"If you're not addressing them in the way they want to be addressed then you're not addressing them at all" such true words, they have such a beautiful way of speaking, this is really lovely to watch
@@noscopeingnarwhal9913 Lets take a moment to pause, and look at what you just wrote, shall we? This is what most functioning members of society call discrimination. You are entitled to your beliefs, yes, but when you go around and say things like your comment, that is targeting people for their identity, for who they are, and that is by no means OK. Also, maybe fix your grammar and take out the first-grader-level insults and maybe then you won't look ignorant.
When Josie said. “If you aren’t address them they way they want them your not addressing them at all” I found that to be a silly notion, reason being, if I say “hello sir” and then a fluid person says “those aren’t my pronouns” then they just responded to me calling them sir, thus they have been addressed by sir and acknowledged it making it real. That’s what I meant in the first half of my comment, I may have interpreted what Josie said wrong and it may be a petty thing to argue over but that’s what I meant. For the second part when I said “gays, bi’s, and trans, I’ll explain what I meant for each one. When I said gays I was referring to lesbian and gay people and how we have two words for something that just can be described equally with one, but that’s just an off topic opinion not a fact as I implied in my original comment. When I said Bi’s I must have meant that they only like one or the other and not both, but I no longer believe and furthermore I don’t actually remember why I put bi’s into my OG comment to begin with. Finally trans people, in my OG comment when i said trans people ignore facts for their feelings I meant that from our current scientific understandings and my personal beliefs, that they ignore the fact that they can’t completely 100% physically change their sex with HRT, but I do believe that with enough effort they can, at least mentally, become a woman or a man. So that’s what I originally (mostly) intended to say in my comment, and I’m sorry for any confusion I may have caused. Lastly, you are entitled to your own opinions :)
It deserved a dick check. If people want to act this ridiculous why can't we. I have no idea anymore girl boy, any of this bullshit and I, along with most people don't care for it. I'm tired of a minority of people making the majority change their lives to appease a minority of people all in the sake of good when it is clearly evil. I can't believe people are so fuckin dumb
@@e2dd459 No it doesn't deserve a "dick check", that's just straight up sexual harassment. Just because a person says they're genderfluid, non-binary etc, that doesn't mean you have the right to grab their crotch to see if they have a dick or not. Grow tf up. If a person says their genderfluid respect it, use their pronouns, don't "dick check" them. It's none of your business to see if they're a girl or a boy. You have no right to check if they are, that's just sick of you to do so.
@A M. that's a whole complicated discussion that I can't rly get into in a comment. But I was saying just because some has a vagina, it doesn't mean they have a female brain and the label "female" fits them. Transgender people exist.
@A M. "The definitions are based in the social stereotypes and roles "typically associated with each sex." - Only in the context of biological roles, more specifically the roles in reproduction. Males produce sperm and females produce eggs, no exceptions. "Gender Identity" has been coined by trans ppl to mean, basically,. "How i feel." and they want that "feeling" (that subjective sense of their inner-self) to be recognized as objective reality (as their objective, physical identity) by society. Once you look closely at the issue it's clear a person's subjective inner self (feelings/thoughts etc.) have nothing to do with "the state of being male or female". That "state" is not a mental , subjective one, it's a physical state of being. It's objective. It's the same "state" whether we're conscious or not, awake or asleep. Dead or alive. It's the same in every species, not just the human animal. Do we need to know the thoughts and feelings of a dog or a giraffe, dead or a live, to KNOW for sure that they're male or female (or were, when they were alive)? The human is no different, we're all mammals. We're all part of the animal kingdom.
im so glad to see all the other genderfluid people online. i dont know anyone in person with a gender identity that isnt cis and its refreshing to know im not alone as genderfluid
@A M. Do you, know what cis means??? You sound like you're either against this video, but are horrible confused, or you're trying to make a point about how gender is dead but you're phrasing it in a weird way that suggests that everyone is trans.
Multiple people were interviewed? Fk I only saw the scenes with that chick. Oh shit my mistake, didn’t realize what I was taught in English was really really offensive.
mark spannar I don’t want to seem rude, but that is technically true but not in the way you may think. ACTUAL genderfluid people (like this person) experience gender dysphoria which is what causes them to be uncomfortable in their gender assigned at birth (all trans people have this). This comes from a physical difference between them and cisgender people. Their brain has characteristics that match the opposite gender. That is what causes the gender dysphoria. Although your brain’s characteristics can’t just change, their amount of dysphoria can. Genderfluid people just have a dysphoria that fluctuates at very extreme rates. That is all! Thank you for reading this and have a good day. Again, I am not trying to offend or attack you in any way, shape, or form. 👍
These comments are literally so ignorant?? All of y'all need to know that just because you don't understand someone doesn't meant that you don't respect them. Smh I lost brain cells reading all of these comments.
@@idksamir As a genderfluid I respect that but I do feel like a boy, a girl, neither, and both. But that is how I feel. But there is still more to discover about the human brain.
Does it matter I mean If we aren’t hurting anyone what’s the harm? And we didn’t know about male and female brains until recently so can’t there be more to learn about the brain?
Look y'all, just because you don't understand it doesn't mean it's not real. You are incredibly lucky to identify exactly as you were told you should by society. But for people who don't fit that mold it's really hard. It's not a biological thing: their bodies don't magically change, but gender is above that. It is to do with how you feel. Like if you're a cis woman, sometimes you might wake up one day feeling feminine as heck, so you might do some make up and put on a dress or whatever. Other days you might not be feeling that as strongly so you might just wear jeans and a t shirt. Everyones gender fluctuates slightly from day to day, but some people wake up and feel strongly of the opposite gender. or they don't feel any connections to either. or they strongly feel both. It is about gender expression and how you are perceived by others. There are still so many things about the brain that we don't know. And you can't just say that it's not a thing cause there isn't 'proof' of it. These people aren't just fucking around you know. And it's hard to be your true self under the scrutiny of everyone who thinks your core identify doesn't exist
As a genderfluid, I've been blessed with a genderfluid best friend. We are both mostly in the closet and we support each other with any daily struggle we face.
Gender fluid isn't biologically possible, because the brain can't change it's gender according to how you feel. But still I'm going to respect their prounoums, because it's not my problem. I might think it's dumb and useless, bug if someone is confortable that way and doesn't push it on you, let em be
I feel the same way. I have a gender fluid friend and I love them and would never tell them how to live their life, but I agree with you. I don't understand it or agree that their is another gender, but it's not me and I respect them.
bug. loves BTS yeah I agree. my general rule of thumb is that if I haven't experienced something myself I can never fully understand. it doesn't really make sense to me, but that's only because I am very secure in my own gender. whatever they are feeling isn't something I can understand.
another question i have is what makes them feel like a different gender. like what specifically do you feel when you say you feel when you feel like a girl or a guy or nothing.
- ̗̀ moonchild ̖́- I just wanted to answer your question as a gender fluid person. There isn’t a right answer. Everyone has there own way of “knowing”. Sometimes I wake up and I simply feel more masculine than feminine and prefer a different pronoun but other times I may feel masculine and my pronouns may stay as she/her. For me it’s more of a headspace thing that becomes physical where I want a flatter chest or something like that. I don’t know if his answers your question but I tried? Also I love your profile picture!
I just wanted to comment that is heartwhelming to see that the amount of likes is way bigger than the disliked and the comments are actually supporting. It's so wholesome.
@alan tutorial were humans not creatures, have some respect, only because we have a different gender identity or Sexuality doesn't mean our insides are different, doesn't mean our body is different, we all breath the same air, we all eat, we all drink, we all do the same exact stuff, it's honestly stupid that people think we act differently because of our gender or Sexuality
I personally believe that gender itself isn't fluid, as a trans guy. I believe there is male or female or a simple absence of gender. That's what scientific studies have proven so far upon researching the human brain. However expression can be as fluid as you like. That being said, I would respect this individual and use their pronouns. It's not a matter of whether I agree with their identity, it's a matter of respect for another human individual.
As someone who always helps trans people, binary or not, it really hurts to see that no matter how I want to make every LGBTQI+ person to feel valid, some of these people still doesn't want *me* to feel valid. I don't know if this makes any sense to you but anyway... yeah. You can't "desagree" with somebody identity. Respect them or not, but you can't just say "I respect you, but I think your identity is wrong". I don't want to offense you, but I want you to understand that people reads comments and it can hurt them.
@@amaeliss7827 I'm sorry but that's simply not true. What about those who identify as 'autismgender' or identity as a dinosaur? Or what about those who 'identify' as a different age or ethnicity? Whether you like it or not these identities are not backed up by science. Until it is proven scientifically, I will not believe nor understand that the human brain is capable of rewiring itself to move between multiple genders at once. I will support everyone. Use everyone's pronouns. But my opinion remains the same. I think it's great that you help people and I commend you for that. I never want to hurt anybody. However I must say that I tend to value the facts more than I value the idea of tiptoeing around everybody's feelings.
Me: *nodding head* Thank you for finally bringing up the fact that you should call people my what they want to be called. I'm nonbinary so this is relatable
I'll address you by whatever name you want to be addressed, but if you get offended because I referred to you with a different pronoun, then that's on you. I'm not going to purposely try to offend you, but I'm not going to walk on eggshells cause you're fragile either, regardless of your gender. If you're a high-strung cis-male, I don't want to talk to you either.
Honestly, if I request to be preferred by a certain pronoun and you at least try, I'll be happy. I accidentally forget to use certain pronouns for someone a lot, and I just correctly my self and apologize.
