Where is MY family...?! THE TRUTH...
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- Опубликовано: 1 авг 2024
- Dear RUclips Family,
Today I am sharing with you all a very personal video. As part of the new year 2021 one of my goals is to be free of any negativity & past upsets and more forward with nothing but Good Vibes, Love, Authenticity, & Growth. As part of my own life outside of RUclips I thought it was time to tell my story. Many of you have been asking about certain parts of my life that I have yet to share. I owe it to myself and to those who care so dearly for me on RUclips (all of you!) to be brave and share my story. This isn't easy but its time. I would appreciate your support on todays video and hope that this video serves its purpose to inspire you. I hope that through my RUclips I not only inspire you to create and be positive etc. but also to CREATE A LIFE YOU LOVE and sometimes in doing that you have to make tough decisions.... 
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I think that you would be very surprised at how many of us have grown up in the same family situations. Go where you’re celebrated, not where you’re tolerated. Love that. ❤️
That really rings true to me today. Thank you💕
I totally have experienced a similar situation in my family. It hurts! But for my own mental and emotional health I had to do similarly. So happy you made the decision to move on and embrace your family and your future. You’re an awesome person and you have given great advice here!
The same thing happened to me. I had to make that hard decision for my own mental health and to keep my children from feeling so much stress as well. Good for you. Taking charge of your life is so wonderful. Good for you and good for your family. ❤️❤️❤️
I understand this too well!
I am in the same boat in my family. Luckily I have my mom and I had my husband's family. I struggle with guilt for not trying again and again to have a relationship with my dad. He has a wife and kids and even grandkids that he adores. Just not me or my boys. I know he knows my number and my address and he can contact me. I am married to a great man who has been a super dad to our boys. No matter hubby has got my back.thanks for sharing. I wondered but not something I would come out and ask.
I have a friend who at 61, for the first time, didn't go to her mother for Christmas. Her mother is always very nasty to her. She was amazed that it was the best Christmas ever. No stress, no anxiety. Only peace and joy. God Bless you and your family.
I'm happy for your friend. Hope she has many blissful holidays ahead. ❤️
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I understand your feeling. I wrote whole story and deleted it. Just know I understand and more than likely there are more than you think have been there. A good man by your side always helps. ❤️
I'm 63 years old and you don't even understand how much you just helped me with this video.
I'm 62 and ditto your comment. Thank you for the courage to share.
I'm 64 and completely understand what she is saying. Same thing happened to me
I'm 63 and there are a lot of us out there huh? It's a shame, but we must go on without them and make the best of it.
Elysia,I am 62 years old and without telling all the drama, I also had to detach myself from family, and am much better off for it. I love you guys, and you definitly inspire me.
I’m 32 and did the same a couple years ago. My mom passed and that was it, no one else in my family was worth keeping around for my peace of mind. Best decision I have ever made.
My heart goes out to you, but I am so happy that Philip's family has embraced you as their cherished daughter. 😍❤
I came to the conclusion years ago, to cut the ties with those who bring you down. It's hard but necessary for your heart and soul. You have a beautiful family and a beautiful soul!
ok, you may not have cried, but I'll bet a lot of us did :) My eldest child, my daughter, is just your age. My daughter was born after my husband's first cancer battle (age 21), after being told that we would not be able to have children. When I see her, and now her children, I realize anew that she was a miracle. All these years later and I still get teary eyed. I wish that that had been your situation, that you had been the answer to a fervent prayer. Then I realized that of course you are!!! You are the answer to Philip's prayer, to your in-laws prayer, to your children's prayer. You are truly an amazing woman, and together with your family the "amazing" is multiplied. And, I appreciate that you take none of this for granted, and continue to grow. That certainly "rises me up".
secondly, yes, please do document your health journey (not keen on the journey word sometimes, but that is what it is....). I am an old fat unfit gal, but I have goals for fitness (currently, 7500 steps is most of it) as well as scheduling health (reasonable sleep, reasonable meal times, reasonable screen time), as well as good food (and we grow all of our own meat - organic - and a lot of our veggies and fruit), as well as mental/spiritual health, as well as meaningful activity (sewing, fixing, farm, and my favorite- grandchildren childcare). And, I think it all is intertwined in the most intense and sometimes confusing way :) And this year we are hoping to get my husband retired from his job which will make all kinds of new "life" happen (hoping it is good, haha).
