My (ex) spouse was diagnosed with Vaginismus and possible case of Dyspareunia . Yes I know, it is treatable. But even after 2 years there was no sex. And moreover her attitude towards me and my family started changing. When suicidal thoughts started creeping into me and my sexual health started affecting, I took a stand and chose to leave. So, now I'm a 30 year old virgin divorcee. Talk about luck. Edit: Divorced Now.
Bro tumne society,rishtedaro ka pressure kaise jhelte ho divorce hone ke baad, kuch rishtedar tumara majak banate hoge ki acha hua tumare sath aisa hua,is chiz ko tum kaise jhelte ho
@@akshaydogra8015 bro. Poori tharah divorce nahi hua. Just separated. Petition coming week sign hoga. But yeah I have faced mixture of both. Jinko humse jalan hai wo log keh rahe hai ki acha hua... Aur jo hume jaante hai wo keh rahe hai.. 2 saal seh chuke ho, good decision to end it. My advise grow a thick skin or cultivate a habit to be deaf when required.
I think it would be nice if you cover asexuality also with this.. There are asexual people getting married because of the pressure of society and end up in sexless marriage.. sometimes they don't even know asexuality is a thing.. especially when the male partner is the asexual person there is a chance it would be a sexless marriage and if the female is asexual there is chances for marital rapes or even having sex even though they don't want to do it but end up doing for the partner or even thinking normally females don't really enjoy sex.. . I am an asexual and I think if people are not aware of it and keep on pressuring asexual people to get married with a heterosexual person it can be a disaster.. Asexual people are the most confused ones in the spectrum.. especially in India were sex is a taboo.. they won't talk about it.. they will think everyone is just like that.. especially girls.. or if the boy is asexual he won't realise the sexual needs of his wife and even might blame her for that..
Stop blaming society. If you don't have sexul needs then don't destroy life of another person by marrying him/her. And marital rape is a myth. It's the duty of wife to satisfy sexual needs of husband or she can take divorce.
@@ultimate6243 Asexuality is not the cause of marital rapes.. and sex should be consensual otherwise it is rape..there is a chance that you don't want to do it at the moment.. but if you are sure you will never want to do it then of course you should leave the marriage.. sex in a relationship or marriage should be consensual.. it is not the license for doing anything..
@@annamaria1117 Sexual consent is a myth. Sex is not a contract. So Forget consent. Sexual consent is invention of west . It does not exist in nature. It's the duty of husband and wife to fulfill sexual needs of each other. Denying sex without valid reason is mental cruelty to spouse. Marriage is a monogamous relationship. So wife has 100% responsibility of satisfying sexual neeeds of husband unless she has valid reason for denying sex. Sex is not a option/Choice it's a duty.
@@ultimate6243 is it not the duty of the husband to satisfy his wife. And I agree, people should acknowledge this about themselves lest they destroy a hapless person's life. Divorce of matters of sex will create enormous difficulties in their lives.
In laws ruins relationship and husband keeps taking their sides especially, of mother, but men realizes too late that this is what has affected their marriage. It's not sex it's everything that happens after marriage affects marriage and of course sexual life. Mother in laws thinks that their son should keep sitting with them all the time and go to his room only for few hours to sleep. When you yourself have a toxic mother who controls even your life and wants on name of being a mother then the relationship is dead. It hasn't even picked up.
The in-law theory generalized from women's perspective is true in cases of many men also whose married life is marred by their wives' over the board concern and engagement with parents or children rather than husbands. Such cases often end up in infidelity too.
I dont know why i am crying while reading this comment... I think i am suffering from all these situation. I have been married just for 6 months and already loosing interest in every thing. I was so talkative, so cheerful, and now i dont want to talk or meet anyone, not even family member, Loosing all my self esteem, youth everything. Feeling like trap in a cage.
When a marriage is forced, it’s possible they chose not to proceed physically because they lack that feel and feel uncomfortable. I think that should be mentioned and considered for awareness.
@@harinigoud9468 Asking for marriage is not forced marriage. Forced marriage means asking to marry a particular person. Purpose of life is to survival of lineage. Through marriage parents wants to make sure the survival of their lineage. Or in layman's term parents wanted to become grand parents that's why they want to marry off their children.
@@ultimate6243 I get that but it still needs consent and freedom to choose the one you are probably expecting to spend the rest of the life. This will naturally create emotions and eliminate issues like that mentioned in this video to some extent.
@@harinigoud9468 yeah true harini, but you know na in India this arranged marriage things, it's really hard. That's why we should talk to the partner before getting into marriage about all the things, and how they are feeling. Because without feeling as you said it's really difficult to do anything after marriage
our elite class is enjoying the helplessness of indians and offering us as labour of all kind to rest of the world and taking the cut money by selling us
Marrying a physically or mentally incompatible partner is a surefire way to unhappiness, either on the sexual front or otherwise. Perhaps it's better to sort these things out prior to marriage rather than struggling afterwards. But that off course requires a certain level of honesty and openness that may not be everyone's cup of tea.
Mutual admiration is the key for a successful marriage life. The guy or girl should be rational in making own decisions without parents interference. In few months/weeks after marriage, physical admiration goes off. Mental admiration is the key for life long successful marriage life and both spouses should work towards it. It's not one way. It's applicable for both sexes.
But ma'am in our indian culture and society maximum marriages are sexless because of lots of reason like career, domestic violence and different views. 😭
@@plutoneptuneI don't like being with someone and meaningless relation but disagree with you because sex is the reason you were born and every other human.If there are someone willing to do in a good way it is not problem.Sex is a choice like marriage,kids and attitude it is vital for human civilisation.I like celibacy for another reason not for hardcore other people who do with a nonsensical reason.
@@plutoneptune I already avoided brotha im still single and don't care about being single but im not wrong because of your word which contains so mucho weight.If more people follow brahmcharya population will decline (which is not possible in rural areas mostly) then people will not left to follow brahmcharya.Brahmcharya should be followed only for lusty dirty fellows and who destroyed sex for humanity.Those who are in true love it is not for them.
Ask me about it , i have been living sexy less marriage for 19 years ! Still living under the same roof and doing all what I am supposed to do as a husband, dad! We don’t even sleep in the same room for the last many many years ! She still rules the home 🤪, so it’s not just men always …pl it’s for all genders !
@Hari - That sounds like you are unhappy…..Than You need to take her and sit and talk about it or if she’s not willing to make changes or you or whatever is the problem u need to work things out if nothing changes then things will just get worse so divorce is the answer.
men always get sex and orgasm in marriage, but for women it's very uncommon to recieve pleasure from marriage sex. Don't do whataboutism. You should communicate with your partner about it.
My parents marriage is also in a similar situation. So I think I am your son's age. Maybe even younger. But I sympathize with you. Do something for yourself. Tell her you're sad and WHY . Not only her. Go ahead and cry on your daughter's/son's shoulder about it and state the EXACT reason. Nobody else is gonna stand for you. You have all rights to cry out your sorrows to your kids. You've cared for them for so long afterall. And no, you're not pressing your wife . You're just venting your frustration in a healthy way to people who really care about you, your kids (only if they are more than 17 or 18 years, else it is gonna be really, you know..) tell your wife how worthless your life feels.she'll listen if she caress slightest bit. And if she doesn't, simply cry out, and not alone , but on a caring shoulder, maybe yo kids.
Hari Bharadwaj, try to talk to your wife about it. If she doesn't understand, then you have the option of seeking divorce. Denying sex for a long time without a valid reason can be grounds for divorce as per Delhi High court which had granted divorce in one such case.
1. Nope, not recommended to a have post-fight make-up love making as, the only trigger for love-making would then be fight and lead to a toxic relationship. 2. Intimacy not necessarily means sex, sex can be subset (one of the ways) of intimacy and not the only way. 3. Undoubtedly agree with its important to have an open conversation about sex in society and especially in a couple. Thanks for providing a perspective.
Atleast someone here sees the post fight makeout as problematic. Does the makeout really solve the problem? Not at all. Infact one will feel even more hurted when they fight on the same thing again tomorrow.
In my opinion, First we have to change how we view sex. It's not only sensual pleasure or mean to have a offspring. Being intimate means being close with that significant one to the deeper level to our soul and body. Being intimate means we ready to show who we are at our core, to show our vulnerability , to feel that comfort and safety. Sex should not be a taboo.
A very initiative talk on the serious topic where men n society feel its normal but a lady knows what is she going through when her marriage is sex less...She has everything but not her partner...d joy of been togetherness is missing..There is much more she is missing but she always puts a smile on her face to hid all her sadness. I really appreciate the topic you come upon to discuss n spark those thoughts in our mind... Thank you...
People move away from people when they're not happy with you, be a giver then taker once you give happiness your partner will find ways to give it back to you, think isn't same you want from him.
Sexless marriage is quite normal as long as both chooses it to be. After years of sex why not give it a rest. It is like your job one day you will retire. Sex may not be the priority if you both have other more important things in life to do.
@@beastmotozYou are comparing like this seriously. Without food we will die but with out sex we will not die . If you can't control it then , that's different matter . But those PPL who can control it they don't need sex . Take divorce and live happily. Don't need to blame other person .
@deepadutta6751 mam what's wrong with having sex , why is it something to be controlled what's wrong with physical intimacy , then so many people today wouldn't have wanted to fuck , refusing sex is cruelty
I am married for 5 yrs ..... My husband has a problem so we did not have sex till now.....he tried to cure but it went worse and the distance between us has gone to extent ....... Now we have planned for a divorce 👍👍 ......
@Kartik India yaa seperated.....it's not about sex but it's about the differences which start becoz of it and end on it......many ppl say without it we can live but out of it u have frustrated mind irritated situations etc which many handle it and many destroy it........so my situation tooo did not support me
@@nilus2286 unhe kya problem thi ma'am. Mai sirf jaankari k liye pooch raha hun. Darasal mujhe bhi erectile dysfunction hai aur mai iska ilaaj krana chahta hoon.
Sexless marriages are like a hanging ball with think thread. They can snap away at anytime. Sex rejuvenates passion and reinforces a relationship between a husband & a wife.
Thank you! Your candid comment on this issue is most "hit home" subject. Perhaps that is why divorce or separation is so common here in the U S So frustrating for alot of us!
you have raised a very important issue as people pretend that it is not important but actually they lie with themselves and know internally that how much it is important..
I am very happy that you have ventured to talk on a forbidden topic breaking the shackles imposed by society especially Indian society. I understand the pain of any partner who is trapped in a sexless marriage. I also suffered because I was trapped in one such marriage. I had to suffer in silence because sex was a taboo subject for the people of our generation. Hopefully people no longer have to suffer thanks to the efforts of courageous people like you.
What if partner considers you only a sex object n thinks shaadi sirf sex k liye hoti hai n ders no emotional connection no affecttion no warmth n if u try to tell him he says toh jao kisi aur se le lo affection... Wt if he doesn't want to understand tht emotional needs are to b fulfilled too... Can u sleep with a stranger... It's like tht only wen ders no emotional bonding... Emotions are more important n very much needed for intimacy
Interesting 🙄 So it's true that Girls love increases when they have an emotional connection with their husband And guy's love increases when they both have sex🤔 Girls rely on emotional connection Guys rely on Physical connection👍
@@bepositivealways...9521 i don’t know 🤷♀️ he has no interest in me .he sleeps in his bedroom and I sleep in my bedroom with my two kids I hate him he spoil my life.
