And it really is the bottom line, as far as self-harm, eating disorders, substance abuse, etc. Really, judgment is unproductive. Intervention, support, and love are the foundation for recovery. I found that once a person gets the courage to ask for help and support in recovery, others are more than happy to give it to them.
Oh yes, absolutely, I've been living with a person that is severely depressed and it really is a tough journey, but though slow, she is on the road to recovery, even if she bounces back a lot of times. And yeah, she does self-harm from time to time without even noticing that she does it, or even feeling that she does it, automutilation, I think it's called. It's hard to see, but I still refuse to give up on her, I just can't afford to.
Guys please ignore the trolls. These two seem like such beautiful souls. The tattoo is just the start. It's not about how cool or original the design is, it's about placing something beautiful on top of a memory of something dark. To now associate the sight of her arm with recovery, strength, hope. And that is an infinitely positive message for those that have overcome what people that struggled with depression have. ♥♥♥
rj xo omg is this you in your video? Well I wish you all the best darling. Your strength is inspiring. Hope your wedding is as wonderful as you seem to us all. Take care x
this is amazing. some people, though, don't want to cover their self harm scars with a tattoo, because they feel like it's been a part of their lives but there's nothing to be ashamed of - my sister was going through self harm 10 years ago. but if anyone feels like they need to finally finish this part of their life and leave it all behind, it's absolutely inspiring and incredible. i'm really happy for her. i cried a little bit.
I was just thinkin this. I have scars on my forearm and my thigh from self-harming and I wanted them covered for a long time, but they show what I've lived through. They show a battle I won. I still get self-conscious when I catch people staring or the way the nurses look at me when they take blood, but I don't hate them anymore. My body is the proof that I have lived and survived and that I'm still alive today.
i feel the same way too. but it works weirdly for me, because i hate all the scars on my legs (which are majotiry of all the scars i have) but i'm okay with scars on my arms. but those are battle scars, someday i'll learn to accept them just like my sister does. i'm really glad that you're alive now and you've fought through this, you're so strong and i wish you the best xx
exactly my thoughts. i have scars in my forearm but i dont want to cover them up. they're part of me and who i am today. i always catch nurses staring when taking blood..
I have scars covering both my forearms, one of my upper arms, and both of my thighs, and I don't think I want them tattooed over. I haven't cut myself in about 4 years now, but I still think my scars are kinda pretty. They are all faded to white, so anyone who sees them knows that I bet it. People don't seem to bother with looking at me funny, or maybe that's just because I don't pay attention to what other people are doing/looking at lol
i've just gotten my first tattoo over my self harm scars and it's like a breath of fresh air that i can stare at something beautiful and see art. i feel like a new person.
crying my eyes out watching this. I just came across it. my scars are from the 3 different cancers I've had. and 72 surgeries. I'm sending so much love. I completely understand.
Skye-Ann Wilson, you overcame self-harm. You won a battle that isn't easy to win. My husband was an intravenous user for years, and has so many scars (which he is in the process of covering with tattoos.) He never hid them from me, he won his own battle, and I love him, scars and all. You may choose to cover yours, but please don't feel ashamed. The important thing is that you're healing from self-harm.
Random Guy, what won me over about my husband is that he was honest about his past drug dependency before we ever met in person (a mutual friend wanted us to meet). He had five years clean by that point, and now it's almost 14 years, but he has to live with the abscess scars forever, and he has come to terms with that and doesn't usually cover them up. When I told him I had self-harmed, he accepted that because I reassured him I hadn't done it in a long time. I have my lapses now and then, but it's been months now, and my main method was bruising. If I did cut, it was with safety pins and all of the scars have faded. What frustrates me is that a lot of people are still under the impression that it's mostly teenage and young women who self-harm. Guys do it, too, and it seems to carry an even larger stigma than drug addiction. I hate it that we're perceived as broken, or damaged. I don't know how strong of a hold the self-harm had on you, or how evident it is on your skin, but we're not broken. Recovery is a testament to that. I hope you have family or friends to confide in. My husband and I were older when we met, and neither of us had expected to find someone, either.
Smoke Weed you CAN find someone, a lot of great people understand that people have had lives and struggles before them. I so recommend a bit more self healing before you go looking though. A word of caution to the wise. Everyone needs to be cautious about who they place their trust in and who they choose to romantically intertwine their lives with, as there will always be a segment of the population who tries to use, abuse, and manipulate the people they are with. But "broken" people, as you put it, need to be extra careful to keep their eyes open when falling for someone new, because predators know how to spot easy targets.
+Donate BTC: 15ZMXKWFdPuau3weM5iHR1aM2C1kYm6mvR It's a blessing in disguise and I know this sounds so wrong but if you think about it the fact that she's experienced such pain and managed to overcome it makes her value her happiness and where she is at in life now so much more than the average person.
Can I just point that having scars is NOTHING to be ashamed of. If people who have scars want them tattooed then that's great, but it doesn't mean that you should. My scars remind me what I have been through and how despite everything I'm still alive, and I'm not ashamed of them. Your body is beautiful no matter what
actually if you bothered to read my comment i never said anything about being proud. I'm not ashamed, there's a difference. And my body isn't ruined it works fine thanks.
I have a huge scar from a suicide attempt and scars on my thigh that are hard to see, but if you look close enough, it says "FAT" I want to get it covered so badly.
Simply_Tristan Not in a horrible way but what did u want from cutting ur thighs ? I don't understand self harm at all, I understand depression and suicide but not self harm it doesn't get u anywhere
Awww that is so amazing. I so wish I could get mine covered. Mine aren't as bad but I have big burn spots on the tops of both my hands. It would so nice to replace those with something beautiful. I'm so glad all those people were able to make their past part of them in a beautiful way and move on. :)
Defeated Program you could get a moon and some stars on your hands, just an idea if you really are thinking of getting a tattoo to cover your scars ❤❤❤
It is a beautiful, meaningful gesture that will last a lifetime. I used to struggle with self-harm. Fortunately there's barely any evidence, and only in areas that are always covered by clothes. But if I had that quantity of raised scars I would get tattooed over them. I have always loved tattoos.
