Thank you for making this video. This has been so validating. I consistently fell asleep upright right my baby at night (which is so dangerous) and my husband suggested lying down to nurse. We happened to discover this incredible secret of sleeping through the night with the added benefit of closeness with my baby. I haven't told a single soul we do this though because i feel like we would be judged. But our bodies were CLEARLY made to nurse this way at night. It's so natural and comfortable. I was sleeping in the way that co sleepers recommend is safest without ever looking up a single thing, because it just came naturally. This is a wonderful thing. Thank you for sharing this information.
Just accomplished our first bed share nurse and nap session. Thank you so much for this video. I feel so much more connected to my son and im literally crying seeing him sleep so soundly. He hasn’t stirred, no whining, no crying it’s beautiful.
You’ve made me feel so much better. My daughter is 6 weeks old and she sleeps the best in bed with me. I’ve been side feeding and i wake up when she’s searching and help her find it. I’ve felt so guilty about having her in bed at all. I have only been doing it when I’m too exhausted to feel comfortable sitting up to feed her. I watched your fourth trimester video as well and it’s truly what i needed to hear
Oh I'm so glad. I had the same issue with my first. I felt SO guilty co-sleeping - no one I knew co-slept and my mother-in-law told me it wasn't okay. I started reading up on other cultures, met another lady who co-slept, and I realized that we were pretty much the only culture that didn't make it a common practice. After first hand experiencing the benefits that it had for both my baby and me, I was sold and never looked back. 5 babies later, each of which slept next to me until they were ready to transition (which they did beautifully and easily in their own time), I can attest to nothing but good things that came of it! None of them fear bedtime, they all have a great relationship with sleep, and I get much needed snuggle time with them all as babies! A win for everyone! My 1 year old tells me it's time for bed, leads me to bed, and falls asleep in minutes while nursing. I leave him to sleep and have time with my husband! No tears, no struggle... amazing. Thanks for your kind comments :)
Jennifer's Magic Boots I’m glad to see it’s not a bad thing. My mom says it’s so unsafe which i know it could be (like keeping blanket by baby’s face and stuff). I’ve heard a lot that other cultures do it and that it’s being studied more in the us but it’s still such an judged thing. I hope with time it stops being like that
It’s 2am on my first night home with my first baby (called Niko!) and we tried putting him in his crib but he screamed bloody murder and seemed genuinely distraught when he’s otherwise been really placid and cheerful. So we ended up co-sleeping for the last couple of hours, and now he’s feeding while I watch this. 🖤
I'm 5 1/2 months pregnant with my first baby and I'm super excited to co sleep. Not everyone is a fan of me doing it but my husband is okay with it and that's all that matters is that my husband supports me in everything I do.
I absolutely love this video! My husband and I had our first baby this past January and we co-sleep. It has been one of the best decisions. We all are well rested and my milk supply has been wonderful because of it.
My own sleep is severely disturbed if my husband is not in bed even one single night, and likewise for him. If we roll over too far from each other and I can't feel his body next to mine I half-wake up and find it in my sleep. I cannot even begin to imagine how much more significant it is for a newborn. Even when I had a small kitten, she would attach her little fluff body to mine 24/7 in the beginning seeking the warmth and cuddles even without the food (actually she continued sleeping somewhere in my bed for the rest of her life). How is this need for physical connection not obvious and literally the most natural thing?!? And yet my friends and family think I'm anything between delusional to downright criminal when it comes to discussing cosleeping.
Thank you for sharing! I’ve been bed sharing with my first baby since we brought him home from the hospital. He sleeps so much better & therefore so do I *mostly*. It feels so intuitive & natural for us. Now selfishly I’ve grown to love the extra closeness. It does make breastfeeding so much easier at night too! I do understand why it wouldn’t work for some people or be in the best interest of the baby in some circumstances but it works so well for us & we are so careful.
I've done exactly that with all 6 of my children. I also bend my leg under me so I have extra stability from rolling forward. It's worked for me and still does. I've just had my 6th baby 12 days ago and he only sleeps best with me.
Yes! Another big family who knows the secret to sleep :) Congrats on your new little one! And I agree with the bending your leg for stability - and you body just forms so perfectly to the baby in their sweet little fetal position too. Thanks for writing, and I am sending love to you and your family!
@@MrsPaulaTorres no one said i feeling guilting for breast feeding . i was feeling guilting for falling asleep. this was 5 months ago im a first time mum. LOL said an American mother 🥰 you do you
Oh my word! I started watching your video over a year ago (before I was pregnant) but didn’t get 5 minutes into in because I had that mindset of “cosleeping is bad!” From everyone around me saying it. I now have a 2 1/2 month baby girl and we’ve been cosleeping from day 1...I wish I had come back to this video sooner! Good tips and tricks I can’t wait to try :-D thank you! P.S. I love my bengkung belly bind I ordered from your Etsy shop! It felt so good postpartum.
I agree completely. It's so strange how it's been kind of taboo in the US for so long. It's so incredible to be able to cuddle with your baby at night - having them so close, comfortable, and safe. Such a beautiful practice. I hope other mamas give it a try and see how wonderful it is. Thank you for your kind words :)
Loved your video. As a mom and a filmmaker ... I thought this was spectacular. Thanks for taking the time to make it. I wish I would have seen this with my first son. The many sleepless nights sitting up on my boppy until finally finding this method naturally. Mommas have to trust their guts and stop fearing co-sleeping this natural way. ;)
My baby is 5 days old and I did not plan to co sleep, I spent my entire pregnancy planning to sleep him beside me in a Moses basket I had absolutely no idea I would feel so adversed to putting him in it until he got home from the hospital It’s hard and cold and he is wide awake as soon as he’s put in it Consleeping feels so natural and he doesn’t cry all night, he stirs, we breastfeed and then we cuddle a little and then continue sleep
I just need to say THANK YOU for this video. I feel so much graritude for recieving this wonderful advice. My sweet baby is 3 mths now. We started sleeping next to eachother 3 weeks after she was born. Seeme she wouldnt settle on her own. I figure she knows what she needs and will be ready soon enough. I read the book Sweet Sleep which confirmed so much for me in terms of safety and why cosleeping works. These past few months have been very peaceful for our family which is a necessity for my husband who works long hours. Again thank you. You've helped change the trajectory of my parenting and relationship with my daughter. Maybe even future kiddos. Glad I found your video just at the right time!
Hi, I had watched this when my baby was a newborn and just watched it again. Thanks for sharing! It has helped me a lot. My boy is almost seven months now. We cosleep but he usually goes to sleep before us. Lately I am having a hard time putting him to sleep. Would you share how your evening routine looks like with older babies after the "swing stage"?
Thank you so much for this video. 8 months on and we’re still co-sleeping together. After I watched it I felt what I was doing was right for us. One challenge I have is that when he is napping or sleeping at night if I leave him alone (to go to bathroom, eat etc) and he wakes, he cries. Do you have any tips/experiences? Many thx xoxo!!
Thank you so much for putting this out! I didn't even know bed gates were a thing. My first baby comes in December and I want to co sleep. It is very important to me.
i bedshare with my 7 week old and love it! i love having him so close and them cuddles :) theyre little for only so long. He naps in his crib during the day and I plan to transition him to crib overnight eventually at around 4-5 months. He will still co sleep (room share) until he's at least 2 though. We will see!
Thank you so much! This is exactly what I was looking for, a mom with lots of experience! First time expecting mom here hoping to co sleep. Thank your for your helpful tips and for sharing your experience!
