Why not and why are we assuming what a different gender wants as well as redistricting what other genders can say about the same thing? If "women" can do it then anyone can, saying otherwise just makes you someone that stochasticglee brings about bigotry.
I think the intention og guys is alright, but the sentence could be framed properly. Like- "There are many girls out there, but you are the special one".
@@sourabhs14 I wouldn't say the intention is always good. They might want to say the girl is special, but they also might want to raise their value and importance by saying how popular they are. Might be a bit of both. But phrased this way it sounds more like bragging than a compliment.
Yeah but saying that someone is special... or saying that they're better than all the others make you a very selfish and weak-minded person because you decided to get with someone that's already at their best value... instead of helping a person who's working on themselves..(and (I'm not tryna make huge deal out of this ik it's just about a silly compliment but) If you've got that mindset, you'll break up too soon because people aren't always at their best values.
@@connorstones4181 People usually get blind to the faults of the other person when they first fall in love (rose-colored glasses), so the person might actually seem near perfect. Should they ditch every person they develop a crush on because they should pick someone they see as a project instead? That relationship will probably fall apart much faster. Also nothing wrong with saying someone is special, it usually means they are special to you, not that they are objectively better than everyone. And the way you speak about people at their best value and people who are working on themselves is weird. It's not that black and white. Everyone who's a decent person is more or less working on themselves. And this use of the word "value" seems kind of superficial. Dunno, it feels like there is a personal backstory to your comment, like a girl chose somebody else or something of that sort.
@Evija3000 Like you said.. they get blind when they FIRST fall in love. That alone proves my point that those types of hippy dippy fairy-tale relationships where they miraculously "ignore" their partner's faults will end in seconds. Real life isn't about all that. Dunno but seems to me like you've never had a real relationship with someone that understands, sees all your flaws and still chooses to stay. If someone says they don't see your faults and values that everyone else sees...... that's cap, the kind of white lies that lead to forming a whole other pile of real lies. And when you said it's like a project when you help somebody and the relationship will end faster, it doesn't make much sense because with today's relationships, they lack a lot of that willpower to work on the relationship itself or help their partner go through something. Besides it's even better when someone already knows what you've been through (because they were there) and sees how you handle things.... making it easier for them to respect you or see you as "special" I guess. But I really do respect your opinion... I like the way you look at the concept of love and specialty.... it's really important to have those rose-colored glasses that take place at the beginning of the relationship (which... I believe why a lot of people skedaddle from one partner to another to always get that feeling) We don't really know what's actually right or wrong and we might never! but we still try and that's probably good enough. Best of luck and I hope you live a happy, meaningful life with the one person you love!
@Paul Brandel bro you’re being sexist..how does it feel when you’re angry or when you’re in a negative mood but there’s someone telling you to smile...ppl should be aware with what they’re saying
@@g.i.r.l. seriously I bearly wear makeup out of laziness but when I do I feel so confident and love it on other people! Someday maybe I'll get better at it and it won't be such a pain to do..
@@JakeFish5058 That can be interpreted in a very shallow way. You think your girlfriend is cute because she is just considered to be socially/objectively cute?
Yes, of course everyone does it subconsciously- it’s just knowing how attractive you find someone. But it really is an asshole move to say it out loud to them directly
“Your attractive for a disabled girl” Something I still cannot cannot believe was said to my face as a compliment. My disabilities are mostly “invisible” so I look mostly normal but still the most backhanded “compliment” I’ve ever received
I’ve kind have gotten that too. I have Crohn’s which is an autoimmune disease of your GI and because of that I have had many surgeries on my abdomen including my colon being removed and a permanent ostomy. You cannot tell looking at me. Even doctors and nurses have commented because I guess most people dress pretty awkwardly (at least older people) with an ostomy but I just do what I do. I’ve actually been told: “You look great considering everything!” What? I just have a lot of scars on my stomach, how is that considering?
My bf’s “compliments” on me. “Aww, your long skirt looks so cute, it looks like a curtain ☺️” “Aww your nails looks so good! It looks like a bamboo🎋” He’s bad at complimenting but I adore him. 😂
The first one is for sure a compliment when we say it we mean it, like tf do girls have no self esteem,nobody cares if you spent hours on makeup when you literally look better without it,the rest of the compliments are weird af I don't think a man would ever say that ngl.
People don’t approach people cause they “look smart” in fact liking someone according to their intelligence level isn’t much better anyway. The reason this is bad is because it’s condescending
@@LG-vd6wt I'm pretty sure the commented wasn't saying that you should approach someone because of their intelligence, but it almost hints that the person thought you were "dumb and easy."
Worked as a bartender. I’ve seen terrible compliments / pickup lines. The most common and the worst is “you look so much like my ex girlfriend”. Happens way more than you’d think.
@@yomilala8929 Eh, I'd disagree. It just feels like the only reason they want to be with you is because you remind them of their ex, really shows how they havent moved on yet and you are their distraction. Just a lot of unresolved complicated emotional shit that they're using you to free themselves mentally in the short term. But a relationship like this wont last for more than 2 months, and they'd most likely ditch you and crawl back to their ex or break up with you because they've moved on from their ex and you remind them too much of them.
@@raisya495 In my experience many long lasting relationships can begin with someone who hasnt moved on and considering that people are naturally pretty shallow...
“I could be with so many girls rn but I chose you” That sounds like a playboy tryna be loyal to a girl for once Someone need to pray real hard for that boy
I eat so much but I'm so freaking skinny and I hate not having some weight on. I don't like being asked if I eat, I shouldn't even have to answer that. It's another reason why I'm so insecure.
Girls get self esteem idk how but any hoo just wanted to let you know that first compliment is 100% true when we say it we mean it like tf are girls insecure about their faces I did not know that,so if a guy tells you that you look better without make up he's spitting facts just so you know.
Just because someone isn't skinny doesn't make them fat. They can have an average figure (avergae as in correlating to weight) too, or thicc if u think abt it
A couple weeks ago my bench-mate looked at me in utter shock and said "I hadn't noticed this before" "..what?" "You have a better mustache than I do" Was never insecure but about until that moment lmfao
Nope. That just means they find you unique or there's some sort of differentiator that makes them want to date you. That's literally the definition of attraction, it's why people date - the person is somehow special or more engaging / appealing to you than most other people, right? Otherwise you wouldn't be dating them... When you find someone you get feelings for, you generally have a connection / chemistry that you don't have with most other people, so by definition, they quite literally "aren't like most other girls / guys" to that person.
just a quick reminder for guys: saying "it's good that you're not a skinny girl" is basically the equivalent of when your girl says "it's okay the big ones hurt"
this reminds me of the time my male boss told me he "was surprised I knew that word," when I used a slightly more advanced word in an interview with him. People's biases and insecurities often reveal themselves in the way they choose to backhand compliment others
I visited korea a lot of times because I'm half korean and I did art class there and they said to me in korean you're pretty good at art for a foreigner
"You look better without makeup" depends on the women. For eg if a women loves makeup she is going to feel either you are trying to mock her makeup skills or she isn't good at makeup and make her doubt But if a women doesn't like makeup and is doing it just for the society then it might be a compliment Problem is you ( the guy) might not know which category she belongs so better is to just avoid any comparison and just say "You are a natural beauty" it works.
The thing is even if I choose 9 out of 10 no make up look, I love doing my make up. I would love to do it when I feel to, not bc someone thinks of it. I can do bold make up just for fun. Don't want feel that pressure. Especially you know, when some guys try to lead girls' thoughts to a certain things.
@@flyfantasy6565 exactly. It's like saying to a guy, ugh thank god you are not into gaming and you actually read books, so smart. Its like a guy can like both....
There is also the girls that never learned to do make up and therefore never wears any makeup except for a little mascara but feels so ugly and really want to be able to do makeup but knows that if they do it’ll look worse then without it because they don’t have the money to buy the right products and tools. yeah, we exist too.
I’m a guy, and I’m not gonna lie; just about every single one of her points were fair. I do kind of disagree about the make up thing, but at the same time when you say something like that timing is everything. I’m pretty sure a girl would have a different reaction from a guy saying that depending on whether he said it after she put her makeup on or during a time when she doesn’t have her make up on. You know? EDIT: I guess understand now why girls hate the “You look better without makeup” compliment. It’s like if you had a favourite shirt or hat or shoes that you liked to wear to parties and someone came up to you and said something like “You would look better in a different shirt/shoes/hat.” It’s sort of a mean compliment that doesn’t accomplish anything. I was wrong
I sort of agree. But what I think she means is when guys(or anyone really) say “I like you better without/with makeup” or commenting unnecessarily on someone’s appearance in general can be harmful. That being said, if someone takes off their makeup and you just say “you look beautiful” without comparing to how they looked before, that can be very positive.
