Greetings earthlings. First, thanks for all the support on the video, im glad u enjoy it. Second. Theres alot of peeps that misinterpreted some of the things that i said when speaking about assault and clothing and their correlation, and i realize that a short segment in a video isnt enough time to fully explain everything i was trying to say(which i didnt want to make that segment TOO long cus that wasnt my focus) soooo i made a follow up video going in detail about the science and sources, reasoning, and logic behind what i said, i address and counter some of the arguments made by some commenters, as well as clarify statements i made that was changed from ppl putting words in my mouth 😑 That will be all. ruclips.net/video/vTBreTL90R8/видео.html
There actually a art work base of SA where people been SA donated the clothes they were wearing at the time they were SA to the artist to show it doesn't matter what your wearing you can get SA how old you are or what you wearing. I think the exhibit called "what were you wearing?" Exhibit.
I am 11 years old and I am shocked. Why would my age group need to wear such revealing clothing? I'm happy with my short sleeve shorts and shorts that go below my knees. I would NEVER and I mean NEVER EVER wear a crop top. I actually cannot believe clothing companies are producing this type of clothing for 7-12 year olds.
My husband is having the hardest time lately because all the shorts in stores now are above the knee or going for that “hoochie daddy” vibe and he’s just not comfortable wearing shorts that short. He wants something that falls under the knee and that’s virtually non existent in stores right now. We’ve checked Ross, Marshall’s, the mall even and just about every place besides kohls or Macy’s is selling short shorts. , I’m so frustrated for him because i know exactly what that’s like to not be able to find clothes that make you feel comfortable and confident at the same time. I just hate that the fashion industry now just leans so heavily into whatever is trending and doesn’t stock anything else. Like at the very least have a low stock of shorts that are longer than 20” for the guys who want them.
I work at Hot Topic which in the recent years has been considered more “family friendly” despite us only selling adult sized clothing, kids come in looking for shirts with their favourite character on them or a Plushie. A lot of clothing we sell is both modest and revealing and weve even begun to carry more plus sizing which is super inclusive and I love to see it. But the amount of little girls between ages 7-11 ish that come in with full faces of makeup/lashes and wearing tiny crop tops or shorts has absolutely appalled me. While I have the very strong belief that anyone can dress how they want, it’s quite a shock to see little girls be influenced to grow up so quickly and think they’re “expected” to wear these things, when they’re quite literally just children. I’m glad this is being spoken about EDIT: I think a few people misunderstood some of what I said. I never said there was anything wrong with kids shopping at Hot Topic or that I don’t condone it. I very much welcome it. My comment was simply to point out how I shocked I was that there are a lot of young girls feel like they need to alter their appearance to look older. For the younger people commenting, there’s no need to justify why you shop at Hot Topic. This was not to judge or call you out at all :)
What does it matter if the kid feels comfortable in it? Makeup has been around for eons…and other than that, dunno what the hell we’re complaining about unless we’re sexualizing them.
@@ec9833the problems with a literal child having a full face of make up is quite obvious... Their skin isn't made for those adult products. Their skin is more sensitive, and doesn't have the same properties as the adults skin. They also shouldn't have to feel like they need to be adults already. This is basically stealing their childhood. They are going to suffer a lot from being treated as adults while not even 8 years old. I wasn't in makeup at all at their age. I got my childhood stolen from me because I needed to do everything from myself, cause no adults would protect me and help me. When it finally started to stop, I was around 13 and I thought that I was just so mature and that it would be a good point in life, a quality, something that would help. I didn't grasp that I was destroyed. Nobody does until they are fully out of their problems, and trying to work on their traumas. Those girls will realize at some point that what they aren't "mature", that they aren't "so intelligent", that they just never had a childhood. Kids who are forced into make up and fashion won't have a childhood. Those kids are getting traumatized and their brain won't be developing correctly.
@@ec9833 and not to mentioned makeup is a choice, cosmetic choice, something that many children dont have the capacity to be making yet, Let ur children wear what they want but also look out for how you want them to present themselves, the children thinking its okay to walk out like that also find themselves caring more about their looks than other important aspects in their life, mostly education, I cannot fathom how many kids will spend their time doing their hair in the middle of a lesson.
@@windcrystal1349there’s nothing wrong with being a little girl and being into fashion and make up, the thing is nowadays girls are not finding those interest branded for their age, I remember there were brands that offered make up appropriate for their age and we had dress up online games where we could explore our creativity, none of that exists now and it’s really sad, RUclipsr Salem Tovar made a video about it
@ec9833 "Makeup has been around for eons" Why don't you read up on the history of makeup?? Makeup has ALWAYS been about sexuality (the oldest profession of time, pr0st1tut3s used to be the only ones that wore makeup)
I honestly can't stand the people who say "well it's YOUR problem if you're looking at little girls that way." Like, no...? We're not looking at them "that way," we're only concerned for them because it's inappropriate. There's absolutely no reason little girls should be showing off their bodies or exposing themselves like that when they're that young.
Dude, yes, those comments make me so mad! Like implying YOU'RE the creep for thinking is inappropriate for a little girl to wear booty shorts and the child's size equivalent of a sports bra, is so sick that people try to use that and turn it around. Like, Dude, how is the little kid going to protect themselves in short shorts? Or how are the supposed to play without the worry of flashing their underwear? All I can think about is the cold too, like, tiny kids are still developing proper resistance against the elements, that's why we make them wear so many layers on winter, and if they trip?? A lil girl in sandals and mini skirt will surely get more damage than a kid wearing longer pants that cover their knees, and what about the creeps that they can encounter on a daily basis?? God as a kid I came across so many strangers that though just because I was relatively easy to reach they had a right to touch me weirdly. Honestly my mind begins to race when I see kids dressing like mini adults nowadays, I think of all the fucked up shit that happened to me as a kid dressing my age and fold it 20x times when I see a kid wearing skin tight clothing like, Jesus aren't those parents scared?? Are they doing it on purpose??? We as adults have a right to be concerned, we were also children, to turn it against us is honestly sick.
@@Homodemon it's giving the relative that says something racist and then goes "well YOU'RE the one who immediately thought of it as racist so actually you're the one that racist!!!"
@@rowan0331same I’m 16 don’t like wearing revealing clothing so it’s hard to find “girl” clothing i like that don’t have a low neckline and “boys” aisles don’t even get me started 😂 the fashion or lack there of like if I get one of the “boy” shirt which is more comfortable for me but like what I got to pick from is black or white t shirt with a Nike logo… anyway that was my little rant lol✌️
it's not about showing skin. it's about little girls cosplaying ADULTS by wearing similar clothing that they sell for women but in Chile sizes - that's what makes it inappropriate
Across the board, its hard to find quality, affordable clothing for women. I feel so bad for kids nowadays. And the sizing is giving body dysmorphia. I hate it
They probably WANT to give people insecurities. They want women to feel overweight and men to feel underweight so they can sell more of whatever it is they're trying to sell us (makeup, diets, fake protein shakes ...)
ironically vanity sizing has been used for decades because people are getting bigger and bigger. A small now is really a medium and a large is a xl, etc etc
What about smaller women who can't fit standard women's sizes? I'm 5 feet tall 116 pounds. I literally need those crop tops from the kids section. I'm already 28, I'm clearly not getting any taller or bigger any time soon. You know you've seen the small, short, skinny women that can't fit regular womens clothes without it being too baggy. I found a GORGEOUS size 2 dress and guess what, it was too big. I had to take a deep breathe and go shop in the kids section for something.
@far6311 real. They should make smaller sizes and put them with the other adult crop tops and clothed IMO. Fellow kids section buyer over here as I am a little person, XS men's is just too big
exactly. i literally cannot go shopping for pants without feeling like i want to end my life because the clothing industry just doesn't cater to my body type at all! i'm not even that big...all of my jeans are size 10 or 12 at most.
Agreed, we want more modest options. people keep saying let women be free to wear what they want, but why do they not provide modest options too? Does that only apply until women wanna cover themselves?? Sounds hypocritical. And another thing is that these clothes will cause these young girls to view themselves in ways they SHOULD NOT. These are children, they don't need to look s*xually attractive. They don't need to look like adults.
RIGHT. And like, why does "let women be free" have to imply sexuality? I don't get it, and it's sickening to think it can be considered a "silly cliché".
As a Muslim girl I have had this talk with my sisters and in-laws often. They only accept freedom of expression unless it means being modest. There are even some countries banning hijab and some people will literally yank it off if girls heads because they want them to be free to dress however the media, I mean “they”, want to. All in the name of protecting the Muslim girls from oppression. Meanwhile, they’re the oppressors
And the most ridiculous part is that young girls are most of the time bigger than young boys and yet they say that 7yo girl should be the same size as a new born
yes, my 7 year old is around 85th percentile for his height and weight, while his friend (girl) whose birthday is only 2 weeks after him is taller than him and same size waist.
I was really skinny as a child and my mother would buy me boys jeans to wear. I realize that I grew up in the 70s, so I didn't have to go to go through this. Kids' clothes were modest back then. But when I was shopping for my daughter, I went through this. I would buy clothes a size too big, until she became a teenager and could shop for herself. But because I had dressed her modestly when she was younger, she didn't go buck wild with her clothing choices and still dresses relatively modestly as an adult.
It's horrible! I always see little girls wearing bikinis, crop tops, and short shorts!!! Then guys shorts are literally pants!!!!!! It's disgusting how revealing girls clothes are becoming.
I saw a little girl who couldn’t have been much older than 6 or 7 the other day and she was wearing NOTHING but an extremely small sports bra and literal booty shorts. 1: WHY ARE COMPANIES ALLOWING THOSE TO BE MADE IN KIDS SIZES!? 2: WHY ARE PARENTS EVEN LETTING THEIR YOUNG CHILDREN WEAR THINGS LIKE THAT??!!? It’s actually DISGUSTING.
I mean, I had to start wearing bras at 7. But that’s because I played sports and most of the women in my family started wearing bras at similar ages. Kids that age do need bras sometimes. But not even I can come up with an excuse for booty shorts in little kids sizes.
Nah cuz why in 6th grade my classmate showed me this TikTok she made (all she had on were shorts and her bra) and she was like “girl TikTok took down my video idk why 😔” and I was like “maybe because you’re in your bra and 11??” And she said “no all my TikToks are like that they only took down this one” Be so fr…
Saw something similar in a photo of a child model while looking online on shein (which in itself is a terrible company) and a lot of it is just literally pedo bait at this point tbh, absolutely disgusting and degrading to little girls ☹️
Yeah... I was in Big W, and I saw a little girl wearing skin tight sports shorts and tank top, and then on top of that, her parents hasnt told her off her having her hand down her pants? Like, what is wrong with parents nowadays??
hey, im a 13 year old girl. society forced me to grow up super fast. starting in 4th grade you were expected to have social media, dress cute, wear makeup, have a skincare routine (?!), shave your legs, have multiple pairs of shoes, and i could go on and on. that sh*t sucked because i was still very much a kid so i stuck out from the rest. i got bullied… for being a kid (reminder: i was nine.) i often look back on the 2000s where tween culture was alive and feel so jealous. how insane is that? not that im jealous of the 2000s but all of the things society forces upon young girls.
Start shaving in 4th grade? 😦 Conceded, I was a clueless tomboy, but I didn't start shaving until after people made fun of me for having leg hair - in _8th_ grade.
I’m so sorry your generation is having to go through this. Women and girls have always been sexualized, so it was definitely difficult when my friends and I were kids in the 2000s, but it was nowhere NEAR like it is today. These expectations started when you were 13, maybe 12, and they weren’t as intense as this. For a while the “cool tween look” was wearing leggings underneath skirts. It’s crazy watching my little sibling and her friends go through this.
When I was in 4th grade (late 70s), a group of us decided that since Women’s Lib was a thing, we obviously needed Tomboy’s Lib, so we started our own little Tomboy’s Lib group. Just some food for thought. Bring back Tomboy’s Lib! Back then designer jeans had just become a thing, and my mom was pissed at the commercials that sexualizad little girls to sell them, so this problem goes back a ways. We didn’t have social media, obviously, but I don’t recall any problem finding clothes with real pockets, and the “everything must be pink” notion didn’t exist either. Girls’ clothing was something you could play outside or ride your bike in. You could do cannonballs off the diving board without the risk of a major wardrobe malfunction. Girls should be able to go to the playground without being catcalled. Also, the ‘baby tee’ trend sucked the first time around, about 25 or so years ago. This overly revealing clothing for young girls is just as restrictive as women’s clothing of 150 years ago. It may be restricting you in a different way, but it’s still putting you in a box. Girls’ clothing should give them the freedom to be children, to explore and find out who they are, engage in the activities they are interested in, not brainwash you into being fodder for the male gaze. In the world we live in, that will happen eventually, unfortunately, but ffs, stave it off as long as possible. If you’re taking the time to do a full face of makeup when you’re 10, what are you giving up?
I agree with the general sentiment of this video, but I disagree that this is because of feminism; tweens don't wear crop tops and short skirts to "crush the patriarchy" they wear them because they're tendy and they want to be fashionable. It's an issue with capitalism, microtrends, and fast fashion. This is not new though when I was a kid in the 00s apparently my mum couldn't find trousers that weren't low waisted for me, I do think now it is worse as kids are aware of trends and want to follow them, retailers know this. I'm glad people are speaking out about this, hopefully it makes "modest" clothing more accessible especially for children.
I doubt it’s entirely feminism, I suspect like it’s clothing companies taking advantage of feminism to excuse cutting corners in women’s clothing so they can use less fabric and save money, but that’s just how I interpreted this.
@Mc_Qiqi Yeah, I mean it is because of feminism that women can dress how they want, but there not being "modest" options or tweens dressing in trendy clothing is not because of feminism in my opinion.
Exactly and many modern day feminists agree with her and this topic .In fact many of the people including the mom on the first clip are feminists@@cassielcruzchavolla809
I'm 15 and have some younger friends who do dress like this. While we're all feminists it's not because of feminism in anyway and blaming feminism for it is really stupid. If I asked them why we wear crop tops and shorts it's just gonna be either "because it's comfortable" or "because it's trendy"
I have actually seen people saying the tweens want to dress like this and my response is “too bad?” They’re minors. Children. We don’t need children dressing sexy. We just don’t. I wanted to dress like an adult as a kid too. My mom did not purchase me clothes that would be for adults. Because duh. They will be adults for the majority of their lives and can dress however they want. They’ll only be kids for a short period of time. Let them not be sexualized or feel the need to be sexual for at least 18 years like please 😭
YES EXACTLY! The only reason they want to dress that way (if they even do) is because people tell them they want to. The girlie pop fashion is in right now and that means on tv and movies they seen teenage characters wearing stuff like this and want to emulate it. They also see it on TikTok too with actually kids their age wearing it and getting famous. The problem is I tell people this and they think I’m weird and go “just because someone shows skin doesn’t mean it’s sexual you’re the problem!” But so glad someone else knows that these damn fashion companies have that in mind when they make these clothes it is sexual I don’t care.
Like there's a difference in a 15 year old wearing a crop top because they want to and a 15 or younger year old wearing one because they litterally can't find anything else! It's not okay that they're forcing people to buy these due to it being the only non-ugly thing available..
@@RaspBerryPies I HATE that argument that people make where they say something like, "if you notice this as sexual, you're the problem." Like, no, I'm trying to protect people.
What kills me is other people, in particticular other mothers, will call someone a predator for thinking this clothing is inappropriate for young girls. Morals are so currupt 🙄 like no, i don't want my 10 year old daughter showing her body like a 21 year old!!! Wtf!!
Those mothers are dumb. There are definitely predators out there that love seeing young girls dressed as teens. Just because someone is pointing out that, it doesn't mean they are predators themselves.
THANK YOU. I look back on my childhood and feel so disgusted by the things that were marketed to me and pushed on me. As an adult? Same feelings, same rationale. *Of course it's wrong to blame the kids in this situation - it's NOT wrong to look critically at the adults in the situation.* Those aren't the same thing and I feel like people intentionally miss the point. What I don't understand is WHY THEY DO IT???
Kids shouldn’t dress like adults :/ Tbh I’m so glad my Asian mom doesn’t know much abt fashion or anything trending. She puts my little sister in these pink or blue dress and sometimes they look so funny to me with her mismatched shoes 😭
There is a country song where the guy says, Im just trying to keep my daughters off the pole, and my sons out of jail…. Good parenting involves keeping your daughter sheltered for as long as possible!
clothing industry rn is so bad, I'm a teen Muslim girl and I can't find anything cute that's not A: crop top, B: too tight C: expensive as heck or D: the collar line is so deep that it'll show my cleavage, spaghetti straps, off the shoulders etc. pants are a lot easier thankfully but why do industries not understand that not everyone can or wants to show off their skin, ESPECIALLY KIDS AND TEENS, I have to go to the women's/adult's section a lot because the teens won't do it I and the kids section is too small/short.
Girl I have the same problem, personally I shop for winter and fall clothing and look through the men’s sections for cute hoodies and good quality pants.
@@ivorylightning4985 lucky! We do have cooler seasons here but its not cold enough to warrant more hoodies/ longer sleeved stuff. I do borrow clothes from my mom every now and then.
It's cliché, but second hand is such a life saver for modest fashion needs. I managed to ride out most of the skinny jeans era with thrifted denim. Old skool jeans are durable as heck too!
Omg you make a really good point. Once i was out shopping with my family and while looking at the women's section my dad asked "why are a lot of the women's section cropped? It looks cheap" and i obviously answered with something along the lines of "it's fashion duh, supply and demand." I never thought that he would probably mean it as companies potentially being cheap😭
@@ieaterasers5986 Can you tell me how you learned as well as useful guides/references? I wanna learn to make my stuff for different reasons, but never got around to doing it.
As a 14 year old girl, I've had the problem of not being able to find modest clothes for a while. I'm curvy and so I get sexualized at every twist and turn and I have had to stop wearing some of my favourite articles of clothing so I wouldn't get sexualized anymore. Its insane, I can't make an outfit without thinking "but will I get catcalled in this?" or "but will I get followed in this?". Luckily, I've never been assaulted before, but goddamn is the option of it happening fucking terrifying. And the worst part is that I can't even find anything that I can wear that ISN'T sexual. I love dresses and skirts, but none go past my knee which is the only way I feel truly comfortable in them. I can't wear leggings, cause I get sexualized and I can't find loose-fitting sport shorts. Shirts are made to stick to my chest, most are cropped, have spaghetti straps or have such a deep neckline that it shows my cleavage. Shorts are so short you can see my ass. Its disgusting, I just wanna wear pretty clothes while not getting sexualized. Why is that so hard? When did we decide to remove the option of modesty? (jeez I talked a lot- oops)
The option is still there it’s just not in stores. You have to go online for it. If you tell me what you consider modest (and what clothing size range you shop in such as kids or juniors/adults), I can share a few companies that I have found to be reliable when it comes to finding modest clothing.
@@jodishapiro4197 that would honestly be lovely :D Personally, I have a pretty loose definition of modest, just no crop-tops or skirts that go above my knee or are like stuck to my body.
@@child.of.helios also with eshakti if you want my referral code I can post it (but I won’t post it if you don’t want it because I don’t want you to feel like there is any pressure).
I love skirts, they're fun, cute, and great for the summer time because of how airy they are! Tell me why most trendy skirts I see either have a HUGE slit, some scrunching where the butt is to emphasize it, or are so short that if I were to bend down you'd see my undies. I really have to LOOK for skirts that aren't mini, slit up, with "fashionable" holes, or are just short as hell. These day's I've opt for body neutral clothing because I'm so tired of sexualizing my body at every twist and turn. Thankfully, I adore baggy clothes anyway. But I feel terrible for young girls these days, it's so hard to stay a child when everyone is telling you to grow up as fast as you can so you can be molded into the current beauty trend. Movies, shows, clothing, music, cartoons, they're all grooming young girls to grow up so it's "morally grey" for people to sexualize them. (Ie; some sicko trying to convince others that it's fine because the child "looked 18") I honestly think it's a tactic. I genuinely believe it's purposeful. And unfortunately, young girls are falling in line. From wearing tons of makeup at extremely young ages (I'm talking 10-14) and doing skin routines to get rid of nonexistent wrinkles. The whole world is telling them to grow up, and when they hit that age of 18 the world tells them to immediately stop aging or face "aging out." or going "past their expiration date" It's sick, sad, and there needs to be a change.
I’d recommend trying indie brands such as shopwitchvamp and maya kern for skirts, I hated skirts for years and then my sister showed me maya kern and i have like 5 from her now!