Not everyone think marriage = sex So many people may don't want sex .. That should be talked before marriage Contract marriages also good for things like that and finance etc ..
Every people know marriage = Sex = Children You can't unilaterally change the definition of marriage. Conjugal rights Is an important part of all marriage laws in the world.
@@ultimate6243 lol 😂 I am sure you are a noob just watch Acharya Prashant's view about marriage ( he's more good and true follower of Hinduism than you ) . And point to be noted - he is a man with good thoughts . ruclips.net/user/shortsCaTdXDFcN8I?feature=share This is the link about marriage by Acharya Prashant . Hope you may get some brain and if you wish please understand his thoughts and don't take & spread shit from this illiterate , bullshit society 🙏.
@@Bharatiya12321 Acharya Prashant is not an expert on Hindu Dharma. He is a self style Guru. In hindu marriage bride and groom take saat-phera/Seven round. And the 5th phera is about wish of children from God. So Hindu marriage rituals also say marriage is about children. Read about saat-phera in wikipedia. I have given the link below.. Link--en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Saat_phere
Please do not Mislead. If a parter does not desire for sex he/shebmight be having some physical issue... I have seen people who have great intimasy with their partners they still go out and do extra marital affairs. Love and lust are two different things. In past people used to practice celibacy. That does not make them depressed or deprived. Sex is important but its not that you cant live with it. Those People also survive whom partners die in any incident. Emotional connect and sexual intimacy are two differnt things. Mutual understanding and understanding your partners physical discomfort is actual love.
People should marry for companionship not for exclusive sex rights. If two people not getting along well sex can't save the relationship. 15min can't cover 23h45m.
@@gyadre even if they do sex frequently but it isn't that grt for one partner or other. What to do!!? If your main course is grt you can adjust with side items like sex.
I wish I saw this video 8 years ago… Better late than never… Most important to mention about the partner who wants love, bonding time n intimacy, How their mental health gets affected…
@@Naam_name ma'am aap bhi to harr jagah rehti ho but sorry kya karu mere mobile pe or kuch aata hi nahi bas aisi, hi videos aati hai or jab bhi yt chalata hu to aisi hi videos dekhne ko milti hai sorry ma'am agar apko bura laga to
my husband is a doctor and he comes home kind of 3/4 days after. We live in another country, without our families. I spend 72+ hours all alone except for going for grocery. I don't have any single friends here either. And when he come home for hardly 7/8 hours, he want sex. No time spending,nothing,just sex. I now dont feel any urge,i hate sex now. N refuse him over n over again.
@@iffat3547 oh dear I can feel u emotions trust me i want to see u happy. I m feeling very bad for u.plz dear talk with me i can't see u in this situation.bcoz Allah say agar iss duniya me koi bhi dukhi hai to tumhe khush rehne ka adhikaar nahi. Plz dear doctor sahab ko apke saath aisa nahi krna chahiye unko apki feelings samajhni chahiye.
My goodness I'm an asexual 🌈🏳️🌈 and I'm pretty terrified of being married but I wanna adopt my kids,and being in a manipulative Toxic family and as my parents are separated I know how it feels having no parent or only one parent...I wanna get married for my children and also to support my partner too...but as asexuality is quite rare I'm terrified that after some time my partner might get tired of the relationship...let's see if this video will help me...
I too have a toxic family but everytime I try to portray this through my behavior my family members say we raised and fed you. Those you consider as good people will never do so. Did you ever face this? How do you reply to this?
Consenual sex should happen in marriage (or even before marriage). Know if that person is asexual or not, so you dont blame the person later. You cannot force a person for intimacy. Couples should go for pre-marital counselling.
Sexual consent is a myth. Sexual consent is an invention of western feminist. Sexual consent doesn't exist in nature. It doesn't exist in primates and other mammals. You can't impose western idea of sex on Indian people. Let Indian people decide about thier sexual ethics. In case of marriage Sex is not a choice/option. It's a matrimonial duty to other spouse. Denying sex without valid reason is mental cruelty to other spouse.
@@ultimate6243 you may have your views and we respect it But plzz make your choice not a stereotypical decision for everyone Everyone have different choices. For some sexless marriage is a good option but for someone sex is necessary you can make a choice for yourself but not a decision for other Just live by your own choices and even let others live by there own 😊
We have only one life & no one have to suppress there feelings if you are not happy in your marriage then just move on and should have loveable life partner. There are many people in this world who wants the same thing we want. I have gone through all this situation very pathetically & now am too much happy with the partner like I always wanted. My family is also very very narrow minded but If you can’t stand for yourself then no one will stand for you!!!
This is a very important & sensitive topic. Even I was in a sexless marriage for 2 yrs & excately the same even I use to feel like I am stay with a room mate. I never got the feeling so a husband that security, love & faith in him.
Same to me I am also facing this problem my husband have erectile dysfunction deasese last 6 yrs we don't have any physical relationship only 2 months we have normal relationship
I feel emotional bond is more important as asexuals or even others can't always have a sexy or intimate relationship all the time and all this should be discussed within the couple's that how they think about their opinions on marriage and other things involved and if someone fears of being judged and they are committed as well then for sure they have a fresh start with even each other like they can work on their relationship and start their journey from being a friend to partner . and with the parenting the privacy is taken away and if it is a thing then either don't have them or send them to boarding school or something but here's also a thing that kids also want some moments with their parents so as family grows the responsibilities grow and if they have a strong emotional and mental bond they won't feel sex as need but rather an accessory for their relation.
You can't diminish the role of sex in a marriage. In many cases in india both partners are not compatible but still the marriage dosn't end . People remain in a bad marriage due to social stigma.
That depends! There should be a balance between both...one person may be little prone to sex and other may a more tilted to emotional connection...Both are cool...Partners should openly discuss with each other about what they need and how they are gonna proceed in a relationship...Consent, respect for the other and what makes happy to both the partners ...these things are important
Still sex is important for so many people ..not everyone is asexual ...sex plays a really big role in so many relationships ..you can't expect people to stop having sex or liking sex exactly same as you can't expect an asexual to start liking sex because you want ...so please I know it is difficult in our country but still try to be honest before marriage about your sexuality or else you are gonna end up being hurt and hurting others too
It is important, but it's better to stay away if you : constantly feel 1. Insulted 2. She is stupid, financially 3. Husband is not able to cope with finances alone and wife is not willing to learn, work & earn even in toughest times (BIG REASON) 4. Selfishness 5. Unwilling to share responsibility I am not promoting divorce but avoiding sex in marital life is "normal" (6 months or more) Bad marriages happen, it's a Reality and many people live it. As an escape, a man can concentrate his focus and energies in developing skills, devotion/sadhana and helping his growing children and aged relatives 5:12
Now coming to think of it, I guess me and my husband are so lucky, cz we both have similar sex drive, he is extremely cuddly, craves my touch and has urges that are almost similar to mine. Yes it is very easy to patch up after fights, because he cannot bear distance, and we make out and things go back to love and cuddles. Sex also increases understanding. It helps us to know our partner so much better, makes us giving, and finding pleasure and happiness in our partner's pleasure. Seriously Sex plays such an important role in marriage!
Maam pls help my wife don't love me she is invested with our children,, pls i was willing to divorce and many of my friends also suggested to divorse my wife as she love sme only for my money not me 😢😢😢😢😢 is it a reality that man don't get anything in marriage except for stresss, pls help is it true that most woman hates their husbands 😢😢pls reply😢
@@TT-qv5btbut asexual thing is not due to family pressure....it's phychology... That person doens't like or need sexual pleasure..... Such time of people should only marry that kind of asexual partners...
You have completely lost in the river of lust because you don't know the true love ...I personally know thousands of couple who are enjoying their marriage life without sext/lust with true love ....you don't need sex for understanding your partner but you need sex to satisfy your lust feelings... Lust is a vice (विकार) but one thing everyone needs to understand that you want physical relationship after marriage or not ..it should be clear in your mind. Please discuss everything with each other before marriage... Otherwise it may distroy your life. I am not against sex but what I am saying is that you don't need sex to understand your partner ...it just about pure unconditional love, respect and understanding ...that makes happy family
Yaaa...if we are doing it privacy is the most important thing needed,,if our kids notices it then it will be more than like a horror film. For them....it will make their mind fully depressed I am sure....
No doubt you are extremely beautiful ,if you can't use your beauty in proper time ,you are totally waist ,when there is fire ,use it for cooking ,if not it is a national waste ,I Know you are angry on me ,but hold it for some time ,then you will be really realized it ,by the time you realized it , it will be too late , I do hope what I mean to say .
Few things to point out: 1. Even people who have good sex life with their married partners have extra marital affairs 2. What is wrong with thanda marriage, no man-woman relationship can sustain chemistry for decades..more important is friendship, sharing & doing things together 3. Children need a lot of attention & care in fact being together as a family is more valuable than having sex inside a closed room! Please dont promote sex as #1 priority, which can make people seek pleasures any way they can get. Please only counsel couples that approach you & stop giving non sensical generic advice like this...
Sex is very much necessary for a marriage life..if u people are not interested then why get married and waste other people’s life..Better be alone ..u r very much non sensical idiot
It's really complicated. You're right sex isn't everything just as people say money isn't everything but we all know the importance of money. Love, affection, intimacy all are very important and nobody think about sex all the time but there are times when you want it. Not all the time but sometimes. We all have urges. If you're an asexual then it's your responsibility to talk to your wanna be parter.
Always no I don't think phir Mai ye bhi bol sakti hu men have many relations whether it is 5 or more than but they became asexual with this and if a men wants intimate life with a women then that women should be ready for it, if she is unhappy related to it then don't pressurize her and enjoy marriage without intimacy
Great video!!! Thank you for talking about this issue. Also please make a video on asexuality. We seldom talk about asexuality and we need to spread awareness about this orientation.
Actually this is a serious issue. There might be many reason behind this. But to me without sex marriage is incomplete. If you cannot satisfy your partner better not get married so that he or she get a better partner. This is no joke as i have seen in the comments below. The parter will be in tremendous mental agony which only that person can feel but cannot express.
It’s a very beautiful topic you discussed . Indian society is still based on forced opinions and believes upon children by the parents . SEX is considered as LUST by our dharma gurus and religion . Extra marital affairs are considered bad but nobody tries to know why it developed . If we have supporting parents and relatives such HELL of sexless marriages can be resolved in any society .
U really explained well.... this is a very big thing a healthy n successful marriage needs everything...... emotional distance increase when marriage is sexless....there is nothing left no love no emotions n no chemistry......it's just same as if any other family member is sitting next to u while watching TV or doing other works ......the problem is when a wife talks about this....it doesn't create any effect on her husband....this result depression n then emotional divorce...
This is so good but can you please cover what should asexual people do in marriages as we want partnership, emotional attachment but not sex? It would be of great help as people usually don't understand asexuality...
See if an a sexual person finds an asexual partner then it would be otherwise the other person could cheat or ask permission to do sex outside marriave or take divorce ....because a sexual partner would not live without a sexual partner...this is a fact ..no matter how much the other person loves him/her ...
