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Lizzie, you are the best at explaining bipolar by far!!! And I’ve watched many RUclipsrs! Thank you so much for the explanations!! Though I was curious if you’ve ever been on Zoloft or something similar? If so, what symptoms did you have while on it?
Would you say that medication improved your life significantly? I have to know because I was dating a bipolar woman for a while and I never saw many changes in her life even though she claimed she was taking meds, and she drank alcohol. And how long did it take for you to find the right medication?
Thank you so much!!! You validate my experience perfectly. I have bipolar & resonate with everything you said especially pushing people away so they dont get hurt like. I know it's hard to live with us but we are worth being with. We love so deeply, we are fun, & having been through hell a lot, we are survivors. Eventually we can always have a laugh about it. Be tender & patient with us. :)
Morning, this was an Awesome Video I just got Engaged my Fiancé is Bipolar and stop taking his meds and it’s been Ruff but listening to your video really help me to fully understand him I loved the way you explain it 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
" out of order "No,far from in fact for he is 100%spot on...!!!Bipolars are nothing then vile and toxic Demonic monsters from hell! " My Bipolar Relationship Roller Coaster Experience " ruclips.net/video/bIlwdW4Gl1o/видео.html
Truth hurts, doesn't it??...'ur awful'...Did you say sorry but your typical Bipolar shaming tactics don't work on me, for the real translation of your comment is...How dare you won't bow down to us and always see us Bipolars as the real victim any a given circumstances while we Bipolars people continue to destroy peoples lives... Dare you to watch this vidoe below. " My Bipolar Relationship Roller Coaster Experience " ruclips.net/video/bIlwdW4Gl1o/видео.html
" . you had a bad experience, that doesn’t give you the right to say the millions of people with this disorder are horrible"...... And here is my unrepentant reply to you Mr/Miss Bipolar monster..... I have personally witnessed and seen two good, decent.caring and honourable men and one good, decent.caring, compassionate and beautiful woman, all of them had their lives completely and ruthlessly destroyed by been naive to have a serious relationship a Demonic Bipolar monster such as the likes of you!.... And yes I will say it I don't care if there millions of Bipolar people, I have no compassion or empathy for all you vile, toxic and Demonic monsters....And now you can 'Fuck Off'
Ive been diagnosed with BP type 1and I highly recommend exercise, daily meditation, journalling, creating a daily routine and good sleeping habits. All the best
You should know your girls schedule so you wont even have to ask. Also her being on her period mean she is feelin good again. Its just before the period where they feel irritable and shit
I agree that it hurts when people you’re not close to ask... but I’ve made a system with my friends (since I’m not on meds yet) where I want them to ask me which stage I’m in so that they can better understand some of the dumb stuff I say whether I’m in depression or mania.
Dan M7 as a bipolar person I take offense to that... maybe that reflects the person u know w/ bipolar but not the majority. I take the blame for things I shouldn’t just bc I can’t deal with ppl being upset. Not to mention that there’s NOTHING that someone can say to me that’s negative that I haven’t already said or thought about myself. If u really r concerned with that person’s medicine, maybe find a nicer way of discussing it with them or see if u can go to their psychiatrist appt with them to discuss it with their dr.
The absolute love of my life is bipolar, she told me about it in the very beginning, and I told her that no matter what she comes with, that she is absolutely worth it. Being bipolar, is only a slice of her life pie. She’s currently in one of her lows, but I told her I’ll hold it down until my teammate is back on her feet. I promised her no matter what, I’m never going to give up on her. I’m here so I can better understand, and be the best version of myself for her during those rough times. No matter what sweetest, I’ll never give up on you. I love you Mariah ❤️.
I met my boyfriend through his manic moments and I never understood his constant happiness and excitement. He told me about his diagnosis 4 months in when he became depressed and started pushing me away. It’s been so hard not to blame myself for his pain. I really appreciate you and this video because I feel like I can better understand how he feels now
The person I'm in love with is bipolar. We are going through a rough phase cause of that. I hope everything will be fine. I will always be there for him. He's worth it.
My boyfriend ex-gf left him 'cause his bipolar and kinda like spread bad rumours about him.. he needs help and a guide partner but then she ruined his life. Now we've been dating for two years now and He's great than ever! He is really worth it and he deserves love and respect that he haven't felt back then..
P B Hey, it’s been 2 years, I just wanted to ask how’s everything going with your boyfriend? I really hope you still use this account, I just started dating a man with Type 2 bipolar disorder.
I feel like damaged goods. Especially as a male, since we're traditionally the ones that "do the chasing" and compete for the attention of women. I feel like I'm a less viable candidate than the other men so I always subconsciously start pulling back when I feel like the girl might be getting into me. I'm not really sure how I'm going to get over that.
This makes me SO sad you're made to feel like something is wrong with you. This is why I HATEEEE gender roles!! I want you to know that the type of guys I always go for are less dominant in that sense and not "chasing after me" and I like it that way. I'm a VERY outgoing, assertive, take-charge type person and so it works fine and I can be the one reaching out to the guy initially. There's a lot of other girls like me who don't want a Alpha-Male type controlling guy. I personally am just more attracted to introverts and LOTS of other women are the same!! Society tells us that only one male personality is attractive and what women want, and maybe a majority do.... but it's not everyone. It's definitely not me.
Well I'm usually more of "get what I want", type A personality. Except when I'm depressed, because then I'm the opposite of that. I just feel like, a girl's life will be easier with some other not bipolar guy. I feel like I'm starting from a negative and that the bipolar diagnosis is a negative mark whereas other guys start from 0.
Other than the initial asking out a gal & getting her phone #, you're not supposed to chase a woman. It's their job to do the chasing. This is because they're being chased all the time by all kinds of clueless men & once a woman knows she is being chased, she gets turned off quickly. This is why Lizzie doesn't like chasers because no women do. Check out doclove.com.
I am Phil's Bipolar I feel the exact same way. I tell my self every single day that worthless and that I'm good enough for someone all day long. I hate it so much.
Thank god for that! I'm doing the same bro! Thing is I'm really reserved nowadays as I think I'm going to be a burden or mess it up! However for some reason my being reserved has attracted women more 🤷♂️women are as strange as me 😂jokes aside I really like a couple of these women but I'm too scared to mess up with them or just look a fucking weirdo...I'm currently getting msgs from them asking why I'm not msging bk or not interested like I was ... tough one...can't say I'm a nut .... but I'm going back to sleep I'll speak another day....what else can we do
18 years with my wife. Not gonna lie... takes a lot of work. Create a space where you can find some peace with yourself. I have the garage. sometimes I have to retreat. She is the most amazing woman , When she is "up" she moves the world. Medical director in a major trauma center, when she is "down" she struggles to get off the couch. As the husband and primary care giver of our son I have to be the steady hand....It can suck. There is a constant pressure to be that rock also care for yourself..
Me too! :'( I was investigatingmore about what i have and feel sooo identificated by everything that i'm- sorry, this is hard but at the same time i feel a little motivated :'(
I was upset as well because my ex recently told me he was bipolar but I had already broken up with him and was so confused as to why some days he was sooo in love with me and then out of no where he would say things like "you deserve better". I thought it was because he didnt like me anymore so I broke up with him and now im confused as to what really happened
My wife suffers from bipolar one. To help me understand bipolar disorder and become a better partner for her I found a book that’s made a worlds difference. It’s called loving someone with bipolar disorder: second edition by Julie A Fast and John D Preston. I highly recommend it for both people in a relationship. Great video.
@@robertreid2800 incorrect. Not many people are actually bipolar. Instead of saying comments like that, get off a video that you are clearly just trying to spread hate on.
Well relationships are a roller-coaster for most people, throw some Bi polar into it and it just has higher highs and lower lows, and occasionally a corkscrew to throw you off. When two people love each other, truly love each other they learn to just hold on tighter. So my answer is to find a cuddler ;)
I volontaire, let's do this! What kind of ice cream do you like? What kind of food did you intend to bring to the park? Roast bread? Baguette? Not a dry cinnamon bun, right? We need to be on the same wave length about this. What continent do you live on? Oh, and what's your gender? Well, let's not be too picky, I think everyone is capable of feeding ducks. What type of bipolar are you? I'm a 2.
This is so my husband, everything you described on how they are, the constant breaking up, fears, unsure, insecurities, everything. He was just diagnosed in April. He's 23... Its a struggle everyday, but its something I'm willing to deal with if he let's me. Thanks Lizzie...
I hope that it helped you and made you feel more understood in your relationship! It is always crazy to me how similar we all are. You're AMAZING for being with him & striving to understand and love him more. I'm not sure how many of my videos you've watched, but this one is soooo lengthy and in-depth on how to love someone who's Bipolar: ruclips.net/video/Gp6-PhP1Yas/видео.html So it is perfect for your situation 😍
Yes I've seen that one.... right now he isn't living at home, he's a truck driver so he stays in his truck when he's not over here. But he always says he doesn't want to hurt me, he's fearful of alot of stuff, I'd regret it if he moved back home, etc...basically saying I shouldn't have to deal with him.
Im in a relationship. This pandemic is ruining my life. My bf manic and depression skyrockets and I now leave him alone for the most part and barely communicate to him. All he does is push me away so I leave. I feel so alone I hate that I feel insecure because he treats me badly
You are the main reason I was diagnosed. I'm in my early 30s and you describe me in basically every video of yours that I've watched. It's weird but you've caused me to explore more about myself and how my past relates to who I am currently.
As someone that has bipolar this video was so spot on and accurate. As a male I have experienced all of this in my relationship with my beautiful, amazing and supportive girlfriend and it tears me apart putting her through it. I have told her numerous times to just leave me that I don’t deserve her and she doesn’t deserve to go through this with me, but she’s stood by me and refuses to give up on me or allow bipolar disorder to pull us apart. She’s the love of my life and the most amazing girlfriend I could ask for. Thank you so much for making this video
Bipolar is really serious, I had an employer however he was not aware about the issue he had ,he could come at work one day and fire all employees and close the business, his girlfriend is really going through alot ,she is just patient and she is also not aware of his condition, and with him seems like he takes drugs which I think is not good with bipolar, this video helped me understand him because his girlfriend is my best friend and told me whatever she goes through and now I understand her , she was actually planning to leave him which I think it's gonna be too bad to leave him in that condition, what could be the advice I can give her? She actually began feeling depressed, do you think bipolar can be transmitted to another person when you spend more time with them, she also gets more angry which was not the condition before she met him, your advises will be highly appreciated towards my best friend.
