What a open and transparent conversation! Adulting at its finest. Praying for you both, keep communicating, it will work out. Alec, I understand, I’m having work withdrawal myself, being newly retired. Keep looking up guys.
Thanks for the support Ella. Oh yes, someone actually mentioned in the comments that persons who are newly retired normally face similar experiences. Thanks for sharing your experience too!
This was a great video guys! This is Andy, I'm the "ole" guy who had offered to perform your wedding. I'm in the Atlanta area. What you are doing in this video, is so very important to people who are having difficulties in finding answers to problems that you are so beautifully articulating in your descriptions. I have in my past work, encountered couples that needed just what you have included in this video. Alec, you would make a wonderful therapist, maybe working in the mental health field would be an ideal field for you when you're considering what you want to do. I've worked in the field for over 45 years, and see you having what it takes to be a great therapist.
Hey Andrew! Very happy to see you again. We are glad to hear that you see so much value in what it is that we have chosen to share. Thank you for that too Andrew. Who knows, it could be my calling in the future.
That self-sabotage is real. You guys really demonstrate what it means to build towards a greater future together and the sacrifices that are sometimes made to get there.
It most certainly is! And once we don't allow that saboteur to get the best of us it will only be something we grown and learn from. Thanks so much guys we really appreciate the encouraging and reassuring words! Love you both! 💜
Maze gang gang!!!! Adulting is work but I'm happy to see you rising up to each challenge & coming out better, together, on the other side. Keep pushing forward guys. You guys are teaching me even though I'm not in a relationship YET lol but you guys communication is key! Much love to you guys always 🤍✨🙏🏽
Thanks for that Jared. Well we hope when the day does come you can think back on these experiences we are having and that you know too that you have the fortitude to make it through too. And even then we will try and be there in the same way you have been there for us. Much love as always.
Honestly, I do understand how you feel Alec but trust the process continue to be patient write down your goals and jump right at them when the time comes🙏 I see you are a scaredy-cat as well it’s understandable 😊. Bryan big up!💙
Definitely doing that as best I can. Even in me baking so often it's all with a plan in mind and are just my first steps in executing. I am a very intentional person, both in words and action so I try to make sure I always keep that purpose at the center of anything I do. But you just never know what they are monitoring from what we share so we just take extra caution to ensure we can enjoy the life we envisioned in the future. Thanks for the encouragement KayCee! Brian sends his love!
So heartfelt, Alec and Brian. Be encouraged, better days are coming. I pray the the immigration situation works out really soon. Thanks for sharing. I love you both and all your videos.
I discovered your channel this past week, and throughly enjoy you guys. After being forced to join Instagram a couple of months ago, you're the first and only people I've followed. I think you guys are so necessary. I believe people have a hard time of seeing homosexual as anything more than the who they have sex with and for some reason, I'll never understand take it personally. You guys help to show that you are so much more than that. Who you love or are intimate with is not the sum total of who you are. Watching some of your videos gives me hope that Jamaica will get there eventually. Probably a long time from now, but the tides seem to be turning. I have to say those videos of you guys especially Alec in Jamaica made me nervous has hell, even though intellectually are know you're fine. I applaud your bravery, especially Alec, but only because I'm Jamaican and I know our history when it comes to gay people. Keep shining and being a light.
Thank you so much for taking the time out to not only share your perspective with us, but to also leave us with such positive words. We share a lot of the same thoughts as you but realize not everyone has the same opinions, empathy or willingness to try and understand people who may live a bit differently than themselves. When we have been in Jamaica we really have tried our best to avoid crowds, or public spaces we know that might potentially be unsafe for us, but we thought it very important to share that part of our lives too in the hope that it would touch people, like myself, who Identify anywhere on the LGBTQ+ spectrum and happen to be from the Caribbean as well. The response not only from the community but allies, and even some heterosexual people who admit that they weren't accepting before seeing our love really has been so inspiring for us. So know that your words keep us going and encouraged!
@@MeetTheMazelins Anytime there has been great change in society, it took some heroic brave souls to step out, even to the detriment of their lives. Now, I don't want you to go martyring yourselves, lol, but just remember that if ever negative comments or reaction to your love becomes overbearing, and keep being your brave, wonderful selves. 😊
Awesome conversation, you are helping so many people with what you are sharing. It won’t always be like this, better days are coming. I so love what you two are doing.
This was some real grown people *ish. I think this has been one of the most open and honest (and sometimes difficult) conversations I listened to on RUclips. My take aways were to always communicate, openly, honestly, without fear of not being heard or understood. Then there was this. When Brian said that he (Alec) left everything and everyone he loved to be with him (Brian), I was like dam. That's why he gives Alec grace and Alec gives Brian grace. Whew, this was a lot gentlemen but thank you for being authentic, and butt ass naked honest and not a fake RUclips caricature. We felt EVERYTHING you're experiencing. Thank you for sharing that that is so very personal.
I guess as we grow so does the nature of our content too. We are letting you guys in real time to the problems and obstacles that we are faced with, and we know one day we will look back at these ourselves and realize just how far we have come. True love is something worth fighting for, and we appreciate you guys being right there behind us on the journey too.
Hi Brain and Alec.🤗 It's me Christian. Great to see you again. I'm still watching. I hear you. I'm listening and acknowledge your feelings. Identifying your emotions that you are experiencing is equal parts exhilarating and scary. General anxiety, loneliness, homesickness, relationship problems, isolation, loss of purpose, and feelings of not belonging can be overwhelming. Life is unpredictable. You never realize quite how strongly tied to the culture of your home country you are until you move abroad and are faced with a culture that is markedly different than your own. And the culprit can be in living situations. Immersing yourself in a new culture can make you feel isolated. Culture shock can be triggered by anything. This is perfectly normal. Because you are experiencing these emotions, I want you to know that you are not doing anything wrong. Marriage adjustments take time, so be patient with each other and trust the process. Go easy on yourselves, give yourselves permission to lean on each other, don't get caught up in routines. And remember the golden rule here and treat your spouse the way you want them to treat you.Keep trusting in the magic of new beginnings.☺Thanks for sharing.
Wow what an encouraging ,supportive and motivating statement I personally agree with all what you said that is just cultural shock just lean on each other you need each other more than before ❤️❤️❤️❤️guys🇿🇦🇿🇦
Hey Christian! Happy to see you here in the comments again too. You have so eloquently and effortlessly summed up everything in this video into words that are moving and thought provoking. Thanks for validating our feelings and at the same time being so encouraging. We truly appreciate your words. Thanks Christian!
Happy Sunday my brothers starting a new life in a new country can be challenging but with dedication, love patience and faith you both will get through it together, everything going to be fine. Blessed love ❤️ guys
Hi Brian and Alec,Happy new week. Patience is virtue, Reset, Readjust, Restart, Refocus as many times you need too.things will work out for your family. Much love💜
Alec that's the reason some retirees go back to work because some of them say that's exactly how they feel, especially during their first year or two of retirement because they are no longer as independent as they were when they worked. God is good.
Again Sunday is complete, I get to see my favorite guys. Bryan,you still look awesome!! But I understand, when we gain a little here and there. And Alec what a process it has truly been for you,and definitely it's all for love!! And I as a friend am glad you BOTH are here.. hope to see you soon,love you much Ricky
Hello guys! One can only imagine the painstaking process that it took for the two of you to finally join together and become a married couple. You two have courageously persevered against all odds: a true testament to your love and commitment to each other. Despite any of the ups and downs you might experience as newlyweds, always remember what it took to get you there. Love you guys......
Happy Sunday! This is a great video. I can’t imagine what you’re going thru, Alec. I’m all about family and don’t think I’d ever find a love that would cause me to move away from them! Prayers for you both that this process will get easier with time. Love y’all!!! ❤❤❤❤
We appreciate you and your words Sally! It is a huge risk but the payoff is a great one. I wouldn't change my decision if I could go back in time. We appreciate the prayers and love. Sending some your way too!
