the place and 100% hurts but it was pretty funny and later the kids going to laugh so much about it.
But understandable he is upset and hirt
The woman naming her daughter after her step-daughter is a whole new type of conflict I did not think was possible.
Also holy shit, the reveal that the roommate is actually the husband is the most insane "lying to get people on my side" bullshit I have ever heard.
Yea, I mean a friend(A) of mine even considered the name of his child when a good friend(B) of ours also got a child a week earlier and haveing given their(B) child the name A thought of.
In the end, both have different names with A's child having a second name.
I can't fathom the idea of giving my child the name of my privious child, I even understand teh conflict A was in.
This reals sounds malicious by the stepmother.
The son cheating story: I was totally like "no I'd house my child no matter what they did" but cheating on your vulnerable, pregnant, suffering partner because their pregnancy is actively harming them is a super big low. Nope, get a hotel.
When you have a child, you agree to love them and how them acceptable morals. Sometimes, the love and lessons are harsh. Sometimes "you need to get your shit together" is another way to say "I love you"
The fact he was actively lying to them about it and acting like his wife was the one being unreasonable also makes his dad's actions even more justified. He never admitted he fucked up, didn't act remorseful, just covered it up and talked shit about his currently suffering, betrayed, still pregnant wife while his mommy coddles him.
The pregnancy one where he referred to her as his roommate really hit home for me. My marriage was completely over when I got pregnant and I was treated very similarly. I was having all sorts of health problems and my ex straight up said "I know pregnant women who don't complain and lie around like you do." It's such an ignorant, cruel sort of thing to say. It was the worst time of my life, to the point the thought of having more children makes me feel sick, only because of the terrible time I had during pregnancy. I was crying literally every day.
can’t imagine the emotional stress and anxiety of having to live in an environment like that, especially when pregnant. hope ur better now and i’m glad that rat bastard is ur ex.
Pregnancy is SO individual. You could be like my boss who never threw up, feels great, is glowing, or you could be like my cousin who threw up so much she was in the hospital for dehydration. What an ass.
Men are assholes, I wish they could experience pregnancy and give birth just to empathize more with women.
I hope you left that POS and are fine. As a bonus: I hope his family and all women in his life eventually found out what he did. Effing yikes!
@@AlxMar5 I left him while I was pregnant. This was 12 years ago, I can't believe what I let him get away with, I didn't even recognise how abused I was just because it wasn't physical. One of many things was he forced me to say on threat of him abandoning me for yet another night was 'I'm sorry I'm behaving so insanely' but I couldn't get it out because I couldn't stop crying. After being hospitalised twice because I actually had preeclampsia, I ended up moving back with my parents. It wasn't funny to me at the time, but my mum actually kicked him square in the nuts after she heard how he was talking to me when he came over at one point. I was horrified, but now I think what a fucking bad bitch and I can laugh about thank god somebody put him in his place.
The age gap in the last one seems to be an issue, even if it’s only 8 years, as he’s treating her like a child incapable of making decisions for herself. The fact he thinks what he’s doing is ‘helping’ her and doesn’t see how it’s wrong is possibly the scariest part. It very much gives abusive ‘I’m only hitting you for your own good’ vibes.
And eating sawdust can kill you. The species of wood can be toxic, or contain toxins because of contamination that wouldn't be considered a problem since no-one is supposed to eat it, it can cause allergic reactions and it can gum up your intestines since humans can't digest wood. He could be looking at attempted murder charges, but is but-hurt that someone suggested it's abusive since he's "doing it for her own good"!
I hope to god that's fake because as soon as it said sawdust I was like... no real human being would do that right?
If it is real then my god what is wrong with people
No, it isn't an age gap issue, it's fatphobia. Absolutely abusive, and the woman should get out immediately. But the issue isn't age.
@@elainelouve it can be both lol. he's scared shes gonna be fat and is treating her like she doesn't understand that her problem is being fat, and that he knows what's best for her and her body
My parents had 4 years age gap in marriage. But they were introduced with each other when my mother was 30 and my father was 34. So I don't see any problem with big age gap when both partners are adults with stabile livelihood. But 21 and 29?? It's the young adult and adult. Huge. No.
