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Thank you! My great husband and I are a few steps in to fighting fair. We are married 23 years and learned a lot. We are not perfect and have each our own faulds. I let my emotions (even if they are not good)get the better of me, my husband makes mistakes to. But most of your recomandations we abide by. Thanks for your videos and greatings from Holland.
Thank you, Father, for your words of wisdom. I desire to be Orthodox, but my wife is against it. Please pray for us. Dan and Cathy. God bless you and your ministry. ❤
It may sound stupid but how I got my friends to join me in the Liturgy is I kept giving them food from monastery which was so good they had to try for themselves 😂. Tell your loved one about the community that the church offers, lead by example, don't force it and if she can see that it benefits you and fulfills your soul she will be curious and hopefully join you. I have a similar situation in my family so I just do it without pushing anyone to join me. But always be prepared with strong arguments as to why do you go to church (some people will "G check you")
It's important to tell people, boundaries are lines you draw for YOURSELF, that YOU won't cross. Trying to draw lines for others creates conflict. Other people have to draw lines for themselves, and if they won't, and they're trying to set boundaries for you, you can't have a fulfilling relationship.
Being at a protestant church, we saw a guy who was a marriage pastor so to speak, and he also said don’t ever go to bed angry. If you do, you will wake up 10 times as angry as you were when you went to sleep and you might not even remember what you were angry about in the first place it just magnifies exponentially the problem, so there were times when my wife and I would stay up till two or three in the morning talking things out even when we had to get up at six or so to go to work, so yeah I don’t ever go to bed angry
I have mixed feelings about this. Usually I wake up with a clearer head and am able to make peace. Sometimes dragging it on while we’re tired just makes us more angry. I don’t know
Thank you father for you advice. I have a question. Sometimes, I get so upset that I just need a break. My husband is a talkative person (one of the reasons I love him), and sometimes it's overwhelming when we're disagreeing. Is it wrong that I ask for a break, to cool down, then once I'm calm rewritten to the conversation?
I hope that you have found an answer through prayer ❤ I think it’s absolutely acceptable and correct to express this need to your husband. Following Saint John Chrysostom & Fr. Josiah: tell your husband that you love him very much, and because you love him very much, you don’t want to become so overwhelmed by emotion/heat/pressure of the disagreement & say anything that would hurt him/would not lead to the resolution of the disagreement. I think this also honors the quote; “it is wise to hold the tongue.” Just let your husband know with as much love & calmness as you can muster, that you’re not ready to respond with a clear mind/heart. Prayer with prostrations is great medicine. God sends us great love in all places and if you feel like going outside, I am often comforted by birdsong and sitting near water. Tears are usually what we need instead of expressing anger. ♥️ God Bless you & your husband with many edifying years! 🙏☦️
When you say that “love in my marriage, can endure forever” do you mean that if I follow the ways of the orthodox Church I can still be married to my wife after I die? I’m not being a jerk….I would like that….., I would do anything to stay married to my wife for eternity. She’s the best.
Father, as a retired US Army Light Infantry Squad Leader, I don't believe in fighting fair. I'll argue fairly, reasonably, respectfully, debate... but "fight"? I save that for enemies of God and those who mean harm to innocents. I don't "fight" fair because when I "fight," I fight to win, no matter what. It's how I've been trained. It's how I'm wired. That's not the best attitude for dealing with my wife.
My husband retired is a Submarine Comander( only Orthodox in the fleet). Need I say more? He is the 3D chess champion and stealth fighter! He will quietly patiently wait and calculate, wait, and then attack when you least expect it. You never know what happened!😂 These men are quiet, reserved, tacticle thinkers.
Semantics, look past the title and listen to the message my friend. For most of us, we call it a fight when an argument happens. Have some grace with those of us who didn't serve.
@@diananoonen2262 I'll never claim to be a poet warrior. Stealth, Speed, surprise, and violence of action saves lives. I fight dirty. I fight to destroy the enemy.
They are all in the word of Lord God Christ Jesus. No need for a man writes book about marriage. The Word and rules of Lord God, are absolute and eternal. Stop smoking dope.!!.
*Buy "Enduring Love: Laying Christian Foundations for Marriage" HERE or in description :*
- Amazon: www.amazon.com/Enduring-Love-...
- Barnes & Noble: www.barnesandnoble.com/w/endu...
Thank you! My great husband and I are a few steps in to fighting fair. We are married 23 years and learned a lot. We are not perfect and have each our own faulds. I let my emotions (even if they are not good)get the better of me, my husband makes mistakes to. But most of your recomandations we abide by. Thanks for your videos and greatings from Holland.
Thank you, Father, for your words of wisdom. I desire to be Orthodox, but my wife is against it. Please pray for us. Dan and Cathy. God bless you and your ministry. ❤
Hi brother. Why would she be against it ? Is she of the Protestant denominations? Or a non believer?
@@sidelias Lutheran. Refuses to even learn about Orthodoxy.
Need a miracle.