Congratulations, gentlemen! You have officially entered the next phase of "Adulting And Maturing 202!" In the words of my late wise grandmother, "Marriage is not a two week vacation! It takes hard and consistent work to succeed." That hard work is in both same sex and heterosexual marriages. Continue to build and strengthen your bond. Your marriage is just between the two of you. No one else. Not your friends or family. Your growth is showing! Let it continue to flourish depending only on God and yourselves. Alec, Farmer Nappy, David Rudder and Partice Roberts are my "Go to cleaning music!" Can't go wrong! Blessings! Much love! ❤️
We definitely are learning that lesson too as we go along. Thank you for the encouragement though as always Nedra. Oh yes, those are all great soca names to groove to!
Hang in there guys...My husband and I are going through the same thing..The struggle is real but as long I have my husband by my side its going to work out..Just be strong for each other!!..🏳️🌈❤
Yes it definitely helps to know that no matter what you have that one person beside you to share the experience with Scott! We all are in this together!
That's very brilliant ideas and quite informative. Thank you Brian and Alec for sharing. I am impressed at the level of understanding you have between each other. Best wishes .
My favorite RUclips couple Happy November to you too, my birthday was November 1st Every Sunday I’m so looking for your video. Good information from you guys people need to know these helpful tips, mine process was a little different reasons my son filed for me it is easier for me because it’s son and mother Love ❤️ you guys keep real as always and keep the love 🔥🔥🔥🔥
Thanks Rose. We are happy to know that your process was smoother than ours is going at the moment. We do hope that you can relate to some parts of this video though! Thanks for the love and sending love your way too!
An amazing vlog...Sharing your experiences in a great way is so lovely Alex's & Brain your love for each other is evident in your expressions..God bless you guys as you continue adjusting to fit into each other
Thank you for sharing this again the K-1 process! I'm glad that you both had the ability to stand the course and wait till everything works out! You are growing and make your mark in our commounity!
hey, warm greetings from the UK guys...:)) I must say you two are my most favorite youtube couples EVERRRRR... and you don't know how mucM i enjoy watching your vlogs, love you to the moon and back , literally :p I must say the wisdom and good manners of Brian's and wholesomeness, intellectual and eloquent Alec, must say you two are truly much made in heaven strictly speaking . Keep up the good work and I wish you two all the happiness in the world,
Hi JJ! Thanks for the warm greetings even though we know it's colder there than it is here right now 😆. We really do appreciate these words so much! You have us feeling encouraged and warm in our hearts from the love you are showering us with. Sending much love to you too all the way in the UK!
@@MeetTheMazelinsHI guys, ofcourse you're much appricated taking a time out to reply back. yes the weathere here is gettingcloder but watching your vlog makes it a hell lot more better ;P Keep up with the good work. UK loves you.
Hi, Mazelins. I really admire what you both are doing. The education that you are imparting about this whole process is going to help so many people. Thank you for being real and sharing with us what you're actually going through and the challenges you're experiencing. You two are very special and I, for one, am praying for both of you. I wish I was in a relationship, but you're showing me how I can be a better partner one day. Thank you so much and may God bless you and your family, abundantly.
Hey Michael! Thanks for that reassurance we really appreciate it. It’s good to know that people see where us sharing could possibly help someone else. We too hope that you one day find exactly what you are looking for and that when you do you hold on to it tightly. Much love until next time! 💜
I am so happy for the three of you. The both of you as husband & husband will have encounter in life,communication is the key. You have a beautiful family. You complement each other extremely well. My favorite couple.
Brian and Alec this is very informative. I'm sure this will help many people. Each time I watch anything you all do is well worth the watch. Alec hang in there everything will work out. Brian thank you for showing your support toward your husband. That's why you guys are my favorite RUclips couple because the love is genuine ❤️. I glad both of you acknowledge whatever the disagreement is and work it out before the night is over. Stay connected to one another this matter is just temporary. Keep your heads up praying this will be complete soon.
Well that is always the hope Ervia! Thanks for your constant encouragement, as we value you it so much with the journey we are on. We will certainly remember this advice. Much love to you as always!
We appreciate the love Marvell! Also welcome to the family. Happy to have you with us and hope that you enjoy getting to know us along the way. We look forward to interacting with you more here in the comments in the future!
Thank you guys for being so transparent and open. Alec I feel your pain when you say you question your worth. I had the same issue, being disabled and my partner is the main bread winner in our relationship, I too question myself like do I deserve to be in a relationship with someone at this time. He gets up and goes to work everyday, and I am just home tending to the needs of the house the best that I can. He told me that I should never question my worth because tending to the house is a bigger, and harder job then him going to work everyday. Making sure there is a meal prepared (even if it Leftovers) He doesn't have to come home and do the stuff of the house. So no you may not be contributing financially but those little things that you do to make Brian's home life easier is sometimes even better. Brian is going to live you regardless of the finances. I can tell how much you love him, every single time you say his name you light up like a 175 watt light bulb. And I live the both of you for it. Continue to live on each other and keep those lines of communication open ❤️🧡💛💚💜💙
Oh wow thank you so much for sharing that extremely personal story Marquis! The important part though, is regardless or our struggle or circumstance that we get up and try and support in other ways within our capability. And that I have learnt is something that is still to be valued. Thanks so much for that. Much love to you Marquis 💜
My most favourable You-Tube couples please hang in there all shall be well we are with you all the way. Perseverance is the mother of success ❤️❤️🇿🇦❤️❤️🇿🇦
Wow! You gentlemen shared alot. I'm glad you're communicating. Realize that these issues will change. Brian, your compassion and understanding are admirable. Alec, you'll eventually be able to work and medical insurance will be available. Financial pressures will ease as you both have goals and ambition for future endeavors. Nothing worthwhile comes easily. Hold on! I have faith that better times will come, and these problem times are helping to make you both stronger individually, and also stronger as a couple and as a family. Love, patience, and communication are key. The MazGang and your friends and family are all encouraging a bright future for you guys! Peace to you, Frank in NY 👍💖💐🌈🌞
Hey Frank! Yes, so things have been harder for us of late with all these things battling as well. Again though, we share in the hope that it helps others out there who may be going through the same thing, just to remind them they aren't alone in those feelings and that they are very much valid. As you said though, what doesn't kill you only makes you stronger, and we believe we will come out on the other side of this experience much stronger for it. Thanks as always Frank!
Mazelin Therapy session. Wow. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. You guys are amazing. Your videos really make my Monday evenings so much more lighter. Blessings boys 💖
This is so enlightening and encouraging. I spent a week in Ocho Rio and met someone special. Unfortunately, the circumstances immigration wouldn’t grant the approval. I’ve been single for a few years and I’m optimistic I will find love. Hope to meet you guys someday. Congratulations again🎉
Thank you Lorenzo. We are so sorry to hear that it didn't work out but we know that all hope is not lost. Remain optimistic and encouraged! Much love to you 💜
Happy Sunday to you guys. Oh how I do agree with everything you both said 150% you both are correct fully. But it's too late for me now it's all over. I left everything behind and come to live with my half and everything you said I was given to opposite and so everthing failed. I lay here in my bed watching and listening to you and just crying for all the pain I felt from this marriage I left it 10 years ago.
Oh wow we really were touched by this. We are so sorry that things didn't work out how you would have hoped Miguel. But stay encouraged, as though we have one life, we get several do overs and our future is not set in stone. We really do hope that you find the happiness that you so deserve!
@@MeetTheMazelins am sorry too that it didn't work out, I had to leave the marriage because I was getting mentally ill with no one to talk to. I stayed with a co-worker and there I was able to say what was happening to me and I was able to cry out all of the pain I was feeling. But am much better now that I have left.
So far so good you guys are doing great. Continue supporting each other and loving each other, and true communication is the key❤️ Still in a honeymoon phase❤️Mine is 20 years anniversary this Dec, hence I said you are my son's ❤️It shall be well with you, the process will be done soon. Really thank you so much for sharing.All the best❤️❤️🇿🇦🇿🇦
Hey Guys, had to comment & let U know that this vlog was so good & so honest. This conversation not only shared what you're going thru tryn to become a citizen but it showed our community what it is to be in a good, solid relationship and how important communication is regardless of the circumstance. Great job..
