Christian girl, you are not a doormat.
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- Опубликовано: 14 окт 2024
- Verses this video was founded on:
Luke 22:42
Matthew 10:16
1 John 3:1
1 Peter 2:9
John 15:16
Ephesians 4:15
2 Corinthians 3:12
Hebrews 13:6
2 Timothy 1:7
Luke 22:44
John 15:18
John 13
2 Timothy 3:12
Genesis 1:27
Ephesians 2:10
Luke 14:25-33
Romans 13
1 Peter 3:1-6
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"May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing, so that by the power of the Holy Spirit you may abound in hope." Romans 15:13
-Becca
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I may not be a girl, but I've struggled with being a doormat and this has equipped me with scriptures I've overlooked. Thank you.
Same here. I liked the video
Suffering with purpose is not suffering at the will of another. Perfection through suffering is perfection through suffering because of being outspoken with the gospel.
@@shelleyd9910 but how does one give the gospel when they've betrayed God even after literally hearing His voice? If I can't give the gospel, then what's the point of living? No matter how much I give, it will never lead anyone to God if I don't have God in my life to give. And if I don't give, then life is shallow and only for myself which is empty and pointless without Him who gives me purpose.
I've royally screwed up my relationship with God to the point that I can't even read His word. I try but then my mind goes blank and then even my attempts to read get thwarted to where I don't even touch my Bible even though at this very moment I want to read it even though I know my mind will just wander and not retain a single bit of what I read.
The worst thing is that I've become so dead inside that this distance between me and God doesn't even invoke the least bit of sorrow nor any emotion. I'm alive, but dead inside, a puppet trying to pretend in the hopes that maybe things will become real while also not desiring the shallow life of selfish living.
@@sethlester1659 Go to Pastor Robert Clancy RUclips and watch his deliverance prayers!!! They helped me tremendously in my walk with God because that also happened to me and when I came across his RUclips page and did those deliverance prayers the Lord delivered me from witchcraft and I thought I was going to hell no matter what and I thought that the Lord would never love me or forgive me but God is faithful and true!! He loves you and wants to hear from you!!! The devil plays with your mind!! That's his battlefield he tried to get you to lose your mind to fight against yourself, to think God doesn't love you you are hopeless and hellbound but I've come to tell you today to stand up put on the full armor of God and repent of your sins and God is just to forgive us of ALL unrighteousness!! Ask God to fill you with the Holy Spirit and ask the Holy Spirit to take EVERY thought that is trying to exalt itself above the knowledge of God and contradict the Word of the Lord and bring it under subjection and under obedience to the Lord Jesus Christ and you my friend will be set free!!! Pray for peace in your mind, soul and spirit. Ask the Holy Spirit to lead and guide you and your thoughts and he will not let you down. God will never leave you nor forsake you!!! Don't lose hope don't give up that's what satan wants!! YOU ARE A CHILD OF THE MOST HIGH GOD!!! GREATER IS HE THAT LIVES IN YOU THAN HE THAT LIVES IN THE WORLD!!!!!!! GOD BLESS YOU AND I WILL BE PRAYING FOR YOU 🙏💖
@@beautifullyportia sounds like this is just what I need also. I hear God’s voice through this message speaking to me about a crucible of my own.
Thank you, sistren! God bless you 💙
I am a Muslim guy but I like to listen to you , you have a warm voice and a pure heart
Hello my friend. The only way we can have a pure heart truly is through the gospel of Jesus Christ . If you have any questions feel free to reach out !
I like to hear others opinions and I'm open minded to any point of view but I'm really convinced that regardless of who is the correct religion among all religions in this world , since human beings are alike, there must be one God regardless of the nature of this lord
@@greatmind8918 yes many points of view but either we are all wrong or one is right. Jesus said He is the only way to eternal life. The difference between true Christianity and false Christianity or other religions is what your works do. In Christianity your good works cannot out weigh your sins. Other beliefs you gain eternal life by doing more good than bad. Every human being is a sinner and deserves Gods wrath (especially me). Jesus who always existed became a human and never sinned and took Gods wrath for us on the cross. What He did on that cross and that alone can save you. My email is davidcolwill@roadrunner.com would love to talk more.