Thanks for this video.
Well stated; I see the emotion in Phillip’s face for his wife. Lord I pray for a man such as him....
I agree with everything you said. And I cried also.
Every family has their “stuff”. Seriously, I have never met a “perfect” family ever. I have a son that has not spoken to me for 20 years due to a bitter divorce and a granddaughter I have never met. Keep moving forward and appreciate the love of the family members and friends that embrace you. That’s what I do every day. I love being part of your you tube family! You are so down to earth and hard working. Keep on keepin on! (Okay, that phrase shows my age). You are a great couple!
Praying that you'll reunite soon.
Kathy, you are not alone. I have a daughter that won't talk to me either because of a messy divorce. Its so hard to talk about. Besides being sad, its just difficult when I meet new people, to admit that part of my life. I recently found out I have a granddaughter also. It breaks my heart that I cannot see her. I have had to focus on the positive things in my life now, but I never give up hope that one day we will reunite! I made a dream vision board 2 years ago and I included the word "babies" on it. I try to picture us all together. Its a dream I hope for one day very soon. I will include you in my prayers that you will reunite with your son & granddaughter soon too!
I have four grand nieces that don't know who I am and don't know my kids either. We never did anything to their parents but thanks to lies from my sister we have no relationship with my side of the family at all. It really is heartbreaking. Heard about the births of two of them from people on the street. Didn't know about the other two until my brother passed away in February 2020.
I have 4 daughters that I lost in a messy divorce. Hope one day I meet my grandchildren and can re united! Praying for others who understand! There is more of us then I ever thought!
I relate to all 4 of you, my daughter hasn’t talked to me for 16 years, not because of a divorce but something I failed during her youth & it impacted her life & I now have a granddaughter that’s 3 years old that I’ve never met/seen. But I hope someday that she can forgive me, because I do truly love & miss her. We will connect together again when we are both ready. Missed opportunities. But I’m now on a path to create a more positive life for myself and people around me. Better days ahead.
I always tell my sons and “adoptive”sons, we can only control ourselves, we have no control over others. We must be responsible for our own actions and make sure to protect ourselves from others actions. It take years to understand this. I’m super proud of your family and how you do “rise by lifting others”. Situations like your family make us who we are, so be proud of yourselves.
And if you ever need to talk to someone who had live through similar but alone, let me know. It’s ironic to me that love is so easily give..... by some and not by others
@@Juju-bm1sh There's alot of wisdom in your comment.
I'm usually a quiet observer, but I'm so proud of your family. You set a good example for us all in rising above and just going for it! Blessings in 2021!!
Elysia, I love you & I'm so proud of y'all! I think you need to raise that goal sister because I believe you will be way past 200k by the end of 2021.
You weren't crying, but I was definitely was crying the last half of the video. So much love to you and Phil & I can't wait to see what you will have on Wild English
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Hi Megan, love what you said to Elysia! Love you too! 💙🤟
Wow you are sooooooo amazing 🤩 such an inspiration for anyone. Take care and stay safe 🤟
I love to see other RUclipsrs that I love inspiring each other.
Megan @Glue Guns & Roses 🌹: Well said 🥰❣ They have accomplished SO MUCH in ONE YEAR❣ I am a subscriber to your channel, but I didn't know you are also a subscriber to Elysia and Phillip's channel.....HOW GREAT IS THAT!?! BOTH of us cheering them on....I absolutely 💯%
L💜VE IT❣
Me too
I can relate. My mom was an alcoholic and my dad wasn’t there. I left home at 17 and never had a relationship with them after. I had a family come into my life at that time and showed me how loving families function. Saved me and showed me how to be a good mom of my 2 grown children. Both parents passed 20+ years ago and the hurt is still there, but dulled. You are both so lucky to have each other as I was too independent to let a man into my life long term, just long enough for my 2 great kids and now a granddaughter. I feel blessed for that. Keep doing what you do and inspiring us.
