It's so cool to see Angela in this kind of forum. She's such a chaos demon in improv/comedy videos (and amazingly so), and it's nice to see this side of her. She and Courtney have a great back & forth!
Smosh is leaning more into the talk show/casual chatting formats lately and it's really comfy viewing/listening. It's chill, entertaining, and the edits are still hilarious. Keep it up! 👍
If you guys want more of that format, I recommend smosh games “lets get talking” or “no wrong answers”, they do a variety of discussion based “games” and its my favorite content to watch mindlessly
@@ianpeean3714 omg yes!! The new cast members would be great on the podcast!! I also miss what Courtney and Shayne individually brought to the Smoshcast
I never thought of me not having social media as being a red flag, that’s interesting. I got rid of them all years ago because of the arguments I’d see on Facebook or the fake lives I’d see on Instagram. Just seemed full of toxicity to me and I thought it was better to bail on all of them rather than participate. Plus, they can be so damn distracting and addictive.
It's like they said, you don't have to be doing much but if you're not on there at all it might seem strange. Social media for better or worse is a large part of culture so if you're totally disconnected from it that might lead to multiple questions as to why. Are you unrelatable? Are you insecure? Are you weird? So on so forth.
I personally think that looking up someones social media before a date isn`t a good thing. If you do that you`re forming an opinion of someone based on most probably lies. Talking and spending time with another person is the only way to really get to know someone. If you're very dependant on social media dating someone who does not care about it or does not have it at all might help you balance your life a little better.
I would definitely like a video of Tommy and Chance talking about gay dating. I'm in my freshman year of college and it is so difficult to even get a first date. I would love to hear it from other perspectives.
I would love a rotation of cast as well! I'm especially interested in Damiens stories, and Arashas and Spencers! I like the wide variety of content smosh is working with, the past half a year or so they've become one of my fave channels lately!
2019: Why were bad at dating 2023: Why we are pretending to be single when we are secretly dating and get married next year, oops shhhhh it's a secret!
Why we're bad at hobbies? Making friends? Interviews/auditions? Communicating, friendship or dating wise? Fashion/makeup? Budgeting? Just throwing ideas at the wall
Loving the evolution and growth Smosh has been showing lately. Everything seems more natural and much funnier. And overall, there is a great sense of community. We know something that Courtney and Angela aren't bad at: having a great conversation together. I love the honesty and the natural chemistry these two share. Would like to see more like this with other members. Keep up the good work!
This is the most open, honest dialogue I have seen in a long time. I didn't even know this was something I wanted to watch. This was perfect. They are both so incredibly articulate.
After years of bad first dates from communication or just clashing personalities I had the best first date of my life 7 years ago, we are still together to this day
The only thing I disagreed with is how not having an instagram is a red flag. I don’t have any social medias not because I have something to hide, but because they are genuinely negative to my mental health. The best thing I did was delete them
Speaking to the non social media thing, as someone who does not use any of them it has drastically helped my dating life. People are way more interesting and expectations are not overblown from their “internet perception”
My English teacher told us to always check someone’s public court records before you go on a date with them in case they have a history of domestic abuse or something similar
I LOVE courtney and angelas chemistry. They always vibe so well together. This is such a good segment concept, i hope you guys do more of these with them two as "hosts" and special guests!
Angela and Courtney are the perfect pair to bring this back! Hearing them talk about their own early dating lives really warmed my heart, due to my own experiences being very similar. I'd love for them to do another one: "Why We're Bad at Rejection." I feel like going into the "rejection therapy" realm and hearing them share some stories of rejection (could be jobs, friends, family members, society, etc.) would be so interesting to watch. Getting used to and dealing with rejection is so prevalent in our everyday lives.
I'm about 10 minutes in, and I can already tell y'all this is a fantastic format. I love one to one conversational style videos, especially with different cast members, so I love that y'all brought this back as a general format!
Not only is this a Why We're Bad at Dating revival, it feels like a SmoshCast revival, the cast are all so interesting, I love hearing them just talk about things
this content is so authentic and so refreshing. i’ve loved Smosh for a long time, but this version is the best yet. i absolutely love hearing all of your interests and experiences. it’s made me love y’all even more. I even have everyone at work in love with this stuff because we listen most of the day. anyway, just wanted to tell you guys that you’re killing it.
I LOVE to hear what someone is passionate about. How their eyes shine and how they loose themselves in the topic, forgetting their on a date and are their true selves for a moment.
My best friend did that all the time and it was annoying, because then he would mansplained about many things and he got lost in his own mind and he couldn't read the situation. I love when people open up to me, including about their passion, because it means they feel comfortable. But please oh God no, please just make them remember that they're with you.
Oh, than get ready for a conversation about martial arts (Taekwondo) and body physics, even with applied examples if you want, when you talk to me **sweaty smile**
Its cool to hear when people are passionate about things but people need to remember you can say a little and not have them tell you about everything in a whole conversation. First date needs people to ask questions about things and about each other. It shouldn't be about one person the whole time and what they like.
I would love this to become a podcast with Courtney being the host and just having these conversations with her coworkers or other people she's comfortable with.
I'm on the neurodivergent spectrum and for me that comes in the form of being easily influenced, so I very much limit my social media/online usage to avoid being negatively influenced especially today where there's so much negativity online. I also have a very hard time keeping up in group conversations and can go nonverbal or close myself off to one or two people in the group to be able to speak....and I love backpacks because of how bad my memory/focus is - so being able to keep everything in one on-the-go place where I can't forget it used to be very important to me. I've limited it to a small bag the size of maybe a medium purse thankfully now though. It's almost both sad and funny to hear all of these things as red flags to some people. Of course, it doesnt really affect me personally for these to be red flags to Courtney and Angela, A: I dont know them personally and B: the cool thing about meeting and dating new people is how vastly different everyone is and how everyone has their own preferences. Theres nothing wrong with those being red flags for them specifically. But I just wanted to share my perspective on those sorts of things and adress that they aren't always red flags, most things depend on the circumstances of the situation (this doesn't include anything that risks ones safety or the safety of others, of course, and if you get a bad feeling from someone it's probably for a reason and its perfectly alright to end things based off that!). To any others on the spectrum reading this or anyone in general really; don't sacrifice your preferences or peace of mind for anyone else, just make healthy choices and you'll find someone who matches you in time if that's what you want! Edit: I also want to say that most of what Courtney and Angela were saying were things I could relate to or agree with lol, I've had my own nightmares of first dates and feel a lot of what Courtney was describing especially. I just love these types of videos cause they open up all types of discussion so I wanted to add to it here as well!
