Trad Wife Tiktok is Lying To You
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- Опубликовано: 29 фев 2024
- the trad wife tiktok trend has been increasing in popularity due to its backwards nature, influencers cosplaying the part and promoting harmful ideas in the process. what happens when the trad wife life falls apart?
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You know what's reallly traditional? NOT BEING ON SOCIAL MEDIA. These grifters irritate me.
And u know those alpha males they're trying to grift to are always preffering women who are not on social media. Yet they are constantly yapping on podcasts
@OfficerZ637 erm. either you're a bot or this is just fucking disgusting, pressing the report button!!... ❤
@OfficerZ637💀
REAL
How else will they brainwash people into thinking co-dependency is the only thing a woman can be?
I'm a stay at home mom and let me tell you, these "tradwives" are selling a very staged, very idealized version of this life. It's not all wearing cute dresses and baking pies. It's hard work. They don't show you the ugly side of it. It all feels very fake and they seem extremely judgemental. Also if you are a housewife or stay at home mom, I cannot stress this enough, GET YOUR OWN BANK ACCOUNT. It's extremely important to be financially independent in case your partner leaves or passes away.
I'd watch genuine tradwives content if they show the less glamorous side like constantly tidying up a messy room bc there's always a mess coming back, planning meals 7 days a week, taking care of a nonstop crying toddler, or cleaning the hard stains in the bathroom
Some of them are wealthy & have cleaners, nannies, etc.
@margonaut so they're lazy and treat it likexa trendy lifestyle
@@toxiczombiewolf5692 yep, they’ll never show that they have staff & pretend it’s just all so effortless
I’m a stay at home/part time working mom. I do all the money stuff. Almost everything is in my name. I have the good credit. You can have combined finances and good credit at the same time.
Being a trad wife feels like a trap to me. The insecurity of being left, the financial dependency, and boredom. I applaud stay-at-home moms who have to work around the clock for their kids without a nanny, because being a mom is not easy. Young girls forget that these influencer women do not reflect reality for many hardworking housewives.
Having a family with the mother controlling how the kids are raised is not a trap. It’s how people existed for millennia
I was never bored staying at home!
I wasn’t exactly a trad wife, but I was a stay at home mom. Then I got sick and became disabled, and my husband divorced me. Luckily I have parents with enough money to support me and alimony (which ends next year) or I’d be destitute and unable to work.
About 10yrs ago before some of this lingo, I saw a video of some modern women turned prairie dress wearing wives doing that thing conservative religious women do from other evangelical religions: They were talking smack about how MORE free they felt, how stuck modern women are. I asked and got answered about personal interests. She boasted how her husband let's her have her hobbies just fine! Painting, music, drawing no worries hun! I replied but what about your daughters who are being raised alongside boys who are being taught to have more command of their families now that the modern is going away with the moms? I never got an answer. But I followed up with: In all human history, women fight centuries for freedoms they can lose in one generation of boys taught and reinforced from birth that their birthright is to control women.
Hope the daughters are ok today.
@@rebchizelbeak5392 that's not what the first comment said at all
I can’t believe some people still think these women are relying on their husband’s income when their job is literally an influencer
yes, the difference is just that they work at home lmao they are not exactly the classic tradwife they think they are
well technical the "trad wife" always works from home by taking care of the house .-. @@tr4sh.doll_
Because the internet is run on lies, and "lifestyle influencers" are the ones pushing it
@@Mr.S_666 LOL this reminds me of Mrs. Midwest's first Q&A video where she answered questions while folding clothes - very very messily into sloppy quarters. That's when I was like, "Okay, she's supposedly a traditional women with traditional women skills and can't fold a shirt properly?"
@@MusclesandBooks I’m not sure who that is but it sounds horrible 🤘🏻
Besides divorce; Husbands can also pass away or become disabled and unable to work, then what?
Or be abusive
They would be able to collect their spouses social security and/or job benefits. And if the couple was smart, an insurance payout. If they're religious, usually their church or religious organization will support them in an event like that as well. Even for the poorest, non religious people, there's govt social safety nets available to help a widow and her kids get back on their feet.
lmaooo they are literally homeless/broke with children now
That can happen in a regular marriage as well, these things should be talked about and an emergency savings established prior to having children. Also a plan B. Problem here is communication issue, not specific to the traditional lifestyle. And if he’s abusive, leave. Or go to counseling try and work it out for the kids sake.
Then we get jobs lol we are not incapable of working at least i certainly am not but i am a stay at home mom not a trad wife if my husband ever was not able to work i would immediately provide.
What i hate is how they always portray being a housewife is something like wearing frilly aprons and cooking organic foods from scratch in a relaxing manner.
When in REALITY every housewives KNOWS that home-caring is FAR from relaxing! The constant juggling between chores, taking care of kids, making sure everything is taking care of. Ain't no way these 'tradwives' don't have any help or employees at their beck and call
it seems they are rich so they probably have the best home appliances to make chores easier and maybe even a housekeeper, or they are lying because yes, doing daily chores is not very relaxing
Most of these women are rich there is one women that made pb&j from scratch in fansy clothes that screams rich this is just again a way for rich people to show there rich because most stay-at-home-mothers don't really have the luxury of being rich and having time to make a tiktok of how they make homemade breakfast
Because it is a performance
Shoot I WFH and do chores between my work duties - I look like crap day to day because I'm scrubbing toilets, doing dishes, etc.
Rich housewives dont cook or clean, they just look good and spend money, once they can't spend as much money as they want they get a new guy
I find it so sad how women who are "Trad wives" get left for someone younger and hotter and they are left with nothing..
Yep, or when their “husband” leaves them the moment they have a terrible illness that could kill them
not even younger and hotter, there's so much "opportunity" for financial abuse during the relationship too, when arguing especially. and your living financial stability can also lose their job btw so what now
scary!
I find it sadder that women today would rather be 304’s and rack up body counts. Then think things like abortions are ok as birth control.
We warned them..
@OfficerZ637 YO WHAT
Former traditional wife here. Internalized misogyny leads to sooooo many bad things. That's what the trad life is based upon. Internalized misogyny is literally its foundation. Currently sitting in my tiny one bedroom apartment, divorced, left picking up the pieces for years. Couldn't be happier to be away from that abusive fuck
Congratulations, I wish you the best in life :D
Im happy you're doing better and building a much nicer more independent life for yourself. No amount of abuse was worth whatever it was he had to offer.
You picked him
@@virginiavallek1654 and what is that supposed to mean? That she deserved to be abused? Lots of abusers are manipulative and and lie at first then show their true colours later, even if she did pick him she didn't deserve to be abused and I think it's disgusting that you would even say that, as if her chosing to be with him justifies the fact that he abused her. If you have nothing nice to say don't say anything.