The "roommate"/wife one is so, so messed up. What kind of man doesn't want to go to the appointments and see the baby's ultrasounds in person and all that? The baby isn't even born yet and he's already a deadbeat dad. Wtf
It’s actually terrifying and I hope the woman and her child separate and are happy and safe. Insanity.
@overlordfemto7523 it's different when you plan to take a pregnancy to term. And if she's pregnant enough to need all that help, it's already past the "clump of cells" phase
@overlordfemto7523 if you're arguing that we're all just clumps of cells, then what's your point? And why shouldn't you support a pregnant partner? You're coming off as a half assed troll
Sounds like my bio dad, hmm curious if the two are the same person
@overlordfemto7523 bro you thought you did something there lmfao
I 100% would have never talked to my dad again if he had named my half sister the same name as me, and he raised me as a single father so ...
I was on the " room mates " side until you said that they aren't room mates, they're married. Someone find this poor woman and save her from this AH jesus.
I would absolutely assume that I was being replaced if my dad did that.
@@wendyheatherwood I'd demand to move in with my mom so fast lol
Honestly it didn’t sound like he specifically named the child, but he definitely didn’t care enough to try and get his girlfriend to change it. So I wouldn’t really feel like he was the one necessarily, trying to replace me, but I would definitely feel like the girlfriend was! But I genuinely hope the daughter limits contact with her father and his family when she gets older and realizes how awful and vindictive it is to give both of your children the same damn name. ESPECIALLY when one is so much older than the other.
@@gothcsm he couldn't make eye contact with his der daughter's mother, he knew he shouldn't allow that to happen (naming your child needs two yes' and one no), but he did it anyway
He is spineless and needs to learn how to say no to his girlfriend.
@@SappyDuder That’s literally what my comment walk talking about…
The woman in that second to last AITA post seriously needs to either pack her bags or kick her husband out as soon as the child's there and she's strong enough to do so. How in the world could he even type the sentence "I didn't know that she would turn into a lazy, entitled, annoying emotional child" out???? Oh God forbid that the woman that he AGREED to marry displays common symptoms of pregnancy while she's PREGNANT. Like wtf, he also said 'yes', so he obviously planned to stay in it for the long run, so how can he lack such a huge amount of self-awareness???? 💀💀💀💀
no honestly had my jaw on the floor like sir WHAT
When those type of men say that she is not acting like a wife what they really mean is she is not acting like his mommy anymore.
What scares me is I’m willing to bet what “not acting like a wife” probably mostly means is not having sex… I’ve seen way to many men like this use that term to refer to her not fulfilling her “wifely duties” because obviously she should have to anytime he wants regardless of her physical or mental health…
I am the step parent to a child who's other parent (that we coparent very well with) went through a divorce. We spoke openly with the now ex-step-father and encouraged him to reach out to us and spend time with our daughter as he was seen as another father. He never reached out never asked about her and ghosted us when we would reach out. We found out recently that him and his new partner almost named their new daughter, our daughters name and openly talked about how it was to "replace his lost -insert my child's name-" me, my partner, and our daughters other parent were so uncomfortable and confused by this. Thankfully they didn't name her that but it was a very weird situation.
@overlordfemto7523 I mean maybe for some people but it's been pretty great for me 🤷
@overlordfemto7523do you want single parents to just permanently stay single?
Sounds like my bio logical dad, tried ghosting me before I was born for an ex but my mom wouldn't allow him to ghost from my life. Would've been better if she just let him ghost me, he did it anyway
@overlordfemto7523Uses Clown emoji as sn insult, I bet you can't even juggle or ride around in a comically undersized car, and your pieing technique must be laughable
"well, that's fucking gay" HELP THAT'S SO FUNNY…if i just came out i would be sad but after a few weeks i would laugh
22:59 finding out OP is the husband makes this so much worse. "only one responsible for her pregnancy"? so she just miraculously got herself pregnant? Wife needs to get out of there now. If this is how he acts before the kid is here, there's no way he's contributing to childcare
Yeah like I was mostly on op’s side before that was revealed but then he’s lost all my respect. He’s such an a-hole oh my god
"Spoiler alert, my face" is my favourite sentence ever uttered by a human being
When she started with the "my roommate is pregnant" story I was kinda on the guy's side bc I also would be annoyed by living with someone who's pregnant and having to do everything, but when she said it's the husband my jaw dropped to the floor, like wtf, her pregnancy is your problem too dude, you've made her pregnant
The sawdust thing reminds me of a court case with a company selling 'granola bars' that were made to help you lose weight, and they were actually mostly saw dust. The court ruled that while it's not actually dangerous for people to eat saw dust, they do need to be informed that they are being fed saw dust so if the company wanted to continue operating in this way they'd have to put that on the list of ingredients.