This is incredible ♡ I co-slept with my daughter the day she came home up until she was around 8 years old. Now fast forward 17 years I have a newborn baby boy. This time around I'm more nervous because he was born at 37 weeks and is only 6lbs, where my daughter was 8lbs 2oz. My son does NOT like sleeping in his bassinet even though its right next to the bed. I tried a moses basket, but nope. He will sleep in it for a little bit but then he wants to be on me. So now I've been putting the firm mattress that came with the basket on the bed that way he's on a firm surface. I do have to wear a nipple shield because my nipples are inverted. So thats the only issue.
subscribed ^_^ and since hospital he started to love sleeping with me. he sleeps the best next to me. I was worried at first then i realize back home in el salvador there are no cribs.
My 2 month old baby girl has bed shared right next to me since birth. Funny you say your son uses your breast as a pillow after his full so does my daughter it's so precious!! Thank you for this video
I’m due any day now with my first. I am already dreading the whole lack of sleep situation. I have a bedside bassinet set up that I plan on using but I would much rather have my baby snuggled up next to me since it seems so much easier on everyone. I am a deep sleeper now so I am not sure how alert I will be once my baby is here. My husband seems very anti-cosleep considering how deep I sleep, but we shall see once baby is here. I bet I will have a strong intuition one way or another. ❤ Sleep is so important to me and I know I will be a better mother if I could get as much sleep as possible, and co sleeping seems to be the answer.
@@Bri-wc4ib hi! So i didn’t bed share when my son was a newborn. He slept in his bassinet and then crib, both in my room. He started really fighting the crib around 6 months. Occasionally I brought him into my bed with me early in the morning but I didn’t feel safe because he tended to burrow into my husbands pillow. I struggled on and around 9 months out of desperation I started him on a floor bed in his own room. At 14 months now, he’s still doing great on his floor bed. I nurse him to sleep and then roll away when he’s asleep. When he wakes up throughout the night, I nurse him back to sleep and usually just fall back asleep next to him. I wish I did the floor bed earlier! I get to safely sleep next to him but it’s also so easy for me to roll away and let him sleep on his own when I need to. If I have another baby I really don’t think I’ll do the bassinet thing again. Those first few months were so hard trying to get my baby to stay asleep in his bassinet. Throughout the day, I dreaded night time and would feel depressed because I didn’t know how I was gonna get some sleep. I will most likely put my mattress on the floor and cosleep. It really is the best.
Thank you for sharing your experience! I had such a hard time with my first in her bassinet as well. I'm so hopeful about the idea of safe co-sleeping for my next baby!
Thank you so much for sharing another lovely video! I just finished reading La Leche League International's book called the Womanly Art of Breastfeeding. It mentions a lot of safe co-sleeping options/tricks/benefits too. Not only does it seem to be the norm for most cultures but when practiced safely is proven to be best for all. (Dr. James McKenna has some really good research out there too)
Hi! I was wondering what you do during winter for you to stay warm without a blanket.. I have an older home and it’s cold at night but scared to have the blanket close to baby
This is sooo helpful. In Mexico we practice cosleeping but I was just so nervous since I see a lot of info against it, so we only did it the first two nights and from then on in the crib. My baby is 7 weeks old and I could very well sleep through the night since he doesn't really wake up, just stirs. But I get up to feed him so it cuts my sleep. Since I'll be going back to work soon my husband and I thought we could be alternating nights to feed him when he wakes up ... but we could avoid lack of sleep altogether ... :)
I love this video! The peaceful way you speak and your lovely baby just make it perfect! 😍 Thanks a lot for sharing. I am expecting our first baby in 2 weeks and also plan co-sleeping (in my country it’s totally normal). 🤓
Aw... thank you! Congrats on your second baby on the way... and enjoy co-sleeping 💕! I wish the US would smarten up and accept co-sleeping as a normal practice... like pretty much the rest of the world does 🙄. Wishing you a peaceful and magical birth experience, Angelina.
Yeah my wee ones need to grow a bit before they get the side feeding thing but they get there within the first month usually 😊❤ beautiful bonding time ❤
I’m curious to know about diaper changing for newborn/young baby. If you don’t get up to feed, and baby doesn’t wake up much at night, how often do you change newborn/young baby at nighttime? And I think it’s worth to mention that if you’re breastfeeding, it also saves you time not (necessarily) having to burp baby at night... so more sleep! Thank you for your inspiring video. I co-slept with my baby when he was already 4 or 5 months old, and it truly saved us. I was a new person - not only more rested but happy not to be apart from him at night, which was something that always felt unnatural to me. I wish I had done it from the beginning. :)
On our 7th week co-sleeping with my son! That has been our set-up since he was born. All you said were true ❤️ In my case though, instead of blanket I use my son’s pillow as back stopper. ✌️
Thank you so much for this content! Very helpful. I am wondering what swing you use? My baby will not stay asleep without me for naps or for going to bed at night (usually going to bed later than him).
Love this, my 3 week old baby definitely prefers Co sleeping. Can I ask what you do to keep yourself warm if you are topless co sleeping? Are you keeping the blankets away from you as well? Thank you
My baby is 4 weeks old , I co-sleep with him but sometimes I get in the way of him breathing normally because he kinda goes under my chest , it scares me that I almost pushed his chest down with my albow .
Thank you for your video! My newborn currently sleeps in his bassinet that is attached to my bed & in the early morning when he is hungry, I will then bring him into bed with me and it’s the sweetest thing ever❤️ he is still getting the hang of it & I have noticed he does much better with it when we have our tummies touching one another, so thank you for bringing up the newborn tips! I do have a question. Whenever you had a baby co-sleeping with you, when did you start to put them in their own room? I would assume that each time you had a new baby, you needed to transition another child out of your bed or else when you had a newborn, the newborn would disrupt their sleep?
Hi, thank you for your videos, I find that you are so calm and comforting to listen to that it helps me just to watch one of your videos when I’m feeling stressed. I just had my second baby and did some cosleeping with my first and I am really enjoying it now with my baby. I have a few questions though: I found that I would nurse my first to go to sleep at night or for a nap in the day and it would put me to sleep too so I would end up having the same bed time as my baby much of the time when I would have preferred to have that evening time with my husband. What does putting your baby to bed at night or for a nap in the day generally look like for you? Also, I am wondering if cosleeping and nursing my baby to go to sleep will make it so they don’t learn how to soothe themself and fall asleep on their own and they become dependent on me to sleep. What have you found in your experience? And for you, what has the transition to their own bed looked like? Thank you so much for sharing your experience and your time! ❤️
Greatest video about co-sleeping ever!!! Totally loved this content! Thank you so much for posting but also for your sweet calming energy that suggests that we can do it and make it work if that's what we want :)
Well, your sweet comment seriously made my day! Thank you so much! If you have any questions or concerns about co-sleeping, feel free to shoot them my way!
@@WillowWisteriaWhen you put you baby to sleep do you move them to there back because my daughter falls sleep on her side and when i try to move her to her back after feeding she tends to wake up Your video is the only reason i felt i could co sleep. You gave me the confidence to do it
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Thank you for this beautiful and encouraging video!!! I just have three questions: 1. what about sleeping cocoons ("baby nest" the things that look a bit like cat/dog bed), do you use that or just directly on the bed?!; 2. what about burping after nursing? 3. what about diaper change during the night?