@@munezerograce431 since my comment my girlfriend ended things because of how bad they got. I was in a bad place all around and she took the damage as a result. I learned so much about myself tho from the experience. As far as your friend goes I think the best thing she could do is just respectfully sit down and talk to her boyfriend, but not diagnosing him herself or saying he has something wrong with him. She should tell him she cares about him and she only wants him and their relationship to be better. He should start by going to a psychiatrist and seeing what they think and maybe even consider a second psychiatrist because it’s far from perfect when it comes to getting the right diagnosis or medicine/therapy. There’s no way to know how he’ll react and no matter what they’ll like have an up and down journey but if he’s making her feel mentally or physically abused and it’s causing stress and outbursts from her then it’s not worth it to stay in that relationship. Personal health and well being should never be traded for love. Love isn’t easy for anyone but a good relationship won’t require you to go through abuse or constant anxiety, stress and fear of what the day might hold. Hope this helps!
I think my fella is bipolar but he won't 'find out'... if he was, I'd stay. But because he won't, I'm battling with 'is he or just crackers / taking the piss out of me' I need to know, I can't take this anymore
I'm seeing this video much later, but thank you for leaving it up. My boyfriend is dealing with bipolar disorder, and just ended it with me because he didn't want to keep hurting me, and said I deserved better. I really wanted to try with him, but I think he's made up his mind. Thank you for shedding some light on what may be going on in his mind at this time.
Ah I have bipolar and literally relate to everything you said. This helped me realize a lot of things lol. My advice would be that if someone is honest and open about their bipolar with you and you aren't ready to handle it, TELL THEM. Don't drag on a relationship if you aren't ready to fully commit (in any circumstance) but specifically with those who are bipolar, because we feel emotions so strongly it could have some terrible effects on our emotional state and maybe even trigger an episode if the relationship goes on too long and suddenly ends out of nowhere, when you finally can't handle it anymore. Just be very mindful about what you want as well, because a relationship works both ways. And there's no shame in admitting to not be capable of handling someone with bipolar (or any mental health issue), some people aren't capable of dealing with that level of emotion, and some people are. That would be my advice :)
Ebony Alexander believe it or not minesss defintely is not the sweetest apple but the way he is and was bought up our personalities make fuse go boom lol cause I get maddd fast
The person I like has bipolar disorder and I want to help him out,give him all of the love and support in the world he deserves. Thank you for this video.
I feel in love with a man that has bipolar 2. After telling me he didn’t love me out of the blue, I was done. It had been the better part of a year being selfless - giving him space, encouraging him, everything. Most of my life I’ve had close friends with bipolar disorder. Being involved romantically is different, yes. But they emphasized that type of behavior is unstable. I said “You don’t love me but I’m praying for you. Glad you found a new doctor. You’ll get what you need and want.” He has a habit of getting in touch after a couple of days but if he doesn’t love me, I don’t see the point.
i get mixed manic/ depressed episodes. i can stare at a dent in the wall for hours, lost in thought. one time i was overthinking and convinced myself my fiancé was cheating on me and he really doesnt love me. he probably asked me what i wanted to watch on tv and i snapped saying "f*** off, i hate you". i never understood the gravity of just saying "i hate you". it has hurt him, but in my defense, i think i only said that because i was hurt about a delusion my mind made up. i hope this gives you a little better understanding. and trust me, if he's like me in anyway, he's probably still beating himself about it till this day.
I found that eating organic and juicing veggies multiple times a day has totally calmed my moods. 🤗 I promise you will notice a difference after 2 weeks of religiously juicing fruits/veggies. I hope that helps💝
The video came right on time. I felt all kind of emotions. I've thought about getting into a relationship but I'm so cautious and afraid because of the complex things that you mentioned ! I am scared of hurting others but I want to love too
Isha Webber why would people like you push your love ones away ... and also after you do that do you want them back? if so how long does it takes for you to feel that way... help me!
You just explained my entire 12 yr marriage that ended recently. I wish I knew these things decades ago! I could have been less reactive and more understanding. Thank you for helping me to forgive and begin to move on with my life!
I just want to say that I just started dating someone who has bipolar and this was EXTREMELY helpful. So thank you so much for going into the detail you did about this
I'm here a couple months after you posted this but I want to say thank you. My girlfriend is bipolar and I just went through one of the hardest weeks of my life to understand everything now because she is in a very depressed state. Everything you covered made me feel better for the first time in days. Thank you so much for this video.
I was in a relationship with someone who’s bipolar, and after some of the best few months of my life, she fell into a deep depressive state and started pushing me away. I have a reasonable understanding of depression, so I essentially braced for impact, but alas, after a month of that, we broke up, saying she “can’t be in a relationship”. A month or so later, after a few texts implying she missed me, we reconnected, and she explained that she still loved me, and she didn’t want to hurt me. We started dating a little bit again, but then another deep depression kicked in and though we live 10 minutes from each other and text each other daily, I haven’t seen her in over a month. To say that my heart aches is an understatement, but everything you said rings so true. She’s said she wants to “protect me”, that she doesn’t want to hurt me, etc. I just haven’t figured out how to best say that I’m willing to be there for her during the ups and downs. I’m not sure what my exact point is, but the one thread of hope I have is your advice to let her know I’m ok if her BP hurts me. So thank you for that little nugget.
Literally the same just happened to me, timeframes and all. The song that I'm really feeling right now is Joji Dancing in the Dark. Also helpful is educating myself on this disorder. I feel like I have to keep myself away for a time so I can be prepared to be there in a way that helps.
@@Billiards8kid Sadly no. Shortly after I posted this, she actually moved to the other side of the country, hoping to get away from some of her triggers where we're from. I've kept in contact with her though, and she seems to be doing better now, though she still wrestles with her demons frequently. But she has a new boy friend who seems to be a good match for her, and I'm genuinely happy she has the support she needs.
I think my boyfriend is bipolar but not diagnosed! He has always been in trouble growing up or fighting but not anymore. However, he will go from being so in love with me and doesn't want no one to ever be with me to him feeling not in love or he isn't good enough for me... He will say, " I want to be able to provide for you and I am unsure I can do that".... He is always wanting to buy new things, new cars, and do things on impulsive..... then he has times where he just will quit his job!
You explained exactly what I needed to say to my boyfriend. I have hours where I go from being in love to disgusted. I also harbor emotions like excessively. Like if he does something that hurts me it stays. My thoughts are all over the place because of my bi-polar. Thinking of going in meds but am afraid of the side effects. So thank you I tell him all the time he's better of alone and it's selfish for me to hurt him or putting him through all this
I met this gorgeous amazing lady. It's been like three months interacting with her on both voice and text. Met in person aswell. Their is so much I love about her! I noticed she would be in different moods at different moments and i would interpret and mitigate this on text and voice. The emotional high and lows can easily derail you. But Sincerely its totaly worth it because to me she is beautiful on the inside and outside. All she needs is my unconditional support, patience, time, space and consistency.
I’m so shock right now. I’m crying so hard cause you just said exactly what I think and feel. What I’ve been leaving and I don’t want to keep dealing w it. I’ve never seen anyone for bipolar disorder, but I have this problem every time I tried to date someone. I feel up in the clouds at the beginning and then out of no where i don’t feel the same way anymore. They just annoy me and I want them far away from me. And I also feel depressed when I was just leaving my best life. I’m starting to date someone and after 3 months I’m starting to feel this way again.. but this time I’m tired of the situation of me fucking things up cause I don’t know what’s wrong w me. I always end up pushing people away that at the end I do want to keep in my life, but is always too late when I finally get back to feeling “fine” again. And is so scary. I always end up hurting people that don’t deserve it. For a strange reason I decided to search for “bipolar love” and this pop out and I’m just shock. This time I decided to stay and keep going cause I know that at some point the good feeling comes back. So I’m fighting w it as is SO hard. Maybe is not something I’m supposed to battle alone and this is the sign that I needed to start working on my problem and live a happier life. 🙏🏽💛
Thanks for this useful video. I’m dating a bipolar man. We have been through so many trails, but he never give up on me. He’s a loving man I have ever met in my whole life. He’s worth the effort.
I've shared this video to family and friends. I love this. I was recently diagnosed with bipolar 1. It's just nice to know that someone else truly gets it and could answer these questions.
For the first time in my life I feel like someone understands me. Thank you for sharing this video it meant the world to me. I’ve felt so alone for so long
Wow, This video has helped me understand my disorder. I’ve recently been diagnosed within the last few months and it’s been so hard to wrap my head around everything. I’ve always felt “abnormal” and out of sync with everyone. I felt like I’ve felt emotions on a higher level all of my life. Some how being told that “this is what you have” has been a relief for me. So thank you for making this video. It’s helped me understand that meaningful relationships are possible with someone like me whether it be friends or with a significant other. -Stephanie
Was he diagnosed meanwhile? How was the process of telling him that he should see a doctor? Did he accepted it easily? I am afraid that my recently ex girlfriend (she just broke up with me a couple days ago) has bipolar disorder, but I feel that I can't tell her that, of course... :( I hope all is doing great with you guys!
You just said EXACTLY how I feel. I be talking to my fiance and he always says things like "I'm not going to claim your Bipolar" and "There's nothing wrong with you." He doesn't understand that I'm trying to control my emotions and save our relationship. You just personified all of my feelings. I'm glad to know I'm not alone in this.
Wow. You literally just described everything I’ve ever gone through with bi polar with every relationship I’ve ever been in. I honestly thought I was crazy because I didn’t know anyone else experienced this...
Lots of great advice! I have bipolar 2 and just started my channel to share how I manage it. Thanks for helping reduce stigma! P.s. I’ve been married almost 10 years and I consider it my greatest accomplishment 😊
You’re such a sweet person. My partner is diagnosed bipolar. I love what you said and I think it is very helpful. No matter what a person goes through, everyone deserves love. If I could do it all over again, I would still choose my partner over and again.
Thank you so much for making this video... I'm 23, and this is the first year I received the right diagnose. I've always wondered why all of my romantic relationships are like this, and now I feel more secure in my emotional instability because of my illness. Also, it makes it easier to communicate the patterns with potential partners.
This was incredibly thought out and correct , very thorough look through in the realm of dating. I was in tears in the way you kept your view positive and covered things people don’t ever talk about , very uplifting and I thank you for doing this . Sharing that big brain of yours 💛💛💛💛👍🏼🌸🌸🌸love from CA
Thank you so unbelievably much for the insights you gave me with your video. This girl I've been seeing for a few months deals with this condition, and I didn't even realize how many little things I may have been doing that just made things more difficult for her. So, I'm really grateful, thank you.
