Welcome Framily! This is one of the BEST conversations I had on I WAS HER, get some popcorn, and watch to the very end. You don’t wanna miss a moment of this one. Let me know what you think in the comments and be sure to subscribe my channel! I’m posting content as frequently as possible and don’t want you to miss one bit! ❤️
Phenomenal interview. Shout out to my brother. The 🇭🇹 Haitian fam in the building of course rapping NYC always💯💯. As for Sam no Haitian are not crazy while not the ones condition. I am Haitian more American base but my parents are from Haiti people like my brother here don't even know else I inform them.
Real talk, as a super cool fly guy with options. My sistah you are sooo fine, encouraging and 10 toes down in reality that you have given a brutha hope!! Not many like you out here. When I finish building my empire and can focus emotionally on becoming one, I pray the Most High God of Israel bless me with a real one that move like you. Keep shining and spitting jewels.
This was truly an in-depth interview of great insight. I just loved it and have sent it to several family members and colleagues already. I didn't agree with every single word, but I still loved it a lot. For one thing however, I'm in my sixties, have been around the block several times, which includes two divorces. As a result, I can say without flinching that love, true love that is, does take time and can't be spontaneous. God-bless you both, and may you continue to nurture and tend to God's people as he has appointed you to do so.
I really needed to hear this. As a man that prided himself on being a good Dad, and man to a woman I felt deserved it. I was wrong. I think my forgiving heart may have taught my Son to stay when he should leave. I'm going to actually go to my therapy session.
When we have so many conditions on relationships, dating, interviewing,... how do successful people get beyond the fear of interdependence? Many successful people are more married to work than a promise, faith, working thru the process of getting to know, growing, and showing the true self.
This one just popped up again on my television. I’ll say this . The more you all speak of problems, hypothetically, and people hypothetically l, the more idealistic and metaphysical these things and people become simultaneously. That being the case, you are now dealing with an invisible man or woman and being left to your imagination . The only way to escape is to enter the storm . You can’t beat the storm before it comes , it doesn’t work like that. your man will have problems, your woman will have problems, you will also come with problems, No matter how many solutions you believe you have on the front end. Relationships are about exposure and revelation , and that will never be defeated. That is all.. Oh, Samantha, you look amazing here, and that top looks great on you.. Bye..
It’s okay to just say thank you Samantha. You seem as if you’re waiting to be flattered , which comes off as disingenuous. Sometimes simply saying thank you is much better. It’s a sign of humility within a being that struggles with being beautiful. The expectation of flattery is a sign of the opposite,and points to a completely different, but similar struggle ..
What about when dating where there is no title you want to be exclusive but they aren’t unless there’s a title. Does that mess with a true connection ?
I hate seeing older people staying in marriages that have been abusive for 39 plus years. It’s truly sad! Where are all the healthy marriages to look up too?
Sam, what did this title actually mean? Was he not speaking before? I don’t get it ..🤷🏽♂️ Maybe I’m nitpicking here ,but I just don’t get it.. Was he being silenced or something? If so, I know what that is like .. So maybe I get that …
Gotta disagree with my brotha on this one. "Feeling(s)" is the most deceptive, unpredictable, unstable and unreliable attribute mankind suffers from today. Feelings change with the wind. Go by your feelings...you'll end up jobless, uneducated, homeless, selfish, etc i.e, a horrible mate. Godly obedience truth , honor, respect and duty over feelings all day.
I've been in therapy for 3 years now. I grew up in a family of high achievers. Both my parents are doctors, I have two brothers who are doctors, and I have another brother and sister who are engineers. I'm a successful journeyman electrician. Our parents taught us how to be successful career wise, and my parents have had a successful marriage, being married for almost 45 years. But they never taught us how to resolve conflict, or understand how to express our feelings in a healthy way. There weren't a lot of "I love you" being expressed in our household. Our parents loved us, but they did not have the tools, or did they give us the tools to verbalize when we were sad, or mad, or hurt. We internalized a lot of our feelings, and now as black man who was conditioned to "suck it up" or "don't show weakness or vulnerability", I've had to learn through a lot of therapy, how to identify what I'm feeling, and communicate that emotion with my wife, as well as with other people who I have close relationships with. My therapist told me that feelings are like data or information that we can use to understand what is going on with our body. Being thirsty is a feeling, and what our body is telling us when we're thirsty is that we need to hydrate ourselves. We don't ignore this feeling, we use this feeling of thirst as data to understand what our body is telling us. One of the most important moments I've had with my son so far in his life was when my son was 2 years old. He was running down the hallway of our house, and he suddenly tripped and fell, and he hit his head on the floor. He looked up at me and I could see that he was hurt, but he was holding back himself from crying. I knew right then that this was an important moment for the both of us, and what my response would be to him would impact the way he reacts to these moments for the rest of his life. So I told him, "son, it is ok for you to cry when you get hurt". And after that, he released his emotions and started to cry. I embraced him, I held his feelings and I gave him the space he needed to express his feelings outwardly. Now moving forward, I'm feeling more confident that when my son gets older, when he's feeling hurt, or mad, or disappointed, or frustrated, that he will feel safe enough to come to me, and talk about how he's feeling. I've learned that everyone has feelings, because we're human beings, and feelings aren't a sign of weakness, and it is important to understand why you react the way you do when someone says or does something to you. Feelings are just data, and information. I recommend looking up Plutchik's Wheel of emotions. If you can get better at understanding the range of emotions that you have and what those feelings are trying to tell you, it helps make you a better overall person. I'm a better husband, a better father, a better son, and a better friend because I've added the tools of being able to understand why I'm having certain feelings in specific situations, and I understand where my reaction to those situations comes from. Ultimately I've become a more authentic person by gaining emotional intelligence, and I'll continue to work in this area of my life to keep growing. I hope that I've added some value to better understanding what feelings and emotions are to us as individuals and human beings.