Asexuals should find asexuals. Allosexuals should be avoided at all cost cuz you both will have different perspective on love. Don't try to dictate any relationship by your personal standards.
I had an arranged marriage, always respected this set up as it was part of our culture. But unfortunately in my case, I got married to a woman who had never accepted me as her husband and never accepted later as well. For the good 6 months of marriage we did not have physical relationship even once. I thought probably it was because she needs time to settle down. I kept loving her immensely completely one sided. But being extremely tolerant is not the best thing always. She never got involved physically or emotionally with me. There were only rare chance encounters of physical relationship after lot of coaxing and cajoling. Today after 15 years, I am a father of two beautiful daughters. I have completely given up any hope from my wife, we don’t even sleep together. With all the hollowness inside, I keep the very basic minimum communication with her now. We are not husband and wife under the same roof, actually from my end I kept the hope alive until 2 years back, since then I realised that I am just a father. She was anway never a wife. She is just a mother now. Now I think probably I should had separated long back for the good of both of us. Remaining too hopeful from one side destroys the entire existence and purpose of life.
It's better to express one's own human orientation with their partner before marriage (No one knows other than themselves)rather than being in uninterested marriage life/toxic relationship.
Very informative. We don't discuss this publicly or privately also. I'm not married but several couples must have been gone through sexless phase. They must watch this.
true love doesn't exist. a man might say he loves you truly .. but true love is a construct , whereas sexual attraction isn't. Sorry. U might get a asexual partner but love without sex is like food without salt.
In my case. Sex has not bring any true love in my married life though after a fight I was always ready to patch up by getting physical. Fews years I started to hate myself as it was just a physical pleasure for my husband. Finally living a sexless married life . I have my son n I concentrate on him my work n health as I have dealt with 8 yrs of anxiety n medication . Now I have set up some boundaries. Am fed up.
If sex is not important than why everywhere women are being used as glamour object? The adds, the business, almost in every aspect of life women are being used and advertised? Sex is the most important part of life.
@@muraliseetharaman1908 Ah no! You are highly mistaken sir. Sex is a very small part of your life. There are so many other things to it. To enjoy sex u need to be in the right frame of mind that is governed by other factors and not vice versa.
Majority of the time sexless marriage happens because the woman doesn't want to or the man is not sexually attracted to her as she is alot fat and all. For women to hav esex they nedd connection and all for men it is just pure physical attraction. So understand these basics
I am in a sexless marriage. When i try to talk to my husband he says we are married for so many years. Why do you want sex now?? And starts doubting me and makes it worse. I live our daughter and thats why i am with him. Its not the sex but the care and affection i miss. He is always busy. Sex is not even the last thing on his mind. I feel very lonely.
@@rajeshmaratha3970 what is marital status of ur father in law? Howz his behaviour at his house? Is he was a responsible father for their kids. Is he alcoholic or very quarrelsome guy. Mostly such mentality are developed in girl because of their father.. If her father nature is normal and he is a caring responsible father then no problm But if her father behaviour /nature is not good at home.. Then it impact on kids. She might feel like all men's are like this who drink n beat wife.. This lead to suppression of sexual emotion toward opposite sex.. This may be one of the reason. If this is not the reason.. There might be some biological or hormonal problm in her body.
@ Yeah... for this discussion about these topic is important, most of the people just don’t understand these issues and end up marrying wrong person. Because of family/societies pressure asexual people end up getting married to someone who will not be compatible or the other person also go for marrying a asexual person because they really like the asexual person, without understanding what asexuality is. Most people just assume that this issue would be solved after marriage or this is like a disease which can cured and all these assumption are not true. So there is no alternative of discussion and consciousness about this topics.
its just a desire there are pansexual, asaxual, bisexual, polyamory, open marriage. Don't experiment your life for a pleasure of half an hour people are willing to destroy a marriage,
Then do not get married unless you are sure about your sexuality. If you are asexual then marrying someone with normal sexual needs will be wrong, both to you and your spouse. If you want only love then be forthright about it.
@@AnandKumar-hs4qx Acharya prashant kya btayenge ispe? he only talks about how men treat girls and what they see in her when getting married. He says dont get married until u get a partner of your own choice. But after a certain age we wont be able to get married. And acharya prashant is strong headed...he is famous people listen to his intellect. What about normal people like us? we cant deal with the lonliness alone just bcz we are asexual. We cant open an organisation and start preaching the world. Our mind gets satisfied when we speak our intellect out. But we cant live like a baba and preach the world for this sake. For him it is easy to stay alone but not easy for normal people.
Thanks for the wonderful testimony 👍 inspired by your video 🌹🙏 agreed to what all you have shared. I have suffered with this in my marriage. We all need to understand the value of marriage. Thanks Pallavi jee ❤️
I feel like this is pretty obvious but if you're not having sex with someone and you don't have romantic affection for them then they're just a FRIEND. As far as marriage goes it's just a piece of paper if you're not committed to each other and you're not really committed if you're not having sex 🤷♀️
@@yuvraj4u36 I know exactly how it feels cause I have been there. Here's the thing though. You have to take care of yourself and love yourself first. If you don't know how to do that you won't know how to love them and they won't know how to love you. ❤
@@shwetanavani480 Sex is not important in case of love 💕❤️ sex is like animal things and we are human and we have mind als We are advance civilized. So forget those things and enjoy your life with happiness
If both parties agree for a no sex marriage then it's okay but if one denies the other of intimacy then either he/she should allow the other partner to seek pleasure outside if he/she wants to keep the marriage or just give divorce otherwise it should be considered as a crime.
True i am unmarried but i am also confused on the topic of sex. Sometimes i think i am asexual but i want a deep soul connection first with my partner. I dont know why i am in search of my soulmate which i dont think i will meet at all as i havnt met him yet. Things don't place well so much so that marriage can take place. I dont know what i want. Do i even want to get married or not! Or is it just in my imagination because i am single and i dnt really incline for physical needs. Rather i crave a strong connection and supportive and understanding partner. Then i think some kind of intimacy can be there. I can not get physical with like anybody. I am in a search of that someone special and i dont know what will happen if i dont find one.
@@Shkk hmm, jo apna ya apni sex life ko enjoy krna chahta ho ya woh maanta ho sex is important in life Or he Or she want to do so, pr iska matlab ye nhi ki other person ka v ahi soch hona chahiye nhi to uska problem ya ye uski khamiya hogi. Ye ek truly purelymutual consent hona chahiye, hr kisiko sex pleasure nhi chahiye hoti hai, iska matlab ye nhi ki humlog use galat samajhlein, ye uski right hai choices lene ki, marriage v compulsory nhi hai bs society ne isko ek fixed ritual Bana diya hai from centuries. Hum sirf itna krsatte hain ki unlogon ko iske bareme educate krsatte hain, unke thought process k boundaries ko aur v badhasatte hein tavi ye unki right hogi k woh kya krna chahte hein kya nhi, indian weddings lacks proper communication, mutual understandings , self diginity, trust on each other, etc so asi problems ka hona bahut hi aam baat hai. Sex krna na krna ye sirf ek choice hona chahiye aur saath rehene kliye marriage krna na krna woh v ek choice hona chahiye, mam ka ek point mujhe bahut galat laga ki sex relationship k na hone se relationship jyada stable nhi honge ya communication ki problem hogi, asa Bilkul v nhi hai . So mai agree nhi krti uss baat se . Main ye nhi bol rahi ki sex is wrong ( blooy bullshit myth) sex is a human nature n pleasure n a ultimate act to express love , at a same time this is a choice not so important in relationships or in human life. ( my thought) please don't my words. This is just a clarification of what i am trying to tell you.
@@deeptimayeerath1671 haan sex should always be mutual. Agar koi asexual ya demi sexual hai to usse shadi se pehle his apne partner se bata dena chahiye nahi toh uski life aur partner ke life dono mein problem ho jaayegi. Par kisi bhi kimat par kisiko force nahi karma chahiye aur galat bhi nahi samajhna chahiye kyunki sabki apni apetite hoti hai.
@@Shkk hmm u r right, bas ek proper healthy communication hona chahiye aur koi issue hogi hi nahi, btw maine to ek long essay likhdala, mujhe nhi lagta aap mein itna patience hoga ki sara ka sara padh liya hoga. But thanks for replying n interacting 😊😇 have a yummy evening 🥞😋
Marriage is not about sex. Marriage is two getting together to become one as a family. Sex is just a biological need of humans which can be expressed or suppressed according to one's own needs.
What if the appetite is different for both partners.. one partner may want it everyday and other partner want it once a week. And the appetite depends on stress , career and other factors. There are examples where one needs sex just to feel good as he/she has no life as such. Like a machine. This is a broad topic actually.
@@Tamil_Atheist2023 After marriage love without sex?Something not right.. I don't mean daily sex.You mean there are marriages and both love each other but no sex in two weeks or in a Month or atleast once in a year in youth.For kid they have to do atleast one time😁??I doubt there is any love(for both people) when they don't have sex anytime..
I know sex is important but there can be very serious and multiple reasons that sex can reduce or even the relationship can become sexless. So what a person should do just get separated? There is something called love and respect as well.
No there is nothing like love .love is only an imagination. Love fades away when there is no sex and that is not my point of view it is the way the world thinks
Sex is a important part of life. It's never a front end of human beings. There can be intimacy without sex. You are only talking about how the asexual being should become sexual but what about the opposite? Why can't be the sexual being be changed to a asexual? Sex should not be the reason to end a marriage. There is a need of balance.
This is an individual choice. You can’t force someone to be in sexless relationship if they want it, regardless of their gender. Don’t you think it’s better for her ex-husband too, to be with someone who doesn’t want sex either? :)
@@aditi1729 I never said that you should force someone to be in a sexless or sexfull marriage. I said that sex should not be front end of human beings. Sex is not the basis of marriage, it's a part of marriage. There is a need of balance.
@@Ayush-xt2fh Lol, keep dreaming and living in a fairytale. Sex is very important in a marriage and can say it constitutes 50% of the marriage. If you are aware of your sexuality then don't do something which is against it.
I really wish if this video could have come up years back,, then i would have definitely taken a step right then years ago.... Where even i was in a sexless marriage for more then 7 year's n now finally after so much emotional pain m getting divorced... This video is just so resonate with me... As if it's describing word by words abt me n my sexless marriage !!! Yes... I do agree.. sex does plays an important role in building that bond between the life partners ❤️
You have done a great job!! In a relationship, one person may be little prone to sex and other may be more tilted to emotional connection...Both are cool...Partners should openly discuss with each other about what they need and how they are gonna proceed in a relationship...Consent, respect for the other and what makes happy to both the partners ...these things are important!
Firstly I wanted to write here " O comeon this never happens, coz we all r excited about having sex after marriage even I ll do it daily" but I decided to go through the comments section before writing anything, then I realised OMG this problem really exist. 😳 I m 28, I ll have full day sex, after marriage on weekends, coz Monday to Friday is working as u guys know.
Sex is very important to you. Some people choose celibacy and purity in marriage. Don’t make people feel something is wrong with them for not having sex marriage, you just wanted something different
Welcome to normal life. Marriage turns sexless after few years or after a kid. And having sex for making up a fight is actually a dumb idea. Mostly it's the wife who uses sex as a power tool in marriage and when that becomes ineffective, she starts complaining. Now what are the options left for men ?