When I have to check a box of what gender I am, I always stop and just stare at it wondering if it's gonna allow me to check multiple boxes lol. Feeling like a tiny pixel in the plus is also an everyday feeling for me, feels good to finally hear another genderfluid say that too
I will never be able to understand because I was born as a girl, I feel like a girl and I truly believe I’m a girl BUT JUST cuzz of my own situation, I am not allowed to judge others. I respect them and I wish them TO BE HAPPY!!!❤️❤️❤️
Thank you for giving this interview. I consider myself genderfluid and you help. Like..... a lot. Just knowing that there are more people like me. I feel sometimes.... like I don't really exist. Knowing that parts of my family don't believe that all of what genderfluid makes does exist. I'm asian and.... yeah... the stereotyp idea is kinda hard on display in my family. Watching hisde my heart go light. I really deeded this. Maybe I can come out atleast to friends bc they just kinda think I'm trans wich doesn't really fit... Yeah.. thought that aswell 2 years ago. So I wanted to say thank you. Gonna stop talking. Thank you a lot for telling people we exist and how we feel like.
I have some questions, if you dont mind. You dont have to answer if you feel uncomfortable. 1) how do you know you are not confusing gender expression with gender? 2) how do you deal with dysphoria/euphoria about the same physical aspects? This is just an example, but how do you deal with hating your chest one day, and loving it on the next?(i say chest, but you could say hips, hand size, etc.) 3) if you plan on transition, how will you do it?
Meh_Im_a_Sheep Hey. Sorry I didn't see your comments earlyer. 1) It's kind of wierd. Actually I really hope I understood your question right. So I always was kind of off. As a girl I couldn't right fit in. Like. Of cause I could just be a girl with some more manelyer aspects. That's what I thought. But than with beeing a teenager came the thing with my body changing. That's question 2, so thats for later. I didn't know what was wrong so I just dealt with it. In 7th grade I got to know what trans is. I started dressing up as a guy. Got into cosplay as aswell some kind of excuse to buy wigs. I thought I meight be trans. After binding I felt so much happyer... And my friends seemed to think I'm trans too. Like.... they had a bed going on when I'll come out..... after two years on thinking I'm trans I got that I sometimes felt girly... totally wierd. On one day I wanted to wear dresses.... like once in two month. On other days it made me so uncomfortable.... hard to explain... Just... I didn't feel like I fit in any category. Considert myself just.... mysrelf. Than I got nonbinary but I changed to much. Till now I fit into gender fluid the best. After somewhere 5 years.... So I hope I got it right. 2) So.... that's a hard one. I do hape my breast most of the time. I'm mostly on the male or just non side. I dislike my really small hands. My face is actually manly with short hair. Thats just side info. I really can't deal with it often. I wear big cloth. I plan on getting a binder as soon as possible. My mother doesn't want me too. Even for cosplay... I'll buy cloth in the mens section. Used Menshampoo. I actually don't like my chest even as a female.... just. Nothing against girls you look nice with them. For me it's gross. But you get used to it? I'm not that big. I just tell myself that between how I look like and feel like is difference. That nothing is wrong with that. 3) I don't plan on transitioning. I can't say I'm happy with my body. I often watch how people speak about it on youtube and I really want it but first of all I need to keep my annoyingly high voice. I'm preparing to get into a singing konservatorium(don't know if it's called so in english) and yeah. With my family coming out will be impossible. They not exactly against LGBTQ+ but it kind of doesn't exist for my ma. They won't believe me. I'm sorry for all the personel things I wrote. It's fine bc were anonymous. Just... most is bound with my life expiriances. I hope I answerd your questions and helped you. And what I said may be different for other fluid people. Keep thzt in mind. If you don't understand something I said feel free to write me. I try my best yo explain it better. My english kind of died. It's 2am where I live..... One question I have. Why did you ask? Just out of interest. Have a great day/night. ~Len
@@magnuslenlove1372 hey. I just asked out of pure interest and curiosity. I can never get into my head how someone can have a gender that is fluid. And I'll be honest, from what i read, you seem like a normal trans guy that is a bit feminine at times. And thats ok. There are men that like to crossdress and look like women, but they are still men(because they don't have disphoria and all that). Btw, there is this ftm youtuber named ryan cassata that isn't taking hormones because he sings too. Maybe you can relate with him(at least the last time i saw his channel, he said that). But, i will respect how you identify, since you probably spent a lot of time trying to know who you are. Wish you the best luck :)
@@meh_im_a_sheep6018 hey! I'm nonbianary and although i don't identify as gender fluid specifically, i thought i could offer some insight, at least about the dysphoria part. So for me, there are some things i almost always have dysphoria about and other things i rarely have dysphoria about. So for example, i have pretty consistent dysphoria about my period, but i only have chest dysphoria every couple of months at the most. I also sometimes get dysphoria if i look too masculine, sometimes if i look too feminine, and even sometimes if i look too androgynous. I don't really know why my dysphoria is different at different times, and it's obviously not something i can control. I think that sometimes it's hard for binary trans folks to grasp changing dysphoria, just like it's hard for a lot of cis people to understand dysphoria at all. That doesn't mean there's no legitimacy in it, it just means that most people are still learning about how big an weird gender 8is
Whenever I refer to a person by them instead of saying (he or she) people look at me weirdly and when I explain that it is actually gramatically correct fo refer to a person you dont know the gender of as a “they” or them People get confused and say its easier if you say(he of she) but yes its not about whats easier for you its about what the other person prefers
I dont get why people on this comment section are hating on them so much...Like its okay that it is difficult for you to wrap your head around something new but you should not just say a person is mentally ill just because they represent something out of your mental spectrum. And just going out there and saying something doesnt exist just because you have never heard of it is wrong. Sorry guys, hate to break this to you but gender fluidity exists
It's not that no one has heard of it, it's just that genderfluid literally isn't a real thing. Trans people are people who have dysphoria for a gender that wasn't assigned to them at birth. Genderfluid people supposedly fit under the trans umbrella but there's no possible way the amount of estrogen or testosterone in one's brain can fluctuate to the point where they work like fluid. You can't choose your gender. It's not a spectrum. Trans people (as an ex.) like FTM people, have a male brain but a biologically female body, which is the imbalance that causes dysphoria ans the reason why they transition. If you are comfortable with your birth gender you are not trans, and since genderfluid people are, they are invalid.
"it's difficult to you to wrap your head around something new". It is not new to a lot of us but that doesn't change the fact that it doesn't exist. I once believed in the existence of gender fluidity and I could (and still can) undersand the concept, it's not even something hard to understand. The point is that it's not real.
Parkjimin. Stan. People who have been alive since before the millennial generation have seen this gender craze develop, especially in impressionable teenagers. Before this generation, people who didn't feel comfortable about gender norms often presented androgynously. No-one needed to invented new genders. When people have different opinions from other people it is not hate it is discussion of different points of view. Healthy discussion is good, especially if the debating sides can provide scientific evidence to support their points. Discussion is good thing to practice. Sometimes we have to give you reality, it would be errant not to.
wow, someone liked this comment and that’s funny to me. this is when i was first coming to terms with being genderfluid so i was going research. still acuítate to how i feel
I’m skeptical of gender fluidity as a label. In some ways all people are gender fluid to a degree, because gender isn’t a strictly defined concept. But I agree that you should address people in the way they want to be addressed. If someone wants to be called “them”, I think you should call them “them”, regardless of how you feel about the gender identity philosophy. I think they made good points.
The word "them" signifies plurality. Why should and would I bend basic grammatical rules for these attention-seeking cretins? I can support homosexuality, but telling me to support some "genderless" freak is just pushing it a little too far. As it stands, there are three pronouns for humans. "He," "She," or "it". Nothing else. "He," is used for males, "She," is used for females, and should anyone happen not to "fall" within the two, they shall be referred to as "it," by default.
Endelig Gnist the pronoun “they” can actually be used as a singular or plural pronoun. it’s been used historically as both, although predominantly as singular.
@@endeliggnist5066 I'm genderfluid and you're opinion is irrelevant and stupid edit: this is a five month old comment. My views on genderfluidity have changed now so please stop responding and angrily responding to a post from a SHELTERED 13 YEAR OLD. I'm 14 now and I have gotten more education on this topic so stop using a 13 year old me's cringey response as something to take offense from.
Is there anyone who kind of silently identifies as gender fluid, the way I do? I never really felt like anything; if I was born in a "boy-body", that'd have been fine too. I always kind of rebelled against having to play with girl-toys and wear dresses, so I was regarded as a "tomboy". But at some point I liked dresses too. I had a crush on my best friend (girl) growing up, but have only had relationships with guys (currently as well). It's hard for me to understand that someone is transgender, because I don't feel like I am either gender, and can't really imagine what that'd feel like. I never came out.. I just think of myself as "me", and I am attracted to personalities (usually my best friend, no matter the gender). Never felt the need to label it, because it feels as if that'd limit me in a way that wouldn't feel complete.
I've had someone refer to me as an it and I cried right there infront of them. It hurts. To feel as if your just this thing because you feel differently.
OMG! NO!!! that's horrible and shouldn't have happened..........i am so sorry that we have such a 'f'-ed up society......Let me tell you out loud and clear.....YOU ARE VALID.....you dont need to grow a thick skin, you are human its normal to feel emotions, but please stand up for yourself when some one misgenders you.....
@@xz740 and you can just grow out of that piece of ice that is supposed to be your heart, don't you know how hard it is to live as someone apart from the LGBTQ community that is in such a small speck like genderfluidity, and then getting referred to as it? It is the word for an object/animal, bish, we aren't animals, we aren't objects, we are Human
@@18Star04 Yes we’re all human and we all feel different. The population isn’t divided into one group of special oppressed gender people with eggshell skulls versus a world of oppressive ‘norms’. We all have struggles, we all live with problems and worries, we all have things happen that we don’t like, we all have feelings. You are not different from anyone else in the world.