*add : I think I would opt to cover mine, but that's just me. A lot of people opt not to, because healed scars reveal a battle we fought and won. It is a very personal, individual decision.
Tattoos are awesome as is, but what Poppy does goes way beyond. Thank you for helping people feel better about themselves. You deserve good things in life.
AK H have you heard of dotwork? You could get some really great geometric dotwork all over in different spots. Just an idea if you were thinking about it :)
It's nice to see people recover from self harm. my arms and legs are just carnage but the fact she said at the time she didn't think she would be alive to care really made me think for a second I might make it through this
I'm getting tattooed to cover my scars within the next few weeks and I'm so excited (not by her, I'm paying for it) but I will probably cry like this girl did. Don't cut yourself guys... things get better and it isn't worth it
Rachel And Baby T just a heads up if you do want a cover up, scare tissue is different from normal skin and it can be more painful then a normal tattoo also the color might fade or not even hold the color on the scar it self.
lm ao That is terrible. How soulless can some people be? I try to be as nice as I can to people, but that is really mean. Seriously, what is wrong with you? If you don't have anything nice to say, shut up and don't say anything.
I have a brain. I cut. I cut/don't let cuts heal because its a distraction. I don't feel as much pain as I would another injury. My therapist says that its mostly fascination and that I would probably have ended up doing it even without the major anxiety. I NEVER HAD A CHOICE!
Rachel And Baby T and how is your tattoo? if only i knew how stupid it was before i started doing it, but oh well. i hope other people that want to see how stupid it is.
Now..... that is AMAZING! Let's just hope people don't start self-harming on purpose in order to get this treatment done. You can still get a normal tattoo. These scars might just turn from negative into a positive. You are all brave! Mental scars might linger but atleast you can walk the streets with some self confidence and self esteem
Senap no nope nope. Would you cut yourself out of nowhere for no reason? No. You'd probably stop before you could do any damage that would scar. I used to self harm, for years, and now I have ugly scars that will stay on my body for life. I'd rather pay 1000$ to get a tattoo than have these scars. Ohh and YOU have to wait 1 or two years for the scars to heal before you can get tattooed over them. Trust me, people who stare at your scars, having to wear long sleeves when it's incredibly hot outside is not worth getting a free tattoo. So no.
People can walk the streets with confidence & their head held high *with* scars too. Not everyone feels it necessary to cover them up & nor should they feel judged for not doing so 'because it might make people uncomfortable'. It's a personal journey for every single person. Some feel it's like closing a chapter of their life when they get a tattoo cover up, & from a personal stand point I think that's great. Equally I think those who wish not to get them covered (or don't wish to constantly wear long sleeves) are just as wonderful. There is no right or wrong. As the saying goes, you do you.
DonReality ok listen. I like this post but I don't think the majority of people would self harm for a tattoo. Mental Illness is something you can't just make up on the spot. Also there are people that have self confidence with their scars. Some people say their scars make them more confident cause they have a story to tell.
As someone with scars on both arms from wrist to shoulder, and on one of my thighs, this is incredible. I'm booked in to get a half sleeve in a similar floral design soon, and it's only this month that I've felt comfortable enough to wear t shirts in my own house. It's been 8 years since I started self-harming. I'm 3 months clean at the moment. I'll forever be a work in progress, but that's okay.
*absolutely heart wrenching but such a majestic (short) story. as somebody who used to 'self-harm' by using drugs, it is SO SO wonderful to see others who have overcome their obstacles, and usually the hurt that goes hand in hand with being self destructive in the first place. this really warmed my soul. lovely couple, great tattoo, and SOOOOOOO good to see somebody grow from their pain. LOVE this.*
me for the first two minutes:what a nice girl this is so nice me when i realise she's a wlw: AMAZING!!!! FANTASTIC!!!!! SHE DESERVES ALL OF THE HAPPINESS!!!!!!
lm ao Wow, here we are again, another one of your little comments, huh? What a surprise. I've had to deal with a lot of terrible people, yet every time someone is truly horrible, it surprises and confuses me. Why does bringing people down give you pleasure? I'm truly curious.
I really want to get this done but I have scars on both of my wrists, the top of my arm, my calf and my thigh. She probably only allows one free tattoo... 😪😪
Whiting1289 mental illness is a thing y'know. It's chemical. And calling people morons for doing something that some people think are helping them at the time isn't the best choice, hun.
Whiting1289 I can't comprehend how someone can comment something specifically to hurt someone who has overcome so much to be alive. Be respectful, just because your tiny mind can make you understand why someone would self harm doesn't mean you have the right to shame them for it. And Maddy you're beautiful and strong. Much love.
Donate BTC: ... Stop hating on people! They're trying to improve their lives, and you are just commenting rude things that could be triggering or provoke a relapse. Stop it. It's immature, rude, and doesn't accomplish anything positive.
I have a small tattoo on my inner wrist. While it doesn't cover up my scars very much because it's small, it's motivated me not to hurt myself anymore. I haven't harmed myself in over a year and I plan to stay clean from it - and hopefully get more tattoos! I only have two so far but I'm looking forward to more.
This woman (poppy) is absolutely incredible. Such a kind hearted person to be helping those who have struggled in the past overcome that.. so much love for her
Poppy is an amazing tattoo artist, her contribution to the tattoo world and to help those who have grown stronger from their past, she's amazing! I've been tattooed by her and you can really tell how passionate she is for her art and to make her clients happy when they leave the shop! What she does is incredible!
i studied psychology, and i was standing behind this girl who was clearly self harming, i could se it clearly (she had clear signs of depression, and you could se it in her eyes, so i did a good deed, i payed for her drink, becuse for people like that even tho she might not have selfharmed in a wile is that smal stuff make huge impact, and somone being friendly or smile towards you might make there day, when she asked way, i pulled up my sleve and showed her my old scars, and i said, sometimes we all struggle, but the small stuff make huge inpact.
People don't realize the reason for mine. I have never has someone successfully guess why I have so many self harm Scars. They all think depression/ stress. I do it out of fascination. At least. the initial cut is. The scars are worse because of a nervous/subconscious habit of picking at the wounds to make them bleed.