I too have a same problem, 10 years of marriage sex less life, and he even don't earn money,I am really wanted to get ride of this relationship , he just pass the time in watching tv and playing games on phone , but one way I am scared to take this step plz suggest what to do.
When wife runs of from sex, what should be done without valence when wife refuses to understand husband needs and even show needed by husband. Sex is not alone, even love making and showing each other all needs is satisficing.
Even I am in a sexless marriage. But the reason is that my in-laws don’t want my husband to be close to me. They want my kids to become Christians if I get pregnant and when I didn’t agree I lost 2 kids bcos of the same reason. My husband doesn’t divorce me with the reason “Christianity doesn’t allow one to get divorce”. Here I am childless and in a sexless marriage.
This video is somehow correct but you should also cover ASEXUALITY. Asexuals are the people who feels little or no attraction towards sex. But sex is not the ONLY thing in a relationship. Sex plays a vital role but you can't express that it is a MUST. There is more beyond. In a relationship people want to feel valued, secured & to share life. One can not have these feelings with everyone. The idea of relationship you put on this video is very narrow. ''Partner became parent'' (BIG LAUGH). Why didn’t you describe it as a friend? Good friend or best friend? This video shows only one side of the coin. Please, resolve this issue. Either it will mislead a lot of people. As a big fan of this channel I expect sensitive content.
Completely agree. U exactly spoke my mind. And moreover if both the partners choose not to have sex in a marriage then it should be their choice. Though I agree that this video did cover very good points about only one partner's interest in sex, the lady in this video according to me seemed to believe that a marriage is nothing without sex which I completely disagree with.
@ see that's the problem. People find it hard to understand 'love'. Love is more beyond sex. Emotional intimacy & physical intimacy are not the same. If a man or woman find that feeling (love) with someone & they want to spend life who the hell am I & you to judge them. But yes, couples should be honest & openly talk about her/his sexual preferences. They should be on the same page before getting married (In each and every sense, ranging from career plans to family plans). & dear brother, sex is PART of our life. Sex is NOT THE LIFE. So, nobody can ruin it by not giving up. Moreover, man & woman both can identify them as an asexual. I have both male and female asexual friends.
Tbh it's quite difficult to understand women . If men starts intimacy he is lusty if he doesn't then he is sexless . If a woman is appreciated she starts taking it for granted . It would be better if women start taking responsibility too rather than complaining for everything .
@Akriti Jab Biwi hi khush Ni rakhti to husband majburi m bahar hi jyga . Biwi sexually Satisfied hi Ni rahegi or sex ki basis needs puri Ni karegi to husband kyu rahega aisi Biwi k saat ????? Kese rahega aisi Biwi k saat ????? Koi bhi husband aisi Biwi k saat Ni rhe sagta jo Biwi husband Ko sexually satisfied Ni rakhti ho , jo Sexually Satisfiction Ni deti ho , or jo Unsatisfied rakhti ho aisi Biwi k saat koi husband Ni rhe sagta h !! Ji ji sex karke khush Ni rakhti ho or jo basis si physically or mentally or Sexually needs puri Ni karti Aisi Biwi k saat koi husband Ni rhe sagta h !!!! Husband bahar hi jyga . Isme galti us Biwi ki Hoti h jo Biwi husband K saat sex Ni karti isme galti us Biwi ki Hoti h ki wo Biwi 1 Sexually Satisfied Ni rakhti husband Ko 2 sexually satisfiction Ni deti husband Ko 3 husband ki basis , Biologically or naturally needs puri Ni karti
Never been married but I was in a live in relationship for 3-4 years. It's usually the women who start losing interest in sex. I've asked male friends who have been in similar situations. And if it's the men who start losing interest in sex, it's usually mental problems or the women have gained so much weight we no longer find them sexually attractive. But that is just my exp and those of my friends and people I know.
Maybe you should learn how to make a woman want to come back to your bed forever. A woman will lose interest when the man doesn't care if she's satisfied.
@@Juliasblues or replace that woman. That is easier than making a woman want us when she's already lost interest. Plenty of fish in the sea as they say.
@@Juliasblues it's not a men duty to satisfy women financially or sexually by putting all efforts if she is unsatisfied she should talk and save the relationship if she can't stand then a men should leave her alone with her ego .
@Mam Shak exceptions validate rules. You are using exceptions to negate common practice. If only a handful of men back off from healthy intimacy, that proves that the majority favors and supports healthy intimacy. In fact, the converse is true for women.
My (ex) spouse was diagnosed with Vaginismus and possible case of Dyspareunia . Yes I know, it is treatable. But even after 2 years there was no sex. And moreover her attitude towards me and my family started changing. When suicidal thoughts started creeping into me and my sexual health started affecting, I took a stand and chose to leave. So, now I'm a 30 year old virgin divorcee. Talk about luck.
Edit: Divorced Now.
Bro tumne society,rishtedaro ka pressure kaise jhelte ho divorce hone ke baad, kuch rishtedar tumara majak banate hoge ki acha hua tumare sath aisa hua,is chiz ko tum kaise jhelte ho
@@akshaydogra8015 bro. Poori tharah divorce nahi hua. Just separated. Petition coming week sign hoga. But yeah I have faced mixture of both. Jinko humse jalan hai wo log keh rahe hai ki acha hua... Aur jo hume jaante hai wo keh rahe hai.. 2 saal seh chuke ho, good decision to end it. My advise grow a thick skin or cultivate a habit to be deaf when required.
@@AbhishekAshokmad17 👍👍
@Aditi Kumari Thank you for understanding.
@Aditi Kumari r u satisfied in ur life?
I think it would be nice if you cover asexuality also with this.. There are asexual people getting married because of the pressure of society and end up in sexless marriage.. sometimes they don't even know asexuality is a thing.. especially when the male partner is the asexual person there is a chance it would be a sexless marriage and if the female is asexual there is chances for marital rapes or even having sex even though they don't want to do it but end up doing for the partner or even thinking normally females don't really enjoy sex..
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I am an asexual and I think if people are not aware of it and keep on pressuring asexual people to get married with a heterosexual person it can be a disaster.. Asexual people are the most confused ones in the spectrum.. especially in India were sex is a taboo.. they won't talk about it.. they will think everyone is just like that.. especially girls.. or if the boy is asexual he won't realise the sexual needs of his wife and even might blame her for that..
Stop blaming society.
If you don't have sexul needs then don't destroy life of another person by marrying him/her.
And marital rape is a myth. It's the duty of wife to satisfy sexual needs of husband or she can take divorce.
@@ultimate6243 Asexuality is not the cause of marital rapes.. and sex should be consensual otherwise it is rape..there is a chance that you don't want to do it at the moment.. but if you are sure you will never want to do it then of course you should leave the marriage..
sex in a relationship or marriage should be consensual.. it is not the license for doing anything..
@@annamaria1117 Sexual consent is a myth. Sex is not a contract. So Forget consent. Sexual consent is invention of west . It does not exist in nature.
It's the duty of husband and wife to fulfill sexual needs of each other.
Denying sex without valid reason is mental cruelty to spouse.
Marriage is a monogamous relationship. So wife has 100% responsibility of satisfying sexual neeeds of husband unless she has valid reason for denying sex.
Sex is not a option/Choice it's a duty.
@@ultimate6243 is it not the duty of the husband to satisfy his wife. And I agree, people should acknowledge this about themselves lest they destroy a hapless person's life. Divorce of matters of sex will create enormous difficulties in their lives.
The same towards the wife bud. Both of them are responsible to satisfy each other
In laws ruins relationship and husband keeps taking their sides especially, of mother, but men realizes too late that this is what has affected their marriage. It's not sex it's everything that happens after marriage affects marriage and of course sexual life. Mother in laws thinks that their son should keep sitting with them all the time and go to his room only for few hours to sleep. When you yourself have a toxic mother who controls even your life and wants on name of being a mother then the relationship is dead. It hasn't even picked up.
Right there are too many things
Very true. Mother-in-law they ruin everything.
Perfect
The in-law theory generalized from women's perspective is true in cases of many men also whose married life is marred by their wives' over the board concern and engagement with parents or children rather than husbands. Such cases often end up in infidelity too.
I dont know why i am crying while reading this comment... I think i am suffering from all these situation. I have been married just for 6 months and already loosing interest in every thing. I was so talkative, so cheerful, and now i dont want to talk or meet anyone, not even family member, Loosing all my self esteem, youth everything. Feeling like trap in a cage.
When a marriage is forced, it’s possible they chose not to proceed physically because they lack that feel and feel uncomfortable. I think that should be mentioned and considered for awareness.
Forced marriage is illegal. Call police .
@@ultimate6243 yes, I mean sometimes due to family pressure and related aspects
@@harinigoud9468 Asking for marriage is not forced marriage.
Forced marriage means asking to marry a particular person.
Purpose of life is to survival of lineage. Through marriage parents wants to make sure the survival of their lineage. Or in layman's term parents wanted to become grand parents that's why they want to marry off their children.
@@ultimate6243 I get that but it still needs consent and freedom to choose the one you are probably expecting to spend the rest of the life. This will naturally create emotions and eliminate issues like that mentioned in this video to some extent.
@@harinigoud9468 yeah true harini, but you know na in India this arranged marriage things, it's really hard. That's why we should talk to the partner before getting into marriage about all the things, and how they are feeling. Because without feeling as you said it's really difficult to do anything after marriage
You raised a very sensitive issue in a very decent manner. Thank you for bringing it up. 🙏
Wellness apko bhi yehi problem?
Yes
In India it's so tough to accept such hard truths of life... Communication is so important
our elite class is enjoying the helplessness of indians and offering us as labour of all kind to rest of the world and taking the cut money by selling us
Marrying a physically or mentally incompatible partner is a surefire way to unhappiness, either on the sexual front or otherwise. Perhaps it's better to sort these things out prior to marriage rather than struggling afterwards. But that off course requires a certain level of honesty and openness that may not be everyone's cup of tea.
Mutual admiration is the key for a successful marriage life. The guy or girl should be rational in making own decisions without parents interference. In few months/weeks after marriage, physical admiration goes off. Mental admiration is the key for life long successful marriage life and both spouses should work towards it. It's not one way. It's applicable for both sexes.
But ma'am in our indian culture and society maximum marriages are sexless because of lots of reason like career, domestic violence and different views. 😭
Sahi bola bhai
after couple give birth to child and became parents they give their first priority to children and then they look to their own needs.
Who says that? Sex is very imp.
Without sex , how female pregnent?
That's true
Dear women, He is not a sex toy. His body. His choice.
@@plutoneptune Tell this to women who always talk " She is not your sex toy.She has right to refuse sex" blah,blah 😅
@@plutoneptune But most of the time women are the ones who withhold sex. But I agree with your point.
@@plutoneptuneI don't like being with someone and meaningless relation but disagree with you because sex is the reason you were born and every other human.If there are someone willing to do in a good way it is not problem.Sex is a choice like marriage,kids and attitude it is vital for human civilisation.I like celibacy for another reason not for hardcore other people who do with a nonsensical reason.