Best co-sleeping video I have found, so glad I came across it. I now feel a lot more confident about co-sleeping when my daughter is born. Thank you Willow, you are a wonderful mother, it can be seen/felt through this video. Really inspiring.
I put the blanket (only one on the bed) Down near our waist but covering baby mostly. Dress them warm and have heaters on so the rm is already warm. Newborns is tricky. But u just have to make sure the room is warm and they're dressed warm.
Hi, thank you for your lovely video. My son turns 4 weeks today and I've started to co sleep to manage sleep deprivation for me and my husband better as when trying to get him to sleep in the moses basket next to the bed just doesnt work, he only settles for an hour or so at a time before needing to be held again. Your info is really great, I wanted to know though, do you wind your babies when they feed in the night on the side? I've been told breastfed babies dont need as much winding as bottle fed but you dont mention it . Do you just let them fall asleep at the best and not wind/burp them? Thank you in advance x
I like to use a baby blanket for the same reason but also I don't know if my newborns are going to have sensitive skin, so laying them on their own baby blanket gives me that little bit of security. I like you videos, thank you.
Thanks so much for another fantastic video! My little girl is 10 weeks old and we have Co-slept with her from birth. She is quite a spewy baby so I find lying down to nurse a challenge. I find I have to keep her upright for 15 minutes after a feed otherwise she is spitting up and waking herself up - any advise you could offer? Lying down and nursing during the night sounds like a dream. Thanks again :)
Thanks for your kind words! I'm not sure what to tell you other than you baby might have a minor food sensitivity to something you are eating that is making her spewy. The only time I had that problem was when one of my babies had an issue with soy. Once I cut it out, it took about 2 weeks and then no more problems at all! The usual culprits are diary, soy, and gluten. Worth a try to see if maybe it helps keep her from spitting up!
I always felt so scared to co sleep with my baby but there's a sense of convenience when you do it safely. Before watching this I had already mastered both breast to one side nursing 😊 but now I can see that ppl actually do it, it makes me feel allot better
So when do you change his nappy? And burp him. My BF baby needed changing 3 times a night and burping after feeds. Also you need to nurse on both sides... so baby goes in the middle too?
This video made me feel so much better! I was curious if you knew anything about if it matters if I have a mattress pad on my bed. I didn’t know if baby needs more of a firm surface to sleep on. Also I get nervous about sleeping w her when she’s cradled in my arm and her head is slightly propped up in the crook of my arm- should she be completely flat on the bed? Thanks so much again ❤️
There's lots of info online, I'm researching it myself right now. Firm mattress, no toppers. Baby flat on back, no covers over/wearing a sleep bag only etc.
I'm curious: doesn't the baby need to burp after nursing? If you're both only semi-awake, how does that work? And also, cold night, warm blanket (especially down blankets), what about the baby?
Thank you for this video! Any tips for burping while laying down BFing? Also any tips for naps? I wear my LO when I can but sometimes cannot. Would love to hear your story as well on transitioning from bedsharing to their own bed!
Hi!! Thanks for such a helpful video! What is your opinion on waking newborns up to nurse? Do you ever have trouble (spit up/gas) without burping them at night?
Thank you so much for this really helpful video! I have a question on what to do with the baby if I need to get up at night to use the restroom for example. Do I take her with me? Not sure if it is safe to leave her with a sleeping father. Thank you for your tips!
Great video, and very informative ! :) But there are two important things that you didnt talk about. Maybe you were lucky with all your five children, but my child needs to be burped three to four times throughout each feeding. If not put in an upright position for a few minutes to be burped she would throw up most of the milk in her stomach. So how can I burp my baby while lying down as you show in the video? Second question is: I saw you are not covered with a blanket while lying down with your baby. But I feel cold if I sleep uncovered... How can I solve this proplem. Thank you so much in advance!
Hello! None of my babies (all breastfed) needed to be burped. If the baby has a good latch and doesn’t take in air while nursing, then they shouldn’t need to be burped... though of course, all babies are different. If the baby has a food sensitivity to something in the breastmilk, if mama has an overactive letdown, or if the baby is only really getting fore-milk, then they could be more gassy in general....Otherwise, if those are not issues for you, then there’s really no need to burp. My babies would sometimes overeat and spit up but it wasn’t super common and generally not caused by intaking air when nursing. As for the feeling cold, you can wear a shirt, light sweater or zip down hoodie that allows for easy access to your breasts. I have soft cotton, long sleeve, v-neck shirts that I wear on cold nights. Hope this helps!
@@WillowWisteria thanks for your answer! After feeding do you both stay in the side lying position? My little one is 3 weeks old and cant move around yet so we usually sleep like that. If i want to move him on his back he would wake up and wants to feed again... Is it considered safe to sleep on their side?
Oh my goodness, thank you so much for this video! I've tried co sleeping with my newborn when she was 4 weeks but I wasn't too sure and scared so I stopped. Last night I tried your techniques with her, she's 7 weeks and I kid you not, at 10.15pm we lay down to breastfeed and she stayed asleep until 6am!!! She didn't wake to feed either but she did a ton of cluster feeding before we went to sleep. Have to say I was on edge a little and I think it'll take time to get a comfy position I'm happy with, plus my right shoulder got really cold 🥶 oh I wanted to ask, did you sit up to wind your babies and I'm guessing no nappy changes throughout unless they poop? I'm using cloth but she wasn't too wet this morning, was expecting leaks!
Hi, I just found your channel through your etsy account and I love your products and content. I'm happy to see that I cosleep almost just like you but a few differences. I hope I can get your advice here. I have had extreme lordosis for years that I have been working on and a couple protruding disks, so I have to move alot. I can find ways to not be in back pain but now it's causing extreme pain in my arms and shoulders. I don't know where to put them, I think it's from having the arm on the side I'm laying on being straight out to make room for babe. WWU do?
Thank you so much for the great information. We are definitely doing a bed sharing and I am happy to learn even more options of how to do it safe. I was wondering if you put any water resistant sheet to protect the bed in case of leaks or you put the baby directly on top of the blanket? I enjoy your videos! Keep sharing your experience, it is invaluable.
Thank you so much for your kind words! A soft, water resistant sheet or pad would probably be the smartest thing to do to catch diaper leaks, spit ups, and milk leaks... because they certainly do happen. Usually the baby is on the blanket but it can shift while sleeping. I'm so happy that you are bed sharing!
I'm just wondering about how firm our mattress should be? I heard that babies need a harder mattress, but for me I get so much back pain from hard mattresses.
Thank you so much for this info! I’m going to start cosleeping with my 2month old tonight 🥰 just wondering if you could expand on/demonstrate how you nurse with the opposite breast while still lying on your left side. Thank you!!
@@WillowWisteria there are some bed rails from Amazon that people have reviewed it as unsafe and baby could get stuck with the gap it has left. Was this not the same with you, and just needs to be tightened up correctly? I really want to do the bed shield rail but I fear my baby falling in and getting trapped when she starts to roll around or crawling. Also do you know the specific rail you bought? Thank you in advance.
Watching for the wonderful information, but finding myself just staring at how gorgeous you are! Thanks for the help and for adding beauty to the world ❤️
Yes, this gives me ideas of where our sleeping will progress to. Before I had my son I thought I would never want to co-sleep for fear of it being unsafe. But from the day he was born "5days ago" we have been struggled up. I couldn't imagine it any other way. I do have a more personal question about circumcision. What are your opinions of it. At first I was against it because I know there are no true medical reasons for it but my family is really pro-cir. And the more I research the more I go back and forth. Just looking for an outside opinion. Thanks for the videos. Much love and peace to you and your family.