Basically my thoughts exactly! The social media thing makes me really sad because I already know that it limits my ability to meet new people and I worry that people view it as a read flag on top of that. I’m also neurodivergent and I just can’t handle social media. Sad to know there’s such an expectation to curate a perfect digital image.
@@kristenrussell9642 Yeah I'm always worried it's seen as a red flag as well! But to combat that I now try to seek the company of other neurodivergent people when Im given the opportunity, or those experienced/educated about it more than average (like someone with a neurodivergent family member/friend/partner). From my experience these types of people either also don't have much social media or can understand your reasoning for not wanting it. I've also met neurotypical people who were willing and sometimes even eager to learn more of course, and usually they're absolute treasures in my experience as well lol.
I definitely hope this show is back to stay and grow--this was a fantastic comeback! Flirting would be a great follow-up. I'd also LOVE to see "why we're bad at friendships". It's such a different animal than sex & dating/romance and gets less attention imo, but I think a lot of people can relate to the difficulties of building & maintaining friendships in adulthood. We've all lost friends before, and so often it's because of something outside anyone's direct control--people change, circumstances change, shit happens. Sometimes it's literally just inertia. It's often nobody's fault--it's especially tragic when both friends actively mourn the loss & wish things were different, but also feel discouraged from reaching out (e.g. anxiety/rumination). 🤷 idk, just think a lot of folks could benefit in these lonely days. Y'all've had incredible podcast roundtables back in the day--would def love to see that energy with the newer cast & crew!
I think it’s interesting to hear both of their thoughts on people “needing” social media so they can background check potential dates. I’m someone who has social media but doesn’t really use it. I purge my accounts often and don’t add as much as I take away. I wonder how often people check my accounts and think I do nothing and get red flags
Yeah I thought their perspective was interesting but I don’t know if I agree. Sometimes people just don’t like social media. There’s a lot of pressure and negativity associated with it. The only social media I have is instagram and Snapchat. I rarely ever use snap and I post every couple months on Instagram. My husband also doesn’t have any form of social media. I don’t think it’s a red flag at all. But since they’re influencers it might mean something different to them.
@@zackm3782 Remember this is titled 'Why we're bad at dating' so I don't think they are making any recommendations. If anything they are telling what not to do. I don't think it's necessary to have social media. Not having it might limit your dating pool but you should also ask yourself "Do I want to date someone who cares if I have social media?"
as a woman who doesn't use social media, I completely disagree with them on that point. I think no matter how far humanity gets into the virtual world, it should never become a *requirement* for someone to exist within the online sphere. we are real creatures, not virtual beings, there's nothing new or necessary about social media. add to that the fact everything we learn about social media is negative, I think its the smartest thing you can do to step away from it. I actually think its a red flag to expect or require someone to be online for them to be important or enough for you😅but I guess different folks different strokes. I would simply bid farewell to anyone who finds it weird about me. no hard feelings.
As a large straight teddy bear, I appreciate hearing the possible mentalities of women I'm meeting for the first time! I always look for ways to make myself feel more approachable whenever I'm in interacting with people
Love this so much! Would love even longer episodes! I would love to hear you two talk about the dynamic of texting / online communication both before and in-between early dates.
Some suggestions! Bad at social interaction Bad at being queer Bad at cooking Bad at social media Bad at hookups Bad at art Love seeing this format again and would definitely love to see more cast members (and crew) be on this show
One of my biggest problems is that I’m terrified of “seggual”intimacy, and I’ve been told that I’m undesirable because of that. So it’s like, I almost don’t want to bother because I assume that any guy I’m attracted to will refuse me.
You're not undesirable because of that. Those guys are just horny and they're mad because they can't get you laid. Please, I hope you find person who loves you not just for "it". Don't get scared, you're just filtering the bad ones.
I can relate to the first half, I don't have the "why bother" attitude because of my own beliefs that things come into my life when I need them to, and I don't feel I currently need a relationship. But my fear and sometimes repulsion of that kind of intimacy has caused issues in the past. If they're seeing you as undesirable because THEY aren't willing to wait and don't care enough to do things when you feel ready, the issue lies with them and not with you. I hope someone comes into your life who cares enough to take things at your pace, however slow it may be or how ever many breaks you may need from intimacy.
Completely the same here! Some people are down to get intimate really quickly and I don’t want to disappoint anyone like that so I haven’t bothered going on dates for a little while
As someone who is not on Instagram, I rather exist outside of the Internet, than on the inside. Living a vicarious digital dream is not good for anyone's mental health.
@@Co_mill I have not. Hadn't even heard about it before this. And sure thing, something like that is awful for the victims. The thing is, even an Instagrammed life can be fabricated. And someone is guaranteed to do it, if there's something to gain. There are likely several people doing it, this very moment. But how likely is it, to run into someone like Simon Leviev? As likely as getting hit by a reckless driver? Maybe as likely as getting hit by a lightning? How probable does something need to be, that someone arranges their life around avoiding that something? But I digress. What I'm trying to say is that for most people it will be enough to keep a modicum of wariness towards people - especially when it comes to money - if you haven't known them for a good while. But to each his own! I will continue not being on Instagram, and you can keep on using it to stalk potendial dates. Nothing has to change. 😄
yeah agree... kinda weird to see red flag in not doing something that is very knowingly unhealthy for those who do it. like anyone who takes the step to be off social media is doing such a favor for themselves, I can NEVER see that as a bad thing. its also just the whole concept of social media, from constantly needing to be connected, to seeing yourself as important enough to always share with everyone, are all unattractive traits. someone who is living authentically in the REAL world is probably doing better, and is actively a better person. kind of a weird take from them on that one.
I really like these longer form sit down chatty videos :) it’s nice to just see the cast being themselves and having genuine conversations or cracking jokes and sharing opinions like in the Reddit videos.
This was great, definitely looking forward to more topics/videos! I would like to hear "Why we're bad at boundaries." I can only speak for myself obv, but I turn 30 in a couple weeks and it has taken me this long to understand what healthy, definitive boundaries look like, and its made life so much better. I would love to hear the cast talk about setting healthy boundaries, whether it's romantic, familial, friendships, etc.