@@plutoneptune I already avoided brotha im still single and don't care about being single but im not wrong because of your word which contains so mucho weight.If more people follow brahmcharya population will decline (which is not possible in rural areas mostly) then people will not left to follow brahmcharya.Brahmcharya should be followed only for lusty dirty fellows and who destroyed sex for humanity.Those who are in true love it is not for them.
most men and women stop sex after their children become teenagers.
This video is encouraging people to share their problems. Wonderful work mam❣️👍👍
Mai 12 saal se sexless marriage me hu
Ask me about it , i have been living sexy less marriage for 19 years ! Still living under the same roof and doing all what I am supposed to do as a husband, dad! We don’t even sleep in the same room for the last many many years ! She still rules the home 🤪, so it’s not just men always …pl it’s for all genders !
@Hari - That sounds like you are unhappy…..Than You need to take her and sit and talk about it or if she’s not willing to make changes or you or whatever is the problem u need to work things out if nothing changes then things will just get worse so divorce is the answer.
men always get sex and orgasm in marriage, but for women it's very uncommon to recieve pleasure from marriage sex. Don't do whataboutism. You should communicate with your partner about it.
My parents marriage is also in a similar situation. So I think I am your son's age. Maybe even younger. But I sympathize with you. Do something for yourself. Tell her you're sad and WHY . Not only her. Go ahead and cry on your daughter's/son's shoulder about it and state the EXACT reason. Nobody else is gonna stand for you. You have all rights to cry out your sorrows to your kids. You've cared for them for so long afterall. And no, you're not pressing your wife . You're just venting your frustration in a healthy way to people who really care about you, your kids (only if they are more than 17 or 18 years, else it is gonna be really, you know..) tell your wife how worthless your life feels.she'll listen if she caress slightest bit. And if she doesn't, simply cry out, and not alone , but on a caring shoulder, maybe yo kids.
Doesn't matter, be happy
Hari Bharadwaj, try to talk to your wife about it. If she doesn't understand, then you have the option of seeking divorce.
Denying sex for a long time without a valid reason can be grounds for divorce as per Delhi High court which had granted divorce in one such case.
1. Nope, not recommended to a have post-fight make-up love making as, the only trigger for love-making would then be fight and lead to a toxic relationship.
2. Intimacy not necessarily means sex, sex can be subset (one of the ways) of intimacy and not the only way.
3. Undoubtedly agree with its important to have an open conversation about sex in society and especially in a couple.
Thanks for providing a perspective.
Atleast someone here sees the post fight makeout as problematic. Does the makeout really solve the problem? Not at all. Infact one will feel even more hurted when they fight on the same thing again tomorrow.
Glad that someone is talking about it so openly and bringing such issues in the society.
after couple give birth to child and became parents they give their first priority to children and then they look to their own needs
I m in a sex less marriage since last 4 years.. Please help 😢
Marriage is a defunct institution. 💔 Stay single stay happy.
@Log To Khenge yarr Ours is a singles group and all are 40+. 😊
Nope.
@@NylonStrings83 You have the right to your opinion.
Can i join your group
Shut up idiet . Are you born from your father ? 😂
In my opinion, First we have to change how we view sex. It's not only sensual pleasure or mean to have a offspring. Being intimate means being close with that significant one to the deeper level to our soul and body. Being intimate means we ready to show who we are at our core, to show our vulnerability , to feel that comfort and safety. Sex should not be a taboo.
perfect...
A very initiative talk on the serious topic where men n society feel its normal but a lady knows what is she going through when her marriage is sex less...She has everything but not her partner...d joy of been togetherness is missing..There is much more she is missing but she always puts a smile on her face to hid all her sadness. I really appreciate the topic you come upon to discuss n spark those thoughts in our mind...
Thank you...
People move away from people when they're not happy with you, be a giver then taker once you give happiness your partner will find ways to give it back to you, think isn't same you want from him.
Well said 👌
The same can true for a man too...
What happened when situation is opposite...when woman is completely avoid to intimate with her partner....
Accept challenges and changes, have some friends, go on tour, have some hobby and your life will be colorful.
Sexless marriage is quite normal as long as both chooses it to be. After years of sex why not give it a rest. It is like your job one day you will retire. Sex may not be the priority if you both have other more important things in life to do.
Like our stomach needs food. Sexual need is also similar you need it time to time. To fuel the fire 🔥 you cannot run with an empty gas tank bro.
Then why even bother getting married
@@beastmotozYou are comparing like this seriously. Without food we will die but with out sex we will not die . If you can't control it then , that's different matter . But those PPL who can control it they don't need sex . Take divorce and live happily. Don't need to blame other person .
@@deepadutta6751Exactly
@deepadutta6751 mam what's wrong with having sex , why is it something to be controlled what's wrong with physical intimacy , then so many people today wouldn't have wanted to fuck , refusing sex is cruelty
I am married for 5 yrs ..... My husband has a problem so we did not have sex till now.....he tried to cure but it went worse and the distance between us has gone to extent ....... Now we have planned for a divorce 👍👍 ......
@Kartik India yaa seperated.....it's not about sex but it's about the differences which start becoz of it and end on it......many ppl say without it we can live but out of it u have frustrated mind irritated situations etc which many handle it and many destroy it........so my situation tooo did not support me
@@nilus2286 unhe kya problem thi ma'am. Mai sirf jaankari k liye pooch raha hun. Darasal mujhe bhi erectile dysfunction hai aur mai iska ilaaj krana chahta hoon.
@@nilus2286 ohh so sad nilu ji i hope abb sab thik chal raha hoga apki life me.but agar problem hai to I can solve it
@Aman Ahmad Kyu Nikah krna hai kya apko?
@@abhinavbodybuilderanonymous what is going now..??
Sexless marriages are like a hanging ball with think thread. They can snap away at anytime. Sex rejuvenates passion and reinforces a relationship between a husband & a wife.
Thank you! Your candid comment on this issue is most "hit home" subject. Perhaps that is why divorce or separation is so common here in the U S So frustrating for alot of us!
you have raised a very important issue as people pretend that it is not important but actually they lie with themselves and know internally that how much it is important..
I am very happy that you have ventured to talk on a forbidden topic breaking the shackles imposed by society especially Indian society. I understand the pain of any partner who is trapped in a sexless marriage. I also suffered because I was trapped in one such marriage. I had to suffer in silence because sex was a taboo subject for the people of our generation. Hopefully people no longer have to suffer thanks to the efforts of courageous people like you.
Right mam
Yes
Mam aap mujsa bat Karo GE kya bolo
I feel bad for old genration really but nowdays thing change especially new generation who grow in Internet 4g in nxt 10 yrs thing will better i guess
में 24 साल से इस दौर से गुजर रहा हूं जी
What if partner considers you only a sex object n thinks shaadi sirf sex k liye hoti hai n ders no emotional connection no affecttion no warmth n if u try to tell him he says toh jao kisi aur se le lo affection... Wt if he doesn't want to understand tht emotional needs are to b fulfilled too... Can u sleep with a stranger... It's like tht only wen ders no emotional bonding... Emotions are more important n very much needed for intimacy
Totally agree
Interesting 🙄
So it's true that Girls love increases when they have an emotional connection with their husband
And guy's love increases when they both have sex🤔
Girls rely on emotional connection
Guys rely on Physical connection👍
In love marriage emotions present in couple I think
@@thebondvillain4920 guys thinking sucks
Totally agree
I am in a sexless marriage. We are together just for our kid. Thanks for bringing this up.
Do you get any solution?
Me too , even I m living sexless marriage only because of kids . Thanks for sharing this video
@@glitteringstars8879 me too
But why..??
@@bepositivealways...9521 i don’t know 🤷♀️ he has no interest in me .he sleeps in his bedroom and I sleep in my bedroom with my two kids
I hate him he spoil my life.
Not everyone think marriage = sex
So many people may don't want sex ..
That should be talked before marriage
Contract marriages also good for things like that and finance etc ..
Every people know marriage = Sex = Children
You can't unilaterally change the definition of marriage.
Conjugal rights Is an important part of all marriage laws in the world.
@@ultimate6243 lol , you are always defaming Hinduism illiterate noob .
And marriage isn't just about sex, amd children ok
@@Bharatiya12321 The main reason of marriage is the survival of lineage.
@@ultimate6243 lol 😂 I am sure you are a noob just watch Acharya Prashant's view about marriage ( he's more good and true follower of Hinduism than you ) .
And point to be noted - he is a man with good thoughts .
ruclips.net/user/shortsCaTdXDFcN8I?feature=share
This is the link about marriage by Acharya Prashant .
Hope you may get some brain and if you wish please understand his thoughts and don't take & spread shit from this illiterate , bullshit society 🙏.
@@Bharatiya12321 Acharya Prashant is not an expert on Hindu Dharma. He is a self style Guru.
In hindu marriage bride and groom take saat-phera/Seven round. And the 5th phera is about wish of children from God.
So Hindu marriage rituals also say marriage is about children.
Read about saat-phera in wikipedia. I have given the link below..
Link--en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Saat_phere
Please do not Mislead. If a parter does not desire for sex he/shebmight be having some physical issue...
I have seen people who have great intimasy with their partners they still go out and do extra marital affairs.
Love and lust are two different things. In past people used to practice celibacy. That does not make them depressed or deprived. Sex is important but its not that you cant live with it.
Those People also survive whom partners die in any incident.
Emotional connect and sexual intimacy are two differnt things.
Mutual understanding and understanding your partners physical discomfort is actual love.
Agreed
You have also sexless marrige
And me too...
Actually my wife have some problems so I also............😥😥
Hiiii payal
People should marry for companionship not for exclusive sex rights. If two people not getting along well sex can't save the relationship. 15min can't cover 23h45m.
HOW CAN a marriage survive without a sex?
@@gyadre sex is by product of companionship shouldn't be the moto, marriage just to reproduce is irrelevant today.
@@hey8958 Do you really think that marriage will last without a SEX?
@@gyadre even if they do sex frequently but it isn't that grt for one partner or other. What to do!!? If your main course is grt you can adjust with side items like sex.
@@hey8958 Will you put up with a spouse who denied you sex since getting married?
I wish I saw this video 8 years ago… Better late than never… Most important to mention about the partner who wants love, bonding time n intimacy, How their mental health gets affected…
Amrita ji abb apki life sahi chal rahi hai i hope achi rahe
@@Naam_name ma'am aap bhi to harr jagah rehti ho but sorry kya karu mere mobile pe or kuch aata hi nahi bas aisi, hi videos aati hai or jab bhi yt chalata hu to aisi hi videos dekhne ko milti hai sorry ma'am agar apko bura laga to
@@Naam_name wese aap ye bata sakti ho aapne mujhe pehle kaha dekha?
my husband is a doctor and he comes home kind of 3/4 days after. We live in another country, without our families. I spend 72+ hours all alone except for going for grocery. I don't have any single friends here either. And when he come home for hardly 7/8 hours, he want sex. No time spending,nothing,just sex. I now dont feel any urge,i hate sex now. N refuse him over n over again.
Communication with your partner is the key to resolving this.
Iffat i think he is so cruel I hope ur future will be better
Iffat mere paas 3-4 ideas hai try karogi?