Ok, I got really lucky at Kohl’s the other day and found what I’ve been calling my “tactical skirt”. It’s floor length, and has enough fabric to jump around like a crazy person and not have any issues with leg movement. I could full out sprint in it with 0 worries. Only issue is the fabric is kinda weird feeling, it’s not cotton.
i for sure think they’re trying to turn little girls into customers. encouraging them to be more grown up and want more expensive grown up things so that they get hooked on the same consumerism as everyone else before they even have their own money to spend
i work as a lifeguard so i see a wide variety of kids every day. most kids still dress like kids, which is comforting. i do think that there is a bit of overexposure to the kids growing up too fast because they’re the ones allowed on the internet. but, i do see girls that look way older than their age. it usually starts around 11. i’ve comforted nervous girls taking their deep water tests who have full acrylics, highlights, and teeny tiny bikinis. it feels dystopian to talk to these girls who are so young and so childish (as they should be, due to being a child), but they’re dressed like adults. i worry for those girls
I am an SA victim and you want to know what I was wearing? I was wearing my school uniform with long shorts and a freaking jacket. We reported it to the police and guess what he told me straight to my 12-year old face? “Boys will be boys.” And he refused to file a report. I was so upset I lost my faith in the police. And I go to therapy and I was diagnosed with PTSD.
Gross. I hope you are okay. It is such a horrible example for boys and men. It is an awful example for women and girls looking for help. No girl or boy. Even men and women to get SA'd.
Very unprofessional of that officer. If it makes you feel any better, I'm an SA victim. It happened when I was in school, too. I was wearing just a normal shirt and jeans and it still happened to me. Now, I have anxiety. I don't know if it was directly because of those encounters or if it was because of school, or both. Edit: Forgot to say that it was dealt with after the school year. Edit#2: Back to the police thing, just know that not all police are like that. There are a lot of cool cops out there, and I've encountered a few of them. I remembered one encounter I had with one when I was in school. The cop drove me back home when I missed my bus, and my phone was acting up, so I couldn't call my parents. At the time, I couldn't remember their phone numbers. I drove in the front seat, I dunno if I'm okay, but I did. The cop didn't do anything weird, obviously. The same thing happened a few years ago (not the same cop) but in this experience, it was a traffic stop, and the person who was driving the car got arrested over something involving the car or a missed court date or something like that. This cop was really cool, too, and we talked about school because I think I was 18 at the time.
I’m in high school and i don’t know why companies believe that all high school girls want to wear skimpy clothing to school and in general. They need a fucking wake up call.
Same. I'm XL but losing weight pretty fast. Pants my size = too long. Shirts my size = Must be revealing v neck or it is crop top that I can't wear anyway because it would not cover my chest at all. Fun fact: my ribs are fully visible despite most my body fat being my upper body. But my niece wore a bathing suit that didn't cover sht for her chest and I wanted to slap her mom and dad or at least scream at her mom and dad.
@@Sun_S3t_22_Official Funny you mention that, you know I'm 20 I graduated from high school 2 years ago and the high school that I used to go to I find out from one of the teachers that the dress code is no longer in use at my old high school. It's fuckin outrageous I tell you
@@shadowfluff2255 the pants thing is so real. Pants are nearly impossible! if it's the right length the waistline is wrong, and if the waistline is good the pants are too short
when you were talking about predators (around like 16 mins in) i totally agree. you shouldnt put your children in revealing clothing because itll only raise the chances of them being a victim, and that isnt the childs fault, its just how it is. that being said, the law should be MUCH more strict when punishing sexual harassment and dealing with offenders.
oh yea. I go into WAYY more detail of how useless the justice system is when it comes to punishment for offenders in my follow up video. After doing research, there was this one time where a judge didn't put an offender in jail because he said, and I quote, "he wouldn't fair well in prison". It's disgusting the way they let these predators keep reoffending and doing absolutely nothing about it, I really don't understand why it isn't taken more seriously, considering it's one of the most common crimes in America. Just shows how much they care for women's safety I guess. 🫤
This trend has been around for ages and it's exhausting. Inseams of girls' shorts, even for really young girls whose bodies are basically the same shape as boys, are on average an inch or two shorter to expose more leg, the material for tshirts is thinner, the cuts are tighter. Even when the clothes aren't just mini versions of adult fashions and they're just basic clothing items they've been tighter and smaller for girls on average for ages, for no reason other than fashions for female-assigned bodies are all designed with appearance over function in mind and femininity is seemingly tied to more revealing, body-hugging styles. One father noted that shorts for *babies and toddlers* barely covered the nappy for his daughter! They weren't designed to 'be sexy', of course, but girls are expected to be less covered. They wonder why we are all so body conscious at younger ages when they won't even make clothes for little girls with movement and durability in mind like they do for boys! But it never needed to be this way - when I was a young child in the 90s, it was easy to find tshirts that didn't ride up, dungarees and trousers and shorts that were the same for boys and girls and just in different colours and patterns etc. That was just the standard. Kids run around, and often wore hand-me-downs, so parents wanted clothes that last and would fit another child or two after the first one grew out of them. This was even a selling point for some brands. Now it's all about selling more and more, so clothes are more hyper-gendered and poor quality and you're shamed if you aren't up to date on trends that change week to week, and as women are a major consumer demographic the notion that even little girls need to be hyper-conscious of their looks and styled in the way that teens and adults are has been pushed more and more. And yeah, if that means women's fashions are often hyper-sexualised, then that seeps down the line too. I remember the first time in the 2000s I saw a playboy-branded t-shirt in a child's size, and it was shocking at the time because why the hell was a porn mag advertising to and on pre-teens? But now dressing up young girls in clothes cut like clubbing outfits is all over the place - because parents bought them, treating their kids like fashion accessories and pushing their image consciousness onto the younger generations, and companies realised they could get away with this. And the same is happening for boys, with children's styles imitating adult men's fashions and influencer parents showing off boys designer 'casual' outfits that look like miniatures of those sold to their fathers, but it's slightly less noticable because men's fashion still covers them. It's all about selling more and more. We've eradicated kids' fashion.
I never thought I’d see the day where I appreciated the hand-me-downs from my brother. I have soooo many nice comfy large t-shirts that don’t fit him anymore that I took. I just don’t wake up and go “oh I have to go to an 8 AM class! Let me put on my form fitting shirt that’s see-through while I stand in a lab for 4 hours!” NOOOO I WANNA BE COMFY I’M TIRED!
i agree, i’ve always started to notice women’s and girls clothes are much more revealing than mens/boys clothes. my mother even noticed it too whenever me and my older sister began puberty so she started dressing us in boys clothing until we were comfortable enough to wear what would be considered for girls. i never minded it because i knew she was trying to protect me and even till this day i am 17 still shopping in men’s isle because it’s just better fitting on my body and im more comfortable in clothes that allow me to move and pants that have pockets 🤣.
@@wafflesthearttoad6916we r similar 😭😭 instead of my brothers clothes it was my dads clothing, he was fairly short man so his pants would fit me perfectly 😭.
Now Justice is just another department store…that’s where I loved shopping as a kid-tween for all of my back to school outfits and outfits that lasted me through even middle school. Now everything is cheaply made and there’s no exciting thing about going to the mall because all of the kids stores were replaced by sister brands of high end stores but targeted towards actual babies. I love the hand me downs I still have, I didn’t dress like that at a young age and still came out with a good fashion sense, these kids don’t need these clothes. At this point it’s all for aesthetic purposes, that’s all they are to these companies (at least that’s how it feels to watch).
@@wafflesthearttoad6916no seriously! I have so many sweatpants from my dad and brothers that are so comfy that I can style with literally anything as well without needing to be uncomfortable. Don’t get me wrong, I love an excuse to dress up, but I can’t do the Alt getup every single day or I will get overstimulated by some sort of fabric or another or just want to take everything off anyways.
That doesn’t change the fact that kids shouldn’t be wearing specialized clothing. Yes predators will be predators regardless of clothing choices and also some clothing choices are not appropriate for children. Both facts are true.
@@abcdeisthekey theres a museum ive seen in videos online where its clothes of victims hung up along with their story written down, its a answer to the ''what were you wearing'' question and its mostly modest clothes and even childrens clothes
10- 13 year old here, I can never, and I mean NEVER shop at my favorite stores ever again and find clothes I LIKE and I’m COMFORTABLE in. I hate showing my stomach and all the shirts I find are bra like shirts , or tiny crop tops, so I sometimes wear some of my moms stuff, and at least it’s cute and comfy!! But after reading all of these people’s comments I feel so bad. Like no cop would just walk off like that when it’s an emergency. But yeah my point is that the only stores I shop at is like TJ MAX or Ross. But when I wanted t9 get a really cute shirt off she in or temp I forgot which one it was, ( Ik that’s a very sketchy website but ofc I didn’t know that cause i thought everything was so cute.) and when I saw this shirt with a black cat on it, I saw the model modeling the shirt and it was not cropped, it looked ver comfortable and I just thought like “wow! I can never find anything all the stores I go to are horrible I’m so happy I can find something I like!” So then my mom bought it for me , REMEMBER, IM A SIZE MEDIUM AND I GIT A SIZE LARGE. next 2-3 weeks go buy and I get it in the mail. And I tried it on and guess what, it went almost all the was up to my chest. I still have it in my closet right now but I never wear it.😭 So me and my mom talked about it, and we wanted to make a business just for girls that it’s not clothes that are revealing, or cropped. Since I know how to sew, I’ll just start making designs while I wait to save up the money for fabric!💗💗
What a great idea to make your own clothes! I encourage you to go to thrift stores and look for t shirts that you can “flip” and diy , it is a cheap and easy way to get started in making your own clothes. Sometimes the best way to thrift is to see the clothes as fabric and let your imagination take over. RUclips has amazing tutorials for getting into diy and clothes making. Good luck!
@@DangleeeenAnkleI hate people like you who twist words. Please read without your emotions bugging your thinking. Read it again without the judgemental attitude I can feel across the screen. Yikes to your mindset and attitude.
@@DangleeeenAnkleYeah, we can. But some of us just don’t want to. Whether that be for religious reasons, or just how we feel. Either way, just be respectful or just, not critical- about other people’s decisions. None of your business, after all.
Another note, pockets. Womens clothing is so much less efficient. The pockets are small or non existent. I don't think I know a man who owns a pair of bottoms without pockets. But many women's clothing doesn't have them at all, because that's not the focus. And even if they do have decent size pockets, say, cargo pants, the fabric is so thin and flowy that anything put in your pockets just bounces around and stretches the fabric. Unlike sturdy men's cargo pants that mostly stay in place when walking. I hate it so much. I thrift online so I can search for hours to find good quality, efficient clothing made with less polyester. Also, I really love your videos and the way you are so open to others opinions and accept them, even if they differ from your own.
I cant STAND when they don't make pockets or make them so small. Or when they make fake pockets just for "fashion" it's like they're teasing us it drives me insane. Our pockets can barley fit our phones meanwhile men's jeans could fit a whole stanley cup lol. I'm sure it's just so we buy more handbags and it makes more money but it real frustrating. Also thanks for your support 🙏🏽
Pockets being almost non existent on girls clothing has been a thing so they can buy purses for them to carry their things, it’s basically capitalism using gender roles for making women pay more than they should have to
I’m 15 and I always had this problem of clothes being too small, I grew up in a mormon family so I couldn’t wear sexualized clothes and it was IMPOSSIBLE to me to find cute clothes that don’t sexualize me 😢 that’s why I started getting into Japanese fashion and buying my all clothes online
I just saw an ad for three shirts. They said "most likely to break a boy's heart" "Most likely to find her husband" and "Most likely to turn into a werewolf"
Alright, we ain't even gonna talk about the first two, why are they giving us shirts that say "most likely to turn into a werewolf"? They just completely ran out of ideas huh 😂
@@Kaysaja I'm thinking it might be something about periods? like "i turn into a monster once a month" Before I thought of that, I honestly would've worn the hell out of the werewolf shirt.
@totalynotcatherine OOOOHHHHHH I feel stupid😭😂 I literally thought they just ran out of ideas for sayings and stuff for women it was so out of pocket😂 thanks for clarifying and also I promise I'm not trying to bash ur fashion choices I'm sure you'd rock a werewolf shirt it's just not my style 😭
This has been happening in the men's section but reverse: I used to fit in XS but now XS often fit like M.... reverted to buying from the boys (they have the same issue though.... 15-16 yrs is HUGE. My dad can wear some of those shirts.) Clothing industry, wtf?
I’m 36 now and have noticed this too! Im a woman, but I been wearing stuff from the men’s section since I was a teen . I used to also wear an s or xs and the sizes are just not the same over time .
That's so weird, I couldn't imagine why that would be the route they would take. maybe because baggy clothes are trendy again so they make more money with them or something like that? That might be something I can look into to talk about cus I had no idea they're changing the men's clothing too
@baby.nay. I'm wearing a new shirt sized 152 right now and it fits like a 176. No joke. I put an old shirt of that size next to it and this new one is actually a bit wider than the old one. HOW!!!
@Kaysaja I thought so too, but they're also changing waistband sizes. I used to wear size 164-176 trousers, now I need 146-152... it's absurd. They're making the shoulders and the area under the armpits wider too, which means a lot of men suddenly look incredibly "skinny" and feel insecure. I'm one of them 😬 I no longer wear dress shirts without a jacket. Every time I tuck them into my trousers, they make me look like a damn muffin from the waist up. Every time I don't tuck them in, they make my 'behind' look out of proportion (funny, but embarrassing) because guess what, they made shirt waists even skinnier 💀
@noahapollo I'll actually need to look into that, I'll get my brother to try some clothes to see how it fits him. Maybe it has something to do with weight and obesity in america 🤔 thanks for this insight I think this'll be a really interesting video topic later!
I’m so glad someone is finally pointing this out as well I’m a fashion student and I can’t stand people saying either “oh because they need to be more in shape to be healthier” or “oh let them wear whatever is comfortable, no big deal!” Or even “awww they wanna be so grown up!” Like, don’t rob them off of their childhood, at 7 I was wearing t-shirts with random Disney prints and leggings with the ugliest prints I’ve ever seen Let’s be careful of what we purchase, let’s not sexualize our children
What infuriates me the most about this is when we bring up that we don't want little girls in revealing clothing we are the ones shamed and people try to gaslight us into believing that WE are the ones sexualizing little girl's bodies. No! We are trying to protect them because many of us have had first hand experience with creepy old men saying weird things to us when we were way too young. And yes when this happened to many of us, we were not wearing revealing clothing, but think about how much more it probably would have happened if we were.
YEES! I’ve seen this same argument with TikTok dances as well. When people object to teens posting videos of themselves twerking or gyrating online, they were sometimes met with people saying “It’s just a dance why are YOU seeing this as sexual… 😬” I thought I was crazy because people were saying you were the problem if you thought it was inappropriate.
And why are the people so mad about kids being covered....that's so weird of them like they're okay with children wearing too little to no clothes but aren't okay with children wearing normal clothes??.. Also many have twisted the word feminist. Feminist is about woman having the same rights as men not about wearing the shortest outfits or little girls wearing the shortest outfits. Like they're using it as a excuse at this point-
@@PiaPancakesThere was a kpop idol who was a minor, but the dance was too s*xual, so people were just putting in the comments “reminder that she was a minor so you can’t comment that she’s s*xy!” Or maybe the company shouldn’t be giving her songs like that yet??? 🤷♀️
Lot of clothing for women and girls is not just revealing but impractical. Less fabric on summer wear means less protection, more risk of sunburn, higher sunscreen cost. Thinner fabric don't last as long and gets damaged from activity or hobbies (little boys clothes often have some rough play in mind, girls isn't - my jeans always used to wear through at the knees when I was a kid). It's basically pink tax in terms of need to purchase other products more, the need to repurchase due to quality etc.
It's also the fabric it's made out of, besides the fact that the fabric is thinner and there's less of it theres a higher chance its polyester. polyester is plastic, it's not breatheable, but its cheap. i find wearing polyester in the summer miserable. so it's impractical in even more ways, it's never designed with anything other than appearance in mind.
I kept saying this and everytime i said this ppl (especially girls) would say "there r worst problems in the world" and call me awful for sexualizing girls and to not have kids because I'd be awful to them. Like i understand young girls will not see clothes like this as sexual, they would just see it as cool or pretty because so did i as a kid, but ppl need to realize that mothers feel unsafe because no matter what their kid wears they will be sexualized, that's every mother's fear, kids don't need to worry about their looks they should be running outside or playing with toys they really don't need these adult clothes, it's fine to dress ur kid up in this stuff in the privacy of your own home just not outside because if i ever had a kid she is not eye candy for every perv out there in the world, i couldn't protect her from everything but she deserves privacy of her body as a kid and any other age she'd grow up to be
@Zomdollie yeaa I've gotten similar comments here too, it's definitely a touchy subject so alot of peeps tend to get up in arms about it, which is understandable. It is a sad world we live in where we feel like we need to do this, but it's important to take precautions while fighting for a better future, at least in my opinion. Thanks for watching the video and continuing to help spread the word ❤️
@@Kaysajait sickens me that healthy modesty is seen as restrictive and misogynistic now. there is nothing wrong with extra protection from the eyes of creeps and extra protection from the hot sun.
Exactly, and some people say “they’re gonna do it anyway just let her wear the shirt” oh so, if you’re driving a car you’re gonna crash it anyway you might as well do it now. Like what is wrong with those people, THEY ARE THE PROBLEM TOO.
@@KaysajaI know! People are disgusting! I’m a young girl, and my clothing is horrendously short. Like seriously, it’s why I wear a jacket in Public, people Stare at me WAAY to much, it’s either gonna be inappropriately small clothing, or some that shows way to much parts, like some of my shirts, I hope people will fix this. It’s one of my insecurities.
I have Autism with many texture issues and everything is so skin tight. I can't wear a lot of clothes because it's just too uncomfortable. Either having seams in my private areas or super small skin tight shorts and such. It's just annoying, and I don't remember having all these issues with shorts like this before. They all ride up. Or the high waisted stuff that is made too tight to suck up the "fat". It's crushes my ovaries or stomach. I don't want to suck in my fat. Let me hang it out so I can digest, please. I'm tired of this we have to be small and tight fitting. I want comfy.
I relate specifically on my period, I become way more sensitive to textures and have to wear stuff much looser on my midsection rather than the cute high waisted stuff I love so much (it also aggravates my cramps more if I try to be fashionable on my period)
Girl that line from the criminal about certain clothes being easier to take off was hard to read but honestly one of the most helpful things Ive heard. I’m glad that you brought that to light. Not that we should need to cater our clothing but it’s good to be aware of things like that
Clothing brands need to do better, and [we) need to stop being weird about shopping the 'boys' section for girls. The first mom should have got two 'boys' tops, it's a plan white t-shirt it literally doesn't matter. The brands should be using identical patterns, young kids have the same body shape across genders especially
it's kind of wild that we don't have more unisex kid's clothes available. i feel like everything for kids is so much more gendered than it used to be when i was growing up! the girl's section at walmart is literally all pink and glitter and unicorns nowadays, and it's not like we never had clothes like that at all but it didn't used to be the only option! why are the normal t-shirts, pants, overalls etc part of the boy's section instead of unisex? it must be such a pain in the ass for parents
ive found ‘the children’s place’ is one of the few clothing brands that still lets kids be kids, my mom shopped there for me as a kid and they’re designs have still pretty much stayed the same. cute fun colors and styles that are appropriate for little girls to have fun feel pretty and still be a KID.
i hated children’s place as a kid 😂. i caught an attitude anytime we went in there because all of the designs were boring or annoying to me. even now the photos of more acceptable clothes made me cringe from the day i had to wear them.
not from the style, I agree those are very kid friendly and I know some kids love them, but sequins and hearts, and all of that on my clothes made me wanna rip them apart
@@noneof_urbiz honestly same, but i would take them over new kids fashion at this rate. some of the designs were ok but others were like “dear god is there enough glitter?”
@@noneof_urbizI always had to wear boys clothes as a kid if I wanted children's place because everything and I mean EVERYTHING in the girls section had a unicorn on it. I still hate that place to this day, excessively gendered clothing (like the "only unicorns and mermaids in girls, O ly trucks and dinosaurs in boys") should not be a thing in 2024...
Before I came out as non-binary, finding 'casual' girls clothing was IMPOSSIBLE. Sagging hoodies and sweatpants was stuff I enjoyed as my style. When I hit my shopping spree phase, I could not find any shirts or pants that wasn't stupidly low or tighteningly high. Shirts were cropped and the shoulders were constantly shown. Usually I was hit with the want to buy some dresses, so I searched the girl's section. And boy was that an eye-opening moment. Above the knee tight bottoms, no sleeves or spaghetti sleeves, or just plain tight around the chest ones.
I love my baggy shirts at home chilling, and I end up buying men's sizes. Everything has been crop top for some time at stores, and it's rough finding shirts I love.
Unpopular opinion: im 28 years old and I'm still 5 ft tall and 116 pounds. The most I've ever weighed was 125. Grown woman clothes are way too big for me. I'm not a thick stallion and i never will be. I cant find a cute date outfit or a club outfit without it being baggy and cut too big. I NEED the so called "inappropriate" clothes from the kids section. Put those clothes in sections for the smaller women. Problem solved.