I do agree with many of things that were discussed but not being on social media being a red flag seems so weird. I feel like it's totally fine if a person doesn't feel like being on social media all the time. And while I'm not against having social media, I wouldn't say people should be marked as red flags for not being involved in it. I've used it myself but found it to be a time consuming and quite a negative place. That being said I did feel like I lost a connection to my friends when choosing to delete my accounts. But instead I forced myself to reach out to friends more and found that talking to them face to face or via texts and actively asking on what they're up to has worked out better for me as it made me connect with them better and seem more involved in their lives, instead of me being just another like on their screen. So it is harder to do in this modern lifestyle that we're a part of, but it's not impossible. And I suggest you try it too but at the end of the day for each his/her own, so what works for me, might not for you and vice versa
yeah agree. I think its actually a red flag for someone to *require* someone to have a social media presence honestly😅 sounds like they're too dependent on the virtual social sphere, which is basically known to be depressing, unhealthy, bias and completely faulty. there's nothing authentic about posting yourself online by choosing 1 photo out of a 100 and carefully thinking what to write and hashtag. I just find it weird to consider something so dishonest and quite narcissistic necessary.
I'd love a Why We're Bad at Adulting where you cover the most basic things people should know how to do as an independent adult but are weirdly hard or things that were never taught about what to do when we're part of society lol
Love the show! I hope this goes on for more episodes. Here are some subjects that i could think of that i think would work in this format and would like to see in the future: - Flirting - Studying - new experiences - failing (fear ro fail) - Consistency
i love this so much; the conversation about 'putting yourself first and checking in like "am i having a good time?" when often as women/femmes we just want to please the other person even if it means sacrificing everything about ourselves' is so important
Rewatching this again a year later 🖤 Did they ever end up doing anymore Why We're Bad episodes? Love this chill "conversation between friends about relatable topics" format
I really love seeing this type of content from people who are usually known for their comedy since it shows different aspects of them that we might not normally see. Really love this format because it almost feels like a mini-podcast. It would be great to maybe have a 'why we're bad at socializing' episode.
I like the idea of this "we're bad at life" sort of panel discussion segment. Frank, funny, honest, and open is never an unwelcome combination, and there's no end to the sorts of topics you could cover. Coping is a good one, and if you have ND folks who would be down experiences with masking would be REALLY interesting.
I totally forgot about this show but I'm so glad that you guys brought it back! I love that it's just a video of two people sitting down and having a genuine conversation. Loved it!
I love this format, feels so personal and fun at the same time. I really appreciate Courtney and Angela opening up to us and getting out of their comfort zones by sharing their experiences for this show. I hope Courtney hosts all of them and we have a rotating set of guests!!! I love it
I'm so happy you're willing to be vulnerable about these things because we've all been worried about dating for one reason or another. We need to normalize opening up about ourselves and our experiences. I would love to see more of these!!
Angela and courtey are awesome together it was like an organic conversation had they not been filming. Also I need more episodes with shayne's audience participation. It was like he was part of the video without being in it 🤣.
This is so great! I've been dating a lot more this past year and I'm pretty much at the stage where I can go on a lot of first dates and quickly get over rejection or getting ghosted, even after really great dates. You have to learn to not take it personally. You have no idea what that person is going through, and sometimes the chemistry just isn't there.
This is great! I love Angela and Courtney just talking and getting to know each other. It feels very natural and I enjoyed getting to know them better.
I really appreciate acknowledging the danger in dating as a woman. Being a woman is frankly terrifying and trying to date, especially if your date is basically stranger.
I’ve been a “lone wolf” for pretty much my entire life just like Court. Only had two first dates in my entire life and I’m turning 33 in June. Not necessarily for a lack of wanting a partner, it just doesn’t seem like it’s been in the cards for me up to this point. Meanwhile, it seems like everyone else around me is getting engaged/married. I wouldn’t say I’m desperate, but I certainly do feel a bit lonely sometimes and it would be nice to have someone special in my life to come home and talk to besides my pillow or dining room table.
I was extremely surprised by the "no insta=red flag" sentiment. I literally only have fb and WhatsApp for socialising with my close friends. I think posting a smoothie on insta is the epitomy of being self-absorbed haha. Fascinating how minds perceive things differently!
I mean, I guess it makes sense if you're under 30 and live in California. But I'm definitely not going to get on there just for pre date background checks
One thing I've learnt is to never judge a person based on their social media presence (or lack thereof). You'll make the wrong judgement 99% of the time. Most people I know think this way. Really surprised to hear they think otherwise.
at this point in my life, I'd rather post updates about my life on my family chat group rather than on social media. because they're the people that actually care.
I feel like smosh now is severely underrated. Just because it’s not the same from 2010 smosh doesn’t mean it’s not good. I think it’s better because it matured with me as I grew up.
Agreed. Like I think it's one thing to like how "old Smosh" was but like they say you can always go back and re-watch them if you want. Expecting comedians (or anybody really) to not change, evolve and mature over years and decades is odd.
My first date with my now partner of 5yrs started with me confessing I hadn’t taken my adhd meds that morning (we were getting all you can eat sushi). I was so embarrassed and nervous I would come across too hyperactive/talkative. Recently he told me that that was one of the things he liked most abt me 🥹 First dates truly are HIT or MISS, never be ashamed to have a bad first date ♥️
LMAO not me making it to 12:10 where Court/Angela are roasting the plaid short sleeve button down shirt………. The exact shirt my man wore to our first date hahahaha And it DID give me the ick! But idk what to say, the man can rock a plaid short sleeve button down I guess 😌
As a person who doesn’t use social media and take a lot of pictures. Having a red flag that they don’t have an Instagram or that they think their posts are cringy is honestly really shallow. And I know LA/Cali dating is way different because it’s a influencer city, but still just sounds yikes. Not trying to diminish their red flags, just giving an opinion as a person who really only uses social media to see what friends and family are up to.
Yeah, my Instagram is not that active too because I don't really like the app, therefore not so many people tagged me in the photos, but for the love of God, please don't tell me I'm a red flag just because of that.