I'm so glad that you reconsidered co-sleeping! It's so wonderful, isn't it! So maybe I'll do a video on circumcision :) I have 4 boys - 3 are circumcised and 1 is not, and here's why. My first 3 boys were from my first marriage, and despite my incredibly strong feelings against it, my now ex-husband was adamant that they get circumcised. I cried and cried. I still, to this day, feel horrible about doing that to them. Horrible. My new husband listened to my feelings about it and agreed not to do it with my 4th son :) We're both so happy with our decision. Here's my strong opinion: I think it's useless cosmetic genital mutilation. Harsh and strong, I know. I see no reason to put little baby boys through such a traumatic event for something that serves no purpose other than serving societal norms. Sending my boys off as newborns to get a piece of their body cut off was heartwrenching for me. I will regret it always. I feel boys can get it done later in life if it's important to them, however, I've know quite a few men who are uncirced and are proud of it! It's a hard decision to make and I empathize wholeheartedly with your situation, Carlon - I remember being there with my first 3 boys. Congrats on your new little one! I hope you both are doing well and enjoying getting to know each other! Sending love to you and your family as well.
Thank you so much for this! I’m 9 months pregnant with my second and really want to bed share with the new baby. I didn’t with my first who I exclusively breastfed until 16 months and totally regret it. Question: do you swaddle the newborn while you bed share? My instinct says no, to put her in a sleepsack with arms free but I’m also aware of the Moro reflex. Then again, maybe it’s not as severe because baby is so close to mama?
Hi there! I do swaddle my little ones while bed sharing. I stop when they start trying to roll over on their own. They do still have the Moro reflex while next to mama but less, of course, if your snuggling them :) So yes, I’ve always swaddled mine for the first few months then switched to a sleep sack after that. Hope that helps! Wishing you a peaceful & empowering birth experience!
@@WillowWisteria thank you so much for the fast response! 🥰 super helpful! So a newborn doesn’t need her arms free in case, I don’t know, my breast is in her face (I’m busty) and she maybe uses her hand instinctively and it wakes me up? Thank you for the kind words 🙏🏼 prepping for a home water birth and so excited (my first was a water baby at a birth center:).
Of course, my friend! I swaddle my newborns & when they begin to stir, I move them to my breast (using the blanket under them). Of course being mindful that they can breathe… it takes a little practice getting comfortable with safe positioning but I promise it will instinctually come. Then when they’re done nursing then they just sleep swaddled & comfortable next to me. My best advice is to feel it out once your baby is here. You’ll be able to see what feels best for you both. You can start by swaddling (or not) & see how that works. I’ve never had a problem, or felt like it could be a danger, with swaddling them for the first few months while co-sleeping but always follow your mama instincts & see what works best for you & your new little babe ❤️
@@WillowWisteria great advice! Thank you so much 🙏🏼 How do you deal with blankets for you and partner? We are having a winter babe, and although we are in Los Angeles, it does get chilly at night and I try to minimize blasting the heater since it’s so drying.
You’re so welcome! We use blankets but just have them over us and not the baby. Just have the edge of the blanket stop before it gets to baby or fold it down so it’s not over them. I also have a video about what I wear to keep my shoulders warm while next to baby 👍🏼 Hope that helps!
I apologize for the delay in responding! While every baby is, of course, different... from my experience, most breastfed babies do not need to be burped as they take in little to no air while nursing (if their latch is correct!). I have never needed to burp my nursed babies. Yet another benefit of breastfeeding! If your baby is prone to more gas (suck in air when he or she nurses), then you may have an overactive letdown or something like that, which, by the way, nursing laying down will help remedy! All in all, you really shouldn't need to burp them after nursing them to sleep. Hope this helps, friend!
Just had a baby a week ago and he WILL NOT sleep unless he’s next to me and he’s cluster feeding so he’s constantly eating I literally have no choice but to bedshare I’m a human and need to sleep wish people would understand I make my boyfriend sleep on the couch cause he rolls I stay in one spot and do not move and I sleep very light when I have a newborn It’s my only choice right now
What if you swaddle a newborn? Burping? My newborn tends to spit up and sometimes chokes. How and when do you transition out of your bed? You may address this, I’m a third of the way
My friend’s baby who coslept, died at 8 months from the covers of the bed. So, if one does it, be very careful. They found him at the foot end of the bed and it was too late.
With a brand new infant do you have the baby sleep on their side like that all night? Or after nursing put him on his back? I worry the babe could roll over onto his stomach from the side position while sleeping and not be able to breathe.
Hello! Congrats on your new daughter! I have a video on burping while co-sleeping / breastfeeding laying down. It’s in my Peaceful Parenting playlist 👍🏼
Hello! My babies take all their naps on my bed as well. I have a monitor (audio) in the room so I can hear when they wake or stir. My 2 year old still just wakes from him nap and calls me before he even gets out of bed. However, I do have my bed on the ground, and against the wall on the side that he sleeps, so I don't worry about him falling out. Otherwise I'd have a bed gate on the side that they nap on. Hope this helps!
Thank you for making this video. This has been so validating. I consistently fell asleep upright right my baby at night (which is so dangerous) and my husband suggested lying down to nurse. We happened to discover this incredible secret of sleeping through the night with the added benefit of closeness with my baby. I haven't told a single soul we do this though because i feel like we would be judged. But our bodies were CLEARLY made to nurse this way at night. It's so natural and comfortable. I was sleeping in the way that co sleepers recommend is safest without ever looking up a single thing, because it just came naturally. This is a wonderful thing. Thank you for sharing this information.
Just accomplished our first bed share nurse and nap session. Thank you so much for this video. I feel so much more connected to my son and im literally crying seeing him sleep so soundly. He hasn’t stirred, no whining, no crying it’s beautiful.
You’ve made me feel so much better. My daughter is 6 weeks old and she sleeps the best in bed with me. I’ve been side feeding and i wake up when she’s searching and help her find it. I’ve felt so guilty about having her in bed at all. I have only been doing it when I’m too exhausted to feel comfortable sitting up to feed her. I watched your fourth trimester video as well and it’s truly what i needed to hear
Oh I'm so glad. I had the same issue with my first. I felt SO guilty co-sleeping - no one I knew co-slept and my mother-in-law told me it wasn't okay. I started reading up on other cultures, met another lady who co-slept, and I realized that we were pretty much the only culture that didn't make it a common practice. After first hand experiencing the benefits that it had for both my baby and me, I was sold and never looked back. 5 babies later, each of which slept next to me until they were ready to transition (which they did beautifully and easily in their own time), I can attest to nothing but good things that came of it! None of them fear bedtime, they all have a great relationship with sleep, and I get much needed snuggle time with them all as babies! A win for everyone! My 1 year old tells me it's time for bed, leads me to bed, and falls asleep in minutes while nursing. I leave him to sleep and have time with my husband! No tears, no struggle... amazing. Thanks for your kind comments :)
Jennifer's Magic Boots I’m glad to see it’s not a bad thing. My mom says it’s so unsafe which i know it could be (like keeping blanket by baby’s face and stuff). I’ve heard a lot that other cultures do it and that it’s being studied more in the us but it’s still such an judged thing. I hope with time it stops being like that
It’s 2am on my first night home with my first baby (called Niko!) and we tried putting him in his crib but he screamed bloody murder and seemed genuinely distraught when he’s otherwise been really placid and cheerful. So we ended up co-sleeping for the last couple of hours, and now he’s feeding while I watch this. 🖤
Congratulations, Mama! Oh Niko... best name 🥰. Enjoy co-sleeping with your new little one 💕
I'm 5 1/2 months pregnant with my first baby and I'm super excited to co sleep. Not everyone is a fan of me doing it but my husband is okay with it and that's all that matters is that my husband supports me in everything I do.