"Thick stallion " I can't 😂😭 but yea they could just move the children's clothes to the small adults it's like they can't make comfortable sizes for girls really small or girls really big it can't be that hard 😑
@@Kaysaja my grandmother was tiny, I'm tiny, my daughter was born right on time and still only 5 pounds. I accept my fate 😂 give me the small stuff. I asked my husband if I'm getting thick and he laughed 😭😂😭
I'm 5'1 and about 130 pounds, I can't find dresses to save my life, I like thigh length dresses but last time I wanted a nicer looking dress I bought one from the kids' section.
Im 8 months pregnant and us pregnant women cant even escape the crop tops and un needed cut outs in weird places. Its hot af out where i live and i wanted to buy a pair of shorts, tell me why i could only find what i can only describe as distressed maternity daisy dukes ☠️ im not looking to show off me bloated pregnancy legs, i just dont want to be burning up in 100°f weather. So i ended up buying large mens shirts and some larger sized biker shorts in order to be comfy.
Same here lmao. I don’t have the bloated leg part but the bump is to bumpy for my liking and I want bigger tshirts to “hide” it. Tell me why I can fit in a large men’s shirt but I have to size up to a xx in women’s shirts? Or why I still fit in a large T-shirt from like 2018-2019. Clothing size is so weird! I found a shirt at a thrift store, it fit, but was a small! I’m not a small😅 Ive also resorted to stealing my dads 2x shirts and they fit so comfortably lol
@Chisthebest0 People call them fat... ive seen it happen and wont forget it, its horrible (not meaning the person who you're replying to gets called fat)
Female rock climber here. I am 5’1” 110 lbs. Because my sport is heavy on upper-body muscles and because of my genetics, I have broad shoulders and arms relative to my size. I cannot fit into almost any Women’s shirts or dresses with t-shirt sleeves or long sleeves because I am a size small except for my shoulders/arms. The closest women’s size that would fit me would be large, which would be WAY too low cut for my height. Thus, I buy men’s small. It is too long on me but it fits the rest of my proportions. Can we just make wider sleeves for SOME women’s clothing? Like can I have a choice if my arms aren’t sticks just because I’m 5’1” and athletic? Is it that hard? I just want normal sleeves, I don’t need the entire freaking outfit to be fitted! If you like fitted things, feel free to wear it! But why does everything have to be that way? It makes it so that the clothing doesn’t even fit everyone because it’s *fitted* to a certain person with certain proportions. For dresses with any kind of sleeves I have to get all of the sleeves / shoulders custom tailored after purchasing. This is why I only own 2 fancy dresses. It is a hassle.
Not only are the clothes inappropriate, mothers are dressing their kids inappropriately too. You mentioned Ross and I was there a few weeks ago, and I saw this lady with her 4-5 year old who was wearing a see through crop top… with a micro crop top under to look like a bra….. I was so upset tbh. Why do mothers like to dress their toddlers like they are little adults? They propping their kids like adult mannequins and forgetting that there are demons in this world that love it…. These clothings also are trying to abolish age of consent in a way because age appropriate is now being ignored and now everything has to be mixed in for all ages…. I’ll never forget the time I saw s*x toys for kids….. hate it in this world.
@@j.c.2240 YUP!! There was a RUclips video of parents introducing adult toys to their teenagers …. And they looks uncomfortable and awkward… poor kids.
I bought my 1 year old daughter a pair of adorable Mary Janes from NEXT. They were a size 18-24 months. I couldn't even get them on her feet, they were like doll shoes, so tiny. It saddened me so much. I hate how women's/girl's fashion is sexualized so much. I sew a lot of my own clothes and I let my daughters pick their clothes.
@@kcbh24 I bet you can but it would cost you more in time, tools and material for failed attempts, than buy really expensive quality shoes. I reacted to the part about sewing clothes
I totally agree with this..I took my lil cousin shopping (she’s 13 so I was open to her having a bit more mature clothes 😌) and I let her go pick out her clothes while I walked around and shopped for myself..about 5-10 mins later she comes up to me and says “I can’t find my size” so I go over to the juniors and go to her size (which is a medium) and almost 90% of the clothes were crop tops or shirts that go way above her belly button🤯 and 5% of the clothes were very revealing which I don’t rlly understand so I go over to a bigger size L-XXL and the clothes are the same they r js wider so i take her to the bottoms section and all the bottoms were shorts that barely even go past her crotch 😭✋and tbh my cousin like dressing a bit grown but even she didn’t want these clothes and thought poorly of them…at the end of the day we js went to a few other stores and found somethings for her to wear and went to Ulta since the clothing haul was a fail 🤷🏾♀️
I’m a girl in my mid-late teens who still enjoys wearing things like shirts with cute cartoon animals, bright colors, bows, girly patterns, unicorns, charm bracelets, and other clothing and accessories that have been labeled as “childish.” I often feel self conscious when I compare my clothes and style to the other girls my age, who often wear clothing that is more revealing and plain. I also rarely wear makeup outside of dance recitals because I have sensory issues that make wearing makeup feel extremely uncomfortable for me. Comparing the clothes in the older children/tween section to the clothes in the teen section at a store always miffs me because of how stark the difference is. It’s almost like clothing manufacturers (or really just adults in general) think that the second you turn 13, you suddenly gain a whole new personality and clothing preferences and will start to prefer neutral/dark colors, tank tops, short shorts, boring patterns, and revealing necklines. While I’m not trying to shame any teens who do like this stuff, it’s disappointing to me that teens like me who prefer more stereotypically girly and childish clothing don’t have any options for their style in the teen section. Because I’m a smaller size and have gone through most of the physical changes of puberty already, I can still shop in the older children/tween section to get the clothes I want, but teens with a similar style to me but are a larger size don’t have that option. I’ve also noticed that most of the summer dresses in the teen section almost always have V necks, which is a style I’m not super comfortable with. I can sometimes make it work by wearing a sweater or a tank top with a higher neckline underneath, but layering isn’t great for summer, and that’s when you’re intended to wear those dresses. Again, I think it’s fine for teens who want to wear V necks, but I wish there were versions of those dresses that had a higher neckline so you aren’t limited to one option.
im nonbinary and in my mid-late teens and im usually a large to an xl and i have a more vintage or cutesy frilly feminine style thats modest. its so hard to find clothes i like in standard stores let alone in my size, or even just fit my wonky measurements. i rely alot on vintage clothing stores or other ways to get 2nd hand clothing, or online shopping (i wear alot of jfashion too). i gave up on shopping in most stores. i cant wear short skirts at all because they end up shorter in the back on me and its so revealing. i wish i could find a modest summer dress thats long, because itll protect my skin from the sun.
EXACTLYY!! It's so hard to find cute, childish, pastel, and modest clothing bc everything is cropped, tight fitting, or dull colored these days. I feel like young kids clothes are the only ones with those colors
As a 15 year old I love bright bold colours and sparkles. the v neck thing is a problem for me, I go to a Christian private school and I'm on our FIRST Robotics team, the jerseys (I don't really know what company we source them from) for the girls (there's only a couple of us) have v-necks. I'm going to petition for any new jersey orders to have circle necks for everyone, as we're convincong more girls to join
Even growing up in the 2000's all the little girl clothes seemed more catered to adult men than it was actually the wearers- aka little girls. It makes me sick.
Was born 2002 and dude, I cannot agree more. I always hated jeans, and I especially hate low rise jeans. Guess what the only thing they sold for little girls like me back then? low rise. and I had to wear them to school. hated every second of it
Feminism is about women being able to make their own choices. However, I have a problem with little girls being encouraged to dress in a very sexualized way.
as a girl who is very insecure and tummy shy, i always ask my mom if i can get boys graphic tees from like tilly's or smth. even unisex tees are kinda tight. i also shop in bigger sizes for tees (and pants even bc i want them to be baggy asf lol)
Yes!! Tilly's has this problem too, though. I was shopping for my younger sister (11), saw a cute top, had her try it on. Showed her skin. Got the bigger size, showed her tank top/bra. IT WAS A KIDS/TWEENS TOP!! A 7 year old shouldn't wear the top that she tried on, so why is it mean't for like, really young kids?! Tilly's clothes are really cute though. They have good graphic tees in the girls section too also! 💝💝
I’m a teenager and I’m generally comfortable in crop tops and stuff, but I need more modest options too. Like, I can’t find shirts acceptable for 6th form because they are all cropped or tight. And just in regular life too. I wear crop tops but I hate always wearing them but it feels like I have no other options.
Have you tried boho style clothes? There's a lot of options and honestly the clothes are really cute and comfy! Though they do over do it sometimes. Unfortunately it's hard to find them in stores, but you can always find the style on line. I hope this helps some!
Yeah, That's not even a North American problem. I'm a Canadian living on an island in the Galapagos, and allllllll the girls (teens and also young girls) are wearing crop-tops ALLLL the time. I mean, yes, it's a 'tropical country', but in reality, right now is the cool season and they're still dressed that way.
@@gustavus0013They mean like 13-I assume 8 year old girls. Crop tops are a cute shirt type, but if it’s revealing skin (depending on what you buy it shows some of your belly) then kids shouldn’t really be wearing that because of quite a bit of reasons. I am a 10 year old so correct me if anything I said doesn’t make sense.
@@starsies14 I personally think that it should be fine to dress the way you’d like even as a teenager (I’m 13 and I wear crop tops because I think they make my body look more proportionate), but we should absolutely stop sexualising certain clothing. I don’t want to be harassed when I’m wearing crop tops, nobody has the right to do that Also I agree that kid’s clothing is way too “adult-like” nowadays since kids should be able to play and run around in their clothing, not be a model for the adult clothing industry at such a young age I hope this is understandable, if not then please correct me
i dont understand why they make little girls' clothes skin tight. its really uncomfortable to play in clothes like that! and i think it might make them self conscious and aware of their body size very early, when thats not something they should have to care about. Also, I know there are a lot of opinions about keeping kids modest and what not, which i guess I half agree with. Im european and its really common for little kids to swim naked in public or play almost naked. I think thats fine, but when they put clothes on it should cover them. i think there should be a clear line between normal clothes wearing time and situationally appropriate naked time. Like clothes shouldnt accidentally leave you naked because you raised your arms or squatted down. I hope this makes sense
Yea that makes sense, that's something I forgot to say too in the video, i feel like swimming and being in the water u wear less clothes anyway, so I think it depends on ur area and how the parents feel about it
I’m 21 and I often shop the boys section 😅 I love boys cargo pants and shorts that have tons of pockets. I also like boys t-shirts as the cut is loose and long. I’ve been deconstructing my style and I’ve found I don’t really value cute clothes, I value practical and comfy clothes. The women’s section in accessible stores never has what I’m looking for but the boys or men’s does! I’ve found boys/men’s clothes are more durable too.
me too man. I dont want to only wear crop tops and booty shorts and clothes that are destroyed after one wash. The mens section just straight up has CLOTHES
Naw cause I see a boy shirt and I won’t notice I’m in the boys section until my mum yells at me for saying ‘oh!’ And touching the shirt. 😒 Come on I barely walk out with anything when it comes to the girls section :/
I actually noticed when I was shopping for clothes for myself, I am an adult who mostly shop in the kids section because I am 4’10 and 95 pounds. I thought it was finally refreshing to see cute clothes that fit me, until I realized these clothes are actually meant for girls under the age of 10… perhaps it because a lot of adults do shop in the kids section … idk. Regardless that’s disgusting
I'm 5ft 3 and 110lbs also shop in the kids section a lot because petites / juniors clothing doesn't seem to exist anymore. I bought a pair of tiny beach shorts for myself and didn't even realize it was for kids until I cut off all the tags when I got home. Why the hell would a child wear these little shorts I would only wear in my own home or at the beach as an adult?? Not right.
I am so glad i watched this. When i was a child, i always felt over weight because none of the clothes fit me. I would be so scared to go to the store because i hated seeing myself as “fat” or “not pretty.” I now feel better knowing it wasn’t my weight but just the sizes they were making everything. Thank you❤
I’m almost 18, and I’ve seen the shift between children then vs now, it’s so jarring and sad. Whenever I go to Sephora or Ulta I literally see some little girls in there, with crop tops, full faced makeup with FALSIES, and this mature attitude. I was at the store too one day and this mother and her BABY were in matching leggings and *sports bras,* the baby was able to scroll on TikTok too. It was crazy. It’s genuinely so sad to me because while I wasn’t trying to dress above my age or do makeup, when I was 12 I stopped “playing” or collecting toys I liked because it’s “too young.” I was 12. Now I’m back to collecting what I like and doing what I like with my friends. I did grow up too fast, and that was years ago. I can’t imagine kids now with so much social media influence, and stores catering to them for profit.
almost eighteen as well, and its been so strange watching how different being a preteen was for me vs my niece, whos three years younger than me. there were all kinds of stuff specifically for preteens when i was that age, and its completely gone now. ive watched her go from a regular looking nine year old to someone my age in just a few years and its crazy to me how fast its changed. kids arent allowed to be kids anymore. theres no transition period.
I’m the same age, I sometimes find myself wondering if there is something wrong with me because I don’t dress that way. I think I’m not pretty or desirable, or that I’m babyish because I don’t wear that kind of stuff. But then I realise, I’m comfortable with my clothes and I’d rather not have tiny leggings giving me a wedgie all day lmao
whenever i see this topic brought up, so many women get so offended and act like YOUR sexualizing them. NO. some clothes are just not meant for 6 yr olds, 8 yr olds, etc. a child should not be going out dresses like a strippers😭. yes, i've very much seen this 😭but many women are ok with that. many mothers just don't care. i find it even more disappointing then when men are creeps idk how it went from basically dehumanizing women for being sexual beings, making sex unenjoyable for women, if ur not married by 16 with four kids by 20, then ur washed up with no value. to elementary school kids can watch whatever they want, say and act like an adult. they can dress in extremely provocative (like, it's inappropriately sexualized) As a child. dance to explicit songs about sex. post those videos online to a TT trend, And these mothers have no concern at all. it's not ok to sexualize a child ofc, but many women will turn away from adultifying (i know that's not a word) their own daughters. i will also say, it's not simply wearing revealing clothing, it's just children wearing clothing that you would find a older teen or young adult wear. it's like what is the difference between those age groups if we're all wearing the same skirts, same styles of dresses, same trendy things. i get children want to dress as an adult, but can't these companies make them more kid friendly ? 😭 sorry but it weird seeing a kid dress the same way i am now as a 20 yr old.
Im so glad this is finally being talked about. Im insecure abt my legs so i wear pants, but time to time i will wear shorts just to cool off. But the thing is, i cant find any shorts that are atleast directly below the knees or like reach my knees. Most of the shorts i find only reach not even a quarter of my legs. And its the same thing for shirts. Personally, i like baggy and cropped shirts. But the problem is ALL of the shirts i find are either tight or WAY too short. and its even more unfair to the little girls. Because every where i go i see a little girl, maybe 5-7 wearing either a tank top or a crop top with super short shorts. At first i thought thats what they want perhaps, but then i noticed all the girls, young and old wore the same thing. I feel like the clothing industry’s are sexualizing woman.
Honestly I don’t think this is a product of “modern day” feminism, it’s just remaining parts of second wave feminism and the sexual revolution which basically says you just reject everything traditional and puritan just on principal and not understanding that being “sexually liberated” they way that they are/were is just becoming men’s public property rather than private property. Clothes these days are so small in part because all clothes in general are shit quality and the reason little girls are so grown these days is because our society is continually pedophilic and predatory to young girls, back in the ye ol days it was normal to marry a girl off young and this is just a continuation of that. Also I grew up Muslim and very modest, I’ve never been shamed by other women/girls for the way that dress, but I have had men/boys complain about it.
I very much agree with you. I never understood how women wanted to be "sexy" by wearing uncomfortable, impractical clothes that drive the attention of pervs. Like, how can that make you feel good in your skin and by extension in your sexuality? The clothes we see nowadays seem to reflect a men's take on what a sexually liberated woman looks like. I think women themselves would come up with something more implicit, sophisticated, nuanced and exciting. I hope we'll get to see someday.
@@hydratejsn now a days? Why is it always somehow something new? Women are more free then ever to wear what they please but the pressures and influences of the past prevail, you think Victorian women and 1950s middle class housewives were happy and comfortable wearing layers upon layers and trying to achieve whatever silhouette was in fashion at the time? And notice how in the studies she cited, what people thought what women would make easier targets conflicted with what predators ACTUALLY said? It’s not about the clothing it’s about power and practicality. Who’s an easier target? A little girl in a light sundress or a woman in the club likely wearing layers of shape wear and a skin tight dress on top?
@@ivorylightning4985In all examples you list clothing was dictated by men's preference, but clothing for "sexually liberated women" specifically is pretty recent, so it's nowadays. Just to clarify, I have nothing against revealing clothing per se, I think it has potential to normalise women's nudity and eventually prevent sexualisation. But what is currently mainstream mostly looks like torture and anxiety devices and is perv coded. They are not there for the sexy feeling of the wearer but for the interest of a certain type of watcher. Also, yes, women are free to choose, but media influences them heavily. And most of the media is not made by women, although that is changing slowly.
It’s not “modern day” feminism, it’s a bunch of creepy adults designing these outfits for little girls, maybe instead of blaming “modern day” feminists for the problem blame the fashion designers for making the clothing
When I was a little girl, I wore plaid shorts that went down to my knees, skorts, and t shirts with unicorns on them, and i’m only 22 so it wasn’t that long ago. Can we please bring those back?
@@sidoniedelisleTime changing is great and all, but like statistics have literally shown that this mix of bringing minors into more adults stuff (such as clothes and music) does in fact cause them higher likelihoods of being in danger from creeps and predators. They are minors, they need to be protected.
@@KittenSpriteI end up getting men’s cargo shorts because the bermuda shorts from the women’s section are so ugly. I never liked short shorts, it looks awful on my body type
I'm a younger teen atm, and OH MY GOD does this topic piss me off. I'm not sure where but i saw a video of a swimsuit aimed to younger kids i believe, that had the HIP AREA CUT OUT SO HIPS AND THIGHS WOULD SHOW LIKE WTF??? I literally just want to wear shirts and stuff in the summer, but most shirts are cropped and i don't want to wear any sort of cropped/revealing clothing yet. As well as hoodies, i've gotten a few hoodies for winter only to realise they're cropped and I have to constantly pull them down because i get cold like uggh WHY CAN'T COMPANIES MAKE NORMAL LENGTH, NON-SEXUALISED CLOTHING FOR CHILDREN/TEENS
When I was 12-13, I was s3xulized by my “friends”. I always wore loose fit clothes because I always had a fear of that happening to me. And it did. Now, I live in even more fear. With all the clothes becoming shorter and tighter, I’m struggling to stay covered and safe. As an additional note: I have a natural hourglass figure, I have a fairly large chest because I matured early, and I have pretty wide hips. When I was like 10, I kept getting told,” you’re so mature for your age!” Geez i wonder why. As a society, we need to stop this. Keep the kids safe. I wish the best to all of you who read this while shopping for appropriate clothing. Stay safe out there
Girl, I feel so bad for you. I'm a teen, but I also have an hourglass figure and fairly large bust. It's practically impossible to find good-looking clothes that fit me AND are modest (especially swimsuits). Modern society says that if you have that body, you have to show it off, and I'm not even comfortable wearing crop tops! Luckily, I live (and grew up) in a place full of good people (mostly) so I don't exactly have it bad. Just... it's really frustrating to shop for myself, ya know?
Same! Nothing ever happened to me, but I hope you're doing okay now. My dad basically scared me out of showing large amounts of skin and I'm kinda happy about that. It is so absurdly hard to find clothes that hide my figure and I hate it :(
i just wanna note the difference not only in the size but the design of the tank tops at 0:39. i understand style and that this is just how shirts are. but isn’t it insane that even for children boys can wear full coverage tops with thick straps but girls wear clothes with tiny straps and a lower cut chest line. the subconscious sexualisation of girls clothes when they’re 3 YEARS OLD breaks my heart and makes my blood boil.
As someone who is modest, so true. I can’t find anything that’s cute that isn’t showing too much chest or is showing my stomach, my style is baggy so it’s just baggy t shirt and pants so that easy to find but my parents make me wear fancy clothes when I go out and I hate dresses. And of course there is no cute fancy modest clothing or at least a comfy modest cute dress.
hey, I'm a kid :) I'm 11 and i've noticed this. I hate how every time i go to a store and try and find clothes for me everything is cropped, tight, or makes your body look a sort of way when you wear it. I tend to wear more masculine/grungy clothing so i usually shop in the boys section and i don't see any issues over there. Everything fits like it should. I have friends who tend to wear crop tops and go to Sephora at my age and wear full faces of makeup. I don't want to sound like a pick me girl, but right now I think that they shouldn't be doing that. In our school we are on summer break and going into 6th grade, and at that young, we shouldn't be worried about makeup or wanting to make changes to our body. I remember 2 conversations specifically where in one, my friend was talking about how she wanted to change the shape of her nose with surgery, and the other was asking me if "her butt looked big in her Lululemon yoga pants". (holy i yapped a lot)
i’m 11 turning 12 this year, and i swear! i love minimal clothing, but im fine wearing anything tbh. yesterday, i went to a store in stockholm, the clothes were nice. some were tight, but that was only like 2 shirts in the store. i ended up buying some non revealing clothing for school, and it was great!
