When I was younger when people are disrespectful or not pleasing or rude I tend to react. But at 40’s I have no words to say, I just want to keep my precious time and energy for those who are worth it! My time. My life!
Transformational yet seemingly simple. When people transgress against me, Whom I love , I get sucked into their madness. It is my challenge not to. I am still a work in progress😅
I got into it at work with someone. He insulted me, I just stared at him. After a minute, I said, "Now that you threw your tantrum, would you like to talk to me like an adult". He's avoided me ever since.
I have truly learned that silence is golden. Today when I tuned in to your RUclips channel. I reflected on my position on how I had to learn the meaning of to rise above the noise.
This reminds me of Proverbs 15:1: 'A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.' Staying quiet can prevent unnecessary conflict and bring peace to challenging moments.
I recently reconciled myself with Christ and have been using Stoicism in conjunction with the Most High's teachings. Proverbs have been a source of great wisdom for me.
What a beautiful connection to Proverbs 15:1! It’s a timeless reminder that gentleness and silence often hold more power than harsh words. Choosing calm responses not only diffuses conflict but also protects our inner peace. Thank you for sharing this wisdom!
I have experienced pretty much every sort of hatred and opposition and disrespect yet despite that, I feel more powerful than ever because of the power of silence. A word spoken at the right time or no word at all is indeed a Real power move. To the Stoics I thank you......Miles
From my family for the last year and even still after my mom passed away recently! I am the scapegoat, but l have learned many a hard lesson and better for it. Still hard but l do NOT react, and let all the hurt go from my heart. ❤ Thank you for this. ❤😊❤ Love n light
12:02 "Silence isn’t weakness; it’s strength in disguise." Choosing not to react shows true control over your emotions and forces others to confront their own behavior.
Thank you. This resonates very strongly with me. The value of being disrespected truly would trigger frustration. I applied your suggestion to choose silence 😂 in a family conflict. My brother in-law did not know how to react. His narcissistic self became the mirror of himself.
When I started reading the Bible about God and how he positioned this world that we live in today I understand the whole meaning of life because before I didn’t believe in a God but once I opened my eyes, now I can really see the world for what it is today and it’s not for us to understand because in the end this will not even matter when we die. So now I’m all about peace and happiness and living a good life with my wife my daughters and my grandchildren and good family and friends. No time for drama and dysfunctional people.
Stoicism is the teaching & understand to the highest expression of self-control & strength to protect my inner peace ✌️ praise God in Jesus name Amen Amen Amen.....
Silent treatment age old classic my grandmother used to use it raising my mom n her siblings in the 60s still golden now. Needed this today though bullshit workplace petty one. I was like waitttt I don't need to respond n seen this sitting quietly at my post at work. Awesome video. Much love and respect. Stay the course.
Absolutely! Silence can be incredibly powerful-it keeps others guessing and protects your peace. It’s a subtle yet strong way to maintain control and focus on what truly matters.
Beautifully said! Silence holds a profound power-it conveys depth, emotions, and understanding that words often can’t. In its stillness, we find clarity and connection.
ONE of the hardest things I’ve came across in my life I had to snap back fast asf I caught myself allowing someone to make me disrespectful towards them,
When I think about all of the times I could have avoided conflict by simply keeping my mouth shut knowing I had nothing to prove is staggering. I found myself in a situation while going for a walk tonight. I took a moment to sit down on a park bench to reflect and I saw two people across the road looking all suspicious. One of them said "are you watching me bro"? I said nothing. He said something again and I said I'm just out for a walk, getting some exercise, what's your excuse? He and what turned out to be his partner approached me without clear intentions, so I called the cops. When I felt comfortable that they were no threat and the police weren't needed, I let them talk. Turn's out they were looking for someone who was trying to climb their fence. So what did I learn from that situation? Not everyone is out to get you but that's not always the case. I probably never should've said "what's your excuse", or never said anything at all. Also realising that I probably should have never looked in their direction in the first place. Reflecting further, it has made me realize just how important Stoicism is in a forever changing and increasingly hostile world.