That does not mean its okay bc it has been proven to cause health complications. They let us eat a certain amount of plastic bc they refuse to do anything to help the planet you think they care if corporations are feeding people wood
Addendum, while it doesn't have to be dangerous when ingested in very small amountsfor a very small time, sawdust is definitely not harmless either. For one, you must be absolutely sure that the tree is not poisonous, and that there is nothing else in there besides sawdust, because you may very well poison someone if the wood has been treated with or exposed to chemicals etc. Secondly, sawdust can absolutely wreak havoc on the intestines, and can potentially cause permanent damage. It can even be lethal in the long term. Wood dust is also classed as a carcinogen.
My concern isn’t there’s no way this guy has access to food safe sawdust, he was either buying it or making it himself which means it was almost definitely chemically treated wood (as almost all store bought wood is) or wood from some random log with who knows what mixed with it.
@@emilyjohn2034I for a second read "wood from a random log lady" and thought about log lady from twin peaks and how she would never sell sawdust to an abusive man to feed his wife.
I hadn't heard the roomate story before at all. So i had no idea he was her husband until you said it. And when i tell you i actually SCREAMED...god i hope she leaves him. He is NOT gonna help when that kid is born...that poor woman needs to get out honestly
SAME
I’m crying at “well, that’s pretty f*cking gay!” 💀 poor kid tho 😬
My mom had hyperemisis gravidarum with both of her pregnancies; so bad that she lost weight in the first trimester, and even though my dad was working 75 MILES away one way, he still took care of her (and me with the 2nd pregnancy) as soon as he got home and went to all the drs visits. Literally what the hell
as someone with five half siblings (three on mom’s side, two from dad) if any of my sisters were given my name i would have been absolutely distraught. my brothers on my mom’s side are identical twins and their father gave them Both his first name, we’ve always called them by their middle names. even when i’d be accepted by my mom’s partners, there’s a certain type of isolation that comes from seeing her start a new family. it’s like she gets to start from scratch and pretend nothing happened before so to imagine those feelings with the new sibling literally being given my exact name??? nah i don’t wanna be around whoever made that choice, and i don’t know that i’d ever care to heal from that in any way that involves contact. that’s absolutely feral behavior.
Plus it's going to cause so many problems. Anytime you interact with a bank, school, tax bureau, government in general, police etc etc, you're going to get at the least confusion, and quite possibly even fraud charges over this. It's already an issue for people with the same initials, or sr and jr, and this is so much worse.
AND being ten years old and probably not having the emotional language skills to talk about your feelings and get them out.... it's so sad
i almost had a fucking stroke when i heard 'sawdust', what the actual fuck
like. i expected something like sneaking in more fiber into her food in secret and i STILL wouldn't be okay with it because secretly messing with somebody's food is something very worthy of losing all trust into the person, but this is on a whole new level
and the way he keeps talking about how she is Definitely upset because of her weight gain and how he's 'protecting her feelings' is just so fucking suspicious. i am pretty sure he's just upset by her looking less attractive to him and is trying to find a good-sounding excuse to be upset and do such fucked up things about it
It's vile fatphobia.
I absolutely agree. I feel like if he was really upset by what she's going through emotionally, he'd have talked to her about therapy, not just snuck sawdust into her food.
I'm telling you, the stories about pregnant people on reddit are the most horrifying nightmares I've ever heard. What the actual fuck is wrong with people omfg
Oh hell no… That one guy’s girlfriend was DEFINITELY trying to replace his daughter by giving her newborn the same exact name as his first daughter. How the actual hell did he just let that slide!? I cannot imagine being with someone who did something as awful as that!