I love that you were not negative toward your family even though it was clearly painful for you. I'm sure you helped someone today.
Yup, I'm one of them.
I had to let a toxic relationship with my parents go about 5 years ago. I can completely relate to everything you have said. It was a hard decision, it is hard to try to justify it to other family members that don't understand. It feels embarassing to admit to other people that you don't have a relationship with your parents. However the weight off my shoulders - less stress, less anxiety, less tolerating hurt to try to keep the peace has been worth it. I had to decide to choose happiness and protecting my own self first. And to be honest, the past five years have brought positive things to my life and I can't help but believe that when the stress and toxicity are gone, it opens up room in your life for more positive things. Thank you for sharing your story - it is good to know that other people survive this too!
I'm with you. Best decision I ever made.
'But shes your mother!' Was the glue that made me stay so long. It was so hard to break away, but I'm glad for my own sanity, that self preservation finally kicked in!! Again the sooner the better! Xx
Same.
Thank you for sharing your story. I am estranged from two of my 4 siblings. After two lawsuits and my attempts at reconciliation, I realized that their negativity was bringing me down to a very dark place. Soon I knew that the "demands" they tried to impose to allow me back into theirs lives. this was not a healthy relationship.like you, I am in a much better place👍
I sincerely want to say THANK YOU. I have also struggled with family issues, not speaking and the stress. I am 70 years old and I am listening to you and take the first step to do what is right for me. It's time. You are my inspiration ❤
Resilience, often our start in life is shit- but really it’s fertiliser for you to use to grown your own 💐🌷🌺🌹🌼 love you guys
I'm going to use your quote for 2021. Thank you😊
I hope you dont mind thats going in my quote book.
That's brilliant. I'm adopting that one too.
Elysia - Your message is important for others to hear. Thank you so much for sharing.
Elysia It took me years to finally be able to remove myself from toxic family members. I'm happy you have the support you have. You are a wonderful person and you do inspire people. Thank you ❤️
Go where you are CELEBRATED not TOLERATED! I love that, makes a lot of sense and hits ya hard.😎
Positive things "rise" out of negative situations. You guys really deserve all positive things. Who u r is EXACTLY why we love u,
I've had to sever my relationship with my sister for similar reasons. I now have almost no family but the people in my life value me and I value them
Merrill B I had to sever my relationship with my sister as well but my life has been so much calmer and fulfilling. There are people who bring us down because they have the power over us. We have to sever ourselves from these people to survive.
Elysia, if you go back and watch this video again, you will literally see a weight lifted off of your shoulders! You are amazing and worthy of all the good things life has to offer. Here's to 2021 being the best year yet for you and your family!
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"Go where your celebrated, not tolerated." I so love that. I appreciate you sharing your story because it really does remind those of us out here, who've had rough times with our families, that we aren't worthless and we do deserve to be loved. That the love we give is just as meaningful to those we cherish as their love is to us.
Thank you for sharing. 💗
Elysia you are amazing! I ended up on medication due to my family. Since I walked away I've been so content. We all love you, Philip and your boys. ❤❤❤❤
Sending love your way!
@@ElysiaEnglish 🤗
It's their loss. My husband and I have similar scenarios with so called grown up kids. We've had some life altering health issues with no contact form the other side. We support each other and soldier on. You really r better for it. One silver lining is that your boys will ALWAYS be loved and cherished,
Elysia, thank you for coming out about your dysfunctional family situation. I had to make the tough love call early this year and remove myself from toxic relatives. It was hard at first, but the results have been dramatic. Instant stress removal. It's sad when the people we love are so broken that we can't spend time with them, but when we have children, the bigger goal is to protect them by setting a good example. Know that you've done a great service to your beautiful boys by teaching them boundaries. xxoo
My hubby and I were 19 when we fell in love. In 3 weeks it will be 44 years in love. My family dynamics were anything less that perfect with much craziness, lies, etc. and having a great partner makes a world of differences.
Always remember to be true to yourself, never apologize for "protecting" yourself and your family ! Wishing you a year of empowerment and true happiness!