I'm 11 too, my mum always buys me either clothes with dinosaurs on it, or just clothes that don't show no skin, I may get many stares at for wearing dinosaur clothing as a girl, which hurts me a bit, but otherwise my sisters tried to get me into wearing the crop tops and etc, but i always refused to wear them, to the point where every time i wore them, i had to wear a jacket, i don't really like the appeal of showing skin due to the amount of predators and other horrible stuff i see on the internet, and every time i went to the little girls section, i saw crop tops, and everything grown up, it made me woozy, you only get to be an child once, and never again, why waste that chance?
just want to point this out: don’t share your age on the internet! although this video seems like a safe space, just be careful, there’s always at least one bad person lurking through the comments. stay safe
Honestly whenever I just walk around in the girls section I notice this it’s almost dehumanizing considering that society expects this nowadays and they have altered the standards so it’s almost impossible to find an un cropped shirt in the girls section
It is super interesting seeing how less covered clothing is tied to feminism in the US. I live in a conservative environment in Eastern Europe and it seems to me here a cleavage, slits, open back and above the knee skirt are seen as very traditionally feminine and therefore not feminist. Also, here noone says covering clothes are "modest", just covering. Modesty is a virtue of character. Maybe it's the overlap of the two meanings in English, (implying uncovered women are also unmodest = unvirtuous), that makes feminists not like it?
Wow that's interesting, it definitely depends on a person's perspective and definition, of course not ALL women feel like being less covered means feminism out here, a lot of women define their empowerment differently, but a lot of it is carried in the way we dress now. I definitely think "modest" is kinda used interchangeably out here too, but I should start getting used to saying things like more covered instead
I'm from Eastern Europe as well, not really that conservative, but what you said relates to here. Slits in dresses or skirts, open back, cleavage revealing shirts are seen very feminine. Thing you would wear when you go out. At the same time, modest clothes are just normal clothes.
16:32 fr thank you for this point ! Most kids aren’t outrightly consenting to what clothes adults put them in . The types of attention that different garments bring at different times becomes such a nuanced and personally specific thing , its literally too much for a child to comprehend.
I'm so glad to see someone else bringing up locking your doors and stuff as a comparison, I keep thinking about that whenever I see people using the "that's victim blaming" argument for this stuff but I hadn't seen anyone else actually say it before.
Honestly it sucks how the fashion industry is right now, it is really hard to find anything cute that isn't clingy, in a horrendous color or croped in some way. While I might be fine with croped tops now as an adult, I didn't used to be, I do however still hate the way women's pants and shorts are made, with them being short or tight. I've gotten to the point of looking for bottoms in the boys isles. I should probably note that my family usually solved the crop top problem for children with layering the tops over tank tops or hours of going from store to store.
My mom too! She would tell me to pair them with a dress or high waisted jeans (I have always had bigger thighs and butt than most average young adults/adults so i mainly shopped for womens pants majority of my life). Selling crop tops to teens isn't a big deal if you teach them how to wear it appropriately. But crop tops for under 13-14 is uncalled for in every sense. As someone who's very into fashion, it's honestly a fashion crime to put a child in such adult clothing in an adult fashion, as it gives them no chance to actually learn what their fashion sense is and what they like and feel comfortable in. As a 00s kid, seeing Disney red carpet fashion from then *now* got me thinking that maybe Disney was trying to set good examples through child celebrities as much as they could even though the Britney Spears affect became innevitable for most stars around that time.
This is one of the main reasons I shop second hand + not only are these stores expensive but the clothes are made so cheaply the fabric is basically a plastic bag 😭
Thankyou for this video, it’s very very important. In my experience, this is definitely a societal/social issue. I was sa’d in my school uniform as a minor 😊 it ruined many days and aspects of my life even 15 years later. But starting with children’s clothing is a great place to advocating for change. This is so serious.
I’ve worked in the industry, and it’s actually disgusting how many literal predators are designing these clothes and even running these companies. It’s been a problem for a while, but it’s definitely gotten more apparent in recent years. Thank goodness people are noticing and calling it out more.
The dress code is really freaking sexist. Guys rarely get dress coded. The women's clothing situation and the dress code situation needs to be fixed. We shouldn't be forced to wear something tight/revealing/too short. And on the other hand, guys need to be dress coded a lot more often.
@@descendantgaming5410it was so insane to see boys in shorts, tank tops (wife beaters) and with sagging pants literally showing off their BOXERS not get dress coded but if a girl dares to be a little too curvy while wearing leggings that’s a dress code violation. it’s nonsense
in the men’s section at walmart they have some really nice cargo shorts!!! im actually wearing a pair of mine right now. they’re really comfortable AND the pockets are massive, also they go down to my knees so they should (at my school it’s no more than 3 inches above the knee) be dress code safe
I was very sexualized as a young kid even when I wore cute/ more modest clothes my mom dressed me in. I recently started dressing less modestly and I dont expect any woman to follow my path because my path is my own. I am more masculine in some ways, so often I feel dissapointed by women who let men lead/ control but again I DONT judge them because thats their own path.
A very level-headed and respectful way of thinking. I like you. I sexualized MYSELF as a child. My mom tried to keep me away from revealing clothes and shield me from the hungry stares of older men but I was determined to do things my way. I wore revealing clothes behind her back, I allowed attention I got from boys and men. And sometimes women. I'm bisexual. I did crazy stuff in high school and even now I'm an elderly man magnet. Do I regret it? No. Sure it led me to some bad situations but still, I could never regret it all because it was my choice. No one forced me to do anything. Despite my mom's rules and my family's outlook on life, I took control of my life and did something I wanted to do. I felt...free. I still do now. I do like a man being in control but only a good man. Because it took me some time to realize it but even though good men are a rarity, they DO exist. I'm engaged to be married to the best man I've ever known. He likes to lead but he also lets me lead when he knows the time is right. Because in some ways we both have our struggles in life and need guidance and support from the other. He's gentle and nurturing, I feel safe with him.
i work at kohls and i’ve been there for 8 years. i’ve definitely noticed many of the clothes in the juniors department being cropped, having weird cuts, being really tiny, etc. it’s weird bc im at an age/size where the stuff in the womens department is a bit too mature for me but the stuff in juniors is all super tiny. i’ve also noticed a change in the girls/tween section; years ago the clothes were cute and very age appropriate but now they’re slowly adding similar styles from the juniors section to girls. it’s crazy man
As a 17 year old it is really hard to find clothes that are modest and appropriate I am Christian so it is important for me to be modest and not show my belly but all I can ever find is crop tops that I than have to hear a tank top under so I don’t show skin. Edit I have that same New York shirt and the same problem you did
Have you ever saw the museum of victim's clothes? :( it's really sad we see all kinds of clothes but again most of them, modest or not they are easy to take off if you really want to be evil and vile, hoodies, babies, grandmas...etc... :( very sad even a Muslim woman who was fully covered
Someone recommended it to me in the comments and I looked it up. It's absolutely disgusting reading those horror stories of people being taken advantage of. Yes don't worry, I'm absolutely aware that it happens with covered clothing as well, frankly it's a whole lot of factors that play into being an easy target, not just clothing of course. But it really is a sad reality we live in, and I just want to shed light on every possibility that exist when protecting ourselves
I was so tired of wearing baggy tops and sweatpants, just because I don't want to sexualize myself, I believe that my body is valuable, and that only the man who has worked hard to prove himself for me, and that marries me, is worthy of my body, not a random stranger on the street. That's why I started sewing, it's so, so much better than buying my clothes, to be honest
I am a 14 year old AFAB and i started shopping for shirts in the men's section. They might be boring, but at least they ain't so tight that i can barely move. I hate tight clothing, especially since i have severe gender dysphoria. I'm quite short, but the smallest shirt in the men's section fits just fine.
As a teen, I have found this frustrating. I can’t find any cute shirts that are flattering and normal sized. Don’t get me wrong, I love a cute crop top. But I want more options that would fit my style more. These days if you are a young girl and not wearing a crop top, you are wearing an unflattering shirt or an oversized hoodie(even in hotter parts of the year). I don’t have the time nor money to seek out the shirt of my dreams. It probably does exist but is not accessible to me.
It actually sucks I’m 14 and feel really lonely because my friends are already dressing really grown, dying their hair, putting on massive amounts of makeup while I barely even know how to do makeup💀 like I just feel so left out especially because I still am SO FIXATED on children shows I liked when I was younger like it’s so hard to let go of that idk how other kids my age do it😭
i’m 17 and the most “makeup” i can do is eye and lip liner lol. tbh, there are a lot of girls, especially older teens, who still like shows from their childhood, stuffed animals, cartoons, and things of that nature. i feel like dressing “grown”, dying your hair (which isn’t rlly a grown thing), and wearing a ton of makeup doesn’t make a person more “mature” and steer them away from things they liked in their childhood. sure, i like wearing more revealing shirts because i like how they complement my body shape, but i also still play roblox, have a ton of stuffed animals, watch shows that came out when i was in elementary, etc.! there’s nothing wrong with that! as you get older, you’ll learn that your hobbies and interests, no matter how “childish” they seem, are something personal to you! you’ll find friends your age who like the same things you do and act the way you do. i promise you, don’t worry about all the others! everyone moves at their own pace and does things that makes them comfortable. just do what you want!!!
@@tarmlktea4699 GIRL PREACH 😭🙌🏼✨ The most makeup i do is mascara and maybe some lip gloss if were really going out but i cant do anything else 😭 the best i can do is painting/drawing on myself with eyeshadow like 💀 also literally one of my fav shows is Bluey and i dont even care who knows like i have a bluey lunchbox and everything. enjoy the things you want and please dont give in to peer pressure like i did/still do.
I'm 14 too, but I think I can do makeup okay, and I like wearing n doing it. I used to wear "boyish" girls' clothes n those were so ugly 😂 now I try to find cute y2k t-shirts and I wear hoodies with nice prints and basic jeans or maxi skirts outside/in school. Not the most modest but yk basic teen clothes 🤷♀️ I hate crop tops and never feel comfy even thinking about wearing one and bc I like low-mid/normal waisted jeans and have a bit longer torso I try to find longer shirts. Anyways I'm still actually pretty childish, and I love mh dolls n customising toys. I feel like my classmates are trying to seem older and cooler, but I try not to 😊
Yes same here!! There's this girl in my grade who gets literal spray tans. And the need to have highlights in their hair I just don't understand, you're just damaging it at this point and in my opinion wouldn't you want to spend as much time with your natural bouncy beautiful hair as possible before you just start to ruin it? I don't understand the need to grow up as fast as possible. I also still like dolls and such but my parents judge me for it. Like I'm sorry for indulging in what I'm interested in, mother. I just don't think we need to grow up this freaking fast. There are girls in the sixth grade who wear full faces of make up and I cannot stand it.
Thank you for addressing this concern because I have seen when looking for clothes I have seen literal crop tops and I understand that some little girls grow faster than others but little girls should not have crop tops in that section and now I understand if you’re a teenager you can wear crop tops and stuff but There should not be crop tops in little girl sections
I really hate that most fashion for little girls is becoming so adult. Sure, some girls don't like the cute options or the one that cover them to much, but it is not appropiate that children are made to wear clothing that shows WAY TO MUCH skin(example: crop tops, minishorts, mini skirts, or even fishnet stockings).
Don’t apologize for anything you said. I agree with basically everything.. why risk anything and let kids be kids. They don’t know any better. Adults be better and keep these kids safe.
It's so disgusting how the clothes for literal children to be sexualized, like if I even have a daughter I'm not even going to buy her clothes from stores I'm going to MAKE them myself and learn to sew perfectly so she wont have to wear such gross clothes. Edit** I'm just 14 so I hope that when I turn 19-20 &/or when I have a kid that the clothes are better
As an AFAB i barely even shop in the girls section anymore cause the stuff is so tight and short bro😭 I usually shop in the men’s for shorts because they don’t ride up, they’re loose but not too loose, and they are a reasonable length compared to girl booty shorts. plus the shirts suck too because of basically the same reasons💀💀 What makes this EVEN BETTER!! is how I’m told that I need to “step out of my comfort zone” and to “let people know your a girl because being misgendered is NOT okay!!” (I don’t give a rats BEHIND about being misgendered I have more important things)💀💀
Look, I'm only young but i see this problem everywhere. I'm slightly "overdeveloped" and it's very annoying. People have said inappropriate things, especially at such young ages too. I'm muslim and have strict parents, so luckily I wasn't exactly manipulated into wearing such sexual clothes. (For clarification I'm still muslim but i dont wear a hijab and long dresses yada yada) I also know that this is a different thing, but peoe are educating their children wrong, they are starting to think that things that matter are beauty, fame abd money, i get bullied for being myself, doing what i like, trying to be an author instead of a model or whatever. And i am SO glad that this situation is getting recognised. After all this, being the weird kid, sticking out, wearing different things, I'm glad to stay like this. And even at my age, i can understand what's happening, and it's ridiculous and disgusting! Thank you for reading all of this
hey! just wanted to say im a minor as well (although older than you) and i whole heartedly agree with you. I am on the cusp of being "flat chested" so fortunately i havent been in an innapropriate situation, but i have seen people with your problem a lot and i think its absolutely disgusting. I try to step in when i can, but it doesnt always work. also know that i am writing my own book as well and i crochet and sew and is known as the "weird kid", and i have (and still am) terrified of telling ppl about my interests. Just please please please please *please* dont be like me. I have become such a people pleaser and developed so much anxiety about my personality and how people would view it, that i havent really been me anymore. im trying to work on it currently, but once your in that circle, it is SO HARD to get out of. So even if people look down upon your hobbies, just ignore them and you will have a better reward in the long run. just know that i love you and hundreds of people will to if you give them a chance!
@@Limefreehey im almost 21 and I also am a bit strange lol! i just wanted to say that its not too late for you at all. when i was around 17 i suddenly stopped caring ab what other people thought of me and my life improved, its a lot easier to live your own life and focus on your own stuff when none of your energy is going towards pleasing others etc. so let's not become 40 year olds who are angry because they never got to live a life that was true to them !! 🥂✨️ hehe
@@forg-du5dr thank you for the kind words lol! I am getting help for my issues currently so I hope i will be able to enjoy the few years of being a teenager i have left!
Just a fair warning for ya, as someone who was fully developed by the age of 12 and apparently “dressed like a Mormon” according to a friend, I was overly sexualized by both guys in my class, men at church, and super creepy men online. My sister, who didn’t develop until she was 16, experienced none of this, so I’m of the belief that if your body looks older than your age, you’re more of a target. I’ve been in a few hairy situations, and I only got out thanks to a strangely accurate gut (as I was very naïve). So trust your gut, speak up for yourself (guys at school usually backed off when I called them out on their behavior), and stay safe. My parents also s**t shamed me for wearing clothes THEY bought me, so I couldn’t rely on them. But lots of teachers and older kids, particularly older girls protected me, so don’t be afraid to ask for help.
Inaya, it's wonderful to hear your perspective! It's horrible that women and girls are so sexualized, and it's never your fault, no matter what you wear. BUT ALSO For your own safety, I REALLY think you should delete this comment and take care to not tell people your age or how developed your body is. There are a lot of horrible creeps who will want to be weird and nasty to you if they see comments revealing information like this, and I want you to stay safe. When I'm on the internet, no one knows my age, gender, location, or any details that might be used to identify me. It's a policy I keep that's worked very well to keep me safe online for years, and I highly recommend you do the same. Wishing you all the best! Never stop writing! When you become an author someday, I want to read your books!
Something I think is important to note: a lot of parents don’t want kids, they want mini adults That may be part of the reason they keep buying these more adult clothes for them
Greetings earthlings.
First, thanks for all the support on the video, im glad u enjoy it.
Second. Theres alot of peeps that misinterpreted some of the things that i said when speaking about assault and clothing and their correlation, and i realize that a short segment in a video isnt enough time to fully explain everything i was trying to say(which i didnt want to make that segment TOO long cus that wasnt my focus) soooo i made a follow up video going in detail about the science and sources, reasoning, and logic behind what i said, i address and counter some of the arguments made by some commenters, as well as clarify statements i made that was changed from ppl putting words in my mouth 😑
That will be all.
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I am a Christian and nothing is modest it all must be cropped and revealing I hate it.
We had some luck on Belk online. They had some really nice, soft, tees from Free People, Crown & Ivy, etc. The prices were on point as well.
I agree with all of this but EARTHLINGS?
There actually a art work base of SA where people been SA donated the clothes they were wearing at the time they were SA to the artist to show it doesn't matter what your wearing you can get SA how old you are or what you wearing. I think the exhibit called "what were you wearing?" Exhibit.
I am 11 years old and I am shocked. Why would my age group need to wear such revealing clothing? I'm happy with my short sleeve shorts and shorts that go below my knees. I would NEVER and I mean NEVER EVER wear a crop top. I actually cannot believe clothing companies are producing this type of clothing for 7-12 year olds.
Women’s and girls clothing keeps getting smaller and smaller while men’s fashions remain pretty much the same
Cuz women are just expected to morph themselves to whatever new trend comes about.
The problem in the men’s section is I can’t find clothes small enough, it’s always larges!!😭😭😭
@@bword5063you can tailor a big shirt but you can't expand a lack of fabric without adding more fabric..
@@bword5063😂I'm a man and can't find my size
My husband is having the hardest time lately because all the shorts in stores now are above the knee or going for that “hoochie daddy” vibe and he’s just not comfortable wearing shorts that short. He wants something that falls under the knee and that’s virtually non existent in stores right now. We’ve checked Ross, Marshall’s, the mall even and just about every place besides kohls or Macy’s is selling short shorts. , I’m so frustrated for him because i know exactly what that’s like to not be able to find clothes that make you feel comfortable and confident at the same time. I just hate that the fashion industry now just leans so heavily into whatever is trending and doesn’t stock anything else. Like at the very least have a low stock of shorts that are longer than 20” for the guys who want them.
I work at Hot Topic which in the recent years has been considered more “family friendly” despite us only selling adult sized clothing, kids come in looking for shirts with their favourite character on them or a Plushie. A lot of clothing we sell is both modest and revealing and weve even begun to carry more plus sizing which is super inclusive and I love to see it. But the amount of little girls between ages 7-11 ish that come in with full faces of makeup/lashes and wearing tiny crop tops or shorts has absolutely appalled me. While I have the very strong belief that anyone can dress how they want, it’s quite a shock to see little girls be influenced to grow up so quickly and think they’re “expected” to wear these things, when they’re quite literally just children. I’m glad this is being spoken about
EDIT: I think a few people misunderstood some of what I said. I never said there was anything wrong with kids shopping at Hot Topic or that I don’t condone it. I very much welcome it. My comment was simply to point out how I shocked I was that there are a lot of young girls feel like they need to alter their appearance to look older. For the younger people commenting, there’s no need to justify why you shop at Hot Topic. This was not to judge or call you out at all :)
What does it matter if the kid feels comfortable in it? Makeup has been around for eons…and other than that, dunno what the hell we’re complaining about unless we’re sexualizing them.
@@ec9833the problems with a literal child having a full face of make up is quite obvious...
Their skin isn't made for those adult products. Their skin is more sensitive, and doesn't have the same properties as the adults skin. They also shouldn't have to feel like they need to be adults already. This is basically stealing their childhood. They are going to suffer a lot from being treated as adults while not even 8 years old.
I wasn't in makeup at all at their age. I got my childhood stolen from me because I needed to do everything from myself, cause no adults would protect me and help me. When it finally started to stop, I was around 13 and I thought that I was just so mature and that it would be a good point in life, a quality, something that would help.
I didn't grasp that I was destroyed. Nobody does until they are fully out of their problems, and trying to work on their traumas.
Those girls will realize at some point that what they aren't "mature", that they aren't "so intelligent", that they just never had a childhood.
Kids who are forced into make up and fashion won't have a childhood. Those kids are getting traumatized and their brain won't be developing correctly.
@@ec9833 and not to mentioned makeup is a choice, cosmetic choice, something that many children dont have the capacity to be making yet, Let ur children wear what they want but also look out for how you want them to present themselves, the children thinking its okay to walk out like that also find themselves caring more about their looks than other important aspects in their life, mostly education, I cannot fathom how many kids will spend their time doing their hair in the middle of a lesson.
