1. Stop being too available 2. Stop pressuring a man 3. Decenter men and center God first then yourself 4. Do not lead a man on 5. Don't tell them what to do - but give the positive reinforcement
Never let your person isolate you from your friends or family Never let them prevent you from doing the things that you enjoy Never let them dissuade you from pursuing your hobbies & interests Your partner adds to expand and enrich your life not subtracts, constricts or stalls your life.
Nobody is worth losing yourself 💯 Focus on people who who encourage, inspire and motivate you to become your best self Spend time with people you get along with, appreciate and admire and who reciprocate
6:14 this girl is just foolish 😂 she kinda understood the point but baby if you think a man looking at other women while yall out together, liking a whole bunch of women's pics while he's pursuing you is something to not care about be prepared for that man to continually disrespect you! Girl yes focus on yourself but stop playing crazy.
She's saying stop over investing when he isn't invested at all. Reverse the man's behavior and what will his reaction be? Does he care who you look at, who you follow on instagram, who you spend time with early in the relationship?
@@mariejane1567 If he is acting like that - stop the relationship all together, why would you want to play mind games, thats exhausting, stupid and also not going to provide you healthy relationship.
Exactly. Just notice it (per the him overtly looking at other women with the neck/turn when y'all are together). Calmly communicate your concern if you so feel moved. Listen and look at his response. Move accordingly. 😘
Don’t EVER put ANY man above yourself and your needs. I was married for 12 years and there is no reward, recognition or reciprocity for putting his needs first.
@@louiseevaonthepath no s***.........and YOUR POINT ??? A little support huh from a woman too much to ask....ALSO YOUR CHOICE K TX FOR COMIN OUTTTTT😅😢
@@louiseevaonthepath No, he didn’t sit me down and tell me how things were going to be, but I wish he would have. After I had our son, he refused to get a job, and contribute financially. He used our son as a pawn for years to be taken care of. After years of financial, mental and emotional abuse I discovered his double life, affair, drug use, gambling, escorts, etc. I did my best to keep my family together but did not understand covert narcissists or the cycle of abuse until I got out. Hope that clarifies my “agreement” or “consent”.
Never lose your SELF in relationship by prioritizing your life to meet your needs. A healthy relationship is mutually beneficial and supports both people involved.
The girl that begins at 5:28 sounds foolish! His instagram follows, his lust for other women, etc. gives you clues into his character. It’s all your business when dating (so you can dump him ASAP!!!) or else you will have a terrible marriage on your hands in the future!
@@ljackson24 it's not that you should cape or even let it stress you out, you peep that and leave. But pretending you don't see it will land you in the hospital!
I guess it depends. My ex use to do that and it was because he prefer light skin women so I let him find the one for him cus I’m brown skin. I’m no one place mat
All this is useless when you not with the right man, if a man feel you are clingy it's bc they not really enjoy your company - when they enjoy your company, it's never enough- they will always want you around- it's never tiring to a man who really loves you. These rules, the dos and don'ts are useless when you are with the wrong one because you will be cautious with everything you do, do all the rules but still leave you or treat you not the way you want. I 'll prefer to always let it flaw, then you won't have to worry about what men want and enjoy your relationship period
I don't date men who are actively on Instagram or even have social media. I don't that unnecessary drama. It's THE WORST. Also, stop claiming that men always come back later. NO THEY DON'T. Especially if you block them. They stay gone. Male ego keeps them from humbling themselves. Especially Leo and Scorpio.
Gems!!! At a very young 53, the bald yt man was spot on! Everyone should listen to what he said as a requirement in high school. It would have saved me so much heartache.
None of these people have a healthy relationship. Stop taking advice from these people online, get offline and actually live a life. Every average person knows exactly how they’re supposed to be treated and how to treat a person they love. The issue is that too many people are obsessed with their own ego/wants/needs and won’t love properly because they’re OBSESSED WITH THEMSELVES. I’m dating the man I’m going to marry and I treat him like he’s already my husband. First boyfriend I’ve ever had and I waited until I was 22 to start dating. I’m 23 now. He treats me like a queen and I treat him like a king. Literally just now he showed up at my door with my favorite drink and a present, no occasion, he just felt like it. We do this for each other. We love each other.
