@@riverogue13 ah yes the famous bible quote, remember the passage, Bullshite 12:2 “I just don’t want you to end up with a woman” You just sound like a mean person. The original comment is from an actual biblical passage so it holds much more weight. Also why spread hate and stop other people from being themselves it’s just not nice.
I grew up Mormon to. Now I’m 41, 6 kids, married 20 years trying to tell my husband that I’m gay. I realized my friend is in fact the one I’m in love with. I feel like a 14 yr old again as well. I am feeling feelings I’ve never felt before.
I am SO looking forward to being able to experience these feelings for the first time. I genuinely used to think women exaggerated about their feelings of being attracted to men lol But I have recently been talking to a girl and even though we haven’t met in person the connection is already so much more than I ever experienced before with men. I can’t even imagine what it will be like when I get to see her in person. I think I will explode 😂😂
I'm crying because I'm so happy for you, I had never had a crush or anything until I met my first boyfriend at 19, and I remember on our first date being so shocked just like you that people actually have butterflies and all the stuff in romance books and movies is real. This hit very close to home.
omg i resonate with this so hard. I am going through this exact same situation. Growing up Mormon marrying my best friend at 19 and coming out as bi to him at 26...now coming out as Gay at 29 now going through a divorce after 10 years of marriage...….now I just need to find some wonderful woman to date. thank you so much for making these videos .
this is so so real!! i didn't realize i wasn't attracted to men until i started dating my current girlfriend and realized that i was feeling something i'd truly never felt before. there is that sense of mourning for all the wasted time i spent dating men, but i'm so excited that i get to spend the rest of my life with women, and i'm so grateful and in love with my girlfriend. thank you for talking so openly about your experiences - as a younger lesbian it's wonderful to feel less alone knowing that there are people 10 or 20 years older than me experiencing the same things.
You’re giving me hope. I’m only a day into this journey, ending my marriage to a really good guy because I’m a lesbian. I swing back and forth between grief and relief. I don’t know what to do, man. I grew up Mormon too!! My parents are supportive of me, but they’ve both said some things that have been really hurtful. I just felt really alone today. And then I came to your video. Thank you so much. Please don’t stop sharing you voice. Also- let’s please be friends LOL
There is Sexual Attraction, and Romantic Attraction! this is how we talk about asexuality and aromanticism, as they don't always come as a pair. Just a fun tidbit! aside from that. i really hope i can feel this stuff too. it still feels like the feelings people talk about are fake, but ive only been dating men until this point with no results so. maybe theres a bit of hope.
Actually, I do know this. Matter of fact, I consider myself biromantic even though I'm homosexual. This is, for me, one of the reasons I could date men and have it kind of work. The romantic boxes were being checked, just not the rest of it. I still stand by my statement that sexual attraction is about more than just sex. When you're sexually attracted to the person you're with, the way they look at you fills you with feelings you couldn't experience otherwise. The words they say are intepreted differently. Their actions take on a different meaning. Everything is different. It's not just about sex. I hope that someday you can feel it too.
@@PopeSimonX oh shit! not very many biromantic lesbians talkin about their experiences in the world! that would be an interesting video imo. knowing this, the statement makes more sense and i agree. im grey ace/grey aro so i think i interpreted it differently! was a mistake on my part
honestly i wanna cry, i found your videos this summer and was really inspired by you despite our extremely different lives and extremely different lgbtq experiences, but i was very hopeful for you and just didn't know (because of the state of the world) when everything would start to pan out for you and i just didn't want you to lose hope because i could see even thru your insecurities that you were self-assured and i'm just rambling now but i am so so so happy for you thank you for sharing this beautiful news happy birthday and so much love to the both of you :) you deserve it
wow wow. this brought me so much joy, seeing you happy and knowing that one day, this is in the realm of possibilities for me and my friends as well. i'm sitting on my bedroom floor just sobbing because i'm happy for you and i'm hopeful and i haven't felt hopeful like this in a long time. and i related to so many things you said. thank you for continuing to share your journey and thank you for being brave.