There is literally no other fathomable reason that she would do that, other than her being so vindictive and jealous over the fact that OP’s 10 year old daughter is not biologically hers, and she resorts to just trying to replace the daughter entirely. What a disgusting excuse for a woman, let alone a mother!
My mom and dad named a dog one of my adult brother's childhood nicknames, and he was a bit salty about it. I couldn't imagine naming a pet by a child's name, let alone another child in the same family.
My mom initially wanted to give me the same name as my uncles pet tortoise, my dad vetoed that but I'm still a bit upset. Can't imagine what those two girls are feeling
I adopted a fat rat who shared a name with my uncle and cousin. That was awkward to explain.
The first story: The guy is used to having a mom do everything for him. I’d like to know how mutual the agreement was that the wife would go back to work. Funny how financial stress can upheave the traditional gender roles.
That coming out reaction reminds me of the time a friend had been gathering the courage to come out to someone for weeks and when we were cooking dinner she blurted out "I'm lesbian" and with my head in the fridge I said, "Okay, but do you have mozarella?"
And then I turned around and she was in tears and I was like "Omg, thank you for trusting me enough to tell me that you're so sweet" and we hugged and everything was great, except that she really didn't have mozarella.
The pregnant roommate story was the plot twist of the CENTURY omg he's awful
At the beginning of the "pregnant roommate" story, I was on OP's side. I guess it depends a little on the situation but getting pregnant and then expecting your roommate to pick up the slack seems like...maybe not an asshole move, but certainly not the best possible idea. The pregnancy changes the entire dynamic and I don't think it's fair to assume that a roommate would just be okay with a baby in the picture, or for them to basically "be the dad".
BUT HE ACTUALLY WAS THE DAD!?! That's wild. I did a complete 180 there. From "OP shouldn't be expected to suddenly play dad just because they're the pregnant lady's roommate" to "YOU'RE THE ACTUAL FUCKING DAD, MATE, SO DO YOUR JOB!" Holy crap, what an asshole. And that's not even mentioning referring to his actual wife as a "roommate".
"She's the one responsible of her pregnancy!!"
-the person that got her pregnant and caused this entire situation
"sometimes parents are way too forgiving of their kids because it's their kids" is so true. my older brother is a pos and my mom refuses to "turn her back" on him solely bc he's her son, and she's the kind of person who wouldn't allow that treatment from anybody else.
he has multiple girlfriends while he's married w kids but she refuses to tell any of the girlfriends that he's cheating on all of them.
he also has been to jail numerous times for stealing and scamming people but she acts like it's a surprise every time even though he's had so many chances and he always goes back to his old ways. she acts like it's just no big deal because "he's my son" and it frustrates me to no end. all the people he's hurt were somebody's kid too.
I would tell the wife. Poor wife.
@@user-guigui01 i think she might already know, and also she's honestly just as bad as he is and also cheats, it's not like they're rlly a family bc he hardly ever sees her or his kids, and him and her don't even like each other anymore, but still it's such a shitty thing to do
I audibly gasped when it was revealed that the “roommate” was the FATHER/HUSBAND. OH MY GOD. Run, girl!!
Feeding your gf sawdust?? Wtf?? That is so much worse than a little extra weight. Finding that out better be the end of that relationship
It better be the end of the man's life, tbh. People like that are too dangerous to let run amok in society.
@@paigemosher8697I'd turn him into sawdust
Like I wonder what possibly could be making her depressed, surely not her wonderful loving boyfriend. Wtf is wrong with men??
As a homemaker who also works a part-time job and gets up at 5 every morning, I appreciate the shout out!
This segment is a shout out to Kiwis daddy, Matt Walsh.
@@professorfoxtrotwhat
In the two name story, the friends father was super kind and good at reading the situation by offering to take the daughter out of the room
Love a dad joke, even if it was the wrong time. Thank you for this video and sharing your opinions!
Kiwi did this segment because she looks up to Matt Walsh as her daddy.