@@windcrystal1349there’s nothing wrong with being a little girl and being into fashion and make up, the thing is nowadays girls are not finding those interest branded for their age, I remember there were brands that offered make up appropriate for their age and we had dress up online games where we could explore our creativity, none of that exists now and it’s really sad, RUclipsr Salem Tovar made a video about it
@ec9833 "Makeup has been around for eons"
Why don't you read up on the history of makeup??
Makeup has ALWAYS been about sexuality (the oldest profession of time, pr0st1tut3s used to be the only ones that wore makeup)
I honestly can't stand the people who say "well it's YOUR problem if you're looking at little girls that way." Like, no...? We're not looking at them "that way," we're only concerned for them because it's inappropriate. There's absolutely no reason little girls should be showing off their bodies or exposing themselves like that when they're that young.
Dude, yes, those comments make me so mad! Like implying YOU'RE the creep for thinking is inappropriate for a little girl to wear booty shorts and the child's size equivalent of a sports bra, is so sick that people try to use that and turn it around.
Like,
Dude, how is the little kid going to protect themselves in short shorts? Or how are the supposed to play without the worry of flashing their underwear? All I can think about is the cold too, like, tiny kids are still developing proper resistance against the elements, that's why we make them wear so many layers on winter, and if they trip?? A lil girl in sandals and mini skirt will surely get more damage than a kid wearing longer pants that cover their knees, and what about the creeps that they can encounter on a daily basis?? God as a kid I came across so many strangers that though just because I was relatively easy to reach they had a right to touch me weirdly. Honestly my mind begins to race when I see kids dressing like mini adults nowadays, I think of all the fucked up shit that happened to me as a kid dressing my age and fold it 20x times when I see a kid wearing skin tight clothing like, Jesus aren't those parents scared?? Are they doing it on purpose??? We as adults have a right to be concerned, we were also children, to turn it against us is honestly sick.
@Homodemon I'm sorry you had to go through that! And I'm still a kid myself (15), but I 100% see a problem with girls dressing more like adults
@@Homodemon it's giving the relative that says something racist and then goes "well YOU'RE the one who immediately thought of it as racist so actually you're the one that racist!!!"
@@rowan0331same I’m 16 don’t like wearing revealing clothing so it’s hard to find “girl” clothing i like that don’t have a low neckline and “boys” aisles don’t even get me started 😂 the fashion or lack there of like if I get one of the “boy” shirt which is more comfortable for me but like what I got to pick from is black or white t shirt with a Nike logo… anyway that was my little rant lol✌️
it's not about showing skin. it's about little girls cosplaying ADULTS by wearing similar clothing that they sell for women but in Chile sizes - that's what makes it inappropriate
Across the board, its hard to find quality, affordable clothing for women. I feel so bad for kids nowadays. And the sizing is giving body dysmorphia. I hate it
They probably WANT to give people insecurities. They want women to feel overweight and men to feel underweight so they can sell more of whatever it is they're trying to sell us (makeup, diets, fake protein shakes ...)
ironically vanity sizing has been used for decades because people are getting bigger and bigger. A small now is really a medium and a large is a xl, etc etc
What about smaller women who can't fit standard women's sizes? I'm 5 feet tall 116 pounds. I literally need those crop tops from the kids section. I'm already 28, I'm clearly not getting any taller or bigger any time soon. You know you've seen the small, short, skinny women that can't fit regular womens clothes without it being too baggy. I found a GORGEOUS size 2 dress and guess what, it was too big. I had to take a deep breathe and go shop in the kids section for something.
@far6311 real. They should make smaller sizes and put them with the other adult crop tops and clothed IMO. Fellow kids section buyer over here as I am a little person, XS men's is just too big
exactly. i literally cannot go shopping for pants without feeling like i want to end my life because the clothing industry just doesn't cater to my body type at all! i'm not even that big...all of my jeans are size 10 or 12 at most.
Agreed, we want more modest options.
people keep saying let women be free to wear what they want, but why do they not provide modest options too? Does that only apply until women wanna cover themselves??
Sounds hypocritical.
And another thing is that these clothes will cause these young girls to view themselves in ways they SHOULD NOT.
These are children, they don't need to look s*xually attractive.
They don't need to look like adults.
RIGHT. And like, why does "let women be free" have to imply sexuality? I don't get it, and it's sickening to think it can be considered a "silly cliché".
@@plumkun208 Under the patriarchy, women are often only allowed to be free in ways that still serve men in some way. It's bullshit..
@@plumkun208 idk because for men that’s what they consider freedom since they are so freely sexual? Idk
As a Muslim girl I have had this talk with my sisters and in-laws often. They only accept freedom of expression unless it means being modest. There are even some countries banning hijab and some people will literally yank it off if girls heads because they want them to be free to dress however the media, I mean “they”, want to. All in the name of protecting the Muslim girls from oppression. Meanwhile, they’re the oppressors
That's my thing about all these things, they're so hypocritical. I don't care if you wanna do what you want, but don't make me do it to.
And the most ridiculous part is that young girls are most of the time bigger than young boys and yet they say that 7yo girl should be the same size as a new born
boys hit puberty so much later and yet they have padded shirts and tiny mini shorts for girls like?!
yes, my 7 year old is around 85th percentile for his height and weight, while his friend (girl) whose birthday is only 2 weeks after him is taller than him and same size waist.
Same idiots that think a boy can be a girl and a girl a boy nope their wrong
I was really skinny as a child and my mother would buy me boys jeans to wear. I realize that I grew up in the 70s, so I didn't have to go to go through this. Kids' clothes were modest back then. But when I was shopping for my daughter, I went through this. I would buy clothes a size too big, until she became a teenager and could shop for herself. But because I had dressed her modestly when she was younger, she didn't go buck wild with her clothing choices and still dresses relatively modestly as an adult.
not even girls clothes are safe from shrinkflation 😭😭😭
Sadly it's true. :(
It's horrible! I always see little girls wearing bikinis, crop tops, and short shorts!!! Then guys shorts are literally pants!!!!!! It's disgusting how revealing girls clothes are becoming.
the shirt is literally 1% of the price.
😂😂😂
That’s literally the dumbest thing I’ve ever read.
I saw a little girl who couldn’t have been much older than 6 or 7 the other day and she was wearing NOTHING but an extremely small sports bra and literal booty shorts.
1: WHY ARE COMPANIES ALLOWING THOSE TO BE MADE IN KIDS SIZES!?
2: WHY ARE PARENTS EVEN LETTING THEIR YOUNG CHILDREN WEAR THINGS LIKE THAT??!!?
It’s actually DISGUSTING.
I mean, I had to start wearing bras at 7. But that’s because I played sports and most of the women in my family started wearing bras at similar ages. Kids that age do need bras sometimes. But not even I can come up with an excuse for booty shorts in little kids sizes.
OH MY GOD. THAT IS DISGUSTING.
Nah cuz why in 6th grade my classmate showed me this TikTok she made (all she had on were shorts and her bra) and she was like “girl TikTok took down my video idk why 😔” and I was like “maybe because you’re in your bra and 11??” And she said “no all my TikToks are like that they only took down this one”
Be so fr…
Saw something similar in a photo of a child model while looking online on shein (which in itself is a terrible company) and a lot of it is just literally pedo bait at this point tbh, absolutely disgusting and degrading to little girls ☹️
Yeah... I was in Big W, and I saw a little girl wearing skin tight sports shorts and tank top, and then on top of that, her parents hasnt told her off her having her hand down her pants? Like, what is wrong with parents nowadays??
hey, im a 13 year old girl. society forced me to grow up super fast. starting in 4th grade you were expected to have social media, dress cute, wear makeup, have a skincare routine (?!), shave your legs, have multiple pairs of shoes, and i could go on and on. that sh*t sucked because i was still very much a kid so i stuck out from the rest. i got bullied… for being a kid (reminder: i was nine.) i often look back on the 2000s where tween culture was alive and feel so jealous. how insane is that? not that im jealous of the 2000s but all of the things society forces upon young girls.
Start shaving in 4th grade? 😦 Conceded, I was a clueless tomboy, but I didn't start shaving until after people made fun of me for having leg hair - in _8th_ grade.
I’m so sorry your generation is having to go through this. Women and girls have always been sexualized, so it was definitely difficult when my friends and I were kids in the 2000s, but it was nowhere NEAR like it is today. These expectations started when you were 13, maybe 12, and they weren’t as intense as this. For a while the “cool tween look” was wearing leggings underneath skirts. It’s crazy watching my little sibling and her friends go through this.
Yea im 13 too, I was bullied since 7 for having leg hair and dressing chidlishly
@@gimel_mink realll
When I was in 4th grade (late 70s), a group of us decided that since Women’s Lib was a thing, we obviously needed Tomboy’s Lib, so we started our own little Tomboy’s Lib group. Just some food for thought. Bring back Tomboy’s Lib! Back then designer jeans had just become a thing, and my mom was pissed at the commercials that sexualizad little girls to sell them, so this problem goes back a ways. We didn’t have social media, obviously, but I don’t recall any problem finding clothes with real pockets, and the “everything must be pink” notion didn’t exist either. Girls’ clothing was something you could play outside or ride your bike in. You could do cannonballs off the diving board without the risk of a major wardrobe malfunction. Girls should be able to go to the playground without being catcalled. Also, the ‘baby tee’ trend sucked the first time around, about 25 or so years ago. This overly revealing clothing for young girls is just as restrictive as women’s clothing of 150 years ago. It may be restricting you in a different way, but it’s still putting you in a box. Girls’ clothing should give them the freedom to be children, to explore and find out who they are, engage in the activities they are interested in, not brainwash you into being fodder for the male gaze. In the world we live in, that will happen eventually, unfortunately, but ffs, stave it off as long as possible. If you’re taking the time to do a full face of makeup when you’re 10, what are you giving up?
I agree with the general sentiment of this video, but I disagree that this is because of feminism; tweens don't wear crop tops and short skirts to "crush the patriarchy" they wear them because they're tendy and they want to be fashionable. It's an issue with capitalism, microtrends, and fast fashion. This is not new though when I was a kid in the 00s apparently my mum couldn't find trousers that weren't low waisted for me, I do think now it is worse as kids are aware of trends and want to follow them, retailers know this. I'm glad people are speaking out about this, hopefully it makes "modest" clothing more accessible especially for children.
I doubt it’s entirely feminism, I suspect like it’s clothing companies taking advantage of feminism to excuse cutting corners in women’s clothing so they can use less fabric and save money, but that’s just how I interpreted this.
@Mc_Qiqi Yeah, I mean it is because of feminism that women can dress how they want, but there not being "modest" options or tweens dressing in trendy clothing is not because of feminism in my opinion.
It’s both
Exactly and many modern day feminists agree with her and this topic .In fact many of the people including the mom on the first clip are feminists@@cassielcruzchavolla809
I'm 15 and have some younger friends who do dress like this. While we're all feminists it's not because of feminism in anyway and blaming feminism for it is really stupid.
If I asked them why we wear crop tops and shorts it's just gonna be either "because it's comfortable" or "because it's trendy"
I have actually seen people saying the tweens want to dress like this and my response is “too bad?” They’re minors. Children. We don’t need children dressing sexy. We just don’t. I wanted to dress like an adult as a kid too. My mom did not purchase me clothes that would be for adults. Because duh. They will be adults for the majority of their lives and can dress however they want. They’ll only be kids for a short period of time. Let them not be sexualized or feel the need to be sexual for at least 18 years like please 😭
YES EXACTLY! The only reason they want to dress that way (if they even do) is because people tell them they want to. The girlie pop fashion is in right now and that means on tv and movies they seen teenage characters wearing stuff like this and want to emulate it. They also see it on TikTok too with actually kids their age wearing it and getting famous.
The problem is I tell people this and they think I’m weird and go “just because someone shows skin doesn’t mean it’s sexual you’re the problem!” But so glad someone else knows that these damn fashion companies have that in mind when they make these clothes it is sexual I don’t care.
Like there's a difference in a 15 year old wearing a crop top because they want to and a 15 or younger year old wearing one because they litterally can't find anything else! It's not okay that they're forcing people to buy these due to it being the only non-ugly thing available..
@@RaspBerryPies I HATE that argument that people make where they say something like, "if you notice this as sexual, you're the problem." Like, no, I'm trying to protect people.
@@AlysaAlysaBolissaBananaFannaFethat's not how your protect them. You're victim blaming
@@msjkrameythat’s not victim blaming at all
What kills me is other people, in particticular other mothers, will call someone a predator for thinking this clothing is inappropriate for young girls. Morals are so currupt 🙄 like no, i don't want my 10 year old daughter showing her body like a 21 year old!!! Wtf!!
Those mothers are dumb. There are definitely predators out there that love seeing young girls dressed as teens. Just because someone is pointing out that, it doesn't mean they are predators themselves.
THANK YOU. I look back on my childhood and feel so disgusted by the things that were marketed to me and pushed on me. As an adult? Same feelings, same rationale. *Of course it's wrong to blame the kids in this situation - it's NOT wrong to look critically at the adults in the situation.* Those aren't the same thing and I feel like people intentionally miss the point. What I don't understand is WHY THEY DO IT???
Kids shouldn’t dress like adults :/
Tbh I’m so glad my Asian mom doesn’t know much abt fashion or anything trending. She puts my little sister in these pink or blue dress and sometimes they look so funny to me with her mismatched shoes 😭
Why is a 21 year old showing her body? What does she get from it?
There is a country song where the guy says, Im just trying to keep my daughters off the pole, and my sons out of jail…. Good parenting involves keeping your daughter sheltered for as long as possible!
clothing industry rn is so bad, I'm a teen Muslim girl and I can't find anything cute that's not A: crop top, B: too tight C: expensive as heck or D: the collar line is so deep that it'll show my cleavage, spaghetti straps, off the shoulders etc. pants are a lot easier thankfully but why do industries not understand that not everyone can or wants to show off their skin, ESPECIALLY KIDS AND TEENS, I have to go to the women's/adult's section a lot because the teens won't do it I and the kids section is too small/short.
Girl I have the same problem, personally I shop for winter and fall clothing and look through the men’s sections for cute hoodies and good quality pants.
@@ivorylightning4985 lucky! We do have cooler seasons here but its not cold enough to warrant more hoodies/ longer sleeved stuff. I do borrow clothes from my mom every now and then.
Women’s clothing can kiss our asses
Sameeeee I wanna wear cute skirts so bad but they’re all miniskirts so if I wore miniskirts my behind would show :(
It's cliché, but second hand is such a life saver for modest fashion needs. I managed to ride out most of the skinny jeans era with thrifted denim. Old skool jeans are durable as heck too!
also of note that using less fabric cuts production costs, companies are disguising being cheap as "fashion"
Less fabric and still like $35 for a literal sewing scrap! Quality is in the dumpster for women's fashion these days
@@Parcha64
I know, it's why I started learning how to make my own shit but sometimes it feels hopeless.
Omg you make a really good point. Once i was out shopping with my family and while looking at the women's section my dad asked "why are a lot of the women's section cropped? It looks cheap" and i obviously answered with something along the lines of "it's fashion duh, supply and demand." I never thought that he would probably mean it as companies potentially being cheap😭
Exactly
@@ieaterasers5986 Can you tell me how you learned as well as useful guides/references? I wanna learn to make my stuff for different reasons, but never got around to doing it.
As a 14 year old girl, I've had the problem of not being able to find modest clothes for a while. I'm curvy and so I get sexualized at every twist and turn and I have had to stop wearing some of my favourite articles of clothing so I wouldn't get sexualized anymore. Its insane, I can't make an outfit without thinking "but will I get catcalled in this?" or "but will I get followed in this?". Luckily, I've never been assaulted before, but goddamn is the option of it happening fucking terrifying. And the worst part is that I can't even find anything that I can wear that ISN'T sexual. I love dresses and skirts, but none go past my knee which is the only way I feel truly comfortable in them. I can't wear leggings, cause I get sexualized and I can't find loose-fitting sport shorts. Shirts are made to stick to my chest, most are cropped, have spaghetti straps or have such a deep neckline that it shows my cleavage. Shorts are so short you can see my ass.
Its disgusting, I just wanna wear pretty clothes while not getting sexualized. Why is that so hard? When did we decide to remove the option of modesty? (jeez I talked a lot- oops)
The option is still there it’s just not in stores. You have to go online for it. If you tell me what you consider modest (and what clothing size range you shop in such as kids or juniors/adults), I can share a few companies that I have found to be reliable when it comes to finding modest clothing.
@@jodishapiro4197 that would honestly be lovely :D
Personally, I have a pretty loose definition of modest, just no crop-tops or skirts that go above my knee or are like stuck to my body.
@@child.of.helios also with eshakti if you want my referral code I can post it (but I won’t post it if you don’t want it because I don’t want you to feel like there is any pressure).
@@child.of.helios it looks like it deleted my full response. I will rewrite it when I have time.
@@child.of.heliostry boys clothes
I love skirts, they're fun, cute, and great for the summer time because of how airy they are! Tell me why most trendy skirts I see either have a HUGE slit, some scrunching where the butt is to emphasize it, or are so short that if I were to bend down you'd see my undies. I really have to LOOK for skirts that aren't mini, slit up, with "fashionable" holes, or are just short as hell.
These day's I've opt for body neutral clothing because I'm so tired of sexualizing my body at every twist and turn. Thankfully, I adore baggy clothes anyway. But I feel terrible for young girls these days, it's so hard to stay a child when everyone is telling you to grow up as fast as you can so you can be molded into the current beauty trend. Movies, shows, clothing, music, cartoons, they're all grooming young girls to grow up so it's "morally grey" for people to sexualize them. (Ie; some sicko trying to convince others that it's fine because the child "looked 18")
I honestly think it's a tactic. I genuinely believe it's purposeful. And unfortunately, young girls are falling in line. From wearing tons of makeup at extremely young ages (I'm talking 10-14) and doing skin routines to get rid of nonexistent wrinkles. The whole world is telling them to grow up, and when they hit that age of 18 the world tells them to immediately stop aging or face "aging out." or going "past their expiration date" It's sick, sad, and there needs to be a change.
It's definitely NOT morally "gray". It's not right!
I’d recommend trying indie brands such as shopwitchvamp and maya kern for skirts, I hated skirts for years and then my sister showed me maya kern and i have like 5 from her now!
This is why i always use my skirts with shorts under, cuz I definitely don’t want some pervert looking up on my skirt
Ok, I got really lucky at Kohl’s the other day and found what I’ve been calling my “tactical skirt”. It’s floor length, and has enough fabric to jump around like a crazy person and not have any issues with leg movement. I could full out sprint in it with 0 worries. Only issue is the fabric is kinda weird feeling, it’s not cotton.
i for sure think they’re trying to turn little girls into customers. encouraging them to be more grown up and want more expensive grown up things so that they get hooked on the same consumerism as everyone else before they even have their own money to spend
i work as a lifeguard so i see a wide variety of kids every day. most kids still dress like kids, which is comforting. i do think that there is a bit of overexposure to the kids growing up too fast because they’re the ones allowed on the internet. but, i do see girls that look way older than their age. it usually starts around 11. i’ve comforted nervous girls taking their deep water tests who have full acrylics, highlights, and teeny tiny bikinis. it feels dystopian to talk to these girls who are so young and so childish (as they should be, due to being a child), but they’re dressed like adults. i worry for those girls
What are highlights?
@@gustavus0013like hair highlights
i ask two questions in this situation. : where are their parents and what are their parents doing.
@@randompersonyay looking at their phones probably
@@gustavus0013little strips of color in hair
“I understand why you’re doing it for the women’s clothing why are you doing it for the little girls clothing” this is exactly how I felt too!
I am an SA victim and you want to know what I was wearing? I was wearing my school uniform with long shorts and a freaking jacket. We reported it to the police and guess what he told me straight to my 12-year old face? “Boys will be boys.” And he refused to file a report. I was so upset I lost my faith in the police. And I go to therapy and I was diagnosed with PTSD.
What the hell??? That's just setting a bad example on men and boys, I'm so sorry that happened to you
Omg I'm so sorry, I can't even imagine the pain you must have been going through, I hope you recover.
Pretty sure that's very illegal for him to do
Gross. I hope you are okay. It is such a horrible example for boys and men. It is an awful example for women and girls looking for help. No girl or boy. Even men and women to get SA'd.
Very unprofessional of that officer. If it makes you feel any better, I'm an SA victim. It happened when I was in school, too. I was wearing just a normal shirt and jeans and it still happened to me. Now, I have anxiety. I don't know if it was directly because of those encounters or if it was because of school, or both.
Edit: Forgot to say that it was dealt with after the school year.
Edit#2: Back to the police thing, just know that not all police are like that. There are a lot of cool cops out there, and I've encountered a few of them. I remembered one encounter I had with one when I was in school. The cop drove me back home when I missed my bus, and my phone was acting up, so I couldn't call my parents. At the time, I couldn't remember their phone numbers. I drove in the front seat, I dunno if I'm okay, but I did. The cop didn't do anything weird, obviously.