There are many people who come out later in life. That is just our journey. Dont regret your life to now, it is those experiences that make you the amazing person you are now. And I am sure that you dont regret your kids. It is just that now, you are ready to live a different, more authentic life. You weren't ready before. However it doesn't make your old life less valuable. Sure, now you wish you had of done this earlier, however this, right now, is when you did come out. I didnt admit my bisexuality until 50. We all do it when the time is right for us personally. Embrace and enjoy this time, but recognise that your strength now comes from all of your life experiences up to now. Enjoy these moments and treasure them, and don't regret anything that has created the incredible person you are.
I love your explanation of this, as a straight person, I've always experienced those butterflies and crushes since a pre-teen, I had never thought about the loss you suffer to not have that.
That's part of why I felt like I needed to make this video. I've had a few people, on the religious end especially, not understand why I would leave my marriage for sex. And it's not really about that, even if it is about that. I can't fully describe how much more fulfilling my relationship with my girlfriend is, but it all stems from different feelings from the beginning. For example, the phrase "kiss and make up" didn't really mean anything to me before, but now...I get it. I get why physical attraction matters on a level that didn't make sense before. I'm so grateful that I've gotten to experience these things now. I'm sad I had to wait until I was 32, but I'm so grateful that I get it now.
Yeah I went on this journey between 17-21 where I started dating guys, and I could make out with men in the club and whatnot. And it was a bit fun and exciting but the actions were very mechanic. I remember the first time kissing a girl, and it was a friend of mine who I wasn’t even attracted to. But it was a whole different ball game, and after that I called myself bi for many years. Had to digest the feelings. And I tried to date guys and I wanted to like it. It was great guys, good looking and they had what I thought I was looking for. But I after a while it felt pointless to try so hard and I thought I just wasn’t a romantic type of person. When I started accepting the fact I might be gay and started seeing women everything fell I to place. And while I still struggle in other ways trying to navigate in a much smaller dating pool, the interactions are much more rewarding to me and I feel things I have never felt with men.
First of all happy birthday . It’s amazing to see you this happy . Keep doing what you do . The way you are is more than enough don‘t let anybody change you. Much love and support from the European side (Germany) ❤️
I’m so happy for you Cindy 😭😭❤️🤚🏼 I relate so much to what you said about how it is feeling in love and being with someone that likes you back, feeling the tension, melting when she looks at you, and how PRICELESS it is. Yes 🥺 It is so priceless. I’m so glad you found something like that.
Cindy don't you worry ; I am 25 and felt good chemistry twice and it one time it ended up being with the most toxic relationship that lasted 2 years and with us breaking up because he started hitting on my sister. Don't be sad about your age, some people never get that good chemistry ! I'm so happy to see to see this update, keep it up :) and HAPPY BIRTHDAY !
Oh my gosh I’m only 18 and I realized less than 5 months ago that I’m gay but I CANNOT wait to hold a girl’s hand. Like, I finally understand the phrase “too gay to function” bc I’ll see a cute girl and just *freeze* and not know what to do. I am so excited to see you have a girlfriend! I just love seeing your videos because they are so validating, and I feel so comfortable watching your videos.
It's so wonderful seeing you this happy. You inspire me to make more authentic life choices, even when it's hard. What amazing experiences you get to have now. ❤️
Hi Cindy, I am insanely proud of you and so so happy for you. It made my day to see how your face lit up when you talked about your girlfriend. I want you to know that your videos have helped me so much and I look forward to seeing what else you do! :)
OMG Cindy, I've been following your journey and when you said GIRLFRIEND I immediately started fast clapping like an excited kid! I am SO happy for you!! You've been through so much and it's so amazing to finally see you in a better place. I sincerely hope things work out for you and Eliza and I look forward to "meeting" her. Hopefully she will make an appearance soon. Belated happy birthday! Best wishes for the holidays and let's hope 2021 is the YEAR OF CINDY!