@@professorfoxtrotwhich makes you jealous
@@SonotmickeY3626 Not at all. Walsh does it better. It's nice to see Kiwi looking up to great men like me and the great Matt Walsh. Only men like us know how to tame women like her.
@@professorfoxtrot Imagine calling known abuser Matt Walsh great. Couldn't be me.
@@AnnekeOosterink Known abuser? Who did he abuse? Unless you consider destroying his opponents so badly as "abuse."
For the "pregnant Roommate" Story: My jaw was on the ground when you said this was her husband. Throughout I was like, yeah, if it's a roommate then that's not really their responsibility. But damn, this man is vile. Please, wife of him, leave, run if you can, get out of there!
Wait, wait, wait SAWDUST??? Holy shit, I don't think you are supposed to eat that. Stop it!
For the first - if it was something like terrible mental health, I’d definitely feel bad, but it is NEVER ok to neglect your children and their household. At first I went, “well yeah I mean that sounds hard to live up to her expectations” and then I realized like “oh! Kids aren’t being taken care of! Oh god.”
Im pregnant rn with my 2nd and my husband was listening to the "roommate" story and was so angry on every pregnant person's behalf 🤣 Im a stay at home parent, and i have severe pelvic girdle pain this pregnancy. He will literally come home from a long shift at work and make me sit down so he can do the dishes/laundry and pick up the house like i usually would. And he agrees that dealing with pregnant moods swings doesnt seem NEAR as bad as actually being the pregnant one
i cannot get over the sawdust YOUVE BEEN FEEDING YOUR GIRLFRIEND SAWDUST????
Oh come on, it was 67 times!! Give the guy a break. Everyone makes mistakes! 😂
Okay but even beyond the emotional aspect of the daughters with the same name thing, that's so impractical too! Imagine how confusing that would be when your talking about them
A couple of these stories remind me of when my ex-fiance told me that I was depressed and he couldn't handle my behavior, so I needed to contact a psychiatrist and start taking antidepressants.
My father had died unexpectedly of complications from heart surgery 1 month before. I was there when it happened. I can't possibly imagine why I was so depressed.
First story, he doesn’t just not know how to be a dad, it sounds like he doesn’t know how to be a living human being.
I was the first boy born on my mother's side of the family out of all my cousins and my name starts with a K. The second boy also has a name that starts with a K, but his name was a very common traditional name in my mother's culture so that was okay. Then when I was 12, the third boy was born and his name was a regular English name, but instead of starting with a C, they decided to start it with a K (not so unlike my name). I felt a bit weirded out but it's not the biggest deal. When I was 19, the last boy was born, and his name shares the first 4 letters with my name. In school people constantly confused my name with that name. My aunts and uncles accidentally call us the wrong name now all the time.
I'm doing okay, I'm an adult now and this isn't going to cause any trauma. But my youngest cousin who practically shares a name with me will no doubt see the similarities and be affected by it. I have heard every single one of my younger cousins be compared to me, and I don't even want to know how bad that's going to negatively affect them.
Is you family the Kardashians? 😂
The last story is incredibly terrifying because who the f*ck would do that seriously thats f*cking insane!!
Second story: This marriage was an “I can change him” situation gone horribly wrong.
im in college, my family just got a puppy, they texted me and joked about naming the puppy my name and i actually started crying in my dorm. its still not funny when i think bck. His name isnt my name but i still dont think that was funny
Lmao, thankfully I'm fully out to my dad so if he ever responded with "well that's pretty fucking gay" would have me crying laughing holy fuck
the pregnant roommate post hit me like a fucking bus. literally i was on ops side like "oh ok since its a roommate I understand. you didn't sign up for this shit" but OH MY GOD? HER HUSBAND? YOU ABSOLUTELY DID SIGN UP FOR THIS SHIT. THIS ENTIRE PROCESS OF MARRIAGE AND CHILDBIRTH IS SO VERY DELIBERATE
The "sawdust" one seriously made me angry and a bit terrified. I've dealt with depression for like 10 years now (better recently) and speaking just for me my eating habits and depression are related in the way that they both feed into each other. My depression gets worse it's harder for me to eat well and that makes the depression even worse and often when I'm able to start eating even a little bit better (which sometimes is due to depression getting a bit better and sometimes I just burn extra spoons for it) it makes my depression better. Sawdust is NOT THE FUCKING WAY to do it. I understand helping someone (with CONSENT) to eat better if that's not something that's easy for them, like maybe you can make sure there's a salad around so if they want to add that to their plate they can and things like that. But yeah, that sort of thing needs to be done with consent and clear boundaries, something like that is a violation on so many levels and she absolutely should leave him. Good his brother is going to make sure she finds out.
