At My Limit
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- Опубликовано: 12 мар 2024
- But where are our limits? Really? And have I even started to push them yet? Get access to my guide to Paris at parisinmypocket.com/ and help me make better videos at / jayswanson 🥳
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My name is Jay Swanson - I'm an American writer living in Paris on an artist visa. Paris (yes the one in France) has been my home for years now and I have every intention of staying here for as long as they'll have me. I write science-fiction and fantasy, vlogged daily for 3+ years, and love pizza a little too much. Now I make videos about visiting Paris, traveling in Europe, and try to share what I've learned along the way. I hope you enjoyed what you found.
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i am 70 this year my mom died when i was in my 30s and she was late 50s same kind of person - i think her era was awful and her upraising and she was unable to give me love and positivity as should. i worked years on myself as an adult and raised my kids much better. and today my 18 year old grandson has a positive life because of it. take care keep pushing forward. learn to love - give love and be happy! waiving from arizona!
Your family is certainly lucky to have you! 🥂 That sounds like something to be very proud of to me
Post it note for today
You are wonderful
I am blessed to have you for my son
Love
Your Mom❤️❤️❤️🙏🙏🙏
“It’s never too late to have a happy childhood” ❤
Cheers 🥂
The Rodin museum is the only museum on my list when I visit Paris next month for the first time. And it’s really to honor Camille Claudel. That movie had such an impact on me. Also rewatched Midnight in Paris recently and they filmed a scene there and mentioned Camille Claudel.
Her space upstairs is really nice
@@JaySwanson OMG I had no idea they had a Camille Claudel space there! Thank you so much for this comment now I'm even more excited to visit! I am rewatching the movie soon. It's so good. Isabelle Adjani is amazing in it.
I highly recommend Musée D’Orsay. I like to have a nice lunch there and it usually isn’t packed. But, I do bring a picnic lunch to have in the sculpture garden at Musée Rodin every visit to.
“Pushing my limits” means something so different to me now where taking a shower can take too much energy. I did notice yesterday and glad you are not over extending yourself. Give Cooper a pat. ❤
So far so good! I just need to keep taking care of myself =) (Cooper patt'd)
Your Post-It Note comment broke my heart! Please consider this comment to be a virtual Post-It Note telling you that you have already accomplished SO much and can do so many more new/big/exciting/wonderful things, if you so choose. Just please don't think that your self-worth is tied to how much you accomplish. You're worthy of love & happiness just as you are!
Thank you🥰
I was quite exhausted yesterday because of erratic sleep patterns. Feeling much better now.
Aah no, I am done being obsessed. I just want/need to chill and take it easy. But that's where I am at after years of survival mode. So kudos to anyone on the other end of the spectrum! And share what you come up with :)
I'll keep on sharing =D I totally get where you're at now though - I spent a few years there myself. I think it's an important part of recovery, you've earned some rest.
Great video Jay. I was very happy you mentioned your mother and her influence on your early life. I was always curious about her. I just wanted to say I am glad you are moving beyond her negativity. Just know that hurt people hurt people. I'm not making excuses for her but I just wanted to suggest that her being unable to encourage you could have resulted from her own childhood traumas. Either way please know how wonderfully you've turned out as a person who brings joy to so many people worldwide who follow your and Cooper's magical adventures throughout Paris and the world. Keep making excellent art and thank you for sharing your life with us all.
It's definitely a long and mixed up history. Thanks for the encouragement =)
Keep on trucking Jay.
Will do 🫡🥂
Mothers… my sister and I have had many ‘therapy’ sessions talking extensively about Mum especially since she passed away. As children we were constantly compared to other families daughters and criticised for not being thinner, prettier, smarter etc. It’s not easy being a parent and coping with the needs of children. I have tried super hard with my kids to let them be who they want to be and not criticise their lives.
Investing in ourselves and becoming the best version we can is, I believe, quite the high bar to clear and worthy of praise even if we aren't fully happy with our progress in the moment. Good on ya =)
We all are messed up when you think about it ❤❤❤
fact
Wow! You too had such a mum! Well, we deserved better.
We did indeed - now to figure out how to give it to ourselves =)
Love your videos Jay❤we have been watching your videos for the past 5 years and loving your content. Being the patron producers of this video really made our day!!
Huzzah! Thanks for all your support over the years🥂
4:07 Normalise Umbrella Condoms. Although if it’s non-recyclable plastic, that’s a whole other conversation.
Rodin in the Rain, love it . I wonder how much of his art was inspired by other artists like Camille Claudel ?
There's a room dedicated to her work upstairs - I'm not sure if it's permanent. Lots of history there (and across most artists of that era I'm afraid)
Rodin had an endless studio of students helping him including Camille Claudel whose life he destroyed. Sorry to hear that your mother was so critical and judgmental. I know what that’s like…it’s an interesting time getting negative voices out. Like Lady M says, “Out OUT Damn Spot” 💕
Jay, your thumbnails have been EXCELLENT!
Thank you! It's been challenging since I'm only letting myself use frames from the vlog in question - gotta pull a few goofier faces along the way haha
it's true you can accomplish so much when you're obsessed. but the tough thing is, you don't choose the obsession, the obsession chooses you. or it certainly feels that way to me!
For sure - that's why I think of it as "What can obsess you" almost like being possessed
It's a shame when parents...I dunno, how do I say this...when parents treat their children like shit (speaking as a former child, and who is no contact with a parent). Some of the biggest bullies I know are parents. It's wild.
