Nope he hates her. He’s literally trying to give her reasons to leave on her own because he either doesn’t have the guts to do it himself or he wants to look like the good guy who got dumped.
That dude was the admin of “that phase when you hate your girlfriend” thread , girl you are more worth than his bullshit 😐if he wants to control someone’s eating routine go and be a personal trainer that’s stupidity and him just being a coward, I feel like he is doing everything in his will to hurt this girl to the point she lets him go 😑he is horrid babe run!
I am a wellness coordinator and I can attest to the benefits of walking. I have ran 3 walking challenges within my institution and I received many messages from people saying they lost weight, more energy, etc. Some were able to get their families involved as well. It was very satisfying to receive those messages because I've been put in this role with no blueprint, building it from the ground up.
@MarianA-uq6ow the average person get 3,000 to 4,000 a day and that simply because majority of us work at a desk all day and by the time we get home we just want to be lazy and unwind. I gave myself a 6,000 goal instead of 10,000. I chose that because it's a little over half the recommendation and I don't feel like I "failed". My suggestion to people is take your 2 15 minute breaks, take TWO 5 minute breaks during the work day and take a walk. If there are steps, go up and down a few flights. After work, walk about instead of just sitting for the rest of the evening. I go on a walk with my son in the evenings sometimes. The weekends we go to farmer's markets after my son's soccer games. Just be careful because it's way too easy to spend a lot of money lol. Set a goal and you'll find yourself increasing it periodically. It gets easier.
@@Lilittle2727 one thing I suggest is grabbing a buddy. It's always easier to stick to something when you have someone doing it with you. The participants in the Walking Challenges have told me that's been the best part of it all, having others trying to achieve the same goal.
This podcast reminded me of the movie "Why did I get married" the character of Sheila had almost the same issue. Please find time and watch it! I pray you find the strength to leave because better things will definitely follow.
These conversations makes me feel validated because just like the way you beautiful ladies discussed this dilemma, it’s literally the same thing I say to a friend that is in a similar situation but I feel like I am beginning to sound like a broken record and she still makes excuses for him. I will just send her this podcast for her to watch other people say the same things I say to her. Maybe it will really make her see this type of situation is not ok. Love you all and thanks for keeping it real and helping women out there while entertaining us ❤
If someone told me “I wouldn’t do this for you” I would have a mental Check, I would be like bet let’s stop right now…give my gifts back …nice knowing you.
Came from instagram reels and I found my new channel to get ready with in the morning❤ Love u girls takes, def need to hear these every single day to get it thru my head lol!
At this point, it is on her. We cannot MAKE people value themselves. She is well aware she is being treated poorly. I have little patience for people who choose to live a way then complain or cry. No man is worth this. Being single is better than crying. Sorry if this is too blunt but enough tip toeing around these issues. Do for yourself and move on!
Lmaooooooo I’m weak, the song you are talking about during song of the week is Swag Surfin. And all D9 frats and sororities have “strolls” that they do. Those dances are specific to greek life.
I just want to say if you ladies have or one day have kids or hell even if you don’t and you have a sibling who gives you a niece or nephew you Ladies are going to be some fire Aunties!!! The way you all give genuine advice and speak so much motivation in to the writers needing your help is amazing. You ladies are great and will continue to be great. Thank y’all for the continuous laughs and words I may have not known I needed till I heard them ❤️❤️❤️
Ladies the dance you were talking about that you heard in NY @ 32:20 - is swag surfing !! The song is “Swag Surfin’ by F.L.Y” It’s definitely popular in US Black culture as a turn up song 😂 it’s very old tho!
I can relate with this story and I didn’t waste time breaking up with him I visited this guy and for the first day I only took in rice in the afternoon that was all for the day 2nd day was tea and bread with 2 fried eggs and rice in the evening I left on the 3rd morning and this guy texted me that I eat too much in a very hush way And later told me to start hitting the gym
The type of hatred that man displayed to the lady in the dilemma is just too much. She needs to move on... Like the ladies said, "You need peace, sis"... I wish her all the best
I dont drive trucks or even larger SUV’s 😅 but if I see brakes ahead, I’m pressing my brakes! She saw the Jeep’s merge signal and brake lights and waited to see what would happen next before pressing brakes. If she were carrying a load, she could mess it up driving like that. silly for posting this
My ex used to do stuff like this. One minute he'll be like "omg ur thighs i just love them" next minute he'd say, " wow ur thighs r so big, u need to go gym n eat less etc" 😢. I was like wtf
Forgive me if this was already mentioned, but in addition to ll these great points about how he is treating her terribly, Is this man even working on himself? Has he changed his diet? Does he gym everyday? What are his goals for his own health & physique? Because if he has none and makes no efforts then he is a hypocrite to open his mouth to say horrible things to her! It all makes me wonder if he is being intentionally mean any way possible because he just wants to be single but doesn't want to be the one to initiate the breakup?