I so agree with you. Thank you for sharing. I have a person close to me that always, 'gets my goat'. Example: I will mention a current event article, and before I finish, I am bombarded by debasing, demeaning tones that signify my ignorance. I feel so disrespected. This person either disrespects me in general and/or thinks way too highly of himself. I will try the Stoic approach in a more centered way. What do you think?
Thank you for sharing! Your story highlights the power of silence, reflection, and staying composed. Mistakes teach us, and your ability to reassess and learn shows real Stoic growth. Keep practicing wisdom and restraint-you're doing great!
Thank you for sharing your important story. Awareness and reflection are powerful tools we can use to help us grow into ever wiser, empathatic and loving human beings. Peace 😊
I think using silence strategically is a powerful way to assert yourself and maintain composure. Can you say more about how to use silence effectively?
Well this happened to me at work (and we have been body language wise been attracted to each other for a while) she disrepected me verbally at work in fron of another coworker. I wrote her an really good boundary email and I'm glad I did. Sometimes you have to make boundaries or they will think it's ok to walk all over you.
To all that have lived through the consistent slanderization of one's self; just pause. Reflect with the best reason for response in mind. Stash it with the process and use silence if necessary. If chosen in the form of silence, you will find freedom and bravery within. We can all use our tools wisely, I believe it is possible. Stay strong, persevere and be silently and ultimately courageous. Our inner strength is always worth protecting. Silence is my favorite virtue. Don't react, just reflect, respond.. with STRENGTH.❤🎉⚖️
What a powerful and thoughtful message! Choosing silence and reflection over reaction is the essence of true strength. It preserves your inner peace and demonstrates courage in the face of adversity. Protecting your inner strength is invaluable-thank you for sharing such inspiring wisdom.
True strength lies in maintaining composure in the face of disrespect. Silence is not weakness-it’s a sign of wisdom, self-control, and inner peace. Let actions speak louder than words.
Silence isn’t always the answer … silence can empower people to continue to react with disrespect to your calmness… finding a quiet comment or a calm reply let’s them Know you aren’t a doormat… Impulsive people view silence as weakness and empowers them to keep acting Calmness is key
There are times when i feel i want to lash out in anger and retaliate when i here persons saying unkind things sbout me but i realise thats not a wise decision because i ll probably look like a fool and there unkindness will intensify buy my actions so i ll reflect what they said snd take it as a lesson and then work on my flaws instead of creating unnecessry conflict and making yourself more miserable so always use wisdom to maintain your inner peace ❤❤❤❤❤❤
Why do they think you're someone they can disrespect in the first place? because they know you are "stoic" meaning you have nothing clever to say back and you are nonthreatening. your instincts are not to fight, not flee, but to freeze. that is all. it works to keep you out of jail, so does leaning in and whispering death threats as it is one person's word against another.. insults work when the room laughs at you after something funny is said. this is good but one-sided.
I said the same thing nobody feels good after disrespect this is a coping mechanism for disrespect to continue going forth. I say when someone disrespects you, you disrespect them back.
My Ex Wifes' Grandmother RIP Dessa Stated: "it takes two fools in the house to argue". It took me 40 years to apply in current times....my soon to be ex wife #2. Tries to Bait me in to arguments. I'm 60 and she is 65! No More Blessings All!
I am a retired high school teacher. Students would often challenge my authority in the classroom. I never fell for the challenge. Was this the proper action to take?
@davidberes9724 I think that depends upon the challenge. I am a retired Sunday school teacher, and the challenges were many. I accepted challenges when they referred to the work. I held silent on personal challenges. I went home and did my own personal work to see if I could form a lesson , not only for myself but to keep in mind: Practice what you preach. I'm not sure if this helps in any way. Tough challenges you must have faced. Teaching the youth in any subject is challenging.
Absolutely, your approach was wise and effective! By not engaging in challenges to your authority, you maintained composure and set an example of calm leadership. Stoicism teaches us to focus on what we can control-our reactions-and your restraint likely preserved the respect and order in your classroom. Well done!
