don't change yourself, manipulate your environment so you naturally flourish
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- Опубликовано: 31 дек 2022
- want to change yourself? don't fight your own energy, manipulate it to your favor and you'll be surprised how easy it is to change your life!
here are two examples but the ways to change your environment to support your style and life are endless! 
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"Have you ever wanted to change yourself to become a better person? *don't* - " 😂 😂 😂 😂 for real though as someone with adhd, this is like, actual medical advice you'll get from therapists--don't force yourself to change because it will never work-willpower alone is rarely enough, change your surroundings and routine and build new habits and things will fall into place more naturally; this man knows his stuff!
Hell yeah! So many individualist strategies just do not work for neurodivergent people in general. The idea of changing your environment to help your particular brain flourish is so much better :””)
I'm neurospicy and plan to change my kitchen cupboard doors for ones with glass panels so I can see everything. No more "what's that smell? Oh that's right, I had onions 6 months ago..."
@@FerretKibble 😂😂 this is me too!! Also need to change my fridge doors then 😂
Love this😂❤
I have both ASD and ADHD, and everyday is a battle lol. I got my home reorganized last month and I can finally finish work in time without having mental breakdowns lol
“Don’t try to change yourself, change the systems around you” is really good advice.
Not for irrational narcissists tho
Seems like really dangerous advice if you abstract "systems" to be anything outside your direct sphere -- as it could lead to inaction, or worse, oppression of others à la "I don't have to change my habits, I'll just force other people to change theirs!"
I'd argue that the advice in this video _is_ changing yourself anyway. It's changing your own habits by changing your own living space.
really sarcastic good advice you mean
Dismantle capitalism, got it
@@Woodside235 well said
Okay, so I took your advice.
I am a wife and mom, and I enjoy playing video games. I have a desk where I play games on my pc, located in the living room. I can get a little too caught up in it sometimes and feel disconnected from my family and the environment while I'm enjoying my hobby. I also have a tendency to snap at people when they interrupt me while I'm gaming.
Resolution: Be kinder to my husband and kids when they ask for my attention. Don't get so hyperfocused on my game that I lose connection with the people who matter.
Solution: MOVE MY DESK SO IT DOESN'T FACE THE WALL WITH MY BACK TO THE ENTIRE HOUSEHOLD.
I moved my desk into the command position - literally just dragged it 8 feet over so my back is to a wall, instead of to the room. I can see all the pathways through the room, so I'm not startled by people coming up behind me and thus can be more pleasant! I can also see everything going on in the house, which helps keep me connected to the family and well engaged with them while still enjoying my favorite hobby.
Somehow, the change actually made the living room more spacious - plus, it contained my clutter between the desk and the shelves behind.
What an amazing change for the new year, and it was so easy. Thanks, Feng Shui guy!
Fantastic. Good job! Setting up my office now, def going to use this
here's to hoping it changes you for the better :) nothing worse than grumpy gamers
I love this so hard
This is awesome! Respect from a fellow gaming mama
How ever you handle your gaming interruptions and time consumed with games is exactly what you will see your kids doing to you a few years down the road, so this is an important change.
“…A bunch of obstacles remind you of what a slob you are and how much you hate yourself.” 😂
Yeah I felt that in my soul
Of all languages, he chose to speak truth.
Brutal honesty 😂
He makes me want to be his friend hahahahahah
I am so glad you randomly ended up in my shorts suggestions a couple of weeks ago you have no idea how inspirational your content is.
Same thing happened to me!
Ditto!
Same! I don't know why the algorithm thought art + animals + food = fengshui guy, but I'm glad it brought me here. 🤣
@@Nikki0417 you may be on to something there because my normal stuff is art, animals, K-pop (mostly Ateez), food, and true crime.
@@Ophiane weirdly enough, I also follow some true crime channels. Maybe I'm not too far off on how the algorithm works.
Not just Feng Shui! Last year I wanted to get healthier, so when it came time to move I chose an apartment building with no elevator. Now I take two flights of stairs multiple times a day and I've never been more fit. Humans can adapt to the craziest things, so take advantage of that and put yourself in position to be a better you!
@BentoBuff This paragraph took me way too long to understand from context. When you say the water heater went up last month, you meant it went out last month right? ('Went up' means you just put it in) You also don't say you're showering at the gym, so it took me a bit to get that, i was trying to work out how your water heater got better after it broke lol.
@@izukukageyama7552 ah so he shower in the gym instead of his camper and working out as a bonus while he's at the gym.
@@izukukageyama7552 I was able to understand immediately, but probably only because I lived through a similar situation. I was on the edge of homelessness and me and my family were living out of a camper with no running water. We had to go to the pool constantly to use the toilets and showers.