Smoke Weed So sorry. If you're not comfy around people, can you get a warm, loving, always accepting little dog? Pets are beautiful healers, listeners, and the most loyal friends ever. With a dog, you have to care for them and when walking sometimes you meet other person lovers. Poodle mixes are amazing. If you can't have a dog, some kitties are very cuddly. There's an article on the web about the 8 cuddliest cat breeds. No cat or dog? Guinea pigs are cute, hedgehogs, bunnies, a bird can be excellent company. And with all of these the are in person and online groups of other adorers. Please take care.
if i have to cover up ever scar i have from selfharm, burning wounds, and accidents i would be in a tattoo shop for the rest of my life... ps dont be worried the selfharm scars are 2years old and i am stronger now :) but tattoos are expensive and most parts cant be covers up bc of future jobs or the pain it will take to cover up or bc its on a ugly place haha so yeah, maybe some i will cover up later on
Poppy, you do such lovely work, and with such a kind and understanding heart! And to Ria ~ congratulations on your recovery, and your upcoming wedding! Frankie is clearly so supportive, and loves you very much. Best wishes for a bright, joyful future for the two of you!
This is just so touching and magnificent. As someone who has had some self harm scars covered by a tattoo, I find such beauty in the message. Stay lovely.
I've selfharmed and I'm pan/gay. This really touched my heart because i want to get my scars covered up when im older. If i could cover it with a semi-colon I would but not entirely but that's going to be incorperated. Highly suggest looking up the meaning behind a semi-colon. ; stay alive
Brooke Wink ur scars are okay. Its your choice to get them covered up, and its so amazing that you are recovering ❤️❤️❤️. Im in high school, and the day i decided to stop self harming i went to all my friends and asked if I could draw something on their arm. I drew a total of 30 semicolons on all of my friends and explained the meaning. I am also lgbt (genderfluid and lesbian)
I got a butterfly tattoo with a semicolon as the body, on my wrist so I always see it. I got it about a year and a half ago and I haven't cut since. It's still been hard, and I've had the urges to cut, but it reminds me to stay strong and that I can see it as a triumph instead of a failure.
Finn twistedpeppermint my partner is genderfluid and yeah. I'm in middle school but I've had depression for years. I've stopped and I've been going pretty strong. I'm glad to hear that you're doing well and best of luck to you :)
Got a little teary-eyed after watching this but it's truly a beautiful way of putting her pain to rest and the tattoo turned out amazing. Soo happy for her and her wife-to-be!
The fact that I live 30 minutes away from this tattoo parlour and never knew about it amazes me. And that I could have passed Ria on the streets at some point in Cromer or in Norwich or anywhere else nearby is just so powerful. Her arm is a work of art now.
Panic! At the Twenty One KIlljoys my instagram is @todayblogging . PLEASE DIRECT MESSAGE ME. you are beautiful inside and out, never forget how important you are. be brave and stay strong. things will get better, i promise 💘
Thank you for doing this. I'm not a self harmer so I don't have any scars, but I cried watching this video because it reminded me of my best friend. She had scars along her arm as well, but she's no longer with us due to suicide. I've always thought of getting a tattoo in memory of her, and this video certainly appeals to me to get one for the scar on my heart.
I really hope I can do this in the future. Both of my thighs are covered in scars from my past. I so regret it and I want them covered. I've considered so many tattoos and I just want it done.
Honestly, even beyond covering up the reminder the scars serve as, knowing someone cares enough to try and help you move on by covering them up with something beautiful must be such a powerful feeling
So amazing and beautiful, it's such an amazing thing that she doesn't judge or ask about anything. She respects everybody, it's hard to find people like that these days.
I'm a 20 year old woman, been self harming since I was 17 and one of these days I definitely will tattoo my arm and thigh it just won't be soon. I also have had visions telling me to cut myself too and it's very painful to hide things in. So I can feel her and I was tearing up when she cried.
I was clean for about a year now.. But yesterday it overrolled me. I fight since March this year again.. With my thoughts.. My life. It came out of no where, nothing changed around me. I just feel it.. Darkness. Great idea to cover scars with beautiful tattoos, you wouldn't destroy this beautiful art on your own. Love it. 💞 You 'just' have to let them go.
This is just amazing to see how happy they are after things like that so small things can change so much😍😭 i know how she feels because i was going throu a lot of pain to and i hate looking at it but i can't change it now and i need to live with it but it is my fault one day i will tattoo my scars too
i cried by the end a little bit because i can't wait for that moment for me; to look in the mirror with something beautiful covering up a past i don't want to remember as often as i do now
I was bullied in school before for 3 years just because I was friendly to the new girl with some mental problems that no one liked. The others used to tell me all kind of bad things and then when I gained a little weight because of hormonal problems it got worse. After moving to a new school it got a little better but still 2 people at most talked to me because I was the new girl in a class full of people who knew each other for years. And then when I got in high school, I met new people, made awesome friends and finally everything stopped. I thought about self harm and I actually did it a few times but all thanks to my family, closest friends and the music, I didn't have the intentions of continuing and I didn't want to do it. They helped me through everything and I'm so thankful! So don't stop believeing. When you feel like your life is falling apart, just know that there is someone out there who loves you. There's always a light at the end of the tunnel! You just gotta find the strength to keep going!
I think this is great! Truly a new beginning for people. Covering bad times with art is a beautiful thing. It's such a shame that I actually know people who would harm themselves purely to get a free tattoo (I heard self harm cover ups are sometimes free, depending who you go to)
Whats up RUclips maybe because she was doing something meaningful instead of caring about her fucking foundation color? God I've seen another comment like this, why can't people just focus on the good that's coming from this fucking video.
Seems like it does match there is just some redness on her neck which makes it look as if it doesn't. Also I think because it's full coverage and the lighting are also factors.