4:30 If there are words that could destroy your relationship, it's walking on eggshells, and not good. He needs a thicker skin. My best friend of 10 years has said all kinds of things to me, I've said all kinds of things to him, and I don't have a friendship like that with anyone else. It prepared me for the ups and downs of marriage, as someone who's used to abandonment. Do I remember everything he's said? No. Why would I? We don't use each other's words as ammunition or dwell on other people's mistakes the way this guy does. Relationships without conflict are performances. It's the way you handle the conflict.
I agree to an extent. I think he's dancing around the central idea of argue logically, not with your emotions. Some things people say in arguments, like insults on how the partner performs in the bedroom, or honestly saying that divorce is an option, things like that can really hurt a relationship. I doubt he's referring to 'insulting' jokes like what you mean, where they're just jabs to make fun and don't have that full, noticeable intention of hurt behind them.
Words have power. It can make or break a relationship. Watch what you say and use your emotional intelligence. Respect your mate or leave the relationship if you don’t respect them. Control your mouth.
Thank you for bringing the advice of our elders to RUclips. People forget that we have to take advice from people we admire, people who have already achieved what we want. Some amazing advice comes from years of growth. ❤
@dearbrave4183 Very true! And some of them are insane. I've met people who believe that the government contributed to the hurricane suddenly going North. But then we have cautionary tales, so either way, we come out a little wiser.
I have to say something after that Arab girl talking about homelessness. Number one, she is extremely out of touch with reality and probably very sheltered. Homelessness does not equal immorality. It doesn’t mean that they participate in lewd acts. Also, it doesn’t mean that they are dirty. It can happen to anyone, so her lack of empathy is very concerning, and I don’t know why she’s on camera talking so boldly and so factually about that matter. But then again… Anyone with a camera and a microphone seems to think they can talk with authority on any topic nowadays. Very sad.
"Stop avoiding hard conversations with men" but also "dont tell him what he is doing wrong, dont tell him what to do" and "men dont like women who nag".....which one is it!!!
Being homeless and sleeping around is not a good comparison, sadly most homeless have run out of options and have nowhere to go. Developing self worth, self esteem, self discipline and knowing your value prevents you from giving yourself to those who don't appreciate you. People respect those who respect themselves and take advantage of those who let them.
What part of the world does the woman talking about "passing your number around" live in? Lol she got really carried away with that whole sleeping with someone scenario 😂🤦🏻♀️
I think I know the difference, the first one means you are too clingy and annoying, the second means you care about them and their feelings in a healthy way
Whole life means having a life outside of your partner. Putting your partner first means honoring and respecting each other, in a long term relationship. Basically don’t let anyone or anything come between you both.
She was interesting. I think she was trying to say having smex is low-class. She ain't have to throw homeless people under the proverbial bus like that 👀😉
Ohhhh the trick to get my husband to do the things round the house he said he would do is to just get tools out and switch them on and do repairs, he calls me and hears a tool he panics or gets a bit out of kilter when the job has been done well, even when he says thank you for taking the pressure off him I can see in that side eye 😊😅
So you get him to do it by doing it yourself? Sounds like that man don't plan on doing anything unless it's to not here you say you did it. Gross behavior honestly.
@@PhotoJeticPoetGlad someone else agree that this passive aggressive behavior is childish and can really undermine the respect within the relationship.
@ you seemed to miss the whole point of my comment! Her comparison to homeless people also lack of humanity the reason they are homeless is irrelevant specifically nowadays that people lose their jobs and her homes or medical reasons, lack of compassion is the issue!
Why do you expect rando women online to have compassion for random people? You're not entitled to people feeling bad for you because of choices you made. Compassion isn't getting homeless people off the streets 🥴 Have compassion for that violent homeless man who has a rap sheet as long as a mile and see where that gets you!