Congratulations, been following you for a while and you look so much more at peace !! I feel so genuinely happy for you 😁 grew up religious too so this gives me hope
when i came out as a lesbian i watched so many of these videos and read so many stories about late bloomer lesbians finding their first love and they all said similar things. i couldnt wait to figure out what they meant. that they never thought they would experience love like that. but its all true. i finally found a gf who im in love with and i cant even compare how different and better it feels. like i could stare into her eyes and kiss her all day. im so sappy lol
Congratulations! I hope you two will spend many happy days together. I've found your channel through your comphet videos and can relate. Could you elaborate some more on the differences you feel in terms of attraction between now and with guys?
Cindy I just wanted to say since you have shared something person with us, I would like to share something personal with you. When I was in college and this was like 2011-2012. I realized that I was gay and I found a guy and he and I hooked up about 8 times. During this I wished I had been more fourth coming to him b/c I actually really really liked him, and at the time i just couldnt bring myself to admit that. I wish that I was able to talk to him about that at the time. At one point we held hands on his bed and it was like "Omg!!!! This is amazing!!!!" Idk if this would have worked out, but I do wish I would have taken more chances at that time. I think we would have made great boyfriends personally :)
Its a wonderful, deep In your soul feeling and deep in the heart where you can actually feel a deep pounding in your heart ,its just so hard to explain you know what I mean
May I introduce you to the split attraction model: for most people those go hand in hand but there are several kinds of attraction. I'm not sure if I remember all of them but here are a few: Sexual attraction Romantic attraction Platonic attraction Aesthetic attraction Sensual attraction Alterous attraction Just knowing those made me understand myself better, and come to terms with being aromantic and asexual.
I've heard of most of these and I understand the concept, but I stand by my statement that sexual attraction changes the game completely and is about way more than sex. Based on a few responses mentioning this, I think I'm going to make a video just about this topic in the future. Check back to see more later. (I also went into a little more detail on someone else's comment about this if you want to see).
When I asked God if it was okay for me to be gay, God said this : "Before I formed you in the womb I knew you.”
Really? because when I asked He said “I just don’t want you to end up with a woman”
@@riverogue13 ah yes the famous bible quote, remember the passage, Bullshite 12:2 “I just don’t want you to end up with a woman”
You just sound like a mean person.
The original comment is from an actual biblical passage so it holds much more weight. Also why spread hate and stop other people from being themselves it’s just not nice.
@@bronwynknox3605 pretty sure it was a joke
I grew up Mormon to. Now I’m 41, 6 kids, married 20 years trying to tell my husband that I’m gay. I realized my friend is in fact the one I’m in love with. I feel like a 14 yr old again as well. I am feeling feelings I’ve never felt before.
I am SO looking forward to being able to experience these feelings for the first time. I genuinely used to think women exaggerated about their feelings of being attracted to men lol But I have recently been talking to a girl and even though we haven’t met in person the connection is already so much more than I ever experienced before with men. I can’t even imagine what it will be like when I get to see her in person. I think I will explode 😂😂
it's such an exciting feeling, isn't it? i hope it goes well & i wish you well!!! ♡
I'm crying because I'm so happy for you, I had never had a crush or anything until I met my first boyfriend at 19, and I remember on our first date being so shocked just like you that people actually have butterflies and all the stuff in romance books and movies is real. This hit very close to home.
I always thought they were just exaggerating for dramatic effect lol
Seriously!!! The first time I held her hand I was like "WTF!! THIS IS REAL!!!! THIS IS F*CKING MAGIC!!!!"
omg i resonate with this so hard. I am going through this exact same situation. Growing up Mormon marrying my best friend at 19 and coming out as bi to him at 26...now coming out as Gay at 29 now going through a divorce after 10 years of marriage...….now I just need to find some wonderful woman to date. thank you so much for making these videos .
I too grew up Mormon. I married a man in the temple, even! I am now married to my old stake presidents daughter 😂😍💛
this is so so real!! i didn't realize i wasn't attracted to men until i started dating my current girlfriend and realized that i was feeling something i'd truly never felt before. there is that sense of mourning for all the wasted time i spent dating men, but i'm so excited that i get to spend the rest of my life with women, and i'm so grateful and in love with my girlfriend. thank you for talking so openly about your experiences - as a younger lesbian it's wonderful to feel less alone knowing that there are people 10 or 20 years older than me experiencing the same things.