I disagree on the make up thing too. Sometimes I’ll say it because some girls feel like they have to wear make up to be pretty. And I don’t think anyone should feel like they have to change their face to be pretty. -side note: girl as well
i think it might be better to say "you look pretty even without makeup" rather than "you look better without makeup." or "you look the same" you know... the first one implies that the girl is pretty both with and without makeup while not comparing both looks, while the second and third one is kinda discrediting the efforts they spent on their makeup
Actually if a girl loves doing makeup and even if you said it when she doesn't have any she is going to think she did something wrong. Instead just say "you are a natural beauty". Avoid comparison. Edit: if*
Tbh I actually felt better when my partner said I looked better without makeup. My friends forced me into it and I was trying to hold back tears. He ran over to me, wiped it off and said he preferred my natural look, and even if I did wear makeup it was my personality that he cared for. I'm lucky to have him, sometimes I'm sad that I'm too flat and have acne but I think to that moment to help me find my happy place
It’s okay to have acne, you’re not alone there. And just because you do have some doesn’t mean that you’re flat, I’m sure you’re beautiful the way that you are! Your partner sounds pretty amazing. Remember to always do you and follow whatever makes you feel happy and comfortable, that’s all that matters!! I’m not gonna tell you to outright dump your friends but try talking to them and setting boundaries regarding what makes you comfortable/uncomfortable, maybe that’ll help to make your friendships stronger. And if they don’t accept that and try pushing past those boundaries, then remember: people who can’t deal with you having boundaries is because they were taking advantage of you not having any. Never do anything other than what you’re happy with.
The amount of times I've been told I'm hot for a cripple or hot for a wheelchair user is ridiculous! It was especially bad back when I was online dating. Thankfully my husband has never said something that stupid 🤣
what is that even suppose to mean😭 what does being disabled has to do with how you look. I am glad that you found someone that is actually smart and aware of how things should be. happy for you xx
@@NikkiScott1 one time when I went clubbing I met this sweet pleasant girl in a wheelchair like she lost her legs but I would have so asked her out…she was pretty gorgeous tbh. She went clubbing too and had a friend there to accompany her to make sure she was ok.
Perfect answer would be: "Your make up is so beautiful today. How long did it take?... What one hour? This looks gorgeous and sexy. You're sexy anyways as always."
If someone tells you that you lost weight that's a compliment. Now if we are pestimistic and negative we will say "they are saying we was fat. Now if we are positive and grateful for what others tell us, we will take is a compliment because they are saying "we look good" Make sure to be positive and take nice things being said instead of turning around nice words into offensive stories, it only causes me problems down the road
That's overthinking to me. Telling someone they got better always implies they were less before, but taking it like this is wrong. I don't think there is something that men look up to as much as progressing. I'll quote a man i respect : "Being weak is not a shame, but staying weak is."
Facts this guy asked me “have you been hitting the gym your chest and arms look bigger” like come on bro are you implying that my chest was small and arms were skinny before bro that’s so fucked up to acknowledge my hard work dude
Well I’m a bit overweight and trying to actively lose weight so if someone told me I look like I lost weight I’d be happy xD to each their own I guess :)
Just because you lost or gained weight doesn’t mean I thought you were on the extreme skinny or extreme fat side. You can lose 10 pounds and it still be noticeable
What they mean is "you don't ACT like a virgin". And yeah, they can tell. You can clear up the confusion by admitting that yes, you had a lot of sex but not in that hole.
That's because you're a normal person and know that you don't have to take everything the wrong way. Not that someone can't be attractive with makeup, but I'm more attracted to natural beauty. Actually, I think natural beauty looks better even for people I'm not attracted to... Makeup takes away from that and I just don't think it looks as good. That's my preference.
@@alsokaitlin I understand. Different guys have different preferences. Some guys really like a lot of makeup... I'm just not one of those guys. My thing is; Ppl generally wear makeup to make themselves look better in some way. If you remove whatever makeup you have on and then you look completely different, it's generally less attractive. So if I found you attractive and got to know you without makeup, I won't have to worry about trying to be attracted to you when you look completely different than when I first decided I was attracted to the way you look... I dunno if I'm explaining this well enough, I hope so... I'm also wondering if there's a time in a girls life after years of wearing makeup, when she gets tired of buying it, wearing it, tired of her makeup routine, but continues to do it all simply because she's afraid those she's been around her whole life won't like the way she looks without it and she feels trapped now...? I dunno. There are quite a few different reasons for why I personally find it more attractive when a girl doesn't wear makeup. Or at least, isn't so completely attached to it. This is all my opinion and perspective. There are a ton out there. Just know that there are guys out there who are far more attracted to natural beauty than the artificial alternatives.
my bf just told me the other day, “you look gorgeous without makeup, why do you need to wear it” and i know he meant it as a compliment but it just felt like… but i am supposed to look pretty, i feel good like this 😭
He means to him you look awful in make up and he prefers you without it,it's just a polite way of saying it in most cases and I'm pretty sure make up doesn't make a difference in your case in terms of beauty I mean,I'm curious to know why girls make up when in most cases they look better without it?? Is it a contest with other girls or something lol.
@@razortk77g95 well i don’t really cake it on, i’ll dab some concealer on, maybe some highlighter and mascara and call it a day, but i’ve noticed every time he says “wow you look extra gorgeous today” or “wow babe, today you’re really glowing” are all the days i decide to wear a little makeup and he doesn’t even know it. i think the girls that go crazy with makeup morning routines are a little much but honestly it’s whatever works for them. i know i personally can go out with or without makeup, i just like wearing it sometimes because it’s fun for myself, does that make any sense?
and it’s not really a contest with other girls, it definitely can be sometimes lol, but most of the time i don’t think so. its just a feeling of being “presentable”, like brushing your teeth or putting on deodorant. something for you to know you put effort into presenting yourself to society today :) obviously that’s just my opinion tho lol
Why? If a girls/woman Say "you are not like others man" , i would be flatter . Maybe it's because i'm quite différent of other man or at least i feel like it . Maybe you aren't or feel spécial ? Sorry if i offense you , i'm just curious about why you feel this way .
@@solveignicolaysen8122 "you are just putting down other girls saying they are worse" You need to try to date some girls. You'll figure it out real fast LOL
I love getting this one Here's another if you want, something my bf says to me If I'm ever complaining about something with the way I look he tells me "but natural is beautiful" So even though that thing isn't "perfect" it's still just the way I am
@@x.moon_cat.001 No, it's literally not. Average height for a woman in most countries is around 5'4/5'5. Only really places like Netherlands and Denmark where it's a bit taller like 5'7. Nothing wrong in being 5'8 as a girl but it's certainly above average. I say this as a man who is 5'8 and been told by girls that I'm "confident for a short guy" and other such things...even though 5'8 is actually on the lower end of average height for a man where I live lol
just bc those are on her list of worst compliments doesn't mean that all of them have been said. she could've meant what she's also heard dudes said to other people
@May you have peace I'm just saying - she still can say that she doesn't like those type of "compliments" it's almost like saying "oh yeah I don't like rats" when someone has never had a rat before. they don't HAVE to had a rat before to not like them. that's just their opinion. not trying to be rude or anything just explaining what I meant in my first comment.
I mean to be fair those types of compliments often don't come from a date but just a random weirdo giving unsolicited comments at work/school/on the streets/in the laundromat/the grocery store like you don't understand how many men think it's literally THEIR JOB to loudly proclaim whether you fit their preference or not even if they look like a dust ball, smell like ass and are older than your dad
I completely agree, she is great I love her videos, I love her self-confidence and her energy, she looks great on camera with that beautiful smile, And great personality
“I love the fact that you're so easy to please” Problem: are you saying im plain? are you assuming something about me? “You're way cooler than your friends” Problem: don’t bring down my friends just to please me, it doesn’t flatter me and i sure as hell will tell my friends “Nice a$$ !” Problem: …do i even have to explain? “You're so smart for a girl!” Problem: again..do i have to explain?
@@illseedez To most, it's not. It's basically calling them 'easy'. It makes it seem like the person saying that doesn't care enough to want to make an effort, so the 'complimented' is the best they can do
Some really dont need a makeup at all, and that is my genuine and honest opinion, so I cant really see why is she bringing this point. Its like win-win-win situation........no money waste, no time waste and you look decent, unless you didnt sleep and didnt "refresh" in the morning. She said she want to look differently? So worse or what?No one wants that.... maybe to be less noticeable but most if not all ppl prefer to be okay looking. Also, its easy to put way more makeup than needed. cca. 80% of them are using it too much anyway so its turning to be slowly worse that it actually was... . change my mind
As a girl- I think these are also bad compliments. I’m guessing it’s because for the first one it’s out of our place, the second one is implying that we only want strong men and the last in my opinion is just rude? Could someone explain more stuff girls in general say that’s also offensive? I wish all genders could just be more sensitive towards eachother yk
I gave a shit about this. then my boyfriend said that it looks cute.... to me it sounded like, this isn't cute, get the shit of your face, you're a woman.... 😐
Ok so as guy I'm gonna let you in on something, everything on this list other than the makeup one the guys saying it know exactly how it sounds and they DON'T have good intentions! All of the things on this list other than the makeup are said exclusively for 2 reasons: One - the "good" reason, they may legitimately be an idiot in which case you can do better Two - the reason that sadly is probably the reason, they are trying so gaslight you or make you feel insecure, they want you to feel less than you are so that you cling onto them, these backhanded compliments are something that's meant to sound like a compliment so you can't get mad at them (or if you do YOU seem like they "crazy" one) but then become insecurities that live in your brain so they can control or trick you more easily, if a guy you meet says anything like this too you tell them to fuck off and if a guy you're dating says anything like this to you you are dating the wrong guys. To be clear it is absolutely not the majority of guys that do shit like this but they are the loud minority because they spend their time seeing out women and pulling this shit if you keep ending up with guys that do shit like this to you in sorry The guys that say shit like this are the same guys who will "neg" a girl at the bar, I wish we lived in a world where this didn't happen but definitely don't hookup with a guy who says this shit and if you are dating someone who says this shit dump them now.