@ you missed out on the entire reason why we as humans are on this planet! We are all one! We are not separate! Feeding the hungry is our responsibility not a favor and every human literally every human deserves a roof above their head and access to food & water ! Yes compassion is the most basic attribute of our hearts if you don’t have it and your judgements stop you then I feel sorry for you ! I spent time with homeless people in some very freezing Canadian nights & also in DT LA , their life stories are heartbreaking! I am a part of let’s get them into safe homes & basic needs as a human ! I feel sorry that doesn’t feel this way ! Each and every human deserve the basics , including access to mental health and physical health clinics!!! It’s a holiday season provide a meal to a hungry family
That On Call premiere looks fun lol I love that the girl that played Spencer In PLL is the main character I made this comment so I can remember to watch it plus I love police and law enforcement
So these are easy man will love you is the want to marry you and then does it. Then they want to get you pregnant 🤰 lol this is what basically happend to me. I am on my 3rd baby. Like seriouly when i was younger i never gave afuxk about men i just did me men chased me and wanted to always make me there girlfirned right away. Now a days women are to easy to get. Just dont be so easy learn how to make men chase you and really men love someone who loves themselves and respects themselves. Has there shit togther
The second guy is off with some of his shit. He is mansplaning. Being truthful isn’t about winning but men always look at it as competition. Secondly no your partner does not come first that’s the issue in relationships! Your are first ALWAYS
Does anybody else see the ego when they re saying nonesense?😂how about he becomes an actual man and if he canť be in a relationship😂then stop harming people and leave em be man😊 People are not your dolls or action figures😂they have souls ,feelings, minds minus those that donť😮☹️.
Homeless people lack resources to the privilege to act in the same way as those with the resources of privilege. That’s a bad circumstance, enough terrible circumstances will change a person but it’s not an absolute that anyone with out your privilege is a bad human unworthy of rights and needs.
The second guy is off with some of his shit. He is mansplaning. Being truthful isn’t about winning but men always look at it as competition. Secondly no your partner does not come first that’s the issue in relationships! Your are first ALWAYS
1. Stop being too available
2. Stop pressuring a man
3. Decenter men and center God first then yourself
4. Do not lead a man on
5. Don't tell them what to do - but give the positive reinforcement
Thank you!!
Never let your person isolate you from your friends or family
Never let them prevent you from doing the things that you enjoy
Never let them dissuade you from pursuing your hobbies & interests
Your partner adds to expand and enrich your life not subtracts, constricts or stalls your life.
Number one piece of advice. Never take advice from people who don't know what they are talking about.
😅
@@mariejane1567 🤣🤣 how will you even know if they know, somethings sound crazy until it happens to you
😂
Fr!!!😂
@@mariejane1567 😉
Nobody is worth losing yourself 💯
Focus on people who who encourage, inspire and motivate you to become your best self
Spend time with people you get along with, appreciate and admire and who reciprocate
Never have sex with him.
💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯
Until marriage!!! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽🎉🎉🎉
True. Because if you do they don’t like and respect you anymore. So weird 😔
Yeah...men will treat you the BEST until you sleep with them.
@@movingforward789 Based and Christ-pilled
6:14 this girl is just foolish 😂 she kinda understood the point but baby if you think a man looking at other women while yall out together, liking a whole bunch of women's pics while he's pursuing you is something to not care about be prepared for that man to continually disrespect you! Girl yes focus on yourself but stop playing crazy.
Exactly
I was looking for this comment
She's saying stop over investing when he isn't invested at all. Reverse the man's behavior and what will his reaction be? Does he care who you look at, who you follow on instagram, who you spend time with early in the relationship?
@@mariejane1567 If he is acting like that - stop the relationship all together, why would you want to play mind games, thats exhausting, stupid and also not going to provide you healthy relationship.
Exactly. Just notice it (per the him overtly looking at other women with the neck/turn when y'all are together). Calmly communicate your concern if you so feel moved. Listen and look at his response. Move accordingly. 😘
Don’t EVER put ANY man above yourself and your needs. I was married for 12 years and there is no reward, recognition or reciprocity for putting his needs first.
I hope your ex didn't sit you down and tell you to put him first. Otherwise, you made that choice.
@@louiseevaonthepath no s***.........and YOUR POINT ??? A little support huh from a woman too much to ask....ALSO YOUR CHOICE K TX FOR COMIN OUTTTTT😅😢
sit you down lol like it happens like that
Yes 🎉🎉 love this ❤
@@louiseevaonthepath No, he didn’t sit me down and tell me how things were going to be, but I wish he would have. After I had our son, he refused to get a job, and contribute financially. He used our son as a pawn for years to be taken care of. After years of financial, mental and emotional abuse I discovered his double life, affair, drug use, gambling, escorts, etc. I did my best to keep my family together but did not understand covert narcissists or the cycle of abuse until I got out. Hope that clarifies my “agreement” or “consent”.