My partner has Bipolar 1. After we met initially things were going as they usually do in the beginning. I wasn't as aware about how bipolar manifests, all I knew was his diagnosis. Then couple months in, he must have become hypomanic, now that I think about it, coz he would always tell me that no matter how good or bad I was, he would accept me & have me as I am. And as relationships go, that's the best thing one wants to hear from their partner right ! He would talk about us resolving any conflicts that might arise as is natural, and he'd do anything to make it work. I was very happy with all of that. Then he had a manic episode & was shortly hospitalized. We had very little contact but we very still very much connected. Fast forward a few months after his discharge from the hospital, and he began having mixed episodes, but mostly depression. He became detached, distant, cold,mean, would get pissed off at me for no reason I could understand and ended up ghosting me for almost 3 months. Confused doesn't even come close to how I felt mentally & emotionally. More like rejected & abandoned I guess. I still texted him every now & then but didn't push things too much. One fine day he replied saying he just got too overwhelmed by my messeges. I still have no idea why. It might have been a form of self defense for him. It was just cruel to me. I also felt that he wasn't attracted to me anymore. Things still were rocky and he seemed to be in a haze after we started talking again. It got to a point that I made a conscious decision to end/stop things after 2 months, coz I spent all my time worrying about him while he wouldn't respond to any communication. He barely even reacted to me ending things. I got back in touch with him coz of this covid-19 pandemic, and apparently he thought I left him coz he got sick, he felt I ran and left him alone. Which is far from the truth, but I guess that's how he felt..... Anyways, it's not an easy road and without clear communication, things get all sorts of confusing. Thankfully, he's good with taking his meds and trying to maintain a sleep schedule, both are of utmost importance in bipolar management. He's still having mixed episodes, so I've been giving him some space right now and we're taking it one day at a time. And also understanding and accepting that it's not him, it's his illness. Again, not easy ! We've also gotta take care of our very own mental health as well. I love him deeply and just hope for his well-being.
Thank you for making this video. I sent this to my boyfriend to help him understand me more and why i act and react to things in our relationship. i really resignate with this video, thank you, seriously.
I was dating with bipolar, I love him so much till now. But he is still angry with me, he don't love me anymore. I try hard to keep our relationship goes well, but he still want to end this romantic relationship. Please help me, I really want him to come back. I love him, so much
I have a hard time in both manic and depressive states with relationships, especially if I am living with someone. I find being in a place alone with dating is more conducive to a healthy relationship for me. I have rapid cycle, and I think that is why dating works better than living with someone, because I don't have to be around the other person all the time and they can get my best days.
I've had a Bipolar I diagnosis for a few years and am finally starting to tackle symptom management (esp. those suicidal thoughts). ~"I am hurtful and I feel like I need to protect people from myself"~ Thank you!!! I've always seen myself as a monster that needs to be reigned in, and I spend most of my energy doing that. I didn't know this was something typical of a bipolar diagnosis. It's encouraging to know that there are other people out there who share similar thoughts. We are not monsters. There are people out there who can handle our very unique brand of love.
I thankfully have been on a medication that keeps me from going into manic episodes. I'm happy with my fiancé and I can't wait to be his wife. We are great at communication. We make sure we communicate with each other. Even when I'm pushing him away he just sticks by my side and helps me through. I hate being bipolar. The night my fiancé saved my life was the night I knew he was the man I was going to marry and he is so good with all of my mental illnesses
I'm bipolar, in my last relationship my ex didn't understand whatsoever, he took me missing work as me not wanting to work. He wasn't supportive at all, instead of being there for me, he constantly put me down. I left that relationship although it was hard, my life is so much better in every aspect. I have a sense of peace and contentment ! Bipolar people are AWESOME!!!!
Thank you so much for sharing. I could definitely relate on so many levels. I have bipolar and I’m the same way. I’ve broken it off with so many guys to protect them too
I just would like to add, that if a person with bipolar disorder regularly and without reason cycles through the antagonize/psychologically assault type behaviors/phases toward their significant other, I would just like to say that, *of course from my viewpoint personally and only*, a significant other has every right to feel upset or hurt or to feel intense emotions in response to that behavior and/or words and unprovoked change in demeanor or sudden hated. It is unreasonable in my opinion to ask that they're be no unpleasant or reactive response to whatever is said or done, with the argument being the significant other would be considered "at fault". As much as it is unpleasant to hear or read, a person with bipolar in a romantic relationship is not the only person whos' needs and emotions are of value. If a person with bipolar has an episode, it is not a get out of jail free card or break somebody's heart card. With the descriptions of wanting to end the relationship and having no interest in their significant other, it sounds ultimately cruel for somebody who feels these ways to be in a romantic relationship. Love would never be able to truly form in a healthy fulfilling way. It would cycle through neverending shattered hearts and abandonment, happening on a whim, with no concern by the person who is bipolar, who is "carelessly/mindlessly/without awareness" causing intense hurt and deep suffering for their significant other by treating them this way. As said in the video, it cycles often to the person with bipolar feeling they are just no longer interested or attracted at all to their once significant other they built so much with. They will throw it all away. So, while this cycle of torture comes along and whatever chaos and heartlessness destroys either of the two and part of all of whatever relationship is there, during it, the person with bipolar feels compelled to point out that they are not 100% responsible. This very well may not be true. If a significant other is upset because the person with bipolar disorder has antagonized/psychologically assaulted them, IT IS NOT A RIGHT that those with bipolar disorder have to say that no matter what they say or do they can't help it and it's not 100% their fault, when they say they don't care about you anymore, that you literally mean nothing to them at that moment. People with bipolar are unaware of how their behavior affects others, especially romantic partners. They cannot see or accept that their hurtful hot and cold, caring and disinterest, emotions and psychologkcal attacks are deeply hurtful and can be permanently destructive. They cannot accept they are at fault as it causes them to feel severe guilt and shame. They may sabotage or push away their significant other, without expressing empathy and with genuine sudden intense negative emotions.. being bipolar doesn't mean to have the cake and eat it too, just cause you can't help it. If it is at that point, I agree with the person in the video who said she chooses not to date because of her illness. Her information about the way of thinking is heartbreaking for me to learn, though I am thankful to know it.
THANK YOU! I love my partner but with my own mental health struggles its hard to take all he throws at me. Especially when im having lows. I have to tough it out for us both when I have nothing in my tank due to physical ailments too. I want to love him i just know its not enough to make him love himself. It really really hurts.
Lizzie you are so smart and good at explaining the bipolar in detail. It's nice to listen to someone who understands everything I feel. Appreciate your videos
My gf has bipolar disorder. She is the love of my life and I wouldn’t have it any other way. We communicate a lot (very helpful). What I’ve noticed that helps is to be very gentle, empathetic, and kind. The best thing I’ve noticed that helps is that I will hug her until she relaxes and we will lay in bed, not talk, but just lay there with my arms wrapped around her. Not sure why people wouldn’t want to date someone with bipolar. I find it very interesting. Never a dull moment and I love it. This video was very helpful, thank you!
I was with someone with bipolar for six years,it was an absolute nightmare. I thought I was cracking up.i wouldnt recomend it if u want to be happy.they cant change.i stayed for my daughter.iv now been with a woman for over 2 years and we haven't argued once.now I'm alot happier in a normal stable relationship.
Yes, they can change. They need to stay on their medication, and take personal steps to ensure they see the signs of mania or depression so they can avoid hurting other people, but it's possible. Please don't be an asshole to innocent bystanders because _you_ were with an asshole.
Lizzie is a blessing from God I swear, you have saved me so many times from doing something ill regret I'm currently going through the switch right now, where everything was ok in the relationship and then just stopped all love feeling gone and I'm really struggling to hold on, I'm praying this episode passes
I started crying while listening to this video. My boyfriend and i went through hell to be together. Seven months into our relationship, suddenly, i feel disconnected. I don’t want anything to do with him. And i just want to stay away. Together with other stuff going on with me, I am so confuse and felt like i am mentally ill. I cant explain my emotions. While listening to this video and relating to everything you are saying made me feel like someone! Someone understand what i am going through! This is the answer! Im going to get professional and this help understand that i can get help and how to explain what im going through.
My girlfriend is bipolar 2, question to the people here... I didn't find out she was bipolar till like 2 years later into the relationship, should a person with a certain disorder tell you in advance "hey i have this and that" or is it okay to hide till you can no more... I always feel like she catfished me she didnt tell me what was up, now overhere dealing with stuff I didn't know I signed up for?
I'm literally going through this myself. I mean personally it should've been known from the start because at least YOU ARE AWARE instead of you sitting there questioning yourself thinking that you are the problem. It's tough I've been with my wife 3 years since then there's days she wants to divorce me then the next day she wants me and that has messed with my mental because if I had known from the start I would have figured out ways to handle that in a different way and understand more but, she's worth it and I also know at this stage I have to focus on myself because of the mental it has caused me so right now I'm taking a break hopefully reunion will happen. Two broken people can't help each other. I hope you find ways yourself ... if she's worth it figure her out and understand her more because remember when she doesn't have her days that's the real her.
I'm also Bipolar 2. I was diagnosed more than 10 years into a marriage that was circling the drain. The divorce should be final in March. But in the times I've dated since my ex left, I have told them about my situation upfront. It's a hard conversation to have, but necessary because I want them to leave if they can't handle it before I start developing feelings. In your case, don't be so quick to look for the exit. Work with her, listen to her, and be loving. Help her to remember to stay on her meds and to keep up with therapy and psychiatrist visits.
I dated a girl who's bipolar. On one of our dates, we were joking with each other, and all of a sudden, she locked onto one of my jokes and turned it into something completely different, broke things off with me, told me, "I thought you were a really nice guy." And the very next day, she starts talking to me again like nothing ever happened.
That doesn't sound very bipolar. Bipolar would be more like: "the other person talked so loud and fast that you were getting dirty looks from the whole restaurant and you didn't get to say a single word during the whole dinner except your when you said what you wanted to the waiter" . BD1 w/ psychotic features here haha yeaaaaaaaa
That was great video, thank you! I was diagnosed with bipolar 2 weeks ago. So much truth in your words that it's not our decision to protect our significant one, and that he should decide for himself.
When you said you feel like no one can love you, or no one could ever choose you, because of this disease, that broke my heart. My comimg-down from mania brain attacks me so hard with the thought ' you are worthless because of your disease.' I have good people in my life that help me daily. I am blessed. Remembering blessings is so important.