@@xz740 I never said other people didn't have struggles-- I meant that straight/cis/trans/gay etc. people get way more accepted than genderfluid people and other smaller gender identities and Sexualitys because they're not mentioned alot nor are they very common
I've been questioning wether I'm gender fluid for awhile I think I am but I still want to be sure before I come out it's so good to see someone else who is on here talking about it it clears up how I've been feeling as well so thank u ❤️
It's so nice to see someone like that be happy, people in the lgbtq+ community go through so much and they are finally able to be happy and live their life now that their rights are being recognised
One of my best friends just told me that she/he/they is gender-fluid and I don’t really know what it is or I don’t understand it so now one day later I’m researching videos and searching how should I address he/she/they. If anyone has any tips please tell me I just want to understand my best friend better.
Genuine questions for a gender fluid person... Why do you feel the need to label yourself as “gender fluid”? Why do you feel the need to “change your gender” (for lack of better words)? Like I get that you can wake up one morning & “feel” masculine & have the urge to use different pronouns, but why? Why not just go about your day or week or month or however long you “feel masculine” simply dressing more masculine or acting more masculine or just simply acknowledging it in your head, without feeling the need to change your pronouns & tell everyone you’re gender fluid & they need to call you something other than “she” or “he”? When you wake up the next day & suddenly feel feminine, why not just acknowledge that feeling & then move on? Why must there be labels involved? As a female I don’t “feel” feminine or masculine every single day. I’m not really conscious about it. I don’t walk around basing everything I do & say on my gender. My identity comes from my personality not my gender. I don’t wake up with the overwhelming feeling of femininity.
That is because your identity doesn't change, you're used to it. And generally people ask for different pronouns because it is very uncomfortable for them to be called the wrong thing. When people call me the wrong pronoun it makes me feel bad because that's not me and it doesn't feel like they're accepting who I am. If someone were to use male pronouns on you it would feel bad would it not? It would feel 'thats not who I am' it is a lot harder for those whose pronouns are not the norm, and there is a whole lot of discomfort there for them.
@@rowan2372 Who cares what pronouns people use. There are plenty of individuals who have been called he or she all the time for decades. Don't give it so much power and it won't matter.
A lot of these kinds of people are really nice. I’m not really one to believe in the same idea that there are spectrums of gender. You are who you are and no one can or should change that. What I don’t want is for people to tell me that I have to go off pronouns that they feel is more comfortable for them. You gotta accept what you were born as and move on and do great things and live your best life without letting people get to your head just because they called you a pronoun you don’t want to be called. This is a human thing to do because we are automatically aware of the reality in our earlier stage of life that there are two genders. male and female. Like I said, don’t let what people say get to you. If you can’t accept this then I hope you can somehow get closure and move forward in your life.
I love this person so much! I’m still figuring out what genderfluidity means to me, and their words just makes me feel so much more confident. I hope that they are able to live life in peace 🙏🏽
Durga, if you ever come to the UK, let's have a party. I'm so happy to know you exist. I'm so sorry about those Russian men. Truly strong people can tolerate others differences.
I'm non-binary, which is technically the same thing and I love how they are finally putting this out there for everyone can see to see how we out it and how we feel about it. I am bullied for this, but am so happy when ever I see another gender fluid who is accepted for who they are. So just keep doing you boo! And for any other trans or NBs out there let NO ONE tell you who you are! : )
@@vicklepickle301 It's too bad that the so called community doesn't agree on which label means what. How do you expect the public to take you seriously if you cannot get the story straight?
Let me stop you at the first sentence buckaroo, being nonbinary is part of being fluid but they aint the same thing, please research more about fluidity because the first sentence cause a fight or flight reflex in my gender fluid self
The absolute beauty in the way they explained gender fluidity and the struggles we still go through in terms of sexism, transphobia, etc. is incredible. I have never seen someone explain it so clearly and so accurately
I am genderfluid. I use female pronouns and I am Female. But my gender expression is fluid. Sometimes I wanna dress like a girl and be girly. Other times I wanna be manly, but I am still a girl. I would say that genderfluid is more about your expression of your gender than what you want to be
I'm not pushing you down dude at all, I'm just a little confused by your wording. How are you genderfluid if you are still a girl when you're feeling more masculine? are you trying to express how you're still biologically female while feeling male? Idk because if you're feeling masculine but still feeling like a girl then that's more gender nonconforming than genderfluidity is it not? I'm not trying to gatekeep or anything I'm just a little confused :)
I dont really feel feminine and I am mostly attracted to females. So people automatically assume I am lesbian. But I am not lesbian. I like men too. And I also don't feel like a female. For a long time I wondered if I was a transman, but then I don't really know if that's what I want. Right now, I think I am gender neutral, as I don't feel either gender. But I simply address myself as Queer.
This is a normal part of identity development during teens and young adulthood. If it wasn't;t for all the hype, you probably wouldn't;t be giving it as much attention.
My friend just came out as genderfluid. It’s really hard for me to fathom that someone can be different genders at different times. I totally respect her and am trying to educate myself
Thank you for the fact that, even though you find it hard to fathom, you respond to it respect and try to educate yourself We know it's hard to fathom, but that is literally all we ask
Can someone please explain to me how someone can be gender fluid? I understand that gender is a spectrum, and that if your body can be intersex, then it should seem possible for your brain to be non-binary. But I don't understand how someone's gender can just change. (Even though I don't understand it, I'm still going to respect their pronouns).
Izzy there is a biological neurological brain map of the own sense of the body in every human, but since brain can develop independently from body in womb, one can be born with conflicting information, which causes bodily dysphoria, (which is required to be trans.) and for some gender fluid, the sensation can flux from day to day due to hormonal changes. Most folks and most trans folk don’t have the sense change through their life, so it’s difficult for many to understand. Some gender fluid have sense of all gender/both genders at the same time. So everyone wishes to identify with the group of people their brain fits with, even if the body is considered socially tied to a presumed sex organ and corresponding traditional social roles.
My object identity has always been clear. I am definitely a firetruck. I don’t really know how to identify as anything else ... it wasn’t a choice; it was more of a fact of life for me. I'm a firetruck.
I find it very unfair that the default position when asked “isn’t ‘they’ plural” is to be offended. It’s a very valid question since grammatically, ‘they’ is a plural term. If the question is asked genuinely, no offence is intended or should be taken.
@@markbradley4408 no, what do you call somebody when you don’t know their gender? “Hey look at that person! They have cool shoes.” Or “the person on the phone said they’re dropping off your package later today”
as a nonbinary person who gets deadnamed a lot and people always use the wrong pronouns I feel it is important for people to notice me in the way I want to be noticed. I get a lot of backlash from people in my town (just so you know it is a very small town and a lot of people here are extremely conservative and old fashioned) they say "oh your just trying to be cool" or "nonbinary isn't a real thing its fake" or my personal favorite " you're born **insert a sex here** so you can't be something different from what you were born with". I see a lot of people mix up sex and gender mostly because they were never told any different. Sex is you know Male or Female it all depends on what parts you were born with and that is your sex but it isn't your gender. to me Gender is a social construct because it is. So much has changed. Guys and Girls used to wear dresses until guys were 5-6 years old and they wore makeup too. now Toxic Masculinity and Toxic Femininity is so much that people are forced into what they call "gender norms" and "the gender binary". and I agree nonbinary socially speaking isn't a gender because society hasn't let it become a gender yet. and the Trans community is only 0.6 out of the WHOLE POPULATION! thats not a lot but that doesn't mean we don't exist. People who are gender-fluid, nonbinary, ftm, mtf. and more are apart of the Trans community. We might be a minority that people overlook but there is no shutting us up. It is perfectly okay to be who you are. in the end we are all human and that is what matters not what I have in my pants or who I want my lover to be because at the end of the day my life has no effect on you unless im a serial killer in that case be concerned but honestly, if I want a wife or a husband or a spouse it doesn't effect you. If you are happily married with kids and an amazing life why would you want to ruin that for others. We are just humans and deserve to be treated as such. there is no right way to love and there is no wrong way to love (unless your a pedophile) we are all people and deserve to be treated as such. I will never back down from who I am and no one should have to. we all want to be loved and accepted so please stop the hate.
I'm a gender fluid and it's so hard to go through life with so many people looking down at you and saying your gender choice is stupid and isn't a thing. It hurts and even my friends don't like to use the pronouns I ask them to use.
You are not oppressed. Have you considered that people might be sceptical about your claims because it is not a real entity? When you are ready, have a look at the scientific evidence on gender (not the press) and see for yourself that there is no such gender as genderfluid. However you can express yourself how you like by dressing feminine or masculine any day you like and call it what you like. It doesn;t make you another gender requiring new pronouns.
I am a female, but sometimes I feel like a man and I love dressing up both in feminine and masculine way. I am pansexual for sure, but am I genderfluid? I always see myself as a woman, but I feel both.
I still don't understand. If gender is not related how you present yourself and what clothes or hair you wear. What exactly defines whether your gender is male or female? Can someone explain pls. I don't understand if someone says they FEEL like a man or woman.
It’s okay to forget. I won’t get offended if you slip and call me by my birth pronouns or name. I get offended if you do it on purpose or brush over it like “Ah well, I knew u before u were fluid so it’s okay” or “You’ll change eventually so it doesn’t matter” It does matter. It is me. I’m sure you wouldn’t mind if I forgot your name once or twice, but if I actually knowingly went about calling you another name than the one you told me repeatedly how would it feel?
That’s so weird how they said “It’s very rare to meet a genderfluid person” two of my closest friends are genderfluid. In a town of 1000. At least 2/1000 are genderfluid
It requires a large random population to calculate frequency of a variation in the human population. A town of 1000 people is not large enough nor generalisable to other populations.