@Dani-kk Dont acknowledge people like that. They talk out of their ass just to get a reaction, they're aware of everything you said but choose ignorance because its "funny".
As someone with a misogynistic father, this whole "depend on a man" thing makes wanna jump out of my window 😭
Depend on a man but they can't even do their own laundry or cook an egg. Sounds legit.
Felt this ^
Better throw someone out the Window 🤫
@@zyqa 💀💀💀💀
Same cuh
I met a lot of ex tradwives back when I used to volunteer in the women's shelter
And even more 304’s that wanted to be independent.
It’s no surprise that women today are way more unhappy than they used to be.
You think that being subservient to a boss is worse than controlling the income that a husband makes.
You need to fix your thought process and prioritize having a family. The older you get, the more likely you will just buy a dog and die alone.
@@rebchizelbeak5392Women today are happy.Btw,I think people would rather adopt a dog and die alone then do something that makes them miserable
@@rebchizelbeak5392 ok troll lmao. Women today arent unhappy, trad wives in the 50s were way more unhappy and abused. Also interesting ideology you have, if its so good to depend on your partner and being subservient on your spouse like your spouse is your boss then why don't men do it? Huh? ☺why arent men staying at home and allowing their woman to financially support them, control them, order them around and why arent men being entirely dependent on older women from their teenage years? If its so great and so much better than having a boss and being financially independent, then yall start giving the good example and start depending on women
@@rebchizelbeak5392 are you fucking insane?
Having kids in this world !
The cost of living has only gone up, and the wages have barely fucking changed , having kids is basically financially impossible
@@rebchizelbeak5392men still think this dumb shit is an insult. Literally nobody is hurt by this “buy a dog and die alone” shit anymore.
You simply can’t raise a family and cosplay like it’s the 1950s anymore. Sadly the middle class is dead and everyone has to work, and hard. And do you really think a man who thinks he’s entitled to his wife’s complete devotion is actually gonna try to do anything unselfishly to help her or his family?😂 For this whole thing to work there’s one thing you need MONEY and a lot of it.
@@CedarMountainsnow I'm confused, why do you think that? daycare can be expensive for sure but does not cost the equivalent of a month's salary
@@tr4sh.doll_ It does. That's why many people sacrifice one paycheck when they realize one of their jobs are just paying for daycare. That's also why a lot of parents use their parents, in-laws, and grandparents for free babysitting. Also, the horror stories coming out of daycare, parents are insane to let strangers watch their kids. I don't know anyone that didn't raise their kids without daycare, for a reason.
@@CedarMountainsnow It’s ok to stay home temporarily, but don’t do it long term because sober or later these wives find out the at their man starts resenting having to live off own income, and the woman starts doing a bunch of stuff (including degrading stuff) that she normally wouldn’t just to appease her husband. I’ve seen this dynamic shift irl with my peers who got pregnant, and didn’t have any discussions or safety nets in place, and their husbands either left them, or they turned even more abusive. So, be smart and make moves to protect yourself while pregnant and taking care of the kids. Other options are to work from home or work part-time till you can go back to your regular schedule. Not everyone can afford to not work, so we shouldn’t discount working all together.
I’m pretty sure rich people still exist and people who make way less money than the middle class still exist.
in spain u cant be traditional or whatever, literally becomes the either ego is left aside and both work or no one eats this month lmfao
People forget. This was a major issue that was happening in the 60s and 70s and probably even before, THAT FEMINISTS WERE TRYING TO FIX. Women who lived as stay at home moms and when things went wrong, they ended up poor and homeless. Why the actual fuck do people think support groups for women started? Shelters? It pisses me off so much how we don’t remember that cuz
It’s really dishonest. If people want to live these lives, they deserve to know all the risks, otherwise how can they make informed decisions? Seriously. It pisses me off so much when we ignore how this SPECIFIC ISSUE came up before and how it was tackled in the past. Cuz if you’re gonna be a homemaker, learn from the past. Have a backup plan. Do it safely. And stop lying to young women about what it can mean
Its sad that they fetishize this lifestyle that just can't possibly exist peacefully and unknowingly undo all of the work women in the past have worked so hard for.
Because sadly all that wasn’t deemed important enough to be taught to later generations. It’s because the people in charge are mostly the people benefiting from little girls getting groomed into that lifestyle.
seeing how grown women are essentially left stranded and unsupported after having been raised that way, it seems abusive to still be raising kids like this in today's age.
You have to worry if they're homeschooling their girls. Would they be teaching science & maths? Doubtful.
As a woman that was raised with these expectations indirectly, I wanted nothing more than to stay home and have children. Luckily I realized early enough that wasn’t going to be an option for me so I kind of dodged a bullet there. I had to join the workforce. I didn’t want to, I HAD to. It’s one thing to instill imagination or inspiration in your kids, but to flash unrealistic fantasies that they will never be able to see irl is quite damaging from my experience. Not only did I lack respect for myself and end up in bad situations because of that, but I was told a dreamy story of what my life could look like and it just was not realistic. You are ultimately setting your child up for major disappointment when they realize they can’t have the fairytale, not to mention the internalized misogyny which is a whole other can of worms
It very much is 💯
@@Zennest158 glad you got out of that mindset
Having children is more stressful than having a 9-5 job. according to alot of women I know. Also birth control can also prevent women from having absolutely horrible Periods
birth control takes some trial and error. if its doing you a diservice, discontinue guys! look for another alternative
Exactly, I always get really angry whenever people act like birth control only gets used for not wanting to get pregnant. Like good for the women who can just go on with their lives while being on their periods - but there are so many of us who NEED birth control to get through the days because bleeding or cramping so much until the point that you pass out is not an option. Unfortunately there aren't really any other ways to deal with our period problems because guess what, the medicine field never ever and still does not give a sh*t about us women.
@@VideosForYou90 exactly, i get a bit annoyed myself when people act like its such a bad thing. I pretty much take it because my monthlies get so bad :(
Having children is 24/7 job and unless you're a pilot or surgeon more taxing too as you're responsible for life of another. Not to mention it puts your body through a blender too if it's not the case of adoption. It's crazy how tradwives devalue motherhood ignoring the risks and expecting their daughters just pop out endless babies too. If you're not neglectful, the childrearing isn't willy-nilly like that and that's not even addressing costs of pregnancy and labor. And this doesn't help your retirement or dental in any way either.
well Its even worse when you have to work to take care of children
The idea that it’s a woman’s natural place is in the home is actually a very recent phenomenon. If you go back to before the 1940s most working class women worked in jobs outside of the home. They either helped their husbands with farming work if they lived in rural areas. Or they worked as maids, schools teachers, and personal assistants if in urban areas. The idea that women should be in the home was something that only existed for a brief period from the 40s to the 80s.