I have it too, and my bf has asperger. It's extra exhausting and frustrating whenever I am in my depression episode, but for some reason we make it work... it's true that sometimes I feel undeserved, it's definitely a bless that he still stays with me though
Hey, My girlfriend was just diagnosed with bipolar sje hasnt started to take medication yet but she is planning to, our relationship is really rocky there are high peaks and then we just crash and burn. I love her to bits but sometimes i cant deal with the way she treats me, like one minute she is happy and hugging me and then she hurls abuse at me, obviously im gonna get mad if she is giving me shit for no reason, i understand the phases and you arent in total control but still it hurts on the inside. Not to mention the emotional pain of monthly break ups, i love her so much but im getting worn down, i used to be able to control my temper alot easier and now i feel like im breaking down, what can i do to help her realise that yes you have bipolar and you arent fuly in control but i also have feelings and when i tell her about them she not to just laughs it off and call me a drama queen. Everyone deserves Love especially my girl. I know this sounds alot like complain ing but dont get me wrong i want to be there for the long haul, just not as a doormat.
This is me right now 4 years with her. She is my fiancee and every month it's the same thing over and over at first I lost my mind. Then it went to a point where I would just retreat because there is nothing I can do and anything I do makes it worse
This is me right now 4 years with her. She is my fiancee and every month it's the same thing over and over at first I lost my mind. Then it went to a point where I would just retreat because there is nothing I can do and anything I do makes it worse
It's like you're talking to me! I've been going through rough 18 months messing up my relationship on several occasions. People see these changes, cycles, of mood I have and I can see it now too. Going to talk to my MH Dr asap and get her to look at BPD of some sort! This video is crazily accurate thank you Lizzie!
I'm laughing because it seems like this video is literally about me. Also didn't know Halsey was Bipolar and that's hilarious because I've always thought to myself, "wow it seems like me and Halsey have so much in common". LMAO literally will be in love with someone, the next day feel nothing towards them and completely cut them off and watch them try to demand answers from me while I say nothing and lay in bed with my dog.
G K clearly you’re uneducated on mental health, someone with those personality disorders would say the opposite of what I said, or wouldn’t take the time to reply to you at all. Good luck getting the proper diagnosis and working on your self esteem. Hopefully one day you’ll feel as comfortable with yourself as I do with myself
G K so when you think that someone with a mental illness should feel guilty and bad about themselves for something that they cannot help? That’s unfortunate for you, considering you have a mental illness. I’m sorry that you have to go through life suffering and also beating yourself up for your behaviors. Luckily I don’t do that, because I know that my bipolar behaviors don’t make me a bad person. Maybe one day you’ll be able to work through your deep-rooted self-hatred enough to stop commenting to random people on the internet who like themselves. It’s also sad that you equate self-awareness and making light of a situation to narcissism. You must live in a dark world :( I promise life gets better when you can fully accept yourself and make light of your situation instead of projecting negativity onto strangers and hating yourself for your behaviors. Best of luck!
G K BPD would be the polar opposite of anything I commented, the fact that you would even conclude to that based off a comment about me making light of my situation and my self-awareness and acceptance....yikes dude. Research what BPD is, people with that have extremely low self-esteem and a lack of a healthy personal identity (the complete opposite of me, that’s leaning more toward something you would have considering your feelings of negativity). There are other healthier ways to make yourself feel better instead of trying to tear down someone with a really high self esteem and a healthy perspective. BPD would literally be the total opposite of what you seem to think that means
G K uhh when did I ever say that I did any of that? With bipolar I don’t stick around enough to fall in love with most people. Let alone would I laugh at their pain and suffering? What Lizzie was referring to was the short-term relationships with people due to the bipolar. What youre saying feels like you got my comment mixed up with someone else’s, or you’re just extremely confused. You’ve probably been hurt by someone who cut you off. Why are you going completely off the wall about one comment from someone you know nothing about? It’s weird.
Thanks for posting. Newly dating someone with bipolar and I thought I knew more than I did. Lol need to learn more about how it actually affects his life. The pushing me away definitely hurts when he is depressed. He definitely turns to his friends.
my girl thinks she has bipolar depression. we've just talked about it tonight and i just had to take a break from watching this video to tell her that i love her so much and i'm staying no matter what. this helped me undestand my girlfriend and i can't thank you enough for this.
Very insightful, but I don’t think it’s fair for the bipolar person to expect the other person to say “I am willing to get hurt. I don’t care how much you hurt me.” Yes, every relationship has times that will hurt both parties, but the way it came off, “I don’t care how much you hurt me,” makes it sound like the other person should be a doormat with no regard for themselves. I’m sure that’s not how you meant it, but that’s how it comes off. The person without bipolar should expect that, as in any relationship, they will be hurt, but probably more so. In that regard they should be willing to accept it. But they should still have a point past where they will not be hurt, if that makes sense. This applies to the bipolar person as well. No one should be willing to be hurt without boundaries. And the bipolar person should still realise that those boundaries exist. Both parties should do everything in their power to help the situation. The one without bipolar should be patient, supportive and respectful. But the one with bipolar should also do everything in their power to help make it not so hard for the other person: seek therapy, take medicine, use coping strategies. It is not all just on the non-bipolar person to “be supportive” and “willing to take it.” That’s one-sided, and unfair. And just to clarify, I too have a mental disorder. I have OCD, and while it does not affect how I feel about people, it does affect my mood by causing me to have various irrational fears or phobias and severe anxiety spells, which in turn can also trigger insomnia. This all affects my overall mood, which can in turn affect my relationship with my husband. So while I do not have bipolar, I know how important it is for the person with the disorder to do their part in working through the problem.
LizziesAnswers don't be sad, It's my fate. I'm not meant to be in a long term relationship. Specially traveling with some one you love for a long time, it's magical most of the time but then it collapses suddenly.
I found this on the recommendation. I know it's really late😅 I was diagnosed with BPD 2 and was in a toxic relationship which is made it much worse. But now my new boyfriend really understands and cares about my condition. we've been dating for a year now. He always make a lot of jokes every time I'm in a depression episode until i'm fully calm. And he never mad at me when i'm in depression or manic episode. he also watch this video and he said it make him more understand about BPD in relatioship. thank you for this amazing video😊
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Lizzie, you are the best at explaining bipolar by far!!! And I’ve watched many RUclipsrs! Thank you so much for the explanations!! Though I was curious if you’ve ever been on Zoloft or something similar? If so, what symptoms did you have while on it?
Would you say that medication improved your life significantly? I have to know because I was dating a bipolar woman for a while and I never saw many changes in her life even though she claimed she was taking meds, and she drank alcohol. And how long did it take for you to find the right medication?
Thank you so much!!! You validate my experience perfectly. I have bipolar & resonate with everything you said especially pushing people away so they dont get hurt like. I know it's hard to live with us but we are worth being with. We love so deeply, we are fun, & having been through hell a lot, we are survivors. Eventually we can always have a laugh about it. Be tender & patient with us. :)
Morning, this was an Awesome Video I just got Engaged my Fiancé is Bipolar and stop taking his meds and it’s been Ruff but listening to your video really help me to fully understand him I loved the way you explain it 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
How do I know if I am bipolar? How to test for it?
My girlfriend is bipolar. It's tough but she is absolutely WORTH it. This video has REALLY helped
She's going to cheat and dump you. They all do it. GOOD LUCK =D
Havaseet2 out of order
" out of order "No,far from in fact for he is 100%spot on...!!!Bipolars are nothing then vile and toxic Demonic monsters from hell!
" My Bipolar Relationship Roller Coaster Experience "
ruclips.net/video/bIlwdW4Gl1o/видео.html
Truth hurts, doesn't it??...'ur awful'...Did you say sorry but your typical Bipolar shaming tactics don't work on me, for the real translation of your comment is...How dare you won't bow down to us and always see us Bipolars as the real victim any a given circumstances while we Bipolars people continue to destroy peoples lives... Dare you to watch this vidoe below.
" My Bipolar Relationship Roller Coaster Experience "
ruclips.net/video/bIlwdW4Gl1o/видео.html
" . you had a bad experience, that doesn’t give you the right to say the millions of people with this disorder are horrible"...... And here is my unrepentant reply to you Mr/Miss Bipolar monster..... I have personally witnessed and seen two good, decent.caring and honourable men and one good, decent.caring, compassionate and beautiful woman, all of them had their lives completely and ruthlessly destroyed by been naive to have a serious relationship a Demonic Bipolar monster such as the likes of you!....
And yes I will say it I don't care if there millions of Bipolar people, I have no compassion or empathy for all you vile, toxic and Demonic monsters....And now you can 'Fuck Off'
Ive been diagnosed with BP type 1and I highly recommend exercise, daily meditation, journalling, creating a daily routine and good sleeping habits. All the best
the workout method is great to keep anger and deprssion in check that's for sure
Journaliing?
same! it really works
Bpd or bd? Bpd is borderline personality disorder and bd is bipolar disorder.
Same and I also recommend talking to a friend or therapy dish different forms of it as well as on top of everything you listed
Asking a bipolar person “are you manic?!” whenever they’re mad is like asking a girl “are you on your period?!” whenever shes mad
You should know your girls schedule so you wont even have to ask. Also her being on her period mean she is feelin good again. Its just before the period where they feel irritable and shit
Or “are you off your meds?!?!”
I hate that shit BAD
I agree that it hurts when people you’re not close to ask... but I’ve made a system with my friends (since I’m not on meds yet) where I want them to ask me which stage I’m in so that they can better understand some of the dumb stuff I say whether I’m in depression or mania.
Dan M7 as a bipolar person I take offense to that... maybe that reflects the person u know w/ bipolar but not the majority. I take the blame for things I shouldn’t just bc I can’t deal with ppl being upset. Not to mention that there’s NOTHING that someone can say to me that’s negative that I haven’t already said or thought about myself.
If u really r concerned with that person’s medicine, maybe find a nicer way of discussing it with them or see if u can go to their psychiatrist appt with them to discuss it with their dr.
Emmy Noir same! Just bc we have episodes doesn’t mean we aren’t taking our meds!
The absolute love of my life is bipolar, she told me about it in the very beginning, and I told her that no matter what she comes with, that she is absolutely worth it. Being bipolar, is only a slice of her life pie. She’s currently in one of her lows, but I told her I’ll hold it down until my teammate is back on her feet. I promised her no matter what, I’m never going to give up on her. I’m here so I can better understand, and be the best version of myself for her during those rough times. No matter what sweetest, I’ll never give up on you. I love you Mariah ❤️.
U made me cry😢💔💕
Marie Kebin Damn, probably a bad time to update this and say that she broke my heart and we ended up going out separate ways a little over a year ago!