Staying quiet after being disrespected feels so unnatural at first, but it’s the ultimate power move. It’s not about them; it’s about your peace
Don't ever let them think 🤔 that they have power over you by a few idiotic words 😮 silence, baffles the TRULY moronic ppl 😳🤔
That'd only worsen the situation
I never seem to learn this lesson, I still react at times and show my @$$.
That'd only worsen the situation
@@meIanchoIiait can. Because the. They will push more for a reaction and when it finally comes its usually detrimental for both parties.
When I was younger when people are disrespectful or not pleasing or rude I tend to react. But at 40’s I have no words to say, I just want to keep my precious time and energy for those who are worth it! My time. My life!
Perfect timing getting this message today. Just what I needed! We often know the truth but need a reminder. Thanks!! ❤👌🏽
I just turned 45 and have realized this. It has been a very good tool in life.
Transformational yet seemingly simple. When people transgress against me, Whom I love , I get sucked into their madness. It is my challenge not to. I am still a work in progress😅
🙌🙌Well said 🙌
STAYING silent confuses them ,and IT BRINGS you so much peace.🙏❤️
So true on of my coworkers disrespect me a few days ago and did this stay quite
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I got into it at work with someone. He insulted me, I just stared at him. After a minute, I said, "Now that you threw your tantrum, would you like to talk to me like an adult". He's avoided me ever since.
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I have truly learned that silence is golden. Today when I tuned in to your RUclips channel. I reflected on my position on how I had to learn the meaning of to rise above the noise.
This reminds me of Proverbs 15:1: 'A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.' Staying quiet can prevent unnecessary conflict and bring peace to challenging moments.
Thank you for sharing this verse.
I read Priverbs 15: all the way through. Thank you for reminding me.
I read Proverbs 15 all the way through. Thank you for reminding me.
I recently reconciled myself with Christ and have been using Stoicism in conjunction with the Most High's teachings. Proverbs have been a source of great wisdom for me.
What a beautiful connection to Proverbs 15:1! It’s a timeless reminder that gentleness and silence often hold more power than harsh words. Choosing calm responses not only diffuses conflict but also protects our inner peace. Thank you for sharing this wisdom!
I have experienced pretty much every sort of hatred and opposition and disrespect yet despite that, I feel more powerful than ever because of the power of silence. A word spoken at the right time or no word at all is indeed a Real power move. To the Stoics I thank you......Miles
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"Deeply resonate with this message. Staying silent doesn't mean weakness; it's a wise way to control oneself."
Absolutely 💯%
From my family for the last year and even still after my mom passed away recently! I am the scapegoat, but l have learned many a hard lesson and better for it. Still hard but l do NOT react, and let all the hurt go from my heart. ❤ Thank you for this. ❤😊❤ Love n light
Wow! Me too. I get judge for my jaw plate. My family attempts to use this to bring me down.
I have and always will choose silence. It's a karmatic dept to pay, the way U respond.. Never forget that! ❤
Beautifully said! Silence is a powerful response that protects your peace and pays off in the long run. Your wisdom and restraint speak volumes.
There is no karma.
We hold the power with silence
12:02 "Silence isn’t weakness; it’s strength in disguise." Choosing not to react shows true control over your emotions and forces others to confront their own behavior.
Thank you. This resonates very strongly with me. The value of being disrespected truly would trigger frustration. I applied your suggestion to choose silence 😂 in a family conflict. My brother in-law did not know how to react. His narcissistic self became the mirror of himself.
When I started reading the Bible about God and how he positioned this world that we live in today I understand the whole meaning of life because before I didn’t believe in a God but once I opened my eyes, now I can really see the world for what it is today and it’s not for us to understand because in the end this will not even matter when we die. So now I’m all about peace and happiness and living a good life with my wife my daughters and my grandchildren and good family and friends. No time for drama and dysfunctional people.