Omg this is SO CUTE. Seeing you light up talking about your girlfriend had me smiling🙂 So happy for you, Congratulations! 🎉
You’re giving me hope. I’m only a day into this journey, ending my marriage to a really good guy because I’m a lesbian. I swing back and forth between grief and relief. I don’t know what to do, man. I grew up Mormon too!! My parents are supportive of me, but they’ve both said some things that have been really hurtful. I just felt really alone today. And then I came to your video. Thank you so much. Please don’t stop sharing you voice. Also- let’s please be friends LOL
How excited you looked when you said “I have a girlfriend, I’m in her apartment “🤣🤣🤣💕💕😍
There is Sexual Attraction, and Romantic Attraction! this is how we talk about asexuality and aromanticism, as they don't always come as a pair.
Just a fun tidbit!
aside from that. i really hope i can feel this stuff too. it still feels like the feelings people talk about are fake, but ive only been dating men until this point with no results so. maybe theres a bit of hope.
Actually, I do know this. Matter of fact, I consider myself biromantic even though I'm homosexual. This is, for me, one of the reasons I could date men and have it kind of work. The romantic boxes were being checked, just not the rest of it.
I still stand by my statement that sexual attraction is about more than just sex. When you're sexually attracted to the person you're with, the way they look at you fills you with feelings you couldn't experience otherwise. The words they say are intepreted differently. Their actions take on a different meaning. Everything is different. It's not just about sex. I hope that someday you can feel it too.
@@PopeSimonX oh shit! not very many biromantic lesbians talkin about their experiences in the world! that would be an interesting video imo.
knowing this, the statement makes more sense and i agree. im grey ace/grey aro so i think i interpreted it differently! was a mistake on my part
honestly i wanna cry, i found your videos this summer and was really inspired by you despite our extremely different lives and extremely different lgbtq experiences, but i was very hopeful for you and just didn't know (because of the state of the world) when everything would start to pan out for you and i just didn't want you to lose hope because i could see even thru your insecurities that you were self-assured and i'm just rambling now but i am so so so happy for you thank you for sharing this beautiful news happy birthday and so much love to the both of you :) you deserve it
Wait, you're telling me that getting ready for dates isn't filled with pure dread? 😂 Gee, I can't wait until I go on my first date with a woman
At least you're experiencing these things. A lot of people have lived and will live lifetimes without ever knowing those feelings.
wow wow. this brought me so much joy, seeing you happy and knowing that one day, this is in the realm of possibilities for me and my friends as well. i'm sitting on my bedroom floor just sobbing because i'm happy for you and i'm hopeful and i haven't felt hopeful like this in a long time. and i related to so many things you said. thank you for continuing to share your journey and thank you for being brave.
RIGHT
We’re all so happy for you Cindy !!! Can’t wait to see what the future holds for you
There are many people who come out later in life. That is just our journey.
Dont regret your life to now, it is those experiences that make you the amazing person you are now. And I am sure that you dont regret your kids.
It is just that now, you are ready to live a different, more authentic life. You weren't ready before.
However it doesn't make your old life less valuable.
Sure, now you wish you had of done this earlier, however this, right now, is when you did come out.
I didnt admit my bisexuality until 50. We all do it when the time is right for us personally.
Embrace and enjoy this time, but recognise that your strength now comes from all of your life experiences up to now.
Enjoy these moments and treasure them, and don't regret anything that has created the incredible person you are.
I love your explanation of this, as a straight person, I've always experienced those butterflies and crushes since a pre-teen, I had never thought about the loss you suffer to not have that.