@@Ghanshyamtiwari19 aah no thanks,i'm happy myself!
@@iffat3547 oh dear I can feel u emotions trust me i want to see u happy. I m feeling very bad for u.plz dear talk with me i can't see u in this situation.bcoz Allah say agar iss duniya me koi bhi dukhi hai to tumhe khush rehne ka adhikaar nahi. Plz dear doctor sahab ko apke saath aisa nahi krna chahiye unko apki feelings samajhni chahiye.
My goodness I'm an asexual 🌈🏳️🌈 and I'm pretty terrified of being married but I wanna adopt my kids,and being in a manipulative Toxic family and as my parents are separated I know how it feels having no parent or only one parent...I wanna get married for my children and also to support my partner too...but as asexuality is quite rare I'm terrified that after some time my partner might get tired of the relationship...let's see if this video will help me...
Hope you find an asexual partner.
I am also an Asexual and I also thought this was about it.. but this is not about it..
Hope, u found someone who excepts as u r and also support u.
I too have a toxic family but everytime I try to portray this through my behavior my family members say we raised and fed you. Those you consider as good people will never do so. Did you ever face this? How do you reply to this?
@@dikshadhir94 I am demisexual (which people consider partially asexual)
Consenual sex should happen in marriage (or even before marriage). Know if that person is asexual or not, so you dont blame the person later. You cannot force a person for intimacy. Couples should go for pre-marital counselling.
Sexual consent is a myth. Sexual consent is an invention of western feminist. Sexual consent doesn't exist in nature. It doesn't exist in primates and other mammals. You can't impose western idea of sex on Indian people. Let Indian people decide about thier sexual ethics.
In case of marriage Sex is not a choice/option. It's a matrimonial duty to other spouse. Denying sex without valid reason is mental cruelty to other spouse.
Agree with you.. Knowing about partner and consent is important..
@@ultimate6243 i don't think you should watch a channel just to oppose it's views
@@ultimate6243 you may have your views and we respect it
But plzz make your choice not a stereotypical decision for everyone
Everyone have different choices. For some sexless marriage is a good option but for someone sex is necessary you can make a choice for yourself but not a decision for other
Just live by your own choices and even let others live by there own 😊
@@ultimate6243 I know I will get hate for this, but I guess you're a muslim?
We have only one life & no one have to suppress there feelings if you are not happy in your marriage then just move on and should have loveable life partner. There are many people in this world who wants the same thing we want. I have gone through all this situation very pathetically & now am too much happy with the partner like I always wanted. My family is also very very narrow minded but If you can’t stand for yourself then no one will stand for you!!!
Hiii
Priyanka ji apko dekh kr acha laga ki abb aap apni life me khush ho
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This is a very important & sensitive topic. Even I was in a sexless marriage for 2 yrs & excately the same even I use to feel like I am stay with a room mate. I never got the feeling so a husband that security, love & faith in him.
Same to me I am also facing this problem my husband have erectile dysfunction deasese last 6 yrs we don't have any physical relationship only 2 months we have normal relationship
@@Shinoeditzoffical hi dear
Shilajit , purnchandra ras doo
@@Shinoeditzoffical Tinder use karlo bhabi
Same here
I feel emotional bond is more important as asexuals or even others can't always have a sexy or intimate relationship all the time and all this should be discussed within the couple's that how they think about their opinions on marriage and other things involved and if someone fears of being judged and they are committed as well then for sure they have a fresh start with even each other like they can work on their relationship and start their journey from being a friend to partner . and with the parenting the privacy is taken away and if it is a thing then either don't have them or send them to boarding school or something but here's also a thing that kids also want some moments with their parents so as family grows the responsibilities grow and if they have a strong emotional and mental bond they won't feel sex as need but rather an accessory for their relation.
Ya agreed emotional bonding in a relationship is more important than sex
You can't diminish the role of sex in a marriage. In many cases in india both partners are not compatible but still the marriage dosn't end . People remain in a bad marriage due to social stigma.
That depends! There should be a balance between both...one person may be little prone to sex and other may a more tilted to emotional connection...Both are cool...Partners should openly discuss with each other about what they need and how they are gonna proceed in a relationship...Consent, respect for the other and what makes happy to both the partners ...these things are important
Still sex is important for so many people ..not everyone is asexual ...sex plays a really big role in so many relationships ..you can't expect people to stop having sex or liking sex exactly same as you can't expect an asexual to start liking sex because you want ...so please I know it is difficult in our country but still try to be honest before marriage about your sexuality or else you are gonna end up being hurt and hurting others too
Only sex is not reson Therw should be caring sharing and true love which is more important sex will.follow
It is important, but
it's better to stay away if you : constantly feel
1. Insulted
2. She is stupid, financially
3. Husband is not able to cope with finances alone and wife is not willing to learn, work & earn even in toughest times (BIG REASON)
4. Selfishness
5. Unwilling to share responsibility
I am not promoting divorce but avoiding sex in marital life is "normal" (6 months or more)
Bad marriages happen, it's a Reality and many people live it. As an escape,
a man can concentrate his focus and energies in developing skills, devotion/sadhana and helping his growing children and aged relatives 5:12
Now coming to think of it, I guess me and my husband are so lucky, cz we both have similar sex drive, he is extremely cuddly, craves my touch and has urges that are almost similar to mine. Yes it is very easy to patch up after fights, because he cannot bear distance, and we make out and things go back to love and cuddles. Sex also increases understanding. It helps us to know our partner so much better, makes us giving, and finding pleasure and happiness in our partner's pleasure. Seriously Sex plays such an important role in marriage!
Maam pls help my wife don't love me she is invested with our children,, pls i was willing to divorce and many of my friends also suggested to divorse my wife as she love sme only for my money not me 😢😢😢😢😢 is it a reality that man don't get anything in marriage except for stresss, pls help is it true that most woman hates their husbands 😢😢pls reply😢
This is very good topics discussed here!! after every fight, couple should leave their ego aside and do some love making..
This is possible 100 percent when you will marry your loved one ..if marriage because of family pressure or social pressure this will never come
@@TT-qv5bt yeah, than my space card is played.
true
@@TT-qv5btbut asexual thing is not due to family pressure....it's phychology... That person doens't like or need sexual pleasure..... Such time of people should only marry that kind of asexual partners...
What ever you are saying makes lot of sense but in practical it is totally different.
You have completely lost in the river of lust because you don't know the true love ...I personally know thousands of couple who are enjoying their marriage life without sext/lust with true love ....you don't need sex for understanding your partner but you need sex to satisfy your lust feelings... Lust is a vice (विकार) but one thing everyone needs to understand that you want physical relationship after marriage or not ..it should be clear in your mind. Please discuss everything with each other before marriage... Otherwise it may distroy your life. I am not against sex but what I am saying is that you don't need sex to understand your partner ...it just about pure unconditional love, respect and understanding ...that makes happy family
Very true
You know what people like you are rare in this world God bless you
Yea some what true but it better not to be in relationship in such case my openion
Yaaa...if we are doing it privacy is the most important thing needed,,if our kids notices it then it will be more than like a horror film. For them....it will make their mind fully depressed I am sure....
Sex in marriage is very important for a good marriage. Sex plays a key roll in the marriage.
Annamma apki life me sab thik hai?
I'm a yoga instructor,
I appreciate you
Keep it up
Wow.. very beautifully you explain this difficult topic which needs to be discussed....
You are looking beautiful
@@rajeshbhargav5668 thank you..but that's not topic here..
@@missanynomous2892 am not talking about topic... Am talking about you.....
@@rajeshbhargav5668 yup that's what I mean.. I am not the topic here..🤣🤣🤣🤣
No doubt you are extremely beautiful ,if you can't use your beauty in proper time ,you are totally waist ,when there is fire ,use it for cooking ,if not it is a national waste ,I Know you are angry on me ,but hold it for some time ,then you will be really realized it ,by the time you realized it , it will be too late , I do hope what I mean to say .
Few things to point out: 1. Even people who have good sex life with their married partners have extra marital affairs 2. What is wrong with thanda marriage, no man-woman relationship can sustain chemistry for decades..more important is friendship, sharing & doing things together 3. Children need a lot of attention & care in fact being together as a family is more valuable than having sex inside a closed room! Please dont promote sex as #1 priority, which can make people seek pleasures any way they can get. Please only counsel couples that approach you & stop giving non sensical generic advice like this...
Sex is very much necessary for a marriage life..if u people are not interested then why get married and waste other people’s life..Better be alone ..u r very much non sensical idiot
It's really complicated. You're right sex isn't everything just as people say money isn't everything but we all know the importance of money. Love, affection, intimacy all are very important and nobody think about sex all the time but there are times when you want it. Not all the time but sometimes. We all have urges. If you're an asexual then it's your responsibility to talk to your wanna be parter.
either you are asexual or you have enjoyed everything.
giving gyan on fasting when your stomach is full is veryveasy
@@TheRpr2009 agreed
Very true
reality is sexually abused and traumatic victims in their past starts being asexual which indirectly affects the relationship🤐
Always no I don't think phir Mai ye bhi bol sakti hu men have many relations whether it is 5 or more than but they became asexual with this and if a men wants intimate life with a women then that women should be ready for it, if she is unhappy related to it then don't pressurize her and enjoy marriage without intimacy
Great video!!!
Thank you for talking about this issue.
Also please make a video on asexuality. We seldom talk about asexuality and we need to spread awareness about this orientation.
Namrata ji apki life to thik hai na. I hope ur future will be better
R u suffering from that..??
Actually this is a serious issue. There might be many reason behind this. But to me without sex marriage is incomplete. If you cannot satisfy your partner better not get married so that he or she get a better partner. This is no joke as i have seen in the comments below. The parter will be in tremendous mental agony which only that person can feel but cannot express.
Actually the title should be - feminists and sexless marriages
Remember the first time together and reset your mind.
Reset hone lge to bs,.
Huh?
Nice topic and nicely explained....its a reality these days.
It’s a very beautiful topic you discussed . Indian society is still based on forced opinions and believes upon children by the parents . SEX is considered as LUST by our dharma gurus and religion . Extra marital affairs are considered bad but nobody tries to know why it developed . If we have supporting parents and relatives such HELL of sexless marriages can be resolved in any society .
U really explained well.... this is a very big thing a healthy n successful marriage needs everything...... emotional distance increase when marriage is sexless....there is nothing left no love no emotions n no chemistry......it's just same as if any other family member is sitting next to u while watching TV or doing other works ......the problem is when a wife talks about this....it doesn't create any effect on her husband....this result depression n then emotional divorce...
Hiii mam
Hi puja
No. Wrong. Sex is never necessary.
What's going on in your life now..??
True
This is so good but can you please cover what should asexual people do in marriages as we want partnership, emotional attachment but not sex? It would be of great help as people usually don't understand asexuality...
So true
See if an a sexual person finds an asexual partner then it would be otherwise the other person could cheat or ask permission to do sex outside marriave or take divorce ....because a sexual partner would not live without a sexual partner...this is a fact ..no matter how much the other person loves him/her ...
Asexuals should find asexuals. Allosexuals should be avoided at all cost cuz you both will have different perspective on love. Don't try to dictate any relationship by your personal standards.