The same thing happened a few years ago (not the same cop) but in this experience, it was a traffic stop, and the person who was driving the car got arrested over something involving the car or a missed court date or something like that. This cop was really cool, too, and we talked about school because I think I was 18 at the time.
I’m in high school and i don’t know why companies believe that all high school girls want to wear skimpy clothing to school and in general. They need a fucking wake up call.
Same. I'm XL but losing weight pretty fast. Pants my size = too long.
Shirts my size = Must be revealing v neck or it is crop top that I can't wear anyway because it would not cover my chest at all.
Fun fact: my ribs are fully visible despite most my body fat being my upper body.
But my niece wore a bathing suit that didn't cover sht for her chest and I wanted to slap her mom and dad or at least scream at her mom and dad.
Seems like they clearly forgot about dressing codes
@@Sun_S3t_22_Official Funny you mention that, you know I'm 20 I graduated from high school 2 years ago and the high school that I used to go to I find out from one of the teachers that the dress code is no longer in use at my old high school. It's fuckin outrageous I tell you
@@Sun_S3t_22_Official yeah, there isn't a dress code at my high school.
@@shadowfluff2255 the pants thing is so real. Pants are nearly impossible! if it's the right length the waistline is wrong, and if the waistline is good the pants are too short
when you were talking about predators (around like 16 mins in) i totally agree. you shouldnt put your children in revealing clothing because itll only raise the chances of them being a victim, and that isnt the childs fault, its just how it is. that being said, the law should be MUCH more strict when punishing sexual harassment and dealing with offenders.
oh yea. I go into WAYY more detail of how useless the justice system is when it comes to punishment for offenders in my follow up video. After doing research, there was this one time where a judge didn't put an offender in jail because he said, and I quote, "he wouldn't fair well in prison". It's disgusting the way they let these predators keep reoffending and doing absolutely nothing about it, I really don't understand why it isn't taken more seriously, considering it's one of the most common crimes in America. Just shows how much they care for women's safety I guess. 🫤
@@KaysajaI heard in some countries you can get the death sentence for that
This trend has been around for ages and it's exhausting. Inseams of girls' shorts, even for really young girls whose bodies are basically the same shape as boys, are on average an inch or two shorter to expose more leg, the material for tshirts is thinner, the cuts are tighter. Even when the clothes aren't just mini versions of adult fashions and they're just basic clothing items they've been tighter and smaller for girls on average for ages, for no reason other than fashions for female-assigned bodies are all designed with appearance over function in mind and femininity is seemingly tied to more revealing, body-hugging styles. One father noted that shorts for *babies and toddlers* barely covered the nappy for his daughter! They weren't designed to 'be sexy', of course, but girls are expected to be less covered. They wonder why we are all so body conscious at younger ages when they won't even make clothes for little girls with movement and durability in mind like they do for boys! But it never needed to be this way - when I was a young child in the 90s, it was easy to find tshirts that didn't ride up, dungarees and trousers and shorts that were the same for boys and girls and just in different colours and patterns etc. That was just the standard. Kids run around, and often wore hand-me-downs, so parents wanted clothes that last and would fit another child or two after the first one grew out of them. This was even a selling point for some brands. Now it's all about selling more and more, so clothes are more hyper-gendered and poor quality and you're shamed if you aren't up to date on trends that change week to week, and as women are a major consumer demographic the notion that even little girls need to be hyper-conscious of their looks and styled in the way that teens and adults are has been pushed more and more. And yeah, if that means women's fashions are often hyper-sexualised, then that seeps down the line too. I remember the first time in the 2000s I saw a playboy-branded t-shirt in a child's size, and it was shocking at the time because why the hell was a porn mag advertising to and on pre-teens? But now dressing up young girls in clothes cut like clubbing outfits is all over the place - because parents bought them, treating their kids like fashion accessories and pushing their image consciousness onto the younger generations, and companies realised they could get away with this. And the same is happening for boys, with children's styles imitating adult men's fashions and influencer parents showing off boys designer 'casual' outfits that look like miniatures of those sold to their fathers, but it's slightly less noticable because men's fashion still covers them. It's all about selling more and more. We've eradicated kids' fashion.
I never thought I’d see the day where I appreciated the hand-me-downs from my brother. I have soooo many nice comfy large t-shirts that don’t fit him anymore that I took. I just don’t wake up and go “oh I have to go to an 8 AM class! Let me put on my form fitting shirt that’s see-through while I stand in a lab for 4 hours!” NOOOO I WANNA BE COMFY I’M TIRED!
i agree, i’ve always started to notice women’s and girls clothes are much more revealing than mens/boys clothes. my mother even noticed it too whenever me and my older sister began puberty so she started dressing us in boys clothing until we were comfortable enough to wear what would be considered for girls. i never minded it because i knew she was trying to protect me and even till this day i am 17 still shopping in men’s isle because it’s just better fitting on my body and im more comfortable in clothes that allow me to move and pants that have pockets 🤣.
@@wafflesthearttoad6916we r similar 😭😭 instead of my brothers clothes it was my dads clothing, he was fairly short man so his pants would fit me perfectly 😭.
Now Justice is just another department store…that’s where I loved shopping as a kid-tween for all of my back to school outfits and outfits that lasted me through even middle school.
Now everything is cheaply made and there’s no exciting thing about going to the mall because all of the kids stores were replaced by sister brands of high end stores but targeted towards actual babies.
I love the hand me downs I still have, I didn’t dress like that at a young age and still came out with a good fashion sense, these kids don’t need these clothes. At this point it’s all for aesthetic purposes, that’s all they are to these companies (at least that’s how it feels to watch).
@@wafflesthearttoad6916no seriously! I have so many sweatpants from my dad and brothers that are so comfy that I can style with literally anything as well without needing to be uncomfortable.
Don’t get me wrong, I love an excuse to dress up, but I can’t do the Alt getup every single day or I will get overstimulated by some sort of fabric or another or just want to take everything off anyways.
keep in mind theres a entire ''what were you wearing'' museum of clothes. heartbreakingly, lots of kids clothes, ''modest'' clothes and uniforms too.
That doesn’t change the fact that kids shouldn’t be wearing specialized clothing. Yes predators will be predators regardless of clothing choices and also some clothing choices are not appropriate for children. Both facts are true.
That is also valid. Both points are valid
@@ElpSmith Exactly.
Wait can you explain what you mean by this? I'm so confused
@@abcdeisthekey theres a museum ive seen in videos online where its clothes of victims hung up along with their story written down, its a answer to the ''what were you wearing'' question and its mostly modest clothes and even childrens clothes
10- 13 year old here, I can never, and I mean NEVER shop at my favorite stores ever again and find clothes I LIKE and I’m COMFORTABLE in. I hate showing my stomach and all the shirts I find are bra like shirts , or tiny crop tops, so I sometimes wear some of my moms stuff, and at least it’s cute and comfy!! But after reading all of these people’s comments I feel so bad. Like no cop would just walk off like that when it’s an emergency. But yeah my point is that the only stores I shop at is like TJ MAX or Ross. But when I wanted t9 get a really cute shirt off she in or temp I forgot which one it was, ( Ik that’s a very sketchy website but ofc I didn’t know that cause i thought everything was so cute.) and when I saw this shirt with a black cat on it, I saw the model modeling the shirt and it was not cropped, it looked ver comfortable and I just thought like “wow! I can never find anything all the stores I go to are horrible I’m so happy I can find something I like!” So then my mom bought it for me , REMEMBER, IM A SIZE MEDIUM AND I GIT A SIZE LARGE. next 2-3 weeks go buy and I get it in the mail. And I tried it on and guess what, it went almost all the was up to my chest. I still have it in my closet right now but I never wear it.😭 So me and my mom talked about it, and we wanted to make a business just for girls that it’s not clothes that are revealing, or cropped. Since I know how to sew, I’ll just start making designs while I wait to save up the money for fabric!💗💗
What a great idea to make your own clothes! I encourage you to go to thrift stores and look for t shirts that you can “flip” and diy , it is a cheap and easy way to get started in making your own clothes. Sometimes the best way to thrift is to see the clothes as fabric and let your imagination take over. RUclips has amazing tutorials for getting into diy and clothes making. Good luck!
@@jordanqualls97 tysm!💗
What a great idea! I know so many girls will appreciate it a ton!
@@SugarSpice07 💗💗 tysm girll
Am also 10-13 and sewing my own clothes because am usually a medium/small but if I go to any big brands clothing store am a large or X large
No literally, young adults too. Every friggen top is cropped😤😤😤😤 like what about us who are transitioning from young adult to lady😭
What? Lady? Ladies cant wear a crop top? Yikes
Oh my gosh this- I'm not the most modest but I also don't like crop tops or tight clothes- why must it be so impossible to find shirts for that reason
@@DangleeeenAnkleI hate people like you who twist words. Please read without your emotions bugging your thinking. Read it again without the judgemental attitude I can feel across the screen. Yikes to your mindset and attitude.
@@DangleeeenAnkleYeah, we can. But some of us just don’t want to. Whether that be for religious reasons, or just how we feel. Either way, just be respectful or just, not critical- about other people’s decisions. None of your business, after all.
@@DangleeeenAnklesome of us don't want unwanted attention
Another note, pockets. Womens clothing is so much less efficient. The pockets are small or non existent. I don't think I know a man who owns a pair of bottoms without pockets. But many women's clothing doesn't have them at all, because that's not the focus. And even if they do have decent size pockets, say, cargo pants, the fabric is so thin and flowy that anything put in your pockets just bounces around and stretches the fabric. Unlike sturdy men's cargo pants that mostly stay in place when walking. I hate it so much. I thrift online so I can search for hours to find good quality, efficient clothing made with less polyester.
Also, I really love your videos and the way you are so open to others opinions and accept them, even if they differ from your own.
I cant STAND when they don't make pockets or make them so small. Or when they make fake pockets just for "fashion" it's like they're teasing us it drives me insane. Our pockets can barley fit our phones meanwhile men's jeans could fit a whole stanley cup lol. I'm sure it's just so we buy more handbags and it makes more money but it real frustrating. Also thanks for your support 🙏🏽
I wear nurse scrubs at work and you have no idea how happy I am to have so many big pockets. I even wear them to go grocery shopping
dang I need to get me some nurse scrubs then lol
Pockets being almost non existent on girls clothing has been a thing so they can buy purses for them to carry their things, it’s basically capitalism using gender roles for making women pay more than they should have to
I’ve had jeans where they went through the effort of making a fake pocket and then sewed them shut. Like we can’t even pretend they’re real?
I’m 15 and I always had this problem of clothes being too small, I grew up in a mormon family so I couldn’t wear sexualized clothes and it was IMPOSSIBLE to me to find cute clothes that don’t sexualize me 😢 that’s why I started getting into Japanese fashion and buying my all clothes online
I just saw an ad for three shirts. They said "most likely to break a boy's heart" "Most likely to find her husband" and "Most likely to turn into a werewolf"
Alright, we ain't even gonna talk about the first two, why are they giving us shirts that say "most likely to turn into a werewolf"? They just completely ran out of ideas huh 😂
@@Kaysaja I'm thinking it might be something about periods? like "i turn into a monster once a month"
Before I thought of that, I honestly would've worn the hell out of the werewolf shirt.
@totalynotcatherine OOOOHHHHHH I feel stupid😭😂 I literally thought they just ran out of ideas for sayings and stuff for women it was so out of pocket😂 thanks for clarifying and also I promise I'm not trying to bash ur fashion choices I'm sure you'd rock a werewolf shirt it's just not my style 😭
The last one 😭😭
not the werewolf one 🤣 but I would proudly wear the most likely to find a husband shirt lol
This has been happening in the men's section but reverse: I used to fit in XS but now XS often fit like M.... reverted to buying from the boys (they have the same issue though.... 15-16 yrs is HUGE. My dad can wear some of those shirts.)
Clothing industry, wtf?
I’m 36 now and have noticed this too! Im a woman, but I been wearing stuff from the men’s section since I was a teen . I used to also wear an s or xs and the sizes are just not the same over time .
That's so weird, I couldn't imagine why that would be the route they would take. maybe because baggy clothes are trendy again so they make more money with them or something like that? That might be something I can look into to talk about cus I had no idea they're changing the men's clothing too
@baby.nay. I'm wearing a new shirt sized 152 right now and it fits like a 176. No joke. I put an old shirt of that size next to it and this new one is actually a bit wider than the old one. HOW!!!
@Kaysaja I thought so too, but they're also changing waistband sizes. I used to wear size 164-176 trousers, now I need 146-152... it's absurd.
They're making the shoulders and the area under the armpits wider too, which means a lot of men suddenly look incredibly "skinny" and feel insecure. I'm one of them 😬 I no longer wear dress shirts without a jacket. Every time I tuck them into my trousers, they make me look like a damn muffin from the waist up. Every time I don't tuck them in, they make my 'behind' look out of proportion (funny, but embarrassing) because guess what, they made shirt waists even skinnier 💀
@noahapollo I'll actually need to look into that, I'll get my brother to try some clothes to see how it fits him. Maybe it has something to do with weight and obesity in america 🤔 thanks for this insight I think this'll be a really interesting video topic later!
I’m so glad someone is finally pointing this out as well
I’m a fashion student and I can’t stand people saying either “oh because they need to be more in shape to be healthier” or “oh let them wear whatever is comfortable, no big deal!” Or even “awww they wanna be so grown up!” Like, don’t rob them off of their childhood, at 7 I was wearing t-shirts with random Disney prints and leggings with the ugliest prints I’ve ever seen
Let’s be careful of what we purchase, let’s not sexualize our children
What infuriates me the most about this is when we bring up that we don't want little girls in revealing clothing we are the ones shamed and people try to gaslight us into believing that WE are the ones sexualizing little girl's bodies. No! We are trying to protect them because many of us have had first hand experience with creepy old men saying weird things to us when we were way too young. And yes when this happened to many of us, we were not wearing revealing clothing, but think about how much more it probably would have happened if we were.
YEES! I’ve seen this same argument with TikTok dances as well. When people object to teens posting videos of themselves twerking or gyrating online, they were sometimes met with people saying “It’s just a dance why are YOU seeing this as sexual… 😬”
I thought I was crazy because people were saying you were the problem if you thought it was inappropriate.
And why are the people so mad about kids being covered....that's so weird of them like they're okay with children wearing too little to no clothes but aren't okay with children wearing normal clothes??..
Also many have twisted the word feminist. Feminist is about woman having the same rights as men not about wearing the shortest outfits or little girls wearing the shortest outfits. Like they're using it as a excuse at this point-
@@PiaPancakesThere was a kpop idol who was a minor, but the dance was too s*xual, so people were just putting in the comments “reminder that she was a minor so you can’t comment that she’s s*xy!”
Or maybe the company shouldn’t be giving her songs like that yet??? 🤷♀️
I said online that kids shouldn’t be dressed like adults and had like 50 different people calling me a pedophile.
and with that it would be normalized even which would be an absolute tragedy
Lot of clothing for women and girls is not just revealing but impractical. Less fabric on summer wear means less protection, more risk of sunburn, higher sunscreen cost. Thinner fabric don't last as long and gets damaged from activity or hobbies (little boys clothes often have some rough play in mind, girls isn't - my jeans always used to wear through at the knees when I was a kid). It's basically pink tax in terms of need to purchase other products more, the need to repurchase due to quality etc.
It's also the fabric it's made out of, besides the fact that the fabric is thinner and there's less of it theres a higher chance its polyester. polyester is plastic, it's not breatheable, but its cheap. i find wearing polyester in the summer miserable. so it's impractical in even more ways, it's never designed with anything other than appearance in mind.
I swear I'm so happy people are talking about this, the little girls clothes look exactly like "baddie" clothes now... It's sick
I kept saying this and everytime i said this ppl (especially girls) would say "there r worst problems in the world" and call me awful for sexualizing girls and to not have kids because I'd be awful to them. Like i understand young girls will not see clothes like this as sexual, they would just see it as cool or pretty because so did i as a kid, but ppl need to realize that mothers feel unsafe because no matter what their kid wears they will be sexualized, that's every mother's fear, kids don't need to worry about their looks they should be running outside or playing with toys they really don't need these adult clothes, it's fine to dress ur kid up in this stuff in the privacy of your own home just not outside because if i ever had a kid she is not eye candy for every perv out there in the world, i couldn't protect her from everything but she deserves privacy of her body as a kid and any other age she'd grow up to be
@Zomdollie yeaa I've gotten similar comments here too, it's definitely a touchy subject so alot of peeps tend to get up in arms about it, which is understandable. It is a sad world we live in where we feel like we need to do this, but it's important to take precautions while fighting for a better future, at least in my opinion. Thanks for watching the video and continuing to help spread the word ❤️
@@Kaysajait sickens me that healthy modesty is seen as restrictive and misogynistic now. there is nothing wrong with extra protection from the eyes of creeps and extra protection from the hot sun.
Exactly, and some people say “they’re gonna do it anyway just let her wear the shirt” oh so, if you’re driving a car you’re gonna crash it anyway you might as well do it now. Like what is wrong with those people, THEY ARE THE PROBLEM TOO.
And also I wanted to add, why would you make it easier to make those creeps eye your child like that. Like why?!
@@KaysajaI know! People are disgusting! I’m a young girl, and my clothing is horrendously short. Like seriously, it’s why I wear a jacket in Public, people Stare at me WAAY to much, it’s either gonna be inappropriately small clothing, or some that shows way to much parts, like some of my shirts, I hope people will fix this. It’s one of my insecurities.
I have Autism with many texture issues and everything is so skin tight. I can't wear a lot of clothes because it's just too uncomfortable. Either having seams in my private areas or super small skin tight shorts and such. It's just annoying, and I don't remember having all these issues with shorts like this before. They all ride up. Or the high waisted stuff that is made too tight to suck up the "fat". It's crushes my ovaries or stomach. I don't want to suck in my fat. Let me hang it out so I can digest, please. I'm tired of this we have to be small and tight fitting. I want comfy.
God I know the feeling(I also have texture issues).
Oddly enough I have the opposite issue lol! I need to wear shorts and tube tops because the texture of fabric kills me 😭
I also have texture issues, I hate tight clothes but I’ll only wear tank top or baggy t-shirt (not spaghetti strap 😡)
I’m so glad you mentioned the seams because I remember that and I was so uncomfortable!
I relate specifically on my period, I become way more sensitive to textures and have to wear stuff much looser on my midsection rather than the cute high waisted stuff I love so much (it also aggravates my cramps more if I try to be fashionable on my period)
Girl that line from the criminal about certain clothes being easier to take off was hard to read but honestly one of the most helpful things Ive heard. I’m glad that you brought that to light. Not that we should need to cater our clothing but it’s good to be aware of things like that
Clothing brands need to do better, and [we) need to stop being weird about shopping the 'boys' section for girls. The first mom should have got two 'boys' tops, it's a plan white t-shirt it literally doesn't matter. The brands should be using identical patterns, young kids have the same body shape across genders especially
it's kind of wild that we don't have more unisex kid's clothes available. i feel like everything for kids is so much more gendered than it used to be when i was growing up! the girl's section at walmart is literally all pink and glitter and unicorns nowadays, and it's not like we never had clothes like that at all but it didn't used to be the only option! why are the normal t-shirts, pants, overalls etc part of the boy's section instead of unisex? it must be such a pain in the ass for parents
Exactly! It's just clothes if your daughter wants a shit from the boys isle or the girls isle doesn't have anything nice just buy it😭
I literally bought a boys top when I was younger and I love it. I also have a lot of my older brother’s old shirts and pants and they are so good.
When I was younger I always bought boys shorts because I felt that the girls shorts were too short! This video proves I wasn't going crazy!
ive found ‘the children’s place’ is one of the few clothing brands that still lets kids be kids, my mom shopped there for me as a kid and they’re designs have still pretty much stayed the same. cute fun colors and styles that are appropriate for little girls to have fun feel pretty and still be a KID.
Carter’s is pretty good too!
i hated children’s place as a kid 😂. i caught an attitude anytime we went in there because all of the designs were boring or annoying to me. even now the photos of more acceptable clothes made me cringe from the day i had to wear them.
not from the style, I agree those are very kid friendly and I know some kids love them, but sequins and hearts, and all of that on my clothes made me wanna rip them apart
@@noneof_urbiz honestly same, but i would take them over new kids fashion at this rate. some of the designs were ok but others were like “dear god is there enough glitter?”
@@noneof_urbizI always had to wear boys clothes as a kid if I wanted children's place because everything and I mean EVERYTHING in the girls section had a unicorn on it. I still hate that place to this day, excessively gendered clothing (like the "only unicorns and mermaids in girls, O ly trucks and dinosaurs in boys") should not be a thing in 2024...