I wanted to say the same thing, but also that the makeup one is just a veiled criticism. If a man says "you look the same with makeup" he probably thinks you waisted your time, if he says "you look better without makeup" he's either trying (and failing horribly) to boost your confidence because he thinks you're wasting your time or he thinks your makeup looks like clown face and that you should remove it. Either way it's not a complement, tho may have better intent than the others presented
Honestly I like the makeup one because personally I think makeup takes too much time. I usually just go for the bare minimum. I don't have the will to spend hours just for something I'll have to erase at the end of the day.
@@Jt.512 I thought women did make up for themselves not to appeal to men atleast that's what they said and taking that into consideration, I think makeup same as painting your car. Some are okay with the factory colour.
@@kamix9532 some women do it for different reasons. Insecurities, just for themselves, sometimes to look their best for someone or something (interview/date) women definitely use makeup just for themselves at times but also remember how people view you affects how you view yourself so some women do it so others see them the way they want to see themselves.
Yeah... No. Ladies, if your man claims that he's really only trying to compliment you, he's fine. Sometimes you may just take things the wrong way. Not a big deal. Just communicate responsibly and you'll both be alright. But if your guy claims that these compliments are all fake and guys do it maliciously, you know that; just because he is a guy doesn't mean he speaks for the male gender, there's no way he can possibly know what anyone else's intentions are and now you know that he thinks that way and has probably done this to you... THAT'S the guy you need to dump asap.
"I could have been with so many girls right now but i chose you!" I could be at the beach or with my family for these four or five months but i chose to waste it on you.
Exactly why is it so normalized if you wanna be creative go ahead and that goes for both genders doesn’t make you gay if your a guy but if you feel like it’s the only way your pretty then it’s a issue
@@PillofPerspective its teasing because girls don't particularly choose to have facial hair. You don't tease someone who chooses to have facial hair, you tease a girl about her non existent beard. (If the person chooses to have facial hair it's harassment and not teasing)
6yrs ago, there's this man shipping me with his older brother and I kept saying no coz I already have a boyfriend, I was 18 that time. Then 1 day he told me "you just look like you already got 2 kids and a husband but I don't believe you have bf" I was so hurt, it gave me insecurity and I kept thinking about it until now. Maybe it was his impression of me coz I never cared on how I look, I'm not gonna deny that I don't look attractive that time, and I look older than my actual age, I don't wear any makeup and I was working at a factory I was constantly tired. But thanks to him though I learned to love myself even more. I am blessed to have a man who loves me unconditionally and never left me and never let me feel iinsecure, even at my fattest, ugliest, worst point of my life. We've been together for 8yrs now 😊 I love him so much ❤
@I come in peace tf. he never left her because he loves her and she didn't "let herself go" she's just living life do you expect her to be dolled up all the time? and she mentioned the other man first because she's telling a story about how that man made her feel insecure like stfu what's wrong with you
"you really know how to put that salad away" "those pants don't make your butt look too big" "you are aging pretty well" "your plastic surgeon did a great job" "you are above average!" "i'm sure you'll get a legit date soon"
I used to give excellent compliments. They kinda just flowed naturally "I could look into your eyes forever." "I love the way you do your hair it frames your face" "Your makeup really makes your eyes pop" But now I feel like I'm going to get nervous and give all of the aforementioned terrible compliments🤣 "
I tell my wife that I love it when she does not wear makeup, (and genuinely do) but I do not tell her that I prefer it. I think that releases me from the unintentional backhanded compliment cause of girl code section 203, part 719.
I'm ok with the "you look better without makeup" one because it feels like they genuinely want to let you know how beautiful you are even if you don't try
Then just say you look amazing today. It’s like saying you look better when you don’t dress like that. It’s a backhanded compliment. Makeup is like an accessory, if you don’t like my necklace and would rather me to not wear it, don’t tell me. Just mind your business when it comes to the way someone present themselves as long as they are not precisely asking for your opinion. Plus, makeup is a hobby and a skill, being told that we look better without it can and probably will make the person insecure. You’re telling me all that patience and practice didn’t pay off in the end?
"You're smart for a girl" "You're just not dramatic like all the other girls" Dude stop insulting every other women: it doesn't make me feel special, it lets me know you're a misogynist.
If a guy says this to u it doesn’t mean he wants to date u or flatter u he thinks of u as a guy friend which says a lot about how u approach guys however u trying to look like ur a victim makes me think u put on an act around guys 🤢
@@drewarnett3180 omg shush , guys like that haven't even talked to one girl and they assume shit and when they actually do they realise what bull crap they believe in , first hand experience and also a guy also said this.
I agree 1. "You look the same/better without makeup" I only put on make up on special occasions; but if someone says that to me, I would immediately be like it doesn't matter what they think about my appearance because I think I look good right now. I get it, when guys say this they want us to feel good about our natural bodies, but just because someone puts on makeup, doesn't mean they are insecure. Not always. 2. "You don't look like a virgin" How tf do you look like virgin? So basically if I'm sexually inexperienced today and then the same night I bang a guy, will I look different the next morning? 3. "I could be with so many girls right now but I chose you" I'm guessing this is said to make the girl feel special, but it just makes the guy look like a shallow person with a superiority complex. 4. "I'm happy you're not a skinny girl" Trust me, don't do this. It just makes the convo so awkward. 5. "Your mustache is cute" Don't mention about that, that makes us so uncomfortable. Just ignore the presence of our facial hair. 6. "You're hot for a _____ girl" That just makes you look like an asshole.
@@Skxtra. well, you do find people who wear makeup due to insecurities. But nowadays people often treat it as a form of art and self expression. And as an art student, I agree. There can be many reasons as to why anyone would want to wear makeup but some make it obvious that it's because they don't like their appearance
personally, I think the "you look better without makeup" has much more of an undertone than whats absorbed. I really don't even think its a compliment, they just dont agree with makeup as a concept, and don't want to be that straight forward or mean about it. Some guys these days see makeup as a red flag.
@@seannolan3927 When we say a girl looks better without make up it's facts we are not offering condolences for their awful looks,it's facts that not all girls need make up to LOOK good so why the fuck would they use it when they don't need it,so in conclusion if a guy says you look good but you think 'NO I'm better with make up' then you are insecure af.
“I like a girl who can eat.”
What do the other ones do??
*Photosynthesis?*
Well, the other girls are interested in their looks, and how they appear in photos. So, they actually do "photo-synthesis". 🙂
That's a yes. Lol
This is my favorite comment. Hilarious. Photosynthesis lol 😂
Really funny😂😂😂
@@sourabhs14 so those girls "who are interested in their looks and how they appear in photos" don't eat?
Never compliment a woman's mustache, no matter how epic it is.
Or maybe dont talk about it at all ☀️
Hahahaaa!😂
Omg epic plsssss😂
Then shave?
Why not and why are we assuming what a different gender wants as well as redistricting what other genders can say about the same thing? If "women" can do it then anyone can, saying otherwise just makes you someone that stochasticglee brings about bigotry.
"I could be with so many girls right now but I chose you"
Are you doing me a favor?
I think the intention og guys is alright, but the sentence could be framed properly. Like- "There are many girls out there, but you are the special one".
@@sourabhs14 I wouldn't say the intention is always good. They might want to say the girl is special, but they also might want to raise their value and importance by saying how popular they are. Might be a bit of both. But phrased this way it sounds more like bragging than a compliment.
Yeah but saying that someone is special... or saying that they're better than all the others make you a very selfish and weak-minded person because you decided to get with someone that's already at their best value... instead of helping a person who's working on themselves..(and (I'm not tryna make huge deal out of this ik it's just about a silly compliment but) If you've got that mindset, you'll break up too soon because people aren't always at their best values.