@@Unclekantus66omg.. i'm sorry that's really sad
I hope you are fine now,i know exactly how it feels like to live with someone with bipolar
My father has been diagnosed with bipolar disorder so my childhood is not that good
I met my boyfriend through his manic moments and I never understood his constant happiness and excitement. He told me about his diagnosis 4 months in when he became depressed and started pushing me away. It’s been so hard not to blame myself for his pain. I really appreciate you and this video because I feel like I can better understand how he feels now
The person I'm in love with is bipolar. We are going through a rough phase cause of that. I hope everything will be fine. I will always be there for him. He's worth it.
P B my wife has been incredible about the whole thing
My boyfriend ex-gf left him 'cause his bipolar and kinda like spread bad rumours about him.. he needs help and a guide partner but then she ruined his life. Now we've been dating for two years now and He's great than ever! He is really worth it and he deserves love and respect that he haven't felt back then..
P B Hey, it’s been 2 years, I just wanted to ask how’s everything going with your boyfriend? I really hope you still use this account, I just started dating a man with Type 2 bipolar disorder.
Can he be there for you?
@@deborahmoyo6299 Seriously doubt shes still with him tbh.
I feel like damaged goods. Especially as a male, since we're traditionally the ones that "do the chasing" and compete for the attention of women. I feel like I'm a less viable candidate than the other men so I always subconsciously start pulling back when I feel like the girl might be getting into me. I'm not really sure how I'm going to get over that.
This makes me SO sad you're made to feel like something is wrong with you. This is why I HATEEEE gender roles!! I want you to know that the type of guys I always go for are less dominant in that sense and not "chasing after me" and I like it that way. I'm a VERY outgoing, assertive, take-charge type person and so it works fine and I can be the one reaching out to the guy initially. There's a lot of other girls like me who don't want a Alpha-Male type controlling guy. I personally am just more attracted to introverts and LOTS of other women are the same!! Society tells us that only one male personality is attractive and what women want, and maybe a majority do.... but it's not everyone. It's definitely not me.
Well I'm usually more of "get what I want", type A personality. Except when I'm depressed, because then I'm the opposite of that.
I just feel like, a girl's life will be easier with some other not bipolar guy. I feel like I'm starting from a negative and that the bipolar diagnosis is a negative mark whereas other guys start from 0.
Other than the initial asking out a gal & getting her phone #, you're not supposed to chase a woman. It's their job to do the chasing. This is because they're being chased all the time by all kinds of clueless men & once a woman knows she is being chased, she gets turned off quickly. This is why Lizzie doesn't like chasers because no women do. Check out doclove.com.
I am Phil's Bipolar I feel the exact same way. I tell my self every single day that worthless and that I'm good enough for someone all day long. I hate it so much.
Thank god for that! I'm doing the same bro! Thing is I'm really reserved nowadays as I think I'm going to be a burden or mess it up! However for some reason my being reserved has attracted women more 🤷♂️women are as strange as me 😂jokes aside I really like a couple of these women but I'm too scared to mess up with them or just look a fucking weirdo...I'm currently getting msgs from them asking why I'm not msging bk or not interested like I was ... tough one...can't say I'm a nut .... but I'm going back to sleep I'll speak another day....what else can we do
Hats off to all the men who watched the video. You are responsible and compassionate.
18 years with my wife. Not gonna lie... takes a lot of work. Create a space where you can find some peace with yourself. I have the garage. sometimes I have to retreat.
She is the most amazing woman , When she is "up" she moves the world. Medical director in a major trauma center, when she is "down" she struggles to get off the couch.
As the husband and primary care giver of our son I have to be the steady hand....It can suck. There is a constant pressure to be that rock
also care for yourself..
God bless you heart of a warrior
God bless you man .
Is not a risk to have a baby with your partner who have bipolar 1
Tbh i dont ever think i could ever be in a relationship i need a place to retreat
Am i the only one that cried sooooo hard during watching????? And was answering to the video like crazy?
K. P. I did too! I just don’t want to give up. Everyone is telling me to run away. I feel so guilty if I do that
I cried too. 😭
Me too! :'( I was investigatingmore about what i have and feel sooo identificated by everything that i'm- sorry, this is hard but at the same time i feel a little motivated :'(
I was upset as well because my ex recently told me he was bipolar but I had already broken up with him and was so confused as to why some days he was sooo in love with me and then out of no where he would say things like "you deserve better". I thought it was because he didnt like me anymore so I broke up with him and now im confused as to what really happened
Ahh bless your heart.
Having bipolar disorder is really hard. I hate how my boyfriend has to mold his life around me, and you just spoke facts about my whole life
Yal sluts arnt worth shit
I’m watching this, when I’m the one who’s Bipolar in the relationship, it feels a little weird to re-learn these things about myself.
Nathalienator 3000 me too! I sent it to my husband I hope he watches it.... I’m so sorry for how I hurt him but I can’t stop....
Unicorn FaceYT hoping for the best for you! but its better for us to also stay very self-aware to avoid issues in the future >
I spent 11 years with the Love of my life and she was Bi Polar...She passed at 21. I will always love Her. She was my Best friend :)
So sorry for your loss.
❤
@@skullbeautyasmr5361 so sorry for your loss.
Blessings and so very sorry.
@jaredbowser5449 capital G
I know when my bi polar is acting up... I want to pack up and move house and city. I want to drop everything and just go
Marie lovesSP&C4life omg so me 😩🤦🏽♀️😥
I had that before. One time I felt suffocated unless I go out of the city.
Same
I did that literally and usually come back the next day
My wife suffers from bipolar one. To help me understand bipolar disorder and become a better partner for her I found a book that’s made a worlds difference. It’s called loving someone with bipolar disorder: second edition by Julie A Fast and John D Preston. I highly recommend it for both people in a relationship. Great video.
Try dating someone whoes not bipolar good luck seeing that everyone is bipolar.
Julie A Fast has many books on bipolar, she is well known in the bipolar therapy community.
@@robertreid2800 incorrect. Not many people are actually bipolar. Instead of saying comments like that, get off a video that you are clearly just trying to spread hate on.
madisonmnorrie i gave my boyfriend this book but he still hasn’t finished it and it makes me so sad
I just started that book this week. Let’s hope it helps.
Well relationships are a roller-coaster for most people, throw some Bi polar into it and it just has higher highs and lower lows, and occasionally a corkscrew to throw you off. When two people love each other, truly love each other they learn to just hold on tighter.
So my answer is to find a cuddler ;)
You don't understand bi polar its not thier fault they not during on purpose
@@livelaughlove7940 l9o
@@livelaughlove7940 Besides the point really if they don't get help then you can't expect the other person to put up with it indefinitely..
When you find the right person, he won't care that you have to take a pill. He will be in for whatever.
Strat58cat so true
Strat58cat I hope you’re right....
very true
That’s very reassuring. Thanks. I really hope I can meet someone one day
Not true when they are aggressive and drink
i was 100% casualty from being broken up with out of the blue , but now that I finally understand “ it wasn’t me “ just like she said
seven years with a bipolar wife i love her so much thank you for this video its so hard to be strong for her when she goes off.
I just wanna eat ice cream and feed ducks at the park, with someone special
Josh dude how sweet 😊❤
EXACTLY!!!!
I volontaire, let's do this! What kind of ice cream do you like? What kind of food did you intend to bring to the park? Roast bread? Baguette? Not a dry cinnamon bun, right? We need to be on the same wave length about this. What continent do you live on?
Oh, and what's your gender? Well, let's not be too picky, I think everyone is capable of feeding ducks. What type of bipolar are you? I'm a 2.
@@goonwop4531 Haha, sometimes I'm enthusiastic! Right now I'm dead tired though and wish for nothing more than NOT feeding any ducks...
my bipolar gf would want to eat them ducks alive. She doesnt take meds and often talks of murdering her own 3 cats.
This is so my husband, everything you described on how they are, the constant breaking up, fears, unsure, insecurities, everything. He was just diagnosed in April. He's 23... Its a struggle everyday, but its something I'm willing to deal with if he let's me. Thanks Lizzie...
I hope that it helped you and made you feel more understood in your relationship! It is always crazy to me how similar we all are. You're AMAZING for being with him & striving to understand and love him more. I'm not sure how many of my videos you've watched, but this one is soooo lengthy and in-depth on how to love someone who's Bipolar: ruclips.net/video/Gp6-PhP1Yas/видео.html So it is perfect for your situation 😍
Yes I've seen that one.... right now he isn't living at home, he's a truck driver so he stays in his truck when he's not over here. But he always says he doesn't want to hurt me, he's fearful of alot of stuff, I'd regret it if he moved back home, etc...basically saying I shouldn't have to deal with him.
Im in a relationship. This pandemic is ruining my life. My bf manic and depression skyrockets and I now leave him alone for the most part and barely communicate to him. All he does is push me away so I leave. I feel so alone I hate that I feel insecure because he treats me badly
You are the main reason I was diagnosed. I'm in my early 30s and you describe me in basically every video of yours that I've watched. It's weird but you've caused me to explore more about myself and how my past relates to who I am currently.
Celester how’s it going so far?
No longer suicidal! Thanks for asking.
As someone that has bipolar this video was so spot on and accurate. As a male I have experienced all of this in my relationship with my beautiful, amazing and supportive girlfriend and it tears me apart putting her through it. I have told her numerous times to just leave me that I don’t deserve her and she doesn’t deserve to go through this with me, but she’s stood by me and refuses to give up on me or allow bipolar disorder to pull us apart. She’s the love of my life and the most amazing girlfriend I could ask for. Thank you so much for making this video
Bipolar is really serious, I had an employer however he was not aware about the issue he had ,he could come at work one day and fire all employees and close the business, his girlfriend is really going through alot ,she is just patient and she is also not aware of his condition, and with him seems like he takes drugs which I think is not good with bipolar, this video helped me understand him because his girlfriend is my best friend and told me whatever she goes through and now I understand her , she was actually planning to leave him which I think it's gonna be too bad to leave him in that condition, what could be the advice I can give her? She actually began feeling depressed, do you think bipolar can be transmitted to another person when you spend more time with them, she also gets more angry which was not the condition before she met him, your advises will be highly appreciated towards my best friend.
@@munezerograce431 since my comment my girlfriend ended things because of how bad they got. I was in a bad place all around and she took the damage as a result. I learned so much about myself tho from the experience. As far as your friend goes I think the best thing she could do is just respectfully sit down and talk to her boyfriend, but not diagnosing him herself or saying he has something wrong with him. She should tell him she cares about him and she only wants him and their relationship to be better. He should start by going to a psychiatrist and seeing what they think and maybe even consider a second psychiatrist because it’s far from perfect when it comes to getting the right diagnosis or medicine/therapy. There’s no way to know how he’ll react and no matter what they’ll like have an up and down journey but if he’s making her feel mentally or physically abused and it’s causing stress and outbursts from her then it’s not worth it to stay in that relationship. Personal health and well being should never be traded for love. Love isn’t easy for anyone but a good relationship won’t require you to go through abuse or constant anxiety, stress and fear of what the day might hold. Hope this helps!