Im so happy to see Gender fluidity gaining more light. It really is a mouthful to try and explain what it all means, so Im greatful for this video! Mad love and respect! :3
@Ανασάσης Χατζηχρυσάφης they sure don't! But im comfortable in different things at different times, and i have no idea when and it makes packing clothes rough 😔
i have off and on dysphoria. i dress according to how i feel that day. i try to make myself look as much as a male or female as i can depending on how my dysphoria is doing that day. i cannot control this, i don’t want to be this way. i wouldn’t wish this upon anyone and honestly i hate being genderfluid. but there’s only two ways to act on my dysphoria. make my best efforts to make myself look like a man some days, and female another. or i could try and push through it and once i can’t do that anymore i self destruct. i will not deny that some people fake these “tumblr genders” for attention, but some of us are really trying. some of us can’t help it. some of us just want to feel okay. some of us actually are hurting. please take this into consideration before shitting on someone’s identity.
I'm afraid you have got caught up in the gender hype. The feelings you are having are induced by contagion. If it has taken over your life it is a mental disorder. If it has not, hopefully you can focus on other things.
there is a biological neurological brain map of the own sense of the body in every human, but since brain can develop independently from body in womb, one can be born with conflicting information, which causes bodily dysphoria, (which is required to be trans.) and for some gender fluid, the sensation can flux from day to day due to hormonal changes. Most folks and most trans folk don’t have the sense change through their life, so it’s difficult for many to understand. Some gender fluid have sense of all gender/both genders at the same time. So everyone wishes to identify with the group of people their brain fits with, even if the body is considered socially tied to a presumed sex organ and corresponding traditional social roles.
They're so handsome and pretty! And I love what they said at the end: "If you are not addressing them in the way they want to be addressed, then you are not addressing them at all. You are just kind of overlooking them and not acknowledging their presence in a way."
I’m gender fluid and I feel exactly how she feels like sometimes I feel and girl and most of the time I feel a boy yet I’m only attracted to men. I find this new chapter in my life so refreshing and I’ve always hated being called she like it actually triggers me. So now I go by they/them/their
But seriously Mimi, do you *honestly* think the world gives a crap whether you want to be a 'he' or a 'she' from one day to the next? It may well be a boring and overused term, but 'gender fluidity' doesn't exist out here in the real world. Regardless of what *YOU* want to be called or referred to as, you have only one gender. And that is the gender you were born as, no matter what else you do to try and change that. Sorry!
I am so sorry about this Jezza person don't listen to them, you are you, they can't tell you who you are or not. I hope you didn't listen or take offense to anything you said, you are amazing and we love you! :))
I'm surprised they made a video on us. Although not all these things apply to me as a gender fluid person but I've seen the differences among other fluids before.
"If you're not addressing them in the way they want to be addressed then you're not addressing them at all" such true words, they have such a beautiful way of speaking, this is really lovely to watch
@@noscopeingnarwhal9913 Lets take a moment to pause, and look at what you just wrote, shall we? This is what most functioning members of society call discrimination. You are entitled to your beliefs, yes, but when you go around and say things like your comment, that is targeting people for their identity, for who they are, and that is by no means OK. Also, maybe fix your grammar and take out the first-grader-level insults and maybe then you won't look ignorant.
Olivia Rugani: you’re mostly right, my comment sucked and didn’t express what I felt and was really confusing to read. So let me reiterate.
When Josie said. “If you aren’t address them they way they want them your not addressing them at all” I found that to be a silly notion, reason being, if I say “hello sir” and then a fluid person says “those aren’t my pronouns” then they just responded to me calling them sir, thus they have been addressed by sir and acknowledged it making it real. That’s what I meant in the first half of my comment, I may have interpreted what Josie said wrong and it may be a petty thing to argue over but that’s what I meant. For the second part when I said “gays, bi’s, and trans, I’ll explain what I meant for each one. When I said gays I was referring to lesbian and gay people and how we have two words for something that just can be described equally with one, but that’s just an off topic opinion not a fact as I implied in my original comment. When I said Bi’s I must have meant that they only like one or the other and not both, but I no longer believe and furthermore I don’t actually remember why I put bi’s into my OG comment to begin with. Finally trans people, in my OG comment when i said trans people ignore facts for their feelings I meant that from our current scientific understandings and my personal beliefs, that they ignore the fact that they can’t completely 100% physically change their sex with HRT, but I do believe that with enough effort they can, at least mentally, become a woman or a man.
So that’s what I originally (mostly) intended to say in my comment, and I’m sorry for any confusion I may have caused. Lastly, you are entitled to your own opinions :)
@@noscopeingnarwhal9913 Thank you for reiteriating. This is a lot clearer, and comes across better.
Sorry but calling you by your birth name IS addressing you..literally by name. What you want to be called is at the persons discretion addressing you.
This person should not have been harassed like that! They shouldn’t have to work that hard to gain respect!
Non Bunnary better go get a job instead of trying to earn “respect”
¡AZUL¡
@@erikhernandezzz9272 they literally said they worked 3 shifts.
It deserved a dick check. If people want to act this ridiculous why can't we. I have no idea anymore girl boy, any of this bullshit and I, along with most people don't care for it. I'm tired of a minority of people making the majority change their lives to appease a minority of people all in the sake of good when it is clearly evil. I can't believe people are so fuckin dumb
@@e2dd459 No it doesn't deserve a "dick check", that's just straight up sexual harassment. Just because a person says they're genderfluid, non-binary etc, that doesn't mean you have the right to grab their crotch to see if they have a dick or not. Grow tf up. If a person says their genderfluid respect it, use their pronouns, don't "dick check" them. It's none of your business to see if they're a girl or a boy. You have no right to check if they are, that's just sick of you to do so.
Their assault story is really sad and scary. :(
*her
She is still biologically female you know.
But I agree the assault story is sad and scary.
@@kurziieee sex doesn't equal gender. Just because someone is born with female parts, doesn't mean they feel like a woman.
@@kurziieee did you even watch the video lmao
@A M. that's a whole complicated discussion that I can't rly get into in a comment. But I was saying just because some has a vagina, it doesn't mean they have a female brain and the label "female" fits them. Transgender people exist.
@A M.
"The definitions are based in the social stereotypes and roles "typically associated with each sex." - Only in the context of biological roles, more specifically the roles in reproduction. Males produce sperm and females produce eggs, no exceptions. "Gender Identity" has been coined by trans ppl to mean, basically,. "How i feel." and they want that "feeling" (that subjective sense of their inner-self) to be recognized as objective reality (as their objective, physical identity) by society. Once you look closely at the issue it's clear a person's subjective inner self (feelings/thoughts etc.) have nothing to do with "the state of being male or female". That "state" is not a mental , subjective one, it's a physical state of being. It's objective. It's the same "state" whether we're conscious or not, awake or asleep. Dead or alive. It's the same in every species, not just the human animal. Do we need to know the thoughts and feelings of a dog or a giraffe, dead or a live, to KNOW for sure that they're male or female (or were, when they were alive)? The human is no different, we're all mammals. We're all part of the animal kingdom.
im so glad to see all the other genderfluid people online. i dont know anyone in person with a gender identity that isnt cis and its refreshing to know im not alone as genderfluid
The internet truly is a wonderful place. :)
@A M. Do you, know what cis means???
You sound like you're either against this video, but are horrible confused,
or you're trying to make a point about how gender is dead but you're phrasing it in a weird way that suggests that everyone is trans.
@@rowan2372 cisgender is when someone is the gender that they were assigned at birth
@@crystalaesthetics2216 yeah I know I was replying to someone who had now deleted their comment
I'm trans myself lol
I know I’m late here but you are definitely not alone 🥰🥰
They explained it so well and as a genderfluid person who isn't fully out yet I love this video
Off topic but cas is mine
Ehh !! Winchester fan!!! LOTS OF LOVE ❤❤❤❤
I’m genderfluid and bisexual!
Castiel Winchester OMG SAMEEE
Same!! And also, Cas baby..
But honestly they are super attractive🙆
You mean "she"?! Cause There's only one person sitting there!
@@nonamefound9296 I know, but as the interviewed person is gender fluid the pronoun is "they" and not "she"
honestly tho😂
I don't think "" they"" would want you saying that.....
@@johno4521 They would probably be flattered, actually. There was nothing sexual or disrespectful about the original comment.
they're so pretty I'm shook. They seem peaceful I love it
Same, I kept on thinking they is so beautiful. I saw it in their eyes, such life and joy in them.
They seem so chill and open. it was nice
Multiple people were interviewed? Fk I only saw the scenes with that chick.
Oh shit my mistake, didn’t realize what I was taught in English was really really offensive.
Why thank you, reading these comments is making me feel a little less hated
Wait, if you are going to use 'they' in singular form, isn't the correct grammar 'they is so pretty' ?
they are so cool and confident, and articulated themself really well! love this interview, definitely something that needs to be more talked about
mark spannar I don’t want to seem rude, but that is technically true but not in the way you may think. ACTUAL genderfluid people (like this person) experience gender dysphoria which is what causes them to be uncomfortable in their gender assigned at birth (all trans people have this). This comes from a physical difference between them and cisgender people. Their brain has characteristics that match the opposite gender. That is what causes the gender dysphoria. Although your brain’s characteristics can’t just change, their amount of dysphoria can. Genderfluid people just have a dysphoria that fluctuates at very extreme rates. That is all! Thank you for reading this and have a good day. Again, I am not trying to offend or attack you in any way, shape, or form. 👍
I only saw a confused bisexual girl.
I was born a man, I am still a man but in my heart, I am a true lesbian, so, any lesbian out there, who would like to be friends?
This encouraged me as a gender fluid, thanks. And they're such a nice person!! It's nice to see them be confident like this 💕
You turned to water?
@@hollie7765 Haha yes (:
If u don't mind can I ask u a question?
@@annieleonhart2767 is it about gender fluidity? I might be able to answer
I was born a man, I am still a man but in my heart, I am a true lesbian, so, any lesbian out there, who would like to be friends?
These comments are literally so ignorant?? All of y'all need to know that just because you don't understand someone doesn't meant that you don't respect them. Smh I lost brain cells reading all of these comments.
