Thank you for telling your story, Marliss. When I served as RS president I learned how many strong women were suffering behind the Sunday clothes and smiles. Isolation is a chronic symptom of living our personal Gethsemane’s and Liberty Jails. I’m sorry for all you’ve gone through and I’m proud of you for showing up and holding on, and for seeking safety for you and your children and holding on then, too. I hope all of you go to counseling so trauma will be dealt with now and not follow each of you into your future relationships, especially for the kids. I’ve seen untreated trauma destroy marriages and pass it on to yet another generation. And I’ve seen good, sustained counseling bring the healing atonement into full fruition so that the current generation lives in sound mental/emotional health and strength. God bless you and your family evermore.
Thank you for sharing, Marliss! It’s not easy to be that vulnerable. I know in my own marital situation, if I’ve learned anything at all, it’s to not judge other marriages or compare ours to any others. We don’t know what goes on in other people’s households. I’m grateful you had friends you could trust. May God continue to be with you in your journey of healing!
Thank you for sharing your story.❤ There are so many of us who have had extremely difficult marriages. It is something that I never would have imagined that I would experience, and I would not wish it upon anyone. It was truly the hardest thing in my life.
Thank you for sharing your journey. If we are faithful and prayerful we receive personal revelation that is custom made for us. Many times it is hard for others to understand why we stay in difficult situations. I believe that is why you are at peace with yourself because you knew the Lord was by your side in your wilderness journey.
My father had mental illness as well. My mother took us 6 kids to church each S 40:41 unday and when we got home from church my dad would ridicule us and try to cause problems. After my moms ultimatum that he get help, the antidepressant made a huge difference. It too was sertraline. It made such a difference. God bless you sister for your tough resolve and faithfulness! PS. When my poor mom would leave church a male member of the ward would always snidely ask where Norm was. My mom would say, "watching football"! 5 of my 6 siblings are active members today. Mom died a faithful member. She too hung in there. It was tough!
Marliss captured well in words and feelings what it is like to be in a situation of deep emotional pain in a relationship while simultaneously being acutely aware that the painful truth is generally obscured from the view of other people. It is irony of the highest order. I can relate to what she said. In my view we only learn by means of contrast the most profound lessons - night and day, pleasure and pain, good and evil. The very real contrast between the hell of emotional trauma and the heaven that God promises awaits us is as deep and profound as anything I can think of. There is nothing more difficult than being bullied, abused and hated by someone you love. Conversely, there is nothing more beautiful than being truly and genuinely loved by someone you sincerely love. Of course, in these extremities we come to know something of our Savior's terrible suffering. From my perspective, His atonement is in many ways like the kind of marriage Marliss describes here - a kind of seeming interminable hell on earth when you longed for heaven instead. In a way, humanity has treated Christ like some husbands - or wives - treat their spouses - with constant bitterness and gall. I am thankful that our Savior has the capacity and desire to help us through the most grueling of tragedy that can come in human relationships. How great He truly is!! He gives beauty for ashes. It is wonderful that Marliss has retained a hope in Christ given the ordeal she has passed through. I hope she finds the precious love and eternal joy in relationship that only God can make possible. The gratitude she will then feel will be as deep as any pain she has experienced. Hope springs eternal.
Thank you for sharing your story and being vulnerable. One of the many many things I learn from your story is that you know who to call upon in your time of trial and you continue to place your faith in Him. Although it took a while for your deliverance but I’m sure you learn and gained strength in the process. Thank you again!
Thank you for your story. Wow. You explained the fine intricacies of it so well and I understand more than I ever have. I think it’s a miracle that you received your burden lightened and it makes perfect sense.
What is the spelling of that medication that you mentioned? Is this prescribed from a doctor? I do not agree with the thoughts of Why am I married to this man and the wishing he was dead? I'm sorry I don't agree with these thoughts all , we should never wish someone was dead, please read some scriptures so Heavenly Father can help you. Please keep in mind what we say other church members with mental illness are hearing this too. She needs to be thinking about what others in the church are hearing her say right now too.