I had to make the same decisions about 25 years ago. It was the best decision for my mental health, my marriage and for letting my child see that you do not have to have people in your life that (in my case) actively treat you badly. Having to make the decision made me sad initially but I am so much happier for it in the long run. Not everyone understands but they don't need to.
Thank you for sharing... I have a similar situation with my Husband’s family so the quote “ go where you are celebrated and not just tolerated “ really helped me... Love Y’all ❤️
Similar situation in that I found out when I was 40 that I’d been lied to my whole life... I lost my sense of identity and thought I’d never recognize my own face again. Thankfully, I found me... I’m glad that you’ve grown stronger as a mother and in your values from what you’ve gone through with your family. We’re here on the other end cheering you on as well!
Omgosh, at least you have come to terms sooner than I ever did...I tried and tried to be 'the good daughter' overdoing everything in my power, to get any kind of recognition, I have been actively doing what you have done, to step away from the struggles/stress/anxiety with family for last few years, finally realizing it's not me...and yes although theres painful times the only thing I wish of this whole thing, it that i wish i took the step away years ago! Glad for you , good for me, happy 2021, all the best is to come!
Go where you are celebrated not just tolerated..... I LOVE that!!
Thanks for sharing.... I know it wasn’t easy. I have a very similar story and it took me a lot more years to realize i needed to cut ties with toxic people.
This was a very useful example about how to move on from a difficult family situation. I relate to it, thanks for sharing!
I am in the same boat with my family and my husband's family, so I completely understand. My husband and I have been together since we were 18 as well and he walked into my life right when I needed someone just like you guys. I think I stumbled onto your page today for a reason. The constant fighting, disrespect....the anxiety was just too much. Like you there is alot to the story...many horrible situations. I grew up in a toxic environment and I decided I wanted more for my 2 boy's. My husband and I made the tough yet easy decision to walk away from our siblings a couple years ago because it was killing me. I am happier without those relationships All of them were just bringing so much negativity into our lives. I also have chronic issues, and when I didn't go above and beyond for people because I physically couldn't I was a "horrible sister". My kindness was constantly taken advantage of and when I put up boundaries I Was a selfish person. I am not a better Mom, a better Wife, a better friend because of it. I have my anxiety under control. I am not having panic attacks anymore. Our children don't have to witness the fighting. Family is not blood...family is what you make it. It doesn't make me sad, just as you said. It doesn't bother me to talk about it. Although, I am sad for my kid's to not have cousin's and aunt's and uncles....BUT they deserve better than the one's that we walked away from because like you... there was no out reach. There would be family gatherings we weren't told about. The other children in our family were always included in things and our children were ignored. We're so much happier. My husband is my everything as well. Our boy's are our world too. Being a Mom is all I ever wanted in life and I can relate to you so much. Looking forward to following your reno's!
So glad you have Phillip and his parents for your family, you deserve to be with a family who loves you.
Oh my God, thank you for sharing. I remember that episode when you're move didn't go through. If you were my daughter I would have flown from Texas just to give you a hug. So glad I am part of your RUclips family. We love you 🤟🤟💓💓💓
Elysia, my goodness! You were so diplomatic and just so graceful. You can see how brilliant you are as a mum and wife in all of your videos. What a beautiful human you are, and your family! ❤️
This video was so timely! I have spent this last year really reflecting and the past 4 years searching my soul for those that truly inspire me and lift me up. I married a man that has three younger sisters who he is more of a father to and a husband to his mother. I often felt like I didn't fit in, but I kept quiet to keep the peace. However, after a death in the family 4 years ago, he grew much too close to his family and I was left behind (after starting to work full time after being a sahm for 12 years). My husband was doing very hurtful things to me and telling me very cruel things about myself that simply weren't true. I have three boys and they were young teens at the time. I realized that I had lived my whole life for my husband and my children and totally lost myself. After fighting so hard for my marriage I finally started focusing more on me and I found myself in a job I loved and it doesn't feel like work. My family has always been family to my husband, but he lost sight of that. This past year I didn't see my in-laws much this year and it has been a blessing. I saw them twice this summer for parties and I couldn't stand to be with them. I didn't go to Thanksgiving due to Covid (my son had it and none of my family should have gone, but they did anyways). I did go to Christmas (which we normally host, but am glad we didn't this year). I didn't interact with my sil's at all and only a little with the others (I would never turn the neice or nephews away) and I had peace. My husband doesn't understand this yet, but things are turning around. He is finally supporting me in going back to school to help him get out of a toxic job and I am praying that I can help him see the toxicity of his family. I have peace and contentment around leaving behind those that don't lift me up. I am teaching my boys that it is okay to stay away from people that aren't safe. Thank you for sharing your difficult story. I found your channel by looking for wood signs and I had no idea what I had come across. Crafting keeps me sane (I sew, paint, decorate, make jewelry, and much more). My mom and dad are both incredibly talented. I look forward to more. I am working on getting healthy both mentally and physically. 2020 was challenging, but I am grateful for the good things that happened.