Let’s stick to the basics if he’s for you, you won’t have to ask or play games. If it requires this he’s simply not the one
Bet 😘
The lady at 2:11 is on some real talk. I agree! Don’t be messing with people.
Never lose your SELF in relationship by prioritizing your life to meet your needs. A healthy relationship is mutually beneficial and supports both people involved.
The girl that begins at 5:28 sounds foolish! His instagram follows, his lust for other women, etc. gives you clues into his character. It’s all your business when dating (so you can dump him ASAP!!!) or else you will have a terrible marriage on your hands in the future!
She’s actually right.
@@misscooks601She is correct indeed! Chasing and caping for them is definitely not the way. We should be putting ourselves first.
If he follows 500+ and 80% of them are girls, I would run away.
@@ljackson24 it's not that you should cape or even let it stress you out, you peep that and leave. But pretending you don't see it will land you in the hospital!
I guess it depends. My ex use to do that and it was because he prefer light skin women so I let him find the one for him cus I’m brown skin. I’m no one place mat
All this is useless when you not with the right man, if a man feel you are clingy it's bc they not really enjoy your company - when they enjoy your company, it's never enough- they will always want you around- it's never tiring to a man who really loves you. These rules, the dos and don'ts are useless when you are with the wrong one because you will be cautious with everything you do, do all the rules but still leave you or treat you not the way you want. I 'll prefer to always let it flaw, then you won't have to worry about what men want and enjoy your relationship period
I agree
I don't date men who are actively on Instagram or even have social media. I don't that unnecessary drama. It's THE WORST.
Also, stop claiming that men always come back later. NO THEY DON'T. Especially if you block them. They stay gone. Male ego keeps them from humbling themselves. Especially Leo and Scorpio.
IT'S WHAT THEY SEE AS THIER SELF WORTH.....NOT!!!
leo? leonardo diCaprio?
The first guy has a soothing voice.
It takes two people to be in a relationship
Three is a crowd 🎯💯💥
Unless you're into polyamory. 🤔 But I understand what you mean😘
@UnpopularOpinion3000 😉
stay single u will be happier and safer
In reality, this is the best advice for everyone.
It makes things easier.
💯🎯🙌
Gr8 advice about letting a man lead by supporting and encouraging him, complimenting him versus challenging or competing with him.
Gems!!! At a very young 53, the bald yt man was spot on! Everyone should listen to what he said as a requirement in high school. It would have saved me so much heartache.
None of these people have a healthy relationship. Stop taking advice from these people online, get offline and actually live a life. Every average person knows exactly how they’re supposed to be treated and how to treat a person they love. The issue is that too many people are obsessed with their own ego/wants/needs and won’t love properly because they’re OBSESSED WITH THEMSELVES. I’m dating the man I’m going to marry and I treat him like he’s already my husband. First boyfriend I’ve ever had and I waited until I was 22 to start dating. I’m 23 now. He treats me like a queen and I treat him like a king. Literally just now he showed up at my door with my favorite drink and a present, no occasion, he just felt like it. We do this for each other. We love each other.
Gr8 advice 👌🏼
When you over give you under receive
Also dont go 50 50 in bills like mortgage or rent. 👀 dont give him money while dating. Dont downgrade your life just to place him first. No no no.
LOL, "Your are like a homeless person being like that".. That was hilarious!!! Xx
Some of this advice is horrible.
Meet your own standards.
Be a respectful and respectable human.
That’s it.
Problems solved.
Sometimes you need to be specific and give examples, not just give a vague “respect” advice
You have to be specific.
4:30 If there are words that could destroy your relationship, it's walking on eggshells, and not good. He needs a thicker skin. My best friend of 10 years has said all kinds of things to me, I've said all kinds of things to him, and I don't have a friendship like that with anyone else. It prepared me for the ups and downs of marriage, as someone who's used to abandonment. Do I remember everything he's said? No. Why would I? We don't use each other's words as ammunition or dwell on other people's mistakes the way this guy does. Relationships without conflict are performances. It's the way you handle the conflict.