@@connorstones4181 People usually get blind to the faults of the other person when they first fall in love (rose-colored glasses), so the person might actually seem near perfect. Should they ditch every person they develop a crush on because they should pick someone they see as a project instead? That relationship will probably fall apart much faster. Also nothing wrong with saying someone is special, it usually means they are special to you, not that they are objectively better than everyone. And the way you speak about people at their best value and people who are working on themselves is weird. It's not that black and white. Everyone who's a decent person is more or less working on themselves. And this use of the word "value" seems kind of superficial.
Dunno, it feels like there is a personal backstory to your comment, like a girl chose somebody else or something of that sort.
@Evija3000 Like you said.. they get blind when they FIRST fall in love. That alone proves my point that those types of hippy dippy fairy-tale relationships where they miraculously "ignore" their partner's faults will end in seconds. Real life isn't about all that.
Dunno but seems to me like you've never had a real relationship with someone that understands, sees all your flaws and still chooses to stay.
If someone says they don't see your faults and values that everyone else sees...... that's cap, the kind of white lies that lead to forming a whole other pile of real lies. And when you said it's like a project when you help somebody and the relationship will end faster, it doesn't make much sense because with today's relationships, they lack a lot of that willpower to work on the relationship itself or help their partner go through something. Besides it's even better when someone already knows what you've been through (because they were there) and sees how you handle things.... making it easier for them to respect you or see you as "special" I guess.
But I really do respect your opinion... I like the way you look at the concept of love and specialty.... it's really important to have those rose-colored glasses that take place at the beginning of the relationship (which... I believe why a lot of people skedaddle from one partner to another to always get that feeling)
We don't really know what's actually right or wrong and we might never! but we still try and that's probably good enough. Best of luck and I hope you live a happy, meaningful life with the one person you love!
"I could be with so many girls right now but I chose you"
A MAJOR RED FLAG 🚩🚩
Nah he jus big pimpin
As a girl I can confirm this is incredibly rude 😐
My ex said that to me once and i replied with the exact same line " am I supposed to feel good about it"
@@arenaplay8714 that's why HE DESERVE TO BE YOUR EX ۔
@@areebahjan2838 exactly bc after some months I found out that he was cheatin on me.
A dude started the convo with “you’re pretty for a black girl.” Let’s just say he stayed “a dude” not “my dude”. 🙂
WtF
WTF
Ooof I hate that, even as a brown girl you often hear people say you're pretty for a dark girl like 💀
Wtf
same, that happened a while back, they said "you're pretty for a black girl" 😃
I was like :....
"You're hot, for a girl."
that became sus rather quickly
@ambassador Bro's before hoes, amiright?😂
😂😂😂
That would actually work. That's really funny.
Lmao 😂 it’s like
Are you hanging out with me so you can meet my brother or something?
One thing I know women hate:
"You're beautiful but you should smile more.
A lot of women should smile more, especially girl females
I don't even like my own smile how tf am I supposed to smile more?? 💀💀
So moronic. Everyone should smile more.
I hate it when ppl tell me this like...wtf. I’m always in a bad mood and I do what I want bruh
@Paul Brandel bro you’re being sexist..how does it feel when you’re angry or when you’re in a negative mood but there’s someone telling you to smile...ppl should be aware with what they’re saying
“All the other girls are SO dramatic and wear so much makeup, and you’re just so chill” like bish- don’t make me sound so pick me💀
You got me for a second ngl. I actually thought you were a pick me in the first half 😭😭😭
Who said this to you 💀💀
Bruh Istg if people look at me as a pickme since I'm genuinely chill💀 it can just be my lazy @ss
finally a reasonble woman
@@g.i.r.l. seriously I bearly wear makeup out of laziness but when I do I feel so confident and love it on other people! Someday maybe I'll get better at it and it won't be such a pain to do..
i wouldnt mind that
"I'm happy your not a skinny girl" Why do they say that?? It's offensive to both skinny and not skinny girls.
That's the beauty of it
@@JakeFish5058 lmao 😂
Attraction is about exclusivity and discrimination.
@@pawneraser9022 And here I was, thinking I just thought my gf was cute because she's cute. Silly old me
@@JakeFish5058 That can be interpreted in a very shallow way. You think your girlfriend is cute because she is just considered to be socially/objectively cute?
The “I could be with so many girls right now but I chose you” makes me laugh every time it literally gives me teen high school movie dialogue vibes 😭
Shes giving advice about men when all her experience has come from boys
"Could be with so many girld right now but i chose men"
@@mani6334 lol
@@mani6334
Naaaah...
@@danielmorgan5276
Destruction.
Also, rating a person’s attractiveness on a scale of 1-10 is a quick way to out yourself as an asshole.
You do that subconsciously too
Ramzi Chouk yeah in one way or another. What I meant is saying it aloud, especially to the person you’re rating.
Yes, of course everyone does it subconsciously- it’s just knowing how attractive you find someone. But it really is an asshole move to say it out loud to them directly
A girl could answer: I went out with guys better looking than you, soooo
You turn the tables on him
@@haleys4899 yeah most guys talk overtly and most women talk sugar coated. So loud or no loud , facts doesn't care about their feelings.
Your moustache looks cute. I’m dead 💀
If she had a moustache, that's a problem.
@@davidz3879 why is that a problem to u
@@ddddeniz You think moustaches look good on female faces? You'd like your date/GF to have one?
@@davidz3879 woman have moustaches surprise
@@No-js2yk Very few of them do.
“Your attractive for a disabled girl”
Something I still cannot cannot believe was said to my face as a compliment. My disabilities are mostly “invisible” so I look mostly normal but still the most backhanded “compliment” I’ve ever received
Should have replied: Well, I'm not the only one here... the other one has a huge communication disability. - look at his face - Oh, wait.. I'm sorry.
@@DataStorm1 You are either joking, or 8 years old
@@kazat0105 both :P
@@DataStorm1 🤣
I’ve kind have gotten that too. I have Crohn’s which is an autoimmune disease of your GI and because of that I have had many surgeries on my abdomen including my colon being removed and a permanent ostomy. You cannot tell looking at me. Even doctors and nurses have commented because I guess most people dress pretty awkwardly (at least older people) with an ostomy but I just do what I do. I’ve actually been told:
“You look great considering everything!”
What? I just have a lot of scars on my stomach, how is that considering?
"Your hot for a dark girl" even though I'm not dark skinned I've heard men say this to women of color it's disgusting 💀
yup
Dark girls are usually robotic
@@jkey3835 jit what
@@jkey3835 what you mean you dolt?
How is that disgusting if a man says your hot for a dark girl, I'm confused?
" you don't look like a virgin"
" you're mustache is cute" ... these are not compliments... They're straight up roasting you.
Ikr I was like "WHO SAYS THIS???"
@@PoorMustang unless they’re a friend who’s roasting you back (which I doubt) then *don’t*
@@emeraldlily673
This is common sense. People tend to forget about it. I won't my guy.
Yeah I was gonna say, that was not meant to be a compliment. Ditch him or at least tell him that it's not cool to do that.
I say that mustache one all the time
My bf’s “compliments” on me.
“Aww, your long skirt looks so cute, it looks like a curtain ☺️”
“Aww your nails looks so good! It looks like a bamboo🎋”
He’s bad at complimenting but I adore him. 😂
I am like your bf but I am a girl. I only realize how bad it sounds after I say it but they are genuine compliments and I am not making fun.
Omg that’s so cute I wish my bf did that lol
No one cares go fys
@@Naurrrrr271 herrrduurrrddhe4rrrrrr Neanderthal
🤣🤣🤣some curtains are cute tho
If men think those things are compliments, they need to reevaluate themselves
The first one is definitely a compliment. The rest... Well those situationa are different
The first one is for sure a compliment when we say it we mean it, like tf do girls have no self esteem,nobody cares if you spent hours on makeup when you literally look better without it,the rest of the compliments are weird af I don't think a man would ever say that ngl.
Frfr they're so 🤔🙄😒😮💨😤🗿
@@yomilala8929 kinda is but at the same time it does not cause low-key you're saying she's ugly with makeup:/
@@Sofi-bq6pr Low key sometimes make up makes them look ugly ngl
"you're smarter than I thought"
Pointing out that he only approached you for your looks or because he thought you looked naive
People don’t approach people cause they “look smart” in fact liking someone according to their intelligence level isn’t much better anyway. The reason this is bad is because it’s condescending
dumb girls are more cute
@@LG-vd6wt I'm pretty sure the commented wasn't saying that you should approach someone because of their intelligence, but it almost hints that the person thought you were "dumb and easy."
Which is not a bad thing.
"Does this dress make me look fat?"
"No, Honey! That dress does not make you look fat. Your fat makes you look fat."
Hahaha, I'd keep that one. Honesty is really important in a relationship.
XD
He is been honest, if you are really concerned about your weight you should be more concern about your diet and your exercises routine than your dress
You look far even when you're not wearing that dress.....
😄😄
I feel like the key to compliments is uplifting one quality, instead of putting something else down to make one quality look better by comparison.
Nicely said there mate. 304s have child like mentalities.
Underrated comment
Him: “I could have been with any other girl but I chose you.”