Living out of a recreational vehicle is very hard. Not having your own bathroom at home does weird things to your mind in order to make due
I dont wish it upon anybody
How did you move heavy stuffs/furniture up the stairs?
@@iwastubed96 I have no idea if this is what they used, but ive seen videos of how people move in japan. (I think? Possibly south Korea. My memory is bad lol)
Anyway, they have these things that are basically like a fire ladder with a flat platform attached. They park them outside of the apartment building and then use the platform to cart furniture (and the people!) up and down to the balcony. It was wild!
I've been reorganizing my entire house day by day inspired by your advice ✨ it's making my roommates tidier having a more cohesive environment
Yes! So inspiring & life changing.
I love how forgiving - and practical - this is. Doesn't need to be super tidy all the time, as long as the mess is somehow contained and doesn't stop you from inviting friends etc.
Actually.... I have ADHD and taking care of my home is soooooo difficult. For a while I managed to keep my kitchen in order, ONLY the kitchen - but that much of an area I was able to keep up, it was easier to maintain when the base level was a tidy space, and it was motivating. If I had spread that same effort all over there wouldn't have been any noticeable difference and no (semi)permanent change.
With this strategy I can try to slowly spread out the clean space.
I had a "relapse" but now trying to make progress again.
Only needs a few weeks of lower mood or being sick and everything just EXPLODES...
ADHD, depression, chronic illness and being a single mom is not a great combo.
If your children are at least 2.5 years old... teach THEM how to clean up. Use the time you need to spend anyway organizing the rest of your house to explain "why" each item belongs in its spot. Clean WITH your kids at a set time.
You get a clean house - and they learn a valuable life skill!
Oh I really feel for you.....that's a REALLY tough gig you've got there. Remember yours and your child's well-being and relationship are the most important things here. These values are SO hard to claim in a society that puts perfection and image as the hallmarks of achievement and normality. If you practice the value of true well being it may free you from the toxic pressure of so called "normal" society. You can only do you 🙏 and that is enough. Caroline Winkler has a great video called, "Why is my house always a Mess". Might help? Could you reach out for some practical help? Some kind of government subsidised home care? Or ask your local church if someone could help you with the house? Just some ideas, I hope they are of some help. All the best. xx
I have the exactly opposite problem. I can keep the rest of the house, kinda. And my kitchen is a mess. Now I discovered I'm more motivated to do the dishes in the morning, without eating. Sounds counter intuitive, but maybe this is the out of the box solution I need.
I'm kinda using his advice in a spatial, but also in a temporal manner to organize myself better.
I have ADD and for me it's the opposite. The kitchen is the only place in my flat I can never tidy up completely. Tbf I hate cooking, so it kinda makes sense...
Same. And “practical” tips from normies are super aggravating- as in you think I’m stupid??? 😡 Esp if the children have ADHD as well. I do find having systems and routines for the basic stuff really helps, even if they are unorthodox. I.e. In our house everyone has their own laundry basket & does their own laundry - keeps it from taking over. Keys ALWAYS go in the same place. 😂Folks who don’t have it, seriously don’t get it.
If you've read the book Atomic Habits, this is what it really suggests. So for example, if you want to drink more water then put a glass of water literally everywhere. It's a great book👌
Meanwhile, me:
"I'm thirsty."
I get a drink.
"I'm thirsty. Yep, I have a drink."
"I'm thirsty. Yep, I still have a drink."
"I now have a headache and feel miserable. I still have a drink. Perhaps sometime I'll even drink it."
@@seigeengine Any history of head trauma? Not trying to armchair diagnose, but that sounds a lot like executive dysfunction! It's basically when you're telling yourself to do something, but your body just... doesn't listen. It culminates as things such as - walking around holding a glass of water that you desperately want to drink, but never actually drinking it - for example :D
@@sophiaboyd-uo2vz It's more that I'm thirsty, and recognize I should drink, but just don't feel the desire to actually do it.
It might be related to depression, idk.
I am so incredibly glad I found your channel. It is so incredibly underrated.
This reminds me of advice from a youtuber making mostly content about mmos; by preparing a healthy breakfast the evening before the healthy option also becomes the easy / lazy option in the morning and you'll likely go for it instead of an unhealthy option that is harder to get. Manipulate your environment to change for the better works in that way as well!
someone's gatekeeping :P
@@astral_ghxst what are we/i/they keeping others out of?