I never wanted to ask, but I did wonder about Elysia's family. "Tolerated, not celebrated". You two ARE an inspiration. Thanks for sharing. I love being a tiny part of your lives. You guys are awesome! Authenticity is, sadly, rare these days. You two are authentic! (Home Hardware must be like Ace Hardware in the US.) Good on you for wanting to eat more healthy. It's honestly not that expensive. I eat keto and don't spend anymore money in my budget than before. You can do it! I've been doing keto for over 4 years. Yes, get on a food schedule. I'd like to see that in your videos.
I wish I could meet more friends in their 60s and 70s. I feel pretty isolated.
@A. Northrup Thanks. I'm on FB, but I don't like it, and during this time many are afraid to gather.
Thanks! I appreciate you and your honesty and sharing. I relate to some of your family situations. You are so strong! Thanks again
I lost my family.. they wrote me off... but God has brought people into my life to be my family! So proud of you for surrounding yourself with Love!
Life is complicated.💝
You’ve allowed your circumstances to make you better, not bitter. Phillip and his family are a great example of how family should be. ❤️
I know how you feel exactly. It’s a difficult road when you realize that you don’t matter to those who should love you. I know that heaviness. But for me, the twenty years apart in estrangement has been my happiest and most authentically real. Most people who come from happy families don’t really understand how challenging it is. But for me, it taught me exactly who I don’t want to be , as a human, wife, mother ,and friend.
Don’t look back, girlfriend, you’re not going that way. You are not alone. And I have a Phillip too, but his name is Ken🥰. I live by “surround your with people who uplift you, whose presence call forth your best.” Peace to you, you found your truth.
Peggy, so true.
Your story is my story too.
Beautiful said!
Yes❤
So true! Beautifully said 💓
Thank you for sharing your difficult story. I can’t help but think there is someone who’s heart is resonating with your story. That is a special kind of ministry. Proud of you.
I felt like you were talking right to me tonight. I cried because I felt like you were a true friend a person who actually cared in a battle I feel so alone in. Thank you for giving me the words I so desperately needed to hear. You two are such wonderful people that give so much by just allowing us to share and learn from you. I love your content and really is the only “ tv” I even watch. Anyways I’m so going to be right there with you taking care of my body and mind this year.
Elysia, I am glad that you feel the love and support of your RUclips Family. I know this was not easy for you to do (as it would not have been for me either.) We share in our hurts and successes with friends and this draws us closer to one another. So thankful that Philip has been a great support to you. You and your family are such a loving, caring, helping, fun family. I know I am learning much from y'all, not only in projects, crafts, etc., but (more importantly) in caring, growing and loving your family as individuals. I am excited for your family and all these dreams and goals you have set and are accomplishing. God bless each of y'all
I dont normally comment but your so brave opening up to the whole world about your biological family you should be so proud of how far you have come the family you have now around you is amazing i wish i could find a phillip just like yours so my thing to work on this year is to try and think more positive and get my mental health going the right way love you guys x
When I went through something similar I received the best advice ever, "walk away", I did and what a difference it made to my life, keep strong you have a lovely family and they will never have to go through what you have because the love you both have for your boys shines. God Bless.
I so needed to hear this today! Not just with family, but with work, who sometimes you spend more time with that family! Thank you for sharing your story. There are so many positives that come from troubled times if we can be patient enough to find them.