It's giving he doesn't want to end the relationship so he wants the girl to dump him so that he can be the "good guy"😒 not the bad guy who ended the relationship 🙄
I’m curious if she was the same size when they met? maybe he was attracted to what she looked like when they first met and expects her to always look that way. Is it superficial, yes. People like what they like you shouldn’t get mad just move on.
Sure people like what they like, but the way he went about addressing her weight was vile. The ladies offered so many good examples of how to appropriately address weight changes in relationships. I’m fully convinced he’s just pushing her because he can’t stand her and wants to see how far he can take it before she finally dumps him. It’s disgusting but there are plenty of people in this world who are are like that.
It's been a few months and she sad she has always been curvy. Fact is that men will settle for women they aren't attracted to cause they can't get the women they want and they try to punish you for it
Nope he hates her. He’s literally trying to give her reasons to leave on her own because he either doesn’t have the guts to do it himself or he wants to look like the good guy who got dumped.
screaming not even 5 minutes in LEAVE THAT MAN‼️NEVER LET HIM SPEAK TO YOU AGAIN ‼️
Fr
I came here all the way from TikTok for this
5:41 That's not a boyfriend anymore at this point that's an enemy of happiness
“Is he Nigerian?” took me out 😂😂😂😂 love to ladies ❤
“Man can leave you in the desert without water” is all I have to say
Early! Regarding the dilemma, she needs to get rid of him. She deserves so much better. He sets her up to be able to tear her down. He’s horrid.
My ex was like this!!!! He used to body shame me all the time!!! RUN SIS RUN!!!! 🏃🏾♀️ 🏃🏾♀️
Run!!
That man is SICKKKK 😭😭😭
😂😂 the “sway” song is swag surfing by F.L.Y. Love listening to this podcast. Keep killing it!! Sending love.
That dude was the admin of “that phase when you hate your girlfriend” thread , girl you are more worth than his bullshit 😐if he wants to control someone’s eating routine go and be a personal trainer that’s stupidity and him just being a coward, I feel like he is doing everything in his will to hurt this girl to the point she lets him go 😑he is horrid babe run!
I am a wellness coordinator and I can attest to the benefits of walking. I have ran 3 walking challenges within my institution and I received many messages from people saying they lost weight, more energy, etc. Some were able to get their families involved as well.
It was very satisfying to receive those messages because I've been put in this role with no blueprint, building it from the ground up.
How many steps per day would you recommend? I'm never able to reach 10k
@MarianA-uq6ow the average person get 3,000 to 4,000 a day and that simply because majority of us work at a desk all day and by the time we get home we just want to be lazy and unwind. I gave myself a 6,000 goal instead of 10,000. I chose that because it's a little over half the recommendation and I don't feel like I "failed".
My suggestion to people is take your 2 15 minute breaks, take TWO 5 minute breaks during the work day and take a walk. If there are steps, go up and down a few flights. After work, walk about instead of just sitting for the rest of the evening. I go on a walk with my son in the evenings sometimes.
The weekends we go to farmer's markets after my son's soccer games. Just be careful because it's way too easy to spend a lot of money lol.
Set a goal and you'll find yourself increasing it periodically. It gets easier.
@@Lilittle2727 one thing I suggest is grabbing a buddy. It's always easier to stick to something when you have someone doing it with you. The participants in the Walking Challenges have told me that's been the best part of it all, having others trying to achieve the same goal.
@@myki612 thank you! This is really helpful. I sit around a lot but I aim for around 3k steps per day
“Because he comments on my portion size”- eeeeEEEEEHHHHHHH 😭😭😭😭
Sis eat don’t worry about him , he’s not for you his for the streets. Live your life in peace ❤
This podcast reminded me of the movie "Why did I get married" the character of Sheila had almost the same issue. Please find time and watch it! I pray you find the strength to leave because better things will definitely follow.
Love that movie and you’re right!
2:03 LMAOAOAOOOOAOOO Tammy’s lil “hey”😭😭😭 sent meeeee
definitely do a hashtag for the pod for your twitter audience!