I agree to an extent. I think he's dancing around the central idea of argue logically, not with your emotions. Some things people say in arguments, like insults on how the partner performs in the bedroom, or honestly saying that divorce is an option, things like that can really hurt a relationship. I doubt he's referring to 'insulting' jokes like what you mean, where they're just jabs to make fun and don't have that full, noticeable intention of hurt behind them.
Words have power. It can make or break a relationship. Watch what you say and use your emotional intelligence. Respect your mate or leave the relationship if you don’t respect them. Control your mouth.
It’s too many rules and regulations man. Imma just stay by my damn self.
Thank you for bringing the advice of our elders to RUclips. People forget that we have to take advice from people we admire, people who have already achieved what we want. Some amazing advice comes from years of growth. ❤
Except most elders don't have a relationship most young people want
@dearbrave4183 Very true! And some of them are insane. I've met people who believe that the government contributed to the hurricane suddenly going North. But then we have cautionary tales, so either way, we come out a little wiser.
I have to say something after that Arab girl talking about homelessness. Number one, she is extremely out of touch with reality and probably very sheltered. Homelessness does not equal immorality. It doesn’t mean that they participate in lewd acts. Also, it doesn’t mean that they are dirty. It can happen to anyone, so her lack of empathy is very concerning, and I don’t know why she’s on camera talking so boldly and so factually about that matter. But then again… Anyone with a camera and a microphone seems to think they can talk with authority on any topic nowadays. Very sad.
"Stop avoiding hard conversations with men" but also "dont tell him what he is doing wrong, dont tell him what to do" and "men dont like women who nag".....which one is it!!!
Thankyou, this bs is contradictory and exhausting...are we supposed to use telepathy? because communication is clearly a major issue here..
6:32 love her southern accent ❤❤
Being homeless and sleeping around is not a good comparison, sadly most homeless have run out of options and have nowhere to go.
Developing self worth, self esteem, self discipline and knowing your value prevents you from giving yourself to those who don't appreciate you. People respect those who respect themselves and take advantage of those who let them.
Right, she sounded extremely ignorant and a bit elitist
She meant spiritually homeless, having a homeless aura, I understand.
No she didn’t otherwise she would have said that.
Nope, she literally meant homeless people
What part of the world does the woman talking about "passing your number around" live in? Lol she got really carried away with that whole sleeping with someone scenario 😂🤦🏻♀️
😂😂😂right I was like the hell she talking about
She got on my dayum nerves, talking about homeless people.. tf
#1 don’t make your partner your whole life ? # 8 always put your partner first?? 🙄
I think I know the difference, the first one means you are too clingy and annoying, the second means you care about them and their feelings in a healthy way
Whole life means having a life outside of your partner. Putting your partner first means honoring and respecting each other, in a long term relationship. Basically don’t let anyone or anything come between you both.
That voice 😍
I don't like it. He sounds like his throat is underwater
he sounds like he should be recording movie trailer voiceovers
@@jojoone1099 he sounds good to me. 8m drf not hearing it how you are lol
10:38 WAIT!!! Is she saying that all homeless people are prostitutes?! 🤨
She was interesting. I think she was trying to say having smex is low-class. She ain't have to throw homeless people under the proverbial bus like that 👀😉
Ohhhh the trick to get my husband to do the things round the house he said he would do is to just get tools out and switch them on and do repairs, he calls me and hears a tool he panics or gets a bit out of kilter when the job has been done well, even when he says thank you for taking the pressure off him I can see in that side eye 😊😅
So you get him to do it by doing it yourself? Sounds like that man don't plan on doing anything unless it's to not here you say you did it. Gross behavior honestly.
@@PhotoJeticPoetGlad someone else agree that this passive aggressive behavior is childish and can really undermine the respect within the relationship.
@PhotoJeticPoet it's great to have a man who can do things, but I have hands, eyes, and a brain
This was so mixed as far as advice. "You're homeless" lady earned a dislike for the whole video.
Yep, and her ridiculous lipliner and 99 cent store eyeliner has everyone laughing at her in her face.