@@MrAoitara because serial killers are sometimes a creepy person who doesn't have a social life and a stalker. if we see on Instagram that they have a life, maybe we can assume that they're just a normal person.
Angela’s statement of “where’s my option to leave” is actually super important to me, dating or no I always try to make sure I’m not parked in or can leave at anytime, so when first dating I prefer separate cars.
Love this. This format almost feels like if I were listening to a podcast, it's so calming to just watch them sit and talk. Hope to see more videos like this one
I'm so used to seeing Angela playing a character, or being over the top, or disappointing Chanse until he just says "Angela" is the most disappointed voice. So it was a little jarring to see her just have a conversation about her personal life. But I liked it
this was so good I'm so self conscious about my lack of dating experience despite being in my mid-twenties and these kinds of conversations really help
I've got kind of the total opposite on the social media thing. If someone does have a huge online presence or takes pictures of everything... That would turn me off them completely. But then again I wouldn't really know that at first since I wouldn't have internet-stalked them largely because I'm not a big social media consumer.
I loved first dates! went on multiple a weekend. I managed to mentally define them as a fun day out to brunch with a friend and that perspective made those some of the best years of my life. Strip away obligation and it strips away the pressure.
I’ve been wanting to watch this for ages, and I’m so glad I found the time! I haven’t dated since high school, and that was someone I was close to for years prior, so I’ve never really had the “first date” experience. Watching this was really comforting and insightful. Plus, it’s just really nice to see the dynamics between old and new cast; Courtney and Angela emerged as a strong duo in their Reddit Stories episode, and this just cements that.
13:15 “it’s like a job interview for the actual date” Omg this is such a good way to look at first dates! I’ve been on a ton but only ever went further with a couple people
I think its a great idea to open this format up to topics beyond dating. The whole "Why we're bad at _______" is a great idea. The chat format let us see the personalities of the cast we all like, plus the stories they tell help a lot of people who might be struggling with making their own mistakes feel less alone.
As I've gotten older, I'm definitely refining my approach to dating. Totally used to be the dude that would date anyone I found attractive that felt the same way about me. Now, I won't even consider someone dateable unless I've known them for a long time - and man, its sooooo much easier. I guess it's because I already know we get along, that we tolerate each other's habits, trauma, etc, and that we'll still be able to be friends if it doesn't work out. I'm also in my thirties now, and have gotten super comfortable with the reality that I can totally function and be happy as a single guy - and learning to let go of the fear of being alone has been a huge boost. I feel like I could talk about this for hours, so I'm super happy they brought this show back.
Why do I feel like I just went through therapy (in the best way)? I feel so seen hearing my thoughts and fears coming from others who I genuinely find so interesting and wonderful. Thank you both for this 💕
It's so cool to see Angela in this kind of forum. She's such a chaos demon in improv/comedy videos (and amazingly so), and it's nice to see this side of her. She and Courtney have a great back & forth!
Came here to say this. It was super refreshing to see her in a serious conversation
Why we are bad at asking for what we want ❤️
And idk why but I get a feeling she isn’t a Mike Posner fan
Smosh is leaning more into the talk show/casual chatting formats lately and it's really comfy viewing/listening. It's chill, entertaining, and the edits are still hilarious. Keep it up! 👍
i like that too. i get to know them more and i feel less lonely while working from home 😂
If you guys want more of that format, I recommend smosh games “lets get talking” or “no wrong answers”, they do a variety of discussion based “games” and its my favorite content to watch mindlessly
This is a show I didn't knew I needed back. Courtney and Angela's dynamic is sooooo flippin' natural and good. ❤️
These two definitely go well together.
I'd watch a whole series of just Courtney and Angela having conversations like these.
Was thinking the exact same thing! I'm feeling so good listening to them!
Hard Agree ❤
*cuts to board af's Courtney yelling to Angela*
This is wild knowing her and Shayne were in the thick of it at this point
AND HE DIRECTED THIS!!!
Huh?? can someone fill me in please?
@@gintarebaskeviciute5672 Shane and Courtney got married
@@LucasJKey HUUUUH????? FOR REAL??? LIKE NOT AS A BIT???
@@gintarebaskeviciute5672 100% real
The last 6 months of smosh has been the best yet…across all the channels. Good job team.
I think having fresh faces on the channels has helped a lot.
Hard core agree!
Actually agree. love smosh, always have, but ive been enjoying the content lately even more than usual
I think Chanse and Angela are great additions to the cast. :D
are you part of smosh? if not that is such cringe wording imo
" clearly I'm a virgin"
Proceeds with cast laughter however Shane's laughter trumps all. 😅😂
Too funny now knowing loll
He was the Director of this episode 😂😂😂
@@MahbubaShanta makes soo much more sense! 😂 Do they have that note in the description? I'd be curious to know in some
@@TheAllieBubayeah they do hehe
I love when the Smosh cast just talk. It's really refreshing.
bring back smoshcast 2023
@@ianpeean3714 YES PLEASE
@@ianpeean3714 please yes
@@ianpeean3714 Absolutely!
@@ianpeean3714 omg yes!! The new cast members would be great on the podcast!! I also miss what Courtney and Shayne individually brought to the Smoshcast
I never thought of me not having social media as being a red flag, that’s interesting. I got rid of them all years ago because of the arguments I’d see on Facebook or the fake lives I’d see on Instagram. Just seemed full of toxicity to me and I thought it was better to bail on all of them rather than participate. Plus, they can be so damn distracting and addictive.
You’re probably better off not having social media. It’s so bad for our health
You're also probably not looking to date the type of women these two are. It's only a red flag because that type of stuff matters to them.
It's like they said, you don't have to be doing much but if you're not on there at all it might seem strange. Social media for better or worse is a large part of culture so if you're totally disconnected from it that might lead to multiple questions as to why. Are you unrelatable? Are you insecure? Are you weird? So on so forth.
Hear hear! I couldn’t delete my accounts because i didn’t want to mess on major things but i delete the apps from time to time.