What an amazing and vulnerable video, thank you so much for sharing your story, Elysia! I can relate (not 100% the same, but similar) and I know how difficult it can be when family relationships break down. I'm sure I speak for your entire RUclips Family when I say how happy I am that you and Phillip have each other. I know that even the lives that 'look' perfect on camera, rarely are, but it's plain to anyone who watches the two of you together that you are completely in love with each other, and that you support each other completely.
Can't wait to see the health-journey content on Wild English!! XO
Trust me sweetie you're not alone I for one feel you I've been thru family issues also keep moving forward 2021 positive vibes
She so beautiful in side and out wow we love u ! 🥰🥂
You have an amazing family and your birth family is losing out. You're an incredibly talented person and just imagine what amazing grandchildren they're missing out on. I went through a very unwanted divorce and wasn't accepting it well at all. My brother said such a simple thing but very profound. He asked, Why do you want someone who doesn't want you at all? Once I digested what he said, It made so much sense to me and was a huge help. I was finally able to pickup and start over. I love my life now and if I was able to survive, anyone can.
Happy New Year
Thank you for sharing your story! I have also distanced myself from my "so called" family (my brother & 2 sisters). I was told since I was little that I was adopted & that my dad is not my dad, but no one in the "family" will confirm or deny if it's true...not even my mom. I'm trying to figure it out on my own. The family has many other secrets that have came to light over the years which makes me wonder where I come from.
@Mary Bauers You came from Heaven as one of God’s children. My youngest is adopted and I forget I didn’t give birth to her, because she is mine and I’ve loved her and wanted her since before she was born. Adoptive children, even when loved, for some reason feel something is missing. I have discovered this much to my dismay. One just has to choose happiness, I think. One has to choose love of self and believe that being alive is reason enough to love oneself, because our eternal spirits were created by a loving Heavenly Father. We are innately lovable or at least have the capacity to be. If we are blessed by a loving family, we have the greatest treasure. If we are not blessed by a loving birth family, we can choose to surround ourselves with people to love, and be loved by them as well. Life is complicated, but love is simple: you just enjoy being with others and choose to surround yourself with people who want to be around you. And you can keep offering love and acceptance of others because you don’t have to run out of love to give. When you discover a blank wall instead of reciprocated love, turn around and you will discover someone else is in need of your attention and kindness. Just because WE love someone, there is not a guarantee we will be loved in return. But loving/being kind to others can make us happy and help us feel complete. Some people just are not capable of returning it. But it is okay because there are many wonderful people in the world and many will find something in you to love. Being a loving and accepting person can draw like minded people to you and you can be happy.
@@janetbyrne7765 I have my 3 children & 13 grandchildren as my family. The family I grew up with haven't been part of my life for a very long time, my choice. However, I still want to know the truth.
@@marybauers3104 yes, the truth is there and sometimes you can find the truth through legal records if you can’t get it other ways. It would be great if it were easy for you. Good luck, my friend,
Thank you for sharing, I have had a strained relationship with some of my family. Toxic. I did not speak to my father for 8 years and I finally let him back in my life about a year and a half ago, I felt we both had grown during this time away. He ended up passing away 13 months later. I wish we would of had more time, but when you have a toxic relationship you need to step away and I would still make the same decision if I had to do over. I wish the best for you and your family. 💜💜💜
Elysia , your not alone and thanks for validating how I have felt my whole life of not being worthy to my family and the disconnect I also had to make with my family. I was more important to my husband family also. I am trying every day to be the best wife and mother to my children, been married 34 years so with that said I have done something right! Love you guys🤗
I watch almost every video, and I enjoy each one. This one though brought tears to my eyes. Thank you for your "frankness" about your family. The dynamics of a family can be so darn tricky, I know! God Bless all of you. I admire you both and your positive attitudes. Keep it up, you're teaching your boys so much everyday!
Good for you! You need to protect your energy. All that anxious and stress is not worth carrying on! Good to teach your kids to make family with the people who support you, not just people who you grew up with.