Thank you so much for that Kristophe! So happy that you saw so much value in what we shared and that our experience can be used as a tool for even greater good. Your positive words really are reassuring and we appreciate it! Much love 🙏🏽
The full truth and nothing but the truth came about and was truly displayed with the compromise and the understanding and loving support given of each other with each other. The inclusivity of "BJ" has made alot of sense where your family is blessed and has the room to grow better as you all share and communicate with each other on everything and anything that is troubling or cause of concern to discuss and keep on loving the joy you all create. Remember that we are all here for you and "we deh yah an wish de best fi uno".......@Meet The Mazelins 🤗🤗🤗🤗
The process of becoming a legal citizen here and married, seems like the government had you two go through hoops loops, chutes and ladders. From what I see, both Brian and Alec are very genuine and very down to earth about how this journey has been for both perspectives. Great video and happy four month anniversary to you both! (Technically, tomorrow 11/8). Love you guys! 🫶🏾🏳️🌈
Well still have us going through them. But this is not specific to us at all. This really is just the journey of an immigrant for most. Different circumstances in many cases but there are many commonalities that bind out experiences together. We really hope in sharing that it helps someone else to know that they aren't alone in their experience too. Thanks for the wishes! We didn't even realize ourselves haha. Much love to you too Derrick! 💜
I’m having such good feelings about you both. I enjoy the next video and the one after that and the one after that. It’s a feeling of familiarity of your personalities ❤❤
Guys both of you have made a lot of adjustments keep going communicate with each other and I know very soon every thing will sort it'self out blessings 🙏🙏
The honey Moon is starting to fade and reality/ real life is settling in. Completely normal. Alec it's time to get your Hussle on. I know several undocumented people. And they take their lemons and make lemonade all the time. This time you have ,is a blessing. This time is for you to start designing
I know that my situation isn't an anomaly in any way. And with that time I believe I have used it to set rungs in place for the ladder I intend to climb. Working on my craft with baking isn't just for fun, and there have been other areas of learning that I have developed in the meantime with the downtime as well which we haven't showcased which will definitely help me when the time comes to hit the ground running and use my professional experience to my advantage. I count myself as lucky though to have someone like Brian who is understanding, patient, and encouraging and also sees value in me doing other things to make his and our family life a more enriched one.
I think scared is a strong word. Overly cautious perhaps. All our socials are monitored with the information we submit and to be honest I have quite a lot at stake knowing that me being so openly public about my sexuality is openly bashed in my home country. I'm just doing what I think is best to ensure me a future that I can live to enjoy with Brian and my family here.
I wish you both in all of your endeavors, you will miss home Alec I did but I have gotten a custom now, mother and sister passed away while am here and it's was so hard to deal with it. Just love each other and remember Brian it's just you that he got up there so be there for him always when ever he is down. Love you guys as always 👍👍🎊🎉
Thanks so much for the well wishes Miguel! Wow, wow, wow, that has us speechless. I could never imagine that happening to me and being able to move on. So know that our prayers are with you for your peace. Much love to you as always Miguel 💜
@@MeetTheMazelins Aww yu a mek mi a grin up inna di car. Glad to be missed. Just been working practically 7 days a week and not much time for myself but mi can miss unnu vlogs. Marriage looks good on you both though. 👏 🥰🥰
Thank you both for taking the time to share your experience with us, I understand your feelings of loneliness being in the US, I left Ireland in 1979 to live in London UK, mainly because of the level of homophobia, but because I'd left a fairly large family 9 of us to live on my own was extremely difficult emotionally, thankfully I'm a fairly sociable person and made friends pretty quickly, I coped reasonably well and stayed in London for 30 years only returning in 2009 and now I'm having a pretty good time that I've retired
I totally agree with Mr Brian just be patient , like I said earlier all shall be well , in due course it will definitely happen . when you least expect it
Firstly, I want to express my appreciation for y'all's transparency. While this isn't the first time y'all have been vulnerable with us, I'm always happy that you trust us enough to do so. I understand how difficult it can be, especially when the topic is more serious in nature. Second, I really dislike how capitalism has folks tie their self-worth to their ability to work. People are so much more than vessles that exist to work and while that's something we can understand intrinsically, it can be incredibly challenging to fully comprehend, particularly during rough patches. Alec, no matter what, you are worthy of everything you desire and more. ❤❤
Thanks for that DJ. It's always so reassuring to hear how much you guys really do appreciate the topics we choose to discuss and support us through all the challenges. Oh yes, but I guess thats just a major part of how the world works and it is hard to unlearn certain things we grow up seeing. Thanks so much for the positive words DJ! 💜
I married a Jamaican man. So I know the process oh so well. We found it was easier to get a lawyer and he walked us through the in's & out's of everything. However, everything has changed since then. Brian and Alec, May the Almighty continue to Bless your Union. Stay Encouraged.
Hey Fellas, it’s called “GoFundMe”Let’s see if all your supporters with the flowery comments will donate financially to your important and worthy endeavors. Old folks referred to it as “Put your money where your mouth is” ( just a suggestion)
Appreciate the transparency, guys. Genuinely Relatable. Ditto to “Alec’s Articulation” The accent kicks it up several notches. Brian is articulate as well. Ps. Feel better Brian. (Allergy Season)
Thanks Rodney! The encouragement is really reassuring and motivates us to keep coming back with more thought provoking videos for sure! Brian says thanks too!
I love your videos and glad that you share so openly for others to learn from. Good for Alec for the way that he sees the world because if you don’t place yourself in a precarious position (undocumented driving) then you severely mitigate any risk which can jeopardize your permanence in the US. And for Brian - I’m not sure why you believe that unpaid medical bills in this country doesn’t hit your credit because it absolutely does. Any debt that can be sent for collections can ruin your financial future. Keep making great videos and all the best for resolution soon with immigration.
Thanks so much Derrick. I'm glad that you can respect my point of view as well. Well thats good to know! Thanks for that information. We appreciate you support as always Derrick!
Excellent Share! Thanks. I can tell you two will proceed with care and continued love ❤. 6 years in and 4 of those years married now and filling out his N-400 Citenzinship forms it's been a long ride for us. We still pulling in the same direction ❤. It helped once after two years in, we got all his stuff approved and he could travel home and spend the winter at his house in DR. He will be leaving after Thanksgiving and I'll join him in Feb and stay the rest of winter there with him and we'll return to the states in spring. It's been cool to have houses in both countries and I get to see him and live in his environment 👏🏽. It's all been worth the work and wait. Hang in there👍🏾.
Nice! That's wonderful to hear that it is finally coming to an end for you both! Ahh yes, that is the time we are waiting on when I can travel again and get my 'fix' whenever that feeling of missing Jamaica sets in. Well I hope you both enjoy your trips and have a safe holiday season coming up. Thanks for the encouragement! Much love guys 💜
Thanks so much for this video guys! I have enjoyed watching your journey and you guys give me insight into what to expect with the K1 process. How long did it take for your K1 visa to get approved? It’s been about a month since we filed so I know we have a long ways to go 😅
Hey Elio! It’s our pleasure. We’re just really happy that you see value in what we have decided to share. Well just to give a little insight we applied in January of 2021. We didn’t receive our Letter approving the documents until September of that year. And I didn’t do my interview until the following year May of 2022. So 17 months total. But those timelines may be different depending on which country your fiancé is coming from and also because covid is no longer a determining factor. So hopefully you get through much sooner than we did! Just keep those fingers Crossed!
Hey my Guys I enjoyed y’all as always. I want to say to Alec when you feel down just remember you took a leap of faith that most people, myself included probably won’t ever have the courage to do. You & Brian have both took a chance on Love and sometimes in our community it’s a hard thing to find even when you local. You both had faith which was all you need to just believe it could work. No nothing perfect but Love. So Alec use that say faith that brought you here to get out and drive to see your friends when there here😁 and lastly remember the best is yet to come. Have a Blessed week & Be encouraged. Looking forward to great things for you guys. ❤❤💙
I always use try to remind myself of the good whenever I am in that funk and when I do have the debate in my head the answer that rises to the top is that I would do it all over again if I was ever given the chance. Even though it is sometimes difficult I definitely always remain grateful for my journey and for the support I get from all of you who are right there behind us. Thanks for the kind words Gregory! 💜
Protect your mental health....That's one thing many of us didn't prepare for when we moved to the US...... The adjustment period is quite difficult even for those who have access to money and resources...there's always something that will make you question your self worth.