Before I came out as non-binary, finding 'casual' girls clothing was IMPOSSIBLE. Sagging hoodies and sweatpants was stuff I enjoyed as my style. When I hit my shopping spree phase, I could not find any shirts or pants that wasn't stupidly low or tighteningly high. Shirts were cropped and the shoulders were constantly shown. Usually I was hit with the want to buy some dresses, so I searched the girl's section. And boy was that an eye-opening moment. Above the knee tight bottoms, no sleeves or spaghetti sleeves, or just plain tight around the chest ones.
I love my baggy shirts at home chilling, and I end up buying men's sizes. Everything has been crop top for some time at stores, and it's rough finding shirts I love.
Unpopular opinion: im 28 years old and I'm still 5 ft tall and 116 pounds. The most I've ever weighed was 125. Grown woman clothes are way too big for me. I'm not a thick stallion and i never will be. I cant find a cute date outfit or a club outfit without it being baggy and cut too big. I NEED the so called "inappropriate" clothes from the kids section. Put those clothes in sections for the smaller women. Problem solved.
"Thick stallion " I can't 😂😭 but yea they could just move the children's clothes to the small adults it's like they can't make comfortable sizes for girls really small or girls really big it can't be that hard 😑
@@Kaysaja my grandmother was tiny, I'm tiny, my daughter was born right on time and still only 5 pounds. I accept my fate 😂 give me the small stuff. I asked my husband if I'm getting thick and he laughed 😭😂😭
@far6311 oh wow only 5 pounds that's crazy hey nothing wrong with being a small girly embrace it 💅🏽
Yes bring back the petite section. I haven't seen a specific petite section in stores since I was a kid.
I'm 5'1 and about 130 pounds, I can't find dresses to save my life, I like thigh length dresses but last time I wanted a nicer looking dress I bought one from the kids' section.
Im 8 months pregnant and us pregnant women cant even escape the crop tops and un needed cut outs in weird places. Its hot af out where i live and i wanted to buy a pair of shorts, tell me why i could only find what i can only describe as distressed maternity daisy dukes ☠️ im not looking to show off me bloated pregnancy legs, i just dont want to be burning up in 100°f weather. So i ended up buying large mens shirts and some larger sized biker shorts in order to be comfy.
I'm sorry it's such a struggle for u but also congratulations on the baby!
Same here lmao. I don’t have the bloated leg part but the bump is to bumpy for my liking and I want bigger tshirts to “hide” it. Tell me why I can fit in a large men’s shirt but I have to size up to a xx in women’s shirts? Or why I still fit in a large T-shirt from like 2018-2019. Clothing size is so weird! I found a shirt at a thrift store, it fit, but was a small! I’m not a small😅 Ive also resorted to stealing my dads 2x shirts and they fit so comfortably lol
@Ariel-lol why would u want to hide ur bump?? So self conscious smh.
@@Chisthebest0fk off, she's allowed to think and do whatever she wants about her own body.
@Chisthebest0 People call them fat... ive seen it happen and wont forget it, its horrible (not meaning the person who you're replying to gets called fat)
Female rock climber here. I am 5’1” 110 lbs. Because my sport is heavy on upper-body muscles and because of my genetics, I have broad shoulders and arms relative to my size. I cannot fit into almost any Women’s shirts or dresses with t-shirt sleeves or long sleeves because I am a size small except for my shoulders/arms. The closest women’s size that would fit me would be large, which would be WAY too low cut for my height.
Thus, I buy men’s small. It is too long on me but it fits the rest of my proportions. Can we just make wider sleeves for SOME women’s clothing? Like can I have a choice if my arms aren’t sticks just because I’m 5’1” and athletic? Is it that hard? I just want normal sleeves, I don’t need the entire freaking outfit to be fitted! If you like fitted things, feel free to wear it! But why does everything have to be that way? It makes it so that the clothing doesn’t even fit everyone because it’s *fitted* to a certain person with certain proportions.
For dresses with any kind of sleeves I have to get all of the sleeves / shoulders custom tailored after purchasing. This is why I only own 2 fancy dresses. It is a hassle.
We need wider sleeves for a lot of clothing! I'm BELOW average height and weigh 115 pounds and so many shirts have too narrow sleeves for me 😅
@@ThisIsAnnie2002 Exactly!
Not only are the clothes inappropriate, mothers are dressing their kids inappropriately too.
You mentioned Ross and I was there a few weeks ago, and I saw this lady with her 4-5 year old who was wearing a see through crop top… with a micro crop top under to look like a bra….. I was so upset tbh. Why do mothers like to dress their toddlers like they are little adults? They propping their kids like adult mannequins and forgetting that there are demons in this world that love it….
These clothings also are trying to abolish age of consent in a way because age appropriate is now being ignored and now everything has to be mixed in for all ages…. I’ll never forget the time I saw s*x toys for kids….. hate it in this world.
A fucking WHAT?!
@@j.c.2240 YUP!! There was a RUclips video of parents introducing adult toys to their teenagers …. And they looks uncomfortable and awkward… poor kids.
@@Porceliankitty
I can't think of a more incorrect way to have the birds and bees talk than this... gross!
That’s disgusting.
What the ####.
I bought my 1 year old daughter a pair of adorable Mary Janes from NEXT. They were a size 18-24 months. I couldn't even get them on her feet, they were like doll shoes, so tiny. It saddened me so much. I hate how women's/girl's fashion is sexualized so much. I sew a lot of my own clothes and I let my daughters pick their clothes.
Sewing is the way
How do you sew shoes? @@hydratejsn
@@kcbh24 I bet you can but it would cost you more in time, tools and material for failed attempts, than buy really expensive quality shoes. I reacted to the part about sewing clothes
@@hydratejsn I know, dear. I was being sarcastic.
@@kcbh24 and I took it seriously :'(
I totally agree with this..I took my lil cousin shopping (she’s 13 so I was open to her having a bit more mature clothes 😌) and I let her go pick out her clothes while I walked around and shopped for myself..about 5-10 mins later she comes up to me and says “I can’t find my size” so I go over to the juniors and go to her size (which is a medium) and almost 90% of the clothes were crop tops or shirts that go way above her belly button🤯 and 5% of the clothes were very revealing which I don’t rlly understand so I go over to a bigger size L-XXL and the clothes are the same they r js wider so i take her to the bottoms section and all the bottoms were shorts that barely even go past her crotch 😭✋and tbh my cousin like dressing a bit grown but even she didn’t want these clothes and thought poorly of them…at the end of the day we js went to a few other stores and found somethings for her to wear and went to Ulta since the clothing haul was a fail 🤷🏾♀️
I’m a girl in my mid-late teens who still enjoys wearing things like shirts with cute cartoon animals, bright colors, bows, girly patterns, unicorns, charm bracelets, and other clothing and accessories that have been labeled as “childish.” I often feel self conscious when I compare my clothes and style to the other girls my age, who often wear clothing that is more revealing and plain. I also rarely wear makeup outside of dance recitals because I have sensory issues that make wearing makeup feel extremely uncomfortable for me. Comparing the clothes in the older children/tween section to the clothes in the teen section at a store always miffs me because of how stark the difference is. It’s almost like clothing manufacturers (or really just adults in general) think that the second you turn 13, you suddenly gain a whole new personality and clothing preferences and will start to prefer neutral/dark colors, tank tops, short shorts, boring patterns, and revealing necklines. While I’m not trying to shame any teens who do like this stuff, it’s disappointing to me that teens like me who prefer more stereotypically girly and childish clothing don’t have any options for their style in the teen section. Because I’m a smaller size and have gone through most of the physical changes of puberty already, I can still shop in the older children/tween section to get the clothes I want, but teens with a similar style to me but are a larger size don’t have that option.
I’ve also noticed that most of the summer dresses in the teen section almost always have V necks, which is a style I’m not super comfortable with. I can sometimes make it work by wearing a sweater or a tank top with a higher neckline underneath, but layering isn’t great for summer, and that’s when you’re intended to wear those dresses. Again, I think it’s fine for teens who want to wear V necks, but I wish there were versions of those dresses that had a higher neckline so you aren’t limited to one option.
im nonbinary and in my mid-late teens and im usually a large to an xl and i have a more vintage or cutesy frilly feminine style thats modest. its so hard to find clothes i like in standard stores let alone in my size, or even just fit my wonky measurements. i rely alot on vintage clothing stores or other ways to get 2nd hand clothing, or online shopping (i wear alot of jfashion too). i gave up on shopping in most stores. i cant wear short skirts at all because they end up shorter in the back on me and its so revealing. i wish i could find a modest summer dress thats long, because itll protect my skin from the sun.
EXACTLYY!! It's so hard to find cute, childish, pastel, and modest clothing bc everything is cropped, tight fitting, or dull colored these days. I feel like young kids clothes are the only ones with those colors
Being yourself is the best way you can be
As a 15 year old I love bright bold colours and sparkles. the v neck thing is a problem for me, I go to a Christian private school and I'm on our FIRST Robotics team, the jerseys (I don't really know what company we source them from) for the girls (there's only a couple of us) have v-necks. I'm going to petition for any new jersey orders to have circle necks for everyone, as we're convincong more girls to join
@@jaden_skywalker I wore a lot of undershirts in high school (and still do sometimes) because of the surplus of low-cut tops and v-necks
Even growing up in the 2000's all the little girl clothes seemed more catered to adult men than it was actually the wearers- aka little girls. It makes me sick.
It's disgusting the amount of pedos that run these businesses and get away with it because everyone benefits.
Was born 2002 and dude, I cannot agree more. I always hated jeans, and I especially hate low rise jeans. Guess what the only thing they sold for little girls like me back then? low rise. and I had to wear them to school. hated every second of it
@@HyLo-rulesame, I shopped mostly boys clothes and thrift stores for jeans that actually fit
Feminism is about women being able to make their own choices. However, I have a problem with little girls being encouraged to dress in a very sexualized way.
It’s not just kids clothes but also teenager clothes. I literally can’t find tops that aren’t cropped
Same 😭
literally half of my clothes are from american eagle because of this
as a girl who is very insecure and tummy shy, i always ask my mom if i can get boys graphic tees from like tilly's or smth. even unisex tees are kinda tight. i also shop in bigger sizes for tees (and pants even bc i want them to be baggy asf lol)
Yes!! Tilly's has this problem too, though. I was shopping for my younger sister (11), saw a cute top, had her try it on. Showed her skin. Got the bigger size, showed her tank top/bra. IT WAS A KIDS/TWEENS TOP!! A 7 year old shouldn't wear the top that she tried on, so why is it mean't for like, really young kids?! Tilly's clothes are really cute though. They have good graphic tees in the girls section too also! 💝💝
@@Violet11W i love tilly's graphic tees, but the girls section is ALWAYS crop tops and i hate it sm 😭😭
I’m a teenager and I’m generally comfortable in crop tops and stuff, but I need more modest options too. Like, I can’t find shirts acceptable for 6th form because they are all cropped or tight. And just in regular life too. I wear crop tops but I hate always wearing them but it feels like I have no other options.
Have you tried boho style clothes? There's a lot of options and honestly the clothes are really cute and comfy! Though they do over do it sometimes. Unfortunately it's hard to find them in stores, but you can always find the style on line. I hope this helps some!
Yeah, That's not even a North American problem. I'm a Canadian living on an island in the Galapagos, and allllllll the girls (teens and also young girls) are wearing crop-tops ALLLL the time. I mean, yes, it's a 'tropical country', but in reality, right now is the cool season and they're still dressed that way.
Wait are crop tops bad? D;
No they're not bad. But when every single clothes are cropped then yeah because not everyone wants to wear them @@gustavus0013
@@gustavus0013They mean like 13-I assume 8 year old girls. Crop tops are a cute shirt type, but if it’s revealing skin (depending on what you buy it shows some of your belly) then kids shouldn’t really be wearing that because of quite a bit of reasons. I am a 10 year old so correct me if anything I said doesn’t make sense.
@@starsies14 I personally think that it should be fine to dress the way you’d like even as a teenager (I’m 13 and I wear crop tops because I think they make my body look more proportionate), but we should absolutely stop sexualising certain clothing. I don’t want to be harassed when I’m wearing crop tops, nobody has the right to do that
Also I agree that kid’s clothing is way too “adult-like” nowadays since kids should be able to play and run around in their clothing, not be a model for the adult clothing industry at such a young age
I hope this is understandable, if not then please correct me
THERES ONES IN THE PHILIPPINES UH OH
i dont understand why they make little girls' clothes skin tight. its really uncomfortable to play in clothes like that! and i think it might make them self conscious and aware of their body size very early, when thats not something they should have to care about.
Also, I know there are a lot of opinions about keeping kids modest and what not, which i guess I half agree with. Im european and its really common for little kids to swim naked in public or play almost naked. I think thats fine, but when they put clothes on it should cover them. i think there should be a clear line between normal clothes wearing time and situationally appropriate naked time. Like clothes shouldnt accidentally leave you naked because you raised your arms or squatted down. I hope this makes sense
Yea that makes sense, that's something I forgot to say too in the video, i feel like swimming and being in the water u wear less clothes anyway, so I think it depends on ur area and how the parents feel about it
As a Muslim girl who mainly wears shirts, tops, sweaters and jeans, it’s REALLY hard to find a decent top that AT LEAST goes over my ass
that's why I shop in the boy's section lately
I’m 21 and I often shop the boys section 😅 I love boys cargo pants and shorts that have tons of pockets. I also like boys t-shirts as the cut is loose and long. I’ve been deconstructing my style and I’ve found I don’t really value cute clothes, I value practical and comfy clothes. The women’s section in accessible stores never has what I’m looking for but the boys or men’s does! I’ve found boys/men’s clothes are more durable too.
me too man. I dont want to only wear crop tops and booty shorts and clothes that are destroyed after one wash. The mens section just straight up has CLOTHES
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Same, they also have better pockets
Naw cause I see a boy shirt and I won’t notice I’m in the boys section until my mum yells at me for saying ‘oh!’ And touching the shirt. 😒 Come on I barely walk out with anything when it comes to the girls section :/
I actually noticed when I was shopping for clothes for myself, I am an adult who mostly shop in the kids section because I am 4’10 and 95 pounds. I thought it was finally refreshing to see cute clothes that fit me, until I realized these clothes are actually meant for girls under the age of 10… perhaps it because a lot of adults do shop in the kids section … idk. Regardless that’s disgusting
I'm 5ft 3 and 110lbs also shop in the kids section a lot because petites / juniors clothing doesn't seem to exist anymore. I bought a pair of tiny beach shorts for myself and didn't even realize it was for kids until I cut off all the tags when I got home. Why the hell would a child wear these little shorts I would only wear in my own home or at the beach as an adult?? Not right.
I am so glad i watched this. When i was a child, i always felt over weight because none of the clothes fit me. I would be so scared to go to the store because i hated seeing myself as “fat” or “not pretty.” I now feel better knowing it wasn’t my weight but just the sizes they were making everything. Thank you❤
I’m almost 18, and I’ve seen the shift between children then vs now, it’s so jarring and sad. Whenever I go to Sephora or Ulta I literally see some little girls in there, with crop tops, full faced makeup with FALSIES, and this mature attitude. I was at the store too one day and this mother and her BABY were in matching leggings and *sports bras,* the baby was able to scroll on TikTok too. It was crazy.
It’s genuinely so sad to me because while I wasn’t trying to dress above my age or do makeup, when I was 12 I stopped “playing” or collecting toys I liked because it’s “too young.” I was 12. Now I’m back to collecting what I like and doing what I like with my friends. I did grow up too fast, and that was years ago. I can’t imagine kids now with so much social media influence, and stores catering to them for profit.
almost eighteen as well, and its been so strange watching how different being a preteen was for me vs my niece, whos three years younger than me. there were all kinds of stuff specifically for preteens when i was that age, and its completely gone now. ive watched her go from a regular looking nine year old to someone my age in just a few years and its crazy to me how fast its changed. kids arent allowed to be kids anymore. theres no transition period.
I’m the same age, I sometimes find myself wondering if there is something wrong with me because I don’t dress that way. I think I’m not pretty or desirable, or that I’m babyish because I don’t wear that kind of stuff. But then I realise, I’m comfortable with my clothes and I’d rather not have tiny leggings giving me a wedgie all day lmao
@@ZiggyonMars exactly!!
whenever i see this topic brought up, so many women get so offended and act like YOUR sexualizing them. NO. some clothes are just not meant for 6 yr olds, 8 yr olds, etc. a child should not be going out dresses like a strippers😭. yes, i've very much seen this 😭but many women are ok with that. many mothers just don't care. i find it even more disappointing then when men are creeps
idk how it went from basically dehumanizing women for being sexual beings, making sex unenjoyable for women, if ur not married by 16 with four kids by 20, then ur washed up with no value.
to elementary school kids can watch whatever they want, say and act like an adult. they can dress in extremely provocative (like, it's inappropriately sexualized) As a child. dance to explicit songs about sex. post those videos online to a TT trend, And these mothers have no concern at all. it's not ok to sexualize a child ofc, but many women will turn away from adultifying (i know that's not a word) their own daughters.
i will also say, it's not simply wearing revealing clothing, it's just children wearing clothing that you would find a older teen or young adult wear. it's like what is the difference between those age groups if we're all wearing the same skirts, same styles of dresses, same trendy things. i get children want to dress as an adult, but can't these companies make them more kid friendly ? 😭 sorry but it weird seeing a kid dress the same way i am now as a 20 yr old.
Im so glad this is finally being talked about. Im insecure abt my legs so i wear pants, but time to time i will wear shorts just to cool off. But the thing is, i cant find any shorts that are atleast directly below the knees or like reach my knees. Most of the shorts i find only reach not even a quarter of my legs. And its the same thing for shirts. Personally, i like baggy and cropped shirts. But the problem is ALL of the shirts i find are either tight or WAY too short. and its even more unfair to the little girls. Because every where i go i see a little girl, maybe 5-7 wearing either a tank top or a crop top with super short shorts. At first i thought thats what they want perhaps, but then i noticed all the girls, young and old wore the same thing. I feel like the clothing industry’s are sexualizing woman.
Honestly I don’t think this is a product of “modern day” feminism, it’s just remaining parts of second wave feminism and the sexual revolution which basically says you just reject everything traditional and puritan just on principal and not understanding that being “sexually liberated” they way that they are/were is just becoming men’s public property rather than private property. Clothes these days are so small in part because all clothes in general are shit quality and the reason little girls are so grown these days is because our society is continually pedophilic and predatory to young girls, back in the ye ol days it was normal to marry a girl off young and this is just a continuation of that.
Also I grew up Muslim and very modest, I’ve never been shamed by other women/girls for the way that dress, but I have had men/boys complain about it.
It’s because it’s cheaper. Producing 3 mini tank top is cheaper and more profitable than producing one modest top. It consumes more fabric.
I very much agree with you. I never understood how women wanted to be "sexy" by wearing uncomfortable, impractical clothes that drive the attention of pervs. Like, how can that make you feel good in your skin and by extension in your sexuality?
The clothes we see nowadays seem to reflect a men's take on what a sexually liberated woman looks like. I think women themselves would come up with something more implicit, sophisticated, nuanced and exciting. I hope we'll get to see someday.
@@hydratejsn now a days? Why is it always somehow something new? Women are more free then ever to wear what they please but the pressures and influences of the past prevail, you think Victorian women and 1950s middle class housewives were happy and comfortable wearing layers upon layers and trying to achieve whatever silhouette was in fashion at the time? And notice how in the studies she cited, what people thought what women would make easier targets conflicted with what predators ACTUALLY said? It’s not about the clothing it’s about power and practicality. Who’s an easier target? A little girl in a light sundress or a woman in the club likely wearing layers of shape wear and a skin tight dress on top?
@@ivorylightning4985In all examples you list clothing was dictated by men's preference, but clothing for "sexually liberated women" specifically is pretty recent, so it's nowadays.
Just to clarify, I have nothing against revealing clothing per se, I think it has potential to normalise women's nudity and eventually prevent sexualisation. But what is currently mainstream mostly looks like torture and anxiety devices and is perv coded. They are not there for the sexy feeling of the wearer but for the interest of a certain type of watcher.
Also, yes, women are free to choose, but media influences them heavily. And most of the media is not made by women, although that is changing slowly.
It’s not “modern day” feminism, it’s a bunch of creepy adults designing these outfits for little girls, maybe instead of blaming “modern day” feminists for the problem blame the fashion designers for making the clothing
When I was a little girl, I wore plaid shorts that went down to my knees, skorts, and t shirts with unicorns on them, and i’m only 22 so it wasn’t that long ago. Can we please bring those back?