Serenity comes with letting go of a toxic past. Continue to walk in the light for you and your family
I am so proud of you for being able to separate yourself from a toxic relationship. Not that me being proud of you is important, but I just thought I would let you know that I would love to have you as a daughter. You are an amazing woman.
you are so precious, your story is a mirror image of mine. Do you, do YOUR family.
So proud of you for sharing this. My story is so similar. The details are, of course, different, but the basic template is the same. I understand what a difficult path you, Elisha, have had to navigate with your family and so glad you have Phillip to walk the path with you. I also have been amazingly blessed with a great man for a husband and wouldn't have made it through without him. Good men are precious! Bless you and your family. Thanks for the genuine inspiration.
OMG.. I did this a few years ago and I felt such freedom. It was always a one way street with my family. Proud of you and proud of me! Keep rockin' girl
Thank you for sharing your story. In a lot of ways it reminds me of my own life. I hope someday I can really find peace with my life. I will be 64 years old in 12 days so I hope peace comes soon. God bless you!!!
You will find peace Betty, you are amazing, never forget it, and just be the best you, you could ever be for your children/friends and the one who truly appreciate who you are....an amazing woman!
Elysia, I love and appreciate your sharing. The heartache will fade, yet rear its own ugly head on occasion. Having walked in similar shoes, I completely understand. You are super blessed to have such a loving, caring husband and his family. Keep moving forward with your head up. Your bio family has lost such a wonderful person. Love and hugs from Florida!
So glad you two found each other! You are clearly making family your priority and you are sending love out into the world. It is inspiring to hear you share what you have learned and how you choose to live. Thank you.
There are SO many people out there that went thru similar things to your situation. Thank you so much for sharing and giving people hope. 🤟🏻🤟🏻🤟🏻🤟🏻🤟🏻💕❤️💕
For 2 days I have been feeling so down wondering we’re do I want my life to go I have just bumped into your video and loved how happy you guys were talking and joking on your video .... love it.that I got stuck then I listened to your story and it felt like you were talking to me God bless and thanks for your message.
I have always told my parents, be thankful for those who showed up, and not focus on those who didn't. This is in regards to family gathering. Phillip is your best friend as it should be, your support and lean on that. You got this 👍💕
Hi E..Thank you for sharing . E, rest at ease, your story is very ,very common. In my line of business, I hear the same story at times laden with physical emotional abuse. Many do not have significant others nor in laws to support them. It was brave of you to get this out of your chest. It’s ok… no worries . Here for you.
Thanks for sharing your life with us, you have a wonderful family and I am blessed to be a part of your RUclips family, God bless you all. Honestly I would watch any content you put out 😂 stick with you through fat and thin xx
hahah thanks Linda :)
I can’t thank you enough for sharing your story with us. 2020 was a very hard year for me where I did have to take a step back from a few people in my family, after years of anxiety and struggle. I’m seeing things in a different light now. As scary as those decisions were, it’s nice to know there is light and good on the other side. ❤️
Elysia you are a strong Queen! Continue to RISE above all negativity & away from where you're not celebrated. I would love to see from start to finish the home gym as well as before & after photos of your workout/body/healthy lifestyle on the Wild English Channel. I'm working towards a goal & you will inspire me. Great video & wonderful family!!
Family relationships can be so challenging! I adored my parents! Sadly, both of them are deceased. My younger brother and I were always very different people. Without my parents to bring us together, my brother basically decided he didn't need my husband, daughter and me. I let it eat me up for a long time. It was difficult to release the idea that he and I would be close, but I simply no longer could spare the emotional energy. While I cannot say that I feel good about it, there is much less stress and anxiety, which is better for my little family. ❤️
My brother hasn’t spoken to me in about 4 years....no idea but I finally decided they were his issues, not mine..
That took courage and God bless you! God has amazing plans for each one of us and best of all he sent His Son Jesus to be our Saviour and to give us an eternal home in heaven to all who accept His free gift of salvation. May your 2021 be the best year yet!
You have inspired me with your story. I have made the decision myself not to have a relationship with my mother have not spoke to her in over a year. I feel like a much better person myself.