I absolutely love this video! My husband and I had our first baby this past January and we co-sleep. It has been one of the best decisions. We all are well rested and my milk supply has been wonderful because of it.
My own sleep is severely disturbed if my husband is not in bed even one single night, and likewise for him. If we roll over too far from each other and I can't feel his body next to mine I half-wake up and find it in my sleep. I cannot even begin to imagine how much more significant it is for a newborn. Even when I had a small kitten, she would attach her little fluff body to mine 24/7 in the beginning seeking the warmth and cuddles even without the food (actually she continued sleeping somewhere in my bed for the rest of her life). How is this need for physical connection not obvious and literally the most natural thing?!? And yet my friends and family think I'm anything between delusional to downright criminal when it comes to discussing cosleeping.
I’ve been cosleeping since my baby came home 3 months ago! It just makes sense
It’s the way nature intended babies and moms to sleep. I have coslept with all 4 of my kids including the newest baby.
Thank you for sharing! I’ve been bed sharing with my first baby since we brought him home from the hospital. He sleeps so much better & therefore so do I *mostly*. It feels so intuitive & natural for us. Now selfishly I’ve grown to love the extra closeness. It does make breastfeeding so much easier at night too! I do understand why it wouldn’t work for some people or be in the best interest of the baby in some circumstances but it works so well for us & we are so careful.
I've done exactly that with all 6 of my children. I also bend my leg under me so I have extra stability from rolling forward. It's worked for me and still does. I've just had my 6th baby 12 days ago and he only sleeps best with me.
Yes! Another big family who knows the secret to sleep :) Congrats on your new little one! And I agree with the bending your leg for stability - and you body just forms so perfectly to the baby in their sweet little fetal position too. Thanks for writing, and I am sending love to you and your family!
Congratulations for your newborn m
How do you burp them , do you get out of bed to burp them?
thank you!! I needed this I’ve been feeling so guilty falling asleep while nursing!! amazing video
Why would anyone feel guilty breastfeeding, you can seek some counselling, or stop listening to Americans, you’ll feel better. Said a Latvian mother.
@@MrsPaulaTorres no one said i feeling guilting for breast feeding . i was feeling guilting for falling asleep. this was 5 months ago im a first time mum. LOL said an American mother 🥰 you do you
Same!
Oh my word! I started watching your video over a year ago (before I was pregnant) but didn’t get 5 minutes into in because I had that mindset of “cosleeping is bad!” From everyone around me saying it.
I now have a 2 1/2 month baby girl and we’ve been cosleeping from day 1...I wish I had come back to this video sooner! Good tips and tricks I can’t wait to try :-D thank you!
P.S. I love my bengkung belly bind I ordered from your Etsy shop! It felt so good postpartum.
Thank you for posting this. Co-sleeping is such an amazing thing that no one talks about. Makes for a happy baby and a happy mama
I agree completely. It's so strange how it's been kind of taboo in the US for so long. It's so incredible to be able to cuddle with your baby at night - having them so close, comfortable, and safe. Such a beautiful practice. I hope other mamas give it a try and see how wonderful it is. Thank you for your kind words :)
Loved your video. As a mom and a filmmaker ... I thought this was spectacular. Thanks for taking the time to make it. I wish I would have seen this with my first son. The many sleepless nights sitting up on my boppy until finally finding this method naturally. Mommas have to trust their guts and stop fearing co-sleeping this natural way. ;)
My baby is 5 days old and I did not plan to co sleep, I spent my entire pregnancy planning to sleep him beside me in a Moses basket
I had absolutely no idea I would feel so adversed to putting him in it until he got home from the hospital
It’s hard and cold and he is wide awake as soon as he’s put in it
Consleeping feels so natural and he doesn’t cry all night, he stirs, we breastfeed and then we cuddle a little and then continue sleep
Glad you planned that, let us know how baby feels when you tell them!
How do u burp
I just need to say THANK YOU for this video. I feel so much graritude for recieving this wonderful advice. My sweet baby is 3 mths now. We started sleeping next to eachother 3 weeks after she was born. Seeme she wouldnt settle on her own. I figure she knows what she needs and will be ready soon enough. I read the book Sweet Sleep which confirmed so much for me in terms of safety and why cosleeping works. These past few months have been very peaceful for our family which is a necessity for my husband who works long hours. Again thank you. You've helped change the trajectory of my parenting and relationship with my daughter. Maybe even future kiddos. Glad I found your video just at the right time!
Such kind words! So glad it helped! Thank you💕
Hi, I had watched this when my baby was a newborn and just watched it again. Thanks for sharing! It has helped me a lot. My boy is almost seven months now. We cosleep but he usually goes to sleep before us. Lately I am having a hard time putting him to sleep. Would you share how your evening routine looks like with older babies after the "swing stage"?
Thank you so much for this video. 8 months on and we’re still co-sleeping together. After I watched it I felt what I was doing was right for us. One challenge I have is that when he is napping or sleeping at night if I leave him alone (to go to bathroom, eat etc) and he wakes, he cries. Do you have any tips/experiences? Many thx xoxo!!
Thank you so much for putting this out! I didn't even know bed gates were a thing. My first baby comes in December and I want to co sleep. It is very important to me.
As a new mum, I felt so guilty that we fell into cosleeping! Thank you so much for this video!
Don’t feel guilty, you have the right to decide where you want your baby to sleep and cosleeping has a lot of benefits
What a cute baby. He is so alert and vocal!
That baby is so calm!
Very helpful !!! So hard to find a “how to” video on this- appreciate it and you!(:
i bedshare with my 7 week old and love it! i love having him so close and them cuddles :) theyre little for only so long. He naps in his crib during the day and I plan to transition him to crib overnight eventually at around 4-5 months. He will still co sleep (room share) until he's at least 2 though. We will see!
Thank you so much! This is exactly what I was looking for, a mom with lots of experience! First time expecting mom here hoping to co sleep. Thank your for your helpful tips and for sharing your experience!
This is incredible ♡ I co-slept with my daughter the day she came home up until she was around 8 years old. Now fast forward 17 years I have a newborn baby boy. This time around I'm more nervous because he was born at 37 weeks and is only 6lbs, where my daughter was 8lbs 2oz. My son does NOT like sleeping in his bassinet even though its right next to the bed. I tried a moses basket, but nope. He will sleep in it for a little bit but then he wants to be on me. So now I've been putting the firm mattress that came with the basket on the bed that way he's on a firm surface. I do have to wear a nipple shield because my nipples are inverted. So thats the only issue.
subscribed ^_^ and since hospital he started to love sleeping with me. he sleeps the best next to me. I was worried at first then i realize back home in el salvador there are no cribs.