Interesting that it seems to be to most common stereotype now
Spot on. Women have always been seen as homemakers, but to actually stay in the home is a modern idea. Poor women worked in all sorts of jobs from the working in the fields, alongside their husbands with whatever he did, in factories, as maids, etc. Middle class was expected to work in their family’s or husband’s business, and ran their home like a mini version of upper class women running the estate. Upper class women where expected to run the estate which was no different than running a business with managing finances, hiring and firing staff, event planning, keeping up to date with people who were beneficial to her husband and sending them gifts so they maintained a good relationship, taking care of correspondence, etc. Regardless of class, women have always worked, so it makes no sense to me when people wanna act like the 50’s ideal has been the standard when it hasn’t.
This is a western phenomenon. In Soviet Russia women were rocket scientists while in America and western europe they were pretty much slaves
And that was only starting in the *mid* 1940s, since all through WW2 women were basically the *whole* workforce. People are idealizing a 20 year fluke, that was only available to the middle or higher class white people. Everyone else still had to work their asses off.
@user-iv1po3rr8g Married women did in fact work outside of the home. Maybe not in the upper classes but definitely in the working classes. If you look at Britain during the industrial revolution working class women had to work in order to provide for their families, since one wage was not enough. In fact they would often work in the same factories alongside their husbands. Before the industrial revolution most people men and women, married and unmarried worked from home. Because the economy was based around small family run business where male and female labour was done in the home or close to it.
The stay at home housewife who cooks, cleans and takes care of the home was an idealised construct created in the 50s. In was supposed to symbolism the American dream of the honest hardworking father and the doting obedient mother. But it was just a construct and did not represent the reality of most peoples lives up to that point.
Lol them forgetting birth control is used to treat chronic conditions like endometriosis, guess ill just go suffer
yeah like i first went on it at 14 because i was having bad period pain, i ultimately ended up coming off of it because it wasn’t very good for me but i will never ever judge someone for being on it because it can be amazing for people
I don’t even have endo but I just had generally awful periods, no underlying cause just unlucky. From 6th grade until 11th grade I had to miss at least one day of school every month or 2 because of periods making me almost pass out and birth control literally changed my life
"...and bearing children will be her greatest joy..." And what happens to her self worth when she ignores that ache in her side because she's too busy taking care of the home and putting every one but herself first, and her appendix bursts and they infection causes her to be infertile? What if she develops PCOS? Does she not deserve a greatest joy now?
In that case, the husband will ask for divorce, and leave her for a barely legal adult who can actually give him a bunch of babies who will never be vaxxed and might die of easily preventable diseases (ie. measles)
Her be like : sweety you cant play with blocks that is a boy thing you have to play pregnant house wife role with the man i assignet to you for marriege
Yeah exactly what if something went wrong ._.
@@esterfederico0906 STOPP THIS SHOULDN'T MAKE ME LAUGH IT'S JUST SAD.
XD hella messed up fr.@@lord_xylozdoomsday959
My mom is a “trad wife” by the standard of she’s a stay at home mom. But that being said, my mom is an educated woman (Masters & Bachelors) who does editing for my Dad’s friends so that she has a long resume incase anything ever happened to my father. My father is only 2 years older than her. Plus he put two of his businesses in her name incase anything happens to him, my mom owns the businesses legally.
Basically living in more traditional roles is fine, but make sure you are taken care of no matter what! These way older men marrying these young girls who take them away from education and opportunities do not love these women. They will leave them for someone younger or more subservient if you inconvenience them.
If you are a young girl reading my comments, you are allowed to enjoy domestic tasks or fulfilling more traditional roles…..just take care of yourself and focus on yourself!
Yeah there's nothing "traditional" about your mom..really shows how much of farce it all really is
The businesses in your mom's name is also a good financial decision. There are special business loans and grants just for woman owned businesses. In some states there's also tax benefits.
exactly, this is traditional but both parties care about each otyher. i feel women are afraid of one of the parties being asshole, its the real issue, not the role but the person you're with
Thank you for this message! And your mom is extremely lucky to have your dad, and vice versa! They seem to be a great match 😊😊❤❤If you don't mind me asking, how did your parents meet? I'm currently recovering from an awful relationship where my homeliness was taken advantage of, and don't want to repeat this mistake :\ I also have a Bachelors in Publishing/Editing btw! 😀 So high-five your mom for me if you can :)) @@alessandrajackson3768
It costs so much to raise a child now that the lower class will die out in 50 years
No. It’s pretty easy to live on a single income. You just have to make sacrifices for it.
In fact, the lower class you are, the easier it is.
@@rebchizelbeak5392does talking out of your rump hurt?
@@rebchizelbeak5392 how does it feel like to have mashed potatoes for a brain
@@rebchizelbeak5392 I really dont think the lower class you are the easier it is lmao
😬😬😬😬@@rebchizelbeak5392
the ex-mormon woman breaks my heart
I remember growing up in the church and one of the teachers (who was a man) said women’s job essentially was to have kids, you can live life and have a job but it’s “in gods plan for women to have children” and I asked what if I don’t want kids and he was like “you’ll never know what’ll happen haha” and then I asked what about women who can’t have kids or don’t want them and all he said was god has a plan. This was when I was 12 that kind of ideology is horrible for younger women
Actually God will call upon the right people and choose whether or not they should bare children. Its not even expected for women to have children from our Lord and Savior, just misogynistic men ❤@gingersnapz0374
Religion sucks
@@gingersnapz0374 Trueee. Now if someone wants kids that's their choice. And does this person know adoption exists lol
@@gingersnapz0374 yup ive heard it many times in my catholic school years. its just propaganda honestly. im glad to have been rebellious and a proud sinner. im never having children, i decided when i still went there. have not changed my mind, but have become more certain since. when people ask how i know i wont change my mind (cuz everyone wants them eventually), i just tell them how i like my freedom and having a child would feel like prison in my body and my soul. and that i cant wait to be away from these pricks once i get to hell 😂
Don't forget about the Mormon side of it...
And the abusive one as well.
@OfficerZ637can we all report this account? Officer Z here is bragging about being sexual violent to minors.
@OfficerZ637 oh look, a troll. Don't bother translating, this "dude" says pedophilic shit
It does get annoying when no one talks about the religious aspect because it could “offend” too many when it’s the basis for half their trad wife arguments, doing what god told them and shit
Trad wife stuff is practically like being mormon
The trad wife life style just seems like one of those things where on the surface it seems nice but then if you dig deeper, its not like what the 5 ones living the good life online. There is ALWAYS a catch to it.