Me: “I could have declined any other man, but I chose to decline you. Okay byeeeeee.”
Smoothe
😂😂💯
Lmao
Why should you not say that though?
@@akikeermangar1200 because it makes it sound like you should be lucky he chose you and it comes off as cocky. Idk, just me?
“I could be with so many girls right now, but I chose you” oh then by all means, go with those girls. I’ll live, trust me.
Damn💀💀💀💀
Do guys really say this??
@@jenn8179 😅 welp I’ve heard girls say it too but yeah this is most definitely a thing
Good , bye
@@Leah-ro3yh you have?? Lol The thought would never cross my mind!
Worked as a bartender. I’ve seen terrible compliments / pickup lines. The most common and the worst is “you look so much like my ex girlfriend”. Happens way more than you’d think.
What did they respond? Cuz i have no idea💀
As a gay guy I actually would feel flattered with that one. It means that that guy is really into you (At least on the outside)
@@yomilala8929 Eh, I'd disagree. It just feels like the only reason they want to be with you is because you remind them of their ex, really shows how they havent moved on yet and you are their distraction. Just a lot of unresolved complicated emotional shit that they're using you to free themselves mentally in the short term. But a relationship like this wont last for more than 2 months, and they'd most likely ditch you and crawl back to their ex or break up with you because they've moved on from their ex and you remind them too much of them.
@@raisya495 In my experience many long lasting relationships can begin with someone who hasnt moved on and considering that people are naturally pretty shallow...
"Good for her" proceeds to run away
Saying "I choose you" is different then saying "I choose you, but I have other options" though.
It's like saying
Pikachuuuu I choose you 🤾
Coz charmander ain't worth shit 😂
@@raghavpareek2385nah bro charmander is good😂
“You’re smarter than I thought” 😑
Well, girls act really dumb sometimes, so this makes sense.
Bruh💀
Lmfao
I’m 420 Like
I like that one
it’s always sus when they say “you’re hot for a girl”
LOL
Bruh that means they are gay.
Haha
Never heard someone say that but sus is the first thing that comes to mind lol
Fruity
“I could be with so many girls rn but I chose you”
That sounds like a playboy tryna be loyal to a girl for once
Someone need to pray real hard for that boy
Yeah. If someone says that, they're HELLA narcissistic.
He's a narcs 100% sure
@@katimillard5924 yes, but its still a compliment
@@katimillard5924 what an overused term, what if the dude is just being completely honest?
Nah it just sounds Petty as hell
I eat so much but I'm so freaking skinny and I hate not having some weight on. I don't like being asked if I eat, I shouldn't even have to answer that. It's another reason why I'm so insecure.
Same! I eat so much but I never gain weight and so ppl always assume I’m trying to diet or something!
Same, I can't really gain any weight and friends&family always say I'm so good-looking ect. But it's making me feel bad abt myself :/
Girls get self esteem idk how but any hoo just wanted to let you know that first compliment is 100% true when we say it we mean it like tf are girls insecure about their faces I did not know that,so if a guy tells you that you look better without make up he's spitting facts just so you know.
If do some weightlifting and track your calories. You can change it.
False.
"you are not like other girls, you're different"
i hate it
It's an insult to me
Exactly like wtf is that supposed to mean?
@@blueweirdo719 exactly...
I actually like the your not like other girls cuz it shows he recognizes u for who u r and not because of some stupid trend or smthn (just my opinion)
He is just trying to get in your pants and praising to boost your ego.
Also, guys, theres a huge difference between
"You look prettier without makeup" and "you look beautiful either way". 2nd one preferred
@A cat on his hind legs. Exactly. A blank canvas is just as beautiful as a painted canvas because it means *opportunity*
What if I genuinely feel she's prettier without make up?
@@Rose-ng2zp then you should keep it to yourself
@@Rose-ng2zp those of us who don't wear make up appreciate guys that prefer women without it.
@@morganvillas6436 lmao ye
"I'm happy you're not skinny"
Are you saying I'm fat?!
Most guys tell me they like big girls. Is that a compliment on my body or what? Am I supposed to say thank you?
They mean thicc not fat
Just because someone isn't skinny doesn't make them fat. They can have an average figure (avergae as in correlating to weight) too, or thicc if u think abt it
No, just that you're not skinny which is a good thing
@@guilhermesalesferreiradaco2934 I'm skinny I have a fast metabolism, is that a bad thing?
My jaw dropped after you said “ your mustache is cute” like girl by 🫢😶😮😧
A couple weeks ago my bench-mate looked at me in utter shock and said "I hadn't noticed this before"
"..what?"
"You have a better mustache than I do"
Was never insecure but about until that moment lmfao
Can I laugh lmao
@@whatsthebigidea-os5rp yeah yeah go ahead
@@spilltheplot you should have said " Thank you at least i can grow a mustache "
I would've laughed so much and would say "ay, thanks bro. 😉🤣"
@@whatsthebigidea-os5rp 😭 you literally just asked her permission 😂😂 lmfao 😭😂
"you're not like other girls"
🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩
what is so wrong about that
Nope. That just means they find you unique or there's some sort of differentiator that makes them want to date you. That's literally the definition of attraction, it's why people date - the person is somehow special or more engaging / appealing to you than most other people, right? Otherwise you wouldn't be dating them...
When you find someone you get feelings for, you generally have a connection / chemistry that you don't have with most other people, so by definition, they quite literally "aren't like most other girls / guys" to that person.
Def a red flag
@@mridupabankalita1234 it's like what's so special about me that you are saying I am not like other girls lol 😂
@@harrypike5140 have you even seen any girl saying you are not like other boys 💀 it's werid every girl is same no difference
just a quick reminder for guys: saying "it's good that you're not a skinny girl" is basically the equivalent of when your girl says "it's okay the big ones hurt"
Lmao!
HAHAHAHAHA
Well said
Honestly, it depends.Some girls can't lose weight and are very insecure about their bodies, so I think it's a compliment
Put in that way, now i understand!
this reminds me of the time my male boss told me he "was surprised I knew that word," when I used a slightly more advanced word in an interview with him.
People's biases and insecurities often reveal themselves in the way they choose to backhand compliment others
"you're cute for a foreigner"
- almost every korean guy i met
Racial fetishizer alert
don't translate... 😭
თქვენ ახლა დაწყევლილი ხართ, ამის გაუქმებას ვერ შეძლებთ, თუ არ გამოიწერთ
@@totallynotreese okay I won’t!😊
@@totallynotreese ok
I visited korea a lot of times because I'm half korean and I did art class there and they said to me in korean you're pretty good at art for a foreigner
"You look better without makeup" depends on the women. For eg if a women loves makeup she is going to feel either you are trying to mock her makeup skills or she isn't good at makeup and make her doubt
But if a women doesn't like makeup and is doing it just for the society then it might be a compliment
Problem is you ( the guy) might not know which category she belongs so better is to just avoid any comparison and just say
"You are a natural beauty" it works.
The thing is even if I choose 9 out of 10 no make up look, I love doing my make up. I would love to do it when I feel to, not bc someone thinks of it. I can do bold make up just for fun. Don't want feel that pressure. Especially you know, when some guys try to lead girls' thoughts to a certain things.
@@flyfantasy6565 exactly. It's like saying to a guy, ugh thank god you are not into gaming and you actually read books, so smart. Its like a guy can like both....
There is also the girls that never learned to do make up and therefore never wears any makeup except for a little mascara but feels so ugly and really want to be able to do makeup but knows that if they do it’ll look worse then without it because they don’t have the money to buy the right products and tools.
yeah, we exist too.
i’ve honestly never understood why that’s such an insult. i would love for somebody to call me pretty at all tbh
@@kwilesvolleyball2028 true!!!
"Your mustache is cute"
-- Yeah, he was definitely making fun of you in a back-handed way.
Here's an all-time favorite: "You think like a man."
I’m a guy, and I’m not gonna lie; just about every single one of her points were fair. I do kind of disagree about the make up thing, but at the same time when you say something like that timing is everything. I’m pretty sure a girl would have a different reaction from a guy saying that depending on whether he said it after she put her makeup on or during a time when she doesn’t have her make up on. You know?
EDIT: I guess understand now why girls hate the “You look better without makeup” compliment. It’s like if you had a favourite shirt or hat or shoes that you liked to wear to parties and someone came up to you and said something like “You would look better in a different shirt/shoes/hat.” It’s sort of a mean compliment that doesn’t accomplish anything. I was wrong
I sort of agree. But what I think she means is when guys(or anyone really) say “I like you better without/with makeup” or commenting unnecessarily on someone’s appearance in general can be harmful.
That being said, if someone takes off their makeup and you just say “you look beautiful” without comparing to how they looked before, that can be very positive.
I disagree on the make up thing too. Sometimes I’ll say it because some girls feel like they have to wear make up to be pretty. And I don’t think anyone should feel like they have to change their face to be pretty.