Yes for sure! And I think when they are preparing you for these interviews this should also be a component of focus too. Thanks for the reassurance though Wade!
OMG! You know I have been following your beautiful and heartfelt journey for a while now. As a flight attendant who also has a 2nd job on some weekends and who is back and forth to the Dominican Republic (where my sweetheart lives) I've been playing "catch-up" to keep up with you two...but when I do, you never cease to make my heart smile!!! As I am currently sending this message from Santo Domingo, I am happy to report that my daughter came here to meet my guy two weeks ago and it all went extremely well! My 2nd son (yes, I have three children) is coming this weekend! Even though my children are young adults, I wanted to get them here to meet him because when he does come to the states, I didn’t want him to be a stranger to them. (Drumroll….)I plan to surprise my guy (if I can successfully get the days I need off) and propose on Christmas Day! I plan on getting the K-1 paperwork started as soon as the ring (yeah, it's a nice one too LOLOL) is on his finger!!! Thank you for giving me (and us) a real heads-up about some of the challenges we may face, and what can be expected as we fill out forms and wait for the evolution of our new commitment and goals to come to fruition. (I want you to know that I literally took notes as I listened carefully and even wrote down ALL those “I” numbers, LOL). Like you Alec, my man is very proud of what he has achieved and is used to being a self-sufficient person. He immigrated to the Dominican Republic from Haiti (19 years ago) and has been successful at carving out a better life for himself and also has been able to help his family. What the two of you have shared gives me a glimpse of what he and I need to talk about, work on, and prepare for “emotionally” as we head toward building a life together in the United States. There is one thing that I want to say to hopefully continue to encourage you as your lives as a married couple continues to progress. EVERYTHING you’re going through now is only for a season…although admittedly a different, sometimes difficult, and challenging one! NO DOUBT, the paperwork WILL eventually be finalized, and you will be able to work, drive, and build yourself in a new way that will continue to bless you and your relationship! In the meantime, the love you both have will certainly continue to sustain you! That’s what love is for…in those times that are the most challenging, is when love shines the brightest! Brian and Alec...your love shines bright! I can only pray for patience that is kindred to yours, as my man and I embark on a very similar journey in the year ahead! THANK YOU SO MUCH for sharing so openly and honestly! You both continue to inspire and bless as you allow us these glimpses into your world! Sending ♥to you both!
Zahmu!!! That is a amazing! Congrats on the upcoming engagement and thank you for sharing your story with us too. The timing and whole event sounds so familiar too haha. Brings back good memories. Well we are honored to have shared our story with you and give you a little insight as to how certain parts of your journey may play out, from the good, to the bad, but mostly the good 😊. The same advice you are giving us now just remember it whenever you guys feel down as well and know that you will make it out on the other side better for it, both as individuals and as a couple. Much love to you and yours from us both. 💜
Great Video guys. Your info will mos def be a help to many others. It was quite an adjustment for me moving to the Orlando area it's so different from where I'm from but with time things have worked out.
Thanks Donn! Glad that you see value in us sharing our experience. Aww well we hope you have become well adjusted now and good to hear from another Orlando resident!
Hi Bridget! Well we are happy that you did! Take this as your official welcome from us to our extended family. Much love to you too and look forward to getting to know you a little better in the future here through the comments! 💜🫶🏽
This was a very interesting video as always. U guys are so open n honest about everything and that's great Communication is the key n I think u are doing a great job at it.
Good luck with your upcoming midterms. The whole world is watching and crossing fingers, toes, everything flexible. This video is so interesting. Thank you for sharing. Your immigration is cheaper than the UK’s! It costs my son and daughter-in-law have to pay £3000 every two and a half years for her temporary residency visa. After two lots, there are two more to go before they could apply for permanent residence (after ten years) for an equally eye watering amount. They won’t do that. They’ll go back to the Pacific, I’m sure. Britain isn’t that great a place since Brexit and given the Republican-equivalent party who’s governed us, very badly, for 12 years. Ye gods. Absolutely agree about the split between old and new countries.
Thanks so much Dugald. Oh wow, that's interesting how different it is in different countries. That's a whole lot of money though! The permanent residence here is 5 years for less than half the cost really.
Oh yea so true Alec The new normal was hard for me I got homesick very hard ended up to hospital in was hard for me to adjust to the American life and dream I’m doing ok now
That really was a Big Boy vlog! Alec, you are SO articulate and Brian has such great empathy. Thank you, yet again, for sharing.
Thanks so much for the kind words Jean!
What a open and transparent conversation! Adulting at its finest. Praying for you both, keep communicating, it will work out. Alec, I understand, I’m having work withdrawal myself, being newly retired. Keep looking up guys.
Thanks for the support Ella. Oh yes, someone actually mentioned in the comments that persons who are newly retired normally face similar experiences. Thanks for sharing your experience too!
I love you guys honesty
You dont sugar coat anything, you tell it as it is.
Some people would act as if they dont argue and all is well and smooth.
We believe that it is through us sharing our experiences honestly that others might get value from it. Thanks so much Jacqueline 💜
What an amazing video. Your transparency, courage, grace, and vulnerability are admirable on so many levels. I cannot thank you enough.
Thank you for the kind words! It definitely helps us stay encouraged so we really appreciate you for that.
This was a great video guys! This is Andy, I'm the "ole" guy who had offered to perform your wedding. I'm in the Atlanta area. What you are doing in this video, is so very important to people who are having difficulties in finding answers to problems that you are so beautifully articulating in your descriptions. I have in my past work, encountered couples that needed just what you have included in this video. Alec, you would make a wonderful therapist, maybe working in the mental health field would be an ideal field for you when you're considering what you want to do. I've worked in the field for over 45 years, and see you having what it takes to be a great therapist.
Hey Andrew! Very happy to see you again. We are glad to hear that you see so much value in what it is that we have chosen to share. Thank you for that too Andrew. Who knows, it could be my calling in the future.
That self-sabotage is real. You guys really demonstrate what it means to build towards a greater future together and the sacrifices that are sometimes made to get there.
It most certainly is! And once we don't allow that saboteur to get the best of us it will only be something we grown and learn from. Thanks so much guys we really appreciate the encouraging and reassuring words! Love you both! 💜
Maze gang gang!!!! Adulting is work but I'm happy to see you rising up to each challenge & coming out better, together, on the other side. Keep pushing forward guys. You guys are teaching me even though I'm not in a relationship YET lol but you guys communication is key! Much love to you guys always 🤍✨🙏🏽
Thanks for that Jared. Well we hope when the day does come you can think back on these experiences we are having and that you know too that you have the fortitude to make it through too. And even then we will try and be there in the same way you have been there for us. Much love as always.
Honestly, I do understand how you feel Alec but trust the process continue to be patient write down your goals and jump right at them when the time comes🙏 I see you are a scaredy-cat as well it’s understandable 😊. Bryan big up!💙
Definitely doing that as best I can. Even in me baking so often it's all with a plan in mind and are just my first steps in executing. I am a very intentional person, both in words and action so I try to make sure I always keep that purpose at the center of anything I do. But you just never know what they are monitoring from what we share so we just take extra caution to ensure we can enjoy the life we envisioned in the future. Thanks for the encouragement KayCee! Brian sends his love!
So heartfelt, Alec and Brian. Be encouraged, better days are coming. I pray the the immigration situation works out really soon. Thanks for sharing. I love you both and all your videos.
We are happy that you appreciated it Susette! Thank you so much for the prayers and blessings. We hope so too. Much love to you.
Loved this open, honest, vulnerable conversation. Thank you for sharing. Sending all positive vibes your way 💚💜💛
Thanks for the love and support Dominique! You know we always appreciate it. 💜🫶🏽
All the best Brian and Alec!! Keep pushing and the end will be so worth it!!
Thanks so much!