On top of it, being a homemaker doesn't pay and you're always on the clocks especially if you have babies
It's like cottagecore aesthetic showing blossoms and reading in frilly dresses, makeup and done nails, frollicking in the fields and never the hardcore backbreaking sweat weeding gardens, seemingly never ending harvest, cleaning the dirt, poop, blood. Having to always stay around animals to keep up with their routine milking and feeding. I grew up in Amish farm and know firsthand it's not all sunshine, but also dedication that limits your mobility, lifestyle flexibility and by extension career options (only local or from home). It has its charm but is definitely not for everyone.
Social media only presents the rare pretty side of things and never the risks, negatives, daily grind. Tradwife content is basically "girls don't poop and fart butterflies and rainbows". It's unrealistic, extremely risky (men are 6 times more likely to leave their sick partners) and unhealthy, leaving you hanging on other person's complete mercy. It would make more sense if they promoted some tradwife communes where these women lived together, split chores and grew their homemade foods while earning from home or something. After all, the "trad" way is having support of the village/extended family so they're not just spit out barefoot in the street when their man is done playing with them. "Blindly trust men" is the worst message you can give to a girl, even Disney knows better nowadays 😂
Because it is a grift you don't see these women in there fancy dresses cleaning a dirty floor with children fighting in the background and cleaning the puke of a sick toddler while they are crying because they pooped.
This is just again rich people playing dress-up and ignoring the not so fun parts of that lifestyle
@@juliaboskamp9666 Yup it's like Marie Antoinette's fake hired rustic village where she hanged out for aesthetic and chill but always went back to luxurious lifestyle at the end of the day. You see tradwives commonly come from other failed ventures and stuck with this because it sells. And their husband is usually no simple farmer either, so they can sit at home all dolled up and roleplay a Disney princess, no stress. Betcha they'll drop the tradlife the moment it gets boring for the audience and stops making bank. Sad for the women who buy into it though. No safety net or guarantees.
When you think about it, "tradwife" they sell never really existed. Maybe on some pinup soap advertisement poster, but never in reality. Women either worked in farms just as hard with big support systems or were rich and had hired help while they pursued intellectual and cultural interests. It's ridiculous to expect women raise kids alone or aspire to be lobotomized doormats. What if husband dies or leaves and she has NOTHING to support the kids or herself? What wisdom is she imparting her kids if she dismisses education or hard work? Doesn't sound like a dream after all.
@OfficerZ637this account needs reporting. It braggs about violating children.
The 1950s weren’t as ideal as they seemed to be on TV
Agreed. The news lied just as much as today, but we just didn’t know it.
But we did have actual strong families on a single income.
What they don’t tell you is women controlled the income. They were the ones that spent the money. They had power.
It was normal for men to beat and degrade their wives and the women didn't have a choice to just leave. That's why feminism was invented in the first place.
if u watch tv from back there there are literal commercials that permote abusive behavior towards women it was so creepy how normalized miss treating women was back then 😅
@@rebeccamcguire2798 THE FACT IT STILL HAPPENS THOUGH (I mean, to a much lesser degree nowadays, BUT STILL.)
media : natality is decreasing, why anyone wants to live like in old times????
old times : @@rebeccamcguire2798
I personally do believe that there are loyal men out there. But the thing is even if he is a loyal devoted husband, he's still a human and not immune to death. You CAN still end up being a widow without a backup plan!
I hate how people still don't understand "empowerment" when it comes to women dressing themselves a certain way.. dressing "provocatively" and sleeping around is not the empowering part, the empowering part is being able to CHOOSE to dress how we want and do what we want, seeing as, we, as woman, were looked down on for dressing certain ways in the past, therefore, it is empowering to get to choose what we do
I despise the discourse around that because it always comes down to men saying “women objectify themselves” as justification for how men degrade, debase, and devalue us. No, what you think about someone else based on how they dress is YOUR PROBLEM.
My mom was a trad mom, married my dad, got 3 kids. 6 month ago, my dad left, we learned that he cheated on my mom since my sister wasn't even born (2010) and is now with that woman he cheated with. She now works from 7am to 9pm all week long, I will have to help her with the buisness once I'm 19 because I took a break from education for my mental health. This quite literally fucked up her entire life as she stopped her studies for my dad and he did not care about her, he literally told her that the reason he stayed so long with her was to take care of his kids (which btw he wasn't, he was making money by selling cigarettes and sometime drugs illegally to his friends or friends of friends, something I learned literally 2 weeks ago) I'm 17 and is now basically charged with helping my mom later. My mom was brainwashed into thinking that she wasn't autistic, that she wasn't bisexual and that she was just in need of a man when what she probably need is help.
Sending much love and strength to you and your family. 🥺❤️❤️
@JuicyUTTPwhy did you copy the comment?
@@SAJK0KAT Do not worry, my grandma is now my dad and she gives me the famous "grandma candies" and tbh I would pick that over someone giving weed to a pregnant friend
@@Keira303 forgot to post it in the comments and just posted in reply by accident probably
@@El_chara oh wait! I just realized that this account is part of the UTTP! They're a bunch of trolls basically
I personally prefer calming Jasmine tea, but I would never bring down a person who doesn't like Jasmine tea but prefers Earl Gray.
I like eating an obscene amount of food and now I'm morbidly obese. But I would never force other people to copy my way of life, it's their life, and there is no wrong way to live your lives!!!
As long as I'm, everything should be alright.
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No one taught that woman that “Abortions are no big deal”. Anyone against abortions surely doesn’t think that, and every pro choice person that I have spoken to understands that it is an extremely difficult thing to go through.
Exactly. No one is pro abortion - we are pro choice & it's none of anyone else's business. It's freaking medical care.
They claim they want life like it was back in 1930, but with all the rights and freedoms they didn't have to fight for. Some peoples logic is so twisted I don't understand. Don't you want the option?
Like back then, you were completely at the whims of a man who could turn on you at any second and leave you with literally nothing, he could abuse you and you couldn't leave because where would you go? You were helpless, if you needed something you had to ask your husband, and if he didn't want to, then.
Do you wanna go through the woman's suffrage movement again? Because I don't, it's hard enough keeping what we have now and we are loosing more and more by the day.
Just because there are other options, does it mean a woman shouldn't be staying at home and caring for only our family if that is exactly what she wants?
@@EasyNaturalLivingYES SHE CAN IF THAT IS WHAT SHE WANTS .....NO PROBLEM WITH THAT
You know what's wrong though ....It's that y'all never support women who get the worse end of the stick like women who get replaced by younger women
YALL NEVER FINANCIALLY SUPPORT WOMEN WHO ARE LEFT BY MEN WITHOUT NOTHING .