Thank you for telling your story, Marliss. When I served as RS president I learned how many strong women were suffering behind the Sunday clothes and smiles. Isolation is a chronic symptom of living our personal Gethsemane’s and Liberty Jails. I’m sorry for all you’ve gone through and I’m proud of you for showing up and holding on, and for seeking safety for you and your children and holding on then, too. I hope all of you go to counseling so trauma will be dealt with now and not follow each of you into your future relationships, especially for the kids. I’ve seen untreated trauma destroy marriages and pass it on to yet another generation. And I’ve seen good, sustained counseling bring the healing atonement into full fruition so that the current generation lives in sound mental/emotional health and strength. God bless you and your family evermore.
Thank you for sharing, Marliss! It’s not easy to be that vulnerable. I know in my own marital situation, if I’ve learned anything at all, it’s to not judge other marriages or compare ours to any others. We don’t know what goes on in other people’s households. I’m grateful you had friends you could trust. May God continue to be with you in your journey of healing!
Thank you for sharing your story.❤ There are so many of us who have had extremely difficult marriages. It is something that I never would have imagined that I would experience, and I would not wish it upon anyone. It was truly the hardest thing in my life.
Thank you for sharing your journey. If we are faithful and prayerful we receive personal revelation that is custom made for us. Many times it is hard for others to understand why we stay in difficult situations. I believe that is why you are at peace with yourself because you knew the Lord was by your side in your wilderness journey.
Thank you for sharing and staying with him, Marliss! Learned something!
Thanks for sharing your generosity, tenacity and faith.
My father had mental illness as well. My mother took us 6 kids to church each S 40:41 unday and when we got home from church my dad would ridicule us and try to cause problems. After my moms ultimatum that he get help, the antidepressant made a huge difference. It too was sertraline. It made such a difference. God bless you sister for your tough resolve and faithfulness!
PS. When my poor mom would leave church a male member of the ward would always snidely ask where Norm was. My mom would say, "watching football"!
5 of my 6 siblings are active members today.
Mom died a faithful member. She too hung in there. It was tough!
Marliss captured well in words and feelings what it is like to be in a situation of deep emotional pain in a relationship while simultaneously being acutely aware that the painful truth is generally obscured from the view of other people. It is irony of the highest order. I can relate to what she said. In my view we only learn by means of contrast the most profound lessons - night and day, pleasure and pain, good and evil. The very real contrast between the hell of emotional trauma and the heaven that God promises awaits us is as deep and profound as anything I can think of. There is nothing more difficult than being bullied, abused and hated by someone you love. Conversely, there is nothing more beautiful than being truly and genuinely loved by someone you sincerely love. Of course, in these extremities we come to know something of our Savior's terrible suffering. From my perspective, His atonement is in many ways like the kind of marriage Marliss describes here - a kind of seeming interminable hell on earth when you longed for heaven instead. In a way, humanity has treated Christ like some husbands - or wives - treat their spouses - with constant bitterness and gall. I am thankful that our Savior has the capacity and desire to help us through the most grueling of tragedy that can come in human relationships. How great He truly is!! He gives beauty for ashes. It is wonderful that Marliss has retained a hope in Christ given the ordeal she has passed through. I hope she finds the precious love and eternal joy in relationship that only God can make possible. The gratitude she will then feel will be as deep as any pain she has experienced. Hope springs eternal.
Thank you for sharing your experience God bless you and your family
Thank you for sharing your story and being vulnerable. One of the many many things I learn from your story is that you know who to call upon in your time of trial and you continue to place your faith in Him. Although it took a while for your deliverance but I’m sure you learn and gained strength in the process. Thank you again!
Thank you for your story. Wow. You explained the fine intricacies of it so well and I understand more than I ever have. I think it’s a miracle that you received your burden lightened and it makes perfect sense.
What is the spelling of that medication that you mentioned? Is this prescribed from a doctor? I do not agree with the thoughts of Why am I married to this man and the wishing he was dead? I'm sorry I don't agree with these thoughts all , we should never wish someone was dead, please read some scriptures so Heavenly Father can help you. Please keep in mind what we say other church members with mental illness are hearing this too. She needs to be thinking about what others in the church are hearing her say right now too.