@@TylerMThomas20 Thanks ! I am going to advise her.
I think my fella is bipolar but he won't 'find out'... if he was, I'd stay. But because he won't, I'm battling with 'is he or just crackers / taking the piss out of me'
I need to know, I can't take this anymore
I'm seeing this video much later, but thank you for leaving it up. My boyfriend is dealing with bipolar disorder, and just ended it with me because he didn't want to keep hurting me, and said I deserved better. I really wanted to try with him, but I think he's made up his mind. Thank you for shedding some light on what may be going on in his mind at this time.
Ah I have bipolar and literally relate to everything you said. This helped me realize a lot of things lol. My advice would be that if someone is honest and open about their bipolar with you and you aren't ready to handle it, TELL THEM. Don't drag on a relationship if you aren't ready to fully commit (in any circumstance) but specifically with those who are bipolar, because we feel emotions so strongly it could have some terrible effects on our emotional state and maybe even trigger an episode if the relationship goes on too long and suddenly ends out of nowhere, when you finally can't handle it anymore. Just be very mindful about what you want as well, because a relationship works both ways. And there's no shame in admitting to not be capable of handling someone with bipolar (or any mental health issue), some people aren't capable of dealing with that level of emotion, and some people are.
That would be my advice :)
From a fellow Bipolar Disorder sufferer; VERY SOUND ADVICE INDEED!!!!! Well said indeed.
I cried during this video, especially about trying to protect people from myself.
It’s hard dating someone bipolar. & I have have a short fuse so it doesn’t mix well.
Ebony Alexander believe it or not minesss defintely is not the sweetest apple but the way he is and was bought up our personalities make fuse go boom lol cause I get maddd fast
I'm not bipolar lil baby, wassup?
😭
The person I like has bipolar disorder and I want to help him out,give him all of the love and support in the world he deserves. Thank you for this video.
Howd it go?
I feel in love with a man that has bipolar 2. After telling me he didn’t love me out of the blue, I was done. It had been the better part of a year being selfless - giving him space, encouraging him, everything. Most of my life I’ve had close friends with bipolar disorder. Being involved romantically is different, yes. But they emphasized that type of behavior is unstable. I said “You don’t love me but I’m praying for you. Glad you found a new doctor. You’ll get what you need and want.” He has a habit of getting in touch after a couple of days but if he doesn’t love me, I don’t see the point.
i get mixed manic/ depressed episodes. i can stare at a dent in the wall for hours, lost in thought. one time i was overthinking and convinced myself my fiancé was cheating on me and he really doesnt love me. he probably asked me what i wanted to watch on tv and i snapped saying "f*** off, i hate you". i never understood the gravity of just saying "i hate you". it has hurt him, but in my defense, i think i only said that because i was hurt about a delusion my mind made up. i hope this gives you a little better understanding. and trust me, if he's like me in anyway, he's probably still beating himself about it till this day.
As someone who has a girlfriend of 5 years with bipolar, i really appreciate this insightful video.
Papa Naal how has everything been going, are you two still together?
Same here, we're still together... Really helpful
great to see a comment from someone who has a bipolar partner that isnt negative :) gives us hope
Why would you put yourself through that?
Am with someone who is bipolar 3 it's been 4months where together.
It feels like the older I get, the more it starts to amplify. The more I'm starting to realize BP, the more embarrassed and shameful I get.
Please don't feel embarrassed about it. It's an actual condition. There's nothing wrong with you...i promise😊
I found that eating organic and juicing veggies multiple times a day has totally calmed my moods. 🤗 I promise you will notice a difference after 2 weeks of religiously juicing fruits/veggies. I hope that helps💝
I've try to find a good food for bipolar. fish oil is good. alcohol or coffee or sweet is not good. keep healthy life hun.. be positive. ❤
I know right. It's like you can never win because then something else crops up. No reason to be embarrassed though.
@@samanthagupta thank you
Please share more of that as I strongly believe on it
The video came right on time. I felt all kind of emotions. I've thought about getting into a relationship but I'm so cautious and afraid because of the complex things that you mentioned ! I am scared of hurting others but I want to love too
Isha Webber why would people like you push your love ones away ... and also after you do that do you want them back? if so how long does it takes for you to feel that way... help me!
Isha Victoria 😊
That's exactly how I feel right now.
This is my exact problem. I am so scared to get into a relationship because of this. I don't want to exhaust anyone and be a burden.
Isha Webber its never bad to try if they love you it wouldn’t matter.
You just explained my entire 12 yr marriage that ended recently. I wish I knew these things decades ago! I could have been less reactive and more understanding. Thank you for helping me to forgive and begin to move on with my life!
I just want to say that I just started dating someone who has bipolar and this was EXTREMELY helpful. So thank you so much for going into the detail you did about this
I'm here a couple months after you posted this but I want to say thank you. My girlfriend is bipolar and I just went through one of the hardest weeks of my life to understand everything now because she is in a very depressed state. Everything you covered made me feel better for the first time in days. Thank you so much for this video.
I was in a relationship with someone who’s bipolar, and after some of the best few months of my life, she fell into a deep depressive state and started pushing me away. I have a reasonable understanding of depression, so I essentially braced for impact, but alas, after a month of that, we broke up, saying she “can’t be in a relationship”. A month or so later, after a few texts implying she missed me, we reconnected, and she explained that she still loved me, and she didn’t want to hurt me. We started dating a little bit again, but then another deep depression kicked in and though we live 10 minutes from each other and text each other daily, I haven’t seen her in over a month. To say that my heart aches is an understatement, but everything you said rings so true. She’s said she wants to “protect me”, that she doesn’t want to hurt me, etc. I just haven’t figured out how to best say that I’m willing to be there for her during the ups and downs.
I’m not sure what my exact point is, but the one thread of hope I have is your advice to let her know I’m ok if her BP hurts me. So thank you for that little nugget.
Help me man!
Jared Noll Are you still with her to this day?
Literally the same just happened to me, timeframes and all. The song that I'm really feeling right now is Joji Dancing in the Dark. Also helpful is educating myself on this disorder. I feel like I have to keep myself away for a time so I can be prepared to be there in a way that helps.
Jared Noll I agree! Let her know!
@@Billiards8kid Sadly no. Shortly after I posted this, she actually moved to the other side of the country, hoping to get away from some of her triggers where we're from. I've kept in contact with her though, and she seems to be doing better now, though she still wrestles with her demons frequently. But she has a new boy friend who seems to be a good match for her, and I'm genuinely happy she has the support she needs.
I think my boyfriend is bipolar but not diagnosed! He has always been in trouble growing up or fighting but not anymore. However, he will go from being so in love with me and doesn't want no one to ever be with me to him feeling not in love or he isn't good enough for me... He will say, " I want to be able to provide for you and I am unsure I can do that".... He is always wanting to buy new things, new cars, and do things on impulsive..... then he has times where he just will quit his job!
LanaMae Wicks
I have the same situation with my significant other. We should talk! I need someone to talk to. :/
Same!
LanaMae Wicks he sounds like type 2
My husband is doing the same thing over and over again.😭
LanaMae Wicks yes , I’ve been married to one ten years u need to manage money . It’s so so hard hun
You explained exactly what I needed to say to my boyfriend. I have hours where I go from being in love to disgusted. I also harbor emotions like excessively. Like if he does something that hurts me it stays. My thoughts are all over the place because of my bi-polar. Thinking of going in meds but am afraid of the side effects. So thank you I tell him all the time he's better of alone and it's selfish for me to hurt him or putting him through all this
Spynke 80 you described me...
I met this gorgeous amazing lady. It's been like three months interacting with her on both voice and text. Met in person aswell. Their is so much I love about her! I noticed she would be in different moods at different moments and i would interpret and mitigate this on text and voice. The emotional high and lows can easily derail you. But Sincerely its totaly worth it because to me she is beautiful on the inside and outside. All she needs is my unconditional support, patience, time, space and consistency.
Did it end up a train wreck?
@@ashmac4732it absolutely did
I’m so shock right now. I’m crying so hard cause you just said exactly what I think and feel. What I’ve been leaving and I don’t want to keep dealing w it. I’ve never seen anyone for bipolar disorder, but I have this problem every time I tried to date someone. I feel up in the clouds at the beginning and then out of no where i don’t feel the same way anymore. They just annoy me and I want them far away from me. And I also feel depressed when I was just leaving my best life. I’m starting to date someone and after 3 months I’m starting to feel this way again.. but this time I’m tired of the situation of me fucking things up cause I don’t know what’s wrong w me. I always end up pushing people away that at the end I do want to keep in my life, but is always too late when I finally get back to feeling “fine” again. And is so scary. I always end up hurting people that don’t deserve it. For a strange reason I decided to search for “bipolar love” and this pop out and I’m just shock. This time I decided to stay and keep going cause I know that at some point the good feeling comes back. So I’m fighting w it as is SO hard. Maybe is not something I’m supposed to battle alone and this is the sign that I needed to start working on my problem and live a happier life. 🙏🏽💛
Thanks for this useful video. I’m dating a bipolar man. We have been through so many trails, but he never give up on me. He’s a loving man I have ever met in my whole life. He’s worth the effort.
I've shared this video to family and friends. I love this. I was recently diagnosed with bipolar 1. It's just nice to know that someone else truly gets it and could answer these questions.
I once fell in love with someone who had bipolar disorder. Got hurt in the process loving her but I appreciate the experience.
I realized how shifty I can come across. I can be better. I wish he wanted to see it though
They tend to lie and cheat a lot not good for your mental
I'm in the same situation.. He has disappeared for 1 week and I'm waiting to see whether he comes or not...
For the first time in my life I feel like someone understands me. Thank you for sharing this video it meant the world to me. I’ve felt so alone for so long
Wow, This video has helped me understand my disorder. I’ve recently been diagnosed within the last few months and it’s been so hard to wrap my head around everything. I’ve always felt “abnormal” and out of sync with everyone. I felt like I’ve felt emotions on a higher level all of my life. Some how being told that “this is what you have” has been a relief for me.
So thank you for making this video. It’s helped me understand that meaningful relationships are possible with someone like me whether it be friends or with a significant other.
-Stephanie
Who is here in 2019? This video is really helpful
thank you. my boyfriend might be bipolar but he hasn't been diagnosed yet. your video has helped me so much you don't even realize.