I discovered your channel this past week, and throughly enjoy you guys. After being forced to join Instagram a couple of months ago, you're the first and only people I've followed. I think you guys are so necessary. I believe people have a hard time of seeing homosexual as anything more than the who they have sex with and for some reason, I'll never understand take it personally. You guys help to show that you are so much more than that. Who you love or are intimate with is not the sum total of who you are. Watching some of your videos gives me hope that Jamaica will get there eventually. Probably a long time from now, but the tides seem to be turning. I have to say those videos of you guys especially Alec in Jamaica made me nervous has hell, even though intellectually are know you're fine. I applaud your bravery, especially Alec, but only because I'm Jamaican and I know our history when it comes to gay people. Keep shining and being a light.
This is a great perspective.
Thank you so much for taking the time out to not only share your perspective with us, but to also leave us with such positive words. We share a lot of the same thoughts as you but realize not everyone has the same opinions, empathy or willingness to try and understand people who may live a bit differently than themselves.
When we have been in Jamaica we really have tried our best to avoid crowds, or public spaces we know that might potentially be unsafe for us, but we thought it very important to share that part of our lives too in the hope that it would touch people, like myself, who Identify anywhere on the LGBTQ+ spectrum and happen to be from the Caribbean as well. The response not only from the community but allies, and even some heterosexual people who admit that they weren't accepting before seeing our love really has been so inspiring for us. So know that your words keep us going and encouraged!
@@MeetTheMazelins Anytime there has been great change in society, it took some heroic brave souls to step out, even to the detriment of their lives. Now, I don't want you to go martyring yourselves, lol, but just remember that if ever negative comments or reaction to your love becomes overbearing, and keep being your brave, wonderful selves. 😊
Awesome conversation, you are helping so many people with what you are sharing. It won’t always be like this, better days are coming. I so love what you two are doing.
Thanks so much for that Keith. We know the better days are right around the corner so just trying to be patient. Much love!
Commutation is so important!
It definitely is. One of the most important things in any relationship.
This was some real grown people *ish. I think this has been one of the most open and honest (and sometimes difficult) conversations I listened to on RUclips. My take aways were to always communicate, openly, honestly, without fear of not being heard or understood. Then there was this. When Brian said that he (Alec) left everything and everyone he loved to be with him (Brian), I was like dam. That's why he gives Alec grace and Alec gives Brian grace. Whew, this was a lot gentlemen but thank you for being authentic, and butt ass naked honest and not a fake RUclips caricature. We felt EVERYTHING you're experiencing. Thank you for sharing that that is so very personal.
I guess as we grow so does the nature of our content too. We are letting you guys in real time to the problems and obstacles that we are faced with, and we know one day we will look back at these ourselves and realize just how far we have come. True love is something worth fighting for, and we appreciate you guys being right there behind us on the journey too.
Hi Brain and Alec.🤗 It's me Christian. Great to see you again. I'm still watching. I hear you. I'm listening and acknowledge your feelings. Identifying your emotions that you are experiencing is equal parts exhilarating and scary. General anxiety, loneliness, homesickness, relationship problems, isolation, loss of purpose, and feelings of not belonging can be overwhelming. Life is unpredictable. You never realize quite how strongly tied to the culture of your home country you are until you move abroad and are faced with a culture that is markedly different than your own. And the culprit can be in living situations. Immersing yourself in a new culture can make you feel isolated. Culture shock can be triggered by anything. This is perfectly normal. Because you are experiencing these emotions, I want you to know that you are not doing anything wrong. Marriage adjustments take time, so be patient with each other and trust the process. Go easy on yourselves, give yourselves permission to lean on each other, don't get caught up in routines. And remember the golden rule here and treat your spouse the way you want them to treat you.Keep trusting in the magic of new beginnings.☺Thanks for sharing.
Wow what an encouraging ,supportive and motivating statement I personally agree with all what you said that is just cultural shock just lean on each other you need each other more than before ❤️❤️❤️❤️guys🇿🇦🇿🇦
Hey Christian! Happy to see you here in the comments again too. You have so eloquently and effortlessly summed up everything in this video into words that are moving and thought provoking. Thanks for validating our feelings and at the same time being so encouraging. We truly appreciate your words. Thanks Christian!
We agree with her 100%. So much clarity in that one statement.
@@mapulamaunatlala Thank you Mapula. Very kind.
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Happy Sunday my brothers starting a new life in a new country can be challenging but with dedication, love patience and faith you both will get through it together, everything going to be fine. Blessed love ❤️ guys
Hope you had a great Sunday too Ava. Thank you so much for the encouragement too. We know later will be greater!
Hi Brian and Alec,Happy new week. Patience is virtue, Reset, Readjust, Restart, Refocus as many times you need too.things will work out for your family. Much love💜
Thank you so much for this. Simple but effective words. Much love to you too Sandy! 💜
Alec that's the reason some retirees go back to work because some of them say that's exactly how they feel, especially during their first year or two of retirement because they are no longer as independent as they were when they worked. God is good.
That makes a lot of Sense Jackie. Definitely a hard space to be in. But This will not be the end. Just a part of the journey.
Again Sunday is complete, I get to see my favorite guys. Bryan,you still look awesome!! But I understand, when we gain a little here and there. And Alec what a process it has truly been for you,and definitely it's all for love!! And I as a friend am glad you BOTH are here.. hope to see you soon,love you much Ricky
Hey Ricky! Thanks for that. Thanks for always supporting. We really to value it so much.
Hello guys! One can only imagine the painstaking process that it took for the two of you to finally join together and become a married couple. You two have courageously persevered against all odds: a true testament to your love and commitment to each other. Despite any of the ups and downs you might experience as newlyweds, always remember what it took to get you there. Love you guys......
Happy Sunday! This is a great video. I can’t imagine what you’re going thru, Alec. I’m all about family and don’t think I’d ever find a love that would cause me to move away from them! Prayers for you both that this process will get easier with time. Love y’all!!! ❤❤❤❤
We appreciate you and your words Sally! It is a huge risk but the payoff is a great one. I wouldn't change my decision if I could go back in time. We appreciate the prayers and love. Sending some your way too!
Guys all the best keep pushing through you got this !
Thanks for the encouragement Javine!
Great video, I'm older than both of you but I've benefited from it ,you guys were so amazing. Thanks for your transparency
We are so happy to hear that Regina. Thank you for sharing the positivity with us too!
Congratulations, gentlemen! You have officially entered the next phase of "Adulting And Maturing 202!" In the words of my late wise grandmother, "Marriage is not a two week vacation! It takes hard and consistent work to succeed." That hard work is in both same sex and heterosexual marriages. Continue to build and strengthen your bond. Your marriage is just between the two of you. No one else. Not your friends or family. Your growth is showing! Let it continue to flourish depending only on God and yourselves. Alec, Farmer Nappy, David Rudder and Partice Roberts are my "Go to cleaning music!" Can't go wrong! Blessings! Much love! ❤️
We definitely are learning that lesson too as we go along. Thank you for the encouragement though as always Nedra. Oh yes, those are all great soca names to groove to!
Hang in there guys...My husband and I are going through the same thing..The struggle is real but as long I have my husband by my side its going to work out..Just be strong for each other!!..🏳️🌈❤
Yes it definitely helps to know that no matter what you have that one person beside you to share the experience with Scott! We all are in this together!
That's very brilliant ideas and quite informative. Thank you Brian and Alec for sharing. I am impressed at the level of understanding you have between each other. Best wishes .
Thanks for that Maureen. Hope that this can help someone else in the future.
Great video. The honest and heartfelt conversations will see you guys through the rough patches,we’re all praying and rooting for you guys.
Thank you so much and know that we feel the support from you all too and it keeps us encouraged. Much love 💜
I love the fact that you kept it real and genuine.This is just so authentic. There's so much to learn from you two.
Thanks Faith! Happy to be able to share our journey with you guys!
My favorite RUclips couple
Happy November to you too, my birthday was November 1st
Every Sunday I’m so looking for your video.
Good information from you guys people need to know these helpful tips, mine process was a little different reasons my son filed for me it is easier for me because it’s son and mother
Love ❤️ you guys keep real as always and keep the love 🔥🔥🔥🔥
Thanks Rose. We are happy to know that your process was smoother than ours is going at the moment. We do hope that you can relate to some parts of this video though! Thanks for the love and sending love your way too!