Lol, I had the same thought, it's too yellow for her. She's also not wearing any blush, so her face is just all one color, which makes it more noticeable as well. She's a pretty girl, matching foundation is really hard for some skin tones, especially if you're under a variety of lights in a day. Sometimes it's best to have the counter girl help you, I've done that with good results.
getting inspired by this - many of our clients brought us 2 you...congrats...love the idea and will follow you with helping out many struggled individuals in our area - we´re sure. thanks for sharing this - such great experience having artists like you - all the bests from Munich
Im crying, I feel this girl so much. You just don't see yourself living much longer so who cares what you do to your body, but damn, things change and do get better. I'm actually looking to get my scars covered up one day ^-^
I have scars on my upper thighs and I don't think I'd cover them bc it's a weird place for a tattoo but I'm so happy she overcame it. I know obviously that it's hard (currently almost 200 days clean) but it's really amazing that she had the courage to be clean and the tattoo is amazing! I hope she has a great life
I'm doing this for people in Mexico and hopefully the U.S next year :) in Texas. I love helping people out, I started with breast cancer scars and now I'm doing other type of scars.
I myself am a ex self harmer and finally afters years of seeing scars i got a beautiful tattoo over it, it is like tattoo artist said , u putting that part of ur life behind u, like i can show of my arms without worrying and has even grown so confident that i can share my story of self harm, in the end of the day we all go through different things and u never know if u have a story of self harm and u share it there could be somebody who can relate to it or find it helps with there situation etc... It is ok not to be okay guys :)
Absolutely beautiful. Thank so much for sharing your story. And congrats on your engagement. Thank you so much for helping those of us who went through (and may still be) going certain situations or things in our lives that for some onto some of us are simply too much to handle and/or beyond our comprehension. So instead of possibly harming others, getting arrested for assult, ect. We can now cover them up. But, oh my lanta! What I wouldn't give to have my own self harm scares cover up However, I seriously doubt it. Their pretty odd which is an understatement.
as a former tattooist whos been through severe mental health issues and suffering from a PD ive done so many of these cover up ive lost count. always made me slightly teary eyed when they cried after seeing it. probably should get my scars covered but my most prominant one is a deep stab wound to the leg that will take years to heal. in a better place now though, stay strong y'all
"I don't judge anyone 'cause what's the point?" I love that outlook on life.
And it really is the bottom line, as far as self-harm, eating disorders, substance abuse, etc. Really, judgment is unproductive. Intervention, support, and love are the foundation for recovery. I found that once a person gets the courage to ask for help and support in recovery, others are more than happy to give it to them.
Oh yes, absolutely, I've been living with a person that is severely depressed and it really is a tough journey, but though slow, she is on the road to recovery, even if she bounces back a lot of times. And yeah, she does self-harm from time to time without even noticing that she does it, or even feeling that she does it, automutilation, I think it's called. It's hard to see, but I still refuse to give up on her, I just can't afford to.
I am 0 days clean from self harm but I am starting right know recovery thank you so much for this videos
Karla Castillo good luck ❤️
Yay, good luck! :)
good luck. i believe in you
You'll get better, you can get through this :)
you can do it!
I always get so happy when I see people who came over their self-harm and turned their scars into something beautiful to them... Be strong, people! :)
wow yeah I'm your 666th like.
wow yeah all my Self Harm scars have all been officially covered with beautiful tattoos !
Guys please ignore the trolls. These two seem like such beautiful souls. The tattoo is just the start. It's not about how cool or original the design is, it's about placing something beautiful on top of a memory of something dark. To now associate the sight of her arm with recovery, strength, hope. And that is an infinitely positive message for those that have overcome what people that struggled with depression have. ♥♥♥
Thankyou so so much xxxx
rj xo omg is this you in your video? Well I wish you all the best darling. Your strength is inspiring. Hope your wedding is as wonderful as you seem to us all. Take care x
V ee yes :-) Thankyou so much, that's very kind xxx
V W I love you x
Your tattoo is absolutely gorgeous and I wish you and your soon-to-be wife the very best in the world!
this is amazing. some people, though, don't want to cover their self harm scars with a tattoo, because they feel like it's been a part of their lives but there's nothing to be ashamed of - my sister was going through self harm 10 years ago. but if anyone feels like they need to finally finish this part of their life and leave it all behind, it's absolutely inspiring and incredible. i'm really happy for her. i cried a little bit.
I was just thinkin this. I have scars on my forearm and my thigh from self-harming and I wanted them covered for a long time, but they show what I've lived through. They show a battle I won. I still get self-conscious when I catch people staring or the way the nurses look at me when they take blood, but I don't hate them anymore. My body is the proof that I have lived and survived and that I'm still alive today.
i feel the same way too. but it works weirdly for me, because i hate all the scars on my legs (which are majotiry of all the scars i have) but i'm okay with scars on my arms. but those are battle scars, someday i'll learn to accept them just like my sister does. i'm really glad that you're alive now and you've fought through this, you're so strong and i wish you the best xx
exactly my thoughts. i have scars in my forearm but i dont want to cover them up. they're part of me and who i am today. i always catch nurses staring when taking blood..
I have scars covering both my forearms, one of my upper arms, and both of my thighs, and I don't think I want them tattooed over. I haven't cut myself in about 4 years now, but I still think my scars are kinda pretty. They are all faded to white, so anyone who sees them knows that I bet it. People don't seem to bother with looking at me funny, or maybe that's just because I don't pay attention to what other people are doing/looking at lol
good for you!!
i've just gotten my first tattoo over my self harm scars and it's like a breath of fresh air that i can stare at something beautiful and see art. i feel like a new person.
noctis Same here
crying my eyes out watching this. I just came across it. my scars are from the 3 different cancers I've had. and 72 surgeries. I'm sending so much love. I completely understand.
Your inspiring ♥️
Cookie lady73 metoo. I’m covered in scars from all my tumors removal.
You are strong and beautiful and you slay everything you do! Stay strong, you got this! 🤟💋♥️
Cookie lady73 wow much love to u ❤️
stay strong!
holy crap... the things she said made me realise how much I truly regret self-harming... I hate the scars its left...
Skye-Ann Wilson, you overcame self-harm. You won a battle that isn't easy to win. My husband was an intravenous user for years, and has so many scars (which he is in the process of covering with tattoos.) He never hid them from me, he won his own battle, and I love him, scars and all. You may choose to cover yours, but please don't feel ashamed. The important thing is that you're healing from self-harm.