@@OssWiX must i ask you for the youtuber's name? you make life so hard for me ;-;
@@astral_ghxst ah, I'm sorry. I purposefully did not mention the actual name of the youtuber, josh strife hayes, because doing in someone else their comments, especially only loosely related, feels cheap and sellouty to me. (you could've just asked instead of first only hinting vaguely without clear message of what was wanted)
@@OssWiX oh ok! i was messing with you on purpose but only in (what i hoped was) good fun. sorry if i gave you any bad vibes lol. i do see where you're coming from with the name dropping now.
i actually met josh last year! he's super cool and i even got a couple pics with him and Cal :D
solid advice! sounds weird to make the comparison but I'm always telling stuff like this to people about their pets; if they don't want them to do a specific behavior, it's always worth studying their environment to see WHY they're behaving that way and how to change their environment to encourage a different behavior.
These videos have actually made me cheer up quite a bit. We moved and I was super bummed about it but now I’m excited to try to make the new space work for us. Thank you.
Glad I saw this. It's making me reconsider my workspace layout because I've been avoiding work recently. Maybe I'll give my room a layout makeover this year.
That last tip, about your workspace being messy actually looking respectable??? Mind blown
As an architecture student I'm learning the craft in an holistic way thanks to your videos 🥰 really love your channel
"So you see, it's not you, it's me!" I deeply appreciate the advice and suggestions you provide here. I welcome the opportunities to look at things from more than just my own limited point of view. I am so glad I found your channel! Thank you!!
What does he mean by that last sentence can u explain pls
I just want to say thank you!! I recently rearranged my room to place my desk in my room in a sunny area that gets natural light and divided the space away from the rest of my bedroom. Now I dont overwork myself trying to get work don in a dark corner but almost enjoy getting up to work and stopping with the sun. ALSO I love rainy overcast days and it gives me such a boost of seratnonin when I work by the window! I also have a defined sleeping area (as well a s a defined work area with lesser distractions like TV) and as someone who suffers from ADHD and occasional insomnia it has allowed me to see it as a resting place and mentally barricaded it away from my "active" area. Its easier to clean my room now, and ive started builiding healthier habits as of a month ago so this video was a nice boost to see I'd unconsciously gona about doing this very thing! Thank you so much!!
i actually appreciate this philosophy so much because before I even put words to it, I refused to make new year's resolutions. I knew it would just make me feel worse when I would inevitably fail, and I already constantly set and reset goals throughout the year as it is.
You probably hear this every day, but your voice and wording is super nice and soothing
I call that Environmental Engineering. Love your videos & teaching. :)
I call the product of it an Analogic Smarthouse.
Thank you, now I know 😃
Damn, hahaha! Great video to start the year..just discovered ur channel 2 days ago and applied your principle in my bedroom 😂so just moved the bed and my wife told me like 4 times today that the room looks so much bigger and nicer 🙂 so thx 🙏 we still can't believe that a simple bed move could do that much change
This is EXACTLY why I just rearranged my bedroom. I don't have enough rooms to have a dedicated office, nor is the hectic living room suitable, but I didn't use my desk because it was in an inaccessible corner, and working from my bed was interfering with both work and sleep.
So I moved my nightstand into the awkward corner and pushed my bed against it, then moved my desk so it's right across from the entrance to my room. Feels like a different place!! I can't wait to use my desk tomorrow
Thank you so much, so much of this is true. I'm a person who can't have my TV near my desk or I will watch TV all day. Can't have bed near desk or I will work instead of sleeping. Changing your environment really helps
I wanted to thank you so much for all your insight, wisdom, bright energy, and good humor!! I'm an AuDHD individual who's been dealing with burnout, high anxiety, depression; Your videos are actually helping me begin to better my surroundings and crawl my way out of the previously worsening spiral. The hero I didn't know I needed! 💕 Cháu cám ơn cô rất nhiều.
You have brought so much joy to me this past year. Wishing you many blessings in the new year 🎉❤
After watching your vids we 3weeks ago just moved our bed. We have a room with 2doorways and 2windows. The room is totally square with 2 90degree walls with windows and 2 90degree walls with doorways. The only difference in the room is that one of the windows is accessible direct from the portch.... Sorry for my bad English... We had the headboard of the bed against the window with access to the porch for 2yrs and both me and my husband has had terrible sleep. My husband even been to a sleeping disorder clinic... 2 months ago i found yr channel and 4 weeks ago i moved our bed. Just rotated it 90degrees and put the headboard against the other windonws. This changed our lives. Now i sleep easily 8hr without waking up. My husband doesnt need to use the sapap (machine that helps him breath while sleeping) this has really made our life 200%better. Thanks for your vids and for changing peoples lives
Thank you for the tips I'm glad to incorporate these in the new year 🙂
This is great! I’ve never been specifically taught how to apply logic and reasoning to my living spaces. Thank you!