@@idksamir me too... I lost many instead... 😆
@@idksamir As a genderfluid I respect that but I do feel like a boy, a girl, neither, and both. But that is how I feel. But there is still more to discover about the human brain.
Does it matter I mean If we aren’t hurting anyone what’s the harm? And we didn’t know about male and female brains until recently so can’t there be more to learn about the brain?
Look y'all, just because you don't understand it doesn't mean it's not real. You are incredibly lucky to identify exactly as you were told you should by society. But for people who don't fit that mold it's really hard. It's not a biological thing: their bodies don't magically change, but gender is above that. It is to do with how you feel.
Like if you're a cis woman, sometimes you might wake up one day feeling feminine as heck, so you might do some make up and put on a dress or whatever. Other days you might not be feeling that as strongly so you might just wear jeans and a t shirt. Everyones gender fluctuates slightly from day to day, but some people wake up and feel strongly of the opposite gender. or they don't feel any connections to either. or they strongly feel both.
It is about gender expression and how you are perceived by others. There are still so many things about the brain that we don't know. And you can't just say that it's not a thing cause there isn't 'proof' of it. These people aren't just fucking around you know. And it's hard to be your true self under the scrutiny of everyone who thinks your core identify doesn't exist
@@Jay-uc2wd cringy Warren is right, facts prove that gender cant be changed like that
I can confirm and agree with everything they say (I am also genderfluid)🖤
me too :o gO OfF
Same!!(and pansexual-)
I’m gender fluid as well, and bisexual
@@arnitaprather3310 Omg, same. :)
Rutuja Jadhav Nice to hear! Glad we’re not alone 😂
As a Indian gender fluid person their name really spoke to me ❤️
I was born a man, I am still a man but in my heart, I am a true lesbian, so, any lesbian out there, who would like to be friends?
As a genderfluid, I've been blessed with a genderfluid best friend.
We are both mostly in the closet and we support each other with any daily struggle we face.
i kind of cried reading this
that's sooo cute 🥺
I'm also a "genderfluid in the closet".. at least i have some friends that supports lgbt+
im a trans girl with a genderfluid friend and we understand each other and it’s so cool >_
Im lucky to have a gender fluid best friend as well, they are out but im not.
I was born a man, I am still a man but in my heart, I am a true lesbian, so, any lesbian out there, who would like to be friends?
Gender fluid isn't biologically possible, because the brain can't change it's gender according to how you feel. But still I'm going to respect their prounoums, because it's not my problem.
I might think it's dumb and useless, bug if someone is confortable that way and doesn't push it on you, let em be
I wish more people were like you. Good mindset :)
I feel the same way. I have a gender fluid friend and I love them and would never tell them how to live their life, but I agree with you. I don't understand it or agree that their is another gender, but it's not me and I respect them.
You can think of it like she just chooses to be be both...and neither, at the same time. You get what I mean?
Mary Austin Collera yes I do!
bug. loves BTS yeah I agree. my general rule of thumb is that if I haven't experienced something myself I can never fully understand. it doesn't really make sense to me, but that's only because I am very secure in my own gender. whatever they are feeling isn't something I can understand.
As a nonbinary in India, Durga is truly an inspiration and they are so amazing
I was born a man, I am still a man but in my heart, I am a true lesbian, so, any lesbian out there, who would like to be friends?
Your are NOT nonbinary
@@enasnirercos7626 I was born as a female, i am also still a female, but in my heart I'm a gay boy too🏳️🌈😩
@@samarpitasaha3855 That's nice, I don't mind being friends with Born Female Gay Boy.
lol
holy shit they're so beautiful
holy shit she isn't.
@@krisamagus1 to you
You’re saying THEY!! Omg what a bigot
@@abdelhak50 must be the end of the world for you 😂
@Stan Eb Pelton how you gonna speak for them, you don’t know what their intention was while making the comment.
"If you're not addressing them in the way they want to be addressed, then you are not really addressing them at all." That is so genius i love them
I was born a man, I am still a man but in my heart, I am a true lesbian, so, any lesbian out there, who would like to be friends?
another question i have is what makes them feel like a different gender. like what specifically do you feel when you say you feel when you feel like a girl or a guy or nothing.
- ̗̀ moonchild ̖́- I just wanted to answer your question as a gender fluid person. There isn’t a right answer. Everyone has there own way of “knowing”. Sometimes I wake up and I simply feel more masculine than feminine and prefer a different pronoun but other times I may feel masculine and my pronouns may stay as she/her. For me it’s more of a headspace thing that becomes physical where I want a flatter chest or something like that. I don’t know if his answers your question but I tried? Also I love your profile picture!
Yes. If you are alone and naked with no particular hair style or makeup. What are you then ?
Brian 8chison I personally identify myself as non binary but I may not have a particular style physically and still may identify as he/him or she/her
@@nyeelahbrown2892 I do not intend to insult you, but does not it feel like having multiple personalities?
juliazwei I understand what you mean and sometimes it does feel or seem that. It’s kind of confusing
they're really beautiful, i also love the way they talked about everything and answerd every question calmly
I just wanted to comment that is heartwhelming to see that the amount of likes is way bigger than the disliked and the comments are actually supporting. It's so wholesome.
I'm Genderfluid myself and I am tortoured with all those things too... Stay strong
Kampfküken I am too. Respond typo this if you ever want to talk.
You're torturing yourself with failing science.
@@hollie7765 your failing humanity with your toxicness and unrespectfull behavior towards another human being
@alan tutorial were humans not creatures, have some respect, only because we have a different gender identity or Sexuality doesn't mean our insides are different, doesn't mean our body is different, we all breath the same air, we all eat, we all drink, we all do the same exact stuff, it's honestly stupid that people think we act differently because of our gender or Sexuality
@@hollie7765 actually sience confirms that genderfluidity is real and valid so don't go around and talk shit without knowing anything thanks.
I personally believe that gender itself isn't fluid, as a trans guy. I believe there is male or female or a simple absence of gender. That's what scientific studies have proven so far upon researching the human brain. However expression can be as fluid as you like. That being said, I would respect this individual and use their pronouns. It's not a matter of whether I agree with their identity, it's a matter of respect for another human individual.
Biologically you're the gender you born with, but that's besides that. You can identify however you believe.
Same
Newt Lockstone, gender fluid people are valid, please don't make it harder for them, don't be part of the problem.
As someone who always helps trans people, binary or not, it really hurts to see that no matter how I want to make every LGBTQI+ person to feel valid, some of these people still doesn't want *me* to feel valid. I don't know if this makes any sense to you but anyway... yeah. You can't "desagree" with somebody identity. Respect them or not, but you can't just say "I respect you, but I think your identity is wrong". I don't want to offense you, but I want you to understand that people reads comments and it can hurt them.
@@amaeliss7827 I'm sorry but that's simply not true. What about those who identify as 'autismgender' or identity as a dinosaur? Or what about those who 'identify' as a different age or ethnicity? Whether you like it or not these identities are not backed up by science. Until it is proven scientifically, I will not believe nor understand that the human brain is capable of rewiring itself to move between multiple genders at once. I will support everyone. Use everyone's pronouns. But my opinion remains the same. I think it's great that you help people and I commend you for that. I never want to hurt anybody. However I must say that I tend to value the facts more than I value the idea of tiptoeing around everybody's feelings.
Me: *nodding head* Thank you for finally bringing up the fact that you should call people my what they want to be called. I'm nonbinary so this is relatable
samee
I'm genderfluid and everything they said is soooo relatable
I identify as Daddy, therefore you need to call me that.
I love how they have 1 side of boy and 1 side of girl on there face. they completely own it
I'll address you by whatever name you want to be addressed, but if you get offended because I referred to you with a different pronoun, then that's on you. I'm not going to purposely try to offend you, but I'm not going to walk on eggshells cause you're fragile either, regardless of your gender. If you're a high-strung cis-male, I don't want to talk to you either.
Honestly, if I request to be preferred by a certain pronoun and you at least try, I'll be happy. I accidentally forget to use certain pronouns for someone a lot, and I just correctly my self and apologize.
True its your right to speech
Do you call cis men her and she? If not, it is perhaps because they would react negatively to you if you did?
@@161-h8n No, I call cis men he and him because that is our linguistic cultural convention. I call trees trees because they're trees.
Mad FACTS
So much respect for this person for appearing/remaining so cheery even when being asked some heavy questions!
I was born a man, I am still a man but in my heart, I am a true lesbian, so, any lesbian out there, who would like to be friends?
When I have to check a box of what gender I am, I always stop and just stare at it wondering if it's gonna allow me to check multiple boxes lol. Feeling like a tiny pixel in the plus is also an everyday feeling for me, feels good to finally hear another genderfluid say that too
I will never be able to understand because I was born as a girl, I feel like a girl and I truly believe I’m a girl BUT JUST cuzz of my own situation, I am not allowed to judge others. I respect them and I wish them TO BE HAPPY!!!❤️❤️❤️
A Cisgender person who isnt homophobic? It's our lucky day gender babies! Celebration time!
@@dddddddddddgdkhffdjkkgjdf and respects non-binary people :)
That is literally all we ask of anyone! Thank you! Just let us be ourselves and help us be happy whenever you can. That's it!
I was born a man, I am still a man but in my heart, I am a true lesbian, so, any lesbian out there, who would like to be friends?
Seeing all of these people agreeing to this makes me believe that humanity is doomed.
Thank you for giving this interview. I consider myself genderfluid and you help. Like..... a lot. Just knowing that there are more people like me. I feel sometimes.... like I don't really exist. Knowing that parts of my family don't believe that all of what genderfluid makes does exist. I'm asian and.... yeah... the stereotyp idea is kinda hard on display in my family. Watching hisde my heart go light. I really deeded this. Maybe I can come out atleast to friends bc they just kinda think I'm trans wich doesn't really fit... Yeah.. thought that aswell 2 years ago. So I wanted to say thank you. Gonna stop talking. Thank you a lot for telling people we exist and how we feel like.