Random Guy, what won me over about my husband is that he was honest about his past drug dependency before we ever met in person (a mutual friend wanted us to meet). He had five years clean by that point, and now it's almost 14 years, but he has to live with the abscess scars forever, and he has come to terms with that and doesn't usually cover them up. When I told him I had self-harmed, he accepted that because I reassured him I hadn't done it in a long time. I have my lapses now and then, but it's been months now, and my main method was bruising. If I did cut, it was with safety pins and all of the scars have faded. What frustrates me is that a lot of people are still under the impression that it's mostly teenage and young women who self-harm. Guys do it, too, and it seems to carry an even larger stigma than drug addiction. I hate it that we're perceived as broken, or damaged. I don't know how strong of a hold the self-harm had on you, or how evident it is on your skin, but we're not broken. Recovery is a testament to that. I hope you have family or friends to confide in. My husband and I were older when we met, and neither of us had expected to find someone, either.
Random Guy you can always find someone, maybe just not right now. But I don't even want to find anyone, so it's not a problem for me.
Skye-Ann Wilson same here, i feel stupid.
Smoke Weed you CAN find someone, a lot of great people understand that people have had lives and struggles before them. I so recommend a bit more self healing before you go looking though.
A word of caution to the wise. Everyone needs to be cautious about who they place their trust in and who they choose to romantically intertwine their lives with, as there will always be a segment of the population who tries to use, abuse, and manipulate the people they are with. But "broken" people, as you put it, need to be extra careful to keep their eyes open when falling for someone new, because predators know how to spot easy targets.
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They're so cute together, I hope they will have a long and happy marriage
Alice Pan so do I
cont dokoo why
I hope they do too
me to that would be beautiful.
Ella walker Bah, don't feed the trolls, Ella. That's just some immature 11-year-old in need of attention however he can get it.
But this also shows tough times reveals beautiful things
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It's a blessing in disguise and I know this sounds so wrong but if you think about it the fact that she's experienced such pain and managed to overcome it makes her value her happiness and where she is at in life now so much more than the average person.
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She will never forget what's under that tattoo. She just won't be reminded daily by other people's stares.
Can I just point that having scars is NOTHING to be ashamed of. If people who have scars want them tattooed then that's great, but it doesn't mean that you should. My scars remind me what I have been through and how despite everything I'm still alive, and I'm not ashamed of them. Your body is beautiful no matter what
ellzyrox TRUE 💯 ❤️
ellzyrox well said. :)
The Gifted Vegan love your name! Vegan for life ♥
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actually if you bothered to read my comment i never said anything about being proud. I'm not ashamed, there's a difference. And my body isn't ruined it works fine thanks.
I have a huge scar from a suicide attempt and scars on my thigh that are hard to see, but if you look close enough, it says "FAT"
I want to get it covered so badly.
Do you have any ideas what you'd want for a tattoo?
Just one day, you'll get it done. 😊
i have the exact same scar on my thigh & i want mine covered too. Stay strong ♡
Simply_Tristan then put pants on.
Simply_Tristan Not in a horrible way but what did u want from cutting ur thighs ? I don't understand self harm at all, I understand depression and suicide but not self harm it doesn't get u anywhere
Awww that is so amazing. I so wish I could get mine covered. Mine aren't as bad but I have big burn spots on the tops of both my hands. It would so nice to replace those with something beautiful. I'm so glad all those people were able to make their past part of them in a beautiful way and move on. :)
Defeated Program you could get a moon and some stars on your hands, just an idea if you really are thinking of getting a tattoo to cover your scars ❤❤❤
What a great person and idea 😊
It is a beautiful, meaningful gesture that will last a lifetime. I used to struggle with self-harm. Fortunately there's barely any evidence, and only in areas that are always covered by clothes. But if I had that quantity of raised scars I would get tattooed over them. I have always loved tattoos.
*add : I think I would opt to cover mine, but that's just me. A lot of people opt not to, because healed scars reveal a battle we fought and won. It is a very personal, individual decision.
Alice H i
Tattoos are awesome as is, but what Poppy does goes way beyond. Thank you for helping people feel better about themselves. You deserve good things in life.
I want to do this to cover up mine, but I'm broke :(
Alice Pan me too😕😢
Alice Pan me too, but my scars are over a lot more of my skin & I can't imagine what could cover them.
AK H have you heard of dotwork? You could get some really great geometric dotwork all over in different spots. Just an idea if you were thinking about it :)
Alice Pan in a separate video she said she did some for free to make others feel better about themselves, try to do her, you'd be surprised
Alice Pan use lots of vitamin E it should help them go away over time
omg you two are adorable together, your tattoo is beautiful. Best wishes for the future☺
lion lion Thankyou so much x
It's nice to see people recover from self harm. my arms and legs are just carnage but the fact she said at the time she didn't think she would be alive to care really made me think for a second I might make it through this
I'm getting tattooed to cover my scars within the next few weeks and I'm so excited (not by her, I'm paying for it) but I will probably cry like this girl did. Don't cut yourself guys... things get better and it isn't worth it
Rachel And Baby T just a heads up if you do want a cover up, scare tissue is different from normal skin and it can be more painful then a normal tattoo also the color might fade or not even hold the color on the scar it self.
proud of u!!
lm ao That is terrible. How soulless can some people be? I try to be as nice as I can to people, but that is really mean. Seriously, what is wrong with you? If you don't have anything nice to say, shut up and don't say anything.
I have a brain. I cut. I cut/don't let cuts heal because its a distraction. I don't feel as much pain as I would another injury. My therapist says that its mostly fascination and that I would probably have ended up doing it even without the major anxiety. I NEVER HAD A CHOICE!
Rachel And Baby T and how is your tattoo? if only i knew how stupid it was before i started doing it, but oh well. i hope other people that want to see how stupid it is.
It's amazing how tattoos can give someone with scars back their confidence. This woman is amazing.
Now..... that is AMAZING!