I had an arranged marriage, always respected this set up as it was part of our culture. But unfortunately in my case, I got married to a woman who had never accepted me as her husband and never accepted later as well. For the good 6 months of marriage we did not have physical relationship even once. I thought probably it was because she needs time to settle down. I kept loving her immensely completely one sided. But being extremely tolerant is not the best thing always. She never got involved physically or emotionally with me. There were only rare chance encounters of physical relationship after lot of coaxing and cajoling. Today after 15 years, I am a father of two beautiful daughters. I have completely given up any hope from my wife, we don’t even sleep together. With all the hollowness inside, I keep the very basic minimum communication with her now. We are not husband and wife under the same roof, actually from my end I kept the hope alive until 2 years back, since then I realised that I am just a father. She was anway never a wife. She is just a mother now. Now I think probably I should had separated long back for the good of both of us. Remaining too hopeful from one side destroys the entire existence and purpose of life.
Have u ever thought of extra marital affairs
It's better to express one's own human orientation with their partner before marriage (No one knows other than themselves)rather than being in uninterested marriage life/toxic relationship.
I was also married but when I realized my husband is asexual n don't hv sex with me, I was shocked koz I never imagined such life.
Try to search the best bf .
@@thereviewias587 yeah like me🤣good idea
He maybe gay check karo
Me too
Hiii fan
Very informative. We don't discuss this publicly or privately also. I'm not married but several couples must have been gone through sexless phase. They must watch this.
I cry everytime thinking about what will happen to me in future as I'm an asexual.I don't know if i'll find someone who truly loves me.
true love doesn't exist. a man might say he loves you truly .. but true love is a construct , whereas sexual attraction isn't. Sorry. U might get a asexual partner but love without sex is like food without salt.
no worry mate, there are many roaming like you. you just need to find right one just like you.
@@frustratedpanda212Who says to you???
In my case. Sex has not bring any true love in my married life though after a fight I was always ready to patch up by getting physical. Fews years I started to hate myself as it was just a physical pleasure for my husband. Finally living a sexless married life . I have my son n I concentrate on him my work n health as I have dealt with 8 yrs of anxiety n medication . Now I have set up some boundaries. Am fed up.
Where there is a will there is a way.
Enjoy the Ice cream before it mealt
Anxiety may be cause of your problem.
@@anjaananjaan5107 how anxiety can be caused of these problems?
@@imran77ify Anxiety is a response to imaginary fears. Body is more concerned to protect itself.
Sex is not important.
Presented so well on this issue which is important to be known by everyone, but hardly anyone speaks about. Thanks for your wonderful work🙏
If sex is not important than why everywhere women are being used as glamour object? The adds, the business, almost in every aspect of life women are being used and advertised?
Sex is the most important part of life.
Absolutely. No sex no life. Sex is number one
Umm no there are other important parts like eating, exercising, sleeping, working etc. What are u saying? LOL
@@prachinaiyar1525 All those things will become irrelevant if sex life is not good.
@@muraliseetharaman1908 Ah no! You are highly mistaken sir. Sex is a very small part of your life. There are so many other things to it. To enjoy sex u need to be in the right frame of mind that is governed by other factors and not vice versa.
@@prachinaiyar1525 Okay I agree with you. Probably I was wrong and thanks for correcting me.
Majority of the time sexless marriage happens because the woman doesn't want to or the man is not sexually attracted to her as she is alot fat and all.
For women to hav esex they nedd connection and all for men it is just pure physical attraction. So understand these basics
Raju 👍
I am in a sexless marriage. When i try to talk to my husband he says we are married for so many years. Why do you want sex now?? And starts doubting me and makes it worse. I live our daughter and thats why i am with him. Its not the sex but the care and affection i miss. He is always busy. Sex is not even the last thing on his mind. I feel very lonely.
I am struggling with the same thing,
From last four years
So what I can do for a healthy relationship,
That,s why we are living seperately..
First of all you must consult a doctor and check testesterone level.
Same problum with my sister,s in law
She is also living separately from last nine years.
And also provoked my wife it
That leave ur husband to it
@@rajeshmaratha3970 what is marital status of ur father in law? Howz his behaviour at his house? Is he was a responsible father for their kids. Is he alcoholic or very quarrelsome guy. Mostly such mentality are developed in girl because of their father.. If her father nature is normal and he is a caring responsible father then no problm But if her father behaviour /nature is not good at home.. Then it impact on kids. She might feel like all men's are like this who drink n beat wife.. This lead to suppression of sexual emotion toward opposite sex.. This may be one of the reason. If this is not the reason.. There might be some biological or hormonal problm in her body.
The perspective of asextual/grey asextual, aromatic/grey aromantic peoples should also be included and discussed with such topics.
@ Yeah... for this discussion about these topic is important, most of the people just don’t understand these issues and end up marrying wrong person. Because of family/societies pressure asexual people end up getting married to someone who will not be compatible or the other person also go for marrying a asexual person because they really like the asexual person, without understanding what asexuality is. Most people just assume that this issue would be solved after marriage or this is like a disease which can cured and all these assumption are not true. So there is no alternative of discussion and consciousness about this topics.
Yeah
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its just a desire there are pansexual, asaxual, bisexual, polyamory, open marriage. Don't experiment your life for a pleasure of half an hour people are willing to destroy a marriage,
What is Asexual/ Grey Asexual??
I feel like I am asexual and esodophobic. But I like the idea of love. I wonder how scary things will be for me if I get married.
Then do not get married unless you are sure about your sexuality. If you are asexual then marrying someone with normal sexual needs will be wrong, both to you and your spouse. If you want only love then be forthright about it.
O meri pyari bahan kuchh orr janne Plzzz search acharya Prashant video u tube 🙏.
God bless you 🙏.
Thank u 🙏
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same here yr i am similar too and i hvnt gotten married yet...i get nightmares when i think of marriage.
@@AnandKumar-hs4qx Acharya prashant kya btayenge ispe? he only talks about how men treat girls and what they see in her when getting married. He says dont get married until u get a partner of your own choice. But after a certain age we wont be able to get married. And acharya prashant is strong headed...he is famous people listen to his intellect. What about normal people like us? we cant deal with the lonliness alone just bcz we are asexual. We cant open an organisation and start preaching the world. Our mind gets satisfied when we speak our intellect out. But we cant live like a baba and preach the world for this sake. For him it is easy to stay alone but not easy for normal people.
Thanks for the wonderful testimony 👍 inspired by your video 🌹🙏 agreed to what all you have shared. I have suffered with this in my marriage. We all need to understand the value of marriage. Thanks Pallavi jee ❤️
The social Bhai tujhe bhi problem uff
I feel like this is pretty obvious but if you're not having sex with someone and you don't have romantic affection for them then they're just a FRIEND. As far as marriage goes it's just a piece of paper if you're not committed to each other and you're not really committed if you're not having sex 🤷♀️
Agree with you but sometimes they cnt understand our need it hurts
@@yuvraj4u36 I know exactly how it feels cause I have been there. Here's the thing though. You have to take care of yourself and love yourself first. If you don't know how to do that you won't know how to love them and they won't know how to love you. ❤
@@shwetanavani480 but sometimes we give our 100% but they don't respond it's bad feelings
@@shwetanavani480 Sex is not important in case of love 💕❤️ sex is like animal things and we are human and we have mind als We are advance civilized. So forget those things and enjoy your life with happiness
@Exmuslim Sahil😊 I couldn't say because I don't have experience with that. A small portion of the population are asexual. Most people still like sex
If both parties agree for a no sex marriage then it's okay but if one denies the other of intimacy then either he/she should allow the other partner to seek pleasure outside if he/she wants to keep the marriage or just give divorce otherwise it should be considered as a crime.
True i am unmarried but i am also confused on the topic of sex. Sometimes i think i am asexual but i want a deep soul connection first with my partner. I dont know why i am in search of my soulmate which i dont think i will meet at all as i havnt met him yet. Things don't place well so much so that marriage can take place. I dont know what i want. Do i even want to get married or not! Or is it just in my imagination because i am single and i dnt really incline for physical needs. Rather i crave a strong connection and supportive and understanding partner. Then i think some kind of intimacy can be there. I can not get physical with like anybody. I am in a search of that someone special and i dont know what will happen if i dont find one.
Get a feminist male partner for yourself. Yours every worries will come into an end.
You have also sexless marrige
And me too...
Actually my wife have some problems so I also............😥😥
Hiiii
Remember one thing guys Need a lot of sex if u don’t give it properly it may end up badly
Tannu khayali pulao
Peheli baar, mein she the people TV se disagree krti hoon. No sex is not so important in married life, this is only a choice.
I think she was telling from a prespective of a sexually active person.
@@Shkk hmm, jo apna ya apni sex life ko enjoy krna chahta ho ya woh maanta ho sex is important in life Or he Or she want to do so, pr iska matlab ye nhi ki other person ka v ahi soch hona chahiye nhi to uska problem ya ye uski khamiya hogi. Ye ek truly purelymutual consent hona chahiye, hr kisiko sex pleasure nhi chahiye hoti hai, iska matlab ye nhi ki humlog use galat samajhlein, ye uski right hai choices lene ki, marriage v compulsory nhi hai bs society ne isko ek fixed ritual
Bana diya hai from centuries. Hum sirf itna krsatte hain ki unlogon ko iske bareme educate krsatte hain, unke thought process k boundaries ko aur v badhasatte hein tavi ye unki right hogi k woh kya krna chahte hein kya nhi, indian weddings lacks proper communication, mutual understandings , self diginity, trust on each other, etc so asi problems ka hona bahut hi aam baat hai. Sex krna na krna ye sirf ek choice hona chahiye aur saath rehene kliye marriage krna na krna woh v ek choice hona chahiye, mam ka ek point mujhe bahut galat laga ki sex relationship k na hone se relationship jyada stable nhi honge ya communication ki problem hogi, asa Bilkul v nhi hai . So mai agree nhi krti uss baat se . Main ye nhi bol rahi ki sex is wrong ( blooy bullshit myth) sex is a human nature n pleasure n a ultimate act to express love , at a same time this is a choice not so important in relationships or in human life. ( my thought) please don't my words. This is just a clarification of what i am trying to tell you.
@@Shkk pura ka pura essay likhdala maine 😅😆 stay blessed bro🤜
@@deeptimayeerath1671 haan sex should always be mutual. Agar koi asexual ya demi sexual hai to usse shadi se pehle his apne partner se bata dena chahiye nahi toh uski life aur partner ke life dono mein problem ho jaayegi. Par kisi bhi kimat par kisiko force nahi karma chahiye aur galat bhi nahi samajhna chahiye kyunki sabki apni apetite hoti hai.
@@Shkk hmm u r right, bas ek proper healthy communication hona chahiye aur koi issue hogi hi nahi, btw maine to ek long essay likhdala, mujhe nhi lagta aap mein itna patience hoga ki sara ka sara padh liya hoga. But thanks for replying n interacting 😊😇 have a yummy evening 🥞😋
Best indian topic to continue disscuss our society to solve hidden family problem..thank you madam 😊😊😊😊😊
Marriage is not about sex. Marriage is two getting together to become one as a family. Sex is just a biological need of humans which can be expressed or suppressed according to one's own needs.