Was he diagnosed meanwhile? How was the process of telling him that he should see a doctor? Did he accepted it easily? I am afraid that my recently ex girlfriend (she just broke up with me a couple days ago) has bipolar disorder, but I feel that I can't tell her that, of course... :( I hope all is doing great with you guys!
Your videos are so relatable to me. Thank you for making me feel less alone.
Ddlovatoismyhero love youuu! 💛
Ddlovatoismyhero same
You just said EXACTLY how I feel. I be talking to my fiance and he always says things like "I'm not going to claim your Bipolar" and "There's nothing wrong with you." He doesn't understand that I'm trying to control my emotions and save our relationship. You just personified all of my feelings. I'm glad to know I'm not alone in this.
Wow. You literally just described everything I’ve ever gone through with bi polar with every relationship I’ve ever been in. I honestly thought I was crazy because I didn’t know anyone else experienced this...
Lots of great advice! I have bipolar 2 and just started my channel to share how I manage it. Thanks for helping reduce stigma!
P.s. I’ve been married almost 10 years and I consider it my greatest accomplishment 😊
You’re such a sweet person. My partner is diagnosed bipolar. I love what you said and I think it is very helpful. No matter what a person goes through, everyone deserves love. If I could do it all over again, I would still choose my partner over and again.
You have made my whole life finally make sence. Im watching me when I hear you talk. I'm 35 and I finally don't feel alone. Your amazing
Thank you so much for making this video... I'm 23, and this is the first year I received the right diagnose. I've always wondered why all of my romantic relationships are like this, and now I feel more secure in my emotional instability because of my illness. Also, it makes it easier to communicate the patterns with potential partners.
The amount of times I had to remind myself that my relationship made me happy when I was in a depression stage was a lot of effort.
This was incredibly thought out and correct , very thorough look through in the realm of dating. I was in tears in the way you kept your view positive and covered things people don’t ever talk about , very uplifting and I thank you for doing this . Sharing that big brain of yours 💛💛💛💛👍🏼🌸🌸🌸love from CA
Thank you so unbelievably much for the insights you gave me with your video. This girl I've been seeing for a few months deals with this condition, and I didn't even realize how many little things I may have been doing that just made things more difficult for her. So, I'm really grateful, thank you.
My partner has Bipolar 1. After we met initially things were going as they usually do in the beginning. I wasn't as aware about how bipolar manifests, all I knew was his diagnosis. Then couple months in, he must have become hypomanic, now that I think about it, coz he would always tell me that no matter how good or bad I was, he would accept me & have me as I am. And as relationships go, that's the best thing one wants to hear from their partner right ! He would talk about us resolving any conflicts that might arise as is natural, and he'd do anything to make it work. I was very happy with all of that. Then he had a manic episode & was shortly hospitalized. We had very little contact but we very still very much connected. Fast forward a few months after his discharge from the hospital, and he began having mixed episodes, but mostly depression. He became detached, distant, cold,mean, would get pissed off at me for no reason I could understand and ended up ghosting me for almost 3 months. Confused doesn't even come close to how I felt mentally & emotionally. More like rejected & abandoned I guess. I still texted him every now & then but didn't push things too much. One fine day he replied saying he just got too overwhelmed by my messeges. I still have no idea why. It might have been a form of self defense for him. It was just cruel to me. I also felt that he wasn't attracted to me anymore. Things still were rocky and he seemed to be in a haze after we started talking again. It got to a point that I made a conscious decision to end/stop things after 2 months, coz I spent all my time worrying about him while he wouldn't respond to any communication. He barely even reacted to me ending things. I got back in touch with him coz of this covid-19 pandemic, and apparently he thought I left him coz he got sick, he felt I ran and left him alone. Which is far from the truth, but I guess that's how he felt..... Anyways, it's not an easy road and without clear communication, things get all sorts of confusing. Thankfully, he's good with taking his meds and trying to maintain a sleep schedule, both are of utmost importance in bipolar management. He's still having mixed episodes, so I've been giving him some space right now and we're taking it one day at a time. And also understanding and accepting that it's not him, it's his illness. Again, not easy ! We've also gotta take care of our very own mental health as well. I love him deeply and just hope for his well-being.
This really helped me a lot. In going through this it’s hard not to take it personal, this video helped me understand that it’s not just me
Thank you for making this video. I sent this to my boyfriend to help him understand me more and why i act and react to things in our relationship. i really resignate with this video, thank you, seriously.
I was dating with bipolar, I love him so much till now. But he is still angry with me, he don't love me anymore. I try hard to keep our relationship goes well, but he still want to end this romantic relationship. Please help me, I really want him to come back. I love him, so much
I have a hard time in both manic and depressive states with relationships, especially if I am living with someone. I find being in a place alone with dating is more conducive to a healthy relationship for me. I have rapid cycle, and I think that is why dating works better than living with someone, because I don't have to be around the other person all the time and they can get my best days.
Accidently dating someone. LOL I've been there before.
Way too many times
I've had a Bipolar I diagnosis for a few years and am finally starting to tackle symptom management (esp. those suicidal thoughts).
~"I am hurtful and I feel like I need to protect people from myself"~ Thank you!!! I've always seen myself as a monster that needs to be reigned in, and I spend most of my energy doing that. I didn't know this was something typical of a bipolar diagnosis. It's encouraging to know that there are other people out there who share similar thoughts. We are not monsters. There are people out there who can handle our very unique brand of love.
Thank you so much. This helped me understand how I should respond to my boyfriend's bipolar behavior.
Tessa Galea, LMT right? Same.
I thankfully have been on a medication that keeps me from going into manic episodes. I'm happy with my fiancé and I can't wait to be his wife. We are great at communication. We make sure we communicate with each other. Even when I'm pushing him away he just sticks by my side and helps me through. I hate being bipolar. The night my fiancé saved my life was the night I knew he was the man I was going to marry and he is so good with all of my mental illnesses
Don't worry, for in time you will destroy him for that is ALL that Bipolar Women/Men do....Is to destroy 'good' men and women.
Roger That
@@johnthedespicabledutchman7406 you are a very negative person ,she dais she doesnt get manic on her meds
@sunflowercatie are you still with your bf?
Thank you so much for sharing this. I cried watching it because someone who can explain it and relate helps to not feel so alone.
It's cool you linked the topic to music.
I have been with a bipolar guy for 4 years so far. He doesnt want to take his meds. He doesnt like how they make him feel.
This video helped so much.
I'm bipolar, in my last relationship my ex didn't understand whatsoever, he took me missing work as me not wanting to work. He wasn't supportive at all, instead of being there for me, he constantly put me down. I left that relationship although it was hard, my life is so much better in every aspect. I have a sense of peace and contentment !
Bipolar people are AWESOME!!!!
I really loved my bipolar boyfriend soooo much but Sorry he broke my heart over and over , I'm glad the relationship ends before he drives me crazy
Thank you so much for sharing. I could definitely relate on so many levels. I have bipolar and I’m the same way. I’ve broken it off with so many guys to protect them too
I just would like to add, that if a person with bipolar disorder regularly and without reason cycles through the antagonize/psychologically assault type behaviors/phases toward their significant other, I would just like to say that, *of course from my viewpoint personally and only*, a significant other has every right to feel upset or hurt or to feel intense emotions in response to that behavior and/or words and unprovoked change in demeanor or sudden hated. It is unreasonable in my opinion to ask that they're be no unpleasant or reactive response to whatever is said or done, with the argument being the significant other would be considered "at fault". As much as it is unpleasant to hear or read, a person with bipolar in a romantic relationship is not the only person whos' needs and emotions are of value. If a person with bipolar has an episode, it is not a get out of jail free card or break somebody's heart card. With the descriptions of wanting to end the relationship and having no interest in their significant other, it sounds ultimately cruel for somebody who feels these ways to be in a romantic relationship. Love would never be able to truly form in a healthy fulfilling way. It would cycle through neverending shattered hearts and abandonment, happening on a whim, with no concern by the person who is bipolar, who is "carelessly/mindlessly/without awareness" causing intense hurt and deep suffering for their significant other by treating them this way. As said in the video, it cycles often to the person with bipolar feeling they are just no longer interested or attracted at all to their once significant other they built so much with. They will throw it all away. So, while this cycle of torture comes along and whatever chaos and heartlessness destroys either of the two and part of all of whatever relationship is there, during it, the person with bipolar feels compelled to point out that they are not 100% responsible. This very well may not be true. If a significant other is upset because the person with bipolar disorder has antagonized/psychologically assaulted them, IT IS NOT A RIGHT that those with bipolar disorder have to say that no matter what they say or do they can't help it and it's not 100% their fault, when they say they don't care about you anymore, that you literally mean nothing to them at that moment. People with bipolar are unaware of how their behavior affects others, especially romantic partners. They cannot see or accept that their hurtful hot and cold, caring and disinterest, emotions and psychologkcal attacks are deeply hurtful and can be permanently destructive. They cannot accept they are at fault as it causes them to feel severe guilt and shame. They may sabotage or push away their significant other, without expressing empathy and with genuine sudden intense negative emotions.. being bipolar doesn't mean to have the cake and eat it too, just cause you can't help it. If it is at that point, I agree with the person in the video who said she chooses not to date because of her illness. Her information about the way of thinking is heartbreaking for me to learn, though I am thankful to know it.
THANK YOU! I love my partner but with my own mental health struggles its hard to take all he throws at me. Especially when im having lows. I have to tough it out for us both when I have nothing in my tank due to physical ailments too. I want to love him i just know its not enough to make him love himself. It really really hurts.
Lizzie you are so smart and good at explaining the bipolar in detail. It's nice to listen to someone who understands everything I feel. Appreciate your videos
My gf has bipolar disorder. She is the love of my life and I wouldn’t have it any other way. We communicate a lot (very helpful). What I’ve noticed that helps is to be very gentle, empathetic, and kind. The best thing I’ve noticed that helps is that I will hug her until she relaxes and we will lay in bed, not talk, but just lay there with my arms wrapped around her. Not sure why people wouldn’t want to date someone with bipolar. I find it very interesting. Never a dull moment and I love it. This video was very helpful, thank you!
I was with someone with bipolar for six years,it was an absolute nightmare. I thought I was cracking up.i wouldnt recomend it if u want to be happy.they cant change.i stayed for my daughter.iv now been with a woman for over 2 years and we haven't argued once.now I'm alot happier in a normal stable relationship.
Yes, they can change. They need to stay on their medication, and take personal steps to ensure they see the signs of mania or depression so they can avoid hurting other people, but it's possible. Please don't be an asshole to innocent bystanders because _you_ were with an asshole.