Let's just hope people don't start self-harming on purpose in order to get this treatment done. You can still get a normal tattoo. These scars might just turn from negative into a positive. You are all brave! Mental scars might linger but atleast you can walk the streets with some self confidence and self esteem
Wailing Wailer They might thouugh
Senap no nope nope. Would you cut yourself out of nowhere for no reason? No. You'd probably stop before you could do any damage that would scar. I used to self harm, for years, and now I have ugly scars that will stay on my body for life. I'd rather pay 1000$ to get a tattoo than have these scars. Ohh and YOU have to wait 1 or two years for the scars to heal before you can get tattooed over them. Trust me, people who stare at your scars, having to wear long sleeves when it's incredibly hot outside is not worth getting a free tattoo. So no.
People can walk the streets with confidence & their head held high *with* scars too. Not everyone feels it necessary to cover them up & nor should they feel judged for not doing so 'because it might make people uncomfortable'.
It's a personal journey for every single person. Some feel it's like closing a chapter of their life when they get a tattoo cover up, & from a personal stand point I think that's great. Equally I think those who wish not to get them covered (or don't wish to constantly wear long sleeves) are just as wonderful.
There is no right or wrong.
As the saying goes, you do you.
DonReality ok listen. I like this post but I don't think the majority of people would self harm for a tattoo. Mental Illness is something you can't just make up on the spot. Also there are people that have self confidence with their scars. Some people say their scars make them more confident cause they have a story to tell.
Lilypaddilly You just proved my point. In a nutshell, however you've worded your sentence implicitly points to "deliberation"
This made me so emotional. I want to get my scars covered so badly, I can't wait
As someone with scars on both arms from wrist to shoulder, and on one of my thighs, this is incredible. I'm booked in to get a half sleeve in a similar floral design soon, and it's only this month that I've felt comfortable enough to wear t shirts in my own house. It's been 8 years since I started self-harming. I'm 3 months clean at the moment. I'll forever be a work in progress, but that's okay.
*absolutely heart wrenching but such a majestic (short) story. as somebody who used to 'self-harm' by using drugs, it is SO SO wonderful to see others who have overcome their obstacles, and usually the hurt that goes hand in hand with being self destructive in the first place. this really warmed my soul. lovely couple, great tattoo, and SOOOOOOO good to see somebody grow from their pain. LOVE this.*
me for the first two minutes:what a nice girl this is so nice
me when i realise she's a wlw: AMAZING!!!! FANTASTIC!!!!! SHE DESERVES ALL OF THE HAPPINESS!!!!!!
Max Rowan wlw?
Max Rowan SAME !!!!
It stands for "Women loving women"
I had never heard of that term until just now. I like it.
lm ao Wow, here we are again, another one of your little comments, huh? What a surprise. I've had to deal with a lot of terrible people, yet every time someone is truly horrible, it surprises and confuses me. Why does bringing people down give you pleasure? I'm truly curious.
I really want to get this done but I have scars on both of my wrists, the top of my arm, my calf and my thigh. She probably only allows one free tattoo... 😪😪
Maddy Gowers Do one from her for free and the rest you pay for. Tattoo artists need to earn money too.
Whiting1289 mental illness is a thing y'know. It's chemical. And calling people morons for doing something that some people think are helping them at the time isn't the best choice, hun.
Whiting1289 I can't comprehend how someone can comment something specifically to hurt someone who has overcome so much to be alive. Be respectful, just because your tiny mind can make you understand why someone would self harm doesn't mean you have the right to shame them for it. And Maddy you're beautiful and strong. Much love.
Whiting1289 So you don't understand anything at all.
Donate BTC: ... Stop hating on people! They're trying to improve their lives, and you are just commenting rude things that could be triggering or provoke a relapse. Stop it. It's immature, rude, and doesn't accomplish anything positive.
I'm so proud of her!!!! you made it through everything girl!!!!😘😘😘😘
I have a small tattoo on my inner wrist. While it doesn't cover up my scars very much because it's small, it's motivated me not to hurt myself anymore. I haven't harmed myself in over a year and I plan to stay clean from it - and hopefully get more tattoos! I only have two so far but I'm looking forward to more.
This woman (poppy) is absolutely incredible. Such a kind hearted person to be helping those who have struggled in the past overcome that.. so much love for her
I had scars all over my thighs and recently covered them. So happy for you lovely. Stay strong!
I love how she was able to turn something so dark and unhappy into something so beautiful and inspiring!
What a beautiful woman such a kind heart
I love how they turn something, dark and sad into something, creative and amazing!
Stay strong their is always a reason to keep going !!
Am i the only one who thinks that a school of fish would be a beautiful cover up for self harm scars?
Katerina Talanova sounds cool to me! you do you
yes
I think that's a really cool idea :)
Katerina Talanova I saw the ripples in water
Poppy is an amazing tattoo artist, her contribution to the tattoo world and to help those who have grown stronger from their past, she's amazing! I've been tattooed by her and you can really tell how passionate she is for her art and to make her clients happy when they leave the shop! What she does is incredible!
I thought at first Frankie was her sister but then she was like "were engaged" and it took me a second to relies that it's ok.
Brooklyn Villa honey its realize
And we're not were
And shut the fuck because you both are morons 🙄 this is not your 8th grade spelling bee.
karolyn marie I like that we're having conversations about spelling and you still chose to put "O" instead of "Oh" lol.
weird i can only see one conversation
i studied psychology, and i was standing behind this girl who was clearly self harming, i could se it clearly (she had clear signs of depression, and you could se it in her eyes, so i did a good deed, i payed for her drink, becuse for people like that even tho she might not have selfharmed in a wile is that smal stuff make huge impact, and somone being friendly or smile towards you might make there day, when she asked way, i pulled up my sleve and showed her my old scars, and i said, sometimes we all struggle, but the small stuff make huge inpact.
ALL-GAMES-1080p awww you sweet soul! Keep on helping people and making them smile!
People don't realize the reason for mine. I have never has someone successfully guess why I have so many self harm Scars. They all think depression/ stress. I do it out of fascination. At least. the initial cut is. The scars are worse because of a nervous/subconscious habit of picking at the wounds to make them bleed.
I didn't even realize that I was self harming until I was nine. I was doing it since I was five. . . unintentionally. But on purpose.