THESE WOMEN HAVE TO GO TO WOMWN SHELTERS RUN BY WORKING WOMWN WHO YOU SHIT ON
@@EasyNaturalLiving You still missed the point. What op is saying here is that, these tradwives seem like they want to go back to a period in time, where they had no rights at all. Where men are going to control everything they do.
@@EasyNaturalLivingBaby nobodys saying that she can't stay at home if she wants. The whole rule of feminism is you having a choice and doing what you want. She is EXERCISING that choice by choosing a trad life, instead of it being forced onto her without an opinion (even if she wants it). My only problem is when these people trash other women for making a different CHOICE and following what makes them happy.
@@cocobeanzzzzz okay thx, I agree
that poor divorced woman living in her car with children… thank gd i broke up with my mormon ex boyfriend because his mormon faith was leading him the same way! he was definitely trying to convert me in… decided 6 months in we were getting married and having kids (mind you were in high school.) he was extremely manipulative and wouldn’t let me leave him for a while.
that could have been me..
Another aspect of the trad-wife issue that very rarely gets talked about is what happens even after they live their whole lives as a housewife and eventually outlive their husbands. As someone who works in finance, we get daily newsletters about recent financial legal cases. And literally every day there's a new story about yet another widow that got left holding the bag after her husband of decades passed away. Just today, there was a story about a woman that left the caretaking of the finances to her husband. Once he passed, the IRS came after her for years and years worth of unpaid taxes and income from a foreign bank account she didn't even know about.(Yes, you do have to report foreign bank accounts on an FBAR). She eventually appealed as an Innocent Spouse but that took years worth of back and forth court hearings, mountains of paperwork, and of course money, that a woman past her 70s, living on Social Security, can hardly afford. That's a pretty hefty bag left for her to hold after decades spent sacrificing her entire adult life dedicated to her family. It's disgusting how common these cases really are.
these girls aren't the brightest and would rather live in their delusions by watching aeathetically pleasing videos and not look at reality@@DianaParisi-qb2bm
My worry with single income households, always, is what happens to the stay at home spouse if the main breadwinner dies or gets debilitated.
Yep! ALL OF THIS! It’s so precarious for no reason. Also since they’re both providing labor for the sake of the household to function in a manner I hope they both agreed to, they need equal access to the funds and agreement on the budget.
they have other guys ready to date them and provide for them
It doesn't even have to go that far. The power goes out, while the other spouse is out of town (unreachable) and the stay at home spouse can't even talk to the power company about it because their name isn't on the account. They move to a new apartment and the stay at home spouse can't vote in the election because she has no ID or bill that has her new address on it. She has trouble getting an ID in a new state because she has no proof of her current address because everything is in his name. She's not even on the bank account. So she can't even report the loss of the debit card.
It's the woman's responsibility to make sure they have joint bank accounts and her name is in every document, premarital documents regarding money and allowance amount should be signed by both sides @@elaexplorer
or just abandons them or is an asshole
"I used to be involved in politics but now I just let my husband tell me what to believe"
Bruh before women could vote, it was common for the wives to tell the husband how to vote. And after they could vote too.
I hate existing in this world
Finally someone who relates.
girl me too i wish i could be a rock floating in outer space
me and you both. People get dumber every single day
This world would be much better if it wasn't for the economic system (cR@p!-_tal-_ism).
Always remember that influencers are putting on a show the way actors rehearse lines for the camera. None of it is real, and influencers always edit out the bad parts of their life. In the case of trad wife influencers... none of them are going to talk about how their husband is rarely at home and/or their own personal frustration at having to be their husband's surrogate mother
It has always been like that. It is not traditional, it's privileged.
All the women in my family have always been working. We are from the countryside, everyone works. Even children would work if their parents needed them
literally
You can't _teach_ your child what _their_ joy is. What if she just doesn't like that stuff
I don’t understand how quickly people are going back to the trad wife lifestyle I mean I am gen z and I saw my mother being a trad wife and suffering immensely from it. That’s where my drive to work and make my own money began because I couldnt stand the thought of having to ask a man for money or allowance so I can have a little treat like a kid as you said. It’s crazy how quickly people seem to forget these things.
I think a lot of it has to do with "the grass is always greener" type mentality of people. There's a lot of misery and happiness on both sides of that fence. I actually think our society could benefit from dialing back a little and promoting somewhat of a traditional lifestyle, just not as extreme as some of the videos. However, it's important to improve upon whatever worked in the past and tweak it to make it better, rather than flat out copying it verbatim. If that makes sense.
when they hate on people who use birth control, but some of us don't even take it for s3x-
some of us have menstrual related illnesses or chronic pain that it helps alleviate symptoms of, genuinely-
In my country (I read in the comments) the pharmacist sold other medicines because her "Religious feelings" were more important than the prescription, yes, this person used this medicine because of periods (As I remember), unfortunately, pro-lifers are the worst
Or some of us don't like to have a period 😕
im glad in spain is illegal so if the pharmacy has a religious owner then gets screwed and thats it. Stop with the nonsense fr@@gryficowa
@@gryficowa that's.. that's terrifying
@@Dosborreguitosssss that too!!
That Mormon lady’s story pissed me off 😢
Sis didn’t even have an account to even save “just in case” I’m fuming for her. Her ex husband wouldn’t even have a six figure profit if not for her.
I’ve been a stay at home mom for almost 5 years, childcare costed more than I was making per month so it just didn’t make financial sense for me to work. I wouldn’t call myself a trad wife, there is nothing luxurious about my life. I am a dependent. If there were ever a case where I needed to leave, I would not be able to. I have no support system, no family, no friends, and my husband works 50+ hour weeks. I am incredibly lonely. My children are my only source of joy.
It's sad that actual trad wives don't have real husbands. And these social media "trad wives" need to get over themselves because not everyone is gonna want to be like them. And not telling her daughter that she can be independent is gonna leave her with a shit ton of issues in the future. And that woman claiming she's a trad wife when she literally has a job as a model is not a trad wife, she literally has a career that she can fall back on if something were to happen to her husband 😭
And it always baffles me how some men will want a women who depends on him in the relationship. But when she actually does, he gets annoyed or bored and leaves her??? I feel so much sympathy for the women who got left behind with their children
It gets worse because a lot of fake tradwives chase after men who aren't even traditional!
Such men want the fantasized version of a 1950s trad wife. A pretty young woman wearing pearls and heels as she does housework and cares for 2-4 children. Ready to greet him with a perfectly clean house, homecooked dinner, and martini when he gets home from his 9-5 job
i wasted my teen and 20's .. being trad.. not because i wanted .. because it was piled and thrown at me the responsability .. cousin got into an accident.. . grandma fell and need a caretaker... mom got sick .. auntie got a new child .. leave them all to debora to care for them ~She got a duty to the family..
time passed... parents died.. my health is ruined.. and now i'm 34 learning how to live for myself for the first time ever..
the first hing i did was going NC with my entire family... i got peace.. but nothing else.. i'm finally free.. but it feels so painful to look back and realize that i was a "good daughter" .. and because of that i got NOTHING... the dreams i had before.. are constant reminders of my failure... and I failed myself...