An amazing vlog...Sharing your experiences in a great way is so lovely Alex's & Brain your love for each other is evident in your expressions..God bless you guys as you continue adjusting to fit into each other
Thank you so much. Sending love and blessings your way too!
You balance each other out ❤❤
Thanks Sophia! We appreciate hearing that!
Thank you for sharing this again the K-1 process! I'm glad that you both had the ability to stand the course and wait till everything works out! You are growing and make your mark in our commounity!
hey, warm greetings from the UK guys...:)) I must say you two are my most favorite youtube couples EVERRRRR... and you don't know how mucM i enjoy watching your vlogs, love you to the moon and back , literally :p I must say
the wisdom and good manners of Brian's and wholesomeness, intellectual and eloquent Alec, must say you two are truly much made in heaven strictly speaking . Keep up the good work and I wish you two all the happiness in the world,
Hi JJ! Thanks for the warm greetings even though we know it's colder there than it is here right now 😆. We really do appreciate these words so much! You have us feeling encouraged and warm in our hearts from the love you are showering us with. Sending much love to you too all the way in the UK!
@@MeetTheMazelinsHI guys, ofcourse you're much appricated taking a time out to reply back.
yes the weathere here is gettingcloder but watching your vlog makes it a hell lot more better ;P
Keep up with the good work. UK loves you.
Hi, Mazelins. I really admire what you both are doing. The education that you are imparting about this whole process is going to help so many people. Thank you for being real and sharing with us what you're actually going through and the challenges you're experiencing. You two are very special and I, for one, am praying for both of you. I wish I was in a relationship, but you're showing me how I can be a better partner one day. Thank you so much and may God bless you and your family, abundantly.
Hey Michael! Thanks for that reassurance we really appreciate it. It’s good to know that people see where us sharing could possibly help someone else. We too hope that you one day find exactly what you are looking for and that when you do you hold on to it tightly. Much love until next time! 💜
Thank you for sharing, the immigration process simplified. Be safe.
We happy you felt that Anthony!
Brian you love your husband and your son so by the help of God you will get through this phase
Thanks for that Joan
I am so happy for the three of you. The both of you as husband & husband will have encounter in life,communication is the key. You have a beautiful family. You complement each other extremely well. My favorite couple.
Thank you so much for the love Samuel! We appreciate it 💜
Brian and Alec this is very informative. I'm sure this will help many people. Each time I watch anything you all do is well worth the watch. Alec hang in there everything will work out. Brian thank you for showing your support toward your husband. That's why you guys are my favorite RUclips couple because the love is genuine ❤️. I glad both of you acknowledge whatever the disagreement is and work it out before the night is over. Stay connected to one another this matter is just temporary. Keep your heads up praying this will be complete soon.
Well that is always the hope Ervia! Thanks for your constant encouragement, as we value you it so much with the journey we are on. We will certainly remember this advice. Much love to you as always!
The advice you’re giving is great and I hope will be beneficial to a lot of people/couples.
We hope so too Sally!
I love you both!!! Definitely subscribing
We appreciate the love Marvell! Also welcome to the family. Happy to have you with us and hope that you enjoy getting to know us along the way. We look forward to interacting with you more here in the comments in the future!
I really enjoyed this video and your transparency, thanks for sharing.
We are so happy you enjoyed it! Thanks for watching 💜
Thank you guys for being so transparent and open. Alec I feel your pain when you say you question your worth. I had the same issue, being disabled and my partner is the main bread winner in our relationship, I too question myself like do I deserve to be in a relationship with someone at this time. He gets up and goes to work everyday, and I am just home tending to the needs of the house the best that I can. He told me that I should never question my worth because tending to the house is a bigger, and harder job then him going to work everyday. Making sure there is a meal prepared (even if it Leftovers) He doesn't have to come home and do the stuff of the house. So no you may not be contributing financially but those little things that you do to make Brian's home life easier is sometimes even better. Brian is going to live you regardless of the finances. I can tell how much you love him, every single time you say his name you light up like a 175 watt light bulb. And I live the both of you for it. Continue to live on each other and keep those lines of communication open ❤️🧡💛💚💜💙
Oh wow thank you so much for sharing that extremely personal story Marquis! The important part though, is regardless or our struggle or circumstance that we get up and try and support in other ways within our capability. And that I have learnt is something that is still to be valued. Thanks so much for that. Much love to you Marquis 💜
Alec i am happy you are owning your feelings. Communicating your vulnerability is freeing
It definitely is great not only to say it out aloud for yourself but to also let people in around you too.
My most favourable You-Tube couples please hang in there all shall be well we are with you all the way. Perseverance is the mother of success ❤️❤️🇿🇦❤️❤️🇿🇦
We appreciate the encouraging and kind words Mapula!
Wow! You gentlemen shared alot. I'm glad you're communicating. Realize that these issues will change. Brian, your compassion and understanding are admirable. Alec, you'll eventually be able to work and medical insurance will be available. Financial pressures will ease as you both have goals and ambition for future endeavors. Nothing worthwhile comes easily. Hold on! I have faith that better times will come, and these problem times are helping to make you both stronger individually, and also stronger as a couple and as a family. Love, patience, and communication are key. The MazGang and your friends and family are all encouraging a bright future for you guys! Peace to you, Frank in NY 👍💖💐🌈🌞
Hey Frank! Yes, so things have been harder for us of late with all these things battling as well. Again though, we share in the hope that it helps others out there who may be going through the same thing, just to remind them they aren't alone in those feelings and that they are very much valid. As you said though, what doesn't kill you only makes you stronger, and we believe we will come out on the other side of this experience much stronger for it. Thanks as always Frank!
Mazelin Therapy session. Wow. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. You guys are amazing. Your videos really make my Monday evenings so much more lighter. Blessings boys 💖
We are so happy to hear that! Thanks for the positivity. It really is encouraging 💜
This is so enlightening and encouraging. I spent a week in Ocho Rio and met someone special. Unfortunately, the circumstances immigration wouldn’t grant the approval. I’ve been single for a few years and I’m optimistic I will find love. Hope to meet you guys someday. Congratulations again🎉
Thank you Lorenzo. We are so sorry to hear that it didn't work out but we know that all hope is not lost. Remain optimistic and encouraged! Much love to you 💜
@@MeetTheMazelins wow thanks guys. All is not lost and I will be ready when it comes. Hopefully soon 😊
Happy Sunday to you guys. Oh how I do agree with everything you both said 150% you both are correct fully. But it's too late for me now it's all over. I left everything behind and come to live with my half and everything you said I was given to opposite and so everthing failed. I lay here in my bed watching and listening to you and just crying for all the pain I felt from this marriage I left it 10 years ago.
Oh wow we really were touched by this. We are so sorry that things didn't work out how you would have hoped Miguel. But stay encouraged, as though we have one life, we get several do overs and our future is not set in stone. We really do hope that you find the happiness that you so deserve!
@@MeetTheMazelins am sorry too that it didn't work out, I had to leave the marriage because I was getting mentally ill with no one to talk to. I stayed with a co-worker and there I was able to say what was happening to me and I was able to cry out all of the pain I was feeling. But am much better now that I have left.
So far so good you guys are doing great. Continue supporting each other and loving each other, and true communication is the key❤️ Still in a honeymoon phase❤️Mine is 20 years anniversary this Dec, hence I said you are my son's ❤️It shall be well with you, the process will be done soon. Really thank you so much for sharing.All the best❤️❤️🇿🇦🇿🇦
Thanks so much Anastacia. Congrats on the almost 20 years! We hope to be there one day. Keeping our fingers crossed though. Much love!
Oh my gosh this is so Good information
Thanks Marva! Hope others see value in it too!
Hey Guys, had to comment & let U know that this vlog was so good & so honest. This conversation not only shared what you're going thru tryn to become a citizen but it showed our community what it is to be in a good, solid relationship and how important communication is regardless of the circumstance. Great job..