I personally think that looking up someones social media before a date isn`t a good thing. If you do that you`re forming an opinion of someone based on most probably lies. Talking and spending time with another person is the only way to really get to know someone. If you're very dependant on social media dating someone who does not care about it or does not have it at all might help you balance your life a little better.
adding angela to the cast was probably one of the best things Smosh has done imo
agree 💜
100% agree
Absolutely
true that. and she has musical talent too. Her and Chanse - quite the combo
I have never really seen her serious like this and it's just making me fall in love with her a litttlllleeeee bit lol
Angela saying she's calculated and in her head is the last thing I expected to come out of her mouth 🤣
I would definitely like a video of Tommy and Chance talking about gay dating. I'm in my freshman year of college and it is so difficult to even get a first date. I would love to hear it from other perspectives.
yesss im so in need of that! im about to go into college already and i wanna know what it's like or the differences in gay dating
I would love this out of sheer curiosity!
PLEASE!!
That would be a stellar idea!
Gay dating is such a dumpster fire, I would love to hear their perspectives to better understand if I'm the issue or if it's the culture
man... angela's scope is so wide, that she can be a charming, articulate person to someone who got hit on the head too hard.
Love this format! Would love a rotation of the cast
Nothing fits a comedy show like yearly-spaced kind of mini talk show segments... I definitely don't see this fitting in Smosh.
I would love a rotation of cast as well! I'm especially interested in Damiens stories, and Arashas and Spencers! I like the wide variety of content smosh is working with, the past half a year or so they've become one of my fave channels lately!
Would also listen to Selina-Heidi
2019: Why were bad at dating
2023: Why we are pretending to be single when we are secretly dating and get married next year, oops shhhhh it's a secret!
Why we're bad at hobbies?
Making friends?
Interviews/auditions?
Communicating, friendship or dating wise?
Fashion/makeup?
Budgeting?
Just throwing ideas at the wall
are you bad at everything? 🤣 hahahaha jk
You mean throwing ideas at the la Croix wall?
Taking care of plants 😪
@@m0ldy_s33ds3 this the one
Loving the evolution and growth Smosh has been showing lately. Everything seems more natural and much funnier. And overall, there is a great sense of community. We know something that Courtney and Angela aren't bad at: having a great conversation together. I love the honesty and the natural chemistry these two share. Would like to see more like this with other members. Keep up the good work!
I genuinely appreciate Courtney and Angela opening up about personal stories and sharing their experiences
This is the most open, honest dialogue I have seen in a long time. I didn't even know this was something I wanted to watch.
This was perfect. They are both so incredibly articulate.
After years of bad first dates from communication or just clashing personalities I had the best first date of my life 7 years ago, we are still together to this day
Hearing shayne laugh in the background has new meaning since April.
Wait when
For sure bring it back and have Shayne and Courtney alternate hosting it OR co hosting it unless they already thought about that
@@blazehaze233 Shayne is directing this one so lets hope they do host this series together.
Possible he has a girlfriend/partner?
@@sheatennison5046 Yeah, possibly... 👀
im sure they will since this show idea was both of theirs. so im sure they will rotate out as host and director.
@@sheatennison5046 Prophetic
The only thing I disagreed with is how not having an instagram is a red flag. I don’t have any social medias not because I have something to hide, but because they are genuinely negative to my mental health. The best thing I did was delete them
Same
There's something comforting abt the way Angela conversates
Speaking to the non social media thing, as someone who does not use any of them it has drastically helped my dating life. People are way more interesting and expectations are not overblown from their “internet perception”
My English teacher told us to always check someone’s public court records before you go on a date with them in case they have a history of domestic abuse or something similar
Oh, _daaamn_ that's a good one if you've been burned in the past!
Wow, didn't never thought about that.. 😳
Your English teacher been thru it 🫣
Wow thank you Courtney and Angela for being so vulnerable on camera, that's huge
I LOVE courtney and angelas chemistry. They always vibe so well together. This is such a good segment concept, i hope you guys do more of these with them two as "hosts" and special guests!
Angela and Courtney are the perfect pair to bring this back! Hearing them talk about their own early dating lives really warmed my heart, due to my own experiences being very similar. I'd love for them to do another one: "Why We're Bad at Rejection." I feel like going into the "rejection therapy" realm and hearing them share some stories of rejection (could be jobs, friends, family members, society, etc.) would be so interesting to watch. Getting used to and dealing with rejection is so prevalent in our everyday lives.
I'm about 10 minutes in, and I can already tell y'all this is a fantastic format. I love one to one conversational style videos, especially with different cast members, so I love that y'all brought this back as a general format!
I loved getting to know Angela a bit more! It's always weird when new people join but I really like what she adds to the cast!
This felt like the smoshcast is back, love it:)
Not only is this a Why We're Bad at Dating revival, it feels like a SmoshCast revival, the cast are all so interesting, I love hearing them just talk about things
As a person who hasn’t dated much in my life because of anxiety, I loved this so much! It’s so nice to hear from people who feel similarly! ❤
this content is so authentic and so refreshing. i’ve loved Smosh for a long time, but this version is the best yet. i absolutely love hearing all of your interests and experiences. it’s made me love y’all even more. I even have everyone at work in love with this stuff because we listen most of the day. anyway, just wanted to tell you guys that you’re killing it.
I LOVE to hear what someone is passionate about. How their eyes shine and how they loose themselves in the topic, forgetting their on a date and are their true selves for a moment.
My best friend did that all the time and it was annoying, because then he would mansplained about many things and he got lost in his own mind and he couldn't read the situation.
I love when people open up to me, including about their passion, because it means they feel comfortable. But please oh God no, please just make them remember that they're with you.
Oh, than get ready for a conversation about martial arts (Taekwondo) and body physics, even with applied examples if you want, when you talk to me **sweaty smile**
Its cool to hear when people are passionate about things but people need to remember you can say a little and not have them tell you about everything in a whole conversation. First date needs people to ask questions about things and about each other. It shouldn't be about one person the whole time and what they like.
I would love this to become a podcast with Courtney being the host and just having these conversations with her coworkers or other people she's comfortable with.
I'm on the neurodivergent spectrum and for me that comes in the form of being easily influenced, so I very much limit my social media/online usage to avoid being negatively influenced especially today where there's so much negativity online. I also have a very hard time keeping up in group conversations and can go nonverbal or close myself off to one or two people in the group to be able to speak....and I love backpacks because of how bad my memory/focus is - so being able to keep everything in one on-the-go place where I can't forget it used to be very important to me. I've limited it to a small bag the size of maybe a medium purse thankfully now though.