Stoicism is the teaching & understand to the highest expression of self-control & strength to protect my inner peace ✌️ praise God in Jesus name Amen Amen Amen.....
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I choose silence to declare to the world that no one will disturb my inner peace.
Silent treatment age old classic my grandmother used to use it raising my mom n her siblings in the 60s still golden now.
Needed this today though bullshit workplace petty one. I was like waitttt I don't need to respond n seen this sitting quietly at my post at work. Awesome video. Much love and respect.
Stay the course.
💯 keeps them thinking and concern..we hold the power with silence 🔕
Absolutely! Silence can be incredibly powerful-it keeps others guessing and protects your peace. It’s a subtle yet strong way to maintain control and focus on what truly matters.
Great insightful information
Much appreciated
I did this with a supervisor. He called later on that night and apologized. I let my work speak myslef instead up getting mad.
Thank you for this message. Its really helpful right now. 🙏
Glad it was helpful!
I am responding with happiness meaning I don't care of their actions 😊
That Real, Thank you, Very Helpful 🫡⛪️🙏✔️🎓
Sometime silence speaks volumes than words.Through silence we can bringout the emotions that thousand words can not commuicate.
Ed
Beautifully said! Silence holds a profound power-it conveys depth, emotions, and understanding that words often can’t. In its stillness, we find clarity and connection.
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Thank You too very helpful
I choose silent for my enter peace let know enemies cross paths with me 🙏💕
I have master the art of remaining silent.
ONE of the hardest things I’ve came across in my life I had to snap back fast asf I caught myself allowing someone to make me disrespectful towards them,
We hold the power with silence
love the wisdom
Silence is a powerful response. It not only protects your peace but also speaks volumes about your strength and self-respect.
Thank you for the advice
No problem!
I choose to respect myself and others around me by deciding to stay silent
When I think about all of the times I could have avoided conflict by simply keeping my mouth shut knowing I had nothing to prove is staggering.
I found myself in a situation while going for a walk tonight. I took a moment to sit down on a park bench to reflect and I saw two people across the road looking all suspicious. One of them said "are you watching me bro"?
I said nothing.
He said something again and I said I'm just out for a walk, getting some exercise, what's your excuse?
He and what turned out to be his partner approached me without clear intentions, so I called the cops. When I felt comfortable that they were no threat and the police weren't needed, I let them talk. Turn's out they were looking for someone who was trying to climb their fence.
So what did I learn from that situation?
Not everyone is out to get you but that's not always the case.
I probably never should've said "what's your excuse", or never said anything at all. Also realising that I probably should have never looked in their direction in the first place.
Reflecting further, it has made me realize just how important Stoicism is in a forever changing and increasingly hostile world.
I so agree with you. Thank you for sharing. I have a person close to me that always, 'gets my goat'. Example: I will mention a current event article, and before I finish, I am bombarded by debasing, demeaning tones that signify my ignorance. I feel so disrespected. This person either disrespects me in general and/or thinks way too highly of himself. I will try the Stoic approach in a more centered way. What do you think?
Thank you for sharing! Your story highlights the power of silence, reflection, and staying composed. Mistakes teach us, and your ability to reassess and learn shows real Stoic growth. Keep practicing wisdom and restraint-you're doing great!
Thank you for sharing your important story. Awareness and reflection are powerful tools we can use to help us grow into ever wiser, empathatic and loving human beings. Peace 😊
It's not easy to be slient but it's makes me feel. I know I am in control of my life so I don't let the disrespect 💯 of neighbors get to me
I’ve never felt the need to argue with anyone. If you’re not putting your hands on me than you’re free to say whatever you want.
I chose silence after this video 😊
Good Video 👍🏻
i agree with you
I think using silence strategically is a powerful way to assert yourself and maintain composure. Can you say more about how to use silence effectively?
Well this happened to me at work (and we have been body language wise been attracted to each other for a while) she disrepected me verbally at work in fron of another coworker. I wrote her an really good boundary email and I'm glad I did. Sometimes you have to make boundaries or they will think it's ok to walk all over you.