I have some questions, if you dont mind. You dont have to answer if you feel uncomfortable.
1) how do you know you are not confusing gender expression with gender?
2) how do you deal with dysphoria/euphoria about the same physical aspects? This is just an example, but how do you deal with hating your chest one day, and loving it on the next?(i say chest, but you could say hips, hand size, etc.)
3) if you plan on transition, how will you do it?
Meh_Im_a_Sheep Hey. Sorry I didn't see your comments earlyer.
1) It's kind of wierd. Actually I really hope I understood your question right. So I always was kind of off. As a girl I couldn't right fit in. Like. Of cause I could just be a girl with some more manelyer aspects. That's what I thought. But than with beeing a teenager came the thing with my body changing. That's question 2, so thats for later. I didn't know what was wrong so I just dealt with it. In 7th grade I got to know what trans is. I started dressing up as a guy. Got into cosplay as aswell some kind of excuse to buy wigs. I thought I meight be trans. After binding I felt so much happyer... And my friends seemed to think I'm trans too. Like.... they had a bed going on when I'll come out..... after two years on thinking I'm trans I got that I sometimes felt girly... totally wierd. On one day I wanted to wear dresses.... like once in two month. On other days it made me so uncomfortable.... hard to explain... Just... I didn't feel like I fit in any category. Considert myself just.... mysrelf. Than I got nonbinary but I changed to much. Till now I fit into gender fluid the best. After somewhere 5 years.... So I hope I got it right.
2) So.... that's a hard one. I do hape my breast most of the time. I'm mostly on the male or just non side. I dislike my really small hands. My face is actually manly with short hair. Thats just side info. I really can't deal with it often. I wear big cloth. I plan on getting a binder as soon as possible. My mother doesn't want me too. Even for cosplay... I'll buy cloth in the mens section. Used Menshampoo. I actually don't like my chest even as a female.... just. Nothing against girls you look nice with them. For me it's gross. But you get used to it? I'm not that big. I just tell myself that between how I look like and feel like is difference. That nothing is wrong with that.
3) I don't plan on transitioning. I can't say I'm happy with my body. I often watch how people speak about it on youtube and I really want it but first of all I need to keep my annoyingly high voice. I'm preparing to get into a singing konservatorium(don't know if it's called so in english) and yeah. With my family coming out will be impossible. They not exactly against LGBTQ+ but it kind of doesn't exist for my ma. They won't believe me.
I'm sorry for all the personel things I wrote. It's fine bc were anonymous. Just... most is bound with my life expiriances. I hope I answerd your questions and helped you. And what I said may be different for other fluid people. Keep thzt in mind. If you don't understand something I said feel free to write me. I try my best yo explain it better. My english kind of died. It's 2am where I live..... One question I have. Why did you ask? Just out of interest. Have a great day/night.
~Len
@@magnuslenlove1372 hey. I just asked out of pure interest and curiosity. I can never get into my head how someone can have a gender that is fluid. And I'll be honest, from what i read, you seem like a normal trans guy that is a bit feminine at times. And thats ok. There are men that like to crossdress and look like women, but they are still men(because they don't have disphoria and all that). Btw, there is this ftm youtuber named ryan cassata that isn't taking hormones because he sings too. Maybe you can relate with him(at least the last time i saw his channel, he said that). But, i will respect how you identify, since you probably spent a lot of time trying to know who you are. Wish you the best luck :)
@@meh_im_a_sheep6018 hey! I'm nonbianary and although i don't identify as gender fluid specifically, i thought i could offer some insight, at least about the dysphoria part. So for me, there are some things i almost always have dysphoria about and other things i rarely have dysphoria about. So for example, i have pretty consistent dysphoria about my period, but i only have chest dysphoria every couple of months at the most. I also sometimes get dysphoria if i look too masculine, sometimes if i look too feminine, and even sometimes if i look too androgynous. I don't really know why my dysphoria is different at different times, and it's obviously not something i can control. I think that sometimes it's hard for binary trans folks to grasp changing dysphoria, just like it's hard for a lot of cis people to understand dysphoria at all. That doesn't mean there's no legitimacy in it, it just means that most people are still learning about how big an weird gender 8is
Whenever I refer to a person by them instead of saying (he or she) people look at me weirdly and when I explain that it is actually gramatically correct fo refer to a person you dont know the gender of as a “they” or them
People get confused and say its easier if you say(he of she) but yes its not about whats easier for you its about what the other person prefers
❤️
Still gonna assume pronouns until they say otherwise. Only time I’ll address a person by “they” without them telling me to is if they look androgynous
@@Champ0222 I mean hey, at least you'll respect the pronouns if they do explicitly tell you. That's good in my book.
Kiss my pronouns...
I was born a man, I am still a man but in my heart, I am a true lesbian, so, any lesbian out there, who would like to be friends?
People: what’s you’re gender
Gender Fluid: maybe
Me: Yes
Me was a genderfluid: *yesn't*
They do a very good job explaining this I may use this to help me come out to my dad #GENDERFLUIDPRIDE
I hope he takes it well, good luck :)
All the best ❤❤
they does, actually. Idiots.
I dont get why people on this comment section are hating on them so much...Like its okay that it is difficult for you to wrap your head around something new but you should not just say a person is mentally ill just because they represent something out of your mental spectrum. And just going out there and saying something doesnt exist just because you have never heard of it is wrong.
Sorry guys, hate to break this to you but gender fluidity exists
It's not that no one has heard of it, it's just that genderfluid literally isn't a real thing. Trans people are people who have dysphoria for a gender that wasn't assigned to them at birth. Genderfluid people supposedly fit under the trans umbrella but there's no possible way the amount of estrogen or testosterone in one's brain can fluctuate to the point where they work like fluid. You can't choose your gender. It's not a spectrum. Trans people (as an ex.) like FTM people, have a male brain but a biologically female body, which is the imbalance that causes dysphoria ans the reason why they transition. If you are comfortable with your birth gender you are not trans, and since genderfluid people are, they are invalid.
"it's difficult to you to wrap your head around something new". It is not new to a lot of us but that doesn't change the fact that it doesn't exist.
I once believed in the existence of gender fluidity and I could (and still can) undersand the concept, it's not even something hard to understand. The point is that it's not real.
Parkjimin. Stan. People who have been alive since before the millennial generation have seen this gender craze develop, especially in impressionable teenagers. Before this generation, people who didn't feel comfortable about gender norms often presented androgynously. No-one needed to invented new genders. When people have different opinions from other people it is not hate it is discussion of different points of view. Healthy discussion is good, especially if the debating sides can provide scientific evidence to support their points. Discussion is good thing to practice. Sometimes we have to give you reality, it would be errant not to.
That person is SO good looking 😍
its a girl... Not a person...
@@detective3728 last time I checked everyone is a person
@@detective3728 If you're born a human, (which, if you can speak with your own voice, then you are) then you are a person.
@@detective3728 it's a person, u stupid? Your a person, I'm an person, everyone is an person, and they are not a girl, they're genderfluid
@@18Star04 its a a girl... xx and xy
as a gender fluid person this video is pretty accurate to how i feel
wow, someone liked this comment and that’s funny to me. this is when i was first coming to terms with being genderfluid so i was going research. still acuítate to how i feel
It’s really nice to see a video about a gender fluid person that isn’t totally filled with hateful comments
Yes I am very happy about the positive comments, but when you go into most recent comments, it doesn't filter negative things to the bottom... :(((
Yeah.
I’m skeptical of gender fluidity as a label. In some ways all people are gender fluid to a degree, because gender isn’t a strictly defined concept.
But I agree that you should address people in the way they want to be addressed. If someone wants to be called “them”, I think you should call them “them”, regardless of how you feel about the gender identity philosophy. I think they made good points.
The word "them" signifies plurality. Why should and would I bend basic grammatical rules for these attention-seeking cretins? I can support homosexuality, but telling me to support some "genderless" freak is just pushing it a little too far.
As it stands, there are three pronouns for humans. "He," "She," or "it". Nothing else. "He," is used for males, "She," is used for females, and should anyone happen not to "fall" within the two, they shall be referred to as "it," by default.
Endelig Gnist the pronoun “they” can actually be used as a singular or plural pronoun. it’s been used historically as both, although predominantly as singular.
@@teddythebear111 No, it can't. "Them," and "they," are used for people involving plurality. That's basic grammar.
@@endeliggnist5066 I'm genderfluid and you're opinion is irrelevant and stupid edit: this is a five month old comment. My views on genderfluidity have changed now so please stop responding and angrily responding to a post from a SHELTERED 13 YEAR OLD. I'm 14 now and I have gotten more education on this topic so stop using a 13 year old me's cringey response as something to take offense from.
@@adrienuhhhh Says the "gender fluid" freak.
This is extremely confusing, so everyday you choose what gender you want to be?
no everyday you just are a different gender you do not choose
Alex Fierro ???? how are you magically just a different gender
lumi - its more of a feeling of being either male/female neither or both
Xtrez_zerts yea but feeling girly or feeling boyish doesn't make you a girl or a boy
I used to be genderfluid! its literally just being confused lol. its scientifically impossible for the brain to change its sex.
Is there anyone who kind of silently identifies as gender fluid, the way I do? I never really felt like anything; if I was born in a "boy-body", that'd have been fine too. I always kind of rebelled against having to play with girl-toys and wear dresses, so I was regarded as a "tomboy". But at some point I liked dresses too. I had a crush on my best friend (girl) growing up, but have only had relationships with guys (currently as well). It's hard for me to understand that someone is transgender, because I don't feel like I am either gender, and can't really imagine what that'd feel like. I never came out.. I just think of myself as "me", and I am attracted to personalities (usually my best friend, no matter the gender). Never felt the need to label it, because it feels as if that'd limit me in a way that wouldn't feel complete.