-side note: girl as well
i think it might be better to say "you look pretty even without makeup" rather than "you look better without makeup." or "you look the same" you know... the first one implies that the girl is pretty both with and without makeup while not comparing both looks, while the second and third one is kinda discrediting the efforts they spent on their makeup
Actually if a girl loves doing makeup and even if you said it when she doesn't have any she is going to think she did something wrong. Instead just say "you are a natural beauty". Avoid comparison.
Edit: if*
@@rosiemintz exactly my point!
Tbh I actually felt better when my partner said I looked better without makeup. My friends forced me into it and I was trying to hold back tears. He ran over to me, wiped it off and said he preferred my natural look, and even if I did wear makeup it was my personality that he cared for. I'm lucky to have him, sometimes I'm sad that I'm too flat and have acne but I think to that moment to help me find my happy place
Awwwwwww you just touched this emotionless heart in my soul 💖
That's different. Those are not friends. If they force you to do something you don't want to do that's not a friend.
Ya. Drop those friends
It’s okay to have acne, you’re not alone there. And just because you do have some doesn’t mean that you’re flat, I’m sure you’re beautiful the way that you are! Your partner sounds pretty amazing. Remember to always do you and follow whatever makes you feel happy and comfortable, that’s all that matters!! I’m not gonna tell you to outright dump your friends but try talking to them and setting boundaries regarding what makes you comfortable/uncomfortable, maybe that’ll help to make your friendships stronger. And if they don’t accept that and try pushing past those boundaries, then remember: people who can’t deal with you having boundaries is because they were taking advantage of you not having any. Never do anything other than what you’re happy with.
this is so sweet :'DD and yups here's a reminder, you're beautiful ❤️
I personally love in Avatar: The Last Airbender, when Zuko goes on a date. They’re out eating and he says, “You have quite an appetite for a girl.”
Even though i'm not a girl I would take that as an insult
@@yomilala8929 oh yeah, it’s not a smart thing for Zuko to say.
Yass, i remembered this scene too, kinda happy that someone commented about it
The amount of times I've been told I'm hot for a cripple or hot for a wheelchair user is ridiculous! It was especially bad back when I was online dating. Thankfully my husband has never said something that stupid 🤣
what is that even suppose to mean😭 what does being disabled has to do with how you look. I am glad that you found someone that is actually smart and aware of how things should be. happy for you xx
If a man can't see past you being in a wheelchair he's not the right one and if your friends can't see past that then they aren't real friends.
@cake you're welcome to your opinion, and I don't judge anyone based on appearance or dick size. I judge people on the content of their character
@cake @nikki there is a fetish out there called sph (small pen15 humiliation) I think we CD give that as an exception 🤣🤣🤣🤣
@@NikkiScott1 one time when I went clubbing I met this sweet pleasant girl in a wheelchair like she lost her legs but I would have so asked her out…she was pretty gorgeous tbh. She went clubbing too and had a friend there to accompany her to make sure she was ok.
her smiling constantly makes me smile
Me being a guy who has never said any of those to a girl ;----;
That’s good for u buddy 😊 now keep the streak goin
no literally lol everyone that ive heard said this were all girls
Keep that virginity strong mate!
Don't take advice from her. She says to hug a girl you're attracted to from behind, as well as kiss her on the neck & rub her thighs!
Respect ur the sort of Guys world needs
"Youre not like other girls"
Duh.
I AM and i am PROUD OF IT.
Oh that always makes me so insecure when someone says that. Like why? What's wrong with me? Am I not girlish enough?
Exactly
they think this is a compliment💀
THIS, finally someone said something about these "compliments"
I personally say: “you look good with and without makeup”
I say , you're cute but it's not an accomplishment i would love you more if you were funny and skilled
Yeah my fiancé says the same, I'm really casual with wearing it so it helps me feel self confident and pretty either way
@@ramzichouk4080 💀💀
Perfect answer would be: "Your make up is so beautiful today. How long did it take?... What one hour? This looks gorgeous and sexy. You're sexy anyways as always."
That or compliment the makeup itself. Stuff like “I like your eyeshadow.” “Your lipstick looks really pretty.”
“You look like you’ve lost weight/gained weight”
Kinda pointing out they thought you were fat/super skinny
If someone tells you that you lost weight that's a compliment.
Now if we are pestimistic and negative we will say "they are saying we was fat.
Now if we are positive and grateful for what others tell us, we will take is a compliment because they are saying "we look good"
Make sure to be positive and take nice things being said instead of turning around nice words into offensive stories, it only causes me problems down the road
That's overthinking to me. Telling someone they got better always implies they were less before, but taking it like this is wrong. I don't think there is something that men look up to as much as progressing.
I'll quote a man i respect : "Being weak is not a shame, but staying weak is."
Facts this guy asked me “have you been hitting the gym your chest and arms look bigger” like come on bro are you implying that my chest was small and arms were skinny before bro that’s so fucked up to acknowledge my hard work dude
Well I’m a bit overweight and trying to actively lose weight so if someone told me I look like I lost weight I’d be happy xD to each their own I guess :)
Just because you lost or gained weight doesn’t mean I thought you were on the extreme skinny or extreme fat side. You can lose 10 pounds and it still be noticeable
her voice sounds SO different, i didn’t even know that that was her for a minute- 💀 💕
Fr, I cant tell u the amount of times I get “u don’t look like a virgin ur lying” don’t needa explain how I feel about that either
Wait so I know I sound dumb rn my fellow army but men actually say shit like that ?? 👀
@@samiyahwilliams206 yes a lot
@@samiyahwilliams206 fellow what????
@@whitebwoi I said fellow army that’s name of a kpop fandom bro
What they mean is "you don't ACT like a virgin". And yeah, they can tell.
You can clear up the confusion by admitting that yes, you had a lot of sex but not in that hole.
I actually feel complimented when guys say I look better without make up sure I won’t stop wearing it but it is a compliment and I feel happy
That's because you're a normal person and know that you don't have to take everything the wrong way.
Not that someone can't be attractive with makeup, but I'm more attracted to natural beauty.
Actually, I think natural beauty looks better even for people I'm not attracted to... Makeup takes away from that and I just don't think it looks as good.
That's my preference.
@@EarlGrey-YT I'm gonna be honest here. Sometimes when guys say natural beauty, they mean makeup that doesn't look like makeup
@@alsokaitlin I understand. Different guys have different preferences. Some guys really like a lot of makeup...
I'm just not one of those guys.
My thing is; Ppl generally wear makeup to make themselves look better in some way. If you remove whatever makeup you have on and then you look completely different, it's generally less attractive. So if I found you attractive and got to know you without makeup, I won't have to worry about trying to be attracted to you when you look completely different than when I first decided I was attracted to the way you look...
I dunno if I'm explaining this well enough, I hope so...
I'm also wondering if there's a time in a girls life after years of wearing makeup, when she gets tired of buying it, wearing it, tired of her makeup routine, but continues to do it all simply because she's afraid those she's been around her whole life won't like the way she looks without it and she feels trapped now...? I dunno.
There are quite a few different reasons for why I personally find it more attractive when a girl doesn't wear makeup. Or at least, isn't so completely attached to it.
This is all my opinion and perspective. There are a ton out there. Just know that there are guys out there who are far more attracted to natural beauty than the artificial alternatives.
@@EarlGrey-YT so I actually agree
Yeah that one's controversial-
Omg a boy in my class said within my ears distance "girls are like rocks the flat ones get skipped
Bro that’s kinda funny tho 💀
lmao thats actually kinda funny
💀😂😂, that's actually funny, i wanna meet that guy 🤧
Says all the girls who wants a guy with abs who’s 6’7 lmao
@@follower8815 actually I want a guy who's only 6'0
my bf just told me the other day, “you look gorgeous without makeup, why do you need to wear it” and i know he meant it as a compliment but it just felt like… but i am supposed to look pretty, i feel good like this 😭
He means to him you look awful in make up and he prefers you without it,it's just a polite way of saying it in most cases and I'm pretty sure make up doesn't make a difference in your case in terms of beauty I mean,I'm curious to know why girls make up when in most cases they look better without it?? Is it a contest with other girls or something lol.
@@razortk77g95 well i don’t really cake it on, i’ll dab some concealer on, maybe some highlighter and mascara and call it a day, but i’ve noticed every time he says “wow you look extra gorgeous today” or “wow babe, today you’re really glowing” are all the days i decide to wear a little makeup and he doesn’t even know it. i think the girls that go crazy with makeup morning routines are a little much but honestly it’s whatever works for them. i know i personally can go out with or without makeup, i just like wearing it sometimes because it’s fun for myself, does that make any sense?
and it’s not really a contest with other girls, it definitely can be sometimes lol, but most of the time i don’t think so. its just a feeling of being “presentable”, like brushing your teeth or putting on deodorant. something for you to know you put effort into presenting yourself to society today :) obviously that’s just my opinion tho lol
@@kennahowe2005 Ngl when girls put on little make up it's harder to notice but it gets the job done I agree
@@kennahowe2005 Ngl when girls put on little make up it's harder to notice but it gets the job done I agree
"you look prettier without makeup"
Jokes on you I don't even wear makeup
Same
what are you trying to prove
@@spongebobssponge1224 what?
samee 😂
@@spongebobssponge1224 I think a pound of makeup is obvious, but if someone is complimenting this and doesn't notice any makeup, then they are blind.