David
@@davidcolwill1773 I am not a specialist in religions, and I think that every person will be inclined to his religion because he was born with it .. I only believe in the idea that since all human beings are alike, they must have one God , Regardless of the nature of this god - from a logical and rational standpoint at least -
Thank you for your kind words, my friend
@@greatmind8918 if u want the truth listen to david wood and sam shamoun . Yes at first they seem like they are mocked but actually listen to one of their debates and see the sources and evidences they provide u with. I rlly hope u find the truth. And that is only found in jesus, trust me I've searched islam, Hinduism, buddism ( which btw has very drastically changed) and atheism. Christianity is the strongest case. Research and find out. I rlly urge u to watch islam critiqued too ( and what he has to say abt the preservation of the Quran) I'm not here to spread hate and I'm sorry if this offends u but I think u should kno the most amt possible of islam ( ur religion) and I encourage u to research by the earliest muslim scholars , the hadiths and etc. Do what most imams dont do. Ok keep searching and you'll see christianity:D pray to THE ONE TRUE LIVING God to reveal the truth and genuinely ask and see what happens . Christ loves u ! And I care for u too brother ! Sorey to offend u but this isnt lies
This is my biggest struggle right now. God wants me to be strong and courageous, I know that. and I want to be that. But I've been bred a people-pleaser from birth. I was taught that being sweet all the time and not saying things that may start an argument is what makes me a "good girl". And it's odd, that the same people who told me to be a good girl and who raised me to be a doormat, are the ones who get mad at me when I stand up for myself, and they also get mad at me when I don't stand up for myself. I get yelled at and berated for being "too nice", but I'm also somehow "not a good girl" and "going down the road of disappointment" when I speak out in boldness, or when I offer a different opinion. I'm always torn between taking the punches to keep the peace or speaking out against injustice & others starting to retaliate against me. Pray for me, please, that I learn to be both kind and strong because it's taking a toll on me.
Same I've been a people pleaser too. That's why submitting myself to jesus is scary bcs I'm very much scared abt what ppl will think bcs all my life I've only been worried abt the opinion of ppl and fitting in uk. But the more I read the bible , the more I see the prophets and the apostles speak, the more I realize they put God first and when they did were very hated by ppl. The fact that we choose God esp in this generation means we will be persecuted and hated for speaking the truth. Why, look at jesus himself . :( we might never fit in but that's ok. Bcs we have God with us and we must sumbit to him . Rn I'm praying to him at times and just trusting in God bcs I realize I probably might never have the courage by myself but I've heard that when ppl fast they get courage there too! Maybe fasting and praying might help? :D be strong in christ !
Me too I feel the same
I feel the exact same way! I'm praying continually to have courage and strength to be able to spread God's word and gospel but I find it difficult since I was not brought up in a community of Biblical Christians. I will certainly be praying for you, my friend. God will not forsake us! We must only be patient and have full trust in Him :)
me too
I recommend you listen to 'Fix My Eyes by For King Country
I honestly wish I had heard this before I dated my ex. We only dated a month and a half, but there were so many things that happened that I regret. We didn't do "it", but there were a lot of things I wanted to say no to, but was too scared because of my habit of people pleasing. I feel very ashamed when I think of that time, and wish I had said no.
So please, Christian girls do say no, and don't be a doormat.
The title immediately grabbed my attention had to watch this❗
I was 5 years of chronic illness. Semi Housebound, lost my health, job, finances and my fiance left me. I couldn't even look at electronic screen for 5 minutes, or hold a 10-minute conversation.
But God did an amazing work. And if he can do this, he can do it in you also. 👍🏼
I now have a Christian Channel where I encourage people and show them what God did in my life and that there is hope for you also. ✝️🔥
*Keep believing even when it's hard* 🙏❤️🙌🔥👆🏼😊
*All things are possible with God*
I am not Christian , but your videos bring a lot of peace to me always and I feel your content and message has universal appeal. Your faith is very inspiring. Keep posting such beautiful content. God Bless you!