That's part of why I felt like I needed to make this video. I've had a few people, on the religious end especially, not understand why I would leave my marriage for sex. And it's not really about that, even if it is about that. I can't fully describe how much more fulfilling my relationship with my girlfriend is, but it all stems from different feelings from the beginning. For example, the phrase "kiss and make up" didn't really mean anything to me before, but now...I get it. I get why physical attraction matters on a level that didn't make sense before. I'm so grateful that I've gotten to experience these things now. I'm sad I had to wait until I was 32, but I'm so grateful that I get it now.
oh this is so pure cindy !!! i’m so so happy for you and i hope all keeps going well for you :)
Yeah I went on this journey between 17-21 where I started dating guys, and I could make out with men in the club and whatnot. And it was a bit fun and exciting but the actions were very mechanic. I remember the first time kissing a girl, and it was a friend of mine who I wasn’t even attracted to. But it was a whole different ball game, and after that I called myself bi for many years. Had to digest the feelings. And I tried to date guys and I wanted to like it. It was great guys, good looking and they had what I thought I was looking for. But I after a while it felt pointless to try so hard and I thought I just wasn’t a romantic type of person. When I started accepting the fact I might be gay and started seeing women everything fell I to place. And while I still struggle in other ways trying to navigate in a much smaller dating pool, the interactions are much more rewarding to me and I feel things I have never felt with men.
Love is no longer a fairy tale, I am truly happy for you, happy birthday.
First of all happy birthday .
It’s amazing to see you this happy .
Keep doing what you do . The way you are is more than enough don‘t let anybody change you.
Much love and support from the European side (Germany) ❤️
BEEN WATCHING YOU SINCE THE BEGINNING AND SO HAPPY FOR YOU ❤️❤️❤️
I’m so happy for you Cindy 😭😭❤️🤚🏼 I relate so much to what you said about how it is feeling in love and being with someone that likes you back, feeling the tension, melting when she looks at you, and how PRICELESS it is. Yes 🥺 It is so priceless. I’m so glad you found something like that.
I screamed when I read the title! I am so happy for you!!!!
Also happy birthday!
I relate to you so much girl, I'm so gad you found someone!
Cindy don't you worry ; I am 25 and felt good chemistry twice and it one time it ended up being with the most toxic relationship that lasted 2 years and with us breaking up because he started hitting on my sister. Don't be sad about your age, some people never get that good chemistry ! I'm so happy to see to see this update, keep it up :) and HAPPY BIRTHDAY !
Your happiness is adorable and infectious and I'm so glad you're living authentically now!
So happy to see this. 🤍
I'm grateful that I found your channel. I'm so glad you found yourself.
You look so happy. I came out last year and am so glad I did. Enjoy your new partner forever. Lots of love, Kate. Xxxx
Happy belated birthday sweetheart!💜🎂💜
Oh my gosh I’m only 18 and I realized less than 5 months ago that I’m gay but I CANNOT wait to hold a girl’s hand. Like, I finally understand the phrase “too gay to function” bc I’ll see a cute girl and just *freeze* and not know what to do. I am so excited to see you have a girlfriend! I just love seeing your videos because they are so validating, and I feel so comfortable watching your videos.
hey I'm glad to hear you found yourself a girlfriend. and Happy birthday I turned 32 this year as well :)
Happy Birthday and omg I am so happy for you 😍😍
It's so wonderful seeing you this happy. You inspire me to make more authentic life choices, even when it's hard. What amazing experiences you get to have now. ❤️
This makes me so happy for you. It makes me sad to think you have not felt that. I want to feel that too.
Hii Jenni
Hi Cindy, I am insanely proud of you and so so happy for you. It made my day to see how your face lit up when you talked about your girlfriend. I want you to know that your videos have helped me so much and I look forward to seeing what else you do! :)
I see Hank Green’s book An Absolutely Remarkable Thing on her bookshelf! She is a keeper 👍
AGREED!
This makes me so happy. Makes me smile so so big
Belated Happy Birthday Cindy. Very happy for you.
This made my day! I’m so happy for you my face hurts from smiling. 💕
Happy belated birthday. So happy for u ❤️
this is so beautiful and I'm so happy for you!!!
Yay! So happy for a video 😌. I always check just in case I missed. Been loving following your journey 💜
Congrats! 🎉 And thanks for continuing to share your story. I'm still figuring things out but you've given me a lot of hope that I can and will 🌈
So happy for you! ❤️
I'm very happy for you! :) Happy Birthday!