I just moved my living room furniture around because I felt my apartment was stagnant and I was stuck in a rut. I want to move so badly.
I am spending too much time watching TV so I guess I need to think about doing that and moving the TV. I am way too comfortable in that very same corner. Good thing that's the money spot and I can turn that into something else. Maybe then I can get my finances in order and get out of where I am.
So subtle, so brilliant an idea to shift our behavior by making us uncomfortable in our habits. 🥳
Αbsolut the best advice ever for new years resolutions.
Thank you so much for the guidance! I've recently transformed my bedroom and instantly the flow of qi is much better; I feel like I can breath again. Next is the rest of the home!
HAPPY NEW YEAR AND EARLY LUNAR NEW YEAR!!
Man, such a simple but effective video and full of actual advice! All the best brother!
Thank you for being born.
I am so grateful to have found you.
Your personality brings my heart joy. I even laugh out loud with your sense of humor.
Today, I begin applying your principles.
May you continue to be blessed.
Sincerely,
A Elder.
Wisconsin USA
And you can also do that with everything else. If your friends and your job and even your family do not fit you, just change job, friends and family so you can naturally flourish. This man is a genius !
I love how stuff and clutter is something you just throw around on the model 😀 It's just so accurate - our clutter is just meaningless mess.
I can't wait to work with you Cliff. The way you look at a space is so effortless.
You always have great tips!!
"Respectably hectic" is now a phrase I will take with me everywere
I love your tips and your energy! Watching your videos makes me 😊
Thank you RUclips for suggesting your videos to me.....such a gem you are...delightful Feng Shui nuggets that is so satisfying to munch on!
I'm not sure why RUclips fed me this channel but surprise, I'm finding it really interesting, and you've got me thinking about how to rearrange my tiny room (which is stuffed to the gills) and make it a a much more suitable space by getting a little creative. So thank you for that. :) I will be binging to get all the tips now. 💜💜💜
My guy, you bring actual value, I wish you prosperity, wealth and good health
Best self-development advice I’ve received this year! I really believe in this though. The clutter and other triggers around us definitely brings out the worst in us. Sometimes, it’s not us. The problem is how we surround ourselves with clutter and unnecessary things. Glad I discovered your channel. 💕
Watching your videos has helped transform my life.
I’m truly grateful for your advice.
I’m ready to being my year 2023 with better energy.
Thank you 🙏🏼
I love this guy! Such energy and positivity. And his ideas are excellent.
Funny enough, I found your YT channel through your shorts as I got ready for my BIG move from CA to IL. I was moving to better my lifestyle with how I am. I am happy that hearing from you, it was the right direction to go. My old place made me a shut-in and I gained so much weight. I can't wait to shed it, become fit again, and regain my life.
I have been more mindful how to place furniture in my new abode too.
Thank you!
I remember reading about this in Atomic Habits! They called it environment design. It absolutely works!
I just want to say, thanks so much man! I discovered your channel just two days ago and after binge-watching a number of your shorts and videos, I spent the day re-arranging my home working space in the living room as well as other parts of the living room (and did some much-needed sorting at the same time). Now I have a nice interior-facing workspace instead of staring at the wall all day, and I feel more in command already, not to mention I opened up the living room space so I now actually feel like using it. It's not perfect but is a definite immediate improvement. I just bought your book as a show of support and look forward to reading it.
Cliff, you're doing divine work. ❤ wishing the best of health, happiness and success for you and yours.
I can’t get enough of your humor (and spatial genius). ❤ your channel!
I just found you today and I think this channel is gonna become a constant part of my new year- that’s my only resolution 😂
Dude your channel EXPLODED. I remember watching your videos (couple hundred subscribers) as a gateway to Feng Shui. Thank you so much!
If I could pick any one human to be my shoulder angel for the rest of my life, you’re my #1!!!
It's true. I like to work on clean environments to feel productive, and "free" minded.
I worked at a very small place;the person on charge was messy, kept the whole place messy, and I felt trapped and I couldn't think properly.
I tried to change the environment to fit me; it was a constant battle between me and him making the whole place a mess in no time.
I left soon after.
This makes SO MUCH SENSE!!!!! Thank you!
I reorganized our living room so I don’t get “attacked by barbarians” sitting on the sofa and it made our living room look Huge! Amazing…my husband had no faith so I moved it all by myself and he was so shocked by how much better it looked!
As an autistic person this is the kind of advice i have to live by. I just need to get better at changing my environment
I've been watching your vids to learn how to better do these things C:
I don't know why, but I love listening to your videos when I'm working. Your Feng Shui room explanations and advice give me similar feelings to ASMR tingles ❤️
Seriously, I just discovered your channel last week and decided to immediately re-arrange my room setup, so this new year, I've set up my room to become more productive!