That's what God is actually peace. Listen it really your choice to become one but if you do listen there are so many more feeling then peace. Joy, love, and many more are found in Christ. So choose the narrow way that leads to life.
This is GOD Calling you. She is your sister in christ. Jesus is working through her, it will not be an easy journey but you should give your life to Jesus Christ, Christ your king, your father, your savior and your God.
If more than one of her videos resonates within you, trust me that is a sign. I know this sounds little bit corny but as you reading this comment it is also a sign, Jesus is Calling you, with love and with a smile😁😁😁.
*PLEASE ANSWER HIM, ANSWER HIS CALL*
Gods message does have a universal appeal, because he loves and calls everyone, and He is the only thing that can satisfy our hearts💛
Her message is not only for Christians. It's for you my friend! And literally everyone else. Jesus can also be referred to as the "word" or "message" of God. The bible says For God did not send his Son(his message)into the world to condemn the world, but that the world through him(his message) might be saved! Keyword: the WORLD. The world isn't made up of just Christians😉
I struggle with never speaking up for myself/the truth, too. I fear to share the gospel with friends who I KNOW are against Christianity. But I am praying for courage to do so. We’re only here for a short time and it’s so worth sharing the gospel. Thanks for your encouragement Becca I always love hearing from you ❤️❤️
Girl I’m so tired of mean people I really am and being “nice” to where people walked all over mean I became me unless it benefitted me
when you started talking about Jesus on the cross 😭
Every time..
The Gospel of Jesus Christ is *the only message in the world* that has the power to transform hearts 💔-> ❤️
By God’s grace 🙏
And for God’s glory 👆🏼
Oh I see so are enlightened masters of Buddhism not enlightened
Amen
@Time to Believe your lose
@Time to Believe that’s really cute
That posture tip is really helpful! paying attention to my body language and adjusting how I portray myself always helps me feel more comfortable and confident
Gosh. I get taken advantage of and walked ALL OVER. I’m so so tired and done with it. I’m so tired of being silenced, not being allowed to speak about the Gospel and what I believe. If I did that I would lose friends. At this point I don’t really care if I lose friends or not, I’m just praying for strength and courage to speak up and not let people silence me.
I didn't even think I needed this, until I realized this was an awnsered prayer.
Same😊 God is good
I'm so glad you talked about this! As someone who struggles with this, I've asked different Christians for advice and have only been told to remain a doormat. They didn't use those exact words, but they didn't offer up any advice. Thank you for your explanation and practical tips! I would be interested in diving deeper, hearing some examples of ways we can respond to someone in a respectable yet assertive way in different situations.
Remain a doormat?…then those were not Christians.
You think anyone can use a son or daughter of God as a doormat? Good luck with that😂😂😂
My advice to you is know thyself.
By knowing God you will know who you are. HE will show you.
Only then will you know who you are not…a doormat 😂
I certainly can relate to this. Even before I developed social anxiety, I was always the most empathetic in the room, sometimes to my detriment. It's my nature, but it’s important to learn to speak up when necessary.
But I have to imagine it's even harder for girls (partially because of the whole "wives submit to your husbands" thing. Yes, the Bible says that, but people take it way too far sometimes.) All the love and respect for the assertive (yet kind) Christian women out there. Please don't be afraid to stand out. ❤
It’s time to be bold in our faith and brave in the face of evil . It’s ultimately not about us .
I needed this I literally talked about this last night then boom a notification pops up right in my face when I woke up 😂😂thank you sister appreciate it ❤️
That was God... He planned that 😂😂
This is a whole different discussion, but I have been able to talk to so many different Christian professors in my life who have been able to help support me to understand exactly why the word "fear" is chosen in the Bible. I agree we should not serve God because we are scared of him, but it is extreme awe and MORE. We should be afraid of God. I mean, think about it: He has so much power and we deserve nothing compared to all that we have done. We are sinners and humans who don't even deserve to be alive. We should fear God with real fear.