Silence is always my defense mechanism I’m at peace definitely not arguing w/ anyone
Perfect advice
I have used silence and in so doing found it to be a weapon within the social arena.
To all that have lived through the consistent slanderization of one's self; just pause. Reflect with the best reason for response in mind. Stash it with the process and use silence if necessary. If chosen in the form of silence, you will find freedom and bravery within. We can all use our tools wisely, I believe it is possible. Stay strong, persevere and be silently and ultimately courageous. Our inner strength is always worth protecting. Silence is my favorite virtue. Don't react, just reflect, respond.. with STRENGTH.❤🎉⚖️
What a powerful and thoughtful message! Choosing silence and reflection over reaction is the essence of true strength. It preserves your inner peace and demonstrates courage in the face of adversity. Protecting your inner strength is invaluable-thank you for sharing such inspiring wisdom.
True strength lies in maintaining composure in the face of disrespect. Silence is not weakness-it’s a sign of wisdom, self-control, and inner peace. Let actions speak louder than words.
I choose silence 💯
Silence isn’t always the answer … silence can empower people to continue to react with disrespect to your calmness… finding a quiet comment or a calm reply let’s them
Know you aren’t a doormat…
Impulsive people view silence as weakness and empowers them to keep acting
Calmness is key
Right, these are rare cases but they exist.
Nahh silence is always the answer. If nobody is harming you and juss using words stay silent and continue to grow...easy
🙏🙏🙏Amen!
Good job
Silence is secrecy!!🤫
“I reject disrespect.”
I choose silence no one can disturb my inner peace through meaningless words
A soft word turns away wrath.
There are times when i feel i want to lash out in anger and retaliate when i here persons saying unkind things sbout me but i realise thats not a wise decision because i ll probably look like a fool and there unkindness will intensify buy my actions so i ll reflect what they said snd take it as a lesson and then work on my flaws instead of creating unnecessry conflict and making yourself more miserable so always use wisdom to maintain your inner peace ❤❤❤❤❤❤
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This is what I really need wright here…
I choose silence to create space
In the case of the bus driver, if the bus driver smiles and the passenger punches him in the face, what then?
I choose silence
Why do they think you're someone they can disrespect in the first place? because they know you are "stoic" meaning you have nothing clever to say back and you are nonthreatening. your instincts are not to fight, not flee, but to freeze. that is all. it works to keep you out of jail, so does leaning in and whispering death threats as it is one person's word against another.. insults work when the room laughs at you after something funny is said. this is good but one-sided.
I said the same thing nobody feels good after disrespect this is a coping mechanism for disrespect to continue going forth. I say when someone disrespects you, you disrespect them back.
What if the cashier does not ask me for my order next?
My Ex Wifes' Grandmother RIP Dessa Stated: "it takes two fools in the house to argue". It took me 40 years to apply in current times....my soon to be ex wife #2. Tries to Bait me in to arguments. I'm 60 and she is 65! No More
Blessings All!
I am a retired high school teacher. Students would often challenge my authority in the classroom. I never fell for the challenge. Was this the proper action to take?
@davidberes9724 I think that depends upon the challenge. I am a retired Sunday school teacher, and the challenges were many. I accepted challenges when they referred to the work. I held silent on personal challenges. I went home and did my own personal work to see if I could form a lesson , not only for myself but to keep in mind: Practice what you preach. I'm not sure if this helps in any way. Tough challenges you must have faced. Teaching the youth in any subject is challenging.
Absolutely, your approach was wise and effective! By not engaging in challenges to your authority, you maintained composure and set an example of calm leadership. Stoicism teaches us to focus on what we can control-our reactions-and your restraint likely preserved the respect and order in your classroom. Well done!
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But it fosters extreme resentment…..
Bruh said the exact same thing for almost 40 minutes
Silicone is power
Nope I can’t do it
Today just got fired for this thing😢😢
Amor Fati
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Yes......never ever stand up for yourself
I choose silence
I choose silenced
I choose silence