Still~ i'm only 34... my life started late.. its not the end of the world yet... and i want to live .. and i will.. i have to ..
Best luck to u bud❤stay strong there!!
I never bought into this nonsense I love having my own money beautifully said. I don't think these women are really happy. If they where then they wouldn't put down other women.
In a family, you share money.
Don’t be one of those women that buy a dog and die alone.
@@rebchizelbeak5392 Hey, shit for brains, so fucking what? Have you ever asked yourself that?
@@rebchizelbeak5392 what? A woman isn't gonna die alone for buying a dog lmao. If you can't phathom not dying alone when you don't have a family, I'm so sorry for how lonely you are. People have friends, relatives. So many people marry and spawn kids and die alone anyways. Let her buy a dog and live happily. Surely she's gonna die happier than the people spawning kids they don't want only out of fear and societal pressure.
@@rebchizelbeak5392 I'd literally rather die alone.
@@rebchizelbeak5392not your dog, not your concern. Better live with a dog than with traditional men. This called freedom. My life, my choices and my consequences. Your life life, your choices, your consequences.
Tiktok has so many gates being kept that you can't attempt to open one without crashing into another
Stopping 5 Yr olds from saying “first”
Doing gods work fr
why are five year olds on a video about trad wife tiktok ⁉️
@@fluttermorpyou'd be surprised
unfunny.
@@bos.tonblueikr
a lot of people don’t realize that here in america a lot of our grandmothers LEGALLY weren’t allowed to have their own bank accounts and many disabled people are financially bound to their often abusive caregivers by force, so the fact that people are willingly choosing this lifestyle just shows how ignorant they are to the negative aspects of it
These men are cold-blooded, you give your all to get thrown aside. Same with a 9 to 5 but at least you get paid while they use you.😢
The saddest thing is hearing stories from women who's husband's left them for someone younger after all those sacrifices.
As someone who was raised LDS/Mormon (and, yes, it's a cult; it may be a bigger, somewhat more benign cult, but it's a cult nonetheless, especially if you live in Utah like I do) and who rejected the whole "wife/homemaker/mother" thing fairly early on, stuff like this makes me feel all sorts of icky.
I actually had a working mother, though she primarily worked from home. I don't know if that made the difference, but as far back as I can remember, I wanted a to be a mid-level practitioner. A career that would require a pretty heavy education commitment. So the thought of just giving all of that up to be a housewife pretty quickly became untenable for me.
That, along with being mixed race black in Utah County, Utah, pretty quickly made me an outsider and the odd man out.
One thing I heard a lot was, "You'll change your mind when you meet the right guy."
Nope.
Or, "A career won't fulfill you like being a wife and mother."
Nope.
The Mormon family I know, the husband forced his wife to get a degree so she could work more so they could have more money coming in. Of course she also had to pop out and care for the kids. At least they’re still together ???? But listening to her talk, she’s just doesn’t sound as happy as she always claims she is.
slay i love the intro in the bathroom-
Anyways, I honestly find it almost a bit sad that these delusional young men who could have an amazing future are sucked in by other men who think they can have a trad wife and also do nothing for them and their family. It’s unrealistic and almost disturbing.
It's also ironic how the type of guys who idolize the tradwife lifestyle always seem to forget that it takes a LOT of money to maintain that kind of household. Also since your wife isn't working all her expenses are also to be paid for.
And these guys are usually the type to call women "gold diggers" just bc they find it too expensive to take her on dates
A real trad husband does a shit ton for his family…
@@aeoligarlic4024 I've seen some men who said they wanted a "tradwife" or told other men to also said they wanted wives to have a wage job too. And to always look pretty and never worn out. Plus, they said they didn't want to help tend the home.
@@aeoligarlic4024 fr.. life isn’t free, and it doesn’t revolve around you. a good family will take LOTS of money, hard work, and time.
@@user-gu9yq5sj7c that is honestly sad. if they didn’t know, all humans are HUMANS and not robots. it’s also sad because if they really do want a partner but they keep that unhealthy thought, they will probably never get one, or it will fail miserably.
These are the same people that view sex work negatively, but it’s as if that’s the same life they are choosing. Just one reallyyyy long customer💀
I always say that the only difference between the 2 is that se* worker consents to it 😅
I come from a family of immigrants(my mom came here with her family at 6) and my grandpa has an interesting perspective.
He wanted his daughters to know how to be self sufficient enough so they don’t have to rely on anyone. Self sufficient meaning a decent paying job/career and life skills such as cooking or changing tires. After all that, they can choose whatever they wanna do(work full time, be a stay at home mom, housewife, etc) his point is that he wants to make sure that even if we chose to be a housewife or something and it goes wrong, we can leave and not worry about basic living things. He wants us to be able to get out of that lifestyle if we want whenever we want with little to no hassle. It’s interesting perspective because most Latino immigrant families I come across don’t think like this.
Countless lives of women lost and sacrificed for women to have basic human rights in a civilised society and we have come to this. How shameful.
You literally can choose this for yourself and be happy with it. It's fine. Just don't force it on other women. Don't pull other women down to make yourself feel better.
Nah .....I wanna know why y'all Trad wives never help those women left in financial destitute by their husbands ..why aren't y'all running Trad wives shelters??? Why are the donations coming from working women and not y'all ???
my cousin is a SAHM/housewife, she's lucky her husband earns enough to support that lifestyle and is happy to have her be a SAHM. However she is not a "tradwife" because she's not on social media spouting all this nonsense or trying to be a bloody influencer. She's just a normal person living her life, raising her kids. She also doesn't believe every woman should be doing what she does. I do feel a bit sorry for regular SAHMs/housewives who are just chilling and don't want to be associated with this tradwife malarky. But not really because they're very lucky to be able to do that! I'm sure most couples would like the arrangement of one being the breadwinner and one staying home to take care of the kids, but sadly most couples/parents simply can't afford to do that.
My mother told me I didn’t need school, that being a mum and wife was all I needed.
I was partway through my Bachelor of Nursing at Monash, where I was getting HD’s, and never got anything below 85%… only to follow my mothers wishes, quit uni, get married and have babies. I swore up and down that my husband loved me so much he would never do anything to hurt me….then he cheated on me after baby #3 because I was so sick, and couldn’t look after him the way he needed me to. I’m now in my 40’s, and work retail. I love my kids, and I cannot imagine a life without them in it…but I teach them balance. You can be a great mum, and you can also have a career…isn’t easy? No…but it’s possible. One of my daughter has said she doesn’t want children, and rather than cry and scream like my mother would have done, I support her decision.