I’m a man and have these exact same struggles... fear of man and people pleasing have been a lifelong struggle for me. Thank you for your encouraging words, God bless you!
Amen
You cleared up alot for me that I've been struggling with for years now.
Your video is also an affirmation of a prayer and journal entry
❤
I really appreciate all the sound advice, Becca. It seems hard to find constant, clear teaching in today's confusing and mis-informative world.
Video suggestion - broken relationship with non-christian friends and partners.
Great idea!
Yeah, I pushed a non-believer friend away trying to share the gospel, and she was my closest friend so far. In retrospect I should've respected her wishes to stop after a few texts, but I was arrogantly blind not understanding why she wouldn't give the faith a chance and get to know the true living God in Christ. So a video like this and how to recover and move on from something broken in my own hands and faulty behavior would be nice.
The Bible blatantly says no . Don’t do it but you know pick and choose what you want
I was not a firm believer for half of my life. So I had all non-religious or non-christian friends. They have sticked with me through hard times. They respect my faith now. I can't break friendship just because I am saved. I don't Hangout with them or live like them either. I share gospel and that's where the friction begins. My heart is crying for their soul.
And when they respectfully disagree, I get devastated. It's so scary. I know salvation is in God's hands but as I am seeing them going close to the cliff, I cry for help more and more because I love them so much.
Thank you so much. This has blessed me so much because I’ve struggled with this my whole life and I’m tired of it 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙌🏽🙌🏽
“Love keeps no record of wrongs.” 1 Corinthians 13
This helped me so much! I’ve a very unconfrontational person and have trouble speaking up 😅
"Biblical submission comes out of love" 💯 powerful, profound truth right there
This video spoke life to me today- It was exactly what the Lord wanted me to hear. Thank you very much.
Wow, this was such a great video! I've struggled my whole life with standing up for myself because I was the "good girl." I ended up in an abusive relationship (thankfully that was over long ago). The word submit tends to make me cringe because I do think of it as an abuse of power word, but I loved how you described it.
Your passion for Jesus is so contagious 😊
Giiiiiiirl I struggle with this, I’m so grateful God is using you to share this 🤍
This speaks to me 100%
This is so needed in the church! Keep it up sister! You're doing great.
So convicting!! Thank you Becca! I either tend to shy away from speaking the truth out of fear of seeming unkind or I speak the truth but not in love. There are times when I get it right by God’s grace but it is something I still struggle with. Thank you for sharing your experiences and letting the Spirit speak through you 🧡
Wow, this message is just in time for me bc I feel as though God has been helping me to overcome compromise & feeling "afraid" to speak up on my beliefs & what I know to be right according to God's will. I have always been very shy& more so whenever it was time to speak up& stand my ground. Thank you for this message 💜🙏God bless you😇
11:19- 11:25 is so true. Thanks for sharing. God bless you. ❤️
You're not a doormat... you're a placemat 😂😂😂
Hate to be this person but... FIRST!!😂❤️ I love being early :) I haven’t even finished the video, but I know this is what I needed! I’ve been pondering over this question for so long! “Is standing up for myself arrogant? Does it mean I constantly let others out me down?” It’s been tearing me apart, so God is good! Thank you for speaking on this :)
☕ for being first😆
@@blossom86branche70 haha, thank you😂❤️
@@angelasantana9288 lol you're welcome 😆
Omg every single thing that you said is totally truth for Christian girls, i can totally relate. I appreciate you putting this message out there for younger girls; they don't have to learn this the hard way.
I'm a new believer so this really helps
Well I'm the opposite I have anger issue you can insult me but if you insult someone I hold dear in my life I won't hesitate to try and put in your place(even if that means physical fighting you I know it's not christ like and I have grown a bit but I still anger issue but not to the point I would want to fight you) but and when I started my journey in July to follow God I truly saw the disrespect some people show towards Jesus and toward God in general it made me angry but I didn't want to argue with any one (because I was a baby Christian) so I keep it to myself and that lead me to being depressed because I couldn't understand why would people say so much disrespectful things towards someone who want to save them I just couldn't understand but I realized that some people have the spirit of antichrist in them and no matter how much you argue with them they won't buge the only solution there is prayer, pray for them. I hope someone with anger issue and have no tolerance for disrespect towards Jesus can learn from this and release some people are won't always understand where you come from no do they want anything to do with Jesus and that's why prayer is key somethings are not worth getting angry about so let God handel it.
