What Getting Cheated On Taught Me About Trust // The Nona Jones Show // Episode 10
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- Опубликовано: 1 июл 2024
- Today I want to tackle the issue of cheating because social media has made it easier than ever for people to do it. If you have been cheated on, you know it is a devastating experience that completely obliterates trust.
Some people have been so devastated by cheating that they have sworn off the idea of ever trusting someone again. But, I want to share my story and what I learned because my hope is that you will open yourself to the possibility of being loved well one day.
00:00 Introduction
00:45 Welcome & Overview
01:49 My relationship history
03:58 How I met, "Connor"
08:14 When the red flags started
10:54 The first time I noticed the "other girl"
14:58 Putting the pieces together
18:18 Finding the evidence and approaching a cheater
21:01 Dealing with a true narcissist
22:10 Plot twist...she wound up pregnant
24:05 Wanting to end it all...but God
26:02 How being cheated on affected my ability to trust men
27:59 Meeting my husband
28:49 How I overcame my lack of trust
30:07 The affect cheating has on you
31:04 Thoughts for those who have been cheated on
36:13 Closing
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True! Truth! Facts! Been divorced for 2 years and he too pulled the exact same gaslighting moves on me. At the time I too questioned my entire existence. He was my first errrythang child. I also gave him my car, it was always filled with the tissue paper and empty drug plastic he had laying around. We were tgether for 18 years and having to accept that this is where it is and what he did, oh man, it broke my soul... then came this gentleman named Jesus, oooh He wrapped me in His loving arms and is still wiping my tears away everyday. The alcohol, smoking didn't help.
To SOMEONE reading this, May you allow your mess to turn into your message. May your troubles become your greatest triumph. 🤍 🙏 Thank you Ps Nona. I appreciate your vulnerability, sincerity and love. God bless you 🙏
Omg this was so triggering im mad 😂 when you truly been cheated on and a pregnancy is involved it is the worst feeling ever it truly have you questioning you ! I remember feeling that 😮💨
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Your story is similar to mine
I often ask myself whether I will heal and be at peace
I love your videos it gives big sister vibes or a cool Godly homegirl vibe ❤ all your topics are so relatable to me 🫶🏽
Thank you so much!! 🩷🩷
I handled it all the wrong way. My gut said something was wrong so I snooped & found sooo much out. It made me out to be the bad guy too. I hate that, because I didn’t make him cheat. He rarely fessed up to anything & never would’ve come clean on his own. The lies! And he still has no understanding of what is appropriate when it comes to his actions daily. He said he would do work but it was bare minimum & only when I provided it to him. I’m still stuck in it. I kept “hoping” I would see some level of commitment but all I have gotten over the years from him is “I’m still here”. Presence isn’t what I want. It’s over. I know that & I’m hanging on for the kids, but I can’t seem to make any steps in any direction. I learned a lesson about being unequally yolked. I believe that is where it all started. Praying for all those going through this and prayers are always welcome!
Thanks for sharing! I needed this after discovering a friend backstabbing me by seeing a guy I talked to for over a year behind my back. And when I found out about them lying and cheating; she lied to mutual friends and others and portrayed herself as the victim. I don't think the cheating hurt as much as it was her and she was my only confidant when I dealt with him. She knew my secrets and I really thought she was my friend only to realize I was dealing with a snake the entire time. My trust is at an all time low after dealing with them both. He's a narcissist and she's just a snake. To experience that back to back has really changed the innocence and invigoration I once had about life. It doesn't help they're off in the wind without a care in the world while my heart breaks and the trauma just really takes me down. I'm definitely much better than I used to be; but it still hurts to my core.
Healing takes time! Thank you for sharing 🩷🙏🏽
You are such a brilliant storyteller that the trauma wounds resonate with me
Thank you! 🩷🩷 praying for healing 🙏🏽
Love these real stories and pieces of your testimony! Reminds me how God is so faithful in restoring us.❤️❤️❤️
“Transparency is allowing you to see what I want you to see. Vulnerability is allowing you to see what could hurt me.”
I loved this. Very similar to my story as well & it’s funny how describing how these experiences wound you sound “dramatic” to other people. It really does alter how you see people and relationships. But love the outcome and wisdom from your story 🥳❤
Great topic, Thank you for sharing.
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So good love the practical tools you give to apply so we can be loved well such a sense of Hope ! ❤
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Thank you so much for sharing your experience
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I’m new to your podcast! I love it!
Yay! Thank you!🩷
Yes! That being needy to go through their phone is speaking to you for a reason!! Heed to it!!
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Hi Nona,
I absolutely love your podcast ❤ Now, I just wanted to ask you what can I do to heal after separating from my Narcissistic abusive husband?
Yes I went through this in a relationship for 7 years, ignoring all red flags, boy how broken I was to accept such treatment, at 66 no more
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I think everyone has a little “East Orange” in them! LOLOL 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
This!!!!😢
How long did it take you to stop thinking about what happened daily ?
I know! It’s tormenting thoughts that continuously replay in your mind. I become more tick’d off at myself, thinking how did I miss that. I feel foolish at times
@@1QYITSTORM absolutely ! I’ve almost been out for 1 year but I still think about it daily, the intensity is not as strong, but I’m ready to never think of it.
I’m praying my way through, it took me diving deep focusing on Gods words to keep me from cutting his stomach open. I didn’t go looking for cheating evidence it found me. I felt like a fool and I wanted revenge, opened Gods word and the page literally read vengeance is mine! I screamed my voice into a hoarse state. It took God to pull me out, I couldn’t do it on my own strength.
When you are healed you remember but the trauma and hurt is not longer with it. I knew I forgave my ex when I saw him once, and didn't feel anything and I pray for, and feel sorry for his now wife.
This took me straight back to when I was in the Air Force, stationed in Germany in the 80s. Then, I was so needy and wanting SOMEONE to validate me and fill that big gap lodged in my soul, I fell for a lot of ropey dope. I remember this one dude. He might’ve given me a hint that he liked me and I ran with it. I can see his face right now. This one day I must’ve called him a hundred times. Never picked up the phone. Then the male and female barracks weren’t that far from each other, separated by a locked door. Finally, after sitting on the bed, listening to ring after ring, I walked over the male dorm. I remember knocking on the door, in the middle of it was a glass window. Knocked. Someone told him I was out there. He came to the window, touching his heart, saying his grandmother was sick. That was the reason he didn’t answer my calls or reach out to me. I was devastated. Another blow. I could imagine him walking from his room to the door, saying‘I gotta get rid of this nut.’ He used his grandmother as an excuse. 😩😩 From then on until NOW, I’ve embarked on a journey to self, intertwined with ‘ why haven’t I found that ONE?’ Because of that experience, amongst others, I’ve begun a ministry of writing letters of inspiration to prisoners and penpals across the world. I do this because I don’t want anyone waiting by a phone or a mailbox for a letter of encouragement or inspiration or something to boost their day.
Pain can be a prison or a school. NOW, I choose the latter.
Thank you Lady Nona for this episode ❤
Praying for total healing through this journey! Thank you for sharing 🩷🩷
@@NonaNotNora thank you Lady Nona. The healing has started. Now that I know who I am in GOD’s eyes, my spine is straight, my heart is full.
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Thank you for sentiments🤩
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Mild trigger...but does that mean I still have not truly forgiven 🤔
Healing takes time 🩷
Love these real stories and pieces of your testimony! Reminds me how God is so faithful in restoring us.❤️❤️❤️