Thank you so much for that Kristophe! So happy that you saw so much value in what we shared and that our experience can be used as a tool for even greater good. Your positive words really are reassuring and we appreciate it! Much love 🙏🏽
The full truth and nothing but the truth came about and was truly displayed with the compromise and the understanding and loving support given of each other with each other. The inclusivity of "BJ" has made alot of sense where your family is blessed and has the room to grow better as you all share and communicate with each other on everything and anything that is troubling or cause of concern to discuss and keep on loving the joy you all create. Remember that we are all here for you and "we deh yah an wish de best fi uno".......@Meet The Mazelins 🤗🤗🤗🤗
We definitely dished it all out for you guys lol. Thank you so much for the well wishes Copes 💜
The process of becoming a legal citizen here and married, seems like the government had you two go through hoops loops, chutes and ladders.
From what I see, both Brian and Alec are very genuine and very down to earth about how this journey has been for both perspectives. Great video and happy four month anniversary to you both! (Technically, tomorrow 11/8). Love you guys! 🫶🏾🏳️🌈
Well still have us going through them. But this is not specific to us at all. This really is just the journey of an immigrant for most. Different circumstances in many cases but there are many commonalities that bind out experiences together.
We really hope in sharing that it helps someone else to know that they aren't alone in their experience too. Thanks for the wishes! We didn't even realize ourselves haha. Much love to you too Derrick! 💜
Blessed Sunday Brian and Alec nice seeing you'll again. Hope things work out soon for Alec. Stay blessed
Thanks so much Rhonda!
I’m having such good feelings about you both. I enjoy the next video and the one after that and the one after that. It’s a feeling of familiarity of your personalities ❤❤
Guys both of you have made a lot of adjustments keep going communicate with each other and I know very soon every thing will sort it'self out blessings 🙏🙏
Thanks for that Andrea!
The honey Moon is starting to fade and reality/ real life is settling in. Completely normal. Alec it's time to get your Hussle on. I know several undocumented people. And they take their lemons and make lemonade all the time. This time you have ,is a blessing. This time is for you to start designing
I was thinking this too. Alec is scared. 😔
I know that my situation isn't an anomaly in any way. And with that time I believe I have used it to set rungs in place for the ladder I intend to climb. Working on my craft with baking isn't just for fun, and there have been other areas of learning that I have developed in the meantime with the downtime as well which we haven't showcased which will definitely help me when the time comes to hit the ground running and use my professional experience to my advantage. I count myself as lucky though to have someone like Brian who is understanding, patient, and encouraging and also sees value in me doing other things to make his and our family life a more enriched one.
I think scared is a strong word. Overly cautious perhaps. All our socials are monitored with the information we submit and to be honest I have quite a lot at stake knowing that me being so openly public about my sexuality is openly bashed in my home country. I'm just doing what I think is best to ensure me a future that I can live to enjoy with Brian and my family here.
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I wish you both in all of your endeavors, you will miss home Alec I did but I have gotten a custom now, mother and sister passed away while am here and it's was so hard to deal with it. Just love each other and remember Brian it's just you that he got up there so be there for him always when ever he is down. Love you guys as always 👍👍🎊🎉
Thanks so much for the well wishes Miguel! Wow, wow, wow, that has us speechless. I could never imagine that happening to me and being able to move on. So know that our prayers are with you for your peace. Much love to you as always Miguel 💜
@@MeetTheMazelins yep it is very difficult but am trying to let it go because it's making me sick. Thanks for the love.
Powerful video ❤❤❤
Praying for you guys and your success. Just know everything will be alright.
We welcome and appreciate the prayers and kind words. We trust that we will come out the other side in good hands too.
I love the realness of this video.
Thanks Deigo. You know we always try our best to give our real unfiltered feelings.
Hello! Hello! Glad to see you boys on the couch once again. Love you guys and the knowledge you provide.
Bredda Dom! Good to see you back in the comments too. We appreciate it brother.
@@MeetTheMazelins Aww yu a mek mi a grin up inna di car. Glad to be missed. Just been working practically 7 days a week and not much time for myself but mi can miss unnu vlogs. Marriage looks good on you both though. 👏 🥰🥰
Love the video friends!! Your transparency will help so many people.
Thanks so much Brandon. That is the hope!
Thank you both for taking the time to share your experience with us, I understand your feelings of loneliness being in the US, I left Ireland in 1979 to live in London UK, mainly because of the level of homophobia, but because I'd left a fairly large family 9 of us to live on my own was extremely difficult emotionally, thankfully I'm a fairly sociable person and made friends pretty quickly, I coped reasonably well and stayed in London for 30 years only returning in 2009 and now I'm having a pretty good time that I've retired
I totally agree with Mr Brian just be patient , like I said earlier all shall be well , in due course it will definitely happen . when you least expect it
Yes we are just looking forward to that time!
Firstly, I want to express my appreciation for y'all's transparency. While this isn't the first time y'all have been vulnerable with us, I'm always happy that you trust us enough to do so. I understand how difficult it can be, especially when the topic is more serious in nature.
Second, I really dislike how capitalism has folks tie their self-worth to their ability to work. People are so much more than vessles that exist to work and while that's something we can understand intrinsically, it can be incredibly challenging to fully comprehend, particularly during rough patches. Alec, no matter what, you are worthy of everything you desire and more. ❤❤
Thanks for that DJ. It's always so reassuring to hear how much you guys really do appreciate the topics we choose to discuss and support us through all the challenges. Oh yes, but I guess thats just a major part of how the world works and it is hard to unlearn certain things we grow up seeing. Thanks so much for the positive words DJ! 💜
I married a Jamaican man. So I know the process oh so well.
We found it was easier to get a lawyer and he walked us through the in's & out's of everything. However, everything has changed since then. Brian and Alec,
May the Almighty continue to Bless your Union. Stay Encouraged.
Glad to know that you could relate Belinda! Yes, we are patiently waiting but looking forward to the end as well. Your words definitely help!
Hey Fellas, it’s called “GoFundMe”Let’s see if all your supporters with the flowery comments will donate financially to your important and worthy endeavors. Old folks referred to it as “Put your money where your mouth is” ( just a suggestion)
Thanks for the suggestion Doc! I guess we will see.
Hey guys glad your back I hope and pray everything is still working out for you. Love you guys. 🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿❤❤❤
Yes, it still is working out for us at the moment Anthony. Thanks for checking in. Much love to you too.
Happy Sunday thanks for sharing your experiences.
Thanks for tuning in as always Sophia! Hope you have a great day too!
Appreciate the transparency, guys. Genuinely Relatable. Ditto to “Alec’s Articulation” The accent kicks it up several notches. Brian is articulate as well. Ps. Feel better Brian. (Allergy Season)
Thanks Rodney! The encouragement is really reassuring and motivates us to keep coming back with more thought provoking videos for sure! Brian says thanks too!
❤️ ❤️ Am new here but am excited about the ❤❤of uall
Thank you Charity! We hope you enjoy watching the journey. Welcome to our family here on RUclips 💜
I love your videos and glad that you share so openly for others to learn from. Good for Alec for the way that he sees the world because if you don’t place yourself in a precarious position (undocumented driving) then you severely mitigate any risk which can jeopardize your permanence in the US. And for Brian - I’m not sure why you believe that unpaid medical bills in this country doesn’t hit your credit because it absolutely does. Any debt that can be sent for collections can ruin your financial future. Keep making great videos and all the best for resolution soon with immigration.
Thanks so much Derrick. I'm glad that you can respect my point of view as well. Well thats good to know! Thanks for that information. We appreciate you support as always Derrick!
Excellent Share! Thanks. I can tell you two will proceed with care and continued love ❤. 6 years in and 4 of those years married now and filling out his N-400 Citenzinship forms it's been a long ride for us. We still pulling in the same direction ❤. It helped once after two years in, we got all his stuff approved and he could travel home and spend the winter at his house in DR. He will be leaving after Thanksgiving and I'll join him in Feb and stay the rest of winter there with him and we'll return to the states in spring. It's been cool to have houses in both countries and I get to see him and live in his environment 👏🏽. It's all been worth the work and wait. Hang in there👍🏾.