Thank you for speaking 😊🤍♥️
This video is such an encouragement, and a challenge to live more Christlike. It's definitely an area I struggle with, so I appreciate you taking the time to address it in a biblical way 😊
Thank you God and the lady who shared this video to others and serve Jesus
Id love a marriage related video on this subject.
You have to be assertive and assured that the Lord will take care of all of your needs, and that no one, not even your spouse, should ever take advantage of your loving, Christian kindness, remember that! Even if you have to remind people that indeed there is a limit to your patient kindness with others.
YES I LOVE THIS SO MUCH! Since young i always hv a hard time saying no to ppl or telling ppl the truth bcause I m afraid to offend others. But i want to love others by telling them the truth, even if its hard. I m still learning though.
Me too I have the same problem
@@oceanrosethatsailsacrossth3466 I pray that we ll be able to have the courage to share the truth in love, hv a good day :)
This really helped me with finding confidence through Christ!
Hi, new subscriber here from Puerto Rico. I hope you're well.
God bless + take care :)
okay this answered my previous comments
Christian Girl, you're not a doormat.
Weirdos: Impossible, the archives must be missing.
That helps so much, where I am at present they good at retoric and intimidating postering they have there groups, and the talk, thanks
Mz Becca Eller😇
Stay your course of course
I feel we all as christians have been pressured and tried in like manner
I'm male and definitely can identify here....
Even women have invaded my personal space and bodily permission as you noted experiencing men violating yours
💪Blessingz upon Blessingz my beloved sister🙏
Peace ✌️
Thank you for this video. I've gotten better at being assertive throughout the years but it is still a struggle to me and I really appreciate this. God bless 🙏❤
My son goes to Olivet and I just text him this video also sent it to my daughter . This is a great video!
Wow thanks for the video I’m an 19 year old guy and I’m sorry you had to go through that in my opinion our culture isn’t big on respecting women because of the rap inspdustry and the porn industry I agree that standing up for yourself is important but don’t forget that God stands up for everyone
I started dating from 16. I was super submissive. I was finally at 28 told myself, I am going to be ME. When I was submissive, I dated 3 guys from 16-28 , I molded myself(changed my habits, personality) for 3 times from 16-28. 3 of them was different personalities, so I was molding myself and I was frustrated. I didn't know the dating game back then. The art is never compromised your core believe for anyone.
I love this video. Thank you for sharing this video. It speaks truth and I know it's something I needed to hear. Let's walk with confidence in the LORD. Jesus has given us all the boldness and love we need through His Holy Spirit to speak truth. Let's SPEAK TRUTH brothers and sisters in Christ!
Oooooooooo yayyyy love the new background thingyyy by hahah also I love u loads BECCCCAA!!
Haha thank you!
I just stumbled on your channel and your just one of those girls I wish my son would marry in the near future but unfortunately his just 6years🤦♀️
I didnt know it, but I really needed this! Thank you from a catholic viewer who has a lot to learn about christian boldness❤️
Thank you my sister in Christ I needed to hear this today 👍
I really enjoy your videos, although I am a Muslim
Thank you so much for this video! I needed it today and didn’t even know it. 🧡
I love whenever God does that- gives me encouragement that I didn’t know I needed to hear! I agree.
Amen! Thank you, sister in Christ!✝️🙏🏼💕
Thank you so much, Becca! As someone who has struggled with this for as long as I can remember, I know what it’s like to be afraid to speak up. This was very helpful! May God continue to use you and bless you! Love you!💕
This is the first time I'm seen one of your videos.
Love from the Holy Land
So helpful! Biblically founded and practical too
Thanks for addressing this, Becca.