Seeing women force the trad wife lifestyle onto their daughters makes me so incredibly upset. Yes, they can be a wonderful wife who loves to bake, and maybe even pop out a child or two…but they also need an education. They deserve the right to choose for themselves.
You never think the worst will happen to you, until it does.
My great-grandmother was a from the time the original tradwife came from and let me say women wanted rights for a reason
She had 16 pregnancys (including my grandma and her little sister) lost 20 babies (she had some twins and triplets) before she got my grandma and her husband abused her. She had to lock herself up in my grandma and little sister room for more than a year to prove she didn't sleep in the same room as him and then had to show prove he was a abuser because no fault divorced wasn't a thing.
She was one of the lucky women that got a divorce (one of the first in my country) she ended up married to a other guy because that is what you did back then and her ex died later when my grandma was 7 because he was also a addict
why does she look good in every video what
Ik! (Also homestuck pfp hehe)
shes excellent at her craft!
As a woman raised in disfunctional family (narcisstic father alcoholic & weak, dependent mother doing everything to satisfy him) I have strong trust issues and I've never been in any relationship. I cannot understand how some women want to live in total dependency to their partners. So many things can go wrong
They don’t understand that in fact if a man will want to cheat on them or be abusive they can’t leave because he is the only person that earns money and has a job so they are depending on him
That's the one part they don't acknowledge and that's one of the reasons why feminism became a thing. The whole point of feminism was so women can be treated fairly, have a voice and have more opportunities. Women in the 1900s-1950s didn't have rights. Women didn't have the choice to leave their abusive husbands. Now we can do that
they have no choice but to put up with the abuse . either the abuser dies or the children stand up . that’s why divorce rates are low in muslim countries
These kinds of people always say feminism is evil because 'what if women CHOOSE to be a housewife?"
If it was all about choice, these women would not be teaching their daughters that being a housewife is the only option lol
TikTok was an absolute mistake of an app at this point.
The thing is, men who are interested or invested in this lifestyle often hold deeply misogynistic views. Including views about devaluing older women and predating on younger ones. Ideas that women shouldnt work at all, not recognizing it as a valid choice. And men like that leave their partners for younger women all the time. It's a shame these women were blindsided by it, but objectively it makes sense.
In a healthy partnership, tradewife type lifestyles are totally possible. Keyword, healthy. Two adults who respect each other and genuinely care for the others wellbeing. But these relationships where the man genuinely doesn't want the woman to work are entirely toxic, often cultured by organized religion into perfect lil trad-bots going out to spread the gospel and raise more lil trad-bots to continue the horrors into the next generation...
(All respect to anyone religious, religion and faith can be beautiful, but they can also be the weapons arming abusers and enabling their actions. All disrespect to abusers and misogynists lol)
How much y'all wanna bet those other women those husbands leaving their wives for are the ones they met at the workplace...
My favorite part of this whole “trad wife” influencer movement is exactly what you said here. You’re not really a trad wife because you are making an income from your social media. Where does that money go? Is that his money? Because a real Traditional wife would turn over ALL earnings to the husband. Do they do that? It’s a farce.
I am horrified by the poor womans church leadership who said that. That is not accurate to what is taught, and it is disgusting when people pretend misogyny is a life path. Wanting to be able to stay home and take care of kids can be a goal for any man/woman but I have always been taught to be able to take care of myself. What if you get married and your partner dies? Being able to provide for your family is the parents job, meaning BOTH need to be able to hold a job if the need arose. UGH this entire trend makes me so mad. Being able to choose to work or stay at home is FEMINISM because you get to CHOOSE what you WANT to do as a woman. OR A MAN HAVING THAT CHOICE.
Great video as usual. Thank you.
This is unrelated but this applies to literally ANY abusive relationship. Parental abuse tends to keep their children stuck for longer because they take their child's money or prevent them from getting any. To make you dependant on them to survive
It WILL trap you, because if you can't afford anything, you can't leave. I wasn't able to save up and leave at 18 like I wanted to
Financially depending over someone especially a man scares me 🤩
Society went from only respecting tradwives to ALMOST respecting carrierfocused women and now back to only "respecting" tradwives wtf
SAHM‘s get exactly zero respect. Just like career women.
SAHM = lazy
Work for pay = neglectful parent
Child free = selfish
You can’t win
"America, what is so bad about wanting to be a doormat for a man? I thought it was my body, my choice."
Golly that make me lol 😆
It's like the whole "How to be successful" scam lists.
1: Wake up early
2: Do stuff
3: Enjoy things
4: Other macguffins
5: Have 19 servants
6: Have white privilege
7: Inherent a house
8: Shower
9: Eat one salad at some time
10: Be born a millionaire
I’d be happy to stay home and cook and clean all day as long as I get to work from home. I’m working on becoming a nail tech so if I were to marry a guy who wanted me to be a housewife, I’d only do it if I was able to make my own money while at home and I have a separate account for said money. Otherwise, screw that
I have a WFH job that is pretty flexible. I do a lot of cooking and cleaning during my workday also have a bakery business. It's a good compromise
“But MY husband is different! He wont leave me because IM special and better then you guys!” Okay Suzy but what happens to you if he dies?
What if he gets sick / injured and cant work anymore? What if he gets laid off? Like even if hes a good man who would never ever leave you. He could get hurt, or sick, or laid off or yes die. What then?
Protect yourself and your family by being able and ready to work. Not because you should live in fear but because you never know what kind of cards life is going to hand you.
this whole trad wife trend is for the red pill men
I was raised with the mindset of “everyone should be able to take care of themselves alone, especially women.” And I’m so glad for that. People leave. It happens. People die, become disabled, etc. It happens. Why rely on someone else for everything and not have the ability to take up the mantle of things change?!
My boyfriend and I plan to live together with an agreement that I will work, and he will live a comfortable life at home. He doesn’t like work and it stresses him out, he also enjoys just taking care of me, and I’m completely happy doing work and shopping for us. If he ever wants to work, I’ll obviously be fine with that. It’s his life, and all I want is for him to be happy. If staying at home makes him happy, then he can do that.
But controlling someone and making them stay home and treating them like they’re less than human, and that their only purpose is to take care of you? That’s despicable.
Your husband is a loser and he is taking advantage of you lol
I believe the “husband thinking for me” one is a fetish actually
This is why being a Tradwife on 18 to early 20s is dangerous, because these men can easily take disadvantage on these young girls, because the more you put your own life to others, the more you'll regret it
i just feel so disgusted with the mom teaching her daughter to be dependent on some man who might leave her for someone 'hotter'. the poor girl isn't going to grow up with any sort of indepence in her, and i've just got a feeling that the mom is actually abusive. setting your kids up for failure is wrong and (sort of?) abusive.