Nice! That's wonderful to hear that it is finally coming to an end for you both! Ahh yes, that is the time we are waiting on when I can travel again and get my 'fix' whenever that feeling of missing Jamaica sets in. Well I hope you both enjoy your trips and have a safe holiday season coming up. Thanks for the encouragement! Much love guys 💜
Thanks so much for this video guys! I have enjoyed watching your journey and you guys give me insight into what to expect with the K1 process. How long did it take for your K1 visa to get approved? It’s been about a month since we filed so I know we have a long ways to go 😅
Hey Elio! It’s our pleasure. We’re just really happy that you see value in what we have decided to share. Well just to give a little insight we applied in January of 2021. We didn’t receive our Letter approving the documents until September of that year. And I didn’t do my interview until the following year May of 2022. So 17 months total. But those timelines may be different depending on which country your fiancé is coming from and also because covid is no longer a determining factor. So hopefully you get through much sooner than we did! Just keep those fingers Crossed!
Brian your honesty is beautiful
Thank you Sophia
Hey my Guys I enjoyed y’all as always. I want to say to Alec when you feel down just remember you took a leap of faith that most people, myself included probably won’t ever have the courage to do. You & Brian have both took a chance on Love and sometimes in our community it’s a hard thing to find even when you local. You both had faith which was all you need to just believe it could work. No nothing perfect but Love. So Alec use that say faith that brought you here to get out and drive to see your friends when there here😁 and lastly remember the best is yet to come. Have a Blessed week & Be encouraged. Looking forward to great things for you guys. ❤❤💙
I always use try to remind myself of the good whenever I am in that funk and when I do have the debate in my head the answer that rises to the top is that I would do it all over again if I was ever given the chance. Even though it is sometimes difficult I definitely always remain grateful for my journey and for the support I get from all of you who are right there behind us. Thanks for the kind words Gregory! 💜
Protect your mental health....That's one thing many of us didn't prepare for when we moved to the US......
The adjustment period is quite difficult even for those who have access to money and resources...there's always something that will make you question your self worth.
Yes for sure! And I think when they are preparing you for these interviews this should also be a component of focus too. Thanks for the reassurance though Wade!
@@MeetTheMazelins you're welcome
Such a wonderful couple. You guys make me so happy...!!! 👍 ♥️
Thank you! And you constant support that you shower us with in the comments makes us happy too!
Happy Sunday guys and thank you so much for sharing. Continued Blessings n Prosperity abundantly
Thanks so much for the love and blessings Jackie. We appreciate you. 💜
Hi guys trying to keep up with all your chats because I’m new and I love you guys I’m hooked
OMG! You know I have been following your beautiful and heartfelt journey for a while now. As a flight attendant who also has a 2nd job on some weekends and who is back and forth to the Dominican Republic (where my sweetheart lives) I've been playing "catch-up" to keep up with you two...but when I do, you never cease to make my heart smile!!! As I am currently sending this message from Santo Domingo, I am happy to report that my daughter came here to meet my guy two weeks ago and it all went extremely well! My 2nd son (yes, I have three children) is coming this weekend! Even though my children are young adults, I wanted to get them here to meet him because when he does come to the states, I didn’t want him to be a stranger to them. (Drumroll….)I plan to surprise my guy (if I can successfully get the days I need off) and propose on Christmas Day! I plan on getting the K-1 paperwork started as soon as the ring (yeah, it's a nice one too LOLOL) is on his finger!!! Thank you for giving me (and us) a real heads-up about some of the challenges we may face, and what can be expected as we fill out forms and wait for the evolution of our new commitment and goals to come to fruition. (I want you to know that I literally took notes as I listened carefully and even wrote down ALL those “I” numbers, LOL). Like you Alec, my man is very proud of what he has achieved and is used to being a self-sufficient person. He immigrated to the Dominican Republic from Haiti (19 years ago) and has been successful at carving out a better life for himself and also has been able to help his family. What the two of you have shared gives me a glimpse of what he and I need to talk about, work on, and prepare for “emotionally” as we head toward building a life together in the United States. There is one thing that I want to say to hopefully continue to encourage you as your lives as a married couple continues to progress. EVERYTHING you’re going through now is only for a season…although admittedly a different, sometimes difficult, and challenging one! NO DOUBT, the paperwork WILL eventually be finalized, and you will be able to work, drive, and build yourself in a new way that will continue to bless you and your relationship! In the meantime, the love you both have will certainly continue to sustain you! That’s what love is for…in those times that are the most challenging, is when love shines the brightest! Brian and Alec...your love shines bright! I can only pray for patience that is kindred to yours, as my man and I embark on a very similar journey in the year ahead! THANK YOU SO MUCH for sharing so openly and honestly! You both continue to inspire and bless as you allow us these glimpses into your world! Sending ♥to you both!
Zahmu!!! That is a amazing! Congrats on the upcoming engagement and thank you for sharing your story with us too. The timing and whole event sounds so familiar too haha. Brings back good memories. Well we are honored to have shared our story with you and give you a little insight as to how certain parts of your journey may play out, from the good, to the bad, but mostly the good 😊. The same advice you are giving us now just remember it whenever you guys feel down as well and know that you will make it out on the other side better for it, both as individuals and as a couple. Much love to you and yours from us both. 💜
Great Video guys. Your info will mos def be a help to many others. It was quite an adjustment for me moving to the Orlando area it's so different from where I'm from but with time things have worked out.
Thanks Donn! Glad that you see value in us sharing our experience. Aww well we hope you have become well adjusted now and good to hear from another Orlando resident!
This was very informative. Thank you guys 🥰
Glad you saw value in us sharing Coco!
Recently found you guys and I’m definitely joining the Maz✨gang❤
We appreciate it Shemar! Certainly happy to have you join our family. Much love 💜
I Love both of you , you are mint for each other . Keep your marriage only to each of you. Be Blessed !!!
Thanks for these full of love Samuel! 💜
Virtual hug too you both , every thing will work out immigration wise you both continue loving each other stay bless and happy Tuesday
Thanks so much Ann! 🙏🏽🫶🏽
@@MeetTheMazelins you are welcome
Hi guys I just discovered your channel and I love you guys. I am wishing you love and light my people ❤️❤️🙏🏽
Hi Bridget! Well we are happy that you did! Take this as your official welcome from us to our extended family. Much love to you too and look forward to getting to know you a little better in the future here through the comments! 💜🫶🏽
This was an extremely great video 💜💜💜💜… i know you guys love each other and i think that’s amazing 💜
Thanks for the love as always Chadaus! 🫶🏽
Blessings Sunday to you and your family ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Thanks Nicola! Sending Blessings your way for the week as well!
I love your content ❤ These tips can be used in any form of relationship for any type of challenge(s)! ❤❤❤❤❤
Thank you for sharing your journey so far
Thank for you encouraging us along the way Gail!
This was a very interesting video as always. U guys are so open n honest about everything and that's great
Communication is the key n I think u are doing a great job at it.
Thanks so much Danielle. We try our best to be as honest as we can, especially on this platform, as we believe it will help someone else out there.
Good luck with your upcoming midterms. The whole world is watching and crossing fingers, toes, everything flexible. This video is so interesting. Thank you for sharing. Your immigration is cheaper than the UK’s! It costs my son and daughter-in-law have to pay £3000 every two and a half years for her temporary residency visa. After two lots, there are two more to go before they could apply for permanent residence (after ten years) for an equally eye watering amount. They won’t do that. They’ll go back to the Pacific, I’m sure. Britain isn’t that great a place since Brexit and given the Republican-equivalent party who’s governed us, very badly, for 12 years. Ye gods. Absolutely agree about the split between old and new countries.
Thanks so much Dugald. Oh wow, that's interesting how different it is in different countries. That's a whole lot of money though! The permanent residence here is 5 years for less than half the cost really.
Nice information wow may God bless you , it so a blessing to others .
Thanks so much Samuel!
Love u guys sooooo much peace an love 😍
Sending love to you too Marcia! 💜
Alec great, you are growing
Thanks!
Oh yea so true Alec
The new normal was hard for me I got homesick very hard ended up to hospital in was hard for me to adjust to the American life and dream I’m doing ok now
Oh wow! Im so happy that everything turned around though and that now you are feeling comfortable and right at home where you are. Much love Rose 💜
You guy’s are amazing!
Awww thank you Tanarvis!