I was born a man, I am still a man but in my heart, I am a true lesbian, so, any lesbian out there, who would like to be friends?
I’m also genderfluid! It’s awesome to see people talk about it! You rock my friend!
Yesterday I was you're brother, today I feel like your mom.
Tomorrow grandmother. Well well well well fact remains fact...... tomorrow it will be solid, liquid and gas..
You can't run a life based on your feelings.
If you dont run you life on feelings, what do you run it on!? A magic 8 ball???
@@jamiesilver7401 no, logic.
There is a scientific brain without binary. That's what gender fluid people are living on, not actually switching genders. There you go, logic.
I've had someone refer to me as an it and I cried right there infront of them. It hurts. To feel as if your just this thing because you feel differently.
There’s nothing different or special about you. Time to grow a thicker skin.
OMG! NO!!! that's horrible and shouldn't have happened..........i am so sorry that we have such a 'f'-ed up society......Let me tell you out loud and clear.....YOU ARE VALID.....you dont need to grow a thick skin, you are human its normal to feel emotions, but please stand up for yourself when some one misgenders you.....
@@xz740 and you can just grow out of that piece of ice that is supposed to be your heart, don't you know how hard it is to live as someone apart from the LGBTQ community that is in such a small speck like genderfluidity, and then getting referred to as it? It is the word for an object/animal, bish, we aren't animals, we aren't objects, we are Human
@@18Star04 Yes we’re all human and we all feel different. The population isn’t divided into one group of special oppressed gender people with eggshell skulls versus a world of oppressive ‘norms’. We all have struggles, we all live with problems and worries, we all have things happen that we don’t like, we all have feelings. You are not different from anyone else in the world.
@@xz740 I never said other people didn't have struggles-- I meant that straight/cis/trans/gay etc. people get way more accepted than genderfluid people and other smaller gender identities and Sexualitys because they're not mentioned alot nor are they very common
I've been questioning wether I'm gender fluid for awhile I think I am but I still want to be sure before I come out it's so good to see someone else who is on here talking about it it clears up how I've been feeling as well so thank u ❤️
It is so nice to see this. As a genderfluid person myself it is inspiring to see this representation. Thank you for the video.
Show me the way to be water.
Men or woman
My friend identifies as genderfluid, I've had some trouble understanding what it is so here I am. It helped a lot, thanks!
I was born a man, I am still a man but in my heart, I am a true lesbian, so, any lesbian out there, who would like to be friends?
It's so nice to see someone like that be happy, people in the lgbtq+ community go through so much and they are finally able to be happy and live their life now that their rights are being recognised
Such a lovely Person. 😍🤗
vipul kumar im telling your parents
Yeah, til you piss them off.
Then watch how unlovely they get.
I was assigned O negative at birth but now identify as B positive because it sounds so much better. Blood is fluid, right?
"tick all the damn boxes"
YES ME
I feel like as a quoigender human I DON'T EXISTTTT
💙💚🖤💚💙
One of my best friends just told me that she/he/they is gender-fluid and I don’t really know what it is or I don’t understand it so now one day later I’m researching videos and searching how should I address he/she/they. If anyone has any tips please tell me I just want to understand my best friend better.
Ask what pronouns they want to be called by. Ask them what makes them comfortable.
@@laylapeterson2071 thank you!
Genuine questions for a gender fluid person...
Why do you feel the need to label yourself as “gender fluid”? Why do you feel the need to “change your gender” (for lack of better words)? Like I get that you can wake up one morning & “feel” masculine & have the urge to use different pronouns, but why? Why not just go about your day or week or month or however long you “feel masculine” simply dressing more masculine or acting more masculine or just simply acknowledging it in your head, without feeling the need to change your pronouns & tell everyone you’re gender fluid & they need to call you something other than “she” or “he”? When you wake up the next day & suddenly feel feminine, why not just acknowledge that feeling & then move on? Why must there be labels involved?
As a female I don’t “feel” feminine or masculine every single day. I’m not really conscious about it. I don’t walk around basing everything I do & say on my gender. My identity comes from my personality not my gender. I don’t wake up with the overwhelming feeling of femininity.
That is because your identity doesn't change, you're used to it.
And generally people ask for different pronouns because it is very uncomfortable for them to be called the wrong thing. When people call me the wrong pronoun it makes me feel bad because that's not me and it doesn't feel like they're accepting who I am.
If someone were to use male pronouns on you it would feel bad would it not? It would feel 'thats not who I am' it is a lot harder for those whose pronouns are not the norm, and there is a whole lot of discomfort there for them.
@@rowan2372 Who cares what pronouns people use. There are plenty of individuals who have been called he or she all the time for decades. Don't give it so much power and it won't matter.
As a fellow genderfluid person, yeehaw friend. 🤠
yee yee ( texas genderfluid here 🤠💦 )
@@beaaj9708 haw haw pal, indian genderfluid here
@@sampadaga1426 salut! (Moldovanian gender-fluid 👀)
A lot of these kinds of people are really nice. I’m not really one to believe in the same idea that there are spectrums of gender. You are who you are and no one can or should change that. What I don’t want is for people to tell me that I have to go off pronouns that they feel is more comfortable for them. You gotta accept what you were born as and move on and do great things and live your best life without letting people get to your head just because they called you a pronoun you don’t want to be called. This is a human thing to do because we are automatically aware of the reality in our earlier stage of life that there are two genders. male and female. Like I said, don’t let what people say get to you. If you can’t accept this then I hope you can somehow get closure and move forward in your life.
This video is so soothing. I really needed to see this.
I love this person so much! I’m still figuring out what genderfluidity means to me, and their words just makes me feel so much more confident. I hope that they are able to live life in peace 🙏🏽
It takes 30 years to finaly realize that I am a genderfluid. My Gender swing between my masculine and feminin side which is a wide spectrum.
Everybody has masculine and feminine attributes. Stop making it up.
@@xz740 it's not being made up, they're talking about who they are themselves and what it means to them. They are only speaking for themselves :))
This is one of the most chill gender fluid person I've seen.
Random but I'm indian too 💞
Same!
as a gender fluid person I've never met anyone whose gender fluid, one day I hope too
Geni I have a genderfluid friend, and I understand that this is not “real life”, but nice to meet you my fellow genderfluid friend!
Durga, if you ever come to the UK, let's have a party. I'm so happy to know you exist. I'm so sorry about those Russian men. Truly strong people can tolerate others differences.
I'm non-binary, which is technically the same thing and I love how they are finally putting this out there for everyone can see to see how we out it and how we feel about it. I am bullied for this, but am so happy when ever I see another gender fluid who is accepted for who they are. So just keep doing you boo! And for any other trans or NBs out there let NO ONE tell you who you are! : )
1. HI FELLOW NONBINARY!
2. They're kinda not the same thing ;w; at least I don't think they are. But hey, we all have our different opinions
@@vicklepickle301 It's too bad that the so called community doesn't agree on which label means what. How do you expect the public to take you seriously if you cannot get the story straight?
Let me stop you at the first sentence buckaroo, being nonbinary is part of being fluid but they aint the same thing, please research more about fluidity because the first sentence cause a fight or flight reflex in my gender fluid self
@@dddddddddddgdkhffdjkkgjdf Time to growa thicker skin.
@@xz740 uh i dont know if you can read but i was honestly not bothered or aggressive about this comment, i just corrected their mistake, but okay
when i tell y’all i wanna marry this person-
Same.
Oh my god they're one of the most beautiful people I've ever seen
The absolute beauty in the way they explained gender fluidity and the struggles we still go through in terms of sexism, transphobia, etc. is incredible. I have never seen someone explain it so clearly and so accurately
I was born a man, I am still a man but in my heart, I am a true lesbian, so, any lesbian out there, who would like to be friends?
I am genderfluid. I use female pronouns and I am Female. But my gender expression is fluid. Sometimes I wanna dress like a girl and be girly. Other times I wanna be manly, but I am still a girl.
I would say that genderfluid is more about your expression of your gender than what you want to be
I'm not pushing you down dude at all, I'm just a little confused by your wording. How are you genderfluid if you are still a girl when you're feeling more masculine?
are you trying to express how you're still biologically female while feeling male?
Idk because if you're feeling masculine but still feeling like a girl then that's more gender nonconforming than genderfluidity is it not?
I'm not trying to gatekeep or anything I'm just a little confused :)
I am gender fluid, i know, it is hard
soooo hard, i can't fathom the amount of oppression and struggle you have to face because of your narcissistic identity :(
I dont really feel feminine and I am mostly attracted to females. So people automatically assume I am lesbian. But I am not lesbian. I like men too. And I also don't feel like a female. For a long time I wondered if I was a transman, but then I don't really know if that's what I want. Right now, I think I am gender neutral, as I don't feel either gender. But I simply address myself as Queer.
How do you feel like a man or women?
This is a normal part of identity development during teens and young adulthood. If it wasn't;t for all the hype, you probably wouldn't;t be giving it as much attention.
They seem so beautiful and lovely, I wish them the best
I'm a genderfluid person who is not officially out yet, and the friends who I have told have all asked these questions at least once before.
*The best part about being genderfluid is the fact that no matter what gender you like its most likely gay-*
We all need their Instagram
No we do not.
As a genderfluid person I'd just like to thank them.
Tell me how to turn to water too.
So what do they do if they don't identify as male, female or nonbinary? Dr phil had guest ranging from an adult baby to a pet dog.
I’m here for the accent. I freaking love the accent
Whoms't has summoned the almighty one?
Ellie B. I like you. You know your stuff
@@liavO66 Are you also a redditor?