Thank you for sharing your truth. You are absolutely not alone. I share some of the difficult family dynamics, too. Getting to the point of severing negative relationships is a difficult, but very freeing, decision. The bravery needed to release the pain AND TALK ABOUT IT, is huge. Welcome to the other (peaceful) side where people LOVE and VALUE you! 🌸😊💕
I’m estranged from my family as well - just decided I didn’t need the toxicity in my life anymore.
Sometimes it’s the right path - I have an amazing life now, no family stress.
Same here. Here's a ❤️ just for you. :)
I seriously love your authenticity. Much love and hugs for you and your family. Thanks for being so open and amazing. 😘 We need ALL the content before and after on your basement Reno. Can’t wait!!! 👏🏻
I agree 100%! I am in a non relationship with my only living family member and it has made my life in the past 3 years so much better!! The anxiety and the stress is gone!!
"Family" has nothing to do with "blood" and everything to do with "love". Thank you so much for sharing -- you've really helped me.
I could write a book about what you have said. What I learned from my difficult family relationship is that I can do better with my kids and husband. I have had such a happy little family without the drama, and ugly behavior. God graced you with Phillip at just the perfect time in your life.You are brave, kind, loving and so very charming.
Wish you family healthy and better future for 2021. Keep up a good energy that i feel while watching your video.
For those of us that are doing health and wellness and weight loss this year... maybe we can all do it together! Like check in with each other or a vlog a month or where we check in for accountability, etc. I think that would be really cool!
You're amazing! I'm proud of you. You're looking out for your family and your mental health above toxic relationships. Sending positive vibes.
PS: Your hubby is pretty amazing too.
You are a Champion, Elysia. We talk about abuse and mistreatment that occurs outside the family quite readily but not when it occurs within.
My husband and I got married at 19. We are still are married and love each. 41 years later. Your boys see your love and respect for each other. They will grow to be Fantastic men . They are already great kids! Love the channel. Thank you for Sharing this. I'm from Oklahoma.
I get it, and it's ok. I had to do the exact same thing many, many years ago. There has been a price to pay but worth it.
I've learned I have a huge family, called friends ❤️
Elysia, you are an old soul for you to know when you have to walk away from an unhealthy situation. You, Phillip and your boys have created “your” life and look what a beautiful life you have! ❤️
I have been thinking about my relationship with myself so much lately and I decided I need to treat me better. It’s such a hard thing to do because we have all learned how to tolerate abuse. Family or not all relationships need to be reciprocal at least to some degree. So happy for you Elysia
This is awesome! I have experienced similar things with family. It was the hardest thing to go through because you would think family would be your biggest support but when they are the opposite you have to do what’s best for you! The stress and anxiety is not worth it. It has taken a long time for me to be ok with with everything that happened but every day is a step in the right direction. The family I and my husband created is #1. Thank you for sharing your story. I really enjoy your channel!
Thanks 💖You really put your heart and soul into this channel. After all the hard work you put into house and camper, it seams you are on a good foundation (ignore the dungeon for now) to address the damage in your family. As you know, sometimes no amount of spackle compound will fix something that can only be ripped off. It has been very lovely to see your husband come out from behind the camera. It is good to show how supportive, and funny he is. Nevertheless, I loved the sheshack building video 💪👍🤟Go building the healthy body in 2021 yeah!!!! 👏👏👏👏👏 Cheering you on!
You guys are so great together. Love to you both! You encouraged me to start moving forward with my creative goals! Great video guys. Love the maker community! So positive. Hopefully others can follow our example!!!❤❤❤❤
Im in the same situation in my life with my family, and to hear u today has made my day! Thank you so much!
I love you 2 so much!! We will rise to our lives. This year on Dec 31st, 2021 at 10:30pm, my husband and I will have been married for 30 years.
Thank you soft sharing your story with us. The authenticity you’ve shown is nothing short of inspiring.
I loved this video. Blessings to you and your family in the New Year!❤️
You are right we only have this life and need to let go of negative situations and move forward to a better place! I look forward of moving into 2021 with your beautiful family! ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Thank you for sharing and we are so happy that youve been able to overcome these tribulations with someone who really shares life with you! You must take care of yourselves so we always have you. Enjoy 2021.