Why suppress...??
well said.
Go get a life
True
Here is a asexual person 😂
What if the appetite is different for both partners.. one partner may want it everyday and other partner want it once a week. And the appetite depends on stress , career and other factors. There are examples where one needs sex just to feel good as he/she has no life as such. Like a machine. This is a broad topic actually.
Then you marry a guy you really want to fuck
Discuss a boundary line for both of you!
Go to therapy it will help . Talk to marriage counsellor
So true....evry individual has a different sex drive and how much u enjoy it is governed by so many factors
@@prachinaiyar1525 So what's the solution ?
Pallavi jee you are absolutely right, God Bless You Amen.
Sexless marriage is not that normal.Now marriage out of sex is normal
its your experiance you can mot generalise
It can happen after few years also. Maybe 3-4 years.
Sorry I mean Sex out of Marriage 😆
Sexless marraige is normal but people who think sex is always important made it abnormal,sorry people who don't like sex,and love without sex Exists
@@Tamil_Atheist2023 After marriage love without sex?Something not right.. I don't mean daily sex.You mean there are marriages and both love each other but no sex in two weeks or in a Month or atleast once in a year in youth.For kid they have to do atleast one time😁??I doubt there is any love(for both people) when they don't have sex anytime..
I know sex is important but there can be very serious and multiple reasons that sex can reduce or even the relationship can become sexless. So what a person should do just get separated? There is something called love and respect as well.
Yess ....true
No there is nothing like love .love is only an imagination. Love fades away when there is no sex and that is not my point of view it is the way the world thinks
Sex is a important part of life. It's never a front end of human beings. There can be intimacy without sex. You are only talking about how the asexual being should become sexual but what about the opposite? Why can't be the sexual being be changed to a asexual? Sex should not be the reason to end a marriage. There is a need of balance.
This is an individual choice. You can’t force someone to be in sexless relationship if they want it, regardless of their gender. Don’t you think it’s better for her ex-husband too, to be with someone who doesn’t want sex either? :)
@@aditi1729 I never said that you should force someone to be in a sexless or sexfull marriage. I said that sex should not be front end of human beings. Sex is not the basis of marriage, it's a part of marriage. There is a need of balance.
@@Ayush-xt2fh Lol, keep dreaming and living in a fairytale. Sex is very important in a marriage and can say it constitutes 50% of the marriage. If you are aware of your sexuality then don't do something which is against it.
@@sushilsharma4202 When did I say it is not a important part of marriage? First read the statement, don't be in a hurry to comment.
@@Ayush-xt2fh You first read your comment. You have written so many contradicting statements in your comment.
sexless marriage is a kind of marriage where you are sailing in a ship without rudder or compass not knowing the destination......
I really wish if this video could have come up years back,, then i would have definitely taken a step right then years ago.... Where even i was in a sexless marriage for more then 7 year's n now finally after so much emotional pain m getting divorced... This video is just so resonate with me... As if it's describing word by words abt me n my sexless marriage !!! Yes... I do agree.. sex does plays an important role in building that bond between the life partners ❤️
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Are you not In a relationship now??? If Sooo why don't you move with ONS???
You have done a great job!! In a relationship, one person may be little prone to sex and other may be more tilted to emotional connection...Both are cool...Partners should openly discuss with each other about what they need and how they are gonna proceed in a relationship...Consent, respect for the other and what makes happy to both the partners ...these things are important!
I also have the same story, my partner never wants to talk about it and I am eager for sex.
@@teslatestingwala5019 आप डॉक्टर हो
Very important aspect of a married life!!! Thanks for bringing this topic.
Yes mam
What's going on in your married life..??
Firstly I wanted to write here " O comeon this never happens, coz we all r excited about having sex after marriage even I ll do it daily" but I decided to go through the comments section before writing anything, then I realised OMG this problem really exist. 😳
I m 28, I ll have full day sex, after marriage on weekends, coz Monday to Friday is working as u guys know.
What if ur partner is not ready
@@avisharma7599 then divorce her/ him what else u can do
@@RRommy-px1vy hello
@@RRommy-px1vy avi sharma he hai
Yes very nicely explained, this is one of true bitter of life ..
Sex is very important to you. Some people choose celibacy and purity in marriage. Don’t make people feel something is wrong with them for not having sex marriage, you just wanted something different
Vedhika baby right
why is sex impure ? sex is as human as eating food. society has conditioned you to hate yourself. To hate pleasure. embrace pleasure.
@@sikkaMass mind is never under control if u go after pleasure, so one must try not to go in that way... Very few understand this.
@@junejuly513 what is the point of living if not pleasure lol
@@sikkaMass the point of living is for freedom and spreading love...by keeping pleasure as the goal people always feel restless.
What ever you explained in this message I from my heart believe that it is 100% true and I am passing this phase most of time in my life
Madam I want your mobile no please
Same here
Welcome to normal life. Marriage turns sexless after few years or after a kid.
And having sex for making up a fight is actually a dumb idea.
Mostly it's the wife who uses sex as a power tool in marriage and when that becomes ineffective, she starts complaining.
Now what are the options left for men ?
Itna sach bhi nahi bolna tha bahaya.. but rare case exists where girl loves boy too ..
So u saying women don't desire sex? If she then my use as tool to control ? Where she satisfying her needs
Pls make video on asexuals in India.. I wonder if there are many asexuals India
Kirti i think aap bhi
I too have a same problem, 10 years of marriage sex less life, and he even don't earn money,I am really wanted to get ride of this relationship , he just pass the time in watching tv and playing games on phone ,
but one way I am scared to take this step plz suggest what to do.
He's not earning money, not interested in sex so why u wasting your life with him😓
@@dayanandkamble471 Family is good they are taking care of me, that why i am stuck not able to move on in my life...
@@vmsharitha I can understand your situation.
@@vmsharitha Didi aap kitna kama leti hai pehle ye batao ?
Sex aur paisa hi zindagi bana rakha hai.
When wife runs of from sex, what should be done without valence when wife refuses to understand husband needs and even show needed by husband. Sex is not alone, even love making and showing each other all needs is satisficing.
Bhai baar sun
How respectfully highlighted this sensitive topic, appreciated
Exactly..
Shortest horror story - I married
Make a video on asexuality what , how try covering every possible aspect of it
Would like to know about it
Nice ❤️
Diksha ji iska to ek hi solution hai
Even I am in a sexless marriage. But the reason is that my in-laws don’t want my husband to be close to me. They want my kids to become Christians if I get pregnant and when I didn’t agree I lost 2 kids bcos of the same reason. My husband doesn’t divorce me with the reason “Christianity doesn’t allow one to get divorce”. Here I am childless and in a sexless marriage.
Go file for divorce on mental torture grounds.
File a divorse and be couragious
In india constitutional law are above any religious law....file a cash....court main bachhe bhi aapko mil sakte hain.....
i cannot live without sex.feelings and sex are most important things😘🎑
Same🥳
Tamseela acha
This video is somehow correct but you should also cover ASEXUALITY.
Asexuals are the people who feels little or no attraction towards sex. But sex is not the ONLY thing in a relationship. Sex plays a vital role but you can't express that it is a MUST. There is more beyond.
In a relationship people want to feel valued, secured & to share life. One can not have these feelings with everyone.
The idea of relationship you put on this video is very narrow. ''Partner became parent'' (BIG LAUGH).
Why didn’t you describe it as a friend? Good friend or best friend?
This video shows only one side of the coin. Please, resolve this issue. Either it will mislead a lot of people.
As a big fan of this channel I expect sensitive content.
Completely agree. U exactly spoke my mind. And moreover if both the partners choose not to have sex in a marriage then it should be their choice. Though I agree that this video did cover very good points about only one partner's interest in sex, the lady in this video according to me seemed to believe that a marriage is nothing without sex which I completely disagree with.
@@baghyasrib6929 I agree with both of you..
Very well said!! I completely agree.
@ see that's the problem. People find it hard to understand 'love'. Love is more beyond sex. Emotional intimacy & physical intimacy are not the same.
If a man or woman find that feeling (love) with someone & they want to spend life who the hell am I & you to judge them.
But yes, couples should be honest & openly talk about her/his sexual preferences. They should be on the same page before getting married (In each and every sense, ranging from career plans to family plans).
& dear brother, sex is PART of our life. Sex is NOT THE LIFE. So, nobody can ruin it by not giving up. Moreover, man & woman both can identify them as an asexual. I have both male and female asexual friends.
Exactly
Tbh it's quite difficult to understand women . If men starts intimacy he is lusty if he doesn't then he is sexless . If a woman is appreciated she starts taking it for granted . It would be better if women start taking responsibility too rather than complaining for everything .
I am also not having any relationship with my husband, last 3yrs actually he was having a affair and that made distance between us
Why don't you leave him...go get ur life.. don't waste time
Jaise ko taisa...tum bhi affair rakho......😃😃😃
Annu Hiiii friend bano GE bhot maja dunge
@Akriti Jab Biwi hi khush Ni rakhti to husband majburi m bahar hi jyga . Biwi sexually Satisfied hi Ni rahegi or sex ki basis needs puri Ni karegi to husband kyu rahega aisi Biwi k saat ????? Kese rahega aisi Biwi k saat ????? Koi bhi husband aisi Biwi k saat Ni rhe sagta jo Biwi husband Ko sexually satisfied Ni rakhti ho , jo Sexually Satisfiction Ni deti ho , or jo Unsatisfied rakhti ho aisi Biwi k saat koi husband Ni rhe sagta h !! Ji ji sex karke khush Ni rakhti ho or jo basis si physically or mentally or Sexually needs puri Ni karti Aisi Biwi k saat koi husband Ni rhe sagta h !!!! Husband bahar hi jyga . Isme galti us Biwi ki Hoti h jo Biwi husband K saat sex Ni karti isme galti us Biwi ki Hoti h ki wo Biwi 1 Sexually Satisfied Ni rakhti husband Ko
2 sexually satisfiction Ni deti husband Ko
3 husband ki basis , Biologically or naturally needs puri Ni karti
Annu ji unhone apke saath acha nahi kiya sorry ur story is very emotional. I hope apka future bright ho
Never been married but I was in a live in relationship for 3-4 years. It's usually the women who start losing interest in sex. I've asked male friends who have been in similar situations. And if it's the men who start losing interest in sex, it's usually mental problems or the women have gained so much weight we no longer find them sexually attractive.
But that is just my exp and those of my friends and people I know.
True that.
My story
Maybe you should learn how to make a woman want to come back to your bed forever. A woman will lose interest when the man doesn't care if she's satisfied.
@@Juliasblues or replace that woman. That is easier than making a woman want us when she's already lost interest. Plenty of fish in the sea as they say.
@@Juliasblues it's not a men duty to satisfy women financially or sexually by putting all efforts if she is unsatisfied she should talk and save the relationship if she can't stand then a men should leave her alone with her ego .
I've seen a lot of women be the reason for a sexless marriage. Never seen or heard of a guy backing off from sexual intimacy.
@Mam Shak exceptions validate rules. You are using exceptions to negate common practice. If only a handful of men back off from healthy intimacy, that proves that the majority favors and supports healthy intimacy. In fact, the converse is true for women.
Those who are in sexless marriage lives the toughest life.