I'm glad I'm not the only one, I couldn't stand her
1:50 you "could" be interested for REAL, and he could still be dangerous. A dangerous person is a dangerous person.
9:45 Sis went down a crazy rabbit hole and made all kinds of wild assumptions. 😂😂😂
8:05 i cant be a builder because i only bend down to paint my nails 😇
A lot of true and helpful info👍🙏
Homeless person?!!! Is she out of her mind???? A homeless person became homeless due to the lack of resources? How dare she ?!!! Lack of humanity 🤢🤮
You don't know why someone is homeless
@ you seemed to miss the whole point of my comment! Her comparison to homeless people also lack of humanity the reason they are homeless is irrelevant specifically nowadays that people lose their jobs and her homes or medical reasons, lack of compassion is the issue!
Why do you expect rando women online to have compassion for random people? You're not entitled to people feeling bad for you because of choices you made. Compassion isn't getting homeless people off the streets 🥴 Have compassion for that violent homeless man who has a rap sheet as long as a mile and see where that gets you!
@ you missed out on the entire reason why we as humans are on this planet! We are all one! We are not separate! Feeding the hungry is our responsibility not a favor and every human literally every human deserves a roof above their head and access to food & water ! Yes compassion is the most basic attribute of our hearts if you don’t have it and your judgements stop you then I feel sorry for you ! I spent time with homeless people in some very freezing Canadian nights & also in DT LA , their life stories are heartbreaking! I am a part of let’s get them into safe homes & basic needs as a human ! I feel sorry that doesn’t feel this way ! Each and every human deserve the basics , including access to mental health and physical health clinics!!! It’s a holiday season provide a meal to a hungry family
@oceanahealer 💯Exactly
That On Call premiere looks fun lol I love that the girl that played Spencer In PLL is the main character I made this comment so I can remember to watch it plus I love police and law enforcement
9:25 aight let me tap out here
The lady at the 7 min mark is speaking facts
Don’t tell your partner everything. For example, if you are getting a settlement aka money, some will start plotting or using it against you
1:15 he’s not wrong
All facts.❤
Lesson learned❤❤❤❤
2:26-9:44 is BARS
So these are easy man will love you is the want to marry you and then does it. Then they want to get you pregnant 🤰 lol this is what basically happend to me. I am on my 3rd baby. Like seriouly when i was younger i never gave afuxk about men i just did me men chased me and wanted to always make me there girlfirned right away. Now a days women are to easy to get. Just dont be so easy learn how to make men chase you and really men love someone who loves themselves and respects themselves. Has there shit togther
6:40 her voice is irritating AF
Bunch of contradictions and narcissistic behavior/tactics in these "relationship advice" Tiktok's.
The second guy is off with some of his shit. He is mansplaning. Being truthful isn’t about winning but men always look at it as competition.
Secondly no your partner does not come first that’s the issue in relationships! Your are first ALWAYS
Don't take advice from randoms on the internet
❤
💯💯
I don't date. I don't need all tvat stress and drame.
The second guy is off with some of his shit. He is mansplaning. Being truthful isn’t about winning but men always look at it as competition
11:32 what kind of experiences has she had bc baby whaaaaaaat? 😂😂😂
Is her accent real?? 😊
Does anybody else see the ego when they re saying nonesense?😂how about he becomes an actual man and if he canť be in a relationship😂then stop harming people and leave em be man😊
People are not your dolls or action figures😂they have souls ,feelings, minds minus those that donť😮☹️.
There was no need to compare homeless people. They are just victims of circumstance, the other is a choice.
I agree.. she is not a very nice person. Her character says everything about her...
Yes, absolutely disgusting.
Her whole speech is way off...
Homeless people lack resources to the privilege to act in the same way as those with the resources of privilege. That’s a bad circumstance, enough terrible circumstances will change a person but it’s not an absolute that anyone with out your privilege is a bad human unworthy of rights and needs.
I agree… I don’t understand why she even made that association…?
Don’t tell your partner everything. For example, if you are getting a settlement aka money, some will start plotting or using it against you
The second guy is off with some of his shit. He is mansplaning. Being truthful isn’t about winning but men always look at it as competition.
Secondly no your partner does not come first that’s the issue in relationships! Your are first ALWAYS