You wanna be a trad wife? Go for it. Wanna have a career? Go for it. Wanna do something else? Go for it. Just don’t be an asshole to other people. Feminism is the right to choose what you want to. At the end of the day just be a decent human being
I’m a woman. I refuse to rely on anyone financially. There’s more to life than having kids and being a stay home maid and doormat. I’d rather make my own money and buy myself a car than rely on a man to do it all for me
They forgot the part where they have to be quiet😂
In times like these, I feel incredibly lucky that I have parents who love each other and share responsibilities around the house.
I’m a stay at home mom and every time I’m mainly known as a tradwife I cringe. I feel that people lump traditional families into a specific image which doesn’t apply to everyone. I chose to stay home for the convenience of saving money on daycare and transportation. My husband loves to cook while I don’t, so I help him with the kitchen clean up. I’m nowhere opposed to getting a job. I often ask my kids what they want to be when they grow up. Kids have opinions too, so it’s better to actually let them carve out their thoughts for themselves. Also, I love my obgyn clinic filled with professional female staff, amazing female RNs when I was in Labor & Delivery, and much more. By rejecting career women, we reject ourselves
I literally was this person I had no résumé, no education, no bank account except the joint one which don’t you dare spend too much ever on groceries or anything. And when I left, I had to live off welfare and then eventually got my bus license all on my own.. if it wasn’t for the women’s Shelter, I would’ve been completely screwed. I really could go but seriously have your own money.
The intro was a jumpscare 💀
As someone who grew up with a single mother practically. My parents are divorced and my biological father doesn't pay child support a lot like he's supposed to. I spent my early years living with my grandparents, mom and brother. I remember my mom always going to work and getting dropped off at a daycare by my grandfather. It was a struggle until my mom decided to move in with her boyfriend. It was an eight year relationship. I spent all of my elementary school with this man and thought of him as a dad, even called him it. Then one day I found out they broke up in early middle school and that we're finding a place to live. My mom lost a lot, since she was very much dependent on him and they weren't married. I went from living in a house to a two bedroom condo my grandfather owns. My mom literally sleeps in the area where the living room is supposed to be so me and my brother can have a room for ourselves. I've watched men influence her in bad ways. Even now with her fiance, he's transphobic and I fear even telling anyone the fact I'm not cis. Which is why I want to get into a job that won't make me financially dependent on someone. Because I don't want to get effed over like mom.
My mom is a "trad wife" to a fundamentalist xtian abuser. I ran away at age 18, and had the one family member I still communicate with disclose the rampant s3xual and psychological abuse that i went through from ages 3-18. She talked to a lawyer and realized that to leave him would mean leaving my younger siblings with him. She homeschools them, so she can't just up and leave, and he won't let her just put them back in public school. She and my younger siblings are stuck. She has no work experience for almost 15 years now, no bank account of her own. Nothing.
you should earn lots of money and take care of your siblings and mom . if you are living in a common law state help your mother take your father to court . take your father to court for the abuse you suffered
@rowenaravenclaw3483 thank you, I'm trying. It's not a common law state anymore and I'm across the country right now, but I'm trying
When he leaves you, you're in deep trouble. Don't put your life in someone else's hands.
TRUUUUEEEEE
WAKE UP, THE KWEEN POSTED.
I was scrolling like 30 minutes ago wishing there was a new video and boom dream came true! ❤
This lifestyle could only work if they are with this upstanding, compassionate and dedicated, loving man that takes care of everything outside the home without help and has the moral compass and intuition that would make them seem almost all knowing.
I’m sure a man like this exists somewhere but it’s a lot to put on one person, just like all the responsibilities expected of a trad wife being a trad husband sounds impossible. But if these men exist how are you gonna find them? Because all the men I see promoting this are whiney, spoiled children that expect to be taken care of at home without any responsibilities to give back in their way with financial security and a stable home and the assuredness that if things don’t work out he will still care for the kids financially and the mother until she can get skills outside the home. These guys would leave their entire family high and dry if they find something else that catches their attention for even a second.
Trad life is imitating a time that never truly existed. My grandparents raised me and they met in the 50s. It wasn’t even like this then, my mamaw went to collage and had the skills to support herself and the family when my papaw fell victim to his PTSD from his childhood, the Korean War and Vietnam for years. He finally dug himself out when I was born but while I have questions about why they stayed together through that, I do get it, they still didn’t portray those so called traditional values. If they did, the family would have collapsed completely when my papaw started on the bottle. But where he fell Mamaw came through and then when I was born to a teen mom, my papaw raised me at home while my mamaw worked and my mom was trying to find her own way in life.
Flexibility is necessary in life. And trad roles don’t allow that.
This is insane to me. My parent told me to be independent, think for myself, control my bodily autonomy, and have a job. They told me not to change for anyone. And if I chose to never get married or have kids or date or be in any kind of relationship, that is my choice. And if I were to be a stay at home mom, you BET I'd have my own bank account and thoughts. My heart breaks for these women who have been sold a "fantasy". And too often, they learn too late.
This whole trad wife thing feels icky to me. I want pursue my own dreams and I can't see myself being a homemaker knowing there's so much more to life
being a young disabled woman is very hard as i can not work right now and my parents tell me i need to find a well off husband that can support me
i wish you the best of luck
Maybe your husband never leaves you for another person but he can fall sick and is never able to work or even worse: passes away.
'I don't care how bad you wanna skin yourself to make into a coat for your husband' LMAOO
My parents are like that. My mom almost never worked (sometimes when we were older she would have a part time job). And my dad got to tell her how much money she could spend on groceries or gas or an outing with us kids. I watched that and decided when I was a teenager that no man would ever have that kind of power over me. I did get divorced in my 20s and while it was a bit of a struggle, I was so thankful to still be able to take care of my children. I tell every teenage girl that I can to never rely on a man.
This is so dangerous for young people. All it takes is a quick little divorce or breakup to leave you and your kids with nothing 😭. Also parents who teach their kids to be dependent on their husband and sold off to the highest bidder are those girls' first gr00mers/@busers. Its unhealthy and terrible. Also it's just unrealistic to support a family on a single income. Also the slvt shaming is disgusting, if pr3gnancy's an issue the guy should get a v@sectomy! Absolutely horrible seeing people misuse religion to justify this.
The other thing is even if your husband is absolutely perfect and would never leave you what if he dies? What if he gets hit by a car or something and dies or can’t work and leaves you with no income? In some cases you can get a bunch of money from suing someone, sure, but you can’t be certain that would work.