OMG Cindy, I've been following your journey and when you said GIRLFRIEND I immediately started fast clapping like an excited kid! I am SO happy for you!! You've been through so much and it's so amazing to finally see you in a better place. I sincerely hope things work out for you and Eliza and I look forward to "meeting" her. Hopefully she will make an appearance soon. Belated happy birthday! Best wishes for the holidays and let's hope 2021 is the YEAR OF CINDY!
Happy birthday and congratulations!
It’s so good to see that you’re experiencing the freedom and joy that coming out can offer you. I love your channel AND your growth. 😊 I’m 22 btw.
IM SO PROUD OF YOU
I'm so happy to see this update!!
I just recently came out in my early 30s as well. And feel this on SO many levels! THIS is what it's supposed to feel like.
Omg i'm so happy for you! Love to see you thriving :)
Yay! Cindy, I'm so happy for you 💓
Congratulations, been following you for a while and you look so much more at peace !! I feel so genuinely happy for you 😁 grew up religious too so this gives me hope
when i came out as a lesbian i watched so many of these videos and read so many stories about late bloomer lesbians finding their first love and they all said similar things. i couldnt wait to figure out what they meant. that they never thought they would experience love like that. but its all true. i finally found a gf who im in love with and i cant even compare how different and better it feels. like i could stare into her eyes and kiss her all day. im so sappy lol
So glad I found this channel. Compared to your first video, you seem so happy and you're glowing
This is amazing, Cindy ! Congratulations 😊 I'm so happy for you!
congratulations you even sound happier follow your heart not your head
I'm so happy for you!!!
Congratulations! I hope you two will spend many happy days together. I've found your channel through your comphet videos and can relate. Could you elaborate some more on the differences you feel in terms of attraction between now and with guys?
Oh, this needs to be a video all on it's own. If you don't see a video addressing this in the next few weeks, please remind me!!
@@PopeSimonX I will! :)
Happy birthday.
I'm so happy for you!!! this is amazing!!! I can't wait to feel like this as well 🥰
I needed this dose of happiness today, aaahh you deserve every bit of it!!
This was so genuine
thank you so much Cindy for sharing your journey!! your authenticity is an inspiration. im so happy for you!
Happy birthday! 🎉
Happy birthday 🎂
Cindy I just wanted to say since you have shared something person with us, I would like to share something personal with you. When I was in college and this was like 2011-2012. I realized that I was gay and I found a guy and he and I hooked up about 8 times. During this I wished I had been more fourth coming to him b/c I actually really really liked him, and at the time i just couldnt bring myself to admit that. I wish that I was able to talk to him about that at the time. At one point we held hands on his bed and it was like "Omg!!!! This is amazing!!!!" Idk if this would have worked out, but I do wish I would have taken more chances at that time. I think we would have made great boyfriends personally :)
Thank you for sharing. I find your story very inspiring!
Congrats I’m so happy for you 😀
Its a wonderful, deep In your soul feeling and deep in the heart where you can actually feel a deep pounding in your heart ,its just so hard to explain you know what I mean
You've definitely made the right decision
Happy birthday
Aaaaa! I'm so happy for you!
May I introduce you to the split attraction model: for most people those go hand in hand but there are several kinds of attraction. I'm not sure if I remember all of them but here are a few:
Sexual attraction
Romantic attraction
Platonic attraction
Aesthetic attraction
Sensual attraction
Alterous attraction
Just knowing those made me understand myself better, and come to terms with being aromantic and asexual.
I've heard of most of these and I understand the concept, but I stand by my statement that sexual attraction changes the game completely and is about way more than sex. Based on a few responses mentioning this, I think I'm going to make a video just about this topic in the future. Check back to see more later. (I also went into a little more detail on someone else's comment about this if you want to see).
Thank you for sharing this. Its really helpful ❤️
Havnt watched the video yet but want to say WOOHOO 🥳🥳🥳
Congratulations!
Yay!!🥳
The world collective is enlightening as we speak here at earthschool❤️ May your celestial reincarnations be very Blessed Cindy!! !!!!
Congrats, on you getting a boo (signficant other aka girlfriend) 👍
terms are misleading. More people talk about attraction more sense it make.
I'm so happy for you!