It may sound stupid but how I got my friends to join me in the Liturgy is I kept giving them food from monastery which was so good they had to try for themselves 😂. Tell your loved one about the community that the church offers, lead by example, don't force it and if she can see that it benefits you and fulfills your soul she will be curious and hopefully join you. I have a similar situation in my family so I just do it without pushing anyone to join me. But always be prepared with strong arguments as to why do you go to church (some people will "G check you")
@user-fh6mm6rk9y thank you for sharing your thoughts 🙏 For now, my wife refuses to even let me attend an Orthodox service
It's important to tell people, boundaries are lines you draw for YOURSELF, that YOU won't cross. Trying to draw lines for others creates conflict. Other people have to draw lines for themselves, and if they won't, and they're trying to set boundaries for you, you can't have a fulfilling relationship.
Being at a protestant church, we saw a guy who was a marriage pastor so to speak, and he also said don’t ever go to bed angry. If you do, you will wake up 10 times as angry as you were when you went to sleep and you might not even remember what you were angry about in the first place it just magnifies exponentially the problem, so there were times when my wife and I would stay up till two or three in the morning talking things out even when we had to get up at six or so to go to work, so yeah I don’t ever go to bed angry
I have mixed feelings about this. Usually I wake up with a clearer head and am able to make peace. Sometimes dragging it on while we’re tired just makes us more angry. I don’t know
Glory be to God! Life saving!
Thank you, father! It is the gift of orthodox USA to orthodox Serbia! Thanks to God!
So beautiful, fair and easy to follow! Thanks for this lectures!
No, not easy to follow! Try to keep your emotions under controle f.e. it is not easy!
Father, please make your book available digitally as an e-book for those of us who are not in the US.
Or Audible reading. Would be great if Father narrated himself.
Thank you,love you from Russia☦️♥️
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This is so inspiring for myself in my marriage. I have so much to grow, lord have mercy. Thank you father, God bless.
So great to hear again from you father. Always a pleasure, may God bless.
Thank you, this is wonderful. I will take this with me!
I thank God for you Father. You are a great blessing.
Just got your new book in Audible. Can’t wait to listen to it.
May your book help many, Father. ❤
Already received* the book shipment through Amazon. Love it!
GOLDEN!
This book is amazing! Thank you 🙏🏻
Thank you so much
Wonderful video, thank you
Amazing advice!
Precisely 💯✔
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#15
Don't ever seek counsel from a secular therapist or "psychologist".
Yeah was looking for a cbt and asked her faith
She said no faith
So I hung up
God is my therapist
Could someone link the forementioned video about 12 rules of traditional courtship?
Thank you father for you advice. I have a question. Sometimes, I get so upset that I just need a break. My husband is a talkative person (one of the reasons I love him), and sometimes it's overwhelming when we're disagreeing. Is it wrong that I ask for a break, to cool down, then once I'm calm rewritten to the conversation?
I meant *revisit, not rewrite lol
I hope that you have found an answer through prayer ❤ I think it’s absolutely acceptable and correct to express this need to your husband. Following Saint John Chrysostom & Fr. Josiah: tell your husband that you love him very much, and because you love him very much, you don’t want to become so overwhelmed by emotion/heat/pressure of the disagreement & say anything that would hurt him/would not lead to the resolution of the disagreement. I think this also honors the quote; “it is wise to hold the tongue.” Just let your husband know with as much love & calmness as you can muster, that you’re not ready to respond with a clear mind/heart. Prayer with prostrations is great medicine. God sends us great love in all places and if you feel like going outside, I am often comforted by birdsong and sitting near water. Tears are usually what we need instead of expressing anger. ♥️ God Bless you & your husband with many edifying years! 🙏☦️
When you say that “love in my marriage, can endure forever” do you mean that if I follow the ways of the orthodox Church I can still be married to my wife after I die? I’m not being a jerk….I would like that….., I would do anything to stay married to my wife for eternity. She’s the best.
How beautiful! May God bless your marriage!
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The links do not work.
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Something something, the kingdom of heaven suffereth violence. lol
The much needed substitute for a missing Roosh V, very similar mannerisms and habits of speech. I think Roosh got his style from bather Josiah
Father, as a retired US Army Light Infantry Squad Leader, I don't believe in fighting fair.
I'll argue fairly, reasonably, respectfully, debate... but "fight"? I save that for enemies of God and those who mean harm to innocents. I don't "fight" fair because when I "fight," I fight to win, no matter what. It's how I've been trained. It's how I'm wired. That's not the best attitude for dealing with my wife.
My husband retired is a Submarine Comander( only Orthodox in the fleet).
Need I say more?
He is the 3D chess champion and stealth fighter! He will quietly patiently wait and calculate, wait, and then attack when you least expect it. You never know what happened!😂
These men are quiet, reserved, tacticle thinkers.
Semantics, look past the title and listen to the message my friend. For most of us, we call it a fight when an argument happens. Have some grace with those of us who didn't serve.
@@idonemessedupaaron "Fight" = combat.
Bickering is bickering.
@@diananoonen2262 I'll never claim to be a poet warrior. Stealth, Speed, surprise, and violence of action saves lives. I fight dirty. I fight to destroy the enemy.
sorry to offend, I hope you can see the teaching just the same@@brotherbrovet1881
They are all in the word of Lord God Christ Jesus. No need for a man writes book about marriage. The Word and rules of Lord God, are absolute and eternal. Stop smoking dope.!!.
Father what do you think about doing mma as a orthodox Christian? Not for fame or more but to glory Christ