It's almost both sad and funny to hear all of these things as red flags to some people. Of course, it doesnt really affect me personally for these to be red flags to Courtney and Angela, A: I dont know them personally and B: the cool thing about meeting and dating new people is how vastly different everyone is and how everyone has their own preferences. Theres nothing wrong with those being red flags for them specifically.
But I just wanted to share my perspective on those sorts of things and adress that they aren't always red flags, most things depend on the circumstances of the situation (this doesn't include anything that risks ones safety or the safety of others, of course, and if you get a bad feeling from someone it's probably for a reason and its perfectly alright to end things based off that!). To any others on the spectrum reading this or anyone in general really; don't sacrifice your preferences or peace of mind for anyone else, just make healthy choices and you'll find someone who matches you in time if that's what you want!
Edit: I also want to say that most of what Courtney and Angela were saying were things I could relate to or agree with lol, I've had my own nightmares of first dates and feel a lot of what Courtney was describing especially. I just love these types of videos cause they open up all types of discussion so I wanted to add to it here as well!
Basically my thoughts exactly! The social media thing makes me really sad because I already know that it limits my ability to meet new people and I worry that people view it as a read flag on top of that. I’m also neurodivergent and I just can’t handle social media. Sad to know there’s such an expectation to curate a perfect digital image.
@@kristenrussell9642 Yeah I'm always worried it's seen as a red flag as well! But to combat that I now try to seek the company of other neurodivergent people when Im given the opportunity, or those experienced/educated about it more than average (like someone with a neurodivergent family member/friend/partner). From my experience these types of people either also don't have much social media or can understand your reasoning for not wanting it. I've also met neurotypical people who were willing and sometimes even eager to learn more of course, and usually they're absolute treasures in my experience as well lol.
I definitely hope this show is back to stay and grow--this was a fantastic comeback! Flirting would be a great follow-up.
I'd also LOVE to see "why we're bad at friendships". It's such a different animal than sex & dating/romance and gets less attention imo, but I think a lot of people can relate to the difficulties of building & maintaining friendships in adulthood.
We've all lost friends before, and so often it's because of something outside anyone's direct control--people change, circumstances change, shit happens. Sometimes it's literally just inertia. It's often nobody's fault--it's especially tragic when both friends actively mourn the loss & wish things were different, but also feel discouraged from reaching out (e.g. anxiety/rumination).
🤷 idk, just think a lot of folks could benefit in these lonely days. Y'all've had incredible podcast roundtables back in the day--would def love to see that energy with the newer cast & crew!
I think it’s interesting to hear both of their thoughts on people “needing” social media so they can background check potential dates. I’m someone who has social media but doesn’t really use it. I purge my accounts often and don’t add as much as I take away. I wonder how often people check my accounts and think I do nothing and get red flags
I’m wondering the same thing. Is it a necessity to have social media now? Using it has always just made me anxious.
Yeah I thought their perspective was interesting but I don’t know if I agree. Sometimes people just don’t like social media. There’s a lot of pressure and negativity associated with it. The only social media I have is instagram and Snapchat. I rarely ever use snap and I post every couple months on Instagram. My husband also doesn’t have any form of social media. I don’t think it’s a red flag at all. But since they’re influencers it might mean something different to them.
@@zackm3782 Remember this is titled 'Why we're bad at dating' so I don't think they are making any recommendations. If anything they are telling what not to do. I don't think it's necessary to have social media. Not having it might limit your dating pool but you should also ask yourself "Do I want to date someone who cares if I have social media?"
@@MrMcwesbrookWell said. I like your way of looking at it.
as a woman who doesn't use social media, I completely disagree with them on that point. I think no matter how far humanity gets into the virtual world, it should never become a *requirement* for someone to exist within the online sphere. we are real creatures, not virtual beings, there's nothing new or necessary about social media.
add to that the fact everything we learn about social media is negative, I think its the smartest thing you can do to step away from it. I actually think its a red flag to expect or require someone to be online for them to be important or enough for you😅but I guess different folks different strokes. I would simply bid farewell to anyone who finds it weird about me. no hard feelings.
As a large straight teddy bear, I appreciate hearing the possible mentalities of women I'm meeting for the first time! I always look for ways to make myself feel more approachable whenever I'm in interacting with people
Love this so much! Would love even longer episodes! I would love to hear you two talk about the dynamic of texting / online communication both before and in-between early dates.
Some suggestions!
Bad at social interaction
Bad at being queer
Bad at cooking
Bad at social media
Bad at hookups
Bad at art
Love seeing this format again and would definitely love to see more cast members (and crew) be on this show
One of my biggest problems is that I’m terrified of “seggual”intimacy, and I’ve been told that I’m undesirable because of that. So it’s like, I almost don’t want to bother because I assume that any guy I’m attracted to will refuse me.
You're not undesirable because of that. Those guys are just horny and they're mad because they can't get you laid. Please, I hope you find person who loves you not just for "it".
Don't get scared, you're just filtering the bad ones.
I can relate to the first half, I don't have the "why bother" attitude because of my own beliefs that things come into my life when I need them to, and I don't feel I currently need a relationship. But my fear and sometimes repulsion of that kind of intimacy has caused issues in the past. If they're seeing you as undesirable because THEY aren't willing to wait and don't care enough to do things when you feel ready, the issue lies with them and not with you. I hope someone comes into your life who cares enough to take things at your pace, however slow it may be or how ever many breaks you may need from intimacy.
Completely the same here! Some people are down to get intimate really quickly and I don’t want to disappoint anyone like that so I haven’t bothered going on dates for a little while
I’m a guy and I haven’t been involved with anyone in any way for 3 years and I’m afraid to do anything at this point 😂
As someone who is not on Instagram, I rather exist outside of the Internet, than on the inside. Living a vicarious digital dream is not good for anyone's mental health.
But have you watched the tinder swindler
@@Co_mill I have not. Hadn't even heard about it before this. And sure thing, something like that is awful for the victims.
The thing is, even an Instagrammed life can be fabricated. And someone is guaranteed to do it, if there's something to gain. There are likely several people doing it, this very moment.
But how likely is it, to run into someone like Simon Leviev? As likely as getting hit by a reckless driver? Maybe as likely as getting hit by a lightning? How probable does something need to be, that someone arranges their life around avoiding that something? But I digress.
What I'm trying to say is that for most people it will be enough to keep a modicum of wariness towards people - especially when it comes to money - if you haven't known them for a good while.