Should you just pursue someone that wants to be exclusive too or work with the other person that may not see exclusiveness the same but is looking for a relationship
Welcome Framily! This is one of the BEST conversations I had on I WAS HER, get some popcorn, and watch to the very end. You don’t wanna miss a moment of this one. Let me know what you think in the comments and be sure to subscribe my channel! I’m posting content as frequently as possible and don’t want you to miss one bit! ❤️
Phenomenal interview. Shout out to my brother. The 🇭🇹 Haitian fam in the building of course rapping NYC always💯💯. As for Sam no Haitian are not crazy while not the ones condition. I am Haitian more American base but my parents are from Haiti people like my brother here don't even know else I inform them.
I follow Stephan and have to say this was one of his best informative talks!
thank you! glad you enjoyed it! ♥
Healing is the key to healthy and happy relationship.🔥
Absolutely! It makes you a better version of yourself for you and your partner ❤️
@@LoveSamanthaLee Yes Ma’am❣️
This is a PHENOMENAL SESSION. Great lessons learned. Thanks Samantha❤
I saw a clip on YT short and had to listen to the full episode. This was very very insightful. I love your spirit. Well done, you two.
Glad you found it!! 😊❤️
Real talk, as a super cool fly guy with options. My sistah you are sooo fine, encouraging and 10 toes down in reality that you have given a brutha hope!! Not many like you out here. When I finish building my empire and can focus emotionally on becoming one, I pray the Most High God of Israel bless me with a real one that move like you. Keep shining and spitting jewels.
This was truly an in-depth interview of great insight. I just loved it and have sent it to several family members and colleagues already. I didn't agree with every single word, but I still loved it a lot. For one thing however, I'm in my sixties, have been around the block several times, which includes two divorces. As a result, I can say without flinching that love, true love that is, does take time and can't be spontaneous. God-bless you both, and may you continue to nurture and tend to God's people as he has appointed you to do so.
Much respect to both of y’all 🫡👑
Thank you for this! Here with my popcorn
♥ enjoy!
I really needed to hear this. As a man that prided himself on being a good Dad, and man to a woman I felt deserved it. I was wrong. I think my forgiving heart may have taught my Son to stay when he should leave. I'm going to actually go to my therapy session.
Sorry to hear this Ray. Don’t beat yourself up about it. ❤️❤️ I’m a strong advocate for therapy
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SAMANTHA SEEMS SO PERFECT...
What a beautiful insightful sharing 🔥🔥🔥 thank you both🙏
Sure no problem. Thanks for watching! ❤️
@@LoveSamanthaLee it was my pleasure and will keep my eyes on your channel🙏🙏🙏
MORE, GREAT INSIGHT, into a good Relationship.
yes mam, thanks for watching ♥
Great content and perspectives 👌🏽👌🏽
thank you! more content on the way ♥
I really enjoyed this. 💖💖
Thanks for watching! ❤️❤️
Good video, I agree with stephan.
Thanks for watching!
When we have so many conditions on relationships, dating, interviewing,... how do successful people get beyond the fear of interdependence? Many successful people are more married to work than a promise, faith, working thru the process of getting to know, growing, and showing the true self.
Shout from New York
Heyyyy there!
I pick up on majority everything.🔥
This one just popped up again on my television.
I’ll say this .
The more you all speak of problems, hypothetically, and people hypothetically l, the more idealistic and metaphysical these things and people become simultaneously.
That being the case, you are now dealing with an invisible man or woman and being left to your imagination .
The only way to escape is to enter the storm .
You can’t beat the storm before it comes , it doesn’t work like that.
your man will have problems, your woman will have problems, you will also come with problems, No matter how many solutions you believe you have on the front end.
Relationships are about exposure and revelation , and that will never be defeated.
That is all..
Oh, Samantha, you look amazing here, and that top looks great on you..
Bye..