It’s #btspod ❤
These conversations makes me feel validated because just like the way you beautiful ladies discussed this dilemma, it’s literally the same thing I say to a friend that is in a similar situation but I feel like I am beginning to sound like a broken record and she still makes excuses for him. I will just send her this podcast for her to watch other people say the same things I say to her. Maybe it will really make her see this type of situation is not ok. Love you all and thanks for keeping it real and helping women out there while entertaining us ❤
🎉 great idea I've done that too. Did it work for your friend?
If someone told me “I wouldn’t do this for you” I would have a mental Check, I would be like bet let’s stop right now…give my gifts back …nice knowing you.
2:11 it’s the way Tammy sat up for meeee
Swaggin and surfin is a nationwide jam!
The relationship be giving the weapon fashioned against her, she better run.
😭😭 not the weapon! She better run!
Oh a new episode? I been watching yall from like 2am so entertaining
the reactions when she said “one with your boyfriend actually”!!😭✋🏼
Came from instagram reels and I found my new channel to get ready with in the morning❤ Love u girls takes, def need to hear these every single day to get it thru my head lol!
Same!!!! I loveeeeeee❤
31:50 Swag Surfin by F.L.Y. The funny thing is: that song came out in like 2009. We been swag surfin for a MINUTE over here. 😂
Beatrice I always love the hair switch up‼️
You all are worthy-ooooooooohhh !!!!! I absolutely love this podcast. I have been on a binge of watching it the past few days!!! Keep it up loves ❤💐
P.s love you guys and how supportive you were to the lady in the dilemma. Bless her heart, I hope her new year started fresh and without him!
When y’all started humming swag surfin I was cracking up 😂😂, it’s definitely a banger over here in America, love the podcast btw 🫶🏾
At this point, it is on her. We cannot MAKE people value themselves. She is well aware she is being treated poorly. I have little patience for people who choose to live a way then complain or cry. No man is worth this. Being single is better than crying. Sorry if this is too blunt but enough tip toeing around these issues. Do for yourself and move on!
omg the song y’all talking about it swag surfin😂😂
Such great content, glad to have found you Black Queens
Thank you! ❤
32:13 the song is SWAG SURFIN’
4:45 SICK 💀
Lmaooooooo I’m weak, the song you are talking about during song of the week is Swag Surfin.
And all D9 frats and sororities have “strolls” that they do. Those dances are specific to greek life.
32:26 it’s the swag surf lol and the “society” that does the dance that Beatrice was doing are the nupes (it’s a black fraternity)
Swag surfing💀 funniest description i’ve ever heard🤣
I’m bussin up after 4 minutes 😂😂 had to pull it back up… you guys reactions are legendary! However, poor girl!
The song is - Swag Surfin by fast life yungstaz.
Earlyyyyy I clicked as soon as i saw the notification 😍!!!.
Appreciate you! ❤
Swag surfing 🗣🗣🙌🏽 32:15
One of my favourite podcast 😊😊❤
I'm dying of laughter, that song is called swag surfin - by FLY 🤣
No bc the way 'Stamina' has been on repeat since you guys added it to the playlist! 🔥🔥🔥
Big tune! 😂
I just want to say if you ladies have or one day have kids or hell even if you don’t and you have a sibling who gives you a niece or nephew you Ladies are going to be some fire Aunties!!! The way you all give genuine advice and speak so much motivation in to the writers needing your help is amazing. You ladies are great and will continue to be great. Thank y’all for the continuous laughs and words I may have not known I needed till I heard them ❤️❤️❤️
This is soo kind!! Thank you! ❤
This is soo kind!! Thank you! ❤
Y'all didn't have to do the Swag Surf like that😂😂
Forgive us 😭🤣
Ladies the dance you were talking about that you heard in NY @ 32:20 - is swag surfing !! The song is “Swag Surfin’ by F.L.Y”
It’s definitely popular in US Black culture as a turn up song 😂 it’s very old tho!