Thank you so much for this msg I didn't even know I needed to hear this but I did. Such a good msg and encouragement, I've definitely struggled with this alot and God has been working on this with me and taught me alot. It's just the right balance and when you have God's love for people you can be bold and straightforward but they will thank you for being honest.
One of the problems I have with standing up for myself or sharing the truth of God is that the negative reactions of the people around me at that moment conditions me to feel afraid to do so again... I pray that God helps me to break out of this:(
Yes same! It so hard to evangelise but I made this video that I hope will help you
ruclips.net/video/AVzGO2mEAFA/видео.html
I have struggled with this for a long time. I’m so thankful for this video because I’ve been thinking about this recently and the fact that you made a video with this title I feel is no coincidence. I’ve really needed to hear this so thank you ❤️
Same! I always fall into this as well!
THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR POSTING THIS VIDEO!!!! I really needed to hear this ♥️
This is me need to hear this.
God Bless you. Your doing the right thing you love people but you stand for God too. If people hate you and start a argument against you and your beliefs you don't be rude or mean back but stand up for the rights of your beliefs and the rights of God 😊🥰🙂💞
It feels good to know I’m not the only one that feels this way
Same
I was just struggling with that today and I came across your video thank you 🙏
This is going to be my focus during the year of 2021
Yes! I need to make this my focus, too!
Great sord! Glory be to God! May God bless you in the name of Jesus Christ!❤️❤️
Thank you Lord for this video! Girl I love your confidence in Christ. Beautiful and refreshing to see. This video has helped me so much keep doing this if it be Gods will! You are helping many.
Think of the trinity like water, ice, and vapor. They’re all different, but are also all water. Just in three different forms
That is brilliant! Thanks for sharing that!
They are never the same at the same time though... Sorry but I don't think that's a good comparison
@@hannashepherd1208 how about an egg then? The shell, the white and the yolk :)
@@lilliane4218 that's cool! I like that one better! 😊😁👌 All in one but can still be separated. I did not mean to be rude with my comment earlier and I myself feel it's a difficult concept for us to understand but it's important not to simplify it too much and to not take away from the miracle that it actually is. Excuse my bad English, it's not my first language. Stay blessed everyone
This is brilliant, thank you so much!
Truth speak. Yes this video is clear and helpful. Personally So when the Holy spirit leads or when I feel I'm angry. I also need to control my own anger or any emotions I have today. Trust 8:11 your will be done. 9:26 bold
This is so good, Becca!!
yesss this is awesome and so so needed today especially... it is so easy to forget who we are in God and where that confidence comes from.
Becca I learn so much about Jesus from your videos! You're beautiful inside and out! You are such an inspiration to me! God bless you! ❤💕
Wow, I really needed this. Thank you miss Eller.
Unrelated, but have you seen Voddie Bauchum's sermons on marriage.
WOW I am struggling with the same issue you struggled with!! Tysm for making this ☺️
Thank you. This is right on. Very helpful.
I think it's Satan's way of lying to us and making us sin by telling us we have to be ' nice ' so we don't offend people but this often leads us to compromise with sin because we're too nice to condemn sin.
Yes that's so true!! I've never thought of it that way before. Thanks ❤️
I love your sweater! Do you remember where you got it?
You are a very wise young lady and I love your beautiful red hair. 😊
You went to Olivet too?? Small world!. Great video!
Thank you, Becca! ❤️I've been following your channel for quite awhile and always get inspired by the way you explain the scripture and how to act as Christian with strong faith in Him🥰. You keep reminding me to tell the truth with love yet not be afraid to share the message from the Lord(and you already set a good example through all these videos!)Just wanna say thank you ❤️and I appreciate all the efforts you put in answering all the questions from Instagram and making these great and thought-provoking vids.🧡😇
Love you!
Hi Becca ..thank you for the wonderful videos you have made which have blessed me a lot! Could you share about how far we can go in being ambitious as Christians and not get to being all self achieving driven and all..
Praise God!
OMG! God knew that I nedded this video, thanks sis! You have a new suscriber here. God bless you abundantly.
Thank you for the amazing video! We need this:)
I really needed this video. Thank you!