with the first one...dear god. i live at home (i'm currently 22) and i don't have a job either, but i'm in charge of taking my younger sibling to school every morning. i literally just wake up half an hour before we have to leave then i come back home and drink coffee. it literally isn't that hard?? wtf?????
Kind of a funny story that the "roommate" one made me think of. My boss at one of my jobs constantly talked about his "roommates." It was only after FOUR YEARS of working for him that i met his *wife and daughter*, aka the "roommates". He clearly adores them both but just didnt want to tell anyone he was married because he's a very private person. We all thought it was absolutely hysterical, including his wife and daughter.
My whole family thinks cheating isn't that bad. I don't get it, it's such a horrible thing thing to do to someone your supposed love
oh, yikes.
I found out my aunt is the partner of a guy who’s cheating on his wife and I just couldn’t even talk to her anymore while my parents just kind of accepted it because “well yeah she knows about it but she’s not the married person so”
When like. 😭
It's not bad at all. Monogamy is toxic and must be dismantled by any means necessary.
@OzCroc cheating ≠ non-monogamy. Cheating is betraying the trust of your partner and the relationship. If you can't be monogamous be single or date someone who is also non-monogamous
@@elisef8111 Monogamists are toxic anyway so they kind of deserve their trust to broken.
During that “roommate” story I kept thinking “where is the upcoming baby’s father in all this?” so when you said that OP WAS the husband my mouth hung open for a good 3 seconds.
10:53
I am traumatized. I thought they were implying they got their daughter pregnant when drunk-
Wait so they weren't drunk
The one about the dad naming his second daughter with the same name as his 10 year old reminds me of King of the Hill when Hank’s dad names his new baby “Good Hank”.
holy hell the roommate thing threw me for such a loop. I was like yeah, can't blame the woman for needing a lot of extra help during pregnancy but also I see how it'd get frustrating to have to do so much when you didn't sign up for it, maybe they can work it out by finding some extra help or - WHAT THE FUCK DO YOU MEAN HE'S THE FATHER
actual whiplash. and then the whole sawdust story finished me off like a second anvil landing on an already flattened Wile E. Coyote
I hope the sawdust lady not only left him, but filed charges as well.
Your make up combined with the hair is always such a slay
I do feel bad for the son in the coming out story because it probably took a lot of courage to come out to his dad but omg that story is objectively hilarious because yeah that is pretty gay😂😂😂
I was willing to give OP a chance when he was like 'oh i wanna help my girlfriend with her weight because I see its affecting her' until he was like 'IM PUTTING SAWDUST IN HER FOOD'
Me to! I thought it was going to be one of those “I started pretending I wanted to go to the gym and invited her with me” situations that are such a cute way to care about someone without shaming them, and then was suddenly shocked by something horrible
Those last two men are like “AITA?” And I’m like “yall are so bad we should bring back drawing and quartering in the town square”
4:38 holy crap this first one is crazy. Single dad with sole custody here and my kid gets to school on time, always cook him dinner, but the cleaning gets away from me. Bro had help and a breadwinner and couldn't do it. People seldom get what they deserve I guess...
The Roommate Wife Dude is definitely going to call his kids 'Tenants' like a fucking landlord
20:23
You reacted the same way i did when i heard the joke! I flat out laughed harder than i have in YEARS and it was PEAK dad joke timing 🤌
I WISH my dad told me that cause it would have made things WAAAAAYYYYYYY less awkward and lighten the mood for further conversation. God DAMN that dad is fucking great!