"you are not like the other girls" this one just make me so furious
Why? If a girls/woman Say "you are not like others man" , i would be flatter .
Maybe it's because i'm quite différent of other man or at least i feel like it . Maybe you aren't or feel spécial ?
Sorry if i offense you , i'm just curious about why you feel this way .
@@Eldiran1 because ur not saying I'm good, you are just putting down other girls saying they are worse
@@solveignicolaysen8122 I would feel flattered too. It is saying you are good. It's like saying, I see something special in you.
@@solveignicolaysen8122 "you are just putting down other girls saying they are worse"
You need to try to date some girls. You'll figure it out real fast LOL
Wy don't you feel notised and special than?
100% the only complement I ever choose to use is “you look gorgeous just the way you are” as I know inner beauty is the only beauty that matters
As a girl, that's kinda bad too
I love getting this one
Here's another if you want, something my bf says to me
If I'm ever complaining about something with the way I look he tells me "but natural is beautiful"
So even though that thing isn't "perfect" it's still just the way I am
“I could be with so many other girls rn but I chose you”
If I was ever seen as an option to you then I don’t want you at all.
If you have to bring up other girls when you compliment me, it's not a compliment.
"Youre hot for a TALL girl"
IM 5'8😭😭
That’s the girl equivalent of being like 6’ as a guy. It’s tall
Sameee 😭 and that’s not even “tall” for a woman, that’s average lmao
@@x.moon_cat.001 that's exactly what I tell myself😂
✨"I'm not tall you're just short"✨
😂😂
@@x.moon_cat.001 definitely not average lol in most counties around the world the average height for an adult female is around 5’4”, men 5’9”.
@@x.moon_cat.001 No, it's literally not. Average height for a woman in most countries is around 5'4/5'5. Only really places like Netherlands and Denmark where it's a bit taller like 5'7. Nothing wrong in being 5'8 as a girl but it's certainly above average. I say this as a man who is 5'8 and been told by girls that I'm "confident for a short guy" and other such things...even though 5'8 is actually on the lower end of average height for a man where I live lol
1. "U look better without makeup" is such a compliment for the natural beauty
I agree, but it always depends on how they say it
How about "You look great without makeup"? Why tag on the implied criticism?
@@ladyveracity yeah this is actually really good
“Your mustache is cute”
“I like a girl who can eat”
What kind of guys do you go out with lady?
just bc those are on her list of worst compliments doesn't mean that all of them have been said. she could've meant what she's also heard dudes said to other people
Actually a lot of men like 'staches and arm hair on the ladies. DISCLAIMER: I am not one of them, it's just what I've heard and observed
@May you have peace I'm just saying - she still can say that she doesn't like those type of "compliments" it's almost like saying "oh yeah I don't like rats" when someone has never had a rat before. they don't HAVE to had a rat before to not like them. that's just their opinion. not trying to be rude or anything just explaining what I meant in my first comment.
I mean to be fair those types of compliments often don't come from a date but just a random weirdo giving unsolicited comments at work/school/on the streets/in the laundromat/the grocery store like you don't understand how many men think it's literally THEIR JOB to loudly proclaim whether you fit their preference or not even if they look like a dust ball, smell like ass and are older than your dad
Omg spencer you look so pretty ❤ honestly your helping loads of people and sacrificing yourself 🎉🎉 we love you❤
"your hot for a thick girl"
Its so backhanded I can't
It is not just backhanded, It is also disrespectful and a major red flag you need to avoid them.
I was just thinking that I'm like ...racist much
@The BlackMace oh I misreading and replied to wrong comment 😅it was your hot for a black girl
I absolute love ur vids, ur style, ur energy JUST EVERYTHING and I absolutely wish the best for u
I completely agree, she is great I love her videos, I love her self-confidence and her energy, she looks great on camera with that beautiful smile, And great personality
“I love the fact that you're so easy to please”
Problem: are you saying im plain? are you assuming something about me?
“You're way cooler than your friends”
Problem: don’t bring down my friends just to please me, it doesn’t flatter me and i sure as hell will tell my friends
“Nice a$$ !”
Problem: …do i even have to explain?
“You're so smart for a girl!”
Problem: again..do i have to explain?
💀💀💀
Seriously! Those are so called “compliments”? Like it would make me burst into anger if someone says any of these to me ughh.
The first one is a compliment
@@illseedez I completely agree
@@illseedez To most, it's not. It's basically calling them 'easy'. It makes it seem like the person saying that doesn't care enough to want to make an effort, so the 'complimented' is the best they can do
I actually like when boys tell me that i look better without make up..confidence upgraded
Honestly I think it’s sweet when they say that I look good without makeup
Some really dont need a makeup at all, and that is my genuine and honest opinion, so I cant really see why is she bringing this point. Its like win-win-win situation........no money waste, no time waste and you look decent, unless you didnt sleep and didnt "refresh" in the morning. She said she want to look differently? So worse or what?No one wants that.... maybe to be less noticeable but most if not all ppl prefer to be okay looking. Also, its easy to put way more makeup than needed. cca. 80% of them are using it too much anyway so its turning to be slowly worse that it actually was... . change my mind
Girls to guys-
"You look better with a beard"
"Im glad you have abs"
"I would rather date a bad boy"
Exactly
Theres so much more but your right
There's a bunch of cats in her future unless she do this for the internet feminist.
When can nice guys start finishing first.
As a girl- I think these are also bad compliments. I’m guessing it’s because for the first one it’s out of our place, the second one is implying that we only want strong men and the last in my opinion is just rude? Could someone explain more stuff girls in general say that’s also offensive? I wish all genders could just be more sensitive towards eachother yk
"Now I'm insecure and I wanna wax it."
Mission accomplished
+100 respect
Damn 😂
I'm proud to say I was the 69th like.
Okay have a good day.
I gave a shit about this. then my boyfriend said that it looks cute.... to me it sounded like, this isn't cute, get the shit of your face, you're a woman.... 😐
W lincloln
keep in mind our brains often short circuit when trying to talk to a girl we like
stop simpin
@@OneManCanStopTheMotorOfWorld and i'm simping how?
"Tall, big, black, white, latina, skinny, etc..."
These are all things that are put into the blank.
“You’re super hot for a Persian girl”
Okay?! Talking shit about my heritage won’t get you anywhere lol.
The format is good, but you just need to replace the adjective "hot" with something else like "adventurous" or "spontaneous"
Ok so as guy I'm gonna let you in on something, everything on this list other than the makeup one the guys saying it know exactly how it sounds and they DON'T have good intentions!
All of the things on this list other than the makeup are said exclusively for 2 reasons:
One - the "good" reason, they may legitimately be an idiot in which case you can do better
Two - the reason that sadly is probably the reason, they are trying so gaslight you or make you feel insecure, they want you to feel less than you are so that you cling onto them, these backhanded compliments are something that's meant to sound like a compliment so you can't get mad at them (or if you do YOU seem like they "crazy" one) but then become insecurities that live in your brain so they can control or trick you more easily, if a guy you meet says anything like this too you tell them to fuck off and if a guy you're dating says anything like this to you you are dating the wrong guys.
To be clear it is absolutely not the majority of guys that do shit like this but they are the loud minority because they spend their time seeing out women and pulling this shit if you keep ending up with guys that do shit like this to you in sorry
The guys that say shit like this are the same guys who will "neg" a girl at the bar, I wish we lived in a world where this didn't happen but definitely don't hookup with a guy who says this shit and if you are dating someone who says this shit dump them now.
I wanted to say the same thing, but also that the makeup one is just a veiled criticism. If a man says "you look the same with makeup" he probably thinks you waisted your time, if he says "you look better without makeup" he's either trying (and failing horribly) to boost your confidence because he thinks you're wasting your time or he thinks your makeup looks like clown face and that you should remove it. Either way it's not a complement, tho may have better intent than the others presented
Honestly I like the makeup one because personally I think makeup takes too much time. I usually just go for the bare minimum. I don't have the will to spend hours just for something I'll have to erase at the end of the day.
@@Jt.512 I thought women did make up for themselves not to appeal to men atleast that's what they said and taking that into consideration, I think makeup same as painting your car. Some are okay with the factory colour.
@@kamix9532 some women do it for different reasons. Insecurities, just for themselves, sometimes to look their best for someone or something (interview/date) women definitely use makeup just for themselves at times but also remember how people view you affects how you view yourself so some women do it so others see them the way they want to see themselves.
Yeah... No.