Yes. This is me. I shared it with my boyfriend today. Thank you for speaking out on this.
U are hot ma am
You literally described my 8 year off and on relationship 100%.
Lizzie is a blessing from God I swear, you have saved me so many times from doing something ill regret I'm currently going through the switch right now, where everything was ok in the relationship and then just stopped all love feeling gone and I'm really struggling to hold on, I'm praying this episode passes
I started crying while listening to this video. My boyfriend and i went through hell to be together. Seven months into our relationship, suddenly, i feel disconnected. I don’t want anything to do with him. And i just want to stay away. Together with other stuff going on with me, I am so confuse and felt like i am mentally ill. I cant explain my emotions. While listening to this video and relating to everything you are saying made me feel like someone! Someone understand what i am going through! This is the answer! Im going to get professional and this help understand that i can get help and how to explain what im going through.
My girlfriend is bipolar 2, question to the people here... I didn't find out she was bipolar till like 2 years later into the relationship, should a person with a certain disorder tell you in advance "hey i have this and that" or is it okay to hide till you can no more... I always feel like she catfished me she didnt tell me what was up, now overhere dealing with stuff I didn't know I signed up for?
I'm literally going through this myself. I mean personally it should've been known from the start because at least YOU ARE AWARE instead of you sitting there questioning yourself thinking that you are the problem. It's tough I've been with my wife 3 years since then there's days she wants to divorce me then the next day she wants me and that has messed with my mental because if I had known from the start I would have figured out ways to handle that in a different way and understand more but, she's worth it and I also know at this stage I have to focus on myself because of the mental it has caused me so right now I'm taking a break hopefully reunion will happen. Two broken people can't help each other. I hope you find ways yourself ... if she's worth it figure her out and understand her more because remember when she doesn't have her days that's the real her.
I'm also Bipolar 2. I was diagnosed more than 10 years into a marriage that was circling the drain. The divorce should be final in March.
But in the times I've dated since my ex left, I have told them about my situation upfront. It's a hard conversation to have, but necessary because I want them to leave if they can't handle it before I start developing feelings.
In your case, don't be so quick to look for the exit. Work with her, listen to her, and be loving. Help her to remember to stay on her meds and to keep up with therapy and psychiatrist visits.
YES
thank you for this
I dated a girl who's bipolar. On one of our dates, we were joking with each other, and all of a sudden, she locked onto one of my jokes and turned it into something completely different, broke things off with me, told me, "I thought you were a really nice guy." And the very next day, she starts talking to me again like nothing ever happened.
That doesn't sound very bipolar. Bipolar would be more like: "the other person talked so loud and fast that you were getting dirty looks from the whole restaurant and you didn't get to say a single word during the whole dinner except your when you said what you wanted to the waiter" . BD1 w/ psychotic features here haha yeaaaaaaaa
That was great video, thank you! I was diagnosed with bipolar 2 weeks ago.
So much truth in your words that it's not our decision to protect our significant one, and that he should decide for himself.
When you said you feel like no one can love you, or no one could ever choose you, because of this disease, that broke my heart. My comimg-down from mania brain attacks me so hard with the thought ' you are worthless because of your disease.' I have good people in my life that help me daily. I am blessed. Remembering blessings is so important.
I have it too, and my bf has asperger. It's extra exhausting and frustrating whenever I am in my depression episode, but for some reason we make it work... it's true that sometimes I feel undeserved, it's definitely a bless that he still stays with me though
TheNotSoMysteriousBabe
I have Aspergers and have been seeing someone that has bipolar
Any advice???
Hey, My girlfriend was just diagnosed with bipolar sje hasnt started to take medication yet but she is planning to, our relationship is really rocky there are high peaks and then we just crash and burn. I love her to bits but sometimes i cant deal with the way she treats me, like one minute she is happy and hugging me and then she hurls abuse at me, obviously im gonna get mad if she is giving me shit for no reason, i understand the phases and you arent in total control but still it hurts on the inside. Not to mention the emotional pain of monthly break ups, i love her so much but im getting worn down, i used to be able to control my temper alot easier and now i feel like im breaking down, what can i do to help her realise that yes you have bipolar and you arent fuly in control but i also have feelings and when i tell her about them she not to just laughs it off and call me a drama queen.
Everyone deserves Love especially my girl. I know this sounds alot like complain ing but dont get me wrong i want to be there for the long haul, just not as a doormat.
Pedro Benitez yes I feel you
This is me right now 4 years with her. She is my fiancee and every month it's the same thing over and over at first I lost my mind. Then it went to a point where I would just retreat because there is nothing I can do and anything I do makes it worse
This is me right now 4 years with her. She is my fiancee and every month it's the same thing over and over at first I lost my mind. Then it went to a point where I would just retreat because there is nothing I can do and anything I do makes it worse
I feel u
I’m bipolar. I completely understand, it can be really difficult to handle people like us.
My ex would go from everything's roses to the world is crashing in the span of a day. I couldn't take it.... nothing I offered as help was accepted.
THANK YOU SO MUCH. A LOT OF PEOPLE DON'T UNDERSTAND US AND IT'S GOING TO TAKE A SPECIAL PERSON TO LOVE US.
It's like you're talking to me! I've been going through rough 18 months messing up my relationship on several occasions. People see these changes, cycles, of mood I have and I can see it now too. Going to talk to my MH Dr asap and get her to look at BPD of some sort! This video is crazily accurate thank you Lizzie!
I'm laughing because it seems like this video is literally about me. Also didn't know Halsey was Bipolar and that's hilarious because I've always thought to myself, "wow it seems like me and Halsey have so much in common". LMAO literally will be in love with someone, the next day feel nothing towards them and completely cut them off and watch them try to demand answers from me while I say nothing and lay in bed with my dog.
Clearly you don’t have bipolar or you don’t know what it feels like to relate to content so byeGK
G K clearly you’re uneducated on mental health, someone with those personality disorders would say the opposite of what I said, or wouldn’t take the time to reply to you at all. Good luck getting the proper diagnosis and working on your self esteem. Hopefully one day you’ll feel as comfortable with yourself as I do with myself
G K so when you think that someone with a mental illness should feel guilty and bad about themselves for something that they cannot help? That’s unfortunate for you, considering you have a mental illness. I’m sorry that you have to go through life suffering and also beating yourself up for your behaviors. Luckily I don’t do that, because I know that my bipolar behaviors don’t make me a bad person. Maybe one day you’ll be able to work through your deep-rooted self-hatred enough to stop commenting to random people on the internet who like themselves. It’s also sad that you equate self-awareness and making light of a situation to narcissism. You must live in a dark world :( I promise life gets better when you can fully accept yourself and make light of your situation instead of projecting negativity onto strangers and hating yourself for your behaviors. Best of luck!
G K BPD would be the polar opposite of anything I commented, the fact that you would even conclude to that based off a comment about me making light of my situation and my self-awareness and acceptance....yikes dude. Research what BPD is, people with that have extremely low self-esteem and a lack of a healthy personal identity (the complete opposite of me, that’s leaning more toward something you would have considering your feelings of negativity). There are other healthier ways to make yourself feel better instead of trying to tear down someone with a really high self esteem and a healthy perspective. BPD would literally be the total opposite of what you seem to think that means
G K uhh when did I ever say that I did any of that? With bipolar I don’t stick around enough to fall in love with most people. Let alone would I laugh at their pain and suffering? What Lizzie was referring to was the short-term relationships with people due to the bipolar. What youre saying feels like you got my comment mixed up with someone else’s, or you’re just extremely confused. You’ve probably been hurt by someone who cut you off. Why are you going completely off the wall about one comment from someone you know nothing about? It’s weird.
NO DISRESPECT. I HAD A BIPOLAR GIRLFRIEND BEFORE. IT'S HELL ON EARTH. I'LL NEVER DO IT AGAIN...
What happened?
What if both people in the relationship have bipolar?
I've had this same thought
Thanks for posting. Newly dating someone with bipolar and I thought I knew more than I did. Lol need to learn more about how it actually affects his life. The pushing me away definitely hurts when he is depressed. He definitely turns to his friends.
my girl thinks she has bipolar depression. we've just talked about it tonight and i just had to take a break from watching this video to tell her that i love her so much and i'm staying no matter what. this helped me undestand my girlfriend and i can't thank you enough for this.
Very insightful, but I don’t think it’s fair for the bipolar person to expect the other person to say “I am willing to get hurt. I don’t care how much you hurt me.” Yes, every relationship has times that will hurt both parties, but the way it came off, “I don’t care how much you hurt me,” makes it sound like the other person should be a doormat with no regard for themselves. I’m sure that’s not how you meant it, but that’s how it comes off. The person without bipolar should expect that, as in any relationship, they will be hurt, but probably more so. In that regard they should be willing to accept it. But they should still have a point past where they will not be hurt, if that makes sense. This applies to the bipolar person as well. No one should be willing to be hurt without boundaries. And the bipolar person should still realise that those boundaries exist. Both parties should do everything in their power to help the situation. The one without bipolar should be patient, supportive and respectful. But the one with bipolar should also do everything in their power to help make it not so hard for the other person: seek therapy, take medicine, use coping strategies. It is not all just on the non-bipolar person to “be supportive” and “willing to take it.” That’s one-sided, and unfair.
And just to clarify, I too have a mental disorder. I have OCD, and while it does not affect how I feel about people, it does affect my mood by causing me to have various irrational fears or phobias and severe anxiety spells, which in turn can also trigger insomnia. This all affects my overall mood, which can in turn affect my relationship with my husband. So while I do not have bipolar, I know how important it is for the person with the disorder to do their part in working through the problem.
You can't tell a person how they should feel and especially a person that deals and knows their inner self 🤽🏽♂️
I can relate to all of what you've said. I pushed her away because I loved her so much. I wanted her to hate me, and finally she did. I'm free now.
This makes me so sad 💔 but I understand you and what you felt like you had to do.
LizziesAnswers don't be sad, It's my fate. I'm not meant to be in a long term relationship. Specially traveling with some one you love for a long time, it's magical most of the time but then it collapses suddenly.
Wow! My guy is trying to make me hate him.
This video opened my eyes so much 💓 thank you for posting. My boyfriend is bipolar
I found this on the recommendation. I know it's really late😅 I was diagnosed with BPD 2 and was in a toxic relationship which is made it much worse. But now my new boyfriend really understands and cares about my condition. we've been dating for a year now. He always make a lot of jokes every time I'm in a depression episode until i'm fully calm. And he never mad at me when i'm in depression or manic episode. he also watch this video and he said it make him more understand about BPD in relatioship. thank you for this amazing video😊