26:11 The fact that OP changed the wording so he would appear to be the obvious victim… I spent the whole time hearing the story going “how unreasonable, you can’t force your roommate to step into a parental role like that, of course it’s difficult to be a single mom but you can’t force responsibility on an acquaintance like that-“ but that twist, my gosh. 💀 OP’s wife needs to RUN, he is not in any way prepared to be a supportive partner or parent… or decent human being.
In defense of the dad in the first story : he might have undiagnosed adhd... I would struggle with that as well. But I would definitely try!
The first one reminded me of when I was a kid, neither of my parents worked, my school wasn't even a 5 min drive and my dad would still make me late all the time cus he'd always say we have time when we indeed did not have time.
There is literally nothing that could’ve prepared me for him putting SAWDUST in her food. I was expecting shitty comments, not poisoning his partner.
The story with the dad naming his kid the same name as his daughter is awful. Like everything you said is 100% correct. That 10 year old daughter is going to be for sure heartbroken and feel replaced. Both those people are awful people.
For the first post, the man doesn't just not know how to be a father, he simply doesn't know how to be an adult. By the sounds of it, the house wasn't just messy, it was disgusting. My house gets messy sometimes, having 2 kids that just happens. However, it's only ever toys being around the house. It's never dirty. The dirtiest it ever gets is if we have a baking day and there's flour in the kitchen.
Sometimes you run behind and are late for things, that happens with kids, but getting to the point that the school call is outrageous. I used to be late for school on the day that my mum didn't have work (we lived too far to walk and my mum trashed my bike as a punishment, side note I paid for that bike with my own money) it got to a point I'd walk in and say "mums not at work today" the lady in the office would sign me in and just move on because it happened literally every week. I usually have to sit in the car for a bit or go to the local park because we are so early. My children will never be late for anything important.
is such a deeply ableist and disgusting thing to say. Some of us are disabled, some of us have executive functioning disorders. We are STILL adults. People like you made me hate myself to the extent that I still suffer from extreme self-hate. Just try to fucking think about existing outside of your bigoted box.
Its so strange hearing about bad fathers like my dad runs like 4 companies and he manages to drive me and my brother to different schools, cook every meal, and keep the house clean. Some people need to figure it out
Sawdust man is low-key kinda scary
Omg the ‘roommate’ one sent me. I’m pregnant rn and I’ve been very sick like the OPs wife and I used to be very high functioning and loved to cook and clean. I haven’t been able to do any of it!!! And my partner has been amazing, supporting me through everything and doesn’t expect anything of me. When I thought the story was just about an actual roommate I was a bit like I get your not happy with this situation but be kind she’s going through a lot, but when I found out it was the husband my jaw literally dropped. How can someone be so inconsiderate and horrible, not even willing to do the minimum and be compassionate. Actual trash
The rime of the ancient housewife. "But why don't you just remove the albatross?" I asked. "I'm married to the fucker..." she replied.
To the roommate/wife situation
Projection is an SOB!
I like how he worded it in a way were ppl would be like “ yeah you’re not the asshole.” On surface level reading.
When you said "he was her husband" I SCREAMEDDDDD
With that first one, I will say, vacuum, washing the floor, cleaning surfaces, that sort of thing, even cleaning the wc, you only need to do it once a week. That's enough, at least once a week. Shouldn't be that hard. And if you keep it clean, it's much quicker and easier to clean, than if you let it collect dust for a couple weeks or months. All the other days that you don't clean, it's just a matter of looking around for things to do.
Things you should do every day is, get the kids to school on time, getting them home again, providing the kids and potentially the rest of the household with breakfast, dinner, and potentially lunch. Dishes should be cleaned at least once a day. I live alone, so I just collect dishes throughout the day and wash them after dinner. If you can keep up with this, that's good enough. It's much easier to keep it clean, than to clean.
The dad with his gay comment had me in tears laughing 😂 when I came out to my mom I called her. I didn't check if it was a good time or anything because I figured she'd be fine with it as she's never said anything to make me think otherwise. Well I must have caught her at a bad time because after I told her it was her getting off the phone in a way that felt rushed with ak "ok baby. I gotta go now." I sat in the bathroom & cried because I thought she was upset. I find out the next day she was just busy & didn't think about how I would take her getting off the phone so quickly 😂 She's one of my best friends as an adult & loves my wife so much! Its funny now, like you said, but in the moment it definitely hurt!