But to each his own! I will continue not being on Instagram, and you can keep on using it to stalk potendial dates. Nothing has to change. 😄
Pretty shocked to hear Angela seeing no tagged pics from during a global pandemic as a red flag 😅
yeah agree... kinda weird to see red flag in not doing something that is very knowingly unhealthy for those who do it. like anyone who takes the step to be off social media is doing such a favor for themselves, I can NEVER see that as a bad thing.
its also just the whole concept of social media, from constantly needing to be connected, to seeing yourself as important enough to always share with everyone, are all unattractive traits. someone who is living authentically in the REAL world is probably doing better, and is actively a better person. kind of a weird take from them on that one.
There's also the fact that dating has been happening for a long time, way before Instagram, or any other social media, existed.
Love hearing Shayne behind the scenes laughing...how long till we get a "Just Shayne" laugh track?
MAKE THIS A SERIES PLEASE PLEASE PLEEEAAASSEEEEE
Courtney is a great host and Angela is very receptive. Excited for this to come back!
Court pretending to be single and Shayne directing= couple goals
Shayne's laugh from the back is emotional support
I really like these longer form sit down chatty videos :) it’s nice to just see the cast being themselves and having genuine conversations or cracking jokes and sharing opinions like in the Reddit videos.
I 1000% needed this type of video. Definitely keep this series going. Love all the content you guys make!! ❤️
thank you, alexa!
@@smoshpit shocked and grateful for the like from you guys ! And of course !
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This was great, definitely looking forward to more topics/videos!
I would like to hear "Why we're bad at boundaries."
I can only speak for myself obv, but I turn 30 in a couple weeks and it has taken me this long to understand what healthy, definitive boundaries look like, and its made life so much better. I would love to hear the cast talk about setting healthy boundaries, whether it's romantic, familial, friendships, etc.
I do agree with many of things that were discussed but not being on social media being a red flag seems so weird. I feel like it's totally fine if a person doesn't feel like being on social media all the time. And while I'm not against having social media, I wouldn't say people should be marked as red flags for not being involved in it. I've used it myself but found it to be a time consuming and quite a negative place. That being said I did feel like I lost a connection to my friends when choosing to delete my accounts. But instead I forced myself to reach out to friends more and found that talking to them face to face or via texts and actively asking on what they're up to has worked out better for me as it made me connect with them better and seem more involved in their lives, instead of me being just another like on their screen. So it is harder to do in this modern lifestyle that we're a part of, but it's not impossible. And I suggest you try it too but at the end of the day for each his/her own, so what works for me, might not for you and vice versa
yeah agree. I think its actually a red flag for someone to *require* someone to have a social media presence honestly😅
sounds like they're too dependent on the virtual social sphere, which is basically known to be depressing, unhealthy, bias and completely faulty. there's nothing authentic about posting yourself online by choosing 1 photo out of a 100 and carefully thinking what to write and hashtag. I just find it weird to consider something so dishonest and quite narcissistic necessary.
I'd love a Why We're Bad at Adulting where you cover the most basic things people should know how to do as an independent adult but are weirdly hard or things that were never taught about what to do when we're part of society lol
Why we're bad at spending/saving would be cool! Would love to get some advice from y'all about that
Love the show! I hope this goes on for more episodes.
Here are some subjects that i could think of that i think would work in this format and would like to see in the future:
- Flirting
- Studying
- new experiences
- failing (fear ro fail)
- Consistency
i love this so much; the conversation about 'putting yourself first and checking in like "am i having a good time?" when often as women/femmes we just want to please the other person even if it means sacrificing everything about ourselves' is so important
Rewatching this again a year later 🖤 Did they ever end up doing anymore Why We're Bad episodes? Love this chill "conversation between friends about relatable topics" format
It would be a hilarious episode if you did why we are bad at apologizing and have Damien on the show. 😂
courtney is so real for that "i don't mind when women [thirst trap] because i like it" same
Personally I find thirst traps by anyone -male or female - to seem superficial and desperate
I really love seeing this type of content from people who are usually known for their comedy since it shows different aspects of them that we might not normally see. Really love this format because it almost feels like a mini-podcast.
It would be great to maybe have a 'why we're bad at socializing' episode.
I like the idea of this "we're bad at life" sort of panel discussion segment. Frank, funny, honest, and open is never an unwelcome combination, and there's no end to the sorts of topics you could cover. Coping is a good one, and if you have ND folks who would be down experiences with masking would be REALLY interesting.
Love that Shayne's there just as a supportive audience
He directed it! :)
Right on@@TM.BECK14
I totally forgot about this show but I'm so glad that you guys brought it back! I love that it's just a video of two people sitting down and having a genuine conversation. Loved it!
I love this format, feels so personal and fun at the same time. I really appreciate Courtney and Angela opening up to us and getting out of their comfort zones by sharing their experiences for this show. I hope Courtney hosts all of them and we have a rotating set of guests!!! I love it
I'm so happy you're willing to be vulnerable about these things because we've all been worried about dating for one reason or another. We need to normalize opening up about ourselves and our experiences.
I would love to see more of these!!
Angela and courtey are awesome together it was like an organic conversation had they not been filming. Also I need more episodes with shayne's audience participation. It was like he was part of the video without being in it 🤣.
Angela is super cool and down to earth! Love seeing her in this setting.
co_mill and angie in the hooooooouse “BRRRRR BR BR BR BRRRRR 📣 💥”
good job guys y’all killed it, really enjoy y’all’s chemistry and transparency too
This is so great! I've been dating a lot more this past year and I'm pretty much at the stage where I can go on a lot of first dates and quickly get over rejection or getting ghosted, even after really great dates. You have to learn to not take it personally. You have no idea what that person is going through, and sometimes the chemistry just isn't there.
I really appreciate seeing Angela in this setting ❤
This is great! I love Angela and Courtney just talking and getting to know each other. It feels very natural and I enjoyed getting to know them better.
I really appreciate acknowledging the danger in dating as a woman. Being a woman is frankly terrifying and trying to date, especially if your date is basically stranger.