I came to this epiphany sometime last year. People don't have trouble achieving because they're lazy/unmotivated. It's because there are obstacles and barriers. If I can dissuade someone from breaking into my house by putting a table with a plant on it in front of a tempting window then you better believe I'll be dissuaded from exercising for some other simple reason.
This was the inspirational video I didn't know I needed! I scrolled past it and it autoplayed and suddenly you solved my life 😂💖
Thanks for the advice! I think I'll actually do that. I can think of something I should probably change about my room right as I sit here
Brilliant. I found your channel yesterday and today I started rearranging my room. It makes a huge difference
This is what I did everything in the house i am living in has a new spot even the curtains - how does it feel? I feel like I just moved in even though I lived here MISERABLY FOR 5 years……. I’m sure there is more I need to do but I am not done still organizing the bedroom office area”” - your videos have helped - ❤ thank you
Not to mention I also painted -
I've seen a couple of vids now and I love the use of 3D printed furniture to communicate the spatial experience to viewers and clients.
I love it when he insults us! I cracked up before it even hit the 10-second mark!
My room looks exactly like the first arrangement, only instead of a dining table there is a double bed. After living here for a year I figured out I like my desk by the window so I can see outside, so it's in between couch and TV and I sit with my back to the TV. Doesn't look ideal when you come in, but is so far the most practical arrangement to actually sit at the desk frequently...
Best advice I've heard in years.
wow! this is the advice that americans of my generation need to hear. no one taught us that the home is where habits are built and so we often ignore our homes and struggle to have control over our environments, and therefore we struggle to control our behavior. thanks for helping to fix this dilemma
Cliff, thank you so much. Your work gave me more effective ways to support my personal energy at home. I slept better last night than I have in months.
This is incredible stuff, simple yet life changing
can't wait to buy your book! your shorts and videos have been life changing for me!
Thank you for sharing your knowledge and wisdom with us!
Please make more videos about this topic!
Thank you! Now I know!!🎉 Happy new year, everyone!
You are my new favorite youtuber. I love your shorts about how to furnish small spaces
Not changing ourselves but change the surroundings.
This so true. I was so addicted to playing games on my laptop so I got rid of my mouse which makes laptop touchpad the only option. Gradually I lost interest in playing games and now can focus on writing my thesis.
The basic idea of this is extremely important to neurodivergents. Perhaps especially to those of us who are more neurotypical-passing, because we naturally get more gaslit into thinking we can and should change in ways we often can't, and should waste no energy trying to.
Your way with words is impressive.
The title reads like a palm oil company ravaging the rainforest for good conditions, but it is actually a different environment being adressed.
You also sprinkle in passive insults that comedically and accurately depicts the figurative problem.
Bravo!
And now your desk mess makes you look like a hard worker 😂 I love it
I love you. your channel is amazing and you have a great sense of humor.
"respectably hectic" is my new favorite phrase.
Excellent and very practical advice. Love your stuff.
"Respectably hectic"! I'm going to remember that one!
You are so insightful, and you were my youtube 2022 discovery! keep on shining 🎉
“Respectfully hectic”, I will incorporate this phrase into my work life.
" respectably hectic " is my new way to describe my chaos organization habit ❤
Ummm WOW, powerful ways of thinking! I’m glad you are releasing videos like this.
First ten seconds of this video are spot on haha. Love this, hope you’re having a great holiday!!
“Respectably hectic”!! Omg! My spouse’s desk area is messy and in our living room which we are able to keep pretty tidy so seeing their contained mess I always think it looks “respectably hectic” I just didn’t have such a good phrase to describe it! :)
oddly enough, you are the best therapist I've ever had
EXACTLY!!! AHH!!! Give this man an award already!!
Rearranged my bedroom/office based on some of your other videos and it's made me more productive when working and more at peace when relaxing in the room. Thanks!
You don't know how long I've been waiting for anyone to say exactly this!!
When I was in college for a bit there was a gym at the school. Which seems cool, but even when I had a class that required me to go workout, it was so difficult to go there because it was still out of the way of where and how I usually spend my time.
Fast forward to now and I’m more active than ever and actually losing weight and gaining muscle cause I work full time retail and have to walk/take the bus everywhere since I don’t drive. It ain’t ideal but I’ve been improving my physical health just by adjusting my surroundings in a way
I just found this channel recently, and now I know I need help making my apartment better
So glad I found your channel! You're the first I found who explains reorganizing in a fun way. Thank you for doing these videos ☺️