Ellie B. Unfortunately no
@@liavO66 oh that's ok too, it's just a way of having freshly baked memes
My friend just came out as genderfluid. It’s really hard for me to fathom that someone can be different genders at different times. I totally respect her and am trying to educate myself
Btw she goes by she/her they/them
Thank you for the fact that, even though you find it hard to fathom, you respond to it respect and try to educate yourself We know it's hard to fathom, but that is literally all we ask
@@kandy1643 Thank you for trying to educate yourself :)
“Shakti , which is a GODESS of power , so no gender there “ - Durga ‘ gender confused ‘ Gawde . And suddenly RUclips suggested this on my page woww
I didn't know Mx. was a thing until now and I LOVE IT
YES me too!
Durga you are awesome 😁
Why isn't this comment up higher??? :)
@@homebodytiger cause their dont use the name them like to be called
Can someone please explain to me how someone can be gender fluid?
I understand that gender is a spectrum, and that if your body can be intersex, then it should seem possible for your brain to be non-binary. But I don't understand how someone's gender can just change.
(Even though I don't understand it, I'm still going to respect their pronouns).
Izzy there is a biological neurological brain map of the own sense of the body in every human, but since brain can develop independently from body in womb, one can be born with conflicting information, which causes bodily dysphoria, (which is required to be trans.) and for some gender fluid, the sensation can flux from day to day due to hormonal changes. Most folks and most trans folk don’t have the sense change through their life, so it’s difficult for many to understand. Some gender fluid have sense of all gender/both genders at the same time. So everyone wishes to identify with the group of people their brain fits with, even if the body is considered socially tied to a presumed sex organ and corresponding traditional social roles.
@@lilithblack6060 Thank you ｡^‿^｡
It can't change but it's all in the mind I guess.
@@lilithblack6060 isn't gender a social construction? like, gender is what you learn once you're born, or I'm wrong?
Just trying to understand.
She means that she feels as if she's both man and woman, or neither. It's how she sees herself. Her sexual preference is another thing
*The goddess of power* and *no gender there* shouldn't be in a same sentence lmao
haha you're so funny (spoiler alert: you're not and you're just making an offesive and disrespectful joke).
@@dianae.7100 no thats actually a good point
Actually they said that their original name stands for the goddess of power but tey use the genderless version of the name
@@dianae.7100 I wasn't even making a joke, she made it when she first said it (unknowingly of course).
@@ivywinter1948 I like how you were able to keep the preffered pronoun for about the first two words and then lost it.
Where my Gender Fluid people at?
I'm fluidflux which is a combination of genderflux and genderfluid but here ig if I count
Here! :D
My object identity has always been clear. I am definitely a firetruck. I don’t really know how to identify as anything else ... it wasn’t a choice; it was more of a fact of life for me.
I'm a firetruck.
I find it very unfair that the default position when asked “isn’t ‘they’ plural” is to be offended.
It’s a very valid question since grammatically, ‘they’ is a plural term. If the question is asked genuinely, no offence is intended or should be taken.
they/them can be used as singular terms
@@whydidyoueatmycake3019
maybe in 2021 that is true as language is changing, but strictly speaking that wouldn't be 'correct' grammar.
@@markbradley4408 no, what do you call somebody when you don’t know their gender? “Hey look at that person! They have cool shoes.” Or “the person on the phone said they’re dropping off your package later today”
This really confuses me but okay lol they seem like a really cool person
as a nonbinary person who gets deadnamed a lot and people always use the wrong pronouns I feel it is important for people to notice me in the way I want to be noticed. I get a lot of backlash from people in my town (just so you know it is a very small town and a lot of people here are extremely conservative and old fashioned) they say "oh your just trying to be cool" or "nonbinary isn't a real thing its fake" or my personal favorite " you're born **insert a sex here** so you can't be something different from what you were born with". I see a lot of people mix up sex and gender mostly because they were never told any different. Sex is you know Male or Female it all depends on what parts you were born with and that is your sex but it isn't your gender. to me Gender is a social construct because it is. So much has changed. Guys and Girls used to wear dresses until guys were 5-6 years old and they wore makeup too. now Toxic Masculinity and Toxic Femininity is so much that people are forced into what they call "gender norms" and "the gender binary". and I agree nonbinary socially speaking isn't a gender because society hasn't let it become a gender yet. and the Trans community is only 0.6 out of the WHOLE POPULATION! thats not a lot but that doesn't mean we don't exist. People who are gender-fluid, nonbinary, ftm, mtf. and more are apart of the Trans community. We might be a minority that people overlook but there is no shutting us up. It is perfectly okay to be who you are. in the end we are all human and that is what matters not what I have in my pants or who I want my lover to be because at the end of the day my life has no effect on you unless im a serial killer in that case be concerned but honestly, if I want a wife or a husband or a spouse it doesn't effect you. If you are happily married with kids and an amazing life why would you want to ruin that for others. We are just humans and deserve to be treated as such. there is no right way to love and there is no wrong way to love (unless your a pedophile) we are all people and deserve to be treated as such. I will never back down from who I am and no one should have to. we all want to be loved and accepted so please stop the hate.
I'm a gender fluid and it's so hard to go through life with so many people looking down at you and saying your gender choice is stupid and isn't a thing. It hurts and even my friends don't like to use the pronouns I ask them to use.
You are not oppressed. Have you considered that people might be sceptical about your claims because it is not a real entity? When you are ready, have a look at the scientific evidence on gender (not the press) and see for yourself that there is no such gender as genderfluid. However you can express yourself how you like by dressing feminine or masculine any day you like and call it what you like. It doesn;t make you another gender requiring new pronouns.
I'm Genderfluid and she/he said true things. I'm very happy to see other persons like me.. I feel a little bit alone here xD
I was born a man, I am still a man but in my heart, I am a true lesbian, so, any lesbian out there, who would like to be friends?
I am a female, but sometimes I feel like a man and I love dressing up both in feminine and masculine way. I am pansexual for sure, but am I genderfluid? I always see myself as a woman, but I feel both.
I was born a man, I am still a man but in my heart, I am a true lesbian, so, any lesbian out there, who would like to be friends?
Such a strong personality really impressive 😍
I still don't understand. If gender is not related how you present yourself and what clothes or hair you wear. What exactly defines whether your gender is male or female? Can someone explain pls. I don't understand if someone says they FEEL like a man or woman.
It’s okay to forget. I won’t get offended if you slip and call me by my birth pronouns or name. I get offended if you do it on purpose or brush over it like “Ah well, I knew u before u were fluid so it’s okay” or “You’ll change eventually so it doesn’t matter”
It does matter. It is me. I’m sure you wouldn’t mind if I forgot your name once or twice, but if I actually knowingly went about calling you another name than the one you told me repeatedly how would it feel?
That’s so weird how they said “It’s very rare to meet a genderfluid person” two of my closest friends are genderfluid. In a town of 1000. At least 2/1000 are genderfluid
It requires a large random population to calculate frequency of a variation in the human population. A town of 1000 people is not large enough nor generalisable to other populations.
Im so happy to see Gender fluidity gaining more light.
It really is a mouthful to try and explain what it all means, so Im greatful for this video!
Mad love and respect! :3
Being genderfluid is all fun and games until you have to pack for a trip and don't know how you'll feel or what clothes you'd be comfy in
Or what toilets.....
You are doing it to yourself.
@@xz740 yeah?? where the fuck else is my gender supposed to come from??? imagine watching this whole video and learning nothing smh
@Ανασάσης Χατζηχρυσάφης they sure don't! But im comfortable in different things at different times, and i have no idea when and it makes packing clothes rough 😔
I'm from Mumbai and I'm genderfluid but I don't wanna label myself or use any specific pronouns, I mean just call me he/she idc, use whatever
i have off and on dysphoria. i dress according to how i feel that day. i try to make myself look as much as a male or female as i can depending on how my dysphoria is doing that day. i cannot control this, i don’t want to be this way. i wouldn’t wish this upon anyone and honestly i hate being genderfluid. but there’s only two ways to act on my dysphoria. make my best efforts to make myself look like a man some days, and female another. or i could try and push through it and once i can’t do that anymore i self destruct. i will not deny that some people fake these “tumblr genders” for attention, but some of us are really trying.
some of us can’t help it.
some of us just want to feel okay.
some of us actually are hurting.
please take this into consideration before shitting on someone’s identity.
I'm afraid you have got caught up in the gender hype. The feelings you are having are induced by contagion. If it has taken over your life it is a mental disorder. If it has not, hopefully you can focus on other things.
Im so proud of them
I don't get it. How can one *feel* a gender?
there is a biological neurological brain map of the own sense of the body in every human, but since brain can develop independently from body in womb, one can be born with conflicting information, which causes bodily dysphoria, (which is required to be trans.) and for some gender fluid, the sensation can flux from day to day due to hormonal changes. Most folks and most trans folk don’t have the sense change through their life, so it’s difficult for many to understand. Some gender fluid have sense of all gender/both genders at the same time. So everyone wishes to identify with the group of people their brain fits with, even if the body is considered socially tied to a presumed sex organ and corresponding traditional social roles.
They're so handsome and pretty! And I love what they said at the end: "If you are not addressing them in the way they want to be addressed, then you are not addressing them at all. You are just kind of overlooking them and not acknowledging their presence in a way."
I’m gender fluid and I feel exactly how she feels like sometimes I feel and girl and most of the time I feel a boy yet I’m only attracted to men. I find this new chapter in my life so refreshing and I’ve always hated being called she like it actually triggers me. So now I go by they/them/their
But seriously Mimi, do you *honestly* think the world gives a crap whether you want to be a 'he' or a 'she' from one day to the next? It may well be a boring and overused term, but 'gender fluidity' doesn't exist out here in the real world. Regardless of what *YOU* want to be called or referred to as, you have only one gender. And that is the gender you were born as, no matter what else you do to try and change that. Sorry!
I am so sorry about this Jezza person don't listen to them, you are you, they can't tell you who you are or not. I hope you didn't listen or take offense to anything you said, you are amazing and we love you! :))
I'm surprised they made a video on us. Although not all these things apply to me as a gender fluid person but I've seen the differences among other fluids before.