Former people pleaser here, reformed along with sobriety 1/5/22….I couldn’t agree with you more about not needing everyone to like you or ending that date with a guy who doesn’t check all your boxes. This was great lady and I enjoy your content so keep going! 💜✌🏻
Can't wait to get to this level. Started my healing/unlearning journey beginning of this yr, recently took to decision to quit drinking and its been bumpy but I know it's for tge best
I got to a point as a former people pleaser where I was like “I really don’t like you so I am not going to sit here and pretend like I do.” When I reached that point in my life, life became so much easier.
I love how you found to stop being a people pleaser. For me it was with 18, when I realized that I work my ass off trying to make the cool kids like me and it still didn't work. Not only did it not work, they always found something to talk shit about me. And after that one night, when they made me run home crying, I officially started to let my hate against them out. They no longer had control over me and I used my energy to find out what I like and who I am.
*Anna’s done it again. I swear, if I liked women and I met Anna in the city, I would tie her down so fast (given, she liked women as well lol). I am a recovering people pleaser myself. I also rarely drink, and I mean RARELY, like maybe twice or 3 times a year, but I have family that constantly pressures me to drink when I’m around them. While I don’t really budge, i think family pressures a really awesome topic that your Biddies would LOVE to hear you talk about! We love you Anna!*
You just mentioned Christina Aguilera and my jaw actually dropped! I ADORE her and I love you (new fan over the past few months) and it felt like my two world colliding perfectly ❤. Knew I liked you!!
I’ve been following you on Instagram for a while and I’m just finding your RUclips channel!! I haven’t even watched yet but I’m so excited to binge all of your videos 🥰
Recovering people pleaser 8 months into an unwanted divorce, telling the new friend I randomly met up with who I would have never had the courage to meet pre-separation, "you have to watch this lady named Anna Kai" and sending her your videos. Learning that I have value outside of who wants me. Learning that it's okay if people don't want me. And hopefully buying myself a couple nice things along the way. Thank you again, Anna, for lighting the path.
So true, most people even before 25 have baggage 😂 I meeean, just look at social media for kids these days and the influence of certain media, plus most people have some level of dysfunctional family lives, or are bullied or whatever … so when they say baggage it’s so weird to me. I had more baggage at 18 than I do at 36 - because now I also have the resources to try and work through it
This was such a great video! Highly enjoyed it and it’s calming to listen to you! I recently got broken up after he made me wait for him to be sure about if he wants me as a partner in his life. Ultimately he told me he’s found himself a new girl and he’s very happy. I know where my mistakes were (eg letting myself be treated like this) but yet I feel hurt and insecure and look out for my failure rather than his… any advice?
I loved this video and I love your Instagram content! I have two questions for a future video: how effective do you think dating apps are? And which apps would you recommend?
Former people pleaser here, reformed along with sobriety 1/5/22….I couldn’t agree with you more about not needing everyone to like you or ending that date with a guy who doesn’t check all your boxes. This was great lady and I enjoy your content so keep going! 💜✌🏻
You're almost at one year!! Congrats biddie
Can't wait to get to this level. Started my healing/unlearning journey beginning of this yr, recently took to decision to quit drinking and its been bumpy but I know it's for tge best
I found you on tiktok. But I love these long form videos more! You’re like an internet sister 😍🥰
I got to a point as a former people pleaser where I was like “I really don’t like you so I am not going to sit here and pretend like I do.” When I reached that point in my life, life became so much easier.
Life gets better when we give less f*cks
I love how you found to stop being a people pleaser. For me it was with 18, when I realized that I work my ass off trying to make the cool kids like me and it still didn't work. Not only did it not work, they always found something to talk shit about me. And after that one night, when they made me run home crying, I officially started to let my hate against them out. They no longer had control over me and I used my energy to find out what I like and who I am.
*Anna’s done it again. I swear, if I liked women and I met Anna in the city, I would tie her down so fast (given, she liked women as well lol). I am a recovering people pleaser myself. I also rarely drink, and I mean RARELY, like maybe twice or 3 times a year, but I have family that constantly pressures me to drink when I’m around them. While I don’t really budge, i think family pressures a really awesome topic that your Biddies would LOVE to hear you talk about! We love you Anna!*
Oh my god you openned my eyes, I am dating a guy who I have NO chemistry with, just because he never did anything bad to justify my leaving...
Please start a podcast, I'm obsessed with you queen ❤
Yes! Or a video podcast!
I never write comments… however, I have to say, you are so real and your talks gives me validation that I didn’t know I needed.. thank you.. 😊
I love this longer format. It's so helpful!! ❤
You just mentioned Christina Aguilera and my jaw actually dropped! I ADORE her and I love you (new fan over the past few months) and it felt like my two world colliding perfectly ❤. Knew I liked you!!
17:38 💯💯 I was a SAHM for 5 yrs & maintaining independence is key to not losing yourself.
What a terrific video!! Anna, you’re the best! Thank you for your amazing work to empower women 💯💯💯
Thank you for being here xx
I have never commented on a video in my life. I need to tell you that i just love you and your vulnerability. I feel what you say to my core.
I love listening to you talk and have fallen in love with your content on IG, so I'm super excited to hear you talk in longer chunks!
I’ve been following you on Instagram for a while and I’m just finding your RUclips channel!! I haven’t even watched yet but I’m so excited to binge all of your videos 🥰
Great video.. love all your content 😊
Our vacation was to Indiana every summer to see relatives. Sadly, that mindset bled into my first marriage. Never was a vacation of any sort planned.
Recovering people pleaser 8 months into an unwanted divorce, telling the new friend I randomly met up with who I would have never had the courage to meet pre-separation, "you have to watch this lady named Anna Kai" and sending her your videos. Learning that I have value outside of who wants me. Learning that it's okay if people don't want me. And hopefully buying myself a couple nice things along the way. Thank you again, Anna, for lighting the path.
So true, most people even before 25 have baggage 😂 I meeean, just look at social media for kids these days and the influence of certain media, plus most people have some level of dysfunctional family lives, or are bullied or whatever … so when they say baggage it’s so weird to me. I had more baggage at 18 than I do at 36 - because now I also have the resources to try and work through it
Your chicken nugget analogy was awesome! 👏 I enjoyed listening to your talk, thank you for sharing your perspective.
This was such a great video! Highly enjoyed it and it’s calming to listen to you! I recently got broken up after he made me wait for him to be sure about if he wants me as a partner in his life. Ultimately he told me he’s found himself a new girl and he’s very happy. I know where my mistakes were (eg letting myself be treated like this) but yet I feel hurt and insecure and look out for my failure rather than his… any advice?
Excellent video. Good advice
I loved this video and I love your Instagram content! I have two questions for a future video: how effective do you think dating apps are? And which apps would you recommend?
Thank you for putting persoective on this terrible habbit of mine and inadvertently giving me permission to get rid of the guy
More of this plss
I am not a "people pleaser" JUST SAY THE WORD : NO!. All done!
If u went on vacation honey you are not broke. But I truly love you content 😅
Isolated rehab of singledom 😂😂
i love you!!
I am so checked out lmao
It might as well be freaking Christmas
Such a valuable chat! Thank you!! 🩷