Times change 🙄
@@sidoniedelisleTime changing is great and all, but like statistics have literally shown that this mix of bringing minors into more adults stuff (such as clothes and music) does in fact cause them higher likelihoods of being in danger from creeps and predators. They are minors, they need to be protected.
i need female KNEE+ SHORTS
@@KittenSpriteI end up getting men’s cargo shorts because the bermuda shorts from the women’s section are so ugly. I never liked short shorts, it looks awful on my body type
I love childish clothes that are in my size because AT LEAST they will cover me up and they look cute on me and probably on you too
I'm a younger teen atm, and OH MY GOD does this topic piss me off. I'm not sure where but i saw a video of a swimsuit aimed to younger kids i believe, that had the HIP AREA CUT OUT SO HIPS AND THIGHS WOULD SHOW LIKE WTF??? I literally just want to wear shirts and stuff in the summer, but most shirts are cropped and i don't want to wear any sort of cropped/revealing clothing yet. As well as hoodies, i've gotten a few hoodies for winter only to realise they're cropped and I have to constantly pull them down because i get cold like uggh WHY CAN'T COMPANIES MAKE NORMAL LENGTH, NON-SEXUALISED CLOTHING FOR CHILDREN/TEENS
When I was 12-13, I was s3xulized by my “friends”. I always wore loose fit clothes because I always had a fear of that happening to me. And it did. Now, I live in even more fear. With all the clothes becoming shorter and tighter, I’m struggling to stay covered and safe. As an additional note: I have a natural hourglass figure, I have a fairly large chest because I matured early, and I have pretty wide hips. When I was like 10, I kept getting told,” you’re so mature for your age!” Geez i wonder why. As a society, we need to stop this. Keep the kids safe. I wish the best to all of you who read this while shopping for appropriate clothing. Stay safe out there
this is too relateable tho 😭😭
Girl, I feel so bad for you. I'm a teen, but I also have an hourglass figure and fairly large bust. It's practically impossible to find good-looking clothes that fit me AND are modest (especially swimsuits). Modern society says that if you have that body, you have to show it off, and I'm not even comfortable wearing crop tops! Luckily, I live (and grew up) in a place full of good people (mostly) so I don't exactly have it bad. Just... it's really frustrating to shop for myself, ya know?
@@SugarSpice07 It's IMPOSSIBLE to find nice clothesss :,,(
Same! Nothing ever happened to me, but I hope you're doing okay now. My dad basically scared me out of showing large amounts of skin and I'm kinda happy about that. It is so absurdly hard to find clothes that hide my figure and I hate it :(
@@missing_names8001 I'm doing better now! Thanks for asking :))
i just wanna note the difference not only in the size but the design of the tank tops at 0:39. i understand style and that this is just how shirts are. but isn’t it insane that even for children boys can wear full coverage tops with thick straps but girls wear clothes with tiny straps and a lower cut chest line. the subconscious sexualisation of girls clothes when they’re 3 YEARS OLD breaks my heart and makes my blood boil.
As someone who is modest, so true. I can’t find anything that’s cute that isn’t showing too much chest or is showing my stomach, my style is baggy so it’s just baggy t shirt and pants so that easy to find but my parents make me wear fancy clothes when I go out and I hate dresses. And of course there is no cute fancy modest clothing or at least a comfy modest cute dress.
Same here im a girl who likes dressing modestly and its annoying that the standard is not modest clothing
My daughter is a tomboy and the exact same size in kids' clothing means that the girls' version is too tight and the boys' version loose. 😅
hey, I'm a kid :) I'm 11 and i've noticed this. I hate how every time i go to a store and try and find clothes for me everything is cropped, tight, or makes your body look a sort of way when you wear it. I tend to wear more masculine/grungy clothing so i usually shop in the boys section and i don't see any issues over there. Everything fits like it should. I have friends who tend to wear crop tops and go to Sephora at my age and wear full faces of makeup. I don't want to sound like a pick me girl, but right now I think that they shouldn't be doing that. In our school we are on summer break and going into 6th grade, and at that young, we shouldn't be worried about makeup or wanting to make changes to our body. I remember 2 conversations specifically where in one, my friend was talking about how she wanted to change the shape of her nose with surgery, and the other was asking me if "her butt looked big in her Lululemon yoga pants". (holy i yapped a lot)
i’m 11 turning 12 this year, and i swear! i love minimal clothing, but im fine wearing anything tbh. yesterday, i went to a store in stockholm, the clothes were nice. some were tight, but that was only like 2 shirts in the store. i ended up buying some non revealing clothing for school, and it was great!
I'm 11 too, my mum always buys me either clothes with dinosaurs on it, or just clothes that don't show no skin, I may get many stares at for wearing dinosaur clothing as a girl, which hurts me a bit, but otherwise my sisters tried to get me into wearing the crop tops and etc, but i always refused to wear them, to the point where every time i wore them, i had to wear a jacket, i don't really like the appeal of showing skin due to the amount of predators and other horrible stuff i see on the internet, and every time i went to the little girls section, i saw crop tops, and everything grown up, it made me woozy, you only get to be an child once, and never again, why waste that chance?
Same! It’s really annoying
just want to point this out: don’t share your age on the internet! although this video seems like a safe space, just be careful, there’s always at least one bad person lurking through the comments. stay safe
Exactly! Thats whats happening to me! -domo btw
Honestly whenever I just walk around in the girls section I notice this it’s almost dehumanizing considering that society expects this nowadays and they have altered the standards so it’s almost impossible to find an un cropped shirt in the girls section
It is super interesting seeing how less covered clothing is tied to feminism in the US. I live in a conservative environment in Eastern Europe and it seems to me here a cleavage, slits, open back and above the knee skirt are seen as very traditionally feminine and therefore not feminist.
Also, here noone says covering clothes are "modest", just covering. Modesty is a virtue of character. Maybe it's the overlap of the two meanings in English, (implying uncovered women are also unmodest = unvirtuous), that makes feminists not like it?
Wow that's interesting, it definitely depends on a person's perspective and definition, of course not ALL women feel like being less covered means feminism out here, a lot of women define their empowerment differently, but a lot of it is carried in the way we dress now. I definitely think "modest" is kinda used interchangeably out here too, but I should start getting used to saying things like more covered instead
I'm from Eastern Europe as well, not really that conservative, but what you said relates to here. Slits in dresses or skirts, open back, cleavage revealing shirts are seen very feminine. Thing you would wear when you go out. At the same time, modest clothes are just normal clothes.
16:32 fr thank you for this point ! Most kids aren’t outrightly consenting to what clothes adults put them in . The types of attention that different garments bring at different times becomes such a nuanced and personally specific thing , its literally too much for a child to comprehend.
I'm so glad to see someone else bringing up locking your doors and stuff as a comparison, I keep thinking about that whenever I see people using the "that's victim blaming" argument for this stuff but I hadn't seen anyone else actually say it before.
Honestly it sucks how the fashion industry is right now, it is really hard to find anything cute that isn't clingy, in a horrendous color or croped in some way. While I might be fine with croped tops now as an adult, I didn't used to be, I do however still hate the way women's pants and shorts are made, with them being short or tight. I've gotten to the point of looking for bottoms in the boys isles. I should probably note that my family usually solved the crop top problem for children with layering the tops over tank tops or hours of going from store to store.
*aisle
My mom too! She would tell me to pair them with a dress or high waisted jeans (I have always had bigger thighs and butt than most average young adults/adults so i mainly shopped for womens pants majority of my life). Selling crop tops to teens isn't a big deal if you teach them how to wear it appropriately. But crop tops for under 13-14 is uncalled for in every sense. As someone who's very into fashion, it's honestly a fashion crime to put a child in such adult clothing in an adult fashion, as it gives them no chance to actually learn what their fashion sense is and what they like and feel comfortable in. As a 00s kid, seeing Disney red carpet fashion from then *now* got me thinking that maybe Disney was trying to set good examples through child celebrities as much as they could even though the Britney Spears affect became innevitable for most stars around that time.
This is one of the main reasons I shop second hand + not only are these stores expensive but the clothes are made so cheaply the fabric is basically a plastic bag 😭
Thankyou for this video, it’s very very important.
In my experience, this is definitely a societal/social issue. I was sa’d in my school uniform as a minor 😊 it ruined many days and aspects of my life even 15 years later. But starting with children’s clothing is a great place to advocating for change. This is so serious.
I’ve worked in the industry, and it’s actually disgusting how many literal predators are designing these clothes and even running these companies. It’s been a problem for a while, but it’s definitely gotten more apparent in recent years. Thank goodness people are noticing and calling it out more.
Went to a bunch of stores today. Couldn’t find a pot of shorts that wouldn’t get me dress coded immediately at school.
The dress code is really freaking sexist. Guys rarely get dress coded. The women's clothing situation and the dress code situation needs to be fixed. We shouldn't be forced to wear something tight/revealing/too short. And on the other hand, guys need to be dress coded a lot more often.
@@descendantgaming5410it was so insane to see boys in shorts, tank tops (wife beaters) and with sagging pants literally showing off their BOXERS not get dress coded but if a girl dares to be a little too curvy while wearing leggings that’s a dress code violation. it’s nonsense
I just bought some Bermuda shorts at old navy. not hard to find at all.
@@megsley
Man, Bermuda shirts are amazing but I can barely find them! Old Navy is actually one of the only places I’ve seen them in recent times.
in the men’s section at walmart they have some really nice cargo shorts!!! im actually wearing a pair of mine right now. they’re really comfortable AND the pockets are massive, also they go down to my knees so they should (at my school it’s no more than 3 inches above the knee) be dress code safe
1. i agree whole heartedly with you in the video and 2. i got to say your hair is GORGEOUS LIKE AHHHHH 😍✨
I was very sexualized as a young kid even when I wore cute/ more modest clothes my mom dressed me in. I recently started dressing less modestly and I dont expect any woman to follow my path because my path is my own. I am more masculine in some ways, so often I feel dissapointed by women who let men lead/ control but again I DONT judge them because thats their own path.
A very level-headed and respectful way of thinking. I like you. I sexualized MYSELF as a child. My mom tried to keep me away from revealing clothes and shield me from the hungry stares of older men but I was determined to do things my way. I wore revealing clothes behind her back, I allowed attention I got from boys and men. And sometimes women. I'm bisexual. I did crazy stuff in high school and even now I'm an elderly man magnet. Do I regret it? No. Sure it led me to some bad situations but still, I could never regret it all because it was my choice. No one forced me to do anything. Despite my mom's rules and my family's outlook on life, I took control of my life and did something I wanted to do. I felt...free. I still do now. I do like a man being in control but only a good man. Because it took me some time to realize it but even though good men are a rarity, they DO exist. I'm engaged to be married to the best man I've ever known. He likes to lead but he also lets me lead when he knows the time is right. Because in some ways we both have our struggles in life and need guidance and support from the other. He's gentle and nurturing, I feel safe with him.
i work at kohls and i’ve been there for 8 years. i’ve definitely noticed many of the clothes in the juniors department being cropped, having weird cuts, being really tiny, etc. it’s weird bc im at an age/size where the stuff in the womens department is a bit too mature for me but the stuff in juniors is all super tiny. i’ve also noticed a change in the girls/tween section; years ago the clothes were cute and very age appropriate but now they’re slowly adding similar styles from the juniors section to girls. it’s crazy man
As a 17 year old it is really hard to find clothes that are modest and appropriate I am Christian so it is important for me to be modest and not show my belly but all I can ever find is crop tops that I than have to hear a tank top under so I don’t show skin.
Edit I have that same New York shirt and the same problem you did
Have you ever saw the museum of victim's clothes? :( it's really sad we see all kinds of clothes but again most of them, modest or not they are easy to take off if you really want to be evil and vile, hoodies, babies, grandmas...etc... :( very sad even a Muslim woman who was fully covered
Someone recommended it to me in the comments and I looked it up. It's absolutely disgusting reading those horror stories of people being taken advantage of. Yes don't worry, I'm absolutely aware that it happens with covered clothing as well, frankly it's a whole lot of factors that play into being an easy target, not just clothing of course. But it really is a sad reality we live in, and I just want to shed light on every possibility that exist when protecting ourselves
I was so tired of wearing baggy tops and sweatpants, just because I don't want to sexualize myself, I believe that my body is valuable, and that only the man who has worked hard to prove himself for me, and that marries me, is worthy of my body, not a random stranger on the street. That's why I started sewing, it's so, so much better than buying my clothes, to be honest
Hey, not everyone who wears a t-shirt is sexualising themselves.
@@fairygodmother139 Girl, you know exactly what I meant 😭
I am a 14 year old AFAB and i started shopping for shirts in the men's section. They might be boring, but at least they ain't so tight that i can barely move. I hate tight clothing, especially since i have severe gender dysphoria. I'm quite short, but the smallest shirt in the men's section fits just fine.
dude you’re so cool 👍
As a teen, I have found this frustrating. I can’t find any cute shirts that are flattering and normal sized. Don’t get me wrong, I love a cute crop top. But I want more options that would fit my style more. These days if you are a young girl and not wearing a crop top, you are wearing an unflattering shirt or an oversized hoodie(even in hotter parts of the year). I don’t have the time nor money to seek out the shirt of my dreams. It probably does exist but is not accessible to me.
Yea it does exist on Amazon
It actually sucks I’m 14 and feel really lonely because my friends are already dressing really grown, dying their hair, putting on massive amounts of makeup while I barely even know how to do makeup💀 like I just feel so left out especially because I still am SO FIXATED on children shows I liked when I was younger like it’s so hard to let go of that idk how other kids my age do it😭
i’m 17 and the most “makeup” i can do is eye and lip liner lol. tbh, there are a lot of girls, especially older teens, who still like shows from their childhood, stuffed animals, cartoons, and things of that nature. i feel like dressing “grown”, dying your hair (which isn’t rlly a grown thing), and wearing a ton of makeup doesn’t make a person more “mature” and steer them away from things they liked in their childhood. sure, i like wearing more revealing shirts because i like how they complement my body shape, but i also still play roblox, have a ton of stuffed animals, watch shows that came out when i was in elementary, etc.! there’s nothing wrong with that! as you get older, you’ll learn that your hobbies and interests, no matter how “childish” they seem, are something personal to you! you’ll find friends your age who like the same things you do and act the way you do. i promise you, don’t worry about all the others! everyone moves at their own pace and does things that makes them comfortable. just do what you want!!!
@@tarmlktea4699 GIRL PREACH 😭🙌🏼✨ The most makeup i do is mascara and maybe some lip gloss if were really going out but i cant do anything else 😭 the best i can do is painting/drawing on myself with eyeshadow like 💀 also literally one of my fav shows is Bluey and i dont even care who knows like i have a bluey lunchbox and everything. enjoy the things you want and please dont give in to peer pressure like i did/still do.
I'm 14 too, but I think I can do makeup okay, and I like wearing n doing it. I used to wear "boyish" girls' clothes n those were so ugly 😂 now I try to find cute y2k t-shirts and I wear hoodies with nice prints and basic jeans or maxi skirts outside/in school. Not the most modest but yk basic teen clothes 🤷♀️ I hate crop tops and never feel comfy even thinking about wearing one and bc I like low-mid/normal waisted jeans and have a bit longer torso I try to find longer shirts. Anyways I'm still actually pretty childish, and I love mh dolls n customising toys. I feel like my classmates are trying to seem older and cooler, but I try not to 😊
Yes same here!! There's this girl in my grade who gets literal spray tans. And the need to have highlights in their hair I just don't understand, you're just damaging it at this point and in my opinion wouldn't you want to spend as much time with your natural bouncy beautiful hair as possible before you just start to ruin it? I don't understand the need to grow up as fast as possible. I also still like dolls and such but my parents judge me for it. Like I'm sorry for indulging in what I'm interested in, mother. I just don't think we need to grow up this freaking fast. There are girls in the sixth grade who wear full faces of make up and I cannot stand it.
@@Limefree YESSSS I LOVE BLUEY SM
Thank you for addressing this concern because I have seen when looking for clothes I have seen literal crop tops and I understand that some little girls grow faster than others but little girls should not have crop tops in that section and now I understand if you’re a teenager you can wear crop tops and stuff but There should not be crop tops in little girl sections
My sister has to buy her child boy shorts because the shorts are so tiny. Disgusting.
At least that little girl is gonna grow up to know that it’s disgusting to sexualize children
I really hate that most fashion for little girls is becoming so adult. Sure, some girls don't like the cute options or the one that cover them to much, but it is not appropiate that children are made to wear clothing that shows WAY TO MUCH skin(example: crop tops, minishorts, mini skirts, or even fishnet stockings).
Don’t apologize for anything you said. I agree with basically everything.. why risk anything and let kids be kids. They don’t know any better. Adults be better and keep these kids safe.
My daughter is about to turn 11 and I'm so glad that she's enjoying childhood. We actually shop in the boys section half the time.
It's so disgusting how the clothes for literal children to be sexualized, like if I even have a daughter I'm not even going to buy her clothes from stores I'm going to MAKE them myself and learn to sew perfectly so she wont have to wear such gross clothes.
Edit** I'm just 14 so I hope that when I turn 19-20 &/or when I have a kid that the clothes are better
As an AFAB i barely even shop in the girls section anymore cause the stuff is so tight and short bro😭 I usually shop in the men’s for shorts because they don’t ride up, they’re loose but not too loose, and they are a reasonable length compared to girl booty shorts. plus the shirts suck too because of basically the same reasons💀💀
What makes this EVEN BETTER!! is how I’m told that I need to “step out of my comfort zone” and to “let people know your a girl because being misgendered is NOT okay!!” (I don’t give a rats BEHIND about being misgendered I have more important things)💀💀
Look, I'm only young but i see this problem everywhere. I'm slightly "overdeveloped" and it's very annoying. People have said inappropriate things, especially at such young ages too. I'm muslim and have strict parents, so luckily I wasn't exactly manipulated into wearing such sexual clothes. (For clarification I'm still muslim but i dont wear a hijab and long dresses yada yada) I also know that this is a different thing, but peoe are educating their children wrong, they are starting to think that things that matter are beauty, fame abd money, i get bullied for being myself, doing what i like, trying to be an author instead of a model or whatever. And i am SO glad that this situation is getting recognised. After all this, being the weird kid, sticking out, wearing different things, I'm glad to stay like this. And even at my age, i can understand what's happening, and it's ridiculous and disgusting! Thank you for reading all of this
hey! just wanted to say im a minor as well (although older than you) and i whole heartedly agree with you. I am on the cusp of being "flat chested" so fortunately i havent been in an innapropriate situation, but i have seen people with your problem a lot and i think its absolutely disgusting. I try to step in when i can, but it doesnt always work. also know that i am writing my own book as well and i crochet and sew and is known as the "weird kid", and i have (and still am) terrified of telling ppl about my interests. Just please please please please *please* dont be like me. I have become such a people pleaser and developed so much anxiety about my personality and how people would view it, that i havent really been me anymore. im trying to work on it currently, but once your in that circle, it is SO HARD to get out of. So even if people look down upon your hobbies, just ignore them and you will have a better reward in the long run. just know that i love you and hundreds of people will to if you give them a chance!
@@Limefreehey im almost 21 and I also am a bit strange lol! i just wanted to say that its not too late for you at all. when i was around 17 i suddenly stopped caring ab what other people thought of me and my life improved, its a lot easier to live your own life and focus on your own stuff when none of your energy is going towards pleasing others etc.
so let's not become 40 year olds who are angry because they never got to live a life that was true to them !! 🥂✨️ hehe
@@forg-du5dr thank you for the kind words lol! I am getting help for my issues currently so I hope i will be able to enjoy the few years of being a teenager i have left!
Just a fair warning for ya, as someone who was fully developed by the age of 12 and apparently “dressed like a Mormon” according to a friend, I was overly sexualized by both guys in my class, men at church, and super creepy men online. My sister, who didn’t develop until she was 16, experienced none of this, so I’m of the belief that if your body looks older than your age, you’re more of a target. I’ve been in a few hairy situations, and I only got out thanks to a strangely accurate gut (as I was very naïve). So trust your gut, speak up for yourself (guys at school usually backed off when I called them out on their behavior), and stay safe. My parents also s**t shamed me for wearing clothes THEY bought me, so I couldn’t rely on them. But lots of teachers and older kids, particularly older girls protected me, so don’t be afraid to ask for help.
Inaya, it's wonderful to hear your perspective! It's horrible that women and girls are so sexualized, and it's never your fault, no matter what you wear.
BUT ALSO
For your own safety, I REALLY think you should delete this comment and take care to not tell people your age or how developed your body is. There are a lot of horrible creeps who will want to be weird and nasty to you if they see comments revealing information like this, and I want you to stay safe.
When I'm on the internet, no one knows my age, gender, location, or any details that might be used to identify me. It's a policy I keep that's worked very well to keep me safe online for years, and I highly recommend you do the same.
Wishing you all the best! Never stop writing! When you become an author someday, I want to read your books!
Something I think is important to note:
a lot of parents don’t want kids, they want mini adults
That may be part of the reason they keep buying these more adult clothes for them
Literally my entire life I’ve been looking for shirts and stuff in the boys section
They need to let kids be kids. They don’t need their clothes to be sexualize.
LET BABIES BE BABIES! They have all the time in the world to grow up and dress grown. So happy im not the only 1 who noticed the difference in clothes
i love that you made this video! I’ve always thought it was strange how long the trend of crop tops has lasted . This is very insightful