It seems like, what your saying is that, true love is SPIRITUAL.
there should also be action behind it ♥
Just now eating,,,brown rice, bake Mac n cheese, fry broccoli, fry cauliflower, lettuce n tomatoes,,avocado,,soda 🌚💋❤️🤔
It’s okay to just say thank you Samantha.
You seem as if you’re waiting to be flattered , which comes off as disingenuous.
Sometimes simply saying thank you is much better.
It’s a sign of humility within a being that struggles with being beautiful.
The expectation of flattery is a sign of the opposite,and points to a completely different, but similar struggle ..
❤️❤️
♥
What about when dating where there is no title you want to be exclusive but they aren’t unless there’s a title. Does that mess with a true connection ?
🙏
🙂
I hate seeing older people staying in marriages that have been abusive for 39 plus years. It’s truly sad!
Where are all the healthy marriages to look up too?
It is very sad. We as a society need to showcase the healthy marriages more ❤️
@@LoveSamanthaLee AMEN❤️
What if a spouse cheats is that a choice or is that real love or infatuation
Sam, what did this title actually mean?
Was he not speaking before?
I don’t get it ..🤷🏽♂️
Maybe I’m nitpicking here ,but I just don’t get it..
Was he being silenced or something?
If so, I know what that is like ..
So maybe I get that …
❤
thanks for watching 😀
Love takes, time, but what about True Love?
It can be argued that it’s instant. Check out the full video ❤️
Gotta disagree with my brotha on this one. "Feeling(s)" is the most deceptive, unpredictable, unstable and unreliable attribute mankind suffers from today. Feelings change with the wind. Go by your feelings...you'll end up jobless, uneducated, homeless, selfish, etc i.e, a horrible mate. Godly obedience truth , honor, respect and duty over feelings all day.
❤️❤️
I've been in therapy for 3 years now. I grew up in a family of high achievers. Both my parents are doctors, I have two brothers who are doctors, and I have another brother and sister who are engineers. I'm a successful journeyman electrician. Our parents taught us how to be successful career wise, and my parents have had a successful marriage, being married for almost 45 years. But they never taught us how to resolve conflict, or understand how to express our feelings in a healthy way. There weren't a lot of "I love you" being expressed in our household. Our parents loved us, but they did not have the tools, or did they give us the tools to verbalize when we were sad, or mad, or hurt. We internalized a lot of our feelings, and now as black man who was conditioned to "suck it up" or "don't show weakness or vulnerability", I've had to learn through a lot of therapy, how to identify what I'm feeling, and communicate that emotion with my wife, as well as with other people who I have close relationships with. My therapist told me that feelings are like data or information that we can use to understand what is going on with our body. Being thirsty is a feeling, and what our body is telling us when we're thirsty is that we need to hydrate ourselves. We don't ignore this feeling, we use this feeling of thirst as data to understand what our body is telling us. One of the most important moments I've had with my son so far in his life was when my son was 2 years old. He was running down the hallway of our house, and he suddenly tripped and fell, and he hit his head on the floor. He looked up at me and I could see that he was hurt, but he was holding back himself from crying. I knew right then that this was an important moment for the both of us, and what my response would be to him would impact the way he reacts to these moments for the rest of his life. So I told him, "son, it is ok for you to cry when you get hurt". And after that, he released his emotions and started to cry. I embraced him, I held his feelings and I gave him the space he needed to express his feelings outwardly. Now moving forward, I'm feeling more confident that when my son gets older, when he's feeling hurt, or mad, or disappointed, or frustrated, that he will feel safe enough to come to me, and talk about how he's feeling. I've learned that everyone has feelings, because we're human beings, and feelings aren't a sign of weakness, and it is important to understand why you react the way you do when someone says or does something to you. Feelings are just data, and information. I recommend looking up Plutchik's Wheel of emotions. If you can get better at understanding the range of emotions that you have and what those feelings are trying to tell you, it helps make you a better overall person. I'm a better husband, a better father, a better son, and a better friend because I've added the tools of being able to understand why I'm having certain feelings in specific situations, and I understand where my reaction to those situations comes from. Ultimately I've become a more authentic person by gaining emotional intelligence, and I'll continue to work in this area of my life to keep growing. I hope that I've added some value to better understanding what feelings and emotions are to us as individuals and human beings.
@@wfrencher80thank you so much for your comment this really blessed me and was so validating thanks for the rec for the read too!
Should you just pursue someone that wants to be exclusive too or work with the other person that may not see exclusiveness the same but is looking for a relationship
People don't date someone long enough to really know who they are
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Dedications the alcoholics liquid
Baby before I get drunk and high I want to tell you I love you and then when I take a nap and calm down I'm going to get back at you later
Pippi longstockings in the South seas
Trip off this one Mary j Blige whole damn year
How you doing babe
I went and bought me some top-shelf baby so I can get into all your spiritual videos in the morning
Now nobody can't say I ain't getting my daily bread