Smoke Weed So sorry. If you're not comfy around people, can you get a warm, loving, always accepting little dog? Pets are beautiful healers, listeners, and the most loyal friends ever. With a dog, you have to care for them and when walking sometimes you meet other person lovers. Poodle mixes are amazing. If you can't have a dog, some kitties are very cuddly. There's an article on the web about the 8 cuddliest cat breeds. No cat or dog? Guinea pigs are cute, hedgehogs, bunnies, a bird can be excellent company. And with all of these the are in person and online groups of other adorers. Please take care.
What a lovely way to propose to someone! I know that's not the focus of the video but still.. made me smile :)
Ugh this made me cry so much, I can't wait to get mine covered!
if i have to cover up ever scar i have from selfharm, burning wounds, and accidents i would be in a tattoo shop for the rest of my life... ps dont be worried the selfharm scars are 2years old and i am stronger now :)
but tattoos are expensive and most parts cant be covers up bc of future jobs or the pain it will take to cover up or bc its on a ugly place haha so yeah, maybe some i will cover up later on
Lisa Beijne are you an Army by any chance??
What do you mean by burning wounds?
Panda hot tea fell over my legs
Peachy wdym
Burning is another form of self harm
Poppy, you do such lovely work, and with such a kind and understanding heart!
And to Ria ~ congratulations on your recovery, and your upcoming wedding! Frankie is clearly so supportive, and loves you very much. Best wishes for a bright, joyful future for the two of you!
what a beautiful soul to give people hope and love for themselves again.
This is just so touching and magnificent. As someone who has had some self harm scars covered by a tattoo, I find such beauty in the message. Stay lovely.
I've selfharmed and I'm pan/gay. This really touched my heart because i want to get my scars covered up when im older. If i could cover it with a semi-colon I would but not entirely but that's going to be incorperated. Highly suggest looking up the meaning behind a semi-colon. ; stay alive
Brooke Wink ur scars are okay. Its your choice to get them covered up, and its so amazing that you are recovering ❤️❤️❤️. Im in high school, and the day i decided to stop self harming i went to all my friends and asked if I could draw something on their arm. I drew a total of 30 semicolons on all of my friends and explained the meaning. I am also lgbt (genderfluid and lesbian)
Brooke Wink I'm pan lol
I got a butterfly tattoo with a semicolon as the body, on my wrist so I always see it. I got it about a year and a half ago and I haven't cut since. It's still been hard, and I've had the urges to cut, but it reminds me to stay strong and that I can see it as a triumph instead of a failure.
Finn twistedpeppermint my partner is genderfluid and yeah. I'm in middle school but I've had depression for years. I've stopped and I've been going pretty strong. I'm glad to hear that you're doing well and best of luck to you :)
Georgia Bence that's a very beautiful tattoo. That has a wonderful meaning and I'm glad you've been going strong. Best wishes on your journey :)
Got a little teary-eyed after watching this but it's truly a beautiful way of putting her pain to rest and the tattoo turned out amazing. Soo happy for her and her wife-to-be!
I've had all of my self harm scars covered up n both of my ankles and my arms and my neck
The fact that I live 30 minutes away from this tattoo parlour and never knew about it amazes me. And that I could have passed Ria on the streets at some point in Cromer or in Norwich or anywhere else nearby is just so powerful. Her arm is a work of art now.
When I am old enough to get a tattoo, I plan to cover my self harm scars.
Panic! At the Twenty One KIlljoys stay alive |-/
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Panic! At the Twenty One KIlljoys stay alove
Panic! At the Twenty One KIlljoys my instagram is @todayblogging . PLEASE DIRECT MESSAGE ME. you are beautiful inside and out, never forget how important you are. be brave and stay strong. things will get better, i promise 💘
Jessica Geraci you are so sweet, i was scrolling though the comments and your always asking people if they want to talk.God bless you❤️
i need someone to cover my self harm scars too
Thank you for doing this. I'm not a self harmer so I don't have any scars, but I cried watching this video because it reminded me of my best friend. She had scars along her arm as well, but she's no longer with us due to suicide. I've always thought of getting a tattoo in memory of her, and this video certainly appeals to me to get one for the scar on my heart.
I really hope I can do this in the future. Both of my thighs are covered in scars from my past. I so regret it and I want them covered. I've considered so many tattoos and I just want it done.
Honestly, even beyond covering up the reminder the scars serve as, knowing someone cares enough to try and help you move on by covering them up with something beautiful must be such a powerful feeling
This is absolutely beautiful
So amazing and beautiful, it's such an amazing thing that she doesn't judge or ask about anything. She respects everybody, it's hard to find people like that these days.
this is amazing
Aimee Devine Thankyou xxx
rj xo it really is xx
I didn't want to cry. I started at the album Frankie made and cried through the rest of it. I'm glad they get a happy ending
ayyyy im from norwich too, this was a good video; inspires me to get something pretty done over my scars
I'm a 20 year old woman, been self harming since I was 17 and one of these days I definitely will tattoo my arm and thigh it just won't be soon. I also have had visions telling me to cut myself too and it's very painful to hide things in. So I can feel her and I was tearing up when she cried.
i'd love to have this done someday. beautiful video.
I was clean for about a year now.. But yesterday it overrolled me. I fight since March this year again..
With my thoughts.. My life.
It came out of no where, nothing changed around me. I just feel it.. Darkness.
Great idea to cover scars with beautiful tattoos, you wouldn't destroy this beautiful art on your own.
Love it. 💞
You 'just' have to let them go.
what beautiful people, all three of them
massive kudos to poppy, tattooing over scars is so difficult and she does a wonderful job
I follow this tattoo artist on instagram, she does such amazing work
Poppy Rendall Whats her Instagram ?