Knowing exactly where the 'roommate' one was going, hearing Kiwi talking about the expectations of a roommate when pregnant and stuff was so odd, knowing that she was going to Kill This Man With Her Bare Hands
I feel so bad for the gf in the last post. I hope she finds out and leaves him. Also, just assuming here, but I'm curious if Op would make her feel bad for gaining weight. The way he words this post, just gives me bad vibes from him. Why does her gaining weight bother him so damn much?? I understand if it's an unhealthy weight, but from this terrible post I'm assuming it's not. It sounds like he just cares about her weight because he's becoming less attracted to her. This dude is fucking awful. I hope at least the op or his brother tells her.
Depending on the tree sawdust can be very toxic.
The wife "roomate" one is just honestly disgusting and abusive. How the hell is your pregnant wife and unborn baby not your responsibility?
I didn’t even give two of my baby dolls the same name when I was a child. That man IS spineless and that GF has GOT to have some sort of sinister intentions. Like I feel like she’s just been keeping her jealousy for his 10 year old under wraps and was waiting for this opportunity to replace her. So weird.
... I had placenta previa and my partner didn't cheat that I know of but he was also scared af because I had pre eclamsia and the baby was struggling and I was struggling. Think he was just glad we lived
I always love your earrings! You've inspired me to make my own earrings (I'm a crocheter and like to microcrochet little charms sometimes, which work great as earrings). I bought a couple six inch skeletons from my local craft store and am going to make them into earrings as soon as I have something I can attach them to.
23:42 The whole time you were reading the post, I was thinking that all the things she was asking were more for a partner (or at least the person who got her pregnant) and it was overstepping boundaries to ask that of a "roommate". The utter *SHOCK* I felt after knowing it was her ***HUSBAND*** who wrote the post?!?!? My god, she needs to leave YESTERDAY.
“And they WERENT roommates!”
In terms of the one with the giving the same name to the newborn. The Op is absolutely not an the asshole. They could have chosen any kind of name or if they like that name so much change it up. That poor child is going to be heartbroken when she figures it out. Not to mention the absolute bs exuse that was given of just liking a name. Like no u know where that name came from, and u just don't want to admit it
Yeah and if the daughters share a surname too then there are going to be legal issues too
18:09 It was the same for my sister. She was so disappointed when she came out because my parents were just like, “OK, what do you want for dinner?” It was actually pretty hurtful to her that they didn't match her energy because she felt like they were minimizing her feelings.
I have ADHD and can see myself having the same problems as the first guy with a routine, keeping a home organised and getting the kids to school on time. I wonder if he needs some support or just isn't suited to an organisational role like that. He could also be depressed after losing his job. We probably don't know enough about his attitude/reasons to say.
It's shocking just how wholeheartedly demeaning people got over someone just not managing household chores. Granted, I wouldn't think he's necessarily in the right, he could well just be playing incompetent to "make a point" and it's just wrong to neglect the kids. But also could be he's got genuine issues suddenly managing all the new responsibilities right after losing a job.
The message feels very "have you tried just not having executive dysfunction" either way.
thank you! These ways of thinking have literally made my suicidal ideation worse.Neurotypical people are so incredibly ignorant of everything.
Yes, but having ADHD and depression doesn’t excuse starving your children. You seem to have left that detail out.
Exactly what the person above said. He didn’t feed his kids lunch for 3 days. No matter what that’s inexcusable
@@spookyspaghett1 He fucked up and neglected his children. Whatever his reasons may be, that is bad, that's true. I don't know his life, so I can't say if he did or did not have any kind of mental issues or neurodivergency or whatever else.
The main issue we're pointing out here is fully assuming he didn't have any issues and it's solely his moral failing to not manage the situation correctly. That kind of attitude can be unproductive and harmful in the actual situation (maybe he specifically needed to be told off, I don't know), but more importantly broadcasting that kind of attitude sends a cruel and potentially harmful message towards the neurodivergent and mentally ill by invalidating any struggles one may face maintaining "normal" function.