Wild indeed
You’ve already more than proved your mother wrong ! Wow that building housing the Rodin museum is beautiful and the gardens too. Glad you’re ok Jay ! 👍👍
The Rodin museum has a looooot to offer. And thanks =)
Hi Jay, I love the video, filming and editing…and your outfit going to the museum very Parisian, in my opinion…Love it all. Stay well and continue success.
Thanks!
March 12 is Independence day for Mauritius. If you want to sound cool to your French friends, ask them if they have vacationed in "Ile Maurice"
One of the local coffee regulars is from Mauritius - super nice guy
@@JaySwansonawesome, I'm glad you were able to meet one of us!
...prophylactic...parasol prophylactic, if you like alliteration. But seriously, many thanks for these vlogs, Jay. I have been sharing your videos with some of my college students who I feel are still struggling and searching for themselves. They do need to hear what you have to say and you get the message across in such a safe an approachable way.
I hope some of them find it helpful🥂
Wow this was a deep share. Keep strong, many can relate just a constant struggle to defeat those doubts from others for many. Its a daily practice to keep focused.
Thankfully I'm discovering that all the hard work does steadily build upward momentum
I am reading Atomic Habits right now. Thanks for recommending it. It is eye opening.
Such a great book
Don’t limit yourself Jay.👆
Hugs to Coop 💜
The post-it note hit a little close to home.
I'm sorry to hear that - you definitely deserved better
It's very healthy to find your limits as long as you don't destroy yourself in the process. Personally, I find that I need one day off a week from working out or I burn out either physically or psychologically or both. I did several stretches of daily workouts for 6 months and each time ended up seriously overtrained. It all depends on how hard you're pushing yourself. I was pushing my limits. A lot of professional endurance athletes work out daily for 6 to 8 week blocks with increasing effort throughout the block and then take a few days off.
I'm definitely going to do some more research on this - my coach is pushing me to take it up a notch haha
Your mum sounds like mine. Sending you loves.
Right back atcha =)
Btw completely forgot to mention that Montmartre is one of my favourite neighbourhoods and the museum you featured reminded me of ‘Heartstopper’ Season 2.
Ok but how does your camera never get stolen?
Hah indeed very impressive.
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Admire how you dare to go into, and stand in the train before u go pick up ur camera😅 Also, great video!
Thanks!
Love the Rodin! I got in for free on the first Sunday in March. Love the Mr. Potato head wall! I see the body parts - I think Mr. Potato head...
Those first Sundays rule
Chair guy for the win 😄
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WHAT DO YOU DO WITH THE CAMERA WHEN YOU GET IN THE TRAIN??
Sacrifice two chickens if they're handy, a goat if it's the third Thursday of any prime month
Did you know Susie Izzard did like forty marathons back to back?
And here I am just getting to the gym haha
5:23 In my case, I’m waiting to be hot, rich and fabulous. When that happens, it’s over for everyone.
5:50 Badly explained ‘Frankenstein’:
I promise... when we are too busy seeing the flaws and mistakes of others(e.g., our parents) we somehow miss seeing our own flaws and mistakes. "I won't make the same mistakes" is a fine goal. Just know, you will make your own huge pile of different and equal size or larger shiite. Take it easy on blame and it will free you to be limitless!❤
Good point but it is important to acknowledge the pain or bitterness and see it for what it is.I think if he ever has kids he may have a slightly different perspective in that none of us are entitled to perfect parents
@SusanNexus Genuinely confused by your comment. Where in this video are you seeing blaming, or picking out “flaws and mistakes” of parents? If anything this video was about how parents do this to children.
Make fewer creepy baby faces. hahahaha Agree! 😂
That one gets me every time
I have an app that helps me keep track of my weight increases at the gym. Every week when i see it, i get a moment of panic (for me, its the deadlift). But i do it..and i think Oh! That wasnt so bad. When done properly, one can achieve the DL or anything you set your mind to. fear and worry are odd things. takes a bit of mental power to ignore it and just do.
What app are you using?
It's amazing how much stronger I am than when I started - I need to get back to tracking my weights more consistently
@@sleis418 its with my local gym. sorry i cant be any help with recommending.
@@sleis418 its with my local gym.
Mercy Ships
Can't win if you don't play!
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I miss Cooper in this video :)
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Green Flag: Someone who doesn’t hate the sound of babies crying.
Monet … Show that one. 🌴🌴Aloha
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The title is me trying to avoid any news about the Oscars.
3:31 Or maybe the accomplishments achieved during and after the Era of Enlightenment were achieved at the expense of the Global South. Just thinking aloud. No shade to any individual.
Was the lady with you a date or another "friend" or as you said in another video "pretend girlfriend".😂
5:50 That’s not irritating, it’s just God complex.
The Sun never rise in the French Empire. Always pouring these past months 😆
Back in the day 15-20 years ago, it was mostly sunny, less rainy
France has become a tropical country or simply bad mood God lord
Howewer the Sun never set in the British Empire 🇬🇧🟥👑💂🚢👌👍
That is certainly how it feels right now. Yuck.
Aujourd'hui il y a un soleil magnifique sur ma région (19°C) et je pense aussi sur une grande partie de la France .... La France fait ainsi des provisions d'eau avant les JO .... et la sécheresse 😎
@@mlomarechal6877 lol the Olympic Games is 4 months away, so far I haven't seen any good progress around the river bank of Paris. I might be speaking too soon
haha