Thanks for the videos. I really love all the advice and how you made it to encourage other woman or to laugh in the middle hhahaha thanks girls❤️
I can relate with this story and I didn’t waste time breaking up with him
I visited this guy and for the first day I only took in rice in the afternoon that was all for the day
2nd day was tea and bread with 2 fried eggs and rice in the evening
I left on the 3rd morning and this guy texted me that I eat too much in a very hush way
And later told me to start hitting the gym
So rude. I hope you’re okay ❤
I would’ve took all of my gifts back 😭
I would have sold the gifts😭😭😭
Not him setting her up by dishing extra food for her 😭
EARLY GANGGGG PS. you guys look bloody amazing as per usual😆
Run sis run
I will like a partner that puts me in check if I’m gaining weight but the way he has gone about it shows he hates her
The type of hatred that man displayed to the lady in the dilemma is just too much. She needs to move on... Like the ladies said, "You need peace, sis"... I wish her all the best
32:24 It's Swag Surfin
The song y’all are wondering about is “swag surfin”
Swag Surfin’ by F.L.Y. 😂😂
Y’all are so cute! Swag surfin by F.L.Y is the song
The American song is swag surfing
❤ thank you 🙏🏾
This man must have hoped on the 'when you start hating your girlfriend ' thread
I dont drive trucks or even larger SUV’s 😅 but if I see brakes ahead, I’m pressing my brakes! She saw the Jeep’s merge signal and brake lights and waited to see what would happen next before pressing brakes. If she were carrying a load, she could mess it up driving like that. silly for posting this
Tammy will make a great mother 🙌🏿 firm but fair
The song is called Swag Surfin lol, its a cultural fave!
100% drop that man off at the next fedEx and send him off. Cause absolutely not.
Not FedEx 😂
Swag surf 😂😂
He might as well be Dr Now 😂
Jesus I really hope that chic ends that relationship 🚩🚩🚩
The american accents are on point 😂
The song you’re asking about that the Americans go crazy about is called “Swag Surfin” by Fast Life Yungstaz
Not swanky swerve Tami!!! 😭😭
My ex used to do stuff like this. One minute he'll be like "omg ur thighs i just love them" next minute he'd say, " wow ur thighs r so big, u need to go gym n eat less etc" 😢. I was like wtf
I’m all for transparency in relationships but this guy sounds like he doesn’t like and want you. You are convenient at the moment.
I think he's waiting for the opportunity to break up with her or he's waiting for he's "ideal type"🙄🙄🙄
I believe they mean swag and surf buddy Soulja boy lol and yes we do. Lol
Lmao it’s called swag surfing
SHE NEEDS TO LEAVE HIM ALONEEEE
Anyways y'all look so. Finnneeee as always. Shout out to my fave Beatrice❤
Forgive me if this was already mentioned, but in addition to ll these great points about how he is treating her terribly, Is this man even working on himself? Has he changed his diet? Does he gym everyday? What are his goals for his own health & physique? Because if he has none and makes no efforts then he is a hypocrite to open his mouth to say horrible things to her! It all makes me wonder if he is being intentionally mean any way possible because he just wants to be single but doesn't want to be the one to initiate the breakup?
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 THIS!
It's giving he doesn't want to end the relationship so he wants the girl to dump him so that he can be the "good guy"😒 not the bad guy who ended the relationship 🙄
Where can I find these stories on Reddit?
It also sounds like he’s negging her so she can be self conscious and think he’s her best option and constantly seek his approval smh. Gross.
That guy is just wicked.
Where do we find these men? They’re EVERYWHERE! He’s your husband too. These women are just sharing it for everyone to hear.
You don’t have to be there let him go.
Nah cuz. F that man! He’s toxic AF and abusive. See that’s why I stay single cause there is no way I will tolerate that kind of disrespect.
Please end it today 😭🙏🏾
He could have said it nicely
Eeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeh!😂😂😂
That girl is in a relationship with her self that man hates you
First off she needs to leave him.. why test her? If you like her help her😢
I created something for you ma'ams. Can i send it to you somewhere?
The man can not see a future with her.
Wait … does he live with her?! SIS ILL HELP YOU GET HIM OUT I CANNAH! TELL HIM HIS BUS ON THE DAMN WAY
Put him on the bus! Next bus will drop off better Man❤
😂😂 period!
He is fool?😂
I’m curious if she was the same size when they met? maybe he was attracted to what she looked like when they first met and expects her to always look that way. Is it superficial, yes. People like what they like you shouldn’t get mad just move on.
Sure people like what they like, but the way he went about addressing her weight was vile. The ladies offered so many good examples of how to appropriately address weight changes in relationships. I’m fully convinced he’s just pushing her because he can’t stand her and wants to see how far he can take it before she finally dumps him. It’s disgusting but there are plenty of people in this world who are are like that.
It's been a few months and she sad she has always been curvy. Fact is that men will settle for women they aren't attracted to cause they can't get the women they want and they try to punish you for it
But should he be mean to her, if he likes what he likes let him leave her, let him have the courage.
Did it not click in his mind that people's body changes?
As we get older, our body changes so it's giving he wasn't with her for the long run
AND WHEN YOU LEAVE DO JOT MENTION THE MISTREATMENT OF THE LAST TO THE NEXT MAN!