My 2 month old baby girl has bed shared right next to me since birth. Funny you say your son uses your breast as a pillow after his full so does my daughter it's so precious!! Thank you for this video
I’m due any day now with my first. I am already dreading the whole lack of sleep situation. I have a bedside bassinet set up that I plan on using but I would much rather have my baby snuggled up next to me since it seems so much easier on everyone. I am a deep sleeper now so I am not sure how alert I will be once my baby is here. My husband seems very anti-cosleep considering how deep I sleep, but we shall see once baby is here. I bet I will have a strong intuition one way or another. ❤ Sleep is so important to me and I know I will be a better mother if I could get as much sleep as possible, and co sleeping seems to be the answer.
What did you end up choosing? I'm so curious now! Haha
@@Bri-wc4ib hi! So i didn’t bed share when my son was a newborn. He slept in his bassinet and then crib, both in my room. He started really fighting the crib around 6 months. Occasionally I brought him into my bed with me early in the morning but I didn’t feel safe because he tended to burrow into my husbands pillow. I struggled on and around 9 months out of desperation I started him on a floor bed in his own room. At 14 months now, he’s still doing great on his floor bed. I nurse him to sleep and then roll away when he’s asleep. When he wakes up throughout the night, I nurse him back to sleep and usually just fall back asleep next to him. I wish I did the floor bed earlier! I get to safely sleep next to him but it’s also so easy for me to roll away and let him sleep on his own when I need to.
If I have another baby I really don’t think I’ll do the bassinet thing again. Those first few months were so hard trying to get my baby to stay asleep in his bassinet. Throughout the day, I dreaded night time and would feel depressed because I didn’t know how I was gonna get some sleep. I will most likely put my mattress on the floor and cosleep. It really is the best.
Thank you for sharing your experience! I had such a hard time with my first in her bassinet as well. I'm so hopeful about the idea of safe co-sleeping for my next baby!
Thank you so much for sharing another lovely video! I just finished reading La Leche League International's book called the Womanly Art of Breastfeeding. It mentions a lot of safe co-sleeping options/tricks/benefits too. Not only does it seem to be the norm for most cultures but when practiced safely is proven to be best for all. (Dr. James McKenna has some really good research out there too)
Hi! I was wondering what you do during winter for you to stay warm without a blanket.. I have an older home and it’s cold at night but scared to have the blanket close to baby
This is sooo helpful. In Mexico we practice cosleeping but I was just so nervous since I see a lot of info against it, so we only did it the first two nights and from then on in the crib. My baby is 7 weeks old and I could very well sleep through the night since he doesn't really wake up, just stirs. But I get up to feed him so it cuts my sleep. Since I'll be going back to work soon my husband and I thought we could be alternating nights to feed him when he wakes up ... but we could avoid lack of sleep altogether ... :)
I love this video! The peaceful way you speak and your lovely baby just make it perfect! 😍 Thanks a lot for sharing. I am expecting our first baby in 2 weeks and also plan co-sleeping (in my country it’s totally normal). 🤓
Aw... thank you! Congrats on your second baby on the way... and enjoy co-sleeping 💕! I wish the US would smarten up and accept co-sleeping as a normal practice... like pretty much the rest of the world does 🙄. Wishing you a peaceful and magical birth experience, Angelina.
Yeah my wee ones need to grow a bit before they get the side feeding thing but they get there within the first month usually 😊❤ beautiful bonding time ❤
I’m curious to know about diaper changing for newborn/young baby. If you don’t get up to feed, and baby doesn’t wake up much at night, how often do you change newborn/young baby at nighttime?
And I think it’s worth to mention that if you’re breastfeeding, it also saves you time not (necessarily) having to burp baby at night... so more sleep!
Thank you for your inspiring video.
I co-slept with my baby when he was already 4 or 5 months old, and it truly saved us. I was a new person - not only more rested but happy not to be apart from him at night, which was something that always felt unnatural to me. I wish I had done it from the beginning. :)
On our 7th week co-sleeping with my son! That has been our set-up since he was born. All you said were true ❤️ In my case though, instead of blanket I use my son’s pillow as back stopper. ✌️
How do you burp him during these night feeds?
Watching this video now, i have my 27days old baby and i find this video helpful.. thank you for sharing..
Thank you for this amazing and informative video!!!
Thank you so much for this content! Very helpful. I am wondering what swing you use? My baby will not stay asleep without me for naps or for going to bed at night (usually going to bed later than him).
Love this, my 3 week old baby definitely prefers Co sleeping.
Can I ask what you do to keep yourself warm if you are topless co sleeping? Are you keeping the blankets away from you as well? Thank you
I know this is a few months old but I wear an open front cardigan.
My baby is 4 weeks old , I co-sleep with him but sometimes I get in the way of him breathing normally because he kinda goes under my chest , it scares me that I almost pushed his chest down with my albow .
Thank you for your video! My newborn currently sleeps in his bassinet that is attached to my bed & in the early morning when he is hungry, I will then bring him into bed with me and it’s the sweetest thing ever❤️ he is still getting the hang of it & I have noticed he does much better with it when we have our tummies touching one another, so thank you for bringing up the newborn tips! I do have a question. Whenever you had a baby co-sleeping with you, when did you start to put them in their own room? I would assume that each time you had a new baby, you needed to transition another child out of your bed or else when you had a newborn, the newborn would disrupt their sleep?
I have a 2 wk old and we’ve been bed sharing. I definitely get sleep when I wasn’t any other way.
Your energy is so lovely and peaceful. And great choice on background music. Thank you so much for posting!
Do you have a list of your amazon favorites you can share with us?
Thanks for the beautiful and insightful video. I’m still left wondering: How do you put a blanket on yourself? Not at all?
I have a whole video on that topic in my Peaceful Mothering playlist.
This video deserve more views
Hi, thank you for your videos, I find that you are so calm and comforting to listen to that it helps me just to watch one of your videos when I’m feeling stressed. I just had my second baby and did some cosleeping with my first and I am really enjoying it now with my baby. I have a few questions though: I found that I would nurse my first to go to sleep at night or for a nap in the day and it would put me to sleep too so I would end up having the same bed time as my baby much of the time when I would have preferred to have that evening time with my husband. What does putting your baby to bed at night or for a nap in the day generally look like for you? Also, I am wondering if cosleeping and nursing my baby to go to sleep will make it so they don’t learn how to soothe themself and fall asleep on their own and they become dependent on me to sleep. What have you found in your experience? And for you, what has the transition to their own bed looked like? Thank you so much for sharing your experience and your time! ❤️
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Greatest video about co-sleeping ever!!! Totally loved this content! Thank you so much for posting but also for your sweet calming energy that suggests that we can do it and make it work if that's what we want :)
Well, your sweet comment seriously made my day! Thank you so much! If you have any questions or concerns about co-sleeping, feel free to shoot them my way!
@@WillowWisteriaWhen you put you baby to sleep do you move them to there back because my daughter falls sleep on her side and when i try to move her to her back after feeding she tends to wake up Your video is the only reason i felt i could co sleep. You gave me the confidence to do it
Your little guy is so cute ❤️
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Thank you for this beautiful and encouraging video!!! I just have three questions: 1. what about sleeping cocoons ("baby nest" the things that look a bit like cat/dog bed), do you use that or just directly on the bed?!; 2. what about burping after nursing? 3. what about diaper change during the night?
what a beautiful video
Best co-sleeping video I have found, so glad I came across it. I now feel a lot more confident about co-sleeping when my daughter is born. Thank you Willow, you are a wonderful mother, it can be seen/felt through this video. Really inspiring.
I put the blanket (only one on the bed) Down near our waist but covering baby mostly. Dress them warm and have heaters on so the rm is already warm.