Thereal K @poppysmallhandtattoo I think 💕
Poppy Rendall thank you💖
This is just amazing to see how happy they are after things like that so small things can change so much😍😭 i know how she feels because i was going throu a lot of pain to and i hate looking at it but i can't change it now and i need to live with it but it is my fault one day i will tattoo my scars too
Currently crying & searching for a tattoo to cover mine up as well lol
i cried by the end a little bit because i can't wait for that moment for me; to look in the mirror with something beautiful covering up a past i don't want to remember as often as i do now
I think it's a great thing that ur doing ur amazing keep doing what ur doing 😋😍❤️🔥👑
I was bullied in school before for 3 years just because I was friendly to the new girl with some mental problems that no one liked. The others used to tell me all kind of bad things and then when I gained a little weight because of hormonal problems it got worse. After moving to a new school it got a little better but still 2 people at most talked to me because I was the new girl in a class full of people who knew each other for years. And then when I got in high school, I met new people, made awesome friends and finally everything stopped. I thought about self harm and I actually did it a few times but all thanks to my family, closest friends and the music, I didn't have the intentions of continuing and I didn't want to do it. They helped me through everything and I'm so thankful!
So don't stop believeing. When you feel like your life is falling apart, just know that there is someone out there who loves you. There's always a light at the end of the tunnel! You just gotta find the strength to keep going!
AWH YUS GIMME THEM HAPPY GAYS
I'm 3 weeks clean from self harm, I would be a month and a half but I relapsed, I can't wait to cover up my scars ❤️
Good lookout✔
Her fiancé is the most sweet and caring girl ever ❤❤ she was by her side through the worst moments and even held her hand whilst getting the tattoo 🌼🌼
respect.
aw i saw that she had self harmed and how she got better and got happy again and her whole story made me so happy
I like how its gay
Love poppy she's such a compassionate woman and she really does change lives god bless this lovely woman
My heart 😭😍
I think this is great! Truly a new beginning for people. Covering bad times with art is a beautiful thing. It's such a shame that I actually know people who would harm themselves purely to get a free tattoo (I heard self harm cover ups are sometimes free, depending who you go to)
im poppy
you are Ted
I'm poppy
Peachy Alien You are Peachy.
I am poppy
No, you are ted
this made me cry. this tattoo artist is amazing. i really want to get my scars covered 💕
The tattoo artist did a great job but her foundation didn't match with her skin at all!😥Why did no one tell her?
Whats up RUclips maybe because she was doing something meaningful instead of caring about her fucking foundation color? God I've seen another comment like this, why can't people just focus on the good that's coming from this fucking video.
Whats up RUclips really thats what you guys took out of this video? You guys have really sad lives...
Seems like it does match there is just some redness on her neck which makes it look as if it doesn't. Also I think because it's full coverage and the lighting are also factors.
Lol, I had the same thought, it's too yellow for her. She's also not wearing any blush, so her face is just all one color, which makes it more noticeable as well. She's a pretty girl, matching foundation is really hard for some skin tones, especially if you're under a variety of lights in a day. Sometimes it's best to have the counter girl help you, I've done that with good results.
Whats up RUclips wow I don't know, I guess it just wasn't the point of the video
getting inspired by this - many of our clients brought us 2 you...congrats...love the idea and will follow you with helping out many struggled individuals in our area - we´re sure. thanks for sharing this - such great experience having artists like you - all the bests from Munich
Is this poppy also a member of illuminati ??
lm ao And again, here is another one of your snobby remarks. Stop being a jerk. Please.
Im crying, I feel this girl so much. You just don't see yourself living much longer so who cares what you do to your body, but damn, things change and do get better. I'm actually looking to get my scars covered up one day ^-^
Stay alive my friends
Everything about this is so beautiful! I'm so glad for them getting married and Ria getting a tattoo she like to cover up something she doesn't.
Ok but why didn't they tell her, her foundation didn't match her skin before taping? A shame.
Lin Dzay is that really what you took out of this video? A shame.
Lin Dzay damn you salty, just because you could never be this kind hearted...
Lin Dzay was wondering that the whole time as well
Lin Dzay Honestly? Who gives a shit?
you really think the film crew gonna tell her to take her foundation off tf lmao they dont care its not even bad smh
I have scars on my upper thighs and I don't think I'd cover them bc it's a weird place for a tattoo but I'm so happy she overcame it. I know obviously that it's hard (currently almost 200 days clean) but it's really amazing that she had the courage to be clean and the tattoo is amazing! I hope she has a great life
If there are marks around where the tattoo is though then won't people just say the tattoo looks shit?
Chris P. Bacon It's not supposed to look good to other people, the point is to cover up their dark past and make them smile.
if thats honestly your response to this video about her trying to put a horrible experiance behind her i am sorry for your lack of empathy
I'm doing this for people in Mexico and hopefully the U.S next year :) in Texas. I love helping people out, I started with breast cancer scars and now I'm doing other type of scars.
Diana L. Ischy go girl I'll support you!
I myself am a ex self harmer and finally afters years of seeing scars i got a beautiful tattoo over it, it is like tattoo artist said , u putting that part of ur life behind u, like i can show of my arms without worrying and has even grown so confident that i can share my story of self harm, in the end of the day we all go through different things and u never know if u have a story of self harm and u share it there could be somebody who can relate to it or find it helps with there situation etc... It is ok not to be okay guys :)
I once saw someone with scars... she covered them with words like "beautiful" and "priceless".
This is beautiful❤️I got my covered a little over a year ago today❤️
this is beautiful. quote "don't judge anyone, cuz whats the point", totally agree.
Thankyou everyone for your super kind words ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Absolutely beautiful. Thank so much for sharing your story. And congrats on your engagement. Thank you so much for helping those of us who went through (and may still be) going certain situations or things in our lives that for some onto some of us are simply too much to handle and/or beyond our comprehension. So instead of possibly harming others, getting arrested for assult, ect. We can now cover them up. But, oh my lanta! What I wouldn't give to have my own self harm scares cover up However, I seriously doubt it. Their pretty odd which is an understatement.
I'M GONNA CRY THIS IS BEAUTIFUL
I'm getting mine covered next month. I just can't wait to see those scars covered by beautiful art
as a former tattooist whos been through severe mental health issues and suffering from a PD ive done so many of these cover up ive lost count. always made me slightly teary eyed when they cried after seeing it. probably should get my scars covered but my most prominant one is a deep stab wound to the leg that will take years to heal. in a better place now though, stay strong y'all