Ladies, if your man claims that he's really only trying to compliment you, he's fine. Sometimes you may just take things the wrong way. Not a big deal. Just communicate responsibly and you'll both be alright.
But if your guy claims that these compliments are all fake and guys do it maliciously, you know that; just because he is a guy doesn't mean he speaks for the male gender, there's no way he can possibly know what anyone else's intentions are
and now you know that he thinks that way and has probably done this to you...
THAT'S the guy you need to dump asap.
Anything with “for a girl” in it IS THE WORST THING YOU CAN SAY TO A GIRL!! WE ARE JUST AS STRONG IF NOT STRONGER THAN MEN!! 💪 💪
"I could have been with so many girls right now but i chose you!"
I could be at the beach or with my family for these four or five months but i chose to waste it on you.
So true honestly
i still dont see how this is not flattering
@@gustavohermandio1440 "i could be with any girl right now you're lucky I chose you" like how in any world is that flattering
@@Ifyoulikeorangesurugly its flattering because it means you are special and above the others, that i why i chose you
"You look better without makeup"
I wouldn't be offended by that one
We need more people{girls} like you!
Exactly why is it so normalized if you wanna be creative go ahead and that goes for both genders doesn’t make you gay if your a guy but if you feel like it’s the only way your pretty then it’s a issue
I like girls who know the difference between “your” and “you’re”.
🤣 she should proof read her posts
This is why I date humble bee girls and not plastic. So much more quality of life.
Sigma male
“Guys please don’t be offended.” I could have chosen another girl, but
I chose you!
“Ur mustache is cute” I don’t believe anyone is dense enough to think that was a good line
Sounds like light teasing. Don't think anyone will say that seriously, but I can see it being said as a joke
Okay Kaiser Wilhelm
The fact that it isn’t a good line is the problem
@@sealdraws1984 teasing? What’s wrong w facial hair it’s a choice either gender can have
@@PillofPerspective its teasing because girls don't particularly choose to have facial hair.
You don't tease someone who chooses to have facial hair, you tease a girl about her non existent beard.
(If the person chooses to have facial hair it's harassment and not teasing)
6yrs ago, there's this man shipping me with his older brother and I kept saying no coz I already have a boyfriend, I was 18 that time. Then 1 day he told me "you just look like you already got 2 kids and a husband but I don't believe you have bf" I was so hurt, it gave me insecurity and I kept thinking about it until now. Maybe it was his impression of me coz I never cared on how I look, I'm not gonna deny that I don't look attractive that time, and I look older than my actual age, I don't wear any makeup and I was working at a factory I was constantly tired. But thanks to him though I learned to love myself even more. I am blessed to have a man who loves me unconditionally and never left me and never let me feel iinsecure, even at my fattest, ugliest, worst point of my life. We've been together for 8yrs now 😊 I love him so much ❤
Am so happy for you ❤️😆
@I come in peace tf. he never left her because he loves her and she didn't "let herself go" she's just living life do you expect her to be dolled up all the time? and she mentioned the other man first because she's telling a story about how that man made her feel insecure like stfu what's wrong with you
I love you advice, I may be 52 but always open to learn something new, thank you.
I actually love when people say that I look better without makeup, even if it takes me an hour I still love when people say that :)
"You know I actually never do this, but I did ___ for you"
Pulling a blackmail to get what he wants
"you should smile more"
Yes it's good for both parties
Smiling is good for everyone. It boosts serotonin
A girl from my class often said it to me
I get this all the time 🙄
@@cremlindor6607 so does exercise yet you wouldn’t consider 'you should exercise more' to be a compliment.
"you really know how to put that salad away"
"those pants don't make your butt look too big"
"you are aging pretty well"
"your plastic surgeon did a great job"
"you are above average!"
"i'm sure you'll get a legit date soon"
That sounds like hitting the wall.
People watching this 2024 and seeing how much she has grown ❤
"i could be with so many girls, but I chose to be with you" gonna say that to every coworker next week... Check back for results
How'd it go?
We need an update bro
They all either looked and shook their head in silence or laughed and gave a smart remark... Im trash to women... Meh
@@FfejerThims mean g
“You’re hot for a __ girl”
Sir that is a back handed compliment. I don’t appreciate those words so please leave the premises
I used to give excellent compliments. They kinda just flowed naturally
"I could look into your eyes forever."
"I love the way you do your hair it frames your face"
"Your makeup really makes your eyes pop"
But now I feel like I'm going to get nervous and give all of the aforementioned terrible compliments🤣
"
Those are honestly great compliments👏😊 it shows you pay attention to detail and I think that's super awesome😃
These are like 10/10 compliments
YOUR HAIR IS ABSOLUTELY STUNNING!!!!! I LOVE YOUR CONTENT! KEEP BEING YOU GIRL!!!!!💖💖
I HAVE THE FEAR OF FALLING IN LOVE-
I also have fear of people getting too close to me
Love jesus he will never betray you and he will love you more than you can imagine..
I tell my wife that I love it when she does not wear makeup, (and genuinely do) but I do not tell her that I prefer it.
I think that releases me from the unintentional backhanded compliment cause of girl code section 203, part 719.
Lol
Yeah its all about the wording
I'm ok with the "you look better without makeup" one because it feels like they genuinely want to let you know how beautiful you are even if you don't try
Then just say you look amazing today. It’s like saying you look better when you don’t dress like that. It’s a backhanded compliment. Makeup is like an accessory, if you don’t like my necklace and would rather me to not wear it, don’t tell me. Just mind your business when it comes to the way someone present themselves as long as they are not precisely asking for your opinion. Plus, makeup is a hobby and a skill, being told that we look better without it can and probably will make the person insecure. You’re telling me all that patience and practice didn’t pay off in the end?
I HAVE NEVER EVER EVER SAID "YOU DON'T LOOK LIKE A VIRGIN" TO ANYONE 😂😂
Thats why ur da man
That's why you're da man
Im sorry but if someone said that, they might assume I am way younger than I am (ew) or for the way I dress idk but no thank you bye.
I was told I was pretty for a 28 year old and that had me all kind of messed up. I didn’t think 28 was even close to “older”until then
Yeah 28 for a woman is OLD
@@hopelove897 get a therapy, lol
@@ifinditinteresting.8709 for what speaking facts?
Just based on your picture, you look like a beautiful person period.
@@hopelove897 how is that old? 😂 are you like fresh out the womb?
"You're smart for a girl"
"You're just not dramatic like all the other girls"
Dude stop insulting every other women: it doesn't make me feel special, it lets me know you're a misogynist.
If a guy says this to u it doesn’t mean he wants to date u or flatter u he thinks of u as a guy friend which says a lot about how u approach guys however u trying to look like ur a victim makes me think u put on an act around guys 🤢
@@terryt8358 yep! Girls like the original commenter are bloody annoying
@@drewarnett3180 omg shush , guys like that haven't even talked to one girl and they assume shit and when they actually do they realise what bull crap they believe in , first hand experience and also a guy also said this.
@@gsiya4023 you just made an assumption based on absolutely nothing
The only reason why they like your “moustache” is because they’re jealous they can’t grow their own. ✋🏻😩
"I'm glad you have a big appetite"
me: uhhh starving myself here I come 😢
I agree
1. "You look the same/better without makeup" I only put on make up on special occasions; but if someone says that to me, I would immediately be like it doesn't matter what they think about my appearance because I think I look good right now. I get it, when guys say this they want us to feel good about our natural bodies, but just because someone puts on makeup, doesn't mean they are insecure. Not always.
2. "You don't look like a virgin" How tf do you look like virgin? So basically if I'm sexually inexperienced today and then the same night I bang a guy, will I look different the next morning?
3. "I could be with so many girls right now but I chose you" I'm guessing this is said to make the girl feel special, but it just makes the guy look like a shallow person with a superiority complex.
4. "I'm happy you're not a skinny girl" Trust me, don't do this. It just makes the convo so awkward.
5. "Your mustache is cute" Don't mention about that, that makes us so uncomfortable. Just ignore the presence of our facial hair.
6. "You're hot for a _____ girl" That just makes you look like an asshole.
What if they are insecure? I know people who make it so obvious they're insecure. Scared to show their face.
I like how this comment repeated all the words in the video, and wrote down the subtext.
@@Skxtra. well, you do find people who wear makeup due to insecurities. But nowadays people often treat it as a form of art and self expression. And as an art student, I agree. There can be many reasons as to why anyone would want to wear makeup but some make it obvious that it's because they don't like their appearance
personally, I think the "you look better without makeup" has much more of an undertone than whats absorbed. I really don't even think its a compliment, they just dont agree with makeup as a concept, and don't want to be that straight forward or mean about it.
Some guys these days see makeup as a red flag.
@@seannolan3927 When we say a girl looks better without make up it's facts we are not offering condolences for their awful looks,it's facts that not all girls need make up to LOOK good so why the fuck would they use it when they don't need it,so in conclusion if a guy says you look good but you think 'NO I'm better with make up' then you are insecure af.