Newborns is tricky.
But u just have to make sure the room is warm and they're dressed warm.
How do you get him to nap without you? I am having that problem.
Are there specific sheets you use for co sleeping? Our bed has a blanket instead of the thin sheets? And do you sleep with a blanket on?
He is so darling! What a cutie pie:)
Hi, thank you for your lovely video. My son turns 4 weeks today and I've started to co sleep to manage sleep deprivation for me and my husband better as when trying to get him to sleep in the moses basket next to the bed just doesnt work, he only settles for an hour or so at a time before needing to be held again. Your info is really great, I wanted to know though, do you wind your babies when they feed in the night on the side? I've been told breastfed babies dont need as much winding as bottle fed but you dont mention it . Do you just let them fall asleep at the best and not wind/burp them? Thank you in advance x
I was wondering about the same. Did you find any suggestion on this?
I like to use a baby blanket for the same reason but also I don't know if my newborns are going to have sensitive skin, so laying them on their own baby blanket gives me that little bit of security. I like you videos, thank you.
I love the music.
Thanks so much for another fantastic video! My little girl is 10 weeks old and we have Co-slept with her from birth. She is quite a spewy baby so I find lying down to nurse a challenge. I find I have to keep her upright for 15 minutes after a feed otherwise she is spitting up and waking herself up - any advise you could offer? Lying down and nursing during the night sounds like a dream. Thanks again :)
Thanks for your kind words! I'm not sure what to tell you other than you baby might have a minor food sensitivity to something you are eating that is making her spewy. The only time I had that problem was when one of my babies had an issue with soy. Once I cut it out, it took about 2 weeks and then no more problems at all! The usual culprits are diary, soy, and gluten. Worth a try to see if maybe it helps keep her from spitting up!
Thanks again! Your were spot on! We cut out dairy and it has been an absolute game changer! We can now feed lying down - yay! She is 9 months now :)
Oh I’m so pleased that helped and you are able to nurse laying down! Thanks for letting me know - it made my night 💕.
I co-sleep with my 2 kids …. And both of them never used their crib… i love that feeling….one is 4 year old and 2 nd on is 6 months…🥰
I always felt so scared to co sleep with my baby but there's a sense of convenience when you do it safely. Before watching this I had already mastered both breast to one side nursing 😊 but now I can see that ppl actually do it, it makes me feel allot better
So when do you change his nappy? And burp him. My BF baby needed changing 3 times a night and burping after feeds.
Also you need to nurse on both sides... so baby goes in the middle too?
This video made me feel so much better! I was curious if you knew anything about if it matters if I have a mattress pad on my bed. I didn’t know if baby needs more of a firm surface to sleep on. Also I get nervous about sleeping w her when she’s cradled in my arm and her head is slightly propped up in the crook of my arm- should she be completely flat on the bed?
Thanks so much again ❤️
There's lots of info online, I'm researching it myself right now. Firm mattress, no toppers. Baby flat on back, no covers over/wearing a sleep bag only etc.
So curious how you deal with nightly nappy changes, you don’t change during the nighttime?
If you don't wear a top to bed, what do you do about leaking milk? I have a lot of leaks and this sheets would get soaked if I didn't have top on
I'm curious: doesn't the baby need to burp after nursing? If you're both only semi-awake, how does that work?
And also, cold night, warm blanket (especially down blankets), what about the baby?
Thank you for this video! Any tips for burping while laying down BFing? Also any tips for naps? I wear my LO when I can but sometimes cannot. Would love to hear your story as well on transitioning from bedsharing to their own bed!
I wana know how to burp baby side lying
Just wondering how do you sleep train when you're cosleeping like this?
Hi!! Thanks for such a helpful video! What is your opinion on waking newborns up to nurse? Do you ever have trouble (spit up/gas) without burping them at night?
Thank you so much for this really helpful video! I have a question on what to do with the baby if I need to get up at night to use the restroom for example. Do I take her with me? Not sure if it is safe to leave her with a sleeping father. Thank you for your tips!
Great video, and very informative ! :) But there are two important things that you didnt talk about. Maybe you were lucky with all your five children, but my child needs to be burped three to four times throughout each feeding. If not put in an upright position for a few minutes to be burped she would throw up most of the milk in her stomach. So how can I burp my baby while lying down as you show in the video? Second question is: I saw you are not covered with a blanket while lying down with your baby. But I feel cold if I sleep uncovered... How can I solve this proplem. Thank you so much in advance!
I am also interested in knowing what can be done if your baby needs to be burped. Mine's the same. Thanks!
Exactly these 2 things i was wondering about. Can i ask what was your solution?
Hello! None of my babies (all breastfed) needed to be burped. If the baby has a good latch and doesn’t take in air while nursing, then they shouldn’t need to be burped... though of course, all babies are different. If the baby has a food sensitivity to something in the breastmilk, if mama has an overactive letdown, or if the baby is only really getting fore-milk, then they could be more gassy in general....Otherwise, if those are not issues for you, then there’s really no need to burp. My babies would sometimes overeat and spit up but it wasn’t super common and generally not caused by intaking air when nursing. As for the feeling cold, you can wear a shirt, light sweater or zip down hoodie that allows for easy access to your breasts. I have soft cotton, long sleeve, v-neck shirts that I wear on cold nights. Hope this helps!
@@WillowWisteria thanks for your answer! After feeding do you both stay in the side lying position? My little one is 3 weeks old and cant move around yet so we usually sleep like that. If i want to move him on his back he would wake up and wants to feed again... Is it considered safe to sleep on their side?
If mine needs burping... I put him over my tummy by my waist and lay on his tummy and pat his back while I lay on my side..
Very helpful video.. i do same way as like you.Thanks
Oh my goodness, thank you so much for this video! I've tried co sleeping with my newborn when she was 4 weeks but I wasn't too sure and scared so I stopped. Last night I tried your techniques with her, she's 7 weeks and I kid you not, at 10.15pm we lay down to breastfeed and she stayed asleep until 6am!!! She didn't wake to feed either but she did a ton of cluster feeding before we went to sleep. Have to say I was on edge a little and I think it'll take time to get a comfy position I'm happy with, plus my right shoulder got really cold 🥶 oh I wanted to ask, did you sit up to wind your babies and I'm guessing no nappy changes throughout unless they poop? I'm using cloth but she wasn't too wet this morning, was expecting leaks!
I loved this video. Your baby is so adorable
Thank you!
Hi, I just found your channel through your etsy account and I love your products and content. I'm happy to see that I cosleep almost just like you but a few differences. I hope I can get your advice here. I have had extreme lordosis for years that I have been working on and a couple protruding disks, so I have to move alot. I can find ways to not be in back pain but now it's causing extreme pain in my arms and shoulders. I don't know where to put them, I think it's from having the arm on the side I'm laying on being straight out to make room for babe. WWU do?
Hi! Do you burp your baby after feed. Me and my baby co sleeps too and I’m guilty sleeping. And not burping him.
Thank you so much for the great information. We are definitely doing a bed sharing and I am happy to learn even more options of how to do it safe. I was wondering if you put any water resistant sheet to protect the bed in case of leaks or you put the baby directly on top of the blanket?
I enjoy your videos! Keep sharing your experience, it is invaluable.
Thank you so much for your kind words! A soft, water resistant sheet or pad would probably be the smartest thing to do to catch diaper leaks, spit ups, and milk leaks... because they certainly do happen. Usually the baby is on the blanket but it can shift while sleeping. I'm so happy that you are bed sharing!