I’ve been a “lone wolf” for pretty much my entire life just like Court. Only had two first dates in my entire life and I’m turning 33 in June. Not necessarily for a lack of wanting a partner, it just doesn’t seem like it’s been in the cards for me up to this point. Meanwhile, it seems like everyone else around me is getting engaged/married. I wouldn’t say I’m desperate, but I certainly do feel a bit lonely sometimes and it would be nice to have someone special in my life to come home and talk to besides my pillow or dining room table.
That thing about Instagram sounded actually insane to me. I think you guys explained exactly why some people don't have them.
I was extremely surprised by the "no insta=red flag" sentiment. I literally only have fb and WhatsApp for socialising with my close friends. I think posting a smoothie on insta is the epitomy of being self-absorbed haha. Fascinating how minds perceive things differently!
I mean, I guess it makes sense if you're under 30 and live in California. But I'm definitely not going to get on there just for pre date background checks
One thing I've learnt is to never judge a person based on their social media presence (or lack thereof). You'll make the wrong judgement 99% of the time. Most people I know think this way. Really surprised to hear they think otherwise.
at this point in my life, I'd rather post updates about my life on my family chat group rather than on social media. because they're the people that actually care.
Thank god there’s other people who thought this, was just about to comment. People should not need to curate a digital image of themselves.
This was so awesome I hope it’s a regular segment! Love Angela and Courtney sm!
Looking forward to the return of this series. I actually like this newer format, it’s a lot more personal and fun!
I feel like smosh now is severely underrated. Just because it’s not the same from 2010 smosh doesn’t mean it’s not good. I think it’s better because it matured with me as I grew up.
Agreed. Like I think it's one thing to like how "old Smosh" was but like they say you can always go back and re-watch them if you want. Expecting comedians (or anybody really) to not change, evolve and mature over years and decades is odd.
Courtney is such a natural in this laid-back, one-on-one interview style setting. Be careful Smosh, she might pull an Anthony on you and go solo!
dude no, stop 😭
She was an amazing Smoshcast host for this very reason!
Whatever that baseline is in the background of all these in this type of video is amazing. Whoever did that amazing.
My first date with my now partner of 5yrs started with me confessing I hadn’t taken my adhd meds that morning (we were getting all you can eat sushi). I was so embarrassed and nervous I would come across too hyperactive/talkative.
Recently he told me that that was one of the things he liked most abt me 🥹
First dates truly are HIT or MISS, never be ashamed to have a bad first date ♥️
LMAO not me making it to 12:10 where Court/Angela are roasting the plaid short sleeve button down shirt……….
The exact shirt my man wore to our first date hahahaha
And it DID give me the ick! But idk what to say, the man can rock a plaid short sleeve button down I guess 😌
I'm glad there's a space to get to know Angela more personally
As a person who doesn’t use social media and take a lot of pictures. Having a red flag that they don’t have an Instagram or that they think their posts are cringy is honestly really shallow. And I know LA/Cali dating is way different because it’s a influencer city, but still just sounds yikes. Not trying to diminish their red flags, just giving an opinion as a person who really only uses social media to see what friends and family are up to.
I agree. It’s still possible to be social and active without sharing it online. Their fears are understandable though.
Completely agreed.
@@zackm3782 How is it understandable that no gram pictures = serial killer?
Yeah, my Instagram is not that active too because I don't really like the app, therefore not so many people tagged me in the photos, but for the love of God, please don't tell me I'm a red flag just because of that.
@@MrAoitara because serial killers are sometimes a creepy person who doesn't have a social life and a stalker. if we see on Instagram that they have a life, maybe we can assume that they're just a normal person.
Angela’s statement of “where’s my option to leave” is actually super important to me, dating or no I always try to make sure I’m not parked in or can leave at anytime, so when first dating I prefer separate cars.
Oh my godd i used to watch the shayne and courtney ones repeatedly, so excited you're bringing it back
Love this. This format almost feels like if I were listening to a podcast, it's so calming to just watch them sit and talk. Hope to see more videos like this one
I'm so used to seeing Angela playing a character, or being over the top, or disappointing Chanse until he just says "Angela" is the most disappointed voice. So it was a little jarring to see her just have a conversation about her personal life. But I liked it
this was so good I'm so self conscious about my lack of dating experience despite being in my mid-twenties and these kinds of conversations really help
I've got kind of the total opposite on the social media thing. If someone does have a huge online presence or takes pictures of everything... That would turn me off them completely. But then again I wouldn't really know that at first since I wouldn't have internet-stalked them largely because I'm not a big social media consumer.
Well well well...
hehehehehe
Watching this after the announcement lol
Shane nervous laughing in the background is hilarious
i really love these new podcast-y smosh content that you can watch/listen to. thanks guys! appreciate yall.
I loved first dates! went on multiple a weekend. I managed to mentally define them as a fun day out to brunch with a friend and that perspective made those some of the best years of my life. Strip away obligation and it strips away the pressure.
I’ve been wanting to watch this for ages, and I’m so glad I found the time! I haven’t dated since high school, and that was someone I was close to for years prior, so I’ve never really had the “first date” experience. Watching this was really comforting and insightful. Plus, it’s just really nice to see the dynamics between old and new cast; Courtney and Angela emerged as a strong duo in their Reddit Stories episode, and this just cements that.
Courtney 100% calling Shane out with a selfie face
13:15 “it’s like a job interview for the actual date”
Omg this is such a good way to look at first dates! I’ve been on a ton but only ever went further with a couple people
I think its a great idea to open this format up to topics beyond dating. The whole "Why we're bad at _______" is a great idea. The chat format let us see the personalities of the cast we all like, plus the stories they tell help a lot of people who might be struggling with making their own mistakes feel less alone.
As I've gotten older, I'm definitely refining my approach to dating. Totally used to be the dude that would date anyone I found attractive that felt the same way about me. Now, I won't even consider someone dateable unless I've known them for a long time - and man, its sooooo much easier. I guess it's because I already know we get along, that we tolerate each other's habits, trauma, etc, and that we'll still be able to be friends if it doesn't work out. I'm also in my thirties now, and have gotten super comfortable with the reality that I can totally function and be happy as a single guy - and learning to let go of the fear of being alone has been a huge boost. I feel like I could talk about this for hours, so I'm super happy they brought this show back.
Why do I feel like I just went through therapy (in the best way)? I feel so seen hearing my thoughts and fears coming from others who I genuinely find so interesting and wonderful. Thank you both for this 💕