I'm just wondering about how firm our mattress should be? I heard that babies need a harder mattress, but for me I get so much back pain from hard mattresses.
Thank you so much for this info! I’m going to start cosleeping with my 2month old tonight 🥰 just wondering if you could expand on/demonstrate how you nurse with the opposite breast while still lying on your left side. Thank you!!
Hi! I was wondering where you got your bed sheild from to help keep baby from rolling out?
Hello! I got mine from Amazon though they also sell them at Walmart :)
@@WillowWisteria there are some bed rails from Amazon that people have reviewed it as unsafe and baby could get stuck with the gap it has left. Was this not the same with you, and just needs to be tightened up correctly? I really want to do the bed shield rail but I fear my baby falling in and getting trapped when she starts to roll around or crawling. Also do you know the specific rail you bought? Thank you in advance.
Love the video and the baby is so cute and adorable 😍😍
Thank you... and yes, that little man has my heart under an iron-clad lockdown :)
Watching for the wonderful information, but finding myself just staring at how gorgeous you are! Thanks for the help and for adding beauty to the world ❤️
Awww... such a kind comment! Thank you for your kind words and for visiting my channel. Lots of love to you, mama.
I cant find ANY videos on how to bedshare with twins! Please help
Yes, this gives me ideas of where our sleeping will progress to. Before I had my son I thought I would never want to co-sleep for fear of it being unsafe. But from the day he was born "5days ago" we have been struggled up. I couldn't imagine it any other way. I do have a more personal question about circumcision. What are your opinions of it. At first I was against it because I know there are no true medical reasons for it but my family is really pro-cir. And the more I research the more I go back and forth. Just looking for an outside opinion. Thanks for the videos. Much love and peace to you and your family.
I'm so glad that you reconsidered co-sleeping! It's so wonderful, isn't it! So maybe I'll do a video on circumcision :) I have 4 boys - 3 are circumcised and 1 is not, and here's why. My first 3 boys were from my first marriage, and despite my incredibly strong feelings against it, my now ex-husband was adamant that they get circumcised. I cried and cried. I still, to this day, feel horrible about doing that to them. Horrible. My new husband listened to my feelings about it and agreed not to do it with my 4th son :) We're both so happy with our decision. Here's my strong opinion: I think it's useless cosmetic genital mutilation. Harsh and strong, I know. I see no reason to put little baby boys through such a traumatic event for something that serves no purpose other than serving societal norms. Sending my boys off as newborns to get a piece of their body cut off was heartwrenching for me. I will regret it always. I feel boys can get it done later in life if it's important to them, however, I've know quite a few men who are uncirced and are proud of it! It's a hard decision to make and I empathize wholeheartedly with your situation, Carlon - I remember being there with my first 3 boys. Congrats on your new little one! I hope you both are doing well and enjoying getting to know each other! Sending love to you and your family as well.
What do you recommend for a bed gate?
Thank you , the bed gate is an awesome idea
Thank you so much for this! I’m 9 months pregnant with my second and really want to bed share with the new baby. I didn’t with my first who I exclusively breastfed until 16 months and totally regret it.
Question: do you swaddle the newborn while you bed share? My instinct says no, to put her in a sleepsack with arms free but I’m also aware of the Moro reflex. Then again, maybe it’s not as severe because baby is so close to mama?
Hi there! I do swaddle my little ones while bed sharing. I stop when they start trying to roll over on their own. They do still have the Moro reflex while next to mama but less, of course, if your snuggling them :) So yes, I’ve always swaddled mine for the first few months then switched to a sleep sack after that. Hope that helps! Wishing you a peaceful & empowering birth experience!
@@WillowWisteria thank you so much for the fast response! 🥰 super helpful! So a newborn doesn’t need her arms free in case, I don’t know, my breast is in her face (I’m busty) and she maybe uses her hand instinctively and it wakes me up? Thank you for the kind words 🙏🏼 prepping for a home water birth and so excited (my first was a water baby at a birth center:).
Of course, my friend! I swaddle my newborns & when they begin to stir, I move them to my breast (using the blanket under them). Of course being mindful that they can breathe… it takes a little practice getting comfortable with safe positioning but I promise it will instinctually come. Then when they’re done nursing then they just sleep swaddled & comfortable next to me. My best advice is to feel it out once your baby is here. You’ll be able to see what feels best for you both. You can start by swaddling (or not) & see how that works. I’ve never had a problem, or felt like it could be a danger, with swaddling them for the first few months while co-sleeping but always follow your mama instincts & see what works best for you & your new little babe ❤️
@@WillowWisteria great advice! Thank you so much 🙏🏼
How do you deal with blankets for you and partner? We are having a winter babe, and although we are in Los Angeles, it does get chilly at night and I try to minimize blasting the heater since it’s so drying.
You’re so welcome! We use blankets but just have them over us and not the baby. Just have the edge of the blanket stop before it gets to baby or fold it down so it’s not over them. I also have a video about what I wear to keep my shoulders warm while next to baby 👍🏼 Hope that helps!
Very helpful, informative video 😊 thank you for your advice
Thank you so much for the information! What about burping your baby after feeding during the night?
I apologize for the delay in responding! While every baby is, of course, different... from my experience, most breastfed babies do not need to be burped as they take in little to no air while nursing (if their latch is correct!). I have never needed to burp my nursed babies. Yet another benefit of breastfeeding! If your baby is prone to more gas (suck in air when he or she nurses), then you may have an overactive letdown or something like that, which, by the way, nursing laying down will help remedy! All in all, you really shouldn't need to burp them after nursing them to sleep. Hope this helps, friend!
I neve burp mine at all either.
6 boys later.
How do you deal with night burping??? My letdown is pretty fast so should I let him sleep after nursing or burp him?
Just had a baby a week ago and he WILL NOT sleep unless he’s next to me and he’s cluster feeding so he’s constantly eating I literally have no choice but to bedshare I’m a human and need to sleep wish people would understand I make my boyfriend sleep on the couch cause he rolls I stay in one spot and do not move and I sleep very light when I have a newborn
It’s my only choice right now
What if you swaddle a newborn? Burping? My newborn tends to spit up and sometimes chokes. How and when do you transition out of your bed? You may address this, I’m a third of the way
Wonderful video. I'm glad I stumbled upon your page
My friend’s baby who coslept, died at 8 months from the covers of the bed. So, if one does it, be very careful.
They found him at the foot end of the bed and it was too late.
can you also sleep on your back and then roll onto your side when the baby wakes up to nurse?
With a brand new infant do you have the baby sleep on their side like that all night? Or after nursing put him on his back? I worry the babe could roll over onto his stomach from the side position while sleeping and not be able to breathe.
i like your vid
I have one question. Do you burp infants baby after side laying position? Thanks, new mom of beautiful daughter ❤️
Hello! Congrats on your new daughter! I have a video on burping while co-sleeping / breastfeeding laying down. It’s in my Peaceful Parenting playlist 👍🏼
Also do you have a separate sleep space for the occasional shorter nap?
Hello! My babies take all their naps on my bed as well. I have a monitor (audio) in the room so I can hear when they wake or stir. My 2 year old still just wakes from him nap and calls me before he even gets out of bed. However, I do have my bed on the ground, and against the wall on the side that he sleeps, so I don't worry about him falling out. Otherwise I'd have a bed gate on the side that they nap on. Hope this helps!